Issue 2 2015 - Royal Neighbors of America
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Issue 2 2015 - Royal Neighbors of America
WOMEN IN LEADERSHIP Jody Farley-Berens Singles Out Single Parents with Cancer Who's at Your Dinner Table Tonight? Millennial Couple Learn Valuable Money Lessons The "4-1-1" on Cervical Cancer A Message from the President/CEO We all have our own definition of a hero. Mine is someone who goes above and beyond to make a difference in her or his own corner of the world. With that definition in mind, Royal Neighbors can unequivocally boast of thousands of heroes! Jody Farley-Berens featured on our cover is a true hero – a CNN Hero to be exact. The news program honors individuals who make extraordinary contributions to humanitarian aid and make a difference in their communities. As founder of Singleton Moms in Scottsdale, AZ, Jody gives her heart, time, and talents to help single parents who have cancer. As she and her many volunteers perform everyday tasks for families affected by this disease, they demonstrate their own special brand of heroism. Read about Jody (also a Nation of NeighborsSM recipient) and her passion for reaching out to others on pages 6 and 7. We, too, can be heroes to our families by taking care of our health. The more attention we pay to our eating and exercise habits as well as preventative care, the more likely we will be part of our loved ones’ lives for many years to come. Learn about the importance of screening for cervical cancer on page 9. When was the last time you and your family sat down at the dinner table to share a meal together? It was a very memorable part of my life growing up and I still believe it’s a tradition we should bring back or continue more frequently. I know it can be difficult with schedules that take each family member in a different direction, but it’s important to connect on a regular basis and keep up with what’s going on. Ships passing in the night rarely have much communication! You’ll get some further thoughts on the subject on page 8. I also would like to encourage you to vote in this year’s election for our board of directors. We have three impressive directors up for re-election by our adult beneficial members of the Society. Just as in city, state, and national elections, it’s important to let your voice be heard. You’ll find more election information on the back cover of this issue. Whether we’re casting a vote, taking care of our health and our families, volunteering for our favorite causes, or doing our daily jobs, we quite often discover heroes in the most unlikely places. That’s because a hero doesn’t always have to be the person making the biggest splash in the biggest pool. A hero can be the person who is making a small but very significant difference right in her or his own backyard. I hope you enjoy these summer months, and when you notice your kind of hero in your midst, stop and say “Thank you. Keep up the good work.” Home Office: 230 Sixteenth Street, Rock Island, IL 61201-8645 Contact Us: Monday – Friday: 8 a.m. – 5 p.m. Central Time Toll-free: (800) 627-4762 Local Quad Cities: (309) 788-4561 www.royalneighbors.org Cynthia A. Tidwell CONTENTS Help is Available to Members Affected by Storms in Oklahoma and Texas We are here to help members who have been affected by the storms and floods in Oklahoma and Texas. If you have difficulty making your insurance payments or need additional time to complete a reinstatement, please contact the Home Office. We will accommodate you until Aug. 3, 2015, but may extend this time based on personal circumstances. Beneficial members may also qualify for our Fraternal Aid Program that grants financial help to those who have experienced extreme financial hardship as a result of illness, accident, or natural disaster. Call (800) 627-4762 for more information. Board of Directors Patricia Gibford, Chair Estella Vallejo, Vice Chair Cynthia Tidwell, President/CEO Julie Bauer Marla Glabe Patricia Jones Financial Solutions 4 On the Cover 6 Family Life 8 Healthy Living 9 Royal Neighbors Foundation Good to Know Promise Plus 10 11 12 Millennial Couple Learn Valuable Money Lessons Jody Farley-Berens Singles Out Single Parents with Cancer Who's at Your Dinner Table? The "4-1-1" on Cervical Cancer Dr. Veronica Jordan Ruth McGregor Suzanne Riesterer Chris Seistrup, Executive Vice President @RoyalNeighbors Jodii Zimmerman, Editor-in-Chief Rita Toalson, FLMI, ACS, Managing Editor Linda Earnest, Graphic Designer VISIT US AT www.facebook.com/ RoyalNeighborsofAmerica Cover photo compliments of CNN. A fraternal benefit since 1900, The Royal Neighbor magazine exemplifies the values of our Society by providing members useful, stimulating information and a forum for connecting throughout the country. The Royal Neighbor (ISSN 0035-905X), Issue 2, June 