July 13, 2012 - Gay San Diego
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July 13, 2012 - Gay San Diego
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GAY SAN DIEGO Have a safe and FABULOUS PRIDE SERVING OUR LGBT COMMUNITY 4 NEWS SAN DIEGO LGBT 2012 PRIDE GUIDE Let’s have a ‘Gayby’ July 20-22 t THEATER (l to r) Alex Newell, Natasha Bedingfield, Neon Hitch and Sandra Bernhard (Courtesy SD LGBT Pride) Marking the 38th Annual San Diego Pride celebration with voices from our community By Anthony King | GSD Editor Shakespeare at The Globe u DINING This week marks the start of the majority of San Diego Pride festivities, including numerous events held by political groups, entertainment venues and businesses, as well as the official Parade and Festival produced by the San Diego LGBT Pride (SD Pride) organization. “With our 2012 San Diego LGBT Pride theme of America’s Pride, we are looking to celebrate the exciting victories the LGBT community has achieved in the past year and push for ward on issues of equality,” said SD Pride Executive Director Dwayne Crenshaw in their souvenir guide. “The promise of America grounded in the Constitution, contained in our Pledge of Allegiance, inscribed on the Statue of Liberty and enunciated by generations of our nation’s leaders is that America stands for liberty, for justice [and] for equality for all,” he said. “This has been America’s Pride.” The LGBT communities beyond Uptown will no doubt be attending as well, including people and groups from North County and South Bay. In conjunction with the North County LGBTQ Resource Center, festivities for North County residents will continue with the annual Pride @ the Beach celebration on Oct. 13 in Oceanside, Calif. The annual South Bay Pride festival, however, will not be taking place this year. Typically held in late August, South Bay Alliance board chair Marci Bair said that in lieu of holding South Bay Pride, the organization was planning a different public event for see Pride, pg 15 A very Tenuta wedding The Love Goddess comes to San Diego to help us get hitched, of course By Anthony King | GSD Editor Knock on the Big Front Door s SPORTS To help celebrate, the Love Goddess herself, Judy Tenuta, is coming to San Diego for this year’s Pride festivities. Performing twice at Martinis Above Fourth, Tenuta plans to bring her sharp, quirky comedy and desire to spread the love for one great weekend. She is just not going to tell Running the route INDEX briefs…………………7 opinion…………………8 Politics………………10 CALENDAR………………12 classifieds……………18 therapy………………20 CONTACT US Editorial/Letters 619-961-1952 [email protected] Advertising 619-961-1958 [email protected] Judy Tenuta brings her accordion to Martinis Above Fourth. (Photo by James Franklin) you about it beforehand. “We’re going to be drinking shots off the Goddess’s boobs; I don’t know,” she said. “Why would I tell you my whole show? They have to come.” Just to keep up, “they,” of course, means you. In the same breath, though, Tenuta divulged a little about what she would bring to San Diego, saying her show ranged from ranting about which celebrity is bothering her to fighting for LGBT rights. “I’m going to be talking about, obviously, pigs in the news who need to be slammed, and I’m going to be talking about, of course, celebrating marriage equality and why the hell we don’t have it in California,” she said. “Here’s what I don’t understand. How is it possible that in Iowa, where pigs graze, you can get married? I mean, come on. see Tenuta, pg 7 (l to r) Hex and Joey Sago attended the June 29 vigil. (Courtesy Canvass for a Cause) Texas attack sparks San Diego responses Canvass for a Cause and San Diego Remembers hold separate vigils for shooting of lesbian couple By Anthony King | GSD Editor In order to speak out against the shooting of a lesbian couple in Texas – one teen ultimately died of her injuries – two separate vigils were organized and held by two local organizations within four days of each other. The first, held June 29, was organized by Canvass for a Cause (CFAC), a Hillcrest nonprofit. The vigil was held outside of a Class Act distribution center and Christian preschool in North Park. Class Act has a petition circulating in the state to gain signatures for a repeal of last year’s FAIR Education Act. The Act, which went into effect this year, mandates LGBT civil-rights history be taught in public schools. “We are heading to the distribution center in solidarity and remembrance with people in our see Vigils, pg 20 2 GAY SAN DIEGO July 13–July 26, 2012 gay-sd.com news gay-sd.com GAY SAN DIEGO July 13–July 26, 2012 3 HillQuest Urban Guide: Hillcrest queens write their next chapter Long-time residents Ann Garwood and Nancy Moors continue their decade of service with a move to Bankers Hill By Morgan M. Hurley | GSD Assistant Editor For the past 10 years, residents, business owners, visitors and supporters of the popular San Diego enclave Hillcrest have had their very own set of pied pipers: longtime couple and Hillcrest residents, Ann Garwood and Nancy Moors. As they release their 10th and final edition of “HillQuest,” the free “urban guide to Hillcrest and beyond” dubbed HQ10, the couple wrap up preparations to move a mile south to Bankers Hill, all the while keeping their vision of Hillcrest in focus. “We’d like to see the next community plan add more infrastructure or less density,” they said. “Hillcrest has been a great neighborhood for over 100 years. Perhaps it doesn’t need much changing.” Although a quick summary of their history can be found in the opening pages of “HillQuest,” so much more can be said. In 2002, after a two-year, long-distance courtship, Garwood and Moors formally merged their lives together in Hillcrest on several levels: the personal, professional and social. On a personal level, Moors returned to her hometown of San Diego after running a daily newspaper along the central California coast for several decades. This was serendipitously two weeks before Garwood, a Hillcrest resident since 1981, learned that she had breast cancer. Not long after Moors’s arrival and their battle with cancer began, they combined their professional talents in publishing, advertising and design, continuing Garwood’s thriving Ad-Ink advertising agency, and in 2003, launched an ambitious new project called “HillQuest: Urban Guide – to Hillcrest and Beyond.” This new venture allowed the couple to completely immerse themselves in every way possible, making them steadfast staples of the social scene and gracing them with dozens of fast-friends in every corner of the neighborhood. “Nancy and Ann have been clients, friends and business associates for too many years to count,” said Jeff Keeny, a long-time dentist located at Park Boulevard and Robinson Street. “Their professionalism and always positive, helpful attitude toward everything is how the world should run.” The decision to merge all those aspects of their lives paid off, not only for the couple, but for the community as well. Garwood soon regained her health as the couple and Hillcrest, began to thrive. Since day one, “HillQuest” has been the ultimate resource, chockfull of history, area personalities, trivia tidbits, fold-out maps, local walking tours, business listings, informative articles about neighboring communities, ideas for where to shop and eat, and more. It is not unusual for a Hillcrest lover to keep every edition on their shelves, since there really is no reason to throw them away. Always released the last week of June and covering the following twelve months, July to June, the handy booklet has a standing distribution of 30,000 copies every year. That means 300,000 total copies have been distributed in the streets of Hillcrest since 2003. “They’ve worked tirelessly for the betterment of the community, from historic preservation to Saturday morning cleanup projects to the [Hillcrest] centennial and more,” said Patty Fares, founder and owner of Urban Safari Walking Tours, and her husband, Rusty Runholt. “They’re fun caring women who we’ve turned to for information many times.” The trivia “nuggets,” as Moors calls them, that line the margin of each page in every HQ edition cleverly unearth themselves throughout the year as the couple partakes in walking tours, trips to the library or running errands around town in their personalized and hard-to-miss golf-cart. Once the couple began to delve into the history of this unique community for the book, they began to realize the challenges involved in acquiring the necessary stories and photographs of days gone by. When Hillcrest’s 2007 centennial was fast approaching, they decided to take action and, in 2005, they established the Hillcrest History Guild (HHG), a nonprofit clearinghouse that archives, stores and dispenses historical facts, articles, documents and photographs specifically about the neighborhood online at hillcresthistory.org. To support the Guild, the couple started several local community events over the years, including “Hop (l to r) Nancy Moors and Ann Garwood, publishers of HillQuest: An Urban Guide, shown celebrating another year of the popular handbook. (Courtesy Nancy Moors) in the Hood,” the “Toast of Hillcrest” and the Whole Foods sponsored “Movies on the Roof,” personally hosting them all each year. Ben Cartwright, executive director of the San Diego Gay Men’s Chorus, has been the tour host for Toast to Hillcrest each year. “Ann and Nancy are the people who got me excited about Hillcrest,” Cartwright said. “They opened my eyes, not only to the physical beauty see HillQuest, pg 17 4 GAY SAN DIEGO July 13–July 26, 2012 NEWS gay-sd.com FilmOut and SD Pride partner for film screenings ‘Gayby’ and ‘Welcome to New York’ premiere July 18 to kick off Pride festivities (l to r) Jenn Harris and Matthew Wilkas stage an awkward moment in ‘Gayby.’ (Courtesy Gayby Film, LLC) By Anthony King | GSD Editor In conjunction with San Diego LGBT Pride and to celebrate Pride week, FilmOut San Diego is hosting a special feature-film screening on Wednesday, July 18: the San Diego premiere of “Gayby.” Additionally, the short film “Welcome to New York” will premiere before the feature. “FilmOut San Diego is proud to welcome San Diego Pride as the co-presenter of the San Diego premiere of ‘Gayby’ and ‘Welcome to New York’ as a kickoff to the San Diego Pride weekend,” said Michael McQuiggan, FilmOut festival programmer. “These truly original, smart and well-written films represent the best of the LGBT filmmaking community.” Developed from the short film of the same name, “Gayby” is an “irreverent comedy” following two friends – a gay man and his straight, ally girlfriend – who decide to make a baby together, the old-fashioned way. The film’s director, Jonathan Lisecki, said his goal was to make a film that appealed to all audiences. “I wanted to make this one as broad and likable, and audience friendly, as possible.” Saying there was certainly deeper meaning in “Gayby,” Lisecki prefers to keep the social agenda in his films hidden by humor and laughter. “There’s a little bit of a message,” he said, “but I still wanted it not to be force fed to people. I wanted it to be in there, underneath, like an enjoyable comedy.” The message, Lisecki said, is about accepting people’s choices of what family means to them. “A lot of people are making these choices about what kind of family they’re going to have. It comes up a lot in my peer group right now and it was definitely on my mind,” he said. The subject of starting a family was on Lisecki’s mind literally, for he said the impetus for creating the short film in the first place was because he had a friend in college whom he planned to make a “Gayby” together. Those plans eventually fell through, but Lisecki ended up using the situation as inspiration. “Since that option wasn’t available to me anymore, I think I made the comedy version of what it would have been like,” he said. The film stars Jenn Harris and Matthew Wilkas in the lead roles, two actors Lisecki knows well from his own acting days. “I’ve known [them] for years now,” he said. “I feel like when you know who you’re writing for, it really helps the process.” Both Harris and Wilkas starred in the short film version, which screened at over 100 festivals, winning jury prizes at the Philadelphia, Rhode Island, Outtakes Dallas, CineSLAM, OutFilmCT and Arizona film festivals. It was also selected Best of Fest at the Palm Springs ShortFest. Turning to filmmaking after an extensive career in independent theater, Lisecki said the transition to a feature-length film from a short was fairly fast and easy. In fact, he said he had a longer film idea in mind from the very beginning. “The entire time, while I was watching it, I had more places to go with my characters,” he said of writing the screenplay. “When I sat down to do it, I was already there.” Lisecki, who lives in New York City with his husband, said he is excited to be in San Diego for the premiere. “I’m sure it’s going to be a good showing. I’ve heard good things about the [FilmOut] Festival, and I’m excited to be there,” he said. “I’m coming for the screening, to experience it with the people. So much of filmmaking is such an isolating experience,” he said. “When you get to see it with the audiences, it is a thrill. I can’t wait.” Before “Gayby” screens, FilmOut and SD Pride will show the short film, “Welcome to New York,” directed and written by Steven Tylor O’Connor. The film is the