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South Carolina JANUARY 2015 WOMAN Magazine Women You Need to Meet Jo Wayman Teresa Kerr Tomalina Coggins Susan Hoffer McMillan Time for a Change It’s Soup Season Once Again Wedding Trends A Healthier You w w w. s c w o m a n m a g a z i n e . c o m The Vein Center of South Carolina Call today for a free consultation, 449-3333. 4036 River Oak Dr. Myrtle Beach, SC (Forest Village Shopping Center) 2 January 2015 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine www.scwomanmagazine.com The Triniti Let us help you reach your Wedding Day goals! The Triniti Skin Series treatment is safe and effective for most skin types and skin colors. 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To M.O.B. HEALTH/BEAUTY 12 Rejuvapen 16 Why Did I Wait So Long For My New Knee? 17 Time For A Change 21 Start The New Year Off Right With Better Hearing 6 J a n u a r y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine 22 26 31 34 40 61 Magazine 56 Exercise Induced Bronchospasm (EIB) Are You Having A New Year With Old Resolutions? Frequently Asked Questions about Plastic Surgery Cosmetic Surgery for Weddings and Events New News for the New Year Winter Is Here! RECIPES/FOOD 37 Oysters Rockefeller 43 It’s Soup Season Once Again! 43 Nothing better than good bread to go with Soup! YOUR HOME 23 Realtor Magazine: Lists of Hot Housing Trends for 2015 30 Ask the Organizer 47 Start Your New Year Being Energy Efficient 51 Outdoor Living – Indoor Lifestyle: Happy 2015 56 Five Ways to Stretch Your Design Dollars COLUMNS 28 That’s Wright Sticks and Stones 36 Giving You More In (Social) Media How To De-clutter and De-tox Your Online Life To Start the Year Off Right! 38 Life’s Balance Wheel The Triple Braided Cord 41 No Prissy Shoes Fresh Starts 44 Credit Corner Repositioning 48 Smiles Are Forever Is Your Toothpaste Damaging Your Teeth? 62 Holistic Mom A Healthier You in the New Year WEDDING 10 Wedding Registry 101 18 Engaged? Start Planning Now! 32 Wedding Trends 59 Tips to Writing the Perfect Card or Note www.scwomanmagazine.com g n i r p S 35th Annual 2015 horry georgetown home builders association February 20 - 22, 2015 Myrtle Beach Convention Center Fri & Sat, 10 a.m. - 6 p.m. • Sun, 11 a.m. - 5 p.m. Admission $5 • Children younger than 16 FREE Everything for the Home & Garden More than 200 Product and Service Exhibitors Meet Industry Pros Many Workshops and Demonstrations Special Events Silent Auction, Hosted by Coastal Animal Rescue Culinary Demonstrations Many Specials provided by Home Show Exhibitors Visit www.mbhomeshow.com or www.myrtlebeachhomebuilders.org Call 843-438-4124 From the Publisher “Woman to Woman” Well here we are in 2015, already…I can’t be the only one that thinks, WOW!...where did the time go since 2000. January is always my “do-over month”…the month I try to do better, be better, eat better…sadly, I moved a whole lot of my 2014 resolutions to the 2015 list. Well, to be perfectly honest, I just scratched out the 2014 at the top and replaced it with 2015. Have you ever had a year where you didn’t do a thing you wanted and needed to do? I had one of those this year. I really can’t blame Jerry’s cancer diagnosis on it, either. Truthfully, I was not getting my resolutions accomplished before that happened. So, now, I’ve started over. I’m going to be more organized, eat better, exercise more, be a more thoughtful friend and do everything on my list…wish me luck! I hope you all have a wonderful and blessed New Year! Let me know if you get your resolutions accomplished this year! One finally thing…thank you all so much for the lovely notes, emails and calls. Your thoughts and prayers are greatly appreciated during Jerry’s illness! Please tell our advertisers that you saw them in South Carolina Woman Magazine! 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PO Box 2265 Conway, SC 29528 Phone/Fax (843) 397-9020 E-Mail [email protected] www.scwomanmagazine.com Publisher/Sales Diane Dale (843) 222-6631 Other Dale Publications: Transitions News Magazine www.transitionsnewsmagazine.com Parent News www.parentnewsmagazine.com Waccamaw Outdoors www.waccamawoutdoors.com Read South Carolina Woman Magazine online at scwomanmagazine.com Editorial/Composition Cindy Sudowski on 8 J a n u a r y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine www.scwomanmagazine.com www.facebook.com/pages/South-Carolina-Woman-Magazine/ www.scwomanmagazine.com South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine January 2015 9 Wedding Registry 101 or engaged couples, it can seem as if there are a million things to accomplish before the big day arrives. One essential piece of the wedding puzzle involves creating a registry that makes it easy for guests to celebrate your union with gifts that reflect your personality as a couple. Before Building Your Registry It’s no wonder why guests love the ease and simplicity of a gift registry. But many couples may not know where to begin when setting out to create this useful list. Here are some helpful pointers from Macy’s to help you get started on creating a perfect wedding registry: F 10 • Meet with a Consultant: These trained professionals are on site to assist and discuss everything you want and need. It’s a good place to start if you have questions on what items to include and what brands are available. • Look for Special Programs: Some stores offer special features, such as Macy’s, whose Dream Fund allows guests to contribute any amount to the ultimate gift card, so the bride and groom can later choose exactly what they want. • Start Early: Most couples like to register 4-6 months before their wedding date, which allows more time for choos- J a n u a r y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine ing items, planning for showers and meeting other deadlines. • Register Together: Whether it’s instore, online or both – make a day of it and have fun selecting all the things that will be part of your new life together. • Choose Different Price Points: Guests will appreciate a varied list that has many gift options to fit their personal budget. • Create a Registry That Reflects You: If you’re a laid-back, easygoing couple, consider registering for a more casual dinnerware pattern that you can use every day, then mix in some fancy pieces to use for those special occasions. If you enjoy entertaining friends and family, be sure to choose a range of serveware and barware. Making the Right Choices With all the things needed to properly stock your home, selecting the right ones can seem overwhelming. Here are some tips to keep in mind while adding to your registry: • Select Your Settings: A five-piece setting is meant to serve one person and includes a dinner plate, salad plate, bread and butter plate, tea cup and saucer. If you want to serve eight guests, you will need to register for eight fivepiece settings. • Factor in Some Extras: When registering for drinkware, be sure to register for a few extras in each glass size in case some break down the road. • Protect Your Cutlery: Be sure to choose a sturdy cutting board to protect your knife blades from chips and cracks. You can keep your cutlery in top condition by registering for a honing steel and knife sharpener. • Stock Up on Kitchen Must-Haves: When it comes to cookware, make sure to stock up on the essentials. This should include a fry pan, sauté pan, grill pan, sauteuse (round, deep-sided design for sautéing on the stovetop or baking in the oven) and a chef’s pan. • Opt for the Basics: White dinnerware allows you to transform the look of your table year-round by changing the décor and accessories around it. The classic look will be a design that you can appreciate for years to come. Visit www.macys.com/registry for a full registry checklist, helpful tips and more information on Macy’s Dream Fund. (Family Features) www.scwomanmagazine.com www.scwomanmagazine.com South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine January 2015 11 treatment or combined with existing therapies creating results that are similar to IPL/Laser RF and microdermabrasion, resulting in collagen stimulation. In summary, Rejuvapen provides the most effective micro-needling treatment with its unique hand piece that allows you to control speed and depth. • Acne Scares 6-8 treatments • Stomach 6-8 Treatments • Arms 6-8 Treatments • Thighs 6-8 Treatments • Chest 4-8 Treatments Post- Treatment/What to expect Most patients look as though they have a moderate severe sunburn and your skin may feel warm and tighter than usual. This is normal and will subside after 1 or 2 hours. Most patients usually recover within 24 hours or less. Your practitioner will prescribe a Rejuvapen approved postprocedure skincare product or recovery kit. Benefits • Minimizes pore size • Reduces fine lines and wrinkles • Lifts, tightens, rejuvenates skin • Improves appearance of stretch marks • Improves the appearance of scars • Improves the appearance of acne scaring STUNNING RESULTS Before and After Rejuvapen The system creates thousands of micro perforations on the skin creating natural collagen and fibroblast stimulation. Helping create beautiful skin that will glow. Number of Treatments needed: • Facial wrinkle/Fine skin 4-6 treatments For more information about Rejuvapen... Of course, we’ll be glad to answer your Rejuvapen questions, so don’t hesitate to call DermaVogue at (843) 357-2444. You can also request a Free Rejuvapen Consultation online. Rejuvapen submitted by DermaVogue As microneedling technology has advanced, the Rejuvapen is the newest, most effective system available. Rejuvapen provides this phenomenal treatment with its unique handpiece that allows the certified technician to control speed and depth for each individual. The Rejuvapen Automatic Therapy System utilizes 9 precisely spaced micro needles in a small cartridge to create invisible, vertical, micro perforations into the epidermis and the top layer of the dermis. As a result, the skin shifts its natural repair mechanism into high gear and starts producing collagen and elastin to repair these micro-perforations. The self-repairing property of the skin is a 100% natural form of skin renewal from the inside out. The advantage of the Rejuvapen™ compared to other treatments is that it not only activates cell regeneration, it also enhances the absorption of active ingredients into the skin during the treatment before the skin closes. At DermaVogue, we use a very specific skin care protocol before, during, and after your treatment. This ensures the optimal treatment and treatment results. Your skin becomes firmer and regains elasticity, fine lines and wrinkles are visibly reduced. With each Rejuvapen treatment, your skin becomes firmer and regains its elasticity, fine lines and wrinkles are visibly reduced. Pores become finer, circulation is stimulated and the overall condition of the skin improves. Rejuvapen can be used as a single 12 J a n u a r y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine www.scwomanmagazine.com Crady’ss Cooking Classes To Resume in January School is in Session After a break between sessions, Crady’s Cooking Classes are back by popular demand. Running January - July, the classes focus on how to prepare some of Crady’s most popular items. Barbara Crady Whitley, owner and instructor, makes it appear easy as she takes class participants through the basic steps. “The fun is in the process,” said Barbara, “and it is always more fun in a group setting.” To ensure that instruction is hands-on, class size is limited to ten participants. “That makes it easier to work with my students on an individual basis,” Barbara continued. Since cooking is fundamental; it is important to get the basic steps before moving on. That’s why Barbara has included items like pie crusts and cake layers among the more tantalizing items, like her own mother’s chicken and dumplings, and her famous doughnuts. www.scwomanmagazine.com Maybe one of the highlights of Crady’s Cooking Classes is the light meal that is always served following the class. “People love to enjoy the fruits of their labor and they like to have a little something to take home. We do both,” she said. This year’s class schedule has been expanded to include a ‘cooking camp’ for youngsters. “We tried this on a limited basis last year and it was so successful that this year’s offering as been expanded. During June and July, when regular school is out of session, cooking class will be in session,” she said with a laugh. Like the adult version, classes always include a light meal and guaranteed fun! “We also host cooking parties,” said Barbara. “Groups of ten can host their own cooking class with me as the instructor. These are gaining in popularity for birthday parties, girls’ nights out, and as gifts for new brides. They are a lot of fun,” she continued. Crady’s 2015 Cooking Class Schedule is as Follows: January: Grandmomma Crady’s Chicken & Dumplings February: Pie Crust March: Cake Layers April: Delicious Doughnuts May: Cook’s Choice June: Children’s Cooking Camp July: Children’s Cooking Camp To enroll, or inquire about classes, call 843-248-3321. A minimum of ten participants is required for each class and reservations are a must. Classes are held the last Tuesday of each month from 5:30 - 7:00 p.m. and tuition is $50 per class, including meal. South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine January 2015 13 Style-Wise: Less Makes Room For More by Sara Wise Last month a sister in Christ handed me a book titled 7: An Experimental Mutiny on Excess by Jen Hatmaker. Instead of bristling (Me, excessive?!), I thanked her. I’ve learned to recognize when God’s trying to get my attention. The gist is this: Pare down focus on our idols (for me that’s fashion) to make more room for God. In Jen’s case, she limited herself to seven items for a month in various areas like clothing, food, and media. The result: a richer relationship with our Heavenly Father and a new view of personal wealth. Speaking of, if you earn more than $35,000 a year, you’re in the top four percent of the world’s wealth. Let that marinate for a moment. Jen’s book is hilarious and inspiring, so I urge you to read it. It changed my perspective, at least in theory. Let’s see how it goes in practice. Here’s my real-time account of stifling my passion for fashion by wearing only ten pieces of clothing for all of December. We’ll call it Project 10. Meet the Ten Thoughtfully I have chosen my ten items: two pairs of jeans (dark rinse and black), gray trousers, three cardigans, teal top, leopard sweater, ballet flats, and riding boots. These are the players for work, weekends, four holiday parties, and two Christmases. A Few Caveats 1 Underwear doesn’t count. TMI? Maybe, but I want you to know that I won’t be spending the month of Baby Jesus’s birth wallerin’ in filth. 2 I’m allowed a coat. Ashamedly, I own a dozen coats. Temps dip below freezing only 40 days a year here, and I own a different coat for every month. Must rectify this stat. 3 Limited accessories are allowed. As Clairee Belcher says, the only thing that separates us from the animals is our ability to accessorize! Ok, enough stalling. Here we go. Day 1 14 J a n u a r y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine It’s office moving day at the university—jeans are acceptable! Already Project 10 is off to a great start. The forecast is 70 degrees. Happy Myrtle Beach December. My thin leopard sweater is perfect. Footwear is an issue though. Definitely not boot weather. Sweaty calves encased in leather? Pass. That leaves leopard ballet flats, which means… leopard on leopard??? Hmm. I could nix the black jeans and substitute another pair of shoes. Or swap the leopard sweater for a solid. Already I’m bargaining with myself. Bless my soul. Leopard ballet flats win. Honestly, the dueling leopards are sort of cool. I think I’m going to make mismatched animal prints a thing. Day 1.5 Part of the fun of Project 10 (playing fast and loose with the word “fun”) is seeing if others notice my lack of clothing diversity. I predict not. My boss is a priest so I told him, thinking he’d dig the spiritual element. He guffawed and attempted to wager a friendly bet. Way to encourage this sheep, Padre. I promise this says more about my reputed love of clothing than it does about his cynicism or gambling habit. Day 2 While cleaning out my closet (you know, to reduce my embarrassing clothing glut), I unearthed a long-forgotten sweater with tonal beadwork down the placket. This is THE month when festive attire gets a day pass. My Counsel (committee of voices in my head) conceded to this substitution with a lecture: one should be aware of the entire contents of her wardrobe before committing to her ten. Rookie move, self. Please strike from the record one camel cardigan with black lace trim. So stricken. Day 4 I told my stylish married guy-friend about Project 10. He’s big into personal development. He responded with a horrified look. “You can still accessorize, right?” Then added (voice laden with stage-four sympathy), “That’s a really commendable challenge…but what a bad month. So many holiday parties.” Even men recognize that this is a sacrifice. Day 5 Same shirt. Different day. www.scwomanmagazine.com On another note, I refused to drop ten dollars on fancy salad at lunch. Chili and side salad was only four bucks. Tonight was also date night at El Cerro. I usually wolf down all three fajitas and roll home Violet Beauregarde-style. Tonight I saved leftovers for lunch AND dinner tomorrow. After dinner I drafted my annual family-requested Christmas list. Perfume topped my list but then I scratched it off. Because a hundred bucks for threepoint-four ounces of smelly water is flipping ridiculous. I know it’s early, but I think something is happening here, people. Day 6 I finished my closet purge, filling three bags with gently worn clothing and some new-with-tags items. I probably spend as much a year on clothing as would keep a third world family afloat until the second coming of Christ. New Year’s resolution: buy only accessories or second-hand clothes. PS, I am already looking forward next month. SO many good clothes in my closet that I can’t wait to wear! PPS, I am enjoying sleeping later since I don’t have to choose outfits! Project 10 is great! Day 9 Spiritual growth and financial enlightenment aside, I may burn these clothes after this month. Day 13 Project 10 has me in an existential vice grip. Christmas shopping today was paralyzing. Certain favorite items caught my eye (hello, bracelet-sleeve snow leopard coat!), but overall, I was keenly aware that the over-priced stuff on the racks was just that: stuff. Even with gift money for a new purse I’ve been wanting, it took two painful hours to pull the trigger. My poor attending hubby! Day 14 Had such heartburn over the darn purse that I exchanged it for an equally great bag on clearance. I kept thinking of how much further that money could go. Happy with my new bag and funds to spare. Day 18 I have to laugh at myself. I put skinny jeans in Project 10 concurrent with the perennial blossoming of my mother-inlaw’s peanut butter bonbons. Can a pregnant friend show me that rubber band button trick? Day 22 Less time spent on my appearance has cleared space for personal and spiritual growth, but don’t get me wrong—I have not spent the entire month striving for sainthood. I’m ecstatic about getting to wear the clothes I currently own, versus new (just not these ten duds for at least a month please). My money mindset has become more responsible and that’s a big victory. I’ve learned that I can make due with a LOT less, and I am glad to do so. Turns out, I hoard things for occasions that may never come up. I am confident that if such occasions ever arise, God will provide for me. I can release my grip on material possessions. I feel rich. I am rich. Look for the full article about my Project 10 on Dr. David Powers’ blog Mastering the Art of Living, at coffeescholar.wordpress.com. Sara Wise is a wedding planner, style guru, career coach, distance runner, wife and Christian. Contact her at [email protected] Enchanting Transformations For Your Special Day! Schedule your consultation with Dr. Goh to explore your possibilities. • Abdominoplasty/Tummy Tuck • Arm Lift • Blepharoplasty/Eyelid Surgery • Buttock Lift • Breast Augmentation • Liposuction • Chemical/Micro Peels • Botox • Restylane • Juvederm • CoolSculpting • LATISSE Eyelash Treatment Grand Strand Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery, P.A. 4610 Oleander Drive, Suite 101 Myrtle Beach, SC 29577 (843) 497-2227 www.kimberleygohmd.com Member, American Society For Aesthetic Plastic Surgery www.scwomanmagazine.com Member, American Society of Plastic Surgeons, Inc. South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine January 2015 15 Why Did I Wait So Long For My New Knee? By Dr. Nathan D. Watts, PT, DPT, CSCS As residents of the grand strand, we have the luxury to live where most only dream of, at the beach! Walking on the sand, watching the white caps crash along the shore and having miles of available fairways to spend the day on makes this a very active community. Unfortunately, those with knee pain begin seeing less and less of the surrounding beauty our community has to offer. Too often we limit our activities with our friends, children and grandchildren due to pain. The most common cause of chronic knee pain and disability is arthritis. Take back control of your life; there is another way. Total knee joint replacements are an extremely common procedure that resurfaces the bones, essentially eliminating your painful arthritis in the knee joint. The procedure is so common that there are more than 4.5 million Americans that are currently living with one. Why is this procedure so common? A simple answer, the results: 9 out of 10 knee replacements last 10 years with reports of “dramatic pain relief”. And now with improved surgical techniques, materials and enhanced physical therapy, an astounding 80% of knee replacements last up to 20 years! A knee replacement on it’s own will however not be your fix-all, silver bullet. This is where your physical therapist comes in. In order to fully maximize your investment in your new knee, physical therapy is needed. In physical therapy, we will work closely with you to transform you from the person that dreaded to 16 walk around to the person who is back in action. Contrary to popular belief, our first goal is not to bend your knee as far as we can. Actually, we want to initially work on straightening out your leg. To ensure proper gait, you must achieve full extension of your leg. Without full extension, you will begin to compensate and perhaps even display a limp. Today, many orthopedic surgeons find physical therapy so critical to their outcomes that they will even prescribe a shortened series of physical therapy for two weeks prior to surgery. During this time, you will prepare for what is to come and to get you a head start on achieving some of the goals you will have post surgery. The contrast between patients who go through the shortened series before the surgery and those who do not, usually display a dramatic difference the first 2-4 weeks post surgery in motion and pain. There is no better time than now. Don’t spend one more year missing rounds of golf with buddies, passing on an opportunity to walk with a loved one on the beach or wondering whether you’ll be able to dance at your daughters wedding. A total knee replacement combined with physical therapy will improve your motion, strength and pain so you can get back to all the things and people you love. J a n u a r y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine At Professional Rehabilitation Services, we treat a wide variety of musculoskeletal conditions using the latest in evidence based therapies provided by highly credentialed physical therapists. In addition to being licensed physical therapists, our providers have additional specialty certifications in orthopedics, manual therapy, sports, and vestibular treatment. Professional Rehabilitation Services now has five locations, with the newest office located in Conway. For further information on physical therapy for knee replacements or other related topics, you can contact Dr. Richard DeFalco, DPT, OCS, CSCS, CWcHP at Professional Rehabilitation Services (Myrtle Beach) (843) 839-1300, Dr. Brian P. Kinmartin PT, DPT, MTC, OCS, STC, CWcHP, Dr. Nathan Watts PT, DPT, CSCS (Pawleys Island) (843) 235-0200, Richard A. Owens, PT, MS, OCS, Cert. SMT, CWcHP (Surfside/Conway), Dr. Jill Phelan PT, DPT (Surfside) (843) 8310163, (Conway) (843) 733-3031, Dr. Kristen Lies PT, DPT (Murrell’s Inlet) (843) 314-3224, or visit our website at www.prsrehabservices.com. www.scwomanmagazine.com Time For a Change By Star Sade I would have to say I love this time of year. It makes me feel like I am getting another chance to do it right :) To make it happen :) To learn the dance... 