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I
n the 135 years since the founding of Buckner Orphans
Home in Dallas, the ministry methods of Buckner
International have changed significantly, but its mission
remains as crucial today as it was following the
Civil War.
14 Family matters
18 The formula for
family
20 Super families
24 Family, pure
and simple
26 A growing heart
30 Dallas foster parents
live out their
‘unconventional’
love story
32 Just like family
34 Ministry for the ages
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PERSPECTIVES ON BUCKNER
‘Whither Buckner’ President and CEO Albert L. Reyes
IN OTHER WORDS
Family Scott Collins
BUCKNER JOURNAL
What’s going on at Buckner International
• Leaving a mark: Convencíon builds home, shines hope
through Buckner partnership
• Ventana by Buckner senior living community coming
to North Dallas
• Buckner Retirement Services expands campuses
• Beaumont Foundation generously supports Buckner International
A publication of Buckner International
Volume 39, Number 2 • Spring 2014
PRESIDENT & CEO, BUCKNER INTERNATIONAL
Albert L. Reyes
PRESIDENT, BUCKNER FOUNDATION; EXECUTIVE
VICE PRESIDENT, BUCKNER INTERNATIONAL
David M. Slover
VICE PRESIDENT OF COMMUNICATIONS
Scott Collins
ASSOCIATE VICE PRESIDENT FOR PUBLIC RELATIONS
Russ Dilday
• Weaver volunteers calculate perfect time to help
EDITORIAL STAFF
EDITOR
John Hall
ART DIRECTOR
Alan Paul
GRAPHIC ARTIST
Luis Pérez
ELECTRONIC EDITOR
Lauren Hollon Sturdy
Brooklyn Klein’s peach stand
is helping vulnerable children
through Buckner Shoes for
Orphan Souls®.
CONTRIBUTORS
Lauri Arnold
Lauri Ann Hanson
Amber Hawk
Mike McLean
Chelsea Quackenbush White
NEWSMEDIA PRODUCTION
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42 GOING FOR THE GOAL
44 AN IMAGE OF SALVATION
46 BUCKNER SNAPSHOT: KAYLIE TREADAWAY
47 LAST LOOK | PARTING SHOT:
SACRED GROUND
Billie and Johnny
Isaac Trevino
WEB/MULTIMEDIA MANAGER
Bradley Vinson
www.buckner.org
EMAIL
[email protected]
PHONE
214-758-8000
Buckner Today is published by the Public Relations
Office of Buckner International. ©2014 Buckner
Postmaster: Send address changes to Buckner
International Public Relations, 700 N. Pearl,
Suite 1200, Dallas, Texas 75201
www.buckner.org
ON THE COVER: Savanna Allen and her son prune ﬂowers in a greenhouse
at Texas Tech University. My Father’s House Lubbock has provided a
platform from which she can pursue her horticulture dreams.
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PERSPECTIVES ON BUCKNER | ALBERT L. REYES
Whither Buckner?
Y
ou could argue that the words “strategic plan” used together
– programmatically, geographically and financially. And while the
are redundant. After all, what is a plan if it’s not strategic? The
process of strategic planning is new to Buckner, strategic planning
definition of strategy is “a careful plan or method for achieving a
is not. Father Buckner had a vision of opening an orphans home in
particular goal over a long period of time.”
Texas long before he was able to achieve it. For years before the
Many of us make plans we seldom achieve because we had only
a destination in mind and not a map.
doors opened in 1879, he set about the process of planning and
preparation, and God blessed those efforts.
The key to Buckner International’s ongoing success and sustain-
A December 2008 article in the Harvard Business Review
ability since 1879 is a continuing focus on moving forward rather
titled “Delivering on the Promise of Nonprofits” noted that “non-
than remaining static. The spirit that founded Buckner is the same
profit leaders face unique challenges in achieving results, but
one that guides our thinking and planning today. That is the guiding
a growing number are showing it can be done – by rigorously
force behind the culmination of more than
confronting questions related to strategy,
a year of planning and preparation to
capital, and talent.”
launch a new strategic plan we call the
Since becoming the president of Buckner
“Shining Hope Strategic Ministry Plan.”
two years ago, I have focused on all three
The plan’s purpose is to strengthen and
of those areas. Our board has helped us
deepen the vitality of Buckner into the future.
put into place a solid budget plan that
Our board of trustees officially approved
allows us to shrink deficits without harming
the plan at their April meeting, giving us
the ministry. We have implemented a new
the green light to move forward. This plan
talent management process that maximizes
has undergone rigorous discussion and
our current talent, while improving our
revision to reach its final stage. It is both
overall employee satisfaction and com-
challenging and attainable. Implementation
munications. This new plan addresses the
of the plan will affect the entire organization.
third question of strategy.
With a great legacy to build upon, the “Shining Hope Strategic
Maybe like me, you grew up with the King James Version of the
Ministry Plan” provides clear guidance for the future of Buckner by
Bible. Do you remember those verses filled with “thee” and “thou?”
establishing six key goals, each supported by clearly defined objectives
One of those Old English words was “whither.” It means “to what
and actions designed to provide a comprehensive understanding of:
place will they go?”
• Key program priorities.
One of the great aspects of Buckner that we talk about often is
• Expected measurable outcomes.
our past. This ministry was founded in 1879 and we have a strong
• Engagement and participation of those
and fabulous history. Because of that, we talk a lot about our past;
with an affinity for Buckner ministries.
• The importance of spiritual development
in the lives of those we serve.
• The structure of our international ministries.
where we have been.
The “Shining Hope Strategic Ministry Plan” answers the question
about our future, whither Buckner? Join me in praying that wherever
we go, it brings glory to God.
• Funding and fundraising priorities.
• Organizational continuity and messaging.
An implementation team will oversee the execution of the plan as
well as carefully measure and evaluate outcomes as we move forward.
You might ask, “Why? Why now?” Those are two short, but
good questions.
Buckner International has been blessed with constant growth
during the past 50 years. We have grown in every imaginable way
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Albert L. Reyes, President and CEO,
Buckner International
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IN OTHER WORDS | SCOTT COLLINS
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Family
Just yesterday, I got in my car to leave only to
discover the battery was dead. How many times do
I start a vehicle and never think about the battery? I
only think about the battery or any other part of my
car when it’s broken and doesn’t work properly.
What do you take for granted? My wife and I talk
about that with our daughter, Claire. And we talk a
lot about it around our office.
You could probably write a lengthy list right now
– shoes, food, clothing, transportation. We tend to
take for granted things we use on a regular basis.
We just get used to them. We take them for granted.
Until they break.
Family is the same. How often have you taken
your family for granted? But what if your family was
broken? I don’t mean the everyday nuisances of
living with other people. I mean families that are
Kaylie Treadaway is more than a volunteer at the Samari Ridge
Apartments after-school program; she’s part of the Buckner
International family. A student at Dallas Baptist University, Kaylie
reaches out to improve the lives of young people going through many of
the same issues she did. Learn more at buckner.org/snapshots.
broken apart; busted.
The Buckner International Mission Statement states
that Buckner exists to “build strong families through
Christ-centered values.” As an organization, Buckner
believes the family is God-ordained. We believe
children belong in families. And our vision is to
maximize our “resources and leadership to serve
vulnerable children, seniors and families.”
Our belief is that families are stronger when they
are Christ-centered. In other words, if you want to
build a strong family, go back to the source of families
– God’s Word and God Himself. It is no coincidence
that Scripture uses familial references when addressing
God. He is our Father; our parent.
In many ways, Buckner is like a mechanic working
with families. Some families, like my car, need a
jump start. Others have more serious issues and the
process may take a while. For others yet, we connect the
proper piece with the rest of a family, empowering
both to thrive.
When I replaced the battery of my car that day,
I had confidence that my car would start like it
should. That’s the same kind of confidence we want
the families we serve to have.
Scott Collins is Vice President
of Communications at Buckner International.
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What’s going on at Buckner International
zx Leaving a mark:
Convencíon builds
home, shines hope
through Buckner
partnership
“Casa Convencíon is a truly historic
little insulation in the winter.
effort for our missions community,” said Ja-
The Convencíon-Buckner house will
vier Perez, manager of Buckner National
provide a safe place for the family.
Missions. “Not only is a family’s life being
Erasmo Sr. is helping construct the house.
transformed, but a whole new movement
The children are excited about the project.
is rising. This is a movement of hope for
They’re telling all their friends about their
the world in which Christian organizations
new home. Hope permeates the air.
understand that kingdom work can only
“The house will make our lives better,”
PEÑITAS, Texas – For decades, the Hispanic
happen when we put our strengths and
Erasmo Sr. said. “It will change our lives
Baptist Convention of Texas (Convencíon)
resources together. This is what Casa
completely.”
has shared the gospel throughout the Rio
Convencíon means for Buckner National
Construction is simply the beginning
Grande Valley. This year through Buckner
Missions. We are excited because a
of Convencíon’s ministry with this family.
