2012 - Transcending Boundaries
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2012 - Transcending Boundaries
Welcome to the 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference Transcending Boundaries was created with the intent of gathering and forming alliances within the bisexual/pansexual, trans/genderqueer, intersex, polyamorous and allied communities, but we have grown to be so much more. We are now an open forum for anyone who has an interest, opinion, or position to gather, network, and learn from each other. This conference is designed to increase understanding, build solidarity, and encourage activism among our communities. Transcending Boundaries has a history of creating welcoming, stimulating environments. This is a great place to feel at home being yourself, even if you don’t fit into a nice, neat box of sexuality, gender or relationships. It is also an opportunity to meet interesting, friendly people and learn from each other! We urge you to take this unique and powerful opportunity to learn about other communities outside your own. We also encourage you to take the time to connect with yourself within this safe space. The organizers of this conference want everyone to experience the freedom to be themselves. As such, please be considerate of other people’s differences and patient with anyone who might mistakenly offend. After all, part of building community is making mistakes and learning from them! Once again, the Transcending Boundaries Conference welcomes and thanks you for attending. Letter from the 2012 Transcending Boundaries Chairperson Welcome to the 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference. We are proud to have Ignacio Rivera as our Keynote speaker this year as we not only continue to explore how we collaborate and join the vioces of our communities together, but also how we balance our sexuality, our gender and other facets of our identity across our relationships. In other words, how do we “Bring It All Together”. We have made some efforts to facilitate more discussions this year, so we have made changes to how we do our panels and our new continuing discussions. The panels this year are designed to be topics that are important to all of us, then have speakers to offer different perspectives from different communitees. Additionally, in the Ballroom, we have designated tables to continue the discussions, questions, and perspectives of every workshop past the allotted time. Then there is you. This is your conference. A time and place where your voice can be heard in the creation of a world for all of us. Please take time to tell me your story and enrich my experience.. I hope we can use this time to learn from and enjoy each other. Thank you for inviting me to your conference. ~~~ Ian Cooper Rose Bulletin Board Confidentiality In an effort to ensure the safety and privacy of all conference participants, everyone must adhere to the following rules and guidelines: No photographs, video or audio recordings are permitted without express permission of all involved. Do not give away or sell names, contact information, and other personal or identifiable information of persons involved or participating in the conference without their express written consent. Personal stories and information disclosed during workshops and informal gatherings are considered confidential. Respect the privacy of others. Any press or media MUST REGISTER PRIOR to the conference. No interviews are allowed at the conference. Any press must be arranged with the organizers. We reserve the right to ask you to leave if you are violating our rules or are making the conference an unsafe place. Bathrooms All bathrooms will be available to all genders and bodies. Accessibility Physical accessibility: The MassMutual Center and Sheraton Springfield Monarch Place Hotel are both wheelchairaccessible and are fitted with elevators throughout the facility. The parking garage across from the hotel and MMC are equipped with handicapped parking spots and elevators. Cover Art A very special thank you to artist Katie Diamond for the wonderful cover art illustrating this year’s theme “Bringing It All Together” Other needs: If you have any specific accessibilty requests that you did not indicate on your registration form, please let us know so that we can try to accommodate you. We strive to have this conference be accessible to as many people as possible, and we will do everything feasible to allow you to participate fully. Please Be Advised Transcending Boundaries will have official photographers documenting this year’s event. Photographs will be used for promotion on the Transcending Boundaries website. If you do not wish to appear in these photos, please get a bracelet from the information desk. Evaluations Please help us continue to improve the Transcending Boundaries Conference by filling out an evaluation form for both the conference as a whole and the presentations you attend. You will find the evaluation forms at the info desk and in each conference room. Please return finished forms to the box labeled “Evaluations” located at the information table. Thanks for your cooperation and your ideas. Our contact e-mail is [email protected]. You can also also fillout workshop and conference forms on the transcendingboundaries.org web site Call for Staff The next Transcending Boundaries can’t happen without you! If you are interested in being a part of next year’s conference team, please e-mail us at info@ transcendingboundaries.org. We would love to have your assistance! Panels Do you see a panel you’re interested in sitting on yourself? Check the registration table, where there will be sign up sheet for additional panelists. Each panel will have time for questions from the audience, and if you’re feeling shy, you can submit your question in advance at the registration table as well. History of Transcending Boundaries Transcending Boundaries grew out of a project of BiNet USA, a national bisexual organization. Throughout the 90’s, BiNet helped bisexual activists around the country organize on a local level. They sponsored regional conferences, including one in the Connecticut/New Jersey /New York Region. In 2000, BiNet replaced its regional focus with a more centralized organizational style. Those in attendance at the 2000 Tri-State Conference voted to continue the conference independently from BiNet USA and to hold the next year’s conference in New Haven, Connecticut. The organizing committee expanded the scope of the conference in two ways: widening the geographical reach to include the entire Northeastern United States, and including transgender and intersex issues as well as bisexual ones in the conference theme. The new name “Transcending Boundaries” reflected this expanded scope, as well as the fact that bisexuals, transgender persons, and intersex persons do not fit into the simple categories of gay/straight, man/ woman, and male/female. Transcending Boundaries, Inc. was founded in 2001 based on an expanded vision: a Northeast regional conference for bisexual, transgender, and intersex people and our allies. In 2009, this focus was expanded to include the polyamorous community as well. Transcending Boundaries has held five successful conferences between 2001 and 2006, teaming up with the Americas Conference on Bisexuality in 2005 and PFLAG Northeast in 2006. After a brief absence, Transcending Boundaries returned with renewed energy in 2009 featuring Tristan Taormino. In 2010, Lee Harrington helped us discuss the “Intersections” of gender, sexuality and reationships. Kate Bornstein taught us how to radically welcome a world “Beyond Binaries”. This year Ignacio Rivera will help us “Bring iIt All Together. Plenary Luncheon Saturday at 12:00pm in the Ballroom It is important for us to share a meal together. Breaking bread is a our traditional way of building community and to celebrate our diverity while finding our common challenges to overcome together. Our Penary and Community Meeting is proud to present Ignacio Rivera as our keynote speaker this year. Talking about the challenges in our world that prevent us from “Bringing It All Together”. As always, we will give you a chance to speak out. We only have a couple of minutes per person, but it is a good chance to get the word out accross all of our communities and to let us know what is happening in your community. The Organizers 2012 Chairperson - Ian - Ian is proud to be part of the team that makes the Transcending Boundaries Conference happen, serving as the 2012 Conference Charperson. An artist and activist, he is focused on building a community of like minded people and professionals to live and create together. Bi, poly, and kinky, he lives with his three partners and their son in Springfield, MA. Director of Content - Jenn - Jenn has played a number of roles in her life, both literally as she earned her BA in Drama from Ithaca College, and figuratively as she earned her MEd from University of New Hampshire. Her most important role is currently as the owned girl of Jawn. She has recently served as the Director of MAsT Mass (Masters And slaves Together), a monthly discussion and support group for those interested in pursuing hierarchical relationships. Director of Operations - Aimee - Aimee is thrilled to be serving as a Director of Operations for the 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference, and to continue her position as the Transcending Boundaries Treasurer. As a solo attorney practicing in Western Massachusetts, Aimee is a polyamorous, kink, and queer friendly professional who focuses on child welfare, domestic relations, and basic estate planning. She is a member of the bar in both Massachusetts and Connecticut. Aimee lives in Springfield, MA with her three partners, their son, 4 cats, and one tiny dog Director of Communications - Julia - Julia is happy to be this 2012 Director of Communications. After a few very inspiring years attending TBC, Julia became one of the founders of the Five College Queer Gender and Sexuality Conference at Hampshire College, and then an official TBC organizer. Julia identifies primarily as a geek and gamer, but also as genderqueer, polyamorous (although Julia is currently in a monogamous relationship), pansexual, agnostic, kinky, bratty, and a switch. Julia is usually assumed to be a heterosexual, straight, cisgendered female, which has been a pretty big struggle for most of Julia’s life, and one of the reasons that TBC is so important to Julia. Julia encourages you to attend all of the awesome workshops this year, get to know many new people, and contribute whatever time or money you can to keep TBC going strong!. Direcor of Membership - Sara - Sara (aka the leprechaun) is pleased to be promoted/ conned into being this year’s Membership Director. She identifies as queer and/or bisexual and/or a dyke depending on circumstances. She enjoys reading, politics, and MMORPGs. Sara has recently been thinking a lot about the intersection of faith and sexuality. Sara is still looking for a job in communications or environmental policy near either Western MA or D.C. People should ignore anyone telling them that Sara likes pink fluffy bunnies. Rainbows and unicorns are ok, though, shamrocks are far superior. Director of Fund Raising - Micah - Micah is proud to have been part of the Transcending Boundaries staff for the last four years, the first three years as Director of Operations. A two-time graduate of UMass, he lives with his family of choice in Western Massachusetts. As a father, Micah asks you not to accidentally knock over the toddler you’ll see running around all weekend, and as the Director of Development, he wants to remind all of you to leave your spare change in the jar at Registration before you head home. The Organizers Mistress of Ceremonies - Lorelei - ������������������������������������������������ The super fabulous Lorelei Erisis is a transgender performer, writer, activist, adventurer and Pageant Queen. She received extensive training in improvisation and sketch comedy at the renowned Second City in Chicago and Los Angeles and has performed all across the country including as the Emcee of the Noho Pride Celebration! She is also a director,teacher and independent filmmaker. She is especially proud to have directed and performed with The Fully Functional Players in Los Angeles, the first and only all-transgender improv group in the country! In addition to her Second City training she has also studied at a number of other theater workshops and schools, including an apprenticeship in Pantomime and movement with Ryszard Choroszy, the assistant to and disciple of the great Polish artist Henryk Tomaszewski, the founder and director of the Wroclaw Mime Theatre. Follow her blog on The Web at: transprov.wordpress.com and watch out for her monthly column: “Ask A TransWoman” in The Rainbow Times!!! Slaínte! Audio/Visual - Alex - Alex has been an organizer of Transcending Boundaries since 2009. She graduated from Skidmore (where she was active in the Pride Alliance) and the UConn School of Social Work, where she earned her MSW. She works as a substance abuse clinician with legally involved individuals in Waterbury, Connecticut. In her spare time, Alex is the youth group advisor at her synagogue, as well as a longtime professional ski instructor. Alex has long been fascinated by sexual expression and its intersections with spirituality and mental health. She hopes to use a future license in Clinical Social Work to continue her work in sex education and mental health/ substance abuse treatment. She lives in Hartford with her cat. Photographer - Jawn - Jawn is a photographer and musician from Worcester. He has been active in the BDSM community for over a decade. With His Doll is the leader of Reverend Reacharound, an irreverent folk-punk duo. They are also starting an LBGTQIK-friendly photography business, Jawniffer Photography, for event and portrait photography. Jawn can be found online at Jawnhenry.com, Jawniffer.com, ReverendReacharound.com and Heart-Shaped-Boy.com. Writer - Melissa - Melissa Kaplan has been involved in gender and sexuality activism since her early teens. She joined TBC staff following an eye opening experience at the 2009 conference. She is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor with a QUILTBAG/ poly/BDSM friendly private practice in northeast Massachusetts, and also works part time at a community mental health center. Melissa is grateful to the support of her friends and chosen family in her professional and personal life. She is owned by an abnormally large housecat. Thank you! Greater Springfield Convention & Visitors Bureau http://www.valleyvisitor.com 8 - 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference Ignacio Rivera Ignacio Rivera is a Queer, gender fluid, Trans- Entity, Black Boricua performance artist, currently performing skits, spoken word, one-person shows and story-telling internationally. Ignacio is a lecturer/ trainer, activist, new filmmaker, sex worker and self-proclaimed sex educator. into kink, called “Crossing” and the other is a short about gender called “They” Both films have been shown at various film festivals across the country. As a lecturer/ trainer, Ignacio has spoken at home and abroad on such topics of racism, sexism, homo/ transphobia, transgender issues, trans 101, sexual liberation, antioppression, anti-violence, multiissue organizing and more. Ignacio currently consultants with various organizations in New York City conducting professional development trainings for NYC high school staff. Ignacio is the founder of Poly Patao Productions. P3 is dedicated to producing sex-positive workshops, performance pieces, films, play parties, panel discussions, social/ political groups and educational opportunities that are specially geared toward queer women, transgender, multi-gender, genderqueer, gender non-conforming and gender variant people of color. As a filmmaker Ignacio currently embarked on a film project, “Shades of Kink” a series of educational/ documentary style films around inserting a racial/class/sexuality and gender into the Kink world. Ignacio also has completed two experimental shorts. Their first short is an adult short about moving from normality As a sex worker Ignacio is a Prodom and is working in the adult film industry. They can be seen in their debut performance in Pink and White Productions, “In Search of The Wild Kingdom” and Morty Diomand’s “Trans Entity: The Nasty Love of Papi and Wil.” Ignacio is also one of the founding board member of Queers for Economic Justice, a progressive non-profit organization committed to promoting economic justice in a context of sexual and gender liberation. 