Temperament Booklet PDF

From the works of
Hippocrates – Father of Medicine
Earl R. Curry – Minister of the Gospel
Fred & Florence Littauer – Family Ministry
Dr. Tim Lahaye – Author – Minister - Counselor
House of the Lord
Kirtland, Ohio
When writing under inspiration in the House of the Lord,
Brother E.R. Curry emphasized the importance of learning
about our temperaments for a better utilization of them in the
redemption of Zion. He wrote:
“Inasmuch as your PERSONALITIES vary widely, making
each personality STRONG in some aspects of his life and
WEAK in others…Consequently, there is this imperative, that
you shall set out on a journey of understanding...
In this lies much of the hope and the possibility of the fuller
achievement of Zion.”
Complied by Jan Harrington
For the Women’s Retreat
September 16-18, 2005
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Question 5 - Characteristic No. 4:
There will be an endowment resulting from His
servants and His people, under divine guidance,
finding the places where they may best work.
The Importance of
Personality Utilization
In this there is wisdom. In this lie fine
possibilities
of
greater
individual
achievement. In this greater resources of
personality and individual power shall be
opened up. In this lies much of the hope and
the possibility of the fuller achievement of
Zion. In this, as well, lies much of the working
out of the last great movement of prophetic
warning ere the end shall come. (p. 17)
in Zionic Endeavors
"The Endowment" by E. R. Curry
Question 2: - In a general sort of way,
how may we prepare ourselves for the time of
the Endow-ment?
All these will richly reward any who try. There
are others, some of the greater and some of
lesser moment, that you also need to know.
Inasmuch as your PERSONALITIES vary
widely, making each personality STRONG in
some aspects of his life and WEAK in others,
it therefore is wisdom that each striving
minister shall build up a list of qualities such
as apply to all, but particularly to him.
Consequently, there is this imperative, that
you shall set out on a journey of
understanding. (p. 5)
Outstanding achievements in the affairs of
men are made possible, most of all, only as
human personality and resources are
organized. (ibid)
Now the great works, the high goals, the
supremely worthwhile objectives of the
Almighty Father must also be organized if
they are to be realized, but in a far finer,
nobler, selfless manner. They must be
organized more intelligently, with a much
better discernment and evaluation of
personality resources and potential abilities
of all who will co-labor with God to do great
things. Manifestly all this is not the work of a
moment.
Question 3: - Inasmuch as the church on
earth needs to widely share in the Endowment;
and, since the general level of Spiritual life
inevitably affects even the strongest and the least
of Thy spiritual servants; and because in unity
there is strength - how may the church, too,
advance in these ways?
How then may this endowment of inspired
placement of human personality be worked out?
Under the providence of the Almighty, men
who see the realized possibilities of this kind
of endowment. men who are coming
increasingly closer to the great source of
glowing, radiant, spiritual light, men whose
gifts of personality either trained or potential,
make it possible for them to serve in these
ways - this kind of men must be brought to
the fore. There must be pioneers. (p. 18)
Notwithstanding the boundless power of your
great Creator, He will not, in the very nature
of His personality, ever compel or force you
to choose the higher ways of the Spirit. (p. 6)
Question 5 - Characteristic No. 3:
There shall be an endowment of special light on
difficult problems and projects.
How full
that the
majesty,
respects
(p. 16)
As you thus outline what is needed, even
difficult problems and projects will be found
solvable and possible. Moreover, as you
thus outline in detail, the gifts of intelligence,
discernment and wisdom will suggest the
characteristics of personality, the qualities of
mind and spirit, as well as the training and
skills which each detailed part of each project
will need. (p. 19)
of gratitude should be your hearts,
Lord of Hosts, notwithstanding His
His exaltation, His power, thus
your personality and individuality.
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Ministry, local and otherwise, can be trained
as pioneers, as counselors, as guides and as
exemplars to push forward toward this
endowment of inspired placement of human
personality in the many projects which, added
together, shall mean eventually the total
establishment of the Kingdom. (ibid)
Question 9: - Are there any other ways
besides the arising of a generation of deeply
spiritual men, who by their spirituality, their
demonstration of the God-blessed power of
increasingly spiritual men, and their exaltation
of the prophecy of things to come in the day of
endowment - are there other ways that ministers
and members, men and women, boys and girls,
can be aroused to a compelling desire to move
toward this day of endowment?
Question 6: - What shall Thy servants be,
do, and say who are endowed?
This means, in turn, that whatever field of
endeavor shall be given to each, each will
know what he ought to do, how he ought to
try to do it, and how means or personality, or
both, may be organized to do it. Therefore
neither the work of Zionic achievement nor
witnessing evangelism will languish. (p. 33)
In part, mighty prayer is prayer with the
utmost of your personality in it. It is prayer
about the issues of the moment, about high
purpose and achievement of great ideals.
(p.37)
This in turn means that the City of God,
sacred communities of Zion, will steadily and
even rapidly arise, for the processes, and
wisdom and unity and resources of
personality will all be deeply, deeply
stimulated, because God shall now be
working in great power. Before the eyes of
all the world shall there be demonstrated that
only with Him can there be wholeness, great
goodness,
nobility
of
purpose,
and
achievement, holiness of life, and resulting
peace and highest of Christian brotherhood.
(Ibid)
Lord, grant me
the Serenity
to accept the things
I cannot change;
The Courage
to change the things
I can;
And the Wisdom
to know
the difference.
Question 8: - Shall this endowment be
only for Thy servants of the Melchisedec
priesthood, or shall it spread out to Aaronic
priesthood and to good men and women, boys
and girls of the body of Christ?
The force and influence of this day of
endowment must inevitably spread out. Just
as no one can come under the influence of a
great personality without being somewhat
made over by that influence, even much more
shall all who come within the circle of
association of these spiritually radiant men of
the endowment be transformed by the
spiritual power, the glorious experiences, the
Heavenly wisdom, the keen vision, the
marvelous testimonies, the Christ-inspired
grasp of issues, and all else that has come to
these highly blessed servants of the Lord. (p.
35)
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Taught by the Greek Physician
HIPPOCRATES
Known as the Father of Medicine
(470-390 B. C.)
Sanguine-Popular: Extrovert
mouth always moving, eyes sparkling, always agitated, always
wanting to get into something, wants to make everything fun,
never grow up
Choleric-Powerful: Extrovert
knows how to take charge from the beginning, controlling,
dynamic personality
Phlegmatic-Peaceful: Introvert
not much enthusiasm or energy, content to let others do it, very
capable under pressure to dot it; peacemaker, low key
everything
Melancholy-Perfect: Introvert
deep thinker, analyzes everything n life perfectionist, easily
depressed
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taken aback for a second. “That true,” I
thought. They come here innocent and
become what this life deals out in
conjunction with their temperaments, and
their ability to cope with it all. My
Patriarchal Blessing tells me that life is 10%
of what I make it, and 90% of how I take it.
We respond to life according to how we see
it through our temperaments.
Do You Know How You
Are Designed?
Sanguine – a playful otter
Phlegmatic--peaceful golden retriever
Melancholy – a workaholic beaver
Choleric – a take-charge lion
I think back to our daughter Debbie‟s birth.
Premature by two months (2.5 lbs.), the
pediatrician came to my bedside and said,
“She‟ll survive. She‟s a fighter.” He could
see her Sanguine/Choleric temperament
when she was only twelve hours old. And
he was right; she‟s a warrior.
One of the gurus in knowledge of the
Temperaments, Gary Smalley, illustrates the
human temperaments using animals.
Four animals set out to build a dam--an
otter, a golden retriever, a beaver, and a lion.
The otter swam around in the pond and had
such a wonderful time playing that he forgot
why they were there. The beaver got angry
at the otter for being so lazy and playing all
the time while he was so busy cutting down
the trees. The lion took charge roaring that
he knew just how to solve their problems,
while the golden retriever busied himself
trying to keep the peace.
Love Can Make The Difference
Regardless of what Temperament we‟ve
been dealt by nature, love can make the
difference. Part of our personality is learned
patterns. Choleric temperaments have a hard
time saying, “I‟m sorry” and “I love you,”
but if properly guided, can change. Children
and animals can be taught to be loving, or
mean.
These are the four temperaments--the four
major differences in people. There are two
extroverts (Sanguine and Choleric), and two
introverts (Melancholy and Phlegmatic).
And there are 12 different combinations. No
one is exactly the same. See page 46 for
“You Are As Unique As Your Creator.”
I watched a TV interview with Charles
Manson, the mass murderer in prison for
life, as he reflected on his childhood. He
recalled an incident when he had been
wronged (and I agreed with him), but when
he went to his father for comfort, his dad
rebuked him. He was told to stop whining
and take his licks like a man. He wasn‟t a
man, he was a little child with probably a
Choleric father, or one who had been hurt
and hardened himself. I thought, "It‟s no
wonder he set out to hurt others. This man
has received no love in his life." And if
Charles was born with a Melancholy
temperament, the hurt was intensified and
internalized to explode later.
Animal lovers know this intelligent designing of the soul‟s personality is also evident
in the animals—such as the playful Shi Tzu
vs. the fighting Pit Bull.
One day I was grooming myself in the
mirror when the Holy Ghost said, “Your
children are a reflection of you. I hope you
will be pleased with your image.” I was
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“She didn‟t really have an angry side…”
“It‟s like she couldn‟t take it anymore…”
This week a story appeared in the Kansas
City Star* of a teenage girl from Overland
Park.
The title grabbed my attention,
“Murder charge doesn‟t fit the friend they
know,” and “My character doesn‟t fit my
nationality and its culture.”
I knew
immediately where this was going, and
when I read it, my thoughts were confirmed.
Had these poor souls known of the
Temperament Theory, and believed it, they
would have recognized the danger signals;
and with applying the principles to selfcorrect, this tragedy would have been
prevented. *September 7, 2005
And then the Melancholy internalizing of
the pressure exploded, and she became a
murderer.
