SIDS and Kids Queensland Winter 2009 Edition

SIDS and Kids Queensland
Winter 2009 Edition
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Enigma | SIDS and Kids Queensland
SIDS and Kids Queensland publishes Enigma twice a year in
support of individuals and families who have lost a baby or child
regardless of the cause.
Our Mission Statement
SIDS and Kids Queensland exists to develop and deliver high
quality, publicly accountable services and programs which
meet the needs of all individuals and families in Queensland
who are affected by the Sudden and Unexpected Death of a
Child, 20 weeks gestation to six years, regardless of the cause,
and to provide relevant education and support services to the
community.
SIDS and Kids Queensland | Management Committee
President
Michael Ward
Vice President
Michele Freemantle
(Inaugural Life Member)
Treasurer
Mark Jones
Secretary
Dr Peter Gray
Members
Professor Paul Colditz
SIDS and Kids Queensland Profile
CEO’s Introduction
Education & Support Services Update
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Contact E-Newsletter
Second Counselling Room
Gold Coast Support Group
Internet forum
Support Groups
Precious Memories
Donations in Loving Memory
Birthdates & Anniversaries
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Fundraising and Marketing News
SIDS and Kids Queensland
Membership Information
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SIDS and Kids Queensland | Contact Details
SIDS and Kids Queensland
The Todd Freemantle Centre
68 Creek Road | Mt Gravatt QLD 4122
PO Box 241, Mt Gravatt QLD 4122
Telephone 07 3849 7122
Facsimile
07 3849 7121
1800 24 hr Child Death Support Line 1800 628 648
Email
[email protected]
Web
www.sidsandkids.org/qld
www.rednoseday.com.au
Editorial Comments | Publication Rights | Enigma
SIDS and Kids Queensland’s policy is to provide a medium for
communication between members and friends of SIDS and Kids
Queensland. Opinions and views expressed in Enigma are not
necessarily the opinion or view of SIDS and Kids Queensland,
unless otherwise stated.
Original articles are welcomed. Editorial rights are reserved.
No part of Enigma may be reproduced without appropriate prior
permission. Acknowledgement of SIDS and Kids Queensland
and/or the author is required.
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CEO’s Introduction
The next year to 18 months will be challenging from a
fundraising perspective for all non profit organizations.
We are aware that tough economic times are ahead for
many of us, but we are determined to continue to raise
the funds required to provide our services free of charge
to those in need.
How can you help?
• Make a donation - Donations over $2 Tax deductible
• Sponsor an event
• Sponsor an employee - bereavement counsellor,
education
Janet Davis
CEO
Dear Families and Supporters,
• Attend our events - Business breakfast series,
Luncheon and Gala Ball
• Donate a service or item to help raise funds
• Workplace Giving - a regular donation that is tax
deductible
• Bequests - include us in your wills
We continue to provide our services into Queensland
communities and we are pleased to announce that a
new support group has commenced on the Gold Coast,
which meets on a monthly basis. We have started the
New Year with some new fundraising and educational
initiatives including the “Business Breakfast Series –
Serving up Great Business Advice”, kindly sponsored by
Leighton Contractors and Strategy and Action. A range
of inspirational and knowledgeable speakers are ensuring
this series is well attended. Annie’s Safe Sleeping
workshops are proving to be very popular and providing
valuable information to employees of child care facilities
to ensure the safety of the precious babies and infants
they care for.
SIDS and Kids Queensland have celebrated our inaugural
Red Nose Day Heroes Awards, which was initiated as a
means of recognizing the special contributions that many
are making in communities throughout Queensland in
lifesaving safe sleeping education and bereavement
support services to help families process their grief after
the death of a baby or child. Each of the nominations in
the Bereavement Support and Safe Sleeping Education
were all very deserving of this very important new title.
Our congratulations go to all of the nominees and
nominors, thank you for taking the time to nominate these
worthy individuals. We hope to build upon the success of
this year and to continue the Awards for 2010. Full details
are included in a separate article.
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• Help us to save costs - nominate to receive the
newsletter or Enigma magazine via email
• Volunteering - gardening, Red Nose Day
merchandisers, administration
• Spread the word about what we do – talk to
others who might like to support SIDS and Kids
Queensland
Look after yourselves and those around you.
I’d like to leave you with this thought:
“Begin doing what you want to do now. We are
not living in eternity. We have only this moment,
sparkling like a star in our hand-and melting like a
snowflake...”
Marie Beyon Ray
Kind Regards,
Janet Davis
CEO
Education & Support Services Update
Angela Strutt
Acting Manager Education
and Support Services
Dear Parents and Friends of SIDS and Kids Qld,
It is now six months since I joined this dedicated team
and I thought that I would share some reflections on
what I have experienced thus far. First of all, let me
comment on the staff. I have found a dedicated, highly
professional and capable group of people. I will comment
in particular on my area of the ESS team. Annie, our nurse
educator would have to be the most passionate and well
informed professional that I have met. She delivers her
Safe Sleeping message with such zeal and enthusiasm.
Cathie, our counsellor has a wonderful, gentle manner
that is at the same time respectful and comforting for
our clients. In an ideal world, we wouldn’t need a service
like SIDS and Kids Qld, but given that life is not ‘ideal’ I
find comfort in the level of care that we are able to offer
families.
The second area that I would like to comment on is that
of parents who have experienced the death of a child 20,
30 or 40 years ago. It has not been an unusual experience
to be talking to an older person (usually a woman) about
a recent death, maybe a grandchild or a friend’s child and
then they almost casually say something like “I lost a
son/daughter thirty-one years ago”. The general theme
of these conversations is that in a time when support
organisations did not exist, these families were left to
cope on their own. Often they did not see or hold their
children, funerals may not have been held, photographs
were not taken and the child was never spoken of again.
For these families there was a sense of ambiguity about
their loss due to societal mores of the day. Western,
Anglo-Saxon society back then did not sanction the
right or allow a process for families to openly grieve the
death of a child. This was particularly true if the death
occurred in the perinatal period. This often led to what
has been termed ‘disenfranchised grief’, which refers to
a grief for which there are no socially sanctioned rules
for grieving a particular losses. Many women would be
expected to resume their previous lives; caring for other
children, working, entertaining friends and the like with
no acknowledgement of the pain and suffering they were
enduring within.
It is a testament to the strength of the human spirit, that
families were able to survive such trauma and go on to
live productive lives.
first is that, no matter how much time passes, a child is
never forgotten. This can be an issue for families in the
early stages of grief – a fear that they might forget. The
second is that even with the intense pain following the
death of a child, most people are able to find their way
out so that they can live well with their grief.
Western cultures have come a long way in allowing
the public acknowledgement of a child that has died
and the associated public grieving expressed by family
and friends. Families are able to maintain an emotional
connection to their child, to recognize significant events
and milestones without fear of societal disapproval.
I would like to dedicate this edition of the Enigma
magazine to all those families who experienced the death
of a child at a time when there was no recognition of or
support for the pain and suffering they endured.
Cathie Spicer
Counsellor
It is a year since I came to work for SIDS and Kids Qld,
but of course it does not seem that long ago at all. It
has been exciting this year to be involved in the delivery
of a new and long awaited service: a monthly support
group held at the Gold Coast. We have a small number
of participants who come regularly to the various groups
and workshops that we run. They are an avenue for
parents, grandparents and family members to connect
with others and share similar experiences of their own
unique journey: to feel understood! We have a number of
wonderful peer supporters who attend the groups. Their
presence is a great comfort, and evidence that life can go
on, you are not alone. In the last year I have been very
privileged to meet some beautiful people:
The most beautiful people we have known
are those who have known defeat,
known suffering, known struggle, known loss,
and have found their way out of the depths.
These persons have an appreciation,
sensitivity and an understanding of life,
which fills them with compassion,
gentleness and a deep loving concern.
Beautiful people do not just happen.
Shortened version by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross from ‘The Final
Stage of Growth ‘
Two things are apparent from these experiences. The
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Education & Support Services Update
Annie Dawson
Education and Support
Services Officer
Education Report
Welcome to the Winter Edition of Enigma magazine.
