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Does-the-Great
Does t h e Great American Synagogue Still H a v e a Prayer? It's growing tougher for congregations and rabbis to form a lasting bond. For much of my life, S T E P H E N F R I E D I was a six-day-a-year Jew—doing the High Holidays, Hanukkah, and two seders on Passover. I suppose this made me twice as good as the traditional three-day-a-year Jew, but I was still far from observant or spiritually engaged. Like many peo ple in my generation, being Jewish mattered deeply to me, but the traditional synagogue was part o f my past—my religious alma mater—rather than my present. Then, when I was about to turn 40, my father died. He was only 62. And, after years as a wandering Jew, I found myself attending synagogue regularly for the first time since I had set out from my bar mitzvah reception in Sisterhood Hall with my breast pocket stuffed with gift envelopes. M y motivations for returning were completely selfish: I needed comfort, and the synagogue happened to be a place where I found it. Saying kaddish for my father every day was the only thing that seemed to help assuage the pain % f his loss. 56 M O M E N T / O C T O B E R 2 0 0 3 Suddenly, congregational life fascinated me. Its survival seemed crucial to my own. It was a heady time—not only was I was reconnecting with Jewish observance, but I was hanging out with rabbis after the minyan. On any given day, there were two or three rabbis among the ten or twelve (or occasional ly nine) people praying in the chapel at Beth Zion Beth Israel, a Conservative synagogue in center city Philadelphia. I would listen to the rabbis talk shop, learning about the many challenges and mysteries of the profession. T h e senior rabbi at BZBI, Ira Stone, lost his own father just after I did, so I got to know him both as a member o f the clergy and a fellow mourner. Also in the congregation was Rabbi Michael Monson, whom I had known since college— we met through the High Holiday services he ran as Hillel director at Perm—and who had married my wife and me. Michael had never held a synagogue pulpit. But now, at the age of 50, he was thinking of changing careers and becoming a full-time pulpit rabbi. He was actively and openly discussing the real ities of life on the bimah—or, what I've heard one rabbi describe as "the retail business of religion." at Har Zion Temple in Philadelphia, the storied con gregation that snatched him from my hometown synagogue back in 1969. Har Zion is one o f America's largest and most powerful houses of worship. And, in 75 years, it had had only three rabbis—each one a giant in his own right. Choosing a new rabbi would not be easy. It sounded like an unbelievably demanding job— especially when I thought about how needy I was at the moment, how much attention I wanted from both Ira and Michael, and then multiplied that by the number of families even in this medium-sized con gregation. But I could also see it had immense rewards, for both the rabbi and the congregants. had been hired via telegram upon his graduation from seminary, went on to become a role model for a generation of American rabbis, first as provost of the Seminary and later as leader of the University of Judaism. He was succeeded by his friend David Goldstein, one of the first American-born pulpit rab bis, and a straightforward Midwesterner with a genius for using the pulpit for fundraising and strong ideas about how Jews could create their own Amer ican-style communities. After a disastrous fire during his second year on the pulpit, he rebuilt the temple with an auditorium, a gym, a community center and a day school, making it a national model for the postwar "synagogue center," and building up mem bership to over 1,800 families. Goldstein nudged Har Zion members into donating the land and money for Camp Ramah in the Poconos, and fos tered the careers o f rabbi-turned-novelist Chaim Potok and Biblical commentator Nahum Sarna, two stars of Har Zion's innovative synagogue scholar-in-residence program. (He also used his discre tionary fund wisely—he gave Potok $2,000 in the early '60s so he could move to Israel and write what became The Chosen) During this time, I started thinking about a proj ect that would be ambitious both journalistically and Jewishly, and would honor my father's memory. I wanted to write a book that followed a congregation hiring a new spiritual leader—as a way of telling a resonant and true story about American religion. I could still recall how a change in clergy in my syna gogue in Harrisburg, when I was 11, had made an indelible impact on my family and my community. You never forget your first rabbi. " It happened that halfway during my period o f mourning, my first rabbi announced his retirement. Rabbi Gerald Wolpe, a masterful synagogue politi cian and orator whose rich, compelling voice could make even the most stilted English translation o f prayer sound like Shakespeare, was leaving the pul pit after nearly 50 years. T h e last 30 had been spent Founding Rabbi Simon Greenberg, one of the first English-speaking rabbis in America presided there for over two decades: his charisma and multi ple allegiances to the synagogue, the Jewish T h e o logical Seminary and Israel became the cornerstones of his shul's international