2015, is an official publication of Royal Neighbors of America. Published quarterly. Office of publication at 230 Sixteenth Street, Rock Island, IL 61201-8645. Periodicals postage paid at Rock Island, IL, and at additional mailing offices. POSTMASTER: Send address changes to The Royal Neighbor, 230 Sixteenth Street, Rock Island, IL 61201-8645. Members: Send former and new address to Customer Support, 230 Sixteenth Street, Rock Island, IL 61201-8645. It is not intended that articles express views held by Royal Neighbors of America or its financial representatives, nor is it legal or tax advice. $ Financial Solutions Millennial Couple Learn valuable money lessons You can learn a great deal about people from their resumes. Brittany and Jamie Robbins read between the lines and gained a valuable life lesson. While in their 20s (both are now 30) the married couple discovered firsthand how many men and women were forced to work in their 60s and 70s because they did not have enough money to retire. “We both do hiring for our companies, and the amount of resumes we saw from people who were near or past retirement age was really frightening,” said Brittany. “Most of the people were smart, hardworking individuals; they simply thought they would have more time to save up. Then when the market crashed and they were laid off, they were left without a backup plan. We saw ourselves starting to go down that path. We had a little money set aside for retirement, but there was always a home appliance that needed to be replaced, or paint that needed to be updated. It was tricky to justify saving for something so far off when there were things that needed attention right away, but then we realized there will ALWAYS be something no matter how many things we check off the list.” Now Brittany and Jamie are firm believers that you should always pay yourself first when it comes to saving for the future. Jamie has a portion of his paycheck go into a 401(k) and a high-yield savings account. They also carry whole life insurance on each of their lives. Whole life, also referred to as permanent life insurance, can be a good choice for Millennials for a number of reasons: • Premium payments are less expensive when purchased at a younger age. • It provides coverage for an individual's entire life at fixed, cost-effective rates. • It will accumulate guaranteed cash value and, if needed, can be used as a loan.1 • Death benefits are guaranteed as long as premiums are paid. Whether it’s purchasing life insurance or saving for retirement, when it comes to planning for the future, the Robbins are not unique. According to an article on CNN Money, and a statement by Catherine Collinson, president of the Transamerica Center, Millennials have heard and responded that they need to start saving as much as possible and start the process sooner.2 The strategy pays off. If a 25-year-old woman saves $100 a month for 40 years with an annual return of 5%, by the time she reaches age 65 she will accumulate nearly $150,000. If she waits until she is 35 to start the same process, she will need to double the amount she puts aside to achieve the same savings result.3 Millennials are learning from the mistakes of their Generation X and Baby Boomer predecessors, but the topic of money is still a sensitive one. Although numerous discussions take place when planning a "I would rather we both have a good work/life balance than an Audi in the driveway." wedding and reception, a dialogue about real-life issues about the day-to-day reality of married life such as budgets, a savings plan, spending styles, and preparing for retirement are often avoided. Before they married, Brittany and Jamie were mostly silent on financial topics. “We didn’t really talk about money until we moved into an apartment together,” said Brittany. Even at that point, the conversations were very light. We decided how we were going to split the bills, but we only discussed saving when it came to big, fun purchases like vacations. It wasn’t until we started discussing buying a home (and what I thought was a far-off engagement) that the conversations got deeper. At that point, I think the reality of ‘adult’ bills and responsibilities set in.” What changed? “I suppose we took a note from the quote, if you fail to plan, you are planning to fail,” said Jamie. “We had seen a lot of marriages fall apart because of money issues, and we wanted to make sure we started out our lives on the best foot possible.” When asked if they thought it was more helpful to have the “money talk” before marriage, or best to just let it develop over time, both Brittany and Jamie opted with the former. “I think the ‘money talk’ is something that really needs to happen before the first official pin goes into your wedding planning board,” said Brittany. “Granted, your opinions on finances