Activities are in full swing in the Education side of SIDS
and Kids Queensland. Many phone calls come through
every day from parents seeking advice about safe
sleeping for their babies. Education for Child Carers
has been commenced at Mt Gravatt on one evening
every month and this has been a great success. It is
my vision to see child care centre staff as excellent
sources of information to parents in giving accurate
information as well as modeling correct safe sleeping
practices. Education for health professionals is ongoing
with frequent visits to hospitals to update Midwives
and Nurses who also have such a powerful position in
role modeling correct practices and educating parents.
Many exciting opportunities have arisen for education,
including, some baby expos, a workshop at a child care
conference on the Gold Coast in July and some day
trips to regional areas. We have plans for a SIDS and
Kids Queensland conference in October which will give
a range of professionals the opportunity to update their
knowledge of Bereavement Support, Safe Sleeping,
Child Injury Prevention and Stillbirth research.
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Donation of a Cot to the
John Tonge Centre
The Education and Support Services Team made a visit
in December to the John Tonge Centre to meet with
counselling staff to continue the strong relationship
that has been built over the years between these two
organisations. Whilst visiting the centre we were shown
the viewing room where families are able to spend time
with their deceased relative. We were all struck by how
stark the room was and that the only available viewing
area was in the context of an adult sized hospital trolley.
Annie then set about organising donations of a cot,
clothing and bedding so that families of babies and small
children could see their child for the last time in more
comforting surroundings.
The team was received by a large contingent of staff
on Wednesday 18th March at a special morning tea.
Afterwards the cot was assembled and placed in the
viewing area.
Contact
SIDS AND KIDS QUEENSLAND E-NEWSLETTER
The e-newsletter is up and running again. We have published two editions so far this year, in March and May. The May
edition featured a brief article on the difficulties faced on Mother’s Day by families whose child has died. We aim to
feature at least one article in each publication that touches on a topic of grief or discusses particular seasonal concerns.
We also would love to have contributions from you as well. If you find something that you have found useful in coping
with grief or would like to add your own personal reflection we welcome all contributions. If you would like to receive
our e-newsletter or add your own contributions please send an email to [email protected]
Second Counselling Room
With all the refurbishments that occurred at the end of last year we were left with a spare room, adjacent to reception, that
was designated a second counselling room. Unfortunately the room had very thin walls and was therefore unsuitable for
counselling. Our wonderful Educator, Annie Dawson was able to secure a grant from the Lord Mayor’s Suburban Initiative
Fund and Wishart Ward, so that we have been able to soundproof and repaint the room. Loot Homewares at Mt Gravatt
has agreed to donate soft furnishings for the room. The room is taking shape and we look forward to having another safe
space for families to share their experiences following the death of their child. This space should be operational by July
and we hope to have photos for you in the next edition of Enigma.
Gold Coast Support Group
We are very pleased to announce that SIDS and Kids Queensland have introduced a monthly bereavement support group
on the Gold Coast. There have been many requests for such support and it is only through the generous contribution by
counsellor, Jan Bond (MCouns.), that we are able to offer this service.
Jan is an experienced counsellor with a particular interest in providing bereavement support counselling. She has also had
many years experience with working with Bonnie Babes and will bring a wealth of knowledge and understanding to the
group. Many of our Gold Coast parents already know Jan.
The first group was held on Friday 6th March and groups will continue on the first Friday of every month. If you would like
to attend this group, please call Cathie or Angela for more information.
Internet Forum
This is an internet message board for all bereaved parents to chat, discuss particular issues and provide and receive
support from other parents and counsellors from SIDS and Kids NSW.
http://:sidsandkidsnsw.proboards86.com
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Support Groups 09 (July to December)
At premises: 68 Creek Road, Mt. Gravatt
At 2/75 Dunsford Street, Zillmere
COFFEE MORNING
– Last Friday in the month (10am – 12 noon)
July 31st
August 28th
September 25th
October 30th
November 27th
NORTHSIDE GROUP
– Third Tuesday of each Month (10am – 12 noon)
July 21st
August 18th
September 15th
October 20th
November 17th
EARLY GRIEF GROUP– Wednesday (10am – 12 noon)
For parents in the first 18 months following
the death of their child
July 15th
September 9th
November 11th
MEN’S SUPPORT GROUP – Saturday (9:30am – 11am)
August 22nd
October 10th
COPING WITH CHRISTMAS WORKSHOP
– Saturday (10am – 11.30 noon)
December 12th
GRANDPARENTS GROUP – Saturday (10:30am – 12 noon)
July 11th
September 12th
November 21st
CHERISHED MEMORIES WORKSHOP
– Second Friday in the month (10am – 12 noon)
We would love to invite parents, relatives and close friends to
join us for our new Cherished Memories support group, held
on the second Friday of each month. Please bring along your
‘craft’ to honour your child’s life and memories. This could
include quilting, scrap booking, designing photo displays, even
journaling or another hobby. It is also an opportunity to unwind
when the ‘going is tough’. Of course you are welcome to
simply come along and just debrief with others who are in a
similar situation to yourself. Please feel free to contact us if you
have any questions.
July 17th (changed to third Friday of the month)
August 14th
September 11th
October 9th
November 15th
SUBSEQUENT PREGNANCY GROUP
– Thursday (10am – 12 noon)
For parents who are considering having another child,
are currently pregnant or whose new baby is up to
3 months of age.
October 22nd
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At 12/10 Enterprise Street, Molendinar
GOLD COAST GROUP – First Friday of the Month
July 3rd
August 7th
September 4th
October 2nd
November 6th
For further information, or if you are interested in attending,
please phone 1800 628 648 or 3849 7122.
It would be very much appreciated if you are intending to
join us for our meetings that you RSVP (for catering and
administration purposes). Thank you.
MEMORIAL SERVICE
Sunday 6th December (3-4pm) Bardon Centre
precious
memories
The Mention of My Child’s Name
The Mention of my child’s name
May bring tears to my eyes,
But it never fails to bring
Music to my ears.
If you are really my friend,
Let me hear the beautiful music of his name.
It soothes my broken heart
And sings to my soul.
Author Unknown
The following pages are dedications to the
precious babies and children who have died.
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Precious memories.
SIDS and Kids Queensland welcomes your Precious Memories to be included in our Enigma Publication.
This can be in memory of your child’s birthday or anniversary. It can be a poem, your child’s story or any
other piece you may like to include.
The next Summer edition of Enigma will be published in December 2009. If you would like to have your
Precious Memories included in this next issue please complete the details below. You can include photos or
pictures so please send these along with your Precious Memories by October 16th 2009. If Precious Memories
are received after the closing date we cannot guarantee your story will be published in the Summer Edition.
With the growth of the organisation we are now reaching more families. To ensure there is space for all
contributions we ask that each family take this into consideration when submitting their contributions.
Child’s Name:
Date:
MESSAGE:
Would you like your child remembered in the Birthdates & Anniversaries?
YES
NO
Child’s Name:
Date of Birth:
Date of Death:
I hereby give consent to have my child’s Precious Memories published in SIDS and Kids Queensland Engima.
Name:
Signature:
Daytime Contact Number:
Please return marked Private & Confidential to: Enigma, SIDS and Kids Queensland, PO Box 241, Mount Gravatt Queensland
4122.
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Hayley Alana Darbey
19th May 2007 – 1st June 2007
13 days old
To our beautiful baby girl Hayley,
Happy 2nd Birthday in heaven Bubba! I can’t believe you are 2
already! I wish that you were still here with us and could play
with your baby brother Hayden. We miss you so very much,
it hurts. I have found myself sitting and thinking about you so
much lately & wondering why you had to go through what you
did. Mummy and Daddy are so proud of you darling, for being
so brave. We talk about you all the time & tell people how
very special you are. You gave us the best gift in the world; a
precious baby girl to love. We are so thankful for every single
moment that we had you here with us, but only wish that we
had known to treasure every single second of those 13 days
& I never would have left your side. There will always be so
many why’s and what ifs & maybe someday we will know. I
just hope and pray that when it is our turn to leave this earth
I will have you back in my arms again. Your baby Brother has
brought so much love & laughter back into our home which we
treasure dearly. He is the most gorgeous little boy and has such
a beautiful personality. He just knows sometimes when I am
sad and will just come and sit in my lap and give me a cuddle.