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference - 9 Workshops 1:00pm Friday Room 1 Queerying Erotic Narratives Dakota Raynes In this hands-on writing workshop, we will discuss erotic narratives as tools for imagining the unimaginable. Dakota will draw on their own autoethnographic writing and their Master’s thesis work with transgender erotica. Participants will try out exercises designed to help highlight, negotiate, and disrupt hegemonic scripts in our own and others’ erotic writing. We will also brainstorm ways to co-create a more queer erotic reality together through storytelling. Please come with pen, paper, and a willingness to ask yourself questions! No writing experience required. ( 18+ only Room 2 Creating and Educating (Unlikely) Allies Dawn Fortune For many years, churches and religious leaders were viewed as oppressors and persecutors of GLBT people, and in many cases, rightly so. As more and more faith communities begin to open up to GLBT people, they need education and encouragement, even while we continue to hold them accountable for their words and actions. Faith leaders, whether Christian, Jewish, Muslim, Unitarian Universalist, Pagan, or from some other tradition, respond to familiar language and may need what we’d call “remedial instruction,” around gender and sexuality issues. This workshop will lay out a basic format for educating church leaders – both professional clergy and layleaders. Reaching out to emerging allies is difficult work and takes patience and temperance, but as the past decades have shown us, faith communities can sway others beyond our reach to a position of support, affirmation and advocacy. boundaries, negotiating our relationships with others, and making sure to obtain consent from those we engage in any kind of relationship with, kink or otherwise. Room 3 Bringing Us All Together?: Implications for Changing Language in the Print Media Discourse of SameSex Marriage From 2004-2012 Andrea M. Hackl, C. Reyn Boyer, M. Paz Galupo Ever since Massachusetts became the first state to legalize same-sex marriage in 2004, the same-sex marriage movement has made great strides throughout the country. Today, same-sex relationships encounter heightened visibility in the public sphere, making same-sex marriage a key political issue in the 2012 presidential elections. The relationship and marriage experiences of bisexual men and women, however, are still largely invisible both in society at large and in the media. Significantly impacting AIMEE K. BOUCHARD Attorney at Law GLBT Queer Poly Kinky Massachusetts Connecticut Child Welfare Domestic Relations Basic Estate Planning www.aimeebouchard.com 10 - 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference 1:00pm Friday public opinion and cultural understanding of sexual minorities, the media portrayal of bisexual men and women plays a significant role in our understanding of their relationships. The following comparative study analyzed the language used to discuss same-sex marriage in The New York Times between February and May 2004 and 2012. In both years, same-sex marriage dominated the public discourse as presidential candidates made it a key political issue to move voters. Specifically, we analyzed the usage of sexual orientation labels in relation to how they were used as 1) nouns or 2) adjectives to modify a) marriage; b) couple/partner; c) individuals; d) community; and e) acts. Results indicate that the language used in The New York Times evolved to a more inclusive and positive language, with the discourse now centered around same-sex marriage rather than gay and lesbian marriage. However, marriage and relationship experiences of bisexual men and women are still largely absent in the same-sex marriage discourse. Considered a national opinion maker, discussion will focus on how the language used in The New York Times frames the larger Room 1 political debate on same sex marriage and plays into stereotypes regarding sexual minorities. Discussion will also focus on the broader implications of the findings for transcending boundaries across our various LGBT communities and will make suggestions for how the discourse around marriage equality could be used for bringing us all together. Room 5 Panel Discussion: Consent, Negotiation, and Boundaries Joshua Tenpenny, Avory Faucette, Barry & Cathy Smiler, James O’Deorain Consent is an topic of heated discussion nowadays in the kink community, but it’s not just in that community that we need to be aware of establishing our own personal boundaries, negotiating our relationships with others, and making sure to obtain consent from those we engage in any kind of relationship with, kink or otherwise. As with all of our panel discussions this weekend, there will be an empty chair available for conference participants to jump in and out of as they would like to join in the discussion, pose a question, or make a point. 2:30pm Friday Power, Privacy, and Privilege: Internet Safety for Sexually Vocal Laypeople maymay A social networking website isn’t the same as your favorite physical-world hangout. That sounds pretty obvious, but sometimes it’s not. Many people, as philosopher and scholar Marshall McLuhan noted, “approach the new with the psychological conditioning and sensory responses of the old.” Even after making an effort to hide one’s identity online, a huge amount of most people’s personal information – such as legal names, addresses, phone numbers, and employment records – can be found using trivial searches that anyone can do in less than 10 minutes. In this workshop, long-time digital civil liberties activist and Internet privacy advocate maymay will use scenario-based role-plays and, with participant consent, a live demo, to explain what you need to know to protect your privacy online – all in plain English. You’ll learn how to find and use Internet privacy tools, evaluate social networks based on your personal needs, and determine the riskiness of posting different kinds of media online. Despite what you may have been lead to believe, never posting personally identifiable information to the Internet isn’t a solution because what makes social networks valuable to users like us is just such information. Come with questions, leave with a solid understanding of the ins and outs of Internet safety. 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference - 11 2:30pm Friday Room 2 Aging and Ageism J.M. Sorrell Aging is something we all have in common, and yet LGBT communities most often focus on youth. There are both additional challenges and gained wisdom for transgender older adults. We will explore intergenerational opportunities, and we will discuss guiding principles and needs for transgender older adults both in the mainstream and in transgender communities. Room 3 The Unintentional Closet: Queer Identity in Hetero-presumptive Situations Winter Tashlin It’s a straight world out there. What effect does it have on our identities as queer people when we are in situations where the people around us make assumptions about our sexuality orientation or gender identity. Does it matter how the world outside our doors perceives us, or can we go through life knowing who we are without that external validation? In this workshop we will commiserate, discuss and strategize ways to live, work and play in a our broader communities, while still staying true to ourselves and maintaining the crucial balance between being out and getting ourselves in trouble. Room 4 Deafhood, Transhood: Cultural Identity and Activism Avory Faucette What does it mean to be trans as a cultural identity? Why do some people retain a trans identity and others grow out of it? What impact do these differences in the experience of cultural identity have on activism and advancing trans rights? In this workshop, participants will learn about the idea of Deafhood and some basics of Deaf culture as a model for considering trans as a condition versus trans as an identity. We’ll explore the relationship between cultural identity and activism and tackle some tough questions around autonomy in identity formation, passing privilege, and community building. Room 5 Panel Discussion: Faith and Spirituality David Serio, Raven Kaldera, Dawn Fortune, Sara Brosnan Those of us who don’t necessarily “fit in” with mainstream culture can find things even more uncomfortable as we look to join an organized religious group or follow our own spiritual path. How do you follow a tradition that may teach that your identity is “wrong”? What successes have you had within your own faith community of gaining acceptance and educating others? Room C Being That Person raycho We all know that person, and many of us have been that person. You know, the one in the front row with their hand up, always reminding everyone about that group of people inadvertently (we hope) left out? This discussion is for all of us who are “that person”, the one always bringing up access issues, gender issues, race issues, whatever – we’ve got issues! At least the people who always wind up with our hands in their faces might think so. We’ll discuss what it’s like to be “that person”. Do we get taken seriously, or dismissed as just having a pet cause? Do we become the point person on an issue, or do we get treated like Exhibit A? Do our voices help to gather others like us and allies, or do we get singled out? How does being “that person” affect us and our identities? Are we a positive force for change? And most importantly, where are we all going on our day off - or will we ever get one? 12 - 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference 4:00pm Friday Room 1 Room 4 Islam and Homosexuality Dave Serio Very little is known about Islam, especially when it comes to homosexuality. I use exegetical methods of looking at verses in the Qur’an to offer a perspective of how Islam does not condemn homosexuality, using the story of Lot as a prime example. I also talk about different reactions from homosexual Muslims and attitudes towards homosexuality in the Islam world. Transitioning with a Third Gender Identity Raven Kaldera and Joshua Tenpenny Let’s think clearly about what physical transition means when it intersects with identity. Wondering whether to physically transition but held back because you don’t have a solidly male or female identity? That doesn’t have to be a barrier. Let’s talk about the ambivalencies of shapeshifting your flesh when your identity is all over the place. Come with questions! Room 2 Room 5 Isms & Phobias: Informing or Ignoring the Ignorant Jennie Steinberg This interactive workshop will feature an audience-participation discussion about ways to respond when you encounter homophobia, transphobia, biphobia, polyphobia, heterosexism, sexism, racism, ableism, and other forms of ignorance. Participants will have the opportunity to share their experiences and thoughts, and helpful tips will be provided. Panel Discussion: Living Multiple Lives: Holding Different/Conflicting Identities Dawn Fortune, Melissa Kaplan, Jawn’s Doll Everyone holds multiple identities, and sometimes it is stressful to identity with two groups that don’t agree with each other. You can feel like a superhero with a secret identity, but without the super powers. How do you move within these different groups, while holding and honoring your true self? Room 3 Queering Role in BDSM Play Kristen Stubbs, Ph.D. and Matt The idea of breaking binaries around gender and sexuality can be very empowering. In this session, we look at queering identity in the context of BDSM: “kinky vs. vanilla”, “Dom vs. sub vs. switch”, and “top vs. bottom vs. switch” are all categories that we can reimagine. We’ll discuss the concept of a “rolequeer” identity and have a group brainstorming session about how to subvert norms and rewrite traditional BDSM roles in our play. 18+ only How to Create Intimacy with Anyone: Talk and Workshop James O’Deorain This will begin with an informative talk explaining methods for creating intimacy – some that don’t work well as well as ten that are useful. The talk will be followed by a workshop: we’ll practice some of the methods explained. You can leave after the talk if you’re not comfortable practicing with strangers, but you cannot stay and watch. Room C 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference - 13 9:30am Saturday Room 1 Know Your Rights & The State of Trans Equal Rights Movement Gunner Scott Do you have the right to be served in a restaurant, rent a hotel room, or be treated at an emergency room? Can your employer not promote you because you transitioned on the job? Transgender communities deal with a myriad of issues created by flawed policies, ignorance, and the binary gender system. This workshop will provide a summary of the legal protections afforded to cross dressers, transgender, transsexual, and genderqueer people at the local, state and federal