LGBT News - Morongo Basin Ombudsman
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LGBT News - Morongo Basin Ombudsman
LGBT News SEPT. 2009 Harris, 1996 It was 1996. 16-year-old Daniel Harris an honor student, Life Scout, & Yucca Valley Youth Commissioner, bravely acknowledged to a classmate that he was gay. Word spread like a virus at Yucca Valley High School. He endured the ensuing six months of relentless physical and verbal assaults while his pleas for help were sanctimoniously ignored at every level. Ten years later, when sophomore Bennett Hubbard came out, the barbaric attitudes toward gay kids still infected YVHS. In the decade between the experiences of Daniel and Bennett, Paul Cook became Yucca Valley Mayor then on to the State Assembly where he crusaded for a barrage of anti-gay legislation, notably SB777, sought to ‘protect’ students from exposure to “an unbalanced amount of discussion of alternative lifestyles,” and guarantees the right to oppose such lifestyles. With leadership driving policy like this, the result trickles down to a school where cruelty and violence against gay kids is tolerated. Daniel’s story next column. Bennett’s story next page. How was it that no one in Yucca Valley stood up for what is right while this kid was brutally & routinely beaten for being gay? MORONGO BASIN UNIFIED SCHOOL DISTRICT—For Daniel Harris, Yucca Valley will forever carry a legacy of cruelty, intolerance & crimes against kids. Two local cases demonstrate the slow rate of progress in a place where leadership permits or ignores the plight of gay youth trying to get an education in a hostile, close-minded environment. For Daniel Harris, class of 1996, and Bennett Hubbard, class of 2007, Yucca Valley High School represents such an environment. Surely these aren’t the only two alumni with such memories. Daniel’s story originally broke in 1996 in The Guide magazine. He was a popular achiever before he gave an honest answer to a bully who asked if he was gay. Everything changed the day the skinny 16-year-old came out. He was brutally and routinely beaten, spat on, shunned and bullied yet somehow his dire situation went unnoticed or was tolerated by school administrators. His computer programming instructor one day devoted class to the subject of gender appropriate behavior. Demonstrating what he’d do were he to witness gay behavior, he placed a piece of wood on his desk and smashed it with a bat. The threat was not lost on Daniel who petitioned the Yucca Valley Youth Council to address homophobia at the school. The group’s adult advisor told him there wasn’t a need in Yucca Valley. The same day a group of 4 or 5 youths used their skateboards to beat Daniel bloody. CONTINUED NEXT PAGE l o o h c S o Back t UE ISS Covering Morongo Basi Basin n’s queerest news & topics. INSIDE September Gay (& Lesbian) Matinee Out & About Men’s Pot Luck, Plus a real scary Halloween Party for Boys, Girls, You & Your Tricks! Situation at School Dire for Many Gay Youth The Gay, Lesbian & Straight Education Network (GLSEN) last year released their National School Survey of 6,209 middle & high school students. Key Survey Findings + 86.2% of LGBT students reported verbal harassment.. + 44.1% reported being physically harassed and 22.1% reported being physically assaulted at school. + 73.6% heard anti-gay slurs often, some as much as 26X a day or once every 14 minutes. + More than half (60.8%) reported feeling unsafe in school because of their sexual orientation. + 32% missed school in the past month due to fear, verbal threats or physical violence. + In the U.S., gay teens are often subjected to such intense bullying they’re unable to receive an adequate education. + 28% drop out, more than 3X the national average. + Gay youth are 2 to 3X more likely to attempt suicide. + 4 in 5 LGBT youth say they don’t know a single supportive adult they can turn to. Find how to help defend YV kids at: www.GLSEN.org School’s legacy of complacency puts gay youth at dire risk CONTINUED FROM PAGE 1 The attack occurred right outside the Yucca Valley Community Center. For Daniel, these indignities paled compared to what happened March 7, 1996. That day he was called before an impromptu trial of 6 adults who had arranged themselves along one side of a long table, a single chair meant for Daniel opposite. His tormenters included his Scout Master from Yucca Valley Boy Scout Troop 80 and leaders from the local Mormon stake. Daniel, sobbing, and denied representation, says he “pleaded for a chance to finish my Eagle.” Calling the youth a ‘sinner’ and an ‘abomination’, the misguided ’leaders’ expelled Daniel from Scouting because he is gay. Asked why he didn’t press charges or seek damages, Daniel explained, “I had no one to turn to. I thought, ‘because I’m