He reminds me so much of you everyday and is growing up
so quickly. He will be 1 year old just 3 days after your 2nd
birthday! Time has just gone so fast. He is starting to say lots
of little words, he says Mum Mum, Dadda, Birdie, Duck and
the most beautiful word yesterday; he said Hayley! We were
saying goodnight to your photo when he said it. It was such a
special moment & he had the biggest smile on his face.
We have a pretty big month ahead – Mothers Day, Your 2nd
Birthday, Hayden’s 1st Birthday and then your 2nd Anniversary
all within 3 weeks. We’ve got you a few beautiful things for
your big Day and look out for your birthday balloons that we
will be sending. We will make a birthday wish for you and
blow out your candles. We will be celebrating your birthday for
it is so very special to us. It marks the day we became your
Mummy and Daddy and you became our Daughter. Thank you
for coming into our lives and giving us so many memories and
precious moments to treasure. We love you so much Hayley
and will forever.
Happy 2nd Birthday Baby Girl, we hope you have a very
special day.
Love you always from, Mummy, Daddy & Hayden xxxx
“Some people only dream of Angels, We held one in our arms”
Our Family Portrait – November 2008
Kylie, Jason, Hayley & Hayden Darbey
“An Angel in the book of life
Wrote down your beautiful name
And whispered
As he closed the book
Too beautiful for this earth”
“If tears could build a stairway
And memories a lane,
I’d walk right up to heaven
And bring you back again.”
Cuddles with
Grandma
My sweet little angel, it is nearly your second birthday already.
I wonder every day what you would look like now and the
things you might be able to say. I still can’t understand why
we weren’t given a chance to see you smile and grow. I am
sure that you would have been a happy little girl, full of excited
chatter and energy and loved spending your days with your
Mum and Dad and playing with your beautiful little brother,
Hayden. I would love to have been able to play with you, make
you lovely clothes, read to you and have you run up to me
excitedly calling ‘Grandma!’ I look up at your star in the sky
and know that you’re safe in heaven and that you can’t feel
any pain. I believe that your spirit is never far away, especially
when things go wrong, as I only have to think of you and about
all the pain you went through in your short time here, to draw
strength from and get on with things. You have made me
so very grateful for all that I have and I don’t take things for
granted. My precious little Hayley, you are a constant source of
inspiration and encouragement for me and you will always be
close by in spirit. Loved forever, Grandma.
We will always love you Hayley & We will celebrate you
precious life for as long as we shall live.
Love Mummy, Daddy & Hayden xxxx
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Kash William Delaforce
25th February 2008 – 15th June 2008
To MY Precious Little Man,
Kash William Delaforce
It has almost been a year and all I want is to hold you and kiss
you and tell you that I love you just one more time, just one
more hug. It hurts so much to think your still never coming
back. If only I could have you back for one more day. Just
to sit and hold you in my arms. If only this wish could come
true. I come to believe that you were just to precious for this
earth and you were always going to be my angel child. You
have greater business and can guide us better from above
then down here on earth. Your brother sometimes comes up
to me and holds my face and says I love you mummy and the
weirdest thing is I believe it is you telling me not your brother.
It is very soft and sweet. Daddy does have a big hole in is
heart now you’re gone. He misses you very much. His big
boy Kashman. You were so small when you where born and
so perfect in everyway. I miss you so much. Just one more
cuddle ask please just one more. I have photos of you all over
the house sometimes I smile and sometimes I cry, I always
get this tight pain in my chest and throat. I talk to you everyday
as if your following me around. I believe you are around us all
the time you to protect us and your brother alot otherwise he
would surely have broken an arm or leg by now the daredevil.
I made you a barnyard cake for your birthday I hope you liked it.
Eli did! So Happy Birthday My Little Turtle!!!
25/2/08 - 15/6/08
Daddy says i love you big boy. One day we will meet again then
I will give you the biggest hug you’ve ever got!!
to celebrate life with your friends in the sky
Eli says stop moving my slinky. Love you little bro.
Keep us safe!
we’ll look at the sky and your face will always be there
I love you always my precious little man. You always will have
my heart.
we won’t say good, we will see you there
Love always and forever lots of big hugs and sloppy kisses love
Mummy, Daddy and Eli
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112 days
K - Kindness
A - Adorable
S - Smiley
H - Handsome
Kash it has been a year since I held you so near
there hasn’t been a day I haven’t shed a tear
Kash you have left a big hole in our hearts
we fill with memories we cherish like gold
your beautiful blue eyes would light up the sky
your generous smile like an ocean so wide
we didn’t get the chance to see you crawl or walk
kick a ball or try to talk, ride a bike, your first day at school
put that special bandaid on your first little scratch
we let 30 balloons go high in the sky
we will never forget you our little man
until we meet upstairs
beyond the door, there is peace i’m sure
and we know there’ll be NO MORE TEARS IN HEAVEN!!!!
LOVE YOU ALWAYS...... Nanny And Poppy Delaforce
Kash Delaforce 3 1/2 months 15.6.08
Playing with the Angels.
Love Great Gran Spencer xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Baby Kash
Your time with us was so short but so precious and we will
never forget your beautiful smile.
It’s hard to believe almost a year has gone passed since you
left us.
Too precious to ever be forgotten.
Love Auntie Sue & your cousins
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hi Baby Kash
I miss getting to give you cuddles and aunty trina said I was
very good a feeding you a bottle
I miss you little Kash
Love your cousin Gemma xxxxxx
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Miss you Kash
Love you Always
Auntie Bec and Zoe
To our precious Grandson.
we miss you and love you very much
Forever in our hearts
Love always Nanny and Poppy Chapman
to our precious little man Kash,
we love you and miss you very much
love you lots aunty Leilani and family
Kash William Delaforce
25/02/08 – 15/6/08
As Grandparents we learnt to be patient
and fair and no matter what happens,
This is written out of Love for my son Matthew and his
beautiful partner Katrina, in memory of my Grandson “Kash
William” who was born on the 25th February 2008.
Kash William was conceived in love. His parents Matthew and
Katrina had anxious moments from the time he was conceived
and there were concerns whether this baby would be born
alive. Despite the odds Kash William was born 2 weeks early
on Monday the 25th of February at 12.27pm.
Kash was a tiny baby and weighed only 5lb 4ozs. A beautiful
child, who from the time he was born captured every ones love
the moment they saw him.
Kash William was only with us for a short time and I know his
passing has brought so much pain and sorrow for his loving
parents Matthew and Katrina and all his family and their friends.
However we are all grateful for this little boy because in his
short life he gave us all so much joy and love, all of which
happened in just 112 Days.
to always be there.
For Uncle and Aunties
they learnt how to give
and treat everyone with respect
no matter how they live.
Cousins learnt how to play and share,
For little Eli he learnt how to care, and with his
little Brother he always was there.
Friends and Neighbours learnt how to give
by providing meals
and just being ready to give.
So when your feeling sad and blue,
remember what Kash did for you.
Close your eyes and you will find, you will see
His smile every time.
His tiny frame, his eyes of blue,
112 Days
this precious Baby Boy
112 Days doesn’t seem so long,
we loved and knew.
but in that short time ,
he taught us to be strong.
Although he’s gone you’re never apart for Kash
To say no to the things
lives forever in your Heart.
we know weren’t right
Love yourself and one another,
to love one another and not to fight.
and learn from the lessons of each other.
To be grateful for what we had ,
To be a proud Dad,
112 Days Kash had to live,
and accept sometimes we are wrong.
remember the lessons he was sent to give.
To forgive and be patient
Kash William is playing with
was learnt by his Mum,
Angels and past Family and Friends
so many lesson from one little Son.
and we will be with Him at our Journeys end.
with love Nanny and Poppy Chapman xx
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Keegan Rhys Hardy
28.11.02 – 09.02.03
KEEGAN RHYS HARDY
28.11.02 - 09.02.03
Six years since we held you
Six years since we touched you
Six years since we smelt you
Six years since we kissed you
Not a moment we haven’t thought of you
Not a moment we haven’t missed you
Not a moment we haven’t wished to
see you, hold you, touch you
Not a moment we haven’t loved you
Six years too many without you!
