September 2015 Kol Shalom - Congregation Beth Shalom
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September 2015 Kol Shalom - Congregation Beth Shalom
September 2015 Elul 5775 / Tishrei 5776 Inside This Edition… From Our Rabbi: Inheritance From Our Cantor: A Walk with The King Second Fridays Shabbat Highlights New DVLI Course The History of Ukraine Meet the Gellers AND A WHOLE LOT MORE… G’mar Hatimah Tovah! May you have a sweet and good new year ahead! F R O M O U R R A B B I : I N H E R I TA N C E - Marla Covin Cooper PRESIDENT Although writing while I am still on sabbatical, I know that you will be reading this article once I am already safely ensconced in my rabbinical study at Congregation Beth Shalom. As I ponder the overarching themes for High Holy Days 5776, I realize that how things look in August during our soggy, warm summer may look very different in September. Edward Sobel PRESIDENT-ELECT Steven Bernhardt VP ADMINISTRATION Karolin Lipman VP MEMBERSHIP Jodie Pezzner VP PROGRAMMING Linda Sigman VP EDUCATION Peter Hazen VP FUND RAISING Barney Kantar TREASURER Jeffrey Ledger ASSISTANT TREASURER Frances Ratner SECRETARY Anita Sobel RELIGIOUS LIFE Michael Sigman YOUTH PROGRAMMING Ralph Downard PAST PRESIDENT BOARD OF DIRECTORS Brian Appelbaum Bob Berman Carol Einhorn David Fruchtman Debbie Nachlis Mara Raskin Andrew Rosen David Rosengarten Hayim Weiss ——————————1801 Baynard Boulevard Wilmington, DE 19802 302.654.4462 [email protected] www.bethshalomwilmington.org 2 | KOL SHALOM But as of this writing, I am intrigued with the Hebrew word, yerusha. It can loosely be translated as “inheritance,” but I think it can be so much more. For example, if you add a מmem to the prefix of this word, you get morasha, which means “heritage.” The big idea behind the word is that our ancestors came before us, gave us something of value, which we did not necessarily do anything to merit. And implied in the word is at least the possibility that we might do the same for the next generation. During these high holy days, I wish to take this concept of yerusha, and apply it to different settings and situations. My BIG question is – what in our past helped make us who we are today? And my BIGGER question is – knowing how the past shaped us, what are we prepared to do to shape our future? These are essential meaning-of-life questions, which have a certain Jewish resonance, especially at High Holy Days, when we ponder our purpose on earth and how we might resolve to better ourselves, and ultimately leave the world a better place than we found it. I intend to use texts and concepts I learned with wonderful scholars during my sabbatical at the Shalom Hartman Institute in Jerusalem to help us on this exploration. Our God and the God of our Ancestors אלהינו ואלוהי אבותינו The idea of yerusha finds its theological expression in the opening of our silent Amidah prayers, when we call upon an inherited connection with our Maker, spanning more than 3,000 years of Jewish history, to create our own unique ירושה relationship with the Kadosh Barukh Hu. Just because our grandparents or even our parents felt a certain way about God does not define how we should think about God. Our people are called yisrael, literally, “Godwrestlers,” because we are in an intergenerational dynamic relationship with God. As my friend and colleague Rabbi Ed Feinstein likes to say to teens that have their doubts about God, “tell me about the God you don’t believe in.” Often that conversation leads to an understanding that the struggling teen was holding on to an unhelpful view of God which can be jettisoned for something more relevant and meaningful. Just as Rebecca and Isaac’s relationship with God was very different from Sarah and Abraham’s, so too are we permitted and encouraged to create our own unique relationship as well. As a people, our connection to yerusha finds its national connection through the land and people of Israel, both biblical Israel and the modern political entity called the State of Israel. Yet the connection our parents and grandparents had with the State of Israel is, by virtue of changing times and experiences, going to be very different from the relationship our children have with Israel. I would argue that, up to now, our traditional Jewish communal institutions have been slow in picking up on the change in this relationship, putting our grown children in real peril when they enter university and are faced with new and hitherto unheard of narratives about the State of Israel. I will be arguing for the creation of new, creative and more dynamic connections with the Israel, based in part, on experiences my family had during my recent sabbatical – that go beyond only attending annual political gatherings in Washington, DC. As Americans, we have witnessed a new rise in racial strife that most of us are most unprepared to navigate. It is unfathomable to imagine our community’s parents giving our boys “the talk” about how they must behave around police officers in order to (Continued on page 3) S E C O N D F R I D AY S H A B B AT Second Friday, September 11, 2015, 8:00pm As we begin our Jewish calendar year, we welcome our guest Darshan, Richard D. Levin, as he previews his upcoming course at DVLI –Siegel JCC, A History of the Jews of the Ukraine. The history of the Jewish Communities of the Ukraine is multi-faceted: Dynamic communities with great scholars, rabbis, and leaders that contributed much to world Jewry, and also a history of pogroms and massacres. Join us for a most interesting topic. Looking Ahead Plans are complete for the coming year, including a wide diversity of topics presented by CBS members and guests in our community including: It’s Not Your Bubbes Butcher Shop, the Kosher Food Industry in America Roger Horowitz, Curator, Hagley Museum The First Jews in Delaware Toni Young Target of Terror, Anti-Semitism, Down But Not Out Loren Casuto Jewish Humor in America Rabbi Michael Kramer Abraham Lincoln and the Jews Rabbi Michael Beals Dates and details will be shared in future editions of the Kol Shalom, the CBS Website and the CBS Directory. Marv Cytron, Member Second Friday Shabbat Committee Editor’s Note: In the July–August Kol Shalom Edition on this topic, we erroneously identified the author of the article. We thank Richard Levin for his contribution to the Kol Shalom. ■ (Continued from previous page) stay alive. I know my own relationship with police officers, from