Ukrainian dating guide “Avoiding scams”

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Ukrainian dating guide
“Avoiding scams”
Learn how to avoid becoming a victim of online dating spam
Copyright © 2013 by Krystyna Trushyna (UkrainianDatingBlog.com & UkrainianDatingStrories.com). All rights
reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means without written
permission from the publisher.
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Table of Contents
About Krystyna, the dating author and founder of UkrainianDatingBlog.com....................................... 2
Introduction: Ukrainian dating scam ....................................................................................................... 3
Ukrainian and Russian dating scam: what you should know .................................................................. 4
How does scam work? ..................................................................................................................... 4
Five potential red flags in Ukrainian online dating.......................................................................... 5
The simplest tip how to recognize a scammer ................................................................................ 7
Why does a Ukrainian Woman Ask You for Money? ...................................................................... 8
Tips how to react if a Ukrainian or Russian bride asks you for money ......................................... 10
Four Types of Ukrainian & Russian Dating Scammers................................................................... 12
Nine Tips on How to Identify and Avoid Ukrainian Pro-Daters ..................................................... 13
How to verify the true identity of a Ukrainian bride on a dating site ........................................... 14
The three tips how to choose the dedicated Ukrainian dating site .............................................. 14
A few examples of a Ukrainian dating scam ......................................................................................... 17
Example #1: romantic Miss Margarita is looking for love & passion… ......................................... 17
Example #2: Anatomy of a Ukrainian dating scammer or just another message… ...................... 21
Example #3: Russian online dating scammer alias Alena Sabova ................................................. 23
What to do if you get scammed by a Ukraine/Russian woman? .......................................................... 26
The Ukrainian & Russian Online Dating Scam ............................................................................... 26
The Reporting Process ................................................................................................................... 26
Copyright © 2013 by Krystyna Trushyna – UkrainianDatingBlog.com
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About Krystyna, the dating author and founder of
UkrainianDatingBlog.com
For all men, Ukrainian (online) dating can be a difficult process.
In addition to the normal phobias that all adult men struggle
with, some men simply aren't excited by the potential mates
that they meet in their daily lives. For these men, the ideal
mate would combine traditional values with a touch of the
exotic.
This ideal is especially hard to find in the casual world of
Western dating. While casual companionship and a fun time
have their merits, many men harbor a healthy desire to marry
and settle down for the long run.
Many seekers have heard of the attractive qualities of
Ukrainian women. Countless reports have held that dating or
even marrying a Ukrainian woman can be simply divine. Like
other Eastern European nations, Ukraine is renowned for producing women that are beautiful but
humble, confident yet never brash. For those who don't know where to start,
UkrainianDatingBlog.com is a fantastic resource, featuring the dating advice of Ukrainian dating
coach Krystyna.
Krystyna is a Ukrainian intellectual with a deep interest in matters of the heart. Born in Kiev, Ukraine,
Krystyna moved to Germany to pursue an education in English, Turkish and Italian studies. As a fresh
college graduate from Goethe University in Germany, Krystyna had virtually unlimited choices for her
future. She ultimately found her calling in helping Western men meet outstanding Ukrainian
partners.
In her regularly updated blog posts on UkrainianDatingBlog.com & UkrainianDatingStories.com,
Krystyna has shown a keen eye for gender studies and relationships. She has a deep understanding of
what it takes to gain the respect of refined Ukrainian women. Well-meaning Western men often
make unintentional but crippling mistakes when getting to know Ukrainian women.
In a recent blog post, Krystyna insightfully pointed out that Western men often err in getting too
personal too quickly when messaging Ukrainian women. With this and many other valuable pointers,
Krystyna has made great progress in connecting outstanding Ukrainian women with respectual
Western suitors.
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Introduction: Ukrainian dating scam
The topic of this guide is spam in the Ukrainian dating industry. Many of my readers have become or
are victims of Ukrainian dating scammers. And that’s a sad fact that there are still thousands of
scammers who take advantage of lonely men and shatter their dream of finding a soul mate for life.
No matter where you live or what your background is, being alone and lonely can be devastating to
your emotional well-being, your social life, and your family life. So, finding ways to cure that
loneliness is a reasonable response for anyone. Today, people of all ages and backgrounds can simply
log on to the internet and start searching for their soul mate from the comfort of their own living
room.
