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5600 young people can`t be wrong. How will YOU

5,600 young people can’t be wrong.
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Foreword
Introduction
by Ben White, YoungMinds Vs Policy Ambassador
from YoungMinds about YoungMinds Vs
Growing up in Britain today isn’t easy. You have to find
new friends at a new school, your body starts to change
and you have to deal with these ‘hormones’ that seem to
be taking you over. But as if acne wasn’t enough, it seems
this new world you’ve entered has a nasty side.
Young people are at the heart of everything we do at
YoungMinds, and youth engagement is a central
component of our work. Our young campaigners kept
telling us how tough life is for them and how hard it is to
get support when they need it. Countless research studies
from universities, voluntary sector organisations and
statutory bodies have backed this up. We decided to take
action. In co-creation with young people, we developed
a youth led campaign that would generate a groundswell
of young people fighting for better mental health, for all
young people. Comic Relief and the Big Lottery agreed
with us and funded the project.
With great pride, YoungMinds Vs was launched in January 2014 at a parliamentary event supported by MPs
Paul Burstow, James Morris, Nick Hurd, Ed Miliband and
Frankie Sandford from the Saturday’s. Our team of young
activists and supporting organisations are fighting the
pressure by:
• Raising awareness of the campaign in their
communities and online.
• Representing the campaign in the media - galvanising
the voice of children and young people seeking change.
• Working with local and national decision-makers to
influence services and support for young people.
• Partnering with a range of organisations who are
committed to ensuring young people’s mental health
is central to their work.
People are attacking you or your friends verbally or
physically on a daily basis. Lots of your peers have started
watching porn, sending naked photos to each other or
having sex far earlier than you expected, and you feel
under pressure to do the same.
The older you get the more pressure you find yourself
under to meet the grade academically. Each time an exam
comes up it seems like the most important thing in your
life and you feel like you’ll be a failure if you don’t succeed.
Even if you don’t fall off the academic ladder after years
of preparation, you expect to get a job but can’t, making
you feel worthless.
With factors like this so rife among the youth of our
society, it is no surprise that mental health issues like
depression, anxiety, self-harm, eating disorders and even
suicide have become so common among young people.
Yet it is incredibly difficult to access support services for
these issues with many people having to wait months to
get the help they need.
What makes it worse is that very little is being done to
tackle these issues. Somehow it seems society has come
to see these things as normal and acceptable, yet the
reality is far from it.
It is so important that this changes.
I am honoured to be part of the fantastic YoungMinds Vs
campaign that is trying to make that change happen and
make things better for all young people.
Together with your help we WILL fight the pressure!
How we consulted with young people:
YoungMinds Vs has consulted with a total of 5,600 young
people through focus groups, online consultations and
surveys. The first consultation took place from October to
December 2013. 1600 young people were asked what
were the big issues that affect them.
They told us: bullying, stress at school, sexual pressures,
no work and lack of access to help. These results formed
the YoungMinds Vs campaign priorities:
YoungMinds Vs Sexed Up – Don’t believe the hype
(tackling sexual pressures)
YoungMinds Vs Bullying – Stop the rot
(tackling bullying)
YoungMinds Vs School Stress – Rewrite the rules
(tackling school stress)
YoungMinds Vs No Help – Make your feelings loud
(tackling the lack of support and help)
YoungMinds Vs No Work – Fight for your future
(tackling unemployment)
The second and third consultations (January and May
2014) each asked 2000 young people how these
issues affect them and what needs to be done.
This report presents the results from these consultations
in young people’s own words.
What’s the problem?
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Society is sexed up.
If we want to, in just a couple of clicks we can watch hardcore pornography and
share explicit photos. For many of us this isn’t how we want it to be. It is making
us feel stressed out about when and what we should be doing sexually.
We also worry that the images we share might come back on us in the future or
be looked at by adults when we don’t want them to do that. We worry that it’s
unclear that when a girl says no, she means no and that boys have to look and
behave like men to survive. All this is piling on the sexual pressure, and making
us really aware of the way we look and act which can lead to body confidence
problems, stress and anxiety.
Over half of 11-14 year olds have viewed online pornography,
with 4 out of 10 believing it has affected their relationships.