How many times we have heard about some
tragedy in the news, and people say, “I don‟t
know what happened; he was such a nice
guy.” It‟s not that hard to understand if you
know the Temperaments. “He” or “she”
was simply a Melancholy who internalized it
all, then a straw broke it, and their world
came crashing down.
Understanding the Temperaments can
help us cope with the stress of everyday
living. And with the love of God working in
us, we can lovingly, unconditionally, accept
and help one another.
The story is simple—a very brilliant
Melancholy daughter, an overachiever who
was never satisfied with her accomplishments, had added to her psychological
weight, a complaining Choleric mother who
constantly pushed her to do more. The
Melancholy daughter internalized it all, and
one day exploded. She stabbed her mother
to death in one of their battles. Both lost,
plus all those around them. And they
wonder why this happened.
When I was a young mother, the Still Small
Voice told me that if I gave my children
some form of love every day —whether it
was a “hug,” or a kind word, a pat on the
back—just some form of encouragement—
that my children would grow straight and
strong. And I wonder, “Have I hugged my
kids today?”
Statements that gave the clues were:
She could, “blink an eye and get an A.”
“She continually amazed them by excelling
in everything she tried.”
She “struggled with the expectations of her
parents.”
“I‟ve never been secure or comfortable with
who I am, and this summer it‟s finally really
starting to hit me.”
“I‟ve wasted my summer trying to fix
everything that‟s wrong with me, my
character, instead of just accepting that
people are okay with me not being
perfect…”
“On Mother‟s Day 2004 she wrote: „I‟m
your diary of blank pages onto which you
engrave your rage and tears and heart and
soul.‟”
“It‟s like she was living a double life…she
had a lot of pressures.”
"He that hath no rule over
his own spirit is like a city
that is broken down, and
without walls.” Pro. 25:28
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Desire: to have fun
Is Valuable In Work: for colorful
creativity, optimism, light touch,
cheering up others, entertaining
Emotional Needs: attention, affection,
approval, acceptance
Could Improve If: he got organized,
didn’t talk so much and learned to tell
time
Key Strengths: can talk about anything
at any time, at any place, with or without
information, has a bubbling personality,
optimism, sense of humor, storytelling
ability, likes people
Tends to Marry: Perfects who are
sensitive and serious, but Populars
quickly tire of having to cheer them up
all the time, and of being made to feel
inadequate and stupid
Key Weaknesses: disorganized, can’t
remember details or names, exaggerates,
not serious about anything, trusts others
to do the work, too gullible and naive
Reaction to Stress: leave the scene, go
shopping, find a fun group, create
excuses, blame others
Gets Depressed When: life is no fun and
no one seem to love him
Recognized By: constant talking, loud
volume, bright eyes, moving hands,
colorful expressions, enthusiasm, ability
to mix easily
Is Afraid Of: being unpopular or bored,
having to live by the clock or keep a
record of money spent
Like People Who: listen and laugh,
praise and approve
Dislikes People Who: criticize, don’t
respond to his humor, don’t think he is
cute
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Desire: to have control
Is Valuable In Work: because he
accomplish more than anyone else in a
shorter time and is usually right, but may
stir up trouble
Emotional Needs: sense of obedience,
appreciation for accomplishments, credit
for ability
Could Improve If: he allowed others to
make decisions, delegated authority,
became more patient, didn’t expect
everyone to produce as he does
Key Strengths: ability to take charge of
anything instantly, make quick, correct
judgment
Key Weaknesses: too bossy, domineering, autocratic, insensitive, impatient,
unwilling to delegate or give credit to
others
As A Leader He: has a natural feel for
being in charge, a quick sense of what
will work and a sincere belief in his
ability to achieve, but may overwhelm
less aggressive people
Gets Depressed When: life is out of
control and people won’t do things his
way
Tends to Marry: Peacefuls who will
quietly obey and not buck his authority,
but who never accomplish enough or get
excited over his projects
Is Afraid Of: losing control of anything,
such as losing job, not being promoted,
becoming seriously ill, having rebellious
child or unsupportive mate
Reaction to Stress: tighten control,
work harder, exercise more, get rid of
offender
Like People Who: are supportive and
submissive, see things his way, cooperate
quickly and let them take credit
Recognized By: fast-moving approach,
quick grab for control, self-confidence,
restless and overpowering attitude
Dislikes People Who: are lazy and not
interested in working constantly, who
buck his authority, get independent or
aren’t loyal
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Emotional Needs: sense of stability,
speace, silence, sensitivity and support
Could Improve If: he didn’t take life
quite so seriously and didn’t insist others
be perfectionists became more patient,
didn’t expect everyone to produce as he
does
Key Strengths: ability to organize, set
long-range goals, have high standards
and ideals, analyze deeply
As A Leader He: organizes well, is
sensitive to peoples’ feelings, has deep
creativity, wants quality performance
Key Weaknesses: easily depressed, too
much time on preparation, to focused on
details, remembers negatives, suspicious
of others
Tends to Marry: Populars for their
personalities and social skills, but soon
tries to shut them up and get them on a
schedule, becoming depressed when they
don’t respond
Desire: to have it right
Gets Depressed When: life is out of
order, standards aren’t met and no one
seems to care
Reaction to Stress: withdraws, gets lost
in a book, becomes depressed, gives up,
recounts the problems
Is Afraid Of: no one understanding how
he really feels, making a mistake, having
to compromise standards
Recognized By: serous, sensitive nature,
well-mannered approach, self-deprecating comments, meticulous and wellgroomed looks (exceptions are hippytype intellectuals, musician, poets, who
feel attention to clothes and looks is
worldly and detracts from their inner
strengths)
Like People Who: are serious,
intellectual, deep, and will carry on a
sensible conversation
Is Valuable In Work: for sense of
details, love of analysis, follow-through,
high
standards
of
performance,
compassion for the hurting
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Desire: have no conflict, keep peace
Is Valuable In Work: because he
cooperates and is a calming influence,
keeps
peace,
mediates
between
contentious people, and objectively
solves problems
Emotional Needs: sense of respect,
feeling
of
worth,
understanding,
emotional support, harmony
Key
Strengths:
balance,
even
disposition, dry sense of humor, pleasing
personality
Could Improve If: he sets goals and
becomes self-motivated, he were willing
to do more and move faster than
expected, and could face his own
problems as well as he handles other
people’s
Key Weaknesses: lack of decisiveness,
enthusiasm and energy, but has no
obvious flaws, and has a hidden will of
iron.
As A Leader He: keeps calm, cool and
collected, doesn’t make impulsive
decisions, is well-liked and inoffensive,
won’t cause trouble, but doesn’t come up
with brilliant new ideas
Gets Depressed When: life is full of
conflict, he has to face a personal
confrontation, non one wants to help, the
buck stops with him.
Tends to Marry: Powerfuls because
they respect the Powerful’s strength and
decisiveness, but later the Peacefuls get
tired of being pushed around and looked
down upon
Is Afraid Of: having to deal with a major
personal problem, being left holding the
bag, making major changes
Like People Who: will make decisions
for him, will recognize his strengths, will
not ignore him
Reaction to Stress: hide from it, watch
TV, eat
Dislikes People Who: Are too pushy,
expect to much of him
Recognized By: calm approach, relaxed
posture, sitting or leaning when possible
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Notes
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The following pages are notes taken from a
seminar by Florence Littauer. The 4 tapes
were distributed by Firefighters For Christ,
P.O. Box 1190, Redondo Beach, CA 90278
All italics in brackets are notations by the
transcriber, not Mrs. Littauer’s comments
on the tape.
Hippocrates, the Greek philosopher
and physician, (460-370 B.C.) who was known as the
Father of Medicine,
divided people into four categories:
Sanguine, Choleric,
Melancholy, Phlegmatic
--We innately want to shape up the other
person so we can be happy. [Jesus said
to take the mote out of our own eye.]
--God does not hold us accountable for
shaping up our brethren. We are
responsible for ourselves “first”.
Choleric
Extrovert, Born Leader
knows how to take charge from the
beginning - controlling, dynamic
personality
--Let a man examine himself, for nowhere in the Bible does God tell us to
shape up the other person?
--Before the world was made, God chose
us. We are not insignificant. Each one of
us is unique with inherited traits and
talents. No one else is just like you. Each
one is a chosen special person to God.
They have a God-complex,
“Thus saith the Choleric!”
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Phlegmatic
Melancholy
Introvert, Easy Going
not much enthusiasm or energy;
content to let others do it; very
capable under pressure to do it;
peacemaker, low key everything
Introvert, Deep Thinker
analyzes everything in life; perfectionist,
easily depressed. Wants everything
orderly and organized. Make plans.
Most people tend to marry opposites, and
regret it thereafter.
[Because they don’t understand the
Temperaments. They are attracted to
someone who has strengths that they
would like to have: i.e. the quiet, moody
Melancholy is attracted to the bubbly,
happy Sanguine. They forget that person
has weaknesses also, then those
weaknesses become a source of constant
irritation.
Sanguine
Extrovert, Loves People
mouth always moving, eyes sparkling,
always agitated; always wanting to get
into something wants to make
everything fun, never grow up
When this is understood, the couple stops
trying to change each other, and each,
with the help of Christ, can develop into
their greatest potential, producing a
harmonious marriage, and a Christian
home.]
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Strengths of
The Temperaments
The purpose in understanding the
temperaments is not to get to know
about people to straighten them out, but
it is to analyze ourselves. As we do this,
we’ll find a pattern of nature in
ourselves, and will be able to understand
others. We will learn how to get along
better with them. We are not called to
straighten them out, but to accept them
as they are, and because they’re
different, doesn’t automatically make
them wrong.
Sanguine: Extrovert
Sanguines are the easiest to categorize
because they are the loudest.
You notice them in crowds because they
are always talking and their voice rings
above everybody else. They are always
running to grab people, hug people, get
related. They want to be out in front,
having a good time; they love people.
