Purim Fun Abounds A Caring Community
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Purim Fun Abounds A Caring Community
Volume 156, Issue 8 MARCH’S HIGHLIGHTS Adar/Nisan 5775 March 2015 Purim Fun Abounds Your Confirmation Story B’nai Israel marks more than a century of Confirmation classes this spring. What is your Confirmation memory? Details on Page 2. One Temple! One Book! Let’s all get on the same page! Read Atul Gawande’s “Being Mortal,” and join Rabbi Prosnit for a discussion on the book on Monday, March 30, at 7:00 p.m. Details on Page 6. Still Time to Vote Voting for delegates to this year’s World Zionist Congress continues through April 30. Make your voice heard! Details on Page 2. Marking a Milestone Join us in May as we celebrate Ira Wise’s 20 years as our Director of Education with special guest lecturers, a service and celebration. Details on Page 2. More Inside Rabbi Prosnit.......................................P.3 BIFTY..................................................P.4 Adult Learning.....................................P.6 Education Center..................................P.7 Bonim Preschool..................................P.8 One of Us.............................................P.9 Donations...........................................P.10 Shabbat Services................................P.16 Share Your Seder Passover is soon upon us, with the first Seder on Friday evening, April 3. There will be no Shabbat services that evening as we celebrate in our homes. Still, not everyone has a Seder to join, but you can help change that. Please contact Rabbi Prosnit, Rabbi Schultz or Cantor Blum to invite guests to your Seder table or if you would like to be a guest at someone else’s. Sgt. Prosnit’s Lonely Hearts Club Band? You never know what surprises Purim will bring. From left, Rabbi Prosnit, Rabbi Schultz and Cantor Blum took a Beatles-themed approach to last year’s festivities. Grab your costume and some Hamantaschen and join us during the first week of March for Purim, perhaps our most festive holiday. It’s time to celebrate Queen Esther’s heroism in fighting the evil Haman. We get things started on Wednesday, March 4 at 6:00 p.m., with a brief, all- ages service featuring the Junior Choir. Then, the B’nai Israel Players will present our 2015 version of Megilat Esther: “The Purim Story through Song, Parody and Many Surprises.” On Sunday, March 8, it’s time for our annual Purim Carnival. Join us right after the end of the Religious School session Continued on Page 5 A Caring Community Congregation B’nai Israel always works at being a caring community – supportive and helpful to each other in times of need and recognizing each other’s occasions of joy and sorrow. We have for many years had Caring Committees, aiming to be helpful in a variety of ways. And so, we continue that tradition of concern and care under a new name – THE CHESED PROGRAM. Chesed connotes loving kindness, and as our tradition teaches us, the world stands on three things: study, prayer and g’milut chasadim, from the word “chesed” – acts of kindness. Impelled by our desire to care for one another, a small group of congregants along with our clergy have worked to define the scope of the program and develop a structure to make it work. We know we cannot be all things to all people, but we, as a congregation, want to be responsive to one another. As a place to start, we will offer the following assistance: 1) Making and delivering food (soup or a meal) to a family when illness occurs or when the joy of a newborn changes the household routine. 2) Providing rides to congregants to synagogue services/events and to healthrelated appointments. 3) Visiting those who are alone/isolated and are unable to get out easily. We hope you are willing to respond Continued on Page 6 Bulletin Board Over 100 Years of Confirmation In early June, Congregation B’nai Israel will celebrate the anniversary of one of our most uplifting lifecycle events, Confirmation. Photographs of clergy and Confirmands dating back to 1915 are proudly displayed on the walls outside the Temple’s library, but records show the event is even older. As part of the commemoration, we are asking you to share your memories of that time in your life with our congregation. Please take a moment to contact Larry Levine at llevine@ cbibpt.org and relate thoughts of this Sharing our Joy . . . Congratulations to: Frederic and Sharon West, on the birth of granddaughter, Avery Isla West, daughter of Kelly and Eric West Jerry Saunders and Elaine Appellof, on the birth of grandson, Harris Ligon Stewart, son of Ellie and Philip Stewart Judith and Bob Chessin, on the birth of granddaughter, Madeleine Emma Blair, daughter of Sarah Chessin Blair and Fran Blair Jan and Bernie Jacobs, on the birth of granddaughter, Stella Aponte, daughter of Dana and Jason Aponte, sister of Amelia Aponte Amy and Michael Moorin, on the marriage of daughter, Samantha Moorin to George Moore Sincere Sympathy . . . wonderful event in your life. Celebrate Ira Wise’s Milestone On May 1 and 2, we will celebrate Ira Wise’s 20th Anniversary as our Director of Education. We will pay tribute to Ira during Shabbat Services Friday night May 1. The celebration will include an Oneg, the Junior Choir and guest speaker Dr. Evie Levy Rotstein, Director of the New York School of Education at Hebrew Union College – Jewish Institute of Religion. The evening continues with a Shabbat dinner and discussion with Dr. Rotstein. On Saturday, May 2, Dr. Rotstein will join us for Torah Study, followed by Brunch and Learn for all past and present Religious School teachers If you wish to help with this event, please contact Susan Walden at [email protected] or (203) 338-0678. Interfaith Seder Congregation B’nai Israel will Vote & Make a Difference Here’s a simple way to make a big difference – VOTE IN THE WORLD ZIONIST CONGRESS ELECTION. HOW? Go to www.reformjews4isr ael.org to register and then vote by April 30th. Don’t have a computer? Forms for securing paper ballots are in the Temple office. WHOM DO I VOTE FOR? We would never tell you whom you had to vote for. BUT, if you’re looking for a suggestion, here it is: “ARZA: Representing Reform Judaism.” AM I ELIGIBLE TO VOTE? If you are Jewish, will be 18 years or older by June 30, and are a resident of the United States. There is a processing fee of $10 if you are 30 or over, and $5 if you are under 30. 