Summer 2014 - Vermont Foster and Adoptive Family Association

VFAFA Voice
May 2014 • Volume 18 - Number 1
Hello Foster, Adoptive, and Kinship families,
Since I was elected President at the VFAFA Conference I have sent or received over 500 emails about many aspects
of service and advocacy: providing contact information, establishing the VFAFA Scholarship Committee members
for 2014, revising the Children’s Activity Fund request form, meeting with the executive committee, meeting with
DCF leadership, Youth Development Conference, VFAFA’s affiliate memberships, or helping foster parents solve a
problem, VFAFA Conference 2015, VFAFA Voice, and many other topics as well.
VFAFA is getting much stronger. The new Executive Committee is doing great work and three new members will
be added to the Board at the Networking meeting in May. When all the positions are filled, we will have 25 people
working on behalf of foster, adoptive, and kinship families. VFAFA Districts mirror those used by DCF. We need
District Representatives from Newport, Morrisville, and Burlington. We have 5 open slots for Member at Large positions. If you have questions, you can contact me or another VFAFA officer. For email addresses, go to VFAFA’s web
site http://www.vfafa.org/directors.htm
Love is part of the answer to the problems our children face. Knowledge possessed by people in Vermont’s system of
care (which includes us) is integral to our success in helping children. Resources are essential to meeting the needs
of those we serve. Love, Knowledge, Resources.
Love we have in abundance.
Collectively we have in immense amount of knowledge and access to more. The challenge here is learning what we
need to know before the child arrives in our home. Even if you cannot prepare ahead of time, after arrival is better
than never. Here is a list of the resources available to help with learning:
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VFAFA Conference
Child Welfare Training Partnership trainings
Foster Parent College http://www.fosterparentcollege.com/
Social Workers
VFAFA District meetings (foster parents are a wealth of information informed by experience)
Books
Google search (do be careful about the reliability of the source for the web sites you use)
The list, of course, could be much longer. What sources have you found? Let us know. Send me an email:
[email protected]
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As to resources, there are never enough because we only want the best for our kids. Advocacy is important to expanding resources for foster, adoptive, and kinship care. Because of our work, $50,000 is still in the budget for camp
for foster kids and for a Kinship Coordinator. Keep calling your legislators to tell them about what you feel is important. It makes a difference.
One resource VFAFA has made more widely available is the Children’s Activity Fund, which has been opened up to
include adoptive parents as well as foster and kinship parents. Email Lauri Samson ([email protected]) to
apply for up to $100 per child/per year.
May is National Foster Care Month. Challenge, Contribute, and Celebrate. Let us all find ways: to challenge each
other and child welfare professionals to do better work; to contribute our knowledge and experience to others, and
to celebrate our successes every day.
To you and yours, all the best.
Dan Boyce
VFAFA President
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[phone]
[fax]
Department for Children and Families
Commissioner’s Office
103 South Main Street – 5 North
Waterbury, VT 05671-2980
www.dcf.vt.gov
802-871-3385
802-769-2064
Agency of Human Services
May 8, 2014 Dear Foster Parents, May is National Foster Care Month, and I would like to take this opportunity to thank you all for the incredible work you do for Vermont children and their families. What you do is difficult and challenging. At the same time, it is also very rewarding. Sometimes, it can be downright heartbreaking. The death of Dezirae Sheldon has saddened and upset everyone in our state. For foster parents and social workers, it has heightened our worry about the children we know and love. Here at DCF, we are reviewing our policies, approach to staff training, and the sufficiency of our resources to help us understand what we should change to reduce the likelihood of another tragedy in the future. The Vermont Citizens Advisory Board is conducting an independent review of how Family Services handled Dezirae’s case. We welcome their review and any recommendations that follow. We are committed to ensuring we are doing our absolute best for Vermontʹs children. We are fortunate to have so many foster, kinship and adoptive families across the state providing love and care to so many children. Together with our dedicated staff, you are truly making a difference each and every day. Thank you all! Sincerely, Dave Yacovone, Commissioner VFAFA VOICE
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STATE OF VERMONT
EXECUTIVE DEPARTMENT
A PROCLAMATION
WHEREAS,
families, serving as the primary sources of love, identity, self-esteem and
support, are the very foundations of our communities and our State; and
WHEREAS,
in Vermont there are over 750 children and youth in traditional, kinship or
specialized foster care who are being provided safe, secure and stable
homes, along with the compassion and nurturing of foster and kinship
foster families; and
WHEREAS,
there are over 850 dedicated licensed foster and kinship foster families in
Vermont who often adopt foster children; and
WHEREAS,
there are numerous individuals, as well as public and private
organizations, who work to increase public awareness of the needs of
children who are currently in or leaving foster care; and
WHEREAS,
we honor the enduring and valuable contributions of foster, kinship foster
and adoptive parents and so many others who make the foster care system
the supportive network that it is.
NOW, THEREFORE, I, Peter Shumlin, Governor, do hereby proclaim May 2014 as
FOSTER CARE MONTH
in Vermont.
Given under my hand and the Great Seal of the State of
Vermont on this _5th_ day of May, A.D. 2014.
Peter Shumlin
Governor
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Goings on Around the State
Bennington Foster Parents and Staff
Bennington
The Bennington Monthly Foster Parent Group meets on the 4 Tuesday of every month from 6 PM - 7:30 PM, child care
available on site. The group welcomes and encourages all licensed Foster Parents to join the meeting for networking, support
and education.
During the long winter months, the Foster Care Closet has been utilized helping children and youth who come into custody.
Thank you to foster parent Kendy Skidmore for organizing such a great resource! Foster mom's Natasha Wilkinson and
Caroline Hartshorn are busy organizing a Diaper Bag Drive. A project with the goal to have a new diaper bag full of baby
supplies for babies who come into custody.
In celebration of National Foster Care Awareness Month there will be a reception at The Publyk House Restaurant, Historic 7A, Bennington on May 15th from 4:30 PM- 6:30 PM. Honorable Judge Howard will be our special guest acknowledging
the great care and dedication foster families provide for children and youth.