levels. We’ll also consider the work that still needs to be done, and discuss the ways in which ongoing education and policy efforts are essential to making sure that positive laws and policies make a real difference in peoples’ lives. Room 2 5 Common Mistakes Made by WellMeaning Allies Jennie Steinberg and Rebecca Papadinis We allies mean so well, but everyone makes mistakes. Come learn from two queer-affirmative therapists about some common faux pas and what you can do to avoid them. Room 3 Protecting LGBT Elders Angie Perone LGBT and gender non-conforming elders and older adults face numerous barriers to asserting their legal rights. We face additional hurdles when our families of choice begin to age with us. This workshop will address how to navigate some of these legal obstacles and engage in a facilitated discussion on intergenerational support. Room 4 Bisexuals Making Mixed Orientation Marriages and Relationships Fabulous Mark Rheault Mixed orientation marriages and relationships where one partner is bisexual and the other heterosexual often contain complex relationship dynamics. This workshop will review the issues and challenges bisexuals face in our relationships with our partners, family, and friends with an emphasis on positive outcomes. Mixed orientation marriages and relationships provide tremendous opportunities for personal happiness and growth when approached with the proper attitudes. This workshop will include an opportunity for participants to share their strategies for success as we can all benefit from the stories and experiences of others. Participants of all sexual orientations will come away with a better understanding of mixed orientation marriages and relationships and the many ways we can make them fabulous relationships. Room 5 Panel Discussion: Differ-Sexuality: My Life as a _____Sexual raycho, maymay, David aka SwitchMe Sexuality can be defined in many different ways, and different orientations present different challenges. All along this spectrum, however, are joys and challenges we can all relate to. Share your identity, how you define it, what makes it great, and what you wish other people would know about you. Room C Transcending Language - A Poetry Workshop! Lori Desrosiers This is a short but fabulous writing workshop, finding some time for each of us to write a poem inspired by the themes of the Transcending Boundaries 14 - 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference 9:30am Saturday Conference. Lori Desrosiers is a published poet who also edits a poetry journal. She is currently working on an anthology of poems about polyamory, and has a book coming out in the Spring from Salmon Poetry. 11:00am Saturday Room 1 Connect, Accept, Respond, Empower: Supporting LGBTQ Youth Wes Nemenz This interactive workshop will provide an overview of suicide among lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning (LGBTQ) youth and the different environmental stressors that contribute to their heightened risk for suicide. After reviewing current research, there will be an emphasis on best practices and practical steps that service providers, educators, and LGBTQ non-profit professionals can take to promote a positive environment for all youth. In addition the workshop will discuss best practices regarding the discussion of suicide, bullying and related topics with a focus on keeping youth safe. Room 2 Changing the Playbook – Negotiating Asexual/Sexual Relationships Kristen Stubbs, Ph.D. and Matt What does it mean for an asexual person and a sexual person to start a relationship? Kristen (pansexual) and Matt (asexual) share some of their experiences and lessons learned, including understanding what (a) sexuality and physical intimacy mean for them; exploring the dynamics of physical, emotional, and romantic connections; and communicating desires and boundaries. Room 3 Transgender Feminism 101 Dr. Joelle Ruby Ryan This workshop will give an overview of what is meant by trans feminism and why it matters. The opening presentation will cover key ideas in trans feminism, including the history of transphobia within feminism, the problem of trans-misogyny, and historical and contemporary controversies such as women-only space, “radfem” attacks on trans women, and diverse trans-feminine sexualities. We will also contextualize transgender feminism within sex-positive, third-wave feminism, post-modern queer theory, sex worker rights and intersectional theory and activism. Come add you voice to the dialogue and help move feminism to embrace trans, genderqueer and gender nonconforming communities! Room 4 Metamour Intensive Rebecca Crane As polyamorous folks, we talk a good game about our relationships with our “metamours”: people with whom we have a partner or partners in common. For many of us, a cornerstone of our polyamory is having caring, appreciative, and mutuallysupportive metamourships. But poly communities don’t talk much about HOW we develop and maintain these relationships. Meanwhile, mainstream culture tells us that our lover’s other lover is someone we should dislike and distrust. How do we make the leap from “threat” to “family member”? How do we stay connected to our metamours when relationship troubles hit? Why do metamour relationships even matter? In this hour-long Metamour Intensive, we’ll dig deep into the nature of having and being a metamour. Drawing on the challenging work of Franklin Veaux, maymay, and David Jay, we’ll discuss what metamour relationships are and 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference - 15 11:00am Saturday WHY we don’t talk about them enough; share concrete strategies for building and facilitating healthy, fulfilling, stable metamour relationships; and untangle how normative cultural programming gets in our way. By the end, you will understand why strong metamour-relating skills are important not just to polyamory but for social justice work as a whole. Room 5 Panel Discussion: What’s Next? Aging in the Queer Community Robyn Ochs, Angie Perone, Barry & Cathy Smiler, Ian Cooper Rose One thing we all have in common: we’re all getting older. But we don’t always talk about the unique challenges and opportunities that come with getting older in the queer community. How will your transgendered body change again? How can you ensure your same-sex loved one will be protected if one of you is sick? And how can you include your entire poly family in the difficult and emotional decisions that need to be made? Room C Double Edge: BDSM and Transgender Raven Kaldera and Joshua Tenpenny From the man or woman who crossdresses for the first time as part of a BDSM scene, to the transsexual who is trying to figure out which play parties they can attend, being transgendered in the BDSM scene is both a blessing and a challenge. At the same time, a remarkably high percentage of transgendered people identify with leathersex – why? We’ll discuss how BDSM roleplaying lends itself to gender play, struggle with the political implications of being gender transgressive perverts, talk about what happens to D/s roles when people change gender roles, and remind folks of what we have to teach the larger community. For transgendered folks of all stripes, their partners, friends and allies, and anyone who’s curious about the intersection of kink, power exchange, and the gender spectrum. 18+ only. 2:30pm Saturday Room 1 Polyamory As Self-Determination Barry and Cathy Smiler Polyamory isn’t about how many relationships are active at any moment, and not at all about sex. Rather, it’s about knowing that each person has the right to choose whatever sexual/relationship structure works best for that person (in honest communication with all other stakeholders). So polyamory is really about self-determination: the right to live your own life your own way. But so are lots of things. Women’s rights, LGBT struggles, issues around race and class, and much more. Thus, “there’s no such thing as polyamory.” That is, polyamory isn’t a separate thing, but rather an example or special case of something much larger: self-determination, living your own life your own way. By reframing polyamory to highlight this classic American ideal, we: tap into a solid positive mindset about all this; avoid the distracting question of sex and who does what with who (because in this framing it has no bearing); and create openings to connect with other movements dealing with self-determination issues in their own communities. All this helps create broader, less charged, and more productive conversations. Room 2 Asexuals are Queer, Too! Dr. Joelle Ruby Ryan Are asexuals queer? What is the place of asexy folks within the wider LGBTQ+ Community? Is combating acephobia a priority within the queer movement? If these questions intrigue you, please 16 - 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference 2:30pm Saturday come to add your voice to a rousing discussion of asexuality within the queer community! The goal of the workshop is to increase understanding of asexuality, facilitate a safe space for ace folks and our allies, and brainstorm ways to promote ace visibility and education in the queer community. How can we work together to build a queer community that is truly ace-inclusive and affirming? We will also focus on how asexuals contribute to a vibrant queer identity and culture and ways that asexual human rights benefit all of society, pushing us to re-think notions of sexuality, kinship and relationships. Room 3 My Naked Self The 20% Theatre Company: Claire Avitabile, Anthony Neuman, Katie Burgess, Puck Matz, and Nicole Wilder My Naked Self is an introductory workshop for anyone interested in exploring their gender identity, sexuality, body/self-image and/or awareness through guided writing exercises, improvisational movement, and encouraged sharing or performance. This workshop is a challenging, inspirational and examination of who others think we are, who we think we are, and the not-so-simple truth: who we are. No theatre or writing experience necessary! 18+ only Room 4 Beyond Binaries: Identity and Sexuality Robyn Ochs How do we decide what – if any – label to attach to our complicated and unique sexualities? What labels are out there, and what do they mean? In this interactive and eye-opening program, we’ll be exploring the landscape of identity, the complexity of attraction, and more. And we’ll be doing an eye-opening anonymous survey of ourselves and looking at the results! Come find out how we identify, where we fall on the sexuality spectrum, and just monogamous and how kinky we are… Room 5 Panel Discussion: Building Long-Term Relationships Kelli Dunham, Gunner Scott, Jennie Steinberg The beginning days, weeks, months, and years of a relationship are full of the excitement of firsts. How do you keep that excitement going as you hit the thirds, sevenths, or fifteenths? Being in a long-term relationship may require a different set of communication skills than in the beginning, and we’ll talk about keeping the thrill alive as you build your relationship through the years. Room C Reclaiming Power-Over Raven Kaldera and Joshua Tenpenny The general view of power dynamic relationships‚ meaning relationships where both parties carefully negotiate one person having a certain amount of power and authority over the other‚ is that it is politically incorrect, and probably only done by people with psychological damage. Comparisons are made to the unhealthy power dynamics of “traditional” marriages and nonconsensual slavery. However, many modern practitioners of Dominant/submissive, Master/slave, and Owner/property relationships are politically aware people who are turning the past on its head and creating a whole new form of power dynamic‚ one that has the possibility of making society itself a healthier place for all relationships. Raven and Joshua will discuss how mindful power dynamic relationships can actually be quite radically subversive to the political status quo; and how to build one, how to explain one to your radical friends, and how to understand one if it’s not your thing. 18+ only 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference - 17 4:00pm Saturday Room 1 EMERGENCY! Planning for Unplanned Healthcare Kelli Dunham The LGBT, genderqueer, kink, polyamorous and other communities traditionally underserved by our health care systems are often particularly – and understandably – wary of seeking emergency care, even when care is badly needed. In this interactive workshop, genderqueer nurse and comic Kelli Dunham walks participants through a visit to the emergency room, presenting information about general ER infrastructure and leads participants in brainstorming and role playing ways in which they can be empowered to facilitate relatively positive endings to various ER scenarios. Also included will be a discussion of picking an ER buddy and developing a written ER plan. Room 2 The Politics of Sex: Intimacy Power and Control Ignacio Rivera This workshop will discuss the ways in which we are taught about sex and how rigged it is. We will discuss the dominant-culture model of sex, love and relationships. We will examine how to break those ideas down and expand how we are intimate with one another. This workshop will also go into intentionality, negotiation and safety. Room 3 Gender Improv 1 Lorelei Erisis Second City trained improviser and “Miss Trans New England” Lorelei Erisis will share and discuss insights about gender as well as the basics of improv and how it can be used to enrich your own relationships and personal presentation. This is a hands-on workshop that will explore the performative aspects of gender using the techniques and tools of improvisational acting. Participants will have the chance to stretch their legs, open their minds and get up on their own feet to learn some basic games and exercises. No improv or acting experience is necessary (though experienced performers are welcome too!), just the willingness to try something new and have a little fun. Come ready to play!!!! Room 4 Bisexuality 101 & Beyond Robyn Ochs What is bisexuality? What does it mean to identify as bisexual? What are some of the challenges to understanding and representing this often overlooked segment of the LGBT community? Please join us for a lively presentation by award-winning speaker, writer and educator Robyn Ochs. Bring your own list of myths: we’ll analyze them a bit and explore their origins. Room 5 Panel Discussion: Reflecting Our Experiences in Art Claire Avitable & Nicole Wilder (20% Theatre Company), Lori Derosiers, kd diamond The arts can be a powerful tool for education, building alliances, and sharing our experiences. Join some of our artistic professionals as they share how they use their talents to build awareness of our communities and share their many varied experiences. And if you feel inspired, share your own experiences afterwards at our open art space! As with all of our panel discussions this weekend, there will be an empty chair available for conference participants to jump in and out of as they would like to join in the discussion, pose a question, or make a point. 