And three under 3…
Am I to spend the rest of my days looking at your twin
And wondering how alike you would be
Would you be in the same grade 1 class
Would you play soccer on the same team
Would you be obsessed with Lego and Star Wars
At the end of the day you are not here with me
I know I can’t pretend to break the bond
That you and I share
My second son, the first born twin
I savor the moments that I held you tight
Felt you breath and watched you sleep
This empty , aching feeling with always be with me
That knot in my stomach- I really hope it never goes away
Always loved
& Never Forgotten
Our precious boy
Cause to me it’s a constant reminder of the love that I have
And that can never be taken from me
I could never pretend that this didn’t happen to us
You have shaped my life as a Mummy, a daughter and a wife
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Love Daddy, Mummy, Lincoln,
Bayden (your twin)
& Emersen.
That I didn’t have twins boys
You have made so many things so different now
I will always be your Mummy
Our bond will never be broken
Not by pain, by tears shed or by sorrow
I love you today, tomorrow and always
Love Mummy
We thought you were so tiny
Beautiful button noses,
Twin toes and glistening eyes
Delicate hands and fingers, and a cheeky grin
I Lost My Child Today
by Netta Wilson, 1996
We never thought we’d know how we’d miss
Even hearing the sound of your cry
I lost my child today.
Silence is not golden, it is horrible
People came to weep and cry,
As I just sat and stared, dry eyed.
We didn’t know the hours that we held you close,
They struggled to find words to say,
Let you sleep on our tummy and lie beside us
To try and make the pain go away,
Would seem so short
I walked the floor in disbelief,
We didn’t know the numbness we felt the day we lost you
I lost my child today.
Would always hold our hearts heavy
I lost my child last month.
We didn’t know the true meaning of the words
Most of the people went away,
Sadness and sorrow
Some still call and some still stay.
Now we know… and now we know it hurts
I wait to wake up from this dream.
This can’t be real. I want to scream.
Yet everything is locked inside,
If I were to pretend this didn’t happen to us
God, help me, I want to die.
That I never held you tight
I lost my child last month.
Kissed your lips or watched you sleep
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I lost my child last year.
Little Angel
Now people who had come, have gone.
I was given an angel to cherish and love,
I sit and struggle all day long.
So tiny, so perfect, a gift from above.
To bear the pain so deep inside.
When I looked at his face it was calmness I found
And now my friends just question, Why?
And that peace seemed to spread to all he was around.
Why does this mother not move on?
His love touched my heart like fine threads of spun gold
Just sits and sings the same old song.
And I thanked God for giving this angel to hold.
Good heavens, it has been so long.
But I did not know then that time was my foe
I lost my child last year.
And too soon, with a whisper, my angel would go.
My heart almost breaking, a touch soft as lace
Time has not moved on for me.
Seemed to wipe at the hurt as it coursed down my face.
The numbness it has disappeared.
I still have my angel to cherish and love,
My eyes have now cried many tears.
Those gold threads now shimmer from Heaven above.
I see the look upon your face,
And though I can’t see him or cuddle him tight,
“She must move on and leave this place.”
I won’t say goodbye, Little Angel, goodnight.
Yet I am trapped right here in time,
The songs the same, as is the rhyme,
I lost my child......Today.
Bayden (left), Keegan (right) (2 days before he passed)
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Kyra Jane Gibson
17th May 2005
Our family was rejoicing at the birth of our only daughter Kyra
Jane Gibson born on 17th May 2005. However her entry
into this world was way too early as she was due to be born
on 14th September 2005. She was strong and athletic and
grabbed my hand as soon as she arrived into the world. Kyra
was so wanting to live and yet not grown or formed enough
in the womb for the out side world. Kyra was loved on by her
father David who held her and kissed her and talked to her in
the short 20 minutes she breathed life with us. My brother
Gary and his wife and their daughter Amy were present at
her early birth and they along with the nurses were the only
witnesses of her short life. I committed her spirit to Jesus in
the very short time we had and a great atmosphere of peace
was with us. The joy of her birth raised up within me her
mother and I managed to hang on to that as long as I possibly
could. It wasn’t until 3 months after her birth that the reality of
her passing hit home. I was not at home tending to my new
born. I had to get through September when Kyra should have
been born and today that month is still a challenge. The first
two years were just hard, however I decided to enjoy the three
sons I already have. Thomas, Joseph and Bradley were just
as sad that their sister had died. They were able to have time
with their sister and the lesson of life and death was in held in
their own hands. They still needed mum to be with them and
care about and for them. So together we have worked through
this event and still to this day try to focus on a happy future but
Kyra is not forgotten and is part of our family life whenever she
is able to be. We have the belief that we will see our daughter
again in heaven and this gives us a lot of peace.
Every member of our family had their own way of grieving and
coping with her death. We all needed different support and
time to grieve.
We as a family have appreciated all S.I.D.S. have had to offer
our family through this most challenging event in our life.
Without our faith and the support it gives to us and others we
have learnt that without it you can not survive the death of a
child very well.
Thank you, S.I.D.S.
David and Paula, Thomas, Joseph,
Bradley and Kyra Gibson
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Maddison
Suzanne Erwin
Max Angus
Barker
25/11/04
21st February 2008 – 27th April 2008
I want you to keep me in your heart and mind,
My darling Max,
For I spend so many quiet moments of my own,
On 27th of April, it will be a year since you went away. It will
be a year since the last time I held you and kissed you. As
I’m writing this letter, I am remembering everything that we
did together. I am remembering your beautiful smile and your
cuddles.
Thinking how much I miss you, how hard it is to be apart
And how wonderful it is that you’re always with me,
Warm and cherished….
Here in my heart.
A. Rogers
Mysterious
Angelic
Divine
Daughter
Innocent
Silent
Omnipresent
Necromancy
We miss you and love you with all of our hearts
Mummy, Daddy and little brother Hamish
xoxox
My precious boy, I miss you so much and I love you so much.
Everyday when I wake up in the morning, my first thought of
is you and in the evening as I drifted to sleep, my last thought
of is you. You are never far away from my mind. Everyday, I
always think of how much you would have changed, of how
much I missed out on seeing you grow into a little toddler.
You would have started walking by now. You would be saying
something by now like ‘Mama or Dada or Kuya’ (for your big
brother).
Everytime I think of you and it is one of the bad memories, I
always say ‘Bubba’, and the memory would go and be replaced
with a good memory. I know you are looking down at me,
sending me messages to not to get sad and just remember the
good times we had in that short time you were here with me.
Your Kuya Xander would be proud to show you off to all his
new prep friends. He always says that he misses you so much.
As for your Daddy, I know he misses you and he loves you so
much. He is always thinking of you and I bet that you are never
far from his mind as well.
Once again my Bubba, just remember that I love you and I
miss you very much. I just wish that you are here in my arms,
getting cuddles and kisses from you. But I know that it’s never
going to happen and that I just have to wait till we see each
other again.
I miss you.
I Love You to the Moon and Back!!!
Mummy xxxooo
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Mason Kerr
21.02.06
‘I’m There’
Dear Mummy
I want you to know that I’m okay.
I never really went away.
I’ll always be there in your heart,
Like I’ve been right from the start.
I’ll always be your baby boy.
I’ll always be your bundle of joy.
Though you can’t see me please know I’m there.
And all our love we’ll always share.
Dear Mason,
Mummy, Daddy, Lachlan, Brock and Samuel love you and miss
you every day you are not with us. You are our little boy who
was born an angel, too precious for this earth. We only got
to say goodbye, but when we all meet again, we’ll say hello
the way it should have been. You are not alone Mason, you
have Great Nanna and Great Grandpa Dunstone (Mona May
& Lewis), Great Nanna and Great Grandpa Measures (Estelle
& Bill), your brother or sister we lost at 14 weeks, Aunty Carol
and her son Johnny and David who is Mummy’s friend who
was taken too soon. So play with all of your friends you meet
along the way and always know we all love you and we wish
you never had to go,
We all love and miss you Mason,
Mummy, Daddy and big brothers Lachlan, Brock and Samuel.
“Please”
By Pete Murray
From Mason
Baby Mason
For Our Little Angel “Mason”
Looking down from above
You are forever in our hearts and forever loved
One Day we will all meet you,
When you help to take us to your home,
Until then “Our Little Angel”
We hope you forever roam
In you special garden
That God made for you,
Your precious home
All our love forever
Auntie Bee, Isabella, Uncle Rick & Uncle Beau
For always I’ll see you there,
For always I’ll hold your hand.
