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Developing Male Friendly Churches
In our inaugural issue of Missions Rising Magazine, I would
like to discuss how important it is to develop a male
friendly environment at church. Every Sunday, church
pews fill up with despondent women who are forced to
worship without the men in their lives. There is no greater
need in the world we live than to answer two questions
relating to men. The first question simply is: What is a
man? While the second one is: What is a godly man?
Have you asked yourself lately “where are the
BoyZ?” Remember that classis 1991 movie that depicted
the challenges and difficulties of growing up in an urban
context, Boyz in the Hood? One memorable scene takes
place on a porch of an actor named Dough Boy played
by Ice Cube. Dough Boy is talking about women and
where do you fine them. A fellow actor, Redge Green, is
portraying a guy name Chris and Chris declares simply: “I
know where you find a lot of fine women. You fine them
in church.” There are those who mistakenly believe that
the church today exists primarily for women and not
men. Church is a place filled with women. It has amazed
me during the past decade just how many churches are
focused on a female friendly demographic. Granted this
probably was something most churches fell in to, yet it
is no wonder many men hate going to church. Recently, I was visiting a church and as the service began I did
my usual look around the sanctuary to view the participants and the mix immediately surprised me. There that
day there were about sixty in attendance in the primary
worship service of the week but what caught my attention was that only five of them were men and one of
those was the pastor. That began my journey to consider
why are so many church services more geared towards
the women who attend the church than the men who
attend the church? What I began to learn was that there
is a difference in male attendance between the dying,
and growing church. In dying churches only about 30%
of those in attendance are usually male. In a dynamically
growing church about 50% of those who attend are male.
In a plateaued church about 40% of those who attend are
male. There is a growing “men problem” within the local
church.
Your church has a gender
gap. Why should you care?
If you do nothing, your congregation will be dead in 30
years. Research is clear: the
bigger your man shortage,
the more likely your church
is in decline. The denominations with the largest
gender gaps are also those
that are losing the most
members. Look at the
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evidence: mainline churches suffer huge gender gaps,
and they are losing tens of thousands of members each
year. Meanwhile, non-denominational mega churches
are growing fastest – and they are also the most likely to
attract men.
Did you know that men who married between 1970 and
1974 only 46.2 percent were still married after thirty
years?1
Did you know that 33 percent of the seventy-two million
children in America under the age of eighteen go to bed
nightly in a home that does not have a biological father 2
Did you know that children who live in a female-headed
family are five times more likely to live in poverty, repeat
a grade, and have emotional problems compared to families where a father is present?3
In the 1950’s the ratio of males to females in worship was
a lot closer. According to Lyle Schaller they ratio was 47%
males in worship and 53% females in worship. That was
also the basic balance within the national population at
the time. For the local church of the 1950’s that balance
was appropriate. There is a growing gender gap within
the local church today and it is having lasting effects on
why most men hate going to church. One thing I am very
excited about is during the Renovate National Church
Revitalization Conference of 2017 (Nov 7-9) we have the
leading man who speaks to the subject, Dr. David Murrow speaking to our participants. Women attend small
groups at a larger rate today. Sunday School classes are
often filled with many more women than men. Mid-week
prayer meetings are populated with a larger number of
women than men. Balance is needed so it is important
to consider what it will take to develop male friendly
churches. There is a great opportunity today for churches
to reprioritize this intentional chance to reconnect with
the male population in their ministry area. From the
instance the Lord created man, we were commissioned
with reflecting the Lord’s essence and replicating His
character. True manhood has at its root an intimate relationship with God.
Pastors all across North America are wrestling with
delivering and obeying the Great Commission as they
deliver the Good News to a lessening and lesser number
1 Accessed & retrieved at: www.usatoday.com/news/
health/2007-09-19-divorce-census_N.htm.
2 Living Arrangements of Children [electronic version], U.S.
Census Bureau, U. S. Department of Commerce. April 1996.
3 American Academy of Pediatrics, “Family Pediatrics Report
of The Task Force on the Family,” Pediatrics, 111 (2003): 154171.
According to a study from Hartford Seminary, gender-balanced congregations are three times as likely
to be growing as female-dominated churches.4
Jesus showed us how to grow a healthy church: focus
on men first. Christ loved women and children, but he
spent most of his time and energy developing a handful of men. He knew a truth we’ve forgotten: if you
transform men, you transform the family, the community and the society. Draw a man to church, and you
often get the family in the bargain.
Patrick Morley declares, “Today’s average man is like a
deer caught in the headlights of a Hummer. He doesn’t
fully understand what God has to say about a man’s
identity, purpose, relationships, marriage, sex, fathering,
work, money, ministry, time, emotions, and a dozen of
other subjects. As a result, most men are tired. They often
have a lingering feeling something isn’t quite right about
their lives. Often their lives are coming unglued. It is
common for them to feel like nobody really cares. Even in
the church, men are being left behind.”5 Many men have
a growing disinterest in the church. We must re-engage the men of our communities and reach them
for Christ Jesus. We as pastors and church leaders
must take an active role in restoring the image of men
through Jesus. It will take more than a breakfast and
small event yet it just might start with one or both of
these for your church. Manhood must be modeled
and observed within the local church. I went to one of
our churches recently where everyone on the praise
team was a woman except the guitar player worship
leader and it became clear he was only there to follow
what the others on the team wanted. I was left with
the image of yet another less attractive image for men
looking for a place to belong.
4 http://faithcommunitiestoday.org.
5 Morley, Patrick. Pastoring Men: What Works, What
Doesn’t, and Why It Matters Now More Than Ever. (Chicago: Moody Publishers, 2009) 20.
