The Guide to Mindful Dating

The Guide to Mindful Dating
Copyright © 2015 MeetMindful, Inc.
Hello Wondrous Friend,
Ahhh… being single. You’ve probably had your heart crushed a few times, yes? I hear you. Me too. It can
be challenging to open your heart again, huh? Well, I think your vulnerability makes you sexy. I think your
‘battle wounds’ make you alluringly seductive to that special someone who truly appreciates you for you.
Even though life has been unfair… look at you! You’re willing to expand beyond that and open to the
possibility of finding, sharing and nurturing true, deep, honoring love. Brilliant.
Even though you’ve experienced unkindness… look at you! You’re willing to say yes to the possibility of
being seen, heard, gotten and celebrated for exactly who you are. Stunning.
Even though you can’t control the outcome… look at you! You are willing to open wide to the possibility of
a deeper, richer, more connected relationship. Glorious.
You inspire me! You are badass. The work to heal, grow and evolve from past relationships may be simple,
yet it’s not easy. And we never really ‘get there’… it’s a continual practice of allowance, presence, sitting in
the fire, dancing in the rain, moment by moment, through every phase of relationship.
I’m moved you’ve stopped judging yourself for avoiding love by staying busy, hiding, excusing, blaming,
settling or giving up on love completely (or maybe that wasn’t you, just someone you know… xoxo).
I’m high-5’ing you; you’ve chosen to move forward, show up, throw your hat over the fence one more time
by joining MeetMindful; soon you’ll meet people who desire a fulfilling, authentic, hot, healthy relationship–
just like you.
Now that you’ve joined, you’ll also have access to amazing practices, insights and tools from empowering
relationship experts who will support you in being the most delicious version of you–so you can meet your
perfect mate with even more ease.
When you give, you receive… when you receive, you give. It’s a luscious figure eight of simultaneous
communion with ourselves and the Divine, making every interaction succulent. So close your eyes,
Wonderful Friend…
Step fully and joyfully into your vibrant vision for LOVE.
Exhale, smile and allow yourself to HAVE a sizzling nourishing relationship.
Show up, do the work, and let it be EASY peezy lemon squeezy.
As you begin to meet people, let any control strategies DISSOLVE.
Be real, PRESENT, connect and consciously communicate.
Remember they may be as nervous as you, be KIND.
Be SPACIOUS enough to let it unfold unlike anything you’ve ever imagined.
Celebrate the PROCESS, there’s no failure, only fabulous feedback.
And of course have way too much FUN!
Bottom line: I believe that if you have a calling to show up for love then someone is calling you. You are the
answer to their prayers, the manifestation of their vision. You are already alive in their imagination… right
now, you are resting in their heart. Let that knowing sink deep into your being.
You can do this. In fact, it’s already done. You’re enough. In fact, you’re breathtaking. So slap that cute ass
of yours, smile that great smile, and enjoy the ride. That special someone will be so grateful you did.
Huge blessings, deliciously, Allana
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Section I: Am I ready for this journey?
Fierce love starts as an inside job. Whether you’re new to the dating game or coming back with
renewed intentions, some key pieces need to be in place long before you meet your one and
only. Because we can only show up for love once we’ve shown up for ourselves, and we can only
attract perfect-for-us once we’ve gotten clear on what we need.
Striving for Our Most Authentic Self
Authenticity is a funny thing. It’s this wonderful “a-ha!” moment we celebrate—and we should celebrate it.
We are embracing our real selves and the power that putting our real selves out there carries.
When we compare ourselves to others, we lose power. All the work we’ve done becomes secondary to our
inner voice. Tell the inner voice to go on a permanent vacation, and look in the mirror and smile. If that’s
not enough, hug yourself. If that’s not enough, take out a pen and paper; physically make a list of things
you like about the real-deal you, and hang it by your mirror, your computer, your refrigerator. Remember
that authenticity, like mindfulness or yoga, is a practice. Sometimes we do better than other times, and
that’s just fine. Being imperfect is also what makes us human; let’s celebrate that too!
