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Girls Go Solo
Tips for Women Traveling Alone
Patti Morrow/Luggage and Lipstick
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© Patti Morrow, U.S.A., March 2015
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“Never did the world make a queen of a girl who hides in houses
and dreams without traveling.”
~Roman Payne, The Wanderess
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Table of Contents
Foreword
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Introduction
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Safety Tips
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Benefits to Your Overall Well-Being
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“Bleasure” Trips
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Insurance
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Photography
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Luggage
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Long Layovers
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Boomer Travel
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The TSA: Humorous Stories
My Breasts? Lethal Weapons? (2011)
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Some Days are Like That… Even in the Midwest (2013)
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Final Thoughts
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Why do you travel alone? (Cartoon)
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About the Author
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Foreword
Patti Morrow lives life boldly and truly believes that life should be fun. As a travel writer
and founder of Luggage and Lipstick, Patti inspires others to move outside their comfort
zone and discover the rejuvenating power of traveling. Tips For Women Traveling Alone
presents a female perspective in overcoming fears about exploring that great big world
out there all on one's own.
We share a wanderlust with Patti – our spunky colleague in the travel industry. Over the
years, we've swapped tales and travel tips. This book is chockablock with Patti's own
tested and proven tips wrapped in her witticisms. For gals pondering solo travel, keep this
book at the ready, as you can rely on the handy lists, links and recommendations.
Some may say that wanderlust is incurable. If you find yourself pointed in that direction,
definitely use this book as a guide!
Viv Chapleo & Jill Hoelting
WAVEJourney.com
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Introduction
For some women, just the thought of traveling alone is daunting. But there’s something
to be said about going outside of your comfort zone; like any other anxiety, the more
times you do it, the less frightening it becomes.
Traveling solo can be a soul-searching experience that is refreshing and rejuvenating. It
is not unusual to experience a feeling of accomplishment and self-sufficiency. These
journeys provide you with a chance to reflect on your life, free from all the buzz of daily
living. You have the opportunity to discover that you enjoy your own company.
It gives you a chance to develop new skills. Because I’m “directionally-challenged,” just
being able to find my way and navigate around new places is always a thrill and triumph!
Traveling is very exciting in itself, but on your own, you’ll experience exhilaration as you
try new things you might not have been willing to try before – whether it is trying
unusual local cuisine, experiencing an adrenaline activity, or attempting to communicate
in foreign language.
A solo trip is not only refreshing, but it changes the way you view the world.
Preconceived notions are dispelled and replaced with personal experiences. Exploring
other cultures and getting a first-hand view of some of the most iconic places that you’ve
only seen in books is exhilarating – not just when you’re there, but even when you’re
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home and see one of these destinations on television or in a magazine and can say, “Hey!
I’ve been there!”
Experiences make for longer lasting memories than material things. When I think all the
way back to my childhood, I remember the fun, recreational time we spent as a family,
not what I received as gifts.
Consider your bucket list. It’s not always easy to find someone else with the same
desires as you. That’s no reason to dismiss your dream destinations. Just go.
If you’re considering your first solo trip, you might want to try just a weekend away,
somewhere within a short drive of where you live. Even if you’ve been there before with
others, on a solo journey you’ll see it with fresh eyes. In fact, you could even try breaking
yourself in by traveling around your home town by yourself.
While I encourage solo travelers to try new things, don’t sweat the small stuff. If it
doesn’t feel right, don’t do it. For example, I’m not a fan of dining alone, unless I can sit
at the bar and talk to the bartender or other solo diners. Sitting at a table-for-one isn’t my
favorite thing – not because I’m uncomfortable with people looking at me, but I get
bored. Sometimes I do it and bring a book or my laptop, other times I just get takeout – I
especially love street food. But many others don’t feel that way – especially foodies –
and wouldn’t think of missing a fabulous multi-course meal just because they are alone.
When you travel alone, you also don’t have to accommodate anyone else’s demands.
You get to do only what you want to do, and nothing else. You’re in complete control of
the itinerary, with no guilt and no drama!
Also, you don’t have to wait or accommodate someone else’s vacation schedule, or deal
with the frustration when someone you’ve planned a trip with cancels out on you at the
last minute.
One way to get confidence about traveling solo is to research destinations to see which
ones are more accommodating to women traveling alone. Information is more available
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than ever, not just in guidebooks, but now online, and even apps on your cell phone. You
can find up-to-the-minute recommendations on where to stay, what cultural sights to see,
even where you can share a meal with other travelers.
A good option for breaking into solo travel is to go on a group tour with other solo
travelers or a cruise (doesn’t have to be a hosted singles cruise – I’ve gone on “regular”
cruises as a solo traveler). Joining up with others gives you an opportunity to make new
friends to share your experiences with, as they happen. The serendipitous connections
you make while traveling can often turn into long-term friendships.
If you’re an American, your first solo trip might be to Canada, England, or Australia
where there isn’t (much!) a language barrier. Or maybe a trip to the country of your
ancestral origin, which many people long to investigate.
