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Sattele, M.D. To receive a FREE copy of FREE Medical Reports Available online: “The Real Weight Loss Solution” Call 1-800-791-4810 enter ID# 2946 or go to www.RapidWeightLossCenters.com. www.scwomanmagazine.com South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine May 2015 5 South Carolina WOMAN 10 Southh Carolina 35 12 MAY 2015 Magazine 12 Tea & The Lost Art of Meaningful Conversation 24 Meet Our Writer… Sara Wise 39 Local Women In The News ETC. 08 Woman To Woman 10 Fiancé and Finances 14 From Runway to Bridal Boutique 17 Brookgreen Gardens Announces Its Participation in Lowcountry Giving Day 2015 17 Style-Wise: Wedding Trends to Have and to Hold Off On 20 Badginic Ramsey, a Student at Coastal Carolina University, Finds Internship and Camaraderie at Crady’s Eclectic Cuisine 28 Five Ways Women Can Close the Retirement Savings Gap 38 Taking Care of Yourself For the Big Day! 47 Jacqueline Whitmore Offers Etiquette Solutions 48 Spring Clean Your Life 50 Celebrating 20 Years of Dance on the Grand Strand! 54 The Magic Of Touch 60 Find a Date...and Other Tips to Make Traveling Abroad More Fun! HEALTH/BEAUTY 16 “Tarsal Tunnel??” 22 May is National Asthma and Allergy Awareness Month 6 M a y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine 23 25 29 30 31 32 35 41 42 43 52 61 Magazine 49 May is Better Hearing Month Cologuard Weight Loss Defys Aging Harmonica Hugh Get Wedding Dress Ready miraDry A Divine Wedding Experience Swollen Legs Genetic Testing and Hereditary Cancer Syndromes Lose Weight, Sleep Better and Live Longer Sleep – It Does a Body Good Popularity of Personal Technology With Young Children Highlights Importance of Prioritizing Verbal Communication RECIPES/FOOD 33 Crab Cake Dijonnaise 34 Summertime and the Grilling is Easy 49 Grilled Salmon 58 This Spring, Let’s Go Meatless a Little More! YOUR HOME 21 The 2015 Real Estate Market is on the Move! 26 What About Art? 36 Ask the Organizer 44 Stylish Summer Furniture for Outdoor Living with an Indoor Lifestyle COLUMNS 40 Giving You More In (Social) Media The One Gardening Tool You’re Probably Not Using 46 Life’s Balance Wheel Time Marches On 53 That’s Wright Seek to Understand 55 No Prissy Shoes One More Thing 56 Smiles Are Forever How Snoring Affects Your Partner 62 Holistic Mom The Power of Words www.scwomanmagazine.com EXPIRES MAY 31, 2015 www.scwomanmagazine.com South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine May 2015 7 “Woman to Woman” From the Publisher Diane Dale Well here we are in the month of May, already…this year seems to be flying by. There are two very important holidays during the month….Mother’s Day and Memorial Day. I remember my first Mother’s Day. My 8 month old daughter in my arms, standing in front of the church I grew up in, so excited for everyone to see my baby. I was so proud, couldn’t have been any prouder if I had cured cancer… Thankfully, that feeling has never left me. I’ve loved being a mother, and now I love being a Mimi. I just wish it all had gone a little bit slower…even the stressful mommy times. My mother felt the same way and I know my daughter and daughter-in-law feel this, too! The other important holiday this month is Memorial Day. Please take a few minutes this month to thank our veterans for all they’ve done and the sacrifices they’ve made. In closing, thank you all for your thoughts, calls, notes and prayers for my husband and for me. He’s hanging in there and still having very aggressive chemo. We both appreciate you thinking about us and I do appreciate your patience and understanding during this time. I hope you all have a wonderful May and as always, thank you for reading South Carolina Woman Magazine. Diane Please tell our advertisers that you saw them in South Carolina Woman Magazine! 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PO Box 2265 Conway, SC 29528 Phone/Fax (843) 397-9020 E-Mail [email protected] www.scwomanmagazine.com Publisher/Sales Diane Dale (843) 222-6631 Other Dale Publications: Transitions News Magazine www.transitionsnewsmagazine.com Parent News www.parentnewsmagazine.com Waccamaw Outdoors www.waccamawoutdoors.com Read South Carolina Woman Magazine online at scwomanmagazine.com Editorial/Composition Cindy Sudowski on 8 M a y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine www.scwomanmagazine.com www.facebook.com/pages/South-Carolina-Woman-Magazine/ GET READY TO SHOW MORE OF LESS THIS SUMMER! Coolsculpt Event Tuesday, May 19th It’s that time of year. Summer is around the corner and you want to feel and look good in your bathing suit. Reshape your thoughts on slimming down and come learn how Coolsculpting can get you ready for beach weather. Give your body a makeover without diet, exercise, or surgery. With over 1 million procedures performed Coolsculpting is not a fad! It is the only FDA-Cleared way to eliminate stubborn fat from the stomach, waistline, and thighs without surgery or down time. For your convenience we are offering 3 seating times 11:00am, 12:00pm and 1:00pm At each event take advantage of: *Free Customized Treatment Plan *One Day Only Special Pricing *Light Refreshments Call Us To R.S.V.P Today! 843-424-6911 Find out more on our website... The Facial Aesthetic Center 1341 44th Ave N. Myrtle Beach, SC 29577 Tel: (843)424-6911 www.myrtlebeachface.com [email protected] Marriage is a milestone in life; yet, many enter into the next phase without asking their spouse some vital questions about money. If you are among the soon-to-be wed, consider starting a conversation using the questions below. Couples who plan their expenses ahead of time are more likely to enjoy their earnings, and less likely to need credit repair intervention. Men, women and weddings Females are often portrayed as materialistic or over-the-top when it comes to their big day, but recent findings from an online Harris Poll tell a different story. Surprisingly, the study found that twice the number of men stated they would or did go into debt to pay for their dream wedding. The study also found that both men and women valued financial responsibility. In fact, 91% indicated a preference for entering marriage debt-free as opposed to having a dream wedding. 10 “Marriage is a lifelong commitment built on trust, clear communication and honesty,” said John Heath, Directing Attorney for Lexington Law. “While some may find financial discussions unnecessary, understanding each other intimately in terms of what you both bring to the table – be it wealth or debt – will strengthen your relationship and help to avoid potentially serious friction to your marriage down the road.” Discussing money matters So how does one go into a marriage with a solid financial standing? Those soon-to-be-wed couples who converse openly about their finances are more likely to enjoy their big day with an understanding of their mate’s views on money. The experts at Lexington Law offer these questions every newly engaged couple should ask before the big day: 1. How do you view money? This is a loaded question, but your M a y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine fiancé’s answer will help you understand their perspective and how it aligns with yours. Here are a few conversation starters on the subject: • How do you budget your money? • Are you meticulous about your bills and expenses, or are you comfortable to just “wing it?” • What’s the most you would ever spend on a home, car, piece of clothing, etc.? 2. How should we budget for a family? Kids are expensive, especially if you haven’t planned for them. Talk to your partner about how many kids you would both like to have. Plan for child living expenses and how they will impact your budget, i.e. clothes, food, activities, medical expenses, schooling, etc. 3. How should we communicate about money? Some couples are content to let one person handle the finances, and others like to split up the bills and share household responsibilities. Regardless of what you decide, it is important to have a plan in place before getting married. 4. What should we do when we disagree about spending? You and your spouse won’t agree on everything. In fact, you may completely disagree on how to spend, save, and generally manage your money. The question is: What should you do when these disagreements arise? Avoiding the subject will put you at greater risk for financial (and marital) trouble. There’s no easy answer for this one, but presenting the topic during your conversation is a good start. 5. Do you have any debts that I should be aware of? Secrets aren’t the best addition to a marriage, especially when it comes to debt. Be sure you and your soon-to-be put the credit cards on the table before walking down the aisle. Marriage is a life partnership; start by dealing with your debt together. You’ll head into your new life as a married couple with ease when you have an open and honest dialog about your financial situation. For more tips for managing your money, or your credit, visit www.LexingtonLaw.com. (Family Features) Photo courtesy of Getty Images www.scwomanmagazine.com Tea & The Lost Art of Meaningful Conversation By Jessica Durivage-Kerridge and Jennifer Elder-Hart We are living in the age of the “drivethru.” You can get almost anything you need these days, including your coffee, pills and dinner, without getting out of your car. Who even sits down to dinner anymore? Who pulls out the fine china “just because,” and who puts the kettle on for tea with a smallplate-of-something-sweet-and-delicious when a friend stops by? Last week I was trying so hard to schedule a catch up with one of my girlfriends. We were both looking at our calendars, “Oh, this day will work at such-and-such a time but I am not free here, here or here.” It was a nightmare. Finally, I just picked up the phone and called her. She answered. We talked for over an hour. It was a beautiful thing. Between our fast and scheduled, drivethru paced lives, there is a quiet, not yet forgotten longing and desire to simply connect; with our family, with our friends, with our co-workers, with humanity for goodness sake! Thankfully we are hard wired this way, to connect. Have you ever noticed that when you do finally slow down long enough to have one of those “solve all of the world’s problems” conversations with a girlfriend, time lapses in the most effortless and beautiful way? We have created a culture of doing rather than remembering we were made for being. Yes, I know, I get it - we need to get out there and “do.” But, let me ask you this: Do you leave room for being? Is there a willing effort made towards balancing out the doing and being in your life? Tea. Tea is the answer. I am convinced of it. For as long as I can remember, when I simply needed to slow down and look into someone’s eyes to listen and be heard there was tea. When life got hard, there was tea. When a tough conversation was in the imminent future, there was tea. I married an Englishman and believe me - tea has taken on a life of its own in my home, and when we go to visit his parents in the UK, “It’s always tea time,” as they say. Tea and conversation. Conversation and 12 Jessica Durivage-Kerridge and Jennifer Elder-Hart, founders of Les Elephants High Society of Do-Gooders and Tea Drinkers and Jenn's sweet daughter, Lady Lyla. tea. Our society is hungry for meaningful, genuine and conscious communication. We want to have inner experiences while we share words (and tea) together. A nice, warm, savory scone with herbed butter on top does not hurt either. M a y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine I believe most things have either been said or done - but many of them forgotten. So, it’s been our mission to revive and restore the beauty of the tea party experience, combined with the added element of meaningful conversation and opportunities to tap into your creative potential and possibility. Yes, everything you need is right here, it’s always right here, under your very nose (because that is where your heart lives). Why wait for someone else to do it when you can do it yourself? That’s what I always say. And so can you. You can reconnect to the little girl, sipping tea, pinky held high, right here and right now (after a short trip to World Market). It’s an experiment. A challenge if you will. If you are hungry for connection and real faces (not screens) here is the recipe to reawaken more of the “being” in your human-doer. Ingredients for a Tea Party Phone a friend. Invite her over for the afternoon. Go shopping and retrieve the following items (disregard if you already own any of these, but also feel free to pretend like you don’t!): www.scwomanmagazine.com A proper tea pot, short and stout A lovely pair of mismatched porcelain tea cups - because who wants to be the same, really. Try something new! Buy a box of tea that you have never tried (but keep an old favorite on stand-by). A mouth-watering selection of cookies and small cakes. Feel free to do your own baking here, but if you need meaningful conversation NOW, then just get something pre-packaged and try for the homemade macaroons the next time. A generous selection of your favorite quotes and a hearty handful of compliments to share. Serve it all up on your fanciest tray with your best china. It’s not that we have forgotten how to feed people, lift them up and make them feel like themselves once again. It’s that we have all gotten caught up looking for it outside of ourselves. It is in the remembering that we CAN come back home to “being”. It is in the easy way you serve another a cup of tea on your finest china, with a sweet shortbread cookie that life has the opportunity to exhale. Give our little experiment a try, check out how you can be a part of our next tea party and don’t forget to remember how easy it really is to sit with good friends and solve all of the world’s problems over a nice cup of tea. Pinkies Up! If you are interested in learning more about tea and the lost art of meaningful conversation consider joining the Les Elephants High Society of Do-Gooders and Tea Drinkers at their Mad Hatter Tea Party at Pine Lakes Country Club on Sunday, May 17th from 4-7pm. For more information and to purchase tickets visit www.leselephantshighsociety.com Jessica Durivage Kerridge is the cofounder of Les Elephants High Society of Do-Gooders and Tea Drinkers as well the founder of Where is My Guru - an online source for authentic, mindful and slower living. She lives in Myrtle Beach and when not planning tea parties, she writes, speaks and teaches yoga and can be found chasing her toddler around most days. www.whereismyguru.com Photos by Carl Kerridge. All photos were taken at our Vintage English Garden High Tea. THE SUMMER SUN IS HERE Schedule Your Skin Cancer Screening No matter your skin color, you can get skin cancer. In fact, skin cancer is the most common cancer. However, if caught and treated early, skin cancer is highly curable. That’s why it’s important to have a thorough skin check every year or sooner if you have noticed any changes to a mole or a new growth on your skin. At Inlet Medical Associates, we are experts in detecting skin cancer. To schedule your screening, call (843) 651-4111. KNOW YOUR MOLE ABCS A B C D > 6mm E one half doesn’t edges are ragged, shades of tan, bigger than a pencil spots that stick out match the other notched or blurred brown & black eraser above skin A=Asymmetry • B=Border • C=Color • D=Diameter • E=Elevation www.inletmedicalassociates.com www.scwomanmagazine.com South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine May 2015 13 From Runway to Bridal Boutique Submitted by The Little White Dress Every bride wants to have the perfect balance of the latest trends and classic elegance when choosing their wedding gown. Designers have created the perfect balance this year and The Little White Dress is proud to carry gowns for every type of bride, wedding, and season that reflects the latest in bridal trends! We also pride ourselves in having a wide selection of gowns perfectly priced for every bride! There are new colors in bridal! Not only are blush and champagne tones still a popular option for brides, but shades of blue, grey and lavender have mad beading is showing up on the soft, romantic necklines. Wtoo and Watters has taken this trend and run with it. They showcase so many gowns that feature this gorgeous trend! We love illusion because although it is new and different, the bride still looks classic and elegant. Tulle, tulle, tulle!! Tulle skirts are everywhere right now! Their light as air overlays are the fabric of the season. You can find a tulle skirt with any of the lines we carry so this is definitely a trend we are excited about! Beach chic is a trend that is going to Justin Alexander 8779-$1500 Full, fun and flowy tulle skirt with dupioni bodice and beaded sash. Watters 7009B ‘Marnie' Gown 14715 - $1,100 ‘Nicolosa’ 6073B - $2,800 Prices vary when purchased as separates Light and airy, this soft A-line gown features a plunging V-neck, beautifully sculpted with lace. Lavender, silk taffeta, fit and flare Lalique lace gown embodies dramatic elegance. their way onto the runway. The soft classic ivory is still a favorite for the traditional bride but now there are tons of fabulous options for the bride who is ready to make a colorful statement with her gown! Illusion necklines are all the rage this season. Soft lace detailing and even light be a big hit with our brides! Whether you’re getting beach married on the beach or not, these slightly bohemian styles are perfect for any laidback summer bride! The Love Marley collection by Watters is taking this trend and running with it. The Love Marley line is an entire line dedicated to this laid back, breezy style. If you are a traditional bride looking for a full lace gown with classic details or a bride looking for color and fun fabrics, The Little White Dress has the gown for you! For more information, contact The Little White Dress at 5001 N Kings Hwy Ste 111, Myrtle Beach. (843) 449-4940. 