Objectives
Self Analysis:
1. Talker, Optimist they want to talk
over everything, are not too concerned
with what they get done as long as they
have fun talking about it
Why am I the way I am?
What are my strengths, so
that I can work to amplify
them?
What are my weaknesses, so
that through the power of the
Spirit, I will be able to
eliminate them?
Understanding others: to
learn that just because they’re
different doesn’t make them
wrong.
2. Optimistic: whatever thing comes up
in life, they see what will be fun about it,
and how they can have a good time doing
it.
3. They are bubbly, bright, and
outgoing— their aim in life is whatever
they are doing, to have fun at it—a
compulsion for fun.
4. Never have "too much" fun—some
people feel that a Sanguine’s fun complex
is just too much, but a Sanguine thinks
“too much is never enough.” They want
more fun, more games, more laughs.
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9.
Statistical memory is not very good.
They don’t like details like the
analytical Melancholy. Sanguines
don’t know what a fact is.
10. Hold on to the listener: Why?
Doesn’t want them to get away, lose
his audience before he gets to the
punch line. It will cause psychological
damage to the Sanguine.
[Sanguines don’t want to grow up and face the
serious business of getting things done. They
don’t like work.]
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5. Storytellers: They make every trivia
in life exciting—not necessarily
factual. They don’t repeat things in
the dull way they really were, but
will dress up the story to make it
interesting for others.
Emotional, demonstrative: hands
always going, jumping, moving
around, head nodding. If you tie their
hands, they would have to use their
head to make all of the expressions,
because they can’t talk without
movement.
12. Enthusiastic, cheerful
bubbling over: animated,
expressive,
good
on
stage. Sanguines are
always on stage, even
when they’re not. They
never have fun alone—
must talk to the dog or something.
6. Sanguines have the ability to look
helpless and others come to their
rescue.
Sanguines
marry
Melancholies who don’t think they
are “cute.”
[The danger to a Sanguine is
adultery. They go out and find
someone who thinks they are cute
and funny. Melancholies have a
tendency to “put down” the
Sanguine humor.]
13. Sanguines are wide-eyed and innocent
looking, attention-getters. Sanguines
are the extreme of the highs, and
Melancholies are the extreme of the
lows. Sanguines tell how “great” it is,
and Melancholies tell how “bad” it is.
7. People oriented: always have crowds
around, laughing, thinks it fun to
amuse people.
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8. Humor: They have a good sense of
humor and memory for the colorful
things of life. [They like flashy,
gaudy things. Sanguines buy red
cars.]
Sincere at heart: always wants to be
a child. Why? Because if you grow up,
you have to get down to business—get
serious and do something. Sanguines
avoid getting pulled together.
15. A Worker: There is not too much
good to be said for Sanguines as
workers. They volunteer a lot, but
never intended to do it. They volunteer
to get attention
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16. Creative: They are always thinking
up new activities for others to do to
make everything better.
a Sanguine remark should remember
that Sanguines are not “out to get
you,” because Sanguines don’t think
that deeply. They just said it off the top
of their head.
17. Appearance to others: Sanguines
are always in the year book as the
ones to most likely to succeed, but
don’t necessarily get very far even
though it looks as if they’re going to.
People think that if a Sanguine gets
pulled together, they will really
amount to something great. That’s
true, but rarely do they ever get
pulled together and amount to
anything.
21. Apologetic: They are very sorry when
they know they’ve said something to
hurt anyone. They apologize very
emphatically, are truly sorry, then
forget it in two minutes and do it
again.
A Classic Example
of a Sanguine
[This is possibly because they lack selfdiscipline. Only Christ can help them
become organized.]
18. Affect others: They are great on
inspiring other people to do things—
charming others into doing their
work. If they are really good, they
can convince others that it was their
own idea. [The character of Tom
Sawyer is a good example of a
Choleric/Sanguine.]
19. Friendly: Sanguines make friends
easily, love people, and thrive on
compliments. If you want to get
along with a sanguine, find
something good to say about them
every ten minutes. They have an
enormous ego. If you say enough
good things about them, you may get
them to do some work; without
encouragement and compliments,
they won’t do anything.
Whatever comes up, they say,
“Isn’t this fun?
Won’t we have a good time?”
20. Personality: exciting, envied by
others, don’t hold grudges. Why
doesn’t a Sanguine hold a grudge?
They can’t remember who it was that
said it. Melancholies who are hurt by
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5. Independent, self-sufficient, exude
confidence: Cholerics make you
believe they know what they’re
doing—can run anything, any group,
no matter whether they ever went there
before or not—can instantly take over.
Choleric: Extrovert
Optimist, Likes People
6. As workers: This is their strong area.
They see the whole picture, organize
everything, seek practical answers,
move quickly into action to get it done.
Extrovert similarities:
Sanguines want to have fun doing it.
Cholerics want to get it done—his
way—now!
7. They mediate menial work, keep the
big or tough jobs for themselves.
Why? Because they think no one else
can do as good a job as they can.
1. Attitude: I’m wonderful. I can do
everything just great, and if the rest
of the world would just shape up and
do it my way, we could be happy.
If a Choleric child has been
allowed to take control,
there are three options:
To get along with a Choleric—just
do everything he tells you to do,
when he tells you to do it, and you’ll
get along just fine. You may not
have a personality left after a few
years, but you’ll get along just fine.
1. Play the game: Pretend the child
isn’t in control, which teaches it that
it can get its way by throwing tantrums the rest of its life;
2. Born leaders: even from a baby—
they try to manipulate parents. A
choleric child throws a tantrum to get
his way IF he doesn’t get it from
asking nicely. Others then give in to
keep peace.
2. Stop playing the game:
Announce to the family that the child
will control it;
3. Take control: Announce to the
family that the child will not be
allowed to control the family, and
take loving, but firm steps to correct
the child’s attitude.
Learn to
discipline.
Must put things in order:
dynamic, compulsive need for
changing things that seem to be
wrong or out of order.
3. Opinionated: takes charge instantly,
strong willed and very decisive, Can
make decisions before the question is
totally asked—will have the answer
waiting for you.
4. Emotions: Emotionally undisturbed,
not easily discouraged
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The Melancholy says, “This is
terrible,” and goes into depression.
The Phlegmatic removes himself from
the activity because it looks too much
like work.
A Choleric charges forth and takes
care of the situation.
How the Four Temperaments
View A Problem
Sanguines:
will talk about it.
Melancholies:
will get depressed about it.
Phlegmatics:
will say: “Who cares anyway?”
Cholerics:
will be getting it done instantly.
If you say a certain job can’t be
done—Sanguines will say, “O,
good. We don’t want to get involved
in that [work] anyway.” Cholerics
will say, “I’ll show you” (And then
go do it.)
They stimulate activity
and thrive on opposition.
8. As a friend: Sanguines need friends
for an audience—Cholerics don’t
need friends because their goals are
on production—they don’t need
people like the Sanguine. They will
be glad to work for you, organize it,
straighten it out, lead your group.
Melancholy:
Introvert, Brilliant
9. They are usually right (which is hard
for others to accept) because they
don’t waste time on fluffy words like
the Sanguine. Half of what the
Sanguine says doesn’t amount to
anything, but Cholerics only make
statements if they know how it’s
going to turn out.
Melancholy’s and Phlegmatics are
introverts and born innately pessimistic.
When you understand this, it helps you to
deal with a person who constantly is
seeing the negative, and that they are not
trying to be negative. That is just the way
their viewpoint goes.
10. Excels In Emergencies
1. Melancholy’s have the greatest and
deepest strengths of all four
temperaments,
Sanguines say, “Oh, dear, what
should we do?”
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deep and thoughtful,
think everything through,
talented and creative—
genius prone.
Melancholy’s are in the top
group of people who have the
ability to be the geniuses of life.
5. Self-sacrificing: Melancholies will
give of themselves to help someone
else. Sanguines don’t know you need
help. Cholerics will only help if they
can see some good end come out of it.
Melancholies truly see the problems
of others, and are willing to sacrifice to
help them.
2. Do it right: Melancholies believe if
you are going to do it, do it right.
6. Conscientious, serious, purposeful-When they tackle something, it’s going
to be done right.
Sanguines want to have fun
doing it. Cholerics want to do
their way, now! Phlegmatics
don’t want to do it at all.
3.
Deep, analytical, thoughtful,
organized:
These
traits
are
recognized even when they are a
child.
4. Talents: Melancholy’s are artistic,
musical, philosophical, -poetic, and
appreciative of beauty. Only
Melancholy’s can become extremely
accomplished because it takes hard,
dedicated dull work, day after day.
Sanguines don’t want to put out the
effort, but Cholerics, if gifted, can do
it, if it can be done fast.
7. Workers: Melancholy’s are excellent
workers. They are very schedule
oriented, and perfectionists. Will work
at it until it is done right, regardless of
how long it takes. The Mel/Choleric is
too disciplined, and they know they are
always right.
8. Detail conscious: Melancholies want
everything orderly and organized—
alphabetically,
and
correctly.
Melancholies love research—ALONE.
People who want to have fun cause
them problems. Melancholies don’t
want people to get in their way as they
charge forward.
9. Sensitive: They sense others needs—
can always see others’ problems, and
they love problems. They find creative
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solutions by always analyzing how
to pull it together.
12. Marriage:
Melancholy/Cholerics marry Sanguines, then find they don’t like it.
They try to change them into
Melancholies.
Sanguines don’t care if there are
solutions; Cholerics want instant
solutions; Melancholies want the
right solution, creatively thought out,
and analyzed, and it doesn’t matter
when. They must finish what they
start, or they will get depressed.
Sanguines hardly ever finish
anything--getting the supplies and
talking about doing it is half of all
the fun.
We must understand
that we need to accept
the other temperaments.
10.Map and Chart-Makers:
Melancholies have to plan out
everything.
