September 2015



September 2015
September 2015
Volume 14, Issue 9
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Durham community heals small business
Monthly profile by Kerry Lengyel
Hairizon offers good-for-you beauty products
Hairizon, a natural DIY beauty
boutique in Durham, was founded by
two best friends who wanted to make
natural beauty products readily available. The store is recovering from a car
crashing through the front of their front
window, and that hardship has made
the owners appreciate Durham’s sense
of community and dedication to small
businesses. Southern Neighbor writer
Kerry Lengyel sat down with Valerie
Jackson, one of the owners of Hairizon,
to discuss the store’s concept and future
plans to serve the Durham community.
Where did the idea for Hairizon
come from? It originated with my daughter Joi
and a college roommate, Charia; they
both were chemically straightening
their hair to take the natural coilness
out of it, but in order to maintain that,
it costs (a lot) because you need to get
your hair done with a schedule of every
four to six weeks. Joi and Charia were
at UNC-Charlotte campus, and they
decided not to keep spending money on
getting their hair done, so they wanted
to transition into a natural state of their
hair. So once Joi was in that natural
transitioning process, she was calling
me regularly for money to find products
that would be good for her hair and
help to encourage a healthy environment for her natural hair. All this time
she’s transitioning, trying to find great
products — a lot of trial and error to
find good products — and finally she
came to me and said, “Mom, I have an
idea. Once I graduate I want to open
a store where women can come and
find great products for their hair and
not have to pay an arm and a leg for
shipping.” We’ll do the initial legwork
to research the products, and then we
can stand behind them and tell them
these things work and here they are and
available to you. It’s our passion now.
What is a DIY beauty bar?
The beautify bar is the anchor of
Hairizon. What we actually do on the
beauty bar is we customize products for
the customer. So say if you come in and
Photo courtesy of Valerie Jackson
In addition to natural health and beauty supplies, Hairizon’s storefront at
Northgate Mall offers retail space to over 100 small and local businesses.
say you have dry, dull hair, we can customize the shampoo or conditioner or
hair oil that can help to eliminate those
things. We have a beautify bar menu
where we break down specific oils and
vitamins that are good for the hair and
how they work. We have organic shampoo, conditioner and oils that we just
add those ingredients to. On top of that,
you can add any essential fragrance, like
lavender or jasmine, so that you get the
total package — so you get something
that smells great, and you get something
that’s good for your hair, and its minus
all of the fillers and commercial preservatives that a lot of the products you
see in the larger retail stores have. We
like to have you come into Hairizons
and have someone be able to talk to
you about your hair. It’s not like when
you go to some of the big stores where
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you’re looking for help from someone
with a product, and they don’t know
how it works, and you get overwhelmed
by shelves and shelves that say, “I do
this, I do that,” and you don’t have a
reference point. You don’t have someone
who can sit with you and talk with you
and get personally invested.
We also whip customized body butters.
We have Shea butter, mango butter and
avocado butter. Any one of these three
can be customized with essential oils or
fragrance oils, so you can have a moisturizing treat for your body. We have
a base sugar scrub with white sugar,
vitamin E, sapphire oil or avocado oil.
We combine those so you have a great
foundation, and then you can build on
that with a fragrance or essential oils
like lemongrass or rose oils, anything
you’d like to see, and we actually make it
right there at the bar for you. We like to
say we’re bartenders. You can get Shea
butter with vitamin E, peppermint and
eucalyptus in it — we’ll mix it up right
there, label it, list the ingredients and
then you can take that home.
How do you fit into the Durham
The thing about downtown Durham
is in the past five years, we have seen
downtown Durham grow and change
and evolve into a destination — not just
you’re going to DPAC, or you’re going
to the ballgame. Downtown Durham
now has its own draw in that we have
several different venues that are active
and bringing in great talent. There are
events going on; there are different
festivals, music — there are all types of
things that draw people to the destination of downtown Durham, and we’ve
really gotten to watch that grow and
change and we wanted to stay a part of
that because it is an awesome thing.
The basis of Hairizon is the beauty bar,
but we have 28 different “partners,”
we call them, (who) have allowed their
products to be showcased in our stores.
We have a student who makes soy
candles, housewife who recycles jewelry
— all kinds of great things.
for women and minorities’ businesses
— there are fewer and fewer able to
maintain their businesses in downtown
Durham, and that’s a shame.