14 M a y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine www.scwomanmagazine.com www.scwomanmagazine.com South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine May 2015 15 “Tarsal Tunnel??” By Richard A. Owens, PT, MS, OCS, Cert.SMT I get this response frequently from my patients. Almost everyone is familiar with their carpal tunnel as it seems either they or someone in their family suffers from or has had surgery to correct that all too familiar condition that has exploded directly proportional to the use of computers and the transition to a “paperless” society. Tarsal tunnel is it’s long lost relative, affecting the feet in a similar fashion, causing numbness, burning, and shooting pain along the inside and bottom of the foot. The tarsal tunnel refers to the canal formed between the medial malleolus (bump on the inside of the ankle) and the flexor retinaculum (a ligamentous band that stretches across the inside of the foot). The nerves, arteries, and tendons that provide movement and flexibility to the foot course through this tunnel. The tibial nerve travels through this tunnel and provides sensation to the bottom of the foot. When tibial nerve is compressed, the resulting condition is called tarsal tunnel syndrome or posterior tibial neuralgia. Strain or compression on the tibial nerve caused by injury, disease, or due to the natural shaping of the foot can lead to tarsal tunnel symptoms. Acute injury such as swelling caused by an ankle sprain, or chronic/repetitive issues such as having flat feet or fallen arches can lead to compression over time. Diseases such as arthritis, 16 diabetes, or even lymphedema, which can cause swelling, can result in nerve compression. Although symptoms may suggest tarsal tunnel syndrome, proper diagnosis may indicate specialized testing such as EMG or nerve conduction study, and/or imaging such as X-rays, CT, or MRI scans to confirm. Proper diagnosis is necessary to determine the severity of the condition, so the appropriate treatment plan, including both surgical and nonsurgical options, may be considered. Possible treatment options may include physical therapy to help decrease inflammation using antiinflammatory modalities such as phonophoresis or iontophoresis, in which an anti-inflammatory medication is delivered into the nerves in the tarsal tunnel. This may help to relieve pressure and swelling. Orthosis (e.g., braces, taping, splints, orthotic devices) may be recommended to reduce pressure on the foot and limit movement that could cause compression on the nerve. Depending on the mechanical nature or cause of the issue, manipulation, soft tissue mobilization, stretching or strengthening activities may be prescribed to assist with improving biomechanics to limit excessive loading with daily activities. If the condition is severe, your doctor may give you a steroid injections or may suggest surgical options if deemed appropriate or if conservative measures have been unsuccessful. Tarsal tunnel release procedures are common and provide significant relief in some cases. Your health care providers will be there to discuss your diagnosis and treatment so that you can make an informed decision on the M a y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine direction of your treatment. At Professional Rehabilitation Services we pride ourselves in distinction and are continu- ously in pursuit of specialty training to provide our patients with a higher level of care. One of our Board Certified Orthopedic Physical Therapists will pursue an individualized treatment approach to your needs. Less than 5% of physical therapists in South Carolina are board certified in orthopedics. If you or someone you know lives with a similar problem and would like to know more, then you can contact Richard A. Owens, PT, MS, OCS, Cert. SMT, Cert. DN, CWcHP (Surfside Beach) (843) 831-0163, Richard DeFalco, DPT, OCS, CSCS, Cert. DN, CWcHP (Myrtle Beach) (843) 839-1300, Brian P. Kinmartin PT, DPT, MTC, STC, OCS, Cert. DN (Pawleys Island) (843) 235-0200, Kristen Lies PT, DPT (Murrells Inlet) (843) 314-3224, or Jill Phelan DPT (Conway) (843) 733-3031 for a free 15 minute consultation to determine whether physical therapy is an option for you. You can also visit our website www.prsrehabservices.com where you can learn more about the company and even print a referral for your physician to fill out. www.scwomanmagazine.com Brookgreen Gardens Announces Its Participation in Lowcountry Giving Day 2015 Online fundraising event will unite donors, nonprofits from across coastal South Carolina on May 5th Brookgreen Gardens, a 501 (C)(3) nonprofit, is please to announce its participation in Lowcountry Giving Day 2015, a 24-hour online fundraising event sponsored by Coastal Community Foundation. Thanks to the generosity of the Waccamaw Community Foundation, Brookgreen Gardens will be eligible to receive incentive funds, which will help support Brookgreen’s educational programs and special initiatives throughout the gardens in 2015. “Brookgreen Gardens is pleased to participate in the second Lowcountry Giving Day,” said Bob Jewell, Brookgreen’s President and CEO. “We hope that many of our current supporters and new donors will make gifts online to Brookgreen Gardens on May 5th, helping us reach our fundraising goal and receive incentive funds designated for Brookgreen by the Waccamaw Community Foundation.” Through its participation in Lowcountry Giving Day 2015, Brookgreen Gardens will reach out to its 8,300 member households as well as new online donors through a variety of email communications and social media messaging. Brookgreen’s goal is to enhance its visibility among online donors and increase online donations, a rapidly growing source of annual gifts to support the mission and programs of Brookgreen Gardens in our community. Some 180 nonprofits are participating along with Brookgreen Gardens in Lowcountry Giving Day 2015, nearly doubling participation from last year’s event, which raised over $4 million for communities across coastal South Carolina. Lowcountry Giving Day is part of Give Local America, a national day of local giving held in partnership with more than 8,000 nonprofits and 80 community foundations from across the country. Due to this broad partnership, Give Local America 2015 is gearing up to be the largest fundraising event in history. To support Brookgreen Gardens on Lowcountry Giving Day 2015, please visit this website, https://lowcountrygivingday.org/#npo/brookgreen-gardens, on May 5th to make your gift. A full list of Lowcountry Giving Day partici- pants is available at https://lowcountrygivingday.org/#leaderboard. Questions about other ways to support Brookgreen Gardens through Lowcountry Giving Day 2015 may be directed to Wendy Belser, Director of Philanthropy, at [email protected] or (843) 235-6047. Professional Rehabilitation Services, Inc. The Outpatient Physical Therapy Specialists Serving the community since 2004 Call for a FREE 15 minute consultation NEW CONWAY LOCATION NOW OPENING We specialize in treating, Sports-related injuries, Orthopedic injuries, Neurological problems, Balance problems, Back & neck pain, Joint-related disorders, Repetitive strain injuries, Post-surgical recovery, Golf injuries Are You Suffering from Pain or an Injury? Don’t let pain or injury compromise your competitive edge. We offer a full range of physical therapy and rehabilitation services to get you back on track. 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When it comes to incorporating these into your big day, remember this tenant of life: just like people and snowflakes, no two weddings are exactly alike, and that what works for someone else may not work for you and your crowd. Here’s what to have and what to hold off on, from this planner’s point of view. HAVE: Coordinating, not matching bridesmaid dresses. Whether it’s different silhouettes in the same shade or a handful of complementary colors, ditching uniformity lends a soft, relaxed feel to your wedding and allows your closest friends to dress their figures in the way they feel most confident. HAVE: Casual rehearsal dinners. Especially if your wedding is on the formal side. Most guests don’t relish having to get gussied up two nights in a row. Plus, a fancy rehearsal can feel like it’s trying to upstage your wedding. Plan a relaxed event instead and go all out for the wedding celebration. To be sure the events don’t mirror each other, think in opposites. If your wedding is cocktail or black tie, celebrate rehearsal with barbeque, low country boil, or a make-your-own pizza station. HAVE: Beer boats. While your wedding won’t earn points 18 M a y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine for originality, a beer boat is a great convenience and has become a southern wedding staple. Having guests self-serve their brew keeps lines at the bar to a minimum. How to improve the tradition? Keep those napkins that feel as nice as linen on hand so guests can dry off their frigid fingers. HAVE: Koozies. Because we can never get enough of them. HAVE: Single flavor wedding cakes. They’re making a comeback! As a wedding coordinator, I’ve cut my share of wedding cakes. And I’ve seen many a guest take up residence near the cake table like it was Lilly Pulitzer for Target, determined to have a taste of all three tiers. Now, there’s nothing wrong with this at all—myself, I’ve been guilty of sampling all the flavors. But single flavor wedding cakes have come back around and they bring with them simplicity for you, your guests, your baker, and your caterer or coordinator who is cutting cake and being asked a hundred times what flavor each tier is. Try an entire cake in red velvet, chocolate with salted caramel, or pound cake with berry mousse. Most guests will give it a try, even if it isn’t a flavor in their wheelhouse. HAVE: Dessert options beyond cake. From my observation, guests love having dessert choices more than cake flavor choices. One of my personal favorites is a Ben & Jerry’s sundae bar. Don’t worry, the pros at Ben & Jerry’s dress it up so your ice cream buffet won’t feel like a kid’s birthday party. Other dessert successes we’ve seen are warm peach cobbler and milk and cookie buffets. www.scwomanmagazine.com HAVE: An intimate affair. One of my favorite weddings of all time was at the couple’s home. They wed in the front yard and receptioned in the back. The details were kept low key too—loose flowers, simple white linens, and outstanding brunch from Croissants. HAVE: A photobooth. While photobooths have been on the wedding scene for the last five or so years, I can assure you that I’ve never seen guests ignore a photobooth. These days, we are all picture happy, eager to preserve moments and share on Instagram. Photobooths tend to capture a great mix of posed and candid shots, and many brides say that these are some of their favorite pictures to look at after their big day has passed. HAVE: All white wedding party. I especially love this look for mature brides or second weddings. It’s a confident woman who shares the color usually reserved for the bride with all her pretty maids. HOLD OFF: Head wreaths with a bouquet. Lush floral headdress? Gorgeous! Cascading bouquet? Amazing! But the pair can be too much of a good thing. If you plan to don a head wreath for the big day, consider carrying just a single stem (or three) of a bloom featured in your wreath. Or carry a family handkerchief instead of a bouquet. Better yet, wear the gorgeous goddess crown of flowers for your bridal portraits, and then use those same types of flowers in your bouquet at the wedding. For an extra sweet touch, have your flower girls wear wreaths that echo the one in your bridal portrait. The photos from your bridal portraits and wedding day will look great together in your album. www.scwomanmagazine.com HOLD OFF: Favors. While gratitude to your guests will never go out of style, favors seem to have had their day. A thoughtful note on a chalkboard sign as guests exit is perfectly fine. If you absolutely feel that you must offer a token of appreciation, items that I’ve seen go over well are edible, like gourmet chocolate, boiled peanuts, and local honey. HOLD OFF: Paper items. A centralized program, menu, and reception itinerary board informs your guests of important information while saving trees. HOLD OFF: A reception dress. While I’m a huge fan of fashion, I’m traditional when it comes to the wedding gown. You only get to wear it this one day—make the most of it! If dancing is a priority to you, choose a dress that will let you shimmy and shuffle. Do slip into a getaway dress as you exit (or do a quick change after a faux exit) so your planner can pack your gown to send home with your family while you jet off to your honeymoon. The dress you wore to rehearsal is a great choice since it’s likely white and you only wore it for a little while the day before. Trust me, guests won’t fault you for repeating your outfit when you’re driving to a B&B or the airport. HOLD OFF: Day after brunch. You’ve already hosted a bridesmaid lunch, a rehearsal dinner, a wedding ceremony, AND reception. There’s no need for a structured Sunday brunch. Everyone’s tired and you and your new husband likely won’t even be at this event. Give your parents some much needed rest and spend the brunch budget on a massage for Mom. Happy planning! Sara Wise is a wedding planner, style guru, career coach, distance runner, wife and Christian. Contact her at [email protected]. South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine May 2015 19 Badginic Ramsey, A Student at Coastal Carolina University, Finds Internship and Camaraderie at Crady’s Eclectic Cuisine Aspiring Young Entrepreneur Learns from the Master Barbara Crady Whitley, owner of Crady’s Eclectic Cuisine, and a master baker well known throughout the Carolinas, had never had an intern. As the owner of a small, family-owned restaurant that is busy seven days a week, she never had the time. Her prep work, her catering, and her artfully designed wedding cakes were enough to keep Barbara and her staff busy well past the restaurant’s normal operating hours. Barbara Crady Whitley had never had an intern until she met Badginic Ramsey, an aspiring young woman with the dream of one day owning her own bakery, and a desire to learn from the master. Badginic’s, dream began years ago in her hometown of Hartsville, South Carolina. It was here that she watched her aunt, the late Dorothy Blakney, a prominent figure in an area bakery, turn mounds of flour mixed with sugar, cream, eggs and spices into mouthwatering delights. On Dorothy’s days off, Badginic could be found at her side helping her aunt test recipes, and bake for her own family. Dorothy let Badginic try her hand at baking, keeping a watchful eye on the young girl who was dreaming of the day she would hang her own shingle and open her doors to a community hungry for delicious baked goods. Badginic knew that education was the key to success. Choosing Coastal Carolina University, in an effort to be near her family and her ailing grandmother, in particular, she pursued a degree in management with a concentration in entrepreneurship. When she was advised that an internship was required, she headed for downtown Conway, an area near the University and near to Badginic’s heart with its small town look and feel. “I ended up on Crady’s doorstep,” the young woman said. “The restaurant looked inviting, the people were friendly, and it was crowded with diners. I just knew it was good. I knew this was where I wanted to be,” she said. When Barbara, the epitome of southern charm, emerged from the kitchen with her winning smile, fanciful apron, and gracious mannerisms, both women knew that something great was in store. “I was impressed with this young lady,” said Barbara. “Her interest in baking was sincere and she was passionate about learning. She has never missed a day of work and she has never failed to impress.” Since January, Badginic has worked three days a week at Crady’s, both alongside Barbara and in other areas of the restaurant. “As a future entrepreneur, she needs to see the entire picture,” said Barbara. “Owning a small business is not for the faint of heart.” What has Badginic learned in the nearly four months since her internship began? “I have learned that the key to success is hard work, preparation, and a passion for what you do. It’s not just about baking,” she said. “There is the behind the scenes work that the owner does—the not-so-fun stuff that includes taxes, payroll, personnel issues, ordering supplies, clean up, etc. This internship has given me the opportunity to see firsthand what is required to be successful, and I am so appreciative of this opportunity, and especially Ms. Barbara. No textbook or classroom experience could ever replace the hands-on instruction that this internship at Crady’s has provided.” For both women, the experience has been exceptional. Although years apart in age, they have formed a genuine camaraderie forged by their passion for baking and their desire to bring joy to others. Dorothy Blakney would be proud of her niece. 20 www.scwomanmagazine.com May 2015 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine The 2015 Real Estate Market is on the Move! By Kimberly Dahlin Realtor - Beach & Forest Realty This year is certainly shaping up to be a great time to list or purchase a new home. Whether you’re a first-time homebuyer or current homeowner, there are so many reasons to make a move in the current real estate market. Here are just a few: 1) The Myrtle Beach market has finally recovered. Home owners who have felt trapped due to being “underwater” on their mortgages can begin to see some relief. Home sales are up yet prices are still reasonable for those looking to purchase. 2) Spring is historically the busiest time of year for the real estate market, and this year is no exception. There is a “freshness” in the air, a time for change, renewal, growth. The place we often begin to make those changes is in our home, either spiffing it up or moving out. The Myrtle Beach market draws thousands from the Northern states looking to make the change and available homes are selling quickly. 3) If you’re a seller, the great news is that it’s a seller’s market out there, with low amounts of inventory. Prospective homebuyers are competing for available properties, which means that properties are bound to see price increases and bidding battles as buyers duke it out with competing offers. 4) Interest rates continue to be very attractive. In fact, they are still close to historic lows. Meanwhile, lenders are loosening the reins on mortgage qualification requirements, meaning that there are various options for prospective buyers. 6) Home ownership is still the great American dream. For many people, a new home is the single largest investment they will ever make. To put it simply, home ownership feels good. Having a place of one’s own is a source of pride and attachment. If you’re thinking of buying or selling a home this year, contact your real estate agent to get the ball rolling. He or she will be able to provide you with sound advice from beginning to end. Seller’s agents and Buyer’s agents are on your side, looking out for your best interest. And did you know, there is no cost to you to have a Buyer’s agent represent you when buying a home? Don’t go it alone. Find someone you trust to protect your best interest! For more information call Kimberly Dahlin, Realtor, Beach & Forest Realty 843-602-6023 www.scwomanmagazine.com South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine May 2015 21 May is National Asthma and Allergy Awareness Month By Dr. Mark H. Schecker The month of May is just around the corner and is also known as National Asthma and Allergy Awareness Month. Asthma now affects almost 25 million Americans and the prevalence of Asthma continues to rise worldwide although the exact reason for this remains unclear. Asthma is one of the most common chronic conditions in children and a top cause of school and work absences for children and adults. It leads to significant numbers of hospitalizations, pharmacy costs and even deaths. With proper care and attention much of this is completely avoidable. Asthma is a disease characterized by chronic inflammation of the bronchial tubes of the lungs through which air moves in and out. These airways become swollen and the muscles in their walls tighten when exposed to certain triggers result- 22 M a y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine ing in typical symptoms such as wheezing coughing, chest tightness and shortness of breath. Having a family history of allergies or asthma makes it more likely that an individual will develop this condition. Most individuals with asthma have allergies and this is especially true for children. Characteristic allergenic triggers of asthma include dust mites, mold, pet dander and pollens. Non-allergenic asthma triggers are cigarette smoke, weather changes, cold air and pollution. When asthma is suspected it is a good idea to see an allergist who specializes in the diagnosis of allergy and asthma. An allergist can diagnose asthma by taking a thorough medical history in conjunction with testing that can identify underlying triggers that will help you avoid them. Breathing tests can also be performed to help to evaluate lung function and determine the level of asthma severity. Asthma in children should be suspected if coughing is constant or made worse by viral infections, cold air or interrupts sleep. In addition, a younger child may complain of chest pain or become easily fatigued, avoid sports or social activities or just quit playing. Infants may have problems feeding. Treatment for asthma must be individualized since asthma may differ in terms of severity, triggers and prognosis. Although there is no cure for asthma, with effective treatment and management asthma can be controlled. This involves the development of a personalized asthma control plan with the allergist’s assistance. These written instructions guide each child or adult to make specific changes including avoidance of triggers, the proper use of the best and safest medications; when to call their doctor; or even when to go to the hospital. This powerful tool takes all the guesswork out of how an individual can manage their disease – empowering them to be in charge of their own condition. Asthmatics that follow an Asthma Control Plan, in general, tend to have better control overall resulting in less frequent and less severe exacerbations. It is also important to know that those with asthma are at risk of developing complications from respiratory infections like influenza and pneumonia, making it imperative that they are vaccinated on a regular basis. With successful treatment all children and adults with asthma should lead normal productive lives with few if any limitations. Dr. Schecker, a Board Certified Allergist, is the founder of Coastal Carolina Allergy & Asthma Associates. He is a Certified Take Shape For Life Health Coach, a COPE