International, it’s making an added physical
kingdom-minded collaboration is gaining
Volunteers hosted a Vacation Bible School
impact for one family by building a house.
momentum.”
during one weekend of the build, which
The effort is a dream come true for
The Rosales family – Erasmo Sr., Maria
empowered people to share the gospel.
Convencíon President Bea Mesquias,
and their two sons, Romero and Erasmo Jr. –
Maria communicated how she came to
who has ministered in the Valley since the
have been working with the Buckner Family
faith in Christ and how God has blessed
1980s. Convencíon is seeking ways to
Hope Center in Peñitas for three years.
her family. Mesquias believes the Rosales
expand its ministry throughout the year,
Maria is learning to speak English as well
family will continue to share its testimony
and the home build is an ideal opportunity.
as gain computer and sewing skills to
with those around them. That will send
“We’ve never done a big project like
help support her family. The children are
waves of hope throughout Peñitas.
this,” she said. “We started dreaming
involved in the Hope Center’s youth lead-
“We want to continue ministering with
about what we could do apart from meet-
ership efforts. Erasmo Sr. and Maria are
Buckner with this family,” she said. “What-
ing at Convencíon and having a good
working through a financial skills class now.
ever we can do to help them have a better
program. Through Buckner, we can come
Their hard work has helped them grow
life, they will turn around and help others.”
and build something here in the colonias
as a family to the point where they are
–John Hall
for a family in need.”
volunteering through the Hope Center’s
In an effort that harkens back to the earliest days of R.C. Buckner’s ministry, churches
community events. They are helping Buckner
assist people around them.
throughout Texas donated money through
Still, a major hurdle remains for family
Convencíon for the effort, and teams of vol-
members – their house. It’s constructed
unteers provided the labor. People were ex-
largely of medium density fiberboard,
cited by the opportunity to make a lasting,
which allows moisture to seep through. It
tangible difference in the lives of a family.
turns to mush when it rains and provides
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zx Ventana by Buckner senior living community coming to North Dallas
DALLAS – Buckner International will open
Buckner will build upon our core values by
the lives of senior adults through strong
Ventana By Buckner, a 314-apartment
serving senior adults and offering residents
Christian values. The mission of Buckner
North Dallas senior living community,
opportunities to thrive.”
International and all of its ministries is to
In addition to the apartments, the com-
transform the lives of children and enrich
The twin 12-story high-rise buildings
munity will include three dining areas – for-
the lives of the senior adults they serve.
will measure about 450,000 square feet
mal, casual and bistro; a wellness center
Buckner began serving the senior popula-
and sit on nearly three acres in Dallas’
featuring a fitness room with weights and
tion shortly after Buckner Orphans Home
North Park neighborhood, giving Buckner
cardio machines; and a host of other ame-
was established in 1879. In 1954, Buckner
two retirement communities in the city.
nities, including a pool, aerobics room,
opened its first retirement community
Ventana by Buckner will be a continuing
chapel, movie theater, roof terraces with
in Dallas, providing a more formalized
care retirement community with 182
gardens, business center, library, day spa,
approach to serving seniors.
independent living residences, 36 assisted
24-hour security and indoor parking.
in 2018.
Throughout Buckner’s history, its purpose
living apartments, 24 memory care apart-
Even before its groundbreaking, Ventana
as an organization has been to meet the
ments, 48 skilled nursing apartments and
by Buckner is hosting informational meet-
needs of vulnerable people “from the begin-
24 short-term rehabilitation apartments.
ings and accepting deposits for its Priority
ning to the ending of life.” Today, Buckner
“For more than 135 years, Buckner
Club. Priority Club members will have the
International is a global faith-based ministry
International has been dedicated to trans-
opportunity to reserve their apartment,
that re-mains true to its founder R.C. Buckner’s
forming lives and building strong fami-
have priority choice when selecting their
vision of serving people of all backgrounds
lies,” said Albert Reyes, president and
residence, and have input on its design
and walks of life. –Staff Report
CEO of Buckner International. “Through
and amenities. Interested parties can
Buckner
schedule a meeting with the Ventana by
For more information about
Buckner team by calling 214-888-2084.
Ventana by Buckner, please visit
Retirement
Services,
we’re
able to enrich the lives of senior adults
and their families while they maintain
As a Buckner senior living community,
independence and dignity. Ventana by
Ventana by Buckner will focus on enriching
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VentanaByBuckner.com.
zx Buckner senior
living communities
earn U.S. News &
World Report top
honor
inspections, how much time nurses spend
“When we set out to care for seniors, we
with residents and the quality of medical
don’t go into it with the goal in mind of
care. Of 16,000 facilities evaluated,
receiving honors and awards. We are all
Place in Longview, Buckner Calder
fewer than 25 percent earned a rating
about creating a home for families. But to be
Woods in Beaumont and Buckner Villas
of five stars.
honored is amazing. It’s a testament to how
WASHINGTON, D.C. – U.S. News & World
Report recognized Buckner Westminster
in Austin as among the “Best Nursing
Homes” in the country.
“Buckner Senior Living is honored
hard our staff works day in and day out.”
to have three of our communities rank
All three communities offer a continuum
Communities were ranked on a five-
in the top of the U.S. News and World
of care including independent living,
star basis, based on its number of stars in
Report,” said Charlie Wilson, senior vice
assisted living, memory care and skilled
three categories: state-conducted health
president of Buckner Retirement Services.
nursing care. –Staff Report
zx Buckner
senior living
expands campuses,
breaks ground in
San Angelo
DALLAS – Buckner senior living is expanding
four communities to serve more seniors
Calder Woods will feature independent living villas and a wellness center.
Plans call for construction to begin in
early 2015 on each of the campuses.
Architects are redesigning common areas
“We are thrilled to add to our com-
to update the interior and keep the com-
munity because it means we are meeting
munity current. Two Green House® homes,
needs of seniors across the state,” said
state-of-the-art skilled nursing environments
Charlie Wilson, senior vice president of
designed to feel like a home, are also in
Buckner Retirement Services. “This is an
the plans. A rehabilitation area will be
exciting period of growth for Buckner
added to the campus as well.
Retirement. To see expansion at four dif-
Buckner Westminster Place plans to in-
ferent campuses is unprecedented, and
crease independent living, assisted living,
we’d like to think it’s due to the quality of
memory loss; and campus beautification.
rehabilitation areas and redesign of many
care we offer. It furthers Buckner’s mission
Officials also are in the beginning
amenities. At Buckner Villas, there are
to serve seniors and their families.”
stages of working with D2 Architecture to
plans to increase the number of indepen-
design, build and renovate Calder Woods
dent living and assisted living apartments.
of Buckner Retirement Services, visit
in Beaumont, Buckner Westminster Place
Current amenities and common areas will
bucknerretirement.org.
in Longview and Buckner Villas in Austin.
also be expanded and improved.
across Texas.
In January, officials at Baptist Retirement
Community in San Angelo broke ground
on a $22 millon renovation project, including construction of two new Green
House® homes.
The project also includes expansion
and renovation of high-rise residences;
building a wellness center, library, new
dining areas, a bistro and community
rooms; two new homes for residents with
To learn more about the exciting growth
–Chelsea Quackenbush White
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zx Buckner Rio
Grande Children’s
Home transitions
to foster care
live in a cottage’ and, ‘This is my home,’”
expansion of Buckner ministry in the Rio
she said. “There’s a difference between
Grande Valley as it begins to recruit foster
introducing a ‘houseparent’ and introduc-
families throughout the area. Families are
ing a ‘foster mom.’ The second feels much
calling the children’s home regularly asking
more family-oriented, much more nurturing.”
if they can serve as foster parents.
Buckner continues to care for all eight
“We already have a lot of interest in the
MISSION, Texas – Buckner Rio Grande
community of people wanting to be foster
Children’s Home transitioned its ministry
parents,” Salinas said. “People are more
May 1 to a foster group home model in
willing to open their homes to children in
an effort to better create a family environ-
that role. We’re hopeful about that.”
ment for the young people it serves.
