Sample Chapter - How to Talk to Men

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New York Times Best-Selling Author
Matthew Hussey
How to
talk to
Men
59 Secret Scripts To Melt His Heart, Unlock What He’s
Thinking, And Make Him Want To Be With You Forever
Contents
My Techniques Worked for These Women, and They Will
Work for You Too! . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1
Introduction - Speaking of Men… . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 11
Part 1: How to Talk to Men...
To Create Uncontrollable Attraction
1 – How to Get Men to Approach You Every Time:
Body Language Secrets . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 19
2 – How to Start Talking to a Guy
(With Zero Chance of Rejection) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 24
3 – How to Approach a Guy Via Social Media . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 30
4 – How to Flirt With a Guy You Just Met . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 35
5 – How to Tell If He’s Into You . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 37
6 – How to Guarantee a Guy Swaps Numbers With You . . . . . . . . 41
7 – How to Know Who Should Text First . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 46
8 – How to Get Him to Ask You Out . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 50
9 – How to Make Fascinating First Date Conversation
That Keeps Him Coming Back for More . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 53
10 – How to Blow it on a Date (What NOT to Say) . . . . . . . . . . . . 58
11 – How to Tease a Guy to Create Uncontrollable Desire . . . . . . . 61
12 – How to Use Touch to Drive Him Wild . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 70
13 – How to Flirt With a Work Colleague . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 72
14 – How to Text Him the Perfect
Amount to Keep Him Wanting More . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 78
15 – How to Charm Him With Your Texts . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 82
16 – How to Use Fun Texts to Get Him Thinking
About You Non-Stop . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 90
17 – How to Get Him to Stop Texting and Just Call You Instead . . . 92
18 – How to Get Him to Stop Just Texting
You and Actually Ask You on a Date . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 100
Part 2: How to Talk to Men…
To Build a Deep Connection
19 – How to Make Yourself the Woman
He Wants to Do Everything With . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 105
20 – How to Have Great Conversations
That He Doesn’t Want to End . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 108
21 – How to Get Him to Open Up . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 113
22 – How to Make a Man Fall in Love With Impressing You . . . . 120
23 – How to Be the Woman Who Endlessly Fascinates Him . . . . 125
24 – How to Make Him Feel Like a Man in 5 Simple Phrases . . . 132
25 – How to Get Him to Express His Emotions to You . . . . . . . . 136
26 – How to Make Him Feel More at Home
With You Than Any Other Woman . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 143
27 – How to Make Your Man Feel Amazing
With Compliments . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 147
28 – How to Make Him Feel Needed By You
(So He Won’t Ever Need Any Other Woman) . . . . . . . . . . . . 155
29 – How to Make Him Melt With This Clever
Bragging Technique . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 159
So They’ll Change Their Bad Behavior
30 – How to Respond to the Late Night Booty Call
in a High Value Way . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 165
31 – How to Respond to His “Sexting” . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 169
32 – How to Slow Down His Sexual Advances and
Make Him Even More Attracted to You in the Process . . . . 174
33 – How to Respond to Last Minute Date Requests . . . . . . . . . . 177
34 – How to Get Him to Change His Bad Behavior:
6 Powerful Techniques . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 181
35 – How to Rekindle His Interest After He Disappears . . . . . . . 198
36 – How to Get Him to Pay Attention to You
When He’s “Too Busy” . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 200
The Hard Questions
37 – How to Ask if He’s Single (Without Looking Desperate) . . . 209
38 – How to Show You’ve Got Options
(and Make Yourself Even More Desirable) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 214
39 – How to Know When (and How Much)
to Open Up About Your Past . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 220
40 – How to Answer When He Says:
“How Many Men Have You Slept With?” . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 224
41 – How to Answer The Question: “Why Are You Still Single?” . . . 231
About Sex
42 – How to Have the Condom Conversation
(Without it Being Awkward) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 237
43 – How to Get Him to Have Sex the Way YOU Want . . . . . . . . 242
44 – How to Keep the Sexual Spark Alive
(So He Doesn’t Look Anywhere Else) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 253
45 – How to Turn Him On Even When You’re Apart . . . . . . . . . . 257
In an Argument
46 – How to Approach Serious Topics With a Man