2014 was a pretty good year for me. I did meet a lot of my personal goals. Also, several goals I did not get done. So, that’s what 2015 is for, right? January is the time to get ready and get prepared … set some goals and face the music! Yes, I am talking about cleaning out your cupboards and closets and taking out the trash “so to speak”. Replacing the “bad” with the “good”. Making it a “live-it”. That’s what it is to lose weight and keep it off, exercise and eating clean... it’s a “live-it”, I got that word from a patient who has lost 80 lbs... “It’s not a diet, it’s a “live-it”, she said. That is exactly right, how we choose to live our lives, WILL show! Making a change can be easy or it can be hard, just depends on how bad you want it. Knowing what to do to lose the weight and keep it off, holding ourselves accountable (highly suggested for success), staying focused and dedicated to your health and well-being are all principles that we can help you obtain and live by at Metabolic Medical Center. One of my goals for this year is to drink more water. I would like to get close to a gallon a day in. There are so many health benefits to drinking more water such as helping to control calorie intake, energizing muscles which prevents fatigue, helps your skin to look good, and these are just a few. I am holding myself accountable to all the readers out there ! Let us do the same for you Make an Appointment with us at Metabolic Medical Center. Start your new year off right. First Visit Includes: • Assessment and Evaluation • Individualized treatment plan • Blood work (chemistry panel, thyroid panel, lipid profile, insulin levels and (CBC) • EKG • Supplements • Vitamins • Appetite Suppressants (if needed) Metabolic Medical Center: The Doctor’s “weigh” to a healthier you !! 843-357-2851 Professional Rehabilitation Services, Inc. The Outpatient Physical Therapy Specialists Serving the community since 2004 Call for a FREE 15 minute consultation NEW CONWAY LOCATION OPENING JANUARY 2015 We specialize in treating, Sports-related injuries, Orthopedic injuries, Neurological problems, Balance problems, Back & neck pain, Joint-related disorders, Repetitive strain injuries, Post-surgical recovery, Golf injuries Are You Suffering from Pain or an Injury? Don’t let pain or injury compromise your competitive edge. We offer a full range of physical therapy and rehabilitation services to get you back on track. NOW OFFERING DRY NEEDLING FOR PAIN BY CREDENTIAL PROFESSIONALS Pawleys Island Murrells Inlet Surfside Beach Myrtle Beach 38 Business Center Dr. Pawleys Island, SC 29585 4731 Hwy. 17 Bypass Murrells Inlet, SC 29576 (843) 235-0200 (843) 314-3224 3076 Dick Pond Road (Hwy 544) Myrtle Beach, SC 29588 1301 48th Ave N, Suite D (Intersection of Hwy. 17 Bypass & 48th Ave., N) Myrtle Beach, SC 29577 (843) 831-0163 (843) 839-1300 NEW Conway 2676 Church St Unit D-2 (US-501) Conway, SC 29526 (843) 733-3031 WWW.PRSREHABSERVICES.COM Dr. Brian P. Kinmartin. PT, DPT, PCS, STC, CWcHP. • Richard A. Owens, Jr., PT, MS, OCS, Cert. SMT, CwcHP. • Dr. Richard DeFalco, DPT, OCS, CSCS, CWcHP. www.scwomanmagazine.com South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine January 2015 17 A to-do list for brides-to-be Preparing for the big day means planning a multitude of details; everything from the flower arrangements to that something blue must be decided upon well in advance of the ceremony. Here are some tips to help ensure your big day goes off without a hitch. The Big Decisions The decision to get married is the first of many big decisions you will be making in the weeks and months to come. Here are some things to consider right away: —Pick a date. Talk with your fiancé and family (and your fiancé’s family) about potential wedding dates to ensure the important people in both your lives will be able to take 18 J a n u a r y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine part. —Select your guests. The number of guests you invite will directly influence the cost of your wedding. —Set a budget. Budgeting for your wedding is crucial, as this will have a great impact on every other aspect of your day, as well as your honeymoon. Plan for a little wiggle room for unexpected expenses. —Choose a location. Because most popular bridal spots are just that — popular — you may want to start searching for a location quickly. —Organize the bridal party. Make careful decisions about who you want supporting you leading up to the big day, and who will be displayed in front of everyone in your life. —Pick a style. Many brides choose wedding styles that are reflected in their save-the-dates, invitations, ceremonies, receptions and thank-you cards. Choosing a theme and color scheme in the beginning will help narrow down options later. —Hire a caterer. Take into account the dietary needs of www.scwomanmagazine.com your guests by offering a variety of menu options, including a vegetarian dish. —Order the cake. Whether you choose a large multi-tiered cake or cupcakes, remember to keep your budget in mind—and pick flavors you and your fiancé truly enjoy. —Make the announcement. Decide how you want to let the community know of your planned nuptials. Do you want to take professional engagement photos? Do you plan to contact your local paper? Will you include a link to a wedding day website on your save-the-date or your wedding invitations? —Get the gown. On your wedding day, everyone will be awaiting a glimpse of your gown. Listen to your instincts and choose a gown that “feels right” and reflects your personality and style. —Dress your party. Once you have chosen the wedding dress of your dreams, speak with your fiancé about his wishes for his suit, as well as the bridal party attire. —Hire a photographer. Choose your professional photographer wisely. With a walk down the aisle, father/daughter dance and toast, your father is sure to get photographed, but your mother might get overlooked. Make sure to ask the photographer to get shots of your mother throughout the day as well. —Choose your flowers. Once you set the date, discuss with your florists which flowers are in season to help narrow down your selection. You may love tulips, but if you have a winter wedding, they may be hard to come by, and may be more expensive. —Book the entertainment. Do you want a DJ or a live band? Talk with your fiancé about your music preferences, as well as the types of tunes you want played at your reception to keep your guests on the dance floor. Before the Big Day —Create a website for your wedding to keep guests informed of events and for easy access to registry information. Provide accommodation information for those guests traveling from out of town. —Insure your engagement and wedding rings against loss, damage, theft or mysterious disappearance. According to a survey conducted by Jewelers Mutual Insurance Company, 44 percent of married women either don’t insure their engagement ring, or don’t know for certain whether their engagement and wedding rings are insured. For a free, no-obligation jewelry insurance quote, visit www.insureyourjewelry.com. —Make sure your marriage license, travel documentation and insurance information are ready to go and stored in a safe place in advance of the wedding day. —Practice reciting your vows and speeches until you feel comfortable. —Wear your wedding heels around the house to “break them in.” Pack a back-up pair of flats to wear during the reception. —Remember to ask for help. Designate members of your family or close friends to specific assignments. Photos courtesy of Getty Images Wedding Day Details Provide bottled water for your wedding party. To ensure no one gets overheated, hide water near your bridal party during the ceremony for emergencies. Choose meaningful gifts for your wedding party. Necklaces, earrings or bracelets are great for bridesmaids; cufflinks are perfect for groomsmen. Create individual envelopes for tipping drivers, caterers, musicians, etc. Separate envelopes will help ensure you don’t forget anyone. Plan for weather: In case of rain — Order a tent or choose a venue with indoor space for last-minute protection from the elements. Offer extra umbrellas to usher people from their vehicles to the venue. In case of heat — Place fans throughout the venue and provide plenty of water for guests. In case of cold — Space heaters can be placed throughout the space to warm up the room in advance of the event. Over-estimate the amount of parking needed for guests. Following the Honeymoon Open wedding gifts and keep an accurate list of each guest in correspondence with their gift. Write thoughtful, personalized hand-written thank you cards. www.scwomanmagazine.com The Big Day Bridal Kit Supplies Bobby pins, elastic hair bands Hairbrush Hairspray Panty hose Nail file, nail polish, remover Baby powder Makeup Stain remover Tissues Sewing kit with scissors Ballet flats Pocket mirror Extra post-earring backs Static cling spray Antacid Pain reliever Bandages Deodorant Dental floss Eye drops Bottled water Breath mints Duct tape — for last-minute dress fix-ups and to adhere to the bottom of slippery dress shoes For more information about protecting your bridal jewelry, visit www.insureyourjewelry.com. South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine January 2015 19 Local Historian Unearths Conway’s Past Digging through local photographs reaps positive rewards for new book The newest title in Arcadia Publishing’s Images of America series is Conway, by seasoned author, historian and former tour guide, Susan Hoffer McMillan. Being the sixth book that McMillan has completed with Arcadia Publishing, Images of America: Conway boasts more than 200 vintage images and spans seven decades with stories of the life, trials and triumphs of a beautiful southern region. Conway, South Carolina has seen many changes over the years. Originally established as Kingston in 1732, it was later renamed in honor of local politician, Robert Conway. Featured in this title are historical homes, beautiful landmarks, hotels, motels, churches and schools. McMillan dug deep into the history of the town to uncover images and stories about the families of Buck, Beaty and Burroughs and the businesses that progressed from turpentine and timber to tobacco and tourism. the Palmetto Trust for Historic Preservation. Now semi-retired, McMillan and her husband live in a century old home they recently restored in Conway. They have three grown children and three grandchildren. What lasting impact do you hope your book will leave? My hope is that this book reminds its readers of the generations who preceded them in making Conway a special place to live. We owe these earlier citizens much gratitude for our charming city with its historic downtown, beautiful parks and churches, and friendly people. This book is my gift of appreciation to all past and present citizens who helped Conway to realize its potential. 2015 Events Where: Horry County Historical Society 606 Main Street, Conway, SC When: January 11, 2015 at 3:00pm Where: Myrtle Beach Stamp and Postcard Show at Clarion Hotel 101 Fantasy Harbour Blvd, Myrtle Beach, SC When: February 7, 2015 from 10:00am to 5:00pm and February 8, 2015 from 10:00am to 4:00pm Available at area bookstores, independent retailers, and online retailers, or through Arcadia Publishing at (888)-313-2665 or online. Arcadia Publishing is the leading publisher of local and regional history in the United States. Our mission is to make history accessible and meaningful through the publication of books on the heritage of America’s people and places. Discover more than 8,500 small towns and downtowns at http://www.arcadiapublishing.com Susan Hoffer McMillan has combined her passion for collecting historic images with her dedication to researching their stories to produce six Arcadia Publishing titles about coastal South Carolina. Conway is her newest title, reflecting the small town charm of the pre-Revolutionary city where she has lived since 1971. McMillan doesn’t mind getting dirty in her pursuit of history; she has been the director of Waccamaw Archaeology Partnership since 2000, leading archaeological digs on Georgetown County rice plantations. Her excavation crew of retirees works part-time and is now in their third year of slave village excavations at Brookgreen Gardens in Murrells Inlet. McMillan has a journalism background and is a graduate and former trustee of Winthrop University with a master’s degree from University of South Carolina. She has enjoyed a lifetime of volunteerism and is a former president of the Confederation of South Carolina Local Historical Societies and a former board member of 20 January 2015 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine Susan Hoffer McMillan has combined her passion for collecting historic images with her dedication to researching their stories to produce her sixth Arcadia Publishing title about a coastal South Carolina town. This new titles depicts Conway and nearby locales from the 1890s through the 1960s. With a few exceptions which are credited to their source, the majority of the images for the book are from McMillan’s personal collection. Conway by Susan Hoffer McMillan Images of America Series Price: $21.99 128 pages/ softcover www.scwomanmagazine.com Start The New Year off Right with Better Hearing By Jennifer Reed & Kayla Bracey, Owners, Hearing by Design The holidays have come and gone, how did you hear this year? This time of year can be an eye opening experience for those who have been struggling with their hearing. You may have noticed that you didn’t hear some of the things that you remember hearing last year. You might have even missed some things you didn’t even realize you were missing, such as a conversation over a holiday meal or gift exchange, or even a question from a grandchild. Hearing loss is something that many times gets put “on the back burner”. There’s this payment to make first or this other thing to take care of first, but the truth is, that your hearing should be a priority. Along with eye and dental exams, your hearing should be checked annually. Often times, hearing is left unchecked and therefore hearing loss is left unaddressed for many years. Starting with a look inside your ears to check for wax, we will be able to see if maybe it’s just a build up of wax inside your ear canals that may be causing you to miss some things. For some folks, that’s all it is! If you feel that you are asking others to repeat more often than you used to, or if you are turning the tv up a little louder than you did before, a hearing evaluation may be just what you need. So many people say that they hear but do not understand words, or that they hear fine in quiet but not in groups or at restaurants. If any of these things sound familiar to you, it might be time to get your hearing checked. At our new office in North Myrtle Beach, we offer FREE comprehensive hearing evaluations using state of the art equipment to complete both speech and tone testing. We also offer FREE demonstrations of the latest hearing aid technology. Starting the year off with a hearing evaluation should be part of your New Year’s Resolution! Please take the time to make your hearing a priority this year! Don’t let it go another year untreated. Call us today at 843-272-1486 or for more information, visit our website at: www.hearingbydesignnmb.com. Like us on Facebook! www.scwomanmagazine.com South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine January 2015 21 Exercise Induced Bronchospasm (EIB) By Mark Schecker, M.D. Coastal Carolina Allergy and Asthma Associates Has the following ever happened to you? Suddenly within minutes after starting to exercise you begin to feel chest tightness, wheezing, and shortness of breath. Does your child start to cough while running jumping or playing? If so, you or your child may be suffering from “Exercise Induced Bronchospasm” (aka, E.I.B.) and you would not be alone because a number of elite and professional athletes like Jackie Joyner-Kersey and Amy Van Dyken suffer from Exercised Induced Bronchospasm too. E.I.B. is a narrowing or spasm of the bronchial tubes in the lungs caused by exertion. Symptoms occur either during or occasionally shortly after exercise is completed. The exact mechanism is unknown but the constriction of the airways is thought to occur as a result of the breathing passages drying 22 out. Because of this, exercising in cold dry air seems to trigger symptoms more frequently than doing activity in warm, moist environments. Some individuals have their E.I.B. in addition to a more extensive Asthma condition caused by a variety of triggers; while in other individuals their bronchospasm symptoms are solely triggered by exercise. The biggest problem with Exercise Induced Bronchospasm is that it usually severely limits the ability to participate in sports and other physically demanding activities like dancing, for example. Diagnosing E.I.B. requires a careful history and physical exam by a physician knowledgeable in this area. Sometimes an exercise challenge test is done. This consists of doing exercise either in a laboratory on a bicycle or a treadmill, or outdoors near the doc- J a n u a r y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine tor’s office. Usually an activity similar to the one stimulating the patient’s symptoms is chosen. Immediately after the activity is completed breathing tests called spirometry are done with the use of a computer to determine whether or not evidence of E.I.B. is present. Fortunately E.I.B. is a very treatable condition and individuals who suffer from this malady should be able to participate in any physical activity, sport, or exercise they prefer. Obviously some very talented athletes have been able to accomplish the ultimate successes including Olympic gold medals, despite suffering from this problem. As with all types of bronchospasm, individual treatment plans are devised according to a particular persons needs. This can be done by any physician who is fairly well versed in respiratory diseases, but is usually accomplished by either a pulmonologist or an allergist. Treatment plans may include a variety of modalities including “warm-up” exercises alone or in combination with the use of medications designed to block symptoms from occurring in the first place. These medications called “beta-agonists” are preferably used in an inhaled form. Again, however the exact types of medications used need to be individualized to a particular patient’s profile. In certain situations new sports that are less likely to provoke symptoms, like swimming, may be suggested to replace other activities that more commonly trigger Exercise Induced Bronchospasm problems. Unfortunately there is no perfect exercise for people with this condition. However, when treated appropriately, Exercised Induced Bronchospasm should not be a disruption to anyone. Dr. Schecker, a Board Certified Allergist, is the founder of Coastal Carolina Allergy & Asthma Associates. He is a Certified Take Shape For Life Health Coach, a COPE Certified Health Coach, the co-founder of the Myrtle Beach Marathon and the founder of Camp Airwaves (a camp for children with asthma). Dr. Schecker has been recognized as the “Allergist of the Year” by the Myrtle Beach Herald (2005-2014). www.scwomanmagazine.com Realtor Magazine: Lists of Hot Housing Trends for 2015 By Kimberly Dahlin 1. Coral shades. A blast of a new color is often the easiest change for sellers to make, offering the biggest bang for their buck. Sherwin-Williams says Coral Reef (#6606) is 2015’s color of the year because it reflects the country’s optimism about the future. “We have a brighter outlook now that we’re out of the recession. Pair it with crisp white, gray, or similar saturations of lilac, green, and violet. 