18 - 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference 4:00pm Saturday Room C The Feminist Submissive: Reconciling the Conflict Coyote Too and Zhiva Zhenska Internal and societal conflicts. How does one reconcile the desire to submit with feminist ideals? How can a relationship based on inequality stand up to modern egalitarian models? How can we, as submissive women, reconcile our desire for submission with our awareness of the hard-won battles and ongoing struggle of feminism? How too, does a male Dominant manage his own conflicts and dominate without guilt? In this talk we plan to discuss how the act of submission can be an expression of choice and an example of “enthusiastic consent” that has been made possible by feminism. The role of D/s in dismantling rape culture will be touched upon, as well as the importance of intentionality and negotiation in developing relationship dynamics. We will discuss what power exchange really means in a relationship and how a submissive holds power within the exchange, how D/s relationships compare to traditional and progressive relationships, and why “different” does not have to mean “unequal” in any relationship. 18+ only 5:30pm Saturday Room 1 Laughter is a Revolutionary Gesture: Humor as Self-Care Kelli Dunham The nature of our work as intersectional activists is intense and that, combined with passion, can sometimes contribute to depression and burnout as well as a single focus on movement work that is neither healthy for us as individuals nor effective. Yet there is a notable historical precedent for intersectional activism using humor as both a strategy in communication and a tool for personal empowerment. This workshop explores how we can reclaim humor and use it to relieve stress, communicate better, subvert the rigid gender binary and build resilience. You don’t have to consider yourself “a funny person” to participate in this workshop. It’s about discovering our own unique sense of humor. We’ll have fun and NO ONE will make you wear a clown nose, promise. Room 2 SALACIOUS Magazine: The Beginning kd diamond Starting up a magazine is difficult enough – imagine starting up a smut magazine with a queer, feminist, anti-racist mission and a focus on illustration and high art! Katie will walk through the various trials and tribulations she encounters creating and running SALACIOUS, and take questions on the process. 18+ only Room 3 Deviant Bodies: Intersections in Body Policing for Fat Folx and Trans* Folx Dakota Raynes and Rebecca Crane Chasers. Surgery. Invasive questions about our bodies. Never finding clothes that fit. Assumptions, assumptions, assumptions. In this facilitated round-table discussion, we’ll explore similarities, differences and intersections between ways that fat bodies and trans* & gender non-conforming bodies are policed in our culture – and we’ll look at how these intersections play out in intimate relationships between individuals who are fat and/or trans*. Dakota is a genderqueer trans* person with thin privilege. Rebecca is an inbetweenie fat person with cis privilege. We’ll share thoughts and stories from our own relationship journey together and insights from conversations with other fat and trans* friends. We invite everyone with related experiences to join us for a conversation on working together, 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference - 19 5:30pm Saturday staying conscious, and supporting and celebrating each others “deviant” bodies and histories. Room 4 Lost in the Law? Legal Rights for Bisexual and Gender or Sexually Fluid Persons Angie Perone Courts have historically denied legal rights of bisexual and gender or sexually fluid individuals. However, the legal landscape is changing. This workshop will address various ways to protect bisexual and gender or sexually fluid persons. We will conclude with a facilitated discussion about creative ways to push the courts further (including nonlegal options). Room 5 Panel Discussion: Affecting Public Policy: Elections and Beyond Avory Faucette, Barry and Cathy Smiler, Lorelei Erisis, Sara Brosnan Did you know there’s an election next week? Obviously, election season is a time when it’s easy to get involved in shaping public policy, but there’s also so much work to be done the rest of the year. Our panel participants will share their experiences in the political process, and share their own strategies for getting involved. And don’t forget to vote! As with all of our panel discussions this weekend, there will be an empty chair available for conference participants to jump in and out of as they would like to join in the discussion, pose a question, or make a point. Room C Communication for Dating and Scoring Winter Tashlin “Hey you, wanna play?” Sure there are times and places where that might work just fine, but it’s not for everywhere or everyone. Maybe you aren’t the type to walk up to someone and proposition them that way. Or maybe you are, but you can’t quite figure out how to approach your partner(s) about trying out something totally new. Perhaps you’re even someone in a long term relationship that’s gotten sexually stale who can’t find the right way to say “you know, I miss banging you on a regular basis, what can we do about it?” If any of these sound familiar, join us to talk about strategies and communication for dating and scoring. Both in person and on-line situations will be discussed in the class. 18+ only 10:00am Sunday Room 1 The United States Prison System Tearing Us All Apart Black and Pink - Jason Lydon The United States Prison Industrial Complex functions as a form of oppression in our world. LGBTQ people are disproportionately impacted by the violence of the police, judges, prosecutors, and prisons themselves. LGBTQ people of color are direct targets of this violence. In order for us to all come together, we must deal with the realities of the US punishment system and build community through the walls until the day we tear them down. This workshop will provide an overview of the US penal system, the specific impacts it has on LGBTQ people, and give tools for moving forward in the movement towards abolition. Room 2 One Body: Two Spirits – Native American Honoring of Multiple Gender Traditions Spence PeaceMaker Waya (Wolf) Crier Carver Of over 400 distinct indigenous Nations in North America, 155 have documented multiple gender traditions (Pruden & 20 - 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference 10:00am Sunday Hoskins, 2006). Two Spirit, a translation of Ojibwe (Chippewa) term, “indicates a person whose body simultaneously houses a masculine spirit and a feminine spirit” (Wikipedia). Before we were considered sinful we were healers. Before we were dangerous, we were a blessing. Participants will learn the First Nation tradition of honoring Two Spirits, to apply in their communities. Room 3 Queer: One Word, Many Meanings Kelly Kroehle, Evan Thornburg, Kemar Jewel, and DeAngelo Cameron of The Attic Youth Center That’s queer. You’re a queer. LGBTQueer. We’re here; we’re queer. Queer community. We know this term has power both constructive and harmful, and we wish to use it with intention. This discussion will ask participants to consider “What is Queer?” by showcasing the distinct narratives of four queer-identified individuals from The Attic Youth Center in Philadelphia and how they relate to the term. With perspectives ranging from firstgeneration Caribbean-American to raised in the Baptist church to Butler-loving theorist to raised by two gay dads, we share this term but not necessarily much else. Topics covered in this facilitated discussion will include: schisms of gender, age, race, and class found among queeridentified individuals; whether “umbrella term” is an appropriate label for queer; experiences residing in communities where queer has not been reclaimed; queer as a political, normativity-challenging stance versus a practical behavioral label; if queer fits in LGBTQ; whether or not queer is, can, or should be distinct from a “queer studies”; and various other points of dissent and agreement. Looking forward, we will ask the audience to assist us in querying strategies toward a dynamic queer community that effectively retains an emphasis on person-specific experiences. Room 4 Reconnect your Pleasure Path David, aka SwitchMe Our deepest inner selves are often a tangle of confusion and fear. Much of who we are as human beings is wrapped up in our sexuality, and in this place we often find a deep pleasure. For too many of us, however, that path to pleasure has been broken by abuse or neglect. It may be overt, tinged with violence, or it may be more covert and hidden. No matter how we look at it, a vital part of who we are is broken. This workshop draws on my experience with the work of Dr. Betty Martin. Here we will gently reintroduce the notions of pleasure and how we might learn to give and receive, take and accept. We will have a discussion about these concepts, followed by a series of careful, gentle exercises that are designed to help us re-open that broken path. The prices of relearning this is centered not on sexuality, but the simple act of learning to receive and to fully accept simple pleasure from ourselves and from others. None of the activities are sexual in nature. This workshop is not about sex at all, but is about how we can learn to accept ourselves just as we are, along with the ability to experience pleasure. This workshop is designed for survivors of abuse of any sort, and will deal with topics that may be challenging emotionally. There will be no late admittance after a 5 minute introduction. No participants will be required to do anything. Room 5 Panel Discussion: Coming Out/Living Out Kristen Stubbs, Mark Rheault, James O’Deorain, raycho Coming out can be a stressful, exciting time, and after that comes the freedom of living as your true self. This discussion is a chance for you and our panelists to share their own coming out stories and strategies, and talk about what happened next. Share the good, 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference - 21 10:00am Sunday the bad, and the ugly parts of living “out”. out of as they would like to join in the discussion, pose a question, or make a point. Room C Burlesque & Gender Eddie Paradise with members of Happy Hour Burlesque What is burlesque? How does it mesh with feminism and genderfuck? Burlesque has its roots in thumbing ones nose at gender roles. Burlesque performers regularly take their clothes off on stage but the acts are considered “empowering” rather than demeaning. How does this work? Come to this panel with your questions and curiosity. 12:30pm Sunday Room 2 Marriage Is Not The Movement: Two Young Trans/Queer Activists Talk Strategy Avory Faucette and Stephen Ira In recent years the LGBT movement discourse has become increasingly dominated by a focus on marriage equality, while critical trans and queer priorities go underfunded and under-addressed. Two young queer activists will sound off about how we see ourselves and our peers fitting into “the movement” and our vision for a youth-led queer/trans movement that prioritizes bullying, housing, health, violence, and other serious structural issues to make lasting change. This will be a highly interactive panel where everyone is encouraged to participate and brainstorm strategy in a space that encourages radical discussion and prioritizes the needs of those most marginalized in our communities. Activist and writer Stephen Ira of the Mattachine Review blog will discuss online activism and grassroots/ local strategies for youth, while Avory Faucette of the National Center for Transgender Equality will talk about how the national movement and non-profit organizations can focus on trans/queer priorities for a sustainable future. Room 3 Lifeguard Workshop Wes Nemenz The Lifeguard Workshop is a structured conversation with middle school, high school and college age youth regarding mental health, suicide and healthy ways to cope with stress and anxiety. The workshop informs youth of the various services offered by The Trevor Project and guides them in a conversation of how to recognize the warning signs of suicide and how to get help for themselves or a peer who may be feeling suicidal. The workshop ends by helping the participants identify ways that they will seek to deal with stress and anxiety in a healthy way and how to identify supportive adults in their own environment. (For high school/college students) Room 4 Kink, Race and Class Ignacio Rivera How does race/racism/classism play into our kink? As a person of color in the kink world, can we leave out some of our identities at the door? Are poor people apart of play parties/ kink world? Why? Why not? Do kinksters operate in a vacuum? Is it possible to be kinky and not political? How can we respect one another and continue to navigate within the kink sphere? Let’s talk about race baby! 18+ only 22 - 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference 12:30pm Sunday Room 5 Panel Discussion: Genderfluid: What Does It Mean to You? Mark Rheault, David aka SwitchMe, Lisa Jacobs Of all the terms you may learn this weekend, “genderfluid” is one of the most complex. This is a term that many use, but they don’t always mean the same thing when they say it. Our panelists will share their own definitions, what it means to them, and their experiences as a genderfluid person. Room C Gender Improv 2 Lorelei Erisis Second City trained improviser Lorelei Erisis will share and discuss insights about gender as well as the basics of improv and how it can be used to enrich your own relationships and personal presentation. This is a hands-on workshop that will explore the performative aspects of gender using the techniques and tools of improvisational acting. Participants will have the chance to stretch their legs, open their minds and get up on their own feet to learn some basic games and exercises. No improv or acting experience is necessary, just the willingness to try something new and have a little fun. 1:45pm Sunday Room 1 Freedom to Connect: Polyamory as a Social Network of CompassionMoving Devices maymay Although few people seem to realize it, the Internet is a very sexual technology. It functions using the same principle as love: abundance is more valuable than scarcity. If you drew people as dots and the relationships between them as lines connecting the dots, the result would look remarkably similar to the topology of telecommunication networks like the Internet, wherein dots represent telephony devices (phones, fax machines, computers, etc.) and lines represent interconnections between them. However, a telecommunication network in which each device could only be connected to one other device – a compulsorily monogamous world view – would not be very useful. Why buy a phone that can only call one other phone in the world? This freedom to “connect” with whomever we choose, to exchange ideas with others regardless of geographic constraint, undeniably enriched our intellectual experiences. Is it so hard to imagine the same phenomenon holds true when we exchange bodily fluids or emotional adventures? Nonmonogamous (and polyamorous) culture has ancient roots, but modern technologies have dramatically changed how people behave. The inverse is true as well: polyamorous culture encodes discrete ways to “packetize” empathy and emotional communications, forming a peer-to-peer infrastructure for the transmission of information about human relationships – a literal social network of compassion-moving devices. Social behaviors are influenced by the technologies we have available, but the technologies we have available are also influenced by social behaviors, or embedded cultural scripts. How would Western society change if the “pairbonded sexual-romantic couple” were no longer its central organizing social construct? In this session, explore the myriad ways polyamory’s key tenet – that a relationship involving more than two individuals is a good and valuable thing – was influenced by and can be applied to everything from social media marketing, social justice activism, and, of course, sexual freedom. 