Most of all…. if you’ve a mind to try solo travel, don’t let friends or family talk you out
of it! To this day, some people still look at me like I have three heads when I tell them
I’m travelling alone by choice. It’s not that I’m telling them to travel solo all the time – I
don’t; I also travel with girlfriends or family. But I do try to help them understand that
traveling solo is a unique experience. Unfortunately for some, just the idea of letting go
of their inhibitions is more than they can bear.
Traveling alone is very empowering. So much so that you will find yourself more
confident and more motivated to take on new challenges in your everyday life.
While you discover the world, you just may discover some new things about yourself.
Solo travel may not be for everyone. But how will you find out if it’s for you unless you
try it once?
Do one thing every day that scares you. ~Eleanor Roosevelt
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Safety Tips
Traveling solo doesn’t mean traveling senseless. There are definitely some safety
precautions worth mentioning (in no particular order of importance):
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Book your room for two even when you are alone. Usually it’s the same
price.
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If you arrive at your hotel at night, use valet parking or ask the hotel to have
someone accompany you from the parking lot to the hotel.
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Attach the "Do Not Disturb" card on your door when you are away from your
room. Never put out the “Make Up this Room” sign which signals that no one
is in the room.
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Keep the drapes in your room closed after nightfall.
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Always check the window and door locks, and use the dead bolts on the door.
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Request a room near the elevator, and have your key already out when you get
to your door.
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If you’re not expecting anyone, don’t open the door if someone knocks.
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Make sure the sliding door to your balcony or terrace is locked.
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Put your business address, not your home address, on your luggage tags.
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Never flaunt expensive jewelry. Leave it at home.
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If you’re single, carry a cheap fake wedding ring to use as needed.
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If you’re bothered by a persistent man, do what Rick Steves suggests – tell
him “You're traveling with your husband. He's waiting for you at the hotel.
He's a professional wrestler who retired from the sport for psychological
reasons.” ☺
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Conceal cash in a travel body wallet around neck, tummy, or in your bra.
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When walking, stay close to the crowd as though you're part of a group.
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Use caution with taxis. Try to use a reputable company. If you are not fluent
in the language, always write down the address you want to be driven to. If
possible, have your hotel concierge call a cab and negotiate the rate for you.
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Take a matchbook from your hotel with you, or carry the address of your hotel
in case you get lost.
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If you get lost, seek out another woman for help. Also, say “How do I get to
____? I'm meeting my husband there."
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List emergency numbers on a small card and keep with you.
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Know how to dial emergency; it’s not “9-1-1” in foreign countries. If you’re
bringing your cell phone, put the number on speed dial or in contacts.
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Carry a pocket phrase book of the language of the country
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Bring photos of your children and a photo of your husband or another man.
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Be aware of surroundings, especially at night. Save texting until you get back
to the hotel.
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Withdraw cash from an ATM during the day, not at night.
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Use an across-the-shoulder sling bag to carry your stuff.
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Even better than using your own sling bag or backpack, get a bag from a local
grocery and carry your essentials and camera less conspicuously.
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If you place your handbag on the floor when sitting in a restaurant, put your
foot through the strap.
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Carry only enough cash for the day; leave the rest in the safe in your room.
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Keep photocopies of all your important documents in your room or scanned
onto one of your devices.
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Do your research and dress in a way that is considered appropriate by locals.
Tight and revealing clothing will always garner unwanted attention.
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Beware of innocent-looking begging children; many are trained to be pickpockets from early on and are very good at their trade.
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Drink in moderation to avoid losing your natural instinct.
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Lock your suitcase with a TSA-friendly lock.
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Act confident and always be acutely aware of what is going on around
you. Use all your senses – especially common sense!
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Don’t be afraid to raise your voice if necessary.
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Always lock your rental car doors when driving.
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ALWAYS trust your intuition! If the hairs on the back of your neck stand up
when you see a man alone in an elevator, wait for the next one. Don’t worry
about hurting his feelings – you’ll never see him again!
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This word of wisdom from a police detective… Never get into a car when a
would-be abductor pulls a gun and orders you to get into his vehicle. Most
attackers don't want to shoot you ... they want you to get into the car so that
they can drive you to a deserted place and torture you. Don't comply. Run
screaming. It is MUCH more likely than not that he will just move on to an
easier target.1
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http://kevincoffey.com/women_safety/travel_safety_tips_for_women.htm
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Benefits to Your Overall Well-Being
Travel makes you happier, healthier, and more productive.2
So why then do somewhere between 30 and 50 percent of Americans not use all their
vacation days? Studies show that people who take vacations enjoy a multitude of
benefits to their well-being.
Physical Benefits
Taking time away from work is not just fun, but can bring health benefits. It allows the
body to replenish and repair itself, according to Karen Matthews of Mind Body Center at
the University of Pittsburgh.
Many studies have emphasized that people who take annual vacations had lower blood
pressure and were less likely to die from heart disease.
Getting away from work also helps the body to recharge its batteries.
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Medical Advice Disclaimer: The information provided above is not intended as medical advice. Always
seek the advice of your physician or other health provider for any questions you may have regarding your
medical condition.