gay, this must be what I deserve.’” The relentless abuse meant Daniel’s family couldn’t remain in denial about his sexuality. Concern for the boy’s safety and education forced his parents to move him outside of the Morongo Unified School District to continue his education. Today Daniel lives in Nevada with his partner. “Far away from backward old Yucca Valley,” he says. Fast forward 10 years to Bennett Hubbard, YVHS Class of 2007. Teachers and administrators have come and gone. The Student Handbook has seen the addition of sexual orientation to the list of characteristics against which threats and violence will not be tolerated. Hubbard, realizing he’s gay, comes out to his friends. Bennett best describes his experience in a letter, excerpted below, he submitted to Carpe Diem, a YVHS student periodical from 2006-07. ...Yucca Valley High School has crusaded against a myriad of... concepts … However, one issue the administration has to continued to neglect is harassment of gay, lesbian, and bi-sexual students. Being a gay student, I have faced humiliation and bigotry... I hope (my story) will give you an impression of how far our school must go to end hate. I came out my sophomore year... (It was) a huge step, and (I) felt everyone would be proud that I found sol- Back l Schoo What can we do to help? We should be able to guarantee a safe and respectful learning environment for all Morongo Basin youth. When students, teachers, administrators and the community look the other way it gives bullies the green light to spread threats and terror. ace. However, I was a naïve 15-year-old, and unprepared for the consequences... I was harassed on a daily basis... I can’t count how many times I have been called inconsiderate, derogatory words, and still face this to this day. Many people don’t know how this feels, and it is hard for me to describe the pain and sorrow these that actions have caused. … I have never suffered physical harm due to my sexual orientation, but the pain I have undergone due to peoples’ hate has been enough. I don’t know why people decide to be so malicious, because there is no need for hate, especially in a learning environment. What troubles me even more is that the administration has become complacent when fighting hate due to sexual preference. If our school put as much pressure on this issue as it does others, many people would be given referrals, and even expelled according to Education Code Bennett, now 20 48900.3... perhaps too many for the administration to handle. ..., there is no excuse for this blatant harassment. I urge that everyone who reads this letter help stop this epidemic by advising friends and classmates to not use anti-gay remarks or language. There may be no way to end hate, but we can impede it and make this school a safer place for all students. Thank you, Bennett Hubbard For Ben, the Student Handbook revision only confirmed the administration’s willingness to look the other way when anti-gay bullying was involved. “It went in the Handbook, but the administration did nothing about the harassment, not even a slap on the wrist,” he said. “It was unbearable and it opened my eyes to how backward the school is.” “I have to wonder if the neglect is district wide,” he questions. “Or if it is confined to Yucca Valley High School?” Described by a former teacher as having "the highest academic ethics" and "a model student," this extraordinarily articulate young man will put Yucca Valley behind him to pursue international studies and German, with an emphasis in Scandinavian language and culture, at the University of Oregon. For every LGBT youth targeted for anti-gay harassment, four straight youth reported harassment for being perceived as gay or lesbian. Send a letter to the Hi-Desert Star or Desert Trail. Email the school board. Introduce the topic on Z107.7’s “Up Close” program at 760-366-8471, Fri days 10 to 11 am. Let people know that this community isn’t willing to tolerate terror unchecked at the school. Remind folks that with respect to their religious views or opinions of homosexuality, anyone can see it’s wrong to look the other way while these youths are being brutalized. AWARE Last month, a few of AWARE club’s more than 40 members met for a planning session. Clockwise from left Tony Thacker, Matthew Pavesic, Club President Lynda Herrington, Faculty Advisor Mike Danza, Linda Ross & Tim Thompson. Back l Schoo LGBT Ne Newss A historical correction - We folk up here in Morongo Basin refer to this area as the Hi Desert… just the H and the I. The moniker “High Desert” refers to the VictorvilleHesperia-Apple Valley desert. Although they are similar in altitude, it just keeps us identified by the Lucerne Valley separation. Besides, our land values are getting better than theirs! Thank