The stability and compassion of foster
Rather than staff houseparents caring
families gives hope to vulnerable children,
for children in the campus’ three build-
Salinas said. Foster parents help young
ings, foster parents are nurturing children
people learn what family truly can be like.
in the three houses. The move builds more
“We’re providing that safe environ-
of a family atmosphere where parents
ment for children,” she said. “That’s what
can involve extended family in the lives of
young people on its campus. The children’s
they’ve been missing. That’s the reason
children, said Monica Salinas, executive
home continues its many activities, including
they have been brought into care. We are
director of the children’s home.
its 4-H club.
able to show a child that they are worthy
“There’s a difference between saying, ‘I
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The move also sets the stage for the
of a family, they are important.” –John Hall
zx Beaumont
Foundation
generously
supports Buckner
International
The foundation’s gift will help purchase
“We are grateful for our partnership
clothes for children in the care of Buckner.
with the Beaumont Foundation of America,”
Many times, these funds help Buckner
Reyes said. “Because of their giving, we
purchase a child’s first new clothing.
are able to better care for children in
“We support foster care throughout the
need. Together, we are improving the lives
state, including Buckner International, and
of vulnerable young people, giving them
our board of directors, including Board
hope for their lives.” –Staff Report
Chairman Wayne Reaud, believes
DALLAS – Beaumont Foundation of America
in feeding and clothing the poor.
committed to helping vulnerable children
Not only do we give for foster fami-
through Buckner International with a gift of
lies, we also support food banks
$133,500 in 2014.
across the state.”
Beaumont Foundation of America Chief
The foundation has been sup-
Operating Officer Edward Keller presented
porting
a check Feb. 17 for half of the funds to
Including the full pledged 2014
Buckner International President and CEO
funds, the foundation has given
Albert Reyes.
$980,400 to Buckner.
Buckner
since
2007.
B
y planning ahead, individuals can make wise financial
decisions now and establish a lasting legacy of caring for
others through Buckner International. A Buckner Gift Annuity
empowers people to support the ministry, receive a tax break
and enjoy income from the annuity’s interest for the remainder
of their lives.
Through a Buckner gift annuity, shining hope in the lives of
children begins with wise planning today.
A Buckner Gift Annuity produces guaranteed income –
mostly tax free.
If you invest at age:
The rate of income is:
70
75
80
85
90
5.1%
5.8%
6.8%
7.8%
9.0%
For more information, contact Neal Knighton of Buckner
Foundation at 214-758-8054 or [email protected].
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HOUSTON – In the past few months, the
food pantry and doing yard work at a
in the community,” she said. “By them
Buckner Aldine Family Hope Center re-
retirement community.
coming out to sort through those items
ceived an unprecedented number of in-
“Our employees tell us they want
and getting them ready to sell or give
kind donations, so many clothes and toys
volunteer opportunities,” Weaver Partner
away, we are able to continue serving
that staff members and volunteers had to
Brian Thomas said. “They want to be
the community.” n
close off parts of the center’s resale shop
involved in the community. They want to
to house the items.
work at an organization that is involved
That meant residents in the community
in the community.”
could not shop the entire store. At one
Volunteers from Weaver said they’re
point, the area that houses children’s clothing
proud to work for a company that is com-
– one of residents’ biggest needs – had to
mitted to giving back. The funds provide
be blocked off to house the donations.
crucial financial assistance to the work
Thanks to volunteers from Weaver and
of Buckner. Volunteer opportunities help
Tidwell, LLP, an accounting firm with seven
Weaver employees connect with the
locations throughout Texas, the resale shop
effort through hands-on initiatives.
now is fully stocked and open for business.
“Money donated goes a lot further
In a matter of hours, the volunteers sorted
when coupled with volunteer hours,” said
thousands of items, separating them
Weaver Partner Elizabeth Bunk.
by the type of item and, when needed,
In addition to helping people in need,
hanging them up so they can quickly be
the bond between Weaver employees
featured in the store. Weaver’s timing
grows through service. They’re able to
was perfect, and their help invaluable,
visit about different topics and know each
according to Sylvia Bolling, director of
other better in the less formal environment
the Hope Center.
of community service. Throughout the
“God’s promises are always true,”
morning at the Family Hope Center, volun-
Bolling said. “When we started this
teers were visiting, helping each other and
organization, He promised to send every-
having a good time. At many of Weaver’s
thing we need but in His time, His way
volunteer efforts with Buckner, employees
and His season. So when people with a
brought family members to help.
heart to help come out like Weaver, I just
“The mission of what Buckner is doing
look at them and know this is what God
resonated with our employees,” Thomas
promised. We didn’t know where people
said. “The employees chose this. That’s
would come from, but He already touched
part of what makes this fun.”
people’s hearts to use their gifts, their time,
George Hartsfield, executive director
their talent to make a difference in the
for Buckner Children and Family Services
community He called Buckner to serve.”
in the Houston/Conroe area, thanked the
The Weaver effort is part of a yearlong
volunteers for their hard work.
Thank you,
Buckner supporters
Buckner wishes to thank the
following corporations,
foundations and other
organizations for their
charitable contributions of
$1,000 or more during the first
quarter of 2014.
Abell-Hanger Foundation, Inc.
Bailes and Company, P.C.
Beaumont Foundation of America
Cecil Carruth Charitable Trust
Christ Is Our Salvation Foundation
Christian Mission Concerns
W.H. & Mary Ellen Cobb
Charitable Trust
Critical Thinking for Life
EnCana Cares (USA)
ExxonMobil Foundation
Farmer Environmental Group
E.A. Franklin Charitable Trust
Garrison Family Foundation
Goldman, Sachs & Company
George and Claudette Hatfield
Foundation, Inc.
Wilton and Effie Mae Hebert Foundation
J. Robert Jones Charitable Trust
Kosmos Energy, LLC
Texas Baptist Offering for
World Hunger
initiative between the firm and Buckner
“Thank you so much,” he said. “It’s
International. Weaver employees selected
great that Weaver has wanted to give to
United Way of Tarrant County
Buckner as Weaver Foundation’s charity
us. That’s great. Then to actually come
United Way of Smith County
of choice for 2014.
out and spend your time here, it says they
Rosemary Haggar Vaughan
About 100 Weaver employees have
care about this community.”
–John Hall
Family Foundation
volunteered with Buckner ministries in
Reflecting on an empty room that was
San Antonio, Dallas, Fort Worth, Austin,
filled with donations just hours before,
Wollforth Caregivers, Inc.
Midland and Houston, helping in a variety of
Bolling echoed Hartsfield’s thoughts.
L.C. and Mary Worley Memorial
Foundation
ways such as revamping a playground,
“All those donations in our donation
sorting donations, serving in a mobile
center, they represent things people need
Weaver and Tidwell, LLP
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Then and now
From its inception, Buckner
International has understood the
importance of healthy families.
They provide the ideal settings
for children to flourish.
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Innately, these early pioneers understood that people live best within
a caring structure. The structure that Buckner sought to emulate and
cultivate for the vulnerable is what he viewed as God’s institution for
that purpose: family.
In the 135 years since the founding of the Buckner Orphans Home
in Dallas, the ministry methods of Buckner International have changed
significantly, but its mission remains as crucial today as it was following
the Civil War. Children and widows still are suffering in many places,
needing care and someone to point them to the hope of Christ.
Research repeatedly has reinforced what Buckner understood in
1879: family matters. Children raised in caring families are more likely
to develop fully than those who aren’t. Children who face multiple family
transitions fare worse developmentally than those raised in stable twoparent or single-parent families. Even institutional orphanages, while
significant steps above a child living on the streets, cannot match the
care provided by loving families.
Making the well-being of children a priority means nurturing healthy
families be at the forefront of Buckner International’s ministry.
“God didn’t put us here to be alone,” says JoAnn Cole, Buckner
Children and Family Services Vice President. “He built us for relationships.
God places the lonely in families. It is the gospel: When we were
alone, when we were foreigners, when we were at our worst, God
came and brought us back.”
Families are the classrooms in which potential is realized, providing
a safe place for children to explore without fear of criticism. Under
the nurturing watch of those who care about them, young people can
discover their gifts, understand who they are and have hope for the future.
In a person’s senior years, families provide key bonds and support
that helps people through difficult transitions. Individuals need family
assistance as they deal with health issues or the loss of loved ones.
Research indicates elders who have strong relationships with others
have lower levels of stress, increased self-esteem and longer lives.
“Families are characterized by unconditional love,” says Cole, who
was raised by her aunt and uncle. “Most often, they are composed
of people who are biologically connected, but that’s ultimately less
important than a unit made up of people who genuinely and constantly
care about each other.”
The presence of a family or lack thereof teaches many lessons
through observation. Early on, infants learn how to trust when parents
meet their needs. They’re hungry, so they cry. Someone feeds them.
