2012 - International Human Learning Resources Network

What’s in the Pot?
43rd Annual IHLRN Conference
San Diego, CA
October 2012
ihlrn.org
IHLRN Women’ s Group
Join us for Conference #44!
Sept 15-22, 2013
Granlibakken
Conference Center & Lodge
Lake Tahoe, California
For our 44th annual conference we shall visit beautiful
Lake Tahoe in northern California at the historic
Granlibakken Conference Center and Lodge. Check out:
http://www.granlibakken.com. (Granlibakken is a
Norwegian name meaning a hill sheltered by trees.) The
resort is family-owned, with charming A-frame style
rustic lodges nestled in 74 wooded acres of picturesque
mountain valley. Enjoy epicurean delights on the decks
while taking in the abundant natural light and views.
Spectacular Lake Tahoe is just 5 minutes away.
Granlibakken lodge features a heated outdoor pool,
jacuzzi and tennis courts. Burton Creek State Park is
less than 5 miles away.
The registration packets are out in email and all the information is up on our website:
www.IHLRN.org Please share this information with your friends and colleagues; word of mouth
has proven the best way to grow our IHLRN family!
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IHLRN Board Members
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Women
Brenda Parmelee
Brigitte Madeline
Cindy Rosner
Diana Hall
Vivian Nelson
Lois Gold
Lois Gelbmann
Sandra Fox
Nada Feketeova
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Ron Nelson
Harvey Lewis
Bob Whitten
Walter Zahnd
Rich Dunham
Conference Coordinator
M.A. Bjarkman
Editor of What’s In The Pot?
M.A.Bjarkman
Scholarship Committee
Betsy Gast
Mary Martha Christiansen
Graphic Artist
Janet Bernson
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A letter from our President, Bob Witten
February 2013
Dear IHLRN Family,
“We did it! We did it! We said that we would do it, and indeed
we did!”
With apologies to ‘enry ‘iggins of My Fair Lady, IHLRN can sing
along with equal gusto when we look back at our conference at
The Dana in San Diego.
Actually several things we did were excellent. First, I think of the very successful welcome and
inclusion at our conference of our Satir Cousins, Virginia Satir Global Network. It was a
creative experience not only for us but for them as well as expressed by many of their
members. We are two quite different organizations governance-wise but clearly one in spirit
and in desire to maintain and advance the genius of Virginia in this world.
We also had the largest attendance in many a-year. How sweet it was to reconnect with so
many ‘elders’, and how about that sing-along with Wes and Lona Wessel for a joyous mid-week
evening. How refreshing also it was to welcome and connect with so many first time attendees
– 18 on the opening night with several more joining us during the week. Our international
participation stretched from Slovakia and Czech Republic to Thailand and the Philippines. I
would hope that you find it as exciting as I do to experience the expanding sphere of influence
which Virginia’s wisdom and methods brings to our troubled world.
IHLRN’s community of acceptance, wisdom and love was not only strongly expressed and
enjoyed by all who were present but it was creatively demonstrated as we wrangled through
our dreams of future conference sites. I must confess that I loved our process and was
heartened by the unity of spirit expressed in the outcome.
Now our gaze shifts from the shores of the Pacific Ocean to the tree studded heights of the
Sierra Nevadas. We will gather at the Granlibakken Conference Center and Lodge at Lake
Tahoe a bit earlier than usual -- September 15-22. As your Board develops plans for this
conference, please begin now to make your plans to attend and enjoy the beauty of this
location. I think that the scenery will enchant you, the program will enrich you, and the love
will embrace you. Please remember all that Virginia said about hugs.
We are already making plans for our 2014 Conference in the Czech Republic so begin saving
your pennies. That location promises to inspire us all as we meet the large Satir community in
the Czech Republic and Slovakia .
Peace, Shalom & many Hugs,
Bob Whitten, President
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Conference Presentations 2012
2009
Monday morning Plenary
Connections: Satir Process
Wally Zahnd and Nada Feketeova, Presenters
Monday Afternoon workshops
Hear Talk - Introduction to Non-violent Communication
Liv Monroe, presenter
Liv gave a presentation on the HearTalk process developed by Marshall
Rosenberg for nonviolent communication. It is a process that teaches us
to take responsibility for our own feelings, rather than blaming how we
feel on others. This is not about who was right or wrong; it is about more
effective communication.
HearTalk begins with proactive listening, which creates the kind of quality
connection that inspires natural giving. We all need to contribute. It affects our consciousness,
the way in which we perceive the world. For that reason, it can quite quickly have a significant
effect on communication. First you listen with empathy. Then you speak your own truth. Each of
us will see things differently.
The first thing you talk about is what you observed, reporting that objectively, like a video
camera. Use real examples and be careful of your tone of voice. Then say how you felt about
what the other person said or did, again without blaming. Next, state what you need or value
that causes you to feel this way. Finally, ask for what you really want and be prepared to take No
for an answer. Because you have to understand what you really need, you may want to practice
this in your head before you use it. It helps to clarify what you actually value; it may not be
what you initially intended to talk about.
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Satir in Russia 1988
with comment L. Dodson
Martha Teeter, presenter
Martha brought these videos which showed
Virginia in a live demonstration of her work
with a Russian Family. She guides the father,
mother, and young son in a variety of
experiments (or opportunities to play) in their
interactions with each other. The experiments
included standing on chairs to make level eye
contact and physically " Bumping" each other” to help
loosen the rigid family system of relating.
Virginia also used the psychodramatic
techniques of "doubling"
- speaking for the father the words he was
unable to say to his son. Later, Virginia
helped the father with a reconstruction of his
family of origin - using the stances. The
video shows the intense concentration that
Virginia gave to his family.
The Forces Within Us: Three Drives Within
Fanita English, presenter
This workshop comes out of Freud’s work. He said there were 2
unconscious conflicting drives-Ego and sex. After World War I,
he said there was a death drive and a life drive, libido which
included ego and sex.
Fanita talked about there being three drives or "motivators" and
symbolized them as three Greek goddesses. They are then
represented by their attributes as manifested in our attitudes,
concerns, feelings, moods, wishes, etc.
The 3 Drives as "Goddesses" that influence us:
1) Survia – Her attributes serve individual survival
2) Passia – She serves species survival. Attributes: Excitement,
creativity, passion, sexuality
3) Transcia – transcendence.
