8 letters to dr. walter bortz
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8 letters to dr. walter bortz
Contents Spring 2010 14 ASK DR. ZORICA CADASIL? What is this rare and terminal disease? 16 PROFILE: DOUG MCCONNELL You know him from the popular TV show: Bay Area Backroads. 18 MEET LOLLY FONT, YOGI Yoga saved her life. Now Lolly teaches yoga to help others. 20 WHEN TO DOWNSIZE? When is a home too much to handle? What to do? What are your options? 24 FALLING IN LOVE AT 80 It’s never too late for romance! Older adults are finding love at retirement communities. 26 MONEY LADY Doug McConnell on a trail near Corte Madera 6 MOOSE and MOUSSE Travel writer Don Mankin journeys to Quebec to track moose and eat mousse! 8 LETTERS TO DR. WALTER BORTZ Dr. Bortz talks about his latest book: “The Roadmap to 100.” Beware of the Bernie Madoffs of the world. Sage advice from Evelyn Preston. 28 SENIOR LIVING New Moldaw Family Residences (CCRC) opens in Palo Alto, CA. 30 HEALTHY AGING GUIDE Free resource guide on how to stay active and healthy in Silicon Valley. 12 LAWN BOWLING? It’s not for whimps! Check it out. ActiveOver50 3 Publisher’s Note Published by Hayes Marketing Communications, Inc. P.O. Box 321209 Los Gatos, CA 95032 Larry W. Hayes/Publisher & Editor 408.921.5806 Email: [email protected] Website: activeover50.com Gloria Hayes/VP Operations Charm Bianchini/Associate Editor Mabel Tang/Art Director To Advertise Call 408.921.5806 or [email protected] To Subscribe Call 408.921.5806 or [email protected] Copyright 2010 Hayes Marketing Communications, Inc. All rights reserved. Reproduction in whole or in part of any text, photograph or illustration without written permission by the publisher is strictly prohibited. The magazine is not responsible for unsolicited manuscripts, artwork or photographs. The opinions expressed in ActiveOver50 magazine are those of the authors and do not necessarily reflect the views of ActiveOver50 magazine. The magazine assumes no responsibility. Cover and profile photography by Allan Hayes, piecesoftheplanet.com 650.322.2841 ActiveOver50 4 REMEMBER “BAY AREA BACKROADS?” Doug McConnell was host of this popular Bay Area TV show for 16 years. Storyteller. Adventurer. Environmental Advocate. What is he doing today? Read his profile article on page 16. Larry W. Hayes Publisher & Editor Our travel writer Don Mankin travels to Quebec to check out moose and mousse. Read about his latest travel adventure on page 6. No stopping Dr. Walter Bortz! He turned 80 this year, wrote “The Roadmap to 100” and ran in the Boston marathon. Word’s out that he’s working on his seventh book: Next Medicine. Read his inspiring column on page 8. Lawn bowling? You’ve got to be kidding, right? Before you dismiss this sport outright, ice curling on grass, check it out on page 12. Love and marriage at 80? Why not? It happens frequently at The Forum and other retirement communities. It’s never too late for companionship at any age. Read more on page 24. Suckers are born every minute. Don’t become one. Our Money Lady Evelyn Preston has some sage advice on how to avoid getting scammed. Read her column on page 26. Keep those emails, phone calls and letters coming in! You can reach me at larry@activeover50 or call 408.921.5806. T RAV E L S W ITH DON Tracking Moose and Mousse on the Gaspe Peninsula By Don Mankin (Photos by Eric Brodnax) The clang of crashing antlers echoed through the clear, cold mountain air as two huge moose butted heads just 50 yards away in the early morning sun peeking over the ridge in front of us. This was our reward for getting up at 5 am to hike a steep two uphill miles to this moose playground/battleground in the heart of the Gaspe Peninsula. It was the last day of my three day trip last October to this rugged but civilized corner of southeastern Quebec. While I watched this amazing wildlife tableau play out before ActiveOver50 6 me, I was still digesting my gourmet meal from the evening before – possibly the best smoked salmon I have ever had, a spicy clam and crab soup, veal in gorgonzola sauce, and a decidedly decadent chocolate mousse. Such is life on the Gaspe Peninsula -- wilderness and nature plus French food and culture without the inconvenience and expense of a trans-Atlantic flight. The trip began with an afternoon canoe trip down the Bonaventure River on the southern coast of the Peninsula. The sky was clear and the air was brisk as we paddled down the fast flowing river and bounced through the benign rapids. There were just enough rocks and ripples to make it interesting. Our paddle ended as the setting sun turned the few wispy clouds into rosy streaks across the sky. Our reward for braving the “wild” waters of the Bonaventure was an outstanding dinner, prepared and served by our hosts from CIME Aventures (www.cimeaventures.com) in their rustic but comfortable ecolodge -grilled codfish in a miso marinade, soup made from oranges and root vegetables, beet salad with a ginger, garlic and Dijonnaise seasoning, barbequed salmon marinated in maple syrup and served with rice, almonds and cranberries, vodka and Malpèque oyster shots and homemade apple pie. We were really roughing it! By now we were thoroughly immersed in the charm of the region -- the yin-yang combination of nature and French culture, especially the food. Day 2 was more rigorous. After a drive of several hours to Gaspesie National Park in the interior of the Peninsula, we embarked on an 8 mile hike on the international extension of the Appalachian Trail in the Chic Choc mountains, guided by our hosts from Absolu EcoAventure (www.aventure.com). The trail snaked up and down over rocks and tree roots and, since it was very late in the Fall tourism season, through patches of ice and grainy snow. We covered a total elevation gain of less than 1,000 feet, but the ups and downs made it seem higher. The views from the cliffs, outcroppings and the rocky mountain tops were well worth the effort. The Appalachians