Here are the songs we sang this Sunday. This shows the song name

Here are the songs we sang this Sunday. This shows
the song name, the artist who performed the song, and
the cd that contains the song.
Worth it All – Ben Cantelon – Everything in Color
Amazed – Ross Parsley – I Am Free
Jesus, You Are Worthy – Brenton Brown –
The Wonderful Cross
In Christ Alone – Geoff Moore/Adrienne Liesching –
The Best of Modern Worship: Worship Together
I Will Run to You – Hillsong – God is in the House
Developing Emotionally Healthy Relationships
(Part 6)
Proverbs
Some Biblical tensions
Proverbs 13:20
20Whoever
walks with the wise becomes wise, but
the companion of fools will suffer harm.
Proverbs 14:7
7Leave
the presence of a fool, for there you do not
meet words of knowledge.
Some Biblical tensions
Matthew 5:21-22 (ESV)
21 “You have heard that it was said to those
of old, ‘You shall not murder; and whoever
murders will be liable to judgment.’ 22 But I
say to you that everyone who is angry with
his brother will be liable to judgment;
whoever insults his brother will be liable to
the council; and whoever says, ‘You fool!’ will
be liable to the hell of fire.
Some Biblical tensions
Proverbs 26:4-5
4 Do not answer a fool according to his folly,
or you yourself will be just like him.
5 Answer a fool according to his folly,
or he will be wise in his own eyes.
The Need for Emotionally
Healthy Relationships
Healthy vs. Unhealthy People
Speaking the truth in love
Understanding Boundaries
Boundary Problems
Don’t fall prey to relational
anorexia!
Learn to Discern
Speak the truth in love
Boundaries define what is and
what is not my responsibility
Understand & maintain healthy
boundaries
Recommended reading for this morning:
Fool-Proofing Your Life by Jan Silvious
Resolving these Biblical tensions
The difference between loving others and
being at peace with others
– Romans 12:18
18 If it is possible, as far as it depends on
you, live at peace with everyone.
Resolving these Biblical tensions
The difference between calling a person a
“fool” in anger vs. discerning behaviors that
reflect a true fool
– Matthew 5:21-22 (ESV)
21 “You
have heard that it was said to those of
old, ‘You shall not murder; and whoever murders
will be liable to judgment.’ 22 But I say to you that
everyone who is angry with his brother will be
liable to judgment; whoever insults his brother
will be liable to the council; and whoever says,
‘You fool!’ will be liable to the hell of fire.”
Apply the wisdom of
Proverbs in order to
fool-proof your life
WARNINGS:
We need to be careful not to be hasty in
classifying someone as a fool
WARNINGS:
We need to be careful not to judge others
– Matthew 7:1-6
1 “Do
not judge, or you too will be judged.
2 For in the same way you judge others,
you will be judged, and with the measure
you use, it will be measured to you.
3 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust
in your brother’s eye and pay no attention
to the plank in your own eye?
WARNINGS:
We need to be careful not to judge others
– Matthew 7:1-6
4 ”How
can you say to your brother, ‘Let me
take the speck out of your eye,’ when all
the time there is a plank in your own eye?
5 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of
your own eye, and then you will see clearly
to remove the speck from your brother’s
eye.”
WARNINGS:
We need to be careful not to judge others
– Matthew 7:1-6
6 “Do
not give dogs what is sacred; do not
throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they
may trample them under their feet, and
turn and tear you to pieces.”
WARNINGS:
We need to examine ourselves
– Matthew 7:4-5
4 ”How
can you say to your brother, ‘Let me
take the speck out of your eye,’ when all
the time there is a plank in your own eye?
5 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of
your own eye, and then you will see clearly
to remove the speck from your brother’s
eye.”
A fool is always right
Proverbs 12:15 (ESV)
15 The way of a fool is right in his own eyes,
but a wise man listens to advice.
Proverbs 18:2
2 Fools
find no pleasure in understanding
but delight in airing their own opinions.
A fool is self-contained instead of Goddependent
Proverbs 28:26
26 Those who trust in themselves are fools,
but those who walk in wisdom are kept safe.
Proverbs 1:7
7 The fear of the LORD is the beginning of
knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and
instruction.
A fool is deceitful
Proverbs 14:8
8 The wisdom of the prudent is to give thought
to their ways, but the folly of fools is
deception.
A fool is complacent
Proverbs 1:32
32 For the waywardness of the simple will kill
them, and the complacency of fools will
destroy them….
A fool is angry
Proverbs 29:11
11 Fools give full vent to their rage,
but the wise bring calm in the end.
A fool rarely apologizes for his/her offenses
Proverbs 14:9
9 Fools mock at making amends for sin,
but goodwill is found among the upright.
A fool causes strife
Proverbs 18:6-7
6 The lips of fools bring them strife,
and their mouths invite a beating.
7 The mouths of fools are their undoing,
and their lips are a snare to their very lives.
A fool spreads slander
Proverbs 10:18
18 Whoever conceals hatred with lying lips
and spreads slander is a fool.
A fool is wearisome
Proverbs 27:3
3 Stone is heavy and sand a burden,
but a fool’s provocation is heavier than both.
A fool enjoys & even brags about his foolishness
Proverbs 10:23
23 A fool finds pleasure in wicked schemes, but
a person of understanding delights in wisdom.
A fool doesn’t learn from his mistakes
Proverbs 26:11
11 As a dog returns to its vomit,
so fools repeat their folly.
Pray & ask for God’s wisdom
James 1:5
5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask
God, who gives generously to all without
finding fault, and it will be given to you.
Read & study the book of Proverbs
Proverbs 2:2-5
2My son, if you accept my words
and store up my commands within you,
2 turning your ear to wisdom
and applying your heart to understanding—
3 indeed, if you call out for insight
and cry aloud for understanding,
4 and if you look for it as for silver
and search for it as for hidden treasure,
5 then you will understand the fear of the LORD
and find the knowledge of God.
Don’t try to change a fool
Proverbs 16:22
22 Though you grind a fool in a mortar,
grinding them like grain with a pestle,
you will not remove their folly from them.
If you are being physically abused, you need to
seek safety
Ask yourself, “Is this relationship voluntary or
involuntary?”
Practice healthy relational habits
Maintain healthy boundaries
Practice healthy relational habits
Speak the truth in love
– Ephesians 4:25
25 Therefore each of you must put off
falsehood and speak truthfully to your
neighbor, for we are all members of one
body.
Practice healthy relational habits
Speak the truth in love
– Proverbs 26:4-5
4 Do not answer a fool according to his folly,
or you yourself will be just like him.
5 Answer a fool according to his folly,
or he will be wise in his own eyes.
Practice healthy relational habits
Overcome evil with good
– Romans 12:17-21
17 Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be
careful to do what is right in the eyes of
everyone. 18 If it is possible, as far as it
depends on you, live at peace with
everyone. 19 Do not take revenge, my dear
friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for
it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will
repay,” says the Lord
Practice healthy relational habits
Overcome evil with good
– Romans 12:17-21
20 On the contrary:
“If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is
thirsty, give him something to drink. In
doing this, you will heap burning coals on
his head.”
21 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome
evil with good.
Practice healthy relational habits
Extend forgiveness
Apply the wisdom of
Proverbs in order to
fool-proof your life