2. Open spaces go mainstream. An open floor plan may feel like old hat, but it’s becoming a wish beyond the young hipster demographic, so you’ll increasingly see this layout in traditional condo buildings and single-family suburban homes in 2015. 3. Porcelain floors. If you’re going to go with imitation wood, porcelain will be your 2015 go-to. It’s less expensive and wears as well as or better than the real thing. Good places to use this material are high-traffic rooms, hallways, and areas exposed to moisture. 4. Multiple master suites. Having two master bedroom suites, each with its own adjoining bathroom, makes a house work better for multiple generations. When both suites are located on the main level, you hit the jackpot. 5. Fireplaces and fire pits. The sight of a flame—real or faux—has universal appeal as a signal of warmth, romance, and togetherness. This year, be on the lookout for the latest iteration on this classic: chic, modern takes on the humble wood stove. 6. Wellness systems. Builders are now addressing environmental and health concerns with holistic solutions, such as heat recovery ventilation systems that filter air www.scwomanmagazine.com continuously and use little energy 7. Storage. The new buzzword is “specialized storage,” placed right where it’s needed. More home owners are increasingly willing to pare the dimensions of a second or third bedroom in order to gain a suitably sized walk-in closet in their master bedroom 8. Grander garages. According to Troon Pacific, the new trends here include bringing the driveway’s material into the garage, temperature controls, sleek glass doors, specialized zones for home audiovisual controls, and a big sink or tub to wash pets. 9. Return to human scale. During the McMansion craze, kitchens got so big they almost required skates to get around. In many living or family rooms that will mean just enough space for one conversation grouping, and in kitchens one set of appliances, fewer countertops, and smaller islands. 10. Outdoor living. Interest in spending time outdoors keeps mushrooming, and 2015 will hold a few new options for enhancing the space, including outdoor showers adjacent to pools and hot tubs along with better-equipped roof decks for urban dwellers. For more information call Kimberly Dahlin, Realtor 843-602-6023 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine J a n u a r y 2 0 1 5 23 Jo Wayman receives the Waccamaw RIVERKEEPER® Joy Pinson Award for Exceptional Service to the Waccamaw River By Christine Ellis RIVERKEEPER® office along with previous years’ recipients. In addition, Jo received her own plaque commemorating this honor. It is proudly displayed at the Visitor Center at Lake Waccamaw State Park. Jo’s commitment to the Waccamaw watershed is much appreciated by Winyah Rivers Foundation, its Board of Directors, staff and members, as well as the Volunteer Water Quality Monitoring Program’s administrators at Coastal Carolina University’s Waccamaw Watershed Academy and at Lake Waccamaw State Park, and many others! Congratulations and thank you to Jo Wayman for protecting clean water and healthy habitat in the Waccamaw watershed and for her support of the Waccamaw RIVERKEEPER® Program of Winyah Rivers Foundation. Volunteer Team #9 includes (L-R): Warren Stephens, Steve Smith, Jo Wayman, David Scott, Rick Keenan, Andy Buchanan. Jo, a resident of Lake Waccamaw, NC, is a founding member of the volunteer water quality monitoring program in the North Carolina portion of the Waccamaw watershed. Since 2011, Jo has taken a leadership role in this important citizen science project. She coordinates many of the activities necessary to maintain the water sampling equipment and supplies, is the team leader for the volunteer team that samples at two sites at Lake Waccamaw, prepares and analyzes both the turbidity and bacteria samples not only for her team but for the other lake team and its two sites, uploads sampling data into the online database, troubleshoots issues that 24 occur from time to time and coordinates with the program administrators at the Waccamaw RIVERKEEPER® Program, Coastal Carolina University’s Waccamaw Watershed Academy and Lake Waccamaw State Park. Jo’s contributions to the program have been enormous since 2011 and have resulted in its success over the past years. Jo was recognized by Paula Reidhaar, Waccamaw Riverkeeper, Christine Ellis, River Advocate and the Board of Directors of Winyah Rivers Foundation at our recent River Celebration event held in Conway, SC. A plaque that bears Jo’s name is proudly displayed in the J a n u a r y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine Jo in the lab at the State Park includes (L-R): Andy Buchanan, Jo Wayman, Toby Hall www.scwomanmagazine.com It’s All Going To Be Alright! By Kristi Falk In all honesty, I am probably the last person who should be talking about how to manage stress, but I have gotten better over the years. I have learned a few tricks that I can share. I know how stressful planning a wedding can be, and the actual wedding day itself. Trying to nail down a date in itself can be difficult. I was actually very lucky in this regard because my husband we very hands on for the majority of the planning and we have great friends who had the perfect location and friends who handled the catering and the cake. For me one of the most stressful aspects was the dress. It wasn’t finding the perfect dress. I did that rather easily. It happened the day of the wedding. But let me back up just a bit. The day BEFORE the wedding, my bridesmaids and I were enjoying our spa day with massages and body scrubs, mani/pedis. We were getting the works. It was pure heaven! What we didn’t know was that at the wedding site, the rain was coming down hard. Complete with hail. Our friends and family who were there to get everything set up were hiding under the newly built shelter while the rain and hail took down all of the decorations that we had put up the day before. Luckily when it was all over, one of our friends was able to put all of the décor back up, and make it look even better than it did before. I am so grateful that I was not there to witness the destruction portion. The next morning, I went to get my hair done. It was done just the way I had envisioned. Then I headed to the dry cleaners to pick up my dress where it was being pressed. I get there, and the place was CLOSED!! The doors were locked. I was beside myself. I called my soon-to-be husband. I called my bridesmaids. One of them offered to sneak in a window and grab my dress from the line. I could not stop crying. One of our friends was mentally going through the inventory he had at his shop to determine if he had a dress for me that would work. It was all just horrifying and unbelievably stressful. A couple of hours went by and we found the owner of the shop. He was out of town but was able to call one of his employees to come open up for me. What a relief! The rest of the day went off without a hitch, thank goodness! What I have learned since that fateful day – “It’s all going to be ok”. I know it’s cliché, but it’s so true. Now, if I start to get stressed about something, I take a step back and breathe. I have a favorite place here at home that I go to relax and clear my mind. We have a small pond in the back yard filled with turtles and fish, and a rock fountain. I go out and feed the fish and turtles, focus on the sound of the fountain (now it even drowns out the sound of the traffic on Hwy. 544 behind us), and just let my mind go calm. It really works for me. I have also taken some meditation workshops that have helped. The deep breathing techniques are especially helpful. So when a stressful situation arises (like a magazine deadline) I can calm myself and get it done. I know that it will all be ok, no matter what. So when you are starting to get stressed planning your big day, just go to a favorite place, maybe a walk on the beach, take some deep breaths, and just trust yourself. The bumps in the road keep us on our toes. They help us to appreciate when the roads are smooth. Like the saying says, Keep Calm and Carry On. 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Therefore, most people will have the same old resolution again this year so why not do things a little differently and increase your chances of success? First of all, you need a plan of action but your goals need to be realistic and obtainable. Otherwise you will just be setting yourself up for failure. Write your goals down and have a way to document your success along the way. Try to set specific goals instead of generalized ones. For instance, instead of saying “I am going to lose weight this year”, say “I am going to do 30 minutes of cardio exercise every day”, or “I am going to eliminate junk foods and eat smaller portions”, or “I am going to lose 10 pounds in the next month”. Keep a food journal listing everything you eat or drink during the day and also list your exercise. This helps you ensure that you are staying within your calorie limits but also makes you more accountable. Patients that do the best in our Rapid Weight Loss program are the ones that keep a food journal every single day. Share your goals and success with friends and family. You are more likely to be successful if you have their support. Remove unhealthy temptations from the home or office. Try not to put yourself in J a n u a r y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine situations where you will be tempted. Focus on being healthier as the weight loss will reduce your risk of high blood pressure, diabetes, liver disease and many cancers just to name a few. This is something you have to do for yourself, not for others. Reward yourself for your accomplishments with shopping, travel, relaxing or something special that you really enjoy. Above all, be patient! You can’t just make a decision that you are going to change years of bad habits and expect to change overnight. Don’t beat yourself up if you slip up. Just get right back on track as soon as possible. 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I have found that SC Woman is a great way to effectively and economically reach both locals and newcomers to the area, who are critical to our business. The distribution is fantastic, with placement in doctor’s offices, salons and retailers where the shelf life of the magazine lasts the whole month - both men and women have mentioned they read it while waiting for an appointment. Diane and her team have worked hard to build a magazine that offers unique, quality content and visibility for her advertisers beyond the print ad. We’re committed to SC Woman as part of our long-term marketing plan - thanks, Diane, for all you do!? Kerry Ann Dame POSH LIVING (843) 238-0078 WWW.POSHSURFSIDE.COM Dale Publishing has provided Professional Rehabilitation Services with a forum to provide information to the public that allows for consumer choice when it comes to choosing a physical therapy provider. We value the opportunity to inform the public about what makes Professional Rehabilitation Services the Outpatient Physical Therapy Specialists, and this is because of the circulation of South Carolina Woman and Transitions News Magazines! Thank you for the opportunity! Professional Rehabilitation Services (843) 235-0200 www.prsrehabservices.com Over three years ago, Carolina Home Exteriors began advertising our exterior home improvements in South Carolina Woman Magazine and have found it to be an effective print advertisement. Each month that we advertise, we sell more sunrooms, screen rooms, patio enclosures, pergolas and other custom home improvement projects. We are proud to be a part of our community’s hometown magazine and offer monthly educational articles. As a locally owned and operated residential home remodeler, we are happy to have an outlet to reach out to so many local households and businesses to provide custom outdoor living designs. The magazine has increased my business throughout the community and I am looking forward to a long term relationship. The price is right, the staff is easy to work with, and the magazine is effective. A winning combination! I believe in South Carolina Woman Magazine and the potential to reach new clients in the area. Your website’s ability to link to our own website (www.CarolinaHomeExteriors.com) has been especially beneficial. Thanks to your magazine, we’ve been able to couple our predominantly referral-based business and increase our free design consulting appointments. Customers often tell us they’ve seen Carolina Home Exteriors’ ad in the magazine and that’s why we’ll continue to advertise with Dale Publishing, Inc. Ted Cligrow, President & Owner Carolina Home Exteriors 11730 Highway 17 Bypass, Murrells Inlet, SC 29576 (843) 651-6514 When opening a new business, you face tough choices on how to get your name out there. So many choices…How do you know what will work for you? Through a networking event, we made contact with Gale Mulcahy and Dale Publishing. They were able to put together an amazing package for us so that we were able to affordably advertise in 3 separate publications! We get a lot of compliments on our ads and our patients frequently mention the magazines by name. Choosing to advertise with Dale Publishing has been great for our new business! Thank you for everything! Hearing By Design Jennifer Reed and Kayla Bracey (843) 272-1486 Let us help you grow your business, email us at [email protected]. www.scwomanmagazine.com South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine January 2015 27 That’s Wright Sticks and Stones By Jill Wright Ever hear someone tell you a story about someone else in order to influence your opinion about that person? For instance, your neighbor casually tells you that the old woman in the red brick house down the street screams at her children all the time and you immediately imagine that she is abusive? At least that is the opinion your neighbor wishes to impart upon you during their telling of the story. Pretty harsh accusation, don’t you think? What about the business man who believes he is doing you a “favor” when he tells you not to trust such-and-such because they are a “loose cannon?” Or you hear, “I just know that if given the chance, he would cheat on his wife.” My favorite is when I hear someone say, “And we think he does cocaine!!!” I love it. “We think he does cocaine.” But, they do not KNOW he does cocaine, or cheats on his wife. All it takes is one statement made out of context and a person’s reputation is tarnished. I believe wholeheartedly that our human nature causes us sometimes to believe what we want to believe about 28 someone. Another example: John has a bladder problem and disappears to the bathroom several times. His bladder problem causes him to lose sleep because he is up all night going to the bathroom. His baggy eyes and frequent trips to the bathroom during work spark his co-workers to “assume” he uses cocaine. Almost as if they want this assumption to be true, they carelessly share their assumption with others and so on. Next thing you know, John is treated differently, maybe even fired from his job. All because he is guilty of is failing to share every intimate detail of his personal health with his co-workers. Makes me kind of ill. I see it every day. Latest example? My new friend, Russell Cavender, better known as “The Snake Chaser.” Many of you may have seen The Snake Chaser tooling around town in his custom painted van, answering desperate calls from community folks trying to ward off everything from snakes, to rodents, to stray cats. His business is based upon his love for beasts of every kind. He partially got into the business because he would rather see these animals and reptiles handled in a humane way rather than J a n u a r y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine be killed or maimed at the hands of a distressed neighbor. That is why it was particularly hurtful for Russell to learn that community members began responding to a nasty rumor that he was feeding cats to his pet boa constrictor! First of all, he does not have a boa constrictor to feed. Second of all, he ALWAYS takes the cats he catches to the humane society. Unfortunately, this nasty rumor has affected Russell’s business. Many potential (and maybe former customers) may have decided to avoid Russell’s invaluable services based upon this false rumor. That is the trouble with rumors. They are not prejudice against truth or falsities. Also unfortunately, the harm that results from rumors is never dependent upon the level of truth in the rumor’s content. And can you believe? The person that started the rumor about Russell’s business, a businessman himself! A businessman that, I am sure, would not appreciate anyone carelessly starting or spreading rumors about his business. It is getting to the point where I do not believe anything I hear about anyone else anymore. Unless I see it firsthand or hear it from the horse’s mouth, I try to dismiss the rumor. As human beings we often form opinions about people and situations based upon the limited experiences of others. Lawyers often rely on this factor of human nature regularly. We hope that when we parade a witness in front of the jury that the jury will form the desired opinion of that person based upon a few well chosen words. The word verdict, afterall, comes from the latin word “veredicto” which means, “to speak the truth.” This “let me tell you what to think” approach undermines our justice system in that it inhibits a jury’s ability to make decisions based upon the truth of the matter. Or does it? I am hopeful that the very design of the American judicial system leaves little room for success in twisting the truth. Hopefully, our sys- www.scwomanmagazine.com tem of 12-juror deliberations defeats attempts to pull the proverbial wool over a jury’s eyes. Hopefully, jurors will see that anyone who so caustically and falsely accuses another of wrongdoing will immediately be discredited for benefiting in some way by making the statements. Wouldn’t you agree that many a reputation has been tainted by a few “well chosen words?” The child’s rhyme goes something like, “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me!” But, as adults, we now know this is not exactly a reliable mantra. Words can, and do, hurt. And did you know that there is a law against harmful words? Defamation laws were passed designed to protect people from the careless and/or intentionally harmful statements made by rumor hounds. Under South Carolina law, if you make a statement about someone, knowing it to be false or have reckless disregard for its truthfulness, you may be found liable to that person for damaging their reputation. The harmful effects of defamation are not limited to the dramatizations we see on TV. The sub- ject matter is a very real danger and obviously presents a prevalent enough problem to warrant our courts enforcement of the law against it. Now, I admit. I am not completely innocent when it comes to these situations. I often find myself playing polite by standing silent when I hear someone say something that they either know NOT to be true, or just don’t care whether it is true or not. My husband’s cousin gained my immediate respect when in the middle of a seemingly harmless family discussion about fellow community members, he responded to the speaker’s request for validation with, “I am sorry. I just don’t talk bad about people.” “Wow,” I thought, “that takes guts.” The speakers appeared to be offended and disgusted with the cousin’s dismissal of their conversation. But, if they are honest, they must applaud his stance against such negativity. It serves no one to tell rumors about someone. It just doesn’t. I feel certain that only in rare circumstances does the subject of a rumor actually deserve the disparaging treatment the rumor caus- www.scwomanmagazine.com es. I know it is easier to entertain your listeners with rumors. I know that it often makes people feel “important” when they capture the attention of others by feeding them a few “juicy” rumors or assumptions. But, as a very reliable mantra dictates, “what goes around comes around comes around.” You may have suffered in reputation because of the careless words of another and not even know it. Rumors are like a disease. They spread only to harm their hosts. I believe they are of the devil. I cannot think of a better way to ring in the year 2015 than to adopt the resolution to avoid rumors. I am. My New Year’s resolution is not only to avoid repeating rumors, but to avoid listening to them. Not only may the subject of the rumor not deserve the harm caused by the rumor, but choosing to act on the rumor may cause me to miss out on an important business or personal relationship! Jill Wright is an attorney with the Mike Kelly Law Group and can be reached by telephone at (843)946-7550, by email at [email protected] or by mail at 816 Broadway, MB, SC South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine January 2015 29 Ask the Organizer How will 2015 be Different for You in the Clutter Department? Diana Aversano, Organizing Made Simple Insanity, they say, is continuing to do the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. What is it that you’ve done over and over again in the past to get organized? Are you ready to surrender to the mess rather than continue to do battle with it? Start by nurturing your inner child! Cluttering is actually more about emotions than we are aware of. It’s about What’s keeping us crazy and confused rather than What we’re trying to organize. Being unorganized can be the manifestation of rebellion, of pain, of sadness, of resentment, or of whatever emotion is robbing you of your life force! Once these emotions are brought to the light of day, they lose their punch. Thinking becomes clearer. Decision-making becomes easier. Living a clutter-free life becomes a possibility that can be expanded upon and believed in. Carry on with these words... ”Even though I’m up to my eyeballs in stuff, I completely and profoundly accept and love myself.” Twice As Nice “Treasures” Fantastic selection of Furniture, Clothing, Jewelry, Mirrors, Pictures, Home Decor January Sales! 