There are Ukrainian online chat rooms and web sites designed to help today’s man find the right
woman for him. One of the more successful dating situations is offering the chance to get to know a
lovely Ukrainian woman. Unfortunately, there are a lot of scam artists out there that are willing to
take advantage of a lonely guy, by running a Ukrainian dating scam.
Russian and Ukrainian dating scams take in tens of millions of dollars each year and most of the
victims are men. These scammers are ruthless people who are ripping people off by selling elaborate
fantasy stories to unsuspecting men. They know what they are doing and how to get the naive victim
to fall for the bait. When the scam is over, the unfortunate victim is left still lonely but with less
money.
Russian dating expert and owner of Elena’s Models Elena Petrova says that1
men using online dating sites regularly receive emails from ‘Russian women’ offering friendship, love and
marriage. Most users simply disregard such emails but some people are curious and can be sucked in.
Online Dating Scams Affect 99 Percent Of Male Users Of Internet Personals, Millions Of Dollars Are Lost To
Fake ‘Russian Women’
The only real thing in the whole story is the money that a man sends to someone in Russia. The people receiving
the money often don’t know they are part of a fraud scheme; they simply get a small fee for each transfer they
receive. Once someone reports the fraud and the name is black listed by wire transfer companies, the criminals
find someone else to receive the money for them.
These scam artists will use a person emotionally needs, in order to get money or even to steal their
identity. The Ukraine women scam artist specializes in getting a man to fall for a woman by sending
pictures and love letters, until they finally ask for money. Usually, the reason will be to get the
woman to wherever the man lives, so that they can be together.
Another type of Ukrainian dating scam happens when a person has a profile that shows inaccurate
pictures. Sometimes these pictures will be from years before, when the woman was younger or more
attractive. Other times, these Ukraine women scam men by showing pictures of someone else
entirely, just so that the man will fall for them.
In the Ukrainian dating guide “Avoiding scams” you find useful information on professional prodaters and scammers, a few examples of Ukrainian dating scammers as well as easy tips on how to
avoid scam and what to do if you get scammed.
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Source: http://www.prweb.com/releases/russia/russian_brides/prweb472496.htm
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Ukrainian and Russian dating scam: what you should know
How does scam work?
The Ukrainian and Russian dating scam typically works by the scammers placing a phony profile on
Russian and Ukrainian online dating sites and international dating
catalogs using fake or stolen pictures of attractive women from
Ukraine and Russia.
However, there have been occasions where the picture is the actual
person when/if the scammer happens to be an attractive female.
They then contact a potential victim and lead the person into an
online romantic relationship. Within no time, the “bait” quickly falls in
love with the victim and starts planning her trip to come and see him.
In reality, the person they are corresponding with is usually a man or
a group of men (most of these scams are run by a man or a group or
gang of men) pretending to be the women of the victim’s dreams.
The potential victims are lead to believe that the lovely young women
they are talking to are looking for love and have picked the unaware target as “the right one”. The
scammers then ask for financial assistance for arranging a personal meeting.
They may ask for money for any of the following reasons:
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Visa (More than likely through a fake travel agency)
Tickets (Again, more than likely through a fake travel agency)
Other travel documents such as passports or medical papers
Health problems or a death in the family
Cell phones
Money to repay outstanding loans that will prevent them from leaving the country
Money lost due to robbery or theft
This scam will continue for as long as the victim continues sending money, and he will always have to
send money because some new emergency requiring money will always pop up. The scammers will
keep the target interested by occasional chats on the phone and by sending him photos that can be
quite revealing and erotic.
They will promise him a first meeting that will be hot and passionate but the only thing hot in the
end is the person who has been scammed once they realize they have spent their savings on
someone that does not exist or they have other motives than love.
I am not saying that all the dating sites that contain Russian or Ukrainian women are scams. Many
men have used these two areas only because research shows that this is where the majority of the
dating scams originate from. There are other counties as well that are gaining notoriety for dating
scams: Nigeria, Ghana, Senegal, and more recently, England to name a few.
I am sure there are those of you out there that have their hearts and minds set on finding a Russian
or Ukrainian wife. Women from these areas, in general, seem to be very attractive so on one blames
you.