story of five young people’s first experiences in the big city, and stars a number of actors, including drag performer Sherry Vine and Sean Paul Lockhart, better known as Brent Corrigan. “San Diego LGBT Pride is very thrilled to continue our partnership with FilmOut,” said Dwayne Crenshaw, SD Pride executive director. “It is through great collaborations like these, we are able to bring a wonderful and diverse range of entertainment to the community during Pride.” The July 18 screening takes place at the Birch North Park Theatre, located at 2891 University Ave. Tickets are $10 and the evening starts at 7 p.m. For more information and to purchase tickets, visit filmoutsandiego.com.t NEWS gay-sd.com GAY SAN DIEGO July 13–July 26, 2012 5 Jacobs Plan approved for Balboa Park Council votes 6-1 in favor of plan; SOHO to legally challenge decision By Margie M. Palmer | GSD Reporter The San Diego City Council voted 6-1 on Monday, July 9 to approve Dr. Ir win Jacobs’s proposed plan to remove vehicle traffic from the center of Balboa Park. Once construction for the Qualcomm co-founder’s Plaza de Panama plan is complete, cars will be removed from the Plaza de California, Esplanade, West El Prado and Plaza de Panama. District One Councilmember Sherri Lightner cast the lone dissenting vote. District Four Councilmember Tony Young was absent and did not vote. Under the Jacobs Plan, a “Centennial Bridge” and road will be constructed off the south side of the Cabrillo Bridge, leading to a newly constructed, underground, paid parking structure directly behind the Spreckles Organ Pavilion. Project documents state the approximate 800-car lot will increase parking by 270 spaces and will be topped by a two-acre park. A $5 fee will be assessed for vehicles to utilize this structure. Free parking will still be available in the park’s other lots. Approximately $25 million of the plan’s $40 million cost will be funded by private donations. Expenses beyond that will be paid through a City-issued bond. The bond will be repaid through projected revenue from the paid parking lot. Some groups, including a number of Balboa Park’s museums, point to the benefits of reclaiming pedestrian-use only space within the Plaza. San Diego Natural Histor y Museum’s President and CEO Michael Hager has been quoted as saying the removal of cars from the Prado and Plaza are “extremely important” to the visitor experience in the park. Additionally, Sea World San Diego President John T. Reilly has said he believes the change will eliminate dangerous conflicts between cars and pedestrians and will help improve the park’s ability to attract visitors. The plan, however, is not popular across all groups. Save Our Heritage Organisation President Bruce Coons was among those to voice opposition at the seven-hour July 9 council meeting. “You have one of the most important decisions you’ll ever make in your life here today,” Coons said. “The public wants you to listen to the public for once. Eighty-five percent to 90 percent of San Diegans do not want this project to move for ward. You should exercise leadership for once in your life and send [the proposed plan] back for a compromise.” Former San Diego City Attorney Mike Aguirre addressed Jacobs directly, accusing him of destroying both Balboa Park and San Diego democracy, as well as controlling city government through his wealth. “You are not a philanthropist, you’re a plutocrat,” Aguirre said. The City Council disagreed. District Three Councilmember Todd Gloria, whose district includes Balboa Park, said he has dedicated a considerable amount of time and thought to the plan since it was first proposed in 2010. He said he believes the benefits of the project, including the removal of cars, the reclaiming of approximately six acres of parkland for pedestrians and reducing the number of pedestrian and vehicle conflicts outweigh the plan’s cost. “I educated myself on the alternatives to the Jacobs plan and they all have an impact as significant if not more significant,” Gloria said. “One proposal involves closing the Cabrillo Bridge, but we know this will have significant traffic impacts to areas to the west side of the park, such as Bankers Hill. This would bring opposition and controversy from a new group or stakeholders.” Ever y alternative has been considered, he said, and each comes with its own costs. “While there certainly are costs for the Jacobs plan the costs associated with the alternatives far outweigh their benefits,” he said. Gloria also said he believes that at completion, Balboa Park’s center will be magnificent. “You can look at the East Prado, which was closed to traffic from Park Boulevard and pedestrianized in the early 1970s. People congregate by the fountain and stroll through the East Arcade,” he said. “We’ve tasted it, we’ve seen it and that is what we’re going to replicate, not just in the Plaza de Panama, but in the West El Prado, the Plaza de California and the Esplanade.” Save Our Heritage Organisation (SOHO) representatives said they will legally challenge the plan’s approval. “SOHO supports the widely shared goal of removing parking from the Plaza de Panama in time for the centennial of the 1915 Panama-California Exposition,” a July 10 press release stated, “but the costly Jacobs A rendering of the approved plan for Balboa Park (Courtesy Plaza de Panama Committee) plan is indefensible in terms of minor net parking gains, huge public costs for construction and maintenance, and the introduction of paid parking for park visitors. The City concedes that the new bypass bridge will significantly impact a historic landmark but contends that such impacts are justified by project benefits. SOHO and thousands of San Diegans disagree.”t 6 NEWS GAY SAN DIEGO July 13–July 26, 2012 gay-sd.com Talonya Geary: FlawLes, challenged, but filled with resolve Founder of popular lesbian events focuses on increasing visibility for the entire community Andaz Hotel, location of FlawLez Rooftop Pride Pool Party (Courtesy Andaz Hotel) By Morgan M. Hurley | GSD Assistant Editor When Talonya Gear y and Dr. Wendy Ochoa first decided to launch FlawLes Media in time for San Diego Pride 2007, they had a mutual vision: to increase the visibility of the lesbian community. As FlawLes became a reality, that vision soon became their mission statement, and as they prepare to celebrate their sixth anniversar y, not much has changed. This sounds like a perfectly noble and acceptable mission, but unfortunately, there have been a lot of bumps along the way. Geary, a member of worldrenown motivational speaker Anthony Robbins’s staff, will be the first to say carrying out that mission caused her and Ochoa to ex- perience a great deal of backlash from their own community. That backlash centered on the pair’s definition of where invisibility needed to be increased, and they decided it was not Hillcrest. “I don’t need to convince the Chris Shaws of the world,” Geary said, because venue owners like Shaw, who owns the Mo’s Universe restaurants, are already associated with the LGBT community. “We were very intentional about the places we wanted to host the events. … People thought that we were just [being kind] of pretentious and not supporting the community … [by] doing our own thing, which couldn’t have been any further from the truth,” she said. “The intention was to really scout the nice venues in San Diego that were outside of the gay community, because we felt like our mission with FlawLes was to always increase the visibility of the lesbian community – strategically, the lesbian community – because the LGBT community … does a pretty good job, already standing together to increase the visibility of us as a whole, but we felt there was [a lack of] significant leadership in the lesbian community to get us out and about, especially when it came to the mainstream market.” Their first event was in September of 2007 at Stingaree. “We approached them with benevolence on some level and confidence on another, and said, ‘We want to do a lesbian event here.’ They were kind of shocked as well, but if you put a credit card down and you guarantee a food and beverage minimum with it, you can pretty much go anywhere,” she said. “We definitely were met with resistance.” When they approached their next “conquest,” The Ivy, Geary said the management tried to call her bluff, but according to her Talonya Geary (Courtesy FlawLes Media) explanation of events, she called theirs. “The Ivy had just been open maybe six months,” she said. “We approached them [and] they thought we were crazy. Geary then said they were forced to put their money where there mouths were. “I remember the marketing manager saying, ‘As long as this is a $100,000 buyout,’ and I said, ‘Here’s my card. Do whatever you have to do, but take a risk with me I’ll take a risk with you.’” That second big event at The Ivy, over Easter weekend in 2008, is what Geary said she believes put them on the map. “We’ve always had an intense commitment to quality, and we believed our community and the people we represented deserved the absolute best,” she said. Despite the naysayers, each FlawLes event has been a smashing success, including their Tie Parties, which last year expanded to San Francisco. “We’re not going anywhere,” she said. They had to put production of their FlawLes Magazine on the back burner two years ago due to costs, but to celebrate their sixth anniversary this month, the company is launching a digital-only version of their popular magazine during Pride weekend. “[The magazine] is something we are still passionate about and the one thing we miss the most,” Geary said. “It gives us a way to celebrate the six-year anniversary and bring back a part of our business history. It will have the same quality and set-up you expect to see of FlawLes on [the] shelf, but online.” Recent personal struggles have also been a challenge, Geary said. Just last year, the San Diego resident dealt with a significant loss in her life; her 37-year old brother took his life after a long struggle with his sexuality. The loss, although painful and very impactful on Geary’s professional aspirations, slowed her momentum; but the tragedy also filled her with a stronger resolve to reach LGBT people. “In the lesbian community, [especially] in the older segment above a certain age, there is an enormous amount of shame and it breaks my heart,” Geary said. “It is definitely one of my driving triggers with FlawLes. “I want people to enjoy who they are,” she said. “I celebrate being gay every single day. I love walking into meetings and taking the opportunity to be out and I wish that upon other people.“ Today, Geary is back on track and forging full speed ahead. She promises two FlawLes events in 2012, the always-packed Pool Party at this coming Pride celebration, as well as a new Tie Party in San Diego this Fall. She said there will also be big announcements at the Pool Party, including the digital magazine launch, a membership program, a FlawLes mobile application and a new nonprofit initiative, called “FlawLes Gives Back,” to support lesbian youth, lesbian entrepreneurs and lesbian free-thinkers. “I was talking to Wendy [Ochoa] last night about … the meaning of FlawLes,” Geary said. “It is not just about being lesbian, it is about being out, about being strong, about being successful on your terms, and it’s about making a difference. [It’s also about] having people feel included and giving people a voice, a name and a direction.” Now that’s flawless. FlawLes Pride Pool Party WHEN: On Sunday, July 22 12 Noon until 8 p.m. WHERE: Andaz Hotel, 600 F St. in the Gaslamp. The Andaz Hotel, now owned by Hyatt, was formerly The Ivy. TICKETS: $25 for general admission and $35 VIP (includes VIP bar with dedicated servers). ENTERTAINMENT: Fortune Feimster from Chelsea Lately, who will host the event and participate in a meet and greet; DJ Amara (Los Angeles) and Josh Kane (drummer for Pink and Uh Huh Her); live dance performances by Lipstik, Inc Dancers. At 7 p.m. there will be the anniversary celebration and announcements.t news/COMMUNITY VOICES gay-sd.com GAY NEWS BRIEFS COUNCILMEMBER GLORIA PUSHES FOR METER FUNDS USAGE District Three Councilmember Todd Gloria announced July 11 his support of using excess parking meter funds for parking improvements. Gloria serves as chair of the Budget and Finance Committee, which held an oversight hearing to discuss guidelines of the use of parking meter funds. “The shortage of parking is a problem in many San Diego communities, and funds are available to solve it,” Gloria said in a press release. “City staff and parking districts must move forward with tangible parking improvements for our neighborhoods.” Currently, parking meter revenue is split between the City’s General Fund at 55 percent and Community Parking Districts (CPDs) at 45 percent. CPDs use the funds to implement parking solutions in their respective neighborhoods, and the Uptown CPD has amassed $1.1 million in unallocated balances. In the press release, Gloria said CPD advisory boards have “expressed frustration with the speed at which their proposals and projects are analyzed and implemented by City staff.” The Budget and Finance Committee discussed several areas for improvement, all to be decided in the future. DISTRICT ATTORNEY DUMANIS DENOUNCES PENN STATE FAILURES San Diego County District Attorney Bonnie Dumanis condemned the way officials at Penn State University handled reports of sexual abuse