You’re not just imagining it. Christianity is
short on men. Here are the facts:
• The typical U.S. Congregation draws an adult crowd
that’s 61% female, 39% male. This gender gap shows
up in all age categories. (Source: “U.S. Congregational
Life Survey – Key Findings,” 29 October 2003, <www.
uscongregations.org/key.htm>.)
• On any given Sunday there are 13 million more adult
women than men in America’s churches. (Source:
This statistic comes from Barna’s figures on male/female worship attendance, over laid upon the Census
2000 numbers for adult men and women in the U.S.
population.)
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of men in the local church. Ministers are discouraged
about these statistics as only three out of every ten
church attenders are male in most churches. Pastors
must see men not so much as they are right now but
what they could be in the future. It is not an insoluble challenge to reach men and connect them to the
church. Men are just as different as most women are
different. We have different temperaments. I might
like things another man does not. My interests in
Tennis, Biking, Reading, Writing, Kayaking, and Fishing
probably is not every males most exciting of things
to do. Even my personal example displays the fact
that no one model for men’s ministry will fix all of the
challenges we have in creating an environment where
men will want to go to church.
• This Sunday almost 25 percent of married, churchgoing women will worship without their husbands.
(Source: I came up with this figure by taking the U.S.
Census 2000 numbers for total married adults and
overlaying Barna Research’s year 2000 percentages
of male vs. female attendance at weekly worship
services. The figures suggest at least 24.5 million
married women attend church on a given weekend,
but only 19 million married men attend. That’s 5.5
million more women, or 22.5%. The actual number
may be even higher, because married people attend
church in much greater numbers than singles.)
• Midweek activities often draw 70 to 80 percent
female participants. (Source: Barna Research Online,
“Women are the Backbone of Christian Congregations in America,” 6 March 2000, <www.barna.org>.)
• The majority of church employees are women (except for ordained clergy, who are overwhelmingly
male). (Ibid.)
• Over 70 percent of the boys who are being raised in
church will abandon it during their teens and twenties. Many of these boys will never return. (Source:
“LifeWay Research Uncovers Reasons 18 to 22 Year
Olds Drop Out of Church,” PowerPoint presentation
accompanying study, available at the LifeWay Web
site, http://www.lifeway.com/lwc/article_main_page
/0,1703,A=165949&M=200906,00.html, accessed 12
September 2007.)
• More than 90 percent of American men believe in
God, and five out of six call themselves Christians.
But only one out of six attend church on a given
Sunday. The average man accepts the reality of Jesus
Christ, but fails to see any value in going to church.
(Source: Barna, “Women are the Backbone of Christian Congregations in America.”)
• Churches overseas report gender gaps of up to 9
women for every adult man in attendance.
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Developing Male Friendly Churches • Christian universities are becoming convents. The typical
Christian college in the U.S. enrolls almost 2 women for
every 1 man. (Source: Camerin Courtney, “O Brother,
Where Art Thou?” Christianity Today, Single Minded. View
at http://www.christianitytoday.com/singles/newsletter/
mind40630.html.)
• Fewer than 10% of U.S. churches are able to establish or
maintain a vibrant men’s ministry. (Source: Based on a
show of hands at the National Coalition of Men’s Ministries meeting in 2005. The consensus in the room among
hundreds of men’s ministry experts was that less than
10% of congregations had any ongoing ministry to men.
Compare this to the 110% of churches that offer women’s
and children’s ministries.)
Today’s manhood must be restored. It is the most
critical issue of our day as pastors. In a day where men are
absent in masses at a local house of worship, what is needed is for our churches to relearn how to draw men back
into a healthy relationship with the Lord and additionally
the neighborhood church. Jesus Christ is the true example
of manhood. Granted manhood has fallen in our modern
day liberal society on hard times. Males are faced with the
societal slaughter of their masculinity, past conducts and
actions, as well as being stalled in the consequences of
bad choices. We are living in a day where culture seeks to
redefine manhood. The Lord Jesus can and will make all
things new which is our ultimate hope.
There is a tremendous challenge of defeminizing the local church. The church and all of its minis-
tries must reclaim manhood and become the place where
we truly embrace true masculinity. Take a moment and
attempt to understand and comprehend the local church
through the eyes of a typical “dude.” It is intimidating for a
man to hold hands in a circle. To cry in public is threatening. Men are frightened to speak about loving other fellow
men in the Lord. If we are going to be fishers of men, we
must do a better job reflecting upon men’s needs and
expectations. Jesus did it; so must we.
David Murrow author of Why Men Hate Going To Church
says it clearly:
A business guru once said, “Your system is perfectly
designed to give you the results you’re getting.” Christianity’s primary delivery system, the local church, is perfectly
designed to reach women and older folks. That’s why our
pews are filled with them. But this church system offers
little to stir the masculine heart, so men find it dull and
irrelevant. The more masculine the man, the more likely he
is to dislike church.
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What do I mean? Men and young adults are drawn to risk,
challenge and adventure. But these things are discouraged in the local church. Instead, most congregations
offer a safe, nurturing community — an oasis of stability
and predictability. Studies show that women and seniors
gravit ate toward these things. Although our official
mission is one of adventure, the actual mission of most
congregations is making people feel comfortable and
safe — especially longtime members.
How did Christianity, founded by a man and his 12 male
disciples, become the province of women? There is a pattern of feminization in Christianity going back at least 700
years, according to Dr. Leon Podles, author of The Church
Impotent: the Feminization of Christianity. But the ball
really got rolling in the 1800s. With the dawning of the
industrial revolution, large numbers of men sought work
in mines, mills and factories, far from home and familiar
parish. Women stayed behind — and began remaking
the church in their image. The Victorian era saw the rise
of church nurseries, Sunday schools, lay choirs, quilting
circles, ladies’ teas, soup kitchens, girls’ societies, potluck
dinners, etc.