Once the Real You steps forward, how do you keep the light on?
1. Community. Surround yourself with people who appreciate and support your authenticity. If you
find some of your relationships no longer serve you, let them go. Your cheering squad needs to be
strong and faithful!
2. Take time for self-care. Once you’ve found the authentic version of yourself, take care of it
physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. When we’re neglecting ourselves, it’s difficult to let
our own light shine. Relax. Rest. Repeat.
3. Celebrate individuality. Stop with the comparisons and embrace the differences. Even if someone
looks like you, does similar work or has a similar hobby, that person is not you. Whatever you do
with your personal, professional, creative and recreational time is yours to design. Let go of others
and their ways, and use your own voice to guide you.
—Amy Angelilli, “Organic Life: How to Cultivate Your Authentic Self”
You Are How You Eat
Cooking for yourself and practicing conscious eating are perhaps the most primal and important acts of
self love. We build a deep sense of trust in ourselves and the world (and relieve stress) when we take time to
nurture ourselves in this way.
Start by making a few meals each week. Eat each meal at a table, sitting, and savor each bite. Preparing
food and cooking for yourself will increase feelings of self-worth, security, grounding and be a ritual to
receive the love you give yourself—the most important love in the world.
—Ashley Turner, “The (Simple, Easy, Delicious) Secret of Self Love”
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Meditation: The Ultimate Act of Self Preservation
Forget the excuses. Here are five easy ways to start—and keep—a meditation practice:
1. Be kind to yourself. Stop beating yourself up for not being able to. Be gentle, the way you would be
with a beloved friend. You’re amazing just for reading this.
2. Commit to Sit. You go to the gym? Work late hours? You likely know how to commit to something;
so, with love in your heart for your fabulous, brave self, commit to the sit.
3. Make a Space. You’ll want to be close to the ground—on a cushion or pillow (a chair is fine too).
Where you sit becomes part of the habit, so make a small sacred space. No big deal.
4. Just Breathe. You’ve been doing this since the day you were born. Now be aware of it. You don’t
need a fancy mantra or spiritual secrets. Just breathe.
5. Start Small. Even though five minutes can seem like a long freaking time if your mind is babbling
on, you can do this. When a thought comes into your mind, come back to your breathing. Practice
that for five minutes, then maybe ten.
—MeetMindful, “5 Easy Ways to Start (& Keep) a Meditation Practice”
Love Yourself, Fearlessly
Ponder this: What would it be like if you fully, completely, fearlessly loved yourself?
What reactions were elicited by that question? Your reactions are likely indicative of the
messages you received about loving yourself.
Origins of Loving Yourself
It’s vital to understand that fear is learned. To reveal what lies beneath, you’ll need to
explore the source of your thoughts, messages, and values around loving yourself.
What messages did you receive during childhood about love, value, and respect for
yourself?
Were these messages supportive and encouraging of loving yourself?
Did you receive deterring or critical messages? Did you receive a mixture of
messages?
Were there particular people who influenced or helped shape your love for yourself?
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Make a Self-Love Plan
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Start with one area of your life—ask your gut for guidance—and inquire within:
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“If I loved myself fearlessly, how would this area change? How would I feel if this changed?”
“How might other areas in my life change if I loved myself fearlessly?”
This may mean giving yourself a break when you forget that one thing you meant to do before leaving
work. It can mean setting boundaries with a friend, not drinking that last glass of wine, or expressing how
you’d rather not go on a sushi date because you Don’t. Freaking. Like. Sushi.
—Dr. Kristen Hick, “Dr. Hick’s Guide to Fearless Living in 2015: Loving Yourself”
Separate Your Performance from Your Self-Esteem
Everyone has failed, including Bill Gates. While this is a difficult concept, you really are not defined by your
failures; you are defined by your successes, no matter how small. Place your thought on those successes,
and watch your self-image grow!
When you become a strong independent person, you will attract others who see that as valuable. And
therein will lie the right relationship!