6417 Dick Pond Road Established in 1993 Over the Draw Bridge! 236.2362 www.twiceasnicemytlebeach.net 30 J a n u a r y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine Then, just start with the first thing you see. It doesn’t need to be any more complicated than that. Decide whether it is needed, is beautiful, or is treasured. If so, then think of a place that it can call home, and put it there. • Be prepared that sometimes finding a home for an item leads to clearing out a place that is already packed to the gills. Take a breath...make a detour to consider which of those items will be kept or not. Then resume. • Also, you may find a bunch of things that are like the item you just put away. That’s great, just keep like-things together. • Don’t worry about purchasing pretty containers just yet. Wait until every item has been corralled because then you will see how many and what size containers you’ll actually need. If the item is not needed, beautiful or treasured, then decide to give it to someone you know, donate it, or chunk it. It would be helpful to have a container for each of these categories handy where a number of items could be collected before dispersing them. Fill, empty, repeat! The Life Changing Magic of Decluttering and Organizing by Marie Kondo describes a unique and gentle way to view your belongings. Incorporate a few simple practices. 1. Put items back into their homes after using them. Clutter starts with a simple, “I’ll leave this here for now until I get a minute to put it away later.” That, right there, is the beginning of a pile! That one innocent item attracts other items to join the party and we know where that goes. 2. Plan your day the night before. In the evening, set out things you’ll need to take with you in the morning so you can simply “grab and go.” Do the same for your children. Even plan in an extra 15 minutes to load the dishwasher so the kitchen will be ready for dinner preparations when you return. 3. Ease up on the rate of accumulation. Buy with intention. Is emotion leading your choice? Try to visualize where that new item will be housed before purchasing it. As the accumulation starts to clear, you’ll notice a hopeful giddiness of sorts begin to bubble up in you as your emotions change to relief and satisfaction. • You’re no longer doing battle with clutter. • You’ve learned to co-exist with clutter as you keep ahead of it! • You’ll have a sense of peace and accomplishment! • You’ll be surrounded by things that bring you joy! Be gentle with yourself, after all, you’re in it for the long haul, not just a brief encounter! You’re on your way to being clutter-free in 2015! 843-385-1204 [email protected] www.organizingmadesimple2.com www.scwomanmagazine.com Frequently Asked Questions about Plastic Surgery Topic: Breast Augmentation Part I of III By Steven K. White Sr., M.D. Carolina Coastal Plastic Surgery & Medical Spa Deciding to have plastic surgery isn’t a big decision; it’s a HUGE decision. What we recommend is that you do a lot of research before you seek out a surgeon for a consultation. There are several things you need to be looking for: • A Board Certified Surgeon • A Surgeon with good reviews • A Surgeon with hospital privileges • The facility where the surgeries take place should also be certified • Consider how long the Surgeon has been in practice and what kind of experience they have • Talk to people you know who have been to the Surgeon you are interested in Once you have settled on a Plastic Surgeon and you have scheduled your consultation, you should be considering a myriad of different questions to ask. Many of your questions will depend on the surgery you are interested in having. Be sure to research your procedure before your consultation so that you can ask as many questions as possible. So let’s talk about some of the more popular body surgeries. Breast Augmentation – Question: Is there a difference between silicone and saline implants? Answer: Both silicone and saline implants have a silicone shell. The silicone gel implants are silicone throughout. The gel inside is very cohesive (sticky) and does not leak out like the old one’s in the 1980’s. The implant is soft and pliable (feels like a breast that is not lumpy). The saline implant is silicone water. It feels like water movement when compressed; but depending on the size it can feel very natural in the breast also. Question: Under or over the muscle? Answer: Most people in my practice choose implants over the muscle, and gels ten to one over saline. The patient can choose the type of implant, location and one of three incision sites. These decisions are made after a detailed consultation and in collaboration with the patient and surgeon. Things that play into these decisions include: size, anatomy of the patient, occupation and personal wishes. Question: Is one safer than the other? Answer: Both implant options are safe and have undergone extensive research and documentation. If someone has an augmentation they will likely need another operation at some point in their life to: a. go larger, b. go smaller, c. have adjustments, or have a removal all together. Question: Does one cost more than the other? Answer: Yes, gel implants are roughly twice the cost of saline. Gel implants also come “shaped” so that they can be ordered and customized to the patient’s anatomy. Question: What is the recovery time like? Answer: Recovery time, generally speaking depends on where the implant is placed on the body, and if it’s under or over the muscle. By in large, implants under the muscle take longer to recover from. Children who have small children to pick up or a job that requires lifting need to be very cautious in recovery. Question: How do you know how big to go? Answer: The size of the breast in large part is based on the patient’s choice. There are limits, mainly related to the patient’s anatomy measurements, and body structure. This is all discussed in the consultation. When the patient comes in she’ll understand that “what she imagines, we create!” Next month we will continue this article with part II. In the second article we address questions about liposuction, tummy tucks and more! The most important take away to these articles is that you should always have questions for your surgeon. It’s our job to make sure we have an informed patient. We’re here for you and at my practice, and the initial consultation is just important as the surgery itself. I want you to be happy and excited about your future surgery. Remember … YOU IMAGINE, WE CREATE! Steven K. White, SR., M.D. Certified by the American Board of Plastic Surgery and The American Board of Surgery Carolina Coastal Plastic Surgery & Medical Spa 1275 21st Ave. North, Myrtle Beach, SC (843)448-9977 www.carolinacoastalplasticsurgery.com Ringing in the New Year with a New You! Save $675 any major surgery when you book before January 30th! Specializing In The Latest Advances In Cosmetic Surgery Including: Liposculpture • Breast Surgery • Facial Procedures Laser Resurfacing Abdominoplasty • Facial Fillers/Botox 843.448.9977 Carolinacoastalplasticsurgery.com Steven K. White, SR., M.D. Certified by the American Board of Plastic Surgery & The American Board of Surgery 1275 21st Ave. North, Myrtle Beach, SC www.scwomanmagazine.com South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine January 2015 31 WEDDING Delicious and Affordable Ways To Say “I Do” S pringtime ushers in the glitz and glamour of wedding season, which lasts into late fall. This year, economizing is foremost on everyone’s minds, but betrothed couples want their weddings and the events leading up to them to be as special as ever. These wedding trends are how brides and grooms are turning bridal showers, couples’ showers and, of course, the wedding itself into priceless yet affordable experiences for everyone involved. —Revisiting food classics that are guaranteed to please the palate but don’t break the bank, like the Sizzling MiniSliders featured. —Choosing fresh and flavorful wines that present incredible value for the price but don’t compromise a smidge on quality. —Serving food in smaller portions, a restaurant trend, is a hit for guests and a boon for the budget. —Conserving resources with 3L Premium Wine Casks, a convenient, nowaste way to serve a crowd. Here are some stylish, budget-friendly food and wine options that allow happy couples to have their cupcakes and eat them too. Bridal Shower notes and a refreshing finish. To create an elegant and festive party atmosphere, decorate the event space with fresh flowers and set aside a table where gifts can be presented. A buffet table lets guests serve themselves and also provides a tableau for food and wine selections to be artfully displayed. Arrange an inviting layout of fresh seasonal salads and bite-sized desserts, with a delectable angel hair pasta dish as the centerpiece. Pair with the delicious Angel Juice Pinot Grigio, quintessentially Californian with delicate peach A couples’ shower is the ideal way to informally celebrate the upcoming marriage. Commonly known as a Jack and Jill party, the event can be a luncheon, a laid-back barbeque or a party at a local park. A couples’ shower is a prime opportunity for everyone to take a break and enjoy spending time together. Mini-burgers, or gourmet sliders, have universal appeal and offer up a new twist on an old favorite. Paired with the vibrant Big House Red, a California 32 Couples’ Shower J a n u a r y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine blend bursting with ripe red fruits that costs less than $10 a bottle, they will easily satisfy guests. Wedding Reception As an alternative to the traditional wedding cake, a cupcake wedding tree is a sophisticated way to end the momentous occasion on the sweetest of notes. Paired with the luscious, foodfriendly Cupcake Chardonnay from the prized Central Coast winegrowing region, this spectacular dessert and the creamy, fruit-forward wine are a match made in heaven. www.scwomanmagazine.com Wine Planning Checklist for Parties —Use 3L Premium Wine Casks for large groups, as each cask will serve up to 20 guests, each guest with a standard fiveounce glass. —Guests at daytime parties usually drink less wine. Serve approximately one glass of wine per guest every 90 minutes. —For evening parties, serve approximately one glass of wine per guest every hour. —Chill white wine for at least three hours before guests arrive. —Open and decant red wines about 30 minutes before guests arrive to allow the flavors to open up and breathe. —Be a responsible host and offer special non-alcoholic beverages and plenty of water for thirsty guests. Angel Hair Pasta With Shrimp & Rosemary Serves 6 Prep time: 30 minutes 16 ounces dried angel hair pasta 1 tablespoon extra virgin olive oil 3/4 cup chopped onion (about 1/2 onion) 4 teaspoons minced garlic 3 teaspoons seeded and minced serrano chile (about 1 chile) 2 teaspoons finely chopped fresh rosemary and sprigs for garnish 2 cups Angel Juice Pinot Grigio 3 tablespoons fresh lemon juice, about 1 lemon 24 large shrimp, peeled and deveined 4 tablespoons butter 1/4 cup pine nuts, toasted in a 350°F oven for 10 minutes until lightly browned Salt and freshly ground black pepper to taste Cook pasta according to package directions. Set large saucepan over medium heat and add olive oil. Sauté onions, garlic, chiles and rosemary about 4 minutes or until soft. Add wine and lemon juice, raise heat to high and boil until liquid is reduced by half. Add shrimp and cook until pink, about 2 minutes. Remove pan from heat, stir in butter and pine nuts, and toss with drained pasta. Add salt and freshly ground black pepper to taste. Pairing suggestion: Angel Juice Pinot Grigio www.scwomanmagazine.com Sizzling Mini-Sliders Serves 4 Prep time: 30 minutes 1 teaspoon onion powder 2 teaspoons minced garlic 1/2 cup Big House Red 1 1/2 pounds ground chuck 1/2 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper 1/2 teaspoon kosher salt 12 3-inch dinner rolls Condiments Caramelized onions (sauté in olive oil, very slowly, about 20 minutes) 1/2 cup loosely packed watercress 1/2 cup thinly shredded radicchio In medium bowl, combine onion powder, garlic, wine, beef, salt and pepper. Shape into twelve 1/2-inch-thick patties. Grill until browned, 3 to 4 minutes per side. Grill dinner rolls until slightly toasted. On bottom of each roll, place caramelized onions, patty, watercress and radicchio. Top with roll top. Pairing suggestion: Big House Red For more information about these wines, please visit www.UnderdogWineMerchants.com. Family Features South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine January 2015 33 Cosmetic Surgery for Weddings & Events By Kimberley B. C. Goh, M.D. Anniversaries, reunions and weddings are often the inspiration to look your best. Consultations for cosmetic surgery before a wedding are popular among brides, grooms, their families, as well as their wedding parties. Interest in the procedures before an event ranges from body contouring to facial rejuvenation, all with the common goal of looking one’s best. If you are considering cosmetic surgery before a wedding or other event, there are several points that should be consid- 34 J a n u a r y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine ered: timing, recovery, risk, stress, expense and family perception and support. These are critical components in your choice of procedure and the desired outcome. It is important to book your consultation with a plastic surgeon early to ensure adequate time for the procedure and recovery prior to the big event. For the best results, I prefer to perform major facial and body contouring surgery at least three months in advance of a special occasion. This gives adequate time for healing and for the swelling to settle. Breast augmentation is an exception but it should still ideally be done more than six weeks, if possible, before the event or wedding. Dress fittings take time! Liposuction and even SmartLipo require a girdle or compression garment for about six weeks after your surgery (for 24 hours a day) to attain the best result and the optimal skin shrinkage. This is not something desirable to wear under your wedding dress (or on the honeymoon!) CoolSculpting, the new non-invasive fat reduction technique does not involve needles or girdles but it does take three months to achieve maximum fat reduction, which is why it’s important to plan accordingly. Facial cosmetic surgery takes a time to settle and soften, and you may not be able to be in the sun in the immediate postoperative period to ensure optimal scar healing. Such postoperative restrictions can impact honeymoon plans for example, and thus need to be taken into consideration when choosing the date for surgery. Major body contouring, such as tummy tucks or thigh lifts have a more extensive recovery period. If not properly planned in advance, the recovery may keep you from actively doing those last minute tasks associated with an event or enjoying pre-event activities. CO2 laser skin resurfacing can have a significant impact on skin, however it requires more recovery time for the optimal result and skin color. There are other laser treatments that take less time to recover, but make less of a change in wrinwww.scwomanmagazine.com However, fat injection can cause swelling initially and your lips or areas of injection may be swollen for a few weeks after injection. Therefore, this procedure should be planned a few months in advance of your event. Cosmetic surgery before a wedding is an issue that should be discussed with your fiancé. While it is your right to make decisions about your own body, his/her feelings should be taken into consideration. You will do better after surgery if you have a positive emotional support structure around you. There are many ways to improve your appearance before a wedding, reunion or other event; surgery is just one option. Let your plastic surgeon know the wedding/event date and your timetable. Make sure you understand the actual procedure, and who will actually be doing the procedure, what their BUSINESS LOANS NOW! 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Your surgeon should also have privileges to perform the same procedure(s) at a local hospital and the surgery center that you will be using should be certified by a nationally recognized agency, such as AAAASF. Grand Strand Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery Center, P.A. 4610 Oleander Drive, Suite 101, MB, SC 29577(843) 497 2227, www.kimberleygohmd.com w w w. r e t i r e r i g h t . i n f o kles or age spots. These are the fractional laser peels. Medium depth chemical peels have about a week’s worth of down time and can give your skin a fresher look. Skin peels or microdermabrasion can enhance your skin tone with no down time. There are other new techniques for tightening the skin with no down time, but they are not yet proven techniques and it has been difficult to separate the market hype from real results. If you determine that you do not have adequate time for a major procedure, sometimes modified procedures can be of benefit. For example, many people chose SmartLipo for their neck, even though it does not tighten the skin as much as neck lifts or facelifts because there is less down time and minimal scarring with noticeable improvement in appearance. Cheek lifts are a good in between procedure. This can be done under local anesthesia and only takes about 1- 1 1/2 hour. There is little bruising and the swelling quickly resolves, and tightens the cheeks and has a small effect on the neck. There are also minor procedures that can be done to enhance your appearance other than surgery. These procedures have a short “down” time, and can be done within a few weeks of an event. Botox can be used to smooth wrinkles; you should get this at least two weeks before the event in case of bruising. Botox is an agent used to temporarily immobilize the muscles that are causing wrinkles. Unless you plan to get injected regularly, do not get treated too early or the wrinkles may return prior to your event. Restylane, Juvaderm and other hyaluronic acid fillers, can be used to fill wrinkles and enhance lips. Like Botox, they should be planned at least two weeks prior to the event in case of bruising. Sculptra is another product that has been used for several years in the US, and is approved by the FDA for facial cosmetic purposes. This is a fillerlike product that causes your own tissue to grow and replace lost volume. It takes about two months to grow enough to fill or enhance an area, so again it is important to plan accordingly. Fat injection, using fat from your body to fill an area, has the potential to be permanent unlike other fillers. Retirement, what does yours look like? Fax: 843-839-9735 #305-2411 N. Oak Street Myrtle Beach, SC 29577 www.infinitybusinessloans.com www.scwomanmagazine.com South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine January 2015 35 GIVING YOU MORE IN (SOCIAL) MEDIA How To De-Clutter and De-Tox Your Online Life To Start The Year Off Right! By Dorien Morin-van Dam I don’t have a crystal ball (I do sometimes wish I had one, let me tell you!) but if your life is anywhere close to mine, you could use a de-tox or de-clutter feature on your online footprint! What do I mean? How many emails do you get per day? How many spam messages do you get? How many Facebook posts do you see in your newsfeed that make you cringe? How many coupon-saving-sites did you sign up with and how often do you remember to print and bring the darn thing when you shop? Is your email inbox overflowing with offers, notifications and useless emails? Ok, so you get what I am referring to, right? It is easy to quickly feel overwhelmed when you turn on your computer and see all these massages, emails and notifications. Don’t worry, you can do it! You can break free from it and take back your life, your time and have both on online and offline life you enjoy! Here are 10 ways to de-clutter and de-tox your online life to start the year off right. 1. Unsubscribe to all newsletters and store email lists you are on meaning; the ones from which you receive emails you never read. Period. I started doing this in December and sadly, I unsubscribed to about 200 email lists I was on. I say ‘sadly’ because I could not believe I’d actually signed up for that many! I am really glad I did remove myself from those lists now though, because I have fewer emails to toss in my ‘trash’ bin each day. 36 2. Report spam when you do get it. I use gmail and there’s a very easy and convenient one-button reporting system for spam emails. I use it all the time! Yeah for all of us, because the more people report that spam, the more likely that person will get shut down! 3. Archive (or delete) all read emails! It might take you a bit to get through this – I did this recently with 2800 emails I had sitting in my inbox. Most of them I’d read, but did not archive. It feels so good to get that (back) under control. 