Oct. 19, 2012 - Gay San Diego

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San Diego lesbians
get ready to tie one on
Popular Tie Party returns
Oct 20 to Downtown
By Morgan M. Hurley | GSD Assistant Editor
A Mission Hills Onion
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Attendees at the Matthew Shepard vigil were invited to fill out a poster board with positive affirmations to break
stereotypes. See the full photo feature with several other signs on page 12. (Photo by Cali Griebel/PhotosbyCali.com)
A new life for Brian
r Feature
Empowerment through remembrance
San Diego Remembers Matthew Shepard vigil highlighted by photo feature
By Anthony King | GSD Editor
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‘Good People’ at the Globe
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San Diego Remembers held
their annual Matthew Shepard
Candlelit Walk & Celebration on
Oct. 9, in part to honor the slain
Wyoming college student as well
as to remember all victims of hate
crimes, both in San Diego and
beyond. This year marks the 14th
anniversary of Shepard’s death.
A large crowd met at the intersection of University and Fifth
avenues at 7 p.m., where candles
were handed out and lit. The
group then moved east along University Avenue, ultimately ending
at The LGBT Center for a short
presentation and performance by
the San Diego Women’s Chorus.
Among the speakers was
Joseph Bokombe, a Ugandan
national seeking asylum in the
United States because he was
persecuted for his sexuality in his
home country.
“I was born in Uganda and
I’m gay. I fight for gay rights in
Uganda,” Bokombe said, adding
that he was honored to be at the
event. “This is my first time participating in the memorial.”
Bokombe went on to describe
his experience living in Uganda,
where he said he feared for his
life because of his sexuality.
“At one time, I thought that I
was worthless and useless,” he
said. “I’m not going to live like
this. I’m not going to let them
win. I have to stand up to them
and tell them what I believe.”
Bokombe then said, “I know
what I am. I am fabulous” to a
round of applause from the crowd.
“Let us be a voice and a face to
help our brothers out there who
are living in discrimination everyday, who are killed everyday [and]
who don’t have a voice,” he said.
“If we go out there to be a voice
to each and every one of those
people … we will make a difference. What the world needs [are]
people like us who come together
to make a difference and try to
make this world a better place for
each and every one of us.”
As part of this year’s event,
San Diego Remembers invited
the crowd to have their picture
taken with a sign that they could
fill out, dispelling a stereotype
about themselves while offering a
positive, alternative affirmation.
“[It is] a way to empower people to stand up for their rights” Eric
Hufford of San Diego Remembers
said. “[It shows] who we are and
who we identify as a community.”
Editor’s note: San Diego Remembers representatives Courtney Ware and Cali Griebel helped
organize and take the photos,
including the one shown here.
For a selection of others taken
that evening, see page 12.t
DeMaio speaks at
Hillcrest Town Council
Mayoral candidate addresses concerns for
neighborhood as well as support from community
By Anthony King | GSD Editor
At the Hillcrest Town Council meeting held
on Oct. 9, San Diego Councilmember and 2012
mayoral candidate Carl DeMaio spoke, highlighting his mayoral initiatives, discussing disagreements within the community and answering questions from the crowd. Approximately 30 people
were in attendance.
DeMaio repeatedly reiterated the focus of
his candidacy, citing fiscal and economic issues.
DeMaio is a Republican, while his opponent,
Congressmember Bob Filner, is a Democrat. The
election will be held Nov. 6 and, if elected, DeMaio
will be the first openly gay mayor of San Diego.
“My candidacy is about finishing the job of fiscal
reform,” DeMaio said. “Our fiscal reform agenda
isn’t just about the pretty balanced budget and the
great balance sheet. It’s about getting city government working again in our neighborhoods.”
Councilmember Carl DeMaio spoke at the October
Hillcrest Town Council meeting. (Photo by GSD)
The Hillcrest Town Council holds monthly
open meetings and focuses on being a voice for
community input Hillcrest residents, renters
and homeowners. While separate from Uptown
Planners and the Hillcrest Business Association
(HBA), the Town Council works closely with
businesses, planning groups, city government
and individuals on issues it deems important to
the neighborhood.
see HTC, pg 5
One of San Diego’s favorite women’s events is hitting the rooftop of
another Downtown hotel this weekend. This year’s FlawLes Tie Party is
“poised to be our best year yet,” said
FlawLes co-founder Talonya Gear y.
The Tie Party offers the lesbian
community a chance to “dress up” and
show off their favorite neckwear while
celebrating in a classy venue with
gifted entertainment. This year’s soiree
will be held on Saturday, Oct. 20 from
8 p.m. to 1:30 a.m. at the SummerSalt
Rooftop Deck at the Kimpton-owned
Hotel Palomar, located at 1047 Fifth
Ave. in the Gaslamp.
The Kimpton brand has gained the
reputation as a LGBT-friendly hotel chain,
and acted as a sponsor of last year’s Tie
Party in San Francisco that FlawLes coproduced with Curve Magazine.
Although it was previously publicized that Tracy Young, who had performed at the San Francisco party, was
booked for San Diego, her schedule
forced her to cancel. In Young’s place
Wendy Ochoa, FlawLes Media co-founder
(Photo by imagerywithimpact.com)
will be Los Angeles-based DJ Amara
and local legend, Dj dirtyKUR TY, two
popular entertainers that Gear y said
will offer attendees a show that will
mirror the ver y first Tie Party, which
she called “full of surprises.”
“DJ Amara … has so much depth
and style to her music and the energy
she and her crew bring is something
you don’t find in San Diego,” Gear y
said, “[and] Dj dirtyKUR TY … has
more musicality in her pinky than most
DJs can dream of.” The two will be
performing “side-by-side in a two-byfour DJ set” and Gear y expects it to be
remembered well after the weekend.
Amara will also have two percussionists accompanying her at the venue.
Dj dirtyKURTY said she is looking forward to performing at the rooftop event.
“I am excited to pass on this message that
FlawLes has created and honored to be
one of the DJ’s that makes people dance
and celebrate this cause,” she said.
Gear y launched FlawLes Media with
friend Wendy Ochoa in 2007 as a way
to “create a voice and fill an enormous
void for the lesbian community,” Ochoa
said. Although it may appear to some
see FLawLes, pg 4
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Queer Art Project comes to life at Lambda Archives
Organization takes on decade-long project in hopes of documenting LGBT art movement
By Anthony King | GSD Editor
With the new exhibition space
and expanded room at the Lambda Archives location as incentive,
staff and volunteers have picked
up a documentation project that
began almost 10 years ago. Called
the Queer Artist Project, they
are collecting and organizing
information to acknowledge the
contribution artists have given to
the LGBT community.
The idea for the project came
from former Archives president,
Bruce Kamerling. An artist,
Kamerling was president of the
archives from 1993 to 1995. Susan
Richards began volunteering for
the Archives before Kamerling
left, and officially founded the
project under her stead.
“Bruce really needs to be honored as the first person who had
some kind of a concept … that
gay artists in the San Diego area
needed to be acknowledged,”
Richards said. “He shared his
idea to me, and I made it happen.”
When Richards began volunteering, she was doing “generic
clippings,” she said, and wanted
to make the experience personable by tapping into a deep
interest of hers. An artist herself,
the Queer Artist Project was the
perfect outlet.
Richards has since left her
work at the Archives and moved
to the east coast, but that did not
stop the Archives from picking
up the work once again. Currently, Cesar Chavez, an Archives
volunteer and art histor y student
at the University of San Diego, is
overseeing the project.
Initially, Chavez has been
organizing boxes of information
that Richards and the Archives
collected over the years, including photographs and slides of
artists’ work, various ephemera
and flyers, as well as exhibition
listings and programs dating back
to the 1970s. They even have
some works of art, however that
is not the project’s main focus.
“It’s a collection of information, but it’s not a collection of
art,” Chavez said. “It’s information on artists, [and] it’s information on the exhibits and shows
that they’ve put on over the
years.”
Chavez highlighted several
pieces in the project in addition
to the many files of information,
including written correspondences between Kamerling and artist
Paul Cadmus, and a doll created
by artist Muriel Fisher.
For Richards, who also
studied art histor y in college, the
Queer Artist Project is something
that can be used by universities
and historians, both through
the physical space in University
Heights as well as online.
“Let’s say an art histor y professor at a local college wanted
to include a module on queer
artists in their class,” she said.
“They could go to the Queer Artist Project page on the [Lambda
Archives] website and find a list.”
Richards said a project like
this would have been valuable
when she was attending school,
for LGBT individuals were virtually invisible. “In those days, it
was, ‘Where are they? Who are
they?’ It’s so different now,” she
said. “There were no gay studies
at the time. There was not even
mention of any women artists, let
alone any lesbian, gay or queer
artists of any kind.”
Both Richards and Chavez
credit their interest in art histor y as a drive for their initial
volunteerism, and now have a
strong sense of preser ving LGBT
histor y.
“People think of past eras trivially, and not something serious,”
Chavez said. “These people were
ver y serious about what they
were doing in their community.
They were the forbearers to what
we have now. They were activists
in the ver y beginning, putting
themselves out there, and I think
A handmade
doll by Muriel
Fisher from the
collection of
Diane Germain
at the Lambda
Archives (Photo by
Rebecah Corbin)
Cesar Chavez working on the Queer Artist Project at the Lambda
Archives (Photo by Rebecah Corbin)
it’s important for us to recognize
and acknowledge that.”
In addition to the online
source, the Archives will use their
new space for a Queer Artist Project exhibition sometime within
the next few months, Chavez
said. The project will be ongoing,
however, growing over time with
more and more information.
The phase Chavez is currently working on will initiate an
outreach program, calling on San
Diego artists to be a part of what
he said is a “living
archive” of LGBT artists.
“It doesn’t have to be art as
in painting or sculpture,” he said,
adding that they were interested
in all mediums, like dance, music
and spoken word, in addition to
artists who work in more traditional mediums.
“There’s a lot that can be
done,” he said. “You can think of
it as a working collection.”
If you have information or
want to be a part of the project, they ask you contact them
through the Archives’ website at
lambdaarchives.us or via phone
by calling 619-260-1522.t
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Oct. 19–Nov. 1, 2012
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The Old Globe appoints
new artistic director
Barry Edelstein will lead company into
‘new period of excitement and achievement’
FlawLes Tie Party-goers from last year’s event (Photo by imagerywithimpact.com)
From page 1
flawles
that Ochoa is rarely heard, she is
ver y much seen when it comes
to the FlawLes brand as she
personally commandeers the
visual and creative image of
each final product, something
she said she takes ver y seriously.
“I want people to look at
what we put out to represent
FlawLes – and lesbians – and
be just as impressed by our
style and value as they would
any other mainstream media
piece. I also work directly
with Talonya [Geary] to determine what direction we go in as a
business and as an organization.”
Gear y is about to embark
upon one of the biggest and
most anticipated changes in her
career so far, a move to Manhattan just after the weekend party.
“With my upcoming move to
New York City, I’m even more
excited and nostalgic to put on
an unforgettable production in
San Diego,” Gear y said. “I hope
that San Diego joins us for another great night for women.”
With FlawLes launching their
own social media application, thus
becoming more mobile, Geary’s
new digs could only enhance the
company’s vision down the line.
Whatever is in store, it is clear
that FlawLes itself is not going
anywhere soon.
Last month, FlawLes brought
back their popular Thursday
night event at 1202, located
at 1202 University Ave. The
weekly gathering is called
“Lis(t)en” and offers great music and community for lesbians
and their friends. But it is the
bigger events that keep the
FlawLes brand thriving.
“The Tie Party was created so that we could produce
a really sexy, sophisticated
evening event,” Ochoa said.
“Our first Tie Party shocked
us by how popular it was, and
it’s the one event besides the
Pride Pool Party that women
ask us about all year.”
Ten percent of all Tie Party
sales will go to FlawLesGivesBack.org, the philanthropic
initiative Gear y and Ochoa
launched earlier this year. As for
what else is on the horizon for
FlawLes, Ochoa’s not budging.
“We like to keep people
guessing,” she said. “Just know
we’re always pushing ourselves
to create something new, and
we’re always pushing the envelope somewhere, somehow.”
Presale general admission
tickets to the Tie Party are $25,
and VIP are $40. VIP includes
roundtrip transportation from
Hillcrest to Downtown with uber.
com/GO as well as FlawLes swag.
General admission ticket holders
may also use uber, receiving a 20
percent discount. Cabanas are
available for $300 and include six
tickets, one valet, VIP service and
drink specials. For more information and tickets visit flawles.com.t
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(l to r) Managing Director Michael G. Murphy and Artistic Director Barry
Edelstein (Photo by Doug Gates)
By Anthony King | GSD Editor
The Old Globe Theater announced Barry Edelstein as the
company’s new artistic director, joining Managing Director
Michael Murphy at the 77-year-old
organization. Edelstein will take
over artistic duties from interim
Artistic Advisor Richard Seer.
“I am deeply honored and beyond thrilled to be appointed artistic
director of one of this country’s
greatest theaters,” Edelstein said
in a press release announcing his
appointment, which was released
Tuesday, Oct. 16.
“The Old Globe’s history is one
of unparalleled excellence, and it
will be my privilege to work alongside Michael Murphy to build on
that history and guide the theater
into a new period of excitement and
achievement,” he said.
Edelstein is the current director
of the Shakespeare Initiative at The
Public Theater in New York City,
overseeing all of the company’s
Shakespearean productions as well
as the educational, community outreach and artist-training programs.
“I believe that a thriving theater is vital to the life of a vibrant
city, and I am delighted that this
opportunity will bring me and
my family to one of the most
spectacular cities in America,”
Edelstein said. “I am grateful to
the board and search committee
for selecting me, and I cannot
wait to get to work.”