Soon, the very definition of a good Christian had
changed: boldness and aggression were out; passivity
and receptivity were in. Christians were to be gentle,
sensitive and nurturing, focused on home and family
rather than accomplishment and career. Believers were
not supposed to like sex, tobacco, dancing or other
worldly pleasures. The godly were always calm, polite
and sociable. This Victorian spirituality still dominates
our churches. Those of us who grew up in church hardly
notice it; we can’t imagine things any other way. But a
male visitor detects the feminine spirit the moment he
walks in the sanctuary door. He may feel like Tom Sawyer
in Aunt Polly’s parlor; he must watch his language, mind
his manners and be extra polite. It’s hard for a man to be
real in church because he must squeeze himself into this
feminine religious mold.6
A riskless environment creates boredom. We
need to be churches and church leaders who present
men with God-size visions that make their hearts sink like
they were riding a roller coaster. Here within the association we have such environments as: GOBA Baptist Build6 David Murrow, Why Men Hate Going to Church?
(Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 2011).
C.f. http://churchformen.com/men-and-church/
why-do-men-hate-going-to-church
Have you considered that there are numerous men in
far too numerous churches who are not very enthusiastic about coming to church each Lord’s Day. Many
men who do attend do so out of habit or to merely
keep their spouses content. Because there is seldom
something for men during the middle of the week
most men’s faith falters and does not grow. It is these
churches, which are unable to sustain a viable men’s
ministry.
Principles, Which Saturate
a Men’s Ministry That Is Growing
We live in a day where principles or core values drive
most of what we are doing in ministry. With that said,
here are some principles I believe ought to saturate an
emphasis on Men and ministry:
Men Need to Come First in Adult Budgeting
Since the early 1950’s men show an increasingly less
interest in the church. That points to the need to
reinforce and strengthen men’s ministry in the local
church. Sadly most churches place ministry to men at
the bottom of their annual adult budget for ministry.
Instead they place their dollars on women, children,
and youth. Granted many who attend a church right
now where there is more emphasis on women will not
be excited about this editions subject matter. Yet for
the church to survive an all out effort must be waged
to reclaim Godly men and bring them back into the
local church. A man-impaired church is in danger of
dying. Successful pastors spend time with other men.
So pastor if you want a growing ministry with men
clear your calendar a little and begin spending time
with men.
Refurbish the Church Facility to be More Masculine
Make it male friendly once more.
So many churches are designed for
women and not men. Cut the pastels
and choose bolder colors.
Men Want to Hang with Other Men in
Groups
Jesus models this for us as the disciples and the Lord
did stuff together and they learned along the way. He
taught Peter how to step out in faith by getting out
of a boat and walking on water – not by listening to
a DVD series, hearing a sermon or watching a documentary on God TV. That should be a valuable lesson
for starters to pastors. When it comes to reaching
men for Christ, well, men love doing stuff together –
team sports, fishing, paintballing, DIY projects, and
bowling. Many churches have ministries designed for
women but a lesser number have ministries designed
for men. Men want to hang with other men. Hunting
and fishing are great examples. Neither is a non-stop
experience yet in the lull there is ample time for men
to bond and talk.
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pioneer mission work in either New York/New Jersey
as part of SEND America, and missional engagement
with the Nation of Cuba. What all of us need is to
inspire men with deep challenges as part of their love
for Jesus. Twelve men in the past in scripture dropped
everything they were doing and become fishers of
men. Men want to be part of something that matters.
There is nothing effeminate about choosing to follow
the Lord Jesus. Manhood calls for such a picture and
we as pastors must present it. The Lord provides those
who are all in with Jesus a kingdom rank (C.f. 1 Peter
2:9). Further for all of us and particularly men, in this
article, He provides individual rewards upon entry into
heaven (C.f. Matthew 25:23).
Going Man to Man is An Art But Must Be
Developed
Men need a confidant and it is wise to develop one
on one and one of two connection clusters for men to
bond. Man to man discipling is best achieved within
these two types of clusters. If you are going to reach
men in your community your present committed male
leaders must met them and get with them. Men are
usually not reached in packs but in smaller numbers
such as two or less. Sending 40 men to help with a rescue mission is once a month is not as helpful for your
church as sending these men out to reach another
man every day.
Men’s Gatherings Around Food Often is a
Launching Place
While far too many churches stop at hosting a men’s
breakfast or luncheon quarterly, gathering around
food is often the beginning place for men to connect.
Men love to eat so it is a natural beginning to kick off
a ministry with men. But to remain in the same mode
some five years later is to admit that the strategy was
nothing more than a meal and not a plan for even
better ways to reach, teach, and disciple men. Talking
about golf scores and home remodeling plans might
be the start but it cannot remain all that you have
to offer for men in your church. Initially men gather
because they want to be with other men socially. They
want connection but nothing complicated or intense.
Discussing faith is fine but not in an intricate format.
Help them learn how to function using ones faith in
the market place.
Develop Less Churchy Events for Men and
More Earthy Events
Men are usually compelled to church functions, which
entail getting away for the church facility. Men’s days
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study. Car shows as well as other outings are a good way
to draw men. In one church I know of there is an annual men’s rally where “much meat” is consumed, games
played, and then a speaker challenges the masses.