my youth in California to the present here in Wilmington, has been based on gratitude and respect – never fear. And yet here again, the idea of yerusha might be helpful. If we ponder our own family histories just a little more than 100 years ago in Russia and Eastern Europe, we might remember stories of how the police were to be feared and avoided at all costs. It was the Czar’s police, extending their authority into Poland, that tried to forcibly draft the greatgrandfather whom I am named, into a 25-year service to the Russian Army. Perhaps recalling such stories can give us the empathy we need to better support and stand by our African American neighbors, giving new resonance to the plea, Black Lives Matter. Finally, at Yizkor more than at any other time of the year, I believe we can truly ponder our dearly departed, think about their life lessons, and resolve to pass the best of their inheritance, their morasha – their goodly heritage, on to our next generation, creating a living legacy that will not just ensure the survival of Judaism – but also its flourishing. throughout the year. I encourage you and our children to partake in as many of these programs as possible, from planned shul trips to New York City to visiting genealogists right here at Congregation Beth Shalom, so that together we might celebrate where we came from, and more importantly, where we are going -- what legacy do we hope to leave for future generations. Wishing you and yours a happy and sweet New Year. ■ Rabbi Michael Beals These themes, introduced during our High Holy Day services, will form the leit motif for all our Adult Education and Hebrew School innovations CONGREGATION BETH SHALOM | 3 F R O M O U R C A N TO R : A WA L K W I T H T H E K I N G Long ago, it was believed that if you wanted to have a word with the king, you had to think about who could help you get invited to the palace. You had to wear your finest clothes and learn the court etiquette – how to enter the throne room, when to bow, what to say, where to look. It was all very complicated and very serious. But sometimes, the king just went for a walk in the fields. And at those times, anyone could just start walking along next to the king and share whatever was in their heart and on their mind. Elul is the season when the King goes walking in the fields. From the first time I ever read this story about the King walking in the fields, it has resonated with me in a profound way beyond words. So often in our lives, God seems distant and difficult to access, and in this story, there is a sense of hope to enter into a close relationship with God. As humans, so many of us long for a connection with the Divine, with a deep intimacy with God, the King Himself. It is in good and challenging times when we look to God and wonder what it takes to build, strengthen, and maintain our relationship with Him. We seek answers for the struggles we face. We long for a Divine shoulder to cry on when life seems challenging and someone to share our gratitude with when we are blessed with good. Over the course of my life, there have been moments where I would have given anything to walk with God in the fields. I have so many questions for Him. So many things I want to thank Him for. So many topics I would like to address with the Master of the Universe. What I would give… and I would imagine I am not alone… As we enter the month of Elul and make our approach to the High Holy Days, I can’t help but think of this story. The month of Elul is a time of introspection in preparation for the High Holy Days of Rosh HaShanah and Yom Kippur. Tradition teaches that the month of Elul is a particularly auspicious time for repentance. This mood of repentance builds through the month of Elul to the period of Selichot to Rosh HaShanah, and finally on to Yom Kippur. The name of the month (spelled AlefLamed-Vav-Lamed) is said to be an acronym of "Ani l'dodi v'dodi li," "I am my Beloved's and my Beloved is mine," a quote from Song of Songs 6:3, where the “Beloved” is God and the "I" is the Jewish People. In Aramaic, the word "Elul" means "search," which is appropriate, because this is a time of year when we search our hearts, and seek God. The High Holy Days tend to be a very formal time of the Jewish year, radiating complicated emotions, thoughts, reflections on the year past, wishes for the year ahead, conversations with those around us, making amends, personal and communal prayer and repentance. In essence, we are engaging in the complicated rituals that enable us to enter the King’s court. Through these steps, we are more able to create these moments of heightened awareness and connection to God. Though, truth be told, I still find myself longing for that less formal situation from time to time, that casual and spontaneous walk in the fields with God… It is easy to get lost in the preparations for the High Holy Days, and think that it is only about what we pray from our mahzorim and not the depths of our hearts. The month of Elul beckons us to seek the Divine, to walk with God as He goes for a stroll in the fields. As we prepare ourselves for this powerful time of the year, seeking renewal, I challenge us to imagine what a walk with God in the fields would look like to you. How would you greet one another? What would you tell God? What would you thank God for? What would you ask God for? What would God share with you? How would you speak to God? How would you end your conversation with God? May we all be blessed with meaningful and inspiring connections with God in the months and years ahead. L’Shanah Tovah U’metukah. ■ Cantor Elisa Abrams Casuto AT THE CBS OPEN HOUSE ON SEPTEMBER 20… Learn about Peace Drums, a new initiative being supported by the Tikkun Olam committee of CBS. Peace Drums, a Galilean Steel Band, is a Delaware interfaith project to promote peace among Jewish, Muslim and Christian Youth living in the Galilee Region of Israel. Harvey Price, an associate professor of music at the University of Delaware, will show a video at 10:15am and explain this community project. Understand how CBS congregants can support this effort when a band of young Israeli students and their families visit the US in April 2016. Chair: Frank Levy 302.545.1234, Tikkun Olam: Faith Silver 302.764.5408. 