Without Coming Off as Threatening . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 261
47 – How to Express Your Frustrations to a Man . . . . . . . . . . . . . 264
48 – How to Communicate that You’re Unhappy
With His Behavior . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 268
49 – How to Have Arguments That Strengthen
(Instead Of Ruin) Your Relationship . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 271
50 – How to Diffuse an Argument: 7 Foolproof Techniques . . . . 276
About Commitment
51 – How to Ask if He Is Seeing Other Women . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 285
52 – How to Answer if He Asks Whether
You’re Dating Someone Else . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 288
53 – How to Know if You Are a Couple . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 291
54 – How to Show Him You Are in Demand:
3 Simple Techniques . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 295
55 – How to Use Sneaky Psychology
to Raise Your Value in His Eyes . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 300
56 – How to Make Yourself His Partner,
Not Just His Hookup: 5 Powerful Phrases . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 305
57 – How to Ask Him if You Are Exclusive . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 315
in a Relationship
58 – How to Get on His Mom’s Good Side . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 321
59 – How to Handle the ‘Other Women’ In His World . . . . . . . . . 325
60 – How to React When He Says He “Needs Space” . . . . . . . . . . 336
61 – How to Deal With His Bad Habits at Home . . . . . . . . . . . . . 342
62 – How to Know When to Say “I Love You” . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 349
63 – How to Bring Up Marriage . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 357
Final Thoughts . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 363
Glossary . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 365
Key for Colours:
Blue
– Key idea or concept
Green – Script to use
Red
– Don’t say this
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relationship expert for celebrities, royalty, TV, radio, magazines and
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Rest assured, what you have here is the most trusted dating advice
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My Techniques Worked for
These Women, and They Will
Work for You Too!
‘We’re Engaged!’
“You gave me so much confidence because I felt like you really
understood me and the mistakes I was making. After a few weeks I
worked up the courage to start a conversation. I just have to tell you
I was so tickled with myself for not overreacting and immediately
planning out our future!!
I focused myself in the here and now and just being my awesome
sexy self I always wanted to be. As it turns out, we had a lot in
common and in three conversations he asked me out. I used
the tips for the areas I knew I needed help with, but while I was
focusing solely on date to date, it turned out HE was the one
thinking about our future.
We’ve now been together for 7 months and engaged for two of
those!!!!!! :) And of course you’re invited to our wedding if you can
make it!”
- Amanda
‘The Texts Worked!’
“I tried your texts........the “yawwwwwn” one when he only talks
about being busy at work........the “this burger almost tasted better
than sex!”. They work!
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- Genevieve
‘I Have 3 Dates Within 1 Week Of Using Your Skills’
“I’m 54 and have 3 jobs so I thought I had no time for men and so
had no men around. Then as my last child was 17, I wanted to get
back into the scene and had no idea how.
You showed me how to make time to look in the right places. So,
within one week of using the skills I learned and actively used, this
weekend I have 3 dates and had to turn 2 away. So I went from 4
years with nothing, to more than I can see.
To other women out there I would say, give the advice in the
program a try. Try to believe in yourself and approach guys with
the skills learned - it gets easier as you work with your own voice
and confident body language.”
- Polly
‘A Common Sense Approach’
“Just wanted to say a big thank you for all of your advice. In truth,
there are dozens of sources out there that claim to know what they
are talking about, but your program has been really beneficial.
I am a psychologist that has worked with various people with
various issues, but it has taken me a while to sort out the romantic
relationships in my own life.
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My Techniques Worked for These Women, and They Will Work for You Too!
Your common sense, practical approach has helped me to be in an
amazing relationship that I have been in for four months now. He is
great and different from any other relationship I have ever been in,
in a good way. Your advice to never settle helped me with this.”
- Corina
‘I Met My Mr. Right’
“So there I was clock ticking and me going into my 36th year with
no clue as to how I was going to attract the next love in my life and,
better yet, how to attract Mr. Right.
I started out doing what most women do. I hit the dating sites and
went on endless coffee-dates meeting nice guys and a couple of
dogs too (even married ones looking for excitement - a fact they
only disclose after the fact).