We waste time
trying to change one another;
only God can do that
effectively.
11. As friends: They make friends
cautiously—are content to stay in the
background, and avoid causing
attention. When a Sanguine walks
into a room, they want attention.
When a Melancholy walks into a
room, they don’t want anyone to
notice them. Why? Because it makes
them feel insecure. They think
people are looking at them and,
“Maybe my slip is showing,” etc. It
makes them want to leave.
The photo above speaks to the feelings
of a Choleric no-nonsense-mom with a
Sanguine/Choleric-into-trouble child. A
perfect solution—and while the photo is
staged, probably many a mother could
relate to this scene.
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Carnal Man
is of no use to God
"but to be carnally minded is death;
but to be spiritually minded is life
and peace. Because the carnal mind
is enmity against God;..."
Romans 8:6-7
How the Four Temperaments
Look At Their Weaknesses
Sanguines thinks their weaknesses
are “cute and lovable”. . .that anybody
would be happy to have these
weaknesses.
Cholerics say, “What weaknesses?”
Melancholies really get into it,
analyzes it. “There’s nothing like a good
weakness!”
Phlegmatic
Unenthusiastic, Fearful,
Worried, Indecisive
Phlegmatics says, “Who cares?
They’re not all that bad.”
God Can Change Us
Phlegmatic have low-key strengths and
therefore, low key weaknesses.
The Lord can take damaged vessels,
arrogant ones, conceited ones, selfcentered ones, and accomplished ones.
He can take people like that who are
really of no use to Him at all. He can, by
allowing circumstances to humble us,
and bring us to our knees. He can
cleanse us, patch us up, and send us out,
made ready for His service. So for those
of you who are discouraged over the
problems that you’ve got, God can
remake lives.
Easy going: Phlegmatics think they
are nice, easygoing, agreeable people.
They show no appreciation or
enthusiasm for others’ accomplishments. Phlegmatics don’t want to
appear phony, but it is better to receive
phony joy (fake it), than depression.
Decisions: Phlegmatics make one
decision: not to make decisions.
Phlegmatics do not want to be
responsible for making a wrong
decision, so they make none. Then
they can blame the other person when,
or if it goes wrong.
All He needs is not beauty or brains, just
availability. He just needs us to be there.
When we are available and emptied of
ourselves, He can do with us as He will,
and to God be the glory. That’s why we
have some weaknesses. If we were
perfect, there would be nothing for Him
to work on. Think about which of your
weaknesses are offensive to others, and
ask the Lord to work on those
weaknesses.
Store up their disapproval:…….
Phlegmatics have a strong will of iron;
are stubborn--will not do anything they
don’t want to.
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Dampen others enthusiasm: They
want to be left alone, so will not
share in activities and experiences of
others with any amount of joy. They
don’t get excited about anything.
Not exciting, indifferent to plans of
others: always judging others
because they have plenty of time on
their hands, sarcastic, teasing, resist
change
Phlegmatics
are
easy-going,
inoffensive, pleasant, have many
subtle weaknesses. [Dr. Timothy
Lahaye describes them as being very
capable when pressed to do the job.
Jesus said blessed are the
peacemakers.
Phlegmatics
are
peacemakers.]
Choleric women married to
Phlegmatic men have problems.
A Choleric will tell a person what they
are going to do. If the Phlegmatics
doesn’t say “absolutely not,” that means
“yes” to a Choleric. Why? Because the
Choleric believes they are right anyway.
That’s when the Phlegmatic digs his feet
in.
Shy and reticent —too compromising—they will go along with it so
as not to be bothered too much.
Don’t want trouble.
A Christ-centered
Phlegmatic can be as purrfect a person as the world
could know—if they get
motivated
Self-righteous: Phlegmatics think
they are glad they’re not like
others—noisy, silly, bossy. They are
glad to be themselves —nice, unobnoxious, quiet, peaceful, stirring no
waters. (Phlegmatics fail to realize
how dull and depressing they can be
by their lack in interest in others’
achievements, or life in general.)
Lack motivation—lack goals: Other
temperaments have to make them get
up and do something, then the
Phlegmatics resent being pushed; say
they would have done it without the
prodding, but others know they
wouldn’t.
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Melancholy
A person can say forty good things
about a Melancholy, and one bad
thing. He will remember the bad one.
Moody, Depressed, Critical,
Persecution Complex,
Revengeful
Self-centered: Melancholies always
hear statements which somehow
relate to them, whether intended or
not. They wonder, “What does he
mean by that? Is he laughing at me,
or talking about me?”
Get excited over negatives;
remember negatives from childhood
Moody and depressed easily; have
a built-in ability to be depressed,
imagines people are out to get them.
Introspective, always analyzing
themselves and others. Have guilt
feelings, so put guilt on others also.
Carry a persecution complex.
Manipulative: use moods to
manipulate others. Nobody wants to
spend time with someone who makes
them feel guilty, who enumerates the
negatives, who tells them what’s
wrong with them, or who drops into
a gloom if things don’t go their way.
Hypochondria: Melancholies worry
about their health.
Melancholies are not good up front
with people. They get depressed with
others’ mistakes.
Melancholies should ask
themselves these questions:
If a group in the center of the
room is whispering:
Do I make it unpleasant for those
who show up to visit? Do I cause
gloom to fall upon certain groups?
Melancholies think, “I wonder what’s
wrong with me,” and look to see if a slip
is showing or something is amiss.
Self-pity: Melancholies enjoy being
hurt, and to be able to prove that
everybody is against them.
Sanguines will think, “O boy they’re
talking about me.” Sanguines don’t care
what you say about them, just so you
give them the attention.
False humility: they put themselves
down so they can obtain sympathy
by forcing people to compliment
them, and gratify their ego. This
shows people you are insecure.
Melancholies have a genuine low
self image [even though they really
are the most gifted and can
accomplish the most of the 4
temperaments —they can’t see it.
Melancholies feel they can never
accomplish enough, no matter how
hard, or how long they work.
Compliment a Melancholy about her
hair or how good she looks, and she will
ask you what was wrong with her
yesterday?
You can insult a Sanguine, and they will
thank you.
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Innately want to fail, so often
choose things too hard to do, and if
they fail, they say they knew they
couldn’t do it.
the best of people. When turned off,
they are the worst. They span
emotionally from the best to the
worst, with the greatest strengths,
and the greatest weaknesses of the
four temperaments.
Choleric
Bossy, Impatient
Strengths are loud and strong
Weaknesses are loud and strong
Domineering: Cholerics don’t feel
they are being bossy, they think they
are just helping. They think no one
can make it on their own without
them.
Details boggle down production:
They spend too much time in
planning, often to the detriment of
production.
Melancholies think they are the
norm. They need to learn not to put
everyone else in a mold like them.
God doesn’t want us all to be alike.
[We are an example of the genius of
God, and He loves variety. That’s
why He made so many different
varieties in a given species.]
Best way to get along with them is to
do what they say, when they say to
do it.
They have a God-complex, “Thus
saith the Choleric.”
Cholerics think they don’t have any
weaknesses. They are the only
temperament that will come up to the
speaker and give advice.
As a friend: Melancholies can act,
can put themselves into someone
else. They tend to latch on to a
Sanguine and live through their fun
life instead of changing the inner
gloomy person. They drain life out
of the other person, and make that
other person their idol. Melancholies
should never cling to Sanguines or
Cholerics. They need to ask Christ to
come into their life and give them
the uplift of spirit they need.
Sanguines don’t care what was said.
A Choleric will say that impatience
is not a problem with him, but just a
fault in others. [They leave notes to
the other temperaments.]
Leadership: When asking people to
be chairman of a group: Cholerics
say, “OK, if I don’t have to have a
committee of people.” Phlegmatics
say, “Yes, but do I have to do
anything?” Sanguines say, “Do I get
to be up front?”
Introverted, withdrawn, remote,
critical
of
others:
When
Melancholies are turned on, they are
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Cholerics can’t relax: are always
busy organizing something.
Cholerics are born rescuers: When
Cholerics carry this to the extreme,
people resent it. They always try to
“mother, or father” the others, even
if they are older.
Love to fight with people for sport;
don’t mean any harm.
Love to stir up controversy
Never give compliments—
wastes too much time
Cholerics bring up incompetent
children because the parents “can do
it better,” so the children step back.
that
Never gives up when losing
Cholerics are too independent, and
are possessive of their companions.
They can’t apologize. The word is
not in their vocabulary. Pride gets in
the way.
Comes on too strong, not flexible
Dislike tears and emotions, unsympathetic
As workers: They have little
tolerance for the mistakes of others
Cholerics are usually right, but
although you are right, you may have
everybody hating you for it. A
Choleric’s strength and “know it all
attitude” can be very difficult to live
with.
They don’t analyze directions. If you
have to read details, it’s not worth
doing at all. If all else fails, will
finally read directions.
Bored with trivia.
Cholerics make rash decisions
because they don’t want to waste
time thinking about it.
Rude and tactless; think they are
being honest, he says, “Everybody
knows where they stand with me.”
That’s true and they hate it.
Cholerics can’t comprehend this.
Manipulate people: demanding,
“My way, and now!” They feel that
if it turns out right, it doesn’t matter
how many people were killed along
the line. Most politicians are like
this—the end justifies the means.
THEY DOMINATE PEOPLE.
Cholerics leave notes of instruction
laying around for people
Workaholics: work becomes their
God. -Do it their way or leave. They
neglect
-their
families—their
priorities are mixed up. (Are away
from home a lot.)
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Sanguine
Complainers: Sanguines love to
complain.
Compulsive Talker
Exaggerates, Elaborates
Emotional roller coasters: If they
have a good day, they are thrilled; if
it was bad, they are dramatically
miser-able. They bounce up and
down—no middle for them. They get
angry easily, bang and scream, throw
tantrums if things don’t go their way.
