Strategies for Helping Anxious Children
Strategies for Helping
Greenwich Public Schools SES Workshop
Krystina Dawson, M.S.Ed.
Nancy McGraw, NCSP
Your brain is built to deal with stress that lasts about 30
seconds. The brain is not designed for long term stress when
you feel like you have no control.
The saber-toothed tiger ate you or you ran away but it was all
over in less than a minute.
If you have a bad boss, the saber-toothed tiger can be at your
door for years, and you begin to deregulate.
If you are in a bad marriage, the saber-toothed tiger can be in
your bed for years, and the same thing occurs.
Types of Anxiety
Definition: when a person worries
excessively about a variety of
everyday problems for at least 6
Women 2x as likely as men to be
affected; GAD affects 6/8 million
adults (3.1% of the U.S. pop.)
Disorder comes on gradually; risk is
highest between childhood and
Affects about 2.2 million American
Both men and women impacted
equally; usually appears in
childhood, adolescence, or early
● Frequent thoughts of
● Thoughts of harming
● Thoughts prohibited by
● Preoccupation with order
Characterized by sudden attacks of
Usually produce a sense of
unreality, fear of losing control
Twice as common in women as
men; attacks often begin in late
adolescence or early adulthood
≠ Panic Disorder
Fear of these previously
Develops after a terrifying
occurrence that involved physical
harm or the threat of physical harm
● May startle easily
● Emotionally numb
● Lose interest in things
they used to enjoy
● Difficulty feeling affection
Traumatized person ≠ PTSD
Symptoms must last >1 month
Women are more likely to develop
PTSD than men; affect approx. 7.7
million American adults
● Avoid reminders of the
Types of Phobias
● Agoraphobia (open spaces
Intense, irrational fear of something
that poses little to no actual danger
● Claustrophobia (tight
● Bibliophobia (books)
2x more common in women than
men; 19.2 million adult Americans
● Germophobia (sicks)
● Isolophobia (being alone)
● Enochlophobia (crowds)
● Laliophobia (speaking)
● Polyphobia (many things)
● Scolionophobia (school)
For children with normal separation anxiety, there are steps you
Characterized by extreme anxiety
and distress upon separation from
parents or from other familiar
can take to make the process of separation anxiety easier.
Practice separation. Leave your child with a caregiver
for brief periods and short distances at first.
Schedule separations after naps or feedings. Babies
are more susceptible to separation anxiety when they’re
tired or hungry.
Develop a “goodbye” ritual. Rituals are reassuring and
can be as simple as a special wave through the window
or a goodbye kiss.
Keep familiar surroundings when possible and make
new surroundings familiar.Have the sitter come to your
Exaggerated worries about
something bad happening to their
parents, or their loved ones or they
might worry about being lost or
kidnapped- they might refuse to be
alone or go to school.
house. When your child is away from home, let him or
her bring a familiar object.
Have a consistent primary caregiver. If you hire a
caregiver, try to keep him or her on the job.
Leave without fanfare. Tell your child you are leaving
and that you will return, then go —don’t stall.
Minimize scary television. Your child is less likely to be
fearful if the shows you watch are not frightening.
Try not to give in. Reassure your child that he or she
will be just fine—setting limits will help the adjustment to
● Profuse sweating
(Social Anxiety Disorder)
Overwhelming anxiety and excessive
self-consciousness in everyday social
Chronic fear of being watched and
judged by others
● Difficulty talking
Can be limited to one situation or
generalized and broad
Both men and women affected equally;
approx. 15 million American adults
PSYCHOLOGICAL INTERVENTIONS (individual and groupbased)
● Psychoeducation – learning about it, shaping parental
responses, normalize the problem.
Somatic management skills
Exposure – gradual, repeated prolonged
Cognitive restructuring – identify automatic anxious thoughts,
challenge accuracy, formulate alternative cognitions
Emotional regulation using humor, competing emotions, using
Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT)
Eli Lebowitz –Yale Child Study Center presentation April 2013
● progressive muscle relaxation
● diaphragmatic breathing
● guided imagery
● Be Informed
● Benefits and risks should be evaluated
● Careful monitoring is recommended via ongoing
communication with others
What can parents do?
● ongoing communication and collaboration with school
and community-based professionals
● acknowledgment and reassurance
● praise and positive reinforcement
● routine and structure; plan for transitions
● anticipate triggers and have a plan … be proactive
What can parents do? (continued)
● Encourage “Feeling good” activities
● Teach Problem-Solving strategies
● Challenge unhelpful thoughts
Anxiety in Children: How Parents Can Help – Kathy Eugster- Vancouver, BC
● Establish check-ins on arrival
● Identify a “safe” place
● Relaxation techniques/self-regulation strategies
● Journaling to build independence
● Praise and reinforcement
Anxiety in Children: How Parents Can Help – Kathy Eugster- Vancouver, BC www.kathyeugster.
Eli Lebowitz – Yale Child Study Center Speaker Series: Anxiety – April 2013
Anxiety Disorders. (n.d.). Retrieved December 5, 2015, from http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/anxietydisorders/index.shtml?rf=53414
● Anxiety Treatment Center of Greenwich www.
● Child Guidance Center of Southern Connecticut www.
● Family Centers www.familycenters.org 203-869-4848