Thank you to all foster families in our beautiful state of Vermont for making a difference from a day to a lifetime!
With deepest respect, Valerie Miner, Resource Coordinator
Barre
The Central Vermont Foster Parent Association has started back up again recently - the group meets on the first Thursday
of each month at the First Presbyterian Church in Barre. In our office, we have started collecting gently used clothing for the
children coming into care, and one of our PINS partners donates Bags of Love filled with a homemade quilt, toys and toiletries. These items seem to help a child’s transition into foster or kinship care. Our district is also putting a lot of effort into
finding safe and appropriate kinship families for the children coming into care and educating ourselves on the benefits of
kinship care.
We are in the midst of planning some activities for children and families in our district for the summer and the office is hosting a Foster Parent Appreciation Luncheon on May 30th to celebrate Foster Care Month and to thank our wonderful resource
families.
Chrissy Pollard - Resource Coordinator
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St. Albans
St. Albans district is doing a 5K walk for foster care on Wed May 14th at 12 noon starting in the front of the state office 20
Houghton Street St Albans, VT. Are local foster parent association is holding a lunch sale on that day in the lobby of the
state office building from 11 – 1. All proceeds will benefit the local association.
We will be wearing t-shirts with the “Foster a Future” logo and possibly bracelets as well. We are also trying to collaborate
with the St Albans Messenger to have a picture taken for the paper for awareness and recruitment.
Margi Cameron- Resource Coordinator
Burlington
To celebrate National Foster Parent Appreciation Month, we invite all of our families to our 3nd Annual Foster, Adoptive and
Kinship Family Picnic!
When: Saturday, May 24 12:00 – 2:00 p.m.
Where: Department for Children and Families
426 Industrial Ave. Suite 130
Williston, VT 05495
It’s Memorial Day weekend! Have a fun morning enjoying your local parades and community events, then celebrate with us at
lunch!
We’ll have an afternoon of summer fun with a bouncy house, balloon clown, snow cones, games, activities and most of all,
friends!
RSVP to Shannon York at 951.0021 or [email protected] so we can get a burger/hot dog count. Thanks!
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Monthly Meeting:
We have our monthly meeting every third Wednesday from 6:00-8:00 p.m. in the Williston DCF office. We discuss anything
and everything in an open, inviting and confidential environment. We'll keep you up to date with all the events, activities and
resources the Burlington District Office has to offer. If you're curious about rules and regulations, have questions about the
fostering, adoptive or kinship path you're on or would just like to connect with people who understand how you're feeling, this
is the place for you. Come meet new friends and earn training hours! Dinner is potluck, so please bring a favorite dish to share.
For more information, contact Shannon York at [email protected] . For June’s meeting, we will be offering an online
training course through Foster Parent College. We’re still exploring which of the courses would be the most engaging for our
group; when we make a final list we’ll email you for a vote. Be on the lookout!
Thank you! Shannon York- Resource Coordinator
Rutland
Rutland continues to have an active Local Association which meets on the last Monday of the month at Denny's on RT 7 from
7-9pm. Any local foster parent is welcome to attend. Our Association has identified 5 places where local foster/ adoptive families can access funds for camp/summer activities for kids. Reach out to us to learn how you can access up to $500.00 per child
to do something fun for the summer months. As always we will be hosting an annual picnic at the end of August to honor our
families. Stay tuned for news about that.
Cinn Smith-- Rutland Local Association
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Hartford
We had a successful Foundations for Foster Care class this spring. We graduated 8 new foster parents and will have a
couple of more once we do a make-up class! We have licensed many kin families recently and that brings a different flavor
to the classes. It is so great to see families stepping up for each other.
We were happy to see more of our families attended the conference this year. It was a great conference and I got a lot of
positive feedback about how much the families enjoyed it all! I am hoping that word will spread and more foster parents
will join us next year!
Hartford has hired a couple of new people – Mark Simino is our new permanency worker through LUND and we have also
hired a new investigator who will be starting in a few weeks. With the caseloads getting larger the new help is very welcome!
Deanna Rounds- Resource Coordinator
St Johnsbury
Happy Spring Everyone- It is nice to see the snow FINALLY leave us and the flowers begin to bloom. We have been busy
this spring in the STJ office. We just finished up our Spring session of Foundations for Foster Care and had 17 people
graduate. We also hosted our second annual Mix and Mingle for kinship and foster families and had a fantastic turnout.
This is our way of celebrating National Foster Care Month a bit early. It was held again at Goodfellas Restaurant in Danville
and had a wonderful mix of staff and Resource families in attendance.
We hope that all Resource Families statewide can take a minute this May to reflect on the hard work you do each and every
day supporting children and families in your community. From those of you waiting for a placement, those of you caring
for a child in your home and to Kinship caregivers caring for a relative- Thank you!! You all help us to hold true to our goal
of "Keeping Local Kids Local"!! We could not do the work we do without your support.
Have a Happy and relaxing summer!
Michelle Fox -Resource Coordinator
Springfield
Springfield is getting ready to host their annual Resource Family Appreciation Dinner on May 21, 2014 at the Elks Club.
This is a wonderful time for all our Resource Families and our DCF families to get together and celebrate all the great work
that has been done for the children and families we work with. It is a special time to get together and enjoy a delicious homemade spaghetti dinner with all the fixings and then top it off with a huge ice cream sundae. It is a special time to connect and
reconnect with each other as well as letting the kids laugh and play. We appreciate all the Resource Families for making a difference in a child’s life whether it be for a day or a lifetime!!
Our Springfield Resource Families have been offering so much more of their time and energy to help our office. Many have
come forward to help with transports, be available for emergency placements or provide more respite to other families. The
staff here at SDO has been truly grateful to all our families for everything they have done to help our office as well as the
families we work with. “We May Not Have It All Together But Together We Have It All!”