She pulls us outside of life and outside of chronological
time as in spirituality, death, sleep, meditation, etc.
These are the unconscious motivators of energy that drive human beings. Usually
people operate under the influence of one or two at a given moment of time. We found
in the workshop that most of us had 2 favorites.
She then gave us more information about attributes for each of the 3 drives, so we can
tell which motivator is affecting a person at a given moment.
Note: Fanita distributed a copy of her article: "What Motivates Resilience after Trauma"" (From the
Transactional Analysis Journal, Vol. 38 No. 4 Oct. 2008) with for more details. Contact Johnny Faulkner
([email protected]) for a copy.
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Redundant Family Patterns: Herrick & Fords Family Rules
Bill Roller, Presenter
Evening Music
Healing through Singing
Martha Teeter
Sing along with Malir &
Sr.Edith
Singing Old Time Songs
Wes and Lona Wessel
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Tuesday Morning plenary
Communicative Intimacy: The Basis of Psychotherapy
Howard Kahn, presenter
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Tuesday Afternoon Workshops
Using Satir & Buddhist Metta in
Thailand: Integration of Satir in Thai’s
Context
Tipawadee Emavardhana & Ladda Kitivipart,
Presenters
“ring-a-ling”…Ladda’s phone rings many years
ago and it’s a strange man (yes, very
strange…).
She listens, (he says “sa-watdee”),and she listens and keeps on listening as
Roger Harmon, who had been working in
refugee camps in Thailand for many years, suggests a remarkable thing: that he could bring Satir
trainers to Thailand.
That
conversation started a twenty year
history of psychologists Tipawadee
Emavardhana and Ladda Kitivipart
adapting Virginia Satir’s concepts
and models to human issues in
Thailand, beginning with
collaboration with Roger Harmon,
Bunny Duhl and Maria Gomori.
Tipa has effectively used the Satir
model with drug abusers, HIV
patients, and has trained nurses
and doctors in the Satir model.
After the Tsunami in 2007, she and
Ladda trained 23 volunteers to use
the Family Map to help confused
and distressed victims grieve and
reconnect with their lost history.
They integrated Buddhist Loving
Kindness Meditation into the Satir
model to help ease suffering and
disequilibrium for the survivors of
the disaster.
And most recently,
they have worked in South Thailand
to support Buddhist and Muslim
civilians following terrorist attacks
that left people distrustful and
afraid. Virginia’s mantra of “Peace Between, Peace Among, and Peace Beyond” is alive and vital
in Thailand thanks to these two talented, lively, committed psychologists and teachers.
Tipa and Ladda expressed deep appreciation for Satir folks who have worked and continue to work in
Thailand: Roger Harmon, Laura Dodson, Maureen Graves, Sharon Loeschen, Rich Hoffman, John
Banmen, Bunny Duhl and Maria Gomori.
The International Human Learning Resource Network (IHLRN) is grateful for the gifts Ladda and Tipa
brought to us by journeying to San Diego for our conference. Their knowledge, commitment, sense
of humor and generosity are inspirational!
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Getting Un-Stuck!
Robert McGarey, presenter
This workshop is based on the twelve-hour workshop Bob often
presents at The Human Potential Center in Austin, Texas. Each
participant wrote a concrete and achievable description of a project
or goal. (Writing helps.) We need to be ready, willing and able. the 3 essential ingredients for getting un-stuck.
Ready means a person is motivated to accomplish the goal, that
they know how this project will benefit them and that they feel a
strong desire to achieve it. Willing means that the obstacles -whether internal or external -- standing in the way of achieving
this goal are small enough that the motivation can overcome
them. Able means that the person has the tools and resources that
are necessary and required to enable them to achieve the goal.
After writing down our goals, Bob paired us with another participant and helped us work through
the three steps. After writing, we would turn to our partner and discuss what we wrote, making
it more likely to in fact achieve our goal.
To follow the three steps allows us to take concrete steps on the road to actual implementation to really experience Getting Un-Stuck!
A Slow Learner’s Report of What They Learned about Bonding
Steven Young, Presenter
Baby’s number-one developmental task is to
separate from Mother.
Birth introduces a
new dimension of bonding: the child is
physically separate from the mom, but the
bond survives, even if the mom doesn’t. This
Primary Bond is very resilient; the child will
attach to the first available creature –sibling,
grandparent, maid, if necessary.
The
Primary Bond can migrate to wherever it
needs to go. We discover our experience of
the self in that bond, in separating from that
person.
If that person can’t complete the bond, we’ll
find someone who can – a friend, a
therapist.
A child needs permission for the Secondary Bond. This can be with father, lesbian lover, friend,
grandmother. It’s a voluntary bond because survival is not at stake. It will become the template
for all voluntary relationships in life—spouse, friends, children, boss, enemies. It’s not as robust
as the Primary Bond; it’s fragile, brittle. If that person dies, he is hard to replace.
Child’s job is to separate from mother. If s/he goes to Secondary Bond, s/he has security.
nowhere to go, she disappears, has anxiety disorder/panic disorder.
If
We can look at the structure of the Secondary Bond in someone’s life and see the consequences.
Did the Secondary Bond “claim” the child? Many don’t claim the role. If dad didn’t claim client,
client will say “You never acknowledge me.” Client will say, “Dad never said “I love you,” and
said “You can’t behave that way.”
Therapist needs to establish bond with client, then client can establish bond with little boy inside
himself.
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World on the Edge:
The future of capitalism and currency in the post modern era
Stephen Gomes, Presenter
The sense of uncertainty and anxiety in countries all over the world is palpable, nowhere stronger than
in the U.S. and Europe. The global economy has become so complex it's difficult for even the most
experienced experts to grasp all of the trends, patterns and interrelationships. Using mind mapping
techniques Steve has developed a world economic conceptual model to help understand the swirling
economic forces now engulfing our world.
Most of today’s world currencies are "Fiat" currencies (e.g. US Dollar, Euro, etc), which are notes
issued by central banks stating that they may be used as “legal tender for all debts, public and
private”. What gives a value to this paper? The value of a flat currency is based on production of labor
and tax collections in each country. Other kinds of currency are backed by actual commodities (e.g.
Gold Standard, diamonds, etc). The dollar used to be a Commodity-based currency whose value
varied with the value of the specific commodity.