Before joining The Public
Theater, Edelstein was the artistic
director of the Classic Stage
Company, also in New York City.
While director, the Off-Broadway
theater doubled in size and was
recognized with numerous major
theater awards, including six
Obie Awards, and the Lucille
Lortel Foundation award for Outstanding Body of Work in 1999.
In addition to classic, contemporary and world-premiere
productions, The Old Globe stages
the annual summer Shakespeare
Festival. Edelstein has extensive
directorial experience in staging
Shakespeare’s work, including “As
You Like It” with Gwyneth Paltrow
and “Julius Caesar” with Jeffry
Wright, among others.
Additionally, Edelstein served
as associate producer of The Public
Theater’s recent Broadway production of “The Merchant of Venice”
starting Al Pacino and is the author
of “Bardisms: Shakespeare for All
Occasions” and “Thinking Shakespeare,” which is considered one of
the standard texts on United States
Shakespearean acting.
“Our staff and artists are
elated that Barry is joining The
Old Globe,” Murphy said in
the release. “His extraordinary
background in contemporary
plays, classics and Shakespeare,
in addition to his commitment to
the creation and development of
new works, is a perfect match with
The Globe’s history of theatrical
tradition and artistic innovation.
Barry’s energy and intense love of
theater are infectious, and I look
forward to welcoming him and his
family to San Diego.”
Edelstein will take over artistic
director duties Nov. 1 and will
move full-time to San Diego in
January 2013. He is currently in
rehearsals for the world premiere
of “The Twenty-Seventh Man”
by Nathan Englander, which will
begin performances at The Public
Theater Nov. 7.
Edelstein joins Murphy in a
return to a dual-management structure for The Old Globe. Appointed
to managing director in April,
Murphy served as general manager from 2003 to 2012, overseeing
several aspects of the organization
from production and education
to human resources and front-ofhouse operations. He also managed
the theater company’s construction
of a new theater and education
facilities. The Old Globe is located
in Balboa Park.
“Barry Edelstein and Michael
Murphy will give The Old Globe
a world-class theatrical leadership
team and open up a future for the
Globe that’s even brighter than its
illustrious heritage,” Board Chair
Harold W. Fuson Jr. said in a the release. “Barry will be a terrific asset
to San Diego.”
Fuson went on to thank Elaine
Darwin and the search committee
for their work in securing Edelstein
as artistic director. Darwin chaired
the committee and worked in collaboration with former Old Globe
Managing Director Tom Hall in
the search, which was done on an
international scale.
Board members Donald Cohn,
Kathryn Hattox, Evelyn Mack Truitt, Harvey White and Vicki Zeiger
served under Darwin on the search
committee, with Fuson, Murphy
and Seer acting as advisors.t
NEWS
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From page 1
htc
Part of that initiative is providing a forum for guest speakers,
including DeMaio. The group
welcomed Filner to speak at their
August meeting.
After moving beyond discussion
of fiscal reform, DeMaio emphasized other platforms of his mayoral
run, including infrastructure, parking and the environment, ultimately
coming back to economic concerns
by calling job creation the “most
important” issue for the new mayor.
“We also need to pivot from fiscal reform and restoring services;
we’ve got to get our economy moving again,” he said.
DeMaio then addressed his
support in Hillcrest, including from
the LGBT community. In the June
primary election, DeMaio did not
receive the majority of votes from
the Hillcrest neighborhood, nor
does he have full support from the
LGBT community, a point he made
at the Town Council meeting.
“We may disagree from time
to time,” he said. “I know a lot of
people look at me and see nothing
more than a party label, just like a
lot of social conservatives at one
point looked at me and saw nothing more than my orientation.”
During the audience question
portion of the meeting, DeMaio
was asked specifically about his
relationship with Nicole Murray
Ramirez, a local LGBT activist
who is vocal about the pair’s failed
friendship.
“Where do you think that
relationship went off track?” one
person asked.
DeMaio answered by saying,
“In business, I’ve always found that
you don’t let a prior disagreement
block your ability to work with
someone. … My goal is to make
sure that we work with people who
want to move our city forward in
a positive light, [and] who want to
move our community of Hillcrest
forward in a positive light as well.”
Other questions from the audience included the state of the Uptown Community Plan, density and
infrastructure issues for Hillcrest,
and DeMaio’s plan for education.
Regarding density and the Uptown Community Plan, which was
brought up by the audience twice,
DeMaio said there is both money
and a commitment from the city to
see its completion.
“You need neighborhoods, so
community plans are really the reflections … of where we are today
and where we want to go,” DeMaio
said, calling Hillcrest a “walk-able
and bike-able urban community.”
Attendees were also interested
in what the councilmember thinks
would be the difference between
his mayoral term and Filner’s, if he
were to win.
“I think you need a mayor with
a record of getting things done
and a plan of where we go from
here,” DeMaio said. “That’s what
we’re offering, in addition to the
demeanor and temperament to
bring different sides together.”
The candidate reiterated his
belief that he is able to work with
both Democrats and Republicans,
saying he would approach everything by asking if it was a “good
issue” instead of a party issue.
“I might not win everyone’s vote
in this room, in this election, but
elections are not just about winning,”
he said. “They’re about building relationships with people so they feel
comfortable to come and bring any
issue to you at any time.”t
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Oct. 19–Nov. 1, 2012
Vanguard KPBS journalist Gloria Penner dies
Public figure remembered as activist, mentor and pioneer
By Morgan M. Hurley | GSD Assistant Editor
position” at the station, Karlo said.
“Gloria was a true trailblazer
at KPBS and in local news,” he
said. “She led the way for women
in journalism and set the standard
for political reporting and election
coverage – in-depth thoughtful
analysis – that remains a priority
for KPBS today.”
News came Oct. 8 of the passing of Gloria Penner, a longtime
local journalist whose trailblazing
career of influence spanned more
than fifty years.
Penner spent the last 43 years
working for KPBS, the local public
media outlet offered as a
public service by San Diego
State University, before succumbing to cancer on Oct.
6 after a two-year struggle.
She was 81.
The organization
released both a printed
and a filmed statement on
Penner’s passing, calling her
a “broadcasting pioneer.”
The television spot said
Penner started her career
at KPBS in 1989 as a community relations director,
“a position she immediately
abandoned for a camera and
a microphone.” KPBS had
Penner addressing the League of Women
been in operation for two
Voters (Courtesy League of Women Voters)
years when Penner joined
the station.
“KPBS would not be the same
The station identified Penner
today if it wasn’t for the contrias a champion of women’s rights,
butions of Gloria Penner,” said
and a voice for not only women in
General Manager Tom Karlo in
the workplace, but all minorities.
the printed statement. “Gloria was
Her goal as journalist was to get
among the first staff during the
“the inner thoughts and the outer
formative years of KPBS. She has
struggles” of those she interviewed.
been an integral part of KPBS’
“I had the fortune to work with
growth and change through the
Gloria Penner for over 15 years,” said
decades. We will miss her dearly.”
Monica Medina, the station’s director
During her extensive career at
of diversity. “In that time, I found
KPBS, Penner held many different
her to be a mentor, a visionary and a
titles and positions by adapting to
staunch supporter of the KPBS miswhatever was needed, and was “the
sion. She was a true pioneer, not only
first woman to reach a management for all women, but all striving for the
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American Dream. More importantly,
Gloria was devoted to San Diego and
its diverse communities. She believed
in equal rights for all.”
Longtime LGBT and political
activist Gloria Johnson shared her
memories of Penner as well, calling
her an “early female voice” on radio.
“I had the privilege of meeting Ms.
Penner once when she came to [the
then called] San Diego Democratic
Club for a special event,” Johnson
said. “We found her to be a supporter of LGBT rights and a friend to all
of us. She will be missed.”
The San Diego-based
Women’s Museum of California,
led by Executive Director Ashley
Gardner and board President
Anne Hoiberg, also released a
statement on her passing.
“With a heavy heart, we
thank Gloria for being an inspiration to all of us and for her dedication to upholding the highest
principles of journalism. Her
many contributions to the people
and community of San Diego will
live on,” they said.
A special tribute to Penner
will be included in the Women’s
Museum of California’s “Salute
to the Women of Broadcast
History” program, to be held
Nov. 9 at the McMillin Center in Liberty Station. For more
information about the tribute, visit
womensmuseumca.org.
Penner and her distinctive voice
worked as long as possible, despite
her illness. Her last broadcast was
July 20, 2012, as the mid-day host of
the Editor’s Roundtable, a program
she created in 1998.
She is survived by her husband,
Bill Snyder of La Jolla, Calif. and
two sons, Brad Penner of San Diego
and Steve Penner of Tucson, Ariz.
There will be a public celebration of
Penner’s life at a future date.t
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Oct. 19–Nov. 1, 2012
gay-sd.com
Letters
Praise for Michael Kimmel’s Life
Beyond Therapy column
Dear Michael,
I wanted to contact you to thank you for your great
articles in Gay San Diego’s “Community Voices” section.
I’ve only been in San Diego for about four months, but every
article has been a great read.
I’m a resident physician at UCSD in Family Medicine
and much of what you talk about is very relevant to my
patients, not to mention me. For a long time I was interested
in Psychiatry until I realized I really would have preferred
counseling psychology instead. I find that so many anxious
and depressed patients really just need more time ironing
out topics such as those you discuss.
The two recent ones on “infatuation” and “the anatomy of
an affair” were particularly good. Such good topics. I would
love to see one on the culture of Grindr, but good luck not
ostracizing your readership!
Just wanted to say thanks and keep up the great work!
All the best,
—Mike Schmerber, via email
Morissette’s nod to the LGBT community
Amazing! Great to have this international reporter already
working in the U.S. [see “Alanis Morissette reigns as singersongwriter queen,” Vol. 3, Issue 20]. Never knew about Alanis’
wink at the LGBT community, but it is never too late. Kudos!
—Javier Guerra, via gay-sd.comt
Editorial
The California Fair Political Practices
Commission has launched an investigation into
NOM for not reporting $345,000 that it raised in
2008 to pass California’s Prop 8. That investigation has been underway since May of this year.
It’s time for NOM to go down
By Fred Karger
The National Organization for Marriage
(NOM) has funded and led every anti-gay
marriage action and election in this country
since it was formed five years ago by the Mormon and Catholic Churches. It was setup to
serve as their “front group” in order to qualify
and pass California’s Proposition 8. Prop 8
stripped away California’s gay marriage law
and wrote discrimination into the state Constitution for the very first time
NOM has morphed into a finely tuned,
effective $12 to $15 million-per-year bullying
operation that has gone to war against lesbian,
gay, bisexual and transgender Americans in
more than 20 states. NOM also goes after anyone and everyone who gets in its way on the
ground, at the ballot box and in the courts.
NOM under investigation in two states
It’s now been legally documented in
Maine and elsewhere that NOM doesn’t
play by the rules. NOM has been under a
three-year investigation in Maine by the state
attorney general and ethics commission for
money laundering by failing to obey Maine’s
election law and report its contributors. NOM
has spent millions attempting to stop the
investigation and repeal Maine’s campaign
finance disclosure laws with several separate
lawsuits.
The federal lawsuit made it to the United
States Supreme Court twice. Recently, the U.S.
Supreme Court, for the second time, denied
to hear NOM’s case. The lower court ruling,
which orders NOM to cooperate with state
investigators and reveal its donors, stands.
NOM the bully
In state after state – like in Maine and
beginning in California – NOM has sued to
invalidate decades-old campaign disclosure
laws to hide the names of the individuals and
organizations contributing millions of dollars
to NOM every year.
In 2010, NOM spent at least $450,000 to
run terrible attack ads against pro-gay marriage supporter former congressman Tom
Campbell when he ran for U.S. Senate in
California in the Republican primary.
NOM spent $1 million in vicious attack
ads to defeat New Hampshire Governor
John Lynch in his reelection campaign in
November 2010 because he signed that state’s
gay marriage bill. That same election NOM
spent $1.5 million to successfully flip the New
Hampshire state legislature as part of its continued effort to undo New Hampshire’s new
freedom to marry law. NOM eventually lost
that vote to repeal New Hampshire’s marriage
law, but not without waging a big, expensive
battle of threats and intimidation.
Maine, Minnesota, Washington and
Maryland ballots
NOM qualified two referenda on November ballots in Washington and Maryland to
overturn their new marriage laws. NOM got
the Minnesota constitutional amendment on
the November ballot to cement that state’s
anti-gay marriage law into the state constitution. In Maine we have NOM on the defensive
when the LGBT community and our allies
qualified our own initiative to allow marriage
in the Pine Tree State.
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EDITOR
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ASSISTANT ART DIRECTOR
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Mike Rosensteel
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Jennifer Muth
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SALES ASSISTANTS
Michael Burlaza
Andrea Goodchild
Marie Khris Pecjo
CONTRIBUTORS
Allan Acevedo
Chris Azzopardi
Blake Beckcom
Gwen Beckcom
Max Disposti
Michael Kimmel
Cuauhtémoc Kish
Ian Morton
Jeff Praught
Frank Sabatini Jr.
Romeo San Vicente
Brian Snook
NOM gave $250,000 to each state operation
so far and its fulltime political operative Frank
Schubert is running all four campaigns. NOM
will put in a lot more money in this final month
before election day, and will do whatever has to
be done to keep its win streak intact.
Presidential marriage pledge
Let’s not forget that NOM got six of the
nine Republican Presidential candidates to sign
its virulently anti-gay marriage pledge last summer. Mitt Romney was one of those signers.
It calls for the passage of a federal Constitutional amendment to ban gay marriage in all
50 states. It also requires whichever signer
wins to appoint a presidential commission to
“investigate” individuals who “harass” donors
who fight for “traditional marriage.”
NOM boycotts businesses
This year NOM took up a new tactic and
organized boycotts against any company that
dares to support the freedom to marry. As
soon as Starbucks endorsed marriage equality in its home state of Washington, NOM
launched its “Dump Starbucks” boycott.