Robbie Wierzbicki – Resource Coordinator
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19th Annual Tournament for Teens
Raising scholarship money for Vermont
youth who have been in foster care.
Where: Vermont National Country Club
When: Monday September 15, 2014
•Best Ball Scramble
•Prizes
•Hole in One Gifts
•Souvenirs
•Lunch
•Dinner
For More Information:
Call My-Lanh Graves at (802) 769-6343 or
email at [email protected] to get a
copy of the brochure and to register.
Major Sponsors:
Becket Family of Services,The Bennington School, Easter Seals Vermont,
Vermont Foster/Adoptive Family Association, Department for Children and
Families,
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Child Welfare Training Partnership Advanced Regional Trainings
Spring and Summer 2014 Trainings are designed to build knowledge, awareness, and skills in kinship, foster, and adoptive families Light lunch or dinner is provided at all trainings
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May 27, 2014 6:00 pm – 9:00 pm Barn at the Old First Congregational Church, Bennington, VT
Understanding & Responding to the Sexual Behavior of Children & Adolescents with Amy Johnson
th RSVP by May 20 to Deidra Razzaque at 802‐257‐7967 ext. 304 or [email protected] Created by Gail Ryan of the Kempe Children’s Center, URSBC is designed to promote adult understanding of children’s sexual behavior, as well as teach appropriate adult responses in order to intervene earlier in the development of sexually abusive patterns. Participants will learn to distinguish between normal, problematic and abusive behaviors; develop universal goals to promote health and prevent perpetration of abuse, and intervene to prevent reinforcement of chronic abusive acting out. ∗∗∗
June 14, 2014 10:00 am – 1:00 pm Kurn Hattin Homes, Westminster, VT Developmental Trauma 101 with Susan Robinson (Level 1 Training)
RSVP by June 10th to Deidra Razzaque at 802‐257‐7967 ext. 304 or [email protected] Complex trauma occurs when a child has experienced multiple trauma exposures, oftentimes by the hands of those the child trusts and depends upon. The impact of this trauma can be severe and especially difficult for caregivers to manage. This training will provide an overview of complex trauma and cover the significant and various impairments that can occur as a result. Case examples will also be explored. ∗∗∗
June 21, 2014 10:00 am – 1:00 pm Kurn Hattin Homes, Westminster Vermont Developmental Strategies 101 with Tammy Leombruno (Level 2 Training)
RSVP by June 13th to Deidra Razzaque at 802‐257‐7967 ext. 304 or [email protected] Building on the core concepts presented in the Level 1 Training, participants in Level 2 will work to enhance their understanding of how to effectively respond to their child's challenging, trauma‐related behaviors. We will review and discuss specific interventions and strategies to utilize in the family setting and we will practice these skills through direct instruction, case presentation and role‐play. We will talk about the importance of self‐care strategies for caregivers and work collaboratively to create a self‐care plan. VFAFA VOICE
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June 21, 2014 11:00 am – 2:00 pm Drumming for Success with Steve Ferraris
St. Albans District Office RSVP by June 10th to Sharon O’Neill 802‐656‐3359 or [email protected] We teach an evidence‐based group drumming method that utilizes musical accomplishment as a means to experience and apply social relationship skills. A great deal of research concludes that participation in directed group drumming quickly creates feelings of connection to others in the group. The nature of making rhythm in unison with others requires constant self‐regulation and trust amongst members of the group. Most people are self‐motivated to succeed in keeping the rhythm together in a drumming group. This type of non‐verbal, experiential activity often produces feelings of self‐confidence, self‐awareness and increases self‐esteem. We believe that playing polyrhythmic music in a group setting is a perfect metaphor for a healthy community where each individual must know her/his part and understand their role for the greater benefit of the group. ∗∗∗
June 25, 2014 6:00 pm – 9:00 pm Rutland District Office Understanding & Responding to the Sexual Behavior of Children & Adolescents with Amy Johnson
RSVP by June 18th to Deidra Razzaque at 802‐257‐7967 ext. 304 or [email protected] Created by Gail Ryan of the Kempe Children’s Center, URSBC is designed to promote adult understanding of children’s sexual behavior, as well as teach appropriate adult responses in order to intervene earlier in the development of sexually abusive patterns. Participants will learn to distinguish between normal, problematic and abusive behaviors; develop universal goals to promote health and prevent perpetration of abuse, and intervene to prevent reinforcement of chronic abusive acting out. July 17, 2014 6:00 pm – 8:00 pm Rutland District Office Plugged In: Technology, the Internet and Child Safety
RSVP by May 15th to Deidra Razzaque at 802‐257‐7967 ext. 304 or [email protected] This workshop is designed to promote adult understanding of both the benefits and challenges of having technologically‐savvy children and adolescents; raise awareness of different forms of abuse that are being perpetuated by the internet (child pornography, sexual solicitation, cyber‐bullying); assign responsibility for safety and protection of children and adolescents to adults; allow parents and professionals to practice responding to concerning scenarios and questions, using problem‐solving skills. ∗∗∗
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VFAFA Conference Recap
2014 provided a unique twist to the VFAFA Conference. Vermont hosted foster parents from throughout New England as we partnered with NEFCA (New England Foster Care Association) to celebrate all Resource Families in a
conference entitled “Working Together to Navigate Change”.
With the expansion of our audience we strove to highlight some of the national supports available to all foster, kinship foster and adoptive parents. Irene Clements, President of the National Foster Parent Association was in attendance (www.NFPA.org) along with Patricia Maroney-Ghanem the President of NEFCA. Josh Kroll of the North
American Council on Adoptable Children (www.NACAC.org) was also available throughout the weekend. It was a
pleasure to have them in Vermont.
Underlying the expansive nature of this year’s conference was the foundation of what makes up every VFAFA Conference; the goal of providing a weekend of learning, networking, support and yes – a bit of fun for the folks who
work so hard caring for Vermont’s children. We felt that we accomplished our mission when we heard comments
such as, “I always feel so special when I come to this Conference.”