Exaggerations: Sanguines look at
their exaggeration and elaboration of
stories as being colorful, more
interesting for the listener. They
want to get people’s attention, so
make wild statements, such as: if one
cat is sick on the block, the Sanguine
may say that all the animals on the
entire block are sick and dying.
Appearance to others: They seem
shallow and phony to others because
they are out in front so much; they
never seem to grow up.
Dwell on trivia: Sanguines don’t
know what a fact is. They can’t make
a simple statement; they tell too
much trivia before getting to the
facts, and by that time they have
forgotten what it was they were
going to say.
As workers: Sanguines would rather
talk than work; they forget
obligation, don’t know exactly what
they are doing, and get mixed up if
you try to force them to get too
organized.
Confidence fades fast: [from
insecurity] If people don’t watch
them work, they will stop.
Don’t listen: Sanguines don’t listen
when others are speaking; can’t
remember names; they don’t care—
only want people to remember them.
Sanguines scare people off by their
“too happy” attitude, too much
enthusiasm.
Undisciplined: Priorities are out of
order—if there’s work to be done,
they do what comes fun first. If
there’s any time left over they will
do the work part, but they hope the
world comes to an end before they
have to do the things they don’t like
to do.
Too loud: They talk loudly and
laugh too much. Why? [To get
attention]
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Don’t listen: Sanguines think they
listen. When a Sanguine’s mouth is
shut for 2 or 3 seconds, they aren’t
listening, they are planning their next
verbal attack.
Decisions: Sanguines make decisions based on how they feel about it.
Easily distracted: [Short attention
span, don’t pay attention, so forget
what they were going to do.] If they
go from the kitchen to the garage and
get distracted by the dog, they forget
what they went there for.
As a friend: Sanguines are your
friend today, and will forget you
tomorrow. [They are concerned
more with themselves.]
Waste time talking; hate to be
alone: If a Sanguine decides to stay
home and clean the house, after ten
minutes they decide “This is too
lonely, I will call up someone to
come and watch me work.” When
they come, that isn’t good either, so
they both end up going out and
giving up the whole idea. [0r they
wait until the last minute to get it
done and have to run around
frantically to meet the deadline.]
Excuses: Sanguines make excuses.
[They are quick to point the finger at
someone else; fail to accept
responsibility for their own actions.]
Repetitious: They repeat a story
until it’s boring. They think, “If it
played good on Sunday, we’ll play it
the rest of the week... It got a good
laugh then, let’s keep it going.”
Need
attention
constantly:
Anywhere they are, they manage to
be centerstage, draw attention to
themselves, even if they have to pull
it away from somebody. They want
to be popular, and are always
looking for credit. Inside they are
thinking, “Come and see how
wonderful I am; what great things
I’ve done.” Sanguines want people to
LOOK AT THEM, but they need to
realize that not everyone wants to
look at them.
Sanguines want people to
LOOK AT THEM
Dominate conversation: Sanguines
interrupt a lot. Cholerics don’t think
they are being bossy. They think
they are helping you. Sanguines
don’t think they are interrupting you.
They think they are bailing you out
from a dull conversation.
[Regardless of their temperament,
everyone wants to feel loved and be needed.]
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Advice to the
Temperaments
It is impossible to change men by
changing their circumstances. The only
way that anyone of us can be changed is
when we realize the following:
Advice to Sanguines
Within me is no good thing—[I am a
carnal man without Christ: sinful by
nature; unable to change myself.]
Be sensitive to other people’s
interests. Watch-out for boredom.
Everybody is not thrilled or fascinated
with your stories.
I cannot do this on my own—Only
when I know I can’t, am I open to the
thought that God can.
Signs of boredom: if the person (you
have grabbed) starts trying to get away; if
they start looking around the room, trying
to get another’s attention for them to come
over and rescue them.
When I am willing, then He is able.
[God created me a natural human
being, but He did not intend for me to
stay that way. That is why He sent Jesus
Christ. If I do not accept the ministry
that Christ offers, I am doomed to be
less that what God intended that I should
be. In Christ I can become perfect.]
Talk half as much as before.
It is possible for others to live without
your words.
God wants us to function the best we
can—to be a positive people to function
for Him.
Some people like to have silence.
Don’t think you have to fill in all the gaps,
or entertain them.
Extremes In The
Temperament Blends
Learn to listen. When you are talking,
you aren’t learning anything because you
already know what you’re going to say.
Tone down your approach. Don’t
come on so strong and loud.
Melancholy/Sanguine
o Extreme happiness / sadness;
o Can
cause mood swings
without Christ to stabilize.
Choleric/Phlegmatic ambition
o Don’t want to get involved
Positive traits of the temperaments,
when carried to extremes, will
become negatives and offensive to
other temperaments.
Condense your comments. Don’t give
six adjectives when one will do, nor repeat
the same thing six times because it played
good the first time.
Be a friend, not just friendly for the
moment.
Remember names by listening for
them when they are introduced.
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Get your mind off of yourself and on
to others by sending them cards, phoning
them, visiting them in sickness, helping
them.
Your looks convey your thoughts.
Keep quiet about your accomplishments; people don’t care how
marvelous you are. If you need a pat
on the back, God will see that you
get one through someone else.
BE CONCERNED FOR OTHERS.
[Remember that Jesus said that he who
speaks (thinks) of himself is seeking his
own glory. And that is sin: PRIDE.]
Don’t say, “I told you so, (you
dummy).”
Don’t accept more responsibility
than you can accomplish. Responsibility
carries with it the dull chores that are
depressing to Sanguines when they can’t
carry through.
Learn to give compliments. [It will
encourage others around you to rise
to higher achievements.]
Don’t feel you are indispensable.
[The world was alive and working
before you came on it, and will keep
spinning after you leave. LEARN
HUMILITY.]
Discipline yourself. [There is a time
to work, and a time to play; and for a
Sanguine, not necessarily in that order.]
Advice To Melancholies
Stop the gloom: No one likes a
gloomy person. Even if you have
legitimate
reasons
for
being
depressed, no one likes to be around
depression. No one wants to hear
about your ailments.
Advice To Cholerics
Stop being super sensitive, selfpitying. Don’t look for trouble.
Let other people make some
decisions, even if you are the
smartest, and they may be wrong.
Keep your advice until you are
asked. Even people who ask for
advice seldom really want it.
Be positive: Get out of the corner and
go meet people; you might like them,
and they may surprise you by liking
you.
Take care of yourself: When you get
up, put yourself together as if you are
going out to meet others. When you
look bad in the mirror, it tends to make
you feel worse. Clean up for yourself.
Tone down your approach. Aim for
quiet dignity.
Appreciate others: Try not to look
down on the rest of the .“dummies.”
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Get rid of the perfectionist
syndrome: Don’t expect anyone to
be perfect. No one can measure up to
the standards of a Melancholy, not
even himself.
Melancholies think they are the
norm, and expect everyone to think
as they do.
How To Live With a Phlegmatic
They need motivation; make rewards
for them.
Don’t let life get dull,
Help them to set goals.
Don’t expect enthusiasm.
Teach them how to make decisions.
Encourage them to accept responsibilities,
Compliment them for their achievements. Above all, appreciate their
even temperament; it’s a gift!
Advice to Phlegmatics
How To Live With a Choleric
The best (easiest) way to live with a
choleric is to do exactly what they
tell you to do, when they tell you to
do it.
Recognize that they are born
leaders.
Divide the areas of responsibilities.
Insist on a two-way communication. Each must give their opinion
regardless of which way it goes.
Learn to communicate.
Accept the fact that Cholerics are
not compassionate. They will not sit
down and weep with you. They don’t
mean to hurt you; they are just
speaking straight.
Understand they deal with the
practicalities of life and be grateful
about what they are able to do to
help you.
Force yourself to get up and do
something.
Force yourself to make decisions.
You are not being congenial by
never giving an opinion.
Try to get enthused over what other
people do.
Open your mind to new ideas. Life
doesn’t have to be as dull as before.
Organize yourself. Keep things
orderly in your home. Don’t be lazy.
Care about your surroundings, and
you’ll feel better about yourself; and
if not for yourself, do it for those
who love you. They will feel better
about you, for you.
Don’t procrastinate your responsibilities. Make a list of things you
have to do, and do them—now!
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Be thankful that you have a happy
Sanguine in your midst, and enjoy
life with them.
How To Live With A Sanguine
Recognize their difficulty in
accomplishing tasks. Help them not
to accept more than they can do. It
will bog them down and cause
depression.
Sanguines love gifts
Realize they
like variety.
They
never
want to do the
same thing every
day; it’s too dull
for them; they want something new
and different.
How To Live With A Melancholy
This is the hardest temperament to live
with.
Be careful what you say. They are
very sensitive. Melancholies and
Phlegmatics are introverts and get
hurt very easily.
Don’t expect them to keep
appointments on time, but help them
to remember.
Realize they are programmed with a
negative attitude.
Remember they are circumstantial
people: when things are good, they
are happy. When things are bad, they
are terrible. They run on emotions,
highs are highs, and lows are lows—
very dramatically.
They are opposite of the Cholerics
and Sanguines who are programmed
with an insensitive, self-centered
ego, and an optimistic viewpoint.
They have a pessimistic attitude,
therefore see things negatively.
Praise them for accomplishments;
allow them flexibility. They don’t
like structure. Give them gifts; they
love toys.
Encourage them to discuss what
they are thinking, and when they do,
never:
o “put them down’
o try to “jolly them up”
o laugh at them
or it will cause them to be depressed
all over again.
Realize they mean well; they don’t
deliberately hurt people.
Melancholies think Sanguines are
plotting to get them, but Sanguines
don’t think that far ahead. They are
creatures of spontaneous reaction,
not action.
Apologize immediately when you
make an error with the tongue
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The Four Temperaments’
Reaction To Pressure,
Depression, Anger
Compliment them sincerely—they
discern phony plaudits.