4 | KOL SHALOM F R O M O U R P R E S I D E N T: I S A N Y B O D Y O U T T H E R E Hello! Is anyone out there? Some of you may remember that I ended my last article asking you to text me. Not only did I want to know what you thought, but I wanted to know who was reading my article. I learned that I’m talking to a small but mighty group of people and as I write this I will keep you in mind. I sincerely hope more of you will join in the conversation and text me after reading this article. One of my priorities as President is to include time at each monthly Board of Directors meeting to dream a little and consider grand ideas and innovations in the world of Jewish communal living. This month, we read an article featured in the on-line magazine, Tablet from August, 2014 titled Becoming an Unaffiliated Jew: Why I left My Synagogue by Judy Walters. It was an interesting and insightful article about a life-long, committed Jewish family that, ultimately, when their children left for college, found they were not getting “enough” out of being members to justify remaining. What was interesting to us all is that many of the reasons discussed in the article are reasons given by members that have left our congregation. We also know from discussions with other synagogues that the experience of this family is not unique. In fact, it is rather common to synagogues across this country. The article featured many reasons for discontent taking place over a number of years, summarized as follows: Not getting "value for money" Members gossiping and acting petty Committees disorganized and poorly run Not seeing people (in this case, empty nesters) who look like me No strong connections with other congregants/families Unbalanced authority - Rabbi vs. lay leadership – who are not collaborating with one another Clergy that is not approachable, not listening/dismissive, intimidating/threatening Financial mismanagement Leadership not following through after surveying/soliciting input Having to choose between temple and other financial priorities, like college Lack of youth engagement post-b'nai mitzvah As an empty nester, no longer with children, not seeing a reason to stay Services long and boring - not engaging or satisfying Do any of these resonate with you? Your friends? People you know? I want to share with you some feedback from our Board. It’s important for you to know what they think, as it is their job to represent us all. I asked each board member to identify what they thought was the single most important reason this family left. In other words, what was the straw that broke the ”membership” camel’s back? Or asked another way, what single thing could have been different to get this family to remain? Believe it or not, there was a general consensus! The vast majority of the Board thought “No strong connections with other congregants/families” was the single most important reason that the congregant in our story left. However, there was a smaller but enthusiastic minority who strongly felt that “Not getting value for money" was the reason. After consideration, we came to the understanding that these two factors are NOT mutually exclusive and that the most important reason this family left is they could no longer justify the cost of membership for a congregation where they did not have strong connections. We closed our meeting in agreement that it’s all about building and maintaining strong, meaningful and fulfilling relationships within and among our congregation. Relational Judaism is really the key for us to retain members and fulfill our mission long-term as a Conservative congregation. So now I want to ask a favor from those of you still reading this… Text me at 610-348-4035 with your first and last name and “YES” if you agree with the Board’s perspective, or text “NO” if you don’t agree and tell me which single factor (text a number from the list above) that you thought was the most important reason this family left. Thank you and I look forward to continuing our “conversation” next month. B’Shalom, Marla Cooper, President Congregation Beth Shalom CONGREGATION BETH SHALOM | 5 P R O G R A M M I N G AT C B S L’ Shanah Tovah from the Programming Committee! We wish you good health, prosperity and lots of exciting activities to engage in at CBS. The Programming Committee has been busy planning an exciting year ahead for you. We encourage you to find out about our upcoming social, educational and religious opportunities at our OPEN HOUSE on SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 20TH and learn about our theme this year: Traditions! Embracing our Past…Exploring our Future. We will be exploring our Jewish history from our relatives who left their homes in Europe and settled in the United States and our community. What traditions did they bring with them that your family still maintains today? Perhaps, a favorite recipe? Holiday celebrations? Shabbat? We will have lectures and a field trip to New York, cooking demonstrations, and special speakers for Shabbat. Our Open House will begin after Morning Minyan, approximately 9:30am. Various committees will be present with information on their programs for the year and opportunities to get involved as a participant or volunteer. You will be able to pick up your 2015-2016 Membership Directory and Calendar hot off the press!! It is not too late to join Men’s Club or Sisterhood. Sisterhood will have honey cakes for sale and some to sample. Vered Nohi Becker will be demonstrating how to make her family’s famous Jewish Iranian Break-the-Fast apple drink. Our Kitchen Klub will have treats to delight and opportunities for you to sign up to help bake for events throughout the year. The Men’s Club will be making falafel to make your taste buds sing for a nominal cost. Did you know you can borrow books from our library? Well, at the Open House, you can even buy some. Join us in the Chapel at 10:15am to learn about the Peace Drum Program and watch a fascinating video about this program. At 10:45am, Caryl Marcus-Stape will share about the exciting events planned for our Traditions! program. And for families of our Hebrew School, at 11:30am, there will be a school orientation. And don’t forget about those falafels! Dance with our Klezmer Band and enjoy making a craft or two. You will find more details in this issue of the Kol Shalom. Don’t forget to share all this excitement with your unaffiliated family and friends. The more the merrier!! Please get involved as our programs won’t be the same without you! Jodie Pezzner VP Programming M E N’S C L U B Fantasy Football Tuesday, September 1, 6:00pm. Summer just arrived, but it's time to start planning for fantasy football! A live in-person draft will be conducted at CBS with a pre-draft dinner. For more information, please contact Tom [email protected] Sukkah Raising Monday, September 7, 9:00am-12:00pm Dr. Seuss would say, "You can build it very small, you can build it very tall, you can build it very large, you can build it on a barge." This year we're planning to build it large, and tall, on the CBS back patio! So come and help us raise the Sukkah on Monday, 9/7, starting at 9:00am. Ratchet set, 8' ladder and RSVP desired, but not required. No experience necessary. Contact Brian Appelbaum, [email protected] for more information. 