are one of the oldest mountain chains in the world. Originally thrusting 40,000 feet above sea level, they have been worn down by 480 million years of wind and rain, giving them a soft, rounded, ancient look. The view over the rolling, tree-covered hills and snowdusted ridges and through the wide valleys to the St. Lawrence River evoked ancient connections and primal memories. After the hike, we checked into the picturesque Gite du MontAlbert, a four star hotel with a zillion star restaurant in the heart of the park. Just as the gourmet meal and fine wine started to lull me into a relaxed sense of well being, our guides announced the plan for the next day – a well-before-dawn wake-up call to hike up a short but steep trail to watch the sun rise, and if we were lucky, see a couple of moose frolicking in their natural environment. Only about half of us made the early morning wake up call. I was glad that I did. Watching those two moose bang antlers in the soft glow cast by the rising sun was pure magic. We saw over a dozen moose that morning – at least three adult males with big sets of antlers and several mothers with their “Watching those two moose bang antlers in the soft glow cast by the rising sun was pure magic.” kids. The setting was also spectacular – trees, rocks and rolling snow-covered hills with not a sign of civilization in sight other than the trail, a simple wooden viewing platform, and a handful of other, early rising hikers. There were also no sounds other than the clanging of the antlers, a high pitched keening from the youngsters, and our excited but hushed whispers. As we descended the trail to head back, I stopped to gawk at one male with a big rack (not a phrase heard often in everyday life) just a few yards off the trail. When he started to move in my direction, I decided that it was time for me to also move, in the opposite direction. I’ve seen moose before – mostly in Newfoundland by the side of the highway – but rarely in their natural environment like this. From there on, it was all downhill – literally. The hike down was easy and fast. We got back to the hotel in time for a fast cruise through the breakfast buffet and one last chance to immerse myself in the gustatory delights of the Gaspe Peninsula (with apologies to Homer Simpson, “hmmm, crepes, hmmm”). [Note: In the interest of full disclosure, this trip was hosted by the Provincial tourism board, the two local tour companies cited in the article, and others to promote adventure tourism in Quebec. All of my expenses, except for my airfare to and lodging in Quebec City were covered by the hosts.] Don Mankin is a travel writer, business author, psychologist, organizational consultant and executive coach. The Wall Street Journal called his latest book, “Riding the Hulahula to the Arctic Ocean: A Guide to 50 Extraordinary Adventures for the Seasoned Traveler” (National Geographic, 2008), one of the best travel books of the year. For more information on Don or Riding the Hulahula, check out his website www.adventuretransformations.com. ActiveOver50 7 Letters to Dr. Walter Bortz II basic understanding has evolved. I’m proud of being a part of it and hope you may enjoy this new telling. Dear Dr. Bortz: A little bird tweeted me that you have written another book. I have read and enjoyed your previous ones. So because of this, I plan to enjoy this one as well. – Joe Dearing, Pittsfield, MA Dear Joe: Your little bird got it right. Yes, I have written and now have seen a first copy of my sixth book. Two earlier ones were about diabetes and this third about aging. Its title is “Roadmap to 100. The Science Behind a Long and Healthy Life.” Its publisher is Palgrave McMillan, which is a major coincidence because McMillan published a book of my father’s “Creative Aging” in 1963. On re-reading that book, one recognizes the precociousness of his grasp of the ideals of a long life and the steps we can all take to increase our chance of reaching it. I am proud of my earlier books on aging, “We Live Too Short and Die Too Long,” “Dare to be 100,” and “Living Longer for Dummies.” Each of these presented my best thinking of the moment. One feature that I find fascinating is how much we have learned, even in the 29 years since the first one was published in 1981. Much of the earlier reporting was guesswork, and frankly, not fully worked out yet. For example, from the beginning, I projected that the natural human lifespan extended at least to 100 years, 122 for Madam Calment. Earlier readers were concerned that I was merely blowing smoke and that a hundred years was a mirage, reached by only a few artifacts. ActiveOver50 8 Now, I believe that a hundred years is securely established as the human potential. Another early insight was the fact that heredity was not as important as otherwise acknowledged. This is an important differentiation because you can’t do anything about heredity but you can do a great deal about how we age. “It ain’t the cards you are dealt that matters, but how you play the hand.” This recognition goes by the relatively new term of “epigenetics” that is described in my new book. Time magazine recently had a cover story acknowledging this “new” insight. But even bigger than these two major understandings is the fact that the last few years have opened the door as to what aging truly represents and not some mischievous divine retribution. Two years ago, my good friend Leonard Hayflick, Nobel candidate and eminent gerontologist, published an article in which he said “biologic aging is no longer an unsolved problem.” This progress, which has been developed, particularly in this last book “Roadmap to 100,” helps to illustrate how the new powerful Dear Dr. Bortz: Of all your speculations and insights about growing older, I’m anxious to ask you if you had to nominate a single idea which is most important in the whole field, what would it be? --Jamie Crescent, Denver, CO Dear Jamie: Easy answer: engagement. That one word