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference - 23 1:45pm Sunday Room 2 our gender and our sexuality, but also our politics, religious beliefs, even our computer choices (gods forbid one own both a Mac and a PC). The truth is that for many of us, these categories have gotten limiting. Sometimes our “boxes” can feel in conflict with one another, or we are perceived as “other” by one community we feel kinship with because of our ties to another. In this workshop we will discuss strategies for living “outside the box” and embracing our individuality without loosing the vital sense of connection to community that many of us crave. Room 3 Room 5 Using Social Media to Change the World Richard Dedor From former mayoral candidate and author, Richard Dedor, comes an engaging and interactive session looking at where social media is and where you can take it for your organization. You’ll see how you can utilize current technologies like Facebook, Twitter and Tumblr as well as emerging technologies to engage, inform and raise awareness. You’ll leave with a better understanding of technologies role in your mission and a plan to execute it. MadFemmePride Magic: Recipe for Hands-On Diverse Queer Community Janie, Maggie Cee, Dora, and Ebonie of MadFemmePride MadFemmePride (MFP) is Boston’s 3,000-member community of queer+ (bi, queer, poly, lesbian, gay, questioning, ally) femmes, feminine folks, and our femininity-supportive friends. Unlike other groups that have added in the T, B, and Q later, MFP has celebrated bisexual and transgender folks from the very beginning. We have always valued inclusivity and diversity and we work collaboratively to create real, friendly community through our events. We are proud to have sustained MFP for over 8 years with a changing group of coorganizers and ongoing involvement by active members. This interactive workshop both demonstrates and shares our recipe for community building, with hands-on tools for friendly events, insight on leadership practices, and tips on sustainability. Room 4 Living “Outside the Box” Winter Tashlin Lesbian-Gay-Bi-Trans-QueerQuestioning-Intersex-Ally the list could go on. We “box” ourselves in a wide variety of ways, not just with regards to Panel Discussion: Working With Professionals Aimee Bouchard, Melissa Kaplan, raycho, Jennie Steinberg As people living outside the “mainstream” culture, we often find ourselves in situations where we are dealing with professionals who may not understand our special needs. It can be exhausting to have to explain yourself in a way to ensure you get the care, attention, and fair treatment you deserve. Our panelists come from medical and legal backgrounds, and will be happy to share not only their experiences in dealing with professionals, but “insider” tips on finding a professional who wil work best with you. Room C Photography for Every Body Jawn and Jawn’s Doll Some people can’t help but look great in pictures. For those of us who don’t, there are some simple tips and tricks you can use to make yourself look fantastic! In this workshop, we will explore how to pose to accentuate your best features, look at some psychology behind “masculine” and “feminine” poses, and go through the basics of lighting and model releases. This workshop is for models and photographers alike, and will be interactive. Bring your cameras! Friday Room 1 Room 2 Room 3 Room 4 Room 5 Room C Ballroom 11:00 Registration 12:00 Intersex Day Ceremony (Room C) 13:00 Queerying Erotic Narratives Creating and Educating (Unlikely) Allies Bringing Us All Together? Aging and Ageism Unintentional Closet: Queer Identity in Heteropresumptive Situations Marriage Is Not The Movement PANEL: Consent, Negotiation, and Boundaries 14:00 2:15pm ~ Break ~ 2:30pm 15:00 Internet Safety for Sexually Vocal Laypeople Deafhood, Transhood: Cultural Identity and Activism PANEL: Faith and Spirituality Being That Person Continuing Discussions 3:45pm ~ Break ~ 4:00pm 16:00 Islam and Homosexuality Isms & Phobias How to Create Transitioning PANEL: Intimacy with Queering Role with a Third Living Multiple Anyone: Talk in BDSM Play Lives Gender Identity and Workshop 4:45pm ~ Break ~ 5:00pm 17:00 Birds of a Feather Spirituality Birds of a Feather New! Birds of a Feather Parenting Birds of a Feather Polyamoury Birds of a Feather Professionals 18:00 Dinner 19:00 20:00 The Naked I (Room C) 21:00 22:00 Rocky Horror Picture Show (Room C) 23:00 Birds of a Feather Toymakers Continuing Discussions Saturday Room 1 Room 2 Room 3 Know Your Rights 5 Common Mistakes Made by WellMeaning Allies Protecting LGBT Elders 09:30 10:00 Room 4 Room 5 Bisexuals Making Mixed Orientation PANEL: Marriages and Differsexuality Relationships Fabulous Room C Ballroom Transcending Language - A Poetry Workshop! Continuing Discussions PANEL: What's Double Edge: Next? Aging in BDSM and the Queer Transgender Community Continuing Discussions 10:45am ~ Break ~ 11:00am 11:00 Connect, Accept, Respond, Empower Transgender Feminism 101 Changing the Playbook Metamour Intensive 11:45am ~ Break ~ 12:00pm 12:00 Plenary (Ballroom) 13:00 14:00 2:15pm ~ Break ~ 2:30pm 15:00 Polyamory As SelfDetermination Asexuals are Queer, Too! My Naked Self Beyond Binaries: Identity and Sexuality PANEL: Building Long Term Relationships Reclaiming Power-Over Continuing Discussions 3:45pm ~ Break ~ 4:00pm 16:00 EMERGENCY! The Politics of Planning for Sex: Intimacy, Unplanned Power, and Healthcare Control Gender Improv I The Feminist PANEL: Bisexuality 101 Reflecting Our Submissive: Experiences in Reconciling the & Beyond Art Conflict Continuing Discussions 17:00 5:15pm ~ Break ~ 5:30pm 18:00 19:00 Laughter is a SALACIOUS Revolutionary Magazine: The Deviant Bodies Gesture Beginning Lost in the Law? PANEL: Communicatio Affecting Public n for Dating Policy and Scoring Dinner 20:00 SALACIOUS Party / Costume Photography (Second Floor) 21:00 22:00 Transcending Boundaries Costume Dance Party! (Room C) Continuing Discussions Sunday Room 1 Room 2 Room 3 Room 4 Room 5 Room C Ballroom 09:00 Interfaith Service (Room C) 10:00 The United States Prison One Body: Two System Spirits Tearing Us All Apart Queer: One Word, Many Meanings Reconnect your Pleasure Path PANEL: Coming Out / Living Out Burlesque & Gender Continuing Discussions Gender Improv II Continuing Discussions Photography for Every Body Continuing Discussions 11:00 Lunch / Check out 12:00 Lifeguard Workshop 13:00 Kink, Race, and Class PANEL: GenderFluid 1:30pm ~ Break ~ 1:45pm 14:00 Freedom to Connect Using Social Media to Change the World MadFemme Pride Magic Living "Outside the Box" PANEL: Working with Professionals 2:45pm ~ Break ~ 3:00pm 15:00 Final Pannel (Room C) 16:00 Closing Ceremonies (Room C) One-on-One Time Our One-on-One time is your chance to talk to different professionals that support our community. These are people that can offer insight to you in legal, medical, spiritual, and mental health industries. One on one time will be available on a first come-first served basis with some of our wonderful presenters. This is a great opportunity to ask your burning questions or get some resources in a more private setting. Art Space Come express your creativity in our open art space on the Second Floor. We’ll have all kinds of art supplies to allow you to tell your story, share your ideas or just have fun. All are welcome to participate, regardless of perceived artistic ability. There will be space provided to show your creations as well, so don’t be shy. Join us in creating a work of art that transcends boundaries! Special Events Opening Ceremony, 12:00pm Friday Intersex Day of Awareness Intersex Day of Awareness started on October 26, 1996 when a group of intersex activists protested the practice of surgically altering intersex infants outside a pediatrics conference. Since then October 26 has been a day of education and action around issues affecting intersex individuals. Trancending Boundaries acknowledges the importance of recognizing the struggles of intersex individuals in a society obsessed with “normal” bodies and the gender binary. By telling and hearing the stories of intersex people, we hope to diffuse some of the shame and secrecy around intersexuality and help all members of our community become better allies. Birds of a Feather, 5:00pm Friday Spirituality Room 1 - Alex Meet people interested in the intersection between their spirituality, sexuality, gender, and relationsthip. People from all faiths are welcome to bring their insights in navigating this essential parts of our whole. New to TBC and our Communities Room 2 - Ian First time at TBC or even to your own community? Please come by and say hello as we meet each other and share what we know on who is here and what is going on. Parents and Families Room 3 - Aimee Come share the joys and challenges of raising a family, or just being in one. Children are welcome to attend. This meet & greet is open to all, including queer parents and parents of queer children. Little Pins For Sale at the Information Desk Polyamoury Room 4 - Barry & Cathy Smiler New to polyamoury or looking to meet old or new friends, this hour is a time to enjoy and hear from people with multiple partners. Profesionals Room 5 - Melissa By popular demand! Mental health workers, doctors, lawyers, and any other professional that serves our communities are encouraged to attend this meet and greet and networking event. Gain resources throughout the Northeast and beyond, meet your colleagues, and share ideas. Toymakers Room C - Kristen Stubbs People in interested in making their own fun will be getting together to talk design and materials, as well as, just saying hello to other kinky craft people Coat and Bag check at the Information Desk for a Donation to TBC Special Events Friday - Room C - 7:30pm .The Naked I: Wide Open The 20% Theatre Company Claire Avitabile, Anthony Neuman, Katie Burgess, Puck Matz, and Nicole Wilder The Naked I: Wide Open features monologues and short scenes filled with fresh, sexy, humorous, gut-punching, and unbelievably honest and true stories by transgender/gender non-conforming individuals and allies – exploring gender identity far beyond the land of “male” and “female”. The original, fulllength production had its world premiere in Minneapolis in February 2012 to eight completely sold-out audiences, and featured over 50 artists. This “abridged” version is currently touring the country and features a handful of the original performers and writers. Copies of the full script will be for sale after the show. 20% Theatre Company is committed to supporting and vigorously promoting the work of female and transgender theatre artists, and celebrating the unique contribution of these artists to social justice and human rights. For more information please visit www.tctwentypercent.org. Friday - Room C - 9:00pm The Rocky Horror Picture Show The Come Again Players Have fun unwinding after your first day at TBC as we all wait in antici…pation of an exciting weekend to come! The Come Again Players of South Hadley will lead us in the audience-participation cult classic, The Rocky Horror Picture Show. Leave your tossables at home, but feel free to dress as your favorite character (or not), and we’ll all do the Time Warp again! Custom embroiderers who do personalized T-shirts, tanks, hats, towels, blankets, leather bags and various other goods. At vending events, we bring our machines to do on the spot personalization! Also by e-mail we will work with you and do up a special shirt, blanket or leather for that special gift or always wanted to have item. More information write to [email protected] www.NeedlePlayDesign.com Special Events Saturday - Second Floor - 8:00pm Cocktail Party Wrap up your day or gear up for the night. Cocktail time is the chance for the early risers and the late to beds to come together and mingle. It’s our time of transitory transcendence from workshops to bass drops! A chance to order up from the bar and celebrate with new friends. Relax and relate with old ones. Or rev up for the dance party and gear up for the costume contest. Round Table with Rum and Coke? Lasciviousness over Lagers? Whiskey and a whine? Now is the time! It’s the cocktail hour and everyone’s invited!! Saturday - Ballroom - 9:00pm Transcending Boundaries Dance Party We’re so close to Halloween that we just couldn’t resist having TBCs first costume party! This is a perfect opportunity for that costume you always wanted to wear that you feared was too “out there” for other parties. Our photographer will be present to take pictures of you and our beloved MC Lorelei Erisis will be awarding a prize for the best costume. DJ Kelvin spins in the ballroom until midnight! Sunday - Room C - 9:00am Interfaith Service Please join us for an inspiring service of contemplation and celebration. Take the theme of Bringing Us All Together to heart as we transcend our multiple faiths to share with each other through words and ritual. This service will be led by presenters of many faiths, and is open to all, regardless of religion or spiritual persuasion. Even those with no spiritual impulse will find meaning in this community gathering. Sunday - Room C - 3:00pm The Final Panel: The Future of Our Community Ignacio Rivera, Robyn Ochs, maymay, Winter Tashlin, Lorelei Erisis Come join past and present Transcending Boundaries keynote speakers and presenters as they discuss the future of our community. After a weekend spent looking at how our individual sexualities, gender identities and expressions compliment and conflict with each other, our panelists will discuss what they will take away from this year’s conference, and how we can take what we experience in our TBC “bubble” with us all year round. 