6 | KOL SHALOM ZERO Prostate Cancer Run/Walk Sunday, October 11 Brandywine Park and Zoo One in seven American men will be diagnosed with prostate cancer. That's one in seven fathers, sons, husbands, brothers, partners, and friends. No one wants the men in their lives to be faced with this disease. You can be part of saving lives and keeping families together. Come and support this great cause/event/sponsor (Brandywine Urology Consultants). For more information, contact David Fruchtman. [email protected] S I S T E R H O O D : I N V E S T I N G I N C B S’S F U T U R E Thank you to all our volunteers and supporters for a wonderful year! There was so much energy and enthusiasm this year from our volunteers and sisterhood board. We strengthened our community bonds by working with Men’s Club, Kraft foundation and Kitchen Klub. Thank you to William Taylor, Sarah Andrus and Sam Nussbaum for making our events run so smoothly! Special kudos to our Board: Jodie Pezzner and Elaine Schmerling: Co-Presidents; Lisa Kletter and Jodie Pezzner :VP Programming; Judy Zucker: Treasurer; Linda Saccamondo: Recording Secretary; Elaine Schmerling: VP of Synagogue Relations; Jessica Imber: VP of Religious Life; Meredith Weiss: VP Communications; Beth Ledger: VP Membership; Frances Ratner: Member at Large and Suzanne Burcat: Past President. Thank you to Meredith Weiss for all your years on the Sisterhood Board. Changes to the Board include: Laurie Hazen: Co-VP Programming, Debbie Grossman: Treasurer; Kara Haines: VP Communications and Judy Zucker as Member at Large. Don’t forget to fill out your order form found right here in the Kol Shalom for Honey Cakes for the High Holy Days and to reserve your spot for Break the Fast! SUMMER PROGRAM: In August, we went on a lovely tour of the Mt. Cuba Gardens. Mt. Cuba is the last of the DuPont homes to become open to the public, but the mission of this is education and conservation of native plants of our Piedmont region. HONEY CAKE ORDER FORM Do you want to be the envy of your family and friends at your Rosh HaShanah dinner? Then preorder our moist and delicious kosher pareve honey cakes to Still thinking about joining Sisterhood?? Your INVESTMENT of $36 (basic) or $72 (contributory) add sweetness to the High Holy Days! can really go far to assist CBS and the surrounding Lovingly baked by our Sisterhood. Order Wilmington community. Look at some of the more than one as they make great things our members allowed us to accomplish this hostess gifts! year: Flowers for Bimah for High Holy Days Kiddush Lunch for four Shabbatons Oneg for MLK Shabbat Shabbat Dinner for February’s 2nd Friday Event Dessert for New Member Shabbat Partially sponsored Twin Cantor Concert Purchased new tablecloths / kitchen supplies Purchased textbooks for Hebrew School Allocated funds for member name tags Helped provide food for families in crisis Allocated $10,000 for new chairs for High Holy Days’ Services Allocated $6,000 towards new CBS sign Allocated $7,000 to CBS at the Annual Meeting from Mishloach Manot profits To help us continue to perform these mitzvahs and create and support our CBS community, join Sisterhood for as little as $36. Send your check to the office made out to Sisterhood. And get involved – we’d love to see you at events! I would like to order____________ mini cakes at $6 each. I am enclosing $_____. Check made to CBS Sisterhood. All orders must be received by Friday, September 4. Orders may be picked up on Thursday, September 10 during office hours. They freeze well if you need to order extra for your Break the Fast. (Note: no honey cakes may be picked up during the holidays.) Name ____________________ Phone :________________ Email: ____________________________________________ Address:____________________________________________ City: _____________________ State:_______ Zip:_______ (Continued on page 8) CONGREGATION BETH SHALOM | 7 (Continued from page 7) Look for the Sisterhood table on September 20 at CBS’s Open House! Sign up for our paid up member brunch on November 8 with speaker Peninnah Schram. Her book, “Jewish Stories of Love and Marriage” will be available for purchase for $36. (See information below.) L’Shana Tova! Jodie Pezzner and Elaine Schmerling Co-Presidents of CBS Sisterhood Contact Information: Elaine Schmerling 302.475.3708 [email protected] Jodie Pezzner 302.502.3067 [email protected] VISIT THE NEW SISTERHOOD WEBPAGE www.bethshalomwilmington.org/sisterhood FOR ALL THE LATEST HAPPENINGS AND EVENTS FOR YOU OUR SISTERS! CBS SISTERHOOD PAID-UP MEMBERSHIP BRUNCH Featuring AWARD-WINNING STORYTELLER Peninnah Schram Sunday, November 8, 2015 10am -12pm Peninnah will be discussing her latest book, “Jewish Stories of Love and Marriage: Folktales, Legends and Letters.” Brunch is complimentary for all paid 2015-2016 Sisterhood members Basic Membership: $36 Contributory Membership: $72 Guests are Welcome: $18 Checks made payable to CBS Sisterhood RSVP by November 1, 2015 to [email protected] 8 | KOL SHALOM I N T H E L I B R A RY WHAT’S HAPPENING IN THE CBS LIBRARY? Your CBS library is open and well stocked with books to check out and with magazines and newspapers to read in the library. The Library Committee is very grateful for past donations of books. We have more than we can handle, so please limit future book donations to items relating to Beth Shalom or local Jewish organizations/history. We will hold another book sale on Sunday, September 20, during the CBS Open House. Books for sale will be duplicates or out of scope for our Judaica collection. For more information about the library, please contact Diane Wolf at 302.478.4705. We look forward to seeing you in the library! Diane Wolf Library Committee MEET THE GELLERS This month's new member "highlight" is