Emphasize Problems that Men Face
Sorted magazine surveyed hundreds of Christian men
and asked them what subjects they would most like to
see tackled in church. Family issues were top, followed by
money, anger, sexual purity, addictions, pornography, and
gambling.
It shows men are looking for answers to important
questions – but this does not have to be on a Sunday at
11.00am in a cold building with a tall steeple. It can be
conversations while doing sports, or walking together.
Men like to discuss, argue, challenge, disagree and be
given the opportunity to ask questions – but this needs to
be done in an environment with other guys that they feel
comfortable with. The thing we do have in common is that
all men crave warmth, honesty, openness and authenticity. Most are genuinely interested in spirituality, meaning
and purposes and are asking deep questions. They want
to know how to become better dads and husbands. It
is just a case of connecting with men where they are at
and showing that Christianity is worth following, has real
answers to tough questions – and is not just for girls.
Remember Men Hurt Also
Men are hurting and want a few men they can share
their deepest concerns with. Men do not always want to
share things with their wife but with a fellow man that
understands what they are going through. Men are tired
of being viewed at home as always broken so time with
other men is a valued opportunity. Men work long hours
and often feel like it is not appreciated and their spouses
think that they can fix them when they are not so sure
they need fixed.
Stop Preaching from the NGB!
We as pastors often preach from the NGB. Have you heard
of that translation? It is the Nice Guy Bible and the retail
price is men’s soul. You have read it I m sure. It is the Bible
that emphasizes the sweet stuff of scripture and lets the
tougher and manlier stuff go right on by. That sweet stuff
will not save a man from the dark night of the soul as
John the Gospel writer used the term. Preach the rugged
scriptures and show how they can keep you protected
from such dark nights of the soul. Unfortunately the meatier and more penetrating scriptures are not emphasized
much today. As a result, much of what we label as spiritual
living just is not “real” to your average guy.
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Most Men Don’t Wear Gucci
Manhood often tires of the slick and stylish and prefer to
hang out in places where they can dress comfortably and
not be frowned upon for not dressing in the latest styles.
Men just want to be comfortable. Loose the tie, allow
blue jeans, and stop making men feel uncomfortable
when they worship in casual dress. Boots on a man are
comfortable so get over it.
Men Keep Crazy Schedules and They are Not
Looking for Another Thing to Do So Choose
Wisely
Real men are busy and have many responsibilities so do
not lay a huge amount of guilt upon them because they
cannot or will not do everything you and your church
offers. If men are not showing up perhaps you are doing
what you like over what they like. Their schedules are
crazy so offering a 12 week study is not going to interest
them when it is hard enough to find time in their schedules for family and relaxation.
We Must Defeminize the Local Church
Even today Jesus is often defeminized when you go to a
bookstore and look at his picture. Even in church they appear that way. Jesus is portrayed as mild manner and soft
spoken. Most men are anything but. Jesus was not always
like that either as you remember how He turned over the
moneychangers in the temple. We often rise up the mild
manner Jesus and leave out the charging Jesus.
We Must Engage the Mind of Men
To get men back and involved we need to change the
way we run church. Men often struggle in a classroom
environment so that is why Jesus did not sit them behind
desks or hand out study guides. Conversation works
better than lecture for men. They want to think about
big things so discuss issues that are real to them. Engage
their minds and challenge them to do something together that they cannot do alone.
Put Masculine Musicians Back Leading Worship
Effeminate musicians are big turnoff to men in church (1
Timothy 2:8). The songs chosen are often hard for men
to sing because males have lower voices and can’t sing
the higher registered songs so they don’t sing at all and
are turned off. Worship music is often too sentimental for
guy tastes. The presence of enthusiastic male worshipers
is statistically associated with the following outcomes:
Congregational growth, Congregational health, Unity
in the church, Increased giving, and Retention of
young men.
to have a man shortage. Jesus was not long winded;
in fact the average parable of Jesus can be taught
comfortably in under a minute. It’s not the length of
your message but its impact that changes men’s lives.
1. A Manly Pastor. Men don’t like macho or pow-
Jeffery Painter came up with a good list of songs that
most men like that are more manly than girly. Look
at the list and consider when was the last time any
of these made your list. Here is JEFFREY PAINTER’S
LIST OF GOOD WORSHIP SONGS FOR MEN8 :
1. Solid Rock – Delirious
2. Our God – Chris Tomlin
3. I Will Follow – Chris Tomlin
4. Awakening – Chris Tomlin
5. Your Grace Is Enough – Chris Tomlin
6. Indescribable – Chris Tomlin
7. Holy Is The Lord – Chris Tomlin
8. How Great Is Our God – Chris Tomlin
9. On Our Side – Chris Tomlin
10. Mighty Is The Power Of The Cross – Chris Tomlin
11. God Of This City – Chris Tomlin
12. Exalted (Yahweh) – Chris Tomlin
13. Let God Arise – Chris Tomlin
14. Not To Us – Chris Tomlin
15. Famous One – Chris Tomlin
16. Awesome Is The Lord Most High – Chris Tomlin
17. Amazing Grace (My Chains Are Gone) – Chris
Tomlin
18. The Noise We Make – Chris Tomlin
19. Better Is One Day – Matt Redman
20. Come Let Us Return To The Lord – Matt Redman
21. Salvation – Charlie Hall
22. Revolution Cry – Jason Wade
23. You Are God Alone – Phillips, Craig, and Dean
24. My Hope Is In You – Third Day
25. King Of Glory – Third Day
26. By His Wounds – Mac Powell & Brian Littrell
27. What If His People Prayed – Casting Crowns
28. If We Are The Body – Casting Crowns
29. Voice Of Truth – Casting Crowns
30. East To West – Casting Crowns
40. God Be Merciful To Me (Psalm 51) – Jars of Clay
41. We Win! – David Crowder Band
42. Here Is Our King – David Crowder Band
43. All Because of Jesus – Steve Fee
44. Awesome God (Your Voice) – Vicky Beeching
(change a few words & it would be great!)