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But there are a few things you can do to increase your chances of success and decrease your
chances of getting ripped off.
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Don’t assume everything you see or you are being told is real and factual.
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The scammers will “fall in love” with you within a few emails. Don’t rush into anything.
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Ensure you are using a legitimate, trustworthy dating site. There are many “fly by night”
operations floating around on the internet just waiting for potential victims.
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Finally, the most important tip in my opinion, do not send money for visas, tickets,
emergencies, pay off loans, or for any other reason. If you are convinced that the person is
legitimate, go to that person’s country and meet them in a very public place for your first
meeting.
Just keep the above information in the back of your mind when you are searching for the right
women on an international dating site. But also remember, they will post profiles on noninternational sites as well. These scammers are relentless and will continuously try new tactics and
tricks to find their next target. I encourage you to take note of the advice I have given and take your
time.
Five potential red flags in Ukrainian online dating
The scenario is every Western man’s worst nightmare: “I was contacted by an amazing woman from
Ukraine. She was beautiful and funny, a full 23 years younger than me. I just knew she was the one!
It was love at first sight”. But the reality is something different….
Unfortunately, it may be sometimes too good to be true. After investing (a lot of) time and money in
what you think is your one true love, “your perfect Ukrainian lady Natalia” stops contacting you.
From my personal experience, I can say that the
men have since gone on to find love online.
You can avoid making the same mistakes by
recognizing these five red flags.
Red Flag #1: too big age difference
The first red flag is a very young woman from
Ukraine or Russia contacting an older man from a
Western country. As for me, it is very strange if a
20 year old beauty from Ukraine contacts first a
man who is much older than her (20-25-30 year
age difference is extreme big and may be the
reason for problems and misunderstanding in a
Western-Ukrainian relationship).
But I have to mention that not every young Ukrainian woman who contacts an older man is a
scammer. On the other hand, she should be viewed with caution. Some readers told me that several
beautiful Ukrainian ladies wrote to them first that they really wanted to talk to them as soon as
possible.
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Well, we should realize this is the 21st century and all. Women can initiate a relationship without
being a scammer; however you must think about the age difference in depth and decide if you are
ready for that or not. Be careful.
Red Flag #2: weak anti-scam system on your Ukrainian dating site
Many newbies make this silly and costly mistake, namely: they begin to use the Ukrainian dating site
without having made a detailed online research on its services. The fact is that many International
online dating services have a serious problem with scamming. This is a huge red flag.
Some International online dating sites make it easier for scammers to take root and make them more
difficult to find. Dating sites that allow multiple accounts from the same IP address make it easier for
a scammer to set up many accounts.
Red Flag #3: falling in love – too fast, too furious
The next sign I should have seen is “falling in love” by the third letter. I am sure you know this story:
two people from two different countries write back – forth for a few days before the man gets a
message that the Ukrainian lady is falling hard for him, that she is in love and she wants to move to
his home country to spend her life with him. Happy end of this online dating story? I do not think so!
You do?
We all are adult people and may not believe such messages that the woman/man falls in love after a
short online mail communication without meeting in person and at least hearing the voice of the
woman or man.
Red Flag #4: you are my Mr. Right
In the same spirit, another red flag is if the Ukrainian man just knows that you are the man for her.
You know that patience is one of the most important keys to a successful & happy Western-Ukrainian
relationship.
Thus when you try to slow things down and see that the woman tells you she has this feeling that
you are destined to be together, you must view this woman with a big caution. You may not believe if
the woman from Ukraine tells you she just knows that you are going to grow old together.
Red Flag #4: exaggerated literary picture of your future together
Painting an attractive picture of where the future will lead is another common red flag. It is not usual
if the Ukrainian woman for marriage say you things like “we can grow old on the porch together” and
“we’ll travel the world. I will show you all the sites” in her third message.
Red Flag #5: nude or revealing photos
Furthermore, throwing in the attractive pictures of the Ukrainian woman with every message is not a
normal behavior in the Ukrainian dating field. Of particular concern are nude or very revealing
photos. Genuine women with serious intentions do not do something like this.
I hope if you know these things, you will never send a Ukrainian dating scammer several thousand
dollars or invest your costly time, your heart and your emotions in a relationship that doesn’t really
exist.
