self worth - Sean Covey.com

PARENTS
SELF-WORTH
Dear Mask-Wearer:
I did a little research this weekend (at the mall) and witnessed dozens of
couples with bad skin, love handles and stretch marks in love. The conclusion:
stretch marks aren’t holding you back—it’s you! You’re so used to dismissing
yourself that you never give anyone a chance.
Here’s how you turn this around: work to accumulate great qualities. Add
one good quality each month (work out, get involved, volunteer, learn to listen,
etc.). In 12 months you’ll have 12 more good qualities, and so on. The more
good qualities you accumulate, the more you can smile about.
You are attractive. You are worthy of the best. Love yourself today—others will
learn how to love you tomorrow and forever.
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So, which road is it going to be, the high or the low? I’d recommend taking
the high road by looking to the true mirror, building character and competence, and accepting yourself as a work in progress.
SELF-WO RTH
• “See” your best self
• Build your character
and competence
• Learn to like yourself, flaws and all
• Obsess over the
opinions of others
• Do nothing to improve yourself
• Be hyper-critical about your every imperfection
1. Make a copy of Audrey Hepburn’s “Beauty Tips” and post it on your
mirror.
2. The next time someone calls you a name, respond with Pee-wee Herman’s
famous line, “I know you are, but what am I?” Be prepared to get smacked
when you do this.
3. Make a list of your best talents and skills. Now add one more thing to that list you’d like to develop.
New talent or skill I want to develop:
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4. The next time you mess up, try the four-fold principle. Make up for your
mistake times four.
5. For five days in a row, do one small act of service for someone who needs
it. Check the boxes as you complete them and watch how good you feel.
Day 1
Day 2
Day 3
Day 4
Day 5
6. What is the most significant accomplishment of your life? Record how it
Building a healthy self-worth doesn’t mean you won’t ever get hurt or feel
insecure. It simply means that you have a strong immune system that can
fight the germs life sends your way. Be like a peach. Peaches are sweet and
delicious on the outside, but have a solid pit on the inside. We shouldn’t be
afraid to give and receive love, to be open and vulnerable. We may get hurt
from time to time but we can deal with it, because we have a solid, unflappable core beneath, a core that can’t be broken.
I hope to see you on the high road soon!
C O M I N G ATTR A C TIONS
The final chapter is all about pirates and hobbits. (Weird combination, wouldn’t you
say?) It’s also really short. Three more pages and you’re done. Congrats!
made you feel when you accomplished it.
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7. Hold a day of integrity. For one whole day,
be totally honest in all your dealings. Don’t
lie, cheat, exaggerate, or gossip. Keep all
your commitments. See how whole it makes
you feel.
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8. Name five things that you believe or have faith in.
1. __________________________________________________________________________________
2.___________________________________________________________________________________
3.___________________________________________________________________________________
4.___________________________________________________________________________________
5.___________________________________________________________________________________
9. For three consecutive days, count how many servings of fruits
and vegetables you eat. If you’re not getting five or more,
make adjustments to your diet.
Servings of fruits and veggies
Day 1 ______________________________________________________________
Day 2 ________________________________________________________________
Day 3 ___________________________________________________________________
10. Think through the first five most important decisions you’ll ever make:
School, Friends, Parents, Dating and Sex, and Addictions. Which one are
you struggling with most? Make up your mind to start making better
decisions today in that area.