When Minnesota-based General Foods
endorsed gay marriage, NOM launched a
boycott of the large cereal maker, too.
After T-Mobile gave $25,000 to pass Referendum 74 in Washington State to uphold the
Legislature’s recently passed gay marriage
law, NOM began a boycott of the wireless
phone company. NOM has even gone after
two NFL players who support marriage equality asking the National Football League to
sanction them. This is quite hypocritical from
an organization that complains that the free
speech of its million-dollar donors is being
threatened.
Time to Fight Back Against NOM
How many times will the LGBT communi-
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ty and all our allies get kicked in the gut, bullied, lied to, viciously maligned and attacked
by NOM before we fight back? NOM is a powerful, very well funded, extremely influential
and well-organized hate group. Yet most in the
LGBT community don’t even seem concerned
that every day, in every election, NOM works
tirelessly to take away our rights.
It was recently discovered that Michigan
billionaire Doug DeVos gave what appeared to
be the largest single-family donation to NOM:
$500,000 to NOM’s Educational Fund, or 20
times T-Mobile’s contribution to Referendum
74. The DeVos contribution accounted for
almost half of NOM’s budget the year it was
given. DeVos and his family are the owners of Amway Corporation of Grand Rapids,
Michigan.
Journalist Zack Ford of Think Progress
discovered the massive contribution through
the DeVos tax returns. Soon thereafter, Rights
Equal Rights declared a global boycott of all
the businesses owned by the family. This list
includes its mother ship Amway along with
three hotels, 26 car dealerships, health clubs,
real estate holdings, the Orlando Magic NBA
team and a variety of other businesses. Check
out our website, RightsEqualRights.com for
the list of businesses under boycott and to see
how you can help.
We need to fight back against equality’s
single most formidable opponent as it continues its attempt to take away the rights from
millions of Americans at every level of government. We need to fight back against NOM
like it so effectively does against us.
Editor’s note: Fred Karger, a 2012 LGBT
Republican Presidential candidate, is the
president and founder of Rights Equal Rights.
His complete editorial was originally published
on Advocate.com Oct. 11, and is partially
reprinted here with his permission.t
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NEWS BRIEFS
Bears San Diego to host Bear
Club Alliance event
Organized by Bears San Diego, the
Southern California Bear Club Alliance annual event, BearQuake, will take place Friday
through Sunday, Oct. 19 – 21 at various locations throughout San Diego. Bears San Diego was established in 1994 and serves as a
fundraising organization and social club. During BearQuake 2012, social events include a
Meet ‘n’ Greet at Pecs Bar Friday, Oct. 19 at 7
p.m., brunch and beach-blanket BINGO with
the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence at Fiesta
Island on Sunday, Oct. 21 at 11 a.m., and a victory celebration at the Hole on Sunday, Oct.
21 at 4 p.m., among other events. On Saturday, Oct. 20 attendees are invited to Rich’s
San Diego for a VIP dinner reception at 5:30
p.m. before the annual Mr. So Cal Bear and
Mr. So Cal Cub contest and show at 6:30 p.m.
The evening will continue with the LL Bear
and BearQuake dance at 9:30 p.m., also at
Rich’s. Serving as a fundraiser for additional
local nonprofits, this year’s beneficiaries are
two charities that support HIV and AIDS services: Family Health Centers of San Diego
and Special Delivery San Diego. “We hope
you join us for this weekend, get to know
some of [the] wonderful people participating
in our event and take away fond memories,”
BearQuake 2012 steering committee Chair
Jeff Rosenfeld said in his welcome letter. For
more information, including the complete
schedule and registration, visit bearssd.org
or bearquake.com.
26 BAKERS PARTICIPATE IN MAMA’S PIE IN
THE SKY FUNDRAISER
Now in its eighth year, the annual Mama’s
Pie in the Sky Thanksgiving Bake Sale for
Mama’s Kitchen has added 10 new participating “bakeries” this year, bringing the total
to 26 local restaurants, hotels and catering
businesses. Located throughout San Diego County, the 26 bakers pledge to donate
baked pies to the nonprofit, which will then
be delivered for pickup on Nov. 21, the day
before Thanksgiving. Pies cost $20, with all
proceeds funding Mama’s Kitchen programs.
Last year, the bake sale was the most successful to date, bringing in more than $100,000.
“The annual Mama’s Pie in the Sky pie sale
has become a Thanksgiving tradition in San
Diego. It provides an opportunity to check off
one more thing from your holiday ‘to-do’ list
while supporting our mission,” said Alberto
Cortés, Mama’s Kitchen executive director,
in a press release. This year, the organization
is anticipating selling more than 6,000 pies
during the six-week presale period. Pumpkin,
pecan, apple and no-sugar apple pies can be
pre-ordered now through Nov. 18 at mamaspies.org or by calling 619-233-6262.
LAFAYETTE HOTEL’S GRAND RE-OPENING
The iconic Lafayette Hotel located at
2223 El Cajon Blvd. in North Park celebrated
with a grand re-opening party on Oct. 11.
The celebration was held in part to thank all
who made the $6 million renovation – that
focused on sustainability – a reality. The
redevelopment included a new restaurant,
renovation of all 131 rooms, the installation
of fuel cell technology to heat the popular
Olympic-sized swimming pool, refurbishment of furniture and the installation of Energy Star appliances. The new interior design
sought to “uncover the rich spirit of the hotel,
while respecting its 66-year vibrant soul,” a
press release stated. The Lafayette is one of
two San Diego hotels that receive the Environmental Level Certification for the California Green Lodging Program. Originally built
in 1946, the hotel was once positioned as a
getaway for Hollywood socialites and boasts
a glamorous history. Today the pool area
is a popular gathering place for locals and
visitors throughout the week for the hotel’s
“Dive-In” movie nights, live acoustic music,
other events and the Imig’s Kitchen & Bar.
For more information call 619-296-2101 or
visit lafayettehotelsd.com.
Democrats for Equality announce
Freedom Awards 2012 winners
The San Diego Democrats for Equality will honor this year’s Freedom Award
winners on Nov. 17 at 1202, located at 1202
University Ave. This year’s ceremony is a
tribute to the legacy of Sen. Christine Kehoe.
Award winners include: San Diego Democratic Party Chair Jess Durfee receiving the
A. Brad Truax Human Rights Award; Brian
Polejes, union representative and organizer
for SEIU Local 1000, receiving the J. Douglas
Scott Award for Political Action; Eric Issacson receiving the Eleanor Roosevelt Award
for Community Service; John Lockhart receiving the R. Steven Pope Award for Volunteerism; and National Stonewall Democrats
founding board member Craig Roberts receiving the Gloria Steinem Award for Communication. The Presidents Award will be
announced at the event. Began in 1981 with a
roast of San Diego Democratic Club founder
Bob Lynn, the Freedom Awards have grown
to honor individuals who promote equality and Democrat values both locally and in
California. Kehoe was honored with the Gloria Steinem Award in 1986. Tickets for the 6
p.m. event are $50 for members, $60 for nonmembers, $25 for sustaining members and
free for patron or sponsoring members. For
more information, including all past award
winners and to purchase tickets, visit democratsforequality.org.
SAN DIEGO PRIDE DONATES $30,000
TO THE SAN DIEGO LGBT CENTER
The San Diego LGBT Community Center received $30,000 in a single donation from
San Diego LGBT Pride at The Center’s annual gala, held Oct. 6. In addition to its annual
sponsorship of The Harvey Milk Breakfast,
Children’s Garden and AIDS Walk & Run,
San Diego Pride presented the ceremonial
check to The Center CEO Delores Jacobs.
Donations totaling approximately $1.5 million made by San Diego Pride to various
nonprofit organizations are made possible
thanks to contributions from the community,
a press release stated. “It is with great pride
that we are able to significantly increase our
giving to such an outstanding organization
this year,“ said Dwayne Crenshaw, San Diego Pride executive director, in the release.
The organization attributes the significant
increase to the success of this year’s Pride
see Briefs, pg 10
GAY SAN DIEGO
Oct. 19–Nov. 1, 2012
7
Vons Mission Hills receives ‘Onion’ for architecture & design
Store receives designation at Architectural Foundation annual awards
By Anthony King | GSD Editor
At the 2012 Orchids & Onion awards
ceremony and silent auction held Oct. 11, the
season’s annual list of architectural and design
winners and losers were announced. Winners,
called “Orchids,” included the Chicano Park
restoration and losers, or “Onions,” included the
Miramar College campus.
In Uptown, the newly completed Vons
Mission Hills located at 450 University Ave. was
awarded an Onion for both architecture and
design. Described as a suburban grocery store
“plopped … on top of a parking garage in Mission Hills” on the Orchids & Onions website,
the store opened March 29 after years of planning and months of construction.
The San Diego Architectural Foundation
(SDAF) gave credit to the designers as well
as Vons owners for working closely with the
community, which included the Mission Hills
Town Council, Uptown Planners, the San Diego
Planning Commission and the City Council.
The main complaint against the
58,000-square-foot store was the structure’s
parking garage, which sits slightly below street
level, allowing for added light and ventilation.
“The possibility for an interesting, active and
vibrant street scene is now non-existent,” the
website states.
Mark Fehlman, president of the Mission
Hills Town Council during the design process,
posted a comment on the Orchids & Onions
website before the awards were announced,
saying it would be a “huge mistake” to award
the project an Onion.
“The community of Mission Hills and a
panel of architects, landscape architects and
urban planners worked on this project with
Vons and their architects from the beginning,
and approved the final design,” Fehlman wrote.
“Although it is not the ideal sidewalk oriented,
small-scale retail that we all love, it was a compromise that balanced street orientation, scale,
parking, art and the goals of Vons.”
What began in the 1970s, the Orchids &
Onions awards were purchased by SDAF in
2004 and re-launched in 2006 as an educational
tool and fundraiser for the nonprofit. SDAF uses
the awards to educate and promote outstanding
architecture, planning and urban design in the
San Diego region.
For the awards, SDAF selects a jury of
design professionals and artists to determine
the winners and losers based on public nominations. This year there were 149 nominations:
134 Orchids and 15 Onions, of which the Mission Hills Vons store was one.
The 2012 jury included Robin Wilson Carrier of Robin Wilson Interior Design, Nathan
Lee Colkitt of Colkitt & Co., Catherine Herbst of
Rinehart Herbst, Marcie Harris of Marcie Harris Landscape Architecture, artist and designer
Christopher Puzio, and Gregory Strangman of
the LWP Group.
Several other locations in Uptown were
nominated for awards this year, all Orchids,
however there were no other winners. Among
the nominees were D Bar and Snooze restaurants in Hillcrest, the Big Front Door restaurant
on Park Boulevard, the IBEE Tree mosaic at
the Alice Birney School in University Heights,
the Hillcrest Pride Flag monument, the Sharp
Memorial Hospital green roof in Bankers Hill
and the Aldine Drive Slope Restoration Project
in Talmadge.
In North Park, the retail center that includes
the Fresh & Easy grocery store on University
Avenue was nominated for an Orchid, as was
the Media Arts Center’s “Take Back the Alley
Project “ the Seven Grand Whisky Bar, and the
three restored Class 1 streetcars, among others.
This year saw the first time the public could
vote on all of the People’s Choice nominees,
21 in total. In previous years, public vote was
limited to one project. Program co-chair Pauly
De Bartolo said in a press release, “This new
feature of People’s Choice voting encourages
more public input, thereby offering the citizens
of San Diego even more of a say in what they
like and don’t about how San Diego is designed
and developed.”
The Orchids & Onions awards were held at
the Museum of Contemporary Art San Diego in
La Jolla, Calif. Sam Zien, host of “Sam the Cooking Guy,” was master of ceremonies.t
2012 Orchids & Onions
official selections
Grand Orchid: Chicano Park Restoration
Grand Onion: Miramar College Campus
People’s Choice Orchid: San Diego
County Operations Center Campus
People’s Choice Onion: City Heights
Family Health Center
Orchids
Architecture:
High Tech K8 Chula Vista
UCSD Medical Education and
Telemedicine Building
Harbor Aquatic Center Restroom Facility
Ocean Beach Comfort Station
Charles David Keeling Apartments at
UCSD
Landscape Architecture:
Charles David Keeling Apartments at
UCSD
Adaptive Reuse:
SDG&E Innovation Center
Interior Design:
car2go
Herringbone
Onions
Architecture:
City Heights Family Health Center
Mission Apartments
Urban Design:
Hilton Bayfront
Architecture & Urban Design:
Vons Mission Hills
Historic Preservation:
Demolition of Star Building
Demolition of Aztec Center at SDSU
Q PUZZLE
Sesame Street Fight
Across
1 Funny Mabley
5 Memorial Day race, briefly
9 Erect member
14 Roasting place
15 “Brothers & Sisters” matriarch
16 Angelou poem, “And Still ___”
17 Hacienda room
18 Fly like an eagle or a falcon
19 Exasperates
20 With 38-Across, cutting support to
PBS on the campaign trail
23 Got ready for porking?
24 Reel
28 Battery term.
29 Scott of _Beautiful Thing_
32 Come out
33 Former NFL player Tuaolo
35 Lion protest
37 “Viva, Las Vegas” middle name
38 See 20-Across
41 Island of Diamond Head Beach
44 American follower?
45 _Siddhartha_ writer
49 Uranus, for one
51 Interstate rumbler
53 Beret or beanie
54 Ball whackers, in Ping-Pong
56 Have the attention of
58 Same sex couple effected by cracking down
61 Potpourri scent
64 Gave a pink slip to
65 “No” voter
66 Not quite erect
67 What either bride may wear
68 They come between Mauresmo and
opponents
69 Necrophiliac’s bedsheets?
70 “She” to Cocteau
71 “Nuts!”