the Geller family-- Beverly, Wayne, Hannah and David who live in Avondale, Pennsylvania. Wayne originally comes from Philadelphia. He attended Dickinson College and Penn State Hershey Medical School. Beverly grew up in Tennessee. She attended the University of Tennessee and then moved to Philadelphia for graduate school at Temple. The Gellers just returned from a fantastic BBYO family trip to Israel. Beverly and Wayne have enjoyed our Kraft lecture series, Purim party, musical programs and Shabbat speakers. They look forward to their continued involvement with all the activities/programs at Beth Shalom. The family relocated to southern Chester County 15 years ago when Wayne went to work for Astra Zeneca Pharmaceuticals. Prior to that, he was employed at Johnson and Johnson where he was a practicing family physician in northeast Philadelphia. Wayne collects minerals as a hobby. He enjoys outdoor activities/sports and is an avid gardener. Wayne graciously shared his expertise to help beautify our CBS courtyard with Dahlias. Beverly volunteers at Kennett High School, where their son, David, is a sophomore and daughter, Hannah, is a 2015 graduate. Hannah will be attending Penn State, University Park, this fall and is excited about joining Penn State Hillel. David is active in Newark BBYO. He is looking forward to the CBS confirmation program. 9 | KOL SHALOM Please welcome Beverly, Wayne, Hannah and David to our CBS family. ■ Ruth Hochheiser Membership Committee The 5 W’s of 5775 – 5776 and You What is Jewish Heritage, how do we self-Identify? Seemingly a simple question, yet one that has sparked unending conversations, books, studies, surveys, movies, monuments, museums, web sites, organizations and foundations all in hopes of exploring and answering this simple yet very complicated question. Congregation Beth Shalom has chosen: TRADITIONS! Embracing Our Past… Exploring Our Future as a way of guiding us in the exploration of our own Jewish Heritage. Our Clergy, Administration, Board of Directors, Sisterhood, Men’s Club, Hebrew School and Committees have spent months incorporating this theme into the coming year. Why now and Why us? A new year brings new opportunities and “… If not now, when?” We know the Torah places great importance on Yikhus (family descent or lineage) and how it influenced our ancestors both genetically and by moral values. In fact, the Talmud (Avot 3:1) tells us, “Know from whence you came, and where you are going, and to Whom you will have to give account in the future.” In other words, we must understand our heritage in order to establish our path for the future. Who will be invited to participate? That’s easy, EVERYONE! Yes… there will be something for everyone! Clergy and The Religious Life Committee: Have begun weaving our theme into the High Holy Days and calendar year. Including special guest Darshan who will enlighten us during our Second Friday Shabbat Services. Hebrew/Sunday School: All grades will be participating in the TRADITIONS theme through classroom projects, crafts and lessons. Our 6th, 7th and 8th graders will be participating in the actual TRADITIONS seven-part series. Scholar in Residence Weekend: The Kraft Educational Foundation will be hosting Dr. Hasia Diner. Back by popular demand, Hasia will be treating us to a sampling of the rich, dynamic and, at times, challenging Jewish Life in America. TRADITIONS! Embracing Our Past… Exploring Our Future: This seven-part series will engage us in the recording of family history before and after Ellis Island, guide us in preserving our Jewish heritage and enlighten us on the legacy we will leave for generations to come. When can I join the FUN? RIGHT NOW!!! Start by… 1. Saving the following dates on your calendar- Especially, September 20, the CBS Open House and TRADITIONS Kick Off Event. 2. Send in the attached sign-up form to join a committee (listed on form) OR volunteer for a specific event. Help spread the EXCITEMENT…Invite your family and friends to join you! 3. Become a sponsor - join our ongoing list of generous organizations, committees, philanthropies, individuals and families committed to the preservation of our Jewish Heritage. Where will you be in 5775 – 5776? Making TRADITIONS happen at Congregation Beth Shalom of course! TRADITIONS! Embracing Our Past… Exploring Our Future SEVEN-PART SERIES I. SEPTEMBER 20, 2015 - Kick Off Event for TRADITIONS! And CBS Open House: Be a part of CBS history…Sign a luggage tag with the name of a loved one(s) and pin it on our world map to be displayed throughout the year. How far back can your trace your family? 9:30am – 12:30pm, FREE II. OCTOBER (TBA), 2015 - Before Ellis Island: Presentation by Jonathan Brant, Director of the YIVO Institute for Research, www.yivoinstitute.org. Jonathan will focus on researching our ancestors Eastern European and Polish history. Lunch and discussion to follow. 10:45am – 2:00pm, $18.00 with RSVP III. NOVEMBER 1, 2015 - Becoming An American Jew, Now What: Presentation by Annie Polland, Sr. Vice President, Education & Programs at The Lower East Side Tenement Museum. Annie will focus on the lives of our immigrant ancestors after their journeys through Ellis Island. We will re-live the journey through the eyes of a 13-year-old boy about to become a Bar Mitzvah. Lunch and discussion to follow. 10:45am – 2:00pm, $18.00 with RSVP IV. DECEMBER 13, 2015 – New York Trip: Touring YIVO and The Lower East Side Tenement Museum, celebration of Hanukkah in the city and dinner at one of New York’s Finest Kosher Restaurants. 