Accept the fact that they love quiet.
from Your Temperament: Discover It’s Potential
by Dr. Tim LaHaye
Women: don’t become a slave to
the family, and be grateful that you
have a deeply emotional husband.
Pressure / Sanguines:
Always around pressure because of
loving people; they help create that
pressure.
Their lack of discipline brings on
pressure—such as they wait to the
last minute to carry out their
responsibilities, or anything that
seems like work.
Use their vocal chords in selfdefense—weep to get out of it.
Will intimidate others, and not
accept their own blame (point the
finger at others).
Can’t endure the pressure of silence;
will tell a joke, or run away from the
problem by trying to cause a
distraction to the issue.
Give ulcers to others because they
will not face their problems.
How the Four Temperaments
View the Same Situation
If the barn caught on fire:
the Melancholy would ring their
hands and say, “I’m afraid it will
burn to the ground.”
the Phlegmatic would wonder what
we should do—
while the Choleric is immediately
organizing a bucket brigade—
and the Sanguine is saying, “Oh,
great,
now
we
can
toast
marshmallows.”
Pressure / Cholerics:
Thrives on pressure—until body gets
broken with heart attacks, high blood
pressure, ulcers
They drive themselves. Get overinvolved
Refuse to give up under pressure
Thrive on opposition—are crafty—
not too worried about ethics
Tongue is cutting and sarcastic under
pressure
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Depression
Rarely appreciates others achievements
Excellent productivity, but hurts
many in the process
is caused from selfishness. The greater
the self-pity, the greater depression.
Pressure /Melancholies:
Depression / Sanguine:
All things are intensified with a
Melancholy— even pressure
They suffer the most of the four
temperaments
Mortality rate is 7 years lower than
others
Constantly pressured to perfectionism
Emotions are slow to react—can
build tension until murder
Rarely gets depressed when he is
with others - loves people
Lives in the present —doesn’t look
back, and never worries about the
future
Lack of discipline causes obesity and
low self-esteem in the middle-aged
years
(40’s-50’s)
will
cause
depression
Sanguines are unproductive and
without real substance, which can
cause them to be depressed
They become super sensitive,
defensive, blame parents (but not
themselves) for lack of productivity
in later years.
Pressure / Phlegmatics:
Detest pressure; are peacemakers
do nothing to excess
Gifted procrastinators
They blame others
Are stubborn
Can avoid pressure by turning to
day- dreaming
Depression / Choleric:
Rarely gets depressed - too busy
Happy when busy - no time for
depression
Thick-skinned, self sufficient—
doesn’t need others
When alone, is making new plans no time for depression
Depression comes only at the
incompetence of others
As a Christian he usually works by
flesh instead of the Spirit, and when
he runs into difficulty, is depressed
because of rejection of his work.
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Depression / Melancholy:
Phlegmatics and Melancholies are
introverts
Melancholies take longer to
explode;
are
self-persecuting,
revengeful.
Sanguines instantly erupt, and are
forgiving;
Cholerics erupt and hold a grudge.
Cholerics and Sanguines are
extroverts, loud and uninhibited
Easily depressed
because
of
perfectionism
Standards are too high - none
measure up
Melancholies choose the most
difficult, martyr type vocations
Moody by nature
Need to recognize that mental
powers can control attitude—that a
positive attitude is power
Need to realize that griping,
criticizing, complaining always has a
negative effect on people, causing
depression.
Depression / Phlegmatic
Not easily depressed
They blame society or luck for their
failure to achieve by their 50’s and
60’s.
Phlegmatics are low key everything,
including depression.
Fear and Anger
Grippers & Thankers
Learn the Temperaments – then fly!
The first problem a family faces is
fear, but the number one problem is
anger.
There are two kinds of people:
grippers and thankers. Thankers are
not angry people.
Anger inhibits sound thinking.
Anger causes illness, from physical
to mental.
Introverts have the least anger—
Extroverts have the greatest problem.
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Notes
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The Personality Tests
In this booklet are two different types of tests—a wheel and a checklist. They
both work toward the same results. An interesting exercise is for you to take the
test yourself, and ask your spouse or a friend to evaluate you on the other. It’s an
eye-opener to discover how others see us. And it’s always a lot of fun
discovering this new way of thinking about a one’s self.
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Notes
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Notes
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The Bible says that if one sinner is saved, a multitude of sins will be prevented. The
following statistics of one man's posterity verifies this statement. If Max could have been
converted...
The Posterity of Max Jukes, Atheist
Max, Jukes, the atheist lived a godless life. He married an ungodly girl and from this union
there were:
310 who died as paupers;
150 were criminals;
7 were murderers;
100 were drunkards and more than half the women were prostitutes.
His 540 descendants cost the state 1.25 million dollars.
The Posterity of Jonathan Edwards, Christian
But praise the Lord, it works both ways! There is a record of a great American man of God,
Jonathans Edwards. He lived at the same time as Max Jukes but he married a godly girl.
And investigation was made of 1,395 known descendants of Jonathan Edwards of which:
13 became college presidents
65 were college professors
3 United States Senators
30 judges
100 lawyers
60 physicians
75 Army and Navy officers
100 preachers and ministers
60 authors of prominence
1 Vice President of the US
80 became public officials in other capacities
295 college graduates among whom were governors of states and ministers to foreign
countries. He did not cost the state a penny.
"The memory of the just is blessed." Pro. 10:7
The sins of the fathers shall be answered upon the heads of the children to the third and fourth
generation. Our children are a reflection of us. They learn from our example. "America Is Too
Young To Die," by Leonard Ravenhill, Pub. Bethany Fellowship, pg. 112.
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You Are As Unique As Your Creator
"Here is a simple illustration that may help us better see how incredible is the human body.
An appreciation of this temple of God should embrace our admiration of our Creator.
Let us suppose that we had before us a group of people that represented all the possible
genetic combinations between one man and woman, with no duplicates. Each one would be
slightly different than the next in some way. The number of people in the group would be
123,023,190, plus 900 zeros to make up the complete number! A scientific notation, it would
be written 1.2302319 X 10 908 (This number was calculated at Graceland College.)
To help us comprehend the quantity of people this number represents, let us suppose it was
possible to organize them in the following manner:
Arrange a line of people from the Earth to the Sun, a distance of 93 million miles. The line
would need to be made of rows a million people wide and only two feet of space allowed
between rows.
Now this is not all. In order to utilize the entire group of people, it would be necessary to line
up this quantity of people, dismiss them and line up another group of the same size every
second, of every hour, of every day, of every year for 112 million years to use up all the
possible genetic combinations! And just think, there are those who actually believe all life
and its delicate design happened just by accident." Elder David Campbell
The worth of a soul is great in the sight of God.
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SANGUINE
CHOLERIC
The Popular Personality
The Powerful Personality
The Extrovert
The Talker
Strengths
The Optimist
Weaknesses
The Extrovert
Strengths
BABY
Bright and wide-eyed
Curious
Gurgles and coos
Wants company
Shows off
Responsive
Screams for attention
Knows he is cute
Adventuresome
Energetic
Outgoing
Precocious
Born leader
No follow through
Disorganized
Easily distracted
Short interest span
Emotional ups and downs
Wants credit
Tells fibs
Forgetful
Daring and eager
Productive worker
Sees the goal
Moves quickly
Self-sufficient
Competitive
Assertive
Trustworthy
Weaknesses
Deceptive
Creative Excuses
Easily led astray
Craves attention
Needs peer approval
Con-artist
Won't study
Immature
Gossips
Aggressive
Competent
Organizes well
Assumes leadership
Problem solver
Self-confident
Stimulates others
Excels in emergencies
Great potential
Responsible
Strong-willed
Demanding
Loud
Throws things
Not sleepy
CHILD
TEEN
Cheerleader
Charms others
Gets daring
Joins clubs
Popular
Life of the party
Creative
Wants to please
Apologetic
The Optimist
BABY
CHILD
Daring and eager
Innocent
Inventive and imaginative
Cheerful
Enthusiastic
Fun-loving
Chatters constantly
Bounces back
Energized by people
The Leader
Manipulative
Temper-tantrums
Constantly going
Insistent
Testing
Arguing
Stubborn
TEEN
Emotional needs: attention, approval, affection, acceptance, presence of people
and activity
Avoids: dull tasks, routines, criticism, details, lofty goals
Too bossy
Controls parents
Knows everything
Looks down on dummies
Unpopular
May become a loner
Insulting
Judgmental
Unrepentant
Emotional needs: appreciation for all achievements, opportunity for leadership,
participation in family decisions, something to control - own room, garage, backyard,
dog, etc.
Avoids: rest, boredom, playing games he can't win
MELANCHOLY
PHLEGMATIC
The Perfect Personality
The Peaceful Personality
The Introvert
The Thinker
Strengths
The Pessimist
The Introvert
Weaknesses
Strengths
Looks sad
Cries easily
Clings
Easy-going
Undemanding
Happy
Adjustable
Moody
Whines
Self-conscious
Too sensitive
Hears negatives
Avoids criticism
Sees problems
Won't communicate
Watches others
Easily amused
Little trouble
Dependable
Lovable
Agreeable
Depressed and withdrawn
Inferiority complex
Inflexible
Suspicious of people
Critical
Negative attitude
Poor self-image
Revengeful
Lives through friends
Needs approval
Pleasing personality
Witty
Good listener
Mediates problems
Hides emotions
Leads when pushed
Casual attitude
BABY
Serious
Quiet
Likes a schedule
Slow
Shy
Indifferent
CHILD
TEEN
Good student
Creative - likes research
Organized and purposeful
High standards
Conscientious and on time
Neat and orderly
Sensitive to others
Sweet spirit
Thrifty
The Pessimist
Weaknesses
BABY
CHILD
Thinks deeply
Talented
Musical
Fantasizes
True friend
Perfectionist
Intense
Dutiful and responsible
The Follower
Selfish
Teasing
Avoids work
Fearful
Quietly stubborn
Lazy
Retreats to TV
TEEN
Emotional needs: sensitivity to deep desires, satisfaction from quality
achievement, space to call his own, security and stability, separation from noisy,
messy siblings, support from parents: "I believe in you."