2710 Park Avenue Bridgeport, CT 06604 (203) 336-1858 • www.cbibpt.org The Bulletin of Congregation B’nai Israel is published every month except July. James Prosnit, D.D. ............................ Rabbi Evan Schultz ................................... Rabbi Arnold I. Sher, D.D. ............... Rabbi Emeritus Sheri E. Blum, D.M. ........................... Cantor We extend our sympathy to the bereaved families of: Ramon Gilbert, D.M. .......... Cantor Emeritus Lucille Subbiondo, sister of Sylvia Askinazi Georgiana Sandberg, grandmother of Stacy Sheiman Ida Pearlstein, mother of Sondra Germain, grandmother of Stacy Berlin. Alexa Cohen .......... Early Childhood Director 2 host the Tent of Abraham Interfaith Passover Seder on Thursday, March 26 at 7:00 p.m. For more information, to attend or to volunteer, contact the Temple office at (203) 336-1858. Ira J. Wise, R.J.E. .......... Director of Education Robert H. Gillette, R.J.E. ... Educator Emeritus Abby Rohinsky ............... Director of Facility Officers Samuel J. Rosenberg ........................ President Michael Blumenthal .......... 1st Vice President Larry Levine ............................. Vice President Shari Nerreau ........................... Vice President Julie Pressman .......................... Vice President Lori Underberger ............................ Treasurer Jim Greenberg ................. Assistant Treasurer Evelyn Rubak ................................... Secretary Joe Varon .......................... Financial Secretary Mindy Siegel ........... Immediate Past President Affiliates Marisa Underberger ............................................ BIFTY Advisor/Youth Engagement Specialist Caroline DelAngelo & Harper Wise .......................................................... BIFTY Co-Presidents What’s happening at the Temple? Get Hashavua, our weekly email. Send your request to Lynn at [email protected]. From the Rabbi's Desk Israel Elections –Politics There! Politics Here! March 17 may be St. Patrick’s Day around here, but for Israel watchers, it will be a fascinating and important election day there. Will Prime Minister Binyamin Netanyahu’s Likud Party receive the support necessary to once again form a government, or will the left-leaning coalition of Tzipi Livini and Isaac Herzog defeat Israel’s longstanding prime minister? To be certain, there are major issues facing the Israeli electorate this year: 1) The instability in the region fueled by ISIS and Iran. 2) The desire of Palestinians to have a state. 3) The need to reduce the economic and social inequality between Israel’s Arab and Jewish citizens. 4) The balancing of economic growth and the success of “start-ups” with the growing inequality between rich and poor in Israel. friendly AIPAC conference will allow some free electioneering and a chance to paint Herzog and Livini as bad for Israel. While politicians do these things all the time, and parties in power have certain such advantages, it will be interesting to see if his hand is not overplayed to the consternation of the Israeli electorate. 5) The desire to ensure that Israel remains a democratic state. 6) The willingness to address the perennial thorny issue of religion and state. But around here, much of the conversation has been the breach of protocol with Prime Minister Netanyahu accepting House Speaker John Boehner’s request to address the U.S. Congress without first consulting the White House. To my mind, the “incident” of protocol has much to do with politics – both there and here. Politics there: Netanyahu acceded to S p e a k e r Boehner and circumvented President Obama because he probably believes that speaking in Wa s h i n g t o n will help him in Jerusalem. Netanyahu may be addressing the U.S. Congress, but his intended audience, two weeks before the election, is the voter in Israel. Similarly, his presence before the Politics here: Speaker’s Boehner’s invitation was a way to challenge Mr. Obama’s foreign policy agenda in general and, most specifically, focus on the intensity of sanctions on Iran. Many Republicans in the House and Senate (and some Democrats, too) would like to impose harsher sanctions on Iran in view of a possible agreement about nuclear weapons. The Obama Administration feels that such additional sanctions would scuttle the interim agreement, and has pushed for additional time for the negotiators. How much time and when should additional sanctions be imposed is a worthwhile debate for Congress to have. To be sure, an Iran with nuclear capabilities would be a very dangerous thing for Israel, the Middle East and us. This visit of the Prime Minister, however, feeds into our political divisions and distracts from the rather formidable issue of how to prevent a nuclear Iran. Like many, I’m dubious that the United States and Iran will reach a deal that will really defuse Iran’s nuclear weapons program. Such a failure would be very serious and could end up, one day, with the U.S. deciding it has to use military force to set back Iran’s program. We surely don’t want Iran to get a bomb that sets off a nuclear arms race in an already unstable Middle East. But here I agree with Thomas Friedman’s recent assessment that “even if we do use force, success is hardly assured and the blowback unpredictable. That is why it is absolutely not in Israel’s interest to give even the slightest appearance of nudging America toward such a military decision. … Just lie low, Mr. Netanyahu. Don’t play in our politics. Let America draw its own conclusions.” Donation Item of the Month: Cans of tuna for Spooner House in Shelton. 