you! We did not know that. – Editor COPPER MOUNTAIN COLLEGE— AWARE, an acronym for Acceptance With Awareness Reaching for Equality , aims to increase visibility and understanding, and minimize discrimination against LGBTQ students at the college. AWARE formed last Spring after petitioning the Faculty Senate for approval. “I expected some resistance to the idea,” said faculty advisor Mike Danza, “ but faculty overwhelmingly approved the request. There was only the tiniest bit of dissention and it was quickly shot down.” The club’s congenial and ambitious members have secured a booth at the Greater Palm Springs Pride Festival and is raising funds for a banner which they hope to carry in the Pride Parade Nov. 8. “Anyone from up here is welcome to march with us,” to said Lynda Herrington, president. Most of the group’s funds are generated through sales of rainbow beaded jewelry they make. You can purchase one of their items all day Monday, Sept. 17 when the group will hold a major sale at Bruce’s Coyote Kitchen on the CMC campus. Everyone is welcome. AWARE is also planning to hold a CMC Homecoming Dance. The club meets Mondays from Noon to 1pm in Phase 2 room 221, and Thursdays from 9 to 10 am in Modular room 410. Plans call for a bylaw revision that will allow community participation at their meetings. You can reach the AWARE Club at [email protected] Hi Hi--Desert Reader Comments Landers, Marine Corps Air Ground Combat Center, Morongo Valley, Pioneertown, 29 Palms, Wonder Valley, Yucca Mesa & Yucca Valley. Readers can expect a fresh issue ten times yearly. Email subscriptions are free. Subscriptions that are printed -n-posted are free for now. You had a good idea, however you should have planed it better. Come on, no greeter? Nowhere to go? We got there about 1:15pm; no evidence about a special event going on. We drove from our campsite at Silent Valley which is above Banning, to show support for this event. Evidently your own group did not support this. We learned a lesson from it. Thanks for the great idea, but next time plan it better. You’re right. We did not adequately communicate with the other group and the result was an event that didn’t get off the ground. Please accept our sincere apology. – Editor Wonderful issue of the LGBT News, really love how you led with the Saloon flying the rainbow flag, what a fantastic memory ... and next year we'll be getting more downtown businesses to fly the flag in solidarity. I'm sure, it will be easier for a lot of people now that Pride is over and there were no disasters. Thank you! – Editor or political position or orientation. If you don’t wish to be photographed, inform the person with the camera. Got Queer News? Comments/contributions are welcome and may be published. Send photos, releases, letters, classifieds, announcements, story ideas, subscription requests to: Our Mission is to inform, empower and entertain Morongo Basin’s LGBT communities by promoting and reporting on the Basin’s queerest issues and events, providing a local forum for our community to network and organize for social, political and commuPublic Notice HiDesertLGBTnews@ aol.com nity interests. Reference to any individuals or their Mike Lipsitz, Editor Coverage area: Flamingo Hts, photographic representations pub- Hi-Desert LGBT News Johnson Valley, Joshua Tree, lished here is no indication of sexual PO Box 3993, Landers CA 92285 Out & About M o ro ng o B a si n is a men’s social and community group. We encourage gay men in the Hi-Desert to come out, get involved, & make new friends. We are outgoing and friendly. Out & About MB is loosely organized for socials, theater trips, community projects & other events. We gather about once a month and keep in touch primarily through email and this newsletter. Our membership includes almost 200 gay men’s households all around the Morongo Basin. Our events are typically attended by a changing pool of 30 to 45 men. Newcomers are welcome and encouraged. Out & About MB aims for events where each of our diverse members feels safe, comfortable & welcome. Our success is measured in the many lasting friendships and associations developed through our programming. Out & About MB is selfsupporting. No dues are required; we hold raffles or “pass the hat” instead. To join, simply qualify as a gay man living or working in our service area & ask to be added to our mailing list. No one will pressure you to attend gatherings, but we do encourage area gay men to stay informed by joining our email list. To add your name, call 760-449-4048 or email request to: [email protected] t More than 30 from Out & About enjoyed The Producers Gay Matinee. Some of them gathered for this photo, generously staged and shot by Cindy Daigneault . Cindy, who played “Hold Me, Touch Me” in the show, is