Today the world is quickly approaching a very serious global monetary crisis. Debt/
GDP is one measure of the problem. Greece is at 160%, Japan at 200%. Another
factor is the shipping and trading costs associated with getting products to market
(tariffs in some countries), etc.
Complex sophisticated financial tools based on leverage and hedging – generally
referred to as: Derivative markets, are also a growing part of the problem. These
remain mostly unregulated. How many Credit Default Swaps have been issued in the
world? What is the value? Estimates are $35-45 Trillion. If another major global financial meltdown
occurs where will money be found to cover these “bets”?
"Follow the money" is still good advice if you're looking for
the truth. Most people don't know U.S. banks are the
largest holder of European government bond debt debt.
Our world is unstable, and a serious currency crisis is
likely. The level of the current concentration of wealth has
not been seen since 1928. The top 1% controls more of
the U.S. wealth than at any time since 1929. The Middle
Class wealth has declined dramatically and their share of
national wealth has been stagnant for two decades. Our
Current model of Capitalism is unsustainable. The top
four most profitable industries are now able to charge
unjustifiable fees for value being provided to consumers.
This kind of predatory capitalism is made possible in the
U.S. by the existence of non- profit groups controlled by the global one thousand corporations that
feed completed legislation to the U.S. Congress. An example is A.L.E.C. (American Legislative
Exchange Council). About 80-90% of that organization’s legislative drafts are eventually passed by
the Congress in one form or another.
We are quickly approaching a time when world economic leaders will need to reconvene a currency
conference such as resulted in the last Bretton Woods Agreement to begin resolution of this problem
in global markets. Major drivers of currencies are Banking/Credit (which makes 53% of current profit
from fees), Pharma, health care, energy). Be careful where you put your money and investments.
Consider: Royal Bank of Canada. Leslie Goldman, known as the “enchanted gardener”, made
contributing remarks in which he suggested that it is time to seriously consider alternative ways to
hold value. One alternate economy he suggested was natural heirloom seeds (<http://
plantyourdream.net/>).
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The Roller Coaster of Chronic Pain:
how to add joy to the ride
Ann Steiner,
Presenter
Parents & Children:
What happens when parents are
authoritative or overprotective or
ignore their children.
Nadia Feketeova, Presenter
Eva Holubova translator
Nadia created a family drama by role-playing
with Mother, Father and Child.
First Role: was created with both parents being
authoritative. Orders came only from the parents.
Second Role: the parents were overprotective to
the extreme.
Third Role: the parents ignored the children.
After debriefing the players, it was clear the
child's feeling were greatly affected by
parenting style.
Being authoritative had the
effect of creating a withdrawn child and one who may be rebellious.
Being overprotective had the effect of suppressing the child's nature to explore and increased
his/her dependency on the parents.
Ignoring the child created a child who was willing to misbehave to solicit attention.
Role playing can be a valuable tool in demonstrating why some family stances are not healthy
for both the parents and children.
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Wednesday Workshops
Six Stages of the Self Esteem Sculpt
Janet Christie-Seeley, Presenter
Janet talked briefly about a woman whose key problem was not her many
social difficulties, including a sexual assault, but her rage at herself.
Janet described using Psych-k which uses energy transfer and muscle
testing (www.psych-k.com) to shift her core subconscious beliefs
(Including “I hate myself” and “I want to die”). This woman’s chronic
victim state from childhood was shifted by changing from a belief of “I
want things to stay the way they are” (the seductiveness of the old
Status Quo as victim) to “I welcome changes in my life”, which resulted in
an energy shift in all the other negative beliefs and a rapid rise in SelfEsteem. This illustrated that anger at self underlies the victim or “poor me” stance – the person
asks for sympathy from others as they have no compassion for themselves.
She then did a self esteem sculpt with one attendee, working through her complaint of having
anger outbursts - she often gets rapidly enraged, then feels contrite and apologizes. Janet had
her pick her angry (blaming) part and her apologizing (placating) part. “How old were those
parts?” “age 5”. Janet told her of “The 90/10 Rule” -- when we get angry, 90% of the cause is in
the past and only 10% is in the present – Who was she most angry at in the past? – her mother.
She ended up picking both parents and her grandfather who told her mother she should go join
her father in the US, so she lost her home and extended family in Israel – when she was five.
This was the source of her rage that would surface whenever she felt unheard or unloved. She
also had a complaining part, who turned out to be her gremlin, pointing a critical finger at her.
Janet then asked her to pick a stand-in for herself, and her self-esteem. She said she had 2 selfesteems, one very high, one very, very low. She placed the first stand-in on a chair; the second
on the floor tugging at her alter-ego with “I just want to be loved”, which is what her placating
part was saying, also from the floor, to her mother. Janet then relabeled the one on the chair as
her Ego Ideal or Performance-based Self-Esteem.
Voices were then added, while the star watched and listened, seeing herself objectively. She
then replaced her alter-ego so as to feel and hear the sculpt subjectively. She turned angrily to
her Self-Esteem and told her to stop pulling and get up, then immediately apologized with “You
poor little thing!”, illustrating her pattern of anger! She was then able to get down and hug the
little Self-Esteem, which now felt loved and could stand up.
The star could then face her parents, and express both the pain under the anger at feeling
unloved and neglected and her compassion for her parents having to emigrate -- by using both
her honest angry part and compassionate placater at the same time! – i.e. Congruence. Her Ego
Ideal became her spiritual part, and she was told to get a Crap-detector for her Gremlin and use
a tweak of an elastic band she was given for her wrist as a reminder not to be nasty to herself!
Janet then summarized the process with a powerpoint showing the Iceberg and Change process
which are both illustrated by the 6 stages of the Self-Esteem sculpt. The star ends up at the I AM
where self-Esteem is high and there is a sense of connection with the universe (At-One-Ment).
The complete sculpt goes through the change process twice, if the star is ready to go that far at
once. Often they only reach the first level of change and get stuck in self-blame, in which case
further homework leads to a shift the following session.The sculpt can also be done with an
individual as a guided meditation. A useful homework is to get clients to draw their Gremlin,
writing underneath all its favourite statements, and drawing their Higher or Better self, with
boasts, for balance.
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The Body Tells the Truth:
Humor and Other Martial Arts
Ilana Rubenfeld, Presenter
Ilana began by telling folks how to write their own books.