We had fabulous speakers who kept folks engaged from start to finish. Charlie Appelstein, Judge Britt Hammond
and Steve Lulek provided messages of encouragement, resilience, passion and a deep appreciation for the work that
you do every day. Our workshops offered a variety of learning opportunities from the technical and systemic, to
advocacy, therapeutic interventions, play and self-care. Did you know that our workshop presenters do this for free?
I am always amazed at their knowledge and willingness to spend the better part of a Saturday to share their expertise
at this event!
Woven throughout the weekend were opportunities to bid on amazing Silent Auction items and to appease our sweet
tooth’ with cookies donated to VFAFA from friends who support our families and help to keep the cost of the Conference down. I can’t resist the opportunity to thank all of you that solicited donations; individuals, parents, local associations, Resource Coordinators and DCF District Offices all contributed! The Conference Committee & VFAFA
thanks you. Proceeds from the Silent Auction netted the Children’s Activity Fund $4,781.00 this year----Great Job!!!!
I personally loved the posters that lined the halls with affirmations of our foster, kinship and adoptive families. I
know that staff appreciated the opportunity to take time out of their busy schedules to truly stop and reflect on the
parents they partner with to do this amazing, though often difficult work.
And then there was the Banquet!! A time to don crazy head gear, listen to the Governor and enjoy the company of
parents and workers to toast you – our Resource Parents!! A special thank you to our RCs who treated the audience
to the Comedy Divas. It has been a long time since there was any evening entertainment on Saturday night….if you
join the 2015 Conference Committee perhaps you will have ideas for topping this event. Planning for next year has
already begun – Come Join the Fun! Become a member of the Conference Committee or let our coordinator Jesi
Amsden [email protected] know that you would be interested in helping out a lot or a little. Thanks and we
look forward to seeing everyone in 2015!
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2014 Conference Collage
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We're here for you!
The National Foster Parent Association (NFPA) is a nonprofit
organization dedicated to serving the needs of foster, adoptive and
kinship caregivers throughout the country. As THE national voice
for caregivers, NFPA is proud to support YOU in your role in the
child welfare system.
Need support?
Call us at 800.557.5238
Email us at [email protected]
Need information?
Visit our website at www.nfpaonline.org
Like us on Facebook at National Foster Parent Association
Follow us on Twitter @NFPAOnline
Supporting foster, adoptive and kinship parents nationally
2021 East Hennepin Avenue, Suite 320, Minneapolis, Minnesota 55413
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THE NATIONAL FOSTER PARENT ASSOCIATION LAUNCHES VIRTUAL
WALK ME HOME ... TO THE PLACE I BELONG 5K FUNDRAISING WALK/RUN IN CELEBRATION OF
NATIONAL FOSTER CARE MONTH
DATES FOR WALKS AROUND THE COUNTRY ANNOUNCED
Nashville, TN (May 5, 2014) - The National Foster Parent Association (NFPA) is celebrating National Foster Care Month
with the launch of their first annual virtual Walk Me Home ... To The Place I Belong 5K Walk/Run on Saturday, May 24. The
virtual “walk” allows participants to raise money via the website while walking the 5K in their town. NFPA launched Walk
Me Home ... To The Place I Belong in 2007 and will host 18 walks across the country this year in addition to the virtual walk.
The walks raise funds to assist foster parents and the children in their care in various endeavors. In addition to raising funds
through the walk, NFPA is committed to raising awareness for the 400,000 children currently in foster care in the United
States, while also promoting fostering and adoption.
"The National Foster Parent Association serves as the 'national voice of foster parents' and strives to assist foster parent associations by supporting foster families across the country," says Irene Clements, NFPA President. "We also provide national
advocacy on public policy strategies in Washington, DC and across the country. All proceeds from this Virtual Walk will
help ensure this work continues to grow."
NFPA is asking each person who registers to create his or her own fundraising page and set a goal of at least $100. Proceeds
from the virtual walk will advance the National Foster Parent Association’s efforts to support and advocate for parents and
children all across the U.S. A portion of the funds raised will also be used to support the National Foster Parent Association
Youth Scholarship Fund.
To participate in the virtual walk, registration is $20 per person for ages 13 and up, which includes a free T-shirt. Free registrations can be earned by raising $20 in donations. Children 12 and under always walk free.
About Walk Me Home .. To The Place I Belong Fundraising 5k
Walk Me Home... To The Place I Belong is the signature fundraising and awareness event for foster care in America. Everyone cannot be a foster parent, but everyone can help support the over 400,000 children in foster care and the 100,000 children available for adoption by participating in the 5k. The fundraising event is happening in multiple locations across the
country to raise funds necessary to support the life-changing programs and activities of foster care associations throughout the United States. For more information, visit http://nfpaonline.org/wmh. To view a special video dedicated to the walk,
visit http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e4qnZxfkG38#t=71
About National Foster Parent Association
The National Foster Parent Association is a non-profit, volunteer organization established in 1972 as a result of the concerns
of several independent groups that felt the country needed a national organization to meet the needs of foster families in
the United States. NFPA strengthens foster families through training and education, nationally focused legislative advocacy,
opportunities for networking among foster families, and development of and support for state and local foster parent associations and child welfare organizations. For more information, visit www.nfpaonline.org
Contact Information:
Tiffany Bearden
Evolution PR
[email protected]
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Buddy Hopper
National Walk Me Home Chair
[email protected]
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VT-FUTRES Conference
Concrete Strategies aimed at supporting the educational success
of students who have experienced trauma.
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For educators, social workers, caregivers, mental health workers,
family court professionals and other community partners.
Watch the premiere of Bess O’Brien’s new documentary on the educational
experiences of Vermont youth in Foster Care.
Train with Charlie Applestein: "The Glass Ain't Half Full, Heck It's Overflowing!" The
Power of a Strength-Based Approach in Reshaping the Lives of At-Risk Children, Youth and
Families.