encompasses the force that allows life, not only just to happen but to be enriched. “Engagement” rules. Dr. Walter Bortz’s latest book, THE ROADMAP TO 100, shows how aging cannot be viewed as a disease that is curable by a never ending stream of medication. THE ROADMAP TO 100 shows how physical fitness, social engagement, proper nutrition and even an active sex life can add years and immense quality to anyone’s life. Published by Palgrave Macmillan. Available wherever books are sold. Dr. Walter Bortz II is one of America’s most distinguished scientific experts on healthy aging and longevity. He spent his entire career at Stanford University where he holds the position of Clinical Associate Professor of Medicine. An active marathoner, he has written six books and is working on his seventh: Next Medicine. Would you like to contact Dr. Bortz? Email him at [email protected] or visit www.walterbortz.com. ActiveOver50 9 Enjoy Resort-Style Senior Living at The Villages Golf & Country Club Active Adult Community 55 years+ Happy Clients Say it Best Villas & homes from 650–2,490 sq. ft. 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Like so many others who are drawn into lawn bowling after several years of driving by a real grass bowling green, Bonny became a staunch fan, and now happily helps spread the word about this most peaceful sport played mostly by people over the age of 50. The game is simple: Roll your bowls closer to the little white ball called the jack. But the devil is in ActiveOver50 12 the details as you really have so many angles and approaches that you have to think and strategize, even more than curling, the ice version of lawn bowls. Players like Britt who are hard of hearing soon learn that there is a very practical reason for those strange hand signals between partners at opposite ends of the lawn bowls green. The unique part of lawn bowls is that the bowls have a bias so they curve when rolled, allowing you to go around opponents as you approach the jack. In the old days they were made of wood. Today they are hard plastic 3 lb bowls, just bigger than a baseball and come in sets of four. And, of course, being played on real grass, you have to learn the idiosyncrasies of a supposedly flat piece of finely mowed turf. So the game is mentally challenging as well. Bonny would certainly agree. In 2006, after several weeks, she realized Britt ‘s steady progress and growing enjoyment of the friendly group of people around the sport, many of whom were women of retirement age, might be worth a try for herself. With Britt’s free trial lessons coming to an end, she knew they could easily afford the $100.00 annual dues and the club had plenty of loaner bowls for their first year. Bonny and Britt have become major players—on the social scene as well as the lawn— cheerfully volunteering as well as participating in a competitive club that also has a large social calendar. And no one believes Britt is well over 80 when they see him in action now. Although not well known in America, lawn bowls is played across the USA, especially in the warmer climates, and clubs like Palo Alto (see www.PALBC. org) are growing steadily. Team USA members attend major international events as the sport is played worldwide by the same rules. See www.uslba.org. This delightful sport is ideal for active seniors when your back (or your bank) hurts from golf. It is loved by tennis players when their knees start to creak. And it is very much loved by your family when you get off the couch and spend some time in the fresh air. Only serious problems will keep the keen bowlers away. After all, it is cheaper than going to Starbucks each week and some bowlers even call it the key to their longevity. ActiveOver50 13 Ask Dr. Zorica “CADASIL?” What is it? By Dr. Zorica M. Ljaljevic, M.D. My mom was recently tested for CADASIL. Do you know what it is? CADASIL syndrome stands for Cerebral Autosomal Dominant Arteriopathy with Subcortical Infarcts and Leukoencephalopathy. Quite a mouthful but what does this REALLY mean? CADASIL is a rare inherited disease characterized by recurrent strokes, cognitive decline and dementia. What are the symptoms of CADASIL? The most common clinical signs and symptoms of illness are migraine headaches and transient ischemic attacks also known as TIAs or strokes. Psychiatric disturbances, such as severe depression, panic disorder or hallucinations occur in approximately one third of patients. What age group is affected? Cognitive decline and migraine headaches are often the first signs of illness at age 30 to 40. These are usually followed by TIAs and stroke at age 45. Majority of patients show severe cognitive defects and dementia by age 65. How is the diagnosis made? CADASIL is caused by ActiveOver50 14 mutations in the NOTCH3 gene, on chromosome 19. The most definitive diagnostic tool is a blood test to screen for mutated NOTCH 3. When the NOTCH3 gene does not function correctly, protein builds up in the smooth muscle cells surrounding small and medium sized arteries, thus damaging them. Therefore, skin biopsies have been used for diagnosis as well. However, this method is less reliable than the blood screen. Why did they take a MRI/ Magnetic Resonance Imaging of my mom’s brain when evaluating her? MRI/Magnetic Resonance Imaging of the brain is able to detect signs of the CADASIL disease years prior to clinical manifestations of the disease. It can show progression of white matter lesions in the brain over time. MRI of the brain is not, however, a diagnostic test for CADASIL. Since CADASIL is a genetic disorder what are my chances of having this disease if my mom tests positive for it? For patients with a NOTCH3 mutation, each child is at a 50% risk to inherit the same mutation and therefore have a diagnosis of CADASIL. So if your mom has CADASIL your chance of having this disease is 50%. When do you recommend testing of the family? Once a NOTCH3 mutation has been found in an affected