—Julie Ellis, “5 Ways to Boost Your Self Esteem & Better Your Relationship”
Manifesting Love: Your Thoughts Control Your Outcomes
The process of magnetizing your soulmate can become discouraging at times; but if you approach it from
the mindset of “it’s been a year and it still hasn’t happened,” you’re dwelling on what’s missing. The Universe
simply can’t add more love to your life when you’re focused on the love you don’t have. The very act of
“searching” evokes a feeling of desperation that blocks the natural flow of love.
If you shift your focus to magnetizing your soulmate rather than “looking” for him or her; and if you can
adjust your emotional state from impatience to savoring the waiting, love will blossom in its own time, in
colors and fragrances that will surprise and delight you.
Those who successfully manifest love have surrendered to the fact that it’s not our job to know where or
how our soulmate will appear. Our job is to simply prepare ourselves in body, mind and soul, then relax
into the knowledge that the one we’ve asked for—wherever he or she may be at this moment—is on the
way. Your soulmate is on the way to you from wherever he or she is right now. The details are not yours to
coordinate.
—Arielle Ford, “Beginner’s Mind: The Secret to Manifesting Your Soulmate”
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Getting Clear on What You Want
How to Create Your Soulmate List
1. Make it a ritual. Don’t rush the process. Take your time and make it special. Buy some beautiful paper
and get a fancy pen. Light a candle and put on your favorite music. When you’ve set the mood, think and
feel who your soulmate is, the qualities the person brings.
2. Start with your past. Think about past relationships. Brainstorm the qualities you were attracted to in
previous partners.
• What did you love about the person?
• What commonalities do you notice among the people you’ve dated?
• What attracted you physically, mentally, and emotionally?
Try not to focus on the negatives. Even though the relationship ended, there were reasons you were
together. Learn from these reasons as you move forward.
3. Visualize your future. What’s the lifestyle you want to manifest? Picture it and note the feelings that arise.
Be specific.
• Do you want children? How many?
• How will you spend your weekends—outdoors, art galleries, working around the house?
• What are your deal breakers?
Dream up your ideal partner without any limits.
4. Picture your soulmate. Imagine waking up next to your ideal partner. How does this person look and
act? What else do you notice?
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How do you want to feel while spending time with your soulmate?
How will the two of you handle conflict?
How will this person support you through the inevitable challenges life brings?
What are this person’s values?
5. Choose the most important. Now you have a mental picture of your soulmate and a big list of his or
her specific qualities, values, and interests. It’s time to condense your list to the 10 or so that you feel the
most strongly about. When you’re finished, you have your very own Soulmate List.
But you’re not done yet.
6. Bring it to life. Make your list a living document. Keep it in a special folder in your desk or on a page in
your journal. Review it periodically and change it as you learn more about yourself.
—MeetMindful, “How to Find Love: 6 Steps to Create Your Soulmate List”
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Section II: How do I get started?
Once you’ve done the personal work, you can begin the process of building an online presence
that will represent your truest self. With a little care and intention, your online profile will speak
volumes for the person you are, opening the door for deeper, authentic connections.
Creating the Perfect Profile:
Don’t write what you don’t want.
If I posted: I do not want to meet someone who consumes too much alcohol and stays out drinking every
night. How does it sound? Like I’m bitter and a little jaded…or a lot. Yes?
Do say what you do want. Here’s an example: I’m looking for a man who lives a healthy lifestyle and takes
care of his well being. I love to sit by the fire on some evenings with a nice glass of wine for a romantic
night in. This communicates what I want rather than the negative aspect.
Don’t write a profile that is boring and short.
If you’re not able to write about yourself in a profile, it can show low confidence or portrays that you’re a
boring person. Remember: there’s a difference between arrogance and confidence.
Do grow out your profile and share the why. Like hiking? Why? The fresh air? The exercise? The chance to
reconnect with nature? Go deeper!
—Suzanne Muller-Heinz, “Online Dating: the Messages You’re Actually Sending Out”
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3 Pictures to Include in Your Profile
1. Headshot
The headshot is the most important picture on your profile. This is the first impression, so the picture needs
to be clear, focused and of high quality. People are more likely to be attracted to someone smiling in a
picture than not, so if you can add that element, you’ll increase your chances at the person looking further.