Explore resources developed by VT-FUTRES and meet in regional
teams to plan for improving educational stability and success.
Same Conference – Two Dates – Two Locations
-Tuesday Sept. 16, 2014; 8:30-5:00; Doubletree Inn, So. Burlington
(for Burlington, Middlebury, Morrisville, Rutland, and St. Albans regions.)
-Wednesday Sept. 17, 2014; 8:30-5:00; Lake Morey Resort, Fairlee
(for Barre, Bennington, Brattleboro, Hartford, Newport, St. Johnsbury and Springfield regions.)
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This training is free for invitees. Space is limited. Register here.by June 15th.
Contact Kristen at [email protected] with questions.
The VT-FUTRES Project (Fostering Understanding to Reach Educational Success) is pleased to announce that
Charlie Appelstein will be returning to Vermont next September as part of our fall conference on concrete
strategies to support the educational success of youth who have experienced trauma. In addition to Charlie, the
day will feature the premiere of Bess O'Brien's short documentary on the educational experiences of VT youth
while in foster care and resources to support the educational well-being of state involved youth.
To further collaboration between local partners, our VT-FUTRES team is requesting that people register for the
conference by region. We are also hoping that caregivers will share the attached conference invitation with your
local educators and encourage their attendance. Please note that space for this free conference is limited so we
encourage people to register early.
Feel free to contact me with any questions about the conference or the VT-FUTRES project. www.vtfutres.org.
Kristen Hayden-West
VT-FUTRES Project Implementation Coordinator
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The Vermont Heart Gallery is a traveling photographic exhibit created to find forever families for children in foster
care. Please let me know if there is more that you would like to include.
Manny,10 years old.
Here's what he would like you to know about him.
My favorite activities:
I love to read my book or ride my skateboard. I like to draw. I like help in the
kitchen making meals.
My favorite foods:
I am open to all types of foods.
What I want in a family:
I want two parents who will spend time with me and love me.
Josh, 13
My Favorite Things:
FISHING! Playing cards and board games.
Things that I do not like:
I have to think about his. The only dislike I really has is sharing the spot light. Also, pants I like to wear basketball
shorts, even in the winter.
My Favorite foods:
I think everything and love to cook to for other people. I do not like olives.
Activities I Enjoy:
I love to play basketball and activities when I can be one on one with adults. I love to watch hockey especially the
Bruins!
What I want In a Family:
I would like a two parent family and possibly an older sibling. I would love a family that has pets and might let me get
my own pet. I would really love to take care of a ferret. I would love to have my own room. I want a family that will
let me play video games but not too much and a family with enough food.
What Josh Wants Families to Know about Him:
I am really cooperative with most anything. I have family that I like to visit and would love to keep a relationship with
them. I can quiet at first but one on one I love to talk and do fun things. I have more I want a family to know about
me but would love to share that with you.
What We Want Families to Know about Him:
Josh is a lot of fun and has many interests and is always willing to learn new things. Josh is learning many skills and is
ready to use them in a family.
What We Are Seeking In a Family for Josh:
A family with two parents with lots of energy to keep up with Josh. A family who loves to go fishing as this is one of
his biggest hobbies. A family willing to allow him to stay connected with his birth family. A family willing to work
with a team to meet Josh’s needs and abilities. A family willing to be affectionate and patient.
If you are interested in learning more about Manny or Josh, please contact Heather Simmons at [email protected]
or 802-324-0939.
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YOU HAVE KIDS! WE HAVE KIDS!
~DON’T WALK THIS ROAD ALONE~
Vermont Foster/Adoptive Family Association advocates for foster, kinship and adoptive families in
the State of Vermont.
Interested in receiving our newsletter and other information about VFAFA networking, advocacy
and training? Send your email and
address information to: [email protected]
Please visit our website: www.vfafa.org
Legislative Update
Good news! The Legislature has approved our request for an inflation increase
that matches the 1.5% increase social security recipients received.
They also approved our request for:
$20,000 so more children can access summer camps; and
$30,000 to support Vermont Kin as Parents in their work.
We will keep you posted.
Dave Yacovone, DCF Commissioner
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Parent Advisory and Advocacy Committee
This committee is a group of parents interested in educating and promoting adoption/guardianship awareness in schools, communities and at the state level. Our primary purpose will be to share ideas and resources on how to better advocate for families’ needs. If you are looking for a constructive environment
with meaningful dialogs about advocacy, adoption awareness, and information sharing
please join us at our next meeting.
For more information about joining this committee and to be added to the email list
please contact: [email protected]
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Being a Kinship Foster Parent for
a Youth Survivor
Posted on April 22, 2014 by vtnetworkyatf
By: Anonymous, Vermont
I went into the situation a bit naive. I was aware that I had to keep my hopes and expectations in check, but
I couldn’t help it that they trickled out here and there. I mean why shouldn’t they? My niece is an amazing,
strong, and smart young teenager with so much potential. She has experienced a lot of trauma throughout
her life, but had demonstrated enormous amounts of resiliency. In addition, we had a great relationship, she
was very open and honest with me, she respected me, I respected her, and I specialize in working with youth
survivors of sexual violence.
So when we opened up our home to her for longer than a sleepover, I was nervous but also excited. I was excited for her to have a safe, stable, loving home in which she would be respected and supervised. I knew her
young hormonal teenage attitude would be difficult, and that the dynamic of our relationship shift would be
challenging. I hoped that she would start to flourish, that this opportunity would give her the opportunity to
start being able to focus on being a young teenager worrying about school, her peers, going to the movies,
sports, and homework.
I learned a lot to say the least. I learned that sometimes when really bad things happen to people, they begin
to believe that they are bad and are not deserving of good things. I learned that it takes more than good
intentions and a safe, stable, loving environment for somebody to feel safe and positive. That sometimes
when trauma survivors have experienced so much chaos in their life and it has become their norm, that
safe, stable, and loving environments actually feel dangerous and not safe or comfortable at all. I learned
that there are so many situations in which I do not know what the “right” answer is, or if there really even is
a “right” answer.