Certified Health Coach, the co-founder of the Myrtle Beach Marathon and the founder of Camp Airwaves (a camp for children with asthma). Dr. Schecker has been recognized as the “Allergist of the Year” by the Myrtle Beach Herald (2005-2014). www.scwomanmagazine.com May is Better Hearing Month By Jennifer Reed and Kayla Bracey Better Hearing and Speech Month was founded in 1927, by the American Speech and LanguageHearing Association, otherwise known as ASHA. On May 21, 1986, President Ronald Reagan issued a formal proclamation designating May as the official month to “heighten public awareness” about hearing loss and speech disorders. This was his proclamation: “NOW, THEREFORE, I, RONALD REAGAN, president of the United States of America, do hereby proclaim the month of May as Better Hearing and Speech Month, and I call upon the people of the United States to observe this month with appropriate ceremonies and activities.” (Proclamation 5486, May 21, 1986) Ronald Reagan is one of many famous people with hearing loss. Others include Bill Clinton, Ludwig van Beethoven, and Helen Keller. In fact, Helen Keller once said that of all of her sensory deprivations, she missed her hearing the most. She noted that while blindness kept her separate from things, her hearing loss separated her from people, and human connections. Did you know? • Approximately 12 percent of the US www.scwomanmagazine.com population – 38 million Americans – have a significant hearing loss (Center for Hearing and Communication) • 1 in every 3 people over the age of 65 – a total of 165 million people worldwide – lives with hearing loss (WHO) • People wait an average of 7 years before seeking help for their hearing loss (Center for Hearing and Communication) • Noise is the leading cause of Hearing Loss (NY Times Personal Health Blog) • A 12 year study conducted by the neurology department at Johns Hopkins School of Medicine found that untreated hearing loss increased the risk for dementia • Only 1 out of 5 people who could benefit from a hearing aid actually wear one (National Institute on Deafness and Other Communication Disorders) Let’s all take the opportunity to spread awareness of hearing loss and speech disorders all through the month of May. Please encourage your friends and family members to have their hearing checked this month! It’s a great time to take advantage of a FREE comprehensive hearing evaluation yourself as well! Call us today at 843-272-1486 to schedule an appointment! South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine M a y 2 0 1 5 23 Meet Our Writer... Sara Wise Occupation: Wedding planner, writer, stylist, and career coach Phone Number/Website: thebridesmaid.org 843.450.2814 In my job I… plan the wedding of my clients’ dreams with wisdom, advice, and humor so their stress is minimized and they can enjoy this very special milestone in their lives. Event planning in general is often unfamiliar territory for people, and weddings especially have their own language. They involve coordinating many vendor contracts, reading fine print, and managing a budget. Plus weddings can bring about an array of emotions as families merge. I serve as planner, coordinator, mediator, and counselor to my clients… and I love it! 24 M a y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine It all began back when I was in high school and college. I worked at Bridal Boutique where we sold wedding and formal attire and offered tuxedo rentals. When brides began calling me to help them choose flowers to coordinate with their bridesmaid dresses, I got my first taste of wedding coordination. Over the years at Bridal Boutique, I came to love coordinating fashion shows and writing wedding gown descriptions for the show script and for newspaper announcements. Back then wedding announcements included detailed descriptions of the bride’s wedding gown, and my love of wordsmithing made me the go-to girl for prose about Alencon lace and French bustles. Some of my favorite tasks in my position include…. Helping couples merge their tastes into one well-styled event while staying within their budget. It’s my goal that the weddings I plan reflect who these individuals are as God joins their lives together. Sticking to the budget is a fun challenge for me. My strength in event planning is balancing a beautiful event with practicality. After all, couples still need money for their lives together after the wedding. I love keeping some of their budget in reserve for their honeymoon or house! Another thing I love to do is come up with solutions to event engineering challenges. Flexing my Lady MacGyvor skills thrills me. One of my favorites was stringing Chinese lanterns across a yard without a tent. We used 10-foot poles cemented in buckets that we rented from Hotz then decorated around the buckets. At ten feet tall, the poles began to bow from just the slight weight of the lanterns so we anchored the pole- tops to surrounding trees using fishing line. Problem solved with zero visibility. I also love seeing how things work behind the scenes. Whether I’m watching Cirque du Soleil or local theater, I’m taking in the performance of course, but I’m equally mesmerized by what’s happening above, below, and behind the stage. Did you know that I also…. Serve as Employer Recruitment Coordinator at Coastal Carolina University? That means that I network with employers to uncover internship and career opportunities in addition to coaching students on their resumes, cover letters, and interview skills. My favorite skill to coach is answering interview questions. Students often have not reflected on their patterns and preferences yet. Our coaching sessions help them get to know themselves as professionals. In my spare time, I………. train for long distance races with my hubby. I’ve been running for ten years now, mostly half marathons. This year I’m tackling my first full marathon in Oregon. Running has so many benefits from self-discipline to stress relief, but my favorite is that it gives me plenty of conversation time with God. Bet you didn’t know this about me…. I’ve been in InStyle Magazine as a fashion do and was named one of the Grand Strand’s Most Stylish… but I was once on TLC’s A Makeover Story as a fashion DON’T. In my early twenties, I went through a pageant phase, and while many a southern woman will argue with me, there IS such a thing as being too tan, too blonde, and too bling-ed out. These days I embrace a more natural look… unless I’m being professionally photographed, where a heavy hand is needed to avoid looking blanched out. Otherwise, most days I have to remind myself to wear lipstick. www.scwomanmagazine.com COLOGUARD By Dr. Gary Vukov Cologuard is a new screening test for colon cancer approved by the FDA and covered by Medicare and some insurance companies. Colon cancer is found in approximately 6% of the US population and typically begins as small colon polyps. Most polyps and early colon cancers typically do not cause symptoms. Early detection and management typically have better outcomes. Most individuals are familiar with colonoscopy as a colorectal screening tool. It must be emphasized that a screening test for colon cancer is a test performed on an individual who has no symptoms attributed to the colon (rectal bleeding, altered bowel habit, unexplained anemia or weight loss, abdominal pain, etc). This test involves preparing the colon with various laxatives and using a colonoscope (flexible tube with camera) to inspect the colonic lining for polyps and or cancers. It is recommended that your endoscopist be well trained and experienced with identification of the various types of polyps and various methods of their removal, such as a board certified gastroenterologist. During this examination most polyps can be removed or at least biopsied. Removal of pre cancerous colon polyps (adenomas) has been shown to reduce the incidence of colon cancer. Most colon cancer screening tests are recommended in individuals at the age 50. Less invasive screening tests include testing of stool for blood and cologuard which includes testing for blood as well as stool DNA. Colon cancer and larger polyps shed cells which contain abnormal DNA. The shedding of cells mixes with stool and passes through the colon. Cologuard includes molecular assays for DNA Mutations and methylation biomarkers that are associated with colorectal neoplasia. Once a non invasive test shows blood and or abnormal DNA then a www.scwomanmagazine.com colonoscopy is ordered to examine the colon to identify the source of the abnormal test. Cologuard has been reported to pick up 92% of colon cancers and 42% of precancerous polyps. There is a 10% false positive test which means that follow up colonoscopy does not identify a lesion. The test is ordered by your health care provider and the company contacts you. The Kit is sent to you at your home with instructions. Once you have completed the kit it is picked up by UPS and sent to Exact Sciences Laboratory. Some of the benefits of this test involve performing it at home without dietary nor medication changes. This is probably not the test for patients with a personal history of colon cancer and or polyp, inflammatory bowel disease (Crohn’s and ulcerative colitis) or family history of colon cancer. Follow-up screening intervals with this test have not been established at this time. Typically the results are available to your health care provider in two weeks. For further information visit www.CologuardTest.com. The gastroenterologist at CardiologyGastroenterology Associates of Myrtle Beach would be happy to answer any questions regarding colon cancer and methods of screening as well of your questions pertaining to your digestive health. We are located at 945 82nd Parkway, Ste 3, Myrtle Beach, S.C. and may be reached at 843-449-3381. South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine May 2015 25 What About Art? ing or have an artistic family, you can update family pieces with new frames or mats to bring it into your color scheme. It’ll be so much more interesting than a mass-produced print – you’ll have the history of the art to share with family and guests. By Kerry Ann Dame, Interior Designer So, you’re decorating your home, and realize you have lots of wall space to fill. Maybe it’s a new home with extra-high ceilings, something you haven’t had before. Or it might have an open plan, with lots of windows and few walls – what to do about art? If you’ve taken the time and effort to really personalize your space, your walls should speak for you too. Don’t overlook the smaller spots between windows, or the short walls of a hallway or entry – these areas are a wonderful way to showcase a small treasure where you can see it up close. Hang a watercolor or small oil painting in a spot like this, where viewers can appreciate the detail. If you’ve inherited a small paint- What to hang in the bathroom? If you like long hot baths, it’s not a good spot for any paper art, as it can warp and mildew from the moisture. Artists who work on porcelain plaques, trays or tiles are a great find for baths, kitchens and even outdoors. of furniture along the wall, you can hang a large painting or interesting mirror in the center, and work outward from there. Remember to hang your central piece about 4”-6” above the furniture, so it’s anchored to the room arrangement and not floating up in space. Finding a large central piece of art can be expensive, so many people use mirrors. When using a mirror, look for a frame that makes a statement, and be careful of its reflection. A mirror can work beautifully to reflect a view or bring more light into the room, but if it’s reflecting cluttered bookshelves or media equipment, you Glass artists are a great source for colorful, modern art. There are wonderful abstract glass and tile pieces that add a splash of sophisticated color. Large walls require more planning, but it doesn’t have to be a daunting task. If you have a sofa or large piece may just be doubling your clutter! This makes for an un-relaxing environment. Art pieces for large-scale spaces are found by thinking outside 26 M a y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine www.scwomanmagazine.com the box – look at vintage signs, textiles, architectural fragments, or a framed collection of sharks teeth or shells to fill up a wall. Since acquiring that perfect piece can be difficult, I’ve also created the DesignFolly collection of art reproduced on canvas in large sizes, for pieces that are large, lively and colorful. We support local artists and make their work available online to a wide audience. Canvas reproductions can be made up to five feet long, and a pair or triptych of large canvases can make a big statement at an affordable price Or create a gallery wall with a collection of what I like to call “Sunday Painters” – found at thrift and antique shops, these are works done by folks who painted as a hobby. These works have a lot of appeal – they can be skilled, quirky, charming, or even ironically bad, but a gallery wall of collected pieces can really make your home unique. So next time you have a blank wall to fill, spend some time at a gallery, auction, or antique shop; check for affordable reproductions of a favorite artist, and incorporate local themes for a collection that is uniquely yours. Thanks to artists Amy Real, Lisa Blayton, Jane Woodward, Conway Glass, and the Sunday Painters, wherever you are! For more information, find us online at PoshSurfside.com, DesignFolly.com, or phone 843-450-1280. All works copyright of their respective creators. Article copyright Kerry Ann Dame 2015. www.scwomanmagazine.com South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine May 2015 27 By Patrick Munro Five Ways Women Can Close the Retirement Savings Gap Come retirement age, women are typically in much worse financial shape than men. Even though women now account for about 50% of the workforce, they still make less than men (several hundred thousand dollars to upwards of $1 million less over a lifetime), and because women take time out of the office to care for kids and aging parents (women leave the office for an average of 12 years!), they have a difficult time getting back into the workforce and often must resort to part-time work. No benefits, no pensions. All of that is compounded by the fact that women live longer than men - about five to six years longer, on average. That makes affording retirement seem downright impossible. But it doesn’t have to be that difficult. Ken McDonnell, the director of American Savings Education Council (ASEC), offers his tips on how women can maximize their chances of retiring comfortably: 28 Crunch the numbers A survey by the Employee Benefit Research Institute (EBRI) shows that men say they need a million dollars or more for retirement; women, on the other hand, say they don’t know how much they need. How can you save for retirement if you have no idea how much you’ll need? First stop: EBRI’s Ballpark E$timate worksheet. The two-page worksheet takes complicated issues like projected Social Security benefits, pensions, and earnings assumptions into consideration then calculates how much of your income you should be saving each year. Boost contributions to your 401(k) If you think you’ll come up short - and chances are, you will, as experts say you need to replace 85% of your pre-retirement income to live comfortably in retirement boost contributions to your employer-sponsored 401(k), contributing at least enough to capture the company match. Free money M a y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine should never be left on the table! Consider other savings vehicles Nearly half of Americans aren’t offered an employer-sponsored plan, according to the EBRI. So you have to consider other options, such as IRAs and mutual funds. Does your employer at least offer direct deposit? If so, send some of your earnings toward your retirement account of choice. This is the easiest way to save: you won’t miss money you don’t see. Focus, focus, focus! Women may be more concerned/worried about retirement than men are, but they are not taking appropriate action in terms of retirement planning. Get this: more than one-third of women (34%) are strictly concerned with just getting by, having just enough to cover their expenses every month, according to Transamerica Center for Retirement Studies. We need to be more aggressive, confident, and strategic! Work longer In order to afford retirement, we’re going to have to work longer. Almost everyone — 91% of men and 84% of women — is onto this one. Any idea how beneficial this is to your bottom line? According to the Center for Retirement Research at Boston College, if you delay your retirement for just three years beyond age 62, you could increase your nest egg by more than a third. That’s because you’ll save for retirement longer, postpone your withdrawals, receive more from Social Security and any pension, and you’ll qualify for Medicare, which would eliminate the need to buy costly private insurance. 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By Star Sade Obesity ages us to a great degree only if we have one of its side effects: disordered lipid levels, diabetes, sleep apnea (disordered breathing during sleep), arthritis, and the two most common, altered self-image and high blood pressure. Each of these side effects produces an aging effect that can be much greater than the benefit of weight loss if you don’t have any of these side effects. Thus, obesity itself is not a great ager unless it comes with the side effects (unfortunately over 80 percent of people with a Body Mass Index of over 35 have at least one significant side effect). But if you suffer the side effects, losing the extra weight is a great way to give your Real Age (physiologic age) Makeover a boost. Let’s look at what the benefits would be: • Reducing blood pressure: up to twenty-five years younger • Reducing the risk of arthritis: up to six years younger • Reducing lipids to a normal level: up to six years younger • Reducing the risk of diabetes: half a year younger for each year • Reducing the risk of sleep apnea: three to nine years younger • Increasing physical activity: three to nine years younger • Avoiding negative body image: up to thirty-two years younger I have had the amazing opportunity to see all ages lose weight and increase there overall health. Weight Loss the healthy way DOES NOT exclude anyone. In fact, I have seen many older adults lose weight consistently just as much as the younger adults. All it takes is a willingness to change some things around in your www.scwomanmagazine.com diet... and the weight, no matter what your age will begin to drop off. Call Metabolic Medical Center 84-357-2851 Begin Your Age Defying Journey. South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine May 2015 29 Harmonica Hugh By Diane DeVaughn Stokes I walked in for my CuraLase Laser Therapy treatment for sciatica last month, and a man was coming out of the office just as I was going in. He said he had read my testimonials in Woman magazine and that’s why he was there. He introduced himself to me as Hugh and said his wife had severe arthritis. She had been treated at CuraLase before he came for treatment. Even though she was not completely out of pain, the severity was so much better that he knew he had to try it for all his aches and pains. His most painful condition was sciatica just like mine. We compared notes on our improvement, praised this laser for its helpful properties, and swore we would sell our homes to get the money to get out of pain if we had to. Anyone who has ever suffered from chronic pain will understand that statement. Hugh is from Darlington, South Carolina and drives to Myrtle Beach two to three times a week for laser treatment. The treatment only takes about 15 minutes, and then he is back on the road heading west. Hugh said his whole spirit has changed since coming to CuraLase. On his bucket list was learning to play the harmonica, and at 70 years old, he has done exactly that. He is having so much fun playing with bands all over the Pee Dee, and it would never have happened if he were still in the chronic pain he was in before going to CuraLase. So what is keeping you from trying it? Here it is in our own backyard next to the South Strand Medical Center in Myrtle Beach. They offer a free dinner seminar for you and a family member so that you can see the laser demonstrated and witness first-hand how it works. They also give you a complimentary visit to see their doctor. You do not need to bring x-rays or previous physician’s records of your condition. CuraLase makes it so easy to get started. As Hugh said, insurance may not cover it, but if you had surgery, your deductible or out-of-pocket expenses would exceed what you pay at CuraLase. Then you would have months of recovery and rehab. With CuraLase there are no shots, no medications, no surgery. The staff will schedule several appointments for you where the laser delivers a warm beam of light unto the painful area. This gets the area to begin to heal itself. Before you know it, you will be back doing all those things you love to do. If you are in pain, try CuraLase. It worked for me, Harmonica Hugh and thousands of others! 