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They’re hurt, so they cry. Someone helps them. They’re tired, so they
cry. Someone puts them in bed for a nap.
small changes or issues in a young person’s life.
A 9-month-old girl came into the Buckner foster care program
Each reaction introduces and reinforces the notions of love, trust and
recently and was placed with a family. By spending time with her, the
compassion. Whether children learn that someone cares about them
parents saw she was having several issues. They took her to doctors.
sends ripples throughout the rest of their lives.
They talked to experts. They embarked on a journey to understand
Consistent parental presence aid children in numerous ways,
including providing structure, reliability and care. Parents pick up on
exactly what was happening. Finally, the girl was diagnosed with a
congenital disease with a three percent survival rate.
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“Family isn’t biology –
it’s chemistry,” says
Shelley Neimer.
already had “family” there to look out for her.
“It was not uncommon for Shelley to call me and say, ‘Hey, I cooked
dinner. Come over to eat,’” Lindsey says. “It was the same with her parents
[who also lived in the Waco area]. They would call and say, ‘We’ve
got a home-cooked meal. Come on over and eat with us.’”
Because of their unique relationship and physical
proximity, Lindsey was able to be a part of many of Taylor’s
If that’s true, the Neimers, Rattans and Rushings have the formula down.
big events and milestones, like trick-or-treating and performing
Their tight-knit relationship is almost 15 years in the making.
at dance recitals. When Brad and Shelley brought home
Amazingly, Lindsey Rattan says, they haven’t really experienced any
their second child through adoption, this time a baby boy
rough patches over the years.
named Will, Lindsey was there when Taylor met her little
“I truly believe, first of all, that God knew we were a match,” she
says. “He brought us together for a reason.”
brother for the first time.
“There are so many things that I got to
That reason was a precious baby named Taylor.
experience that were such a huge blessing,”
In 1999, Lindsey – then Lindsey Rushing – was 17, pregnant and,
Lindsey says. “It’s a blessing because of
together with her child’s birth father, Tyler, making an adoption plan
open adoption.”
for the coming baby girl. They chose Shelley and Brad Neimer from a
After college, Lindsey accepted a job
stack of profiles of families waiting to adopt an infant through Buckner.
in North Texas. She met her husband,
They met the Neimers less than four weeks from Lindsey’s due date.
Frank, and had a daughter, Emma, now
With the guidance of Lori Wilkerson, their counselor with Buckner
3 years old.
Adoption and Maternity Services, the relationship between the families
The families – including grandparents on
blossomed through open communication and respect for each other’s
both sides – are in almost constant com-
roles. Lindsey says she made a point to refer to Brad and Shelley as
munication with each other via group text
“daddy” and “momma” when talking to Taylor. Shelley always asked
messages. Sometimes they’re talking about
Lindsey how she was feeling and gave her space to talk about her
their kids, and sometimes just sharing ran-
emotions without holding anything back.
dom, funny things with each other. They
Brad and Shelley moved from North Texas to Waco shortly after
gather for the Christmas holidays each
they adopted Taylor. The timing and location were perfect, Lindsey says,
year. This past June, they took their first
because she graduated high school a year after having Taylor and
family vacation together. Birthdays, family
enrolled at Baylor University in Waco in 2000. The closeness that
weddings, graduations, baptisms – they’re
Brad, Shelley and Lindsey had developed meant that Lindsey’s parents
together for it all.
didn’t have to worry how their daughter would adjust to college – she
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One of the most important elements that
paved the way for this close relationship was a commitment to counseling.
“My family is definitely made up differently than most, but I would
“As Lindsey dealt with her own emotions, her parents dealt with the
not have it any other way,” Shelley says. “When I think of family I think
loss as well, and then we moved into the counseling protocol of under-
of my core – my daughter, son, husband, then my parents and his
standing what adoptive families go through,” Lori says. “On the other
parents, and then Lindsey and her family.
side, the Neimers were very committed to education and counseling
“I can’t imagine my life without Lindsey and her family in it. With all
and really empathized with Lindsey’s grief. As Lindsey and her family
of the heartache I endured trying to get pregnant – I never could get
continued to intentionally acknowledge the Neimers’ place as Taylor’s
pregnant and I never will be – with all the financial stuff, and the tears
parents, the walls quickly came down and Brad and Shelley became
and heartache and disappointment, I would not change one single
more and more open to including Lindsey and her family in their lives.
thing if it meant not having Lindsey in my life. I’d never, ever, ever want
“I actually went to Lindsey’s wedding. It was amazing to see Lindsey
to experience not having her.” n
getting married. Brad prayed at the rehearsal dinner, Shelley sang at the
wedding and Taylor was the flower girl.”
In Lori’s 16 years of working as an adoption counselor,
Lindsey, Brad, Shelley and the rest have one of the
best closest relationships she’s seen.
Better together
The Neimers, Rattans and
Rushings were pulled together
by Taylor. The Neimers adopted
Taylor from Lindsey Rushing
(now Rattan) and the
families remain close
15 years later.
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M
y first engagement with family was through my parents. My
span. I learned that family can change.
mom and dad guided me through every stage of life. Holidays
I realized my need for Jesus when I was 17 years old and was
were huge family reunions, and I rarely spent a couple of days without
welcomed into an encouraging group of believers who supported and
seeing my grandparents. I learned early on that family is very much a
challenged me. I have moved several times, yet the bond of the body
physical presence.
of Christ remains. I have changed church communities and added, not
Growing up in a small town, it felt like everyone literally knew each
other. Community members cheered me on alongside my parents at
every ballgame. I learned that family does not have to share your genes.
When I was a freshman in high school, my parents became foster
parents. More than 15 boys came through our home in a four-year
replaced, meaningful relationships. I learned that despite life circumstances, family cares.
My husband, Scott, is the middle of five children in a close-knit family.
When we married six years ago, I learned that family is welcoming.
With this as my background, one can imagine the loss I experienced
Being foster parents to five children has taught Scott and Amber Hawk about the transformational power of families. Through the experience,
God is changing the lives of the Hawks as much as the children in their care.
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when doctors said conceiving a child would be a miracle. Family was
share my last name need me daily right now, I need them. I need them
important to me, and I couldn’t come to grips with the thought of not
because they are what God is using to confirm that He can replace
being a mother. After five years of praying for a biological child, God
our deepest pains with joy. I never thought I would be thankful for my
began stirring in my husband’s heart. God led us to surrender our idea
infertility, but that is the path God led me down to be part of their lives.
of a “perfect” family and raised our awareness of orphans.
Recognizing that fact alone has brought healing to my heart and soul.
We sat in our Buckner Be a Family meeting that fall believing that
That’s divine power there.
we would foster to adopt, but God moved quickly moved Scott and me
I need these children because they challenge me to look at the world
to the thought of fostering children. It wasn’t a foreign idea to us, but it
differently. They are teaching me love in action. Stepping into their
wasn’t something we had ever considered.
world and allowing them into mine has changed me from the inside
My heart ached when I thought about abused and neglected
out. There’s power there.
children who are taken away from everything they have ever known.
I need them because I’m learning that together we can display the
What kind of lessons were they learning about family? Will anyone
gospel of Jesus Christ in a way that we can’t by ourselves. Experiencing
show them a biblical picture of love and point them to Christ? I
life with them exposes the parts of me that don’t look like Jesus. As we
cried for mothers who were battling drug addictions and fathers who
show a willingness to put up with, forgive and love each other despite
couldn’t hold a job.
our own sin, baggage and internal battles, we display the truth that
The lessons I learned about family flooded my mind, and I realized
God has reconciled us to Himself and to one another. Through daily
God taught me them so I could love children in their most desperate
life with these kids, I get to see and experience the power of humility
times. Since last fall, that’s exactly what Scott and I have been doing.
and forgiveness.
We currently share our home with five children who teach us new
God appointed Scott and me to be their parents in this time for
lessons about family every day. Around our dinner table we discuss
our benefit just as much as theirs. As I continue pursuing Christ, He
patience. While riding scooters and bikes, we talk about sharing our
will continue to renew my mind and transform my idea of family. I’m
possessions. While hanging out in the playroom, we talk about build-
thankful for the transformational power of Christ. I wouldn’t trade the
ing others up with our words. When someone is hurt accidentally by
lessons I’ve learned and the blessings I’ve received as a foster mother
another, we share about forgiveness and mercy.
for the world. n
Becoming a foster mother has taught me the biggest lesson about
family: we need each other. There’s power there.