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Vitamin D is vital for healthy bones and to keep the immune system working. One way to
get vitamin D is from moderate exposure to sunlight… and the sun is free! Research also
suggests Vitamin D can help prevent prostate, breast and colon cancers, as well as lower
the risk for Type II Diabetes.
Psychological Benefits
According to the American Psychological Association, people who take vacations have
lower levels of stress. More vacations also contribute to higher positive emotional levels,
less depression, and overall outlook on life.
There is also an increase in creativity and innovation. According to Robert Kriegel,
author of How to Succeed in Business Without Working So Damn Hard, taking time
away from the pressure of dealing with daily crises frees workers to develop their bests
ideas. This is particularly true for those in creative fields. According to a survey done by
the Vacation Deprivation Study, 34 percent of the respondents reported feeling better
about their jobs and more productive after taking a vacation.
Did you know that play is not just for children? Play may be just as important as sleep
and a factor in happiness, balance, and success.
And the constructive benefit isn’t just during the time you are away! The actual planning
of a trip and the anticipation of good times has added benefits. Even if you only take one
vacation a year, when you get back, start doing some research for the next one and enjoy
the expectancy of more travel. More anticipation = more happiness.
Women Especially Benefit from Vacations
The Marshfield Clinic in Wisconsin did a study and came to an astounding conclusion
which was published in the Wisconsin Medical Journal: Women who vacationed less
often than once every two years were more likely to suffer from depression and increased
stress than women who took vacations at least twice a year.
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The a study conducted by the landmark Framingham Heart Study reported that women
who took a vacation only once every six years or less were almost eight times more likely
to develop coronary heart disease or have a heart attack compared to women who
vacationed at least twice a year.
Another benefit that has been attributed to leisure activities asserts that it helps to
maintain a smaller waistline. Do you know of a woman (or man for that matter) who
wouldn’t appreciate that benefit? Me either.
Trying new activities that take you out of your comfort zone lead to improved self-esteem
and feelings of accomplishment different to the accomplishments derived from work.
Affordability
With careful planning, even those who are budget-conscious can find a way to vacation.
With the accessibility to the internet, there are numerous websites and apps that tell you
everything from when is the least expensive time to visit a location, what day of the week
to book the lowest cost flights, what hotels are offering specials, foodie finds, etc.
So if you feel like you’re hitting the wall, need to refresh and rejuvenate, or want some
balance in your life, it’s time to unplug. It’s time for a break.
Don’t shortchange yourself – start improving your health, happiness and productivity
today.
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Take a Bleasure Trip
What is “bleasure?”
When I'm away on business in an interesting destination that's not directly related to my
travel writing, I try to add on a day or two to see the sights and take a breath. This type of
travel is commonly referred to as "bleasure" -- combining business and pleasure. This has
proved to be one of the best ways to refresh and recharge and guarantees I'm ready to
take on another day!
Not all destinations lend themselves to taking an extra day or two, but if you're traveling
to someplace you've never been before, even if it's not at the top of your must-see list,
think about taking advantage of an opportunity for new experiences. You'd be
surprised... a little research may very well turn up several interesting prospects that you
never knew existed in that city.
Attending a convention is a great bleasure opportunity because in order to attract
attendees, most organizations book their conventions at very high end luxury hotels
which give a reduced rate because of the number of rooms being booked. They are also
usually held in very desirable locations.
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Combining business with pleasure is also an economical way to fund a mini-vacation that
otherwise may not have been possible. The best phrase that I’ve heard to describe this
kind of travel is “corporate tourism.”
Consider take a day or two before your meetings. Stress is the cause for many issues,
including brain blockage. Even just one day at the ocean, mountains, city shopping, or
other desirable location can:
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Cleanse and prepare your mind to receive training or give a more dynamic
presentation;
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Spike your vibrancy and energy;
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Enhance your creativity;
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Increase your morale, and that can be contagious!
If all you can manage is couple of hours for yourself, at least allow yourself just a bit of
indulgence. Step off the corporate ladder or entrepreneurial treadmill for just a few hours
and have some fun! Take a walk and explore a new city, get a massage, eat at that
famous restaurant with the jaw-dropping view; or simply grab that mile-high piece of
cheesecake.
The time taken will result in a much rejuvenated you.
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Insurance
Let me be clear about this….travel insurance is not a luxury, it’s a necessity. Unless you
are traveling to a destination that is close to where you live, I highly advise you to
purchase either (1) travel insurance to cover a specific trip, or if you travel frequently, (2)
annual comprehensive travel insurance to cover an entire year.
While travel insurance will most certainly give you some peace of mind, it doesn’t
guarantee that your trip will be free of problems. Here are some of the issues you could
face, some or all of which would be covered by travel insurance, depending on the policy
you choose:
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Cancellations
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Trip interruption
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Missed or delayed flights
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Delayed baggage
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Lost baggage
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Accidents
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Medical
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Emergency medical transportation
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Dental
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Illness
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Emergency evacuation
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Travel/tour bankruptcy
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Identity theft
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Rental car damage
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24-hour traveler assistance
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Terrorism
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Repatriation after death
With travel insurance, you will be able to recover all or some of the costs incurred.