are bound to evolve, just like your marriage, but it’s nice to know the expectations. For example, I knew that I was going to have to give up my $200 salon visits (oh, how I miss them!) when we decided to buy a house and send me back to college, but Jamie also knows that I expect them to come back at some point. In the same respect, he knows that I would rather we both have a good work/life balance than an Audi in the driveway. I can’t say that we never argue about money, but having discussed those expectations early on, I’m confident we’ve avoided a lot of frustration.” Jamie points out that delaying immediate gratification in lieu of providing for a more stable and secure future pays its own dividends. “It may not have been fun to be the only couple staying behind during the college Spring Break blowouts, but the fact that we’re not working overtime to pay for our past mistakes has made it more than worth it!” Like any loan, interest will be charged. An outstanding loan will reduce the death benefit if not repaid in full or the cash value if the certificate is surrendered for cash. 2 CNN Money, website, Millennials are saving for retirement at a much earlier age, Melanie Hicken, http://money.cnn.com/2014/05/02/retirement/retirement-millennials/index.html, pdf on file. 3 ibid 1 5 Jody Farley-Berens Singles out Single Moms (and dads) with Cancer Jody Farley-Berens and a staff member What do you do when you watch your best friend battle cancer as she raises four young children as a single parent? If you are Jody Farley-Berens, a member of Chapter 20075, Mesa, AZ, and a Nation of NeighborsSM recipient, you start a non-profit organization to help single parents who have been diagnosed with cancer. Not only that, but you name the non-profit Singleton Moms in honor of your friend. Jody has recently been named a CNN Hero in honor of the work she does to help struggling families. 6 How did you start Singleton Moms? It was very eye-opening to watch my friend, Michelle Singleton, cope with cancer while taking care of her family. I knew there were single parents out there and I knew there were people with cancer. But I didn’t think about putting those two together until I saw what she was going through. I tried to help as much as possible, and six months after her death, I realized there were more people like her who needed help. That’s how Singleton Moms was born nine years ago in my kitchen. I have a very tenacious spirit which seems to be a driving force for me. I did a lot of research online with the idea of helping one person at a time. I called the American Cancer Society and oconology units and explained what I wanted to do with my friends and family. We originally started out just wanting to adopt a single mom with kids and cook their meals and pool some money together to help pay her co-pay. Within 24 hours we had four names. We narrowed it down to one and we helped her for about six months until she passed away. At that point, it was very clear to me that this was a huge need in our community. It was time to form a non-profit. Since we started Singleton Moms, we’ve helped more than 300 families with a total of over a 1,000 kids who have been impacted by the program. Who has been the biggest influence in your life? My mom has always been there for me letting me know that I can do anything I want to do. She went into nursing as a labor and delivery nurse 40 years ago and has always been hard-working and passionate about what she does. When I first talked to family and friends about starting Singleton Moms, they were skeptical. Singleton Moms mission is so unique that most people wondered if there were really enough people who needed this kind of help. There just wasn’t a lot of support in the beginning and not many cheerleaders, but my mom always was. She has just been an all-around wonderful influence on me and I appreciate her. best, it’s important to hear all the different points of view and then make the right decision. It’s not always the fastest way to do things but I feel in the end, the results are solid. Everyone who is part of that process then feels like they have some ownership in it and they know the decision was made thoughtfully from input from the group. Who do you admire as leaders? Ellen DeGeneres is fantastic because I think she is so serious about positively impacting people’s lives and doing it in a way that feels good and authentic. I have a personal motto, “Fun is not a luxury. It is a necessity.” We all need it in our lives and Ellen seems to live and lead by that philosophy. People just gravitate towards her. I think it’s great that she has chosen to use her celebrity in such a way that she is leading by example and showing people to be kind to others and have some fun while doing it. I admire her very much for her genuineness. She