7:00am – 11:00pm, Cost TBD with RSVP V. JANUARY 10, 2016 – Making and Preserving Traditions, Our Legacies: An interactive lunch and workshop exploring our Jewish values, customs and traditions past/present and discovering how they might shape our legacies going forward. Lunch and workshop, 10:45–2:00 pm - $18.00 with RSVP (Continued on page 11) 10 | KOL SHALOM (Continued from page 10) VI. FEBRUARY 7, 2016 – Jewish HERO’s – On Super Bowl Sunday, we will honor our CBS “Hero’s” while making and selling Hero’s (hoagies/subs) for the Big Game… Details to follow. VII. TBD – Our Jewish Legacy: tying everything together from our Past and Present and guiding us to our Future. How are we creating Jewish Legacies for our families? What will your personal/congregational/community Legacy be? Program in development with Jewish Federation’s Good Deeds Day. A HUGE thank you to the following sponsors for your kindness and generosity: CBS Sisterhood, The Jewish Federation of Delaware, The Pollyanna Foundation, The Rabbi’s Discretionary Fund, The Stape-Marcus Philanthropic Fund Your support is enabling us to provide the above programs at nominal fees in an effort to include all who wish to participate. DETACH AND SUBMIT TO: Caryl Marcus-Stape, 5 Emma Drive, Wilmington, DE 19810 Email: [email protected] Name: __________________________________________ Email Address: ____________________________________________ Contact Phone Number:________________________________ Are Text Messages Acceptable: Yes or No (circle one) I would like to be on the following committee(s): (circle one or more) Programming Marketing/Advertising Refreshments Event Volunteer Coordination Sponsorship I would like to volunteer for a specific program:__________________________________________________________________ (indicate what capacity you wish to volunteer and any restrictions) I would like additional information on becoming a TRADITIONS Sponsor _____. SELIHOT - A MUSICAL PROGRAM AND SERVICE SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 5 KOL NIDREI / EREV YOM KIPPUR* TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 22 Program 7:00pm Main Service / Candle Lighting Rabbi’s Sermon President’s Appeal 8:00pm YOM KIPPUR* WEDNESDAY, SEPTEMBER 23 EREV ROSH HASHANAH SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 13 Main Service ROSH HASHANAH DAY I* MONDAY, SEPTEMBER 14 6:40pm 7:10pm 8:40pm Main Service 8:30am Torah Service 9:30am Children’s Service 10:30am - 11:30am Family Service 10:30am - 12:30pm Israel Bond Appeal 10:50am Shofar Service 11:00am Rabbi’s Sermon 11:20am Tashlich Service 1:15pm (Brandywine Park near Wilmington Hospital) Main Service Torah Service Children’s Service Family Service Rabbi’s Sermon Yizkor Service Minḥah Service Ne’ilah Service Ma’ariv Service Final Shofar / Havdalah Break-the-Fast ROSH HASHANAH DAY II* TUESDAY. SEPTEMBER 15 * Babysitting is available. Please call the synagogue office 302.654.4462 for complete details and fees. Main Service Torah Service Family and Children’s Service Shofar Service Rabbi’s Sermon 8:30am 9:30am 10:30am - 11:30am 10:40am 11:00am 9:00am 10:15am 10:30am - 11:30am 10:30am - 12:30pm 12:20pm 12:40pm 5:15pm 6:15pm 7:15pm 7:25pm 7:30pm Our Family and Children’s Services are free and open to the entire community. CONGREGATION BETH SHALOM | 11 Special thanks to Mark Lipman, Sam Nussbaum, and Anita Sobel for taking photos for these events Pictured from Left to Right: Meredith Weiss leads a discussion of Judaism with students from Ulster, Ireland; later that same day - Anne Jaffee shares a tale of the Holocaust with the students; Cantor Elisa signs new five-year contract with Past President Ralph Downard, Executive Director Sam Nussbaum, and President-Elect Ed Sobel; Covin, Cooper, Andrus, and Alexander Families all enjoy pre-Shabbat Under the Stars festivities; and Hannah Biener and Jonathan Lehrfeld strike a pose for Confirmation Shabbat. CONGREGATION BETH SHALOM | 12 B I RT H D AY S A N D A N N I V E R S A R I E S BIRTHDAYS September 1 Frances Klein Judith Dolinger Lester Morganstein September 2 Aaron Albom September 5 Avery Steffen September 6 Barbara Cohen Barry Klassman Emma Driban September 7 Kerry Berkowitz September 8 Clay Horowitz Eden Goldstein Hannah Wexler Miriam Burr September 9 Joshua Stiebel Karen Ballard ANNIVERSARIES September 1 Sharon & Jordon Rosen September 10 Adeline Holob Arthur Moss Isaac Lewis Shirley Horden September 12 Barbara Citron Mitchell Wirosloff Garth Koniver September 19 Robert Aerenson September 20 Julia Frank September 13 Marshall Mintz Vered Nohi September 21 Annette Aerenson Michael Goldberg Wendy Lehrfeld September 14 Frances Stein Rose Schwartz Sandra Lubaroff September 22 Adam Ginsberg Gila Lipman Jessica Rosen September 15 Hannah Geller Mark Lipman September 23 Cole Morris September 24 Sandra Hudak September 25 Ken Bubes Linda Sigman Osnat David September 26 Carolyn Fuhrman September 26 Martin Mand Robert Meyer Sarah Truitt September 27 Aaron Nachlis Carol Einhorn Peter Hazen September 17 George Feldman Rob Kleiner September 9 Kimberly & Daniel Stargatt September 2 Stacey & Allen Friedland September 10 Judith & Jeffery Lewis Karen & Jeffrey Schultz September 3 Frances & Steven Klein Michelle & Russell Silberglied September 11 Arlene & Robert Davis Karen & Arthur Moss September 4 Jackie & Gary Harad Deane & Howard Kattler Stacy & Jacob Weaver September 12 Rachel Davidson & Robert Wolf September 5 Rosalie & Peter Popper September 18 Abigail Katz Hannah Biener Siegel JCC Auditorium September 21 Jody & David Bernstein Miriam & George Feldman Lisa & Michael Kletter September 8 Elizabeth & Samuel Blumberg CONGREGATION BETH SHALOM | 13 M AY T H E I R M E M O R I E S B E A B L E S S I N G 17 Elul (9/1/2015) Samuel Lewis 18 Elul (9/2/2015) Philip Dwares Abraham Jenner 19 Elul (9/3/2015) Edward Cohen Nathan Kraushar 20 Elul (9/4/2015) Eleanor Brandt Tillie Epstein David Waxman 22 Elul (9/6/2015) Bruce Cohen Mary Feinberg Harry Levin Edith H. Picon 23 Elul (9/7/2015) Rebecca Fink Harry Greenbaum 24 Elul (9/8/2015) Simon Balick Samuel Greenberg Hyman Hoffman Kate Schendelman 14 | KOL SHALOM 25 Elul (9/9/2015) Joseph Brown Celia Schwartz 26 Elul (9/10/2015) Max Taylor 27 Elul (9/11/2015) William E. Cohen 28 Elul (9/12/2015) Harry Atlas Elihu Gottesman 29 Elul (9/13/2015) Myra Borin-Kahn Sara Hart 1 Tishrei (9/14/2015) Sylvia Stone 2 Tishrei (9/15/2015) Hugo Havet Samuel Levin Lillie Rappaport Nathan Schutzman David Waitz 3 Tishrei (9/16/2015) Martha Cohen Abraham Kristol Samuel Sagotsky Alan Stutz 4 Tishrei (9/17/2015) Ray Cohen Jesse Rosenberg Manuel Shur 5 Tishrei (9/18/2015) Lee K. Kleinbard Ruth Levy 6 Tishrei (9/19/2015) Morris Rubenstein 7 Tishrei (9/20/2015) Isadore Greenberg Anna Minushkin 9 Tishrei (9/22/2015) Shyer Harowitz 10 Tishrei (9/23/2015) Raymond Bachrach Isador Golden I. Edward Inden Lillie Leibowitz Alan Schultz Ethel Stark Joseph Vederman 11 Tishrei (9/24/2015) Stanley Harad John Samuel Sholl 12 Tishrei (9/25/2015) Philip Holob Haim Solomon 13 Tishrei (9/26/2015) Adolph Cohen Eli Friedman Samuel Greengold 14 Tishrei (9/27/2015) Paula Carroll Richard Miller 15 Tishrei (9/28/2015) Susan Hirshman Rose Reichenthal Marton Simonowits 16 Tishrei (9/29/2015) Joseph Brash Edna Fisher Riebman 17 Tishrei (9/30/2015) Rose Kraft WITH OUR DEEPEST SYMPATHES To Sarah Andrus, on the loss of her