You’ll also have people from the insurance company able to assist you, which is really
valuable when you’re in a foreign country.
So what does travel insurance cost? Premiums can vary dramatically, depending on the
services you choose, but generally most packages for a single trip will cost anywhere
between 4% and 12% of your total trip. Rates go up with the age of the insured and of
course whether you choose a bare-bones policy or one that covers “cancel for any
reason.”
Many people misunderstand what evacuation coverage is. If you experience a medical
emergency during your trip, even if you have evacuation coverage, you will usually not
be flown home. Rather, your will be taken to the closest major hospital that is equipped to
treat your condition. In rare cases, “medical repatriation” – a medically equipped and
staffed private jet is summoned, which would not be covered by your regular health
insurance.
I can’t emphasize strongly enough how important it is to make sure you have travel
insurance. I learned my lesson the hard way – physically and economically…
In May of 2014, I was in a horrific, near-death car crash while traveling in South Africa.
Our car was struck at full speed by another vehicle on the passenger side where I was
seated. The emergency medical team had to use the Jaws of Life and pneumatic cutting
equipment to extract me; my injuries were substantial and life threatening.
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I was rushed to the closest medical facility, Worcester Hospital to repair my torn
diaphragm and to re-position my stomach and intestines which had herniated into my
thoracic cavity. From there I was transported by another ambulance to a different nearby
hospital, MediClinic Worcester, to reconstruct my completely severed left femur with a
series of titanium rods, plates and screws and to re position it back into my hip joint. My
pelvis was fractured in six places and right wrist was broken, I had numerous sprains,
bruises, bumps and cuts all over my head and body.
I spent seven long weeks flat on my back in that South African waiting for my pelvic
fractures to heal to the point that I could fly the 7,700 miles home, reclined, on a first
class commercial flight. I had a high-end, “Cadillac” Blue Cross health insurance plan
but it did not cover the $40-$85K cost of a stretcher flight – the only way I could have
gotten home immediately. Foolishly, I had not purchased travel insurance which while it
would not have repatriated me, it would have saved me approximately $10K that I had to
pay for medical deductibles and other expenses incurred during my long hospitalization.
Enough said? I hope so. Please make sure you are covered.
For more information about different types of coverage, this article by Rick Steves’ is
very user-friendly: https://www.ricksteves.com/travel-tips/trip-planning/travel-insurance.
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Photography
When you’re traveling alone, one of the things you have to take into consideration is how
to get the right photos. You won’t have a companion also taking photos, so there’s no
backup, and no one to get pictures with you in them. Here are some things you can do to
create a better chance of getting the best shots.
Equipment
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Good camera (I like Nikon)
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Camera-specific backpack
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Cell phone for situations when you can’t carry a larger camera
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Extra charger or batteries
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Extra SD cards
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Tripod
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Selfie stick
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External hard drive for backup
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Laptop to transfer photos every night
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Intervalometer (remote timer)
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Polarizing filter for your lens to cut glare and enhance color saturation
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Editing software like Photoshop, Lightroom, Snap Seed, etc.
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Rain covering for camera
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Technique
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Research location to see where the best photo ops are, as well as to develop ideas
for what hasn’t been photographed
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Model release form
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Have patience to wait for the shot
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Take photos right after sunset, dusk, and twilight
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Play with depth of field to blur out distracting background
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When possible, get a hotel with great views
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Take more photos than you’d ever think you’d need – there’s no film to develop
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Get lots of spontaneous candid photos of locals, but don’t intrude unless they
indicate it’s okay
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Use the “law of thirds” – do not place everything in center of frame
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Look for patterns in nature and unique architecture
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Shoot cityscapes at night
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Get low to the ground and shoot up
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Tilt the camera at an angle when shooting tall buildings
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Take shots at three distances: wide angle to show context, medium, and close-up
detail (see examples below of Chicago’s Ohio Beach)
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The Suitcase Secret
Buying luggage can be extremely subjective. A good choice can be very dependent on
things like frequency of travel, aesthetic importance, physical strength of owner, and
price.
For me, I travel a lot and I’m a medium-sized, artsy-type woman for whom functionality,
not price, is the primary issue.
Over the last few years, I have gone through more luggage than the average person goes
through in a life time. Along the way I’ve learned some lessons that may or may not
apply to you – I’ll share them and let you decide.
Appearance. Okay, I’m going to expose my weakness straightaway. I refuse to have
ugly or non-descript stuff. Even my office supplies are distinct (I have a tape dispenser
in the shape of a Christian Louboutin spike heel and a computer thumb drive that looks
like, well, a human thumb. But I digress…). So over the years, I’ve purchased some
good-looking bags which unfortunately were not functional or of good quality
construction. Finding attractive luggage that will withstand the disregard and/or abuse of
baggage handlers can require considerable effort.
There are pros and cons to having distinct-looking luggage.
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The Cons: It can distinguish you as perhaps having valuables when your luggage
is more expensive.