Being of a persistent nature I refused to let this get me down and I
searched the internet to find out how to meet the right guys and I
came across your advice.
I met my Mr. Right and Paul is the type of man I only used to
dream about as I always thought he and his kind would go for some
model type. He is fun, handsome, inspiring, kind, goodhearted,
successful, well educated, wealthy and brave!”
- Hanna
‘I’m Ending Up With Date Invites Left, Right And Center’
“Your advice is working so well that I’m ending up with date invites
left, right and center.
For example, last night this UK guy got my number and he just
texted me this morning to go for dinner, this Italian guy at the gym
keeps coming over and asking me what I’m up to over the weekend,
another Czech guy and I actually went on a few dates, we kissed
and all but before it got any further, I had to make up some white
lie to say sorry buddy, it’s best we don’t take this any further.
Then I had a French and a South African guy ask me out on
Facebook after I met them at some event and, again, I had to say
no. And there have been more! And this all happened within the
last few weeks.
I’m having SO MUCH FUN meeting new men. And I’m also
feeling SO much better about life and my love life in particular. I’m
divorced, 36. As much as I get out and do sports and meet people,
I hadn’t done it in the way you suggested (as frequently or as well!)
and now I’m totally enjoying it and feeling very positive.
So… THANK YOU MATT! Honestly, you’ve changed my life
already.”
- Huenu
‘In The Last Three Days Two Guys Gave Me Their Numbers!’
“I am having such great fun flirting and having better conversations.
I also joined my local walking group and on my first walk I worked
the group and had a lot of attention. I had a great conversation with a
guy I liked where I set him the task of advising me on the walk to do
on my 40th birthday (Striding Edge or Scafell Pike).
He said ‘that is a great question!’ and then went on to tell me his alltime favorite walk, so I guess he associated me with good thoughts
at that point in time.
In the last three days, two guys gave me their numbers!”
- Claire
‘I Already Have 4 Guys Pursuing Me’
“OMG Matthew Hussy, you just made a monster!
I’ve been in this course only for 2 weeks and I already have 4 guys
pursuing me. I don’t know how to deal with this! Now I need to
learn how to tell a guy that I’m not that interested without hurting
their feelings.”
- Barbara
‘I Feel Freer And More Empowered’
“I used the tips on flirting and being more sociable, playing a new
role, trying things out and communicating with guys like never
before. I met new people, I had new relationships and came up
against some huge life lessons in the process.
In the last few weeks I have had more male and female attention
than I’ve ever gotten in my life. I feel freer and more empowered
about myself than ever before. I have made peace with so many
parts of myself and come to like myself and love myself more than I
ever had before.
I see that I am able to be kind, encouraging, loving and fun to be
around and I’m getting so much affirmation of this. I’ve made so
many new friends and awakened old friendships.”
- Rebecca
‘In Less Than A Week I Can Already See A Tremendous
Improvement’
“In less than a week of applying your lessons I can already see a
tremendous improvement in how men react to me and vice versa.
I am going out with a few guys off and on, and there is one in
particular that stands out. He and I are both very into our jobs (he
has 2, and I juggle 3). Last week, we had made tentative plans to get
together Thursday, but that didn’t work out, so we tried Friday, and
that didn’t work out either.
I felt very “put off ” at the last minute (we had said 8pm and he
bailed on me at about 7:45pm) and I was crushed. I thought it was
his roundabout way of telling me that he wasn’t interested.
He attempted to contact me around 9pm that same night, but I
ignored his call (because I was out with another guy who had called
me earlier that day for drinks), and chose not to call him back
because I was still feeling hurt and rejected.
I watched and listened to all of your videos again. And one of
my high-value girlfriends told me “He WILL call you.” And he
did Thursday morning. Normally, I would be a bit bitchy and
snarky with someone who had treated me so ‘horribly.’ But I was
determined to do something I had never done before.
I was as sweet as you could possibly imagine. And it turns out that
things went absolutely haywire at his second job, and his entire
weekend was a mess. We talked about getting together the next
day. The conversation was absolutely fantastic. I hung up with an
entirely different frame of mind.