45. Blessed Be Your Name – Tree63
46. I Am Free – Newsboys
47. Alive – POD
48. Strong Tower – Kutless
49. Word Of God Speak – Mercy Me (Kutless Version)
50. Here Am I – Mercy Me
er-hungry pastors, but a pastor who projects a healthy
masculinity will draw men. This is because men see
their churches through their pastor. If a man respects
his pastor, then he likes his church. If a man doesn’t
respect his pastor, he won’t like his church. Go ahead,
ask a man about his church. He won’t talk about the
ministries, or the facilities, or the programs; he’ll talk
about the pastor.
2. Excellence is vital. Men are less forgiving of anything bad, hokey or half baked. The churches that are
growing and attracting men consistently offer excellence – in the preaching, the music, the facility and the
programs. You don’t have to be the best in town; just
do what you do very well and men will be drawn. And
if you can’t do something well, then don’t do it at all.
3. Give men space. Churches that attract men honor
their need for space. Don’t force your men to hold
hands or hug each other. If you must hug, there are
safe ways to do it, as illustrated on my training DVD.
And you should also be judicious when laying hands
on men. These days we like to put people in “prayer
mushrooms.” You know what I’m talking about – Vince
asks for prayer and soon he’s mobbed, with hands all
over him. The other men look at what happened to
Vince, so they keep requests to themselves, for fear
that they will be mobbed too.
4. Make Prayer Real. Christians speak normally
to one another, but when they talk to God they lapse
into a strange language I call “prayer speak.” I’m not
talking about speaking in tongues; prayer-speak is
a nonstop petition to God, repeating his name over
and over, punctuated by the word “just” (Father God,
we just thank you for this day, Father God, and Father God, we just ask that you’d bless us Father God).
The problem with prayer-speak is that it discourages
plainspoken men from praying aloud, because the feel
that their petitions need to be delivered in this “holy
language.” If you want more men praying, cut the
prayer-speak.
5. Honor Men’s Time. Nothing
discourages men like a worship
service that drags on and on. It’s no
coincidence that African-American
churches, known for their 3 hour
worship services, are also very likely
7 http://churchformen.com/
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David Murrow offers a 35-minute session titled, “Ten
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Women and Children Away.”7 Here are five of the ten
in a brief summary to whet your appetite:
8 http://churchformen.com/tools/ideas-for-your-church/
good-worship-music-for-men/
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52. Walk By Faith – Jeremy Camp
53. My Fortress – Jeremy Camp
54. Hero – Skillet
55. Rebirthing – Skillet
I know there are others but this is a good initial list for all
of us to consider.
Have you heard why church is good for men? Here is a
great list to ponder:
• Churchgoers are more likely to be married and express a
higher level of satisfaction with life. Church involvement
is the most important predictor of marital stability and
happiness. (Source: “Why Religion Matters: The Impact of
Religious Practice on Social Stability,” The Heritage Foundation Backgrounder, 1064, 25 January 1996, <www.
heritage.org>.)
• Religious participation leads men to become more
engaged husbands and fathers. (Source: Penny Edgell
(Becker) and Heather Hofmeister, “Work, Family and
Religious Involvement for Men and Women,” Hartford Institute for Religion Research, <http://hirr.hartsem.edu>.)
• Teens with religious fathers are more likely to say they
enjoy spending time with dad and that they admire him.
(Source: Christian Smith and Phillip Kim, “Religious Youth
Are More Likely to Have Positive Relationships with Their
Fathers,” University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, 12
July 2002, findings based on the National Longitudinal
Survey of Youth (1997).)
Just as church is good for men, men are also very good
for the local church. Here is something more to contemplate:
• A study from Hartford Seminary found that the presence
of involved men was statistically correlated with church
growth, health, and harmony. Meanwhile, a lack of male
participation is strongly associated with congregational
decline. (Source: C. Kirk Hadaway, FACTs on Growth: A
new look at the dynamics of growth and decline in American congregations based on the Faith Communities
Today 2005 national survey of Congregations. Hartford
Institute for Religion Research,
http://hirr.hartsem.edu.)
There are men who have
voiced reasons why they
just hate going to church.
Their reasons are many.
Men who do not attend
church usually have more
substantial reasons for not
attending. Here are the
most often mentioned:
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1. Their Fathers Did Not Attend Church
“Many men give their sons the impression that the church
is not a place for real men by stereotyping Christian men
as passive, effeminate, and henpecked – qualities no man
desires,” says Frederick Davis, assistant pastor of the Almeda Church of Christ in Houston, TX. “As a result of their
macho posturing, these men are inadvertently teaching
their sons that church is only for women and wimps, and
propagating new generations of unchurched men.”
A man’s lackadaisical attitude towards church attendance
can influence his children’s perceptions of religion. This
behavior is especially destructive if the man has a son. It
is difficult for a mother to convince her son that attending
church is important if her husband invalidates her arguments by sleeping late on Sundays. “I would always wonder why my mom made me go to church when my father
didn’t,” says Andre Ligon, a 40 year-old lawyer. “I didn’t
think church was important because he never went.”
2. They Have Work To Get Done If They Are Going To
Keep Up At the Office
As companies downsize and lay-offs lurk around every
corner, men feel compelled to work as much as they can
to provide some measure of security for their families.