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The simplest tip how to recognize a scammer
Clients of Ukrainian dating agencies have found out that the Ukrainian girls who they attempt to
communicate with are actually spammers who may have no connection at all with Ukraine and may
not even be female.
The moment any girl who you meet online asks for money, that is a red flag that she is a scammer.
These scammers actually appear with different names, but with the same photos, on several dating
sites.
Their only goal is to swindle you out of your hard-earned
money or to add your E-mail address to a scam, online
gambling, porn or online pharmacy mailing list.
Their phone numbers are not in service or just not listed, and
their e-mail addresses are from Russian or international free
E-mail providers that allow multiple free accounts.
Chances are that if you are writing to [email protected], ten
other men have ten other E-mail addresses under names like
Olychka_m, Lena_b, Irochka_j and the like, and all of the
messages are going to the same person who will then add you
to some mailing list or another or send you a litany of sob
stories. These scamming address collectors masquerade as
exiled Nigerian princes when they are not busy trying to hide
behind pictures of attractive Slavic students that they copied
from Facebook or its former Soviet competitors.
Do not send one cent to anyone who you have not met in person; no legitimate Ukrainian girl will ask
you for money or anything else before meeting you as she does not want to be associated with these
spammer scammers.
I am a Ukrainian woman, and I know that the Ukrainian people have come a long way since the fall of
the Soviet Union, and no legitimate Ukrainian girl wants to be seen as a gold-digger or worse.
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Why does a Ukrainian Woman Ask You for Money?
On the weekend, I did some research and found an interesting forum post. Here is the story of a
Western man:
This story made me sad. The man had his hopes; and now he has only disappointment and doubt…
I often get mails from my readers who have experienced the same thing. You meet a special woman
online, communicate with her, develop romantic feelings for her, go to Ukraine and date her. And
after the first meeting, you get a request to give her some money…
Ukrainian women are some of the most beautiful in the world, and any man who has made the right
moves to have one grace them with their company is a lucky man indeed. The question has arisen
before when people are looking for Ukrainian dating advice, “Why does a Ukrainian woman ask you
for money?”
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When I read such stories, I am taken a back!!! A Ukrainian woman is a proud woman, with a lineage
of hard work ethics behind her. She would never consider just arbitrarily asking for money to be
paid to her without a good reason. Anyone who has spent any time with a beautiful Ukrainian
woman would know that her independence would clearly get in the way of a handout.
It is in my opinion that if this happens, she is just testing you. How quickly are you going to dole out
money to her or any woman? There is a difference between her begging for money, and you being a
mark for a girl looking to make a quick dollar. Be careful, but realize that if she is asking, it is a test
of your vulnerability.
There is also the possibility that this is
another kind of test. Many women come
overseas and when they meet their man,
they are immediately put to work. They
are sent to work for cleaners, waitressing,
or even dancing to make money for their
husband.
If she immediately asks for money,
perhaps she is just making sure that you
are stable enough financially to support
her. She is going to be a constant
companion, but your joint happiness
should be important to both of you.
Lastly, the saddest truth is that you may have been at the end of a scam. She is clearly not in this for
the companionship, and you are beyond Ukrainian dating advice, and should be contacting the
authorities.
Make sure to be as honest with them as possible, to guarantee that you walk away from this with
your head held high, and no blemishes on your legal record.
A fiery and powerful Ukrainian woman can be the jewel that sits upon your arm at night and a loving
companion at home. If she asks you for money, take a moment before you answer her; make sure
you have considered her reasons. In the end it will help both of your long-term happiness.
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Tips how to react if a Ukrainian or Russian bride asks you for money
What do you do when your Ukrainian bride asks you for money prior to the marriage? It’s a situation
that many men face in the world of Russian and Ukrainian (rather: International) online dating.
Two possible scenarios
There are two scenarios that must be addressed if a Russian and Ukrainian bride asks for money.
The first scenario is one where you have already met and visited with your Russian and Ukrainian
woman face-to-face. You have spent time together. You know her as a person, you know her
surroundings, her culture, and to some extent, both her values and economic situation.
The second scenario, which will be discussed later, is one where you have not yet met your
prospective bride from Ukraine or Russia. So far, interactions with this woman have been over the
internet, the phone, and possibly via snail mail. The only things you know about this woman is what
she has told you and you have no way to verify her claims.