Later that afternoon I was surprised when he called me again and
said, “I can’t wait until tomorrow - what are you doing tonight?” I
was very pleasantly shocked. Guys never call me and say those sorts
of things.
We met for a terrific dinner and catch-up last night, and still have
plans for tonight. He really is one of these ‘good guys,’ you know? In
the past I always screw up the good things, but not this time.
I still can’t believe he called me and said that. Never in my life has a
man ever said that to me. Amazing. It never would have happened
without you. Thank you, thank you, thank you times a million!”
- Carolyn
‘I’m Dating A Man Beyond My Wildest Dreams’
“I met a guy who I never thought would be attracted to me in my
wildest dreams as ‘I had chosen him’ so to speak. He is the type
of guy I would want to introduce to my family and even possibly
marry. I began speaking to him and now we have been dating for
several weeks.
I have been asking questions in order to see his values (and whether
they are in line with mine) and have been able to really get to know
him before becoming intimate and starting a relationship.
I look forward to continuing to grow and be the best possible
person I can be… And having a relationship I never could have
dreamed of.”
- Janelle
‘I Now Feel A Lot More Powerful’
“Thanks to your advice, I somehow started meeting people. Now
looking back they were always around but I didn’t engage with
them. I started becoming braver about reaching out to people.
Through your really simple trick of asking people ‘why’ instead of
the standard getting to know you questions, I got into some really
good conversations and made real connections. Eventually I started
connecting people with each other and hosting events. Now I’m
meeting people (including new guys) all the time. People reach out
to me and introduce me to others. I’m currently a very proud ‘hub.’
I’m still single but I feel totally different than I’ve felt before. I’m
interacting with guys differently. I’ve become more flirty. Where
before I’d diffuse sexual tension any chance I’d get, now I just let it
sit there and probably for the first time in my life I understand what
it means when people say ‘I have chemistry with someone.’
I’ve also been treated in a non-‘friend zone’ way by more guys than
ever before. I now feel a lot more powerful - like I actually can do
something to end up in a relationship. And I have hope.”
- Tala
‘I Was Extremely Shy With Men’
“I am an introvert and am extremely shy when it comes to
interacting with men I find attractive.
The other night I was out to dinner with my friend and I saw an
attractive man having dinner at the bar. I decided to order my
drink at the bar instead of getting it from the waitress at our table
just so I could grab the chance to talk to the guy.
OK, that decision in and of itself is so much progress for me. Guess
what? I used the strategies that I learned from you and struck up a
conversation with the guy. I brought out my feminine and flirty self,
which I used to be too shy to show.
I cannot describe the ego boost I got from the success of this
interaction. He flirted back and we had a great chat. It was
awesome.
Now I feel more empowered and more confident than ever. I look
for opportunities to interact with men - even if it’s just to practice
my new skills.
Thank you, Matthew. I know that I am allowing myself to blossom
into the confident and feminine woman I know I am and that very
exciting things are in the making now.”
- Megan
‘A Favorite Of Mine Is The Fantasy Dialogue Texting’
“A favorite of mine is using the whole fantasy dialogue in texting.
It really gets a guy thinking about you in a different way. I’ve been
putting into practice so many of the things you’ve taught me that I
can fill up every night with a date.”
- Illana
‘I Got Married!’
“I implemented all you taught me strictly. Little did I know that on
May 3rd I met the love of my life. On October 4th, we got married.
My husband and I are very happy together, and I also find that your
advice is great for married life. Keep up your great work.”
- Mo
Chapter 11
How to Tease a Guy to Create
Uncontrollable Desire
Ever find when you meet a REALLY cute guy it’s impossible to flirt
and just be yourself?
That’s what kept happening to Elizabeth, a client of mine.
Elizabeth had a passion for anything artistic and loved to paint at
the weekends. Mark, her date, said on his online profile that he was
crazy about books and all things cultural. A perfect match! The
odds were in her favour. Or that’s what she thought…
Here’s what happened in Elizabeth’s words:
“Mark arrived at the bar, and I was instantly relieved that he looked
like his profile pic. Square jaw, well-built, great smile, exactly my type.
He confidently went straight in for a hug. I squeaked out a ‘hi’ and
tried to think of what to say as we ordered our drinks.