For always I’ll be you man.
Please say something.
I want you to.
At 2 this morning I have to go, and all is nothing without you.
Please, please, please say something.
Mason
21/02/06 40 weeks
You had gone before we knew you,
Fly free with the white butterflies.
Nanna and Poppa will come one day to play!
You cannot come home to us.
Always in our prayers
Clare & Richard Measures (Grandma & Poppa)
Dear Mason
You are always in our hearts and thoughts, our little beautiful
Grandson, Mason.
Love from Joyce & Bob Kerr ( Nanna & Granddad)
‘A Million Times’
A million times I needed you
A million times I have cried.
If love alone could have saved you,
You would have never died.
In life I love you dearly
In death I love you more,
In my heart you hold a special place,
That no one will ever fill.
It broke my heart to lose you,
But you didn’t go alone,
Because a part of me went with you,
The day God called you home.
Love from Mummy & Daddy
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William David Foster
10.06.2004 – 25.09.2004
In Memory of William David Foster
What a difference time makes…
It has been four and half years since you died. It’s not really a
long time and yet I feel like it was an age ago. There has been
so much healing in that time.
Time has taken us on such a journey. Time has been our friend.
It has cradled us through our healing. The old anecdote “Time
heals all wounds” speaks a wisdom we now understand. And
I no longer believe that this saying reduces the enormity of
losing you like I did in the early days.
Most of my days now are ‘normal’. I feel joy, annoyance,
frustration, anger, happiness just like other people. The big
difference is my emotions are no longer overshadowed by
sadness as they were in the first two years after your death. I
feel pretty normal and whole most of the time.
That’s not to say that you aren’t always on my mind. Not a day
goes by that I don’t think of you or mention you. And a couple
of weeks into school this year when I realized you would have
started Prep, I was very down. Especially when watching
my friends’ younger children walk out of school with their big
brothers and sisters. Mackenzie would have been so proud of
you and Emmerson would have excitedly met you both at the
gate. I wonder how you would have looked in your uniform.
A bereaved parent’s headspace is always occupied, to a certain
degree, with thoughts of their dead child or children. It’s just
the way it is. It’s the way it should be. But in saying that, a
bereaved parent should also be able to lead a relatively normal
and happy life. And that’s what I think my life is now. Time has
brought me here.
I know you know this, my little angel, but you have a new
sibling on the way. At writing this I am 37 weeks pregnant and
feeling great emotionally. Physically, out of my four full-term
pregnancies this has been my best. How wonderful is that?!
And what is more wonderful is that I feel emotionally strong
and happy and excited. I’m really looking forward to holding
this baby in my arms. And to finding out whether you have a
brother or a sister to watch over. A couple of years ago I would
not have believed these feelings were possible for me.
This pregnancy is in such stark contrast to your little sister’s.
We fell pregnant with Emmerson five months after you
died and the following nine months were really hard. To be
expecting a new life so soon after losing a new life was so
complicated and painful. And once she was born, the fear of
losing her was stifling. But we got through it.
We’ve gotten through a lot of things since Saturday, September
25th, 2004. Your Dad and I are stronger people individually and
together. That is your gift to us.
Time’s gift is a full and happy life.
Happy 5th Birthday
William
Wish you were here to eat cake with us.
All my love,
Mummy
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Summer Rose Marriott
10.1.2003
Pink Summer Rose!
Dreaming by the morning moon
protected in a tight cocoon
so pale in the gloom
Petals of the pink rose
Stretching at the sun light smiles
reflecting on its dew drop tiles
a glow that’s seen for miles
The waking of the pink rose
Delicate as the summer breeze
passion pink of royal genes
a queen within the garden green
the blooming of the pink rose
Soft as love you give it when
hearts should touch a frail friend
before the gift of life might end
The message of the pink rose
As we cry these tender woes
and say goodbye to them we know
they’ll fly wherever spirits go
On petals of a soft pink rose.
Our Love to you ALWAYS!!!!
Love Mummy, Ma, Pop, Brandon, Brittany, Olivia
And Charlotte
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Donations. In loving memory.
In Loving Memory of Luke James Salway
Kevin & Chris Wesche
In Loving Memory Alexander John Coggins
Christine Kennedy
In Loving Memory of Hunter William Ian Andrew
McInnes-Duke
Friends and Family of Hunter
In Loving Memory of Nicholas Peter Lee
Carmel McSweeney
In Loving Memory of Robert Michael Mason &
Joshua James Mason-Pill
Tom and Evelyn Mason
In Loving Memory Alexandra Coggins
Christine Kennedy
In Loving Memory of Holly Naumann
Sheila Twilley
In Loving Memory of Arthur John Aidon Reid
Family and Friends
In Loving Memory of Holly Rose Naumann
Faye Cooper
In Loving Memory of Ava Stolzeberg
Sonya Rogers
In Loving Memory of Kacee Michelle Price
Merv & Jan Price
In Loving Memory of Harrison McIntosh
Peter & Maree McIntosh
In Loving Memory of Greta Isobel Blaikie
Jim & Meg Blaikie
In Loving Memory of Jack Anthony Ingram Purton
Lesley Ingram
Von, John and Luke Barnes
Beth Purton
Justin and Grace Ingram
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Birthdates & Anniversaries.
birthdates
January
3rd
Kodi John-Thomas Campbell
5th
Kyle Joseph John Shay
6th
Troy Paul Adams
8th
Joshua Charles Bradbury
8th
Chelsey Ellen Rowe
10th
Summer Rose Marriott
14th
Blake John Caruana
14th
Mitchell Arthur Sticher
14th
Randall William Bianchi
15th
Kobe Reign Whittaker
18th
Nicholas Peter Lee
19th
Jayden Phillip Bell
20th
Anja Christie Cook
23rd
Lauren Jodie Whitton
23rd
Ella Louise Longmire
24th
Braydon Reece Oliphant
February
4th
Renee Ashley Pilgrim
8th
Brodie James Cowe
8th
Chloe-Jade Gilligan
8th
Sabastian David Fisher-Leach
11th
Courtney Lee Ryan
14th
Tara Carter
18th
Bryson Hilton Barry Shepard
18th
Campbell James Voll
19th
Brodie Jason Kyle Cheung
19th
Phoenix Leigh Brown
20th
James Michael Scott Edwards
20th
Leah Hope Golinski
21st
Mason Kerr
21st
Max Angus Barker
23rd
Natasha Louise Hall
23rd
Jarrod Michael Rayner Hurren
23rd
Katie Gardiner
25th
Eliot Dafydd Adams
25th
Shardai Louise McCallum
25th
Kash William Delaforce
26th
Michael Robert Parnaby
27th
Raymond James Moyle
27th
Tamika Maree Eggmolesse
March
1st
3rd
6th
6th
9th
10th
11th
12th
14th
17th
21st
23rd
24th
20
Izaak John Bin Barba
Jessica Marie Peace
Riley Kelly
Ashleigh Janet Penrose
James Andrew Donohue
Adam Blake Sparksman
Jaidann Gordon Lampard
Brendan Terry Garland