individual, family members can be tested for that particular mutation to determine whether or not they have a diagnosis of CADASIL. Counseling is always recommended and required prior to testing. How often do you see this disease? The exact number of people/ families with this disease are not known. Approximately 500 affected families have been identified throughout the world. The majority of cases are in European Caucasians. It is very likely that there a number of families that have yet not been identified. Mom’s got it –what now? What treatments are available? This needs to be discussed and reviewed with your doctor. No specific treatment is available. Antiplatelet agents like aspirin might help slow down the disease and help prevent strokes. You would need to further discuss this with your and your mom’s doctor. How long will mom live? The prognosis of CADASIL is variable. The length of time between onset of symptoms and death ranges from 3 to 43 years in studies –average being about 23 years. The mean age of death of CADASIL patients is around age 60. Dr. Zorica Ljaljevic is a Board Certified Psychiatrist and an Adjunct Clinical Assistant Professor of Psychiatry at Stanford University with expertise in mood disorders and geriatric psychiatry. For more information, go to www. drzorica.com. Or call 650. 917.9009. ActiveOver50 15 PR O F I L E Doug McConnell Age: 65 Occupation: Media professional Education: BA Government, Pomona College. MA Political Science, Rutgers University Marital Status: Married, two children Residence: Corte Madera ActiveOver50 16 We remember you as the host of Bay Area Backroads. What made it so popular for so long? I can’t take any credit for the creation of Backroads. That honor belongs to Jerry Graham and his crew in 1985, the same year my team and I began Mac and Mutley on KPIX. I joined Backroads when Jerry left in early 1993. When the show finally went off the air in March of 2009, it was the second longest running, field-produced, regional show in American broadcast history. I think the show worked in the 16 years I was involved because it wasn’t about me. I was the guide maybe, but the real stars of Backroads were the incredible people we met and featured along the way. What are your favorite adventures in the Bay Area? I love exploring our cities and their neighborhoods. Of course, San Francisco offers endless possibilities. It’s a great walking town. You can saunter along the revived waterfront, grab some fine food and coffee at the Ferry Building, climb up to Coit Tower for grand vistas and Depression-era art and architecture, descend into the narrow streets of North Beach and its long Italian legacy, visit the epicenter of the Beat Generation at City Lights Book Store, wander into another world entirely in Chinatown and pop out in historic Union Square, criss-crossing the fabled Barbary Coast trail along the way. That’s just for starters. We could have done Backroads, all 24 years of it, entirely within the city limits of San Francisco and never run out of places to see, people to meet and stories to tell. You’ll find me on the trails of our extraordinary collections of parks, public lands and open spaces in the Bay Area. By far, the Bay Area has protected more of its natural heritage than any other urban region in the world. The East Bay Regional Park District, at 100,000 acres, is the largest regional park district on the planet. The Golden Gate National Recreation Area, at 80,000 acres, is the largest, most complex and most visited National Park in an urban region in the nation. We have Pt. Reyes and two-thirds of Marin County in some kind of protected land status. The San Mateo coast, from Half Moon Bay to Santa Cruz, is essentially protected forever. And almost all of this is available to all of us to explore. Of all the awards that you have won, which one means the most? I’ve been honored to receive some special awards from the community over years for my work with animals and nature and on behalf of the environment in and out of the media. The two I cherish most are being named an honorary National Park Ranger and an honorary California State Park Ranger, and I’ve got the hats to prove it. Tell us about your latest program: Open Road.TV. “OpenRoad with Doug McConnell, Exploring the West” grew out of Backroads and has been airing on Public Television here and around the nation since the week after Backroads went off the air on KRON last year. In addition to the Public TV series, we have a travel website: www.OpenRoad.TV. We’ve got lots of video stories and information on the site, and you can watch all of the shows from our first season on Public Television. We want people to take care of themselves, also. We push what we call an Rx for the Outdoors. Get outside, take a walk, ride a bike, inhale the fresh air and enjoy the sunrise and sunset. “We can’t delegate our quality of life to somebody else. The ball is in our court.” Why are you so passionate about environmental issues? I think it all started in my earliest childhood days. My mom and dad loved to spend time outdoors, especially in our state and national parks around the West, and I was hooked. I got to see bears and moose, spectacular landscapes and old ghost towns. I fell head over heels in love with nature and history, too. I was involved in activities surrounding the first Earth Day, 40 years ago. Conditions were dire then. Now, with the health of the biosphere in even graver danger on many fronts, we face crises that seriously threaten us and coming generations. We owe it to our kids and those who follow them to do a lot better than we are. What can the average person do to improve quality of life in the Bay Area? The main ingredient is to take responsibility and to get involved. We can’t delegate our quality of life to somebody else. The ball is in our court. Each of us matters, and the fact is that we can actually have fun making our community a better place to live. I have a