3 BIFTY Making new friends at the BIFTY Kindergarten Games event in January. Getting a Broader Perspective BIFTY is part of a larger youth group association, the National Federation of Temple Youth, or NFTY, a youth movement that is part of the Union of Reform Judaism (URJ). NFTY seeks to bring Jewish teenagers together from around the country to learn, study and have fun. Ally Underberger and Alex Taylor are BIFTY’s NFTY Representatives. Thank you to everyone who joined us at our Havdalah service and Shul-In! All events are held in the BIFTY Lounge from 7:00-8:30 p.m.: What does being the NFTY Rep entail? March 12 – Purim Party! March 19 – Mad Science Night March 26 – B’nai Mitzvah Games AT: I go to the NFTY events and bring ideas back to use at BIFTY. Like “BIFTY” on Facebook! Follow “BIFTYPage” on Instagram! AU: I attend all of the NFTY events, take pictures, and encourage other BIFTY teens to come. What is your involvement in NFTY? AT: I have attended NFTY Leadership Institute. It was great. I learned so much about how to become a better and more effective leader in youth group and in the community. AU: I have been to Fall Conclavette and Levi Leap. I attend the programs they have and have a ton of fun. As the NFTY Rep, I am also able to vote at NFTY meetings. Why should other teens go to NFTY events? AT: NFTY events give you the opportunity to meet teenagers from all over. You get to learn while making new friends. It is also an opportunity to reconnect with old friends and camp friends. AU: NFTY events are a ton of fun! You get to meet new Jewish teens from all over the Northeast. If you attend a URJ camp, some of your camp friends will be there as well. 4 Tell us your B’nai Israel story. See “One of Us” on Page 9 for details. From Rabbi Schultz The Other Holiday about Miracles Quick word association: If I said, “Jewish holiday about miracles …,” how would you reply? I would guess that most would answer “Chanukah,” including myself. That would certainly be the expected answer, as each year we eat our latkes and light our menorahs to celebrate both the miracle of the oil and the miracle of the Maccabees defeating the Assyrian army. As we light the menorah each night, we recite the blessing, “She-asah nisim l’avoteinu, You who performed miracles for our ancestors,” showing gratitude to God for the miracles which lie at the core of our Chanukah observance and celebration. Chanukah, however, is not the only Jewish holiday in which we acknowledge and celebrate miracles. The holiday of Purim, which begins on the evening of March 4, is also a narrative of miracles. I don’t know if the Maccabees hired a better branding firm than Esther and Mordechai, but many simply do not associate the holiday of Purim as a celebration of nisim, of miracles. In fact, the megillah of Esther has a great deal to teach us about the nature of miracles and how we can recognize them in our daily lives. Let’s examine this text written by Rabbi David Abudirham, a 14th-century Spanish rabbi. In his piece, “Blessings on Sightings, Praise and Gratitude,” he First, the annulment of a royal decree was the opposite of the laws of Persia and Medea (Haman issues a royal decree to annihilate all of the Jews on the 13th of Adar; it was later annulled). And second, that the king went against his own people on account of his love for a single woman – which is not in the course of nature … “THE MEGILLAH OF ESTHER HAS A GREAT DEAL TO TEACH US ABOUT THE NATURE OF MIRACLES” attempts to answer the question of when a person should say the blessing over seeing a miracle. He writes: Rabbi Asher of Lunel (Southern France, 12th century) wrote that a person should say a blessing only over a miracle that deviates from the normal pattern or course of nature – such as the crossing of the Sea of Reeds… And if you were to say, “But Purim was a miracle in the normal course of nature …,” one could argue that Purim does deviate from the normal course of nature, for two reasons. For these two reasons we recite the prayer, “Al ha-nisim, we thank You for the miracles,” during the holiday of Purim. The text by Rabbi Abudirham teaches that a miracle is something that “deviates from the normal course of nature.” This doesn’t refer only to miracles of nature, such as the parting of the Sea of Reeds, but also, as we see in the case of Esther and King Achasueros, acting totally irrational in the face of love, or breaking the law to act for justice (think America and segregation laws). These two, according to our tradition, are miracles! So next time you do something completely irrational for the one you love, or if you break the rules for a just cause, these too are miracles, and we recognize and bless them as such. May we each recognize and celebrate these miracles during the season of Purim. Chag Sameach! Purim Fun Abounds...Continued From Page 1 that day, from Noon to 2:00 p.m., in the Social Hall. There will be games galore, a cakewalk and a fabulous Moon Bounce. Dress to impress in your favorite costume. There will be plenty of Hamentaschen to nosh on. Pizza, snacks and drinks will also be available for additional purchase by the Brotherhood. For just $10, you’ll get you a wristband that lets you play unlimited games so you can win new prizes and have tons of fun. We need volunteers to help with the Carnival. So if you have questions or are interested in volunteering, please email Hallie Levine at hzlevine@ aol.com or Marla Dankenbrink at [email protected]. We want you in the Bulletin! Send your news to editor Scott Smith at [email protected]. 