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The Pros: It’s easy to quickly find your bag on the carousel and it’s virtually
impossible for some to either mistake your bag for theirs or deliberately try to
steal it
Quality. When buying soft-sided gear, you need to be mindful of the quality/thickness of
the fabric. In the span of one year, I purchased two 4-piece sets of fabric luggage – one
set was bright magenta and the other was a trendy black and gray Hawaiian floral print.
Every time I retrieved one those pieces from the baggage carousel I’d find a slash
through the ultra thin fabric, until I was left with no serviceable pieces. Of course, the
airlines always offer to replace your bag with a brand new one they have stored in a back
room warehouse. Always black. Always ugly. “But this bag is part of a 4-piece set!” I
said. “Can’t you reimburse me so I can purchase a new set?” Ha! THAT never
happened.
Size matters. The bigger the bag, the better, right? Wrong. Learn to embrace “less is
more.” It took me many, many years, but ultimately I’d had it with sore backs and arms
resulting from lugging a suitcase jammed with things I’d never used. Most hotels have
laundry service or washing machines, so a classic black pencil skirt or a pair of khaki
capris serves nicely with several coordinating stylish tops. Multi-tasking your packing is
an art form into itself, so master it and use it.
Several years ago, I fell in love with a humongous 31” high pink polka dot suitcase and
bought it on impulse. I only used it once. Fully packed it was so heavy I could barely
wheel it, it almost didn’t make the airline weight limit, and neither my husband or son
really wanted to be seen towing it. The light-colored fabric came out soiled with airplane
grease stains. And I’m pretty sure I heard one of the baggage handlers call it a
“collapsible bed.”
Also, with airlines tightening up on baggage restrictions, it literally “pays” to learn to
travel lighter. Always weigh your luggage to make sure you comply with maximum
weight limits to avoid paying extra fees. Ditto for size, especially for carryon luggage –
you may have to pay an extra fee to check that carryon that is larger than regulation size.
Another way to avoid baggage fees is to take advantage of airlines that allow you to bring
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two bags on board; split (and stuff) your items between the largest size carryon allowed
and a backpack that will fit under the seat in front of you. There are numerous ways to
save space such as rolling your clothing, cutting down on shoes, preparing to purchase
toiletries at your destination, etc.
Functionality. The cheaper the luggage, the cheaper the wheels. Ease in rolling is
crucial, as I found out the hard way. I got off on the wrong subway stop in New York
City and had to walk several blocks to the next one. My pretty 21” magenta weekend bag
should have been no problem. But the rough city sidewalks wreaked havoc on the cheap
plastic wheels which soon became flat and stationary and I ended up dragging that bag
across the city. Not fun.
I also personally will never buy another piece of luggage that is not a “spinner,” i.e. has
four wheels instead of the customary two, so it can be pushed and glided instead of just
pulled. If you are a person of limited upper body strength, you will find the ease of
traveling with spinner luggage very enjoyable.
Your suitcase should also be functional in the way it can be
packed and how it rolls. I purchased this Kathy Van Zeeland hot
pink [faux] snakeskin bag with quality of material in mind. I
knew it would not get slashed by sharp edges in the cargo area
and dirt/grease could be washed off. It wasn’t cheap, but I loved
the look. It was a little awkward packing it with the soft sides,
but the real problem was the side handle. Once tipped up to
wheel, everything inside slide down because the sides didn’t hold it in place; and because
the top was soft I could not rest or attach a carryon bag on top as a walked. Now the only
time I use that bag is on a weekend road tip.
Top Pick. After years of trial and error, I finally found a brand that checks off every
single one of my requirements: looks, quality, function, light.
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Polycarbonate luggage is durable but
surprisingly light weight, holds your
clothes in place without wrinkling,
can come expandable, has four
“spinner-type” wheels which make it
super-easy to pull or push, and it’s by
far the most attractive luggage I’ve
ever owned.
Like everything else, brands of these types of luggage have a wide variety in quality. My
recommendation is to go with the Heys brand. I’ve had my yellow and pink floral Heys
polycarbonate suitcase for five years – longer than any other suitcase in my entire life.
It’s been all over the world with me and is still functioning, still attractive, and easy to
clean the scuffs with one of those magic sponges. Unlike other luggage I’ve had – soft
side as well as other polycarbonate – the wheels are intact, the lining is not ripped and the
zipper still works. I found this beauty at a discounted price at T. J. Maxx, so it doesn’t
owe me a dime.
Bam!
And as you can see, I have no problem identifying it on the carrousel!
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Long Layovers
Don’t let untimely delays derail your trip.
As a frequent solo traveler, few things annoy me more than the tight – sometimes 35
minutes or less – layovers that some airlines are booking. More times than not, these
short lag-times result in missed flights or lost luggage. And on the other side of the coin
is the add-on time that occurs due to mechanical issues or other delays.
In an effort to travel as stress-free and positive as possible, I now regard longer layovers
not only as a better guarantee that I will reach my destination safely or on time with
luggage in hand, but as an opportunity to take a step out of my over-busy-highly-frenzied
world and smell the coffee.
If you find yourself at an airport with unexpected or unwanted time on your hands,
instead of pacing around angry at something that is out of your control, here are ten ways
to take advantage and fill the void when faced with an unavoidable delay.