As much as the five children who look nothing like me and do not
Scott and Amber live in Southeast Texas. Follow their ongoing adventures with five superheroes on her blog at fosteringblessings.com.
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Then 12-year-old Jackson makes it abundantly clear.
two weeks before he turned 11. When Josh and Valerie read his profile,
It’s who they’re with that matters most. “We just like being with each
they immediately sensed a connection. He loved fishing, hunting and
other. It’s fun.”
the outdoors. Callie Reneau, the Buckner social worker who helped the
The Lowerys – Josh, Valerie, Jackson and baby Benjamin – are family,
pure and simple. They love each other and are happiest together, no
matter what they’re doing. This morning, Josh and Jackson were building
a fence to corral Valerie’s horse. Valerie took care of Benjamin before
preparing lunch.
Near noon, the family gathers. After a heartfelt prayer holding hands,
the meal and conversation begin.
“I like sharing my life with people,” Josh says. “I like to be able to
Lowerys, said it was like Jackson was their biological son. They looked
forward to welcoming him to the refuge.
“God gave me that heart to take in those who not everyone is willing
to,” Valerie says. “It is a joyful thing, something I enjoy.”
The couple adopted Jackson shortly before giving birth to Benjamin,
changing their world significantly. The parents embraced the role of
mother and father, Jackson the role of son and big brother, and Benjamin,
the role of making each day a little better.
exchange thoughts with other people. Jackson teaches me to have fun
Life doesn’t always run smoothly for the Lowerys. Like any other family,
and play, which can be forgotten as you get older and burdened with
they have bad days. Jackson even admits to “having an attitude” from
responsibilities. And Valerie. Well, I love her for a multitude of reasons.”
time to time. They love each other through those times, even growing
In many ways, the Lowerys live in a distant time and place from others.
closer to each other and God during the trials.
Some might even call it a better time and place. Josh built the Lowery
Josh and Valerie attempt to live lives that reflect their faith. They’ve
home by hand toward the back of 40 acres located off a two-lane road
learned a lot about themselves and how God cares about them. They
off a country road outside Gilmer, Texas. Two dogs, a horse, donkey,
see God’s love each day in the family’s day-to-day activities.
guineas, chickens, a goose and a duck typically can be found on the
property. They received their only television for Christmas last year.
A spirit of grace and purity permeates the Lowery home. They’re
ready to share a meal with visitors, talk with people going through hard
times or share what they have if it helps someone else. Their 40 acres
are a refuge.
Jackson is Opie Taylor without the red hair and freckles. Friendly and
“What God created us to do is to glorify Him by enjoying Him,” Josh
says. “I pray for that for myself and every member of our family – that
they will find their connection to Him. That He is their real father and was
before the foundation of the world.”
The importance of the family is fundamental. When working properly,
it’s a source of strength, compassion and faith. It’s also a picture of much
more, the Lowerys say.
outgoing, his fishing lures are his most prized possessions. Fishing is
“In the small unit of the family, you see a glimpse of the larger family
his passion, and he can most often be found at the pond that calls him
of God,” Valerie says. “You see the role of the father and the mother, the
down a dirt path from his house.
bridegroom and the bride. You see the sacrificial love of parents and
Jackson became a Lowery when he was adopted through Buckner
a child.” n
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In a heartbeat, the dream came crashing down. “I was listening to my
heart, and it didn’t sound the way that it normally did,” Savanna recalls. “I
was having shortness of breath and lots of pressure on my chest, so I just knew
something was wrong.”
As a child, Savanna was diagnosed with rheumatic fever, a condition that
led to a heart valve replacement at age 14. The valve from a human donor
was expected to work for about 10 years.
“I was getting checkups; everything was fine,” she says. “But in February of
last year, it just gave out, so I went to the
doctor, and they didn’t let me leave.”
Allen spent the next week at Texas
Children’s Hospital in Houston, where
her aortic valve was replaced again
– this time with a mechanical valve,
which doctors told her should work
well for the next 40 years.
Doctors limited Savanna’s physical
activity, so she and her son spent six
weeks with family in Lake Jackson,
Texas. She planned to return to nursing school the following semester, but
instead found herself in limbo and, for
the first time, without direction. She had
to pay for the semester she missed, and could not take out loans for the following
semester. Savanna saw the doors to her pursuit of nursing close.
“I didn’t know what I was going to do with my life; I didn’t have a backup
plan,” she says. “I never thought of anything else that I would ever want to do.”
Seeking time to reflect, Savanna turned to an old hobby: gardening. From
an early age, she spent a lot of time with her mother and grandparents in their
gardens. As an adult, she grew plants regularly, often in pots stationed on a
windowsill or near her doorway. As Savannah prayed, she sensed God pushing
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her toward a degree in horticulture.
By showing people how to grow food, she can help them learn about
eating healthy.
“It’s just caring for people in a whole different way,” Savanna says. “It’s caring
for people who are not as sick, and for the well, so that they don’t become
sick, giving them the right things they need for their body.”
The first people Savanna is caring for are the women at My Father’s House,
one of Buckner International’s seven family transition programs. She’s an
inspiration to the other women on campus, according to Sharion Stephens,
residential service coordinator for My Father’s House.
“I’ve seen a lot of adults who in later years have the difficulties that Savanna
has faced,” Sharion says. “I think she has met these difficulties with such
strength and with such stamina and such a good attitude.”
Savanna has drafted plans for a community garden on the My Father’s House
grounds and is seeking donations for necessary materials. She hopes residents
will enjoy the benefits of the garden for years to come.
“My main goal is to help educate the women on sustainable growing and
how to save money by just growing your own fruits and vegetables, and how
to cook different types of fruits and vegetables.”
Savanna now dreams of having a community-supported agriculture program
through which she would offer “shares” of produce, and, ideally, items such as
eggs and honey, to the public. She’s dreaming again. This time, her dreams
are set to become reality.
“Watching things grow is just another beautiful example of how our labor
isn’t in vain,” Savanna says. “We will see the harvest and our children will
experience something beautiful. I feel like that can apply to everything in life.
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F
or college sweethearts Calvin and Melanie Bailey, it was love at
the boys hugs every day before they leave for school,” she said. “They
first sight. And still is.
also host a weekly family time where they sit together and discuss
“She was drop-dead gorgeous, so friendly, and she just had a spark
about her,” Calvin said.
various topics to assist the boys in gaining new insight as they are
mentored to be confident and capable young men.”
“I was out to meet Calvin from the first time
The couple’s love and affection for one another is critical and provides
I laid eyes on him,” Melanie added.
the boys with a strong role model for what a loving relationship can
“Every time I would see him walking
through campus, he was smiling.
I just had to know him.”
Today, the couple of 28 years
lives out their traditional love
story in a most unconventional
way as group home foster parents
on the Buckner Children’s Home
campus in Dallas.
“We decided to foster children as a form of ministry,” Melanie said,
“but in the meantime our marriage has been strengthened.
“To stay married you have to take the focus off of yourself,” she
said. “We found that when we were younger, our marriage was all
look like.
“There are so many children out there who need a safe and stable
place to call home,” Floyd said. “Buckner foster group homes help
provide for that need, and parents like the Baileys help make home
a reality.”
For the Baileys, becoming parents to teenagers again after living life
as empty nesters was an easier decision than one might think.
“After 26 years, we feel like we were just starting to get this parenting
thing down,” Melanie said with a laugh.
But while they may have mastered the art of juggling “joyous chaos,”
she said it’s not all fun and games.
Many foster children come to them from situations of serious abuse
or neglect, and they struggle with the baggage of their pasts.
about what made us happy. Over the years we’ve learned that serving
“Often times the home environments these boys come out of have
together not only keeps us bonded, but it adds life and joy to our
affected their self confidence and stunted their social development,”
relationship in ways we never anticipated.”
Calvin said. “Because I have been the first father figure that most of
Calvin, a landscape architect, and Melanie, an interior designer,
have two adult biological sons. After living several years as empty
nesters they decided to rejoin the parenting ranks. Now they take care
of teenage boys.
Teamwork is key, Calvin said.
“I couldn’t imagine doing this by myself,” he said. “My wife is amazing.
She does so much to make this house a home for the boys while I have
them have ever had, my goal has always been to prepare them to be
strong, but loving men once they are out on their own.”
Calvin and Melanie model this by staying committed to one another
and keeping their romance alive through daytime dates while the boys
are at school.