is who she is and doesn’t apologize for it. What is a CNN Hero? CNN chooses 20-25 people around the world each year who are doing something unique for their communities and filling a need that otherwise isn’t being met. Our story aired on CNN in April 2015 and in October, CNN executives will choose the top 10 "Heroes" who will go to New York for an awards ceremony hosted by Anderson Cooper. A CNN Hero of the Year will then be chosen and will receive $100,000 for her/his favorite charity. What did the Nation of NeighborsSM award mean to you? It was quite an honor. Any time someone finds something special in the work we’re doing, I feel so blessed. The grant was really significant because it allowed us to expand and purchase commercial freezers to keep meals for our families and purchase more daily necessities. It also allowed me the opportunity to get out in the community to spread more awareness and find more groups and organizations that wanted to help us. What are the characteristics of a good leader? Leaders have to be passionate about their mission and the goals they’re trying to achieve. It can’t be just a job because without passion, it’s hard to motivate others to help you accomplish those goals and grow a mission. Leaders know how to listen and are open to others’ opinions. When people feel heard and appreciated by their leaders, they’re usually more excited to succeed and work hard to reach the goals. Good leaders understand that nothing can be achieved by one person alone. Steve Jobs was incredible and so smart beyond his years here on earth. He was quoted as saying, “The people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world are the ones who do.” I stand behind that statement. Don’t be afraid to lead the charge for a new idea. New ideas don’t have to be complex. Many people stop themselves saying, “Oh, that would be cool to do but I’m sure it’s been done before or it’s too simple.” I think sometimes the simplest ideas are the ones that are the most overlooked but they can oftentimes be the most impactful. Really great things can happen when you take a leap of faith. The Crew What’s your leadership style? Collaboration is really important to me. Every Singleton Moms family is different and every volunteer’s time is different. The world is very diverse and in order to make decisions that serve our families Photos compliments of CNN. Go to www.cnn.com/2015/04/16/health/cnnheroes-farley-berens/index.html to learn more about Jody and the CNN Hero Program. 7 Family Life Who’s at Your Dinner Table? There was a time when almost every family gathered around the dinner table each and every night and shared a meal together. It was an expectation – the entire family was present. Today, that dinner table is shrinking or, sometimes, nonexistent. Many families still have the luxury of enjoying this age-old tradition. However, life for others is moving at the speed of sound and a meal with more than one person at a time is a rarity. The culprit? Parents often work two jobs and/or different shifts; teenagers are working and/or participating in extracurricular activities such as sports, music, and volunteer projects; young children are spending time with friends; senior members of the family frequently require special care; and the day-to-day logistics of managing a household take time and energy. The family dinner can get the family together and also keep it together. It’s easy to talk about rearranging your life to make time for at least one family meal per week, but doing it is another matter entirely. Here are some ideas that should help the family enjoy special dinners (or Sunday breakfasts for that matter). Introduce new foods. Family meals are a great opportunity to serve foods that some family members have never tried. As you experiment, a whole new world of taste might open up for everyone, especially children. Turn off the television, phones, iPads, etc. It’s difficult to carry on meaningful conversations when the nightly news is on or the kids have their head bent over a computer screen. Take advantage of the opportunity to teach. Family dinners are a great place to teach young children table manners in a relaxed atmosphere. The family dinner can get the family together and also keep it together. Hold a family meeting. Find a time that’s convenient for everyone to discuss the notion of the family dinner (it may be an entirely novel concept for some). This is the time to sort out who does what when and when the dinners can actually be scheduled. Suggest everyone takes a turn choosing the menu or dinner theme and cooking the meal. Or, cook the entire meal as a 8 family, with each one making one dish. Be sure to divide the clean-up duties equitably! Have a conversation. Talk about the day’s happenings. Plan upcoming vacations and weekend get-aways. Share