Scenario #1: if you have met the woman in person and she
asks you for money…
If you have met your bride in Ukraine or Russia, and are
convinced she is the one, having a Ukrainian woman ask you
for money must be looked at on an individual case. Have you
asked this woman to quit her job to learn English or focus on
some other task that is important to you? Are you aware of
any special circumstances, ones that you were able to
observe and verify during your visit that could be causing a
legitimate hardship?
In such cases there is a simple litmus test that you can rely on
the help make your decision. Since you already know her
culture, if her fiancé were a local, would he be likely to pitch
in and help? And, if your bride was in the same country as you, what would you be doing in the same
situation?
Some suggestions if you find yourself wanting to help. If your bride quit her job in order to take
English classes to make communication easier? Offer to pay for the classes and perhaps a stipend to
subsidize her lost wages. If she needs money for a plane ticket here to visit, buy the ticket, or a
portion of it, without sending her cash.
If she or a family member needs medical care, pay for it directly with the provider. In these ways you
are certain that the money is going directly to the need at hand and cannot be misappropriated.
However, if you implicitly trust your foreign bride, sending cash is ultimately your decision. Just be
aware that many men have been scammed out of considerable funds under such circumstances.
Scenario #2: if you have not yet met the woman in person and she asks you for money…
If however, you have not yet met the Ukrainian and Russian woman who is asking for money,
proceed with extreme caution. While there may be legitimate need there, it is not your responsibility
to provide for this woman.
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Additionally, many online scams and internet fraud programs operate in just such a fashion to take
advantage of unsuspecting men. If you truly believe a potential foreign is legitimate, tell her the only
way you would consider such a request is to meet in person, face to face, first. Afterwards, all the
caveats previously mentioned apply.
The most common reasons to ask money are following:
1. Money problems (the woman promises of course to return
your money to you soon) My note: in Ukrainian culture, it’s
not appropriate to ask a stranger you’ve never met to give
money to you if you have a money problem. So you have not
to help the woman in this case.
2. A Ukrainian and Russian woman wants to study English (or
your native language)
3. Illness (She/her mother/father/children is/are ill). My note:
in Ukrainian culture, it’s not appropriate to ask a stranger
you’ve never met to help you. So you have not to help the
woman in this case.
In conclusion, I want to mention that most sincere Ukrainian and
Russian brides will not have a sense of entitlement. They will be
interested in you as a person and not for what you have in your wallet. While marriage to you will
greatly enhance this woman’s future as your wife, you do not want to be involved with a woman
whose affections needed to be purchased in advance. That’s not love in a local relationship and it’s
certainly not love in a long distance one.
Three simple tips how to react if a Ukrainian or Russian bride asks you for money:
1. make an Internet research (so you can find out if she is a scam or not)
2. tell her that you have not to pay for her English classes, etc. and ask for her opinion if
it’s not appropriate in Ukrainian culture to ask a stranger you’ve never met to give
money to you
3. tell her that it is important to meet each other in person and then you can decide if
the relationship can work or not as well as you wish to support her financially.
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Four Types of Ukrainian & Russian Dating Scammers
There are many Ukrainian and Russian women who are truly looking for love. But there are also
many on dating sites who seek targets for scams, which makes it hard for us women who are honest
in our pursuit of love. I know of women who do anything to attract men only to let them down. The
scams are often a waste of money or time and can easily be avoided by keeping your eyes open.
Four Types of Ukrainian & Russian Dating Scammers:
Type 1: “I am just after your money”
The most popular scam is where the girl hooks you in with her looks or charm and is very easy to get
along with. During this short period there is much to enjoy. While you think you are getting closer,
she’s maneuvering closer to your wallet. All of a sudden, things take a dramatic turn and she needs
cash ASAP.
While there are many different reasons these scammers use for needing money, it should stand
out to you that someone you are dating or getting to know is asking you for money. Crossing this
boundary should be an automatic dismissal from your life. This should be rule number one for guys
who are dating. You are not an ATM. She must have that part of her life together when trying to
date. If this scam becomes apparent to you, run for the hills.