Neglecting their own spiritual growth is a small sacrifice
for men who desire to keep their families out of dire
straits. George O’Neil, Sr., 63, retired, concurs. “When I got
married and had children, I had to stop going to church
as much as I used to because I had to get a steady job.
I worked whenever I could get something which often
meant on Sundays,” O’Neil said. “Something had to give
-unfortunately, it was church.”
3. You Take An Offering For This and Another
For That
With rising unemployment, higher taxes, and other
financial woes, the last thing any man wants to see when
he goes to church is a pastor with his hand out asking for
more than his fair share of his income. “I could not take it
anymore,” says Paul Johnson, a 52 year-old mailroom supervisor. “Before I could put my wallet away from the first
offering, a battalion of collection plates would bombard
me again. At one point, I thought I would have to start
paying admission.
4. The Main Service Kept Getting Longer and
More Rigid
Kenneth Davis, a 53-year old teacher, is a football fanatic.
He loves to watch games from the kickoff until the finally
seconds tick away; however, going to church usually
spoils his plans. “By the time they are done with announcements, hymns, and excruciatingly long sermons,
it is almost halftime,” Davis says. “I know that going to
5. They Have Lost Faith In God or Do Not
Believe in God
tians, but they sure didn’t act like Christians. I feel that
I exhibit the tenets of Christianity outside of church
much better than many of those people who attend
church religiously.” Yes there is hypocrisy in the church
at time, but that should not deter men from attending. There are many untrue images in the church, but
people must realize that their commitment should
be to Christ rather than the people who comprise the
church. People often believe that Christians are supposed to be perfect when in fact, we are not.
7. Insensitive and Tack-less Pulpit
Men who grew up with a firm religious foundation
have an easier time coping with adversity, but a test
of faith sometimes can be enough to send even the
most faithful servant fleeing from the fold. Dwayne
Monroe, for example, was a model Christian. As a
teenager, Monroe never missed a chance to worship
the Lord. He attended Sunday school, Bible study, and
was the pioneer of his church’s youth ministry. But his
faith was tested when his father grew ill with prostate
cancer. Monroe, whose mother died in a car accident,
prayed daily for the Lord to heal his father, but to no
avail. The elder Monroe died when his son was seventeen leaving the frightened child parentless. Feeling
the Lord had forsaken him; Monroe cut all ties with his
church and has not been back since. “I was always so
faithful,” says the 26-year-old sales clerk. “But God took
both of my parents from me and left me all alone. How
could a God I’d been so faithful to leave me all alone?”
Several of the men interviewed for this piece agreed
that the church is unsympathetic to their plights.
Since many men attend church to mend their battered egos, they get upset when the minister adds
insult to injury by attacking them in his sermon. I
admit that men are victims of an insensitive pulpit.
Historically, we (ministers) have spewed unintended
condemnations toward men. Now they are rebelling
against the church by not showing up. Whereas, it is
difficult to rebel against employers or other authority
figures in their lives without negative consequences,
insurgence against the church is easier because the
consequences are not so immediate. By not attending
church, men feel powerful and in control because
they are finally able to challenge authority and get
away with it. All any man wants to hear is that he is
doing a good job. The church needs to be more sensitive to that fact.”
He is only one of a swelling rank of men who refuse to
accept the concept of an Almighty God. “I have never
seen any physical evidence of God’s existence,” said
James Turner, a 37 year-old engineer. “We’re taught to
be logical in all aspects of our lives, but when it comes
to religion, we are supposed to throw our logic out of
the window and rely solely on faith. I’m sorry, but I just
can’t do that. Besides, if there were really a God, do
you think the world would be so screwed up?” Reverend Clarence James, lecturer and author of a series
chronicling African-American history, culture, and
involvement in the Christian church, understands their
dilemma. “Given the state of America, I can empathize
with the men who refuse to believe that God would
allow this country to become such a rancid place. But
things can only get worse if our men stop believing
and lose faith,” James said. “All I can do is ask non-believers to come to church one Sunday. Hopefully, we
will say something or they will see something that will
convince them that God is alive and working in their
lives.”
Wrapping it Up!
When men re-establish our connection with our
creator Lord, we will see the fruit of healthier families,
stronger communities, a society with substance, and
world leaders who are equipped with integrity and
purpose.
6. The Church Is Often Hypocritical
“I was appalled by all the backbiting and pettiness at
my former church,” says Eric Townshend, a 22 year-old
student. “Those people were supposed to be Chris-
On Point with Dr. Tom Cheyney
church is important, but I like some time on Sundays
to relax and do what I like to do. Sunday is my only day
off.” I would be the first to acknowledge that services
are sometimes too long, but I attribute it to waning
church attendance. It’s true that we sometimes have
too many things going on during service, but the pulpit is challenged to get in as much as possible because
Sunday is the only day we see most the men we do
have.
Recommended Resources:
How Guy Friendly Is Your Church? Test
http://churchformen.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/03/
Guy_Friendly_Test.pdf
Eric Mason, Manhood Restored: How the Gospel Makes
Men Whole. (Nashville: B&H Publising) 2013.
Steve Sonderman, How To Build A Life-Changing Men’s
Ministry. (Minneapolis: Bethany House Publishers) 2010.
Dr. Tom Cheyney is the Exec-
utive Director of Missions for the
Greater Orlando Baptist Association
and serves as the Executive Editor
for the Missions Rising Magazine. He
is the Founder & Directional Leader
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We talk a lot about “sending” churches today, but
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about church planting and what do sending
churches do? Other terms for sending churches are
partner, mother, starting, and sponsor. All of these
terms can be used interchangeably when we refer
to churches that start churches. For the purpose of
this article, I’ll just use the word “sponsor” to refer
to all of the actives of church planting from the
perspective of an established church that is starting
new churches.