5 Adult Jewish Learning at Congregation B'nai Israel One Temple! One Book! “Being Mortal,” by Atul Gawande Monday, March 30 at 7:00 p.m. We invite you and, if you have one, your book group to read “Being Mortal” by Atul Gawande between now and March 30, and then join Rabbi Prosnit for a conversation about the book. Rabbi Prosnit says: “This is not a book that’s just focused on the right to die. Its concern is how best to live as we age and how best to protect ourselves and our loved ones when end-of-life illnesses and diminishments approach.” This is an enormously compelling topic and should lead to a wonderful conversation. Last year we had a fantastic conversation with more than 60 people for Ari Shavit’s “My Promised Land.” We expect an equally lively meeting on the 30th. Books are available for purchase in the Temple office. Adult Round Table First Thursday of Every Month at 12:30 p.m. Next meetings are March 5 and April 2 A discussion about current events for anyone who wants to go beyond the headlines. Facilitated by Gloria Katz. Join us on the first Thursday of every month, and bring a sandwich, your opinion and an open mind. Rosh Chodesh – Women’s Group With Rabbi Suri Krieger Thursday, March 19 at 7:30 p.m. The waxing and waning of lunar cycles have been a guiding force for women throughout the ages, both literally and spiritually. Since the Jewish feminist m o v e m e n t reclaimed Rosh Chodesh in the 1970s, women have been gathering on a monthly basis to acknowledge and celebrate. The form of this celebration has taken on many faces, including ancient text, contemporary outreach, food and fantasy. Judaism and the Afterlife Lifelong Learning – Fridays at Noon, March 6 and 13 Our tradition may be less definitive, but it is nonetheless strong about life after life. Learn more with (soon-to-be Rabbi) Barbara Paris. Israel: Living the Dream While Grappling with the Reality Kabbalat Shabbat: Israeli Style Friday, March 20 following services and an Israel Festival, around 8:00 p.m. Rabbi Josh Weinberg is the President of ARZA, the Association of Reform Zionists of America. He was recently ordained from the HUC-JIR Israeli Rabbinic Program in Jerusalem, and is currently living in New York City. Josh previously served as the Director of the Israel program for the Reconstructionist Rabbinical College and as a faculty member of NFTY-EIE High School in Israel, teaching Jewish History. Josh is a reserve officer in the IDF spokesperson’s unit, has hiked the Israel-trail, and made Aliyah to Israel in 2003. What to Expect at … Mondays, March 2, 9, 16, 23rd at 7:30-9:00 p.m., B’nai Israel Library This course is for anyone who has ever walked into a Jewish ritual, service or setting and felt alienated or curious to know more. Together we will explore eight Jewish rituals and customs, from Shabbat prayer services, to a typical Shabbat dinner, to the Grace after Meals, to the rituals of shiva and mourning. Each week we will focus on two rituals. Stay posted to the Hashavua newsletter for our weekly topics. All are welcome! Hope to have you join with Rabbi Schultz! CHESED...Continued From Page 1 when someone is in need. We ask you to speak up if you or someone in the Congregation whom you know might want some support or help or connection. The Chesed Program will make the connection between the helper and the person needing help. will treat each request for assistance with the utmost discretion. One of the cornerstones of the Program is confidentiality. Rabbis Prosnit and Schultz, Cantor Blum, the other members of the Temple staff and Chesed volunteers Our plan is to spread the helping around so that no one feels overwhelmed. And in the process of helping, many of us can make connections and 6 Please contact Barbara Abraham (203-261-6152; [email protected]) with any questions or to volunteer for one of the activities. relationships with one another that truly weave the Congregation together as a caring community. Thank you. Barbara Abraham, Wendy Hyman, Janet Jurow, Liz Nigrosh, Sam Rosenberg, Jerry Saunders and Rachel Yurdin. Have the kids left home? Then it’s a perfect time to ReConnect with B’nai Israel. Contact Mindy Siegel at [email protected]. From The Education Center Inside The Beltway On the last night of Confirmation class at Merkaz, Rabbi Prosnit and I sometimes ask the students to write a letter to next year’s class. We put a giant Post-It note on the wall, and they take turns writing a sentence of the letter. We share it with the incoming sophomores in the fall. These letters are filled with lots of advice and plenty of love and affection for the whole process of Confirmation and for one another – as their connection to each other and their Jewish identity has grown so much. Invariably, someone will write something like “do whatever you have to do to be able to go on the RAC trip.” And someone else might say something along the lines of “I didn’t make L’taken a priority, and I regretted it all year!” Each year we take the class to the RAC’s – the Religious Action Center of Reform Judaism – L’taken weekend. L’taken means “to repair” and is the root of Tikkun Olam – “repairing the world.” The RAC is the Reform movement’s lobby in Washington D.C.The staff the laws currently under consideration intersect. Then they pick their issues, put on nice clothes and go up to Capitol Hill to lobby OUR Congressmen and their staff. monitor bills going through the legislative process and weigh in on our behalf on those issues about