Annalise May Houldsworth
Jayden Zachary Michael Kline
Rachel Stephanie Kemp
Brodie Luke Douglas
Dylan Ray Kevin Murphy
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25th
26th
28th
30th
31st
Bethanie Kym Crowhurst
Sophie Maree Refalo
Coltyn Michael Driscoll
David William Allan Koplick
Melanie Jane Bauman
April
6th
9th
12th
18th
18th
24th
24th
25th
27th
28th
29th
Paige Elizabeth Kate Sneddon
Emerson Leece
Dean Michael Phillips
Dylan James Kearns-Whiting
Damien James Lyel Hallewell
Lauren Anne Diefenbach
Elizabeth Ruth Thomson
Noah Simon Darryl Gillett
Tayla Jade Cotgrove
Teanne Bishop McDonald
Scott Robert Young West
May
1st
3rd
4th
9th
11th
11th
13th
14th
15th
15th
16th
17th
19th
19th
21st
22nd
27th
28th
Hayden Marc Riddell
Nathan Scott Reid “Nay Nay”
Luke Allan James Salway
Tarnia Deborah Louise Morrell
Hamish Isaiah O’Sullivan
Clay John Grant
Sara Emily Schneeberg
Todd Matthew Freemantle
Alana Maree Talbot
Sean David Longmire
Joshua Damian Leigh Haines
Kyra Jane Gibson
Matisse Aiyanna Chrzczonowicz
Hayley Alana Darbey
Savannah Lee Barr
Madison Talanya Lyell
Jack Anthony Ingram Purton
Harrison McIntosh
June
2nd
5th
6th
10th
10th
12th
13th
15th
16th
17th
18th
18th
20th
20th
21st
24th
24th
26th
30th
30th
Joshua Graehlert
Imogen Grace Freemantle
Eloise Jane Chipman
Chloe Maree Irvine
William David Foster
Nicholas Shane Stehbens
Jonathan Roy Spencer
Jeromee Ross Sippel
Claire Laura Celeste Spencer
Tahlia Jane Cassidy
Dylan Tyrone Cochrane
Zahra Ann McMullen
Callen Patrick John Novotny
Madison Paige Taylor
Molly-Mae Grace Cooper
Nathan Carl Schmidt
Nicholas Wayne Curtis
Jak Anthony Butler Raleigh
Ben Sebastian Wright
Brennah Aisling Paterson
July
1st
1st
3rd
6th
7th
12th
12th
14th
15th
16th
18th
18th
19th
20th
23rd
26th
26th
29th
30th
David Robert Kirkwood
Adam James Chatten Hewitt
Tasmin Christie Miller
Tyrone Gordon Pomeroy
Kyle Thomas Weir
Alyssa Kaye Bradford
Xavier Leece
Ryan Selwyn Klibbe
Jessica Jordon Whitford
Little Mervyn
Jeremy Glen Dempsey
Evie Grace Ewart
Ruby Ellen Kowplos
Leighton-Rhys McCoy-Duggan
Steven Ross Jagger
Nicholas Karydis
Britney May Brown
Dillian Ryan Walker
Erin Madeline McMaster
August
3rd
10th
11th
11th
17th
23rd
27th
26th
26th
28th
28th
28th
Amber Louise Whitelock
Marco Kairi Cameron Fujii
Mitchyl Jaye Harris
Isabella Michelle Tredrea
Harry Thomas Strickland
Michael John Barrett
Shane Bowen Miller
Jasmine Robyn Atterwell
Alexander John Coggins
Darcy Vincent Schroder
Gage Mana Christensen
Hannah Isabelle Dillon
September
3rd
Mitchell James Edwards
4th
Shiahn Burke
5th
Annazina Cassimatis
7th
Peter Adam Clarke
7th
Kurt Michael Stewart
8th
Belinda Jo-Anne Muller
9th
Jack Richard Jones
9th
Kade Adrian Lovell Fragiacomo
16th
Ella Grace Bourke
23rd
Andrew Scott Gaughan
23rd
William Ashton Heyward Tye
24th
Dominic Patrick Lyons
24th
Grace Catherine Brook-McVey
25th
Zayne Mervyn Kelly Hile
27th
Oliver Joseph Jones
October
3rd
Callum Luke Ronnfeldt
8th
Tristan Llewellyn Thom
12th
Jacinta Gail Melita Orcher
12th
Dylan James Landers
15th
Zachary Thomas Cassidy
19th
Rhiannon Mary Puttee
20th
Michael Robert Scott Bishop
20th
Dylan Rex Harvey
21st
Ava Mavis Wooster
21st
Lauren Kate Dreicer
22nd
Sophia Celeste Langford
29th
Nikita Kaya Pollard
29th
Georgia Abbott
30th
Austin Wayne Smith
November
1st
Michael Thomas Fitzgerald
3rd
Madison Grace Wood
4th
Joshua Joseph Robert Shay
7th
Jessica Sarah Wuttke
8th
Bethany Kae Bowden
8th
Caitlin Emma Ryan
15th
Elliot Foster Brown
16th
Charli Elise Turnbull
21st
Aymie-Leigh Jade Eveans
23rd
Ashley Rose Patricia Thomas
Ava May Corbally
25th
Maddison Suzanne Erwin
27th
Brianna Monique Gibson
28th
Keegan Rhys Hardy
December
1st
Kacee Michelle Price
2nd
Jessica Joy Jones
2nd
Joseph Michael Organ
3rd
Charli-Zeta Hayes
4th
Blake Greame Murphy
4th
Thomas James Hides
4th
Brock and Dejay Bowden
6th
Jacob Daniel Taylor Humphries
7th
Luke John Lassman
13th
Harrison James Boundy Humphrey
15th
Joe Alford-Leeder
24th
Dominic John Jackson
29th
Jessica Leigh Megson
29th
Callum Thomas Danger Eastham-Prest
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Birthdates & Anniversaries.
anniversaries
January
10th
12th
14th
19th
19th
26th
28th
31st
Summer Rose Marriott
Raymond James Moyle
Elliot Foster Brown
Jayden Phillip Bell
Randall William Bianchi
Annazina Cassimatis
Callum Luke Ronnfeldt
Harry Thomas Strickland
February
8th
9th
10th
12th
12th
13th
18th
19th
19th
21st
24th
29th
Sabastian David Fisher-Leach
Keegan Rhys Hardy
James Michael Scott Edwards
Courtney Lee Ryan
Kyle Joseph John Shay
Callum Thomas Danger Eastham-Prest
Dillian Ryan Walker
Braydon Reece Oliphant
Mitchell Arthur Sticher
Mason Kerr
Bethany Kae Bowden
Sophia Celeste Langford
March
3rd
7th
9th
12th
12th
14th
14th
15th
16th
17th
22nd
22nd
25th
27th
28th
29th
31st
31st
22
Charli Elise Turnbull
Darcy Vincent Schroder
Eliot Dafydd Adams
Madison Grace Wood
Austin Wayne Smith
Joshua Charles Bradbury
Jack Richard Jones
Jasmine Robyn Atterwell
Kurt Michael Stewart
Dominic John Jackson
Brodie Jason Kyle Cheung
Jarrod Michael Rayner Hurren
Shardai Louise McCallum
Kobe Reign Whittaker
Tara Carter
Bryson Hilton Barry Shepard
Natasha Louise Hall
Nicholas Karydis
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April
6th
7th
9th
9th
14th
18th
18th
21st
21st
21st
24th
27th
28th
29th
Brianna Monique Gibson
Adam Blake Sparksman
Kodi John-Thomas Campbell
Emerson Leece
Nathan Scott Reid “Nay Nay”
Chelsey Ellen Rowe
Jessica Leigh Megson
Ashley Rose Patricia Thomas
Leah Hope Golinski
Blake John Caruana
Elizabeth Ruth Thomson
Max Angus Barker
Teanne Bishop McDonald
Adam James Chatten Hewitt
May
1st
1st
1st
4th
4th
4th
10th
10th
11th
12th
13th
16th
17th
22nd
23rd
31st
Zayne Mervyn Kelly Hile
Katie Gardiner
Nikita Kaya Pollard
Jessica Marie Peace
Luke Allan James Salway
Amber Louise Whitelock
Anja Christie Cook
Caitlin Emma Ryan
Clay John Grant
Dylan Ray Kevin Murphy
David Robert Kirkwood
William Ashton Heyward Tye
Kyra Jane Gibson
Dylan James Kearns-Whiting
Jayden Zachary Michael Kline
Britney May Brown
June
1st
2nd
2nd
3rd
3rd
5th
5th
6th
9th
11th
11th
15th
15th
16th
17th
18th
19th
23rd
24th
25th
27th
28th
29th
Hayley Alana Darbey
Lauren Jodie Whitton
Matisse Aiyanna Chrzczonowicz
Lauren Anne Diefenbach
Hannah Isabelle Dillon
Coltyn Michael Driscoll
Imogen Grace Freemantle
Claire Laura Celeste Spencer
Joshua Joseph Robert Shay
Paige Elizabeth Kate Sneddon
Leighton-Rhys McCoy-Duggan
Sean David Longmire
Kash William Delaforce
Sara Emily Schneeberg
Tahlia Jane Cassidy
Zahra Ann McMullen
Tamika Maree Eggmolesse
Madison Paige Taylor
Troy Paul Adams
Melanie Jayne Bauman
Kacee Michelle Price
Campbell James Voll
Todd Matthew Freemantle
29th
Damien James Lyel Hallewell
July
2nd
5th
6th
7th
7th
9th
9th
10th
11th
12th
13th
14th
14th
15th
15th
17th
17th
21st
25th
26th
27th
Brodie James Cowe
Tayla Jade Cotgrove
Shiahn Burke
Annalise May Houldsworth
Sophie Maree Refalo
Brendan Terry Garland
Eloise Jane Chipman
Brennah Aisling Paterson
Mitchell James Edward
Xavier Leece