by former defensive coordinator, Jerry Sandusky. “I am outraged by the culture at Penn State’s football program that allowed this abuse to go on unchecked for so long,” Dumanis said. “Jerry Sandusky and university leaders who covered up his tracks ruined the lives of innocent child victims.” Dumanis was responding in part to a report released by former FBI Director Louis Freeh, which found “total and consistent disregard” by most staff at the school. Dumanis also pointed out several bills in the Cali- From page 1 TENuta Even in Vermont,” she said. “Great. I have to shoot a moose and pour syrup on myself. I mean, why do I have to do that? Although I’m sure it could be lovely.” Yes, it would probably be lovely to pour syrup on yourself, but there was not any time to ask if she meant the same for shooting large animals. The woman’s mind moves fast. “What the hell? Who knew gays would be there?” she said. While it may not be legal in California, that is not going to stop Tenuta from performing her own version of a “big gay wedding.” On July 22, the comedian – an ordained minister in “Judyism,” performing marriages for 20 years – plans on officiating over her own version of a wedding ceremony for a lucky San Diego couple. “Usually I do a wedding whenever I do my show,” she said, “but this time we’re going to make it really special. I haven’t given out certificates before, I just perform fornia Legislature that would make reporting sexual abuse mandatory. “We’re proactively reaching out to local universities and sending a stronger message to the wider community,” Dumanis said. “Students, staff and volunteers need to know what appropriate behavior is and how to respond to suspected physical or sexual abuse.” UNIFORMED ACTIVE DUTY SERVICE MEMBERS TO JOIN PRIDE PARADE Active-duty servicemembers have received approval from the Office of the Secretary of Defense and their commanding officers to march in the July 21 San Diego America’s Pride Parade Military Contingent wearing their uniforms, stated a San Diego Pride press release. “We look forward to a fun, fantastic celebration here in San Diego, of the advances in LGBT equality from the repeal of ‘don’t ask, don’t tell,’” said SD Pride Executive Director Dwayne Crenshaw. “We are excited about fusing the fundamental values of LGBT Pride with ideals of American Pride. Servicemembers wanting to walk in the military contingent can register at sdpride.org. TRANSGENDER ACTIVEST TARGETED AND DETAINED Of less than a dozen protesters at a downtown march against the Trans Pacific Partnership, one transgender activist was targeted and detained by San Diego Police on Saturday, July 7, stated a press release by Canvass for a Cause (CFAC). The activist spent the day in the Downtown Police headquarters and was threatened with spending an unknown amount of time in the Las Calinas Women’s Detention Facility. “We have footage of the arrest, said Rachel Scoma, attorney for and executive director of CFAC. “The police wrongfully accused a friend of the arrestee of alleged vandalism, but a witness positively affirmed to the police that neither the arrestee nor his friend were the person they were looking for. The friend of our transgender activist was let go.” At the time of arrest, CFAC asked community members to call the Police Department to ask for the protester’s release, “based on the threats posed to transgender people in prison.” The detainee was later released.t the marriage, but this time we’re going to have to do a certificate, of course.” Of course. Tenuta also said she expects those who want her to marry them to “get gayed out,” recalling a time when a couple in Florida, who were already over six feet tall, were wearing 10-inch platforms, red tutus and red wigs. “Veils, too,” she said. They had veils. If this is not making any sense, perhaps a little Judyism would be good for you. Tenuta takes the stage at Martinis Above Fourth, 3940 Fourth Ave., on July 21 for the late-night show at 10 p.m. She returns to Martinis July 22 for the 2 p.m. show and wedding. Interested couples can enter for the chance to have Tenuta marry them. She will also be taking over the Martinis float during the Pride parade, and you can win a chance to be on the float with her, too. For ticket information, to enter to be Tenuta’s “love slave” for Pride or to get hitched by the Love Goddess, visit martinisabovefourth.com or call 619-400-4500.t GAY SAN DIEGO July 13–July 26, 2012 7 Our pioneer moves on By Assemblymember Toni Atkins For the past 26 years I have looked forward to the approach of San Diego Pride – excited to once again participate in our community celebration and to reflect on the significant strides we have made toward LGBT equality in the past year. But this year I’m feeling more sentimental than usual. That could be because I hit the 50-year milestone of life this summer. Actually, though, I think my nostalgia is triggered by this being the last year in the Senate for the Pride of our community, State Senator Christine Kehoe. Christine has spearheaded countless advances for our civil rights over the last three decades. She was campaign manager for Neil Good, one of the first open LGBT candidates for City Council. She, along with Ben Dillingham, was among the first visible, LGBT staff members at City Hall. When Christine ran as a grassroots candidate for San Diego City Council District Three in 1993, she raised more money than any other candidate running for an open seat. The LGBT community was galvanized. Many of us made our very first financial contribution to a political campaign. We walked precincts; we stuffed envelopes; we got up at 4 a.m. on Election Day to drop literature and remind people to vote. The result? SUCCESS! When the votes were counted, Christine – and our community – had won! City Hall wondered what the “Gay Agenda” would entail. I think Christine surprised the establishment, but she didn’t surprise us. Her agenda was responsive government – for everyone. She got right to work on behalf of the historically underrepresented older and denser communities of District Three. Her agenda was working to complete Interstate 15 through City Heights, building a new inner city library and police sub-station and adding critical park space. She added street lights to ensure safety. She worked with the School District to build schools and to support joint use of our schools and our parks. And, yes, she also helped secure LGBT rights by getting domestic partnership benefits for City workers. After seven years, Christine headed off to Sacramento and the State Assembly, where she again took up the leadership mantel, becoming Speaker pro-Tempore. As a member of important committees – Housing and Community Development, Transportation, Water Parks & Wildlife – she continued to effectively represent her communities, achieving successes like increasing protections for water quality and the urban canyons that San Diegans hold so dear. Her successes also included ones for the LGBT community, helping to establish the State Legislative LGBT Caucus – and serve as its first chair – and increasing LGBT civil rights. In the State Senate, Christine again became part of leadership, chairing the Energy Committee. As she nears the end of her tenure due to term limits, she now presides over the Senate Floor session weekly and is the Chair of the powerful Appropriations Committee. And she continues to champion LGBT rights. The Senator has made all of San Diego proud. She has made the LGBT community particularly proud. Yet, no matter how influential she became, she never forgot her home base, San Diego. As a new member of the Assembly, I have been lucky enough to have Christine as a mentor and sounding board. When we grapple with a large statewide policy issue, she is likely to say something like, “Why don’t we call Linda Pennington or Karen Manley [City Heights residents] and see what they think?” She always remembers that abstract policy issues have a direct impact at the local level and that it is our job to understand that impact. So, during this year’s Pride celebrations, I’ll be thinking about Christine Kehoe’s legacy as a community activist, City Councilmember, State Assemblymember and State Senator. I hope as she passes by during the Pride Parade, you’ll join me in yelling loud and long “KEHOE, KEHOE, KEHOE” as a tribute to a fine San Diegan who has served us well.t Editor’s note: Assemblymember Toni Atkins answered our request for a statement to include in this week’s special Pride Issue. We thank her for her heartfelt response, as we do all those who answered the question, “What does Pride mean to me?” Read all of them in the Community Voices section in this week’s Pride Guide insert. 8 OPINION/LETTERS GAY SAN DIEGO July 13–July 26, 2012 gay-sd.com Letters Linda Perine honored by GSDBA There was recognition that is not traditionally awarded by the GSDBA [see “GSDBA Awards Luncheon,” Vol. 3, Issue 13]. A special volunteer award that has only been given out twice was awarded near the end of the presentation to Linda Perine. Her commitment to GSDBA, ser ving as our Government Af fairs volunteer, leading the redistricting ef for ts last year, and working diligently and strategically for the LGBT community in San Diego was recognized. It was above and beyond what was expected by any volunteer. I wanted to also thank you for mentioning my six years of ser vice on the GSDBA board. It was a great experience and allowed me to help GSDBA develop many of its new programs and lead its corporate partnership efforts. I hope more people will join the GSDBA for their business and professional pursuits. —Eric Brown, via gay-sd.com Editor’s note: thank you for the clarification; I was unaware there was a special award given out and deeply regret not getting it into the original story. I saw Linda working that day at the luncheon, and cannot think of a better recipient for this volunteer award. Gloria Johnson Person of the Year Editorial LGBT couples often face additional financial hurdles By Jason Alderman Lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) couples – and individuals – often face significant financial hurdles compared to their heterosexual counterparts. According to Chris Kollaja, a certified public accountant and partner at A.L. Nella & Company in San Francisco, LGBT couples often incur higher costs for everything from income taxes to employee benefits to adoptions because of prevailing laws and tax regulations. For example: In states where gay marriage is not legal, samesex couples must file separate income tax returns, as with unmarried heterosexual couples. Where it is legal, if they want to file a joint state return they must each file an individual federal return and then complete a “mock” joint federal return and use that data to calculate their joint state return. Company-provided domestic partner benefits are considered imputed income by the IRS and added to the employee’s taxable income. Also, whereas opposite-sex married couples can use pretax dollars to pay for medical insurance premiums, domestic partners cannot. Heterosexual spouses can receive up to 50 percent of their spouse’s Social Security benefits if he or she is still alive, can collect their dead spouse’s benefit if it’s higher than their own, and receive a $255 lump-sum spousal death benefit. None of these benefits apply to same-sex spouses. Heterosexual married couples can contribute up to $5,000 a year to a spousal IRA for a non-working spouse; same-sex couples cannot. If one spouse in a heterosexual marriage enters a nursing home and applies for Medicaid, the other may continue living in their home without impacting Medicaid eligibility. However, if an LGBT couple owns a home and one applies for Medicaid, the other must buy out the sick partner’s share in order to remain in their home. Heterosexual married couples can transfer unlimited assets to each other without paying federal estate taxes. Everyone else, including married samesex couples, must pay taxes on estates that exceed $5.12 million. Despite last year’s repeal of “don’t ask, don’t tell,” veteran’s benefits based on marital status remain unavailable to same-sex military spouses including: military hospital visitation rights; survivor benefits; increased compensation to spouses of disabled veterans; Veterans Administration Home Loan eligibility for surviving spouses; and burial together in military cemeteries. “The most important takeaway is that you can’t take planning for granted,” Kollaja said. “It’s critical to establish your wishes through proper documentation.” He offers these tips: Inventory all your assets and make sure everything is clearly titled and registered with the county. Make sure your will, trust, durable power of attorney and other legal documents spell out how you want your assets distributed and whom you want to make your medical and financial decisions; otherwise the courts may designate someone instead. Designate the proper beneficiaries for all insurance policies, retirement plans and investment accounts. Buy adequate health, property and casualty insurance. If you’re married or in a registered domestic partnership, you could be held liable for your partner’s accident. Because many mutual retirement benefits are not available to GLBT couples, plan your retirement for two single people. Having your own long-term care insurance is particularly important. “Bottom line, make sure you have a trust or living will,” says Kollaja. “Other wise, you’ll be subject to the state’s probate laws, which could determine ver y different outcomes than what you would have wished.”t —Jason Alderman directs Visa’s financial education programs. To Follow Jason Alderman on Twitter: twitter.com/PracticalMoney. 