4. Unfriend people on Facebook! (gasp) Yes, I just wrote that! If you see things in your Facebook newsfeed you do not like, offend you or are just plain outrageous, you can unfriend that person. Truth: that person will not receive a notification that you unfriended them! If you do find measure this too drastic, you can toggle to the little triangle on the top right side of the offending post for alternative options. Alternative options include unfollowing that post, unfollowing the user, reporting spam to Facebook or turning off notifications to that post (this is helpful after you commented on a post and 546 people comment after you!) 5. Delete all your inactive social media accounts IF you have the passwords and/or login information. Remember MySpace? Yeah, me neither! But if you are still listed with them someday, somewhere, you might find something about you online associated with it. Take this de-clutter and de-tox time to delete any and all accounts you remember you set up in the past. 6. Delete multiple email addresses, especially old work addresses you might be associated with. 7. Turn off annoying notifications! On your phone, on your desktop and yes, J a n u a r y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine those email notification that ‘so-and-so followed you on Pinterest’ can be turned off, too! Did you know that as a social media manager that is the top two most popular question I get from people? ‘How do I get rid of the notifications?’ It’s all in the settings of your profiles, people. 8. Go over all of your security settings on Facebook, Twitter etc. Why? Because in most of the Terms of Services you agreed to when you signed up, it states that they can reset those settings at will/random. Also, when new a feature gets added to that social media platform, it of course has no security setting on it at all, most of the time! So check your settings periodically, and re-set everything to what you are comfortable with! 9. Update app access to your social media profiles. Often, hackers get into your accounts via these apps. You can revoke access with just a click and then only when you use an app, allow access again. 10. Reset passwords on all your accounts! This is a habit you should have, much like replacing your AC filters monthly and your smoke detector batteries yearly. Now there’s another way you can detox from your online life. Shocker! This is where I tell you to ‘get away from the phone’ and take a few days off. Ha ha, how’s that for de-toxing? It won’t help your de-cluttering, but it will make you feel a whole lot less stressed if you just go off the grid for a while. Maybe you did just that over the holidays and you know what I am talking about. I try really hard to keep my desktop off during the weekend days. Yes, I still have to monitor my clients’ accounts and check in on them on the weekend, but I will not do anything that requires turning on my computer, unless I have a deadline I have to deal with. How has your online life interfered with your offline life in 2014? Are you willing to take the next step and declutter and de-tox to take back your life in 2015? If you are, start by taking these steps outlined above. Go. For. It. Dorien Morin-van Dam More In Media Social Media Consultant [email protected] www.scwomanmagazine.com Eric Masson Chef/Owner, The Brentwood Restaurant & Wine Bistro Little River, SC 3. Bring milk to a boil. Poor milk in cooled roux. Cook on medium heat for 5 minutes. Remove from heat and add yolk and grated parmesan. Season with salt and nutmeg. 4. Place bacon in a large, deep skillet. Cook over medium high heat until evenly brown. Remove from pan and chop. 5. Quickly sautéed spinach in bacon fat. Flambéed with Pernod, season and set aside. 6. In large bowl, mix sautéed spinach, chopped bacon, parsley, hot sauce and Mornay sauce. 7. Arrange the oysters in their half shells on a pan with kosher salt. Spoon some of the spinach mixture on each oyster. Bake 10 minutes until cooked through, then change the oven’s setting to broil and broil until browned on top. Serve hot. Bon Appetit! Recipe from Chef Eric Masson Chef/Owner of The Brentwood Restaurant & Wine Bistro “Low Country French Cuisine” 4269 Luck Ave. Little River, SC 29566 843-249-2601 www.TheBrentwoodRestaurant.com Southern Style Weddings without the Plantation Price Oysters Rockefeller For 4 people Ingredient 2 slices bacon 24 unopened, fresh, live medium oysters 2 cup fresh spinach 3 tablespoon butter 4 tablespoon flour 2 cup milk 1 pinch nutmeg 2 yolks 1/2 cup grated parmesan 1 tablespoon chopped fresh parsley 1/2 teaspoon salt 1 dash hot pepper sauce 1 teaspoon anise flavored liqueur 4 cups kosher salt Method: 1. Clean oysters and place in a large stockpot. Pour in enough water to cover oysters; bring the water and oysters to a boil. Remove from heat and drain and cool oysters. When cooled break the top shell off of each oyster. 2. In medium saucepan, cook butter and flour to a blond roux. Set aside. "One of the Top Ten Most Romantic Restaurants on the Grand Strand" ~MyrtleBeachRestaurantNews.com~ Rooms for small or large events Indoor and outdoor site available Ceremony site Full banquet menu Can accommodate up to 200 guests 4269 Luck Ave, Little River, SC 29566 849-249-2601 TheBrentwoodRestaurant.com www.scwomanmagazine.com South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine January 2015 37 Life's Balance Wheel The Triple Braided Cord By Donna Tyson My heart was touched again and again during the Christmas holidays by the overwhelming kindness of both friends and strangers. People seem to get nicer during the holidays. They smile more, laugh more, share more, love more, and give more. I loved watching the you-tube clips of policemen pulling over unexpecting motorists driving old or beat up cars and delivering $100 bills or gifts from a Secret Santa. Perhaps we all secretly believe that Santa is indeed watching to see if we are naughty or nice. Perhaps our positive 888-318-5107 38 J a n u a r y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine attitudes are because we are thinking more about the birth of Jesus and our blessings. Christmas is indeed a season of Miracles, Faith, Hope, and Love…but there is no reason for this to be only a seasonal state of mind. As I look back on my emotional struggle through Triple Negative Breast Cancer this past year, I am aware of the important role that these emotions played in my healing and peace of mind. I felt overwhelmed by this aggressive cancer and its power to destroy me. I needed a miracle, and I got one! My faith became a life line, a strong rope to hold to whenever I felt I was sinking in despair. I envisioned a triple braided cord securely holding me above the ravaging ocean of cancer and death. The strong bands of that triple braid were Faith, Hope and Love. It was my Faith that gave me Hope by reminding me of the power of Love. These beautiful emotions became my survival tools and are indeed intertwined in my psyche. I can not cling to one part of the braid without recognizing the presence and power of the other two parts of the braid. I needed the strength and power of all 3 emotions – Faith, Hope and Love - together in order to survive. That triple braided life line was lovingly thrown down to me from Heaven and held tightly by the Trinity of the Father, Son and Holy Spirit. My triple negative breast cancer didn’t stand a chance! When you are diagnosed with cancer, you begin a new journey. Your Faith will help you decide which path to take. You will either travel closer to God or run from Him. As you face your fears and the possibility of your death daily, you must decide what you truly believe about God, death, heaven and hell. I would never have signed up for cancer, and I do not want to repeat the experience, but I can honestly tell you that I would not trade the spiritual experience of being carried in the sweet loving arms of my Lord for anything in the world. I thought I was walking with God before my cancer, but it was in my cancer battle that I was drawn into a sacred chamber of the Heart of God. When I had nothing but God, I found that He was indeed enough. Cancer reminded me of who God is to me and who I am to Him. What a beautiful Gift! Wikipedia defines Hope as “an optimistic attitude of mind based on an expectation of outcomes related to events and circumstances in one’s life or the world at large.” I do not believe Hope is a naive Pollyanna emotion. I found my Faith gave me Hope, a deep subconscious knowledge that the Creator of the Universe is still in control and that He is working everything out for good in my life. My Faith reminded me that I serve a mighty God and Hope allowed me to believe in the possibility of my very own Miracle. I love the acrostic for Hope that says Hold On, Pain Ends. I claimed that powerful promise everyday that I was sick and hurting. “Don’t give up Hope, Donna. Hold On, Pain Ends!” As I now look around me into the hurting eyes of so many people who have lost their joy, I realize that they also need Hope. They need something to give them www.scwomanmagazine.com courage and an enthusiasm for life again. I search my heart for what I can possibly do to make a difference in their lives. I have little money and few tangible assets to share.I can not fix their hurting hearts or offer them a job that will give them a sense of purpose. I am then reminded of the powerful lesson that I learned as a missionary in Haiti. Missions is not about going to a fifth world country or preaching to others: Being a missionary is learning to live this simple truth…”What you learn, teach. What you get, give.” I am covered in truth bumps as I realize that I can do just that. I can share the Amazing Love that was constantly poured out on me through my journey with cancer. Love gives Hope! I can begin with sharing a simple smile. Deep calls unto deep, and I can make a heart connection by simply taking time to truly see them and listen to their story. I can offer compliments and words of encouragement. I can give of my time and energy and create simple moments of joy with them. And most important of all, I can fall to my knees and lift them high in prayer and unconditional love. I know for a fact that there is great power in prayer, and there is great comfort in knowing that someone loves you enough to be enfolding you in loving prayers on a regular basis. I must remember to tell others through a simple card, phone message or text that I am praying for them and sending love to them. Oh that we would embrace the truth of the scripture that proclaims “ So now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love.” I have known great sorrow in the past year, but I have also known great Love. The power of Love was stronger than the pain. With Love came restored Faith and renewed Hope. I am committed to passing that Love on to others now that I am healing. The Miracle is that as you pour Love out on others, it wells up within you as well. May you overflow with Faith, Hope, and Love in the New Year, my friends. God Bless. ArteFill ® Immediate Results. Lasting Improvement Why use Artefill as your wrinkle and volume filler? 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Let’s face it; no business stays in business for eight years without doing something very right. CuraLase has a 90% success rate getting patients back to life enjoying their favorite activities with no adverse side effects. The Harvard study adds credibility and understanding of the use of laser therapy. According to The Boston Globe and Dr. David Mooney, Professor of Bioengineering at the Harvard School of Engineering and Applied Sciences, who led the study, this provides proof of concept and “lays the 6RFLDO 0HGLD 0DQDJHPHQW &RQVXOWLQJ foundation for a host of other clinical applications…such as wound healing, bone regeneration, and more.” How fortunate we are to have CuraLase here in our own backyard with more experience treating patients with lasers than anyone else in the country, a 90% success rate, and medical doctors on staff overseeing care. No one else has a laser powerful enough and the experienced staff to provide this level of care and success. Here are some of the conditions that have seen such success with CuraLase Laser Therapy for Pain: fibromyalgia, back pain, neuropathy, sciatica, hip and knee pain, carpal tunnel, neck pain, plantar fasciitis, rotator cuff and shoulder pain, and postherpetic neuralgia. There is no charge for the initial visit with the CuraLase physician. If you have had recent MRIs, you may want to take the report with you. If reports are not readily available, don’t be concerned. At your request, CuraLase can get them. Also, you do not need a reference from your personal physician. CuraLase’s medical doctor will talk with you about your condition to determine the best plan of care for you. Best of all, CuraLase offers free dinner seminars weekly so you can meet the inventor of the laser and see how it works. You can also ask questions to see if this is right for you. It’s easy to sign up! 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Diane DeVaughn Stokes President of Stages Video Productions Host of “Diane At Six” on EASY Radio Host and Producer of TV show “Inside Out”, HTC channel 4 www.scwomanmagazine.com issy No Pr s Shoe By an G Linda rabem Fresh Starts Maybe your tree is long gone, either packed up or taken to the dump. Perhaps the ornaments are carefully placed in their boxes for another twelve months. Guess what? There’s one more gift to unwrap, and it’s a doozy. Better than you can imagine, this love offering never wears out or gets used up, because it comes from the Gift Giver extraordinaire, the One who came as the Best Gift ever. So what is this present beyond compare? It is the Fresh Start, the Clean Slate, the Forgiven and Forgotten, the New Beginning. The Lord gives us this gift above all gifts every January 1. But He also gives it on Jan. 2, 3, and 4, even if we have called upon it the previous day. It is the gift of Hope. Remade, Refreshed and Revitalized...and only a Holy God who forgives without end and brings life out of death could give this inexpressible present. Are you in need of it yet this year? If you answer, “Yes!”, it’s okay. He’s got it waiting for you. If not, your day will come, and the Lord will be ready. Ready to lift your spirits and get you moving in the right direction. Oh, the love which birthed this extravagance! A love which sees our needs and our mistakes with perfect understanding, long before they ever manifest in our lives. Here’s the hard-to-believe truth: The Lord is never disappointed in us! Can you even imagine? I can’t, because I often exasperate myself. But think about it...the reason I get disappointed or disgusted with myself is because I have unrealistic expectations. God does not. He is never caught off guard or shocked at anything I do or fail to do. He’s known my whole story for a long time; anticipated it from before my birth. That’s what makes this always-get-a-new-start offering possible. He gets us. Understands our every quirk and obsession. He has no wrong expectations of us, so we don’t have to deal with the regret of His disfavor. He knows exactly how we will mess up, and when, and He has grace and mercy waiting to pour out on us. Now Satan will try his hardest to get us to believe that God is ticked off at us at any given moment. It’s a lie. Remember that Jesus called him “the Father of Lies”. So, back to the Good News...He has His cleaning-us-upand-making-us-new Spirit always at attention, ready to spiritually wash us after hearing even our most feeble request for His help. That gives us the confidence and oomph to try new things, to take chances in life, to follow our dreams, knowing that the only permanent mess-up is not accepting this Gift. Does that give you a new sense of expectation as you begin this year? It should. It’s never “same old” with God. He is always a spanking-new, fresh, Let’s-GO!-God. Dragging our feet is not the proper response. Living in the past or failing to even make an attempt is inappropriate when we have a God www.scwomanmagazine.com who is so totally on our side and in our corner. As His children, we are wrong when we imagine a scowl on His face. He gives us more grace than we give ourselves. Don’t you know that is true? I certainly beat myself up regularly. Satan has taken me on his legalistic, not-good-enough train for way too many rides. My son was reading me an excerpt from a book recently, which perfectly pegged me. Here’s the gist of what it said: We see an artistic person, and let their ability diminish us. We compare and criticize ourselves. I definitely do that! I read Max Lucado’s books and decide that I can’t write. When I think that way, I’m tempted to quit...and God sighs. No, I don’t write like he does, but that doesn’t mean that I can’t write. I have my own style, and God wants it in print too. No competition, no comparison, just two different expressions of God’s gifting. See what we do to ourselves? That’s why this gift of a New Start is extraordinary. Maybe some of you should tear out this page in your South Carolina Woman magazine, and put it in a handy spot somewhere! You’ll need to re-read it one day down the road when you’ve compared or criticized yourself into the ground, and need a reminder that God is in the re-do business. You’re dealing with the God of Grace. He’s always ready to give you a Fresh Start. It’s a new year and God has things to do in and through you! Believe it and walk into it! “Count yourself lucky, how happy you must be— you get a fresh start, your slate’s wiped clean.” Psalms 32:1 The Message Enjoy Linda’s new 365-day devotional called Praise on Purpose Visit her at www.lindagrabeman.com Our Services Will Make You Smile! 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Add a pinch of salt to help the onion and leek sweat and cook for 4-5 minutes until tender and transparent. Add garlic and corn and cook for 3 more minutes. Sprinkle in flour and whisk. Slowly add chicken broth and then milk. Turn heat up to medium-high, then add potatoes. Season with salt, pepper and cayenne. Simmer for 30 minutes or until potatoes are tender. Once the potatoes are tender and the soup has thickened, turn heat off. Add in cheddar cheese and stir until incorporated. Spoon into individual bowls and top with crisp bacon pieces. Serve immediately. Makes approximately 4-6 servings in under 30 minutes! White Bean, Kale and Sausage Soup 1-2 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil 12 ounces smoked sausage links, such as kielbasa or andouille, cut into 1/4-inch slices 5 cloves garlic, minced 5 cups chicken broth or stock, divided 8 ounces kale, tough stems removed and finely chopped/shredded 1 small bay leaf 1/2 teaspoon garlic powder 4 (15-ounce) cans white beans (such as Cannellini, Great Northern, or Navy), rinsed and drained A few dashes hot pepper sauce 42 It’s Soup Season Once Again! Salt & freshly ground black pepper, to taste Shredded Parmesan cheese OR crumbled feta cheese, for garnish Place a large pot over medium heat. Heat 1 tablespoon of olive oil in pot, swirl to coat, and add sausage. Cook, stirring occasionally, for about 5 to 7 minutes or until the sausage is browned. Remove sausage to a paper towel-lined plate, pour a bit more oil in the center of the pot, and add minced garlic. Stir and cook for about 1 minute, or until garlic is fragrant and light golden brown. Pour 4 cups chicken broth/stock into pot and stir in kale, bay leaf, and garlic powder. Increase heat to high and bring to a boil. Reduce to a simmer, cover, and cook for 5 minutes. Place about 1/3 of the drained beans in a blender or food processor along with the remaining 1 cup chicken broth/stock. Puree until smooth. Once kale is tender, add whole beans, pureed beans, and browned sausage to the pot. Season with dashes of hot pepper sauce, salt, and pepper, to taste. Stir and simmer for a few minutes until heated through. Remove bay leaf before serving. Tomato Basil Parmesan Soup 2 (14 oz) cans diced tomatos with juice 1 cup finely diced celery 1 cup finely diced carrots 1 cup finely diced onions 1 tsp dried oregano or 1 tbsp fresh oregano J a n u a r y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine 1 tbsp dried basil or 1/4 cup fresh basil 4 cups chicken broth 1 bay leaf 1/2 cup flour 1 cup parmesan cheese 1/2 cup butter 2 cups half and half, warmed 1 tsp ground sea salt 1 tsp black pepper Add tomatoes, celery, carrots, chicken broth, onions, oregano, basil, and bay leaf to a large slow cooker. Cover and cook on LOW for 5-7 hours, until flavors are blended and vegetables are soft. About 30 minutes before serving prepare a roux. Melt butter over low heat in a skillet and add flour. Stir constantly with a whisk for 5-7 minutes. Slowly stir in 1 cup hot soup. Add another 3 cups and stir until smooth. Add all back into the slow cooker. Stir and add the Parmesan cheese, warmed half and half, salt and pepper. Add additional basil and oregano if needed (the slow cooker does a number on spices and they get bland over time, so don’t be afraid to always season to taste at the end). Cover and cook on LOW for another 30 minutes or so until ready to serve. Nothing better than good bread to go with Soup! Jalapeno, Cheddar and Cauliflower Muffins (a low carb and gluten free favorite) Makes 12 muffins 2 cups finely riced, raw cauliflower ( To “rice”…cut the cauliflower into slices, then process it in a food processor until the cauliflower pieces are about the size of rice grains or you can cut the cauliflower into chunks and grate them into small pieces using a grater.) 2 Tbs minced jalapeno 2 eggs, beaten 2 Tbs melted butter 1/3 cup grated parmesan cheese 1 cup grated mozzarella cheese 1 cup grated cheddar cheese 1 Tbs dried onion flakes 1/4 tsp salt 1/4 tsp black pepper 1/2 tsp garlic powder www.scwomanmagazine.com 1/2 tsp baking powder 1/4 cup coconut flour (you can find coconut flour at natural food stores or online) Combine the cauliflower, jalapeno, eggs, add melted butter in a medium bowl. Add the grated cheeses and mix well. Stir in the onion flakes, salt, pepper, garlic powder, baking powder and coconut flour until thoroughly combined. 