Ella Louise Longmire
Jessica Sarah Wuttke
Dominic Patrick Lyons
Izaak John Bin Barba
Hamish Isaiah O’Sullivan
Little Mervyn
Pheonix Leigh Brown
Rachel Stephanie Kemp
Renee Ashley Pilgrim
Michael Robert Scott Bishop
Lauren Kate Dreicer
9th
14th
16th
18th
21st
22nd
25th
30th
Kade Adrian Lovell Fragiacomo
Bethanie Kym Crowhurst
David William Allan Koplick
Jak Anthony Butler Raleigh
Grace Catherine Brook-McVey
Molly-Mae Grace Cooper
William David Foster
Jonathon Roy Spencer
October
6th
9th
15th
15th
16th
18th
19th
21st
22nd
25th
25th
25th
29th
Nicholas Wayne Curtis
Chloe Maree Irvine
Zachary Thomas Cassidy
Alexander John Coggins
Isabella Michelle Tredrea
Tasmin Christie Miller
Shane Bowen Miller
Ava Mavis Wooster
Tyrone Gordon Pomeroy
Scott Robert Young West
Steven Ross Jagger
Jeremy Glen Dempsey
Georgia Abbott
November
August
6th
6th
6th
7th
7th
8th
8th
9th
9th
11th
14th
15th
18th
18th
19th
20th
21st
21st
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23rd
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26th
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Dylan Tyrone Cochrane
Madison Talanya Lyell
Brodie Luke Douglas
Michael Thomas Fitzgerald
Harrison McIntosh
Nicholas Shane Stehbens
Michael Robert Parnaby
Jaidann Gordon Lampard
Jessica Jordan Whitford
Ryan Selwyn Klibbe
Joshua Graehlert
Savannah Lee Barr
Aylssa Kaye Bradford
Hayden Marc Riddell
Callen Patrick John Novotny
Noah Simon Darryl Gillett
Tarnia Deborah Louise Morrell
Ruby Ellen Kowplos
Chloe-Jade Gilligan
Michael John Barrett
Erin Madeline McMaster
Nathan Carl Schmidt
Ashleigh Janet Penrose
Nicholas Peter Lee
Gage Mana Christensen
Ben Sebastian Wright
September
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Joshua Damian Leigh Haines
Jeromee Ross Sipple
Seth Jordan Mackay
1st
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James Andrew Donohue
Mitchyl Jaye Harris
Joseph Michael Organ
Oliver Joseph Jones
Belinda Jo-Anne Muller
Jack Anthony Ingram Purton
Dylan Rex Harvey
Peter Adam Clarke
Rhiannon Mary Puttee
Dean Michael Phillips
Ava May Corbally
Maddison Suzanne Erwin
Andrew Scott Gaughan
Ella Grace Bourke
December
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Marco Kairi Cameron Fujii
Charli-Zeta Hayes
Blake Greame Murphy
Thomas James Hides
Brock and Dejay Bowden
Tristan Llewellyn Thom
Luke John Lassman
Jessica Joy Jones
Joe Alford-Leeder
Aymie-Leigh Jayde Eveans
Alana Maree Talbot
Harrison James Boundy Humphrey
Dylan James Landers
Evie Grace Ewart
Kyle Thomas Weir
Jacinta Gail Melita Orcher
Jacob Daniel Taylor-Humphries
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KOOKABURRA RIVER QUEENS AND SIDS
AND KIDS QUEENSLAND RELATIONSHIP ALL PLAIN SAILING
SIDS and Kids Queensland, is delighted to welcome our new Corporate Partner: Kookaburra River Queens to the SIDS
and Kids Queensland community.
Providing guests with a unique insider’s view into the surrounds of the Brisbane River, the Kookaburra River Queens is
an excellent way for residents and tourists alike to see what this great city of Brisbane is all about and truly represents
a Queenslander with a heart.
Indeed, a Queenslanders’ themed Dinner Cruise will be held at the culmination of Qld Week aboard their gorgeous
paddle steamers. The event is listed on the official Q150 govt website for full details.
Kookaburra River Queens will be donating $5.00 from the sale of every event ticket to SIDS and Kids Queensland, as
well as allowing us to hold raffles throughout the year at their themed functions. This simple act of kindness ensures
that maximum funds go towards supporting people who have been affected by the sudden and unexpected death of a
child, under the age of 6 as well as working towards reducing the infant mortality rate in Queensland.
To Sandra, Jim and the team at Kookaburra River Queens a sincere thanks from everyone at SIDS and Kids
Queensland and the families we support.
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RED NOSE DAY 2009
Red Nose Day went off with a bang! We had a fabulous June with a number of activities going on to
celebrate Red Nose Day 2009!
Red Nose Day, held annually on the last Friday in June, is the major fundraiser for SIDS
and Kids Queensland. Funds raised through Red Nose Day allow us to provide our vital
free-of-charge services and programs to the Queensland community. This signature
fundraising event has been a colourful and prominent event on the Australian calendar
since 1988 and we want to thank those who provide their time and efforts to help
make Red Nose Day a success!
The 2009 Queensland Red Nose Day activities included:
• Red Nose Day Product
Red Nose Day product boxes went far and wide across Queensland! The merchandise range included the famous red
nose along with plenty of other options from pens and highlighters through to bracelets and lip balms.
Thank you to everyone that ordered Red Nose Day product to sell or purchased an item of your own. If you missed out
don’t worry - it is still possible to purchase Red Nose Day product over the phone. Call 07 3849 7122 to find out what
we have left or if you have any questions about the 2010 product.
• brisbanetimes.com.au Red Nose Photo Competition
The brisbanetimes.com.au Red Nose Photo Competition invited amateur photographers from across Queensland to
capture on camera the simplest and silliest of symbols – the red nose.
We had a number of spectacular candid, unusual, zany and heart-warming entries that embraced the red nose theme.
All finalists have gone on display at Brisbane Powerhouse from 29th June – 13th July.
• Queensland Red Nose Day Heroes
To celebrate the 22nd Red Nose Day campaign SIDS and Kids Queensland developed a new awareness initiative
- Queensland Red Nose Day Heroes. This initiative gives SIDS and Kids Queensland the opportunity to showcase
supporters that have selflessly contributed time, effort, work and services to SIDS and Kids. A number of entries were
submitted and our judges had a tough time reviewing the nominations and deciding who the winners would be.
In the bereavement category the winners were:
Julie Hosking, Dianne Jurd and Maia Brettle
In the bereavement category the finalists were:
Judith Anne Dawson, Lesley Ingram,
and Agnieszka Pieszak-Urbanski
In the Safe Sleeping category the winners were:
Barbara Gorman, Rosemary Gore
and Jeanine Young
In the Safe Sleeping category the finalists were:
Lesley Ingram, Alison Williams
and Judith Anne Dawson
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Nominations for the 2010 Queensland Red Nose Day Heroes will be open again next year.
Please call 07 3849 7122 if you have any questions.
• Krispy Kreme Doughnuts
Throughout the month of June, Krispy Kreme Doughnuts had Red Nose Doughnuts with
chocolate icing and light crème filling, available to purchase online. Priced at $19.95 per
dozen, 25% of all sales were pledged to SIDS & Kids. These doughnuts are delicious
and tasty! Look out for the 2010 Red Nose Doughnut. Yum!