What are your future plans for the
store? How has the community supported
Hairizon through its bout of bad
We have had some community
support and we have greatly appreciated
it. The downtown Durham Initiative,
as well as the Greater Durham Area
Chamber of Commerce have been on
the lookout for us as far as available
properties that could possibly be the
future home to Hairizons, but again,
because it is such a vibrant and growing
area, it’s a challenge for a small business
to meet some of the requirements that
some of the building owners are placing
on their locations. Because it is so hot,
and the bubble for real estate has not
burst as far as downtown Durham is
concerned, the building owners can ask
for and get really above normal money
for leasing of the properties. It’s heartbreaking, but it’s true and particularly
Right now our goal is to expand our
bar — to be able to bring in more exotic
butters, to bring in more beneficial oils.
We’re in the process of researching some
essential oils that come out of South
America with anti-inflammatory agents.
We’re looking at trying to continue with
courses and events in the store where we
invite the public in, and we have seminars on hair care, heart disease and voter
registration. We want to continue to be
a location where you can find out about
different events going on in Durham.
There are a lot of positive things going
on in Durham, and we have felt like an
ambassador many times — when travelers from out of town were in the area
on the weekends, we were one of the
few retail locations where someone can
walk in and ask where they should go.
We would like to continue with events
in the store, possibly sponsors from
the events in larger venues in Durham,
but what we’d like to do is grow and
be more visible in the community as a
location for great things going on.
In your GoFundMe page, you
mentioned you’re looking to open
a pop-up market in the meantime.
Have you made any progress on
those plans?
We are in negotiations with a building owner downtown to see if it would
be possible to do a pop-up market. That
would be something where we’d be
temporarily located in the downtown
Durham area where customers could
come see what we have to offer and
make purchases for a limited time. Currently, we’re located at the Northgate
Mall, Suite 852, on the outside exterior
perimeter of the mall at entrance four.
We will be there for the next three
months, and during that time period we
hope to be continuing to reach out to
the building locations in the downtown
area. Hopefully we can get somewhere
in two- to three-mile perimeter of
where we were previously.
Is there anything you’d like to add
about the Durham community?
I would just like to stress the
importance of Durham, citizens of
Durham and citizens of the Southeast
to support local businesses. It’s really
easy for potential customers to think,
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other big box retailers and not give
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that are trying to stay and endure
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have more business, so I would say to
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keep your dollars in the community
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Light Rail must win funding, support
By Stephanie Lamm
Though the 17.1-mile
Durham-Orange Light Rail is more
than 10 years and $1 billion from
completion, some residents have
already lost faith in the project.
“A light rail car is going to weigh
more than a U.S. Army tank,” said Alex
Cabanes, who lives in Downing Creek.
“And they want two of these running 150
times a day. If someone said 300 tanks are
rolling in front of my lawn every day, that
might be a problem for me.”
Cabanes and others with concerns
about the project have until Oct. 12 to file
a formal comment to GoTriangle. GoTriangle will address substantive comments
in its final Environmental Impact Report.
GoTriangle projects the Research
Triangle’s population will grow by
80 percent between 2010 and 2040,
creating high traffic intensity along the
Durham-Orange County corridor.
“We can’t keep expanding the roads.
This line would increase travel in places
where roads can’t be widened,” said
Patrick McDonough, the manager of
planning and transit-oriented development for GoTriangle.
Combined, Triangle Transit Authority, Durham Area Transit Authority,
Chapel Hill Transit and Duke Transit
carry 71,300 passengers on average
weekdays. According to the Draft Environmental Impact Statement released
Aug. 21, the buses systems servicing
Durham and Chapel Hill are near maximum capacity.
“Durham and Chapel Hill punch
above their weight in transit use,” McDonough said. “Bus use here is much
different from in Raleigh or Cary.”
GoTriangle expects 23,000 daily
riders on the light rail by 2035.
Eight new park-and-ride stations,
with space to 5,000 vehicles, will be
added around the light rail stations.
The vast majority passengers will
walk, bike or bus to the 17 stations.
Before the project is completed, GoTriangle will expand bus service to connect
current routes to the rail system.
Using a projection of 2040 travel
intensity, the light rail links the five areas
that may see over 100 trips per acre.
The rail does not cross into
the Research Triangle Park or Raleigh-Durham International Airport.
Orange County resident Bonnie
Hauser is one of many people who
suggested the route should to RTP and
“In the 1990s when they started
GoTriangle wants
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planning this, the current route was
probably very important, but now
people need to get to Chatham Park,
Mebane, RTP,” Hauser said. “Why
would we want to serve just one university corridor when most people need to
go to a broader area?”