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Palmer Jeff Praught Leslie Robinson Frank Sabatini Jr. Romeo San Vicente Brian Snook Thank you to Assemblymember Toni Atkins and to State Senator Christine Kehoe [see “Atkins awards Gloria Johnson LGBT Person of the Year,” Vol. 3, Issue 13]. My years as an activist have been a wonder ful experience for me. And thank you to all those of you who have stood with me, as together we have fought for our rights. I was honored for what I love to do. —Gloria Johnson, via gay-sd.com It is wonderful to see such a long-time activist being honored FINALLY for all her work on behalf of women and LGBT folks [see “Atkins awards Gloria Johnson LGBT Person of the Year,” Vol. 3, Issue 13]. I am proud to know her. I wish we could clone her and make millions of Gloria Johnsons around the world! I hope the younger folks will take Gloria’s lead and become involved because all these issues are still here and need to be fought until we are all free to be ourselves and to make America truly “the land of the free and the land of the brave.” —Lyn Gwizdak, via gay-sd.com Marine Corps Ball story still sparking thanks I thank you for having to share such a touching stor y [see “My date to the Marine Corps Bir thday Ball: Par t Two,” Vol. 2, Issue 26]. As a native Californian now living in New England. This type of stor y just makes me so proud of you and, many others that can now hold their heads higher. I wish you and, Brandon much love, happiness, and best wishes. —Louie Gonzalez via gay-sd.com Thanks for sharing this. I have dated a soldier in the past and we didn’t make ago of it because of DADT [see “My date to the Marine Corps Bir thday Ball: Par t Two,” Vol. 2, Issue 26]. It brought tears of joy and sadness to my eyes reading this. I’m so proud of you and wish you all the best of life, especially having someone to love and love you back. OooRah!t —Patrick Mato Ska Stephenson via gay-sd.com Correction An error was made in the latest “Foodie Flashes” column, Vol. 3, Issue 13. We incorrectly reported that Michael Stebner headed Mixx before it closed. Stebner had no involvement or affiliation with Mixx at any time, and took over the space to open a different restaurant after Mixx closed. We regret the error.t OPINIONS/LETTERS Gay San Diego encourages letters to the editor and guest editorials. Please email both to [email protected]. Include phone number and address for verification. We reserve the right to edit letters and editorials for brevity and accuracy. Letters should be no longer than 350 words in length unless approved by staff editors. Letters and guest editorials do not necessarily reflect the views of the publisher or staff. SUBMISSIONS/NEWS TIPS Press releases and story ideas are welcome. Send press releases, tips, photos or story ideas to [email protected]. For breaking news and investigative story ideas contact the editor by phone or email. DISTRIBUTION GAY San Diego is distributed free, biweekly, every other Friday. COPYRIGHT 2012. All rights are reserved. GAY SAN DIEGO 3737 Fifth Ave. Suite 201 San Diego, CA 92103 (619) 519-7775 www.gay-sd.com Business Improvement Association gay-sd.com GAY SAN DIEGO July 13–July 26, 2012 9 10 GAY SAN DIEGO July 13–July 26, 2012 COMMUNITY VOICES gay-sd.com Auf Wiedersehen, little hero Furthering the promise LESLIE ROBINSON GENERAL GAYETY I’m appalled that I’d never heard of Gad Beck. Not only was he an important figure in LGBT history, he was a hoot. Until his recent death just shy of his 89th birthday, Beck was the last known gay Jewish survivor of the Holocaust. Also a resistance fighter, Beck’s experiences during World War II were such that he quipped, “Only Steven Spielberg can film my life – forgive me, forgive me.” He’s forgiven. Because he’s right. Consider his attempt to rescue his Jewish boyfriend. According to Wikipedia, Beck donned a Hitler Youth uniform and entered a deportation center to free Manfred Lewin. Thereby setting a ridiculously high bar for standing by your man. Beck asked the commanding officer to release Lewin for use in a construction project, and he must’ve been convincing, because the officer agreed. When they got outside, though, Lewin said, “Gad, I can’t go with you. My family needs me. If I abandon them now, I could never be free.” The two parted, not saying goodbye. “In those seconds, watching him go, I grew up,” recalled Beck. If you’re weepy already, don’t read the next sentence. Lewin and his whole family perished at Auschwitz. I warned you. Beck’s father was Jewish, and his mother converted to Judaism. Under the Nazi racial laws, Beck was a half-breed, and he and his father landed in a holding compound on the Rosenstrasse in Berlin. He was released after the non-Jewish wives of inmates protested in the street. They set a pretty high bar, too. Beck learned from those women. He said, reported The Jerusalem Post, “The Rosenstrasse event made one thing absolutely clear to me: I won’t wait until we get deported.” He joined a resistance youth group, and helped Jews in Berlin survive. Beck noted that “as a homosexual, I was able to turn to my trusted non-Jewish, homosexual acquaintances to help supply food and hiding places.” It helps to have friends in homo places. A Jewish spy working for the Gestapo betrayed Beck shortly before the war ended, and he was held at a Jewish transit camp. After the war, he assisted Jews immigrating to Palestine, and he himself lived in Israel from 1947 until 1979, when he returned to Germany. I don’t know why he returned. But at his death he was survived by Julius Laufer, his partner of 35 years, which means the two men got together in 1977, two years before Beck went back to Europe. It would be gratifying to think he returned to Germany for love, considering he left it for the opposite reason. But if he returned just because he missed the beer, that’s okay, too. As the director of the Jewish Adult Education Center in Berlin, Beck organized gatherings of gay singles at the center. “He was open, sweet and would speak with everybody,” said the editor of Berlin’s Jewish magazine, who also recalled Beck’s fondness for waving the Israeli flag at Berlin’s annual Pride parade. He sounds like the kind of guy you’d want to have at a party. If he could keep the flag-waving to a minimum. Beck’s heart-centeredness combined with a notable wit. On a German talk show, he said, “The Americans in New York called me a great hero. I said no … I’m really a little hero.” Of his life as a homosexual Jew, Beck averred, “God doesn’t punish for a life of love.” He wasn’t the first to say that, and he won’t be the last, but it’s tough to imagine the line suiting anyone better.t —Leslie Robinson lives in Seattle. Email her at lesarobinson@ gmail.com, and indulge in her blog at generalgayety.com. of Independence Day a l l a n ac e v e d o Political Spectrum Last week our nation celebrated Independence Day, and here in San Diego the focus of the day revolved on two things: whether the sun would come out to really enjoy the festival and the shorter-than-expected fireworks show. While Independence Day is a day to celebrate, it’s important to remember what we are celebrating and to place it in context of what that celebration means to our community. On July 4, 1776 our nation’s founding fathers signed the Declaration of Independence, and with that, asserted the rights and liberties that we are all endowed with as citizens of this country: “life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.” These words blazed a path for a new country founded on democratic ideals and equality. As we reflect on what the independence of our nation means to us, we must consider the many conflicts our nation has entered into to preserve our independence and freedoms. In these conflicts, invariably there were members of the LGBT community who participated in fighting for our continued freedoms, even if they had to do it in silence. Reflecting on our own independence, I thought it was important to remember where we came from and how much further we have to go, but also the people who helped bring us to where we are today. If we, as a community, do not remember our own who have served, we have done a disservice to our community and the generations to follow. I started my own Independence Day by writing a letter to a friend who had, just two weeks ago, left to Marine Corps boot camp. I thanked him for his sacrifice and taking his first step towards serving our country. Next, I took time to learn about the heroes of our community who have also served our nation whether they were permitted to by law or not. There was Dr. Thomas A. Dooley, who ser ved as a physician in the Navy during the 1950s and published many books about his humanitarian efforts throughout Southeast Asia. In 1956, he was being investigated for being a homosexual and was forced to resign, but did not return to the United States. Instead he stayed in the region caring for civilians and other victims of the war. The story of Sgt. Leonard Matlovich was especially meaningful. Matlovich came out in the 1970s on the cover of Time Magazine and made national news for coming out as gay while also being a decorated war veteran. His story was the first time an openly gay person appeared on the front page of a major publication. He was subsequently discharged from the military, and a few years later came out on national television as having contracted HIV. His tombstone in the Congressional Cemetery bears a powerful inscription: “A Gay Vietnam Veteran: When I was in the military, they gave me a medal for killing two men and a discharge for loving one.” Army Captain Tanya Domi survived two investigations of her sexuality during her time in the Army. She fought back while she was still serving, contacting the ACLU during a witch-hunt of other service members between 1974 and 1975. She knew how to advocate for herself and others, and spoke out to her representatives in the U.S. House of Representatives to keep her job. After reporting an incident of sexual harassment she was falsely alleged to be in a relationship with another service member. Despite not being discharged for this second investigation, Domi left the Army and turned to a life of advocacy. She founded Gay, Lesbian, and Bisexual Veterans of America in 1991 and worked with the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force during the Clinton years when the “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy was first being debated. Domi, along with a small group of gay veterans, testified against the ban to the Armed Services Committee of the House of Representatives in 1993. This history and these people are important to remember because they remind us that our community has been there all along, fighting to preserve and advance our freedoms both outside of our borders and within. We continue to live in a country that juxtaposes the idea of equal justice with selective privileges for some, and we must ensure that every year – when we come together to recognize the history of the past – that we remember the contributions our community has made along the way. Remember the promises and visions of our forefathers, pause to reflect on the advancements of the generations before us and look towards the future to the impact that you can have in furthering that promise.t —Allan Acevedo is cofounder and president emeritus of Stonewall Young Democrats of San Diego. He has worked on multiple political campaigns and served on numerous boards including the San Diego Democratic Club, California Young Democrats, Gay-Straight Alliant Network and Equality California PAC. Follow @ allanacevedo on Twitter. INTERVIEW gay-sd.com GAY SAN DIEGO July 13–July 26, 2012 11 Pop star talks new 3D film, kissing gay boys and fighting hate with all her ‘love bullets’ By Chris Azzopardi | Q Syndicate Not exactly last Friday night, but it still happened: Katy Perry called us from London, where it was nearly 1 a.m. If life really does imitate art, she smelled like a minibar on a night that’s soon to be a blacked-out blur, right? “Not tonight,” she insisted. “I have to play and be professional tomorrow, but maybe after the show I’ll be having a couple of Shirley Temples with some adult juice in them.” We spoke with Perry just after she made a surprise appearance in London for a screening of her new film, “Katy Perry: Part of Me 3D,” a docu-concert chronicling the California girl’s evolution from gospel-singing daughter of two pastors to international pop phenom, with the most lethal boobs in the world. During our interview, Perry told us what else they shoot besides whipped cream, how the gay community can relate to her movie and why Madonna doesn’t scare her. Chris Azzopardi: You go from pretending to kiss girls to wanting to have sex with girls, recently joking during a radio interview that you’d like to do Rihanna. What’s up with all this faux lesbianism? Katy Perry: You know, everybody’s been asking me about the duet with Rihanna and when it’s going to happen. I get that question every time I get interviewed. Obviously, we really want to do it and we want to do it in a big way, naturally; this [journalist] was