Especially difficult was writing HUMOR. It totally depends on
TIMING (like all good therapy). She included her experience of
being a choral and orchestral woman Conductor while attending
The Juilliard School and afterwards.
Ilana subsequently contributed to psychology and somatic
therapy by integrating aspects of emotional/spiritual work. She
created "The Rubenfeld Synergy Method.".(RSM). She then led
a Rubenfeld Synergy exercise to show how quickly participants
could loosen their heads and necks and heighten their
awareness.
She led two sessions of RSM. (which she now does only at
IHLRN Conferences). These included the body language of
many metaphors in life. The participants gave these volunteers
a great deal of "advice". Using touch and talk, Ilana focused on
their own empowerment and resources to solve their dilemmas.
"People examine their own choices to create their own happiness" Ilana suggested at the end.
Peace Within,
Peace
Between
Linda Powers
Leviton, Presenter
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Past and Future: Virginia’s early work 1950’s-1960’s
Johnny Faulkner, Presenter
Johnny presented his dissertation research on Virginia’s life and her work
during her years at the Mental Research Institute. Her creative work
established the first ever family therapy training program.
His
presentation included the development of the Conjoint Family Therapy
Training Program, explored her seemingly tireless travel around the world
presenting what was then a new idea of seeing family members together
and how her work during this time period helped to launch a revolution in
the field of mental health. Johnny discovered many important factors for
why her training program became world-renowned and presented how
those factors, if applied to current and future clinical training program,
could enhance and establish more effective training methods. Participants
discussed questions concerning this little-known portion of Virginia’s life and career.
Dealing Honestly with Hearing Loss
Dollie Cutler, Presenter
Dollie first described the tests that an audiologist should do to determine
whether the hearing loss is mild, moderate, severe or profound. Then
she discussed the various hearing aids on the market, how and where to
get tested. She noted that hearing aid/loss research and development is
among the fastest growing technologies worldwide. She told us that all
hearing aids are now digital which means that as a person’s hearing loss
worsens or changes, all the audiologist needs to do is reprogram the
hearing aids; usually, you won’t need a new hearing aid unless your
hearing worsens perceptibly.
Then she told the group about Cochlear Implants, the 3 companies who make
them worldwide, and something about their historical development. She pointed out that Medicare will
pay for one Cochlear Implant (which she wears, showing the group) – if you test at the “severe” or
“profound” level and that usually, your insurance will pay all or part of the other one if you need to be
bilateral. Some hearing loss will not be helped by Cochlear Implants, and the Cochlear audiologist you
go to will let you know after testing. Testing for Cochlear Implants should be done by Cochlear Implant
audiologists, usually found in University Medical Centers -- some insurance companies have their own.
Living with hearing loss is a challenge; you will need to learn a bit about speech reading and
assistive listening devices, as Cochlear Implants or hearing aids really don’t help much in crowded
restaurants or other noisy situations.
Money Break Throughs: Overlay with Satir's Iceberg
Model
Gail Benton, Presenter
Gail presented on the Money Breakthrough Method. She took the
participants through Virginia's Iceberg Model and showed how we can break
through our money beliefs and take action now for more positive results in
our life and business.
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Balancing the Doing/Being in Care-giving
Michele Baldwin, Presenter
Michele began by citing the advanced ALS condition of her cousin, Robert,
who she has been attending most days. She observed that nursing home
staff and MD's are often too busy to check out how the patient feels, so
outside visitations are important. Self care is also important, and it is
helpful to have 3 or 4 persons sharing time with the patient.
The session then transitioned into a contribution of the experiences
and perspectives of the session attendees, all or most of whom had
substantial life experiences with this kind of care giving.
Perspectives included
the following:
• What is my gift?
• Think ahead to bring
personal "equipment",
especially when staying
in hospital overnight.
• Organize a schedule
of people to have lunch
at the hospital with
patient.
• Plan ahead of medical
crisis, have agreement
between husband/wife
on each other's roles,
i.e. legal papers in good
order. Know each other's
preferences
if
incapacitated.
• Laughter is key. - an
"internal massage".
While visiting, self
management
is
important - don't display
a n g e r o r u p s e t . Use
imagery to "take energy"
from nature into heart - then "gift it" to the patient.
shake-off stress before or after a visit.
Maria Reifler demonstrated calisthenics to
In a well functioning nursing home, the residents become "family". The residents are involved and
busy "all of the time".
Clear information from the patient is needed despite whatever communication difficulties. ALS
becomes especially difficult. Best if care giver works with a notebook. Come into hospital with
documentation and background on patient's problems - since the system is often strained and
the hospital physician may not pay enough attention. It's important for the patient to have an
advocate in such a situation. Idea of finding or doing a publication of "things to check off".
Sister Edith explained hospital procedure in the Philippines. Lenore Guillermo-Pasol described hospital
regulation in the Philippines, including physician's responsibility to explain consequences of any
procedures. For the patient, it's hard to handle powerlessness. Compliment patient for whatever they
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are able to do - it gives them a valued sense of giving back.
Thursday Field Trips - Connecting with San Diego
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Friday Morning Plenary
Personal, Social and Political Transformation: Virginia's 3rd Birth
Laura Dodson, Presenter
Laura led a plenary on Virginia Satir's ideas about unfolding the Self toward the 3rd Birth and
how this relates to world peace. She presented Virginia's ideas about connection of the self to
the Great Self as Carl Jung would call it and she presented Jung's ideas on this as well.
In a demonstration of this, a process which took most of the session, four volunteers
represented the baby at birth in an action presentation with circles of group participants around
the babe--the first representing the parents, second circle, the extended family, third circle of
people, the culture into which the child was born and the fourth circle around the entire room
encompassing the four groups representing the wisdom of humankind. One person on a chair
outside all the circles represented the higher self or God energy.
The child then thanked each circle around it for what the child felt given by that circle, i.e,
parents, etc, what it chose to keep and what it would leave behind. As each circle was spoken to
that circle sat down and after all circles had been encountered by the child, the child stood on a
chair with all its circles of influence on the floor by the "child."
The poignant scene that was created was that each babe as it had "individuated" could see its
counterpart in the other circles and all could see and felt connected to the God Energy as well to
itself and others. We felt a chill at the simple truth that this process, which is not easy and takes
a lifetime to refine, enables people to see other people, other nations more clearly and to
connect to the God Energy--a movement toward world peace and the third birth for individuals
and the world.
