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North Central College
CHRONICLE
January 27, 1989
Naperville, Illinois
Vol. 110, No. 7
Communication important to us all at NCC
By MARY WEBER
Chronicle Reporter
North Central College students
and faculty learned a lot about
themselves and others on January
14.
They heard a very selfconfident Ms. Jayne Lybrand
speak about communication in
her soft southern drawl.
'Tin just a good 'ole girl from
Texas," she tells her audience,
"and basically," she adds with a
dazzling smile, "I'm a ham."
Lybrand, who holds a Bachelor
of Fine Arts and a Master of Arts
in Teaching in Speech Communication from Texas Christian
University, spoke at the student
leadership conference on topics
ranging from how to be successful and to be noticed at a job
interview to how to tell when someone is lying and how to get
over a broken heart.
"Communication is not all verbal," Lybrand says, "sometimes
nonverbal messages are more important than verbal ones. If there
is a disagreement between the
two, always believe the nonverbal one, because," she explains,
"the body doesn't lie until you
teach it to. Also pay attention to
the eyes, they are the witness to
the soul."
"You have to be careful of the
corner-eye peek. That is when someone doesn't look directly at
you but just peeks every once in
a while towards you. One or two
corner-eye peaks are okay, but
the third one usually means
something," she says.
"If you are in a social situation
and the third corner eye-peek occurs, that person will usually approach you and say 'Don't I know
you from somewhere?* or
something similar. That is acceptable. But if you are alone with
someone, in an office or a parking lot, and the third corner-eye
peek occurs, you are in danger,"
she says.
"Another thing that is important in a social situation is names.
Names are crucial. Remember
names and faces and put them
together. When you are talking to
someone you just met, use their
name at least five times and pay
special attention to the spelling
and pronunciation. This is important in being successful."
Some other advice she gives
about being success are: "Pay at-
tention to others, we listen to people who give us attention. Never
put anything on paper that you
can't live with for the rest of your
life. Learn how to deal with incompetent people. Look for
wisdom in all the wrong places.
Live for yourself. Put blinders
on, don't listen to what others tell
you, do only what you know you
are good at. Learn to enjoy your
own company because the more
you like yourself, the more you
can put up with others. Know
your purpose in life. Don't be like
everybody else."
Lybrand gave new life to an old
saying, "It's not who you know,
but who wants to know you that
counts."
This is especially a key point
when one is in the job market, according to Lybrand.
When looking for a job, you
need to have a commercial for
yourself. Sell yourself to others.
Half of getting a job is being
remembered past a stack of
resumes of those interviewed.
"When being interviewed,
listen carefully, the more you
listen, the more people hear.
Some of the best communication
you'll have in your life is when
Compact New board hears cases
Chronicle
By DAWN BROOKS
Commuters
The Commuter Information
Center has some goodies
available—jumper
cables.
They're working on getting a lock
de-icer. Both are intended for
commuter use, and under certain
rules, but hey, there was a time
when jumper cables weren't
available.
The Commuter Center is also
giving out coupons for a an upcoming movie on February 21,
Blue Moon Cafe on January 27
and the Valentine Dance on
February 14.
American Marketing
Association
Sunday, Jan. 29, Randy Pros
from Pros Corporate will be the
guest speaker in Fireside Lounge
at 6 p.m.
A Gospel
Extravaganza
The Minority Student Associa
tion presents a concert featuring
The NIU Black Choir, the Mt
Olive Gospel Ensemble and the
St. Mark's United Methodist In
spirational Choir on Friday, Feb
3 at 7:30 p.m. at the Community
United Methodist Church
Tickets available at the Harok
and Eva White Activities Center
No reserved seating.
Chronicle Reporter
North Central College now has
its own form of "L.A. Law" on
campus. A group often students
will sit around the long oak table
to hear student disciplinary cases.
"Here Comes the Judge" was
the bold inscription on the letters
of congratulations to the ten new
members of the Residence
Review Board.
The ten recipients and new
members of the board are, Donna Brazas, '90, Mary Baer, '91,
Randal Cobbs, '91, Joan Dansby,
'91, Keri Dodd, '91, Korey
Haun, '91, Sharon O'Neil, '91,
Theresa Phillips, '91, Mary
Weber, '91 and Roger Werries,
'91.
The addition of the Residence
Review Board brings a new level
to North Central's judicial procedures. The board will hear any
cases which a student feels he or
she has been treated unfairly or
believes there has been an inconsistency in the stated process.
Jerryl Briggs, Fort Hill hall
director and judicial advisor of
the board said, "We know that
this is something new and there
will probably be an adjustment
period."
As board members, students
accept the responsibility of not
releasing any information about
individual cases to outsiders.
Briggs noted members must make
a verbal contract not to divulge
the confidential information.
"Confidentiality is a very important aspect of this job," said
Briggs. It will determine the success or failure of the board."