Sesame Street Fight solution on page 19
Down
1 George once of San Francisco
2 They’re essential for breeders
3 Hodgepodge
4 Eat between meals
5 Like some pitched balls
6 Common lunch time
7 Subject of _Wigstock_
8 Online exaggeration?
9 Home on the range
10 Fruity drink
11 Squeak silencer
12 Broadband connection, briefly
13 “Thumbs up!”
21 _Let the Dead Bury the Dead_ author
Randall
22 _SNL_’s Cheri
25 Warning from Toto
26 Id partner, to Frasier Crane
27 Stimpy’s boyfriend, perhaps
30 Wanting water
31 Shirt alligators
34 Sue Wicks’ game, in slang
36 Ready and willing partner
39 Risky fellatio partner?
40 European white wine
41 Straight to gay (abbr.)
42 The Crimson Tide’s st.
43 Was in bed with
46 Supermarket checkout item
47 John Henry Mackay’s pen name
48 Olympian who makes points by touching the body
50 Succeeds a la Log Cabin
52 Stick your nose where it doesn’t belong
55 Prevent, with “off”
57 Thou
59 Jump for Doug Mattis
60 _Chicago_ producer Meron
61 Race unit
62 Suffix that changes Juan’s gender
63 Like Abner, before Viagra?
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GAY SAN DIEGO
Oct. 19–Nov. 1, 2012
COMMUNITY VOICES
Watershed elections for marriage equality
al lan ac e v e do
Political
Spectrum
It is LGBT History month and
the LGBT community has long
said we’re living in a watershed
moment for equality. That statement could not be as apropos as it
is now. Every pundit, news anchor
and political campaign has stressed
the significance and importance of
this upcoming election. There is
something to be said when people
from both camps are investing so
much time and energy to ensure
as many people turn out to vote as
possible.
This is an important year and
an important election, especially for
LGBT Americans. Here in California
we await the United States Supreme
Court’s decision on whether to hear
an appeal to the Ninth Circuit Court
of Appeals ruling that struck down
Proposition 8 as unconstitutional.
As we await that ruling, we must
recognize that nationally, our rights are
on the chopping block through popular vote four more times: in Maryland,
Maine and Washington we are fighting
for marriage equality and in Minnesota
there is yet another ban on the ballot.
There is a lot on the line, more than
each of these represents on their own.
Friends have told me not to wor-
ry. That history is on our side and we
will eventually win. I don’t think that
is the right attitude. We need to think
creatively and actively about what we
can do to ensure history will stand on
the side of equality now. Now being
the operative word. We can’t keep
waiting for justice to devolve out to
our community.
We have to take personal responsibility for advancing the cause of
equality. I feel like I’m just standing
here on a soapbox asking others to
get engaged, but it has to be done.
History has not been on our side.
We have lost a ballot-box vote on
this very issues 32 times since 1998.
That year, Alaska and Hawaii each
limited marriage rights to oppositesex couples with a 68 percent and
69 percent margin, respectively. Our
most resounding loss came in 2004
when a grand total of 86 percent of
Mississippi voters approved Amendment 1 banning same-sex marriages
in the Magnolia State.
We have definitely come a
long way from those days. Here in
California we only lost 52 percent of
the vote, though here in San Diego it
was closer to almost 54 percent. We’re
not there yet and you can’t just expect
forms of institutional oppression to be
cast aside by a popular vote without
an intensive and personal campaign
that galvanizes even the most apolitical of supporters.
Popular votes on issues of equality and fairness are not easily won.
Our constitution went into effect
in 1789 and women did not win a
popular vote on suffrage until 1893 in
Colorado. Anti-miscegenation laws
– laws preventing marriages among
interracial couples – had been on
the books since Maryland’s 1664 law
which forced Caucasian women who
married a male slave to serve the
slave-owner for the remainder of her
husband’s life.
These laws were not ruled unconstitutional until the oft-cited 1967
Loving vs. Virginia Supreme Court
Case, which issued a unanimous
ruling. Even with this ruling, don’t
think attitudes have changed entirely.
In 2000, Alabama sought to remove
the embarrassing statute in its state
constitution that barred interracial
marriage and found 59.5 percent
approval. When it came to voting on
eliminating an unenforceable ban on
interracial marriage, 40 percent of voters refused to let it go. A Gallup Poll
conducted last year found 16 percent
of Caucasians did not approved of
inter-racial marriage, and only 34
percent of seniors.
The tide may be moving in
our favor, but this is not a passive
wave of equality that will sweep the
nation. We are at a tangible point in
our history where we can chose to
impact the outcome of the elections
in these four states and maybe, just
maybe, win one for our team. Just
one victory could go a long way in
dismantling the argument that public
sentiment is against equality. One
ballot-box vote for fairness could
show the world that United States
citizens understand fairness.
This victory will be crucial in
framing the debate as the fight for
marriage equality is likely to reach
the Supreme Court this year. The
past few weeks have been rife with
speculation about which of the many
cases the high court will take up,
including the Prop 8 challenge and
challenges to the 1996 Defense of
Marriage Act (DOMA).
I’ll leave the reading of the tea
leaves on that matter to constitutional scholars, but I will say that a
ballot-box vote in any four of these
upcoming elections that is in our
favor is essential to assert that public
opinion on the matter is fundamentally changing and moving toward
the side of equality. We can then be
more certain that the courts would
be willing to give history a little
nudge in our favor. This election is
the watershed moment we’ve been
talking about.
—Allan Acevedo is co-founder
and president emeritus of Stonewall
Young Democrats of San Diego. He
has worked on multiple political
campaigns and served on numerous boards including the San Diego
Democratic Club, California Young
Democrats, Gay-Straight Alliant Network and Equality California PAC.
Follow @allanacevedo on Twitter.t
gay-sd.com
(Non)disordered eating
M I C H A E L K I MME L
LIFE BEYOND
THERAPY
On many pop-culture websites, you hear a lot of talk about
celebrities with eating disorders.
What is an eating disorder and
what is non-disordered eating?
I think that most of us have
some small version of an eating
disorder. We all have times when
we use food in ways that are not
just about nutrition. For example,
many of us use food to feel better,
reward ourselves for something,
avoid boredom and to do something nice for ourselves.
Here are a few questions from
a pamphlet used by Anorexics and
Bulimics Anonymous (ABA), a
Canadian-based 12-step group:
Do you feel a strong drive to
control your body size or shape?
Do you feel guilt about your eating or try to hide it from others?
Do you have a powerful need
to exercise to keep your body “in
shape”?
Do you think you are fat, while
other people say you’re normal or
underweight?
Do you use diuretics, laxatives
or appetite suppressants to control
your body?
Do you ever wish you had
more self-control or willpower
around food?
Do you lie about what you have
eaten or about your weight?
The ABA people say that if you
answer yes to even one of these
questions, you may have an eating
disorder. While I respect their
wisdom, here’s my definition: if
your food intake is habitually either
insufficient or excessive and it has
a negative affect on your physical
and mental health, you may have
an eating disorder.
In my line of work, eating
disorders is considered a specialty,
and since I am not an expert in this
area, let me share with you some
research I’ve done regarding what
some of the experts are saying:
“There is an emphasis on thinness (for women) and muscularity
(for men) that often goes beyond
simple body image. There is an
implicit media message that not
only are those with ‘ideal’ bodies
more confident, successful, healthy
and happy but that slimness is
associated with positive character
qualities, such as reliability, trustworthiness and honesty” (Harvey
& Robinson, 2003).
“Until recently, eating disorders
have been characterized as an
almost exclusively female problem”
(Maine and Bunnell, 2008).
“The majority of early academic
scholarship during the early 1990s
tended to dismiss the prevalence
(of eating disorders) in men as
largely, if not entirely, irrelevant
when compared to that in women”
(Weltzin et al., 2005).
A recent study estimated
that 10 – 15 percent of people
with eating disorders are males.
While there is no consensus in the
literature regarding unique risk
factors as they relate to the LGBT
community, the Center for Population Research in LGBT Health
estimates the prevalence of eating
disorders in the LGBT community
to be about twice the national average for women and approximately
3.5 times higher for men.
Surprised? I was. Research also
shows that since 1987, hospitalizations for eating disorders in general
hospitals in Canada have increased
by 34 percent among young men
under the age of 15 and by 29
percent among men between 15 and
24 years old.
So what is non-disordered
eating? I define it as eating that
enhances your physical and mental
health. It’s eating without all the
extra psychological baggage. When
you’re hungry, you eat something
that makes your body happy. When
you’re not hungry, you don’t eat to
fulfill any unmet emotional needs.
I write this column to raise
awareness in our community of
how we relate to eating, food and
our bodies. As standards for LGBT
beauty continue to become more
and more rigid, will we indulge in
unhealthy eating habits and obsession with body image, or will we find
ways to avoid going down that path?
Non-disordered or healthy eating is
possible for all of us if we are willing
to address the obstacles in our way.
As a therapist, eating disorders
are one of our most difficult challenges. For expert assistance with
eating disorders, contact Gabby,
The San Diego LGBT Center’s
therapist referral specialist at 619693-2077 x208. Ask her for referrals
to LGBT-friendly therapists who
specialize in eating disorders.
If you suspect you may have an
eating disorder, please get help. It is
hard to do this alone.
—Michael Kimmel is a licensed
psychotherapist who specializes
in helping LGBT clients achieve
their goals and deal with anxiety,
depression, grief, sexually addictive
behavior, coming out, relationship challenges and homophobia.
Michael is currently accepting new
clients and accepts most insurance.
Contact him at 619-955-3311 or
visit lifebeyondtherapy.com.t
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briefs
celebration, held July 21-23. “We’re
delighted to accept this very generous donation from San Diego LGBT
Pride,” Jacobs said in the same release. “Pride is an important part of
our San Diego community and their
support of The Center means a great
deal. We look forward to an ongoing partnership, working together to
make our community even better.”
San Diego expands electric
vehicle charging stations
The City Council approved Oct.
2 to expand current infrastructure to
allow for more electric vehicle charging stations throughout the city. Up
to 117 public charging stations have
been approved for city-owned property. District Three Councilmember
Todd Gloria announced 33 of the
new stations will be in Uptown: five in
the east Balboa Park parking lot off
Park Boulevard; four each in North
Park at 4044 Idaho St. and the North
Park Parking Garage; and five each
on-street near intersections at Texas
Street and El Cajon Boulevard, 35th
Street and Adams Avenue, Normal
Street and University Avenue, and
Goldfinch and Washington streets.
Targeted locations outside of Uptown include the Carmel Mountain
Library, Skyline Hills and Downtown.
Currently, San Diego has 10 public
charging stations and ranks 16th
out of 21 cities with similar stations.
These council-approved additions
will rank San Diego first on the list.
ECOtality will install the charging stations using $850,000 of federal grant
money for the expansion, and will reimburse the city for electricity used at
the stations. Completion is expected
by the end of the year. “I know that by
news/community voices
increasing publicly available charging infrastructure, electric vehicle
adoption will further swell in San Diego, which will further improve our
environment and our quality of life,”
Gloria said in the announcement.
Grand Marshals announced for
26th annual Palm Springs Pride
Greater Palm Springs Pride will
honor Iraq veteran Eric Alva as this
year’s grand marshal of the organization’s Pride festival and parade. Alva is
recognized as a LGBT civil-rights activist and spokesperson for the repeal
of “don’t ask, don’t tell.” “We are looking forward to honoring an American
hero who actively spoke out for the repeal of the ‘don’t ask, don’t tell’ policy
and who was stationed at 29 Palms and
attended his first Pride parade in Palm
Springs,” said Ron deHarte, Palm
Springs Pride president, in a press
release. “Eric is an inspiration.” Medically retired after 13 years of military
service, Alva joined Congressmember Martin Meehan in introducing
the Military Readiness Enhancement
Act, a bill designed to repeal the military’s anti-gay policy. Honored as one
of two community grand marshals will
be Glenne McElhinney, an original
member of the Dykes on Bikes and
award-winning director and producer. Her first film is the Los Angeles
documentary “On These Shoulders
We Stand,” which was based on stories from McElhinney’s oral history
project, Impact Stories. The second
community grand marshal is reporter
Hank Plante, one of the first openly
gay television reporters in the United
States. Plante lives in Palm Springs
with his husband, Roger Groth. Celebrity grand marshals include Miss
Joey English and Michael Costello. All
honorees will be featured in the Palm
Springs Pride parade, beginning at 10
a.m. on Nov. 4. For more information,
visit pspride.org.t
Taking on bullies
I an Mo rton
Profiles
in Advocacy
Who was the first human
bully? As I contemplate October’s
designation as National Bullying
Prevention Awareness Month, I
wonder that very thing.
If we see bullies as individuals
who assert their dominance over a
weaker individual to achieve their
own ends, was it the first human that
recognized themselves as stronger
and hungrier than the rest of the
tribe? We see and understand this
trait in animals but, in an enlightened
civilization, why does it continue to
happen among humans?
A benchmark of our entertainment industry is the idea that
the right will win out and karma
is on the side of the good. From
“Revenge of the Nerds” to “Mean
Girls,” we embrace the idea that
bullying is wrong fundamentally,
and when a person stands up to that
bullying faction, the crowds will also
rise up and take the bullies down.
Maybe once upon a time, in a
less digital age, we could cling to that
ideal, but in a world that allows anonymous hurtful behavior through
social media, what can we do?
Youth in school often experience the first tastes of bullying,
and Stomp Out Bullying is one
organization that looks to take this
battle on. With resources to help
both teens and parents understand
and deal with bullying, they have a
global campaign that addresses this
menace in its various forms.
Intolerance of things different
come in all forms, from sexual
identity and gender expression,
to race or religion and even one’s
placement on the economic scale.