The participants shared their experience as energizing and as pulling together the rich
spirituality at the core of Virginia's work.
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Friday Workshops
Things I Wish I'd Done Today
If I Had Died Last Sunday:
Preparing for one's own transition
Margarita Suarez, Presenter
In her straight up, factual and humorous way Margarita helped us to slow
down, think and talk about some of the important things we know we need
to do and talk about with our loved ones. She did not cover legal issues, but
touched on some of the emotional, spiritual and physical issues that will
help us and those we love at our time of transition.
There seems to be a fear or reluctance to talk about our own death or to
even think about this. The workshop could not cover all the issues, but it
introduced some, and started the dialogue, first with self and then with
others.
The process is the same as the six steps in the Satir Process or in the Enriching program that is:
• Making contact with self and then with others
• Validating: see the value within my self and then with the other
• Awareness: bring awareness in what we are feeling, thinking, doing
• Understanding and accepting differences
• Choices: we have choices, there is not a perfect way. Consider all the possibilities.
• Support: It is essential to find support for myself, for what I want and what I need, and to
start the dialogue.
Keeping the process as the foundation of the “how to”, then we can move to the issue of
preparing for or at least to start opening the dialogue.
There are many things to think about;
• How to start thinking about my own death –the beginning.
• Who are the “others” with whom I need to talk and share things
• The how to: the balance with what I would like, or do not want, and what is
important for those left behind.
• Your Will: experienced by those closest to you as the last “I love you”, or “I do not
care about you
• The process of dying: for those who may have an illness or a process that would
allow for the “participation from others”. Once you know what you would like
(knowing that it may change) is important to talk with those close to you.
• The other type of death: accidental; homicide; suicide- even if we do not know how
it will be it is important to think about it
• The funeral/memorial/cemetery/cremation: all the many choices
• Legal issues –find a lawyer you trust
• Resources –find them now to help you with the awareness of what you want and to
start the dialogue with others.
Note from recorder Diana Hall: Margarita was a nurse in the Vietnam war, later she became a Social
Worker who worked very closely with Virginia Satir. She was one of Virginia's trainers in Crested Butte
and after Virginia died, Margarita took on the daunting task of being the Executive Director of what was
then called Avanta.
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EMDR: an introduction
Richard Kennedy, Presenter
EMDR – Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing
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Richard covered the
following points in his
presentation:
•How our memories work to
help us understand and
identify our experiences in
the present.
•How past memories also
trigger cognitive and
emotional responses from
our past that end up being
inaccurate assessments of
our current situations.
•How our past childhood
evaluations about others
behavior (such as “Its my
fault he/she angry because I
am a bad kid) distort our
self-evaluation and lead us
to repeat patterns from our
past.
Unprocessed memories from the past vs Processed (once upon a time) memories.
The discovery of EMDR by Dr. Francine Shapiro and her most recent book “Getting Past Your
Past – Take Control of Your Life with Self-Help Techniques from EMDR Therapy”
Some of the research that has anchored the determination of EMDR as a scientifically
validated treatment modality.
The explanation of how bilateral stimulation of our brain engages a self healing response that
allows therapists to help individual reprocess old memories to a more matures status.
The EMDR Process – assessment, determining targets for treatment, developing self place,
creating an EMDR protocol, Processing Targets with Bilateral Stimulation
Treating present triggers and future templates .
•R i c h a r d ’ s p e r s o n a l a n d
professional
•experience using EMDR.
Three Sisters from Manila
Maria, Lenore & Edith
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A Course in Miracles: What it is. How it Came.
What it Says.
Ron Nelson, Presenter
A Course in Miracles is a self-taught study program in advanced spirituality and
modern psychology, a spiritual practice for the 21st century. It is not a course in
changing behavior, but rather a way of changing your mind about yourself, all
others, and the world.
The Course has no author. It was "scribed" by a Jewish woman from Brooklyn
who was a Professor of Psychology at Columbia University, over a seven-year
period in the 1960s. Most Course students accept the idea that it came from
Jesus. But you don't have to believe that to benefit from its teachings.
The Course makes a fundamental distinction between the real and the unreal, between knowledge and
perception. Knowledge is truth, under the one law of love or God. It is unalterable, eternal, and
unambiguous.
Perception is
the world of time, of change,
of beginnings and endings. It
is based on interpretation, not
on facts.
The Course describes two
thought systems. One is ego
based and heavily dependent
on the discoveries of Freud,
particularly the concept of
projection, which our ego uses
to shift blame away from
ourselves and onto others.
The other is represented by
the Holy Spirit, Who
understands our attachment
to our bodies and the physical
world, but also knows Who we
really are. At every moment,
we are choosing to believe our
ego or the Holy Spirit, and all
of our actions flow from this
choice. The Course seeks to
undo our ego and lead us to
choose the guidance of the
Holy Spirit.
The Course teaches that there are only two emotions: love and fear. Every action we take and every
thought we have is either an extension of love or a call for love.
The Course is radical because it asks us to question every value and belief we hold dear. We are
caught in a dream from which, as the Buddha famously said, we need to awake. Which is to say, we
need to wake up to the reality of our spiritual nature and being, to accept Who we really are as an
integral part of God, or Love, and then to act out of that awareness. In short, to practice loving
kindness in our daily lives as the only reality.
My experience with the Course over 30 years of study and practice, is that it seeps into my
consciousness VERY SLOWLY. But seep it does, and life just seems to be a little easier every year. I
become less agitated, less judgmental, more loving, more accepting of what I see in myself and all
those around me. And I like that … a lot!
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The Therapist’s Professional Will: If Not Now, When?
Ann Steiner, Presenter
It is never too early to plan for the unexpected. We all occasionally get sick
or have family emergencies, and eventually we will no longer be able, or
wish to continue practicing. The ethical and clinical importance of planning
for our temporary and permanent absences is often neglected. Most of us
were not taught techniques for skillfully handling these expected or
unexpected absences. Plus, most clinicians aren’t aware that their Ethics
Codes require that they have a plan in place for the disposition of their
practices in the event of an unplanned absence.
What is the Therapist’s Professional Will?