Churches beget churches. associations, conventions
and mission boards do not start churches, they only
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expressions of the body of Christ. The role of the
association in church planting is, what I like to call
the ACTS of church planting – Assessing, Coaching,
Training and Supporting. However, it is the local
church that does the heavy lifting in church planting such as: recruiting, developing, training, supervising, deploying, and sending church planters and
church planting teams. This is what sponsor churches do.
Recruiting and Raising Up Church Planters
I don’t really like to use the word “recruiting” when it
comes to church planters. I’d much rather be writing about raising-up church planters from within
the church. However, the reality is that most sponsor churches recruit church planters from outside
the church or even outside the city and bring them
in to plant churches. Even church planting centers
that offer local church based residency programs
often look outside the local body for perspective
church planters instead of raising them up from
within.
In the ideal situation, the sponsor church discovers
church planters either through recruitment or by
raising them up internally. However church planters are often born in churches that do not plant
churches. Before the Internet and the proliferation
of books and conferences on church planting, the
dreams of these church planters would die in a sterile church. “You can’t do that!” they would be told
by someone in authority. And, since there was very
little information available to them, these would-be
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church planters sometimes did not pursue what
they felt to be God’s calling on their lives. The
information age has changed that and has created
a greater interest in church planting.
Now, many potential church planters start out by
contacting their denominational and associational
leaders before consulting with their own pastors
or church leaders regarding an interest in starting
new churches. I’ve experienced this many times
myself. I’ve received numerous inquires from people interested in starting new churches who have
not considered talking to someone in their local
church before reaching out to the association regarding church planting opportunities in the area.
I always ask them, “What does your pastor think
about your desire to start a church?” The response
is usually something like this:
“Well, I haven’t told my pastor about my church
planting aspirations.”
“Why not?” I would ask.
“Well, I don’t think that he would be in favor of
me planting a church.”
“Why not?” Would be my reply.
“Our church has not planted any churches in several years and it is struggling just to keep the people
we have. I don’t think my pastor would be in favor
of sending me or anyone else out to plant a church.
He would think that it would hurt our church.”
At this point, I would encourage the church
planter to make an appointment with his pastor.
I usually offer to go along with him, if the pastor
wants me to be there. Sometimes, the pastor is
sympathetic and agrees that God may be calling
this person to start a church, but doesn’t think that
the church is “ready.” At this point, I’ll explain to the
pastor that he is caught in an awkward situation. It
is as if his teenage son is asking to drive the family
car and the father is telling him that it would be
too much of a hardship on the family if he let him
drive the car. It is ok if he wants to go through the
process to get a learner’s permit, but he will not be
able to drive – ever. At this point, the church plant-
This is where recruitment comes in. A church
that desires to plant, but has not raised up any
church planters recruits church planters from
other churches who do not want to plant. The
denomination or association, at this point, acts
like an adoption agency – paring the orphaned
church planter up with a new family that is
willing to launch him. It is important that the
adoptive sponsor church makes sure that the
orphaned church planter is a good match for
them. In this scenario, I encourage the recruiting sponsor church to interview the prospective church planter as they would a potential
staff member. It is important to make sure that
there is doctrinal, missional and philosophical
alignment. This does not mean that an adopted church planter has to start a church that is
exactly the same stylistically as the sponsor
church. On the contrary, church plants should
be culturally relevant to their target community.
Recruiting church planters is a legitimate means
of becoming a sponsor church. However an
alternative approach is to raise up church
planters from within the church. This is done
as an extension of the sponsor church’s discipleship and leadership development process. For
most churches, this means adding some new
elements to their assimilation and development
systems. The pastor needs to be comfortable
with his Ephesians 4:12 role of developing new
workers, leaders, and pastors. I am grateful that I
came to Christ through the ministry of a church
and under the leadership of a pastor that did
just that. The small church that I grew up in
always seemed to have some “preacher boys”
who were being groomed for the ministry and
mentored by the lead pastor. I was one of those
preacher boys who was raised up from within
and who was sent out to help plant a church
from scratch. At the age of fifteen, I was not the
lead planter but my pastor encouraged me to
be a part of the team that planted a new church
in a community that was only three miles away
from the sponsor church.
Whether it is through recruiting or raising up
planters, the sponsor church needs to be sure
that they are choosing the right leaders to
start the next generation of churches. As I
mentioned earlier, it is the sponsor church’s
responsibility to vet potential church planters.
The sponsor relationship with a church plant
can be trying on both churches. Therefore, the
sponsor church needs to make sure that the
church planter is a good fit. The planter should
meet the sponsor’s doctoral qualifications and
he should be oriented on the sponsor churches
systems that will overlap with the church plant
such as financial procedures, use of office equipment, support staff, etc.
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er still has a desire to plant a church, but he may
have to move out and join someone else’s family
in order to do it.
Developing and Training Church Planters
Not all sponsor churches are experts on church
planting and they don’t have to be. But, a sponsor church needs to understand what church
planters need in order to flourish and grow. The
sponsor church should find out about all kinds
of training available for church planters and
make sure that the planters avail themselves
of the various tools that will help them to start
and grow healthy multiplying churches. Ideally,
sponsor churches will develop their own church
planting systems that include training and
resourcing church planters. However, not every
church needs to reinvent the wheel. The local
association and the denomination often have
people trained in church planting who can, not
only train church planters, but train sponsor
churches to train church planters.
