Strength for Support Slides for ANZ_pptx

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MINDS & HEARTS
A Specialist Clinic for Asperger’s Syndrome and Autism Spectrum Disorders
Strength for Support Focus On You!! Kathleen Davey BPsySc MPsych (Clin) MAPS www.mindsandhearts.net M I N D S
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Not everything that steps out of line, and thus ‘abnormal’, must necessarily be ‘inferior’ Hans Asperger (1938) Knowledge & A9tude M I N D S
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Conscious Paren>ng In The Moment Kathleen Davey 2010 M I N D S
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“The longer I live, the more I realise the impact of aMtude on life. AMtude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the educaUon, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giVedness or skill. It will make or break a company…a church…a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the aMtude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our aMtude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you…we are in charge of our AMtudes.” Charles R Swindoll, American Writer and Clergyman, b.1834 M I N D S
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Aim of Strength for Support: Enhance subjec>ve wellbeing in parents. Empower parents to choose a helpful a9tude towards their child (and family) leading to more effec>ve influence on their child’s development. •  Understanding of self (brain) •  Increase effecUve use of stress energy •  Understanding of power of influence •  ShiV towards internal locus of control M I N D S
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INFLUENCE!
INFLUENCE!
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“Treat people as if they were what they ought to be and you help them to become what they are capable of being” Johann Wolfgang von Goethe “Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another” Napoleon Hill M I N D S
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The Power of Influence Research and theory from schools and workplaces.
Teachers  Students
Management  Staff
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Rosenthal & Jacobson conducted the Oak school experiment The results at the end of the year: • 
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Significantly greater gains in IQ (On average: “Non-­‐late bloomers” gained 8 IQ points & the 'late bloomers' gained 12 IQ Points) The 'late bloomers' had significantly beMer grades Chaiken, Sigler, and Derlega (1974) – Results: •  More likely to enjoy school •  Receive more construcUve comments from teachers on their mistakes, •  Work harder to try to improve. M I N D S
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What hat do you put on your child?
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Stupid
Naughty
Annoying
Learning
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Brains!
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Brains & Frames •  How do I view my child?
Thoughts •  What behaviour does that
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•  How does this influence my
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Emo>ons •  What emotions do I carry?
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Brain Tools!
"From the brain and the brain alone arise our pleasures, joys, laughter and jests, as well as our sorrows, pains and griefs" Hippocrates •  Set the Frame: Preframe & Reframe
•  Acceptance: Defuse & Act
•  Locus of Control: Focus & Choice
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Reframe I’m a bad parent. Guilt & Frustra>on Less energy for support. Low tolerance. H E A R T S
What is the evidence?
How realistic is this?
Is this thinking helpful?
How likely is it to come true?
What is in my control?
What is likely to happen?
What would _____ say?
What are my options here?
What’s most important now?
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Acceptance: Defuse & Act M I N D S
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Locus of Control Locus of control describes where we believe the control of our life is held
External Kathleen Davey 2010 Internal M I N D S
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INFLUENCE! M I N D S
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Aim of Strength for Support: Enhance subjec>ve wellbeing in parents. Empower parents to choose a helpful a9tude towards their child (and family) leading to more effec>ve influence on their child’s development. •  Understanding of self (brain) •  Increase effecUve use of stress energy •  Understanding of power of influence •  ShiV towards internal locus of control M I N D S
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2010 Strength for Support
First Group
22 parUcipants enrolled Parents of children with AuUsm and AS (aged 6-­‐27yrs old) Measure
Stress
Depression
Anxiety
Locus of Control (LoC)
Parenting LoC
Life Satisfaction
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2010 Strength for Support Day 1 Day 2 I Enjoyed Workshop Agree = 84%, Avge = 4.2/5 Agree= 92% Avge = 4.6/5 I Learnt Useful Skills Agree = 77% Avge = 3.8/5 Agree = 94% Avge = 4.7/5 The Presenter Treated me with Respect Agree = 94% Avge = 4.7/5 Agree = 99% Avge = 4.9/5 I Would Recommend to Others Parents Agree = 88% Avge = 4.4/5 Agree = 92% Avge = 4.6/5 “Great today – Thanks. Now we just have to put it all into pracFce! ” “Reinforced a lot of what I already knew. Gave me the Fme to reflect and apply to my situaFon” “Great to get the ‘theory’ – I think it would be really helpful to have ongoing group sessions to discuss implemenFng the ‘tools’ in everyday life” M I N D S
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MINDS & HEARTS
A Specialist Clinic for Asperger’s Syndrome and Autism Spectrum Disorders
Strength for Support Focus On You!! “A really worthwhile course. Thank you for your Fme and interest in our welfare as well as our kids” “Really enjoyed workshop and opportunity to meet and hear other peoples stories who are in same/similar posiFon” “Very empowering” “It is a relief to have some strategies and support” “InteresFng workshop – many thanks!” Kathleen Davey BPsySc MPsych (Clin) MAPS