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Bring mixture together with hands and place on a lightly floured surface. Spread out dough with hands. You can make the biscuits thicker if you choose. Use biscuit cutter to cut out biscuits. Makes about 12 biscuits, it depends on how thick you make them. Bake for 10-15 minutes depending on oven, or until golden brown. Magnolia OB/GYN, LLC OF MYRTLE BEACH We believe the patient always comes first! 8203 Nigels Dr. Myrtle Beach, (Suite 100) 449-5848 www.magnoliaobgyn.com Safe No pills. No hormonal side effects. Effective For 90% of women, menstrual bleeding is dramatically reduced or stopped. Quick NovaSure is a one-time, five-minute procedure that can be done in your doctor’s office, usually for the cost of a copay. Painless With use of Anesthesia. Talk to your doctor at Magnolia OB/GYN about NovaSure or visit www.novasure.com for more information today! Hologic, Data on file, 2009. 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In a medium bowl add the sour cream and eggs and mix well. Add the corn, meal, and chopped onion, and melted butter. Add peppers and cheese if desired. Stir until blended and pour into iron skillet. Bake 425 degrees for 20-30 minutes or until top is golden brown. Add a couple of Teaspoons of melted butter to the skillet before pouring the batter in for an extra measure of butter taste and crisp crust. www.scwomanmagazine.com 114-A Hwy 17 N. Surfside Beach 238-3622 Art Vintage Jewelry Crafts Handbags Candles Antiques Collectables Gift Baskets Home Accessories Fabric Floral Arrangements Sports Memorabilia & Plaques Sun. 1-5 Mon-Fri 9-6 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine Sat. 10-5 homespuncrafters.com January 2015 43 Credit Corner Repositioning By Theresa Ross Here we are at the beginning of a New Year; new things to ponder, new goals to establish, new beginnings and a time to re-position ourselves. Isn’t it great that at least once a year we have a ‘do-over’? It is at this time we can reposition ourselves into a better place whether it be physically or financially. We are all pondering what we would like to accomplish this New Year of 2015 and for each one of us that looks totally different. I would like to think we are thinking about repositioning ourselves into a better place financially. It is said that one-third of Americans are living paycheck to paycheck and have no savings; that we are spending $1.26 of every $1.00 we earn. Our economy still has not fully bounced back from the fall-out a couple of years ago. We are still climbing out ever so slowly, but still climbing out. If we think about our finances and where we would like to be at the end of 2015 we have to also think about repositioning ourselves today. We have to not only think about what we need to do, but also what is it going to take to get us to that position and then actually take action. I have always said a written plan is always best because you can always look at that written plan and revise it if needed or perhaps look at it with excitement as we realize that we are meeting our goals or at best are in a better position than we were when we started our written plan. What does that plan look like to you? Do you need to put away the credit cards? Start a “cash only’ system? Or going back to what our grandparents did – if you don’t have the money you either save for it or just don’t buy it. Do you need to sell some stuff that you no longer use or need? I think we all have more than we actually need. Do you need to think about how to generate more income? For some would that be taking on an extra job or coming up with something creative to sell or market. Do you need to learn how to say the word “no”? This is a hard one especially for parents or those who have the heart that wants to help everyone. Just a word of advice: just because there is a need does not mean that it is you that needs to meet that need. Only help because you want to or you feel lead to, not because you feel pressured or obligated to do so. What does your written plan look like and are you ready to take that step to write it? Do I Really Need This! Whatever your plans, whatever your goals I think we all want to reposition ourselves to a better place for 2015 and be able to say at the end of the year that we are better because we had a plan and we stuck to that plan. I wish you much happiness and prosperity in the New Year. Theresa can be reach for questions or comments at [email protected] 44 J a n u a r y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine www.scwomanmagazine.com I Am A Forever Kitten By Kim Hurley Cat’s Meow Veterinary Hospital I’m not an “until I grow up and you get bored with me” kitten I’m not an “until you have a boyfriend or girlfriend, or get married” kitten. I’m not an “until you have a baby” kitten. I’m not an “until you have no time for me” kitten. I’m not an “until you move into a new home” kitten. I’m not an “until I grow old or you get a new cat” kitten. I’m not an “until I need medical care” kitten. IF YOU CAN’T PROMISE ME FOREVER…. THEN I’M NOT YOUR KITTEN It’s Really That Simple. Cat’s Meow Veterinary Hospital promises to always take care of your Forever Feline Friends. Come see us in the new year at our brand New Location. We have grown to better serve you! Kim Hurley, owner, Cat’s Meow Veterinary Hospital 4720 Hwy. 17 Bypass S. Unit B, Myrtle Beach, SC 29588 843-839-1999 www.scwomanmagazine.com South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine January 2015 45 Women in Business Teresa Kerr & Tomalina Coggins, August Spa & Wellness Teresa Kerr Nail Specialist & Esthetician Tell our readers about your business.... August Spa & Wellness is a cozy little day spa that offers luxury services at reasonable prices. We hope that when our customers walk in they feel right at home with us and their surroundings. Our services are designed to relax and replenish your skin, nails, body and soul. How did you get started in your business... After reinventing myself at 50 and going back to school I received a call from Tomalina Coggins, my now business partner, asking me if I wanted to join her in a leap of faith and open up our own place. I am a firm believer in “if it’s meant to be it will work out” and all the pieces just fell into place one by one. What is the most important lesson you have learned from having your own business... Don’t be afraid to ask for help, always be open to new ideas, and surround yourself with great people. ( I guess that is really three lessons ) What hobbies or activities do you like to do when you’re off ... I have a great love for repairing and re-purposing old furniture that others may have giving up on.... And of course... Spending time with my furry baby, Bella. What do you think has made you the woman you are today? Who had a positive influence on you? My family that has always been there to support me, lift me up and give me strength, they have collectively shaped the woman I am today. In business, Ed Fleming of J Edwards restaurant had the most positive influence on me. He taught me customer service always comes first, his philosophy was “Treat them the way you like to be treated”... And most of the time respect gets respect. These values have guided me for several years and still resonate with me today; it’s a simple idea that really goes a long way in customer service – which in turn helps your business grow. Tomalina Coggins LMT/Esthetician Tell our readers about your business... August Spa & Wellness is a cozy place where you can 46 J a n u a r y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine unwind and relax your mind and body. We have everything you need to pamper yourself from head to toe. We offer massage, facials, waxing, lash extensions, manicures and pedicures. All of our services are customized to your specific needs. So come in and let us de-stress, pamper and rejuvenate your body and soul!! How did you get started in your business? Who doesn’t like being pampered!! I love helping others and making people feel and look their very best. I have been an Esthetician for over 10 years and a Massage Therapist for 3 years. I have worked in different spas along the Grand Strand over the years and I knew at this point I was finally ready to open my own place. I am very passionate about my work and love to educate my clients on the importance of taking care of their skin and overall well-being. What is the most important lesson you have learned from having your own business? You get out what you put in and having your own business gives you a great sense of self-worth. What hobbies or activities do you like to do when you’re off? When I am not at work I enjoy spending quality time with my family. Whether it’s going to the beach or just hanging at the house, as long as I am with them my life is complete!! What advice can you give to women starting their own business? Work hard and believe in yourself!! You are in charge of your own destiny. What do you think has made you the women you are today? Did someone influence you? My Mom has always been my biggest supporter no matter what I was doing and has been a driving force behind the business decisions I have made. She has always allowed me to live my life, make mistakes and learn from them all while never criticizing me. Everything she has done for me has made me the person I am today and without her guidance August Spa wouldn’t have been possible. I also have such an amazing family and support group and thank God every day for my blessings and allowing me to do what I love. August Spa & Wellness is located at 3691 Palmetto Pointe Blvd., Suite 102 in Myrtle Beach. Call 843-294-8014 for an appointment or check them out on facebook at August Spa & Wellness for more details and special promotions. www.scwomanmagazine.com Start Your New Year Being Energy Efficient Fast and Free Cutting back unnecessary energy use is an easy way to keep your hard earned money in your pocket. Here are some suggestions you can do at home, at absolutely no cost to you. Let the sunshine in. Open drapes and let the sun heat your home for free (get them closed again at sundown so they help insulate). Rearrange your rooms. Move your furniture around so you are sitting near interior walls - exterior walls and older windows are likely to be drafty. Don’t sit in the draft. Keep it shut. Traditional fireplaces are an energy loser - it’s best not to use them because they pull heated air out of the house and up the chimney. When not in use, make absolutely sure the damper is closed. Before closing the damper, make sure that you don’t have any smoldering embers. If you decide not to use a fireplace, then block off the chimney with a piece of rigid insulation from the hardware store that fits snugly into the space (dampers don’t shut fully without some leaking). Eliminate wasted energy. Turn off lights in unoccupied rooms. Unplug that spare refrigerator in the garage if you don’t truly need it this seemingly convenient way to keep extra drinks cold adds 10-25 percent to your electric bill. Turn off kitchen and bath-ventilating fans after they’ve done their job - these fans can blow out a house-full of heated air if inadvertently left on. Keep your fireplace damper closed unless a fire is burning to prevent up to 8 percent of your furnace-heated air from going up the chimney. Shorten showers. Simply reducing that lingering time by a few minutes can save hundreds of gallons of hot water per month for a family of four. Showers account for 2/3 of your water heating costs. Cutting your showers in half will reduce your water heating costs by 33 percent. Use appliances efficiently. Do only full loads when using your dishwasher and clothes washer. Use the cold water setting on your clothes washer when you can. Using cold water reduces your washer’s energy use by 75 percent. Be sure to clean your clothes dryer’s lint trap after each use. Use the moisture-sensing automatic drying setting on your dryer if you have one. Put your computer and monitor to sleep. Most computers come with the power management features turned off. On computers using Windows, open your power management software and set it so your computer goes to sleep if you’re away from your machine for 5 to 15 minutes. Those who use Macintosh computers look for the setting in your Control Panels called “Energy Saver” and set it accordingly. When you’re done using your computer, turn it off (see next tip). Do not leave it in sleep mode overnight as it is still drawing a small amount of power. Plug “leaking energy” in electronics. Many new TVs, VCRs, chargers, computer peripherals and other electronics use electricity even when they are switched “off.” Although these “standby losses” are only a few watts each, they add up to more than 50 watts in a typical home that is consumed all the time. If possible, unplug electronic devices and chargers that have a block-shaped transformer on the plug when they are not in use. For computer scanners, printers and other devices that are plugged into a power strip, simply switch off the power strip after shutting down your computer. The best way to minimize these losses of electricity is to purchase ENERGY STAR® products. Inexpensive Energy Solutions Every home is different. With a quick trip to your local hardware store, you have even more choices at hand. Choose ENERGY STAR® Products. Replace incandescent light bulbs with ENERGTY STAR compact fluorescent light bulbs, especially in high-use light fixtures. Compact fluorescent lights use 75 percent less energy than incandescent lights. Plug your home’s leaks. Install weatherstripping or caulk leaky doors and windows and install gaskets behind outlet covers. Savings up to 10 percent on energy costs. www.scwomanmagazine.com Install low flow showerheads. If you do not already have them, low-flow showerheads and faucets can drastically cut your hot water expenses. Savings of 10-16 percent of water heating costs. Wrap the hot water tank with jacket insulation. This is especially valuable for older water heaters with little internal insulation. Be sure to leave the air intake vent uncovered when insulating a gas water heater. Savings up to 10 percent on water heating costs. Check out our Tighten It Up Section for more ways to make your home as comfortable and energy-efficient as possible. Good Energy-Saving Investments Do you need any new appliances, or are you planning to do some remodeling? Consider these energy efficiency suggestions before you purchase. Choose ENERGY STAR appliances and electronics. When buying new appliances, choose ENERGY STAR-certified models. For example, a new ENERGY STAR refrigerator uses about 20 percent less energy than a standard new refrigerator, and 46 percent less than one made in 1980. A new Energy Star® clothes washer uses nearly 50 percent less energy than a standard washer. Install a programmable thermostat. If you have a heat pump, select a model designed for heat pumps. Set-back thermostats can save up to 15 percent on energy costs. Increase ceiling insulation. If your ceiling is uninsulated or scantily insulated, consider increasing your insulation to up to R-38 to reduce heating costs by 5-25 percent. Seal ducts. Leaking ductwork accounts for more than 25 top 30 percent of heating costs in an average California home. Consider hiring a contractor to test the tightness of your ducts and repair leaks and restrictions in your duct. Many utilities have programs to assist you. Check out the Flex Your Power Web site for rebate and consumer programs or contact or local utility. High-efficiency windows. If you are planning to replace your windows, choosing ENERGY STAR windows can reduce your heating and cooling costs by up to 15 percent. For more ways to make your home as comfortable and energy-efficient as possible, check out our Tighten It Up Section. www.consumerenergycenter.org South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine January 2015 47 Is Your Toothpaste Damaging Your Teeth? By Jeffrey W. Horowitz, DMD, FAGD Just take a stroll down any toothpaste aisle and it becomes apparent why people are so confused as to which toothpaste is best. Perhaps a better way to look at this is to ask which toothpastes are worst. By worst I mean which toothpastes have the highest propensity to damage the teeth; And yes, many FDA and ADA approved toothpastes can be harmful to the teeth! Toothpaste makers are well aware of this and regularly measure their product’s abrasivity. It’s necessary for FDA approval and usually is not included in marketing. Abrasivity measurements are given in what’s known as an RDA value, which stands for the relative dentin abrasivity. So how hard is a tooth? A Mohs unit is how you rate the hardness of a crystalline structure (this includes teeth). For instance, the Mohs hardness of a diamond is 10, while the Mohs hardness of glass is 5. The Mohs hardness of tooth enamel is also 5, while Mohs hardness of dentin (the second Myrtle Beach Estates Discover The Difference Myrtle Beach Estates is an Assisted Living and Memory Care community that offers services including: • 24-hour staffing • Wellness, walking, balance and exercise classes • Recreation and entertainment programs • Bathing, dressing and grooming assistance • 24-hour access to licensed nurses • Medication management Some apartment amenities include: • Several floor plans to choose from • Spacious bathroom and walk-in showers • Emergency response system • Individual climate control • All utilities, including basic cable (expect telephone) For more information, Please call us at 843-293-8888 3620 Happy Woods Court, Myrtle Beach, SC. or visit us online at myrtlebeachestates.net. 48 J a n u a r y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine layer of the tooth is 2.5. Sodium bicarbonate (baking soda) has a Mohs hardness value of 2.5 and an RDA value of 7. It is the dentin or root of the tooth that is most effected by toothpaste abrasion. This means that any toothpaste with a higher RDA value than 7 has the potential to cut dentin. Research shows that 50% of toothpaste abrasion occurs in the first 20 seconds of brushing. So the spot that your toothbrush-toothpaste hits first will receive the most abrasion damage. Big toothbrushes and lots of highly abrasive toothpaste, such as whitening toothpastes and Crest Pro-Health, have the potential to do an incredible amount of damage. The Crest Pro-health RDA value is 189! But there are also many other modifying factors that can enhance toothpaste abrasivity, such as amount of toothpaste, size of brush, bristle size and texture, frequency of brushing, length of brushing time, force of brushing, brushing speed or strokes per minute, recent soda consumption, recent bleaching, dryness of mouth, and many more factors. As the topic of this article is toothpastes, I have provided a list of frequently used toothpaste products and their corresponding RDA values. See if you can find your favorite brand of toothpaste. If your toothpaste RDA exceeds 7 and you’re experiencing sensitivity, a simple test would be to change toothpastes to a lesser RDA toothpaste for a short while. If the sensitivity goes away, you have diagnosed the problem. Whitening and tartar control toothpastes by nature are more abrasive and should be avoided when possible. Interestingly enough, some sensitivity toothpastes are quite abrasive, and actually strip away the surfaces they are desensitizing; Talk about creating life-long customers! Toothpaste RDA Values (Relative Dentin Abrasivity) – Tooth Cutting Ability These are RDA values for common toothpaste: 0-70= low abrasive, 70-100= medium abrasive, 100-150= highly abrasive, 150-250= regarded as harmful limit. So with all of this information, which toothpaste is best? My professional opinion is that the Arm and Hammer products offer many of the features patients are looking for along with small particle size. Colgate and Pronamel products are also very kind to tooth structure. As a general rule, I never recommend tartar control toothpastes, particularly those with Triclosan, as many have been known to cause sensitivity. Please make sure that any toothpaste you choose contains fluoride. The right toothpaste along with good brushing and regular dental cleanings will help assure fewer long-term dental problems. www.scwomanmagazine.com Toothpaste RDA Values RDA Toothpaste Brand and Variety Values Source 0 non-alcoholic mouthrinse (Biotene PBF(*Green Label), Act II Anticavity, Crest Pro-Health Complete, Oasis, Listerine Zero, Peridex, Peroxyl and water) 7 straight baking soda (The Arm & Hammer Yellow Box) 8 Arm & Hammer Tooth Powder 23 Biotene PBF Drymouth Toothpaste 25 Pronamel Church & Dwight Church & Dwight 30 KID’S TOOTH GEL STRAWBERRY-RASPBERRY (ph value: 7.0-7.5) 30 Elmex Sensitive Plus Lavera Elmex 42 Arm & Hammer Peroxicare Tartar Control Church & Dwight 42 Arm & Hammer Advance White Baking Soda Peroxide Church & Dwight 42 Arm & Hammer Peroxicare Regular Church & Dwight 45 Oxyfresh 44-53 Squigle Enamel Saver 49 Arm & Hammer Peroxicare Tartar Control 49 Tom’s of Maine Sensitive (given as 40’s) Tom’s 53 Rembrandt Original (RDA) Rembrandt Church & Dwight 53 CloSYS 57 Tom’s of Maine Children’s, Wintermint (given as mid-50’s) 60 Boiron Homeodent Natural Toothpaste-Lemon Flavor 62 Supersmile 62 Clinpro 5000 Fluoride Toothpaste Tom’s Supersmile 63 Rembrandt Mint (‘Heffernan RDA’) 63 Biotene Regular Rembrandt 68 Colgate Regular 70 Colgate Total Colgate-Palmolive 70 Arm & Hammer Advance White Sensitive Church & Dwight 70 Colgate 2-in-1 Fresh Mint (given as 50-70) Colgate-Palmolive 70-76 Squigle Tooth Builder 79 Sensodyne Colgate-Palmolive 80 AIM Unilever 80 Close-Up Unilever 83 Colgate Sensitive Maximum Strength Colgate-Palmolive 85 Biotene Sensitive 91 Aquafresh Sensitive 93 Tom’s of Maine Regular (given as high 80’s low 90’s) Squigle (Tom’s) 94 Rembrandt