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Diane DeVaughn Stokes President of Stages Video Productions Host and Producer of “Diane At Six” on EASY Radio and TV show “Inside Out”, HTC Channel 4 Also Author of “Floating On Air- A Broadcasting Love Affair” 30 M a y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine www.scwomanmagazine.com Get Wedding Dress Ready Written by the Staff of Carolina Coastal Plastic Surgery Looking stunning on your wedding day is every girls dream. Perfect hair, dress, makeup… you name it. You just want to look your best. Beauty is something we talk about all day long here at Carolina Coastal Plastic Surgery. Our patients have dreams and it’s our mission to make them a reality. So as you begin planning your wedding, if you happen to have any type of plastic surgery procedure on your bridal bucket list, consider us your first resource. Our motto here at Carolina Coastal Plastic Surgery is, “You Imagine. We Create.” What that means is that when you arrive for your consultation, we spend time with you as a team. You’ll meet with our Patient Care Coordinator, Brooke Shelton and then with our very own Dr. Steven K. White. Dr. White will sit down with you and go over your wish list. He’ll make recommendations based on your goals, overall health and future plans. His caring bed side manner and impeccable safety record will put you at ease as you schedule your procedure. Dr. White is a Board Certified Plastic Surgeon with more than three decades of experience. Some questions you may have: 1. How much will my procedure cost? 2. What’s the down time? 3. What will recovery be like? 4. Where will I have my procedure? 5. Will I need someone to drive me home and care for me? 6. When can I go back to work? 7. How far ahead should I schedule a procedure before my wedding? 8. When can I work out again? These are all great questions, and each will be addressed at your consultation and pre-op appointment. It’s important that you ask questions. We want you to be as comfortable as possible going into your procedure. When it comes to weddings and preparing to wear that beautiful gown, let us be on your bridal team. We want to help you feel special for your magical day. The following are some of our more popular procedures for brides: • Breast Augmentation • Tummy Tuck & Liposuction • Rhinoplasty • Injectables • Brazilian Butt Lift • Velashape For more in depth information about our team, procedures, facility, current specials and more, visit our website: www.carolinacoastalplasticsurgery.com Remember, YOU IMAGINE. WE CREATE. Carolina Coastal Plastic Surgery Center & Medical Spa 1275 21st Avenue North Myrtle Beach, SC 29577 843.448.9977 D i am m ond Brii dal Specii al $500 off Any Major Surgery Expires May 30th, 2015 Steven K. White, SR., M.D. Certified by the American Board of Plastic Surgery & The American Board of Surgery 1275 21st Ave. North, Myrtle Beach, SC 843.448.9977 Carolinacoastalplasticsurgery.com www.scwomanmagazine.com South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine May 2015 31 miraDry CHANGING LIVES… FOR GOOD! Submitted by DermaVogue Underarm sweat...for some, it’s a nuisance. For others, a huge bother. For all, there is a solution. Would you rather not think about underarm sweat? Are you tired of antiperspirants? Have you ever an embarrassing “sweat moment” at the worst possible time? If so, DermaVogue has a lasting solution. The miraDry procedure is quick and non-invasive. The miraDry System delivers precisely controlled energy to the region where the underarm sweat glands reside, and eliminates the sweat glands non-invasively. Because the sweat glands do not come back or regenerate after treatment, the results are lasting. And, results are fast – you can expect to see sweat reduction immediately after treatment, with minimal to no downtime. Dramatic sweat reduction without the use of harsh chemicals, toxins or surgery The miraDry procedure uses the only noninvasive technology that is FDA cleared and clinically proven to dramatically reduce sweat and provide lasting results. Now there is a lasting solution to sweat control that doesn’t use harsh chemicals, toxins or surgery. What is the procedure like? The procedure involves no surgical incisions or cuts. The clinician customizes treat- Art Vintage Jewelry Crafts Handbags Candles Antiques Avon Collectables Gift Baskets Home Accessories Quilting Fabric & Notions Floral Arrangements WoodWick Candles 114-A Hwy 17 N. Surfside Beach 238-3622 32 Sports Memorabilia M a y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine Mon-Fri 9-6 Sat. 10-5 Sunday 1-5 homespuncrafters.com ment for each underarm area with multiple placements of the miraDry handpiece. Local anesthesia is administered to the underarms prior to the procedure to maintain comfort. Your office visit appointment will generally last about an hour. Two procedures spaced three months apart are required to maximize the results and duration. What happens after the procedure? There is minimal to no downtime following the procedure. Your doctor will likely recommend a mild over-the-counter pain medication and use of ice packs for a few days. You should be able to return to normal activities or work right after the procedure, and you can typically resume exercise within several days. Some localized soreness or swelling is normal, and typically clears within a few weeks. Some patients have shortterm altered sensation in the skin of their underarms or upper arms, which gradually disappears. What results can I expect? Most patients report a dramatic reduction of their sweat – in a recent clinical study1, the average sweat reduction was 86%. You should see a reduction in sweat immediately after treatment. As with any medical procedure, results will vary by person. .1 Clinical study data on file at Miramar Labs, Inc. How long will the results last? The results are lasting because the sweat glands do not come back or regenerate after they have been eliminated. The miraDry procedure uses a safe, non-invasive technology that is FDA cleared to eliminate sweat glands in the underarm. Don’t I need my underarm sweat glands? Your body contains over 4 million sweat glands, with only about 2% located in the underarms. Eliminating this 2% will not affect the body’s ability to cool itself. How is the miraDry procedure different from other treatment options? Other treatment options are designed to temporarily disable the sweat glands, or involve surgery which contains inherent risks. Only the miraDry procedure provides a lasting solution with a non-invasive treatment. Is the miraDry procedure right for me? If embarrassing underarm sweat outbreaks, stained clothing or frequent antiperspirant application interfere with your daily life, then you may be a good candidate for the miraDry procedure. Don’t suffer with embarrassing sweat marks on your clothes any more! Call DermaVogue in Garden City 843-357-2444 or visit us online at [email protected]. www.scwomanmagazine.com Sauce Dijonnaise 1/2 cup heavy cream 2 tablespoon whole grain Dijon mustard Method: 1. In medium sauce pan, sautéed onion and celery in olive oil for 3-4 minutes. Add garlic and cook for 3 more minutes. 2. Remove from stove, transfer in mixing bowl and add mayonnaise, Dijon mustard, lemon juice, cayenne pepper, salt & pepper. Carefully fold in crab meat to preserve lump shape and add panko to firm up consistency. 3. Heat olive oil in a large skillet over medium heat. When oil is hot carefully place Eric Masson crab cakes, in batches, in pan and fry until browned, about 4 to 5 minutes. Carefully flip cakes and fry on other side until golden brown, about 4 minutes. 4. In medium sauce pan, boil cream and Dijon mustard for 3-4 minutes and set aside. 5. Serve crab cakes with sauce Dijonnaise and garnish with chives or parsley. Recipe from Chef Eric Masson Chef/Owner of The Brentwood Restaurant & Wine Bistro “Low Country French Cuisine” www.TheBrentwoodRestaurant.com Southern Style Weddings without the Plantation Price Chef/Owner, The Brentwood Restaurant & Wine Bistro Little River, SC Crab Cake Dijonnaise "One of the Top Ten Most Romantic Restaurants on the Grand Strand" ~MyrtleBeachRestaurantNews.com~ For 4 people Ingredients: Crab Cake 1 pound lump crab meat, picked free of shells 1/2 medium onion, peeled & finely chopped 1 stock celery, washed & finely chopped 1 tablespoon of finely chopped garlic 1 cup panko or breadcrumbs 2 tablespoon whole grain Dijon mustard 1 cup mayonnaise 1/2 lemon, juiced 2 tablespoon olive oil 1 teaspoon salt 1/2 teaspoon pepper 1 dash cayenne pepper 1 tablespoon of finely chopped chives or parsley Rooms for small or large events Indoor and outdoor site available Ceremony site Full banquet menu Can accommodate up to 200 guests 4269 Luck Ave, Little River, SC 29566 849-249-2601 TheBrentwoodRestaurant.com www.scwomanmagazine.com South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine May 2015 33 Summertime and the Grilling is Easy Tips and tricks to make your grill sizzle If the idea of longer, warmer days has you reaching for the tongs, it’s time to get your grilling game on before the season is in full swing. Serving family and friends the most mouthwatering grilled entrees with ease requires a little know-how and a few crowd-pleasing recipes. From versatile chicken to hearty ribs to tender seafood, it’s never been more fun to incorporate new flavors into grilled cuisine. For the best results on the grill, keep these tips in mind: • A grill is not an oven, so don’t walk away from it when it’s on. Organize what you’ll need ahead of time; no running back and forth. • Always scrape hot grill grates clean with a wire brush so food will release more easily. Before cooking, try using tongs to dip paper towels lightly into oil and swipe over the grates. • If the meat or skin sticks, it’s not ready to be turned. Let it sit for another minute or two. • Try chicken thighs, which have a deeper, richer flavor than breast meat. • The pork tenderloin can withstand the dry heat of the grill and stay moist. • Salmon, tuna and swordfish steaks grill well because they are thick and crumble less than other types of fish. • A safe inside temperature for ground beef is 160°F; medium steaks is 140°F. Heat poultry to 165°F and whole cuts like breasts to 170°F. Medium pork should be 150°F. Seafood should be 145°F. • For maximum flavor and juiciness, let meat rest 5-10 minutes before cutting or serving. Another tasty grilling tip is to add flavor with sauce. These recipes all feature Musselman’s Apple Butter – a delicious way to add excitement to your standard summer fare. For more recipes, visit www.musselmans.com. Molasses Apple Butter BBQ Sauce for Chicken Servings: 4 For up to 2 pounds of chicken 1/2 cup Musselman’s Apple Butter 1/4 cup molasses 1/2 teaspoon ground ginger 1/2 teaspoon salt 1/4 teaspoon pepper Mix all ingredients in medium bowl. Brush sauce over chicken in the final 5 minutes of grilling. Additional sauce can be served at the table. Citrus Apple Butter Glaze for Seafood Servings: 4 For up to 4 fish fillets or 2 pounds of shrimp 1/2 cup Musselman’s Apple Butter 2 tablespoons orange juice 2 tablespoons lime juice Mix all ingredients in medium bowl. Cook one side of seafood (skin side down). Brush glaze generously on top. Flip seafood and cook until done. Discard any remaining sauce. Asian Apple Butter Grilling Sauce for Pork Servings: 4 For up to 2 pounds of pork tenderloin or ribs 1/2 cup Musselman’s Apple Butter 1/4 cup Musselman’s Apple Cider Vinegar 1/4 cup water 2 tablespoons honey 3 cloves garlic, minced 1 teaspoon ground ginger 1/4 teaspoon salt 1/8 teaspoon pepper Mix all ingredients in medium bowl. Lightly brush or mop sauce over pork during entire grilling time, so sauce slowly cooks into pork. Discard any remaining sauce. (Family Features) 34 M a y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine www.scwomanmagazine.com A Divine Wedding Experience Written by the Staff at Divine Salon & Spa Oh weddings, how we love them. What an amazing time in your life. So many plans and decisions to make. Choosing your stylist, makeup, dress, and your overall look for your big day. We can help! Our expert staff can help you prepare for your wedding day. Plus, not only will we assist you, but also your whole wedding party can participate in a number of services. Weddings are fun, but they’re also a lot of work. So let us take some of the stress off you. We have all the best that a salon and spa has to offer here at Divine. The moment you walk in the door you’ll already feel more relaxed. So what’s different about our spa? We cater to your individualized needs, and our expert staff will recommend products and services that will not only be divine but also good for your overall health. Here are some of our services: g Hair & Makeup g Spray Tanning g Nail Services g Facials g Massage g Waxing & More! For weddings we take a holistic approach. We’ll sit down with a bride and find out what her plans are. We establish what she wants her look to be and who she who’s involved in the wedding. Our goal is to alleviate stress from the bride and allow her to relax through the entire process and enjoy planning the wedding. A package normally will consist of the following, but can be custom built for each bride: g Hair & Makeup g Facial & Massage Plan g Waxing g Spray Tanning g Nails Bridal Party g Hair g Makeup g Nails Brides, we’re here for you. Let us be your beauty, health and wellness profession- www.scwomanmagazine.com als on your wedding journey. Don’t stress, relax and leave it us. Check all above items off your to do list and have a Divine wedding experience! Be sure to give us a call and mention the promo code: SCWOMAN BRIDAL for special discounts and deals. We also have a VIP spa card; so the more you visit… the better discounts you will receive. For more details on services or to book an appointment visit us: www.divinesalonspamb.com Divine Salon & Spa 1117 48th Ave North – Suite 123 Myrtle Beach, SC 29577 843.839.1716 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine May 2015 35 Ask the Organizer Your Legacy is a Topic Seldom Talked About Diana Aversano, Organizing Made Simple If you died tomorrow, would your legacy be one of order or of clutter? How do you feel about someone else dealing with all your stuff when you’re gone? Will it be a nightmare for them to sift through it all to find your treasures? Will you be leaving them a burden or a gift? If you want a legacy of order to be your intention, why not start now? Start with the easiest category to make decisions about...the obvious junk. Toss out broken objects, things that need mending that have needed mending for a long time, scraps of things you’ve saved for many years “just in case you needed them”. Boxes in the attic or garage full of useless stuff can be tossed. Toss or give away duplicates and those unwanted gifts others have given you. They may be camouflaged by now, but they know who they are. Toss them as you see them, then make time to deliberately root them out. You’ll be surprised at how much worthless stuff you’ve actually accumulated and how much free space emerges as a result of letting them go! The next easiest category to make decisions about...your clothes. If you have tons more clothes that you actually wear all year, why not let some of them go free. Find them a good home and call it a day. Those clothes hanging in your closet are one thing, but those stored in tubs that have been there season after season I argue are clutter, and are not being valued at all. What do you think, can you let some of them go? A little tougher category to make decisions about...your collectibles. No doubt you love your collectibles. Do you get enjoyment from seeing them everyday? Did you once have them proudly displayed on a shelf when over time they have become covered by bills and other meaningless things? Are they trapped in a box somewhere SILVER COAST WINERY Whispershout Weddings The Perfect Wedding Destination. 910.287.2800 6680 Barbeque Road, Ocean Isle Beach, NC www.silvercoastwinery.com 36 M a y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine www.scwomanmagazine.com else where there is no enjoyment for you or for them? Maybe you don’t actually love every single piece. Maybe some you could let go of. However, do your children love them too? Have a conversation. Accept that your children might not need or want any of them at all. After all, it is your memories that are attached to them, not your children’s memories. Their rejection of a possession, is not a rejection of you! Make a decision to respect their wishes. They might just love them too! If not, clear them out and enjoy the extra space! If a child or grandchild shows an interest, why not give items to him or her one at a time as presents. Enjoy their delight in receiving them. A “no picnic” category to make decisions about...your sentimental items. There may be furniture, or artwork, or other pieces that have tons of memories attached to them. It may be that half of the things in this category you actually inherited from your parents. Respect the memories and at the same time consider the practicalities of passing these on to loved ones. Will there be a purpose for it? Will it really be a burden that happens to have a lot of memories? If so, take a picture of it and include a description of your memory. Would that have a respectful enough impact to let the actual item go? Some things will stay in the family, but that will ultimately be the decision for the kids to make. Ask your loved ones outright...”Would you want this when I’m gone or not? No pressure.” They’ll tell you! Then you can plan accordingly. The most herculean category of them all...papers and photos. This grouping requires the most patience and vigilance of all, so reward yourself regularly. There may be years of paperwork to make sense of. What a gift to the next generation to have them in order! They certainly won’t have the time to decide what is important and what isn’t. Take it box by box, file by file, photo album by photo album, chipping away at it every day for a time. Enjoy the process and the memories that will be hidden there. Be sure to also have a file which includes all life insurance, will, funeral information that might include how you want your funeral, as well as other “at death” information. Chances are you can toss a large stack of photos...duplicates, scenery that means nothing to you, unknown people, blurry ones, and ones that don’t particularly bring you joy to look at. One option is to take all your pictures to a company to save digitally by scanning them. To declutter or not to declutter?...that is the question. Will it be the next generation’s job to go through my stuff, or is it my job to go through my own stuff? A reasonable amount of “going through stuff” time provides survivors with closure, a chance to get together in a labor of love. Or sifting through it all could be a nightmare for survivors who have little time or resources to do so. Guilt and respect have been known to drive a survivor to keep unwanted inherited stuff, creating clutter for themselves. How do you think your place full of clutter will eventually affect someone you love? Will you leave behind long happy trails of memories, or piles of miscellaneous stuff? For more information or help, call Organizing Made Simple 843-385-1204. THANK YOU FOR LETTING US SERVE YOU FOR 15 YEARS!! T h e 1 0 + Ye a r w r i n k l e f i l l e r Why use bellafill as your wrinkle and volume filler? Bellafill is distinctive and shows immediate results. Over time, the biocompatible microspheres in bellafill develop a “matrix” to support your own collagen and strengthen the layers that support your skin. Before Bellafill After Bellafill Why rent your filler when you can own it? 843-357-2444 Medical Skin Rejuvenation Call for your free consultation 843-357-2444 • www.dermavogue.net www.scwomanmagazine.com South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine May 2015 37 Taking Care of Yourself For the Big Day! By Teresa Kerr, Nail Specialist & Esthetician Tomalina Coggins, LMT/Esthetician – Owners, August Spa & Wellness necessities like reguPreparing for your lar massages, facials wedding takes months and manicures! of planning, from the We’ve developed a venue to the dress to Guide to Keeping the flowers and everyyour skin and nails in thing in between. For some it can be a check for the big day. stressful and overThis schedule should be a great reminder whelming experience, to take care of youreven for the best party self as you are planplanner it can still ning for the big celetake a toll on the bration. health of your skin Teresa Kerr and Tomalina Coggins If you aren’t and body. The extra already on a good time we invest in skin care regiment that includes using proplanning for the big day can also take away fessional products recommended by your from the time we give ourselves for the Esthetician then you should start as soon as you get engaged. 