father, Eugene Baker. To Mark Kuller, on the loss of his mother, Beatrice Kuller. CONTRIBUTIONS Congregation Beth Shalom raises funds to support synagogue activities, programs and projects. To make a donation to any of our existing funds, please email or call our synagogue accountant, Marlene Greenberg, at 302.654.4462. The minimum contribution to send a tribute card is $12. To establish a new fund or learn more about contributory opportunities, please call our synagogue President, Marla Cooper. We appreciate your generosity. AL BERLIN MINYAN FUND In memory of: Abner Antiles Marion & Jack Jacobs Mark J. Caplan Rona & Elana Caplan Walter Cloud Beverly & Merdith Cloud Edna G. Cohen Elaine & Robert Cohen Joel Cohen Donna M. Cohen Clair Cylinder Arlene Wilson Julius Finkelman Pamela & Roy Finkelman Herman Forman Ruth Forman & Family Anne Garber Robert Garber & Family Frieda Katz Daniel Katz Freda Klein Elva Levine Evelyn Laiken Nancy Laiken Swartz & Dr. Stephen Laiken Jeno Lieberman Bonnie & Nate Zahn Aaron Matter Susan & Jack Stoltz Sylvia Rochlin Irving Morris Margaret Salzer Leslie & Alan Koralek Bruce Stargatt Barbara Stargatt & Family Sadie Taub Gail & Jerry Kurman Arthur Wolf Diane Wolf BRIAN DOMBCHIK FUND In honor of: Mr. & Mrs. Perry Goldlust’s 50th Wedding Anniversary Danna & Roger Levy Frances & Steven Klein’s New Grandson, Jack Klein Rhoda & Steven Dombchik Chaviva & Sam Nussbaum’s New Grandson, Jacob Shane Gutschneider Rhoda & Steven Dombchik In honor of: Frances & Steven Klein’s Grandson, Jack Klein Andrea & Richard Levine Chaviva & Sam Nussbaum’s New Grandson, Jacob Shane Gutschneider Andrea & Richard Levine In memory of: Joe Katz Evelyn Kaplan & Family Abraham M. Preven Sheila A. Gardner Sandy Lubaroff & Family CANTOR ANDREW SALZER MUSIC ENDOWMENT FUND In memory of: Margaret Salzer Victoria Carmona Barbara & Joel Citron Barbara & Les Dukart & Family Beatrice Hirshout Karolin, Mark, & Jillian Lipman & Danielle & Ben Wolff Celina & Ronald Riebman & Daughters Elizabeth A. Monahan & Eva Salzer Susan Spitzer & the Spizz, Weissman & Lipman Family Eva & Howard Weissman CANTOR’S DISCRETIONARY FUND In memory of: Albert Cohen Barbara & Robert Cohen Morris Weinreb Susan & Marvin Cytron Rosel Wolf Ken Kamm Mazel Tov: Celina & Ronald Riebman on Jeremy becoming a Bar Mitzvah Shelly & Martin Mand Faun & Jonathan Zarge on Jeremy becoming a Bar Mitzvah Shelly & Martin Mand In memory of: Ann Levenson Karen L. Morris & Alan Levenson CAPITAL MAINTENANCE In memory of: Melvin Jacobson Ronna, Moe & Marc Hochman & Lorin Hurst William Ziering Lin & Lance Ziering & Family CHUMASHIM-PERSONAL FUND In memory of: Jean Drowos Linda & Jeff Drowos I. Paul Drowos Linda & Jeff Drowos CONGREGATION FUND In appreciation of: Ron Riebman’s Kindness Lillian Gellert Speedy Recovery: CAPITAL CAMPAIGN Congratulations: Steven Bernhardt Debbie Grossman Ralph Downard on a Successful Term as President, CBS Shelly & Martin Mand CONGREGATION BETH SHALOM | 15 In honor of: Frances & Steven Klein’s New Grandson, Jack Klein Marlene & Gary Gold Karolin & Mark Lipman Ellen & Bob Meyer Faith & Paul Silver Susan & Joseph Nicholson’s New Grandson, Benjamin Phyllis & Alan Fink Chaviva & Sam Nussbaum’s Grandson, Jacob Shane Gutschneider Faith & Paul Silver Celina & Ronald Riebman’s Grandson, Jeremy, becoming a Bar Mitzvah Marlene & Gary Gold Josh Sachs’ Special Birthday Faith & Paul Silver In memory of: Eugene Richard Baker Tammy & Mark Albom Celina & Ronald Riebman Anita & Edward Sobel Jacob Berman Judy & Howard Zucker James H. Burns III Fran Lipsky-Burns & Halle Burns Miriam Byron Marlene, Gary, Brian & Steve Gold Irma Clemens Livia Gellert Toby Colton Stacey, Steve & Jonathan Colton & Andrew Kerber Isaac Cutler Nancy Laiken Swartz & Dr. Stephen Laiken Freda Evans Janet, Susan & Hilary Kaufman Simon Ger Ruth Ann & Errol Ger Leo Gold Marlene & Gary Gold & Family Annette K. Goldberg Celina & Ron Riebman & Family Myer Goldman Mark H. Goldman Bernard I. Greenberg Beverly & Meredith Cloud Harold Holob Adeline, Gary, Marissa & Alyson Holob 16 | KOL SHALOM Ruth Holob Adeline, Gary, Marissa & Alyson Holob Leonard Kanofsky Shelley & Barry Kanofsky Ronald Kaufman Janet, Susan & Hilary Kaufman Harry Kimel Faith & Paul Silver Freda Klein Naomi Klein Diane Levin Alan & Ellen Levin & Family Jennie Markovitz Len Markovitz Ronald Popky Beth Ledger Jack Portnoy Marilyn & Stuart Cooper Harry Rappaport The Rappaport & Fieldman Families Samuel Rosenfeld Anita & Herman Stein Herbert Steinberg Anita Aronson Bea Taub Gail & Jerry Kurman Samuel Taub Gail & Jerry Kurman Elsie Eisner Wachtel The Rappaport & Fieldman Families Stuart B. Young Maxine & John Perlman Joseph Zucker Judy & Howard Zucker Lillian Zucker Judy & Howard Zucker Ida Goldstein Mrs. Claire Wirosloff & Family Rose Harad Judy & Barry Riebman & Family Mildred Polakoff Evan Brodsky Marjory Stone Katie Levine & James Orman GLADYS ARIFF KITCHEN KLUB In memory of: Louis Levy Rhea, Stan, Faith & Bill Levy Ellen, Ray & Zack Dagastine Ann Breslow Bethany Kutz HARRIET KAUFMAN FUND Speedy Recovery: Gregg Vasalotti Lynda & Larry Kaufman HEBREW SCHOOL FUND In memory of: Hyman W. Davis Arlene S. & Robert F. Davis Emanuel Gershman Ethel Gorenstein Frances Gershman Ethel Gorenstein JONATHAN MORRIS FUND In memory of: David Disick Irving Morris KRAFT EDUCATIONAL FOUNDATION In honor of: Marv Cytron’s Special Birthday Marcia Sloan In memory of: Morris April Josephine Fisher Sam Eisenstat Barbara E. Yalisove & Family Herbert Fisher Josephine A. Fisher Muriel Gottesman Margo Gottesman-Bycer & Robert Bycer Margaret Salzer Lillian Balick Jack Shaffer Helen & Bernard Balick Albert Stiftel Helen & Bernard Balick Stuart B. Young Toni Young & Family KRAFT ENDOWMENT FUND In memory of: LEWIS-GREENBAUM FUND In memory of: Robert Lewis Judith, Jeffery & Liza Lewis LIBRARY FUND In memory of: Eugene Richard Baker Diane Wolf & Lew Bennett LINDA GOLDSTEIN FUND In memory of: Margaret Salzer Faye Goldstein Beverly B. Simon Hannah & Sandra Braunstein & Sam Powell PRAYER BOOK FUND In memory of: Diane Barton Suzanne, Stuart, Nikki, Jake & Sam Grant Diane Levin Carol Levin & Family RABBI’S DISCRETIONARY FUND For my blessings: Faye Blatnick Dr. & Mrs. James Tigani Saul Harad Judy & Barry Riebman Jack Stape Jeffrey P. Stape & Caryl Marcus Stape SCHUTZMAN FUND In memory of: Morris Tomases Helen & Norman Schutzman Ralph Tomases Helen & Norman Schutzman Bess Lobel In honor of: Lou Weiner’s Special Birthday Bess Lobel