“Our daytime dating scene may be unconventional, but we’ve
learned what works for us,” Calvin said.
awarded myself the title of ‘activities coordinator.’ We enjoy taking the
“We have to make a point to take time for the two of us so that we
boys on bike rides, swinging at golf balls, and hitting up Dallas’ cultural
stay connected and keep our priorities in line. From coffee to lunch or
attractions – this is when I really get to see the boys open up.”
the movies, we take advantage of the special time that we have to
Buckner Foster Care Case Manager Whitney Floyd said the Baileys’
encouraging attitude is a daily commitment.
“One of my favorite things about the Baileys is that they give all of
build into our relationship and enjoy one another in the little things.”
Floyd said that the two are great models of parenting.
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By Chelsea Quackenbush White • Photography by Mike McLean
S
ix artists shuffle into the activities room at Buckner Villas in Austin,
Texas, artwork in hand, waiting to be photographed.
Judy Jackson, holding a large wreath adorned with colorful Christmas
bulbs, ribbons and beads, smiles patiently and chats with other residents while she waits for her turn. The room buzzes with chatter as
the artists admire each other’s pieces, which they’ve entered into the
Leading Age “Art is Ageless” competition.
“I’m closer to some of these people than my own family – or as close
“I enjoy doing it, and it’s just sort of in my blood,” Judy says. “I’ve
always enjoyed decorating. I’ve been doing different things, helping
people decorate their houses and stuff.”
Judy loves living in a community where art is supported and she has
friends who also like to create.
In addition to finding a home and a creative outlet, she also loves
to garden and keep the campus beautiful.
“I love to work with the roses outside. Right now, I’m
as my family,” she explains. “I just feel like I’ve known them for years.
in the process of cutting those back, and I was dead-
Everybody is so genuine.”
heading those once they started blooming and got a
When it was time for her to sell her house, the Austin native visited
little bit much for me once the weather got so hot,
several communities before she found Buckner Villas. She knew as soon
but I love working outside. I was a big gardener
as she stepped through the doors Buckner was going to be home.
before I moved in here.”
“When I visited, people here, they were just so warm and friendly,”
Judy says. It’s truly like family.”
Judy enjoys making wreaths and jewelry, especially during holidays.
Judy takes advantage of the “huge variety
of things to do.
“It’s hard to do everything they have
She also makes Christmas decorations and Christmas balls that she
available for you to do because there’s
sells at the annual Christmas bazaar on campus. She’s made wreaths
just something going on all the times,”
for years, but mostly for friends and family. Once she moved to Buckner,
she says. “All these people love seniors
her craft escalated when people started asking her to make wreaths
and it’s evident … when they ask
for various occasions.
about you, they genuinely care.” n
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In a matter of minutes, more than 100 bags fill the box. Children
possibilities for himself.
high-five each other and jump up and down. Their joy reverberates
“We have always talked to Tucker about the importance of doing
across the room, the sound of pure hearts that want to help others. For
things that serve others, whether that’s at church or at school,” says
volunteer appreciation month, the children are preparing the bags for
Tucker’s mom, Tracy. “Because this was something specific he could
those who serve through Buckner ministries.
do, he was on board.”
Here in this group of Buckner volunteers, everyone – no matter their
This group of elementary-age children largely focuses on practical
age – has a role to play in helping people, and that’s exactly why
ways they can help young people in the foster care system. A gathering
Tucker and his family participate. His father, Jay, discovered opportuni-
of larger blue bags full of school supplies rests on the opposite corner
ties for Tucker to serve when Jay was looking for Buckner volunteer
of the room, representing a portion of the group’s largest effort.
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“We have foster kids here,” Tucker says. “When they move, they
“It’s such a blessing to see parents teaching their children to give back
have to leave everything behind. We help by collecting school
to their community at such a young age,” she said. “As we engage
supplies for them.”
volunteers, it is so important we remember to see past a volunteer’s age,
Tucker may lead his parent’s involvement in helping children, but it’s
and instead see their ability and their heart. There is great potential in
a family effort. Jay and Tracy help him buy supplies when friends and
this generation of children who continue to be more and more socially
family members give him money. They encourage their son’s passion.
aware. I’m thankful for parents that seek opportunities for their children
“We believe God tells you to serve, to go and serve,” Tracy says.
“Whether it’s us doing something through church or somewhere else, it’s
important for us to have Tucker experience that as well.”
to participate in serving others.”
Tracy has noticed Tucker’s “already big heart for people” has grown.
He’s become involved in service opportunities through the Boy Scouts.
In addition to bringing his friends and family together, Tucker also is
This summer, the family is looking to participate in a mission trip together.
rallying Earl Luna Elementary School in Garland. He shared the need
“Since being affiliated with Buckner and seeing the good he’s
for school supplies with his principal, and the school began a drive.
doing, he’s more in tune and more aware and looking for opportu-
Last year, Luna students gave 10-15 backpacks full of school supplies
nities to serve,” Tracy says. “It has really opened the door for him
for foster children. This year, the school is becoming more involved,
to other opportunities.”
hosting a popsicle party for the class that donates the most supplies.
“It feels important to me to help other people,” Tucker says, explaining
his drive to gather school supplies.
These are the early and crucial steps in Tucker’s life. The Burgins are
seeking to instill a servant’s spirit in Tucker that lasts a lifetime.
“Our hope is that Tucker takes what he’s learning now about being
Buckner Foundation Manager of Volunteer Engagement Lindsay
selfless and continues to carry that forward for his own life and his
Miller beams when she thinks about the Burgins. They exemplify the
family,” Tracy says. “These little experiences along the way, if he can
kind of impact a family can have for vulnerable children.
broaden his horizons for God, that’s the goal.” n
Young people of all ages can help vulnerable children in the United States and around the globe through Buckner International. These
students give time and resources to learn about vulnerable children and collect items to help them.
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{Continued from page 17} Because the foster family cared, the infant
likely will survive.
“Families notice,” Cole says. “Because you’re there every day –
whether you’re talking about an infant, a young child or a teenager
– you notice the same changes in behavior, speech, actions. And you
investigate what’s going on.”
In an effort to focus on the needs of children, Buckner responds
proactively and reactively. Each year, Buckner helps roughly 500
children through foster care. In 2013, 113 children were placed in
forever families through Buckner.
One of the new ways Buckner is preserving families through foster
care and adoption is kinship care, which already makes up about half
of Buckner adoption and foster care ministry in the Houston/Conroe
area. Caseworkers seek family members and family friends of vulnerable
children as options for placement. When successful, children are
placed with familiar people, making the transition easier for them.
“How great for grandparents to be connected to grandkids and how
great for grandkids to be connected to biological family?” Cole says.
“Family has all the answers for family disease histories, identity and history.”
With another arm, Buckner is stabilizing and strengthening families
before children suffer. Through Family Hope Centers and family transition
programs, families have access to resources that meet immediate needs
and work through a variety of initiatives that empower them to improve
their parenting, job and budgeting skills or attain their educational goals.
“On one side of Buckner, we’re doing ministry for children whose
families have fallen apart for one reason or another,” said Cari Latimer,
director of Buckner Family Place in Houston/Conroe. “I look at Family
Place as the prevention of families falling apart. If we can help families
with budgeting, job, parenting skills, we aim to keep families together
and keep them stabilized.”
At transitional programs, many families arrive homeless or near
homelessness. Some are moving from couch to couch in friends’ houses.
A history of substance addiction or domestic abuse is common. Other
parents are struggling to pay bills while they go to school in an effort
to improve their lives.
At Family Hope Centers, many families are struggling to pay their bills.
They have medical needs that aren’t being met. They are fighting to survive.
Driven by a deep desire for something better, families enter into intense case management through Buckner. Together with caseworkers,
they identify goals and create plans to achieve them. Case managers
hold families accountable for the plans and encourage them along the
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way. Children excitedly watch their parents learn new skills, modeling
actions that children can replicate as they grow.
“We are diligent with working with a family – working on the
spiritual, physical and mental,” says Anna Rodriquez, director of
Buckner Family Place in Midland. “It’s helping mom, but it also
affects the children.”
Creating a plan in and of itself lifts families’ spirits, Buckner research
close to friends and family is key in maintaining a high quality life.
“For some of our residents, life can be difficult,” he says. “They may
lose a loved one or suffer a health issue. Knowing that a group of
people cares during times like those is critical.”
The Bible repeatedly shows God cares about families of all ages,
particularly those who are struggling. Buckner is a tool He uses to minister
to hurting people, including children, through strengthening families.
indicates. It plants the seeds of hope for a better life. From there, hard
“We know that God is already here,” Brambila says. “We’re a
work produces slow and steady results. Each milestone is reason for
very tangible way to show God’s love in these circumstances. Many
celebration. Transformation takes place as each goal is reached.
times, these people feel like they’ve been forgotten. We’re bringing
“You see hope,” says Ricardo Brambila, director of the Buckner
hope here.” n
Family Hope Center in Peñitas. “You see hope for a better tomorrow.