doing this rapid fire of inappropriate questions of sexual things, and I just decided to throw her a curve ball. I do not discriminate against any beauty no matter what form it comes in, and Rihanna is gorgeous. I think that everybody would tap it if they could. CA: Have you ever kissed a gay boy and liked it? KP: Yes, I have. It’s so funny. This boy I pseudo-dated in high school, a fantastic flamenco dancer, was in “Fiddler on the Roof” with me and we were dating during the production, and I had just a tiny part but I was his first kiss. Cut to 10 years later, or even more, and we’re out at this place called Rasputin, this incredible gay club in Hollywood, and come to find out, he’s making out with my stylist. He’s still in it to win it, and he’s just become a part of our crew. CA: You’ve been hanging out with your gay friends in West Hollywood a lot lately. What’s been your most memorable gay night out? KP: I don’t really decipher it as gay night or straight night; it’s the same night continually. I came from a really interesting perspective – interesting being the keyword, because it was obviously very sup- see Katy Perry, pg 22 Katy Perry’s new film “Katy Perry: Part of Me 3D” opened July 5. (Courtesy Capitol Records) 12 CALENDAR GAY SAN DIEGO July 13–July 26, 2012 Check out our Pride Calendar in our 2012 LGBT Pride Guide insert for additional listings of events happening throughout the Pride week and weekend. Friday, July 13 SPIRIT OF THE BARRIO LUNCH: Featuring Guest Speaker Tom Willis, the Family Health Centers of San Diego is hosting an inspirational luncheon at the Logan Heights Family Health Center from 11:45 a.m. – 1 p.m. Willis, a San Diego resident, has thrown the ceremonial first pitch before baseball games at 15 of the 30 major league stadiums, despite being born without arms. Join Willis as he talks about his life, about turning obstacles into opportunities and challenges into championships. $25 per person, the Health Center is located at 1808 National Ave. For more information or to register, visit fhcsd.org or call 619-515-2562. BBQ AT THE BEACH: Organized by the North County LGBTQ Resource Center for youth 19 and younger, the BBQ at the Beach event starts at 5:30 p.m. just north of the Oceanside Pier. Don’t know where that is? Take the train up instead of driving, head toward the water and look for the rainbow flags. You’ll find them. For more information visit ncresourcecenter.org. ‘HARMONY, KANSAS’ LAST RUN: It’s still not too late to see Diversionary’s latest, “Harmony, Kansas” as it runs through July 22. Get into the spirit of singing and being gay in Middle America. Plus, James Vasquez, whom we love, directs the show. Located at 4545 Park Blvd., tonight’s show is at 8 p.m. For additional show times and to purchase tickets visit diversionary.com. Saturday, July 14 SAY LULA: In Mission Hills, my neighborhood, the Say Lula Salon is hosing an all-day grand opening for their new salon location. Sponsors include Alterna Haircare, ILCK Artistry, Whole Foods, and D&M Designs. Local artists will feature their work, you can get a haircut and DJ Toni will be spinning. Located at 811 Washington St., for more information visit saylula. com or call 619-702-6592. SUPER HERO SATURDAY: You didn’t think we’d miss out on anything Comic-Con-y did you? The mayhem maybe happening downtown, but to help celebrate International Comic-Con, SDPIX and Bourbon Street Bar & Grill have teamed up to present a special event: The Super Hero Party. A part of Bourbon Street’s Super Hero Week (four nights from July 12 – 15) the party will include music by DJ John Joseph, superduper go-go dancers and drink specials. The bar will be decked out in Super Hero attire, so you should too. Isn’t that what the super hero fetish is all about? Dark capes and tight pants? The night starts at 10 p.m. at 4612 Park Blvd. For more information visit bourbonstreetsd.com or call 619-291-0173. Sunday, July 15 SAY IT WITH A HAT: Haven’t you ever just wanted to make a statement with a hat? Well, the Imperial Court de San Diego hosts at “Say Something Hat” contest, today at the Caliph Lounge that will also serve as a meet and greet of the new 2012 Gay Pride San Diego Pageant Winners. Seven categories of prizes will be handed out, including Best Home-made, Most Outrageous, The Southern Belle, The True Couture, The Derby Male, Most Eco-Friendly and Best Imperial Themed. An entry donation of $10 is requested. The event runs from 4 – 7 p.m. and the Caliph is located at 3100 Fifth Ave. For more information visit imperialcourtsandiego.com. VISITING CHEF AT THE MARKET: The HBA brings yet another awesome visiting chef to their visiting chef series at the Farmers Market. Today, Chef Gerhard from the newly opened D Bar in Hillcrest (did we also mention he’s nationally known, after appearing on Food Network’s “Chopped”) will be fixing something wonderful from an assortment of ingredients from the Farmers Market. Don’t miss it from 1 to 2 p.m., and it’s free. The Market is located on Normal Street just off University Avenue. Monday, July 16 SDSU RAINBOW FLAG RAISING: Join students, faculty, staff and local leaders as they raise the rainbow flag on the San Diego State University gay-sd.com campus to honor Pride week. The ceremony is from 11:30 a.m. to 12:30 p.m., in front of Hepner Hall. SDSU is located at 5500 Campanile Dr. Tuesday, July 17 PRIDE IN MOVEMENT FILM SCREENING: Hosted by San Diego Alliance for Marriage Equality (SAME), Canvass for a Cause and the Peace resource Center, attendees will watch “OUTRAGE ’69,” a KQED documentary on the events leading up to the Stonewall riots. Following the film, panelists will lead a discussion on the history presented and how activism plays a role in the movement today. From 6:30 – 8 p.m., the event takes place at the Church of the Brethren, 3850 Westgate Pl. For more information visit samealliance.com. DEMS FOR EQUALITY RECEPTION: The who’s who of local LGBT and ally leaders, candidates and elected officials of the democrat persuasion will be attending the Democrats for Equality Pride Reception. The event will be located in Hillcrest, and announced with you RSVP. Cost is $15 for members, $20 for nonmembers. To RSVP or for more information email info@ democratsforequality.org. NORTH PARK PLANNING MEETING: On the agenda for tonight’s North Park planning meeting (which everyone is welcome to join) is the National Night Out Potluck, the University Avenue Mobility Plan Draft and an update from Urban Design committee, among others. It’s civic engagement happening right in your civic neighborhood. Plus Anthony Bernal from Todd Gloria’s office, you can’t beat that. The meeting is held at 2901 North Park Way, on the second floor at 6:30 p.m. For more information visit northparkplanning.org. Wednesday, July 18 PRIDE VIDEO PREMIERE: Get an exclusive look at the “Dance Again” music video, the official video filmed exclusively for San Diego Pride festivities and starring Davina Love. The video will be premiering July 20 at midnight, but Rich’s Nightclub is hosing a pink carpet preview party tonight at 8:30 p.m. The video was hosted by Sean Paul Lockhart. Wear pink people, it’s a Pride party. Rich’s San Diego is located at 1051 University Ave. For more information visit richssandiego.com Thursday, July 19 LAUGH OUT PROUD: LOGO’s Jason Stuart headlines the very special Pride edition of Laugh Out Proud’s comedy shows, tonight for two shows. Also included are our favorites Sean Wherley, Sarah Burford, Scott Backman and Renee Santos. Doors open at 6 p.m. for the 7 p.m. show, they’ll be back on stage at 10 p.m. for a second set. VIP tickets $20 per show, $10 per show for general admission. It all happens at Martinis Above Fourth, 3940 Fourth Ave. For more information and tickets visit martinisabovefourth.com or call 619-400-4500. GSDBA MIXER: It’s the annual Greater San Diego Business Association Pride Mixer, this time being held at Wang’s North Park. The 21 and older event includes cocktails, appetizers, socializing and all things Pride. Tickets are $10 members, $25 nonmembers. Wang’s is located at 3029 University Ave. For more information and tickets visit gsdba.org. CUT A WITCH ART SHOW: Celebrating the pulp art of David Russell Talbott, this one-night-only art show called “I’ll Cut a Witch” kicks off Pride weekend in an artful way. Talbott is a local favorite and his original paintings and prints featuring boxers, pin-ups and classic Hollywood icons will be for sale. All the fun happens at the Tractor Room patio from 6 – 9 p.m. Talbott will be there, too. The Tractor Room is located at 3687 Fifth Ave. For more information visit davidrusselltalbott.com. Friday, July 20 PRIDE DANCE ON THE BAY: Need another way to kick off the Pride weekend? How about doing it on the water? The Michael Mack produced Pride Dance on the Bay boards at 7 p.m., departs at 8 p.m. (very sharp) and returns at 11 p.m. Tickets are $40 presale and $50 day of; they can be purchased online, at boarding or at Urban Mo’s, 308 University Ave., and AZ Tanning, 1040 University Ave. DJ Kimberly S will be spinning. The boat boards at 1050 N. Harbor Dr. For more information visit michaelmackpresents.com. Saturday, July 21 VICTORY FUND WOMENS PRIDE BRUNCH: Help the Victory Fund celebrate Sen. Christine Kehoe at the Women’s see Calendar, pg 13 CALENDAR gay-sd.com From page 12 CALENDAR Pride Brunch, an annual event that usually sells out fast. Also in discussion will be Maryland State Delegate Heather Mizeur. The event takes place at The Range Kitchen & Cocktails, 1263 University Ave. from 9 – 11 a.m. For more information and to purchase tickets visit victoryfund.org. PRIDE PARADE: Come see us (and thousands of others) at the Pride Parade. It starts at 11 a.m. and you can sit all along the parade route along University and Sixth avenues. Good times! AMERICA’S PRIDE FESTIVAL: Not sure what to do now that the Parade is over? Go to Balboa Park, at Sixth and Laurel avenues, and go to the Festival. Lots to do, and yes, you can see us there too! From noon – 10 p.m., entrance is $20. BIGGEST LOSER CASTING CALL: Good Lord, I love this man. Bob Harper is looking for the next individual contestants for season 14 of “The Biggest Loser” with a casting call in San Diego today at 10 a.m. If you have at least 85 pounds to lose, they strongly encourage you to apply. Winners gain years to their lives, a healthy lifestyle and some cash. But they gain years to their lives. Years. The casting call is at the NTC Venue at Liberty Station, 2640 Decatur Rd. from 10 a.m. to 6 p.m. For more information visit thebiggestlosercasting.com. Sunday, July 22 AMERICA’S PRIDE FESTIVAL: Another day, another Pride Festival to attend. This one ends with Natasha Bedingfield. But we’ll be there too, all day, from 11 a.m. – 8 p.m. Entrance is $20. SHOWER OF STOLES: To draw attention to the role of LGBT people of faith from around the country, the Kensington Community Church will host an exhibit of liturgical stoles, called the “Shower of Stoles.” This community-wide open house event is part of a national project that represents more than 1,000 clergy members of more than 30 religious denominations on three continents, including many who have been excluded from serving in their church because of their sexual orientation. The event starts at 11 a.m. and the Church is located at 4773 Marlborough Dr. Monday, July 23 HILLCREST CLEANUP: You’ve done all that Pride stuff, now take a little pride in your neighborhood, too. Join the Hillcrest Town Council for their annual Post Pride Cleanup party, starting at 7 a.m. at the intersection of Park Boulevard and University Avenue. Bring your own gloves and they will provide the rest (if you’re lucky, you’ll get an orange shirt, too). Work as long as you can, your reward is a clean city. For more information visit hillcresttowncouncil.com. PFLAG MEETING: Join PFLAG San Diego’s monthly meeting, tonight at 7 p.m. They wrote an amazingly wonderful letter to us about what Pride means to them, it would be nice to stop by and say how much you appreciate their work. The group meets on the fourth Monday of the month at the United Methodist Church of San Diego, 2231 Camino del Rio South. For more information visit pflag.com. Tuesday, July 24 LGBT WRITERS GROUP: Love to write? Need some support or a little inspiration? Are you the next James Baldwin (my favorite) or Willa Cather (oh, another favorite)? Or Patricia Highsmith (I could go on and on here)? Joan Didion? Join the 50 & Better Together LGBT Creative Writers Group every fourth Tuesday (today!) at 11:30 a.m. Bring a pen or pencil, paper and an open mind. All writing happens at the Center, 3909 Centre St. For more information contact Abby Schwartz at 619-692-2077 or visit thecentersd.org. GAY SAN DIEGO July 13–July 26, 2012 Wednesday, July 25 ST. LUCIA AT THE CASBAH: Do you know this band yet? Why not? St. Lucia is my new favorite, recommended to me by a friend who has far better taste in music than I do. Check them out, then get down to the Casbah tonight at 8:30 p.m. for when the doors open so you can fight me for a spot in the front. I’m incredibly tall, by the way. 21 and over only (sorry kids, but you’ll like this band too), the tickets are $8. The Casbah is located at 2501 Kettner Blvd. For more information and tickets visit casbahmusic.com. Thursday, July 26 13 MULTI-CULTURAL SUPPORT: Meeting at the LGBT Center at 5 p.m., LGBT men and women of all cultural, social and ethnic backgrounds are