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Read a book. I love to read, but seldom find the time for pure pleasure reading
during normal work days. I always make sure to pick up that perfect escape
fiction that I’ve been wanted to read for months and pack it in my carryon. And
for those times that I forgot, I’ve been able to find an interesting paperback in the
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airport newsstand. You might also find a more comfortable or secluded place to
read. My favorite reading place is settled in one of the comfy white rocking
chairs that are sprinkled around the airport in Charlotte, North Carolina.
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Strike up a conversation. After I arrive at my gate, I sometimes look for another
solo traveler who looks a little bored, or a small group of women on a girlfriend
getaway. I’ve met lots of interesting people this way, and once they find out I’m
a travel writer, they usually want to continue to follow my tales through social
media, so I’ve actually multi-tasked.
3.
Get a massage. Some airports are now incorporating high-end massage and spa
centers. I’m not talking about those face-forward contraptions under the glaring
lights in the pedestrian pathway, but actual spas offering dim lighting, soothing
heat compresses, reclining chairs, hot tea, and a menu of messages and treatments
to choose from. The Dragontree in the Portland, Oregon airport is one I highly
recommend. After a very nice neck and upper back message (ask for Steven),
they let me rest my weary body in one of their cozy reclining leather chairs for an
hour at no extra charge.
4.
Get a club day pass. If you are not a VIP club member of any airlines, you can
still get a one-day pass from some airlines, like Delta, which will allow you to use
their lounge where you can relax, have a snack, have a drink, take a shower, etc.
5.
Go shopping. The variety of shops that are now in airports can be a feast for your
eyes. If you find the prices a little steep, then just window shop. If you are savvy
though, you just might spot that unique item that cannot be found in your
hometown or destination, and the mark-up is still less than what it would cost to
have it shipped online.
6.
Get a decent meal. Good grief, I refuse to eat another airline peanut! In fact, I
don’t even like taking a sandwich on board if I can avoid it – it’s just too crowded
and inconvenient. Apparently I have a lot of company because more and more
airports are adding decent restaurants to their array of fast food joints.
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7.
Take a walk. Being up in the air dehydrates you so it’s important to drink liquids
and walk around after deplaning while waiting for your connection. Airports are
generally pretty expansive, making it easy and interesting to stroll about.
8.
Fire up your laptop. Many airports have free or low-cost WiFi, so if you’re
getting anxious that you are missing something important, that work is piling up,
or just don’t want to answer hundreds of emails when you get to your destination,
hooking up and catching up can provide peace of mind.
9.
Go sightseeing. If the layover is long enough, leave the airport for a couple of
hours and see what the city has to offer. Most airports will have busses or public
transportation to major tourist attractions. Make sure you do your research ahead
of time and don’t get so distracted that you fail to get back in time for your
connecting flight!
10.
People watch. Do I really need to explain? People are fascinating in one way or
another, no matter where they are from.
Instead of fretting over a painfully boring waste of time, make the time count. Take
advantage, take a deep breath, and take a break.
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50 is the New 30
The travel industry is just waking up to the economic power of women. The average
adventure traveler is not a 28-year old male, but a 47-year-old female. And an increasing
portion of solo female travelers are Baby Boomers.3
Women make 75% of the travel decisions for their households,4 and the 45 – 65 age
group love adventure destinations, great beaches, luxury and spa resorts and cruises.
They enjoy trying unique local dishes and exploring cultural sites.
It’s not just about age. Boomer women are affluent, educated, and savvy; they have the
discretionary income, freedom, and desire to travel. They just need someone to point
them in the right direction.
Many baby boomer polls rank travel as their #1 leisure activity.5 They all have a “bucket
list.” There are backpackers and luxury spa goers, road-trippers, adventure-seekers, those
on a spiritual journey and other are interested in ecotourism, but most are looking to find
a good value in a comfortable location with access to a lot of activities in their genre.
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Mary Beth Bond (National Geographic author) http://gutsytraveler.com/women-travel-statistics-2/
Advertising Age http://adage.com/article/news/female-consumers-dominate-travel-business-purchasing/47154/
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Forbes http://www.forbes.com/sites/nextavenue/2013/08/01/the-hottest-trends-in-boomer-travel/
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Over 80% of those working women who purchased travel products or services offline in
the past month researched their purchases online beforehand. Sources: Nielsen Net
Ratings/WashingtonPost.com and Newsweek.com6
Don’t ever make the mistake of calling baby boomers “old.” These mature nomads tend
to see themselves as forever young… much younger than their chronological age. With
their children grown and (most) out of the house, fun is the name of the game. And while
fun can and does mean different things to different people, it’s the freedom with getting
to choose that provides so much enjoyment.
For boomers, the adventure is just beginning.
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Mary Beth Bond (National Geographic author) http://gutsytraveler.com/women-travel-statistics-2/
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My breasts? Lethal weapons?
March 2012
Apparently the TSA thinks so.
I was on my way from New Hampshire to Oregon. I wasn’t in a particularly good mood
to begin with, having had to extract myself from my nice, warm, thick microfiber sheets
at 3:30 a.m. in order to catch a 6 a.m. flight. I was singularly focused on getting my
hands on a cup of steaming black coffee.