30 - 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference Biographies 20% Theatre Company/Claire Avitabile Claire Avitabile is an award-winning director and theatre educator, and the founding Artistic Director of 20% Theatre Company in Minneapolis, MN. A graduate of Smith College, cum laude, Phi Beta Kappa, Claires’ passions (and 20% Theatre’s) include the development of new plays and queer theatre, promoting social change through performing arts, and coaching emerging artists. She received her BA in Theatre from Smith College in Northampton, Massachusetts. For 20% Theatre Company, Claire has directed over ten plays, including the sold-out and award-winning productions of Standards of Care and The Naked I: Monologues From Beyond the Binary, both by FTM transgender playwright, Tobias K. Davis, as well as The Naked I: Wide Open which was created by the company in February 2012 and will be touring conference and universities beginning Fall 2012. Presenting: My Naked Self Saturday at 2:30 pm, Room 3 20% Theatre Company/Nicole Wilder Nicole Wilder received her MA in Theatre with an emphasis in Directing and Women’s Studies from Miami University in August 2008. She currently lives and works in Minneapolis, MN as a theatre director, performer, musician and workshop facilitator. Nicole is a company member of 20% Theatre Company, a group of people committed to supporting and vigorously promoting the work of female and transgender theatre artists, and celebrating the unique contribution of these artists to social justice and human rights. Presenting: My Naked Self Saturday at 2:30 pm, Room 3 Andrea Hackl Andrea Hackl is a graduate student with the department of Women’s & Gender Studies at Towson University. An Austrian native, Andrea has gained research experience in Ohio, California, Maryland, Berlin, Salzburg, and Vienna. Her main research interests are the media representation of LGBT individuals and the same-sex marriage movement in the United States. Presenting: Bringing Us All Together?: Implications for Changing Language in the Print Media Discourse of Same-Sex Marriage from 2004-2012 Friday at 1:00 pm, Room 3 Angie Perone I am a civil rights attorney at the National Center for Lesbian Rights in San Francisco. I have assisted transgender and gender non-conforming persons in cases involving discrimination and harassment in work and school. I have also presented workshops through the Transgender 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference - 31 Biographies Rights Project. Presenting: Protecting LGBT Elders Saturday at 9:30 am, Room 3 Panel: What’s Next? Aging in the Queer Community Saturday at 11:00 am, Room 5 Lost in the Law? Legal Rights for Bisexual and Gender or Sexually Fluid Persons Saturday at 5:30 pm, Room 4 Avory Faucette Avory Faucette is a radical genderqueer feminist activist and writer. Zie writes at the blog Radically Queer and is Director of Operations for the National Center for Transgender Equality. Zie is also the founder of QueerFeminism.com. Hir work focuses on intersections of gender, sexuality, and other identities. Zie is particularly interested in non-binary gender and sexuality. Zie is also an award-winning international human rights legal activist with a law degree from the University of Iowa. Presenting: Panel: Consent, Negotiation, and Boundaries Friday at 1:00 pm, Room 5 Deafhood, Transhood: Cultural Identity and Activism Friday at 2:30 pm, Room 4 Panel: Affecting Public Policy — Elections and Beyond Saturday at 5:30 pm, Room 5 Marriage is Not the Movement: Two Young Trans/Queer Activists Talk Strategy Sunday at 12:30 pm, Room 2 Barry and Cathy Smiler have been active in open relationship, sex-positive, personal growth, and activist communities for many years. They are both members of the Polyamory Leadership Network, and former members of the final Board of Directors of the Chesapeake Polyamory Network. Formerly Californians, they now live in Maryland, where they lead and produce events, often through BmorePoly. BmorePoly offers 50-60 events every month throughout the Mid-Atlantic (DC/MD/VA area) and appreciates elements and practices drawn from a wide range of sex-positive traditions and communities, including polyamory, personal growth, intimacy, tantra, swing lifestyle, BDSM, sacred sexuality, the LGBTQ community, political activism, massage, pagans, nudists, and other explorations of alternatives. BmorePoly is only one year old, yet by embracing and emphasizing the common ground underlying all these supposedly disparate traditions and communities, it has grown to become by far the largest and most active such group in the Mid-Atlantic. Presenting: Panel: Consent, Negotiation, and Boundaries Friday at 1:00 pm, Room 5 Panel: What’s Next? Aging in the Queer Community Saturday at 11:00 am, Room 5 Polyamory as Self-Determination Saturday at 2:30 pm, Room 1 Panel: Affecting Public Policy — Elections and Beyond Saturday at 5:30 pm, Room 5 C. Reyn Boyer will be graduating from Towson University in 2013 with her degree in Psychology & LGBT Studies. Presenting: Bringing Us All Together?: Implications for Changing Language in the Print Media Discourse of Same-Sex Marriage from 2004-2012 Friday at 1:00 pm, Room 3 Coyote Too and Zhiva Zhenska – Coyote has a BA in Anthropology, a minor in Psychology and has been studying the anthropologically aspects of relationships since the early 80’s. He first began exploring the BDSM community in the late 80’s. Zhiva focused on Women’s Studies as an undergraduate, and is currently researching gender issues and 32 - 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference Created by 20% Theatre Company from Minneapolis, and featuring the stories of transgender and gender non-conforming artists and allies, The Naked I: Wide Open explores gender far beyond “male” and “female” in a series of fresh, sexy, humorous, gut-punching, and unbelievably honest monologues and short scenes. “It was the most beautiful thing I’ve ever seen in my life. Life-affirming and life-changing... Everyone should hear these stories!” Warning: Adult language, sexual situations, and nudity. Not appropriate for youth. Performance runs approximately 50 minutes and will be followed by a discussion with the artists. www.tctwentypercent.org 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference - 33 in the United States. I love incorporating breath and energy techniques more deeply into my work and life. I recently attended (for the second time!) Dr. Betty Martin’s very powerful “Like a Pro” training on the nature of consent and am developing a number of workshops that deal with this often challenging process. I’m a certified Cuddle Party Facilitator. I am moving into my own full-time practice, and am looking forward to the many different ways of connecting with others. I’m settling into, and embracing, my own identity as a transgendered person (ok, I label me as a co-gendered, bisexual, polyamorous switch!) and it’s proving to be a powerful force in my life. Presenting: Panel: Differ-sexuality: My Life as a ____sexual Saturday at 9:30 am, Room 5 Reconnect Your Pleasure Path Sunday at 10:00 am, Room 4 Panel: Genderfluid: What Does It Mean to You? Sunday at 12:30 pm, Room 5 ual and economic justice. She has been a community organizer, fundraiser, Teamster, bus driver and home repair contractor. Her interests in church work include anti-racism education, class issues, antibullying efforts and diversity work, as well as community outreach. Born and raised Irish Catholic, Dawn became a UU in the early 1990s and has been active in a number of churches in Maine, including Waterville, Allen Ave. in Portland, Ellsworth, and Belfast, which is her home church. She recently completed a year as a student minister at the Universalist Unitarian Church of Haverhill, Massachusetts and is presently working as a carpentry contractor and estate groundskeeper. Presenting: Creating and Educating (Unlikely) Allies Friday at 1:00 pm, Room 2 Panel: Faith and Spirituality Friday at 2:30 pm, Room 5 Panel: Living Multiple Lives: Holding Different/Conflicting Identities Friday at 4:00 pm, Room 5 Dave Serio is currently a graduate student at Wayne State University in Detroit, Michigan studying Middle Eastern Studies. I currently work at the Arab American National Museum in Dearborn, Michigan as an educator where I conduct hundreds of tours and presentations around the Mid-West on both Arab Americans and Islam. Presenting: Panel: Faith and Spirituality Friday at 2:30 pm, Room 5 Islam and Homosexuality Friday at 4:00 pm, Room 1 Dora is an organizer with MadFemmePride, an activist for transgender equality, and just generally a femme-about-town in Boston, Massachusetts, where she lives with her high-school sweetheart and the requisite two cats. Follow her on twitter: @dora_theadora. Presenting: MadFemmePride Magic: Recipe for Hands-On Diverse Queer Community Sunday at 1:30 pm, Room 3 Dawn Fortune is a Unitarian Universalist seminarian at Andover Newton Theological School in Newton Centre, Massachusetts, with an anticipated graduation date of 2014. A longtime activist in GLBTQIA and progressive political causes, Dawn is keenly interested in issues of social, sex- E. Winter/Wintersong Tashlin (www. barkingshaman.com) is an educator, activist, blogger, and shaman who teaches workshops on such diverse topics as queer/LGBT issues, BDSM, pagan spirituality, polyamory, and disabilities. He is associate editor for The Bilerico Project, an LGBT politics & culture blog, as well as an assistant producer/programing director for Dark Odyssey Events. Winter 34 - 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference Biographies has presented workshops for Transcending Boundaries, Five College Queer Gender & Sexuality Conference, QueerPlayCon, Dark Odyssey, Geeky Kink Event, Mass General Hospital, PassionateU, and many others. He has appeared in television documentaries featuring topics such as polyamory, spirituality, and genital integrity in both the United States and Great Britain. His photography has appeared in Salacious Magazine, on the websites of Crash Pad and Fruit Punch Productions, as well as in a number of both pagan and mainstream books. Presenting: The Unintentional Closet: Queer Identity in Hetero-presumptive Situations Friday at 2:30 pm, Room 1 Communication for Dating and Scoring Saturday at 5:30 pm, Room C Living “Outside the Box” Sunday at 1:30 pm, Room 4 Ebs – Through the power of social media and organizing events through madfemmepride, I have found great joy in helping create safe and friendly spaces for queer people. Presenting: MadFemmePride Magic: Recipe for Hands-On Diverse Queer Community Sunday at 1:30 pm, Room 3 Eddie Paradise of Happy Hour Burlesque – Happy Hour Burlesque has been bringing fun and playful body positive burlesque to the stage since 2009. Our shows pull on both classic and neoburlesque traditions, presenting classic teases and talent acts along side modern twists. Eddie Paradise: Fearless Leader of Happy Hour Burlesque, Sex Toy Partys and Education for Oh My in Northampton, MA, part-time fetish model, and amateur burlesque historian. Are you a TR ANSGENDER WOMAN bet ween the ages of 16 and 24? We are looking for young trans women, of any HIV status, to take part in a research study focusing on a variety of health topics, including sexual health. Those who join will be reimbursed for their time. you might be eligible to participate if you are: • A trans woman/On the MTF spectrum • Age 16 to 24 • Sexually active For more information and to see if you are eligible please call or text 617.299.9013 or email us at [email protected]. Visit us at www.ProjectLifeSkills.org 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference - 35 Presenting: Burlesque & Gender Sunday at 10:00 am, Room C Biographies Gunner Scott is the Executive Director of the Massachusetts Transgender Political Coalition (MTPC) and is a nationally recognized activist, educator, and community organizer on Transgender Rights, LGBT health issues, and LGBT partner abuse. In 2011, after 5-year campaign, the Massachusetts legislature passed the Transgender Equal Rights bill; this legislative campaign was lead by MTPC under the direction of Gunner Scott. He holds a BA in Liberal Arts from Goddard College and has written articles for Boston Phoenix, Bay Windows, What’s Up magazine, Sojourner Women’s Forum, “Agitate and Activate”, the introduction to Pinned Down by Pronouns, a 2003 Lambda Literary nominee anthology, and is a co-author on the study and the article in the American Journal of Public Health entitled “Transgender Health in Massachusetts: Results From a Household Probability Sample of Adults.” Presenting: Know Your Rights & The State of Trans Equal Rights Saturday at 9:30 am, Room 1 Panel: Building Long-Term Relationships Saturday at 2:30 pm, Room 5 Ignacio G. Rivera is a Queer, gender fluid, Trans- Entity, Black Boricua performance artist, currently performing skits, spoken word, one-person shows and story-telling internationally. Ignacio is a lecturer/trainer, activist, new filmmaker, sex worker and self-proclaimed sex educator. As a lecturer/ trainer, Ignacio has spoken at home and abroad on such topics of racism, sexism, homo/transphobia, transgender issues, trans 101, sexual liberation, anti-oppression, anti-violence, multi-issue organizing and more. Ignacio currently consultants with various organizations in New York City conduct- ing professional development trainings for NYC high school staff. Ignacio is the founder of Poly Patao Productions. P3 is dedicated to producing sex-positive workshops, performance pieces, films, play parties, panel discussions, social/political groups and educational opportunities that are specially geared toward queer women, transgender, multi-gender, gender-queer, gender non-conforming and gender variant people of color. As a filmmaker Ignacio currently embarked on a film project, “Shades of Kink” a series of educational/ documentary style films around inserting a racial/class/sexuality and gender into the Kink world. Ignacio also has completed two experimental shorts. Their first short is an adult short about moving from normality into kink, called “Crossing” and the other is a short about gender