6-8 Months: Begin regular facials and massages every 4-6 weeks, consider it a work out for your skin! Consult with your nail specialist on colors you have in mind or the style you want to have for the big day. 38 M a y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine 4 Months: Schedule manicures every 2-3 weeks to make sure your nails are strong and healthy! Don’t forget a massage will also help relieve stress and relax your body. 2 Months: Start a series of 6-8 chemical peels or microdermabrasion treatments once a week; this will exfoliate the dead layers of skin revealing a fresh look. Have your brows shaped and maybe even your bikiniwho’s got time to shave right now? 1 Month: Schedule a spray tan and do a trial run of your nails and toes for the big day. Don’t forget your groom! Schedule him a manicure and pedicure leading up to the big day as well as a massage for relaxation and a facial for a deep cleanse. Week Before the Big Day: Have a regular facial to cleanse, refresh and hydrate the skin. Be sure to wax your bikini, eyebrows, etc. now, as it will last through your honeymoon. The Day Before: Ok, we know it’s busy but the 24-48 hours before your big day are the crucial final steps! Get a bridal spray tan and full manicure and pedicure. Booking appointments in advance so you don’t skip any steps is a great idea but the most important is to let your esthetician and nail tech specialist know when the big day is. You will want them to be on hand for any touch ups needed for you and your bridal party! Keep in mind the best supplement to your wellness visits include drinking plenty of water and eating good foods including lots of fruits and veggies. This will help naturally detox your skin, keeping it feeling and looking fresh. We’ve started this timeline 68 months before the big day, however it’s important to note that we shouldn’t save taking care of ourselves for just big events. A regular schedule of visits to a wellness spa will drastically improve your overall state of wellbeing and, of course, your beauty will shine from the inside out! August Spa & Wellness is located just south of the Market Common on HWY 17 Bypass on Palmetto Point Blvd. Owners Teresa Kerr, Nail Specialist & Esthetician and Tomalina Coggins, LMT/Esthetician are trained in the latest techniques to refresh your soul and body through spa treatments. August Spa & Wellness specializes in skincare, massage therapy, nail treatments, waxing and lash extensions. Call 843-294-8014 today to schedule an appointment or visit them online at www.augustspa.com for more information and to learn about upcoming specials. www.scwomanmagazine.com Local Women In The News most recently as nursing operations director. She will have responsibility for the emergency departments, critical care units, women and children’s services and other programs systemwide. Century 21 Boling & Associates Welcomes Cathy Frisby and Kim Coker Swartz Conway Medical Center Nurse Awarded Prestigious Palmetto Gold Century 21 Boling & Associates is pleased to announce Cathy Frisby has joined its firm as a Sales Associate. She will specialize in Residential property sales and currently resides in North Myrtle Beach, but will service the entire Grand Strand area. Century 21 Boling & Associates is pleased to announce Kim Coker Swartz has joined its firm as a Sales Associate. She will specialize in Residential property sales and currently resides in Conway, but will service the entire Grand Strand area. Conway Medical Center (CMC) is proud to announce that one of its employees, Wendy Donellan, BSN, RN has received the Palmetto Gold Award from the South Carolina Nurses Association. Wendy Donellan, BSN, RN has been employed at CMC since 2003 and currently serves in the role of Clinical Educator. She has a Bachelor of Science from Regis University and is a registered nurse. She is currently enrolled at Regis University where she is earning a Master of Science in Nursing with a dual focus in Clinical Education and Healthcare Administration. The Palmetto Gold was started by various nursing organizations throughout South Carolina as a platform to recognize nursing and support nursing education with scholarship funds. Each year, employers from healthcare settings are asked to nominate outstanding nurses from their organization to be considered as one of the 100 nurses honored. For more information call 843-347-5895. Tidelands Health promotes 3 nurses to top leadership posts Pam Maxwell Karen Hazzard Sandra Raynes Three nursing administrators at Tidelands Health have been promoted to top nursing leadership positions in the organization. Pam Maxwell has been named senior vice president and chief nursing officer. Karen Hazzard and Sandra Raynes have been named associate vice presidents. Maxwell joined Tidelands Georgetown Memorial Hospital as a clinical director in 1999 and has held a variety of leadership roles, including director of nursing at Tidelands Waccamaw Community Hospital and vice president of operations and nursing administrator. Maxwell will be responsible for inpatient and outpatient nursing care systemwide. Hazzard, who joined the organization in 2011 as nursing operations director, will have responsibility for nursing operations for medical/surgical units and other programs. She previously taught nursing at HorryGeorgetown Technical College. She is board certified as an advanced nurse executive. Raynes joined Tidelands Waccamaw Community Hospital in 2004 and has served in various roles, www.scwomanmagazine.com South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine May 2015 39 GIVING YOU MORE IN (SOCIAL) MEDIA The One Gardening Tool You’re Probably Not Using By Dorien Morin-van Dam ‘April Showers Bring May Flowers’. Well, we’ve had our fair share of April showers along the Grand Strand this Spring, so I certainly hope we’ll get plenty of May flowers, agreed? Are you a gardener? Do you love getting your hands dirty and seeing new things grow? I am not much of a successful plant grower myself; I’d call myself a dabbler. What I have enjoyed tremendously though, is planning and growing a vegetable garden with my children! Years before I had children, I used to nanny for a nice family in the Boston suburbs. They had about 4 acres of land and a lot of it what just dirt. One day I asked if I could take a small plot and plant 6RFLDO 0HGLD 0DQDJHPHQW &RQVXOWLQJ /RFDO 6RFLDO 0HGLD 0DUNHWLQJ 7UDLQLQJ 6WUDWHJLF 3ODQQLQJ $QDO\WLFV &RQWDFW GRULHQ#PRUHLQPHGLDFRP 40 M a y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine a garden with the children. That was the year we ate freshly picked warm strawberries on our sandwiches (no need to make jam!), ate peas and zucchini until we couldn’t stand them anymore and my love for gardening was born. Whether you like to plant decoratively, or with a more practical thought, there’s probably one tool you aren’t utilizing. No, I am not talking about a shovel, bucket, hoe, pruning shears or lawnmower. The tool I am talking about is your Smartphone! With the internet at your fingertips and a Smartphone in your pocket, you can access any gardening-related information you need! You don’t even have to go back inside (with dirt on your shoes) to look up answers to questions like identifying spiders or snakes in your yard, or finding out what type of Azalea you have in your yard. Besides using your Smartphone for garden-related research, here are several other uses! Use your Smartphone to • take pictures of your plants to identify them at a later date • take picture of your plants with fungus or insects to find the best way to treat the plant and get rid of the pest(s) • plan out a new garden by checking out pictures of yards, online • play around in Pinterest to find new ideas for your garden, patio and outdoor living • send pictures to your garden-loving friends who would appreciate that picture of that stunning rose! • read updates from gardening magazines your subscribe to • research about your climate and soil to find out what plants and trees would thrive and what plants and trees wouldn’t • plan a vegetable patch • find recipes to use your home-grown vegetables • sign up for flower-arranging classes • find a garden club in your local area • connect with a local nursery • connect with a local landscaper • keep track of the weather as to adjust your watering schedule • keep track of the pollen count and humidity levels to see when would be the best time to work outside I am confident that once you see the possibilities of how your Smartphone can help you be more productive and active outside, you’ll be tucking that Smartphone of yours in your back pocket or in your gardening apron, am I right? Just make sure you don’t lose it in the bushes, the grass or in your garage! I am still looking for a set of keys I left in my garage about 14 years ago…(there’s an app for that now – use the ‘Find My Phone’ app to locate your phone if you’ve misplaced it) One more thing: If gardening is not your forte but I’ve made you hungry for fresh veggies by writing this piece, use your Smartphone to find a Farmer’s Market near you! Socially Yours, Dorien Morin-van Dam More In Media moreinmedia.com Social Media Consulting 617-763-1655 www.scwomanmagazine.com Swollen Legs By Karl Hubach, MD, RVT, RPhS Leg swelling, or leg edema, is a common occurrence and can cause a great deal of concern for many people. Figuring out what is causing the edema can be very frustrating. There is a long list of things that can cause swelling in the legs and it can seem overwhelming to try to solve the mystery. For instance, swelling can come from: medications, trauma, hormone changes, diet, problems with the heart, lungs, kidneys, liver, or thyroid, infection, sleep apnea, obesity, cancer, or even abnormal circulation in the arteries, veins, or lymphatics. With so many causes, where do we start? The first step in making any accurate diagnosis of the cause is getting a good history with lots of questions. Frequently, additional testing will need to be done to narrow down the cause of swelling, including blood work, urinalysis, ultrasounds, or even CAT scans. It would take a textbook to cover all the causes of leg swelling, but let’s try to get a better understanding. Some swelling can be a sign of a major problem while other swelling just has to be tolerated. If the swelling occurred gradually over a long period of time or has been present for a long time with no pain, the cause is typically going to have less urgency. Most anxiety over swelling in the leg is usually because there is concern for a blood clot in the veins of the leg. A blood clot is also called a thrombus. A thrombus in the veins can occur in the deep veins of the legs, which are in the muscles of the leg, or in the superficial veins, which are outside the muscles and closer to the skin surface. A superficial vein thrombus carries less concern, unless it is located close to an intersection with a deep vein. Superficial clots are typically not treated as aggressively as a deep vein thrombosis (DVT). The deep veins carry 90% of the blood flow out of the leg. A clot formation in the deep system creates a lot more concern for problems. The greatest concern is for a piece of the clot to break off and go to the lungs (a pulmonary embolism), causing difficulty breathing and chest pain. A pulmonary embolism can be fatal and occurs in about 10% of DVTs. A clot in the deep veins can also result in long term pain and swelling of the affected leg in about 66% of people and is called post thrombotic syndrome. A DVT is typically treated using blood thinners and compression. Occasionally a filter will be placed to catch anything that may break off. Proper compression treatment can reduce the risk for post thrombotic syndrome by 50%. Most DVTs will present with a sudden onset of swelling and tenderness in one leg. There are factors that will increase the likelihood of having a DVT, such as: an active cancer, immobility (such as, long travel or being bedridden), previous history of a DVT, trauma to the leg, medications that increase clotting (such as birth control pills or hormones), obesity, age over 60 years, varicose veins, and inherited conditions or illnesses that make a person form clots easier. One of the big problems with DVTs is that the accuracy of diagnosing a DVT on history and exam alone is only 50%, and often times there may be no symptoms at all. That means, if the doctor thinks it is possible, then a test needs to be done to make sure. Some blood tests can help with the decision, but often times an ultrasound of the leg is needed to make sure. There are several things you can do to reduce your risk for a DVT. You can stay active and maintain a healthy weight and life style. When you are traveling with long sitting you should wear graduated compression stockings or socks, point and flex your feet 10 to 12 times every 20 minutes, and walk as much as possible. Hospitalized and surgical patients need to be accurately assessed for their risk of having a DVT so they can be given properly tailored medication, compression stockings, and early activity. The cause of leg swelling can often be a challenge to figure out. A careful history, physical, and a few studies will usually give an accurate diagnosis to provide direction for treatment and management. Look for additional articles in the near future to talk about venous insufficiency and lymphatic edema, as causes of swelling. Karl Hubach MD, FACPh, RVT, RPhS American Board of Venous and Lymphatic Medicine Diplomate INLET Vein Specialists, PC • Murrells Inlet, SC (843) 652–5344 (LEGG) www.inletveinspecialists.com www.scwomanmagazine.com Our Services Will Make You Smile! Comprehensive Dental Care For Your Entire Family Preventive • Restorative Cosmetic • TMJ Treatment CEREC® - The One Visit Crown Accepting New Patients! Call Today! 235-7580 71C Da Gullah Way Pawleys Island www.davidgrabeman.com South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine May 2015 41 Genetic Testing and Hereditary Cancer Syndromes By Randal L. Croshaw, MD Cancer essentially begins as a normal cell that undergoes a change which allows it to escape the control that the body normally has over it. The runaway cell then grows and spreads in an unmanaged way which leads to all kinds of problems. Many factors can contribute to this loss of control and may be broadly grouped into environmental causes, weakened immune function, and genetic causes. The most common example of an environmental risk factor is smoking and lung cancer. Smoking carries many irritants and toxins into the lungs where they create inflammation which leads to cellular and genetic damage (more on this shortly). Decreased immune function means that either the body fails to recognize abnormal cells or cannot eliminate them before they become problematic. This is why certain cancers, lymphomas for example, are more common in people that have weakened immune systems such as those persons with HIV, diabetes or take transplant drugs, etc. Genetic causes of cancer typically involve damage to the genes that regulate cell function (tumor suppressor genes). Genes can be 42 M a y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine thought of as the body’s recipe to build the proteins needed by the body to perform different functions. When genes become damaged the product that they code for may not function in the normal manner. Genetic damage typically happens very slowly and most of the time occurs in an area that does not alter tumor suppressor genes. A person actually has 2 copies of each gene and the likelihood of both becoming damaged is very small and would likely only happen over many years of accumulated damage. This is why most cancers occur at an advanced age. There are some families in which we see a higher than expected number of certain cancers which may occur at an earlier than expected age. If this is not because of environmental causes then it is likely due to an inherited genetic defect. By this I mean the individual was born with 1 abnormal copy of a tumor suppressor gene. Therefore, they have only 1 working copy of this cancer preventing gene and if it gets damaged that cell is very likely to become cancerous. This explains why these families have a much higher than average risk for the development of certain related cancer types typically at an earlier than normal age. There are many known inherited genetic defects that cause an array of cancers including: breast and ovarian cancer, colon cancer, uterine cancer, melanoma, retinoblastoma, etc. If we suspect that a genetic defect is to blame for an increased incidence of cancer within a family there are tests available to help confirm this. Genetic information is quite helpful because it allows us to identify at-risk individuals in order to direct screening and risk reducing measures. It also helps us determine who may not be at risk within a family and give them peace of mind. Please be aware that typically half of the people in an affected family will not acquire the defective gene. Properly managing an individual found to carry a defective tumor suppressor before they are diagnosed with cancer can be a lifesaver. Unfortunately, many people avoid testing because they worry about how that information may be used against them. Federal law and many state laws prohibit health insurers and most employers from using genetic information against a person for the purpose of employment, promotion, termination, eligibility, and insurance rates, etc. This law did not limit life insurance and some other supplemental policies from using this information, but I am aware, at least at this time, that some insurers avoid this topic altogether. Insurance will typically cover most of the cost of testing in appropriate individuals and programs may be available to individuals that need testing and do not have insurance. Talk to your health care provider if you have a strong family history of cancer to determine what types of screening and testing are available and most beneficial for you. Further information may also be found at the websites of the American Cancer Society and the Komen Foundation. Dr. Croshaw is a fellowship-trained Surgical Breast Oncologist Coastal Comprehensive Women’s Center 199 Village Center Blvd. Suite 100 Telephone (843) 236-4330 www.scwomanmagazine.com Lose Weight, Sleep Better and Live Longer By Dr. Kevin Sattele INDEPENDENT LIVING FOR THEM AND PEACE OF MIND FOR YOU. They’re never far from help with HTC LifeSentry! Emergency help with the push of a button. Call for assistance at any time via direct, two-way communication to our central station. 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Sleep apnea is a disorder in which the airway becomes obstructed while asleep, causing loud snoring and very often, complete cessation of breathing. This can lead to low blood oxygen levels and cardiac arrhythmias as well as other problems. Being overweight and obese is a big risk for sleep apnea. One reason is due to the amount of weight on the chest and upper airway of obese patients. Neck circumference is also a good predictor of sleep apnea when it is greater than 17 inches in obese men and greater than 16 inches in obese women. Not only does obesity have an association with sleep apnea, but sleep apnea causes poor sleep which increases your appetite. Poor sleep also results in less energy during the day and typically less exercise and activity which also compounds the weight problem. 