The conversation was pretty easy going. We had a ton of similar
interests – reading, yoga, geeking out on Game of Thrones – but as
the date went on it felt like we were talking as friends. I kept asking
ordinary questions like: ‘So...when did you last go on vacation?’
At one point I thought about making a risqué joke about the time
I painted nude models in my art class, but nothing came out and I
missed the moment.
When he smiled, I wanted to compliment his cute dimples, but I
worried it would sound too forward and choked again. I couldn’t get
out of my head, analysing every little thing I was about to say, losing
my nerve every time.
The date ended with us walking around a local market, but I couldn’t
tell if he was into me and I’m pretty sure he didn’t know I was
attracted to him.
We said goodbye with a peck on the cheek, and that was it. I wanted
to encourage him to make a move, but I hadn’t been flirty at all and it
felt weird to make something happen out of nowhere.
It was missing the spark, and I knew I was 50% to blame because I
never took any risks and stayed in my shell the whole date.”
Turn on His “Desire” Switch – Use the Extra 5%
Elizabeth’s story reminded me of something important: it can be
very dangerous to play it too safe in love.
Being mild-mannered, passive, not rocking the boat…all of
these things stop us from flirting with the person we REALLY
like.
The ability to be a great flirt isn’t some holy magic or a natural gift
people are blessed with: it’s in that 5% extra risk that makes a guy
really feel attraction and think of you as more than a friend.
Part 1  How to Talk to Men... To Create Uncontrollable Attraction
One of the best ways to become great at flirting with guys is to start
TEASING.
If you’ve ever had a cute guy playfully tease you in just the right
way, you’ll know exactly what I mean. It probably produced an
instant and intense attraction which made you want to be close to
him (and maybe even grab him if you were being honest!).
There’s no one way to tease a guy, and in a moment I’ll give you a
bunch of different ways to do it. Suffice it to say that teasing is a
way to give a guy some playful bait to react to.
Once you combine the ‘teasing’ techniques I give you below with
techniques on GETTING HIM TO OPEN UP (Chapter 21) and
PLAYING TO HIS MASCULINITY (Chapter 24), you’ll notice
a guy will find himself inexplicably drawn to you after just a few
encounters.
The beauty of teasing is that it allows you to create more of a vibe
with a guy in 8 seconds than most people do in 8 hours, just by
knowing what to say in certain situations.
Why? Because it turns on a man’s “Desire Switch”.
Suppose, for example, you’re out with a guy and it turns out you
both share a love of cooking. You can say to him:
“Well, baking is my specialty. So I’m warning you: don’t
challenge me there.”
Then if he jokes around and brags about his skills, you can say:
“Hmmm I’m not sure...maybe I can trial you as my assistant chef
first...”
If he takes the bait, you can extend the joke further by saying:
“You have strong arms, so you at least should be able to do the
mixing when I get tired.”
Or you could say with a wink in your tone:
“At least if you turn out to be no good you’ll look pretty doing it.”
As another example, suppose he mentions that he saw your holiday
photos on your Facebook profile.
This is the perfect chance for a tease. You can say:
“Now, you weren’t just looking for my photos of me in a
swimsuit, were you?”
This is what teasing is at its best: you’re just lightly poking a guy in
a way that challenges him whilst giving him a little smile as well.
Notice how teasing is like a wink and a nudge at the same time. You
throw out the bait and give him a chance to catch it and chase you
even more.
Other Ways to Get Him to Notice You with Teasing
Once I was with a girlfriend and went on a long, rambling
monologue about a certain movie director, explaining all the
reasons I liked certain films of his and not others.
At one point she said, “I totally agree, but can I just say at this
moment that I’ve never seen someone get this passionate and
serious about films. I’m really enjoying watching you in Mr. Serious
mode right now.”
As she said it, she did a little impression of me being serious by
narrowing her eyes and mimicking my face.
I immediately caught myself and got a little embarrassed when she
said it. Noticing my self-consciousness, she said, “Noooo, I liked it!
I just thought it was super cute how into it you were. Carry on with
what you were saying, I love it!”
This is teasing at its best: a combination of INTEREST and a
sprinkle of playful CHALLENGE.