called “They” Both films have been shown at various film festivals across the country. As a sex worker Ignacio is a Pro-dom and is working in the adult film industry. They can be seen in their debut performance in Pink and White Productions, “In Search of The Wild Kingdom” and Morty Diomand’s “Trans Entity: The Nasty Love of Papi and Wil.” Ignacio is also one of the founding board member of Queers for Economic Justice, a progressive non-profit organization committed to promoting economic justice in a context of sexual and gender liberation. Presenting: The Politics of Sex: Intimacy, Power, and 36 - 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference Control Saturday at 4:00 pm, Room 2 Kink, Race, and Class Sunday at 12:30 pm, Room 4 Biographies J.M. Sorrell is the Director of SAGE Western Massachusetts. SAGE is a services and advocacy organization for LGBT older adults, allies and friends. JM identifies as a lesbian who has many non-conforming gender qualities. She is also a Justice of the Peace, and as such has officiated for over 525 lesbian, gay, gender queer, transgender and heterosexual couples in Massachusetts over the last nine years. JM is one of 25 certified trainers from around the country who facilitates curricula from the National Resource Center on LGBT Aging. She believes that patriarchal violence and oppressive rule will continue until gender transcendance and acceptance of the entire spectrum is in place. Presenting: Aging and Ageism Friday at 2:30 pm, Room 2 James O’Deorain is a radical equality activist who resists oppression, prejudice, and marginalization (both of myself and of everyone else). My goals in life are to learn in order to grow, and to grow in order to connect with all life more openly, more creatively, and more intensely. I do this through self-exploration, unpacking my own privilege and internalized oppression, listening carefully to people (especially people who face oppression I don’t), sharing any useful understanding I gain (publicly, via livejournal), practicing compassion, and challenging others to do the same. I feel that there are so many compassionate people who could make beautiful change given the right catalyst. I want to be that catalyst. I also consider creativity to be very important; I consider that if I can’t see a solution, it is because I am not thinking creatively enough yet. Presenting: Panel: Consent, Negotiation, and Boundaries Friday at 1:00 pm, Room 5 How to Create Intimacy with Anyone: Talk and Workshop 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference - 37 Friday at 4:00 pm, Room 3 Panel: Coming Out/Living Out Sunday at 10:00 am, Room 5 Biographies Janie will use any excuse to be superfemme & fearless! Her activism began quietly in the bisexual movement, gained momentum when she helped organize the 2006 Transcending Boundaries conference, and burst forth with madFemmePride 7 years ago. She digs radically inclusive events and LOVES how people of all stripes & genders are creating a femme-centric friendly revolution in Boston!! This is what queer community looks like: www.meetup.com/madfemmepride! :-) Presenting: MadFemmePride Magic: Recipe for Hands-On Diverse Queer Community Sunday at 1:30 pm, Room 3 Jawn is a photographer and musician from Worcester. He has been active in the BDSM community for over a decade. With His Doll is the leader of Reverend Reacharound, an irreverent folk-punk duo. They are also starting an LBGTQIKfriendly photography business, Jawniffer Photography, for event and portrait photography. Jawn can be found online at Jawnhenry.com, Jawniffer.com, ReverendReacharound.com and Heart-ShapedBoy.com. Presenting: Panel: Reflecting Our Experiences in Art Saturday at 4:00 pm, Room 5 Photography for Every Body Sunday at 1:30 pm, Room C Jawn’s Doll has played a number of roles in her life, both literally as she earned her BA in Drama from Ithaca College, and figuratively as she earned her MEd from University of New Hampshire. Her most important role is currently as the owned girl of Jawn. She has recently served as the Director of MAsT Mass (Masters And slaves Together), a monthly discussion and support group for those interested in pursuing hierarchical relationships. She works with Jawn creatively as part of Reverend Reacharound (ReverendReacharound.com) and as a photographer for Jawniffer Photography (Jawniffer.com). She can also be found online at Jawns-doll.com. Presenting: Panel: Living Multiple Lives: Holding Different/Conflicting Identities Friday at 4:00 pm, Room 5 Photography for Every Body Sunday at 1:30 pm, Room C Jennie Steinberg is a Massachusetts licensed mental health counselor specializing in queer and nonconformist issues, as well as self-esteem and life transitions. I own a limited private practice in Lexington, MA and am very excited to be attending my first Transcending Boundaries conference! Presenting: Isms & Phobias: Informing or Ignoring the Ignorant Friday at 4:00 pm, Room 2 5 Common Mistakes Made by WellMeaning Allies Saturday at 9:30 am, Room 2 Panel: Building Long-Term Relationships Saturday at 2:30 pm, Room 5 Panel: Working with Professionals Sunday at 1:30 pm, Room 5 Dr. Joelle Ruby Ryan is currently a Lecturer in Women’s Studies at the University of New Hampshire, where she also sits on the President’s Commission on the Status of Women. She is the Founder of TransGender New Hampshire (TG-NH) and currently sits on the Steering Committee for that organization. She is currently finishing up work on her third autobiographical film, Transilience, and also working on several writing projects. Her major areas of academic and activist interest include: queer, ace and trans rights, feminism, fat studies and fat liberation, sex worker rights, and film/ 38 - 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference Biographies media criticism and production. When not speaking truth to power, she enjoys spending time with her two dogs, tending to her houseplants, eating out, reading, writing and watching movies. Presenting: Transgender Feminism 101 Saturday at 11:00 am, Room 2 Asexuals are Queer Too! Saturday at 2:30 pm, Room 2 Joshua Tenpenny is Raven’s Boy, and his devoted assistant, partner, and slave for life. He is a massage therapist, Shiatsu practitioner, and yoga teacher. He is polymorphously perverse, and finds spiritual fulfillment through any kind of worthy service. Presenting: Panel: Consent, Negotiation, and Boundaries Friday at 1:00 pm, Room 5 Transitioning with a Third Gender Identity Friday at 4:00 pm, Room 4 Double Edge: BDSM and Transgender Saturday at 11:00 am, Room C Reclaiming Power-Over Saturday at 2:30 pm, Room C is a queer, erotic comic artist who fuses art with politics, graphics with sex, and education with visuals as a method of altering societal norms and breaking down preconceived notions of gender and sexuality. Her work throughout New England, and across the country at large, has been called “imaginative,” “ambitious,” “fresh,” and “creative.” Her dogmatic approach to comics and art as a transformative experience sets her apart from other artists. Diamond’s comic-art has been published in Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation (ed. S. Bear Bergman and Kate Bornstein, Seal Press, August 2010). In a creative collaboration with queer vaudevillian cohort Johnny Blazes, Diamond’s comics move to the story-telling level to aid Blazes’ story of genderqueeritude and self-discovery. In April 2010, Diamond decided to embark on a mission to fill a need in the queer feminist community by creating the queer feminist sex magazine, Salacious. Salacious is set apart from its peers by its focus on illustration, high art, and stunning visuals. The first issue launched in January 2011, and the second in May 2011. Salacious Magazine is now an international project, sporting over 90 contributors and an infinite number of supporters, and continues to grow every day. You can learn more about Salacious Magazine at www.salaciousmagazine.com Additionally, Diamond’s anatomical drawings can be found in Tristan Taormino’s The Secrets of Great G-Spot Orgasms and Female Ejaculation: The Best Positions and Latest Techniques for Creating Powerful, Long-Lasting, Full-Body Orgasms (Quayside). In March 2012, Diamond’s illustrations will be featured in The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge (ed. Tristan Taormino, Cleis Press). Working from photo and book reference material, Diamond worked to create succinct and sexy instructional drawings that highlight and emphasize the text within. In addition kd diamond 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference - 39 Biographies to drawing and designing to her heart’s content, Diamond teaches a multitude of classes and workshops. You can find those classes listed here. Presenting: Panel: Reflecting Our Experiences in Art Saturday at 4:00 pm, Room 5 SALACIOUS Magazine: The Beginning Saturday at 5:30 pm, Room 2 Kelli Dunham (kellidunham.com) is everyone’s favorite ex-nun genderqueer nerd comic. Kelli was one of Velvet Park Magazine’s 25 Significant Queer Women of 2011 and author of four books of humorous non-fiction, including two children’s books being used by Sonlight conservative home schooling association in their science curriculum. Kelli has performed nationwide at LGBT pride events (Seattle, Long Beach CA, Rhode Island, Baltimore, Atlanta), colleges (University of Delaware, Penn State University, Smith College, Temple University, Colorado State University) and even the occasional livestock auction. Both her comedy CDs, “I am NOT a 12 Year Old Boy” and “Almost Pretty” are on regular rotation on Sirius Satellite Radio’s mainstream comedy station and she has appeared on Showtime and the Discovery Network. Kelli was the winner of the 2007 Fresh Fruit Festival Award of Distinction for stand up comedy, although she has never before or since been called distinguished. Kelli recently returned from a 12 day, 10 city tour of the Southern States via Megabus which included a 2 AM encounter with a pick-up truck full of homophobes in a Montgomery Alabama Speedy Check Cashing Parking Lot and an even scarier encounter with Sarah Palin. Kelli’s third comedy CD “Freak of Nurture: Why Is The Fat One Always Angry” is making its mad mad way to a New York release this fall. Presenting: Panel: Building Long-Term Relationships Saturday at 2:30 pm, Room 5 EMERGENCY! Planning for Unplanned Healthcare Saturday at 4:00 pm, Room 1 Laughter as a Revolutionary Gesture: Humor as Self-Care Saturday at 5:30 pm, Room 1 Kelly Kroehle, MSW is the Program Coordinator at The Bryson Institute of The Attic Youth Center in Philadelphia. An Ohio native, they studied Gender Studies and LGBTQ Studies at the University of Wisconsin-Madison before earning a Masters of Social Work at the University of Pennsylvania. A lifelong advocate of thoughtful dialogue as a means of understanding difference, Kelly is a skilled facilitator with a practical understanding of social and organizational change that is grounded in best practices. As Program Coordinator, they work with and on behalf LGBTQ youth to facilitate Out. Proud. Safe. Get Tested. STI & Rapid HIV Testing. Amherst • Great Barrington • Greenfield • Holyoke North Adams • Northampton • Pittsfield • Springfield 413-586-2016 40 - 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference Biographies workshops and trainings that lend themselves to cultures of respect and support throughout the region. In their spare time, they love barbecue, crosswords, and laughter. Presenting: Queer: One Word, Many Meanings Sunday at 10:00 am, Room 3 Dr. Kristen Stubbs is a queer, pansexual, kinky roboticist who’s more interested in people than in technology. She is an aspiring maker who enjoys learning from other geeks, makers and hackers (regardless of whether they identify as kinky) and from other sex-positive and kinkpositive people (regardless of whether they identify as makers or geeks). Kristen blogs at The Toymaker Project about technological empowerment with respect to sexuality, gender and pleasure: How can we make, hack or adapt technology to serve our wants and needs? Kristen’s life goal is to empower other people to find out more about themselves and become toy makers and hackers, too. Presenting: Queering Role in BDSM Play Friday at 4:00 pm, Room C Changing the Playbook — Negotiating Asexual/Sexual Relationships Saturday at 11:00 am, Room 3 Panel: Coming Out/Living Out Sunday at 10:00 am, Room 5 Lorelei Erisis – The super fabulous Lorelei Erisis is a transgender performer, writer, activist, adventurer and Pageant Queen. She received extensive training in improvisation and sketch comedy at the renowned Second City in Chicago and Los Angeles and has performed all across the country including as the Emcee of the Noho Pride Celebration! She is also a director,teacher and independent filmmaker. She is especially proud to have directed and performed with The Fully Functional Players in Los Angeles, the first and only all-transgender improv group in the country! In addition to her Second City training she has also studied at a number of other theater workshops and schools, including an apprenticeship in Pantomime and movement with Ryszard Choroszy, the assistant to and disciple of the great Polish artist Henryk Tomaszewski, the founder and director of the Wroclaw Mime Theatre. Follow her blog on The Web at: transprov.wordpress. com and watch out for her monthly column: “Ask A TransWoman” in The Rainbow Times!!! Slaínte! Presenting: Gender Improv 1 Saturday at 4:00 pm, Room 3 Panel: Affecting Public Policy — Elections and Beyond Saturday at 5:30 pm, Room 5 Gender Improv 2 Sunday at 12:30 pm, Room C 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference - 41 Biographies Lori Desrosiers is a bi, poly poet whose experience is in encouraging youth and adults to write through trauma or to gain insight into their poetic selves. She has a book of poetry, The Philosopher’s Daughter soon to be released by Salmon Poetry and a chapbook, Three Vanities from Pudding House Press. She has been involved in Split this Rock political poetry festival in Washington, DC and is chair this year for the November 30/30 poetry challenge to benefit the Center for New Americans in Northampton, MA. She has conducted workshops at the Austin International Poetry Festival and New England College’s MFA program. She edits and publishes a journal of narrative poetry, Naugatuck River Review. Presenting: Transcending Language — A Poetry Workshop! Saturday at 9:30 am, Room C Panel: Reflecting Our Experiences in Art Saturday at 4:00 pm, Room 5 Maggie Cee is an artist, activist, dancer, and educator committed to community and social change. She is the founder and artistic director of The Femme Show, a groundbreaking touring variety show about queer