McDonough said people have suggested the line go through these locations, but they are not high-traffic areas.
In total, the rail will cost up to $1.6
billion. The project will compete with
other transportation projects around the
country to secure a piece of the federal
transportation budget. Federal funding
will cover about half of the project’s
initial costs, with the other half coming
from state and local governments.
In 2012, voters agreed to a local sales
tax of .05 percent to help pay for the
light rail.
However, Hauser said GoTriangle’s
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project that residents approved in 2012.
What was first pitched as a 34-minute ride from Chapel Hill to Durham
turned into a more than 40-minute ride
after several route changes.
The Durham-Orange Light Rail
was initially going to connect to a Wake
County rail system built in tandem.
Wake County recently backed out of
the project, as officials chose to improve
and expand their bus and diesel rapid
rail systems instead.
Hauser and Cabanes think Durham
and Orange Counties should follow suit.
“Bus Rapid Transit is taking all the
advantages of the Light Rail except
instead of using steel rails they are
using asphalt,” Cabanes said. “That’s
important becuase instead of requiring
a 50-foot wide path, bus lanes are just
12 feet wide. You can fit four bus lanes
in one light rail track. If you look at the
23,000 boardings they are projecting in
2035, that’ll be 622 passengers per hour
on the light rail. But if we use the bus
system, the same space can accommodate almost 900 passengers per hour.”
Erik Landfried, transit service planning supervisor for GoTriangle, pointed
out there is limited space for buses.
“When people say, ‘Why can’t we just
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do this with BRT,’ it’s
because you can’t throw
that many more buses at
this problem because we
can’t get them in or out,”
Landfried said.
A typical transit bus
can carry 110 people
with one operator, while
a light rail can carry 540
people with one operator. This translates into a
lower cost per passenger
operating cost.
Other residents have
concerns about the environmental consequences.
Under the National
Environmental Policy
Act, certain agencies
must file an EIS if a
project could have significant impact on the
The initial Meadowmont Lane route was
redrawn to avoid park
land in the corridor. The
preferred route will now
run through Woodmont
near Cabanes’ residence.
Cabanes said he is
worried about the impact the rail might have
on his property value.
Natalie Murdock,
public involvement
manager for GoTriangle,
Proposed map of Durham-Orange Light Rail
Alternative station
Planned station
Patterson Place
(two alternatives)
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Due to environmental hazards,
there are three routes proposed
for the New Hope Creek crossing.
The routes along 15-501 offer
fewer environmental consequences, but they may interfere with
LaSalle St.
Trent / Flowers
Ninth St.
Buchanan Blvd.
UNC Hospitals
Durham Station
South Square
Mason Farm Road
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Drive (two alternatives)
Meadowmont Lane
Dillard St.
Hamilton Road
Alston Ave. / NCCU
Leigh Village
Friday Center Drive
(three alternatives)
Source: GoTriangle
said she has spoken to real estate agents who
are excited about the light rail.
“You’re going to have faster travel times,
which will attract people from the universities
to developing areas outside the city centers,”
Murdock said.
However, not everyone sees this as a benefit.
There are three proposed routes from Hamilton
Road to Leigh Village through Friday Center Drive.
The Meadowmont route is no longer a viable
option due to land use conflicts. The most likely
route through this section is the Woodmont Lane
route (light blue), which runs along Highway 54.
“The route through Downing Creek is
now allowing for a new development of
$700,000 townhouses, which nobody in
Downing right now could afford,” Hauser
said. “All these communities were unsuspecting of the impacts it would have on them.”
McDonough said he hopes the public
Engineering difficulties that limited
station space caused the Alston Avenue
stop to move a quarter mile west of the
planned location. The new station is
farther from low-income neighborhoods.
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comment period will clear up misconceptions
about the project.
“I know it may seem like we’re not listening because we won’t be able to respond
to all comments right away,” he said. “But
everything is documented and comments of
substance will be addressed.”
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1 Tuesday
The Doug Largent Trio at
Looking Glass Cafe
7 p.m. to 9 p.m.
Looking Glass Cafe
601 W. Main St., Carrboro, N.C.
The Doug Largent Trio, consisting
of Doug Largent on organ, Brad
Maiani on guitar and Donovan
Cheatham on drums, plays vintage
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(919) 967-9398
3 Thursday
Pre-School Story Time
10:30 a.m. to 11 a.m.