This is the “lure them in” photo. So, say cheese!
2. Candid
A candid photo reveals that you interact with other people who like you enough to take your photo. It also
shows you in a “real” moment, instead of something set up for online dating.
3. Full Body
There is nothing worse than meeting someone off of the internet who looks nothing like their profile
pictures. Being scientific about angles to hide a part of who you are is actually a form of deception—it
reveals you lack confidence in your most authentic self. The full-body picture is vital to a successful match.
—Krystal Baugher, “Dating Profile Pictures: 7 Must-Haves & Their Order of Appearance”
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Profile Picture Best Practices
Always consider the background. There’s nothing like seeing a ¾ of a perfect stranger with a disheveled
half-made bed in a messy bedroom in the background with mini blinds that look like cats play on them to
scare away prospects.
Seriously.
Photos should be current—not a digital biopic of how cute you were 15 years ago.
It’s a singles courtesy to post photos that are not more than five years old. Save the adolescent you-atyour-hottest photos for after you know each other; because it’s just not cool to dupe anyone into meeting
up with you.
Don’t let grainy photos bring you down.
If you happen to be one of those people that are unbound to contemporary devices and the internet, it’s
worth a trip to the library to upload quality, cropped photos that represent you well.
More often than not grainy signifies you won’t put in the effort. It screams “fixer-upper”—is that really the
message you want a love interest to think of when they come across your photos?
—Kahshanna Evans, “How to Spring Clean Your Online Profile”
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What to Look for in Someone Else’s Profile
1. What kind of relationship—if any at all—is the person seeking?
So you’ve done the work of identifying your desired relationship, your soulmate list; whatever that looks
like, it’s wonderful. Now the work lies in finding the person who wants what you want. If the person’s profile
doesn’t indicate the desired relationship, chances are it has yet to be identified. Put your energies into
someone who clearly states what they want—as long as it’s what you want, too.
2. What goal oriented statements jump out at you?
If someone is clear about their future goals, pay attention! Look for any clues regarding moving, working,
playing, having kids or any other life goals, even the smaller ones. Maybe you want to live in a small seaside
community and this person wants to move to a big city... is this a compatible situation that’s worth the
deep dig? Probably not.
3. What valuable added insights have been revealed?
Sometimes we get lazy with profiles and assume that people know what we mean. For example, if
someone is an animal person, does that mean they have a dog? Or they’re vegan and advocate for animal
rights? If a person likes to travel, does it mean packaged tours and cruises? Or an independent experience
focused on ecotourism? Look for explanations behind the likes and interests; and never assume anything if
it’s open to interpretation.
—Amy Angelilli, “Beyond the Photo: 3 Make or Break Pieces to a Dating Profile”
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The First Message Formula
Follow the Three Sentence Rule
Three sentences are all you need to write in a first message. This establishes your interest and initiates
conversation. The format is simple:
1. Greet
2. Compliment on a general interest (not physical appearance)
3. Ask a question
For example:
Hey there, Stranger. Love the picture of you reading lakeside with the pooch. Is that The Power of Now
you’re holding? I heard him speak when I was traveling in London a few years ago; such a game-changer
for me.
Hope you have a great weekend.
Though the message is short, it creates a commonality and allows for a dialogue to easily start. Of course,
finding your own tone and voice will definitely help too.
—Krystal Baugher, “The Fool-Proof First Message Formula for Online Dating Success”
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Should You Meet Them? Reading Your Date & Trusting Your Gut
Make sure you have a full-length phone conversation before you meet for a date.
This does not mean a full text conversation. Take the time to see if you have a connection worth pursuing
in person. Trust your intuition. Ask questions, really listen and notice how you feel in the conversation. Our
bodies often tell us about a person before our brains catch up.