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Working in the yard mowing grass, planting flowers, tending a vegetable garden, outdoor cooking, and playing in the pool suddenly become favorite pastimes. During the warm, summer weather, many times a dip in the pool turns into an afternoon event. A part of summer living is decorating 44 M a y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine an indoor or outdoor living space with beautiful, relaxing furniture for the summer season. Depending on personal taste, there are furniture choices in metal, wicker and rattan as well as teak and others. Stylish, summertime furniture for the indoor and outdoor living space is available in many unique materials from wrought iron to teakwood. Cast aluminum and wrought iron furniture are both stylish and sturdy choices, and the metal construction can withstand rough wear and extreme weather. Cast aluminum and wrought iron are great for outdoor spaces, and the metal designs range from simple patterns to ornate works of art. These outdoor furniture choices are maintenance free, and for a splash of color, tie pillows to the metal chairs and lounges for added beauty and comfort. Rattan and wicker summer furniture are popular choices for the pool, deck, patio, and sunroom. These all-weather furniture pieces are stylish with exquisite designs, and the rattan, garden-style construction is a great choice for open or closed sunroom areas. These natural furniture choices blend with the outdoor beauty and are sturdy enough to withstand the hot sun and other extreme weather conditions. Change the look of both rattan furniture and also wicker furniture with a variety of colorful pillows that add comfort and a unique style to any setting. The tropical feeling of teakwood furniture offers a relaxed atmosphere, which is wonderful for summertime living. Teak furniture is solid wood with a smooth www.scwomanmagazine.com finish, and many teak owners add a splash of color to the wood pieces using bright pillows and umbrellas. Furnishings for summer style include everything from end tables to sofas. Outdoor and indoor living spaces are changed for the season with white paint, natural fabrics and unique materials to complement the surrounding living space. Design a complete room with chairs, sofas, coffee tables, and lamps, or design an outdoor patio and pool area with a set of table and chairs as well as lounges for relaxing by the pool. Because there are so many summertime furniture choices for designing an indoor or outdoor living space, it is a good idea to determine in advance entertainment and living needs. An enclosed garden room requires different furniture choices than a poolside atmosphere. By taking the time to make the right furniture choices, you will express the summertime season in exquisite style. 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I realize that I am now 60 and living the dream that my mother carried in her heart when she was 60 years old. We had our chapter of living by the sea together and now I carry on alone. I will not take it for granted. I love you, Mommy….more than you will ever know. I am sending you love and prayers on the ocean breezes. 46 M a y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine I miss you today. The sound of disappointment and frustration In your voice echoes in my head, And I know how much you want to be here. My heart aches for you. I want to give you the freedom you so richly deserve. You have taken care of others for so long… When will it be your turn? To walk the morning beach And smile with peace and contentment. I never visit the ocean That I don’t think of you. The memory of your tanned body with your white cover-up Is etched in my mind. I have never seen you happier Than at the water. You come to life And seem to become one with nature. You have passed that love of the ocean on to me. My soul yearns for my time alone at the beach. I didn’t know it would be so hard To be a mother. The love comes easy But the patience and training are so hard. Sometimes I feel overwhelmed And want to run away, Then I feel guilty for these thoughts Because I love my family so And know I would be lost without them. I dream of the day I will live by the water And walk the beach daily. Sound familiar? How many times did I hear you share this same dream, Knowing the chances were slim That your wish would come true. I watched you resign yourself to your fate And slowly let go of this dream. Tears flood my eyes And my heart hurts, Because I know it was for me and the family That you transformed your wings of the seagull Into a mother’s arms. I vow to buy the beach house now, To invite you to live by the sea with me. Then I hear my children Saying they won’t move and live by the water. They want their friends and the same schools. How can I be two places at once? I know I can’t And I feel myself cringe I look in the mirror And see you looking back… Smiling…with a knowing tear in your eyes. I love you mom. Thank you for all you gave. The tears flow again. I look out at the ocean And see my son’s silhouette in the morning sun. He stands alone by the vast ocean. Another lover of the sea. The tears flow And taste salty in my mouth. Yes, the ocean and you are in me. I will survive And take my sporadic walks by the sea with great joy And a vow to one day lay at rest by the water. www.scwomanmagazine.com Jacqueline Whitmore Offers Etiquette Solutions for Summer Weddings With the popular summer wedding months right around the corner, most couples are deep into the planning process. But when it comes to invitation and RSVP etiquette, it’s often times confusing for the happy couple and their guests. What is the proper protocol? Jacqueline Whitmore, an internationally recognized etiquette expert, author and founder of The Protocol School of Palm Beach, offers this advice: • For guests who don’t RSVP and show up anyway: While you should make contact ahead of time with those who don’t respond, don’t make a big fuss of it on your wedding day if someone shows up who didn’t RSVP. Yes, it’s rude on their part, but simply ask a trusted friend or staff member to find them a seat and let them stay. The caterers typically prepare about 10% more food than required so it should not be a big problem. • For guests who show up with their children: A gentle way to deal with this situation is to have the family table off to the side or back of the reception area. That way if the children are disruptive, their parents can whisk them off quickly. Better yet, when you send out the wedding invitation, provide the name of reputable babysitter in your area who is willing to accommodate parents who want to attend the wedding. • Your friend’s significant other is now her ex: This can be incredibly awkward but happens more than you might think. Etiquette says that if the invitation is addressed to your friend and a guest, she is free to bring whomever she chooses. However, if you address the invitation to your friend and her significant other by name, technically they’re both on the guest list. If they’re no longer together, you should allow her to bring someone else. You may want to have some spare place cards on hand with the word, “guest,” written on them, just in case this happens. • Your parents want to invite all their friends but you want a small gathering: He who foots the bill has the power. If your parents are paying for the wedding, you certainly should consider whom they’d like to invite. However, it’s still your wedding. Have a private and honest discussion with your parents if you are uncomfortable with their choices. Try to reach a reasonable compromise. • Never include registry information in your invitation: This is outright tacky and a big no-no. People will usually ask you directly, or ask a parent or other family member where you are registered. It’s fine to list this information if you have a wedding website. People who truly want to put thought into a gift will be sure and find out. • Asking for money versus a gift: It’s becoming more common nowadays for couples to request money instead of gifts, particularly if they just moved into a new home, want to go on an exotic honeymoon, or if they have been married before. Guests may either choose to give money or a gift, depending on their financial situation. • The appropriate wedding invitation and RSVP timeline: Save-the-date cards are best sent approximately six months before the wedding. Invitations should be sent approximately five to six weeks before the wedding. The RSVP date should be two to three weeks before the wedding. Thank-you notes should go out as soon as possible, but try not to wait any longer than two months after the wedding. Handwritten thank you notes are still the best way to go even in a digital world. Please let me know if you would be interested in speaking to Jacqueline. She is also happy to contribute an original article. You may also use these tips with proper attribution. http://www.etiquetteexpert.com/ http://jacquelinewhitmore.com/ BLOOMINGAIL’S Consignment Boutique Ladies & Men’s Clothing Furniture, Jewelry Decor www.scwomanmagazine.com 9990 Beach Drive, Calabash, NC 910-575-4949 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine May 2015 47 Spring Clean Your Life By Kim Fowler, Founder, Fowler Life Coaching This is the time of year when we start cleaning out our homes and cleaning up our yards. We want a fresh start for spring. We start looking at all the “stuff” we’ve accumulated over the year and wonder how much of it we really need. Sometimes, we have items that we have held onto for years with the idea that one day we will use them (or fit into them) again. We do a thorough cleaning inside and out, and some of us even hire people to help us. Here are some tips to follow so you won’t have so much clutter to clean next spring. Kitchen What do you really use in the kitchen? It seems that every year there are more kitchen gadgets coming out. I wonder how our parents cooked dinner without all these fancy gadgets. Pull out all of the kitchen appliances and equipment that you haven’t used in a year. Will you really ever use them? When is the last time you made Awaken the Dancer Within You! COME JOIN US! Register Now for our Summer Camp & Summer Programs for all Ages, Levels & Styles! Competition Company Auditions May 16th at LDAA - Ages 5 & Ups! Come celebrate our 20th Annual Recital May 31st at 12PM, 2PM and 4PM Photograph by Wayne’s View Photography Mallory Binder, Litchfield Dance Company Senior Member Litchfield Dance Arts Academy Ilka Doubek, Director 97 Otis Drive, Pawleys Island, SC Call for Tickets: 843.237.7465 email [email protected] or visit www.litchfielddance.com 48 M a y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine your own bread with that bread machine? How many sets of dishes, glasses, mugs, forks, spoons, etc. do you really need? Many of us collect sets of things over the years, but we really only use the everyday dishes, glasses and utensils. How many sets do we need for that “special occasion” that might come up? Are you saving dishes for those big dinner parties you keep talking about having one day? We all do it. I recently sold my grandmother’s silverware (gasp). We never used it. Who wants to clean it? She’ll never know, and now someone is actually enjoying and appreciating her silverware. Linen Closets How many towels do you really need? A good rule of thumb is two per person. You might allow one or two in case of guests. Also, living here on the beach we do need our beach towels. So, we are allowed a few more—especially because guests tend to migrate to the beach. Limit yourself to two sets of sheets per bed. That’s all you really need. Even last year, when I thought we had bed bugs, I woke up in the middle of the night and stripped my bed. Then, I threw everything in the trashcan outside. My husband thought I was crazy, and then we found out we didn’t have any—so maybe I was. But it was good to have that extra set of sheets. Bedroom Closets For some reason, these have the easiest rules, but are the hardest to do. Throw out anything that doesn’t fit or hasn’t been worn in a year. Keepsakes Ask yourself why you are keeping them? Was it someone else’s keepsake that you were handed down? If it isn’t important or sentimental to you, then give it to someone else who might cherish it. When considering throwing out things you aren’t sure you can part with, put them in a box and store them for six months to a year. Chances are pretty good that if you haven’t used or needed them, they probably won’t be missed. Spring clean other areas of your life Unfortunately, most of us stop at our physical environment. We should really look at the rest of the areas of our lives that might need some “cleaning up” too. Here are some ideas for getting rid of some of your clutter in other areas of your life. When is the last time you had a mammogram? Pick up the phone and schedule your doctor’s appointments. Many of us get busy, and before you know it, we haven’t been to the gynecologist in four years. Do not wonder or worry about your health. Get checked out regularly. I had an uncle who was so worried that he had cancer that he wouldn’t go to the doctor to find out. Is there a light bulb out in a particular closet? What about a broken hinge on a bathroom cabinet? These petty annoyances can really zap your energy! Every time you open that bathroom cabinet, you think, “I really have to get this fixed,” then you close the cabinet. www.scwomanmagazine.com How do you feel? It drains you a little. You probably don’t think about it again until you open that cabinet. You know that feeling. Keep a piece of paper with you for two to three days. Write down every little annoyance from the time you get up until the time you go to sleep. This will be a to-do list that will rid your life of these little energy zappers. You can clear your mind through meditation. Learn how to meditate so you can relax your mind and get more energy. Your mind will have more focused, clear thoughts, and getting rid of mind clutter can help in every area of your life. Think about other clutter you experience. Are you holding on to guilt? Is there a way to resolve it, or do you need to get rid of those thoughts and move forward? Is there clutter in your life that is creating roadblocks? Give this some serious thought. Ridding your life of clutter—physically, mentally and emotionally will not only give you a clearer vision of what you want out of life, but will open new doors for you. Get rid of the old clutter to make room for new wonderful opportunities. Remember, if you can dream it and see it, you can plan it and achieve it. Kim teaches Vision Board Workshops to help people get started creating their vision. To see a list of upcoming events, go to http://www.fowlercoaching.com. You can also download her free eBook, Design the Life You Were Meant to Have. Kim Fowler has her training and certification from the Fowler Wainwright International Institute of Professional Coaching and the International Association of Coaches. She holds her Master‘s of Business Administration from George Mason University, and lives in Surfside Beach with her husband, Rich, their three cats and Sam the parakeet. Grilled Salmon with Strawberry Ginger Salsa Serves: 6 Salsa: Prepare at least one hour ahead. 1 seedless cucumber, finely chopped 1 green onion, thinly sliced 1 tbsp. cilantro, cut into strips 1 tsp. fresh ginger, freshly grated 1 yellow pepper, diced small 3-4 Tbsp. seasoned rice wine vinegar 2 cups fresh strawberries, hulled and diced small Sauce: 1 stick unsalted butter 1 clove garlic 1 Tbsp. honey 2 Tbsp. soy sauce 1 Tbsp. fresh lemon juice 6 salmon fillets (or fish of choice), skinless Mix cucumbers, green onion, cilantro, ginger, yellow pepper and vinegar. Cover and chill at least one hour. Just before serving, add strawberries. In a small saucepan, melt butter with garlic over low heat. Stir in honey, soy sauce and lemon juice and cook 2 minutes; set aside. Prepare a charcoal grill; when ready, brush sauce on salmon pieces and place on a well-oiled fish-grilling rack. Place rack over coals about 4 inches from fire and grill approximately 4 to 5 minutes on each side. Brush with the sauce again after turning and again when done. Transfer to warm platter and top with salsa. www.scwomanmagazine.com South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine May 2015 49 Celebrating 20 Years of Dance on the Grand Strand! Wow! 20 Dance Show 1 / Act I at Seasons! Yes, this 2 p.m. opens with is our 20th our Big Ballet anniversary at “Seasons of Litchfield Dance Dance” and Arts Academy! includes 26 dance What an accomnumbers; plishment! The Show 2 / Act II at annual concert is 4 p.m. opens with always a special our Tumblers and and exciting event continues with a for all of our grand Pas de dancers and their Deux and many families that celeother dances. brates the culmina“For the past tion of another several years, dance season. This we’ve invited proyear’s theme is fessional male “SEASONS of dancers to perDance 2015.” form as part of Litchfield Dance Arts Academy By dividing our recitals,” says our entertaining LDAA Director year-end dance concert into 3 shows with all varieties of dance for all Ilka Doubek. “Not only do our male guest artists give our audiences ages and all styles and levels, we are able to make the shows a comsomething special to look forward to, but their participation has been fortable length for parents, grandparents and young children. an invaluable enhancement to the solid ballet foundation LDAA proMore than 150 students of all ages will participate in this special vides to it ballet based students. Having been a professional ballerina annual performance on Sunday, May 31st at the beautiful Waccamaw myself, I consider partnering or the art of “Pas de Deux” the ultimate High School auditorium. The three-part show will begin with our in a ballet education. To learn partnering with an experienced dancer Pre-Show at 12 Noon, featuring solos, duets and trios of our award allows our students to expand their skills considerably. This year we winning competition team, Litchfield Dance Company and our welcome Cuban dancer, Christopher Miro to dance with us.” Performing Art Company. Although the annual recital marks the end of a traditional class year, Litchfield Dance is open through out the summer. We offer a wonderful summer program in camps and classes in a variety of instruction for dancers of all ages. Open House Group Photo; Fun in the sun wet-down with the Midway Fire Dept. at LDAA GET Your Child’s Body Moving This Summer with Dance Every child loves to be a Disney Princess like Cinderella or Elsa & Anna from Frozen. Litchfield Dance Arts Academy is offering several fantasy inspired dance camps for Children ages 2 – 9 years of age this summer. Our Frozen & Disney Princess camps will make every girl feel like they are being treated like royalty while learning how to dance and having fun while doing it. Or your child may prefer being a 50 M a y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine www.scwomanmagazine.com NEW BOARD CERTIFICATION DEMONSTRATING HIS COMMITMENT Open House Photo; Fun in the sun wet-down with the Midway Fire Dept. at LDAA Broadway star. Even the shyest child will enjoy our camps. Camp Highlights Dancers will experience the joy of dance taught by SC’s finest teachers. With our family friendly environment that values the creative process, our dance classes develop coordination, balance, individual expression, spatial awareness, flexibility, strength and group coordination and social skills. The Musical Theatre Camp will give the opportunity for ages 6 – Teens to tap into the world of all things musical and theatrical. Boys and girls will have a chance to explore a multi-faceted learning experience: singing, acting, staging, choreography and dance in a short period of time in an encouraging and safe environment! Each day LDAA will provide snacks and a craft activity. Each week-long camp will end with a special performance for family & friends. Get your cameras ready! Variety and Convenience If you are looking for dance classes on the Waccamaw Neck or northern Coastal South Carolina, you have come to the right place. Litchfield Dance Arts Academy in Pawleys Island has taught thousands of students since it was established in 1995. We offer dance classes in