particular interest in protecting and caring for the natural environment. Who are some of your heroes? Two of my heroes were my mom and dad. Politically, they were about the most conservative people I’ve ever known but they always voted to tax themselves to make sure California had the best schools and system of parks in the nation. The Bay Area has a long tradition of environmental activists who profoundly and positively affected the world around them. Think of John Muir, Ansel Adams, David Brower, Galen Rowell, Bill Mott, Marty Griffen and many, many others. But please don’t forget one of America’s greatest but least known environmental champions, Dr. Edgar Wayburn. Ed died this March at the age of 103. He was a full-time doctor in San Francisco. But somehow, he managed to fit in being the Sierra Club’s President five times. He played central roles in saving more land than any other person in American history. How do you stay active? Kathy and I had kids at an older age, and they’ve kept me on the go ever since. And so have all the rescue animals we’ve harbored over the decades. I like to hike, bike, ride horses when I can. Just keep moving. And I hit the gym all the time. I try to get an intense hour workout in almost every day in some way whether I’m at home or on the road. What is your favorite outdoor activity? Show me a trail and I’m gone. The wilder the better but any hike is well worth taking. I’m thrilled to have the good fortune to still be able to walk well...and to be in good health and physical condition. ActiveOver50 17 EXERCISE Conversation with a mental picture of each student, guiding her instinctively to know what to teach, for each class is unique. Lolly teaches from the heart, applying 36 years of Iyengar Yoga instruction to people aged 50 to 99. “Aging is an ongoing process of change and yoga, relaxation and meditation become our friends –– our allies throughout this transition,” she explains. “As we grow older, we experience health challenges, physical imbalance, emotional issues such as loss and grieving and sometimes surgeries,” she continues. Lolly teaches practical and easy solutions anyone can learn to relieve their pain and enjoy a healthier, fuller life. Lolly says, “We have this builtin tool to feel better naturally: the breath. With awareness of what’s occurring inside your body –– beginning with breathing –– transformation begins. Usually people tighten and hold their breath when something stressful happens to them. So that’s why focusing on breathing, inhaling and exhaling slowly, softening––and then thinking about what you’re going through at the moment––will calm your body and your mind.” Reflections of Living a Lolly Life: she began practicing yoga when ♦ “I was brought up to work. nothing else worked to give her I grew up in a family of Italian relief. immigrants in upstate New York, “My body was in great pain and during the Great Depression. I was immobilized. Drugs and a ♦ Just “be” with a person. I learned neck collar were ineffective so I this by watching my mother who searched for an alternative. Yoga was the family and neighborhood made my body free again. I felt healer. She instilled in me a freedom physically and mentally reverence and respect for the for the first time in years,” she said. aged. She intuitively knew how to As she gracefully moves across rub my grandmother’s crippled the room, her straight and strong arthritic feet and bring relief. carriage and easy effervescence ♦ People want redirection and make her appear taller than her insight into their pain. They’re five feet. Clear hazel eyes capture looking for validation, love and Lolly Font, Yogi By Addison Olian Lolly Font teaching a class. A full, independent, healthy life that’s mostly pain-free is not only possible, it is essential. Lolly Font proves this is possible. Lolly Font, a fit and happy octogenarian with two masters degrees––one in education and the other in psychology––devotes her life to teaching seniors how to get and stay healthy without pain. She herself suffered arthritis of the spine after years of neglecting her own body while raising five kids and teaching children with disabilities. When Lolly turned 43, ActiveOver50 18 spine. We round our shoulders connection. They want to be seen. ♦ I trust my intuition. My study of and back. The legs get weary of holding all this up and then don’t psychology, yoga and meditation allows me to be totally present with work properly. I concentrate on a person’s posture because it’s another individual. I choose to live moment to moment, not in the past fundamental to regaining our life force. or the future. ♦ Yoga means union; it brings all ♦ When you have fear, you contract. your disparate parts together. It You don’t breathe deeply. All helps you to look at yourself as of your systems: respiratory, being one and circulatory, whole. The blood digestive and “Yoga means union; it flows, your organs nervous system are brings all your disparate disconnected. It’s are not constricted; you feel release parts together. It helps like a dysfunctional when you do yoga. you to look at yourself family. My job is ♦ How wonderful to help make it as being one and whole.” functional. the body is. It all begins with the The alternative feet. Did you know that? It’s so is living a more full life: Love, simple. Look, that’s where the communication, connection, caring, energy from the earth enters your and mindfulness. I’ve discovered body and flows all the way up that anyone at any age can benefit your spine, into your organs and from yoga and how it’s taught is into your brain. Give it some help, so important.” will you? Lolly Font’s classes are open to the public ♦ Everyone needs to learn how to in Palo Alto at the California Yoga Center stand up straight and to feel his (which she co-founded in 1980). She also or her shoulders and spine are teaches yoga privately to seniors at the aligned. There can be pain in the Classic Residence by Hyatt in