invited to join us in reaching out to each other for support and insight, sharing stories and concerns, and discussing how we are handling our lives. Do it with them. The group meets in Group Room Two each Thursday. The Center is located at 3909 Centre St. For more information visit thecentersd. org or call 619-692-2077.t 14 THEATER GAY SAN DIEGO July 13–July 26, 2012 CuauhtÉmoc Kish gay-sd.com THEATER REVIEW Old Globe offers ‘winning’ and ‘splendid’ productions Reviewed here, two shows from this year’s Shakespeare Festival pair well together “Richard III” Nothing less than winning Jay Whittaker owns the Old Globe’s outdoor stage as he embodies the malformed Duke of Gloucester in the current production of “Richard III,” part of the Old Globe’s Shakespeare Festival that runs through September 30. Famed British director Lindsay Posner takes on one of the most difficult Shakespeare tragedies and employs Whittaker and a splendid cast with aplomb. Many of these talented actors are University of San Diego grad students who turn out performances on a minimalist modern set that boasts graffiti on concrete and brightly colored murals. A diverse assortment of costumes by Deirdre Clancy that could be easily described as vintage David Bowie, militar y and contemporar y adorn the players and mark their particular assignments. This complicated historical drama allows for humor to make brief appearances among the bloody massacre of family and accomplices that allow Richard to briefly wear the crown. Whittaker wastes no time in displaying his humpbacked “Richard III” and “As you Like It” Through Sept 30 Old Globe Theatre Shakespeare Festival Running in Repertory (check website for dates) Performances at 8 p.m. 619-234-5623 theoldglobe.org The cast of “Richard III,” part of The Old Globe’s summer festival (Photo by Henry DiRocco) human state, displaying his leg brace, deformed arm and crooked back. He also wastes no time in displaying his arrogantly bold confidence. This production goes far to simplify a quite complicated history that chronicles Richard’s plot to remove his brother as King of England as well as others along the way who might interfere in his ascendency to the throne. As part of this drama, a gleeful Richard spends a lot of time comforting, threatening and scolding the family members of his victims, while offering up derogatory asides to the audience. In turn, they scream and curse at him with venom. Characteristically, he scoffs at them, and unceremoniously tells them to stop their whining and get a grip on what’s left of their lives. In the end, with his confidence waning, Richard is stabbed to death after a heated battle on stage. Along the way to his end, Richard is visited by the ghosts of his victims – quite a large gathering – through a trap door. This scene is visually splendid, offering up a grouping of white-clad individu- als crying out in unison against the unbridled butchery. Jay Whittaker as Richard III Dana Green, playing (Photo by Henry DiRocco) Queen Elizabeth, rages Hastings and Charles Janasz over the deaths of her husband, plays Lord Stanley, both mild brother, sons and others in a well musings compared to the female articulated, modulated diatribe. offerings. Adam Daveline does Robin Moseley, as Queen Margavery fine work as an assassin, ret, initiates the cursing chorus while the young Aiden Hayek with a menacing, prophetic acand Jonas McMullen, playing the curacy. Font, playing Lady Anne, young Duke of York and Prince spits and curses at Richard for of Wales respectively, work their murders committed against her parts like pros. family as well, and then disgraceWhittaker’s performance is fully marries up with him. contemptibly masterful, and the Robert Foxworth plays Lord entire production is nothing less than winning. “As You Like It” Treasuring the splendid moment This sweet concoction of a comedy, played against the bloody and gruesome elements of “Richard III,” is a Shakespearean production to be enjoyed without thinking about the caloric intake. The stor y is light and fluffy and easily palatable, great for a summer’s night in Balboa Park. Oliver (played by Jay Whittaker) orders his younger brother, Orlando (Dan Amboyer), from the family property. At the same time, Rosalind’s father, Duke Senior (Bob Pescovitz), see Shakespeare, pg 15 THEATER gay-sd.com CuauhtÉmoc Kish From page 14 SHAKESPEARE has been banished from the court, leaving his brother, Duke Frederick (Happy Anderson), in charge. Rosalind (Dana Green) and her best friend, Celia (Lady Anne), abruptly leave the court and travel to the Forest of Arden to join up with Duke Senior, when, low and behold, Rosalind and Orlando fall upon one another and are immediately smitten. Along the way, love blossoms not only for this couple, but several, and all ends happily, with marriage vows announced for all of them. Although the tale is tame, the stagecraft is not. From an initial bare stage, the audience obser ves a boxcar pull up to collect passengers – the only dark shadow in the production – including Duke Senior. Ralph Funicello’s inventive scenic design doesn’t stop there; he gives us a carpet of snow, tall ladders that imitate a forest of trees and a white canopy that billows skyward. In addition, there’s even a roped boxing ring that rises from beneath the From page 1 PRIDE the community. The date has yet to be set. “We in the South Bay feel that it is important to support all of the Pride events, including San Diego Pride and North County Pride,” Bair said. “It is great to see the whole County celebrate and come together – not only in July but throughout the rest of the year as well – in supporting organizations that help build community and work for equality for ever yone. We look for ward to celebrating with ever yone.” Bair is one of many community members who will be sharing pride this weekend. Gay San Diego Assistant Editor Morgan Hurley reached out to several other community members for our second yearly Pride Guide insert, and third year of Pride coverage. Called Community Voices, the section features over 20 different – and wonderful – responses to the question, “What does Pride mean to me?” It is a splendid cross-section of our community, and we encourage you to read each one. Also in the insert is a comprehensive listing of events happening all week, including the first raising of the permanent Pride flag on Normal Street, the Hillcrest Business Association’s Block Party and the complete entertainment lineup for the Pride Festival. In addition to the regular calendar in Gay San Diego, the insert includes events, meetings and celebrations from as many aspects of our community as we could print. While not exhaustive, it provides a good place to start. Rounding out the guide are inter views with Festival headliners Natasha Bedingfield and Alex Newell, as well as a photo spread of past Pride events in San Diego. 2012 may be America’s Pride, but ever y year is Pride in San Diego.t stage floor for an executed boxing match or two. Adrian Noble’s direction is whimsically solid and his cast is competently delightful. Green triumphs in a part that has her morphing into a young man named Ganymede; her ever y move and commentar y commands attention. Font and Green play off one another with a number of excellent comedic turns that seem effortless. The chemistr y between Green and Amboyer is equally fluid as she tests his loyalty. Dan Amboyer plays his par t of the high-spirited Orlando with the right mix of nobility and youthfulness, while Jacques C. Smith, playing Jaques, does excellent deliver y on the “Seven Ages of Man” speech and other stor ytelling assignments. Charles Janasz does a ver y fine turn as an aging ser vant; Joseph Marcell plays Touchstone with per fect foolishness; and Allison Spratt is a mar vel as Phoebe, playing alongside Christopher Salazar’s smitten Silvius. Adam Daveline, a San Diego graduate actor, dresses up several scenes with some lovely singing and competent mandolin GAY SAN DIEGO July 13–July 26, 2012 15 THEATER REVIEW (center) Dana Green as Rosalind and the cast of The Old Globe’s Shakespeare Festival production of “As You Like It” (Photo by Henry DiRocco) playing. Original songs are by Shaun Davey. Other elements that make this theatrical confection topnotch include Deirdre Clancy’s splendid design choices that emanate from the 1930s, and I would be remiss not to mention the perfectly staged wrestling match choreographed by Steve Rankin. In the end, all of the couples are committed and happily married, while their families look on with approval, temporarily forgetting their disagreements. The audience knows this happiness won’t last forever, but still, we treasure the moment, and a second splendid addition to the festival.t 16 GAY SAN DIEGO July 13–July 26, 2012 DINING gay-sd.com DINING WITH FRANK SABATINI JR. A dramatic entry into A variety of cookies are made fresh daily on the premises. (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.) B ( 4135 61 Price san A startup deli on Park Boulevard has given new meaning to the acronym, BFD. Not to be mistaken for “big freakin’ deal” or its expletive usage, the owners cleverly named the eatery after their big front door, a $10,000 architectural wonder that leads to some of the brightest sandwiches I’ve seen since gourmet paninis came into vogue. The piston-driven glass door comprises nearly the entire length of the storefront and glides open from a center pivot. It was created by local designer Paul Basile, who also bestowed his industrial styling on Bankers Hill Bar + Restaurant, Underbelly, Craft & Commerce and other neighborhood restaurants. If there was ever a door you wanted to push open repeatedly, this is it, although the general rule seems to be, “touch, but don’t play with it.” Skylights strewn across a high, lumber ceiling add radiance to a large wood table used for communal eating. Hanging behind the deli counter are menus for sandwiches and salads, written on dropdown sheets of butcher paper. The modern warehouse feeling is further accentuated by cinder-block walls and a stainless steel kitchen sectioned off by glass panels. Co-owner Steve Riley smokes and roasts a variety of meats that end up between artisan breads from Sadie Rose Baking Company, a local wholesaler that he showcases from a retail rack on weekends. Inside the deli case are things like chipotle potato salad, sesame coleslaw and pesto orzo. The mac-n-cheese appeared particularly alluring with its Provolone and house-smoked Gouda peeking out from the layers. A few bare spots still exist within the case, but Riley assures that he will soon stock it with additional savories, including meats The current seasonal sandwich spotlights flavorful roast beef with smoked Gouda. (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.) sold by the pound. Salads involving mixed greens and meats are made fresh and served in cardboard boxes. There are eight to choose from, including one that combines shredded duck with cranberries. As a trio, we easily shared a “cobb-ler” that was loaded with moist, smoked turkey BFD (Big Front Door) 4135 Park Blvd. (Hillcrest) 619-255-4100 Prices: Salads, $4 to $11.50; sandwiches, $7.50 to $10 breast, hardboiled eggs, avocado, tomatoes and creamy crumbles of Maytag blue cheese. Little did we know that our sandwiches would be equally substantial. A stacking of thinly sliced pork, roasted with chilies, takes center stage in “loins of fire.” Tucked into a torpedo roll, it’s garnished with pickled onions, lettuce, cilantro and garlic aioli. We were immediately wowed by its spicy-tangy kick when passing it around. Our jaws remained out of control when chomping into “Smokey the meatloaf” on sourdough bread. The meatloaf meets connoisseur standards in that it’s made with a mix of ground beef and pork, resulting in a classic hot sandwich deliciously elevated by melted cheddar, house-made ketchup and aioli. A third sandwich we ordered fell into the “seasonal” category, which means it could disappear next month or tomorrow. Constructed with seasoned-rubbed roast beef that we saw pulled whole from the oven, the added goodness came from a layer of smoked Gouda, pepperoncinis and chipotle mayo, leaving us plotting our next visit while still stuffing our maws. The beef resurfaces in a simpler sandwich called “the natural,” which is served merely with jus made from real-deal pan drippings. Other temptations include pulled pork with Five Spice; turkey with candied-bacon stuffing; mock meatball made with eggplant, cheese and breadcrumbs; and avocado lopped onto tomatoes and “Parmesan crisps.” Homemade cookies and an inventory of nearly 40 different types of bottled sodas with obscure labels provide the sweet satiety at BFD. Among them, you’ll find Sprecher Gorilla Grape Soda from Wisconsin and Double Cola from Tennessee, considered sweeter than Coke and slightly more carbonated. Beverages extend also to beer and wine, making this a full-fledged sandwich shop that happens to be marked by a very uncommon front door.t The “cobb-ler” salad at BFD features house-smoked turkey. (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.) NEWS/ENTERTAINMENT gay-sd.com From page 3 HILLQUEST of the neighborhood, but [to] the diversity of people who live, work and visit [in] the area. They inspired me to take a more active role in the community and always encouraged me to be a leader in my neighborhood.” In addition to their popular “HillQuest” handbook, a