Avoids: noise, confusion, trivial pursuits, being "jollied"
Quietly stubborn
Indecisive
Unenthusiastic
Too compromising
Unmotivated
Sarcastic
Uninvolved
Procrastinates
Emotional needs: peace and relaxation, attention, praise, self-worth, loving
motivation
Avoids: conflict, confrontation, initiative, decisions, extra work, responsibility,
tension, quarrels
Personality Scoring Sheet
Strengths
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SANGUINE
____ Animated
____ Playful
____ Sociable
____ Convincing
____ Refreshing
____ Spirited
____ Promoter
____ Spontaneous
____ Optimistic
____ Funny
____ Delightful
____ Cheerful
____ Inspiring
____ Demonstrative
____ Mixes easily
____ Talker
____ Lively
____ Cute
____ Popular
____ Bouncy
CHOLERIC
____ Adventurous
____ Persuasive
____ Strong-willed
____ Competitive
____ Resourceful
____ Self-reliant
____ Positive
____ Sure
____ Outspoken
____ Forceful
____ Daring
____ Confident
____ Independent
____ Decisive
____ Mover
____ Tenacious
____ Leader
____ Chief
____ Productive
____ Bold
Totals _____
MELANCHOLY
____ Analytical
____ Persistent
____ Self-sacrificing
____ Considerate
____ Respectful
____ Sensitive
____ Planner
____ Scheduled
____ Orderly
____ Faithful
____ Detailed
____ Cultured
____ Idealistic
____ Deep
____ Musical
____ Thoughtful
____ Loyal
____ Chartmaker
____ Perfectionist
____ Behaved
_____
_____
PHLEGMATIC
____ Adaptable
____ Peaceful
____ Submissive
____ Controlled
____ Reserved
____ Satisfied
____ Patient
____ Shy
____ Obliging
____ Friendly
____ Diplomatic
____ Consistent
____ Inoffensive
____ Dry Humor
____ Mediator
____ Tolerant
____ Listener
____ Contented
____ Permissive
____ Balanced
_____
Weaknesses
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SANGUINE
____ Brassy
____ Undisciplined
____ Repetitious
____ Forgetful
____ Interrupts
____ Unpredictable
____ Haphazard
____ Permissive
____ Angered easily
____ Naïve
____ Wants credit
____ Talkative
____ Disorganized
____ Inconsistent
____ Messy
____ Show-off
____ Loud
____ Scatterbrained
____ Restless
____ Changeable
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Totals _____
Combined Totals:
CHOLERIC
Bossy
Unsympathetic
Resistant
Frank
Impatient
Unaffectionate
Headstrong
Proud
Argumentative
Nervy
Workaholic
Tactless
Domineering
Intolerant
Manipulative
Stubborn
Lord-over-others
Short-tempered
Rash
Crafty
_____
Sanguine _____
MELANCHOLY
____ Bashful
____ Unforgiving
____ Resentful
____ Fussy
____ Insecure
____ Unpopular
____ Hard-to-please
____ Pessimistic
____ Alienated
____ Negative attitude
____ Withdrawn
____ Too sensitive
____ Depressed
____ Introvert
____ Moody
____ Skeptical
____ Loner
____ Suspicious
____ Revengeful
____ Critical
_____
Choleric _____
Melancholy _____
PHLEGMATIC
____ Blank
____ Unenthusiastic
____ Reticent
____ Fearful
____ Indecisive
____ Uninvolved
____ Hesitant
____ Plain
____ Aimless
____ Nonchalant
____ Worrier
____ Timid
____ Doubtful
____ Indifferent
____ Mumbles
____ Slow
____ Lazy
____ Sluggish
____ Reluctant
____ Compromising
_____
Phlegmatic _____
Sanguine
Choleric
Melancholy
Phlegmatic
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From your Combined Totals on the previous page,
fill in the number of traits for a visual of your temperament.
Personality Test Word Definitions
Strengths
1
ANIMATED
ADVENTUROUS
ANALYTICAL
ADAPTABLE
~Full of life, lively use of hand, arm, and face gestures.
~One who will take on new and daring enterprises with a need to master them.
~One who is constantly in the process of analyzing people, places, or things.
~One who easily adapts to any situation.
2
PERSISTENT
PLAYFUL
PERSUASIVE
PEACEFUL
~Refusing to let go, insistently repetitive or continuous, can't drop it.
~Full of fun and good humor.
~One who persuades through logic and fact rather than charm.
~One who seems undisturbed and tranquil and who retreats from any form of strife.
3
SUBMISSIVE
~One who easily submits to any other's point of view or desire. This person has little need to
assert his own view or opinion.
~One who constantly sacrifices his/her own personal well being for the sake of or to meet
the needs of others.
~This sociable refers to one who sees being with others as an opportunity to be cute and
entertaining. If you are one who enjoys social gatherings as a challenge or business
opportunity then do not check this word.
~One who is determined to have his/her own way.
SELF-SACRIFICING
SOCIABLE
STRONG-WILLED
4
CONSIDERATE
CONTROLLED
COMPETITIVE
CONVINCING
~Having regard for the needs and feelings of others.
~One who has emotional feelings but doesn't display them.
~One who turns every situation, happening, or game into an arena for competition. This
person always plays to win!
~This person can convince you of anything through the sheer charm of his/her personality.
Facts are unimportant.
5
REFRESHING
RESPECTFUL
RESERVED
RESOURCEFUL
~One who renews and stimulates or pleasantly lifts spirits.
~One who treats others with deference, honor, and esteem.
~Self restraint in expression of emotion or enthusiasm.
~One who is able to act quickly and effectively in virtually all situations.
6
SATISFIED
SENSITIVE
SELF-RELIANT
~A person who easily accepts any circumstance or situation.
~This person is intensively sensitive to self and others.
~An independent person who can fully rely on his/her own capabilities, judgment, and
resources.
~One who is full of life and excitement.
SPIRITED
7
PLANNER
PATIENT
POSITIVE
PROMOTER
8
SURE
SPONTANEOUS
~One who prefers to work out a detailed arrangement beforehand, for the accomplishment
of project or goal. This person much prefers involvement with the planning stages and the
finished product rather than the carrying out of the task.
~One who is unmoved by delay - calm and tolerant.
~Characterized by certainty and assurance.
~One who can compel others to go along, join, or invest through the sheer charm of his/her
own personality.
~One who is confident, not hesitating or wavering.
~One who prefers all of life to be impulsive, unpremeditated activity. This person feels
restricted by plans.
SCHEDULED
SHY
~This person is controlled by his/her schedule and gets very upset if that schedule is
interrupted. There is another type of person who uses a schedule to stay organized, but is
not controlled by the schedule. If the second description is you, do not check this word.
~Quiet, doesn't easily instigate a conversation.
9
ORDERLY
OBLIGING
OUTSPOKEN
OPTIMISTIC
~A person who has a methodical, systematic arrangement of things. Can be obsessively tidy.
~Accommodating. One who is quick to do it another's way.
~One who speaks frankly and without reserve.
~This optimist is an almost childlike, dreamer type of optimist.
10
FRIENDLY
~This person is a responder to friendliness rather than an initiator. While he/she seldom
starts a conversation, he/she responds with great warmth and enjoys the exchange.
~Consistently reliable. Steadfast, loyal, and devoted sometimes beyond reason.
~This person has an innate humor that can make virtually any story a funny one and is a
remarkable joke teller. If you have a dry humor, do not check this word.
~A commanding personality. One would hesitate to take a stand against this person.
FAITHFUL
FUNNY
FORCEFUL
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DARING
DELIGHTFUL
DIPLOMATIC
DETAILED
~One who is willing to take risks; fearless, bold.
~A person who is greatly pleasing, fun to be with.
~One who deals with people both tactfully and sensitively.
~A person who prefers working with the minute or fields that require detail work such as
math, research, accounting, carving, art, graphics, etc.
12
CHEERFUL
CONSISTENT
CULTURED
~Consistently being in good spirits and promoting cheer.
~A person who is agreeable, compatible, not contradictory.
~One whose interests involve both intellectual and artistic pursuits, such as theatre,
symphony, ballet, etc.
~One who is self-assured and/or certain of success.
CONFIDENT
13
IDEALISTIC
INDEPENDENT
INOFFENSIVE
INSPIRING
14
DEMONSTRATIVE
DECISIVE
DRY HUMOR
DEEP
15
MEDIATOR
MUSICAL
MOVER
~One who visualizes things in an ideal or perfect form, and has a need to measure up to that
standard.
~One who is self-sufficient, self-supporting, self-confident and seems to have little need of
help.
~A person who never causes offense, pleasant, unobjectionable, harmless.
~One who encourages others to work, join, or be involved. There is another personality that
is deeply inspirational and has a need to bring life-changing inspiration. If you are the latter,
do not check this word.
~One who openly expresses emotion, especially affection. This person doesn't hesitate to
touch others while speaking to them.
~A person with quick, conclusive, decision-making ability.
~One who exhibits dry wit, usually one-liners which can be sarcastic in nature, but very
humorous.
~A person who is intense and often introspective with a distaste for surface conversation
and pursuits.
~A person who consistently finds him/herself in the role of reconciling differences in order
to avoid conflict.
~One who either participates in or has an intense appreciation for music. This type of
musical would not include those who find it fun to sing or play. The latter would be a
different personality that enjoys being an entertainer rather than one who is deeply
committed to music as an art form.
~One who is so driven by a need to be productive, that he/she finds it difficult to sit still.
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MIXES EASILY
~One who loves a party and can't wait to meet everyone in the room, never meets a stranger.
THOUGHTFUL
~A considerate person who remembers special occasions and is quick to make a kind
gesture.