The Will is a document detailing your wishes for the continued care of your clients in your
absence, whether planned or unplanned, from losing your voice to serious illness, relocation,
retirement, or death. It is designed to reduce the trauma and impact on your clients, colleagues
and yourself when you are unavailable. For example, when you have unplanned absences,
your Professional Will addresses the following questions:
• What will happen to your practice?
• Who has access to your office keys, client contact information and other details needed in
an emergency?
• Who has your voice mail access code and appointment schedule?
• Who will cancel or make referrals for your clients?
• How do you want your clients and their records handled if you are “out of commission,”
either temporarily or permanently?
During the workshop we discussed issues of self-disclosure, participants reluctance to retire, and
how to put together what Ann refers to as an Emergency Response Team, back-up team and
select a Bridge Person who serves as the coordinator or primary contact person if you are unable
to call clients yourself.
For more information check out Ann’s website: www.DrSteiner.com
Group Dynamics and the New Heroism
Bill Roller, Presenter
Phil Zimbardo and I are building a bridge between social psychology and those of us in clinical
practice by integrating the insights of Phil's Heroic Imagination Project with the group dynamics
necessary to make ethical action come alive as a group centered activity.
At our San Diego conference, I had the opportunity to pilot the first such group designed around
these ideas. Our group began with the question, "When have you taken the opportunity to act
courageously in accordance with your ethical principles...and when have you not done so?" Our
group process led to the need for a network of people to support our efforts to act in small but
heroic ways. The lone, egocentric hero is not part of the new heroism. Although lots of money has
been spent researching how to get people to obey authority, next to nothing has been spent
researching conditions which allow people to obey their conscience.
We are excited to let you know about an educational video we are creating that we hope will
inspire a new generation to act in courageous nonviolent ways defending ethical principles. Those
of us in psychology, psychotherapy, and higher education have a stake in developing a method of
teaching students to act heroically even at personal risk to themselves.
Learn more about how to support our video,“GROUP DYNAMICS AND THE NEW HEROISM”
by clicking the link. www.indiegogo.com/groupdynamicsandthenewheroism
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Mindfulness and Stress Management
Betsy Gast, Presenter
Conducted in an open space near the San Diego Bay, just at the
back of The Dana on Mission Bay, on a very windy and cold late
afternoon – 13 of us attended Betsy’s great workshop on
Mindfulness and Stress Management. The attendees were really
so shivering cold that Liv Monroe had to bring blankets from the
hotel. Interesting! All of sudden, attendees were like veiled
couples as during weddings. That was a cool start!
Betsy, very creative in her presentation, laid on the grass her
objectives stating that participants will learn the physiological
stress response and to recognize the difference between “good”
and “harmful” stress; identify stressors in their own lives and common ways they respond to
stress; learn and practice mindfulness strategies for stress management; learn about some
current therapeutic applications of mindfulness and discuss ways to use mindfulness practices
with the clients.
Betsy defined mindfulness as the deliberate use of attention. This strategy/practice has been
widely used in order to reduce pain, suffering, overcoming addictions, emotional regulation and
thereby foster improvements in one’s being.
In Mindfulness, one experiences an opening, a moment-to-moment awareness and this brings
one to concentration or focusing. Betsy further shared with the group that it is important for
psychotherapists to become familiar with this practice for obvious reasons.
To bring in some concrete learning, Betsy cited 2 kinds of stress: 1) beneficial stress and 2)
chronic stress. Stress is beneficial when we experience facing new challenge, acquiring new
skills, in teaching, new information, going to a conference. She said that, “It is like riding in a
roller coaster. We experience fear but there is thrill.” While chronic stress, our hormones gear up
our body and it is obvious that chronic stress harms the brain. So that, when one practices
mindfulness, one is paying attention to the process, doing things slowly, gets to the process of
really observing one’s self, one’s action. All these are rooted in mindfulness.
Betsy conducted the first activity where she gave raisins to her participants. Raisins resemble to
a stressful situation and the body just feels it. With eyes opened, she asked the participants to
explore the raisin and when ready she told us to put the raisin in our tongue and chew it with
different teeth, meaning the raisin has to get to different parts of our mouth and explore again.
After which, Betsy processed the group by telling us about the parts of our body that needs
attention. Each of the participants shared their own experiences, with Betsy doing the process.
Texture, flavor and aroma changed everything. Thus, the senses, emotions, body, intellect and
spiritual domain should focus away from stressor.
Next Betsy talked about Relationship with one another and shared to us the 3 Zones of
Awareness: 1) Inner Zone – emotion and sensation, 2) Middle Zone – thoughts and fantasies
and 3) Outer Zone – the environment, 5 senses and other people. After a short while, we
experienced drifting into a focused state that being mindful of these zones, each experienced
their own feel of acceptance, calmness, nourishment, intimacy, resignation to God’s will, loving
kindness and mindfulness.
Betsy’s session was really great despite the very cold early evening at The Dana. The session
closed after a series of mindful exchanges of experiences. Thank you, Betsy! God bless you.
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Enriching Your Relationship with Yourself and Others
Duane Osterlind & Johnny Faulkner, Presenters
This was a “round table” discussion about the program (carried over from the morning
presentation). The development of the program was explained by Sharon Loeschen (one of the
developers who were in the group).
Information was shared about the grant money that had been received and how it was being
used to train trainers and present training. Stories were shared about how the program is being
used and developed around the globe.
Everyone took part in a short exercise to experience how a portion of the program can work.
Information was shared about how the training program works and how to become certified.
Dyads, Triads, and Quads, Oh My! Intro to Polyamory
Robert McGarey, Presenter
Bob described Polyamory as a non-traditional relationship structure that has become more visible in
recent years and thus is important for counselors to know about. This workshop covered the general
information necessary to understand polyamory, including family structures, jealousy, terminology and
common problems encountered as well as potential benefits that polyamory can provide.
Bob defined polyamory and distinguished it from cheating, swinging and polygamy. He described 5
different poly family structures, defined compersion (which is essentially the opposite of jealousy), and
expanded on how polys deal with jealousy.
Poly relationship structures can include dyads, triads and quads. While issues like jealousy may
occur, polyamory is about loving, caring connections. For poly to work well, there should be an
awareness of everyone's needs and desires, and good communication is essential.
Bob noted that there are few sociological studies about polyamory. However, it is clear that a
fundamental premise of poly is that it respects all lifestyles, including monogamy, and that it is
based on honesty and love.