Members must also steer free
of disciplinary
problems
themselves. Anyone who violates
either rule will be removed from
the board immediately.
In case where members have
any personal interest with the student who will come before the
board, members have the responsibility to the board not to hear
that case.
The ten members have completed one orientation session and .
have scheduled more until they
are comfortable with conducting
hearings. Briggs is hoping the
board will be ready in the next
two or thre weeks. In these sessions,- members will learn the
procedures and terminology used
for disciplinary cases.
In every case there will be
seven student members, two hall
directors and a student chairperson. The chairperson has yet to
be elected.
The seven student members
will vote on the case after each
hearing. Abstentions are not
allowed. Briggs said the
Residence Life Office chose
seven students to prevent the
possibility of ever receiving a tie
vote.
"This is something the students
have been asking for, so we'll
definitely appreciate their support," said Briggs.
you remain silent. Make them interested in you. Make them want
to be around you more. And
always have an appointment to be
somewhere else after your interview, preferably with their competitors so they realize that if they
want you to work for them, they
had better act right away.
"Don't go through the regular
channels of getting a job. Visit a
company you might be interested
in working for. Be seen. Let them
know who you are. If you know
the president of a company eats
at a certain restaraunt every day,
you can eat there to. After he sees
you there a few times, you can
strike up a casual conversation.
"Talk with people who all
ready work for the company.
Who better to tell you what working there is really like.
"Also, grow up with your
vocabulary. If a young man fresh
out of college walks into a bank,
sees the state of the art equipment
and says, 'Wow! What an
awesome computer,' it won't impress the bank officials very
much.
"Don't be afraid to fail either.
Failure is just a dress rehersal for
success.
"Bet on yourself, you're the
best product you h a v e . "
Lybrand not only talked about
successful communication in the
professional world, but also in
personal life.
One thing a lot of people would
like to do is be able to tell when
someone is lying to them.
There are certaing indications
of a liar says Lybrand. "You
have to find out when people are
deceiving you. These are some
things to look for.
If a person has their body or
their feet aimed toward the door,
chances are they're lying. You
can tell by the inflection and
speed of their voice. People tend
to speed up when they are lying.
People also tend to look to the
right side of the room, swallow
noticeably, be verbally redundant, have a flushed face and
sweaty palms, and pause before
or after a lie. These may not be
accurate in all cases, but they
usually are.'*
Lybrand also gave the remedy
for a broken heart. "When a relationship has fallen apart, just take
a day off, dress all in black, don't
fix your hair and look like you're
in mourning. People will take
notice. You can also assemble a
mourning squad that will listen
sympathetically to your situation.
Also have a fit. Just go
somewhere and scream and moan
for a while, depending upon how
much the person meant to you.
After all of this is done, get on
with your life!"
Life is, according to Lybrand,
something that is only lived once
and it should be lived to the
fullest.
Conference held
By Mary Weber
Chronicle Reporter
North Central
College
presented a day-long student
leadership conference with the
theme, "Touch the Future:
Leadership into the 1990's," on
January 14. The conference
was attended by over 80 people
according to Judy Thorpe, assistant director of the activities
center. "Not only did residents
attend the conference, but some
i commuters did too,'' Thorpe
said, "It was nice to see some
(new faces. I think we reached
I some freshmen."
I The day-long conference ofIfered such seminars as
"Marketing Your Leadership
Skills," "Women in Leadership," "Assertiveness-Effective
Communication," "The Skills of
a Student Leader,'' l 'Time
Management," "Cutting Costs:
Budget Management,'' ''Promoting Your Activities and Your
iOrganization,'' "Meeting the
iNeeds of the Minority Student,"
I "Recruiting Organization/Club
Members: Team Building," and
"The Role of the Student
Leader" to the participants.
Chuck Linneman, '90, who
presented the seminar on
recruiting members, said, "I was
very glad to be able to teach a
seminar." He went on to add,
"Besides being a good experience
for the presentors, I think the conference benefited the growth of
the individuals beyond the scope
of their campus activities and
campus life."
"The conference was informative and what I learned will be
helpful to me in the futrue," said
'Julie Jacque, '91.
One of the highlights of the
conference
was
the
"Internationally- known Communications Specialist, Humorist
and Motivator," Ms. Jayne
.Lybrand.
Ms. Lybrand spoke about verbal and nonverbal communication
and how it affects humans in
every aspect of life.
Thorpe said students raved
about "Jayne," "They just loved
her."
Pam Salik, '91, said, "I think
the motivational speakers they
have at these conferences are
great. These conferences bring
everybody together as a team."
Overall, Thorpe feels the conference was a sucess. "It gives
students ideas for the future, a lot
of suggestions were made about
how to improve things at NCC."
"It will definitely become an
annual thing,'' said Thorpe.