HOW YOU CAN HELP RAISE MONEY DURING RED NOSE DAY
We’re always looking for volunteers and especially for Red Nose Day and
throughout all of Queensland! You can give your support during the Red Nose
Day campaign in the flowing ways:
• Shopping Centre Sellers help us to raise money by selling Red Nose Day
product at your local shopping centre. Pick anytime during the last week of June
and let us know which Queensland shopping centre suits you best. SIDS and
Kids Queensland can organise the rest for you.
• External Fundraising Why not host your own work or social event
anytime in June. From a morning tea, to trivia night to a dress red for a
gold coin day. It so easy to do.
Supporting Red Nose Day is an excellent way to assist SIDS and Kids
Queensland to raise much needed money.
To become a 2010 Shopping Centre Seller or to hold your own Red Nose Day
event please contact the SIDS and Kids Queensland office on 07 3849 7122.
A SPRING OF HOPE
THE ANNUAL SIDS AND KIDS QUEENSLAND LUNCHEON
Journalist Jane Hansen’s career as a foreign correspondent has taken her from the bright lights and hurried
excitement of major television network studios, through to bringing world-defining moments and events to the
screens of millions of families live from the war-zones themselves.
An amazing life dedicated to documenting the heartache and joyous moments of others, Jane was a woman in
control. And then came her own devastating story.
No longer an observer, after years of trying for a baby, Jane miscarried, followed by the loss of her first son 19
weeks into the pregnancy, following an amniocentesis. Premature-born son Jackson, was born the next year and
died after an eight and a half month battle with a variety of medical challenges.
Friday 2nd October 2009, join us and Jane in the Marriott Grand Ballroom, at the Annual SIDS and Kids Queensland
Luncheon as we take a journey through an Autumn of war, a Winter of loss and a Spring of hope.
Copies of Jane’s book Three Seasons will be available to purchase and for signing at the conclusion of the event.
Tickets remain $90.00 per person and include a delectable 3 course luncheon and beverages.
RSVP to this special event by calling: 3849 7122.
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2009 CAIRNS TO CAPE YORK MOTORCYCLE
TREK (07/08/09 TO 15/08/09)
This off-road Motorcycle trek is designed for everyone to have fun,
meet new friends and visit outback areas that are breathtaking and truly
amazing.
Along the way we will take you through some of Far North Queensland’s
most tropical and mountainous terrain, some of which few people have
experienced.
You will see Far North Queensland at its best, travelling along tracks that
are normally closed and private roads winding through cattle stations and
working properties.
The people you will meet and stay with along the way are amazing and
only too happy to share their experience of life in Australia’s diverse and
exciting Outback areas.
For more information contact Lena on 07 3849 7122 or visit
www.sidsadventuretreks.com
2009 2WD TREK SARINA TO TOWNSVILLE
What a start to this years TREK! With extensive flooding throughout Queensland we weren’t sure whether
many of the places we proposed to visit were under water or not! Luckily the weather was on our side and
the roads dried up in time for our adventure.
A big thank you goes to our Major Sponsor for the event, Thiess Pty Ltd who have assisted us for 6 years.
22 cars entered into this years Trek and all made a tremendous effort to raise funds for SIDS and Kids
Queensland through their entry fees and fundraising along the way. Over $75,000 was raised by the
determined trekkers, a fabulous result; so a BIG THANK YOU! To all involved.
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PO Box 241
MOUNT GRAVAT Queensland 4122
P: 07 3849 7122
F: 07 3849 7121
E: [email protected]
ABN: 114 955 949 24
Charity number: 815
membership form
Individual $16.50
TITLE
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SURNAME
PHONE NUMBER
MOBILE
ADDRESS
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(Ambulance, Fire & Rescue and Police)
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(*of a Child who Died suddenly and unexpectedly)
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Code of conduct.
SIDS and Kids Queensland Inc.
In order to maintain the highest
standards of conduct of its Members,
the Management Committee of
SIDS and Kids Queensland Inc. has
made the following bylaws pursuant
to SIDS and Kids Queensland Inc.
which all Members of SIDS and Kids
Queensland Inc. must abide
by at all times:
1.
The services of SIDS and Kids Queensland Inc. are available
to all Members of SIDS and Kids Queensland Inc. and
the general community (where appropriate) throughout
Queensland, regardless of race, religion, gender, political
affiliation, social or economic status.
2.
Members of SIDS and Kids Queensland Inc. will strive to act
in accordance with the highest standard of personal integrity
and genuine concern for SIDS and Kids Queensland Inc. and
its Members. A member must conduct himself or herself
in such a manner as to uphold and not injure in anyway
the standing and reputation of SIDS and Kids Queensland
Inc. A Member must not injure or attempt to injure directly
or indirectly the reputation, particularly the professional
reputation, of others, including SIDS and Kids Queensland
Inc. staff members, and must treat others with the utmost
respect.
3.
4.
A fundamental obligation of all members and staff of SIDS
and Kids Queensland Inc. is to respect and maintain the
confidentiality and privacy of all persons with whom they
are interacting in relation to SIDS and Kids Queensland Inc.
matters and the personal affairs of others.
Where a member holds a designated position or office in
SIDS and Kids Queensland Inc., and particularly where a
member is also a Management Committee member or a peer
supporter (or holds a similar position), that member must
not under any circumstances divulge or discuss information
received by them in their capacity as a designated officer
of SIDS and Kids Queensland Inc. except, in the case of a
Management Committee member, discussing Management
Committee business with other Management Committee
Members, or in the context of approved debriefing
programs. This includes discussing matters with a person’s
spouse or partner where that spouse or partner is not also a
Management Committee member.
In these circumstances Members agree to complete any
forms which may require from time to time by the State
Manager or the Management Committee. If a member
objects to completing such a form they may either agree to
the amendment, refuse the amendment or refer the matter to
the Management Committee for consideration. A member
who does not complete such a form after Management
Committee’s direction to do so will not be entitled to hold
the relevant position or office.
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5.
SIDS and Kids Queensland Inc., its Members and all those
associated with SIDS and Kids Queensland Inc.., will respect
and work within established policies and will seek to adapt
policy and procedure in a manner that is balanced considering
the needs of individuals and SIDS and Kids Queensland Inc.
as a whole. SIDS and Kids Queensland Inc. will provide a
feedback system to allow Members to express their views in
relation to policy and procedure and in exchange Members
acknowledge that the staff and the Management Committee
shall be final, but subject to any appeal procedure contained
in the Constitution.
6.
SIDS and Kids Queensland Inc. Members will operate within
their level of expertise and will not hold themselves out
as possessing qualifications or expertise which they do
not possess. The ethos of self help through support and
counselling will be promoted with the view to personal
empowerment, healing and growth for individuals. When
a member cannot offer assistance, services or meet an
identified need they will endeavour to assist individuals
to make appropriate connections with other services or
resources.
7.
SIDS and Kids Queensland Inc. Members will care and be
responsible for their own personal growth and development.
SIDS and Kids Queensland Inc. Members will actively
attempt to access provided resources where necessary.
SIDS and Kids Queensland Inc. Members will communicate
with SIDS and Kids Queensland Inc. for additional needs not
met within the current services provided.
8.
SIDS and Kids Queensland Inc. Members and those
associated with SIDS and Kids Queensland Inc. must not
deliberately withhold information about SIDS and Kids
Queensland Inc. services, resources or activities that may be
of benefit to another.
9.
A member must tolerate the individual differences of
others.
10. A member must disclose all financial and other interests
which conflict directly or indirectly with the interests of SIDS
and Kids Queensland Inc.
11. A member must not disobey the express directions of the
Management Committee.
12. SIDS and Kids Queensland Inc., its Members and all those
associated with SIDS and Kids Queensland Inc. accept
the desirability of these principals as an integral part of
professional and caring conduct will strive for excellence in
the upholding of such.
13. Each member acknowledges that failure to abide by these bylaws may result in suspension or termination of Members in
accordance with Constitution of SIDS and Kids Queensland
Inc.
Notes.
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SIDS and Kids Queensland
The Todd Freemantle Centre
68 Creek Road, Mt Gravatt QLD 4122
Telephone: (07) 3849 7122
Fax: (07) 3849 7121
24 Hour Child Death Line: 1800 628 648
ABN: 11 495 594 924
www.sidsandkids.org/qld
www.sidsadventuretreks.org
www.rednoseday.com.au