ballet, pointe, jazz, tap, hip hop, contemporary, lyrical, preschool dance classes, tumble, musical theater and other dance styles. Due to the fact we have 4 spacious studios, we conveniently have doubled up dance classes at a variety of times so that you can book classes for different children at the same time to save you hours of driving and waiting time. We also bundle classes, so the various levels of students can take multiple classes in one day. “The summer classes are a great introduction to dance, tumble and musical theater!” says Doubek. “We offer young dancers the opportunity to gain an understanding of how their bodies move and how to communicate through dance – plus they will have so much FUN!” Call us today and you will see why more families in Pawleys Island and the Coastal South Carolina trust us for dance and tumble each year more than any other dance studio. Sign Up Now! Come visit our beautiful state-of-the-art facility designed for dance & tumbling. Litchfield Dance Arts Academy 97 Otis Drive, Pawleys Island, SC 29585 For more information email us at ldaaoffice@ gmail.com Check our Website: www.litchfielddance.com or Call us at: (843) 237-7465 www.scwomanmagazine.com to the treatment of venous disease, Dr. Karl Hubach is the only physician in our area Board Certified in American Board of Venous and Lymphatic Medicine Diplomate and one of only 248 in the country. • Specializing in treatment of Varicose & Spider Veins. • Most services are covered by insurance. • All evaluations and treatments are done by Dr. Hubach in the comfort of the office. • Also offering skin care treatment for rosacea, acne, age spots, spider veins, sun damage, and fine wrinkles. Karl Hubach MD, FACPh, RVT, RPhS American Board of Venous and Lymphatic Medicine Diplomate 4545 Hwy. 17 Bypass Suite A • Murrells Inlet, SC 843-652-5344 (LEGG) FAX: 843-652-0067 www.inletveinspecialists.com Have you thought about what your kids will be doing this summer? Why not consider some Paint With A Passion classes? We'll have week long Kids PAINT CLUB painting camps available for kids ages 5-11 where they will paint for fun, learn about the great artists... and a little art history too, all summer long. Kids PAINT CLUB Passes 5 for $90 or 10 for $170 (Regular class cost $25) (Don't worry, we'll still have our public adult classes too!) The “PWAP cupcake” is a “paint your Adult Regular Class Passes own cupcake” that we offer for no 5 for $140 or 10 for $250 additional charge for private events (Regular class cost $35) like kids birthday parties. For information or to purchase, stop by the studio or call us at (843) 353-1711. Located 121-A Gateway Rd. Carolina Forest www.paintwithapassion.com South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine May 2015 51 running through my head. I would wake up feeling tired and having a hard time concentrating on work until later in the day. Now, I sleep through the night like a rock. So what did I do? I started taking magnesium. It is estimated that as much as 80% of the population is deficient in magnesium. There are over 300 bodily functions that require magnesium. 300! So a deficiency can cause problems in every part of your body. Some of the symptoms of deficiency are: Sleep - It Does a Body Good by Kristi Falk April showers bring May flowers. May is a beautiful time here on the Grand Strand. The sun is shining, flowers are blooming and the birds are chirping. It’s one of my favorite months of the year. May also brings us to a booming wedding season. Brides-to-be always want to be fit and look their best on their wedding day. One of the best ways to improve your health, your appearance and your sanity is by getting a good night’s sleep. It is very fitting that May just happens to be “Better Sleep Month”. According to the Division of Sleep Medicine at Harvard Medical School, in the short term, a lack of adequate sleep can affect judgment, mood, ability to learn and retain information, and may increase the risk of serious accidents and injury. In the long term, chronic sleep deprivation may lead to a host of health problems including obesity, diabetes, cardiovascular disease, and even early mortality.” We know that everyone is busy these days and always burning the candle at both ends. But making time for sleep is one of the most important things we can do for ourselves besides drinking water. I have not always been a sound sleeper. I would find myself lying awake in bed at night trying to fall asleep while a million thoughts were 52 M a y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine Seizures Behavioral Problems Depression Asthma Chronic Fatigue Insomnia Anxiety or Poor Reactions to Stressors Muscle Spasms and Cramps Vertigo Trouble Swallowing Heart Arrhythmia Hyperglycemia Arterial Calcification Nausea and Vomiting Stomach Cramping Morning Sickness Hair Loss Cold Hands & Feet PMS High Blood Pressure ”In short, magnesium deficiency is linked to thyroid problems, metabolism problems, heart problems, muscle problems, gastro-intestinal problems, and more.” (Foodrenegade.com) What is the reason for the high numbers of deficiency? There are many factors. One is damaged and depleted soil. Synthetic fertilizers don’t actually add nutrients to the soil, it takes them out. That is why recent studies have shown that the vegetables of today have a much lower nutrient content than those of 50 years ago. That is one of the reasons why it is important to choose organically grown produce. Another reason is poor diet. With more people choosing processed, pre-packaged and fast foods over home cooked whole foods, it is no wonder that our bodies are not getting the necessary nutrients. Even if you are eating healthy foods, if your gut doesn’t have the good bacteria present, then your body is unable to absorb those nutrients. Over-the-counter and prescription medications can damage the gut and the over-use of antibiotics kills all of the bacteria in the body, including the beneficial type. One more reason is the over-abundance of calcium in our foods. Calcium is added to everything. Dairy products, non-dairy milks, and everything has added calcium as a “bonus” to the consumer. In reality, all of this added calcium skews the delicate balance in the body and you are less likely to absorb the magnesium needed. Calcium and magnesium work very well together, but only if there is balance. So, with that being said, it is best to have your levels checked. Have your doctor test your calcium and magnesium levels. If you are in fact deficient, then consider a supplement and diet change until the levels normalize. What we eat really is that important. Going back to the initial reason for this article - sleep and looking your best. A good night’s sleep not only gives our body a chance to repair and rejuvenate, but it can also give us a more youthful and refreshed appearance. A study commissioned by Estee Lauder shows that not only does sleep deprivation make you age faster, it also lowers your ability to repair from sun exposure. Of course, we all know about the red eyes, dark circles and under eye bags. Before I started taking the magnesium, I could have packed for a week with the bags I had under my eyes. ;) So relax and get some rest! Your big day is almost here. Kristi Jacques Falk, Founder and Executive Director, The Wellness Council for South Carolina contact me at wellnesscouncilcsc.org. www.scwomanmagazine.com Seek To Understand By Jill Wright The news I am beginning to share may be considered old news to some readers in that it occurred back in February of this year. It is only now that I have been able to write about it as every day I find myself still fighting emotion, and frankly, shock. But, this is the month of Mother’s Day and I felt motivated to share the news as it seems fitting during this time to honor the person whom I consider to be the matriarch of Mike Kelly Law Group. On February 28, 2015, I received a phone text from one of my colleagues that also works for Mike Kelly Law Group in Columbia. I was in Charleston at the time, attending a board meeting on a Saturday morning. Engrossed in the conversation, and not wanting to interrupt the meeting, I responded to his text with, “I am in a board meeting. I will call you during our next break.” Needless to say I was taken aback when my colleague responded to my response with, “No, call me now.” Yikes, I thought. What in the world could this be about? Slowly backing my chair away from the conference table, I got up and eased out of the boardroom as quietly as I could manage. Naturally my departure did not go unnoticed but I was hopeful my intent to avoid disrupting the group would be as obvious as I hoped. My heart pounded a little harder as I dialed the number of my colleague’s cell phone. His voice was shaking and he said, “They found Anne unresponsive last night.” Anne Garrison is the elderly, ailing mother of Mike Kelly’s wife, whose name is also Anne. I recall Mike Kelly, founder of Mike Kelly Law Group and my career mentor and coach, reporting tiresome travels to and from Tampa, Florida, in recent months where he escorted his distraught bride to her mother’s bedside. Feeling immediately sick for Mike’s wife, Anne Kelly, I waited to hear that her mother, Anne, had finally passed away from her illness. I told my colleague that I knew she had been sick for a long time and that I felt sincere pain for Mike’s wife, Anne! This was genuine because Anne and I had always shared one particularly pertinent trait, we both considered our mothers to be our best friends. As an aside, I always thought it interesting that Mike’s wife and her mother shared the same name, Anne. However, in this particular moment, I found the shared name thing misleading because just as I was settling into my grief for Anne, my colleague’s voice stopped my heart with, “Not Mrs. Garrison, but Anne Kelly, as in Mike’s Anne,” I could not breath to speak. I tried to listen to the remaining details but I found it difficult to concentrate on his words with my heart beating too hard for normal function. Apparently the night before, and after dining with Mike and their friends for a birthday celebration, Anne laid her head down on her friend’s shoulder in the car and fell asleep. Nothing “out of the ordinary,” I was told, as she often fell asleep in the car, especially late at night after a couple of glasses of wine. Still struggling to collect a decent breath, I was able to concentrate on my colleague’s words long enough to hear, “She is in the hospital, in a coma. We are not sure what happened.” Driving to Columbia to visit Anne, my husband and I barely said one word to each other. The silence was impenetrable as neither one of us could believe what we had just heard on the phone. Anne Kelly was young, exceptionally beautiful, full of life. So sudden. So fast. And absolutely no warning. “How?,” I kept thinking. “How could this happen?” My “how” question quickly turned into a “why?” question with the next update. Anne Kelly had passed away. She passed with no words. No communication at all. No goodbyes. Why Anne? Why Mike? Why now? Fast forward several months and I still have no answers. I still struggle with what to do in the way of comforting Mike. As I pass through the Columbia office of the Mike Kelly Law Group feeling the weight of her loss, I notice the latest adornment of www.scwomanmagazine.com the Mike Kelly Law Group office.... a plaque entitled “In Loving Memory.” Honoring Anne, the plaque reads in part, “We’ll question the wisdom of His ways, And thirst for answers in coming days. Somehow, we seek to understand, Why life is forfeited upon demand.....” from Bostick-Thompkins Funeral Home. I do thirst for answers. I do seek to understand. Though, if I am truly honest, I cannot imagine a single answer or explanation that I would find acceptable. I am haunted by a vision of Mike the day she died. While surrounded by friends and family, I listened as he stared at the floor, whispering through his tears, “How is it that I can lose something so precious to me?” The extended time within which it took for me to write this article should be clear by now. All tragedies are tragic and sad. But this one hit hard. I get chills when I remember a small plaque, purchased by Anne of course, hanging innocently over the kitchen sink of their beach home. The plaque reads, “Ashes to ashes, dust to dust, life is too short so party we must!” How wise of Anne Kelly. It is just like her to already know what each of us should bother to learn and that is to never take people you love or any joy of life for granted. Because you never really know. So, this Mother’s Day, and in Anne’s honor, I will follow take heed and reach out to my own mother. Dear Mom, I love you more than words can say. I strive to invest my experience of this recent tragedy to appreciating you, and loving you, not only this Mother’s Day, but every day thereafter ....until the end of all days. I love you, Mom. Happy Mother’s Day! Jill Wright is an attorney with Mike Kelly Law Group. She can be reached by telephone at (843) 946-7550, by email at [email protected] or by mail at 816 Broadway St., Myrtle Beach, SC 29577. South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine May 2015 53 Kim Hurley, Owner Cat’sMeow Veterinary Hospital Your cat probably loves to be stroked and cuddled, so why not take your random petting technique and turn it into a loving massage? Those of us who have had a massage realize the wonderful relaxing feeling you can get from such well-deserved pampering. Visit our showroom at 11730 Hwy 17 Bypass Murrells Inlet, SC 29576 54 M a y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine Massage can contribute significantly to your cat’s ease of movement, health and quality of life. It can reduce muscle soreness, support joint health, stimulate circulation, and improve agility and coordination. Massage can actually improve your cat’s immune system while lowering blood pressure and reducing the effects of stress by releasing endorphins. Older cats can especially benefit from massage. As I age, I can attest to how my muscles and joints feel after a hard day’s activities. Senior arthritic and geriatric cats will appreciate a nice rub to ease their stiff joints and muscle knots. There is a much talked about massage technique called the TTouch method. It was created by Linda TellingtonJones over 40 years ago. She did not know at that time, but she became a pioneer in animal training, healing and communication. Linda is now an internationally acclaimed authority on animal behavior, training and healing. The Tellington Touch (TTouch) is a bodywork and training method based on circular movements of the fingers and hands all over the body. The intent of TTouch is to activate the function of the cells and awaken cellular intelligence – “turning on the electric lights of the body”. It is not necessary to understand anatomy to be successful in speeding up the healing of injuries or ailments, or changing undesirable habits or behaviors. This gentle method is currently being used by animal owners, breeders, veterinarians, zoo personnel, trainers and shelter workers in 27 countries and 6 continents. The TTouch philosophy believes that all beings – human and animal are reflections of the Divine Whole. The TTouch method allows people to relate to one another on a deeper level and honors the body, mind and spirit of both animals and their people. Though any form of therapeutic massage is best done by an expert, you can do some simple touching that will connect you and your kitty on a deeper level. First, you must inspect your cat with your hands all over. You need to know how they normally feel. For example, can you feel the ribs or are they covered by too much fat. It is important to monitor weigh loss or gain. How does the skin feel? Do you feel any bumps or scabs? Is the fur sleek and shiny or dull and flakey? Check for signs of pain, heat or swelling. Gently palpate the cat’s abdomen. If it tenses up or you feel a hard mass, you need to contact your veterinarian. If you notice any signs of pain or discomfort as you learn your way around your cat’s body, make an appointment with your veterinarian. Your cat may be a little skittish during your first massage. Keep the first few short and sweet. Not all cats will be ready for so much touching for a long period of time. After regular sessions followed by praise and a treat, they will get used to all of the attention. Massage allows you to give much attention and affection to your cat while developing a much deeper connection of mind, body and soul. Kim Hurley, Owner, Cat’s Meow Veterinary Hospital • 843-839-1999 www.scwomanmagazine.com sy No Pris s Shoe man By Linda Grabe re One Mo Thing Have you ever had a conversation here on earth which reminded you of ones you’d had with God? That may sound like a quirky question, so let me explain. The other morning I had a heart-to-heart with my daughter. She was knee deep in papers and projects at college, and she was stressed. Her two pressing assignments that morning, one for English and one for Old Testament led her to ask for my prayers. So we prayed. We wrapped up those concerns and sent them straight to God. It was her statement immediately after “Amen” which shocked me. Sounding almost embarrassed, she added, “And momma, could I ask you to pray for just one more thing?” I was surprised at the reluctance in her voice. So surprised in fact, that my feelings were slightly hurt. What saddened and caught me off guard was the underlying notion that I would ever limit her number of prayer requests. That she could out-ask me, or reach my limit and then exceed it. But that question made me think about my own prayer life. I contemplated my attitude when I address the Lord, my Perfect Parent, with things heavy on my heart. Do I ever make Him sad by inferring that He could tire of hearing my longings? I wondered how many times I had approached Him like a beggar instead of a dearly beloved daughter. Had I ever acted as if my knocks on His door were intrusive? Or that in some way, I had to convince Him to let me in? Those questions to myself made me sad. I am sure that Chloe’s reluctance to ask me to pray for “one more thing” was mostly compassion for my well-being rather than concern about my willingness. And honestly, that is a valid possibility when human beings are concerned. But not so when we address the God who knows all, never tires and never sleeps. If we are certain that He is capable of dealing with innumerable prayers, then I guess the real question is this: Do we think He is ever-willing? Have we ever wondered if He gets exasperated with our petitions? If we believe the Bible, the answer is “No” in the strongest possible language. This Jesus whom we only recently proclaimed as “Risen...risen indeed!” now “always lives to make intercession for us.” (Hebrews 7:25) Morning, noon and night, at any and every moment, He is praying for each one of us. We can pile up our needs and concerns as high and deep and wide as we like. He can handle them. Cheerfully and lovingly. What I have been corrected on in the last few years is what I used to do with my constant barrage of requests to God. You see, I often attached www.scwomanmagazine.com directions to my appeals. The “Here’s-what-I-think-You-should-do” kind of tags. I’ve been convicted that God doesn’t need my directions. He sees every detail, every consequence, every unexpected twist which I won’t even begin to understand until the entire scenario has played out. I’m sure He sighs inwardly when I try to advise Him. Maybe it hurts His heart like Chloe’s “one more time” did mine. (On that note, though, I asked her, and I was right...she didn’t want to overwhelm me with prayer requests!) So now I purposely try to bring Him my requests unadorned, leaving the results to Him. It certainly makes prayer much less stressful. Thinking up solutions to suggest to Almighty God can wear you out! Anyone been there? The real life conversation between Jesus and His mother, Mary at the wedding in Cana finally altered my attitude about suggesting possible God-answers to my requests. It makes crystal clear just how we are to approach the Lord of All. Mary simply presents the need to Jesus. “They’re out of wine” was her only conversation with her Son. She made no suggestion of what He should do about it. No long, drawn out explanation of how dire the problem was, no mention of how embarrassed the hosts would be or calculations about how much wine would be needed. Just the need: “They’re out of wine”. Her request was her part of the equation. The ball was now in Jesus’ court. The rest was up to Him. And He handled it perfectly...without any suggestion or supervision from His mom. She told the servants, “Whatever He says to you, do it.” Jesus made more than enough wine, and the best wine too. How about that? He can just as capably handle our problems which we bring to Him, without any assistance from us. Mary’s example has taught me deeply. She requested provision from Jesus, released her responsibility to help Him, and then rested in the assurance that He would do the very best thing. Request, release, and rest. So natural and trusting. I like that. I need to write those three words in large print on my prayer list. Little by little they will become my pattern too. Find Linda at www.lindagrabeman.com E-mail her at [email protected] Does your child have speech, feeding, or reading difficulties? Please call us to schedule an evaluation. Our new reading programs can help your child become a better reader Nicole Young-Cline M.A., CCC-SLP 8703 Hwy 17 Bypass S., Suite I Myrtle Beach 843-457-1053 www.YoungTalkers.com South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine May 2015 55 How Snoring Affects Your Partner By Jeffrey W. Horowitz, DMD, FAGD As you know I have been discussing snoring and obstructive sleep apnea as a major health concern for some time now. What I have failed to address is the incredible toll that these conditions can take on a spouse or bed-partner. This is an article to share, and I hope that it creates awareness that snoring is not just an individual’s problem. Let me start by saying I am not a marriage counselor, therapist or a psychiatrist. Nor have I recently stayed at a Holiday Inn Express. I’m just a dentist with a strong background in sleep disordered breathing. I know the signs and symptoms of sleep disordered breathing and I often hear the primary complaint directly from the bed-partner. According to a poll in USA Today, 45% of spouses reported that their bed-partner snores loudly, yet only 5% of their counterparts even admit that they snore. This is alarming, because whether it stems from denial or ignorance, the end result is anything but bliss. While 70% of the time loud snoring is indicative of Obstructive Sleep Apnea, a deadly condition in and of itself, our purpose here is to learn what is happening to the spouse. Let’s start with just the sound of snoring which is often louder than 60 decibels. For reference, a pneumatic drill is the equivalent of 70 decibels. Imagine sleeping next to a pneumatic drill! One concern would obviously be hearing loss with continued exposure. This is a valid concern and studies have shown that hearing loss with prolonged exposure can occur. But the immediate response to snoring is what concerns me the most. When faced with a partner who is snoring loudly, bed-partners will respond in one of two ways. They will either “tough it out” resulting in significant sleep deprivation with physiological consequences, or move to another bed which can have serious long-term emotional consequences on a relationship. When discussing sleep disordered breathing, many of the presenting symptoms revolve around sleep deprivation. The lack of oxygen in the apnea patient is the primary concern; however this also leads to arousals, and disruption of the normal sleep cycle. When sleep cycles are disrupted, so too is critical hormone regulation, which ultimately can affect mood, hunger, insulin dynamics, and many other body systems. Daytime fatigue ensues, which can mimic legal alcohol intoxication with 4 hours or less of quality sleep. According to Matthew Walker, a professor of psychology at Berkley University, brain function of an individual whose sleep time is significantly reduced can be Bridal Relaxation Package $ Open 6 days a week! 175 One hour massage 30 Minute Express Facial Manicure & Pedicure Ask about our bundling and group discounts on multiple services combined. 1117 48th Ave. N. #123 • Myrtle Beach | 843.839.1716 | www.divinesalonspamb.com 56 M a y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine www.scwomanmagazine.com quite similar to that of a patient with a psychiatric disorder. The result can be irritability, depression or feeling romantically despondent. The issue here is that snoring can cause arousals for the bed-partner as well, which comes with the same consequences that affect the snorer. In a preliminary study at the Sleep Disorders Center at Rush University Medical Center, married couples were tested together for sleep efficiency where one had sleep apnea, and the other did not. Initial results showed that the spouse of the apnea patient had increased arousals, as many as eight per hour, disrupting the normal sleep cycle. A decrease in sleep efficiency (the percentage of time one is sleeping during the night) was also noted. Normal sleep efficiency is 90%, where results in this study showed sleep efficiency ratings in the low 70’s. This same study by survey, evaluated marital satisfaction, daytime sleepiness and quality of life. As one would suspect, when the spouse with apnea was treated for 2 weeks, all of the subjective survey scores, as well as the sleep efficiency score improved. Unfortunately for many couples, a choice is made to not sleep in the same bed. While this may immediately improve sleep for the spouse, the long term emotional consequences may not be healthy for the relationship, not to mention that a serious health condition for the snorer is being ignored. In the book “Two in a Bed: The Social System of Couple Bed Sharing”, author Paul Rosenblatt interviewed 42 couples to examine how sharing a bed affects a couple’s relationship and intimacy. From his interviews, it was concluded that sharing a bed can be crucial to a relationship, as time in bed is often used for reconciliation, “catching up” planning and solving problems. This time is difficult to replace in otherwise busy lives, and improved communication can lead to improved intimacy. So for the snorers, please take your bed-partner’s concerns seriously. Treating sleep disordered breathing is not difficult. Doing so can not only add 12-15 years to your life, but improve the quality of your relationship as you live. For the bed partners out there, understand that the snorer can sometimes feel embarrassed. Let them know that you are trying to improve their health, and how important it is to you to share life from the same bed. Here’s to peaceful and restful nights. Dr Horowitz is a 1991 graduate of The Medical University of South Carolina, College of Dental Medicine and completed a General practice residency at the Mountainside Hospital in Montclair, N.J. He is a Fellow of the Academy of General Dentistry, a member of the American Academy of Dental Sleep Medicine, a clinical instructor for Sleep Group Solutions, a mentor at the prestigious Kois Center for Advanced Dental Studies, a member of the American Academy of Cosmetic Dentistry, the American Orthodontic Society, and The American Academy of Craniofacial Pain. He is the founder of, and a practicing dentist at the Carolina Center for Advanced Dentistry/ Advanced Sleep and Breathing Centers at 1515 9th Ave., Conway, S.C. He can be contacted at (843) 248-3843 or via the practice website. www.carolinacosmeticdental.com. www.scwomanmagazine.com Let's do this together! 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Take 1/3 cup of ricotta mixture and spread evenly over a noodle. Roll carefully and place seam side down onto the baking dish. Repeat with remaining noodles. Ladle sauce over the noodles in the baking dish and top each one with 1 Tablespoon of mozzarella cheese. Cover baking dish tightly with aluminum foil and bake for 40 minutes, or until cheese melts. Makes 9 rolls. To serve, ladle a little sauce on the plate and top with lasagna roll. Quinoa Enchilada Casserole Yield 6 servings 1 cup quinoa 1 (10-ounce) can Old El Paso™ mild enchilada sauce 1 (4.5-ounce) can Old El Paso™ chopped green chiles, drained 1/2 cup corn kernels, frozen, canned or roasted 1/2 cup canned black beans, drained and rinsed 2 tablespoons chopped fresh cilantro leaves 1/2 teaspoon cumin 1/2 teaspoon chili powder Kosher salt and freshly ground black pepper, to taste 3/4 cup shredded cheddar cheese, divided 3/4 cup shredded mozzarella cheese, divided 1 avocado, halved, seeded, peeled and diced 1 Roma tomato, diced In a large saucepan of 2 cups water, cook quinoa according to package instructions; set aside. Preheat oven to 375 degrees F. Lightly oil an 8x8 or 2 quart baking dish or coat with nonstick spray. In a large bowl, combine quinoa, enchilada sauce, green chiles, corn, black beans, cilantro, cumin and chili powder; season with salt and pepper, to taste. Stir in 1/2 cup cheddar cheese and 1/2 cup mozzarella cheese. 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Admission $1.00 For information call 843-333-7059 58 M a y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine www.scwomanmagazine.com 2/3 cup peas 2 cloves garlic, thinly sliced 2 sprigs thyme Kosher salt and freshly ground black pepper, to taste 1/3 cup grated Parmesan 1/4 cup heavy cream In a large stockpot or Dutch oven over medium high heat, combine spaghetti, mushrooms, zucchini, peas, garlic, thyme and 4 1/2 cups water; season with salt and pepper, to taste. Bring to a boil; reduce heat and simmer, uncovered, until pasta is cooked through and liquid has reduced, about 8-10 minutes. Stir in Parmesan and heavy cream. Serve immediately. Fantastic selection of Furniture, Clothing, Jewelry, Mirrors, Pictures, Home Decor Baked Parmesan Zucchini Yield 4 servings 4 zucchini, quartered lengthwise 1/2 cup grated Parmesan 1/2 teaspoon dried thyme 1/2 teaspoon dried oregano 1/2 teaspoon dried basil 1/4 teaspoon garlic powder Kosher salt and freshly ground black pepper, to taste 2 tablespoons olive oil 2 tablespoon chopped fresh parsley leaves Preheat oven to 350 degrees F. Coat a cooling rack with nonstick spray and place on a baking sheet; set aside. In a small bowl, combine Parmesan, thyme, oregano, basil, garlic powder, salt and pepper, to taste. Place zucchini onto prepared baking sheet. Drizzle with olive oil and sprinkle with Parmesan mixture. Place into oven and bake until tender, about 15 minutes. Then broil for 2-3 minutes, or until crisp and golden brown. 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FIND A DATE: No, not that kind of date! Find the expiration date of your passport and make sure it is more than six months AFTER your travel dates. You MUST have a valid passport to fly internationally, If you are traveling to Italy in July, and your passport is due to expire in November, it is NOT valid - RENEW it now! There is still time. Generally, it takes approximately six weeks to receive your new passport. 60 However, if it is necessary, for an extra fee, you can have it in considerably sooner - even within 24 hours. • Make a copies of your valid passport. Take one with you, and leave one at home with a family member. Scan the copy and email it to yourself or save it on a flash drive. In case of loss or theft, having the copy will make it easier for you to be reissued a new passport. ANTICIPATE EMERGENCIES: Purchase travel insurance or make sure your own insurance will cover you in case of trip cancellation or interruption, illness abroad, cancelled/delayed flights, lost luggage or other unexpected adversities during your travel. Travel insurance is optional, but always highly recommended. DON’T GET DECLINED! Notify your bank and credit card company of your travel plans and dates to avoid having your account blocked because they suspect fraudulent activity. Let them know ahead of time and save yourself the hassle of having to contact them and wait to have the account reactivated and a new card issued. WHEN IN ROME, DON’T ROAM! Check with your mobile carrier on your data plan and international rates to avoid excessive roaming charges. Or simply disable the data till you are M a y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine somewhere with free wifi. Before you leave the US, download free apps such as Viber and WhatsApp for talking and texting. Use FaceTime on your Iphone or Skype and Facebook calling for free video calling. MONEY MAKES THE WORLD GO ‘ROUND - if you have enough! Maximize the exchange rate by withdrawing cash from ATMs or exchanging money at a bank. Yes, you will pay a fee, but it will still be a better rate than the exchange centers at airports or around town. To minimize service fees, use your debit or credit card for large purchases and pay cash for smaller ones. TAKE CHARGE! Take a universal voltage adaptor. In fact, take two. Different countries have different size plugs and voltage than we do in the US, so you will need an adaptor to charge your electronics. If everyone wants to charge their phones, cameras, kindles, laptops, etc., you will need more than one! BONUS TIP: HAPPY FEET! Make sure yours are. In addition to all your fun and fancy shoes, please pack TWO pairs of good, comfortable walking shoes. No matter how much walking you think you will be doing, you will do more. Trust me. And no matter how comfortable your shoes are in the morning, after walking all day, they won’t feel so great in the evening. Trading off different pairs of shoes will keep your shoes from rubbing the same spot on your feet - and keep blisters at bay. I know of what I speak. FINALLY, assume you will return. The “General MacArthur approach” is key to travel happiness. You can’t see it all in one trip - don’t even try. Enjoy what you’re seeing and doing. Forget about what you can’t get to this time. This way you’ll have something to start dreaming about on the flight home... for the next trip! Bon voyage and safe travels! Anjana Duff is the owner of Travel Connection, a boutique travel agency specializing in tropical escapes and European adventures. She creates customized luxury vacation packages for individuals and small groups. www.travelconnectionad.com [email protected] (843) 455-4478. www.scwomanmagazine.com Popularity of Personal Technology With Young Children Highlights Importance of Prioritizing Verbal Communication Myrtle Beach Speech-Language Pathologist Nicole Young-Cline Offers Guidance for Parents during May Is Better Hearing & Speech Month With new evidence showing a majority of young children in the United States use personal technology such as smartphones and tablets, it is important that parents ensure technology is not overtaking time for talking, reading, and other verbal communication—which are the primary ways that children learn. During May Is Better Hearing & Speech Month BHSM, speech-language pathologist Nicole Young-Cline of Young Talkers encourages Grand Strand parents to set meaningful limits on technology use, especially for young children. On Friday, May 8, the American Speech-Language-Hearing Association ASHA will release new figures that show just how much of a presence personal technology devices are in the lives of children ages 0–8, as well as parental concerns about the impact of this technology on their child’s speech and language development, academic success, behavior, and other areas. The survey will also reveal whether parents feel technology impacts the quality and quantity of conversations with kids, as well as where and when kids most often use this technology. “While technology offers positive potential in many areas, it is important that young children are spending the majority of their time listening and conversing with others, as well as engaging in imaginative play and outdoor activities—all of which help them learn and develop,” says Nicole Young-Cline. “Parents can take steps to manage tech time by setting daily time limits, establishing tech-free settings such as the dinner table, and considering whether a young child really needs his or her own device, as many now have,” she says. “The summer months, which may include events such as long vacation drives, provide ample opportunities for communication that parents should try to take advantage of,” she adds. Regardless of their child’s level of technology use, parents should familiarize themselves with the early signs of speech and language disorders, which are growing causes of disability among U.S. children, according to a 2014 study in the journal Pediatrics. Parents can review these signs at http://IdentifytheSigns.org. With early treatment, many of these disorders can be reversed or even prevented, so parents should not delay seeking an assessment from a certified speech-language pathologist if they have any questions about their child’s communication skills. To schedule an assessment with Nicole Young-Cline at Young Talkers, call 843-457-1053 or visit www.YoungTalkers.com. www.scwomanmagazine.com Tropical escapes; Worldly adventures; Enriching experiences; Stress-free planning Anjana Duff 843-455-4478 [email protected] www.travelconnectionad.com Kimberly Dahlin Broker Associate/Realtor 843.602.6023 www.BeachForestRealty.com [email protected] Serving the Grand Strand Area! 2701 N. 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Now that we’ve gone though that little one minute experiment, let’s talk about words and just how powerful they really can be. Everything is energy. The words that we speak are energy, therefore they have the power to make us feel wonderful or down in the dumps. It’s been recently that this important lesson keeps coming up for me in my life. I’ll tell you a little story. For the past several years I’ve had a rib in my back that pops out of place from time to time. Sounds weird and there is not really an explanation for why this happens. It is not painful. Sometimes it’s just slightly annoying, a little uncomfortable, like a dull throb around that area. Sometimes it can intensify. Chiropractors can get the rib back in place and often times gentle stretching and a lot of yoga helps out, too. For the longest time I never drew a connection to any explanation of when it would pop out of place. It just always seemed random. It was not until recently that I’ve started paying attention. 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Next I started paying attention to my emotional state of mind. When I felt calm, peaceful, in a good flow, my body felt great. I was at ease and there was no discomfort in the popping rib area. But then one day I was at home with my kids. They are only a year and a half apart and while they love each other immensely, they can also be at odds ends quite often as well. The usual sibling rivalry type stuff. I do my best to stay out of their bickering or try to be a peaceful mediator. But every so often (ok, sometimes more often than I’d like!) it really gets to me. One particular day they were arguing over something very petty and silly and it went on and on. I stayed calm until I just wasn’t calm any more. The tension between them you could cut with a knife and it totally got to me as it spread throughout the house. I snapped and started yelling, telling them to stop bickering and go to their rooms. This, of course, fueled the fire and they were crying and yelling louder. I got them into their rooms and finally had a quiet moment to be still. What I noticed RIGHT AWAY was that my rib area, exactly where it pops out, was throbbing like I had been punched in the area. Oh my goodness! I immediately drew a connection. The stress and anxiety of the situation with my kids was physically affecting me. The ugly words exchanged by my kids, me yelling at them, the whole cocktail. It was recipe for stress and disaster. And a body that felt less than fantastic. This was immediate proof for me that our words can have a strong effect on our physical bodies. When we feel love, peace & joy, our bodies can feel good, in a wonderful state of ease and flow. When we are in a stressed or toxic environment, our bodies react negatively. We can experience joint pain, headaches, fatigue, insomnia, or a throbbing pain in the ribs and back like I did. Our words have immense power. This was a great lesson for me on how the words we speak (or the words we expose ourselves to) can play a big part in our physical health. We can show ourselves some love and give our bodies a nice detox by speaking words of love, kindness, and gratitude to ourselves and others. Meaghan Grettano is an Integrative Nutrition Health Coach and essential oil educator, living with her husband and two kids in Wilmington, NC. 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