Type 2: “I want gifts, I do not want a genuine relationship”
Another con is the girl who seems to be eager to be with you but wants to keep her “options open.”
She may desire for you to provide her with an all-expense paid trip or various gifts and many of these
girls are blunt about it. While she’s getting things from you, her other “options” are doing the
same.
There are actually women who do this and have no careers and no love in their hearts for the men
that they date. Unless you are a billionaire & prepared to pay to play with this kitten, this scam can
ruin you financially in a matter of weeks or months.
Type 3: “I am just a letter writer”
Next in line are the ladies who like the attention that you provide them but they never seem to be
able to meet you. If they always have an excuse not to meet, they are just not that into you and likely
have someone else they’d prefer to be with.
Some have children out of wedlock while others will use you to make themselves feel better. Others
are not attractive inside or out (and know it) and this is another reason they won’t meet you. Take
the hint and don’t cater to these types.
Type 4: “I am just curious”
The curious types are also complete wastes of your time. They are scammers too because they join
dating sites but never actually date. They are just looking without any intent of going out or looking
for love.
Some of these girls will waste hours of their time looking at profiles for entertainment apparently.
But if they don’t respect their time, they will not respect yours. You are worth more than this and if
she’s not up to it, cut her off and move on.
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Nine Tips on How to Identify and Avoid Ukrainian Pro-Daters
Ukrainian online dating is intended to be a safe
environment yet oftentimes when dating people
forget to look for the “Red Flags”. There are
always red flags that we should have seen but at
times they are not noticeable.
From my personal experience, I know that online
dating can be frustrating as well as lead to hurt
feelings and even financial loss. In fact, I know that
there are Ukrainian daters that do not send out
red flags and unfortunately leave you unaware. In
the first stages of dating a Ukrainian pro-dater
will communicate effectively and never trigger
the typical red flags like asking for money. These
daters encourage you to make a first visit and in the end will leave you baffled.
Yet there are ways to avoid the Ukrainian pro-dater and certain red flags that are visible if you know
what to look for. Here are a few red flag signs as well as precautions to take.
1. Avoid scams by arranging the first meeting in a public place such as a coffee shop or café.
This goes for men as well for women. Men, there are many ladies who fit the Ukrainian prodater scam profile.
2. Be leery of someone who tries to direct you to an expensive restaurant or luxurious shopping
mall. This Ukrainian pro-dater is typically looking for money. Trust me; it will be your
pocketbook not theirs.
3. Be cautious of those who are in a hurry to date again for these are players move quickly and
want money now. In my opinion if you slow them down it will discourage them and they will
move on.
4. They are persistent on wanting to meet you right away. Generally within the first or second
email or correspondence they initiate a first date and do not give up until you comply. Again,
the Ukrainian pro-dater is looking for quick cash. Please take your time.
5. Know that you make the ultimate decision when it comes to money. You have the power of
your own finances. Do not allow your date to make you feel inadequate, embarrassed or
rude if they make personal requests or favors. Look for contradictions in what they say.
Believe me, players normally stretch the truth. Be attentive, for over time you will notice
conflicting comments and red flags.
6. Take your time before getting serious. It will not be obvious to recognize a player personality
on the first or even the second date.
7. Stay clear of people who are preoccupied with themselves. From personal experience I know
that that this type of person can be persuasive and really charming. This Ukrainian pro-dater
is only concerned about what they want and will go to great lengths to get it. Likewise, they
are usually good looking and know it and will most likely treat you very poorly.
8. Be cautious when your date says “I love you”, “I really like you” or “We were destined for
each other”. Typically this person is either desperate for love or a con. Just remember, love
takes time and does not typically happen like the fairy tales “Love at first Sight”.
9. If you have a tendency to attract players then I advise you to stop dating. It will be in your
best interest, for it will save you financial distress and hardship.
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These tips not only relate to online dating but also to offline dating. Just as well, it is up you to
protect yourself by being aware. In addition, it is up to you to create a dating environment that is
financially and emotionally safe. Equally, it is possible to find a lot of nice women from Ukraine who
are not Ukrainian pro-daters. Just remember to go at your own pace and watch for red flags.
How to verify the true identity of a Ukrainian bride on a dating site
Many International dating sites are a scam, with nearly 99% men who use dating sites being affected
by them at one point or another.