which our movement feels ethically compelled to engage – issues like a woman’s right to choose, gun safety, economic justice, LGBTQ discrimination and Malaria reduction, to name just a few. It is also the place where the NAACP and the SCLC leaders, like Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., gathered with our rabbis and the staff of the RAC to write what became much of the civil rights legislation of 1964. Over the course of four days, students learn how lobbying impacts the creation of law and about how Jewish values and One of the parents, Susan Zweibaum Smith, said afterward: “This … was a wonderful way for our children to bond as classmates, meet other teens from around the country and explore the issues facing us in the United States. They may look at these issues as part of school, but through this experience, they were able to get deeper meaning on how we as Jews view them and why they are important to them as citizens and Jews.” Her daughter, Elena, said it “was a unique experience that allowed me to not only better my understanding of the world around me but also better my understanding of how Jewish beliefs connect to the outside world. I lobbied to Congress about reproductive rights and education.” And the experience is so much more than ideas and politics. Scott Schneider said, “It was a lot of fun!” I think Ally Underberger sums it up best, saying the experience was “not at all what I expected. It was so much fun and worth missing school. I talked about Violence Against Women.” As these teens make their way toward confirming their connection to the Jewish people and Judaism, I believe it is safe to say that our future is in good hands! L’shalom, Ira J. Wise, R.J.E. Director of Education Lobbying in a Congressional staffer. What’s happening at the Temple? Get Hashavua, our weekly email. Send your request to Lynn at [email protected]. 7 Journey to New Worlds Our B’nai Israel Library can take us out of our everyday world and into the hearts and minds of some of the great Jewish writers of today! As we remember March as Women’s Month and the month of Purim, let’s look at a few choices that adults and children can make from our collection: Imagine spending March in Ireland. If you read “Kaddish in Dublin,” by John Brady, you will be immersed in the life of a community that we rarely hear about. The book contains all of the elements of an excellent mystery, with contemporary issues woven into a fascinating plot. “The Invisible Bridge,” by Julie Orringer, opens the window to Paris, Budapest and a group of people who coped with the tragedies that marked the 1930s and ’40s. For a new approach to the Civil War, Dara Horn’s historical novel “All Other Nights” highlights the lives and complex roles that some Jews played in that conflict. We also have some great selections for our younger readers: Sharon Baker’s beautifully written and illustrated “All Kinds of Strong” honors the strength of women who were part of the large wave of Jewish immigration to the United States during the late 19th century. To celebrate both women and Purim, we have Barbara Diamond Goldin’s “Cakes and Miracles: A Purim Tale,” a moving story of a gifted blind boy who, with the inspiration of the angel who comes to him in his dreams, helps his mother and in doing so helps his whole village. “The Mystery Bear: A Purim Story,” by Leone Adelson, is an enchanting tale that weaves traditional elements of fairy tales with the fantastic costumes and hoopla of Purim. Procedures for borrowing and returning books are posted on the desk in the library. The Library Ladies 8 Bonim Preschool Bonim preschool students celebrate Tu B’Shevat with a Seder last month. Celebrating The Winter Holidays As the snow begins to melt (we hope) and thoughts of spring fill our heads, we take the time to celebrate the last two Jewish winter holidays before Passover. Tu B’Shevat In most of North America, it is still a little too cold for outdoor planting, so we are planting seeds inside instead. Planting a tree in Israel through the Jewish National Fund is a wonderful way to honor someone or pay tribute to someone’s memory. A tradition on Tu B’Shevat is to taste new fruits, especially fruits native to Israel, such as almonds, figs, carob and dates. Some people have a Tu B’Shevat Seder, tasting fruits and drinking wine in different shades to represent each season. Here at Bonim Preschool we celebrated with a school-wide Seder led by Rabbi Schultz. Tu B’Shevat reminds us that it is our responsibility to care for the earth. Brainstorm with your child ways you can recycle and save energy in your home. Plant seeds at home – nothing grows faster (and is more rewarding to a child with limited ability to delay gratification) than birdseed on top of a sponge in a pan of water. You can also plant parsley now and use it at your Passover Seder. Purim The holiday of Purim is fast approaching. The children have begun to hear about the wicked deeds of Haman and how a gentle man named Mordechai and his lovely cousin Queen Esther saved the Jewish people. We have been retelling the story of Purim to the children in class as well as in music with Cantor Blum. We have also been busy making yummy hamentashen. Stop by to see us, and we will be sure to share a cookie or two with you. We will be celebrating Purim in school on Wednesday, March 4 and Thursday, March 5. It is a tradition that children dress up in costumes for Purim. They always enjoy parading through the hallways and visiting the front office to show off their costumes. The children will be participating in an in-school carnival as well on those days. The culmination of the holiday will be during Purim services on March 4, including a sure-to-be funny spiel as well as the synagogue-wide