Palo Alto. joints and bones and especially the ActiveOver50 19 D OW N S I ZING WHEN to Downsize? By Loretta Boyer McClellan When is a home too much to handle? Such was the question asked by a particular 50+ client of mine, with “too little time” and “too much house,” when she found herself in need of downsizing her home. Having raised their children in a home of abundant space, my client’s husband became seriously ill. Now living by herself and committed to focusing on quality time with her spouse, it was no longer feasible to provide the time and means involved with upkeep of an expansive home. Selling and relocating to a smaller home became the ideal solution. First to prepare the sale was downsizing belongings. With a lifetime of possessions needing organization, “store it,” “sell it,” “donate it,” or “move it” became a primary concentration. Many seniors are often reluctant to part with household items to make way for future space constraints or become overwhelmed with the organizing process. It’s important to consider all personal items valuable – just as they are to the senior – taking a methodical approach, providing support as-needed. Should a REALTOR® with Seniors Real Estate Specialist/SRES® designation and training not be involved in the move, the National Association of Professional Organizers or NAPO, (napo.net) is an additional resource for streamlining this process. Residing in a home for decades ActiveOver50 20 invariably poses the need for updating, touch-ups and at times, deep-cleaning for seeking a home sale. A circa 1970 treasured light fixture for instance – considered outdated by most buyers-becomes an ideal transfer to the downsized home to be showcased, preserving memories for the seller, while simultaneously making way for achieving buyers’ wants and promoting the sale. There is an ongoing necessity for all involved to have patience in facilitating the downsizing process – especially emotional connections between the senior and their cherished abode. Sincere validation of the senior’s concerns or hesitations, while offering solutions respectfully are key in a successful, downsizing effort. You can’t rush a lifetime of memories into a cardboard box or out the door. Downsizing – particularly with seniors, is not just a sales progression, but also a life transition; this transition perhaps involves home healthcare needs – new or existing, the family of the senior’s wishes, fiduciary involvement, tax matters, mobility issues, among others to consider. When one does not have the option of purchasing a smaller home in the same area; out of the area near a family member or other area of interest or in an active senior, senior living or assisted living community – including single family homes – modular or mobile homes may Loretta Boyer McClellan be a consideration. Additionally, living in a separate or attached unit on a family member’s or friend’s property may be viable housing options. According to a 2007 AARP poll of women aged 45+, “In considering where their parents might go if they were unable to live by themselves, respondents most often mentioned having their parents move in with them (43%) or remain at home with paid help (33%).” Only 17% had considered the possibility of their parents moving into a nursing home. My paternal grandmother lived to be 100 years old and was fortunate enough to stay in good health in her longtime home by herself up until two weeks before she passed away. Grannie had two daughters nearby to drive her to her hair appointment or to senior citizen’s to play the piano every day. Not everyone has the opportunity to stay put or live by themselves into grand old age. The good news is that there are many solutions for living situations for improved quality of life. Downsizing may be the welcome answer for you or your loved one. 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My love for Marie continues to grow every day.” The Meseths enjoy traveling together and are looking forward to a trip to Washington D.C. in the Marie moved to The Forum after spring and plan to get away for her husband passed away because some long weekends to their she was concerned about security favorite spots in Napa and Carmel. and the maintenance and upkeep “We’re both very happy,” Bernie of her home. “I didn’t want to be said. alone,” said Marie, a homemaker For another couple, it was a and the mother of five children, chance meeting in the elevator that none of whom live close by. resulted in saying “I do.” Elayne McCrea and Donald McCabe were “We were blessed with married in The Forum’s living room and given a second chance in February 2004 and then invited everyone in the community to in life to play out our celebrate with them. remaining years together.” Now, six years later the McCabes are still enjoying life “happily ever Bernie, a retired general manager after” and Elayne said, “It’s the best from General Electric whose wife thing we ever did.” also passed away, decided to move Whether it’s falling in love or to The Forum because he played finding fun and fellowship with golf with some of the residents who friends, seniors are actively pursulived there and liked the financial ing companionship as one way to arrangement and equity ownership keep socially active and live life to investment. the fullest. 