There are several steps a man can take to protect himself from this type of scam. The first is to ask
the woman for private contact information, such as phone numbers, email address or Facebook
profile. Do not ask immediately, the woman can be scared if you ask after 1-2 messages.
However, if you see that your communication becomes more active and personal, do not hesitate to
ask her e.g. for her mobile number or email address. Using Skype is also a very good way to verify
identifying. Fake pictures are common among dating site and mail order bride sites, but a live video
chat is very hard to fake.
Another step is to ask for more private photos (but not for some naked photos!!! Women feel
offended by such a request.). Asking for something specific to be in the photo is also a good way to
prove the woman is real and legit. Asking the woman to hold a newspaper with the date on it or a
piece of paper with a personalized message on it is an excellent way to verify identity.
The three tips how to choose the dedicated Ukrainian dating site
If you are interested in finding a wife in the Ukraine, you may be wondering what dating sites are
best for finding Ukrainian women for marriage. You may also want to know how to find a good site
which may eventually lead you to your wife.
It is important to learn a little bit about Ukrainian dating online. There are a lot of dating sites on the
internet for men interested in Ukrainian women. Some of them include Anastasia, ElenaModels, A
Pretty Woman, Cute Only, and BeHappy2Day. You may have even found others while searching the
internet for sites that have Ukrainian women for marriage.
Dating online can also be somewhat difficult because there may be a language barrier between
you and your prospective bride. You will also no doubt want to make sure that the dating site is
secure and that it is reputable. In order to do this, you need to keep in mind the following tips:
Tip # 1. Find out about the site.
Before you sign up with any site, including any of the sites mentioned above, you should do your
homework. It is important to look for information about the site including any reviews available from
former members, especially those who found a wife using the service.
Pay particular attention to their experiences while using the site. You may also want to search to find
out how Russian and Ukrainian women view the sites. If a particular site does not have such a high
rating with women, you probably won’t want to sign up for that site.
Here is the best example of a user’s experience:
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Tip # 2. Compare the costs.
After you have whittled down your list, I’d suggest taking a look at the costs of the services. You will
find that the cost for dating services can vary widely.
For example: Now let’s take two different Ukrainian dating sites that offer the same services but the
different kinds of payment. One will use a monthly subscription (e.g. 20 dollars a month) and the
other is pay for play (e.g. 2 dollars a letter).
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Costs for Company with a monthly subscription:
$20 to sign up
Included services:



Create a profile
100 letters sent and received
Additional cost $0
Total spent to get $20
Costs for Company with “pay for play” features:
Free to sing up
Included services:




Create a profile
100 letters sent and received
Additional cost (100 x 2 = $200)
One person contact info
Total spent to get $200
Dear Gentlemen, so you can see which dating site is the better deal for you.
In my experience, it is best to not base your decision solely on the cost of the service. You may find
good and bad services which will cost you quite a bit of money, and good and bad services which will
cost practically nothing.
Tip # 3. Compare services.
It is important to compare the services offered
by each site. While some women might know
how to speak and write English, many will not.
For this reason, many services offer translation.
This is very important. You will find that many
of the Ukrainian & Russian dating sites will offer
much of the same things including gifting, chat
services, and video chat services.
However, almost every dating site charges extra
for all these services. For example, video chats
and phone calls may be extra. Other agencies
even offer guided tours which will allow you to
meet your prospective bride. In most cases, you
have to pay more $1500 for this service. These tours may include accommodations in the Ukraine
too.
If you follow these tips, you will no doubt be able to find a good site which has Ukrainian women for
marriage. Remember that many men just like you have found the woman of their dreams using
online dating services.
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A few examples of a Ukrainian dating scam
Example #1: romantic Miss Margarita is looking for love & passion…
The story starts with an online dating profile on a dating site which is like thousands of other profiles,
namely: a beautiful Ukrainian woman is looking for love abroad:
And beautiful and romantic Margarita writes to you first (oh, lucky you!):
The communication develops and it seems perfect to you. Margarita is an open woman who really
wants to start a genuine relationship and tells a lot of things about her life and experience in
relationships without a happy ending:
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The communication with Margarita goes very well when you, suddenly, get a strange mail like this:
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And here is more:
These two messages is a typical example of a Ukrainian dating scam. The so called “translation
agency” from Ukraine answers to the mail on Margarita’s request. Why has this Margarita asked the
agency to reply to the man? Cannot she answer by herself? I’ve googled the agency and found no
information about them. They have no reviews, no articles and no official homepage. It is very
strange, isn’t it?