Because one of the key results
of bullying is to create a sense of
isolation and helplessness, one of
the most important messages that
Stomp Out Bullying provides is that
“you are not alone.”
Video campaigns by celebrities
and teens affected by bullying, teen
ambassadors and discussion forums
for first-hand story telling are tools
used to bring the reality of bullying,
in all of its various forms, into the
light. Additionally, there is a chat line
for youth to call and opportunities
for students to take their power back
through school activities.
Onsite bullying is reported to
have been experienced by over 25
percent of high school students
and only about one quarter of
these incidences were reported to
an adult. Cyber bullying is also on
the rise and often leads to physical
altercations or the choice to bring a
weapon to school.
Bullying has been described as
an act with three characters: the
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bully, the victim and the bystander.
Eyes On Bullying is a resource
for those who might not be direct
victims, but can identify instances
of bullying in their schools or communities. These resources allow
observers to be a part of building a
better culture in which bullying is
not tolerated while respecting their
own need for safety.
They recognize that many of
the behaviors that allow for both
bullying and passivity toward it
are learned at a young age and
engage both parents and youth in
the strategy to create a bully-free
environment.
The sad reality is that once we
leave high school, not everyone
grows out of being a bully, nor do
the affects of being victimized ever
leave those who were bullied. Carolyn Laithwaite, a United Kingdom
citizen who was forced to deal with
workplace bullying, saw the unmet
need for adults dealing with bullying and created Life After Adult
Bullying, a website that addresses
the causes and effects of bullying
in the adult world.
On her site, she thoroughly
discusses the different types of bullying in a systematic way that dispels
notions that actions are justified
because of authority, client privilege
or that might is right. She also offers
links to various regulatory resources
as well as therapeutic methods to
counteract the residual effects of
bullying that often both form our selfimage and affect our drive to achieve
personal or professional goals.
Our culture is often encapsulated in phrases such as “it’s a dog
eat dog world” or “nice guys finish
last” so the pervasion of bullying
in all ages is not a surprising fact,
as we cultivate the environment in
which it can grow. Every utopian
idea that I have ever seen depicted
is of a peaceable world with a harmonic existence and plenty for all.
If you are a victim or observer
of bullying, this is a great month
to deal with that reality and access tools to shape it into a better
existence for you and those around
you. If you think you might be a
bully, there are also ways to break
that cycle in yourself.
For more information about the
programs discussed, please visit the
following websites: stompoutbullying.org, eyesonbullying.org and
lifeafteradultbullying.com.
—Ian Morton has worked in the
HIV field since 1994 when he began
volunteering with AIDS Response
Knoxville. He currently serves as outreach liaison for the AIDS Research
Institute at UCSD. To nominate a
person or organization to be featured
in Profiles in Advocacy, please submit
name, affiliation and contact information to [email protected]
dining
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FRANK SABATINI JR.
DINING WITH
The community’s mourning over the sudden closure
of Brian’s American Eatery this summer has come to
an end. Devotees of the 13-year-old diner, known for its
hefty food portions and 24-hour service on weekends,
are now setting their sights on Lil B’s Urban Eatery,
located less than a mile away on El Cajon Boulevard.
Brian Stout and his longtime domestic partner, Tino
Rodrigues, launched the restaurant last week, after
taking over the spacious structure that housed Johnny’s
R Family Restaurant. Stout, who co-owned Brian’s with
business cohort Brian Savage, said the relationship
ended contentiously over financial issues, adding that
he hadn’t considered opening another restaurant until
learning that Johnny’s R became vacant.
“Nearly the entire staff came back and we have
more grill space at this location. It’s like we never
closed,” he said, referring to thick crowds that showed
up on the first weekend.
After acquiring the lease, Rodrigues took charge of
the redesign, injecting a crisp 60s feel reminiscent of
both The Jetsons and old Palm Springs. Bright avocadogreen panels work in contrast with vivid orange tiles that
Rodrigues exposed from when the space first opened
in 1969 as International House of Pies. He also reupholstered the booths in vibrant fabrics while adding an
assortment of post-modern lighting fixtures that adds a
warm glow from front to back.
Stout carried over many of the menu items from
Brians’, such as Texas French toast, big salads, the
famous peanut butter-bacon cheeseburger and homey
dinner entrees like slow-cooked pot roast that are now
offered daily instead of weekly. From our estimation, it
appears prices across the board have spiked a bit.
The French onion soup au gratin also remains.
Served in a portly crock, the recipe achieves the tricky
evenness of sweet and salty with just the right amount of
melted Swiss covering the top. Once offered on so many
menus to the point of inciting yawns, I’ve come to revere
it in the face of scarceness.
Among the newcomers are bacon mac-n-cheese egg
rolls, filet medallion skewers, rice and noodle bowls
and hearty chicken lasagna, a recipe from Rodrigues’
mother.
“We also have hash browns now, which we didn’t
have at the other place,” Stout said, pointing to the addition of a “your way” egg category that allows you
to choose between scrambles, omelets
and frittatas. A companion in our trio
chose the latter for the “Hey Ricky,”
unable to completely polish off the
springy open-faced omelet containing
chorizo, onions, sour cream and two
different cheeses. The bear portions
that were prevalent at Brians’ are largely
intact at Lil B’s, and with country potatoes
and a dense biscuit alongside, the dish
was substantial.
A couple of new fried vittles have
landed on the appetizer list. The pankocrusted calamari sticks are meatier and
suppler than the calamari rings served
at Brians’, while the “sweet corn nuggets”
registered as lightly sugared donut holes that
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left us ambivalent. If you’re hankering for something
spicy, the queso dip made with chorizo and Portuguese
hot sauce called churassco offers a nice, slow burn.
Lil B’s maintains the tradition of catering to those
who want breakfast for dinner. So with the frittata, we
ordered a stack of three “gourmet wheat” pancakes with
cinnamon and apple slices incorporated into the batter.
Large, fluffy and earthy tasting, we agreed they were
among the finest in the land, even without the syrup.
Our evening food fest steered us also to an “ultimate
Reuben” that was less towering compared to New York
versions, but lean and classically juicy nonetheless.
Sandwiches include a side dish. We chose mac-andcheese served with crispy edges and decent measures of
cheddar, though it lacked creaminess.
Beer and wine are available, with multiple beverages
delivered to your table in wooden soda boxes. Nostalgic
details extend also to the silverware, embossed in circular patterns from a bygone era.
The fresh-baked mini pies and carrot cake from
Brians’ dessert list have been joined by apple chimichangas and “blond brownies” served with pecan ice cream
and hot caramel sauce. With our doggie bags filling up,
no way. Unless you arrive deathly ravenous, the rule of
thumb still applies: order wisely with your brain and not
with your stomach.t
Lil B’s Urban Eatery
2611 El Cajon Blvd. (North Park)
The pooch-friendly Sally and Henry’s Doghouse Bar and Grill
opens in Hillcrest on Saturday, Oct. 20, to the tune of beer, burgers and
other fare that includes pastry-encased sausages and “dog balls,” a people
dish of bacon-wrapped glazed shrimp splashed in Bacardi 151 rum. The
eatery carries a full liquor license and replaces the former location of
Sanfilippo’s Restaurant, which has since moved down the street.
Owners Marc and Cynthia Bragg named the restaurant after their
dogs, Sally and Henry, and designated both a rear dining patio and grassy
area for canine guests. A dog menu is also in place, featuring scrambled
eggs and assorted packaged snacks.
“This is our first restaurant,” said Marc Bragg, an attorney. “My wife
is an accountant, and we were looking for a change of careers, something friendlier.”
On opening day, the first 10 customers arriving with their dogs for
brunch and dinner will receive $20 worth of food and non-alcoholic
drinks. 3515 Fifth Ave., 619-501-8638.
A new “fresh and fast” sitdown Indian restaurant named Kasi is due
to open by mid-November on Fifth Avenue near Robinson Street. The
family-owned business made its debut two months ago in Carlsbad and
plans to open a third kitchen in Mission Valley after Hillcrest. “Kasi” is an
old Hindu term that translates to “nourishment,” which plays up to menu
items incorporating such healthy organics as black lentils, cauliflower and
spinach. 3803 Fifth Ave., 619-295-8555.
Word from the rumor
mill is that the former
Brian’s American Eatery
on Washington Street is
making way for a contemporary restaurant-bar that
will be launched by Johnny
Rivera of Hash House
a Go Go and The Tractor Room. Stay tuned for
updates. In the meantime,
Brian’s has been reincarnated on El Cajon Boulevard
under the name Lil B’s
Urban Eatery, now located
in North Park. 2611 El Cajon
Blvd., 619-296-8268
Nearly a year after coming onto
the chopping block of “Hotel Hell’s”
shout host Gordon Ramsey for his Fox
television show, The Merk at downtown’s Keating Hotel was swapped out
for Brick + Mortar of Santa Monica,
Calif. Executive Chef Brian Rutherford
was let go, although other kitchen staff
were retained. The recent takeover
excludes Ramsey-inspired dishes this
time around, with a menu featuring
made-from-scratch executions conceived
by Brick + Mortar chefs: pan roasted
chicken with chimichurri, tuna tartare
with avocado yuzu, wild mushroom
gnocci and scallops with carrot puree.
820 Fifth Ave., 619-814-6375.
619-296-8268
Prices: Breakfast, $5.99 to $13.99;
lunch and dinner, $5.99 to $20.99
French onion soup with
melted Swiss
(Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)
The prized, ultra juicy Kosui Asian pear has made its way into the fall
lineup of guilty pleasures at Heaven Sent Desserts in North Park. The
fruit, touted for not browning after it is sliced, is coiled in puff pastry and
topped with pear reduction and fresh caramel. Served with house-made ginger ice cream, it sells for $8.50 under the rightful name, Kosui Dream Pear.
Also new to the menu is cinnamon ice cream splashed with a shot of
espresso. 3001 University Ave., 619-793-4758.
On the hunt for an unusual
bloody Mary? Café 21 has introduced
some clever takes on the cocktail at
its Gaslamp location, although not yet
at their original Normal Heights address. The “ocean oyster” features a locally
sourced bivalve with carrots and celery
while the horseradish-spiked “bbq mary”
comes with a giant prawn. More substantial
is the “green mary,” made with green tomatoes and served with bleu cheese and salami
sandwiches on skewers. Even the “classic”
receives royal treatment with the additions of
veggies and bacon. All are priced at $14.
750 Fifth Ave., 619-795-0721.t
Café 21’s
classic
bloody Mary
(Courtesy BAM
Communications)
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photo feature
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San Diego Remembers
Matthew Shepard
(All Photos by
Cali Griebel/
PhotosbyCali.com)
October 9, 2012
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feature
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See a different
side ofS
andy
Actor, comedian and singer
Sandra Bernhard returns to
San Diego Oct. 26-27
Sandra Bernhard (Courtesy Olive PR Solutions)
By Anthony King | GSD Editor
San Diego has seen a barrage of comedian, actor and
singer Sandra Bernhard this
year, starting with her four-day
special engagement at the La
Jolla Playhouse in March, her set
at the San Diego Pride festival in
July – where she also ser ved as
parade grand marshal – and now
three separate stand up sets in
Little Italy on Oct. 26 and 27.
“It’s really weird. I haven’t
been in San Diego for 15 years,”
she said the week before her
Anthology gig. A fan of La Jolla,
Bernhard said she is ready to
return to San Diego to offer a
slightly different show from
March’s theater production.
“It’s a downtown event,” she
said of next week’s show. “To
those who didn’t want to go to
the theatrical setting, this is a
funkier, fun thing and they’ll get
a different side of Sandy.”
The show will also be different than the short, outdoor set
she did at Pride, she said, though
she did have a great experience
at this year’s festival and parade.
“The San Diego Pride was
incredibly organized. The parade
was amazing. It was so fun and
wonderful, and people were so
high-spirited but respectful, supportive and wonderful,” she said.
“I just felt it really captured the
spirit of the best of the gay community in an incredible setting.”
A longtime, vocal supporter
of LGBT rights, Bernhard does
not shy away from talking about
issues important to our community in both her personal life and
career.
Of the many groundbreaking career moves Bernhard has
done, perhaps one of the most
important was portraying the
first openly lesbian recurring
character on primetime TV. From
1991 to 1997, Bernhard played
Nancy Bartlett on “Roseanne,”
which brought being gay to audiences across the United States.
Hollywood has since changed
– perhaps even benefitted from
the groundbreaking work Roseanne Barr and Bernhard did in
the 1990s – and now with a litany
of primetime shows including
LGBT characters and talking
about LGBT issues, Bernhard is
both critical and full of praise.
“I’d say ‘Modern Family’ is
the only one that even comes
close to having the humanity that
makes it work,” she said. “The
other shows I find to be cartoonish and maudlin.”
She said she finds the Ryan
Murphy-created shows, like
“Glee,” to be “highly campy” and
“mean spirited,” especially his
most recent, “The New Normal.”
“What’s the point? What are
they tr ying to say?” she said. “I
don’t think any of it makes sense,
especially now with so much
conversation and so many great
sophisticated approaches to the
gay lifestyle. Why would you
settle on this?”
Her expectation that audi-
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ences want something more than
the lowest common denominator
drives her stage show, and she
said she never plays down to
those who come to see her.
“I expect that the audience
wants something that also takes
them to a higher place and
exposes them to things that are
uplifting and smart and cutting
edge,” she said. “My shows
move ver y quickly from subject
to subject and idea to idea. It’s
a journey and it’s going down a
lot of roads ver y quickly. … It’s a
great fun trip.”
That is not to say she shies
away from talking about controversial subjects. She has gained
a reputation as someone who
likes to talk politics, on stage or
online, and as a smart, educated
woman she does it well.
And she said
her audiences
expect it.