supplemental website – HillQuest.com – is updated daily by the women with news and changes that might affect the community. Electronic “flipbooks” – a digital version of every issue that has been produced over the past 10 years – can also be found on the website for those wishing to read a previous edition. Although the focus has always been on Hillcrest, Garwood said that by adding “and Beyond” to the title, it gave them “license to venture outside the boundaries of Hillcrest,” and they do; not only when addressing historical factors of important landmarks such as Balboa Park and the regional bridges, but also by sharing fun and informative facts about Hillcrest’s neighboring communities, today. As the popularity of the handbooks grew over the years, Moors said other communities around San Diego often came to them with requests to start similar products for their neighborhoods, but it just would not have been the same. “You gotta have the passion for the neighborhood,” she said. In a word, that is something the two women both fervently share about Hillcrest: passion. “All that we’ve learned, and doing that learning together, has been one of the most rewarding aspects of our community involvement. Being able to take the passion we had for our own neighborhood and share a publication that we enjoyed working on with people who enjoy reading about our older neighborhoods was very rewarding,” Moors said. “‘HillQuest’ opened the doors to meeting many people and learning so much about how the neighborhood ticks. It’s fun being able to have a business that requires us to be so involved in the community. It’s never been work and to top it off we get to spend our days together, too … we love each other and the neighborhood created by so many over the past century plus,” she said. In addition to all the history and trivia they have churned out over the years, the couple has also found time to be involved in a large number of local community organizations, many of which they founded themselves or helped establish. Moors calls the Hillcrest Business Association (HBA) the “oldest business association” in San Diego and before leaving the HBA last year, Garwood had been the longest-sitting board member, having served all four executive directors starting with Joyce Beers, namesake of the building where the monthly meetings are now held. Moors also spent a great deal of time with the HBA, having served as both president and vice president over the years. Their other involvements include: Hillcrest Town Council, Hillcrest Clean Team, Save Hillcrest and Uptown Parking District, to name a few. In anticipation of their move to Bankers Hill, the pair are already involved in the Bankers Hill Residents Group and Garwood is a delegate for the neighborhood parking committee, while Moors is on the Committee of 100, a nonprofit designed to preserve the Spanish colonial architecture of Balboa Park. They named their Bankers Hill domicile “The Meadows” after previous owner Elinor Meadows, an art teacher and community activist who helped save the Quince Street pedestrian bridge across Maple Canyon near the home. The house, which was registered historical in 2007, hosts five, fully renovated apartments overlooking the restored bridge and was originally built as a boarding house. From pushing for better parking options and use of parking funds, to leading the resident’s charge to keep the current low skyline intact, to cleaning its streets and preserving its history, these dedicated women have “building community” running through their veins. You can find “HillQuest” at any of their advertisers. Visit HillQuest.com for a full list of locations. Purchase past editions of the Urban Guide for $7, which includes shipping and handling, by contacting them through the website.t Ann and Nancy’s ways to build a better community • Turn off your TV • Leave your house • Know your neighbors • Greet people • Look up when you’re walking • Fly your flag with pride • Ask for help when you need it • Sit on your stoop • Plant flowers • Use your library • Hire young people for odd jobs • Play together • Buy from local merchants • Share what you have • Help a lost dog • Take children to the park • Honor elders • Support neighborhood schools • Have potlucks • Fix it even if you didn’t break it • Help carry something heavy • Garden together • Pick up litter • Read stories aloud • Dance in the street • Talk to the mail carrier • Listen to the birds • Barter for your goods • Start a tradition • Ask a question • Organize a block party • Bake extra and share • Open your shades • Sing together • Share your skills • Take back the night • Turn up the music • Turn down the music • Listen before you react to anger • Mediate a conflict • Seek to understand • Learn from new and uncomfortable angles • Seek to hear the unheard romeo san vicente GAY SAN DIEGO July 13–July 26, 2012 17 DEEP INSIDE HOLLYWOOD World.” Instead, like “Mamma Mia!” it’ll focus on a group of women whose lives are reflected in Spice Girls songs. Makes sense because, you know, girl power and all. And if nothing else, it’s a reason to hope that the Mayans were wrong about 2012. Because you know you want to see this one. Amber Heard (Photo by Peter Mountain) Amber Heard in talks for ‘Paranoia’ Recession still got you down? Ever thought of branching out and going into the corporate spying business? Well, according to Joseph Finder’s best-selling novel “Paranoia,” this is something you might consider. And both lesbian actress Amber Heard and “Hunger Games” star Liam Hemswor th are considering taking roles in the film version, to be directed by gay filmmaker Rober t Luketic (“Legally Blonde”). The stor y involves a blue-collar worker who becomes a corporate spy and gets himself into hot water as a result. And a hot suppor ting cast of A-listers like Gar y Oldman and Harrison Ford are already on board, which means that the source material – the kind of pulpy thriller you see left on airplanes after a cross-countr y flight – might be getting the kind of first-class treatment ever y author dreams of when selling a book to Hollywood. One request, respectfully submitted: If Heard winds up moving beyond the discussion phase, could she please play someone who has something to do instead of just the passive wife or girlfriend? Ever yone’s ready for that by this point, right? Magic Mike and the Spice Girls coming to the stage Not ones to let the bachelorette par ty wind down so soon, Steven Soderbergh and Channing Tatum are about to extend stripper drama “Magic Mike” to Broadway as a musical. Working with “Magic” screenwriter Reid Carolin, the producing pair hopes to have a working, functioning show up on stage by the summer of 2013 starring hard-bodied guys who can not only bump and grind but sing their hear ts out, as well. Just don’t call it “The Full Monty 2.” Now, if “Mamma Mia! 2” is the first thing that comes to mind when you learn about “Viva Forever!,” who could blame you? The long-gestating Spice Girls jukebox musical, written by “Absolutely Fabulous” co-creator Jennifer Saunders, opens on London’s West End in December of this year and is not a rehash of the supergroup’s fantasy biopic “Spice ‘The Sound of Music’ climbs ever y deliver y platform It began its life as a stage musical and became an award-winning box office smash movie that found enduring life as a perennial TV favorite and then new popularity as a “Rocky Horror Picture Show”-style sing-along event, complete with audience members dressed as nuns. So what’s left for “The Sound of Music”? What about if NBC capitalized on “Smash” cult hit status and brought the stage version back to TV as a one-night-only event? Enter gay producing team Craig Zadan and Neil Meron, whose plans involve broadcasting the whole thing live. Sound crazy? It’s not; in fact, they used to do it all the time in the 1950s, when families would sit around the TV together for that kind of thing. Casting is under way and airdate will be announced soon. And the more you watch the more likely it’ll be more than a one-of f experiment. ‘Boom,’ here’s Ron Perlman playing transgender “Frankie Go Boom” is coming. You ready? It’s a sweet-natured romantic comedy from writer/director Jordan Rober ts and it stars “Sons of Anarchy” regular Charlie Hunnam (he was also par t of the original U.K. “Queer as Folk” cast), Chris O’ Dowd (that cute cop from “Bridesmaids”), Chris Noth, Lizzy Caplan (“Two Broke Girls”) and Ron Perlman. Perlman plays a transgendered woman and the character is based on Rober ts’ sister, who used to be his brother, which just goes to show that real life doesn’t have to turn into weird reality television – sometimes it can inform oddball fiction instead. What’s it about? Two brothers whose love-hate relationship goes viral when one of them pranks the other with an Internet-leaked sex tape. Enter Perlman (looking like, well, a female Ron Perlman) to help. How she helps isn’t known at this point unless you jump the gun and read reviews prior to the indie comedy’s October opening. But you can wait, right? Sure you can. This one sounds like it rewards the patient.t —Romeo San Vicente goes boom every hour on the hour. He can be reached care of this publication or at [email protected]. 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Out of curiosity, I did an Internet search for the word pride and was reminded that it is considered one of the seven deadly sins. Lust, gluttony, greed, sloth, wrath and envy are the others. Then, I was directed to “the seven heavenly virtues.” The vir tues – before they were called heavenly - were defined by the Greek philosophers Aristotle and Plato. When they first came into being, there were only four. It was not until later that the other three were added. Let’s take a look at all seven and see if any of them could be useful to us proud LGBT individuals today. Chastity: Well, what can I say? It’s not up there in most people’s priorities. However, let’s dig a bit deeper. Could there be some usefulness for us here? Do we sometimes emphasize sex a bit too much? I am proud to be a sex-positive therapist, but I wonder if a little chastity might sometimes be a good thing. The definition of chastity also includes obstaining from sexual misconduct. No games, no lies and no bullshit. Let’s also consider the friendship of romance – the emotional connection in sex – and cultivating good health and hygiene as part of a contemporar y definition of chastity. Temperance: “What the hell is that?,” you may be asking. Temperance is about moderation: not going too far and finding a middle path, as the Buddhists recommend. The skillful use of restraint, mindfulness of other people, practicing self-control and delayed gratification are other aspects of temperance. For any of us with tendencies toward addictive behavior, temperance could be extremely useful. Drama queens and control queens: this means you. Charity: We think we know what this means, but let’s expand the definition to include situations where we put others first. It’s not just about benevolent giving. Do you know the spiritual term agape? This is charity at its best: aspiring to unconditional love and forgiving others for their mistakes. Even right-wingers? Yes. Diligence: Unless you’re a lawyer, this isn’t a word you We are strong, that most of us aspire to. Kindness is about compassion, empathy and trust without prejudice or resentment. As a proud LGBT community, it’s easy to be kind to people who love and support us, but can we do the same to people who are ignorant and condemn us? Humility: Outside of spiritual circles, this seems to be rather passé, isn’t it? I love this quote: “Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it is thinking of yourself less.” Humility is a spirit of self-examination and courage of heart necessar y to undertake work that is difficult, tedious or unglamorous. It’s about honoring those who have wisdom, like our elders, giving credit where credit is due and not glorifying yourself. It seems ironic to me that these seven old-fashioned sounding vir tues are actually quite relevant to our community today. We have many good reasons to be proud of who we are, where we came from and what we’ve accomplished. Bravo! Good for us, but since we’ve pretty much got that down, I think it’s time to ask: what’s next? We are strong, we are smart and we are powerful. Could our next challenges be from growing more patient, kind, temperate, charitable, diligent, chaste and humble? See you at the parade.t we are smart and we are powerful. Could our next challenges be from growing more patient, kind, temperate, charitable, diligent, chaste and humble? probably hear a lot. It’s about being careful in your actions and work, having a healthy work ethic and the ability to not give up when the going gets tough. Can you do this at all times, even when no one else is watching? Patience: For many of us, impatience seems to be our middle name. Living with patience is about not giving up when things don’t come quickly and easily. It also includes resolving conflicts peacefully and creating a sense of peaceful stability and community rather than encouraging hostility and antagonism. Patient people have a quiet confidence: they have the ability to keep working, hold to their vision and know that – eventually - good things will come to them. Kindness: Here is a virtue —Michael Kimmel is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in helping LGBT