Improv Games
Todd Hart, Presenter
Embracing failure, listening carefully, committing to everything you do, and building on what’s already
been created are some of the key components of Improv. Oh yes, and a side-effect of doing improv is
you’re probably going to have a lot of fun. Improv can be categorized in two forms: Long form and short
form. Short form typically includes a variety of games and very short scenes. Long form can include
more involved scenes, which may be connected in some way. Long form can also include complete
improvised plays or stories. At IHLRN,
we focused on the short form variety.
We started by playing games such as
Pow” are relatively simple exercises,
the speed of play can help increase
increase the likelihood of failure. And
Frequently we fear failure, minimizing
as possible. However, in improv, we
schools teach a “failure bow” to
possibly even more fun is just to
everyone else build upon that
“Pass the clap” and “Whoosh, Bang,
but adding new options or changing
the level of risk, which can then
never has failure been so much fun.
our risk of reaching failure as much
seek to embrace failure. Some
encourage celebrating mistakes. But
commit to your mistake, and
mistake.
We continued through the evening
playing games such as “Word at a
time story” and a game similar to the childhood “Red light, green light”. The former forces careful
listening and building upon what has come before. The latter, reinforces trying different strategies to
reach the goal. Anyone wanting to know more about the games played or improv in general is free to
contact Todd at [email protected]. He loves to talk about improv and has personally benefitted
from some of the therapeutic affects.
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Redecision Therapy
Bill Roller, Presenter
Steps To Redecision Therapy
1) What do you want to change?
2) Scene or memory to creatively assess childhood decision.
3) Act of Redecision
4) Positive reinforcement by group and therapist(s).
Goals? 1) intro & theory, 2) experiential, 3) Discussion & close
-Source: Gestalt/Perls, Transactional/Berne, Goldings
-Family Injunctions: “The Don'ts"
Experiential Exercises:
Dyads: what parental injunctions?
Demonstration: for the benefit of one participant and all observing.
Some homework was given to the subject (to reinforce the learnings).
-Discussion & feedback to subject was given.
It is advantageous to do this in group settings for reinforcement.
News release from Pat Medvick
A 3 volume set on Experiential Learning by Jerry
Weinberg is available
as ebooks at https://leanpub.com/Experiential .
More information is available from his website
http://www.geraldmweinberg.com/
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Tribute to Dr. Ladda Kitvipart & Dr. Tipawadee Emavardana
Roger Harmon, Presenter
It is such a great pleasure to join in honoring our
dear friends, Dr. Ladda Kitvipart and Dr. Tipawadee
Emavardana.
Let’s go back to 1991 in Bangkok ,Thailand. The
Thai economy is booming. Japanese and Western
manufacturers are flocking to Thailand. Education
is rapidly expanding at all levels. Dr. Tipawadee was
at that time teaching a range of psychology courses
at prestigious Thammasat University and Dr. Ladda
was a professor at Ramkhamheng University, the
open university that accepted all high school
graduates, many of whom had great potential but
limited means.
Both Dr. Tipa and Dr. Ladda were respected professors--and with PhDs from the US, their status
commanded the respect that a hierarchical system afforded them.
They could have just
lectured from a high perch, dispensed knowledge from the lectern, been respected for their
academic achievement.
Both could have played it safe as experts in their field! They could
simply have looked good in their tailored handwoven Thai fabric (which in the wearing is a
tribute to and support of the of Thai village weavers and traditional Thai culture.)
So, what got into these women!? I am not sure the causes, but what I do know is that they
exemplify those beautiful words of the Buddhist master, Suzuki Roshi: Always be a beginner; in
the beginner’s mind there are many possibilities, in the expert’s mind there are few.”
Tipa and Ladda exemplfy beginner’s mind. They thirst to know. To know themselves. To know
and connect with others. To know how to support others and communities in Thailand
undergoing great personal and societal change. As such, they have worked with all sorts of
issues, from HIV/Aids prevention and cure, to assisting tsunami victims, to working with
addictions. The list is long, and I encourage you to take a look at the poster that shows some of
these areas. I love to think of Tipa and Ladda as modern day “Apsara,” the famous celestial
dancers who decorate the walls of Angkor in neighboring Kampuchea. When demons were about
to share with the gods the elixir of immortality by churning the sea of milk, the apsara saved the
day by distracting the demons! Yes, Tipa and Ladda have the courage to take on the demons in
their society! Modern day apsara, indeed!
Their wonderful qualities are so many. To be with them is to experience deep compassion. The
first Satir trainer to work with them, namely Bunny Duhl, and those to follow, including Maria
Gomori, Laura Dodson, Maureen Graves, Sharon Loeshen, Russell Haber, and Richard Hoffman
have basked in their loving kindness and generosity. Ladda and Tipa bring their compassionate
hearts in all they do, be it conceptualizing new workshops and programs to meet needs,
translating Satir writings, leading workshops and supporting co-trainers, liaising with dozens of
organizations to get needed funding and participation—or digging deeply into their own pockets
to underwrite the work.
And I so admire what is their special genius--their synthesis of Buddhist perspectives and
practice with those of Virginia Satir and others from the West. Virginia Satir meets the devout
Bhuddhist and magic occurs.
So, I say, thank you, Tipa and Ladda. I love you. We love you. And I love Satir Global for
recognizing these great women. it is altogether fitting that this occur at the coming together of
IHLRN and Satir Global, as we find common ground this week—just as Tipa and Ladda are
creating common ground in their work in Thailand.
May All Beings Be At Peace, and May This Begin With Us.
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Virginia Satir Global Network’s
Living Treasure award to Maureen Graves
News about Ann Steiner:
Looks like Ann’s been busy: She was just elected to
the American Group Psychotherapy Society’s Board of
Directors, in November she was given the Arthritis
Foundation’s Northern California Chapter’s Exceptional
Service Award for 2011, she was an invited
contributor about the Therapist’s Professional Will for
3 publications and is surprised to find that her manual,
Starting and Sustaining Groups that Thrive: Workbook
and Planning Guide, has started to "get legs"- she is
getting orders from all over the country.