Flyleaf Books
752 Martin Luther King Jr. Blvd., Chapel Hill,
Every Thursday, Flyleaf Books offers
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4 Friday
Golf Clinic with Karl
Starts at 6 p.m.
Hillandale Golf Course
1600 Hillandale Road, Durham, N.C.
Karl Kimball, director of golf at Hillandale Golf Course, will talk about
how to improve your golfing skills.
During the event, donations will
be accepted, and proceeds will go
to the Folds of Honor Foundation
and Patriot Golf Day, which honors
military service members.
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5 Saturday
Cookbook Signing: Frances
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12 p.m. to 2 p.m.
A Southern Season
University Mall, 201 S. Estes Drive, Chapel
Hill, N.C.
The author of three celebrated
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12 Saturday
North Carolina Jerk Fest
9 a.m. to 6:30 p.m.
CCB Plaza
E. Chapel Hill and Corcoran St., Durham, NC
Come out for this family event
featuring reggae music, a wing-eating contest, a domino tournament
and much more. Donations are
appreciated and go toward the
CaribSplash Youth Development
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13 Sunday
Ultimate Toss and Tailgate
12 p.m. to 4 p.m.
Durham Central Park, Inc.
501 Foster St., Durham, N.C.
Food trucks, music and Sunday
football will be available alongside
a charity cornhole tournament.
There will also be games, raffles
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13 Sunday
Schoolhouse of Wonder’s
Family Field Day
12:30 p.m. to 3:30 p.m.
West Point on the Eno
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in activities such as archery, seed
spitting, relay races and more. This
picnic-style event has some free
events and some ticketed events.
Tickets can be purchased online in
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Meade Skelton at Open
Eye Cafe
7:30 p.m. to 9:30 p.m.
Open Eye Cafe
101 S. Greensboro St., Carrboro, N.C.
Order a coffee and enjoy the
sounds of singer-songwriter Meade
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want to miss his unique sound.
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“Starting at the Finish
Line: The Coach Buehler
Story” Film Screening
7 p.m. to 8:30 p.m.
Durham County Main Library
300 N. Roxboro St., Durham, N.C.
Coach Al Buehler is famous for
impacting the lives of athletes such
as Jackie Joyner-Kersee and Mike
Krzyzewski. This film tells the story
of his 60-year-long career and his
efforts toward improving women’s
athletics and international sport
and race relations.
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26 Saturday
Pedal for Peds
8 a.m. to 12 p.m.
UNC’s Wellness Center
350 Stonecroft Lane, Cary, N.C.
There will be a stationary bike marathon to raise money to benefit the
Division of Pediatric Hematology
Oncology. This annual event is in its
sixth year, and this year will feature
a silent auction and a road bike
ride through the American Tobacco
26 Saturday
Octoberfest Street Party
4 p.m. to 11 p.m.
Bull City Burger and Brewery
107 E. Parrish St. Suite 105, Durham, N.C.
For the fifth year there will be music
and activities along the street with
beer, brats and burgers. Featuring
musical guests Bill West, The Lids
and Daddy’s Alright. Proceeds will
go toward supporting Habitat of
Humanity Durham.
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30 Wednesday
Kidz Voices
10:30 a.m. to 11:15 p.m.
Kidzu Children’s Museum
201 S. Estes Drive, Chapel Hill, N.C.
Children will sing, dance and make
their own instruments at this music
education camp. Children will construct instruments out of recycled
materials that they can take home
with them. Registration is $5 for the
first kid and $3 for each additional
Fridays on the Front
June 5- October 23
Fridays from 5 p.m. to 8 p.m.
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211 Pittsboro St., Chapel Hill
Join the fun every Friday on
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Wine and Design Chapel Hill offers you
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Circle City offers a wide selection of rare,
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The store can also offer book owners
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Fullsteam Brewery
Location: 726 Rigsbee Avenue, Durham
Price: $
Age range: All welcome until 9 p.m., 21 and up after
With a laid-back atmosphere and a
large variety on tap, Fullsteam Brewery
is one of the defining points in the constellation of cool eats and drinks in the
garden district of downtown Durham.
If you’re still skeptical about
Durham’s ability to provide for a
relaxed afternoon or evening out, don’t
be — Motorco, Cocoa Cinnamon, and
Fullsteam are scattered around the park
and farmers’ market, providing the
perfect balance of quiet and hip scenes
for gathering.
Fullsteam’s tagline is “plow-to-pint
beer from the beautiful South,” which,
while not that unique of a concept in
the area, is an accurate description of a
warm yet proudly independent brewery
with a mission to define Southern beer.