Purim Carnival on March 8. Join us if you can. Alexa Cohen This spring, help us celebrate Ira Wise’s 20th anniversary as our Director of Education. See Page 2. One of Us: Sandi Michaelson A Steady Relationship Amid Constant Change From childhood to parenthood, from job search to international career distinction, from religious school student to Torah reader and Temple leadership roles, Sandi Michaelson says her relationship with Judaism has not changed much. “I question more today, but I have questioned things since I was 13,” she says. call from Rabbi Prosnit. “He said, ‘We want you to know there’s room at the Temple for both of you here,’” Sandi said. Indeed, today both Sandi and her former husband remain B’nai Israel members who continue to attend services and programs. Sandi Michaelson For Sandi, a guiding Jewish value that remains constant is Tikkun Olam, Hebrew for repairing the world. As the kids got older, she worked parttime as a freelance writer and editor, but the Temple also drew her. Today, very comfortable with being 60, marking her 10th year with Save the Children, working on the global relief organization’s resource development (fundraising) team, Sandi describes herself as “a working professional, a mom with three children who for the most part are launched from my home. I’m single. I have a wonderful job. I have wonderful friends. I feel fortunate.” She joined the Social Action Committee and then, along with Elaine Chetrit and Andrea Goodman, started the Mitzvah Connection program, which invited congregant families to help the needy in Bridgeport at Chanukah and other holidays. They made small gifts for kids, collected toiletries to distribute to families, and became the nucleus of a larger Temple effort that restored or built housing in poor neighborhoods with the Habitat for Humanity program. Together with Elaine and Andrea, her leadership helped make B’nai Israel the first Jewish congregation in Connecticut to form a working partnership with the Christianbased organization. Her first Jewish-related memory – sitting on the floor of an aunt’s house, playing dreidel with cousins at Chanukah. It was that same kind of warmth that made her feel at home at Congregation B’nai Israel when she first went “synagogue shopping” with her former husband in 1989, arriving in Fairfield with small children in tow. “As soon as I walked into the sanctuary and sat down, I started to cry. It was the warmth. I looked around and saw people who looked like they were like me. I felt at home,” she says, adding that other places she had visited felt too much like “a fashion show.” Initially, she was “the typical parent with kids in religious school. I dropped my kids off. We celebrated holiday events with the school, met other families some of whom to this day include my best friends.” Sandi served a three-year term on the Temple’s Board of Trustees, leading the Family Education Committee. She would often read at High Holy Day services. She led the Merkaz Steering Committee, which guided creation of the regional Hebrew high school. Her growing children must have been watching. Ultimately two of her sons, Eric and Kyle, would become BIFTY co-presidents, and her daughter Julie would go to Eisner Camp for a number of years and travel to Israel during high school. The Temple has been there for her in difficult times too, Sandi says. After her marriage came to an end, she received a In 2005 Sandi began work for Save the Children, where she is now acting associate vice president, Strategic Foundation Partnerships. She travels extensively, building and managing relationships with private foundations that make major donations to the organization to fund important childfocused programs. Her last trip was to Zambia, where she met with a donor to finalize details of a program to help children living on the streets return to their families. She was planning a trip to Jordan in connection with a Save the Children program in a camp for Syrian refugees that employs the arts to help with emotional healing for children devastated by the horror of civil war. B’nai Israel becomes a comfortable place to return to. “I feel at home when I go to services. I think I want to find a way to do more at Temple now, but I haven’t found just what that is at this point,” says Sandi, who struggles, like many, to find the time to balance work and non-work pursuits. “But maybe I will.” She adds with a big smile, “Here’s something to add to that description about me I gave you when we started talking. …. I would say I’m a Jewish woman.” By Don Hyman We want to know what makes each of you One of Us. Please share with us your Congregation B’nai Israel story. Email the B’nai Israel Storytellers at [email protected]. Donation Item of the Month: Cans of tuna for Spooner House in Shelton. 9 Donations Please note that only contributions of $10.00 or more will be acknowledged with a card and Bulletin listing. Rabbi Prosnit Discretionary Fund The August Family, with thanks to Liz Nigrosh and Bob and Ellen Sheiman; with thanks to Stewart Gross for his kindness. Gregory and Nicole Barrato, in appreciation of Rabbi Prosnit. Stacey and Duane Berlin, thank you for mentioning our parents, Joan and Werner Berlin, at Yahrzeit. Bari Dworken, in memory of Cindy Dworken. Elaine and Bob Friedman, in memory of Cindy Dworken, wife of Jeffrey Dworken. Janet Jurow, in memory of Ellen Kadden, wife of Jack Kadden. Alice and George Kelly, in memory of Pat Marchetti. Geoffrey and Melanie Kooris, thank you to Mark Schiff. Carol Krim, in honor of the late Rabbi Harold Schulweis. Dee, Lou, Adam, Brian and Melissa Landman, in memory of father and grandfather, Jerry Dachs. Beth Lazar, in loving memory of great aunt, Esther Epstein. Aleksey and Raisa Ledvich, in