Manchester Regional is a small airport. Due to the early hour, I arrived leaving myself
just enough time to get through security, get to my gate, and a few minutes to spare to
“line up under my number.” I’m a seasoned traveler; I know how to get through security
fast. My black ballet flats slip on and off in seconds, and I can whip my laptop out as fast
as any spaghetti western gun-slinger.
I even know what to wear; my black leggings and black ribbed turtleneck – what I
wistfully dub my “Catwoman outfit” – hide nothing and get me through in a breeze.
Liquid-free, I get in line for my invasive Fourth Amendment violation full body scan,
which only serves to worsen my disposition. As luck would have it, the older woman in
front of me is a novice. She has things in her pockets, she is holding her ticket, she
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stumbles into the machine facing the wrong direction. Back she goes, once, twice. The
third time I do an eye roll so far into my head I can see the person in back of me.
Oh goody, my turn. I’m confident in my Catwoman attire, so lickety-split, I step into the
scanning booth, spread my legs and make Minnie Mouse ears with my hands before the
TSA agent can utter a single instruction. He raises one eyebrow, smirks, and flips the
switch. “Wait for the picture,” he says, and then “Oh, you have to step here for a
screening.” Now a female TSA agent steps up and directs my eyes to the screen. “The
scanner shows something. I’m going to have to pat down your breast area.” “Are you
kidding?” I say, livid that viewing my naked body on the scanner was not enough. “I
can’t imagine what that could possibly be!” She gives me an apologetic look. “It’s
probably just your underwire bra, ma’am.”
I mentally considered my three choices: (1) make a scene and get arrested, just on
principle, (2) ask for a private feel-up, or (3) submit and make it onto my plane to
Oregon. Since my purpose in Oregon was to testify at an important Senate hearing early
the next morning, and knowing that there aren’t an abundance of flights from New
Hampshire to Oregon, I made the only choice possible. But I made sure I gave her my
surliest, squinty-eyed, disgusted look – the one I save for my kids when they are
misbehaving in church.
The enhanced pat-down wasn’t terribly invasive, but still infuriating. No right-minded
person would ever mistake an (a-hem) over-40 woman sporting a long blond ponytail for
a terrorist. And no terrorist would ever waste his time or effort on a flight between New
Hampshire and Oregon. No statement to be made there.
I acknowledge that this might be TMI (too much information), but I like nice bras. It’s
probably my mother’s fault – you know, the “what if you are in a car accident” scenario.
I don’t do the “uniboob” sports bra thing, nope, not even at the gym. I’ve been wearing
underwire bras for decades, and with no harm to the public. So why haven’t I set off this
alarm before? Well, apparently some underwire bras are partially made with a type of
hard plastic, not to mention that TSA employees at different airports will handle these
alerts in different ways – you may get a wave-through, or you may get a harder-liner.
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I know, inquiring minds want to know… what did I do on my flight back? I went
without. Not a good look for me, though, all things considered.
Next week I’m flying to DC. Our Capital. Now what’s that going to be like? This is
madness!
Maybe I should contact the ACLU…
Or maybe I should just take my bra off, under my shirt, and put it on the conveyor belt
next to my shoes…
There’s no law against that. Not yet, anyway.
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Some days are like that, even in…..the Midwest
November 2013
Tell me…. do I look dangerous to you? Apparently the TSA still thinks so.
Rapid City Regional Airport. Just another nondescript launching pad in the life of a
travel writer. Or so I thought.
But it turned out to be a no-good, very bad, terrible day.
As I’m going through security in the small but deserted airport, the TSA agent stops me
and declares that I’m a “random person” and declares he has to swab my hands. Okay,
no problem. I know I haven’t shot a gun or built a bomb recently.
I hear the TSA agent sigh and mutter under his breath.
“Your hands tested for residue. We have to do a complete security pat-down.”
“Seriously?!?” I say, and give him my meanest face, that same one I reserve for my kids
when they misbehave in church. “I’m a middle-aged-blonde-ponytailed mother of two
with cute luggage. You think I’m dangerous?”
He gestured to the very young female agent just off to the side.
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“The only residue on my hands is the soap from your ladies’ room that I left just 60
seconds ago.” I say.
“Sometimes that sets it off,” he replies.
“Do you think it might be worth considering using a soap brand that doesn’t set off your
machine?” I ask.
No reaction.
“I’m in the Global Entry Program!” I scold the younger female agent. “It’s easier to get
back into this country than to move freely around it!”
She shrank an inch, I think. She clearly wasn’t enjoying the exchange.
“Well, it’s going to be in private!” I huff.
“Yes, we always do it in a private room,” she says in a soft voice.
Into the small, windowless room we go, with another, older female TSA agent. The
young one pats me down (thankfully not very aggressively because I am ready to launch
into my violate-my-Fourth-Amendment-rights tirade) while the older searches and dabs
inside my carryon. The older one is a pro; she immediately engages me in conversation,
and we get to talking amiably about my job as a travel writer and how interesting she
thinks that is. Make no mistake, I know she was distracting me, and I let her. I mean,
who wants to stay angry? And, she’s just following the law, written by so-called
politicians. So I was over it by the time they released me, a minute or so later.