reputation. Greenberg, who Being an embedded reporter in a community of my own religion was some of the most difficult and rewarding work I've ever done. O C T O B E R 2 0 0 3 / M O M E N T 57 By the late 1960s, when Wolpe was chosen to suc ceed Greenberg, Har Zion was again a national model—of urban synagogues deeply divided over how to respond to suburban flight. Wolpe and a group of young leaders had to save Har Zion from itself, even tually winning the fight to unite Har Zion's large urban and suburban campuses by building a huge new synagogue on 25 acres o f prime real estate on Philadelphia's Main Line. In 1976, the new building was opened, and Har Zion was reborn. Yet while revered for his pulpit and political acumen, he became best known for his response to a private event that almost ended his career. At the height of his rab binate, Wolpe's wife, Elaine, suffered a stroke. But instead of leaving the pulpit, he shared the pain and medical dilemmas of her long recovery with the con gregation, expressing and evoking emotion in a place where reason and power had traditionally held sway. I went to see Wolpe at his Har Zion office just after the news o f his pending retirement hit the newspapers. And in his last act of bravery as a pulpit rabbi, he agreed to grant me unprecedented access to the private life o f his synagogue at this pivotal moment in its history. His wife and their four sons also agreed to cooperate fully, including two who are rabbis, especially the celebrated clergyman and author David Wolpe, who after ten years of lectur ing and teaching had just taken his first pulpit, at Sinai Temple in Los Angeles. T h e Har Zion search was supposed to take a year or, at most, two, and was not expected to be partic ularly eventful. Instead, however, the original candi date chosen by the search committee—Rabbi David Ackerman, a rising star at nearby Tiferet Bet Israel— withdrew unexpectedly at the last minute and the drama went on for several more years. Synagogue leaders ended up westling with Conservative clergy placement officials at the Rabbinical Assembly, attempting to bend the movement's rules to elevate Har Zion's assistant rabbi—Jacob Herber—who was beloved, but not yet thought to be experienced enough to fill the job. And, as soon as they won that wresding match, another began. Leaders reconsid ered and eventually reversed their own decision, set ting off something akin to a civil war. I watched and chronicled the entire process from many vantage points. I had private access to the rab bis and cantor, to synagogue leaders and would-be synagogue leaders who second-guessed their every move, to congregants both involved and disconnect ed, to synagogue senior staff, to rabbis from other synagogues interested in the job, to the clergy match makers at the Seminary, and even to the synagogue secretary, cook and janitor (who are, of course, the ones who know everything.) Being an embedded reporter in a community of my own religion was some of the most difficult and rewarding work I've ever done. And I saw a lot. What happened there, between people I know and like in a congregation that has made a considerable contribution to American Judaism, was not always easy to watch. I was often reminded of the misdi rected emotions and unexpressed love between fathers and sons or between rival siblings. But Har Zion is hardly an isolated case. Since starting the research in 1997 that became my book, The New Rabbi, I've been following events at a cross section of American synagogues. An amazing num ber of them—some say more than ever before—are having rabbi troubles. T h e r e are divisive contract negotiations with current rabbis over renewals or retirement, struggles to choose replacements and problems adjusting to new rabbis. When my book came out in hardcover last fall, every synagogue I had been observing had a new rabbi and every displaced rabbi had found a new job. As the book comes out this fall in paperback, I must report in the new Afterword that almost every one of these synagogues ended up parting ways with its new rabbi, and was now seeking a new new rabbi. T h e synagogue I grew up at in Harrisburg, for example, just hired its fifth rabbi in seven years. And, later this fall, the congregants at once-stable Har Zion will be welcoming their fourth spiritual leader in the past five years. T hese are trying times in American congrega tional life, but not for the reasons normally reported in the media. These days, most cov erage of religion comes in the form of stories about sexual abuse by the clergy. It is a terrible problem, but it's not the main one facing most houses of worship. In the day-to-day world of American religious communi ties the problems are far more mundane. Most aren't even religious—they're institutional. And many have as much to do with being an American institution as a religious institution. T h e problems are the accu mulated disappointments, miscommunications, exag gerations and gossip—a community's kindling, all too easily ignited by the sparks from a major policy dilemma, a change in lay leadership, competition from another congregation down the street where the services are shorter or the singing better. These tensions tend to become most noticeable when a synagogue has to search for new clergy. That's partly