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ActiveOver50 25 M O N E Y L ADY SUCKERS: There’s One Born Every Minute By Evelyn R. Preston That old Barnum quote of the title refers to suckers, the gullible public who fall for flim flams and cons designed to bilk them of their dollars. Judging by the recent devious, costly and intricate money rackets, the trend continues—mainly from investment scams. If Bernie Madoff is the zenith of bad actors dressed in benefactors’ clothing, across the U.S. many other low-lifes have squeezed a high life from other people’s money. King Bernie just tops the list of the guys who got caught! Long gone is the concept of community where a handshake sealed a deal, a person’s word was his bond, promises were kept, debts repaid. No more are investments simply structured, easily understood and mostly local. What’s an investor to do? What lessons have we learned from this rash of financial rapes? From adjustable rate mortgages for the unqualified to limited partnerships for the inexperienced, even the Citibank honcho, Sandy Weill, admitted he didn’t understand those esoteric and egregious derivatives and credit swaps on which he and his bank earned millions. As we bash and berate the bad guys, have we looked hard enough at the individual’s role in the fleecing? See yourself in any of the scenarios below? Greedy? From the dot com bust to tax shelter disallowances, seniors have lost a bundle on legal “deals” based on making a quick ActiveOver50 26 buck and shaving taxes. Are you amazed that “Nigerian banks” and “Irish sweepstakes” reap billions from credulous on-line and phone contacts, many of them elders? Even when legitimate, if it’s too good to be true… Lazy? Many investors spend more time picking out paint colors than investments. They niggle and dime a vacation or compare cruise package costs far longer than checking fees and probing the players in intricate investments. People ask few questions until they lose money—only then interest peaks! Have you calculated the real risk to any possible reward? Are you diversified, liquid, emotionally suitable? Do you know where all your money is? Busy? How often do people clear calendars to review and run retirement numbers, revisit a land deal from the ‘90s, figure out future annuity options? Do you ever spend quality time to question the person handling your finances be it broker, insurer or spouse? Uneducated? Do you speak financial? Surrender charges, yields, ROIs? Click on an on-line glossary and check out your money IQ. Can you explain all your investments in simple terms? And the professional scammers? What’s their secret? Follow the Money—Most schemers seek the “high net worth” (i.e.: seniors), investors who are often too conceited to think themselves vulnerable, too proud to ask the right questions or too quick to duck personal responsibility. Seek Affinity Groups from Religion to Occupation—Teachers recommend in the lunch lounge, church-goers prefer “one of their own.” One investment size does not fit all. Rather than expend effort to do any homework, we give our peers and colleagues the undeserved cachet of “like kind equals savvy mind.” Hunt Like a Culture Vulture— Seniors get caught carrying hangovers from a kinder, gentler time. They’re believers in the true, good and better nature of man. A grandma just sent money to her “grandson” who called in distress. A businessman helped out a “family” caught without cash. “War veteran” panhandlers pluck our patriotism and our pocketbooks. Small investments often equal big-ring scams. And please, don’t do “business” at the front door. The markets tumble, Government changes the rules, costs rise—not our fault! Expect the unexpected but don’t invite the unscrupulous. Like Warren Buffet, America’s genius financier, only invest in what you can afford, what you understand and what fits your comfort zone. Suckers will continue to succumb, but smart seniors will keep their heads—and their cash! Evelyn Preston has worked as a financial advisor for over 25 years. Her latest book, “Memoirs of the Money Lady” is available at www.money-lady. com. She can be reached at 650.494.7443. ActiveOver50 27 SE N I O R L IVING SPOTLIGHT ON Moldaw Family Residences of Palo Alto, CA By Larry W. Hayes The new Moldaw Family Residences in Palo Alto is huge with over 300,000 sq. ft. of occupied space in eight buildings housing 193 apartments: 54 one-bedroom, 116 two-bedroom, 12 three-bedroom and 11 memory support. Unlike other CCRC’s (Continuing Care Retirement Communities), the Moldaw Family Residences is “multi-generational.” A fancy word meaning a senior living community for all ages. However, this doesn’t mean that the residents actually live with children and teenagers. But they have the option to mingle and freely attend events at anytime at the adjacent Oshman Family JCC. No one from the JCC can enter the Moldaw Residences without permission. A Unique, “Multi-Generational” Community Open to All Faiths, Ethnicities and Racial Backgrounds. You Don’t Have to Be Jewish to Live Here. The campus is built around a town square layout with gathering spots and landscaping to invite people to come together outside as a community for various functions. “Because the Moldaw Family Residences is unique, unlike any other retirement community, it is like un-retirement,” said Dawn Sigmen, marketing and sales manager. “Residents have a chance to be more connected to the community, explore new opportunities than ever before and feel secure with future health care protection.” Entrance fees range from $260,000 to $1.1 million. Monthly fees begin ActiveOver50 28 at $2,225 and cover housekeeping and linen service, 24-hour security, utilities and 10 free days per year of skilled nursing, if ever needed. Valet underground parking is either covered with an additional entrance fee or an additional monthly fee amount. “We offer a flexible dining program where the residents select which meal, how many and where they would like to dine,” said Sigmen. “They can enjoy lunch or dinner in Moldaw Family Residences’ courtyard dining room or breakfast or a light lunch at the café on the Oshman Family Jewish Community Center.” “Residents are supplied with dining dollars to use each month at the different venues. If they exceed the monthly amount, any extra will be added to their monthly fee. The monthly dining dollars are sufficient to cover one evening meal per day.” Modlaw Family Residences opened in the fall of 2009 and is approximately one third occupied. Apartments range in size from 780 sq. ft (1 bedroom) to 1,600 sq. ft. (3 bedrooms) and feature top-of-the-line