clients achieve their goals and deal with anxiety, depression, grief, sexually addictive behavior, coming out, relationship challenges and homophobia. Contact him at 619-955-3311 or visit lifebeyondtherapy.com. gay-sd.com From page 1 vigils community who have been killed because of hatred and bigotry,” CFAC Youth Outreach Coordinator Joey Sago said in a press release. Sago also said they would bring information about the “importance of inclusive history lessons” as well as LGBT teen violence. On June 23, two teenage girls in a same-sex relationship were shot in the head in Portland, Texas. Mollie Judith Olgin, 19 years old, was found dead at the scene and Mary Christine Chapa, 18, was rushed to a hospital. Chapa has been listed in stable condition. “Violence like this against the LGBT community is a reality, but educating the public we can combat the violence. We have seen how incorporating LGBT civil rights leaders into history lessons has reduced bullying in schools dramatically,” CFAC Director of Programs Jersey Deutsch said in the same release. “We want to come together to hold a candlelight vigil to honor our brothers and sisters who have lost their lives and recommit ourselves to empowering school across San Diego to begin implementing the FAIR Education Act immediately,” he said. In response to the shootings, the Human Rights Campaign (HRC) released a statement, where HRC President Chad Griffin expressed his condolences and said, “Regardless of the motivation behind this tragedy, we must send a strong message that violence against anyone is never acceptable. We have reached out to law enforcement officials at both the federal and local level, and hope to see a thorough investigation. These women, and all victims of violent crimes, deserve nothing less.” CFAC statistics show LGBT students are 63 percent more likely to be bullied than any other group of students, and that every 30 minutes a student commits suicide as a result of being bullied. They go on to assert that “positive LGBT representation is vital” in combating violence against our community. “Brandon Teena was murdered for being transgender in 1993. Matthew Shepard was killed for being openly gay in 1998. Mollie Olgin was killed for being in a relationship with another teenage woman in 2012,” CFAC Field Director Holly Hellersted said in the same release. “Speak out and remember the friends and family we have lost because of the hate and violence that continues to perpetuate in this country.” Following the CFAC vigil, San Diego Remembers held a vigil in response to the shooting, as well. The organization was created in 2008 to honor Shepard’s memory, and stages a candlelight vigil each year in October. On July 3, San Diego Remembers met with the community at the John Wear Hate Crimes Memorial Plaque in Hillcrest for a vigil and moment of silence. “All acts of violence are hateful,” Rick Cervantes, co-founder of the organization, said in San Diego Gay & Lesbian News. “We believe it is important to stand up for these members of our greater LGBT community who have suffered a loss of life.”t SPORTS gay-sd.com JEFF PRAUGHT Front Runners & Walkers San Diego With close to 200 members, Front Runners & Walkers San Diego (FRWSD) is an active organization for the LGBT community and their family members and friends who seek to have healthy, active lives. FRWSD is in its 31st year of existence, having formed in 1981. The group welcomes runners and walkers of all abilities and ages, from beginners and recreational participants to highly experienced and competitive athletes. A major project sponsored by FRWSD is the annual Run & Stride with Pride 5K Race, marking the start of Pride festivities each year before the start of the Parade. This year’s race takes place Saturday, July 21 at 10 a.m. on the Pride parade route. Starting and finishing at University Avenue and Centre Street, participants run the parade route to Balboa Park and back, completing the 5K before the parade officially starts at 11 a.m. It’s a fast and flat course, certified and sanctioned by USA Track & Field, and the club gives out awards for the top three finishers in each age division, male and female. Registration is $40 and $45 for morning of. Throughout the year, the club meets for regular group runs. Assembling by the entrance to Balboa Park at Laurel Street and Sixth Avenue on Saturday mornings at 8 a.m., Monday and Wednesday evenings at 6 p.m. and Tuesday evenings at 6 p.m. (for speed training sessions), the runs are typically three to six miles long, while walks GAY SAN DIEGO July 13–July 26, 2012 21 DUGOUT CHATTER Runners at the start of the race. (Courtesy Front Runners & Walkers) are about two and a half miles long. For folks in North County who wish to get involved, a group meets on Saturdays at 9 a.m. at MaGee Park in Carlsbad. Some runs and walks take the group through downtown Carlsbad, while others of the 4- and 5-mile runs include beach routes in the sand. For more information or to register for the Pride 5K Run and Walk, visit frwsd.org or call 619857-8719. San Diego Open tennis tournament Every Fourth of July weekend, the San Diego Tennis Federation (SDTF) hosts its annual San Diego Open tournament, open to players from across the world. This year’s event was held July 6 – 8 and was hosted by four sites: the Balboa Tennis Club, Peninsula Tennis Club, the University of San Diego tennis courts and City College tennis courts. Players come primarily from Southern California, but this year’s tournament drew 182 entrants, including some from as far away Atlanta, New York City and Italy. (l to r) San Diego Open co-founder Todd Linke, C Singles Champion Keith Millard and Open co-founder Andrew Hoffman pose together after the tournament. (Photo by Curk Janka) The tournament structure consists of five divisions in both singles and doubles match play: Open, A, B, C and D, with A being the most competitive skill level. The C division was the most populous, with 63 singles entrants and 26 doubles. B was a close second, with 50 and 27 entrants respectively. Overall, matches began at 8 a.m. and ran all day during the three-day event. The C Division Singles final matched a pair of San Diegans, with Keith Millard defeating Steve Cole 6-2, 6-0. The C Doubles team of Kevin Mallery and Moises Orozco brought home San Diego’s other title, defeating Sergio Cardenas and Justin Tran 6-2, 6-1. “The weekend tournament itself was a complete success,” said co-tournament director Todd Linke, who shares the leadership duties with Andrew Hoffman. “It ran smoothly at all sites. Everyone seemed to really enjoy the competition, but most of all, the camaraderie and friendship. It also helped that we had SDTF volunteers coming from out of the woodwork in order to help. Some of them stayed from six in the morning until as late as 9 p.m. They were truly a pleasure to work with.” The athletes who traveled from around the country were treated to a Registration Party at the Balboa Tennis Club House on July 5, where they could check out the courts, register and receive their player swag bags. On Saturday, July 7, SDTF hosted a banquet for the players at the Lafayette Hotel, where a raffle was held as part of a community benefit. The Gay/Lesbian Tennis Association (GLTA) is the organization that sanctions all national LGBT tennis tournaments, and requires that each event be philanthropic in nature. SDTF chose the Balboa Warrior Athlete Program as its benefactor this year, a program that assists wounded military veterans in learning the game of tennis. Linke said he estimates that the Open raised upwards of $2,000 for the program. The SDTF is one of the oldest and largest gay tennis leagues in the nation and boasts over 200 members. Year-round, the organization holds events including a Singles League, Team Tennis, Promiscuous Doubles – where partners swap every 20 minutes – and the popular Friday Night Doubles at Balboa Tennis Center in Morley Field. Skill levels range from beginners to experts. Membership is $40 per year and more information on all of the great hard court opportunities can be found on the league’s website, sdtf.org.t 22 GAY SAN DIEGO July 13–July 26, 2012 INTERVIEW From page 11 KATY PERRY pressing and sheltering. I was set to think that gay people were an abomination, so I was not allowed to speak to anyone who was obviously fabulous and I was never allowed to associate with that type of people. Really, generally, I was never allowed to associate with anybody that wasn’t Christian. So I was kind of trapped in a bubble, and then it finally burst years later. Now I think that 90 percent of everyone I work with, from my assistant to two out of three of my managers, is either gay or lesbian. It’s been an incredible journey of acceptance and tolerance. CA: Where are your parents now on gay people? gay-sd.com KP: My parents have actually become more accepting and tolerant now. We’ve all grown up and evolved and broadened our mindset. Sometimes people have a really picky way of eating, right? And they don’t like certain foods, but a lot of times they haven’t even tried those foods. Once they try or know or get educated and have the facts, they’re more comfortable and there’s no judgment on your shrimp cocktail. I know that sounds so strange, but it’s this simple thing. A lot of people just aren’t educated; they still have this 1950s mindset, unfortunately. CA: Are you saying that you’ve tried the shrimp cocktail and gone lesbian? KP: I don’t know if it would be appropriate for me to tell you what my straight or gay [experiences] have been in the past [laughs]. CA: You’ve said Madonna had a lot of influence on this film, and her 1991 documentary “Truth or Dare” really resonated with the gay community. KP: Yes, and still continues to. CA: Do you think “Katy Perry: Part of Me 3D” will have a similar effect on the gay community? KP: I hope that people see that they don’t have to change themselves in order to achieve their goals or dreams, and they can accept the skin that they live in and overcome obstacles or judgments. The theme of this movie is me overcoming obstacles: where I came from, problems with my record label and my personal struggles. A lot of times, people wanted me to be like someone else or sing like someone else or write like someone else. I wanted to be the first Katy Perry, but they couldn’t accept that. So hopefully people can come away from [the film] saying, “I don’t have to change myself. I don’t have to fit in. I don’t have to be what someone else wants me to be in order to reach my goals in life.” CA: After what happened with Gaga – where Madonna mashed up “Born This Way” with “Express Yourself” for her upcoming tour and called Gaga “reductive” – are you scared of being too inspired by Madonna? KP: No. I’m inspired by everyone, and you know, I think that the queens love a little catfight every once in a while. It’s good for the cocktails and the conversation, I’ll tell you that. CA: “Ur So Gay” and “I Kissed a Girl” didn’t sit well with some of the gay community when they came out. You obviously have a huge gay following now, but did you feel like you needed to prove your authenticity after all the uproar over those songs? KP: I never really tr y and tr y hard. I like things to roll out naturally. People like to put me in a box. From the first official single, “I Kissed a Girl,” they always said I was a one-trick pony, and I’ve always known what I was gonna do next in my playby-play and how I was gonna roll out the moments – and “I Kissed a Girl” was the strongest song for me at the time. It was also on the tip of everybody’s tongue pop culturally, even on television shows like “Gossip Girl” people were talking about it, and it was becoming more of an accepted idea to be bi-curious and to be bisexual. The song just took it over the edge for the public in some ways, but I think that anybody who saw a confusing message in those songs was either looking for a fight or taking it completely out of context. Anyone that really understood the songs understood the songs for what they were. CA: Now that more gay couples are able to legally marry, what would you tell them about marriage from your own experience? KP: It’s everybody’s individual experience. I think you can be in love without walking down the aisle, or you can walk down the aisle and be in love, but everybody deserves that choice and I think that equality is very important. People ask me questions about the whole Obama thing and him coming out and saying it publicly, and I’m like, ‘I hope soon enough we’ll look back and say to ourselves how ridiculous it was to think this way, just like it was during the civil rights movement.’ We’re embarrassed. And it is completely embarrassing. We’re a young country and we’re developing slowly; we’re not as cultured as the Europeans. But that’s OK. We’re gonna get there, and hopefully there will be more tolerance in the world very soon and we won’t make the same mistake twice. CA: You’ve shot whipped cream and fireworks out of your boobs – KP: Actually, if you look at the placement of those fireworks, they come from my spirit [laughs], but I know people love going straight to the tits. They’re a big target on me. CA: If you could shot anything else out of your boobs, what would it be? KP: I’m gonna shoot down hate. I’m gonna shoot down all the people that hate, that sip on our haterade, that hate just to hate. 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