All of the experiences I have had with my niece have clearly impacted the way that I understand youth,
including youth with whom I have the privilege of working with. It is important to remember that trauma
effects people in a variety of unique ways depending on the person. That it is impossible for one situation
to effect people in the exact same way, because each person is unique and carries with them a culmination
of experiences and thoughts that nobody else has. And it is important to remember there are resources and
supports available for survivors of trauma and those supporting them. People who have experienced trauma
connected to domestic and/or sexual violence are encouraged to reach out the their member program. To
identify the organization in your county please visit: http://www.vtnetwork.org. In addition, I found The
National Child Traumatic Stress Network available at http://www.nctsnet.org an invaluable resource.
One thing is for certain though, no matter where my niece is and who she is living with, is that I will never,
ever give up on trying to show her that she is loved and worthy of love.
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Suicidal Ideation & Cyberbullying
Author~ Marissa Maldanado
Bullying probably is as old as mankind. However, being a longstanding part of human behavior does not make
it acceptable.
Studies have shown many problems associated with being a victim of bullying, including delayed growth and
development; mental health problems; medical issues; poor academic performance; and more. Many of the
problems caused by bullying can last into adulthood.
It is estimated that between 5 and 20 percent of children worldwide are victims of physical, verbal and exclusionary bullying. Suicide also is a significant problem, with almost 20 percent of adolescents in America having
suicidal thoughts and five to eight percent attempting it.
Technology has shaped contemporary bullying, just as it has most aspects of modern life. Cyberbullying, as it is
known, can take the shape of threatening messages, spreading rumors, excessive teasing, and more.
Cyberbullying is more problematic than traditional bullying because it can happen anytime from anywhere,
and it can be done anonymously. Someone can go online and attack another person using a fake profile or no
name or citation at all, depending on the site. It is difficult to remove messages and other data online. Some
people who may not normally bully will do so because they know they do not have to face any of the consequences.
These messages also can spread quickly to a wide audience. Furthermore, many people who are victims of cyberbullying will experience traditional bullying as well. A recent meta-analysis review of over 40 studies on bullying has found that cyberbullying actually contributes more to suicidal thoughts in children and adolescents
than traditional bullying.
Awareness campaigns in schools and communities that illustrate the consequences of bullying, as well as making it taboo, will help to diminish bullying. Although bullying has the greatest effect on the victim, there are
also negative consequences to the health and well-being of the bully and the bystanders.
It is important for victims of bullying to have access to resources to help diminish the negative impact. Going
through psychotherapy to talk through the feelings, emotions, and other negative effects of the actions can help
a person to overcome some of the issues associated with being a victim of bullying. Feeling loved and supported by family, peers, teachers, and other important people in their lives also can help victims find healthy ways
to process the negative.
From “World of Psychology” blog. http://psychcentral.com/
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Highlighted Resources
Vermont Network Against Domestic & Sexual Violence
Prevent Child Abuse VT
The Vermont Center for the Prevention and Treatment of Sexual Abuse
VT Dept. for Children and Families Website http://dcf.vermont.gov/
Many of the people reading the VFAFA VOICE have cared, or will care for, children who have been abused physically, sexually
and emotionally. We know that having a strong relationship with a caring, positive adult is one of the most important resources to enable a child to heal. Often that relationship is with you.
The two articles prior to our “Highlighted Resource” page speak to the deep wounds and complex nature of abuse. We are
fortunate in Vermont to have a network of organizations and resources that provide support and education to help you and the
child in your care. In this issue we would like to highlight a few of these resources. For instance, the Vermont Network was
the original source for the Kinship article. Specifically, it came to me via the Youth Advocacy Task Force blog
http://youthadvocacytaskforcevt.wordpress.com/ which can be found under the Get Educated heading at the Vermont Network website. Articles and information related to “Cyberbullying and internet safety are available at the websites of all of our
highlighted resources. Prevent Child Abuse VT provides intensive training on this topic (as well as countless other topics)-go
to http://www.pcavt.org/ to learn more.
Our brief “Highlighted” descriptions cannot do justice to the wealth of information, training and support these organizations
and websites can offer, but perhaps it can entice you to go to the internet after the kids go to bed and learn what they provide
to help you in this is incredible endeavor you are a part of. If you don’t have internet at your home, check out your local library
or call these organizations for more information.
Vermont Network Against Domestic and Sexual Violence
Website : www.vtnetwork.org
Phone: 802-223-1302
The Vermont Network is a statewide resource on domestic and sexual violence issues. Its staff provides technical assistance
and training to member programs and statewide partners, inform public policy, and coordinate statewide projects and conferences. The Vermont Network does not provide direct services for victims of domestic or sexual violence, but supports the
fourteen Member Organizations that offer services like support and shelter throughout Vermont.
Resources available at this website include but are not limited to;
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Publications, articles and links to information about Sexual & Domestic abuse prevention, support and treatment.
Location and contact information about Member Organizations, under the “Get Help” Heading.
Information about what these organizations may offer including; hotlines, legal, financial and personal advocacy, shelters, peer education and/ or support groups.
Youth Advocacy Task Force Blog and Newsletters with articles that will appeal to, and inform the teen in your care.
These are also very relevant for caregivers.
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Prevent Child Abuse VT
Website : www.pcavt.org
Phone: 1-802-229-5724
Prevent Child Abuse Vermont promotes and supports healthy relationships within families, schools and communities to
eliminate child abuse. This is done in a variety of ways including:
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Providing programs such as the Nurturing Parenting Programs, Circle of Parents Support Groups, and Parents' Stress Line (1-800-244-5373) to Vermont parents and families, free of charge.
Providing trainings to parents, schools and community partners on topics that range from Internet Safety & Cyber bullying to Stages of Healthy Sexual Development & Child Abuse Prevention.
Working to heighten awareness and prevention of Shaken Baby Syndrome.
Chronicling current issues of Prevention and Trauma on their website.