Israel has the safest airport in the world. Why? Because they PROFILE suspicious
people, take them aside, and question them. Yes, I said “profile.” Get over it. And stop
harassing people who are clearly NOT a threat. I mean, who’s the last blonde female that
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caused a transitory problem in the Midwest? I believe it was Bonnie [Clyde] Parker
a.k.a. Calamity Jane.
Still, if that’s the worst that happens to me today, I’m still better off than most people,
right?
BUT WAIT…
I walk a hundred feet or so to my gate and sit down. The Frontier Airline agent on the
intercom tells everyone they have to make sure their carryon passes the “size test.” My
carryon is actually a rolling briefcase, and it always fits overhead or under the seat, so
I’m not worried, and don’t bother to size it. But she’s on the intercom again, and insists
that you will not board the plane unless you’ve passed the check. No problem, just a
formality.
I bring my carryon up to get the acceptance.
“I need to see your ticket,” the ticket agent informs me. I give it to her. “You are not
authorized to have a carryon for this flight,” she declares.
What???
“You purchased it through a third party and you’ll have to pay $50 for a normal (vs.
personal) size carryon or check it.” This was after already dishing out $25 for my
“normal” suitcase.
“I’m not checking this carryon!” I say, voice starting to rise. “I have a laptop and two
expensive cameras in here!”
She leads me over to the sizing buckets to see if we can squeeze it into the “personal”
space. Nope.
“I’m not checking it!” I say again, just to make sure they understand me.
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People are starting to stare.
How small IS this airplane I thought to myself. I’ve taken this carryon on some pretty
small aircraft, and it has never been a problem.
Another ticketing agent takes me aside and says, “I bet if you try to repack it, you could
get it to fit.” So I shift things around, so that everything fits in – the fact that stuff was
sticking out the top, way over the limit doesn’t seem to bother her. “Yes! Perfect!” she
declares.
When I boarded the plane, I am flabbergasted – the plane is huge! My bag slides easily
in the overhead, and would have fit under the seat if necessary. Those idiots just wanted
to take another $50 out of my hide! Ha! Not this time!
#hissyfitworks #yousuckfrontier
After takeoff, I take out my laptop and start to write about this day. You know, it being
cathartic and all that. I write two sentences and then start listening to the conversation of
the two ladies seated next to me. It’s not that I am eavesdropping or anything, it’s just
that they seemed to be having similar “travel problems” too.
Soon, the three of us are laughing up a storm and swapping stories like old friends.
LaVonne and Jane are cousins who grew up together and have been meeting for a girls’
getaway in Branson, Missouri (our destination) for the last nine years.
We are interrupted by the flight attendant who asks us if we want something to drink.
Except the only free drink is… water! The three of us burst out laughing much to his
dismay! Seriously, Frontier, you have a problem! Not even coffee or Coke?
LaVonne and Jane gave me lots of tips on things to do, and before I knew it, we were
landing, and the frustrations of the day forgotten.
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All’s well that ends well.
BUT WAIT…
Three days later, I’m leaving Branson, Missouri airport. I am the ONLY person going
through security in an almost empty airport. Yup, you guessed it.
“You’re rayndom, young lady,” drawls the TSA agent. “I need to swaaaab your
paaalms.”
Seriously, folks, I couldn’t make this up.
“This just happened a couple of days ago,” I protest.
“Wayllll, that’s a-why they cawl it ‘rayndom,’” is his only comment.
How many days can be like this? Don’t answer that.
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Final Thoughts
I hope these tips convinced you to try a solo trip, or enhance your experience on your
next solo journey. Remember:
I dare you to try traveling solo. Let me know if you become obsessed with it (like me!)
If you love to travel and want more tips on where to go, what to do, see, and eat, then the
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“Just do it.”
~Nike
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About the Author
Patti Morrow was born with insatiable wanderlust, eventually
following her passion into a successful career as a freelance travel
writer, blogger and photographer. A self-proclaimed “adrenaline
junkie,” she specializes in baby boomer women’s adventure travel
and has traveled throughout most of the United States and more
than fifty countries and islands abroad. Her travel stories have been
published in over thirty print and online publications.
Patti’s bylines have appeared in: International Living Magazine, Ladies’ Home Journal,
Epicure & Culture, GoNomad, Travelers Press, Travel Girl Magazine, Mexconnect,
Divine Caroline, US Bucket List, Travel Dreams, National Geographic (photo), Trekity,
Wave Journey, The Momiverse, Girls Getaways, CNN iReport, Yahoo Voices, The Right
Way to Travel, Travel Post Monthly, Matador, The Barefoot Writer, Yucatan Today,
Women’s Toolbox, and others.
She is also a guest speaker for the annual Great Escape/AWAI travel writer conferences.
Memberships:
ITWA (International Travel Writers Alliance)
ITWPA (International Travel Writers Professional Assoc.)
AWAI (American Writers and Artists, Inc.)
Intrepid Travel
Media Kitty
TravelWriters.com
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