Plus Rembrandt 94 Plus White Indiana Study 95 Kid’s Crest Colgate-Palmolive Colgate-Palmolive 95 Crest Regular (possibly 99) P&G (P&G) 101 Natural White Indiana Study 103 Mentadent Squigle 104 Sensodyne Extra Whitening Colgate-Palmolive 104 Sensodyne Repair and Protect with Novamin (Purchased on Amazon.com) GSK Pharmaceuticals 106 Colgate Platinum Indiana Study 106 Arm & Hammer Advance White Paste Church & Dwight 107 Crest Sensitivity Protection Colgate-Palmolive 110 Amway Glister (given as upper boundry) Patent US06174515 112 Prevident 5000 Booster 113 Aquafresh Whitening Indiana Study 117 Arm & Hammer Advance White Gel Church & Dwight 120 Close-Up with Baking Soda (canadian) Unilever 124 Colgate Whitening Indiana Study 130 Crest Extra Whitening with Scope Indiana Study 130 Crest Pro-Health with Scope (Crest for Me) Burt’s Bees, Inc. 133 Ultra brite (or 120-140) Colgate-Palmolive 144 Crest MultiCare Whitening P&G 145 Ultra brite Advanced Whitening Formula P&G 150 Pepsodent (given as upper bound) Unilever 165 Colgate Tartar Control (given as 155-165) Colgate-Palmolive 189 Crest Pro-Health P&G 200 Colgate 2-in-1 Tartar Control/Whitening or Icy Blast/Whitening (given as 190-200) Colgate-Palmolive 200 recommended limit 250 recommended limit FDA ADA Dr Horowitz is a 1991 graduate of The Medical University of South Carolina, College of Dental Medicine and completed a General practice residency at the Mountainside Hospital in Montclair, N.J. He is a Fellow of the Academy of General Dentistry as well as a member of the American Academy of Cosmetic Dentistry, the American Orthodontic Society, The American Academy of Craniofacial Pain, The Dental Organization for Conscious Sedation, and The American Academy of Dental Sleep Medicine. He is the founder and owner of the Carolina Center for Advanced Dentistry/ Advanced Sleep and Breathing Centers at 1515 9th Ave., Conway, S.C. He can be contacted at (843) 248-3843 or via the practice website. www.carolinacosmeticdental.com www.scwomanmagazine.com South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine January 2015 49 Falling in love is magical, but staying in love can feel like the impossible dream! This Valentine’s Day rekindle the fire in your romance with three easy tips offered by Deanna Brann, PhD, Huffington Post Wedding blogger and author of Reluctantly Related: Secrets To Getting Along With Your Mother-in-Law or Daughter-in-Law: 1. Schedule at least two date nights a month. Once a week would be better, but start with two times a month 50 and work your way up to once a week. Insist on two important ground rules for date night: No smartphones or tablets and no conversations about kids or work (unless work is part of your goal setting, which we’ll get to in a moment). Find other things to talk about—get to know each other all over again. Neither of you are exactly the same person the other first fell in love with. You’ve both grown and matured. So allow your partner to be part of J a n u a r y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine your personal evolution and allow yourself to be part of his. 2. Discuss your deepest desires by establishing short-term and longrange goals as individuals, as a couple, and as a family. Once a year, take some time away from all your other responsibilities so you and your spouse can talk about these different goals, the steps you’ll need to take to make them happen, and how you can help each other achieve them. After all, it’s easier to reach your goals if you support each other—and if you make sure you’re not unwittingly working against each other, as well. But more importantly, opening up to one another about what you most want in life can be a very emotionally intimate experience. So go for it! Don’t hold back. 3. Establish a monthly desire debriefing. Sit down together (maybe over a nice dinner out) and talk about the headway you’re making toward achieving all these goals. Is there something your spouse could help you with that would make reaching your goals easier? Is there something you could help him with? Do you need to re-evaluate your goals? What are each of you feeling good about in this process? Checking in once a month increases the likelihood that you’ll reach your goals, and it ensures you’ll be regularly connecting at a deep and meaningful level. It certainly trumps talking about your toddler’s penchant for putting peas up his nose. Trust me on this. Deanna Brann, Ph.D., is a leading expert in the field of mother-inlaw/daughter-in-law relationships. She has over 25 years experience as a clinical psychotherapist and ran her own private practice for more than 18 years. Based in Knoxville, TN, Dr. Brann is a sought after speaker, author and seminar leader. She is also the author of Mothers-in-Law and Daughters-in-Law Say the Darndest Things. Website: www.drdeannabrann.com Reluctantly Related is available on Net Galley, www.amazon.com and through www.drdeannabrann.com www.scwomanmagazine.com Outdoor Living – Indoor Lifestyle: Happy 2015 20 Minutes at a Time Making 2015 your happiest year yet, twenty minutes at a time. When life gets busy, and it always does, it’s easy to let our wellness routines become anything but routine. While taking some time for ourselves can be a challenge, it doesn’t have to become an afterthought. Activities like exercise, meditation and personal reflection may very well be the missing ingredient to jump-starting productivity and regaining a positive outlook on our day-to-day lives. The next time your schedule has you feeling out-of-sorts or maybe just a little overwhelmed, remember to carve out some time for you. Try challenging yourself to one of the activities below. They’re only twenty minutes and the benefits will truly start to add up. These quick breaks are perfect for weaving into a busy schedule and will leave you feeling refreshed and ready to tackle whatever life has in store. Give it a try. Whether you make time for one or time for four, the important thing is you’re taking control by making time for what’s important…you! Here are a few ideas to start with, but remember to choose what makes you feel the best. 20-Minute Spa Session Give your body the renewal it craves. Release muscle tension and relieve joint pain. Improve circulation by 102%. Flush toxins out of the body. Carolina Home Exteriors is ready to get you happy in your ideal Caldera Spa® today. 20-Minute Walk, Hike or Run Get out there and soak in the sun. Burn 75 calories by walking just 2 mph Reduce stress and improve your mood with the release of endorphins Improve bone health with Vitamin D from the sun 20-Minute Meditation Find a little inner peace. Manage stress and reduce blood pressure Improve focus throughout the day Sleep deeper and go to sleep faster 20-Minute Yoga Session Get in shape and loosen up those muscles. Release muscle tension. Build strength and gain flexibility www.scwomanmagazine.com Reduce cytokine by 41% to energize and boost mood Meditating under the shade of a pergola will allow you the fresh air you need without worry of too much sun. Carolina Home Exteriors can help you figure out exactly what is right for your needs. 20-Minute Mind Challenge Sharpen your mind with brain-teasers and logic puzzles. Improve your memory. Develop your logic and reasoning skills Increase focus and strengthen concentration An outdoor living space such as a sunroom or screen room will allow you to challenge your mind in the comfort of the outdoors with all the luxuries of the indoors. 20-Minute Reflection Write a story, poem, or journal entry about your day. Enhance your memory with expressive writing Get a handle on stress by venting your emotions Enjoy the benefits of having a record of your life Share these wellness challenges with your friends and family. What challenges will you take on? Tell us on our Facebook page, give us a call at (843) 651-6514 or visit our showroom located at 11730 Hwy 17 Bypass in Murrells Inlet. The friendly professionals at Carolina Home Exteriors are here to work with you in making 2015 your best year yet by offering quality outdoor living products and the luxurious line of hot tubs, Caldera Spas®. Visit us on the web at: www.CarolinaHomeExteriors.com Learn more at: http://www.calderaspas.com/health-wellness/20-minute-renewal/invest-in-your-wellness-success%E2%80%9320-minutes-time#sthash.WKuRPsR9.dpuf South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine January 2015 51 Does your child have speech, feeding, or reading difficulties? Please call us to schedule an evaluation. Our new reading programs can help your child become a better reader Nicole Young-Cline M.A., CCC-SLP 52 8703 Hwy 17 Bypass S., Suite I Myrtle Beach 843-457-1053 www.YoungTalkers.com J a n u a r y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine Why New Year’s Resolutions Seldom Work (What to do instead) By Kim Fowler, Fowler Life Coaching According to the University of Scranton, Journal of Clinical Psychology, (January 2014), only 8% of people who make New Year’s resolutions keep them. I can’t even begin to tell you how many resolutions I have made and failed to keep. Any healthy eating, weight loss or workout resolutions came tumbling down at the first sign of my birthday celebration. Since mine is the 13th of January, I figured out quickly that unless I planned around roadblocks, I wouldn’t pass the 2-week mark! Most of us make resolutions we really want to achieve around self-improvement, education, weight, money or relationships. We also have good intentions when we make these important promises to ourselves. However, there are some really good reasons we are not successful in keeping these promises. There are five main reasons most resolutions don’t work: 1. Many resolutions require a behavioral or physical change, and we try to make that change much too quickly. Instead of saying to ourselves “I will start walking a few days a week” and then gradually increasing the pace, we say “I will start running 2 miles a day 6 days a week” and then we burn out quickly. 2. We may not be that committed to the resolution to begin with and it quickly becomes an irrelevant goal. 3. Some resolutions are made without a real compelling reason. What is your real “why” for achieving this resolution? If you have success, then what would be the great result or outcome and what would it mean to you? 4. Some people actually make resolutions just to make them, without any intention of following through on them. They are made on a whim just because the New Year is rolling in, and it makes them feel good to have one. 5. Resolutions don’t always have a plan for success because people don’t think of them as goals. There are many steps to setting and planning goals. Often we don’t think that resolutions deserve the same kind of planning. There is some good news though! If you really want to make big positive changes in the New Year, make real specific meaningful goals. We have a much better success rate in achieving planned, well-thought out goals. So, turn your resolutions into goals and watch yourself succeed! We all have dreams, visions and goals we want to accomplish in our lifetime. Setting and achieving lofty goals gives our lives direction, and brings us closer to our ideal lives. Getting clear about your goal is the most important step. www.scwomanmagazine.com Once you figure out how important your goal will be to you, the whole process becomes easier for you to plan, take action and stay motivated. Here are some tips for setting your goals so that you will achieve the goals that are important to you. Write Your Goal as a Positive Statement Once you figure out which goals are truly important to you, they should be written as positive action statements. They should be worded in a way that motivates you just by saying them. State what you are going to do, not what you are going to stop doing. For instance, instead of saying “quit smoking,” say “live a smoke-free life.” Make Your Goals SMART Statements: Your goal statement should also include the SMART (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Timely) criteria. Specific: Make the goal statement specific so there is no room for interpretation. What specifically do you want to achieve? If your goal is to “run in a race”, and your goal statement is “run”, then your goal may have a different meaning. Measurable: Include tangible measurement criteria in your statement. This will help you manage your goal and track your progress. If your goal is to “run in a 5K race at a pace of 8-minute miles,” then state it. Achievable: Make sure your goal is achievable. If you have never run a mile before, don’t plan to reach your 5Krace goal by next week. Break it down into smaller attainable steps, such as running one mile in 10 minutes by next week and two 9-minute miles in four weeks. Keep the goal within reach. Realistic: Your goal must be realistic, otherwise you are setting yourself up for failure. If you set a plan to run everyday without any days off for your body to rest, you will not be able to reach your goal. Timely: Finally, give yourself a timeframe for completing your goal. If you are going to run your 5K race six months from now, then state it. Give yourself enough time to accomplish the goal, but still keep it challenging so you won’t get bored. Finished Goal Statement: Run a 5K Race for charity, pacing an 8-minute mile on July 15th, 2012. Once you are finished writing your SMART goal statement, display it prominently so you will see it everyday. Now, you are ready to develop your action plan. If you get off-track or derailed, don’t beat yourself up or feel guilty. Remember, today is a new day, and you will find your way. If you would like a free copy of the Seven Proven Steps to Reach Your Goals eBook, then email [email protected]. Or feel free to call me at 202-294-1080 with any questions or comments you may have. Kim Fowler, founder of Fowler Life Coaching (www.fowlercoaching.com), specializes in transitional coaching for those are ready for a big change in their lives. She has her training and certification from the Fowler Wainwright International Institute of Professional Coaching and the International Association of Coaches. She holds her Master ‘s of Business Administration from George Mason University, and lives in Surfside Beach with her husband, Rich, their three cats and Sam the parakeet. www.scwomanmagazine.com I WILL HEAR BETTER THIS YEAR Call today for your appointment! Dr. Pamela Benbow Doctor of Audiology 843.484.0981 MYRTLE BEACH 5913 N Kings Hwy CONWAY 1415 Third Ave, Ste 103 hearinghealthcare.net South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine January 2015 53 12 Retirement Planning Myths That Convert Your Golden Years Into Lead Are These Common Misconceptions Getting In The Way Of Your Retirement Security? When it comes to retirement planning there is no shortage of conventional wisdom – some of it dead wrong. Beware of formulaic rules of thumb masqueradBy ing as truth because they can still be wrong no matter how often they are repeated. What you don’t know can really hurt you in retirement planning. Below are twelve of the most common myths in retirement planning. If you are believing any of these retirement planning myths you could convert your golden years into lead. Retirement Planning Myth 1: I’ll Delay Saving For Retirement Until Later When It is Easier Visit our showroom at 11730 Hwy 17 Bypass Murrells Inlet, SC 29576 54 J a n u a r y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine Many people correctly determine that it will be easier to save money for retirement later in their careers rather than now so they procrastinate getting started – but that is asking the wrong question. 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Otherwise, there are just too many unknowns to plan your retirement for this outcome. Retirement Planning Myth 4: My Spouse Will Take Care Of My Retirement It’s a good bet to rely on your spouse’s retirement – but not a sure bet. Small details like divorce and death can get in the way. Just because your spouse’s retirement was adequate while he/she was alive does not necessarily mean you will be financially secure in the event of death or divorce. Before you bet your retirement security on your spouse’s retirement make sure you understand all the details. Retirement Planning Myth 5: My Company And Medicare Will Take Care Of My Health Insurance Needs During Retirement Businesses are having a hard time coping with increasing health insurance premiums and are aggressively reducing retiree health coverage. Depending on when you plan to retire and who you work for you will probably be on your own for health insurance. Retirement Planning Myth 6: I Will Only Need 70% – 80% Of www.scwomanmagazine.com nobody knows because the future is unknowable. What we My Pre-Retirement Income During Retirement do know, however, is if your retirement budget is based on If only life were so simple… The truth is estimating the amount you will spend during average expectations and you get less than average results you could be in for a real problem. You need a better plan. retirement is complex and unique to each individual. Retirement Planning Myth 12: I Will Be In A Lower Tax Bracket Oversimplified rules-of-thumb like 70%-80% of pre-retireWhen Retired ment spending deceive more than they illuminate. Says who? Retirement Planning Myth 7: Invest In “Super Safe” Bonds and You may need as much income during retirement as you CDs To Lower Risk and Preserve Capital did before retirement. If your income isn’t going to drop A retirement portfolio built on bonds and CDs made then there’s not much credibility to the idea your taxes are sense for earlier generations when life expectancies were short and inflation was tame, but that isn’t the situation fac- going down. Similarly, top tax rates have been cut by more than half in recent decades and the country has a serious ing today’s retirees. debt and spending problem so the odds are just as good Greater longevity combined with government indebtedthat tax brackets will be rising instead of falling. ness has magnified the risk of inflation to equal or exceed When planning your retirement make sure to plan a fulthe risk of losing principle from fluctuating, growth oriented investments. Most retirees have no choice but to embrace filling lifestyle for yourself. Spend as much time developing this new reality with a less traditional portfolio allocation or your life plan as you do your financial plan. 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Hang framed art close together in a group, and leave some wall space empty. Alternating patterned and plain areas gives the eye rest as it moves around the room, creating calm. If you have patterned upholstery, have one or two pieces slipcovered in a solid fabric to create more plain areas. Slipcovering costs less than half of the price of new furniture, and can be used for seasonal color change as well. Repurpose: Go shopping in your own house for pieces you can reuse in other rooms. Bring a chest of drawers from a rarely used guest room into the living room for use as an end table. Shortterm guests don’t need drawers; you’ll gain storage in one room and declutter the other. If you need a comfortable reading chair in the bedroom, borrow one from the living room and have a slipcover made that matches the bedroom. You’ll have a new chair, and the living room will gain some space. If you need the chair again when entertaining a crowd, just take off the slipcover and move it back out for company. This is one area where some interior design help can be very useful; a designer will look at your home with www.scwomanmagazine.com fresh eyes, and for an hourly fee can create new floor plans and new uses for pieces you have. Recycle: Check out antiques and shops that have vintage pieces. Not only is vintage furniture a bargain, it is often better made than today’s imports. Certain new pieces, like dining room furniture, can cost a small fortune nowadays, and there are beautiful dining sets made in the last 40-80 years at resale shops for a fraction of the cost. Usually they are solid wood, and can have gorgeous mahogany veneers. With a little touch-up and fresh fabric you’ll have whole new room. For upholstered pieces, a bargain chair or sofa from an estate sale can work well with a slipcover to provide occasional seating. This can be a great way to add a piece to a bedroom corner or little-used living room where heavy use isn’t required. Reupholstery can be expensive if the piece needs springs and cushions, so look carefully for items in good condition that just need a facelift. If you have a large house to furnish and are on a budget, vintage pieces can really stretch your decorating dollars and add a lot of personality. In addition, the fabric selection in a decorating shop is much better than the fabric offerings on new sofas. With slipcover fabrics, the choices are tremendous and you can create something truly chic and unique. Buy Quality: One of my favorite bits of advice for my clients is to buy the best quality they can. This does not necessarily mean you should buy the most expensive brands, however. A more eclectic, personal style of decorating mixes inherited pieces, vintage recovered pieces, and modern pieces for media and seating. I have always liked antiques and rustic furnishings because they create a lot of warmth. We prefer American made furniture since it doesn’t warp or crack like some imports. If you choose rustic or painted woods the prices are great and the craftsmenship is excellent. I also like the inviting look of slipcovered upholstery. Soft and comfortable, slipcovered furniture mixes well with both formal antiques and rustic pieces. Washable cotton damask or linen have a unique elegance and are so practical. Looking for quality guarantees that your furniture purchases will last – and not needing to replace furniture is the best barwww.scwomanmagazine.com gain of all. In my design practice, we take the time to show our clients how a good quality piece of furniture is made so they can make an informed decision. Once they have a great sofa frame, all they have to replace in the future is the slipcover, and they can turn their attention instead to other purchases. Over the years they are able to create a much more interesting and personal home. Give Yourself A Lift: Don’t decorate to impress other people – pick your favorite colors, and do what you like. Get a quick lift by adding some colorful new throw pillows. We’ve all heard this tip, but the trick is to go bold for an interesting display. Mix big and small patterns freely, but keep them organized by repeating a major color on each one. Have a few custom made for an elegant result. Learn to do your own painting, and tackle just one room for a splash of new color. Ask a designer to help you rehang all of your art. Change your lampshades to ivory to brighten the whole house. Paint an old piece of furniture a cheerful color, and replace heavy patterned rugs with light colors. You may need some advice to bring in more color and make the most of what you have – but that’s the true joy in creating a home. Kerry Ann Dame is a designer who owns Posh Living Fabric and Furniture in Surfside Beach. Posh is open 12-6 Tues-Fri and 12-4 Sat. (843) 238-0078 PoshSurfside.com NEW BOARD CERTIFICATION DEMONSTRATING HIS COMMITMENT to the treatment of venous disease, Dr. Karl Hubach is the only physician in our area Board Certified in Phlebology and one of only 248 in the country. • Specializing in treatment of Varicose & Spider Veins. • Most services are covered by insurance. • All evaluations and treatments are done by Dr. Hubach in the comfort of the office. • Also offering skin care treatment for rosacea, acne, age spots, spider veins, sun damage, and fine wrinkles. Karl S. Hubach, MD, RVT 4545 Hwy. 17 Bypass Suite A • Murrells Inlet, SC 843-652-5344 (LEGG) www.inletveinspecialists.com South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine January 2015 57 5 Beliefs That Will Radically Transform Your Life By Shannon Kaiser For most of my life, I’ve been chasing success, approval and happiness. I was attracted to shiny objects. Nothing was working. I read new books, attended spiritual retreats, started following new gurus, tried the next best diet craze and juice cleansed for days that felt like months. But after all of it, I still felt bored, lost, empty and alone. Realizing none of my outward efforts ever worked, I did something radically different. Instead of looking on the outside, I retreated inward. The happiness, success and approval I spent years chasing were always just outside my reach. It didn’t matter how many successful benchmarks I hit or could check off my list, or how many people said nice things about me or my work. Because if I didn’t believe it, it never registered. It didn’t matter how others saw me. What mattered is how I saw myself. And that was a pretty grim view. In fact, I spent years avoiding myself. Walking past mirrors with my head down, avoiding looking at people in the eye, ashamed of how I looked and what others might think about me. 