“They know
I’ll have plenty
to say about
where we’re
at and hopefully where
we’re going,”
she said.
Leading
up to the
November
presidential
election
will give
Bernhard
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material for her shows next
week. A staunch Barack Obama
supporter, Bernhard had plenty
to say about the Oct. 16 presidential debates.
“I was thrilled that Obama got
his mojo back and I think Mitt
Romney showed his true colors:
his contemptuous, angr y, petulant, nasty, mean-spiritedness
that he’s renowned for,” she said.
“Obama’s not a pushy, meanspirited person. He’s a kind
person. He’s a thoughtful, introspective person, but he’s also not
a push-over.”
See Bernhard talk politics, sing
a few tunes with her band and join
her in her living room, she said, at
Anthology, located at 1337 India
St. on Friday, Oct. 26 at 7:30 p.m.
and Oct. 27 at 7:30 and 9:30 p.m.
Tickets start at $12 and can be
purchased at anthologysd.com or
by calling 619-595-0300.t
Sandra Bernhard returns to
San Diego next week.
(Courtesy Olive PR Solutions)
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calendar
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Oct. 19–Nov. 1, 2012
Friday, Oct. 19
WELCOME BACK,
CHAMPS: The San Diego
American Flag Football League
is hosting a victory and welcomehome party for the three teams
who competed in the recent Gay
Bowl XII in Denver. The Sharks
and Toros will join champions
San Diego Bolts tonight at Urban
Mo’s Bar & Grill. The party starts
at 6 p.m., with an awards ceremony at 8 p.m. Hefeweizer drink
specials? You bet: Hefewizen
Beer Bust for $10. Mo’s is located
at 308 University Ave.
Saturday, Oct. 20
COFFEE WITH TONI
ATKINS: Assemblymember
Toni Atkins is in town and hosting a community coffee event to
discuss state and legislative issues. There will be refreshments
at this outdoor event, for it is
being held at Meshuggah Shack
in Mission Hills. Atkins will be
at 4048 Goldfinch St. from 10 –
11:30 a.m. For more information
call 619-645-3090.
RAYNA GANGI BOOKSIGNING: We met this great
author at Pride @ the beach, who
is going to be at Gossip Grill tonight for a book signing. Author
Rayna Gangi is a former Marine,
stationed at MCRD and Camp
Pendleton and will be presenting
her books on holistic healing
from 5 – 7 p.m. Gossip Grill is
located at 1440 University Ave.
WOMEN KICKING ASS:
FilmOut San Diego has a special
all-day event, featuring five films
marathon-style called the Women Who Kick Ass Marathon.
Starting at noon with “Thelma
& Louise,” the shows continue
with “Bound” at 2:45 p.m., “Foxy
Brown” at 5 p.m., “Faster Pussycat! Kill! Kill!” at 7 p.m. and “Terror Train” at 9 p.m. See all five
films for $30 or individual ones
for $8 a piece. The ass kicking is
at the Birch North Park Theatre,
2891 University Ave. For tickets,
visit filmoutsandiego.com.
THROW BACK BINGO: I’m
not sure what you’ll be throwing
back, but tonight’s BINGO is
hosted by Gouda and Mama MO’s
from 1 – 4 p.m. Check in starts at
12:30 p.m. and cost for one board
is $5, three for $10. It’s a fundraiser
for the HBC Outlaws softball team,
and there will be prizes, margaritas
and music. And Jell-O shots, don’t
forget the Jell-O shots. MO’s is
located at 308 University Ave.
Sunday, Oct. 21
FIFI’S GLAMFEST: Third
annual, folks, this is Fifi’s Glamfest
2012, a fundraiser for the Autism
Society of San Diego. From 6:30 –
10 p.m., Bitchy Bingo host Fifi will
bring over 14 other drag queens
on stage at Lips for a night of food,
fun, prizes, fun, diva, diva and diva,
in that order. Food will be provided,
and the show starts at 8 p.m. Cover
is $40 or $100 VIP seating. Lips is
located at 3036 El Cajon Blvd. in
North Park. For more information
or tickets call 619-295-7900 or email
[email protected].
Monday, Oct. 22
FILNER AT BANKERS
HILL: Mayoral candidate Bob
Filner will be at today’s special
Bankers Hill Residents Group
meeting, held at the top of Inn
at the Park at 6:30 p.m. The
meeting is open to the public,
and there’s a no-host bar and
social preceding the talk. Inn at
the Park is located at 525 Spruce
St. For more information visit
bankershillresidents.org.
PFLAG SD: PFLAG San
Diego holds regular monthly
meetings to provide a supportive
space for parents and friends to
talk about homosexuality; everyone is welcome of course. The
group meets the fourth Wednesday of the month at 7 p.m. at the
First United Methodist Church,
2231 Camino del Rio South. For
more information visit pflag.com.
LOOKS LIKE MADONNA:
It’s time to harken back to the
days when you would dress
like Madonna for Halloween
(for me it was Boy George, but
that’s sort of the same thing) to
get set for tonight’s Madonna
Look-a-Like contest sponsored
by SDPIX. There are over $500
in prizes available, so you best
look the part. What to do? The
classic “Papa Don’t Preach”
platinum blonde? Lace a la “Like
a Virgin”? I dare you to take on
“Vogue” from the MTV Video
Music Awards. Double-dare you!
Bring your best Madge to the
Brass Rail tonight from 9 p.m. –
2 a.m. $2 drink special all night
for Manic Monday, with 1980s
tunes spinning all night. The
club is located at 3796 Fifth Ave.
Tuesday, Oct. 23
UN DAY: In honor of the
67th anniversary of the United
Nations, the San Diego chapter
of the UN is hosting a United
Nations Day celebration and
program, titled “Solutions for
a Prosperous World: The Case
of Malaria.” Chris Helfrich,
Director of the UN Foundation’s
Nothing But Nets campaign,
will be the guest speaker at the
event, taking place at Asmara
Eritrean & Ethiopian Restaurant, 4155 University Ave. There
will be an East African buffet,
music, silent auction and a
chance to network with others.
The event runs from 6 – 9 p.m.
Tickets are $40 ($25 for students) and can be purchased at
unasd.org or by calling 619-2333970. RSVP requested.
Wednesday, Oct. 24
GOLDEN CHICKS: Rose,
you nitwit. The Golden Girl… I
mean, Chicks, do a dinner and
show every Wednesday at 1202,
located at… 1202 University
Ave. No cover, and the fabulous
show starts at 8 p.m. There will
be drink specials, too, including
$5 margaritas and $4 Dos Equis.
For more information visit
1202sd.com or call 619-906-5555.
Thursday, Oct. 25
PUMPKIN CARVING:
What fun! Join the Hillcrest
Brewing Company for their first
pumpkin-carving contest, from 6
– 9 p.m. First place is a $100 gift
card and a growler (I’m sure that
means something other than
what I think) and registration
starts at 6 p.m. Registration? Yes,
because you see, you’re sup-
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posed to do the carving at home
and bring in your completed
pumpkin to be judged by other
gays. It’s like getting ready for
the club, only with more pulp
and here you have the chance
of actually winning something
at the end of the night. Hillcrest
Brewing Company is located at
1458 University Ave. For more
information call 619-269-HEAD.
Swear.
HARVEST HOWL: San Diego LGBT Center’s Youth Housing Project is the beneficiary of
the annual Harvest Howl, now in
its seventh year. With catering
by a dozen local restaurants and
a hosted bar for the first hour,
it’s an event not to miss. Live
entertainment, a 50/50 drawing and silent auction are all set
for the night, with all proceeds
benefiting the Youth Housing
Project, which provides 23 units
of affordable housing for youth
18 – 24 years old. The Howl is
from 6 – 9 p.m. at the Top of the
Park, 525 Spruce St. And don’t
wait in line for the elevator like
last year; seven flights aren’t
really that much. I promise,
besides you can eat more food
once you get to the top. General
admission tickets are $40. For
more information and tickets
visit harvesthowl.com.
Friday, Oct. 26
BEING ALIVE RIBBONS
LAUNCH: Being Alive San
Diego is getting set for their biggest Ribbons of Hope fundraiser
yet, with tonight’s official launch
party set for 5 – 7 p.m. For the
Ribbons of Hope fundraiser,
businesses will offer various red
ribbons for sale throughout the
month. After customers pay for
the ribbons, the businesses will
place them on display and this
year there are over 40 locations
participating. The launch party
will include a cash bar and raffle
prizes, and will be at the Bamboo
Lounge, located at 1475 University Ave. in Hillcrest. For more
information visit beingalive.org
or call 619-291-1400.
Saturday, Oct. 27
REAL BIG YARD SALE:
It’s going to be huge. Big. Being
Alive San Diego will hold an
enormous yard sale today from
8 a.m. – 1 p.m. featuring items
all donated from clients and
the community. Proceeds go to
their food pantry, called Daniel’s
Pantry, which serves their 350
clients monthly. Donations for
the sale are being accepted, of
course, but best just get on down
to their offices at 4070 Centre St.
today to help them out. For more
information visit beingalive.org
or call 619-291-1400.
NIGHTMARE ON NORMAL: It’s the return of Nicole
with this year’s Nightmare on
Normal Street Halloween block
party, from 7 – 10 p.m. A fun
fundraiser for The Center, the
21-and-over event will include a
costume contest, of course, with
a $1,000 first-place prize. You
better do it right for $1,000. The
contest registration closes at 8:30
p.m. and is limited to the first
66 entries. Tickets for the block
party are $12.50 online, which
includes $5 in drink tickets, or
$10 at the door without any drink
tickets. Oh, and ID is required,
so work that into your costume.
The party takes place on Normal
Street, at the intersection of
Harvey Milk Street. For more
information and tickets visit thecentersd.org/nighmare2012.
KICKERS COSTUME:
With so many different Halloween costume contests happening
throughout San Diego tonight,
I don’t really think you’ll miss
anything if you just step out your
door. However, this one might
just be the best one yet. It’s the
fabulous Kicker’s Crew at MO’s
hosting a country Halloween
costume contest. You’re going to
have to do more than just put on
a pair of shit kickers and a hat;
you need to impress the judges
here. And no, that horse-head
belt and a T-shirt that says
“Hung Like A Horse” isn’t going
to work either. Cute, but we want
more. There’s $500 on the line.
It all starts at 11 p.m., with a $5
cover. MO’s is located at 308
University Ave.
Tuesday, Oct. 30
SEARCHING FOR
DEMOCRACY: The San Diego Public Librar y is hosting
a summer-long series called
“Searching for Democracy:
A Public Conversation about
the Constitution.” In today’s
lecture, held at the University
Heights Librar y, Dr. Pat Washington will lead the discussion
on gay and lesbian rights in
the U.S. Constitution from 6 –
8 p.m. The University Heights
Librar y is located at 4193 Park
Blvd. For more information
call 619-692-4912.
ROCKY HORROR
RANGE: Now that they’ve
moved and gotten settled, The
Range Kitchen & Cocktails
brings back their popular
dinner theater just in time for
Halloween. And what are they
showing? “The Rocky Horror
Picture Show,” of course. Grab
some friends, make some reservations and get all dressed
up for tonight’s movie, starting
at 7 p.m. The Range is located
at 1202 University Ave. For
reservations call 619-269-1222
or visit therangesd.com.
NIGHT OF A THOUSAND KINGS (& QUEENS):
It’s the night before Halloween,
and the social group Gentlemen’s Martini Night is hosting
a royal costume party with DJ,
prizes, hos d’oeuvres and a
silent auction. Come dressed
as your best King or Queen,
and yes, men and women of
all “persuasions” are invited.
Gentlemen’s Martini Night’s
mission is to provide a regular
gathering for gay professional
men and their friends in an effort to erase negative stereotypes about the community.
There are several monthly opportunities, including tonight’s
costume party at Wang’s North
Park, located at 3029 University
Ave. Tickets for tonight’s event,
which runs from 6 – 10 p.m.,
are $10, payable in advance.
For more information and to
purchase tickets visit gentlemensmartininight.com.
Wednesday, Oct. 31
HALLOWEEN: Have fun,
be safe and don’t take candy
from strangers. Unless of course,
they are from Grindr. But be safe
nonetheless.t
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THEATER REVIEW
Striking a perfect professional balance
Extended one week, ‘Allegiance’ must end Oct 28
(l to r) Carol Halstead, Eva Kaminsky and Robin Pearson Rose in ‘Good
People’ (Photo by Henry DiRocco)
In your face reality
San Diego premiere a pertinent look at class warfare
David Lindsay-Abaire’s “Good
People” speaks directly about class
warfare, using a small cast of six to
get his point across to the audience. He seems to contradict the
grand idea that anyone born on
United States soil can achieve the
American Dream.
Nominated for a Tony award, the
drama plays out in South Boston.
In the very first scene, a struggling
mother is fired from her job with
no money for rent and caretaking of
her only child, a mentally challenged
adult. Margie (played by Eva Kaminsky) remains at the bottom of the
economic ladder while her ex from
many years past has climbed to the
top as a successful doctor.
Director Mike Mullins pulled out
both the humor as well as the drama
in this San Diego premiere at The
Old Globe. In the year of the presidential election, this production is
nothing less than timely; arguments
abound about the one versus the 99
percent, and the haves and the havenots jump out at you from the stage.
Desperate to find employment,
Margie visits ex-boyfriend Mike
(R. Ward Duffy) to beg for a job
in his office. While negotiating to
be a receptionist, she accuses him
of living a “lace curtain” life with
his current family, a life that could
have been hers with a bit of luck
and perseverance.
Mike doesn’t want anything to
do with his former girlfriend and
cuts her to the quick. He would
rather forget his past and the poverty he left behind.
The downtrodden Margie is
raw, bitter and hard to like, and
Kaminsky’s portrayal is right on
target. She’s a good, hard-working
person but she disguises the good
with overtones of racism and cruel,
in-your-face commentary.