because the process of choosing a new leader involves reevaluating the goals o f the com munity, asking big questions about the kind of lead ership and future you want. Also, whether it's a long-time rabbi retiring, or a rabbi and congregation deciding to break up their relationship, congregants often find themselves feeling like children of divorce during a clergy transition. T h e period of congrega tional dating, and sometimes even cohabitation, on the way to a successful new marriage of clergy and synagogue can be disorienting and difficult As in any divorce, the parents and kids sometimes act out. But, the biggest problem is that finding the right new rabbi is really hard. In fact, it is harder than ever. Some believe we are in the midst of a full-fledged "rabbi crisis" that threatens the future of American Judaism. Four years ago, Rabbi Eric "Vbffie, president of the Union of American Hebrew Congregations, announced that the rabbi shortage was "the most sig nificant issue" facing the Reform movement. He promised an all-out effort to increase enrollment in Reform seminaries (including doubling the capacity of summer camps, a traditional clergy breeding ground). At the time, the Conservative movement more quiedy acknowledged the squeeze on their cler gy personnel. T h e Orthodox rabbinate also is affect ed by these trends, perhaps less so, because fewer Orthodox rabbis expect a full-time job on the pulpit This past May, Dr. Jack Wertheimer, the provost of the Jewish Theological Seminary, proclaimed a national "rabbi crisis" which threatens the future o f the synagogue and American Jewish life as never before. H e did it first in a lengthy and thoughtful essay in Commentary, followed by a provocative speech before the N$w York Board of Rabbis. His remarks were greeted with a lot of nodding heads, according to the religion columnist of the New York Daily News, who also noted that Wertheimer's mes sage "sounded very much like the bleak warnings voiced by many Catholic and Protestant leaders" about the erosion o f the American clergy. Wertheimer has his detractors. "I wish there were more rabbis, but I don't agree with Jack's view that it's a crisis," says his Seminary colleague Rabbi Joel Meyers, executive Vice President of the Rab binical Assembly. Meyers says that as long as the Tensions within a congregation tend to become more noticeable when a synagogue has to search for new clergy. RA has kept records, there have been periodic shortages o f rabbis—especially affecting smaller congregations in less urban areas—but the number o f truly problematic congregations is still quite small. H e insists that the real news is just how many rabbi/congregation matches work, consider ing all the risks involved. He does concede, however, that in the last few years "we've had a run on retiring rabbis, especially in large congregations." Many of those large, high-pro file congregations have been unable to pick a new rabbi during a full season of rabbi-searching. These synagogues have been forced to quickly hire interim rabbis—veteran rabbis available to be airlifted in by the movements with the understanding that they can only work in the synagogue for a year (and who like the idea of one holiday cycle in a community that has n't already heard their best sermons.) Regardless of the quality of the interim rabbi, this kind of last-minute fix can confuse congregants anxious to. bond with a new permanent spiritual leader. And it often leaves search committees loudly complaining about the quality of new rabbinic candidates. "Congregations all want to hire the same rabbi," says Rabbi Elliot Schoenberg, the behind-thescenes matchmaker for conservative synagogues at the Rabbinical Assembly. "They all want.. .someone O C T O B E R 2 0 0 3 / M O M E N T 59 who attends every meeting and is at his desk work ing until midnight, someone who is 28 years old but has preached for 30 years, someone who has a burn ing desire to work with teenagers but spends all his time working with senior citizens, basically someone who does everything and will stay with the congre gation forever. "We try to tell them [congregations], you're not looking for the best rabbi, you're looking for the best match, the best fit." Yet more and more synagogues like Har Zion There is a crisis in the great American synagogue. But it's bigger than just the quantity, the quality of the rabbis or even the match. seem to be having a tough time choosing their best match. Why? One reason is that fewer and fewer rabbis are seeking pulpit jobs. It is estimated that only half o f today's Jewish seminarians expect to spend their careers leading congregations. And this comes just at a time when many synagogues have decided they want a "rabbinate" of two or more rabbis instead of the traditional, all-powerful senior pulpit master. W h e r e have all the pulpit rabbis gone? In all faiths—not just Judaism—pulpit work has become less attractive. Respect for clergy has been diluted. And some of the things that make being in the cler gy most interesting and challenging—like the chance to foster change in a broader community and the opportunity to continue personal learning—are now less important to some congregants, who are more interested in making sure the rabbi shows up at every bris, bar mitzvah and hospital