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All Rights Reserved. 31204-14_12/14 58 802-A 13th Ave S North Myrtle Beach, SC 29582 (843) 272-1486 www.hearingbydesignnmb.com J a n u a r y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine KAYLA BRACEY JENNIFER REED HAS-0487 HAS-0481 The pivotal moment for me came when I stopped focusing on how my life looked and instead focused on how it felt. I started to ask myself the questions I was seeking outwardly. My inner deep dive revealed new layers. If the answer was no, I asked a follow-up question. What can I do to like myself more today? With small steps I was able to peel back the layers of self-abuse, shame and insecurity. Decades of inner shame were slowly replaced with compassion, gentleness and love. I adopted the belief that there’s a reason I’m going through what I’m going through. I could choose to resist it and push back on life, or I could dive headfirst into the experience and embrace it as if I had chosen it myself. Which is what I did. This choice to embrace life fully must come from inside. Once you find it, your world is forever changed. Choosing to accept yourself as you are in this moment is real freedom. It is also what I was searching for so many years of my life. That emptiness I walked around with was just a lack of self-attention. By giving myself more approval, my life began to transform. My work became more fulfilling, my relationships deeper and, most importantly, I got an inner peace and knowing that all is well and I am as I should be in this moment. A new awareness and acceptance was born. It took time to fall in love with myself, but it started by me first believing in something I couldn’t see or even feel. Hope was my connector. I had to adopt new beliefs in order to reach a new level of self-acceptance. If you’re ready to radically change your life, try believing in these. 1. The unseeable is real. Believing in the unknown, no matter what it is, is part of getting to a new level in your life. If you have a goal, such as losing weight, making a certain amount of money, or meeting your soul mate, but you don’t fully believe it, your efforts will always feel strained. Focus on believing in what you can’t see and turning inward to accept your true self. 2. Beliefs become reality. Our beliefs make up our reality. What we choose to believe dictates our outcome. If I believed I was unworthy of love and bored with life, then that was my reality. But if I believed self-acceptance and self-esteem were possible, that became my new reality. www.scwomanmagazine.com Tips to Writing the Perfect Card or Note Everyone loves to discover a handwritten card or note among a thick stack of mail. Regardless of how many electronic words we get bombarded with each day, the personal touch of a message written by hand remains a special gesture that never goes out of style. From choosing a card or stationery that reflects a personal style to accenting the letter with the right seal or stamp, every detail matters to underscore a thoughtful message. Stamps are often one of the first details noted by a letter recipient, so choosing a stamp such as the love-letter themed Sealed with Love Forever stamp from usps.com/stamps or your local post office is perfect for the occasion. Not sure what sentiment to write for the occasion? Here are a few ideas: Notes of appreciation: Whether the recipient gave you a gift, hosted you for dinner or did a special favor, keep the message brief and sincere. Don’t ever hesitate to send a note of appreciation just to let someone know how truly special they are. Unexpected notes 3. There is always a choice. We’re only stuck by the confines of our fears. Everything we do is always just one choice away. I had the power to choose a new belief. And in doing that, I could change my reality. I chose to believe in myself, and it changed everything. 4. Everything you need is within you right now. If you have a hard time believing in yourself, know that you have the ability to change within you. Remember, just because we can’t see something doesn’t mean it isn’t real. Some of the most magnificent things in the world can’t be seen, but only felt in the heart like love, forgiveness, faith and trust. 5. Struggles and obstacles are part of a plan. Everything you are going through is preparing you for what you have asked for. What you are currently experiencing is part of a bigger plan. Trust the order of life and instead of resisting it, put yourself into it. Trust yourself and have faith you will love yourself. It is already there within you. Just believe. Shannon Kaiser has been labeled a “New Thought leader on the Rise,” by Café Truth. She’s helped thousands of people worldwide through her private life coaching practice, articles, her bestselling book, meditation albums, workshops, courses, and her award winning website PlayWithTheWorld.com. She’s an inspirational author, speaker, travel journalist, teacher, and life coach who left her successful career in advertising several years ago to follow her heart to be a writer. She is the bestselling author of Find Your Happy, an Inspirational Guide to Loving Life to Its Fullest, and a six-time contributing author to Chicken Soup for The Soul www.scwomanmagazine.com are always wonderful to receive. Birthday cards: Celebrate one’s personal accomplishments in the past year and any special events planned in the next year ahead. End by telling your friend or loved one why he or she is so important to you. That message may just be the best gift you can give. Celebratory cards: When acknowledging the birth of a baby or the recent wedding of a friend or relative, pick a card they will want to save and treasure for years to come. When writing your sentiment inside, keep congratulations simple and let them know you share in their joy. New job: Starting a job at a new company or changing one’s career path can be a time for renewal and exciting beginnings. A sincere message wishing a friend or loved one luck and adding advice that he or she might find helpful is often a welcome message to show someone you care. Condolence cards: If a friend is going through a difficult time, share special memories you have of the person who passed away and why you will miss having that person in your life. End by offering to call or visit in the near future. These gestures, plus the card itself, will remind the recipient they aren’t alone in their grief. Remember, cards and notes are about letting another person know how much their friendship, gifts or presence means to you. Follow a simple formula, add a few personal touches and you will soon be writing cards with ease. (Family Features) Photos courtesy of Daniel Afzal/United States Postal Service offers expires 8/18/14 4017 Hwy. 17 Bypass Murrells Inlet 843.357.2851 570 Long Point Road, Suite 100, Mt. Pleasant • 843-971-1919 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine J a n u a r y 2 0 1 5 59 From J.O.B. to M.O.B. “What Dick Taught Me About Reading People” By Gina Trimarco Cligrow Being able to read people through focused observation is one of my strongest skills that has truly developed over time through practice. We all have the ability to do this and it’s very connected to developing a strong intuition, also an innate skill. When I first noticed how strong this skill had become for me I was almost a little weirded out by it; it felt like I had strange overnight psychic abilities to read minds. There have been times when I almost hated having the skill because it comes with a responsibility to others. As busy as I am at the “day job” I would never give up performing and directing shows at my theater (Carolina Improv Company) because it’s the best professional development tool for keeping me on my game in the areas of engaging, leading and selling. It’s rare that I get this opportunity these days due to the success of our consulting business. Recently, the night before Thanksgiving, I directed a show, which is basically being the MC of the show. I instantly connected with a 77 year old man in the front row. His name was Dick. He laughed at everything and nothing, which made me laugh. His affability was my go-to throughout the night; that friendly face that I knew would support every choice I made on stage, even the ones that didn’t work. He was with his family – daughter, grandchildren, cousins. He was clearly the loving and revered patriarch of 60 quite the rowdy bunch. As directors and performers, we typically connect with audience members by “interviewing” them and then using information they provide as ideas for the improv scenes we create. It’s organic and engaging. It makes people feel special because a part of the show was about them. So, I interviewed Dick and asked him what his favorite Christmas gift of all time had been and he said, “My wife.” And the audience melted at his sentiment. Through observation I knew his wife wasn’t in the audience. His answer stifled me internally. There was no need to ask another question like “where is she?” I knew instantly she had passed away. I could see it in his eyes and my heart sunk. This was clearly a sentimental moment for him as he reflected upon his most precious gift as he sat in the audience with his family on the night before Thanksgiving. I moved on though I could feel the audience wanting to know more. I knew that knowing more would bring them down during a comedy show when so many of them, including me, miss loved ones. We proceeded to do an improvised song about “A Man Named Dick” intertwining details about his life that made everyone laugh, especially Dick. At the end of the show Dick hugged me and said thank you for the night. He locked his eyes with mine and his eyes filled with tears as he said, “My wife was truly my best gift for 52 years. I lost her four years ago.” And I said, “I know.” I asked him to please come back and laugh as much as possible because his laughter was so infectious. After everyone left I told the performers about this interaction. Many were surprised. They hadn’t picked up on the cue about Dick’s wife. I was grateful for being able to create an experience for Dick while honoring his need to share his pain. Now, I’m not ALWAYS perfect with this intuition J a n u a r y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine thing as I recently mistook a 26 year old woman for a 12 year old boy … thankfully I was able to recover that situation quickly without embarrassing me or her. To be successful in business you need to be able to read people to create connections and deeper relationships. Re-training your brain to read people will also improve your intuition skills. Here are my top three tips for Reading People: 1. Actively Listen 2. Intently Observe 3. Identify Behavioral Patterns Actively Listen People love to talk and love to be heard. Ask one or two questions about a person and then shut up. It’s the fastest way to create trust and connection. It’s also a quick way to learn about a person and form a baseline for their personality patterns. Listening to vocal cues will also help you read people effectively, whether in person or on the phone. Specifically listen for tone and volume, cadence, word choices, length of responses and accents/dialects. Vocal cues communicate emotion, state of mind, knowledge, points of origin and points of view. Being an active listener takes practice and commitment to re-train the brain, especially with so many distractions in our daily lives. Almost all improv exercises focus on listening and are great tools to improving this skill that many take for granted. Intently Observe Similar to active listening, being a keen observer takes practice and commitment. Sit back, watch and learn! There are many resources out there about body language but there are some basic behaviors that will clue you in what people are thinking and feeling. Take notice of how people lean in to (or away from) you, cross their arms and legs or nervously shake or pace. www.scwomanmagazine.com Also notice the distance between between themselves and others, in addition to their sense of touch (hands on others’ shoulders, hugging). In addition to body language cues are facial expressions. Much is communicated through eye contact, smiling, frowning, tearful/tire eyes, lip twitches, clenched/tense jaws, and burrowed brows. Identify Behavioral Patterns One of the most important things improv performers learn in the improv comedy world is the importance of patterns and “game of the scene”. Improv scenes have patterns, usually inspired by audience reaction. It’s the cause and effect of doing something that creates a reaction in others and then choosing to repeat or change the action. For example, when a child does something that elicits a laugh from adults that child will typically repeat the action until the laughter stops. Improv performers do the same thing on stage in comedy. Contrastly, if the audience groans at something the performers do they know they need to pull back and try something new. Doing this dance of identifying and establishing patterns can help you determine what makes people tick so that you can better connect with them. To reiterate, reading people is a practice that results in better relationships and increased revenue. AND it’s fun! It’s guys like Dick who remind me of the importance of human connection and customer experience. Most of us truly want to create that for others. And the moral of the story? Pay attention to Dick! How can I help you build your business? Want to bounce something off me? Let’s talk! www.TimeWithGina.com Gina Trimarco Cligrow owns and operates Gina & Company Coaching & Consulting, a business coaching and consulting firm, in addition to Carolina Improv Company, a business training and entertainment company with a 75-seat theater (Uptown Theater) located inside the Myrtle Beach Mall. For more information visit www.GinaAndCompany.com. Let me know what you think. Drop me a line at [email protected] or call me at 843-597-6393. Diane Aversano, Organizing & Productivity Consultant www.organizingmadesimple2.com [email protected] 843-385-1204 3822 Palmetto Dr. Myrtle Beach, SC 29577 www.scwomanmagazine.com ORGANIZINGMADESIMPLE2 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine J a n u a r y 2 0 1 5 61 HOLISTIC MOM A Healthier You in the New Year (And it has nothing to do with food and dieting!) By Meaghan Grettano Well we’ve blinked and another year has passed us by. 2015 is here welcoming us with arms wide open and of course this leaves us thinking about some resolutions for ourselves. This so often brings us to thoughts of how we can improve our health in the coming year. Maybe we want to drink less soda. We want to lose 30 pounds. We want to get to the gym more and have more energy. Over the past several years my career as a health coach has taught me that our health is about so much more than the food we put in our mouth. This is important, of course! We all could benefit from eating more green vegetables and less fast food. But, truth of the matter is that things such as our environment, our thoughts, our relationships, and our careers play a big part in whether our body is healthy or not. So this year, let’s turn our thoughts and attention to simple small changes that we can make each and every day which can make massive, positive impacts on our physical and mental health. Because really…it’s all about the little things! These are just a few habits I’ve committed to in my life over the past few years and I can honestly say, they’ve made a big positive impact on my overall wellness. 1- Expressing gratitude. Doing this outwardly towards others in the form of showing thanks and appreciation is wonderful. But here’s another thought…when you wake up in the morning and before you get out of bed, give yourself a quiet moment to show appreciation for all you have in your life. This can be done as you’re stretching and rolling out of bed. Give thanks for something you’re looking forward to that day, no matter how small and simple it is. Your first hot cup of coffee. Having lunch at your favorite restaurant on your lunch break. A long stretch and a few deep breaths. A hug from a loved one. Beginning your day with WINE LIGHTS recycled wine bottles into nitelites! Come visit us at HUDSON’S FLEA MARKET Send your check for $20 to: Open Friday & Saturday 9 AM - 1 PM Donna Tyson P.O. Box 15052 Surfside Beach, SC 29587 Building F (behind Bldg A!) Wine Lights As well as Chandelier, wreaths,candles and more! [email protected] 843-222-0905 62 J a n u a r y 2 0 1 5 South Carolina Wo m a n Magazine www.scwomanmagazine.com thoughts of gratitude as opposed to worry and anxiety can play a massive part in improving our health. 2 - Drink a glass of lemon water. First thing. Our bodies could all use some help eliminating toxins and cleansing. One of the single most beneficial things you can do to improve your health is to drink a tall glass of water with lemon upon rising, before anything else. You can use the juice from a fresh lemon, or simply add a drop of essential oil to your water. (which is so much more convenient and a lot quicker!) Lemon water is extremely cleansing to our system. When taken first thing in the morning, it helps get our internal systems going, helps to cleanse our organs and flush out toxins. This is an amazing habit to get into. Challenge yourself to make this one simple addition to your morning in the coming year and your body will surely thank you! 3 - Designate screen free time. We are inundated with information today by way of email and social media. And often, our work bleeds into our personal time at home with the use of smartphones and technology. This can make us very efficient at what we do and helps us to stay connected in ways that were never imaginable before, but it can also be harmful. With a screen in our face much of the day, we are often times distracted from what is happening right before us. We’re working and responding to emails at obscene hours of the day and night. This is a delicate thing to balance because, like I said, it creates enormous efficiency, but with that comes an overload of stress and anxiety. (which are toxins!) This can wreck havoc on our health. Designate screen free time in your life. This can be on Sunday when you are with friends and family. It can be between certain hours of the day where you feel you need to prioritize some rest and relaxation or connect with a loved one. Or, you can turn off all electronics after 9 pm. It’s really just whatever schedule and time frame works for you. The point is to give your body and mind a chance to relax and unwind in other ways. This can help with stress in huge ways! Happy New Year and here’s to good health in 2015! Meaghan is a holistically-minded certified health coach living in Wilmington, NC with her husband and two children. 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