We’re making a slow and steady impact on community transformation
through family transformation. You see pride when people come
together. People are working together.”
By working proactively with families, Buckner is helping break generational cycles of poverty around the globe. Parents are earning degrees
and attaining better employment to support their respective families. Ninetyone percent of college-age children of parents who participated in a
Buckner transitional program are enrolled in or have graduated college.
Beyond the financial changes, adults are becoming better parents.
They better understand their children and how to raise them. Spiritually,
entire families are being transformed. Last month, four people at
Buckner Family Place in Midland professed their new faith in Christ
and were baptized.
“It really doesn’t matter where in the world you are, families matter,”
says Henry Jackson, Buckner Children and Family Services area vice
president for operations. “Societies are built upon families. They impact
neighborhoods, which impact cities, which impact states, etc. God
built it that way as a foundation piece for humanity and His glory.
Family plays a significant role in the health of a nation, and children
are a important part of that.”
With the same enthusiasm that Family Hope Centers and transitional
programs seek to strengthen families, Buckner Retirement Services
creates a family-friendly atmosphere that brings people together.
Family members are regularly on the campus for events with residents.
Staff members have deep relationships with residents.
Sue Nan Merrill has lived at Baptist Retirement Community in San
Angelo for about 20 years. Staff members know her well. They understand her needs. They’re her friends and part of her support group.
Those relationships are key for senior adults, according to Vice
President of Operations for Buckner Retirement Services Pat Crump. A
recent survey by the National Council on Aging, UnitedHealthcare
and USA Today revealed 40 percent of seniors believe being
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E
very Saturday during the 2013 farmers market season in Payson,
a parking lot where 39 vendors set up to sell fresh produce, eggs,
Ariz., 7-year-old Brooklyn Klein diligently set up a pint-sized fruit
snacks and locally made products like goat cheese and peanut butter.
stand between her grandma’s jam stand and a homemade peanut
Brooklyn and Ellie came later with their babysitter in time for Brooklyn
butter vendor, arranging her wares in bowls, bags and Chinese take-
to set up her stand before the market opened at 8 a.m. She displayed
out boxes. When the market opened for business, she already had
a Shoes for Orphan Souls poster at her fruit stand and happily told
customers lined up, waiting to buy fruit from their favorite little seller.
people all about why children needed new shoes. When customers at
Brooklyn kept her eyes on the prize: shoes for children in need.
the farmers market discovered Brooklyn’s reasons for setting up shop,
Her church, Expedition Church, was hosting
they quickly offered their support.
a shoe drive for Buckner Shoes for Orphan
“Other people were saying, ‘Come pick our
Souls®, and Brooklyn was inspired to do her
peaches’ or ‘My grandmother has a plum tree
part to support the project.
in her backyard and she can’t keep up with it
“We have a peach tree and a plum tree in our
anymore.’ So we began picking in others’ yards,
backyard,” said Katie Klein, Brooklyn’s mother.
too,” Katie said.
“We decided to pick from that and sell it.”
Brooklyn sold fruit for 15 weeks and raised more
Their backyard trees have low-hanging branches that
than $700 – enough to buy 51 pairs of new shoes for
Brooklyn can reach from a small step stool. She worked
her church shoe drive and contribute $51 to help ship
with her mom, her dad, Joey, and her little sister, Ellie, on
the shoes to Texas. She loved selling fruit to earn money for
Friday nights or early Saturday morning before the market to pick
Shoes for Orphan Souls so much that she plans to do it again when the
60-70 pounds of fruit to sell.
farmers market reopens in May.
Brooklyn’s secret to picking the most delicious fruit? “It’s the ones that
Brooklyn said she’ll be adding new products to her own stand to
come off the tree really easily.” As they picked, she and her family
help raise even more money – keychains and bracelets she makes out
carefully lined up the fruit in stackable trays to keep it from getting
of tiny, colorful rubber bands.
bruised and mushy.
“I look up designs on YouTube,” she explained. “I have all these,
like keychains, like leaves, snowflakes, and I had a little bow bracelet
that I made.”
Brooklyn looks forward to the farmers market all year and regularly
talks about it. Last year, about 1,200 people visited the market each
Saturday, and Brooklyn typically sold out within an hour and a half.
“Everybody just loved that that’s what she was doing,” Katie said.
“She charged $3 or $4 a bowl, depending on the type of fruit, but
instead of paying $3 or $4, people would give $10 or $20. They
loved seeing a kid doing something for somebody other than them-
Katie and Joey run the Payson Farmers Market and arrived at 6 a.m.
to open it up and prepare for the day. Rows of canopy tents soon lined
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selves. People would wait for her to open up her little part of the market
to buy from her – she built up a loyal customer base really quick!” n
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T
onight, the corner of Cracker Barrel is sacred ground. And it’s not because of the heavenly biscuits.
Roughly 10 people gather around a table that nearly runs the length of one of the restaurant’s
walls, exchanging hugs and handshakes before sitting at carefully chosen chairs. When they notice
there’s not enough room for everyone, they pull up another table. There’s always room here.
The conversation is lively and upbeat. Their laughter wafts across the restaurant like the scent of
chicken and dumplings coming out of the kitchen. Discussion dances throughout the group, covering
the latest events in their lives, family, friends and work.
But the conversation always returns to one topic: The children of Oaxaca.
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M
ore than anything, it’s what binds them. They’ve all served
in wondrous ways. They’ve seen Him provide the right sized shoes for
vulnerable children there during a Buckner Shoes for Orphan
the children they encounter. They’ve seen two people who speak dif-
Souls® mission trip. Some of them have been to the area multiple times.
ferent languages bond over shared experiences. People receive help.
Kneeling before impoverished children, washing their feet and fitting
People find and embrace Christ.
them with a pair of shoes changes a person, they agree.
In many ways, the experience is still changing the members of
Bayside Baptist Church in Harrison, Tenn. When they talk about their
various trips, the look in their eyes changes. They speak in the present
tense as if they’re still there.
Putting shoes on the feet of vulnerable children is the group’s assigned
task. Giving young people a glimpse of God’s love is the mission that
crosses cultural and language barriers.
“It’s not all about shoes,” Johnnie Johnson says. “A bunch of people
were saved down there.”
Vernon Ellis vividly remembers a young child named Lucy, who
At the other end of the table, Don says that’s precisely why members
placed her hands in his and led him to meet her mother. Don and Cathy
of the group keep going to Oaxaca, why they relive their trips as often
Popovich keep a picture of a child from Oaxaca, reminding them to
as they can. There, they feel closest to Christ. There, they get a sense
pray for the children of the area each day.
they are doing exactly what He wants.
“There’s so much love down there in those kids,” Vernon Ellis says.
“You wash the kids’ feet, put the shoes on their feet. You look up, and
they smile.”
Several people around the table nod in affirmation as Vernon speaks.
The trip is difficult to make, and participants work hard helping children.
Still, they actively recruit other people to go with them.
God is present there like He is here this night — in every word of
every conversation, in the midst of each relationship in this tight-knit
group. He calls them to Oaxaca, then gives them the privilege of seeing how lives are changed when His followers are obedient.
During the trips, those around the table tonight have seen God work
“It’s an experience God gives you,” he says. “It’s nothing you
accomplished. It’s something God accomplished through you.”
Juanita Hall quickly chimes in: “If you’ve never been on a mission trip,
you don’t understand. If you go once, you’ll never stop going.”
The restaurant is now nearly empty. Johnnie’s granddaughter is asleep
on his chest. No one wants to stop visiting, but they each realize it’s
time. As the night winds down and they head home, they know they’ll
always have Oaxaca.
“We’ll be in heaven one day and will be talking about this,” Johnnie
says on his way to the cash register. Tonight, they’ve already experienced a small piece of it. n
Tied to
Oaxaca
Don Popovich,(left)
and Johnnie Johnson,
place shoes on the feet
of children in Oaxaca,
Mexico. As a result of
their experiences on
mission trips through
Buckner Shoes for
Orphan Souls, their
hearts are now tied to
the region.