I strongly recommend taking advantage of the refurbished warehouse vibe
for a late summer or early fall evening.
The doors are thrown open to a huge
dining hall-like arrangement of long
tables, and the outdoor picnic tables
are either encircled by twinkly lights,
or they overlook the streets for prime
None of this, however, is exceptionally conducive to colder weather — but
the location is versatile.
While the crowd is overwhelmingly
hip post-grads, a pool table and arcade
games make it possible for children to
tag along, and the outdoor area provides
for an assortment of canine companions.
There are post-work patrons
hunched over their work-related materials with a cold pint, and there are tables
claimed entirely by mob-sized young
gatherings. I’ve even seen a man — with
an infant strapped to his chest — enjoying a cold brew with friends.
It’s casual afternoon drinking at its
But be warned: You are at risk to be
swarmed by group runners in neon attire, sweating profusely, at any moment.
It’s not the place to go for an intimate
Chill Factor
Fullsteam is both limited and freed
by its degree of “chill.”
It attracts food trucks, which are
almost always parked directly out front
for a convenient dinner or snack. A
stage (largely ignored unless supporting
a band) makes for great easy listening
live music. The large industrial space is
also ideal for spirited trivia nights and
yoga classes.
All this contributes to a great community feel despite the fact you’re surrounded, overwhelmingly, by strangers.
If you like to cozy up to a physical
bar, you’re a little out of luck; the bar
itself is usually suffocated by people
ordering beers, growlers or flights. It’s a
little dark and muggy compared to the
other bars in the area.
If you’re looking to avoid children
and dogs while drinking, you’re also out
of luck. Fullsteam allows children until
9 p.m. because they say it shows drinking in a responsible and positive light.
Children are welcome at the establishment as long as they are well-behaved and I found it didn’t distract
from my experience. If anything, it
contributes to the community hangout
One may make the easy misconception that because it is a local brewery,
the ratio of hipsters to casual drinkers
might be skewed. I can assure you this
is not the case, and there is a comfortable balance between knowledgeable
and casual drinkers, both young and
If you’ve never had Fullsteam beer
before, I highly recommend getting
a flight, which will run you $12 and
meant to be shared. The beers are
locally brewed, served all over North
I’m an adventurous drinker and
will try anything, which made for an
exciting tasting experience. Never
Photo by Kelly Archer
At Fullsteam, the whole family is welcome. Children are allowed until 9 p.m.
assume your tastes in beer until you try
Because it is a brewery and tavern,
you have the rare ability to sample
a variety of beer types while having
experts at your disposal to explain beer
types and the brewing process, so take
advantage of this.
I started my flight with the Basil
Summer Farmhouse ale, a crisp beer
that is a must in summer months. The
smoked Hogwash is the best way to get
a taste of N.C. with its combination
of bacon and chocolate notes — but
certainly don’t order a pint of this unless
you’re confident in your appreciation of
dark beers.
The Carver sweet potato lager also
supports the North Carolina authenticity, as does the Fearrington Southern
lager with a clever nod to the local farm.
The tavern also serves wine, cider,
soda and iced coffee. However, there is
no liquor served at this establishment.
There aren’t many locations in the
area where you can get the full brewery-tavern experience. This makes
Fullsteam a somewhat coveted desti-
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nation. It also puts a lot of pressure on
the location to make it worth the drive
when many of the beers are available on
tap at other restaurants.
While I think the beer quality and
happy-go-lucky crowd manages to make
it worth the trip, the industrial space
layout is not a unique concept anymore.
It seems to limit the gatherings to a
casual late afternoon or early evening
The weather, timing and general
feel of the entire group has to be very
intentional as well, making Fullsteam a
time- and evening-consuming event.
Additionally, you are limited,
obviously, to beer. If you only stomach
light beers on the occasional weekend,
this might not be the spot for you. Not
taking advantage of the varieties of beer
feels almost insulting to a brewery that
takes so much pride in its creations.
Overall, Fullsteam offers a wide
variety of exotic-sounding, but locally-brewed beers served by a knowledgable staff.
Be sure to check out the schedule
of events on Fullsteam’s website. The
tavern hosts a running club, dog walk,
comedy shows, trivia, yoga classes and
local bands.
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“There was a time when I needed
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Coverage, property of others in your
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You also want to be protected in
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Finally, ask about workers compensation. This is coverage that will
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Background checks are important
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I had the opportunity this summer
to leave town for a month on what
was an awesome adventure. I went
across the country in a 15-passenger
bus with 10 teenagers (ages 14-16).