—Brooke Lewis, “10 Juicy Nuggets of Online Dating Advice”
Listen to Yourself
The real meat of reading someone is paying attention to the subtle thoughts and behaviors that you have
while in their presence. Truth transcends time and space and the information will always be there as you
train your awareness. Nothing says you have to overcome discomfort or just go out with someone to be
nice. It’s important to be open-hearted but not compromise on the elements that you value the most.
Pay attention to:
Your Initial Feelings
Paying attention to the subtle images and feelings that you have with someone will give you a lot of
information. The truth will never offend you. If someone says or does something that offends you, it
may not be about their character, but more an indicator that you don’t have the same values or the best
compatibility based on place in life, age or circumstance.
Your Body
Charming people can be captivating and enchanting, so pay attention to where in your body you have
feelings. The lower gut is an emotional connection and may let you know that you have similar emotional
traumas. The stomach area is your personal power center and based on good or bad feelings can show
that you are supported, empowered or in danger. The heart area is where we experience a compassionate
connection and similar ideals. Feeling energy in your throat or head relates to thoughts, ideas and
communication. For example, if your throat feels like it’s closing up, you or your date may have fear or
doubt in communication.
—Tracee Dunblazier, “How to Read Your Date in One Hour”
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Section III: I’ve landed the date. Now what?
Dating can be an incredible opportunity to connect with another person and learn about yourself
in the process. But dates–especially first dates–can be stressful if their purpose isn’t put into
perspective. That’s why we’ve taken the guesswork out of where your attention needs to go first.
Breathe. Smile. And always (always!) be yourself.
Where to?
If you want to go green:
Keep it Local
Sure, you’ll more than likely go out in the city you live in, but I’m talking about where you go. Instead of a
corporate chain try the home-town hipster-owned joint instead.
Give Back
Or even better, do something for the area like volunteering at a community garden or animal shelter—fun,
maybe even cute, and totally helpful.
Get Your Bike On
Wherever the two of you decide to go, get there the environmentally-friendly way by biking or walking. Not
only is it way more romantic, it reduces your carbon footprint immensely.
—Krystal Baugher, “A Reduced Carbon Footprint Date for Two”
If you’re after something outside-the-box:
Geocache Surprise
Imagine a treasure hunting app on your phone that would take you to real life treasure, that’s Geocaching!
The treasure is normally just some quirky doodads, but the adventure of finding it is awesome.
Start by downloading the Geocaching mobile app. Open the app and check nearby for any Geocaches,
they are all over the world so there’s certain to be some near you.
Each one will have a description, some photos, level of difficulty and (most importantly) a GPS location so
your phone can guide you to where it is (like a tech-compass). Pick one that calls to you and save it for
when the date starts.
—Elliott Bailey, “3 Summer Date Ideas That Won’t Cost You a Dime”
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First Date Best Practices
Be on time.
There’s nothing sexy about someone who’s late. If you have to be late, fire a quick text—not while driving—
that you’re delayed. This gets things off on the right foot.
Be vulnerable.
You don’t want to drop a ton of heavy things, but sharing from your heart creates connection. Otherwise,
the conversation remains superficial and you may miss that possible spark.
—Suzanne Muller-Heinz, “A Crash Course in First Date Etiquette”
Conversation: It’s Easier Than You Think
…when meeting new people, don’t just barrage them with questions—don’t simply establish what they do
or what they love.
Relate to them; take the information you get in the first questions and use it as an opportunity to reveal
something about yourself.
Don’t worry if what you have to say doesn’t totally agree with their statement—you can even have opposite
feelings. As long as you are revealing your values in a non-judgmental way, you’ll have lots to talk about
and no one will be offended. They will probably even respect you for the courage it took to show how you
are different.
—Ben Altman, “How to Master the Art of Conversation”
For the Dates That Fall Flat…
Don’t Judge
Everybody has things that trigger their emotions; chances are, the first meeting can bring out a few
of them.
You may want to reserve judgement until the second or third date before you count them out—nerves can
easily make you talk too little or talk non-stop. And if you fit in either of these categories, remember to
breathe and feel free to say you’re nervous. Sometimes just saying it out loud can put you at ease.