M A Z E L TO V In memory of: Esther Blatnick Maris & Michael Laurence & Family To Brett and Julie Learned Levy on the birth of their son, Otis Tov Learned Levy born May 28, 2015. Grandparents are Danna and Roger Levy. Dear Friends, In 2012, in conjunction with our 90th anniversary celebration, the Beth Shalom Legacy Society was initiated. At that time, over 70 individuals stepped forward to lead this vital mission. Fortuitously, shortly after our own Legacy Society was started, the Delaware Create A Jewish Legacy program was established. The Create a Jewish Legacy of Delaware program provides training, support, and monetary incentives for all member organizations of the Jewish Federation of Delaware. Our Board of Directors agreed this would be an ideal partnership for us and we joined this community-wide outreach. During the High Holy Days we take time to reflect on our lives and our future. We think about the things that are important to us, our values, what we can do to bring them to fruition, and to make the world a better place. A legacy fulfills a spiritual ideal. Each one of us has the power to leave a legacy-one that is faithful to our passions and dreams for the future, and also one that carries on the legacy of those who came before us. Legacy gifts are not just for the wealthy. A legacy gift can be made by anyone for any amount. Please consider the importance of Congregation Beth Shalom, your synagogue home, to you and your family. A planned gift continues into posterity and helps to ensure that our children’s children have the opportunity to participate in a Jewish life, full of pride and knowledge of their family history and sacred traditions. There are many different methods to fund your legacy gift. There are also ways to insure that your gift is used according to your special wishes and the values that are important to you. If you have already included a legacy gift in your will or estate plans, THANK YOU! If you would like information about planned giving or would like to join our Legacy Society please contact a member of our committee listed below. If we do not know the answer to your question(s) we will put you in touch with someone who can help. We look forward to working together with you to ensure a vibrant future for Beth Shalom. L’Shana Tova, Frances and Steven Klein, Chairs Committee: Seth Bloom, Marla Cooper, Ralph Downard, Peter Hazen, Barney Kantar, Richard Levin, Sam Nussbaum Jordon Rosen, Cindi Viviano, and Diane Wolf CONGREGATION BETH SHALOM | 17 IN OUR COMMUNITY AWARD-WINNING AUTHOR TO REVEAL JEWISH PEDDLERS’ STORIES OF COURAGE, COMMERCE, AND CROSSING BOUNDARIES The Hagley Museum and Library welcomes Professor Hasia Diner of New York University to present her Author Talk: “Peddlers and the Great Jewish Migration to the New World” at 7:00pm on Thursday, October 1. Diner’s talk will center on details of the work of Jewish peddlers and their extraordinary lives of entrepreneurship, opportunity, and hardship between the eighteenth century and early twentieth century. “Hasia Diner is one of the world’s leading scholars on Jewish history,” explained Roger Horowitz, Director of Hagley’s Center for the History of Business, Technology, and Society. “We are honored to have Dr. Diner share her path-breaking work on Jewish peddlers with us.” Hasia Diner is Paul and Sylvia Steinberg Professor of American Jewish History and Director of the Goldstein-Goren Center for American Jewish History at New York University. Among her numerous books is We Remember with Reverence and Love: American Jews and the Myth of Silence after the Holocaust, a National Jewish Book Award winner. Although Jewish peddlers are familiar from folklore and literature, little has been written about real individuals and their experiences. Whether in the Irish Midlands, the Adirondacks of New York, or the mining camps of New South Wales, these traveling men brought change—to themselves, to the women whose homes and communities they entered, and ultimately to the geography of Jewish history. Jewish peddlers visited Native American reservations and slave plantations, mining towns and rainforest villages, farms and frontiers. These young men crossed cultural, racial, and religious boundaries every day and in this way, affected each community they encountered. “Peddlers and the Great Jewish Migration to the New World” is based on Dr. Diner’s book, Roads Taken, which concentrates on the ways in which the lives of Jewish Peddlers ultimately shaped the Jewish Diaspora and individual communities around the world. Via ample research which took her outside of the United States, Diner will explain that although their destinations were hugely varied, Jewish peddlers shared many common experiences. She is the first author to have truly delved into the everyday lives of peddlers. The Thursday, October 1 lecture will be held in Hagley’s Soda House starting at 7:00pm. Use Hagley’s Buck Road East entrance off Route 100 in Wilmington, Delaware. Admission is free. RSVP requested; call 302.658.2400, ext. 243, or e-mail [email protected]. Please support our advertisers, as they support us. For more information about how you or your organization can advertise in the Kol Shalom, contact Cindi Viviano at [email protected] All submissions are due by the 10th of each month. 18 | KOL SHALOM CONGREGATION BETH SHALOM 1801 Baynard Blvd • Wilmington, DE 19802 PHONE: (302) 654.4462 / FAX: (302) 543.7150 www.bethshalomwilmington.org ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ NEXT KOL SHALOM DEADLINE IS SEPTEMBER 10, 2015 NON-PROFIT ORGANIZATION U.S. POSTAGE PAID Wilmington, DE Permit No. 77 ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ The Kol Shalom is the monthly newsletter of Congregation Beth Shalom, an egalitarian-Conservative congregation affiliated with the United Synagogue of Conservative Judaism. To submit articles, photos, and announcements, please e-mail: [email protected] or mail them to the address noted above. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ RABBI Rabbi Michael S. Beals [email protected] CANTOR / EDUCATION DIRECTOR Cantor Elisa Abrams Casuto [email protected] EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR Sam Nussbaum [email protected] PRESIDENT Marla Covin Cooper [email protected] HEBREW SCHOOL BEGINS SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 20, 9:00AM CALL CANTOR ELISA FOR DETAILS AND REGISTRATION CONGREGATION BETH SHALOM | 20