memory of grandparents, Sarah Ledvich and Menashe Goldenfarb. Nora Mayerson, in loving memory of dear husband, Kenneth Mayerson. Renee Noren, in recognition of Rabbi Prosnit. Beth and Randy Reich and Family, in memory of our fathers and grandfathers, Sidney Loewith Goldstein, Harry Burchman and Stanley Reich. Patti and Samuel Rosenberg, in appreciation of Rabbi Prosnit. Gloria and Richard Sheiman, in memory of Georgiana Sandberg, grandmother of Stacy and Lee Sheiman, great-grandmother of Alexa and Owen Sheiman; in memory of Ida Perlstein, mother of Sandy Germain. Steven Soberman and Suzanne Phillip, in honor of Rabbi Prosnit and Wendy Bloch on the birth of grandson, Ezra Jules Gleeson Prosnit. Twody and Bob Schless, in appreciation of Rabbi Prosnit. Miriam Spero, in memory of beloved husband, Robert Spero. Gail and Peter Weinstein, in memory of Jacob Sher, father, grandfather and great-grandfather. Michael Wittman, in memory of wife, Jill Tarlov. Larry and Adele Zuckerman, in memory of Adele’s parents, Lottie and Philip Burack; in memory of Larry’s parents, Minnie and Max Zuckerman, and in memory of Larry’s brother, Paul Zuckerman. Rabbi Schultz Discretionary Fund Jill Dachman, in loving memory of father, Lester Rand. Maxine, Stewart and Jenna Gross, in memory of mother and grandmother, Jean Shafrank. Debbie and Jeff Hazen and Family, in memory of Betty Fink. Beth Lazar, in loving memory of Aunt Roz and Aunt Janet Greenberg. 10 Laura and Dudley Orr, in memory of Stanley Rosoff, father-in-law of Ellen Rosoff. Selma Rand, in loving memory of brother, Lester Rand. Twody and Bob Schless, in appreciation of Rabbi Schultz. Music Fund Barbara Abraham, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Nancy and Robert Altchiler, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Claire Baker, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Brian and Linda Barlaam, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Carol and Nate Barsky, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Judi and David Beier, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Jeffrey and Wendy Bender, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Lori, Ken, Ryan, Arielle and Darcy Berger, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Carson and Robert Berkowitz, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Stacey and Duane Berlin, thank you for mentioning our parents, Joan and Werner Berlin, at Yahrzeit; in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Michael and Judy Green Blumenthal, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Martin and Alayne Burger, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Elaine and Juda Chetrit, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Ellen and Lawrence Dinkes, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Bari Dworken, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Barbara and Mark Edinberg, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Herbert and Ruth Feinberg, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Bob Ford, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Joni and Michael Greenspan, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum; in memory of Cindy Dworken, wife of Jeffrey Dworken, mother of Stephanie, Benjamin and Jared Dworken. Barbara and Steve Gersen, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Ellen Hyde Phillips, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Jack Kadden, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum; in memory of Sophie Varon, mother of Joe Varon; in honor of the 10th anniversary of Ronnie and John Dubrowin. Gloria Katz, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Alice and George Kelly, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Sally, Maddy and Michael Kenler, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Geoffrey and Melanie Kooris, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. The Kortmansky Family, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Joanne and Richard Krantz, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Arlene Kaminsky and Family, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum; in memory of Stanley Rosoff, father of Renee Noren. The Karnal Family, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Janice, Marc and Matthew Katz, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Lisa Knicos, in appreciation to Cantor Blum, and in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum; in loving memory of Ellen Kadden, wife of Jack Kadden. The Kochman Family, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Dianne and Lou Landman, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Beth Lazar, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Judith and Stanley Lessler, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Lawrence Levine and Alison Bonds, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Jeff, Jackie, Josh and Rachel Madwed, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Nora Mayerson, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Alan and Sylvia Neigher, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Shari Nerreau, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Alan and Joan Newman, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Karin Newman, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Liz and Mark Nigrosh, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Renee Noren, in honor of Cantor Blum. Barbara Panisch, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. David and Judith Pressler and Theresa Vas Nunes, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Julie and Steve Pressman, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Rabbi James Prosnit and Wendy Bloch, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Nina