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First Date Red Flags to Look Out For
They don’t ask you any questions.
People that are into you, ask about you. People that are into themselves, don’t. Notice how the flow of
conversation goes. Are you asking most of the questions?
You catch them in a lie.
If he says on his profile that he’s 6’2” and he’s really 5’8”, that’s a red flag. He’s already demonstrating that
he’s willing to bend the truth. She says she’s a doctor, but she’s still studying for her MCAT exam. It could be
a one-time thing, but it’s something to keep in mind while looking at the other (hopefully) positive factors.
They are always on their phone.
Look up rudeness in the dictionary and you’ll see a photo of a guy hooked on his phone while a beautiful
woman is talking to him. If this happens, make one kind request like “I’d love to spend tonight really getting
to know you without any distractions. Do you mind if we both turn our phones off?” Then sit back and see
how they respond.
They are overly negative.
Is everything that comes out of her mouth a complaint? Nothing screams “date from hell” more than a
conversation that is all about what’s wrong with his life, his ex, his job, his body, the world. And if that
describes you... stop it.
—Jeffrey Platts, “When to Say “No Way” to the Next Date: 9 Dating Red Flags”
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Section IV: What do I do after the date?
Whether the date was a dream or an absolute disaster, we’ve got the lowdown on your
best next steps..
How Soon to Reach Out Post-Date
The perfect time to text is when you feel like texting. Trust your instincts.
I often hear people describe dating as exhausting and stressful. And this is before they actually go on the
date. This can often be the case because people feel as if they need to be on their best behavior.
Your date wants to get to know you, not the version of you that just graduated from charm school. Trying
to anticipate the right thing to do is exhausting and impossible. You will never know what someone else is
thinking. The only feelings you can be certain of are your own.
Instead of trying to guess what your date is thinking or going to think when they receive your text—let your
feelings guide you. Express yourself honestly and in your own time.
—Dominique Howard, “The New Rule Book: How Soon Should I Text After the First Date?”
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Deciding if You’re Compatible for the Long Term
Your relationship and life goals are aligned with each other.
You should be with someone who wants the same things out of a relationship. If one wants something
casual and the other is looking to settle down, you’re setting yourself up for a fall.
Similarly with life goals, if your date is seriously considering major life changing-actions (e.g. moving to
another part of the world or radically changing careers) to something that makes you feel uneasy or doesn’t
fit with the vision you have of your own future, it’s wise to move on.
No deal-breakers emerge.
Deal-breakers are anything that you know in your heart of hearts isn’t going to make you happy in the long
run and will disturb your own way of life or aspirations that you have. However great a relationship is, if
you ignore the deal breakers for the sake of being in a relationship, you are laying the foundation for future
unhappiness.
—Jenah Parmar, “6 Signs You & Sweetums Are a Good Match”
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If It’s Just Not Right: Saying Goodbye with Kindness and Class
Be bold, kind and honest.
Practice the art of sitting in the fire, staying connected in your heart and having tough conversations. This is
probably the BIGGEST skill required in navigating and nourishing long term growing relationships. How do
we do this?
Use the sandwich.
• First (bread) say something you appreciate about all the ways you grew being with your partner.
• Second (filling) tell your partner that in your heart of hearts you know you two are not a long term
match, that it would be selfish to stay and be in the way of them meeting their ideal match.
• Third (bread) you apologize for anything you ever did that caused harm, you tell your partner they’ve
been a contribution, a blessing to your life and that you wish them the best.
—Allana Pratt, “Should We Break Up Now or After the Holiday?”
Embrace the situation with love.
This is the most important step. If you can’t approach this process with love, compassion and kindness
then you won’t have complete closure. Without closure you miss the opportunity to move forward into
something greater. Know this is for the best. Keep in mind that if it’s not right for you, it’s not right for the
other person by default.
Create space to breakup in person.
This may seem unnecessary given all the technology we have access to, but it’s imperative for two people
to show up together. Tough in-person conversations teach us how to stand in our own power with
kindness and confidence. Plus, we learn how to take personal responsibility.