Yetta Bernhard is now 103 years old
and a living treasure! The day after the
conference ended Maria Rosa Reifler,
Crystal Carroll, M.A. Bjarkman and Johnny
Faulkner paid her a visit. Yetta is as sharp
and fun as ever and we had a delightful
time together. Some of us are planning to
return and play Scrabble with her but we
understand that she is an excellent
competitor!
Dear IHLRN Family,
This is a note of appreciation for a wonderful experience of being with you. I felt so alive and
fully present with you, and experienced so many hugs, appreciations, and felt fully accepted and
cherished. As I shared with you then, the feeling I have is of rising gently and slowly in a hot air
balloon, so gradually that I didn’t even at first realize what was happening.
And, in that
wonderful energy found myself being able to more fully connect and have peace with myself and
with each of you.
My hope and wish is that you know how much it means to me to have connected with you, and
how grateful I feel that you wanted that connection too. I learned so much from each of you in
both head knowledge and heart wisdom. It is incredible to see the long-term results of Virginia’s
expression and desire to become more fully human, alive in you. I now know the experience of
being with beautiful people. Thank you. ~ Johnny Faulkner
A note from Joyce Elijah
Well, our lives have changed, but we are doing what we need to do and have some pretty wonderful help from
our family. We also have some good friends and that makes all that has happened tolerable.
In 2008 Les had his first signs of memory loss. He’s had tests from a neuro psychologist, (a great and
supportive man) in the years that followed. He was diagnosed with vascular dementia and changes in our
living style began. First the driving went, then in 2001 we moved to an assisted-independent living place so
we could have an apartment together. About three months ago I stayed here and he is now receiving what is
referred to as “a higher level of care” in another location. Fortunately, I am a few blocks away and can see him
easily. That sums it up.
I love being on the mail list and recognizing old friends and the things they are doing. So here’s my
contribution to the wonderful organization we were a part of. I have written to Rich and Reiflers and hope
they continue to improve. I think of all of you and the people, places and learnings!
Love to all.
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Books by Lois Gold
Lois Gold's two books are available on Amazon. The Healthy
Divorce is in its second printing and has been recently revised and
updated. It was a pioneering book, presenting an achievable model
of collaboration and cooperation for couples struggling with
separation, divorce and post- divorce conflicts.
The SACRED WOUND is her memoir of dealing with the loss of a
child and the transformative journey of healing.
Silent Auction Report 2012 from Wendy Silver
I just reread what I had written last year after our
wonderful trip to IHLRN in Tours and it looks like I got my
wish and my hope. We returned to San Diego this year
where our Silent Auctions began back in 2005 and it was
outstanding. My thanks to all of you and our great Silent
Auction Team with its silent angels, we have outdone
ourselves. We have pledged and received $4115.29. This
is the most ever. I think a big part of it was everyone’s
generosity to round-up on their purchases or if they did
not purchase anything they just donated. This will be a
big help in the coming years to afford those who need
help to come to IHLRN to be able to do it. This brings our total for the last six years to nearly
$19,000.00 in Auction Donations.
Once again, thank you everyone.
Remembering...
At this year's memorial ceremony we remembered and celebrated the lives of Charlotte Rosner
and Ron Reifler, both longtime and well-loved members of our IHLRN family.
Janet Bernson, our graphic designer, and her partner, Max
Middleton, were best man and bridesmaid for the wedding
of M.A. and Murray in Costa Rica on '07. Max passed away
into the great beyond in August and Janet misses him terribly
as she celebrates him
daily.
Many of you may
remember Betty
Thomas who assisted
me for ten years with
our conferences. She
was my best friend/
soulmate for 29 years.
Betty passed away on
Sunday, February 24,
after a nasty bout with
cancer and now roams
the universe painfree with her wild and wonderful spirit!
I miss her and I celebrate her!
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TEMPERATURE READING IMAGES
Virginia felt this format worked well for running any meeting, whether the start of a workshop
day, a family’s week or a business meeting. NASA used it, as have other organizations. Key is
starting with the positives of appreciations and excitements. Complaints should be accompanied
by recommendations, as the complainer is the on most likely to have the best solution. Some
versions of Temperature Reading put complaints lower down.
1. APPRECIATIONS AND EXCITEMENTS is indicated by a heart, “warm fuzzies” (furry stuffed
2.
3.
4.
5.
creatures popular in the 80’s when I first drew this), a bouquet of flowers, and a light
bulb for excitement.
COMPLAINTS WITH RECOMMENDATIONS are represented by a Suggestion Box and a key
for the solution!
PUZZLES is indicated by question marks and a jigsaw puzzle with pieces missing. People
may be puzzled by a word: ”What do you mean by Congruence?”, by a situation:” Where’s
Jean this morning?’ or “Where’s Daddy going next week?” or “Is there going to be a staff
reorganization?”
NEW INFORMATION is shown by the notice board. It’s amazing how many businesses and
families forget to tell their members what’s going on – so they feel like mushrooms (kept
in the dark and fed on …. rumours).
Finally HOPES AND WISHES are depicted by a rainbow, a magic wand or wishing stick, a
four-leaved clover and wishbone for luck, and one of the hot air balloons that took us high
up over Crested Butte. It’s a great way to end a meeting in the Satir Model where
positive directionality is key.
6.TOP LEFT IS MOUNT CRESTED BUTTE, COLORADO.
This
beautiful peak was the supervisor of all that went on in our month
long workshops in Crested Butte with Virginia.
It is the essence
of the Seed or Growth Model of Satir in contrast to Hierarchy, a
Collaborator society instead of a Dominator society (Reiane Eisler)
7.DOWN THE RIGHT HAND SIDE is a THERMOMETER that reads
the weather and mood of all in the group, or family, or business
meeting. A Colorado ASPEN, with leaves that shiver in the wind is
beside it.
Janet Christie-Seely, Satir Learning Centre of Ottawa, Ottawa,
Ontario,Canadawww.satirottawa.ca, [email protected]
International Human Learning Resources Network(IHLRN)
is an o rg aniz at io n t hat w as b e g un b y V irg inia Sat ir in 1 9 7 0 t o
f o st e r hum an g ro w t h and d e v e lo p m e nt b y m e ans o f a co nf e re nce
t hat f o cuse s o n inno v at io ns in f am ily t he rap y and int e rv e nt io n t o o ls
t hat she and o t he rs had d e v e lo p e d , and o t he r re ce nt d e v e lo p m e nt s.
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