Church planting conferences, such as the Exponential Conference that takes place in Orlando
each year are a good way for potential church
planters to be exposed to a lot of helpful information. However, most church planters will also
need some form of systematic training
that deals with critical issues such as
vision casting, team building,
strategic planning and donor
development. These courses,
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churches have developed church planter residency
programs that last anywhere from six months to
a year. During the residency, church planters can
learn basic skills that are needed for any church
leadership setting. While a church planter is in
residence, he can continue to do research, work on
his church planting strategy, develop his team and
raise support for the new work.
Supervising Church Planters
One of the primary roles of the sponsor church is
that of supervising their church planters. The church
planter should be considered an employee of the
primary sponsor church. He should have someone
to be accountable to and should report regularly on
his actives. If not the lead pastor, someone should
be designated as the point of contact for the church
planter. This person does not need to act like the
church planter’s boss, but rather should serve in a
supporting role and coordinate the work of the two
churches. Sponsor churches often have a mission
development team that helps the church planter to
connect with the sponsor church on various levels
and this is encouraged. However, the church planter
should have just one point of contact who can represent the sponsor church on a day to day basis.
The more that the sponsor church knows about
church panting the better. However, neither the sponsor church nor its leaders need to know everything about church planting.
It is possible that the church planter may know more about how to start a church from scratch and to reach an unreached community than anyone
at the sponsor church. It is
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ok to view the church planter as the expert while
the church provides some guidance in areas such
as financial issues, legal issues, organizational
structure, and denominational relationships.
It is important to realize that there are significant
differences between a church planter and a legacy
church pastor. Church planters typically conduct
their daily activities vastly different than established church pastors. For example, church planters
are likely to spend less time on sermon preparation
and more time on community engagement than
legacy pastors. Church planters usually do less
counseling and hospital visitation than pastors of
established churches.
Church planters are usually wired differently
than legacy church pastors. They are more likely
to have a maverick’s heart; an entrepreneurial bent
and to be more big-pictured oriented than the
average pastor. Church planters are also less likely
to be organized and detail oriented than established church pastors. These differences may cause
some misunderstandings between the planter and
the sponsor church. It is important that the sponsor church discover the characteristics of effective
church planters and how to work with them without stifling them. Not all of the processes and procedures used in the sponsor church will be necessary or effective in a new church start. The sponsor
church should also be prepared to learn some new
things form the planter and the new church plant.
Deploying and Sending Church Planting
Teams
A healthy sponsor church will allow and encourage
church planters to recruit team members from the
sponsor church. The lead pastor can set the example by introducing the planter to the church at
large and letting the church know that the planter
will be looking for families to go with him to be a
part of the new church plant. The church body may
need to be taught that this it is normal and healthy
for churches to give their resources (including
money and people) away to help new churches to
get started. Sponsor churches should not fear the
The response of the church at Antioch to the
leading of God’s Holy Spirit to send out Barnabas and Saul is a great model for churches to
emulate today. Sponsor churches often have
Acts 13 sending services where the members
of the sponsor church lay hands on church
planters, their families and team members who
are being sent out. This type of public display
of support for church planting teams helps to
solidify the relationship between the sponsor
church and church plants. It helps leaders of the
church’s various ministries to set the priority of
offer support for church planting on all levels.
When a church gives birth to another church,
it involves the entire body. It is not just a mission project that affects only one group within
the church; it is an opportunity for every organization within the church to celebrate God’s
work of redeeming a lost world through the
testimony and service of His people. Youth and
children’s ministries can get involved in church
planting by offering their leaders and resources
to the church plants. The leaders can offer to
train the new leaders in the church plant. The
children and youth themselves can get directly involved if the plant is local. They can also
collect and package equipment that the new
church will need in their youth and children’s
ministries.
The hospitality ministry of the sponsor church
can offer to help park cars, serve as greeters
and man the refreshment table during the first
few weeks of the new church’s launch. Senior
adults can be encouraged to volunteer to help
new churches and to pray for the church planting teams. Likewise, deacons, elders and other
church leaders can offer their services as new
churches ramp up their leadership training and
development processes.
The church support staff and volunteers can
help to provide critical services to church plants
as they develop their own internal systems. The
financial team of the sponsor church can process donations for church plants until the new
church develops their own financial system. It
can be difficult for a new church to establish
a checking account with a local bank until the
church has at least some basic legal documents
in place. Some sponsor churches establish
designated checking accounts for church plants
using a DBA (Doing Business As) in the name
of the new church. With the sponsor church
using their relationship with their own bank,
the church plant may be able to save money on
banking fees and get their own account set up
much faster.
Multiplying Churches with Mark Weible
loss of critical recourses, because we believe
that God will take care of those who give sacrificially for the sake of His kingdom. There is no
Biblical basis for churches hoarding resources,
but plenty of evidence that it is God’s plan for
churches to send their people and their money
in support of the mission of the gospel.
The sponsor church can also help the new
church to obtain liability insurance coverage.
Most venues will require that the new church
provide proof of liability insurance before a contract can be signed to rent a facility for public
worship services. The sponsor church can secure
a rider on their own insurance policy to help a
church plant to obtain proof of liability quickly
and less expensively than getting insurance on
their own.
Sponsor churches can do a lot to provide
spiritual and material support for church
plants. A sacrificial attitude that results
in sending and giving will result in joyous
blessings for church plants and the sponsor
churches alike.
Rev. Mark Weible serves
the Greater Orlando Baptist
Association as the Church
Planting Director. He joined
the GOBA team in 2002. Mark
co-leads the GOAL Leadership
training besides serving as our
Web architect. Mark serves as
the Directional Leader of
ReproducingChurches.com.
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