75% of young people want sex education that gives them the chance to talk
about sex and relationships.
Jessica’s story
Children and teenagers live in a world where sex is in our faces.
When I was 13 many of my friends were getting half naked photos sent round
of themselves, one of my good friends was raped and many people in my year
were having sex. By that age I was being made to feel that by not watching
porn or by not having sex that I was doing something wrong. My sex education
in school consisted of watching an out of date film and no chance to discuss
anything that mattered.
My sister is 13 and it really concerns me that she could be made to feel the
same as I did. I want her to be able to ask questions without feeling judged or
embarrassed, to be given real information instead of school-girl rumours, and
to feel comfortable with who she is, knowing that she doesn’t have to feel
pressurised into doing anything she doesn’t want to do.
What do we want?
• We want every school to ensure we get sex education that helps us understand more
about relationships, and how to say what we want and don’t want.
• We want sex education that gives us the chance to talk about pornography and how it
affects us.
• We want safe spaces where we can talk about sexual pressures online, in school and
youth centres.
• We want more information about sexting so everyone understands the bad things that
can happen if we do it.
• We want more help and advice for parents and carers so they understand how to talk to
us about sex in sensitive ways.
What’s the problem?
Bullying, both on and offline, is happening all over Britain. Most of us have
witnessed bullying and many of us have been bullied ourselves.
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Bullying can affect our relationships when we become adults, and can make it
hard for us to find and keep jobs.
Half of the children and young people we consulted with have been bullied.
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85% of young people affected by bullying want support for as long as they I was nearly thirteen when I started to be bullied at school. The bullying became
so bad that I was physically attacked many times… I was terrified the bullies
were going to kill me. But I was too scared to tell anyone because I was scared
the bullies might find out and make it worse.
As a result of the bullying I developed Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, and I was
never able to return to mainstream school again. Although this happened three
years ago, the flashbacks and constant nightmares continue to make my
depression worse; have made me self harm and I have tried to end my life.
I am now sixteen and I am trying to move on with my life. I am campaigning to
stop the rot that bullying creates for young people like me.
What do we want?
• Getting support after bullying first happens isn’t enough. Often the effects don’t show
at first, they can start to show weeks or months after the bullying has happened. We
want long-term support for everyone who is affected by bullying.
• We want schools to build young people’s emotional strength so they can cope better
with all the problems of growing up - of which bullying is a big one.
• Schools need to help young people understand more about mental health problems so
that young people who are suffering don’t get bullied for being ‘different’ or ‘weird’.
Over half of the children and young people we asked believe they will be a
failure if they don’t get good grades.
82% of young people said schools should prepare pupils for life, not just exams,
need it so the bullying stops affecting their lives.
Jack’s story
Fitting in the A*- C box at school is everything, if we don’t then we
feel like failures. The exam factory environment is making us feel
stressed out.
For some of us, it is even harder at school because we are caring for
family members at home, we aren’t well ourselves, we are being
bullied or we have learning problems.
This means school stress combined with our own problems can lead to
low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, eating disorders and self-harm.
by teaching them how to cope when life is tough.
Jasmine’s story
All through school, me and my friends were always being told that if we mess
up in our exams, then we have messed up our futures.
The pressure made me feel so stressed out all the time - I didn’t eat or sleep
properly for ages and I felt so unhappy and desperate. I didn’t feel I could talk
to anyone, and all my teachers seemed to care about was good grades.
I had an idea stuck in my head that if I didn’t get perfect A* grades in all my
exams then I would be a failure, somebody who would never be good enough
for university or my future career.
I’m campaigning to stop schools just being exam factories and for teachers to
also help us to deal with all the pressures we face when we are growing up.
What do we want?
• We want schools to help us deal with all the stresses of growing up, and help us to be
strong for our future life as well as for our academic work.
• We want Personal, Social, Health and Economic education (PSHE) lessons to be compulsory.
• We want school inspections to look at how our schools are helping us to become strong
and able to deal with our problems.
• We want schools to provide more support young people who are suffering stress,
anxiety and depression, including access to counselling.
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Many of us find it really hard to cope and sometimes things get so bad we
need to talk to someone who can help us.