bed. Like other Amer ican industries, the clergy has shifted from R & D to service. And the sheer volume o f the services required is staggering. Alternative career choices for ordained rabbis have blossomed. With more day schools than ever, and jobs in teaching and chaplaincy that were once part-time or 60 M O M E N T / O C T O B E R 2 0 0 3 volunteer becoming professionalized and decent-pay ing, there are many new, more family-friendly options for the increasingly two-career families of clergy members. At the same time, some of the rabbis available for pulpits can be out of step with the shifting demands of American congregations. T h e longtime problem of the Conservative rabbi who is much more obser vant than many of his or her congregants has been inherited by Reform rabbis who have now grown more traditional in their observance. (It is becoming almost impossible, for example, for Reform congre gations accustomed to having a rabbi who performs intermarriages to find a new, younger rabbi who will.) Modern Orthodox congregations often have litde choice but to bring in a Chabad rabbi who is far more strict in his observance. There is a crisis in the great American synagogue. But it's bigger than just the quantity, the quality of rabbis or even the match. Rabbis tend to be any syn agogue's most high profile employee. But that's just it—they are employees. What about the synagogue officers and congregants? T h e employers could be tak ing more responsibility. Often, however, they aren't. So, we also have a synagogue officer crisis, an informed congregant crisis, a community reality check crisis. It's a crisis of leadership among the lead ers and the led. T h e way synagogues make decisions has changed dramatically from the time of my parent's generation. Congregations have become more democratized, so their leaders have less power. And the players are dif ferent: Lay leaders used to be authoritarian entre preneurial types—who were at least willing to put their money where their big mouths were. Today's leaders are likely to be professionals who are more educated and interested in consensus-building, but sometimes lack decisiveness and the ability to pro vide strong leadership. They also are more interest ed in raising money than donating it. While synagogue presidents often complain that they don't make rabbis like they used to, rabbis say the same thing about the synagogue presidents. Ideally, the rabbi search can be a time to take stock of all these other crises. Rabbi searches are sup posed to be driven by the results of a frank self-analy sis of the congregation's problems, needs and desires. This is, I think, an attempt to return each congrega tion to the moment o f its creation—to remind peo ple that the synagogue was not started by a rabbi. It was started by their parents or grandparents or greatgrandparents who had strong ideas about the way they wanted to be Jewish in America and decided to create a new community and hire clergy that represented their vision. Unfortunately, this self-evaluation process usual ly ends far too quickly. Congregations and their lead ers usually start off idealistically, viewing a rabbi search as a chance to reinvent their community for the next generation. And sometimes they have too long to think about this; when a beloved rabbi announces he will retire at the end of his last threeyear contract, there will be three years to obsess about the future, even though the search can only take place the year the rabbi is actually leaving. And then, once the search formally begins, reality sets in, none of the applicants seems quite right, and leaders get so caught up in fmding the right candidate that they overinflate what that candidate can do for their synagogue. Some start hoping that maybe the right new rabbi will actually allow them to put off having to reinvent themselves for yet another generation. T h e y move from viewing the community's chal lenges as theirs to solve, to viewing them as issues only solvable by the perfect new rabbi. Some observers believe that all synagogues replac ing a retiring or long-term rabbi—whether the part ing was friendly or not—need a major "time out." They suggest that instead of hiring interim rabbis only at the end o f a season o f failed searching, that the movements should encourage, or even force, congre gations to take a year with an interim rabbi while they are doing their search. Rabbi Arnold Sher, director of placement for the Central Conference of American Rabbis, says the Reform movement has been trying to "diagnose" synagogues that are most in need of such a time-out But he concedes that so far, there are more Reform congregations in need of this option than there are rabbis "trained in interim management" In the Conservative movement, the concept o f hiring a "preventive interim" is still just a concept But if what happened at Har Zion is any indication, it may be time to rethink that. Har Zion actually had to hire two last-minute interims in four years. After Har Zion's chosen candidate changed his mind in the spring of 1999, the synagogue leadership panicked. T h e situation was made worse by the fact that their long-time rabbi, Wolpe, took his wellearned sabbatical during the last six months o f his contract, and so wasn't involved in the day-to-day life of