Here are some other ways to combine these two qualities to your
advantage:
1. Be affectionate with it – This is a golden rule, and it’s really the
secret to joking around without offending someone.
Imagine he trips over in front of you and feels embarrassed. Maybe
he says, “I can’t believe I did that, how embarrassing.” Instead of
laughing at him, you can respond:
“No, it was so adorable because you’re usually so smooth the rest
of the time.”
2. Imply that he’s trouble (in a good way) – If he texts you in the
middle of the day, you can write back:
“I’m not supposed to text while I’m at work, yet you keep
tempting me to pull out my phone. I knew you were trouble.”
3. Imply he misses you – Maybe you missed a couple of his calls
and then when you ring him back he says:
“I’ve been trying to get through to you all day,” to which you can
respond:
“Aww, did you miss me? I miss you too.” (Said in a sweet but
playful way.)
You could alternatively reply:
“Aww, does this mean you have a full-on crush on me?” (Said to
a guy you are more familiar with, so he knows you’re kidding.)
Or, when he says he’s been trying to call you all day, you can
respond:
“I know, I’ve been so busy. I’ve barely had time to talk to anyone
all day. Luckily for you you’re the one person I find it hard to
resist.”
4. Learn to banter with him – Let’s say you’re both having a
conversation about where you’d like to travel in the world. He
says he wants to live in South America. Then he jokes that you
should come with him, swim on the beach all day, and live by
the ocean.
You can respond:
“That sounds great. But if you see me in my bikini you may not
let me go home.”
Another route to good banter is to pretend-joke about stuff he
never does for you anymore. For example, even if it’s only your
second date and you walk past someone getting a back rub from
her boyfriend, you could say to your guy:
“Ah, you never rub my back anymore.”
This is a fun way to joke around with him and pretend like you’re a
couple already, even though you’re only on a second date.
The key with this is to show affection whilst keeping the tone fun
and silly – occasionally throwing in a challenge here and there.
Now you’re teasing him in a way that instead of making him
defensive, only makes him more desperate to please you!
Warning! Be the Alluring Goddess, NOT His Bratty Sister
One more disclaimer on this because I’ve seen this kind of playful
banter go horribly wrong, so for the record, let me be clear:
Teasing is NOT mocking.
There are some people out there who think of the word “teasing”
and immediately assume that it means making fun of a guy,
exposing his insecurities and joking at his expense.
You might be under the illusion that poking fun of a guy makes you
seem confident and funny, but it really just makes him see you as
his bratty sister.
When you mock him, you put him on the defensive, which kills
your allure.
A real tease is supposed to be playful, not mocking. It’s like a little
poke that makes him want to poke back, but it should never sound
like a targeted insult.
For example, if he momentarily forgets what the capital of Italy is,
and you laugh at him in front of others and say,
“That’s so dumb, I can’t believe you could forget something like
that!”
It kills his affectionate feelings towards you in that moment.
Teasing isn’t bringing a guy down; it’s about challenging him so
that he wants to impress you EVEN more.
Another huge mistake I see women making is acting sceptical
when a guy tells her his ambitions and hopes for the future. He
says, “I want to build a big enough company that I could live in two
different countries. I’d love to be able to travel between two houses”,
and she’ll respond:
“Really? That’s kind of hopeful isn’t it?”
This kind of thing stings his ego, even though he may do a good
job of hiding it. Worst of all, it may close him down from opening
up to you again if he feels like he’ll be made fun of for his future
aspirations.
Remember, in flirting, guys respond to hearing a level of
INTEREST combined with that playful CHALLENGE.
Mix these two together and you have a powerful combination, but
remember to do both, as shown in the examples above.
Of course, teasing is just one part of generating intrigue from a guy.
For LONG-TERM attraction, you’ll need to combine this with
showing you have boundaries and self-respect (e.g. Chapter 30 on
the “High-Value Response to the Booty Call”) and making him
feel like a man (see, for example, the “Hero Technique” in Chapter
22; see also Chapter 24).
Remember, anyone can do generic small talk, but flirtatious teasing
is the spark that lights the fireworks lurking beneath the surface.
It’s only 5% more than you are doing now, but it’s the 5% that makes
ALL the difference.
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