3 Myths Handout - Birds + Bees + Kids

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3 Myths Moms (and Dads) Believe That
Get Them Out of the Sex Talk
Amy Lang, MA
Myth #3:
They think their kids are too young to learn about sex.
Children who learn about sex from their parents at an early age are more
protected from child sexual abuse; see their parents as the “sex expert” in
their lives; and know sex and sexuality are open topics in their families.
These kids tend to wait longer before they have sex, have fewer partners,
and use protection more frequently.
Starting earlier gives you and your kids many, many opportunities to have
short and sweet conversations over the years. Gone are the days of one
awkward and traumatic “sex talk.”
Can you imagine what your childhood would have been like if you had
someone supporting you every step of the way as you learned about the
birds and the bees?
Myth #2
They think “nobody talked to me and I turned out okay.”
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write about talking to kids
about sex in the Seattle area
and nationally.
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They probably did turn out okay and most of us relied on our peers and
school for information about sex. Our parents might have given us books
or had one awkward talk when it was way too late. This “sex education”
will not serve our kids in todayʼs world. Things have changed and parents
need to as well.
If you donʼt talk to your kids from an early age and regularly through out
childhood and adolescence, they will learn it from the TV, their peers,
media, video games, music and Internet pornography. Frankly, they will
learn about sex from these sources anyway, but you have the choice to be
an active and involved guide for them or to cross your fingers and hope
they “turn out okay.”
Myth #1
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They think because their kids aren’t asking, so there’s no need to have the
conversation.
Just because your kid hasnʼt asked it doesnʼt mean they donʼt need to
know. All it means is that they havenʼt asked. When you learn what is age
appropriate for kids to know, and then initiate the conversations with them,
your kids are safer and ultimately, healthier. If you show them you are
open to these talks, they will be more likely to confide in you.
You decide. Who is the best sex educator for you children? You or their
world.
“Amy Lang is a parent's best friend-with-benefits
when it comes to talking to kids about sex!” -- Dan Savage
RESOURCE LIST
Birds + Bees + Kids Books + DVDs
DVD - Birds + Bees + Kids - The Basics, This hour long video is packed with information for parents of all beliefs.
Bonus Keeping Kids Safe video included.
Birds + Bees + YOUR Kids – A guide to sharing your beliefs about sexuality, love and relationships, The “how to”
guide to having great, easy, values based conversations with your children of any age.
Say What?! The Birds + Bees for Progressive Parents - What to say and how to say it. Coming soon!
Ages 3 to 6
Itʼs MY Body – A book to teach young children how to resist uncomfortable touch Lory Freeman and Carol Deach
Donʼt Be Scared To Tell Kathy Delgado Chatteron and Sam Lotfi
Itʼs NOT the Stork! A book about girls, boys, babies, bodies, families and friends Robie Harris and
Michael Emberley
What's the Big Secret? Laurie Krasny Brown, Ed.D. and Marc Brown
Ages 7 to 9+
It's So Amazing! A book about eggs, sperm, birth, babies and families Robie Harris and Michael Emberley
The Girls Body Book: Everything You Need To Know For Growing Up YOU! Kelly Dunham and Laura Tallardy
The Boyʼs Body Book: Everything You Need To Know For Growing Up YOU! Kelly Dunham and Steven Bjorkman
Ages 10 + older
It's Perfectly Normal! Changing bodies, growing up, sex and sexual health Robie Harris and Michael Emberley
The "What's Happening to My Body?" Book for Girls Lynda Madaras with Area Madaras
What's Going on Down There? Answers to Questions Boys Find Hard to Ask Karen Gravelle with
Nick and Chava Castro
The Sex EDcyclopedia: A Comprehensive Guide to Healthy Sexuality, For the Modern, Male Teen,
Jo Langford, MA
Body Drama – Real Girls, Real Bodies, Real Issues, Real Answers, (14+) Nancy Redd
Parents + caregivers
So Sexy So Soon - The New Sexualized Childhood and What Parents Can Do to Protect Their Kids Diane Levin
and Jean Kilbourne. How to deal with all that sexy stuff coming at our kids.
Protecting the Gift, Keeping Children and Teenagers Safe (and Parents Sane) Gavin De Becker. One of the best
sexual abuse prevention books ever written.
The TALK – What Your Kids Need to Hear From You About Sex, Sharon Maxwell, Ph.D.
Other Resources
StopItNow.org - Child sexual abuse support + information
D2L.org - Sexual abuse awareness training for churches, youth serving organizations, teachers, parent groups
SavvyParentsSafeKids.com - Tween safety, sexual abuse + abduction prevention tips and classes
ThePornTalk.com - Tips for talking to kids about porn
Look-Both-Ways.com - Internet safety
BirdsAndBeesAndKids.com - My site with video tips, book suggestions, classes and newsletter sign up
Facebook.com/BirdsBeesKids
Twitter.com/BirdsAndBees
“Amy Lang is a parent's best friend-with-benefits
when it comes to talking to kids about sex!” -- Dan Savage