Often we don’t know where to go to get help, and even if we do, many of
us end up on long waiting lists, we have to wait months to get help and our
problems become a crisis before we get it. When we go to the doctor or try
and tell someone at school about our problems, they don’t understand us and
we feel really alone and don’t know where to turn.
1 in 3 young people do not know where to get help when they feel depressed or anxious.
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Having no work can make us feel worthless and like we have no future.
We don’t have structure or money. So many of us are struggling to find work
and this can make us feel really down, depressed and anxious.
We think it is terrible that a generation of young people is growing up in a world
where not having a job is normal. We don’t want to live our lives like this, getting
one rejection letter after another makes us feel awful.
72% of our young consultees want unemployed young people to get help to
deal with the stress and upset caused by being out of work.
83% of young people want everyone who works in schools to know how to
spot the signs a young person is struggling and how best to help them.
Of the 2,000 young people we asked ‘if you needed support what would be most important to you?’
the top issues were:
• I want to get help quickly when I need it and not have to wait.
• The support is provided somewhere where I feel comfortable and where I can get it easily.
• The person who supports me is someone I feel confident talking to and can be honest with.
Annie’s story
Since I became a teenager I have been really unhappy and have had severe
mental health problems.
I have self-harmed, struggled at school and my life at home has sometimes
been like a war zone because I was desperately suffering and taking it out on
my parents. When I first started to struggle, I didn’t know what was going on
and neither did other people. They thought I was acting up and being a ‘typical
teenager’. I felt so alone.
I have been admitted to hospital but onto an adult ward, not a children’s ward
because there were no beds available. I got help, but it was years after I started
to struggle. I needed help early on, right at the start.
I am campaigning to stop the cuts to young people’s mental health services.
What do we want?
• We want more money so there are more young people’s mental health services.
• We want everyone who works with children and young people to be trained to spot the
signs that young people are struggling and need help.
• We want young people to get help right up to 25; it’s no good if it just stops at 18.
We may be grown up then but we still need support if we are suffering.
• We want young people at university who need help to get it as quickly as possible,
and when they return home for the holidays for this help to carry on.
• We want to get help in places that are friendly and where you don’t feel like you are
going somewhere where you will be judged.
• We want online support services that are safe and don’t make us feel patronised.
Raymond’s story
Ever since I left college I have been applying for jobs but I just get one rejection
letter after another; at first I could handle it but after a while it started to make
me feel so unconfident, like I was a failure.
This is happening to young people all around me and it makes us all feel like we
have no future, like we are all on the scrapheap. I want to work because sitting
at home all day is really isolating and I have started to feel so down recently.
I just can’t see how my future is going to get better with no job and no money.
I am running out of hope.
Young people deserve the chance to make their own way in the world, to get
a job and become independent.
What do we want?
• We want the Government to create more opportunities for young people to build their
skills and experience.
• We want mental health awareness training for Jobcentre staff and all those who come
into contact with young people who are not in education, employment or training so
they understand the impact of not having anything to do and no money.
• We want young people to have more places to go for support and help if they are
struggling with their mental and emotional health as a result of not being in education,
employment or training.
Stacey White, a YoungMinds Vs activist
is asking YOU to take action.
“5,600 young people have spoken out about our worries
and concerns and what we want done about them.
We are asking for help from heads of schools and teachers,
of youth centres, of charities, of job centres, mental health
services our parents and the government to make sure the
things we have asked for in this document happen.
We want change, we don’t want to keep suffering in silence,
feeling like no one is listening. This is our right. We hope you
will do whatever you can by looking at what actions in this
document are your responsibility and what you can change
to make things better for us. Every small action will mean
something to us.
Thank you.”
Get involved
Aged 11-25?
You can get involved with the campaign online and in your community.
Visit youngmindsvs.org.uk/getactive to find out about free campaign training days and more!
Member of an organisation?
Pledge Support - Sign the pledge at youngmindsvs.org.uk/organisations and in doing so, commit to
taking action to support young people’s mental health.
Get Campaigning - Book the Fight the Pressure Campaign Training for the young people you work with.
Email us at [email protected] for more information.
Access training for professionals - To help you develop your knowledge and skills.
Find out more at youngminds.org.uk/training_services.
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