The website is just the tip of this organization. Reach out to PCAVT for other ways they may be of help to you.
The Vermont Center for the Prevention and Treatment of Sexual Abuse
Website: http://humanservices.vermont.gov/center-for-prevention-and-treatment-of-sexual-abuse
The Center is mandated by Vermont law to coordinate and oversee the state’s systematic response to sexual assault and child
sexual abuse. It is jointly administered by the Department of Corrections and the Department for Children and Families. The
Center was originally formed in 1988 and was strengthened when the Legislature signed “Act One” in 2009 Act One S-13 is
“ An Act Relating to Improving Vermont’s Sexual Abuse Response System.” This website provides links to countless valuable
resources for families, professionals and the courts. Resources are geared toward:
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Prevention
Intervention
Treatment
Vermont Department for Children and Families
Website: http://dcf.vermont.gov/
In “our world” DCF is synonymous with child protection, foster care, adoption etc. but DCF also oversees economic services, child care, child development and a many other programs that benefit Vermonters. For the sake of this article we would
like to provide a couple of links to areas within the overall website where you will find information ranging from Child
abuse treatment and prevention to Domestic violence resources.
http://dcf.vermont.gov/stepup
This portion of the website is focused on all issues related to Child Sexual Abuse and is relevant for parents and community
partners.
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Prevention – resources abound including a downloadable copy of the Parent’s Guide to Sexual Abuse. There is in formation on creating Safety Plans and tips for how to speak openly with the youth in your care about Healthy Sexu
ality and Personal Safety.
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Intervention –learn what to do if you notice inappropriate behavior or suspect abuse.
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Treatment – provides listing of community, regional and statewide resources
http://dcf.vermont.gov/protectkids
This portion of the website focuses on all aspects of Child protection.
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Prevention programs are highlighted here.
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Child protection registry is located at this site.
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Information on Safe Sleep for Babies, Shaken Baby Syndrome and Safe Havens Vermont. http://dcf.vermont.gov/domestic_violence
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This site offers links to countless state and national agencies and resources.
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Provides call numbers for a variety of programs available to assist in all aspects of domestic violence.
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Child Welfare Training Partnership
What is Foster Parent College (FPC)?
Online Training - convenient, engaging and effective
In these interactive courses, you'll explore specific
behavior problems and emotional disorders in children,
and learn how to effectively deal with them. Each
course:
• Offers practical solutions to the daily challenges
parents face.
• Presents effective and powerful messages through
dramatized vignettes, interviews with parents and
instruction from nationally-known child welfare
experts.
• Includes a question and answer section, and offers
a certificate of completion for specified hours of
training.
Self-Paced Courses
• Each online course includes
30-40 minute multimedia presentation.
• Watch a course any time, at your convenience, in the comfort of your own home.
• Talk about what you learned, ask questions, or share suggestions any time you want at the online discussion boards.
• Print a Certificate of Completion for two hours of training.
Available Courses
Take online learning to the next level with these
courses that are taught by Dr. Rick Delaney and
other parenting experts.
ADHD, ADD & ODD
Anger Outbursts
Childhood Anxiety
Disorders
Children with Autism
Runaway Behavior
Safe Parenting
Eating Disorders Firesetting House Safety
Kinship Care
Lying
Positive Parenting I
Positive Parenting 2
Positive Parenting 3
Self Harm Sexualized
Behavior Sleep Problems
Stealing
Wetting & Soiling
Working with Schools
Working with Birth
Check the website often, as new courses are continually being added.
You can access these courses from any computer
with internet access. Don't have a computer at
home? Try your local public library. High speed
internet is recommended.
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Advanced Parenting Workshops
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Discover reasons behind behavior and explore solutions.
Work with other class members to create an
effective action plan.
Course activities must be completed within the scheduled three-week time frame.
Only selected courses are available. Check the
website for current schedule.
Foster Parent College online courses are free
to eligible parents in your agency. Contact the
agency staff listed below to find out if you're
eligible, and he or she will register you. You will
need a valid email address.
CONTACT:
Your local Family Services Resource Coordinator or,
if you are not involved with Family Services, contact
Deidra Razzaque at 802-2577967 ext. 304 or deidra.
[email protected]
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Enjoy a delicious lunch at Outback
In the Blue Mall, Dorset St., So. Burlington
(across from the University Mall)
Only $10.00*
(Gratuity is not included)
Wednesday, May 28, 2014
EAT-IN AT 11:30 or 1:00 (limit of 130 at each seating)
Menu
Bloomin’ onion to share
6 oz. sirloin steak or 8 oz. chicken
Seasoned rice
Salad
Dessert
Soda, coffee, tea
(No take-out orders)
DEADLINE TO PURCHASE TICKETS: TUESDAY, MAY 13
To purchase tickets:
1. Include your name, choice of chicken or steak and time and
mail a check for the requested number of tickets to:
Vermont Kin As Parents, P.O. Box 415, Williston, VT 05495
2. Call 871-5104 or 871-5109; leave a message and phone number
3. Email [email protected] and send a check.
Your ticket helps to support Vermont Kin As Parents (VKAP) whose mission is to strengthen
families raising the children of relatives and to educate the community about
the joys and challenges of these families.
Special thanks to OUTBACK for providing this fundraiser for VKAP!
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Resources
Vermont Foster/Adoptive Family Association (VFAFA)~ http://vfafa.org
Our mission is to empower, support, and unify foster and adoptive families by strengthening the systems that care
for Vermont’s children.
The Vermont Adoption Consortium ~ http://vtadoption.org
Is comprised of agencies and groups from around the state that have joined together for a common purpose: to support and strengthen Vermont families joined by adoption.
Vermont Kin As Parents (VKAP) ~ http://www.vermontkinasparents.org/
is a grassroots, nonprofit organization committed to supporting kin who are
raising relatives’ children.