an avid photographer and Z107.7-FM President & General Manager. ‘The Producers’ was Gay-est Matinee ever 29 PALMS—The August “Gay Matinee” was Theatre 29s production of Mel Brook’s hit musical comedy, The Producers. “We sold our block of seats in just a few days,” said Jim Babb. an organizer of the monthly theater event. “Theatre 29 was chock full of homosexuals both in the audience and on the stage,” he said. A handful of fellows from Out & About were in the show including flamboyantly gay Kurt Schauppner, as a nutty Nazi; flamboyantly gay Jacob Fesili, as a flamboyantly gay costume designer; flamboyantly gay Patrick Whalen, working as a stagehand; and yours truly, flamboyantly gay Mike Lipsitz, as both a stagehand and as the scantily clad, flamboyantly gay houseboy, ‘Sabu’. Among the audience of mostly gays and some closet cases was actress and host of the Palm Springs Gay & Lesbian Film Festival, Kaye Ballard. Next Gay Matinee: Reserve Now. Call Mike for Group seats at: 760-449-4048 In 1909, it had the whole nation fo- 2:pm Sunday, Sept. 27 at the Blak Box Theatre in Joshua Tree. new cooling System Special Group Rate: $10 cused on the wilderness between Landers and Pipes Canyon. Now, 100 years later, play write and director Ron House, will have you on the edge of your seat. Stars our own Abe Daniels, Kurt Schauppner & Manuel Rincon. 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Pot Luck Suggestions: Appetizers, Salads, Veges, Cheeses, Julia Child Recipes, Red Wine, Beer, Dessert Out & About provides beverages RSVP by Thursday, Sept. 24 Call Now 310-508-8794 or 760-449-4048 Where: 6158 Hoot Owl Trail, Yucca Valley 92284 From 247 & 62 … Travel North up grade 1.7 miles. Turn Left onto El Cortez (monument reads Western Hills Estates) Turn Left onto Buena Suerte; then Right onto Plaza del Amigo Proceed on dirt trail; then Left onto Hoot Owl Trail. Pass the No Trespass signs & proceed underneath log entrance. 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If your bent on social studies it offered an ideal chance to watch what happens when the City by the Base intercourses with the City by the Bay. Great job Cary! Thanks for being DJ, Omar ! Friday, Oct. 30 Boys + Girls + YoU Music & Munchies BYOB Details next Issue! Civil Liberty Attorney Bruce W. Nickerson for LGBT People & Families Contact Bruce for help with Wills, Partnership Agreements, Trusts, Police Misconduct & Entrapment, Lewd Conduct Allegations, Military & Govt. Discrimination issues. Serving all of Morongo Basin. Argues at California Supreme Court, Courts of Appeal, Local Court 650-594-0195 [email protected] Greetings fellow Lesbians! under the New Moon. Valerie Eagle Heart facilitates anThanks for the great response to my other drum circle. I love women who column in the August issue. Lots of drummmm. Come to women want to get together. I’m colValerie’s next Full lecting emails and phone numbers and Moon Circle at 7 PM, will notify everyone once we decide Friday, Sept. 4 on the when and where to meet. back patio at Route 62 It would be great to meet at a drum Vintage Market Place circle. Last month I attended a drum in Old Town Yucca circle at the Joshua Tree Retreat CenValley! Look for the ter. It was awesome; Sam Sloneker rainbow flag on the south side of the facilitated. Sam guided us through a highway. Bring a chair. There will be meditation; we drummed, shook rattles percussion toys to share. Women of and tambourines, and sent out positive the Desert … we are Hot! Love & energy. I love that. Three local belly Peace, Lena McSkeane dancers joined and some of us danced Find me at: [email protected] CHEF IN HEELS ROSA FICARA RICOCHET GOURMET www.ricochetjoshuatree.com Joshua Tree 760-366-1898 Here’s a recipe that lesbians love, but is yummy for all! Our neighbor & Joshua Tree Realtor, John Simpson (next to Crossroads) at 760-366-8353 loves this dish ! My girlfriend Melissa even loves to eat Tawnja’s Thighs cold!! Tawnja’s Thighs with Rosa’s Exotic Touch Ingredients: Chicken thighs; ½ cup extra virgin olive oil; ½ onion chopped 2 Tbsp of Rosa’s Exotic Touch herb mix (sold at RICOCHET ) or 1 tbsp Paprika, 1 tbsp Cumin, ½ tsp Cayenne, 1 tsp granulated Garlic Sea Salt & fresh Ground Pepper (to taste) Turn on some Indigo Girls and make sure to shake it while you make it. You’ll add love to your dish & have more fun! Next, whisk olive oil with spices, onion, salt & pepper. Marinate chicken thighs in mixture for an hour or overnight in the fridge. Preheat oven to 425 degrees. Bake approx. 45 minutes or until done! Enjoy Tawnja’s thighs at RICOCHET made by Rosa or Madeleine, or try this recipe & serve over a nice spinach salad with quinoa and fresh veggies! Rosa Bon Appétit! Taste the love! 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