Eleven days were spent backpacking.
The other 18 or 19 days were spent
driving, mountain biking, mountain
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camp in New Mexico called Philmont (hence the backpacking). But we
packed a whole lot more into it. Yes
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in one piece. And a good time was
had by all.
In all honesty – the trip went by
fast. But it took a lot of time and
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to plan the rest of the itinerary. We
(OK – I) needed time to get in shape
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practice to be gone that long. The
point is, we couldn’t put this all
together in a month or two. It took
a concerted effort over time. Even
then we couldn’t predict everything.
There were the events beyond our
control: the weather (rain, sleet, hail
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mix well), and injuries/illnesses. We
had to deal with the dynamics of the
group as they traveled together.
A lot of what I wrote above applies
to retirement planning too. It takes
time. A year may be enough for a
month-long trip, but probably not for
a 30 year retirement. The boys could
raise enough money in year – but
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you need to prepare for unexpected
bumps in the road that may slow you
down. We were lucky. The other adviser with us has done trips like this
many times – and so we didn’t have
to start from scratch. I have no doubt
it saved us money and stopped us
from making a bunch of mistakes.
You don’t need to plan retirement
from scratch either. While you may
not have done it before, there are
advisers out there like me who help
folks figure out their plan and how to
get on the path to their goals. They
know what the common bumps are
and how to plan for them. But they
aren’t miracle workers and can’t
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take you time to make it happen. But
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the unexpected can lead to one heck
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It’s scary and it’s obvious that this
is a big issue that will concern every
parent. I think the most alarming statistics are the amount of drinking and
driving. What can parents do?
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to the Centers
for Disease
Control, although drinking by persons
under the age
of 21 is illegal,
people aged
12 to 20 years
drink 11% of all alcohol consumed
in the United States. More than 90%
of this alcohol is consumed in the
form of binge drinks. On average,
underage drinkers consume more
drinks per drinking occasion than
adult drinkers. The 2013 Youth Risk
Behavior Survey found that among
high school students, during the past
30 days, 35% drank some amount of
alcohol, 21% binge drank, 10% drove
after drinking alcohol, 22% rode
with a driver who had been drinking
The first and obvious answer is
to pay attention to your teen and do
your best to communicate. If you are
having trouble talking, maybe that is
a place to start. If your attempts to
have a conversation aren’t working,
that in itself can be a red flag that
something is up. A therapist can
help troubleshoot the problem and
restore some degree of trust and open
If you do find out that your teen
has been drinking, the first rule is
keep your cool. Reacting with anger
will most likely get in the way of
having a productive conversation.
It’s important talk with your teen
and try to find out what is going
on. Is this early experimentation or
is it a regular habit? Are they driving or riding with drivers who are
drinking? It can be a real challenge
to stay rational if you find out that
your child is taking part in seriously
dangerous activities.
Many parents react by getting
angry, shaming the teen, and often
blaming themselves or their spouse.
This is understandable, however, it
risks further alienation, which can
lead to more acting out and rebellion.
A more skillful reaction is to seek to
find ways of helping the teen make
better decisions. Teens do need limits
and consequences, but limits and
consequences are often ineffective or
counter productive if the teen does
not have a positive connection to the
There are many reasons teens
drink. Obviously we live in a culture
in which they see alcohol consumption as a sign of adulthood. Communication is always important but
I think the biggest issue, which can
be addressed is the amount of stress
teens today feel. Kids who are doing
well in school and activities are
typically under enormous pressure to
perform. And kids who aren’t doing
well are under just as much pressure
– most of it negative. Many teens
have issues with self-confidence
and find drinking is a way to loosen
up and feel more relaxed in social
A preventive strategy for dealing
with alcohol abuse is, first, to have
a good sense of your teen’s level of
stress and how well they are developing coping skills. Life is going to
be full of stress. What we all want is
for our teens to grow up into adults
who can handle what life brings. If
you see your teen is not doing well,
maybe it’s time to get some help
from a skilled therapist. Some signs
of distress include outbursts of anger,
isolation, unwillingness to talk about
what is bothering them, depression,
dark moods, video game addictions,
binge eating, and social media addictions. While some of these may
seem “normal” they are all signs of
underlying distress that can lead to
run away problems including alcohol
and drug abuse.
In the next article I’ll discuss teens
and drug use. n
David Shanks, LCSW is a therapist in
Carrboro/Chapel Hill
919 200 2176
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