Duffy plays his character
with a cold intensity. It’s patently
obvious that he is still a cad; his
beautiful, African-American young
wife Kate (Nedra McClyde) is doing her best to salvage their union
with some current and costly
counseling sessions.
Initially Kate supports Margie’s position, offering her employment, but quickly joins forces with
her husband and takes Margie
down quickly.
Abaire’s drama asks us to
weigh luck, intelligence and work
ethic to determine how success
can be measured.
The play is quite humorous and
the remaining cast members all
contribute to this easily accessible
production. Robin Pearson Rose
plays Dottie, a friend and babysitter, with a kooky directness that
easily entertains. Carol Halstead
“Good
People”
Through Oct. 28
The Old Globe
Thurs & Fri 8 p.m.
Sat 2 & 8 p.m.
Sun 2 & 7 p.m.
619-234-5623
theoldglobe.org
takes on the role of banquet waitress and confidante while James
McMenamin plays a dollar-store
manager with a big heart.
In the end, “Good People” is
more than socializing at the Bingo
hall with friends looking around for a
bit of luck with the numbers. And although the first act struggles to pull
itself out from sitcom, it succeeds
overall with a slice of life that looks
reality square in the eyes.t
(l to r) Jon Jon Briones, Scott Watanabe, Telly Leung, Karl Josef Co and Marc
de la Cruz in ‘Allegiance — A New American Musical’ (Photo by Henry DiRocco)
After the surprise attack on
Pearl Harbor, the United States
forcibly removed approximately
120,000 people of Japanese
ancestry from the West Coast
and placed them into American
prison camps. “Allegiance — A
New American Musical” that has
been extended through Oct. 28
on The Old Globe’s Shiley Stage,
tells their story in song, dance and
inventive choreography.
Jay Kuo is credited for both the
music and lyrics, while the book
shares authorship between Kuo,
Marc Acito and Lorenzo Thione.
The storyline is reduced to a choice
between family and patriotism,
all portrayed under the historical
backdrop of the internment camps
from 1942 to 1946.
Stafford Arima directs a wellpaced cast of 19 through some 50
scenes that move along seamlessly
during the two-hour plus production.
Heading up that impressive
cast list includes Lea Salonga, Telly
Leung and George Takei (playing
Kei Kimura, Sammy Kimur and
Sam Kimura/Ojii-San, respectively).
Takei, best known for his “Star
Trek” assignments, plays dual roles:
a World War II veteran who was
a member of the 442nd Regional
Combat Team as well as Kei and
Sammy’s grandfather. He reports
on their forced departure from their
Salinas farm to the Heart Mountain
internment camp.
Sammy enlists to demonstrate
his patriotism and escape the camp,
while his sister, Kei, falls in love
with Frankie (played by Michael K.
Lee), an internee who refuses to be
drafted until he is treated equally like
other U.S. citizens.
Salonga has the best pipes in
cast; she easily captures our hearts,
souls and sympathies with her
maternal assignment as Sammy’s
big sister. Leung hits all his notes
with youthful vigor, displaying young
Sammy’s eagerness for life and his
determination for a brighter future,
especially on the song “My Time.”
Takei, who was actually interned in his youth, displays anger
and grief with honest, tempered
passion and soul, most notably as
the aged Sammy.
Other cast members include
Paolo Montalban, playing a prointernment spokesperson, Masaoka;
Allie Trimm, playing Sam’s love interest, Hannah; and Paul Nakauchi,
playing Sammy’s father, Tatsuo.
Lynne Shankel’s musical arrangements of Kuo’s score livened
the production throughout, played
by an excellent 12-piece orchestra.
“Going Places” marks an initial
note for hope and a bright future,
“Allegiance – A
New American
Musical”
Through Oct. 28
The Old Globe
Thurs & Fri 8 p.m.
Sat 2 & 8 p.m.
Sun 2 & 7 p.m.
619-234-5623
theoldglobe.org
“Gaman” – meaning endurance
with dignity – underscores the quiet
resolve of the Japanese when forced
into the camps and “Paradise” sings
out about patriotism with a cynical
shrug.
Andrew Palermo’s choreography
added another layer to this moving
portrayal of heartache and survival.
Donyale Werle’s set design was a
wonder, allowing for constantly moving hand-designed shoji screens, or
panels, built to pivot and track and
taking us to places far and wide.
Her use of natural fabric allowed for
layering materials that resembled
a patchwork quilt, resulting into
nothing short of a poetic landscape.
Adding to the panels were Darrel
Maloney’s realistic projections.
“Allegiance” speaks of family
while addressing a sad, embarrassing and shameful note within the
United States’ historical playbook, all
with a perfectly professional balance
of script, music and choreography.t
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interview
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By Chris Azzopardi | Q Syndicate
After years of speculation, Mika
has finally confirmed it: he’s gay.
Totally queer. One-hundred percent
into men.
Now, moving on: the British
performer’s third album, “The Origin
of Love,” is Mika’s most self-reflective
work, from opening up about his sexuality to the ebb and flow of love and the
bullies that he fended off as a child. He
even looks more GQ than Toys R Us
kid these days.
Mika caught up with us to chat
about whether he’s over talking about
being gay (he’s not), his female alter
egos and how tight jeans help with the
high notes.
Chris Azzopardi: So, you’re gay.
Are you sick of talking about that yet?
Mika: [Laughs] The question
before was, ‘Are you gay?’ Now the
question everywhere I go is, ‘What’s
it like being a 29-year-old who’s gay?’
It never irritated me, and it’s never
something that has bothered me, so
I’m not sick of it. It’s not essential to
understanding my music, but I guess
if you want to understand me as a real
person – as a person with facets and
different angles – then it is important.
So no, I’m all right with it, and I’m still
answering those questions. It certainly
didn’t make them go away. If anything
it’s becoming even more a theme for
conversation in interviews.
CA: How do you respond to
people when they ask you what it’s like
to be gay?
M: I’m like, ‘What do you want
me to say to that?’ There are so many
inappropriate things I could answer
back [laughs]. I’m like, ‘It’s not a color
of a jacket that I chose that day.’ It’s
how I’ve always been programmed. It’s
my brain. It’s part of who I am. I don’t
really know how to answer that. I’m
like, ‘Well, what’s it like for you to have
brown hair?’
CA: Do you think the public is too
concerned about celebrities’ personal
lives?
M: I don’t know if the public is
too concerned. I think that at the end
of the day, let’s face it, it’s a choice;
Mika
performs in LA
Sunday, Oct. 21.
(Photo by Mark Cant)
anyone who says that every celebrity
or public person doesn’t have a choice
is insane. For many years I always
said I’m not hiding my sexuality; it’s
innately a part of what I do and what
I’ve always done in my music, but
whether I label myself or not, that is
my personal choice and I’ll cross that
bridge when I get to it. I did frustrate
people and have to deal with the consequences of those choices, just like
I have to deal with the consequences
of labeling myself at this point in time.
But the reason I was comfortable to
label myself is because it was a decision I made on my own. I did it from
a position of joy and confidence, and
I felt like it was the right time. There
was nothing negative, or no pressure,
associated with the process or act of
labeling myself as gay.
CA: For years, you were considered bisexual after you were misquoted, as you’ve said, in a Netherlands
magazine. Why didn’t you ever come
forward and clear that up?
M: What am I supposed to say:
‘No, I’m not bisexual?’ If I’m gonna talk
about, I’ll leave it until I talk about my
sexuality in an open, confident and
unpressured way. Again, I made that
decision, that right to take time and do
things at my own pace. And I was like,
‘When I deal with this, I’ll deal with this
properly. There’s no point dealing with
something in a small way; when I do it,
I have to do it in a positive way.’
It’s not a negative thing. Whatever
it is, it’s not negative. If you zoom out
Mika
Pop star talks new album,
coming out and stripping down
to his underwear
and look at it with perspective, there’s
no part of this that’s negative, because
it’s a developing story. I’m 29 and I’m
probably going to be a different person
when I’m 33, so maybe we’ll be having
a conversation then about sexuality
or the politics of sexuality, and I may
have completely different things to
say about it. But all I know is that I’m
happy and totally comfortable with my
sexuality, and I can talk about it and
say I’m not the 13-year-old who was
looking at himself in the mirror and
thinking, ‘How the hell am I gonna
shake this sense of fear or pressure
that I feel? Is there a way out?’
So when I did the interview with
Instinct recently, quite honestly I was
a little nervous, but I wasn’t fearful.
That’s why I knew it was the right
thing to do. I said to myself, ‘Talk as if
you’re talking to this 13-year-old who
doesn’t know how to get out of how
he’s feeling right now.’
CA: You’re 29? You seem so much
younger.
M: There is a naive childishness to
my music. Even with this new record,
which is definitely an evolution, it
is more mature, but it’s still got this
sense of mischief. There is that sense
of youth. It’s essential to always be
able to look at stuff in life in awe; if you
know you can be in awe, or be awed by
something, you know that you’re alive.
I guess people can sometimes misunderstand that for childishness, because
often it’s children who stand there with
their mouth open, but I guess I’m very
comfortable standing there looking
at things with my
mouth open …
being in awe
[laughs]. If
an extremely
beautiful
person is
walking down
the street, I’ll
just stand there
and stare and
Mika’s latest album,
‘The Origin of Love’ was
released Tuesday, Oct. 16.
(Photo by Mark Cant; cover
photo by Alex de Mora)
they’ll think I’m the biggest psycho in
the world.
CA: I also can’t say I know many
adults who dance around their bedroom in just underwear.
M: [Laughs] And on the one hand,
I’m fully aware that in that video [for
“We Are Golden”], there are moments
of it where I look ridiculous, like in
a bad way, and there are moments
where I look great. It’s the combination of those two things that I’m fine
with. I quite like it.
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like that’s my boxing ring and I have
nothing to fear, and everything to say. I
guess that’s where I found my outlet.
CA: So, Elphaba or Glinda?
M: Elphaba is too soppy. I don’t
feel sorry for her and her greenness.
Like, she’s green. Tough shit, get over
it [laughs]. I actually do find her really
irritating. Gotta be honest. And when
she sings “Defying Gravity,” I’m like,
OK, big deal.
CA: What’s the highest note you
can sing?
M: It depends on the day and
other various factors: altitude and
whether I drank the night before.
And it depends on the tightness of my
jeans.
CA: The tighter the better, right?
M: The tighter the better. Always.
CA: Is the namesake on the song
“Emily” an alter ego of yours?
CA: You don’t mind looking a little
ridiculous?
M: It actually kind of is. I have
various pen names, because I write for
other people and sometimes it’s easier
when no one knows who’s written or
co-written the song. So I have this little
fleet of girls’ first names that I write
under. One of them got discovered and
it’s out, but I’ve got a few others that
are still nice and safe.
M: Sometimes. As long as you can
look hot a minute later [laughs].
CA: How does your boyfriend play
into “The Origin of Love”?
CA: You sampled a “Wicked” tune
for your song “Popular” off the new
album, a song that’s directed toward
bullies. Can you explain the process of
writing that?
M: On the record you can hear
a horrific breakup, you can hear me
questioning myself and going on dates
with other people, and then you can
hear me finally finding love in the person who I was originally with. You see
this transition through the record. I
think for him, it’s a record with a happy
ending – well, for both of us – but it’s
definitely something that I think he
sees a lot of truth in. As funny as it may
seem, and as flippant and ironic as it
may come across, “Love You When
I’m Drunk” was written completely
from truth.
M: I wrote it with a friend of mine
called Priscilla Renea; she’s becoming
really well known for writing a lot of
urban and hip-hop stuff. She’s actually
the one singing on it with me. We were
sitting there and I was like, ‘Do you
know that melody from the “Wicked”
song “Popular”?’ And she completely
geeked out and I burst out laughing.
I was like, “Listen to you. You walk
around in your three-inch-long fake
nails and you write raps and hooks
on hardcore rap songs. Does anyone
know you like “Wicked”?’ And we
laughed about it.
She was tortured in school. She
was made to feel like shit every day.
And we were laughing how the people
who write pop songs are often the least
popular growing up. It’s that bizarre
thing. You end up writing something
that is innately popular or
designed to be popular. So
it started off like that. We
wrote it as a conversation. I would say some
things and she would
answer back. I guess
we were both thinking
of that horrible feeling
you get when you walk
across the schoolyard.
Bizarrely, I still feel
that sometimes when
I’m put in certain
situations, that
schoolyard
mentality comes
right back.
Isn’t
it weird?
I can feel
threatened
sometimes, but
when I’m
onstage –
no matter
who I’m
singing
in front
of – I feel
CA: There’s no question that a lot
of your songs have radio potential, but
they’re often overlooked by United
States radio. Do you think that has
anything to do with you being gay or
your songs being flamboyant?
M: I was accidentally copied on an
email a couple of years ago, and it was
from a person at radio saying that they
wouldn’t play “Love Today” because it
sounded like a guy who was singing
in the range of a girl. I immediately
assumed this had to do with sexuality
or identity and I got really angry, and
then I just was like, ‘You know what,
it’s not; that’s just an excuse. It cannot
be a reason.’ I may just be naive, but
I don’t know. It cannot be the reason.
Maybe I’m just being a dick and I
should take a reality pill, but if I took
that reality pill then maybe I wouldn’t
have made this last record, and I think
that would’ve been a shame.
With that said, I wanted to tour
America again and [the label] was like,
‘Let’s do three shows and see how it
goes.’ So we put the three shows on
sale and they sold out in 52 seconds;
all three shows sold out in 52 seconds!
I can sell shows in America when I
haven’t been there in four years and I
haven’t had a single played on radio.
I can keep on building my niche and
my fans are faithful and I don’t have to
compromise any part of myself or my
writing. If that’s the case, then I’ll keep
going.
—Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q
Syndicate, the international LGBT wire
service. Reach him via his website at
chris-azzopardi.com.t
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GAY SAN DIEGO
Oct. 19–Nov. 1, 2012
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‘The Fosters’: J. Lo’s moms are
all right
That ABC Family drama executive produced by Jennifer Lopez
just got itself some lesbians. Well,
not actual lesbians – at least not that
we know of – but a pair of ladies to
play them; how’s that? Sherri Saum
(from “In Treatment”) and Teri Polo
(“Meet The Parents”) are coming
soon as “The Fosters,” a mixed-race
couple raising a “Cheaper By The
Dozen”-amount of children, both biological and adopted, who become
foster (get it?) parents to a young
girl. Wrinkle: the kid’s disruptive
influence in the family threatens to
turn the happy home into the kind
you see getting intervened upon by
Dr. Phil. Of course, this being ABC
Family, you can probably expect
something a little more in line with
the adorable “Bunheads” than, say,
“Shameless,” and a built-in audience
of lesbian parent households who’ll
be eager to see this first-of-its-kind
series. Good luck, “Fosters”!
Cheyenne Jackson’s next big
move is porn
And he’s doing it with Fonzie in
a kind of musical-comedy “Boogie
Nights.” OK, sorry, backing up: “30
Rock” regular Cheyenne Jackson
is headed back to Broadway to star
in “The Performers,” a romantic
comedy about porn stars, one in
which “sex, love and Barry Manilow
intersect.” We’re sure the details are
someone less strange than whatever’s going on in your imagination
right now. Jackson will star as porn
actor “Mandrew,” opposite Henry
Winkler (’70s icon Fonzie on the
hugely successful sitcom “Happy
Days”). Winkler’s character – an
adult industry veteran named
“Chuck Wood” –gives Jackson some
advice on life and love when the pair
wind up in Las Vegas at the Adult
Film Awards. The publicity pics
working their way around the Internet show Jackson looking ripped and
muscular in a gladiator costume, but
that’s probably as much daring stage
nudity as you’re going to get from
the handsome star, and way more
than Winkler will be expected to
demonstrate. Or so we hear. See for
yourself when previews begin late in
October.
Scarlett Johansson
(Courtesy Twentieth Century Fox)
Scarlett ‘On A Hot Tin Roof ’
The scandalous allure of Tennessee Williams never dies. His sexually
frustrated characters keep on teasing new generations with that winning combination of lust and despair.
And now the Williams classic “Cat
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On A Hot Tin Roof” is set to enjoy a
Broadway revival with the no-brainer
casting of Tony-winning actress
Scarlett Johansson as Maggie “The
Cat.” She’s in good company, too,
joined by Broadway heavy-hitters Ciaran Hinds as Big Daddy and Debra
Monk (Tony-winner for “Redwood
Curtain” and a recurring presence
on “Glee”) as Big Mama. Johansson
will conduct a smoldering contest
opposite up-and-comer Benjamin
Walker as Brick, a man no doubt
happy to return to non-historical
roles after taking on two presidents:
on Broadway as a rock ‘n’ roll version of our country’s most disturbing
leader in “Bloody Bloody Andrew
Jackson” and in multiplexes as
“Abraham Lincoln: Vampire Hunter.”
The Pulitzer Prize-winning drama
begins previews in December and
opens officially in January. Rev up
those credit cards, ticket hunters.
Ezra Miller joins the cast of
‘Madame Bovary’
It’s been a decade or so since
the last of the umpteen adaptations of “Madame Bovary,” which
means, clearly, that it was time for a
fresh one. And come on, you know
you can’t get enough of this stuff,
especially when the production
values and creative care taken are
as impeccable as period films have
been delivering lately. This one’s
coming from French-born (and
raised everywhere else) filmmaker
Sophie Barthes (“Cold Souls”) and
stars Mia Wasikoswka (already an
old hand at the corset thing from
all that time she spent blowing you
away in the excellent “Jane Eyre”)
and Paul Giamatti. The project also
features new queer heartthrob Ezra
Miller, the 20-year-old star of “The
Perks of Being a Wallflower” and
“We Need To Talk About Kevin.”
If you don’t know him yet, you will;
the young actor recently chose the
pages of Out magazine to get all
that annoying future speculation
out of the way by announcing his
sexual orientation before it turned
into an elephant in the room, which
is pretty much the new standard
of How To Do It Right. Cut to the
chase and get back to work!
The ‘Quiet Passion’ of Cynthia
Nixon
What do you know about Emily
Dickinson besides her inability to
“stop for death?” Not much, right?
Well, that’s what movies are for, to
teach you a lot of speculative history
about the celebrities of olden times.
And Cynthia Nixon is here to help.
The woman whose serious acting
cred will only ever be in question
if she agrees to return to the “Sex
and the City” well for another fat
paycheck (and even then we might
not hold it against her) will play
Dickinson for acclaimed, gay, British
director Terence Davies (“The Deep
Blue Sea,” “The House of Mirth,”
“The Long Day Closes”). At the moment the film is known as “A Quiet
Passion,” which sums up Davies
ongoing career tone of hushed
melancholy and Dickinson’s real,
reclusive life quite nicely, a pairing
of sensitive filmmaker and literary
subject matter made in chocolateand-peanut-butter heaven. That
means art-house audiences are in for
a rollicking, miserable time sometime in the next year or so. Roll those
cameras and let’s get sad.
‘Hannibal’ wants to eat your
spare TV-viewing time
Remember that Munsters reboot
called “Mockingbird Lane” from cool
queer creator Bryan Fuller (“Pushing Daisies”)? Well, it might not be
happening now as a full feature.
Hollywood is weird that way. Why
put something interesting on the air
when another bland family sitcom
will do just as well in the ratings and
offend practically nobody? But don’t
cry for Fuller. He’s got “Hannibal”
and it’s a done deal. The new show,
detailing the serial gourmet cannibal’s early years, stars hot Danish
actor Mads Mikkelsen (“Casino
Royale”), Hugh Dancy, Laurence
Fishburne, “Kids in The Hall” alum
Scott Thompson and Caroline Dhavernas (who starred on Fuller’s earlier oddity “Wonderfalls”). The plan
is for “Hannibal” to arrive on NBC’s
midseason schedule, eating up the
time slot left by the fresh corpse of
a something cancelled. Bring on the
fava beans.
Sacha Baron Cohen
(Courtesy Paramount Pictures)
Sacha Baron Cohen is not ‘The
Lesbian’
It’s not just “Law & Order” episodes; movie plots are ripped from
the headlines, too. For example,
remember the recent internet buzz
about Cecil Chao, the Hong Kong
billionaire who offered $65 million
to any man who could woo his
perfectly happy and partnered adult
lesbian daughter away from that
partner and that happiness? Well
“Borat” star Sacha Baron Cohen
thinks it’s got the makings of comedy. And he’s right, of course; it does.
Tentatively tiled “The Lesbian,” the
project will most likely star Cohen
as the entitled Big Daddy and, in
better news, not in a simultaneous
dual role as the lesbian.
Obviously, satirizing the “good
intentions” of a man who thinks
money can buy anything will offend
a small segment of the population for
whom homosexuality is a character
flaw to be eradicated, but who cares?
Mr. Chao must have a screw loose
if he thinks a monster dowry is
going to derail his daughter’s sexual
orientation. And if Cohen’s got all of
his own screws locked down tightly,
this comedy might perform better at
the box office than “The Dictator.”
The negotiations begin here.
Anglophilia is the new black
You know who you are: the
queer person addicted to everything that comes from that tiny
country across the channel from
France. Well, you’re in luck,
because a bumper crop of culture
is coming your way sooner than
you can say AbFab. Here’s the
rundown: Julian Fellowes has a
“Downton Abbey” prequel in the
works, a series that would detail
the early years of the title-rich and
cash-poor Earl of Grantham and his
convenient romance with new-money-having American heiress Cora,
one that bloomed into affectionate
lifelong marriage (with occasional
lapses in judgment re: outside sex).
Meanwhile, the original queens of
“What Not To Wear,” charismatic
presenters Trinny Woodall and Susannah Constantine, are re-teaming
for “Trinny and Susanna: Inside
Out.” It’s another style makeover
show, obviously, but what else do
you want from these two, cooking
tips? And finally, perhaps best of
all, Stephen Fry, who should be
considered a gay cultural treasure
no matter which side of the Atlantic
you’re on, is the subject of a documentary titled “Wagner & Me.”
Coming later this fall from director
Patrick McGrady, it’s the story
of Fry – who is Jewish – and his
life-long enthusiasm for composer
Richard Wagner. That’s right, the
Wagner Hitler loved so much. How
does that work? Well, you’ll just
have to watch it, won’t you?
—Romeo San Vicente would
marry Lord Grantham even if he
were a coal miner. He can be reached
care of Gay San Diego or at [email protected]
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GAY SAN DIEGO
Oct. 19–Nov. 1, 2012
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DUGOUT CHATTER
News from around the local sports leagues
Flicks Lawmen take first place at
Autumn Classic
I would like to offer my congratulations to my good friend Roman
Jimenez and the Flicks Lawmen of
America’s Finest City Softball League
(AFCSL) for their recent championship during the Autumn Classic. This
tournament is an annual competition,
held locally every Columbus Day
Weekend and bringing in 80 to 100
teams from around the country.
The Open Division is broken up
into three levels of play: advanced
(B), intermediate (C) and beginner
(D). The Lawmen were part of a 31team double-elimination bracket, the
largest field of teams in the tournament. Teams played two games Oct.
6 during the morning pool play in
order to get seeded for the beginning
of the double elimination tournament that afternoon. The Lawmen
emerged from pool play as the third
overall seed, meaning they would
need to win anywhere between six
and nine games to win the title.
A team’s first loss in double
elimination sends them to the loser’s
bracket, which leads to additional
games that they are required to win
to reach the title game. Jimenez and
the Lawmen avoided that route by
sweeping through the entire tournament undefeated, culminating with a
22-7 run-rule victory over the Palm
Springs Double A’s, last year’s C
Champion, in the title game.
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“As a manager and player, knowing what this team is capable of, to
have a big tournament win like this
was huge,” Jimenez said.
The Lawmen have not always
reached their potential in big tournaments, and their friendly local rival,
the Outlaws, jokingly like to remind
them of that. Flicks had won the
Autumn Classic once before, but it
was in the lower division back when
C was split into two levels of competition. This title erases that asterisk
and gives the Lawmen a tremendous
accomplishment to hang their hat on.
Managing a team is difficult
enough during a weekend tournament. Like the managers of each of
the 87 other teams who participated
in the Autumn Classic, Jimenez had
to make certain his players were registered and that their ratings were
submitted and verified, in addition to
holding pre-tournament practices to
prepare for the games and creating
line ups that would allow everyone
to get playing time. Performing all
these duties and being a player at
the same time is a tall task.
But the task was taller for
Jimenez than anyone because, as
Commissioner of AFCSL, he also
filled the role of Autumn Classic
Tournament director. This person,
with assistance from the board of
directors, oversees everything from
recruitment of teams across the
country, negotiating rooms and rates
for the host hotels, to event planning
during the weekend and finalizing
tournament rules.
Like his softball team, Jimenez
and the AFCSL board hit a home
run.
“This year’s tournament was
a great success,” Jimenez said.
“Operationally, everything ran
smoothly, and that’s thanks to our
great volunteers. When you have
almost 90 teams spread out among
five complexes from Escondido to
Chula Vista, a lot can go wrong. But
because of the tremendous coordination of our volunteers, everything
went smoothly.”
Juggling all of those responsibilities has earned Jimenez a huge tip of
the cap from me and all his peers.
SD Hoops begins 2012-2013
regular season
SD Hoops, the local LGBT
basketball league, kicked off its
new season with the annual draft
on Saturday, Oct. 13. Turnover in
the league was unusually high this
year, as 24 players from last season
did not return. However, scores of
new players participated in Open
Gym throughout the summer, and
the league actually drew more
players than it has in several years.
All told, 67 players were placed on
teams, with an additional nine on a
waiting list.
SD Hoops was able to expand
from eight to nine teams this sea-
son. New team sponsors include
Jersey Joe’s, Wsup Now and Army
of Happy. The 18-week regular
season began Wednesday, Oct. 17,
and will stretch into mid-March.
A champion will be crowned on
March 27. Games are held every
Wednesday night at Golden Hills
Recreation Center, 2600 Golf
Course Dr., between 6 and 10 p.m.
Rosters, statistics and schedules
are available at sdhoops.net.
Local athlete nominated for
national award
Congratulations are in order for
local athlete Eric Reissner, who has
been nominated by a monthly national LGBT publication for a prestigious award. He is being considered
for Compete Magazine’s Athlete of
the Year. Just to be nominated is a
tremendous honor.
Anyone who has played on
teams with Reissner knows that his
credentials are unmatched locally.
While there may be better players in
any one sport in our LGBT leagues,
Reissner is a top athlete in no fewer
than three sports here in San Diego:
basketball, flag football and softball.
He recently quarterbacked and captained the San Diego Toros to their
first-ever championship at Gay Bowl
XII in Denver. He was one of the top
players on his undefeated basketball team that won the SD Hoops
Championship back in April. He has
also been one of the better players in
the B Division of AFCSL, including
spending the last three seasons as
an outfielder on the team I play for
and manage, The Loft.
Reissner’s performance on the
field is rivaled by his leadership
skills. He drives people to perform
better, has the personality to fit in
with any temperament of player, and
his passion for winning has earned
him the reputation as an all-effort,
top-performing athlete in our city.
This fall, Reissner is relocating out of state, and three sports
leagues will lose a fantastic competitor. To my friend Eric, I wish you
all the best in this competition as
well as in your new life. You will be
sorely missed!t
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