amenities including granite countertops and stainless steel appliances. Why live at Moldaw? “The setting of the campus is beautiful. It’s also conveniently in town, close to shopping needs, not tucked away in an out-of-the-way location,” said P.K. “The physical set-up of our residents is ideal. One is able to mix with children and teens as well as adults.” “Being local, I told myself and others that I wasn’t looking for new friends but they’ve magically materialized and I’m thrilled,” said M.E. “I’ve been surprised by the interesting, intelligent and funny people with whom I share this residence.” Assisted living services are available in your apartment plus on-site memory support and access to nearby skilled nursing, if ever needed. Besides the senior living community, the 8.5 acre Taube Koret campus includes the 145,000 sq. ft. Oshman Family Jewish Commu-nity Center (JCC). Hence, the term multi-generational. The JCC has over 7,000 members-children, teens and adults plus a preschool of 250. There is something going on all the time. JCC membership is included in the Moldaw monthly fee. Moldaw residents are encouraged to attend JCC events and use the facilities including a state-of-the art fitness center, cultural hall, outdoor and indoor pools, dance and exercise studios for all ages. For more information about the Moldaw Family Residences, call 650.433.3629. Visit www.899charleston.org. Fact Sheet • 193 apartments (182 independent living plus 11 memory care suites) • JCC membership included in monthly fee • 1, 2 & 3 bedrooms • Don’t have to move from your apartment if and when you need assisted living services • Maintenance free living/high degree of security • Skilled nursing available, your choice • Dining includes Kosher & Jewish style with separate kitchens for both as well as a campus cafe’ • Multi-generational activities • Variety of social, media, arts (including a pottery wheel and kiln), library, club rooms and hair salon • 24/7 response to any healthcare need • Cultural Art Center on campus • Outdoor courtyards ActiveOver50 29 Healthy Aging in Silicon Valley By Nicole Kohleriter The good news is we hear the phrase “healthy aging” more often, a sign that our community is coming to understand that by 2030, one out of every five residents in Santa Claraa County will be over age 65. Unfortunately, we often continue to hear “health” defined in terms of the doctor’s office, prescriptions and chronic conditions when it is so much more. Lori Andersen, Director of Healthy Aging for The Health Trust, a Silicon Valley nonprofit foundation, is working to broaden that definition and give adults 50+ in a 70 page resource guide that covers everything from how to stay active and preventing falls to exploring interests and working with your doctor, to local cl classes for physical act activity to volunteer opportunities. o “Th “This guide also inclu includes valuable reso resources available in o our community for physical ac activity classes aand volunteer o opportunities,” ssays Andersen. The idea for the Health Healthy Steps came from a similar publication used in Pennsylvania produced by Health Research for Action (HRA) out of UC Berkeley. “Healthy aging is also about getting the support you need as a giver or receiver of care and having regular social connections and staying engaged in learning, work or service.” Silicon Valley the tools they need to be healthy, active and engaged as they age. Under Andersen, the Health Trust is working to educate the community that healthy aging is about good nutrition and physical activity but it’s also about getting the support you need as a giver or receiver of care and having regular social connections and staying engaged in learning, work or service. To this end, The Health Trust recently released “The Guide to Healthy Steps in Silicon Valley,” ActiveOver50 30 Putting together a comprehensive guide tailored to the Silicon Valley community was no small feat. Andersen and HRA worked with a 26 member Advisory Group, comprised of local leaders from a diverse group of senior centers, city recreation departments, falls prevention programs and the aging services network to make sure the guide was comprehensive and useable for people of all ages and backgrounds. The guide is also available in Spanish. “One of the best aspects of Healthy Steps is that it’s not a one-size fits all kind of a book,” says Milton Cadena, Director of Eastside Senior Center, Catholic Charities. “For example, the guide suggests gardening as a physical activity, an option that might be very appealing to an adult not able to afford a gym membership.” It also includes 14 pages of exercises that can be done easily at home. The next step will be a vast community outreach effort. “We won’t be handing this out like a phone book at every door,” says Andersen. “We want organizations and neighborhoods to really share the broader message of healthy aging and to think about how they can use Healthy Steps as a tool to reach inactive older adults and inspire them to connect with resources that facilitate healthy aging.” Over the next several months, look for Healthy Steps presentations or workshops in your neighborhood where you can learn about resources and how to use the guide. Nancy Whitelaw, Director of the Center for Healthy Aging at the National Council on Aging, applauds the effort and believes it should serve as a model for other parts of the nation. “We should not continue to think about health in terms of illness that should be “treated” in the doctor’s office,“ says Whitelaw. “Healthy aging comes from the community.” To learn more about upcoming local presentations of the Healthy Steps guide or to order a copy for your organization, please contact Amy Aken at amya@ healthtrust.org. 408.879.4112. ActiveOver50 31 our home is more than an address on the street where you live. It is likely the most important investment you’ve made. 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