Peacemaker Toolbox1

Peacemaker Toolbox1
Willingly, choose to trade-­‐in your recipe for destruction to receive blueprints for peace. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. – Ephesians 4:3 Kate’s Cup Leadership Meeting Agenda March 11th v Social Time -­‐ 10:00 a.m. to 10:30 a.m. v Bob Sutherland -­‐ 10:30 a.m. to 10:40 a.m. v Linnaea -­‐ check-­‐in with Directors and Coordinators 10:45 a.m. – 11:00 a.m. v Edy – Sous Chef Story 11:00 a.m. to 11:15 a.m. (Sous Chef Handout) v Large Group Share/Interaction 11:15 a.m. to 11:30 a.m. Ø Discussion Questions: ü Identify one kitchen utensil you use the most in times of conflict. ü Give an example of how you’ve used the tool to force an advantage. ü Share how the kitchen utensil hindered instead of helped the conflict. v Edy – Receiving God’s Grace 11:30 a.m. to 11:35 a.m. (Flowchart Handout) v Edy – Building P-­‐E-­‐A-­‐C-­‐E as an agent of God’s Peace 11:35 a.m. to 11:45 a.m. (Blueprint Handout) v Large Group Discussion 11:45 a.m. to noon ü Where in the 10 steps do you fall short in creating peace with others? ü How might a posture of peace in relationships create wholeness, tranquility and contentment in to you? ü How might God use conflict to grow you to be more like Christ? v Maria closes the meeting in prayer 1 The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Solving Conflict by Ken Sande Kitchen Utensils Iron Chef: Satan, The Adversary & Enemy of your Soul Sous Chef: Inadvertently walks in Agreement with the Iron Chef & Cooks Up Divergence Follows the Recipe for Disunity: Self-­‐centered, Self-­‐righteous, and Self-­‐absorbing For as churning [the egg beater produces scrambled eggs], and as twisting the nose produces blood, so stirring up anger produces strife. -­‐-­‐ Proverbs 30:33 Strife Ultimatum Malice Therefore, rid yourselves of all malice and all deceit, hypocrisy, envy, and slander of every kind. – 1 Peter 2:1 Complaining Manipulative Judging "Do not seek revenge or bear a grudge against anyone among your people, but love your neighbor as yourself. I am the LORD. – Leviticus 1 9:18 Critical Blaming Hypocritical Bitterness Mockery Neglect Lying Love keeps no record of wrongs. – 1 Corinthians 13:5 Love does not insist on its own way – 1 Corinthians 13:5 Love does not boast. It is not proud. – 1 Corinthians 13:4 [Love] does not dishonor others, it is not self-­‐seeking, it is not easily angered. – 1 Corinthians 13:5 Then the LORD God said to the woman, "What is this you have done?" The woman said, "The serpent deceived me, and I ate." – Genesis 3:13 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye. – Matthew 7 :5 Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else, -­‐-­‐ Galatians 6:4 See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many. – Hebrews 12:15 Do not gloat when your enemy falls; when they stumble, do not let your heart rejoice, -­‐-­‐ Proverbs 24:17 We have spoken freely to you, Corinthians, and opened wide our hearts to you. We are not withholding our affection from you, but you are withholding yours from us. As a fair exchange—I speak as to my children—open wide your hearts also. – 2 Corinthians 6:11-­‐13 A false witness tells lies. – Proverbs 12:17b Peacemaker Toolbox, Edy Sutherland Copyright 2011 10 Steps to Constructing Peace Edy Sutherland C opyright 2011 Peacemaker: builds unity through the bond of peace, Eph. 4:all A Peacemaker follows the blueprints for assembling peace Bind the conflict to God’s grace Put on your helmet of salvation See people the way Jesus does Hammer away pride Saw away the enemy Shine Christ’s light Square up the hostility Search for wisdom Measure yourself Maintain sober judgment Remove sin As a prisoner for the Lord, then, I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received. Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. – Ephesians 4:1-­‐6 Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be courageous; be strong. Do everything in love. – 1 Corinthians 16:13-­‐14 Therefore if you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from His love, if any common sharing in the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, then make my joy complete by being like-­‐minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind. Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. – Philippians 2:1-­‐4 When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. – Proverbs 11:2 In his pride the wicked man does not seek [God]; in all his thoughts there is no room for God. – Psalm 10:4 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. – Ephesians 6:12 The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly. – John 10:10 God is light; in H im there is no darkness at all. If we claim to have fellowship with Him and yet walk in the darkness, we lie and do not live out the truth. – 1 John 1:5-­‐6 All this is from God, who reconciled us to Himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation: -­‐-­‐ 2 Corinthians 5:18 [Trials] have come so that the proven genuineness of your faith – of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire – may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed. – 1 Peter 1:7 But the wisdom from above is first of all pure. It is also peace loving, gentle at all times, and willing to yield to others. It is full of mercy and good deeds. It shows no favoritism and is always sincere. – James 3:17 For the WORD of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-­‐edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart. – Hebrews 4:12 In everything, therefore, treat people the same way you want them to treat you, for this is the Law and the P rophets. – Matthew 7 :12 For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the faith God has distributed to each of you. – Romans 1 2:3 Let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. A nd let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. – Hebrews 12:1-­‐3 10 Steps to Constructing Peace Fasten to hope Tool to fasten Peacemaker Toolbox, Edy Sutherland Copyright 2011 We have this hope as an anchor for the soul, firm and secure. It enters the inner sanctuary behind the curtain, where our forerunner, Jesus, has entered on our behalf. – Hebrews 6:19-­‐20a Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. – Romans 1 2:12 But [Jesus] said to me (Paul), "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me. – 2 Corinthians 12:9 Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make straight your paths. – Proverbs 3:5-­‐6 God offers grace to the humble (Proverbs 3:34) God sustains the humble (Psalm 147:6) Secure the God hears the humble (2 Chronicles 7 :14) God lifts up the humble (Luke 1:52) bond with God saves the humble (Psalm 18:27) God speaks to the humble (Numbers 12:1-­‐16) hope God gives understanding to the humble (Daniel 1 0:12) God esteems the humble (Isaiah 66:2b) Join in Since we are living by the Spirit, let us follow the Spirit's leading in every part of our lives. – Galatians 5:25 unity God is spirit, and those who worship Him must worship in spirit and truth. – John 4:24 Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. – Romans 1 2:9 Do not deceive one another. Serve one another in love. Be devoted to one another. Live in harmony with one another. Stop passing judgment on one another. Accept one another. Greet one another with a Holy Kiss. Encourage one another. Build each other up Spur one another on toward love and good deeds. Create a lasting bond Join in love to goodness Bond Connect with forgiveness Sanding Finishing Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Teach and admonish one another with all wisdom. Do not slander one another. Pray for one another. Love one another deeply, from the heart. Offer hospitality to one another. Be humble toward one another. Fellowship with one another. God fills the humble with JOY (Isaiah 29:19) Mortise: But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you -­‐-­‐ Matthew 5 :44 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. – Romans 1 2:17-­‐21 Tenon: Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in ALL circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. – 1 Thessalonians 5:16-­‐18 Whoever exalts himself will be humbled, and whoever humbles himself will be exalted. – Matthew 23:12 Heal me, O Lord, and I shall be healed; save me, and I shall be saved, for you are my praise. – Jeremiah 17:14 The Lord upholds all who are falling and raises up all who are bowed down. – Psalm 145: 14 Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working. – James 5:16 But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. – Matthew 6 :12, 15 Seek reconciliation: 5 step plan 4. 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Is there a way I can fix my wrongdoing? What could I do differently next time (repentance)? Ask for forgiveness. Restoration is a process: And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to His eternal glory in Christ, will HIMSELF restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you. – 1 Peter 5:10 And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to His purpose. – Romans 8 :28 You who have made me see many troubles and calamities will revive me again; from the depths of the earth you will bring me up again. – Psalm 71:20 [My Shepherd] restores my soul. He leads me in paths of righteousness for His name's sake. – Psalm 23:3 For as in Adam all die, so also in Christ shall all be made alive. – 1 Corinthians 15:22 Currently dealing with a conflict? Feel like [pulling out your kitchen utensils]? Here's a gut-­‐
honest prayer to lift up... “God, I want to follow Your teaching in this. But it’s so hard. I’m mad and frustrated and hurt. The last thing I feel like doing is examining where I am wrong. But I know that’s what I need to do. Will You soften my heart? Will You give me eyes to see beyond my hurt? Will You help me cut through any assumptions and wrong thinking? I want to honor You in this,