Department for Children and Families
Families Services Division (DCF/FSD) ~ http://dcf.vermont.gov/fsd
The mission of the Family Services Division is to protect children and strengthen families, in partnership with families and communities. Here you will find countless resources for Foster/Kinship and Adoptive Families and other
areas of interest including:
http://dcf.vermont.gov/projectfamily/adopting/children Here you can meet children still waiting for Adoption in
VT.
Step Up VT - Protect Kids ~ http://dcf.vermont.gov/stepup, also find a fabulous resource guide at
Prevent Child Abuse VT ~ http://www.pcavt.org
Prevent Child Abuse Vermont promotes and supports healthy relationships within families, schools and
communities to eliminate child abuse.
http://mybenefits.vt.gov visit this site if you need help meeting your family’s basic needs, or call 1-800-479-6151
Vermont Family Network (VFN) ~ http://www.vermontfamilynetwork.org
Promotes better health, education and well-being for all children and families, with a focus on children and young
adults with special needs.
“Voices at The Table”~ http://voicesatthetable.wordpress.com/
This resource blog, at is a hub for kinship, foster, and adoptive families in Vermont. It is a site where you can share
knowledge, concerns, insights, and triumphs with other families. You’ll also be able to access classes throughout the
state, parenting websites, and much more. Recent posts include how to help children cope after tragic incidents, a
congressional internship opportunity for youth in foster care, and how to manage strong feelings during holidays
and other special occasions.
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VFAFA Membership !
We know that you care deeply for children or you wouldn’t be reading this page.
VFAFA does too and they honor the families who care for them! For several decades VFAFA has been working to
empower, support, and unify foster and adoptive families by strengthening the systems that care for Vermont's children .You know us best for our Annual Conference but did you also know that:
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We advocate for and represent the interests of Foster/Adoptive Parents at the Legislature and at numerous state meetings.
We collaborate with various agencies for access to high quality education and training for foster/adoptive/ kinship families.
We advise on policy and practice specific to Foster Care.
And Much More
To Make A Difference in the lives of children and the families who care for them complete the membership form
below and return it to Rose Lessard , VFAFA Treasurer PO Box 220 Graniteville, VT 05654. Please make checks
payable to VFAFA:
Name: ______________________________District :_________________________________
Address:_____________________________________________________________________
Phone: __________________________________E-mail______________________________
Please check:
 DCF Licensed Foster Family
 DCF Licensed Kinship Family
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 Private Agency Foster Family
 Community Friend
 Adoptive Family
$35.00 Family/Individual Membership ($10.00 goes directly to Spring Conference)
$____ Children’s Activity Fund Donation
$ ____Scholarship Fund Donation
$ ___ Please Use My Donation As Needed
We look forward to hearing from you.
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VERMONT FOSTER & ADOPTIVE FAMILY ASSOCIATION
Children’s Activity Fund Request Form
VFAFA has a limited amount of money available that can be used to reduce the cost of enrichment
activities for children in foster care or adoptive forever homes.
The eligibility criteria are:
 a child is in the custody of DCF/adoptive forever home
 a child is living in a DCF foster/adoptive forever home
 the child has not already received a grant in the current calendar year
Funding is on a first-come, first-served basis and may only be applied to enrichment activities. It is not
meant to cover treatment or educational expenses. The amount of funding may vary based on the request,
but will not exceed $100. Children and youth are encouraged to contribute to the cost as appropriate.
Checks will be made out directly to the organization unless the foster/adoptive parent has provided
payment. If foster/adoptive parent has provided payment, they will be reimbursed upon the submission
with appropriate receipt(s) and this form. Receipts must be legible with the amounts, activity, and the
organization’s name clearly identified.
Child’s Name:
Age:
Foster/Adoptive Parent(s) Name:
Address:
Telephone:
E-Mail:
Activity/Camp:
Total Cost:
Date:
Amount Requested:
Other funding sources and amounts received (include child/family contributions):
Briefly describe enrichment activity and how the child will benefit from this experience.
(continue on other side sheet if necessary)
Please advise of the Person/Organization the check should be payable to:
***Return form and receipt (if applicable) to: ***
By Mail: Lauri Samson
161 Federal Street
St. Albans, VT 05478
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Email: [email protected]
Fax: (802) 847-5294
www.vfafa.org
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VFAFA Board Members
President
Dan Boyce
Brandon, VT
802-345-0359
[email protected]
Vice President
Lisa Steckler
Shrewsbury, VT
[email protected]
Secretary
Erin Bristol
Dummerston, VT
802-254-1371
[email protected]
Treasurer
Rose Lessard
Barre, VT
[email protected]
Jim Bulger
W. Topsham, VT
802-439-5259
[email protected]
Barre District
Daniel Lessard
802-479-0491
[email protected]
Rutland District
Cinn Smith
802-265-2014
[email protected]
Bennington District
Kendy Skidmore
802-688-9733
[email protected]
Springfield
Mikael Reynolds
[email protected]
802-376-9964
Brattleboro District
Brenda Zavattero
802-896-6384
[email protected]
St. Albans District
Lauri Samson
802-782-5607
Jody Dickerson
[email protected] [email protected]
802-235-1249
St. Johnsbury
Jamie Manzi
802-673-6452
[email protected]
Hartford District
Alicia Connors
802-683-8402
[email protected]
Middlebury District
Martha Hanley
802-377-7861
[email protected]
Member’s At-Large
Martin Bursque
Springfield, VT 05156
802-885-1771
[email protected]
Pat Richardson
Shrewsbury, VT 05738
[email protected]
Burlington District
Vacant
Morrisville District
Vacant
Newport District
Vacant
VFAFA 2014 Meeting Schedule
Monthly Board Meetings
June 10th, July 8th, September 9th
(No August Meeting)
Location: Gifford Hospital Conference Room, Randolph, VT
Time: 7:00 - 9:00
Networking Meetings
October 14, 2014
Time: 9:00 am - 3:00 pm
Lunch is provided
Call-in Information - 1-888-450-5996 and the pass code is 985811
Mileage is reimbursable
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