femme identity. Onstage, Maggie strives to offer provocative, inspiring performances and writings. In addition to the Femme Show, she been seen at MondoHomo, the HOT Festival at Dixon Place in New York City, the 2008 and 2012 Femme Conferences, and the Stonewall Inn. Her writing has appeared in anthologies including Second Person Queer from Arsenal Pulp Press. Dance and choreography credits include Big Moves, Ballet Rox, the Boston Children’s Dance Festival, and Dances in Black and White at the Schubert Theatre. She is the 2011 recipient of the History Project’s Lavender Rhino Award for an emerging LGBT history maker. Presenting: MadFemmePride Magic: Recipe for Hands-On Diverse Queer Community Sunday at 1:30 pm, Room 3 Mark Rheault has a lifetime interest in the psychology of variations in gender identity and sexual orientation. In addition to presenting workshops on bisexuals and their relationships at regional conferences, Mark is involved with several support groups helping others understand the joys of living life authentically as a bisexual with the ones we love. Presenting: Bisexuals Making Mixed Orientation Marriages and Relationships Fabulous Saturday at 9:30 am, Room 4 Panel: Coming Out/Living Out Sunday at 10:00 am, Room 5 Panel: Genderfluid: What Does It Mean to You? Sunday at 12:30 pm, Room 5 Matt is a graduate student in mathematics who identifies as asexual, kinky, and genderqueer. Presenting: Changing the Playbook — Negotiating Asexual/Sexual Relationships Saturday at 11:00 am, Room 3 – Formerly a free software programmer “by day” and a sexual freedom advocate “by night,” Maymay has been an outspoken member of kinky, queer communities since 2002. Now a fulltime activist, writer, and public speaker, he frequently examines cultural and political issues ranging from censorship to community building and beyond on his blog at maybemaimed.com. Using an interdisciplinary approach that treats sexuality as a lens on the rest of life, Maymay also hosts the Internet talk show KinkOnTap.com, authors the explicit photography blog MaleSubmissionArt.com, and founded the all-ages KinkForAll.org series of sexuality education unconferences. Since its inception in New York City in 2009, educators and activists brought KinkForAll to 6 cities across America including Washington, DC and San Franmaymay 42 - 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference Biographies cisco. He currently volunteers as the Chair of the Technology Special Committee for Conversio Virium, America’s oldest student-run BDSM education group. Maymay’s seminars have been featured at conferences from coast to coast, and he regularly injects sex-positivity into each and every community he geeks out with. His presentations, lectures, and workshops focus on queer identity and experience, sexuality, media and censorship, gender (with a focus on masculinity), technology, and especially the intersection of these things. As a social justice technologist, maymay rallies hackers, Makers, DIY enthusiasts, environmentalists, and myriad other groups to support sex-positive feminism. As a sexual freedom activist, maymay works to connect enclaves of the sex-positive movement with one another through the power of the Internet and social networking. As a sexually submissive man himself, maymay is also known for challenging deeplyheld beliefs about “kinky” sex by exploring common visual depictions of sexually dominant women, and especially submissive men. His work has been featured by the internationally-distributed counterculture publication Filament Magazine, feminist books such as Reclaiming the F Word, and academic works like Playing on the Edge: Sadomasochism, Risk, and Intimacy. Maymay’s theorizing draws heavily from the free and open-source software movement, whose principles of transparency, accessibility, and diversity underpin everything he does. Presenting: Internet Safety for Sexually Vocal Laypeople Friday at 2:30 pm, Room 3 Panel: Differ-sexuality: My Life as a ____sexual Saturday at 9:30 am, Room 5 Freedom to Connect: Polyamory as a Social Network of Compassion-Moving Devices Sunday at 1:30 pm, Room 1 THE UNITED CHURCH OF CHRIST (UCC) has Open and Affirming congrgations that offer God’s Extravagant Welcome to people who are transgender, lesbian, gay, bisexual, same-gender loving or questioning For information about LGBT Concerns And to find an Open and Affirming Church In Massachusetts Go to www.macucc.org 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference - 43 Biographies M. Paz Galupo is Professor of Psychology and Director of LGBT Studies at Towson University. Presenting: Bringing Us All Together?: Implications for Changing Language in the Print Media Discourse of Same-Sex Marriage from 2004-2012 Friday at 1:00 pm, Room 3 Raven Kaldera is a queer FTM transgendered intersexual shaman. He is the author of too many books to list here, including Dark Moon Rising: Pagan BDSM and the Ordeal Path and Dear Raven and Joshua: Questions and Answers About Master/Slave Relationships. He and his slaveboy Joshua have been teaching and presenting workshops regularly for many years to the BDSM, Neo-Pagan, Sex/ Spirituality, transgender, and other communities. ‘Tis an ill wind that blows no minds. Presenting: Panel: Faith and Spirituality Friday at 2:30 pm, Room 5 Transitioning with a Third Gender Identity Friday at 4:00 pm, Room 4 Double Edge: BDSM and Transgender Saturday at 11:00 am, Room C Reclaiming Power-Over Saturday at 2:30 pm, Room C Rebecca Crane is an unrepentant relationship anarchist who has been doing education and activism around consensual non-monogamy since the age of 15. She attended the very first Transcending Boundaries as a teenager in 2001 and is excited to be back in 2012. A sociologist and social justice advocate, she is particularly interested in how individuals negotiate healthy and empowering intimate relationships within the context of larger social structures. Rebecca has traveled to seven continents, has a weakness for tiny cupcakes, and wants to Queer All the Things! Presenting: Metamour Intensive Saturday at 11:00 am, Room 4 Deviant Bodies: Intersections in Body Policing for Fat Folx and Trans* Folx Saturday at 5:30 pm, Room 3 Rebecca Papadinis: is a mental health therapist with a MEd in Professional Counseling and Human Development. I work as an outpatient clinician for a community mental health agency. Prior to moving to New England I was in private practice in central Kentucky and was the only therapist in the region who specialized in LGBT issues for adults, children and families. Presenting: 5 Common Mistakes Made by WellMeaning Allies Saturday at 9:00:30 am, Room 2 Richard Dedor – I make my home in New York City, where I operate my training and coaching company. Through all my experiences, I have come to believe that each of us has the ability to overcome any obstacle we encounter; in addition to having a positive impact on those around us. I have spent the last ten years volunteering for community groups, working in politics and the non-profit sector, and currently spends his time consulting companies on their social media tactics 44 - 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference Biographies and execution. When I was 18, I ran for mayor of Mason City, Iowa, a town of 30,000. The campaign propelled me into the national spotlight. I finished third, but proclaimed on election night that it had been a victory. I hold a degree in public relations and have written one book, Anything is Possible. Presenting: Using Social Media to Change the World Sunday at 1:30 pm, Room 2 Robyn Ochs is an international speaker, award-winning activist and the editor of the quarterly publication Bi Women and the 42-country anthology, Getting Bi: Voices of Bisexuals Around the World. Her writings have been published in numerous bi, women’s studies, multicultural, and LGBQ anthologies, and she has taught courses on LGBT history and politics. An advocate for the rights of people of ALL orientations and genders to live safely, openly and with full legal equality, Robyn’s work focuses on increasing awareness and understanding of complex identities, and mobilizing people to be powerful allies to one another within and across identities and social movements. She has served proudly on the Board of Directors of MassEquality since 2003. Presenting: Panel: What’s Next? Aging in the Queer Community Saturday at 11:00 am, Room 5 Beyond Binaries: Identity and Sexuality Saturday at 2:30 pm, Room 4 Bisexuality 101 & Beyond Saturday at 4:00 pm, Room 4 Rev. Spence C. PeaceMaker WayaCrier Carver, MPA, MSW, WV Licensed Graduate Social Worker: aka TwoSpirit – Male-Bodied, Poly, Bisexual, Sexually/Gender Fluid. WV State Psychiatric Hospital Social Worker. Social Sciences 19+ years. Founder/Co-President of all-volunteer gender/sexual diversity nonprofit - Rainbow Community Center, Inc. 16+ years. Co-founder of Two Spirits of WV. Member - Appalachian American Indians of WV. Presented in January 2012 at the Creating Change Conference, and July 2012 at the Gender Spectrum Conference. Professionally spoken/taught all levels preschool to higher education publicly and as instructor. Presenting: One Body: Two Spirits — Native American Honoring of Multiple Gender Traditions Sunday at 10:00 am, Room 2 Wes Nemenz is the Education Manager - East for the Trevor Project, the nation’s leading suicide prevention and crisis intervention organization for LGBTQ youth. Wes oversees education initiatives for the Trevor Project, including the coordination and presentation of hundreds of workshops and trainings a year. Wes’s previous experiences include presenting hundreds of workshops and trainings on creating safer spaces for LGBTQ individuals in New York schools and professional environments, coordinating youth programs at an LGBTQ community center and developing social media strategies for non-profit organizations. Prior to moving to New York, Wes worked with Equality North Carolina on their grassroots campaign to successfully pass the School Violence Prevention Act, the South’s first-ever LGBT-inclusive antibullying bill. Wes graduated from the University of North Carolina at Greensboro with a BA in Communication Studies and Public Relations. Presenting: Connect, Accept, Respond, Empower: Supporting LGBTQ Youth Saturday at 11:00 am, Room 1 Lifeguard Workshop Sunday at 12:30 pm, Room 3 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference - 45 IN LOVING MEMORY ALICE “BADGER” WASHBURN 02/21/1967 – 12/26/2011 Science Fiction conventions And Specially the Transcending Boundaries Conference will never be the same without you. ALL YOUR FRIENDS MISSED YOU! The world is changing and so is the Transcending Boundaries Conference. We need new leaders to join our organizers to plan the next conference. Please email [email protected] for more information on joining the team. 46 - 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference Sponsors Gold Aimee K. Bouchard BitSmith Technology Group Jawniffer Photography Bronze Dignity/Boston Melissa J. Kaplan LMHC Community New England Leather Alliance Rainbow Tom Limoncelli Vendors Cosmetic and Wellness Center - Dr. Martorell Inciting Defiance Independent Psychotherapist Keshet MKT Productions - Chaotic Kiss Amarez Jewelz Advertizers At First Glance Publishing Fenway Health Sarah Lemons Jennie Steinberg, LMHC, LLC United Church of Christ - Open and Affirming Churches 2012 Transcending Boundaries Conference - 47 Accessibility Transcending Boundaries is committed to hosting a conference that is accessible to all community members. This page is a reference for all attendees to foster that goal. Stress Management Transcending Boundaries can be a loud, exciting and busy experience. People from all over the country are convening on the Mass Mutual Center for a weekend of education, fun and community organizing around a multitude of issues and identities. While this is absolutely fabulous, it does mean that attendees need to take gentle care of themselves to avoid stress and have a truly pleasant experience. TBC has set up one (1) quiet zone, located on the 2nd floor at the landing. This space is for decompression, relaxation and stress management. Listening For the convenience of speech-readers, we set aside blue stripe seats front and center in every workshop room. Workshop participants use microphones in the larger workshop rooms. Breathing Transcending Boundaries Conference is a chemical-free, scent-free conference. This means that the conference requests that all participants refrain from wearing perfume, cologne and other fragrances, and use unscented personal care products in order to promote a fragrance-free environment. MOBILITY AND ORIENTATION Each of the conference workshop rooms is outfitted with blue painters tape marking space for wheelchair users to efficiently access and use the space. Additionally, chairs placed on blue lined space are intended for those with visual or hearing needs. Allies: How Everyone Contributes to an Accessibile Con One of the greatest ways to make Transcending Boundaries accessible to people with disabilities is to educate ourselves, regardless of disability status on how to be an ally. When in doubt, remember that ‘person first’ is the best way to go. Disability is only part of a person’s life and story, and getting to know them rather than focus on their disability/ies goes a long way to being an ally. • Don’t ask intrusive questions, however well-intentioned. Questions about medical conditions and personal health can be irritating, exhausting and demeaning. • Don’t assume people with disabilities want or need fixing. • Offer help--don’t assume it’s needed. Most of us are taught to “help the handicapped” but not “does this person want and/or need help?” If you think someone needs assistance, just ask. If they say yes, don’t make assumptions; instead listen to the details of what the person with disabilities wants. If they say “no thanks” don’t be offended. What might look overly complicated or inefficient can be what that person with a disability finds works best. • Ignore service dogs while they’re working. Do not pet, feed, or interact with them. If you would like to interact with a service dog, please ask the handler first. Respect a no answer! There are lots of reasons a person may not wish for you to interact with their service dog. • Respect the blue lined space marking accessible locales for people with visual, hearing or mobility needs. Jawniffer Photography Proud photographers of the Transcending Boundaries Conference We are LGBTQIK-friendly photographers for all your event and portrait needs. Available for reasonable travel from the Central Massachusetts area. Let us help to capture your special moments! Contact us for select TBC rates. [email protected] [email protected]