~One who holds on firmly, stubbornly, and won't let go till the goal is accomplished.
~A person who is constantly talking, generally telling funny stories and entertaining
everyone around him/her. There is another compulsive talker who is a nervous talker and
feels the need to fill the silence in order to make others comfortable. This is not the
entertaining talker we are describing here.
~One who easily accepts the thoughts and ways of others without the need to disagree with
or change them.
TENACIOUS
TALKER
TOLERANT
LIVELY
~One who always seems willing to listen.
~Faithful to a person, ideal, or job. This person is sometimes loyal beyond reason and to
his/her own detriment.
~A person who is a born leader. This is not one who rises to the occasion because he/she
can lead, but one who is driven to lead and finds it very difficult to believe anyone else can
do the job.
~Full of life, vigorous, energetic.
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CONTENTED
CHIEF
CHARTMAKER
CUTE
~One who is easily satisfied with what he/she has.
~A person who commands leadership.
~One who enjoys either graphs, charts, or lists.
~Bubbly-beauty, cutie, precious, diminutive.
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PERFECTIONIST
PERMISSIVE
PRODUCTIVE
POPULAR
~One who desires perfection but not necessarily in every area of life.
~This person is permissive with employees, friends, and children in order to avoid conflict.
~One who must constantly be working and/or producing. This person finds it very difficult
to rest.
~One who is the life of the party and therefore is much desired as a party guest.
BOUNCY
BOLD
BEHAVED
BALANCED
~A bubbly, lively personality.
~Fearless, daring, forward.
~One who consistently desires to conduct him/herself within the realm of what is proper.
~Stable, middle of the road personality, without extremes.
17
LISTENER
LOYAL
LEADER
20
Weaknesses
21
BRASSY
BOSSY
BASHFUL
BLANK
~One who is showy, flashy, comes on strong.
~Commanding, domineering, overbearing. (Do not relate this to the raising of children. All
mothers seem bossy and domineering.) Think only of adult relationships.
~One who shrinks from notice, resulting from self-consciousness.
~A person who shows little facial expression or emotion.
22
UNDISCIPLINED
UNSYMPATHETIC
UNENTHUSIASTIC
UNFORGIVING
~A person whose lack of discipline permeates virtually every area of his/her life.
~One who finds it difficult to relate to the problems or hurts of others.
~A person who finds it hard to get excited or feel enthusiasm.
~One who has difficulty forgiving or forgetting a hurt or injustice done to them. This
individual may find it hard to release a grudge.
23
RETICENT
RESENTFUL
~One who is unwilling or struggles against getting involved.
~This person easily feels resentment as a result of real or imagined offenses.
RESISTANT
REPETITIOUS
24
FUSSY
FEARFUL
FORGETFUL
FRANK
25
IMPATIENT
INSECURE
INDECISIVE
INTERRUPTS
~A person who finds it difficult to endure irritation or wait patiently.
~One who is apprehensive or lacks confidence.
~This person finds it difficult to make a decision at all. There is another personality that
labors long over each decision in order to make the perfect one. If you are the latter, do not
check this word.
~This person interrupts because he/she if afraid of forgetting the wonderful thing he/she has
to say if another is allowed to finish. This person is more of a talker than a listener.
UNAFFECTIONATE
~A person whose intensity and demand for perfection can push others away.
~One who has no desire to become involved in clubs, groups, or people activities.
~This person may be ecstatic one moment and blue the next, willing to help and then
disappear, promising to come and then forgetting to show up.
~One who finds it difficult to verbally or physically demonstrate affection openly.
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HEADSTRONG
HAPHAZARD
HARD TO PLEASE
HESITANT
~One who insists on having his/her own way.
~One who has no consistent way of doing things.
~A person whose standards are set so high that it is difficult to ever please them.
~This person is slow to get moving and hard to get involved.
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PLAIN
PESSIMISTIC
PROUD
~A middle-of-the-road personality without highs or lows and showing little if any emotion.
~This person, while hoping for the best, generally sees the down side of the situation first.
~One with great self-esteem who sees him/herself as always right and the best person for the
job.
~This personality allows others (including children) to do as they please in order to keep
from being disliked.
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UNPOPULAR
UNINVOLVED
UNPREDICTABLE
~One who strives, works against, or resists accepting any other way but his/her own.
~This person retells stories and incidents to entertain you without realizing he/she has
already told the story several times before. This is not a question so much of forgetfulness,
as it is of constantly needing something to say.
~One who is insistent over petty matters or details, calling for great attention to trivial
details.
~One who often experiences feelings of fear, apprehension or anxiousness.
~This person is forgetful because it isn't fun to remember. His/her forgetfulness is tied to a
lack of discipline. There is another personality that is more like the absent-minded
professor. This person tends to be off in another world and only remembers what he/she
chooses to remember. If you are the latter, do not check this word.
~One who is straightforward, outspoken, and doesn't mind telling you exactly what he/she
thinks.
PERMISSIVE
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ANGERED EASILY
AIMLESS
ARGUMENTATIVE
ALIENATED
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NAÏVE
~One who has a childlike flash-in-the-pan temper that expresses itself in a child's tantrum
style. It is over and forgotten almost instantly.
~A person who is not a goal-setter and has little desire to be one.
~One who incites arguments generally because he/she is determined to be right no matter
what the situation may be.
~A person who easily feels estranged from others often because of insecurity or fear that
others don't really enjoy his/her company.
~A simple and childlike perspective, lacking sophistication or worldliness. This is not to be
confused with uninformed. There is another personality that is so consumed with his/her
own particular field of interest that he/she simply could not care less what is going on
outside of that sphere. If you are the latter, do not check this word.
NEGATIVE
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NERVY
NONCHALANT
~One whose attitude is seldom positive and is often able to see only the down or dark side
of each situation.
~Full of confidence, fortitude, and sheer guts.
~Easy-going, unconcerned, indifferent.
WORRIER
WITHDRAWN
~One who consistently feels uncertain or troubled.
~A person who pulls back to him/herself and needs a great deal of alone or isolation time.
WORKAHOLIC
~This is one of two workaholic personalities. This particular one is an aggressive goal-setter
who must be constantly productive and feels very guilty when resting. This workaholic is
not driven by a need for perfection or completion but by a need for accomplishment and
reward.
~One who is almost dysfunctional without the credit or approval of others. As an entertainer
this person feeds on the applause, laughter, and/or acceptance of an audience.
WANTS CREDIT
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TOO SENSITIVE
TACTLESS
TIMID
TALKATIVE
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DOUBTFUL
DISORGANIZED
DOMINEERING
DEPRESSED
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INCONSISTENT
INTROVERT
INTOLERANT
INDIFFERENT
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MESSY
MOODY
MUMBLES
MANIPULATIVE
~One who is overly sensitive and introspective.
~A person who can sometimes express him/herself in a somewhat offensive and
inconsiderate way.
~One who shrinks from difficult situations.
~A compulsive talker who finds it difficult to listen. Again, this is an entertaining talker and
not a nervous talker.
~A person who is full of doubts, uncertain.
~One whose lack of organizational ability touches virtually every area of life.
~One who compulsively takes control of situations and/or people. Do not consider the
mothering role. All mothers are somewhat domineering.
~A person who struggles with bouts of depression on a fairly consistent basis.
~Erratic, contradictory, illogical.
~A person whose thoughts and interest are directed inward. One who lives within
him/herself.
~One who appears unable to withstand or accept another's attitudes, point of view or way of
doing things.
~A person to whom most things don't matter one way or the other.
~This person is messy because it isn't fun to discipline him/herself to clean. The mess is
hardly noticed. There is another personality that gets messy when depressed, and yet
another that is messy because it takes too much energy to do the cleaning. Be sure you are
the first one mentioned if you check this word.
~One who easily slips into moods. This person doesn't get very high emotionally, but does
experience very low lows.
~This person may mumble quietly under the breath when pushed. This is a passive display
of anger.
~One who influences or manages shrewdly or deviously for one's own advantage. One who
will find a way to get his/her own way.
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SLOW
STUBBORN
SHOW-OFF
SKEPTICAL
~One who is slow-moving, easy-going.
~A person who is determined to exert his/her own will. Not easily persuaded; obstinate.
~One who needs to be the center of attention.
~Disbelieving, questioning the motive behind the words.
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LONER
LORD OVER
~One who requires a lot of alone time and tends to avoid other people.
~A person who doesn't hesitate to let you know that he/she is right and has won.
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LAZY
LOUD
~One who evaluates work or activity in terms of how much energy it will take.
~A person whose laugh or voice can be heard above others in the room.
SLUGGISH
SUSPICIOUS
SHORT-TEMPERED
~Slow to get started.
~One who tends to suspect or distrust.
~One who has a demanding impatience-based anger and a very short fuse. This type of
anger is expressed when others are not moving fast enough or have not completed what they
have been asked to do.
~A person lacking the power of concentration or attention. Flighty.
SCATTERBRAINED
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REVENGEFUL
RESTLESS
RELUCTANT
RASH
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COMPROMISING
CRITICAL
CRAFTY
CHANGEABLE
~One who knowingly or otherwise holds a grudge and punishes the offender, often by subtly
withholding friendship or affection.
~A person who likes constant new activity because it isn't fun to do the same things all the
time.
~One who is unwilling or struggles against getting involved.
~One who may act hastily, without thinking things through, generally because of
impatience.
~A person who will often compromise, even when he/she is right, in order to avoid conflict.
~One who constantly evaluates and makes judgments. Example: One who is critical might
see someone coming down the street and within seconds might try to evaluate their
cleanliness, look of intelligence or lack of it, style of clothing or lack of it, physical
attractiveness or lack of it, and the list goes on. This person constantly analyzes and
critiques, sometimes without realizing he/she is doing so.
~Shrewd, one who can always find a way to get to the desired end.
~A person with a childlike short attention span that needs a lot of change and variety to
keep from getting bored.