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Instead of encountering a superstar phidren, who are half siblings, can get to are young and haven't had children
losophy professor or symphony conducknow one another. It's only a matter of themselves. Later, when they marry and
tor, they found a man who livesin a trailer
time, though, before one of the women
become fathers, some begin to wonder
and supports himself doing odd jobs.
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And what about the donor's current
what happened to their other children.
And who wouldn't want a beautiful, tal- family? Not all donors' wives are pleased
Technologies that were not anticipated
when Kathleen LaBounty was conceived ented daughter like Kathleen LaBounty
when they find out about other children.
have helped children sneak up on donors. without having to go through the stages of Some understandably feel threatened.
An enterprising 15-year-old tracked down colic, potty training, second-grade recitals
So fur, none of the Baylor donors who
his anonymous sperm-donor dad by and driver's ed? But would donor 401 of have undergone paternity tests have
matching his DNA to that of the donor's
Virginia be equally welcoming if26 young proved to be LaBounty's biological father.
But even when connections are made, not
family on a genealogical website. The
offspring showed up at his doorstep?
The tens of thousands of men who everyone proceeds with the same speed,
boy paid $289 to familytreedna.com for
a genetic test that compared his Y chroserve as sperm donors each year may soon desire or levelof interest. One donor wrote
mosome with other Y chromosomes in a have to come to grips with those questions. on the donor-sibling website, "I flooded
Consumers' demand for more information my biological daughter with photos of me
genealogical registry. He found several
males with whom he had a biological link. as they choose donors may make trackand her cousins and grandparents. But
By using the last names ofthose men, the ing them easier. While LaBounty knows just as an example, last night, as I was
known birth date of his biological father
only the date and place of the sperm
sending off a quick e-mail to her, my wife
and county birth records, he was able to donation, women seeking sperm donors
reminded me that my son was upstairs
identity his donor ..
today receive anywhere from five to 20 vegging out on the Discovery Channel
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given a sperm-donor number
now he's helping other donors.
or any fucts about the donor,
He has created a nonprofit
other than that he had been Over-the-counter DNA tests can find biological links.
genetic-testing center where
donors and children of donors
a student at Baylor Medical
pages of information about each potential
School. Undeterred, Kathleen recently
can have their blood tested for genetic
wrote to all 600 men who attended the donor. Although donor 1049's name is not markers to see if they match. He is also
school at the time of her conception. Amaz- included in his profile, a clinic's entry on
pushing for lawsthat would allowchildren
ingly, 250 wrote back, and 40 of them had
him includes a photo showing a clean-cut, to learn the identity of their donor, even
been donors. Some of the men were as cute Californian. He sayshe's a member of ifhe had been promised anonymity. Such
eager as she was to make contact. One
the Clean Oceans Campaign and the Surf- laws already exist in Sweden, Germany,
wrote, "I've been waiting 26 years to get rider Foundation. He describes himself as the Netherlands, New Zealand and the
your letter in the mail."
"secure, sensitive, innovative, intelligent,
U.K. In early 2009 a Missouri lawmaker
introduced a bill that would allow children
That donor was not alone in his long- creative, thoughtful, ambitious, competiing for information about the child he'd
tive, respectful, comedic and optimistic." of sperm donors to learn the donor's idencreated. Kramer was shocked when the
His SAT score is 1355. His 54-year-old
tity when they reach the age of 18.
As a result of this social movement,
mother is a healthy, intelligent and advendonors themselves started joining online
conversations. More than 750 sperm
turous painter who wears reading glasses. American donors are preparing to deal
donors have registered on her website to His brother is a developer, he adds. How with paternity tests that finger them as
contact their "children." Other donors
hard would it be to track down this man?
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them to their donor children. A Califorhave hired private detectives or stolen a
Searching is not without risk. Jeffrey
Harrison, a hot catch as donor 150 in the nia doctor who created 33 donor children
peek at private medical records to find
while in medical school has rewritten his
late 1980s, was described on his donor
out about their biological offspring.
Why would a man who was paid to form as a blue-eyed, six-foot-talliover of will. If his donor children sue his estate
masturbate now want a relationship
philosophy and music. Three years ago after he dies, they will each get $1. While
it's a lot less than he received for the conwith the child? Perhaps the experience
two of his sperm-donor children, daughof being a sperm donor is not always ters born into different families, found
tents ofthat little plastic cup, it's still a lot
the lark the infertility industry assumed.
each other and began their search for him. more than he ever bargained for.
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Graham's bank, once told PLAYBOY his own children
technology
law. Solawyer
when Robert
opened the Repository for Germinal Choice, which
with his less distinguished wife had been "a very sigoffered sperm from Nobel laureates, I visited him in
nificant regression" to the mean. And even Edison,
Escondido, California. Rather than show me a sleek
Graham's hero, considered his own son a failed experiment. According to biographer Neil Baldwin, the great
laboratory or even a sperm supermarket, Graham took
inventor was so ashamed of Thomas Edison Jr. that he
me to an old well house, where-in
a space that looked
offered him money to change his last name.
like a suburban rec room-he pointed to a tank of liquid
In 1999 the Nobel Prize sperm
nitrogen. "Imagine the benefits
bank closed its doors. I wish I
to society if additional sons of
Thomas Edison could be crecould report that the closure was
based on a realization that such
ated," he told me as we stared
awkward attempts at eugenics
at the giant metal thermos.
were doomed to failure. On the
Graham, a millionaire Mensa
member who had invented shatcontrary, mainstream clinics now
offer catalogs of sperm and egg
terproof eyeglass lenses, was not
donors categorized by IQ and
alone in his quest to produce
smarter children. Back in 1940
SAT scores. One enterprising
the Pioneer Fund offered the
man began to sell his own sperm
over the Internet by claiming
equivalent of about a year's salseveral royal families and Cathoary to deserving U.S. Air Corps
lic saints as his ancestors.
pilots who already had at least
But what if a couple pays extra
three children and who agreed
to have another. The money, to
for smart sperm and E=mc2 isn't
the first thing out oftheir child's
be doled out yearly starting when
mouth? Already a couple with
the child reached the age of 12,
was to be used for the additional
three healthy children born with
child's education.
the help of a donor has sued the
How did the children of these
sperm bank. Among their alleefforts turn out? In 1999 Wall
gations: If the bank had chosen
Robert Klark Graham offered prizewinning sperm.
a different donor, their children
Street journal reporter Douglas A.
would be more attractive.
Blackmon followed up on the children who had been born
under the Air Corps program and found them to be quite
And sometimes you have to be careful what you wish
ordinary: air-conditioning repairmen, factory workers. Nor for. An unmarried man requested a surrogate mother
have the Nobel Prize sperm-bank kids broken any records.
who was a cross between Eleanor Roosevelt and Brigitte
In fact, the star of Graham's stable of sperm-bank children,
Bardot. Amazingly, the surrogacy center found someone
Doron Blake, seems just as adrift as any 20-something.
who matched that description. The deal never went forPerhaps that could have been expected. Nobel Prizes
ward, though. The woman was too headstrong to agree
-L.A.
tend to run in laboratories
(or in the University of to the terms of the contract.
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