The man cannot write to Margarita directly. The “translation agency” has blocked the access to the
mail box of Margarita. Why?
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Here is the answer from the “agency”:
Conclusion: So if you communicate with Miss Margarita (<[email protected]>), you have
to know that she is a scam and she uses a fake profile (I am sure that the real name of the woman is
not Margarita either. I have no idea who she can be though).
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Example #2: Anatomy of a Ukrainian dating scammer or just another message…
The most interesting thing in this “average” dating story begins here. The woman afterward sent
the man a very fine message with some gorgeous
pictures. The dilemma is that the man has seen this
exact same mail from two or three other Ukrainian and
Russian ladies.
Of course, the man immediately had a suspicion that he
has been dealing with a dating scammer. In his and my
opinion, this is unlikely that Ukrainian and Russian
women on the dating site have used a template on what
to write to Western men.
The man decided to share the letter from this woman
with the other men. He did not publish her pictures
because he did not know if they were genuine or if they have been hijacked.
Here are the letters from the Ukrainian woman for “marriage”:
Message #1:
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Message #2: she sent this letter to the man just two days later when he had yet to respond:
As for me, this message is absolutely a dating scam. A genuine woman looking for love and
relationship abroad wouldn’t declare constructing a family without communication and particularly
meetings in person.
Message #3: “I love you!”:
Do not waste your time for dealing with such messages! I am sure that this scammer sends the
same letters to 100 other lonely Western men hoping to find a special woman from Ukraine online.
No real woman from Ukraine would write these messages without any participation from the man.
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Example #3: Russian online dating scammer alias Alena Sabova
I would like to warn you of a known Russian online dating scammer, namely: Alena Sabova.
How does this scam process work?
This online dating scammer (who looks beautiful and sweet…) starts writing real “revealing” letters
with unique content and then progresses to “remarkable” messages with quickly growing affection
and desire to meet in person.
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In just a week the woman was able to secure a visa and airfare for which one Western man was to be
responsible for half to this travel agent in Moscow called Travel Bonus.
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My advice is be careful! Although the woman is very nice and shows a great interest to get known
you better, the second message from the travel agency shows clearly that Alena Sabova is a fake and
she/they just want money from you. The scammer does not care about you, your emotions and
hope…
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What to do if you get scammed by a Ukraine/Russian woman?
If you have been a victim to any Ukrainian/Russian online dating scam, rest assured that you are not
alone and this is an increasing problem. You should take a number of
precautions to avoid such circumstances and follow a number of steps
if you are taken advantage of in the end.
The Ukrainian & Russian Online Dating Scam
A Ukrainian/Russian woman for marriage convinces you she needs
money for a better life, to care for her family or to get out of a bad
situation. You want to help her and send her money. Then it happens,
she claims to have never received the money that it was stolen or you
never hear from her again.
The alarm bells are going off and you quickly realize you have been the
victim of a scam. The chances of recouping your losses may not be in
your favor; however, if you do not report the crime, more people will become victims and those who
are guilty of such crimes will never be brought to justice.
The Reporting Process
You must report the crime to a number of agencies. The first stop should be to your local police
department. You should report the crime as you would any other theft from your home. You should
also report the incident with the FBI’s Internet Fraud Complaint Center, the local embassy of the
scammer’s home country in your country, your home country’s embassy in the scammer’s home
country and with the money transfer company you used for the scammer to collect the funds.
A growing number of single Ukrainian/Russian women online are not who they claim to be. If you are
looking for that special someone or simply companionship, try to only use International online dating
sites and agencies which are highly reputable and those that conduct extensive background checks or
verify the information of any member. You may have to pay a small monthly fee; however, this is
significantly less than it could cost you in the end.
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For more Ukrainian dating tips and advice, visit
UkrainianDatingBlog.com & UkrainianDatingStories.com
Thank You!
Your Krystyna

Ukrainian dating guide “Avoiding scams”

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