—Amy Baglan, “7 Steps to a Better Breakup”
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How to Know You’re Ready to Start Again
Recognizing when the light is green comes by considering four elements of getting over an ex.
Emotionally, you want to be at a point where you seldom think of your old lover; and when you do it’s in a
positive way, appreciating that person for what you shared and what you’ve learned from your experience
together.
As far as contact with your former partner, you want to neither seek it out nor avoid it.
In the realm of coping with the break-up, you want your feelings to be resolved and you should be living in
a manner that promotes self-care and healthy activity.
Finally, you need to be evaluating potential companions on the basis of what you know you need from a
partner rather than by comparing them to your previous lover and his or her good and bad qualities.
—MeetMindful, “How to Tell if You Have the Green Light to Date Again”
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What to Consider the Next Time Around
Whatever your type, most of us have one and only ever date people that fit that type. But have you ever
considered dating someone who’s not your type?
There are some serious advantages to taking a chance and dating someone different.
You realize what you really want and need in a partner.
Going on dates with people who are not your usual type helps you focus on what you genuinely like and
need in a partner. You may find yourself realizing that even though he/she is not “X-Y-Z”, there are things
about them that appeal to you; be it their manners, their jokes, the way they make you feel cared for and
protected, their carefree spirit or their ambitious drive. Whatever it is, if you give them half a chance, you
might discover attributes you thought you didn’t want in partner are perhaps ones you actually need.
Similarly, dating someone who’s not your type reinforces to you what you really
don’t want.
One of the dangers of dating people you are strongly attracted to is you see and feel what is good, but
brush under the carpet the things that are actually making you unhappy. That’s when you make excuses
for cheating, broken promises, lying, laziness and lack of progression in a relationship. Basically, allowing
yourself to not be treated as well as you should be treated.
When you see these negative traits in a different type of partner, you may start to realize the people you
dated before had these exact same traits, you just ignored the pattern. So being open to dating people who
are not your type, and actually giving them a chance, can really help you get clarity on what you want in a
partner and need in a relationship.
—Jenah Parmar, “The Perks of Dating Someone Who’s NOT Your Type”
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Success Stories + Quotes
What the Mindful Community is Saying About MeetMindful
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“I think this is the most amazing online dating site I’ve come upon so far. I like how more
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wise as this one.”
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finding someone who ‘gets’ what I am looking for in a relationship.”
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signing up just for that. I’ve read a few already and will be referring my friends to check them out
as well. It’s nice to see articles/advice from both men and women’s perspectives on all areas of
relationships and wellness.”
“I have never attempted an online dating service before, but with MeetMindful I am excited to try!!
Thank you so much for the opportunity to bring like-minded and open-hearted people together.”
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“I appreciate that you’re making it easier for people to find their loves, to find the people who
make them able to live as their best selves, because when people have that love, support and
fulfillment, when they can live as their best selves, the world is truly a better place. You’re doing
that. Thank you for doing that.”
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MeetMindful Success Stories
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“I have a good reason to cancel my membership... I met someone entirely awesome on your
site!!! and now I need look no further! …I am happy to say that after three months of in-person
dating I am starting to become part of his family and I’m receiving a lot of healing from observing
his beautiful bond with his son. This opens my heart in ways I cannot explain. I have admiration
and respect for this man that mirrors my attraction and intrigue, they feed each other. I am so
happy to experience this holistic love. I am thrilled to be met in awareness and appreciation by
this man, who expresses his love for me so deeply and openly. Thank you Amy and MeetMindful
for being the bridge.”
—Tina of Boulder, CO
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“Dating, mindful dating, is a process and commitment, yet it can be simple, too. Last summer,
with an open mind and open heart, I began to ask the Universe to introduce me to someone
who was kind, wholehearted and engaged. With the help of MeetMindful, I met Chris and
together we feel so lucky, happy, and at peace with what is. Thinking about the future consists
of our next outing, dinner, cuddle, hike, and vacation destination. We are in each others’ lives
this minute and treasure every second together.”
—Carrie & Chris of Denver, CO
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