the shul. His very promising assistant, Rabbi Herber, only three years out o f the seminary, was scram bling to run the synagogue by himself. And then, suddenly, the search committee decided that Herber should be the next senior rabbi, even though the Rabbinical Assembly rules say that he needed at least another three years as an assistant at the synagogue before being eligible for such a large pulpit. Har Zion's leaders tried to lean on the RA to bend the rules. When the RA wouldn't back down, the syna gogue agreed to search for another year and hire an interim—Rabbi Moshe Tutnauer. But Har Zion insisted on making Tutnauer a quasi-assistant to Her ber, whom they still hoped to groom for the posi tion, instead o f instalhng him as an interim senior rabbi with full control of seasoning the young rabbi and helping the congregation transition. This unusu al situation continued for two years, even after the RA broke down and let Har Zion hire Herber—with the stipulation that the young rabbi couldn't actual ly be installed as Wolpe's official successor until the end of his sixth year of ordainment. After Tutnauer left, in the spring o f 2001, the synagogue hired an assistant fresh out of the seminary, Rabbi Jill Borodin, and began making tentative plans to formally install Herber the next year. Instead, by the beginning o f 2002, the synagogue had quietly postponed the installation, and last October, Herber resigned, as did the synagogue's president. Rabbi Borodin ran the synagogue herself for a short time until Har Zion could bring in another veteran, Rabbi Matthew Simon, who was made interim senior rabbi while they did another search. This time they chose 37year-old Rabbi Jay Stein, who trained at synagogues in Chicago and central New Jersey, and who grew up in the congregation of his father, Rabbi Israel Stein, in Bridgeport, Connecticut. But, because Stein's syn agogue would not release him early from his con tract, interim Rabbi Simon is preaching the high holidays at Har Zion, and the new new rabbi will Continued an page 74 O C T O B E R 2 0 0 3 / M O M E N T 61 Tomorrow's leaders are here today. A m e r i c a n S y n a g o g u e amtmuedfivm page 61 begin to slowly join the synagogue's life in UNIVERSITY OF MICHIGAN School of Social Work 1080 South University Avenue • Ann Arbor.MI 48109-1106 734-764-5392 • [email protected] • www.ssw.umich.edu/drachler Biblical Civilization Rabbinic Civilization Medieval Civilization the late fall. Oy. So, what are we supposed to do to insure the future of the great American syna gogue? And, when I say great, I don't nec essarily mean large, I mean great in its other mearimgs—wonderful, noble, important— all of which apply. First we have to acknowledge that there is a crisis and that the problems are not unique to any one synagogue. I have watched too many congregations I care about overhaul the way they make decisions and communicate those decisions only after losing control of a difficult clergy or policy situation. And once a community has shocked itself with such a self-created trauma, it can take years to recover. I believe that with greater awareness, improved communication between and within congregations and more controlled reality checks—learning from the learning curves o f other communities—real progress can be made. 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At the height of the tension at Har Zion, I received a copy of a prayer for the end of all "synagogue wars." It was written by Rabbi Moshe Tutnauer, who had returned to Israel but was still in close touch with many in the Har Zion community. Its sub ject line was "War Zones." It began by describing two places near his family's Jerusalem home, the French Hill junction and the Mount Scopus campus of the Hebrew University, which had been the sites of recent deadly terrorist attacks. "Both are so close that we regularly hear the omi nous sound of ambulance sirens rushing vic tims to the Hadassah Hospital on Mount Scopus," he wrote. "So, no matter how complex and no matter how bitter syna gogue wars get, they are relatively trivial compared to what we face on a daily basis." He went on, "I do not mean that the syn agogue wars should be taken lighdy by us. People have strong feelings about their syna gogues. They expect their synagogue to be above petty power plays. They are profound ly disappointed to discover that 'clerg/ can not resolve interpersonal relationships and professional problems with love and grace. "Clergy, on the other hand, often find themselves victims of unrealistic expecta tions by congregants and poor management by synagogue leaders. They are thrust into situations beyond their ability to handle. The result is often anger and frustration that impacts their families ... Rabbinic war zones, though usually not life-threatening, are often areas of emotional hell for congregants, rab bis, synagogue staff, and their families. "... I pray that the coming year will bring peace and reconciliation not only to French Hill junction, but to all areas of conflict. I pray for peace and understanding for all the synagogues of the world, for their members and their leaders and for all the souls of individual human beings whose hearts long for love and peace." To which I e-mailed back, "Amen." ® O C T O B E R 2 0 0 3 / M O M E N T