and Ken Rabine and Family, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Barbara Rifkin, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Richard Rosen, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Brad and Linda Rothbaum, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Myrna Rubenstein, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Jerry Saunders and Elaine Appellof, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. We want you in the Bulletin! Send your news to editor Scott Smith at [email protected]. Donations Please note that only contributions of $10.00 or more will be acknowledged with a card and Bulletin listing. Twody and Bob Schless, in appreciation of Cantor Blum. Laurie and Daniel Schopick, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Caren, Bill, Jon and Emily Schwartz, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Serena and Arnie Sher, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. The Silberman/Weisman Family, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Elaine and Marc Silverman, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Connie Simon, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Steven Soberman and Suzanne Phillip, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Esther Spiegel, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Steve and Ellen Tower, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Joseph and Leslie Varon, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Debbie, Dan, Matthew and Jaime Viens, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Enhancement Fund Jeffrey and Wendy Bender, in memory of father, Fred Bender. Beatrice Berger, best wishes always. Bernheimer-Lincoln Insurance Group, Inc., in memory of Ellen Kadden, wife of Jack Kadden. Elaine Chetrit, in memory of Sophie Varon, mother of Joe Varon. Joan Frankel, in memory of Ida Perlstein, mother of Sandy Germain. Florence Germaine, in memory of Stanley Rosoff, husband of Elaine Rosoff. Victor and Irma Gurvits, in memory of Dora Geiman. Kristin Jacobi, in memory of Ellen Kadden, wife of Jack Kadden. Andrea and Irving Kern, in loving memory of Charlotte and David Miller. Eli and Katerina Kharaz, a donation. Alida and Al Kleban, in memory of mother, Elizabeth Shulkin. Geoffrey and Melanie Kooris, in honor of the naming of Barbara Rifkin’s grandson. Sylvia and Wallace Lebowitz, in appreciation of Patti and Samuel Rosenberg’s contributions to the synagogue. Lawrence Levine and Alison Bonds, in honor of Ellen Kadden, wife of Jack Kadden; in honor of Sophie Varon, mother of Joe Varon. Irving and Wilma Mark, in memory of father, Hyman Mark. George and Chris Markley, in memory of Pat Marchetti. Liz and Mark Nigrosh, in memory of Bob Appleton and Anne Nigrosh. Laura and Dudley Orr, in memory of Leon Rosenthal, stepfather of Ronnie Dubrowin. Patti and Samuel Rosenberg, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Twody and Bob Schless, in appreciation of Janet Jurow. Esther Spiegel, in memory of beloved husband, Jerry. Paul and Elaine Wunder, a donation. Sylvia Prosnit Adult Education Fund Beth Lazar, in loving memory of mother, Shirley Lazar, and uncle, Robert Lazar. Steven Soberman and Suzanne Phillip, in honor of Rabbi James Prosnit’s special birthday. Nursery School Enrichment Fund Alan and Joan Newman, in memory of Ida Perlstein, mother of Sandy Germain, grandmother of Stacey Berlin; in memory of Georgiana Sandberg, grandmother of Stacy Sheiman. Nursery School Scholarship Fund Melanie Kooris, in memory of Dora Fialk. Gail and Peter Weinstein, in memory of Richard Lichtenstein; in memory of Phyllis Fox, mother of Rosanne Ain. Rabbi Martin Library Fund Samuel Miller and Family, in memory of Harriet Kot Miller. Barbara Rifkin, in memory of brother, Daniel E. Postol. Prayer Book Fund Chris and George Markley, in memory of Janice Blum, mother of Cantor Sheri Blum. Rabbi Arnold Sher Social Action Fund Ellen and Lawrence Dinkes, in memory of Betty Fink. Continued on page 13 This spring, Congregation B’nai Israel commemorates more than 100 years of Confirmation classes. 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Congregation B’nai Israel 2710 Park Avenue Bridgeport, CT 06604 www.cbibpt.org SHABBAT SERVICE SCHEDULE (Fridays at 6:00 p.m. where indicated, preceded by an Oneg Shabbat at 5:30 p.m.) Friday, March 6 6:00 p.m. Service Torah Portion – Ki Tisa, Exod. 30:11-34:35 Haftarah – 1 Kings 18:1-39 Prayer Stories #3 Saturday, March 7 8:00 a.m. Service 9:00 a.m. Brotherhood Breakfast 9:30 a.m. Torah Study 9:30 a.m. Young Families Havurah 11:00 a.m. Bat Mitzvah of Ella Diamond, daughter of Steven and Jennifer Diamond Friday, March 13 5:30 p.m. Mishpacha Shabbat 6:00 p.m. Service Torah Portion – Vayak’heil-P’kudei, Exod. 35:1-40:38 Haftarah – Ezekiel 36:22-36 Saturday, March 14 8:00 a.m. Service 9:00 a.m. Brotherhood Breakfast 9:30 a.m. Torah Study 9:30 a.m. Young Families Havurah 11:00 a.m. Bat Mitzvah of Danielle Hazelton, daughter of Ron Hazelton and Lynn Drasin Friday, March 20 6:00 p.m. Service with the Emissaries (Details on P.3) Torah Portion – Vayikra, Lev. 1:1-5:26 Haftarah – Ezekiel 45:16-25 Saturday, March 21 8:00 a.m. Service 9:00 a.m. Brotherhood Breakfast 9:30 a.m. Torah Study 9:30 a.m. Young Families Havurah 10:30 a.m. “Rabbi’s Table” Shabbat Service with Rabbi Schultz in the Library 11:00 a.m. Bar Mitzvah of Jacob Schwartzstein, son of Adam and Christine Schwartzstein Friday, March 27 6:00 p.m. Service with the Band Torah Portion – Tzav, Lev. 6:1-8:36 Haftarah – Malachi 3:4-24 Saturday, March 28 8:00 a.m. Service 9:00 a.m. Brotherhood Breakfast 9:30 a.m. Torah Study 9:30 a.m. Young Families Havurah 1:00 a.m. Bar Mitzvah of Alex Wiggetman, son of Joseph and Michelle Wiggetman