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By Lauren Hollon Sturdy
C
hristian Camacho likes life to be orderly. A clean-cut finance major
he still tries to be a role model to her, encourage her and visit her a few
at Texas Tech University, he dresses neatly, typically sporting a polo
times a year when he comes to Dallas.
shirt, khaki shorts and boat shoes. He’s articulate and talks about his
Although he’s an independent young man, Christian occasionally
goals with a sense of certainty. He nearly always has a plan. A strategy.
seeks help from Buckner Aftercare, a program that acts as a support
“He’s different from a lot of other kids,” says Summer Swope-Bechtel,
system for young people who have aged out of foster care. Aftercare
Christian’s aftercare caseworker at Buckner Children and Family Services
participants meet with their caseworker about every three months to
in Lubbock, Texas. “He just has everything planned so well that he usually
check in, talk about what’s going on in their lives and make sure
doesn’t need emergency assistance. When he does need something,
they’re on the right track. Aftercare programs often provide emergency
it’s very well planned out and thought out far in advance.”
assistance – helping with things like unexpected car repairs, providing
Soccer is his highest passion. A forward on the Texas Tech men’s club
soccer team, he has two-hour practices twice a week and plays with
friends at the recreation center for up to four hours at a time.
He’s also a member of the chess club and plays about two hours
a week at club events. He’s played since the fourth grade. He’s often
inspired by the brilliant people who belong to the club.
new clothes or even giving the kids gifts at Christmas time.
Christian says having aftercare to fall back on has given him tremendous peace of mind, since, unlike many college students, he can’t call
up a family member when he has a medical bill to pay or gets low
on grocery money.
“Without aftercare, my anxiety would be through the roof right now,”
“When I see those people play, it’s just a completely different
he says. “It’s a weight that’s lifted off your shoulders. It’s so much easier
level,” he says. “It helps me work harder. In my head, I’m thinking,
to focus on everything else rather than having to worry about money
‘You can do it.’”
issues or even something as small as trying to buy new shoes and stuff
He isn’t just juggling extracurricular activities. He has at least four hours
of homework a night, which is “the minimum to keep an A average,” he
like that. I honestly don’t think my GPA would be as high as it is without
the support of Buckner aftercare.
says. He discovered late in the first semester how important and helpful
“My caseworker provided me with everything I needed. If I needed
it is to attend his professors’ office hours. His hard work is paying off; he’s
rent money or anything for my apartment, they provided it. And it’s nice
a member of several honor societies and his high grade point average
just to have somebody come over and talk to me. It was nice [when I
earned him an invitation to apply for admission to the honors college.
first got to Tech] to see a face I could recognize in a new place, and to
As he finishes up his freshman year, he’s doing all the right things
to succeed. He defines himself and his future; the chaos of his teen
years doesn’t.
have someone to share my successes with.”
Christian plans to get his master’s degree and says he’d love to either
build his own business from the ground up or work at a hedge fund
Christian and his younger sister were removed from their mother’s
someday. He says he’s been fascinated by money – how it works and
care in Dallas when Christian was 15 years old. He lost count, but
how to make it work for you – since he was a young kid. He hopes
thinks he moved foster homes about 12 times in those chaotic years
someday he’ll be able to use it to give back to the people and institutions
before he graduated from high school and was emancipated from the
that have helped him along the way.
foster care system.
Christian and his sister were separated after being placed in care, but
“Support is crucial to success in life, I feel,” he says. “I can’t even tell
you how much they’ve helped me. It’s extraordinary.” n
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obbie Bleer arrives early and sits at the corner of a table in a
people in her life. They have helped her. And she has helped them.
woman’s Sunday school class at First Baptist Church in Longview,
The women are inspired by how she’s overcome a difficult life that
Texas. She’s the only one at the table – just the way she likes it.
“I don’t much mess with people,” she says with a wry smile. It’s true.
She doesn’t particularly like people in her business. She’s not big on
frivolous conversation. But it’s not as true as it once was.
included years of drug and alcohol addiction. Bobbie’s grateful for the
many ways they’ve provided practical help for her.
“I’ve seen a softening in Bobbie,” Jane Ann says. “I’ve seen a transformation of the ladies in our class, in our Bible study because of Bobbie.”
Last summer, “Miss Bobbie” didn’t know anyone in this class. For
In December, Bobbie was baptized at First Baptist Church by David
that matter, she hardly knew anyone in her apartment complex. Known
Ummel, executive director of Buckner East Texas. She believes God
as a cantankerous woman who previously lived on the streets for seven
still has plans for her life. That transformation is taking place in part
years, the feeling was mutual.
because of the ministry of Buckner and First Baptist Church.
Curiosity got the best of her though when she heard about a Fit Life
Bobbie gives back when she can, recently donating six boxes of
cooking class held at her complex by the Buckner Family Hope Center.
food for those who may need it more than she does. She is going to vol-
Bobbie has several health issues, including osteoporosis and cirrhosis
unteer during a backyard Bible club, sharing Bible stories with children.
of the liver, and knows she needs to eat better.
“Through the relationships with Jane Ann and Julie and with Buckner in
She went to the first class and stayed on the periphery. That continued
general, she’s come out of her shell,” says Buckner Family Hope Center
for a while. She participated, but didn’t interact with anyone. She
Case Manager Courtney Barr. “You can see Christ working in her life.”
made the food, took it home and ate it alone. Well, most of the time.
“Some of that I just won’t eat,” she says, looking back.
Her quality of life is improving. Deep joy resonates from her eyes.
With Buckner’s help, Bobbie’s recently found a better place to live.
Jane Ann Crowson, director of the Buckner Family Hope Center
“I’ve been blessed,” she beams. “My blessings are starting to come
in Longview and teacher of the First Baptist Church women’s Sunday
in more now since I gave up everything. Except one thing – I still
school class, laughs when she hears the words come out Bobbie’s
smoke cigarettes. But I’m working on that.”
mouth. That’s the person she remembers first meeting.
Sunday school class members are starting to file in now. Bobbie
Jane Ann encountered Bobbie through free laundry days made possible
is the first person each of them visits. Most of the interactions begin
by the Hope Center. It was the first time in years that Bobbie had washed
with a hug. Tucked away in those embraces, Bobbie smiles. She
her clothes and sheets in anything other than her apartment bathtub.
even hugs them back.
While waiting for her laundry to finish, Jane Ann and Bobbie connected.
Jane Ann calls the class to order and begins teaching. Bobbie opens
“I liked her from the get go,” Bobbie says.
her Bible and pulls out a notepad and pen. She enthusiastically takes
Bobbie’s connection with Jane Ann led to other connections. She
notes. About 10 minutes into the class, someone arrives late. They sit
became friends with Hope Center volunteers and staff members, many
two chairs down from Bobbie. And that’s all right by her.
of whom are members of First Baptist Church. They introduced her to
“To see where she has been and where she is now is just the
other members of the church, and soon Bobbie started going to a
biggest blessing to anyone who meets her, to anyone who comes in
Wednesday night Bible study. Then Sunday school.
contact with her or hears her story,” Barr says. “She is the picture of
Bobbie remained gruff, but not as solitary as she once was. She let
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what salvation is all about and transformation in God.” n
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BUCKNER SHAPSHOT
Kaylie Treadaway
Photography by Lauren Hollon Sturdy
O
nce a week, Kaylie Treadaway tutors students through the
Buckner after-school program at Simari Ridge Apartments
in Dallas. In the process, she brightens their day, and they brighten
hers. “KK” recently shared why she serves regularly:
Compassion.
KK empathizes with many of the young people she helps at Simari
Ridge. Her childhood was rough, even suffering from abuse and
having a parent with an addiction issue. She deeply cares about
children who are experiencing what she endured.
Courage.
A youth minister invested his time heavily into KK’s life. She remembers
the first sermon she heard him preach. It was based on Psalm 62:2:
“Truly He is my rock and my salvation; He is my fortress, I will never be
shaken.” The passage remains with her today. “For me that was
so crucial because I needed that rock. My emotions were
everywhere. I didn’t know the difference between up
and down. I needed to know someone could be
a rock, that someone could be there for me
when I just wanted to fall a part and
wouldn’t judge me because of that.”
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Calling.
A student at Dallas Baptist University, KK hopes to help young people after
she earns her degree. She feels called to “the tougher neighborhoods, the
tougher kids, maybe the kids other people don’t want to speak to.”
A youth minister changed her life by reaching out to her when she
was young and lost. Now she’s looking to make a similar impact. n
LAST LOOK | PARTING SHOT
Billie and Johnny
J
By Chelsea Quackenbush White
ohn and Billie Templeton have been married for 64 years. They worked together for more than 35 years at Texaco and drove there together, ate
lunch and went home together each day. People teased them all the time, but they say they just love being together. They can still be spotted walking
around Calder Woods in Beaumont, Texas, holding hands.
John -- or Johnny, as Billie affectionately calls him -- says the ingredients for a happy marriage are: “Respect and honor, kindness … love, of course
… and spending time together.”
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