funny stories and jokes. Discuss current events. Encourage everyone to participate, while at the same time, fostering the importance of active listening. Keep discipline issues at a minimum. Family dinners should be fun. Invite friends. Although these get-togethers are technically “family” meals, invite friends occasionally. Company makes dinners extra-special and it provides parents the opportunity to get to know their children’s friends, and the children the chance to interact with adults in a “grown-up” setting. The goal of the family dinner is to enjoy each other and share a good meal…on a regular basis. Revive the lost art and get to know each other again! Healthy Living Here’s the on “4-1-1” Cervical Cancer Reprinted with permission from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention The more information we have on a subject, the better able we are to discuss it, manage it, and/or act on it. It is especially important to have all the facts about matters that relate to our health. Women, and those who care about them, are encouraged to get the “4-1-1” on cervical cancer. More than 12,000 women get cervical cancer every year, but up to 93 percent of cervical cancers are preventable.1 What is Cervical Cancer? When cancer starts in the cervix, it’s called cervical cancer.2 Almost all cervical cancers are caused by human papillomavirus (HPV). HPV is so common that most women get it at some time in their lives, but because it usually has no symptoms, they may not know they have it unless they are screened. HPV often goes away on its own, but if not, there is a chance that over time, it may cause cervical cancer.3 Early on, cervical cancer may not cause signs and symptoms, but if it is advanced, it may cause bleeding or discharge from the vagina.4 Cervical Cancer Risk Factors • Smoking • Having HIV • Using birth control pills for five years or more • Having given birth to three or more children3 Screening A Pap (Papanicolaou) test, which screens for cervical cancer, is recommended for all women between the ages of 21 and 65. This looks for precancers, cell changes on the cervix that might become cervical cancer if not treated properly. This test is one of the most reliable and effective cancer screening tests available.5 For women 30 years old or older, an HPV test can be performed along with the Pap test. This looks for the virus that can cause these cell changes. Even if the tests are normal, regular check-ups are recommended.5 Treatment • Surgery: Doctors remove cancer tissue during an operation. • Chemotherapy: Using specific medicines can shrink or kill the cancer. The drugs can be pills you take or medicines given in your veins, or sometimes both. • Radiation: High-energy rays (similar to X-rays) can kill the cancer.6 Medical Team • Gynecologic oncologists are doctors who have been trained to treat cancers of a woman’s reproductive system. • Surgeons are doctors who perform operations. • Medical oncologists are doctors who treat cancer with medicine. • Radiation oncologists are doctors who treat cancer with radiation.6 Be a hero to yourself and your family by doing everything possible to stay healthy. Be sure you have a trusted medical provider with whom you feel comfortable and see on scheduled visits. Follow her/ his advice about medical tests and screenings. The content of this article is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or qualified health provider with any questions you may have. 1 http://www.cdc.gov/vitalsigns/cervical-cancer/index.html 2 http://www.cdc.gov/cancer/cervical/index.htm 3 http://www.cdc.gov/cancer/cervical/basic_info/risk_factors.htm 4 http://www.cdc.gov/cancer/cervical/basic_info/symptoms.htm 5 http://www.cdc.gov/cancer/cervical/basic_info/screening.htm 6 http://www.cdc.gov/cancer/cervical/basic_info/diagnosis_treatment.htm 9 Royal Neighbors Foundation Webinar Offers Tips About Managing Your Social Security Social Security Benefits for Women: Everything You Wanted to Know About Social Security but Didn’t Know to Ask Whether we have a million dollars or a few hundred, we still have to know how to manage it. Money, however we choose to spend it, is an important part of our daily lives. The mission of the Royal Neighbors Foundation, Building Women’s Futures Through Financial EducationSM, drives home just how crucial it is to Know Your Worth®. Sponsoring a wide variety of financial webinars that educate, inform, and inspire, the Foundation is committed to providing information women need in today’s fast-paced world. The most recent webinar is “Social Security Benefits for Women: Everything You Wanted to Know About Social Security but Didn’t Know to Ask” and features Lauren Lyons Cole, Certified Financial Planner. Watch it at www.royalneighborsfoundation.org/ss.aspx. Social Security is an important benefit, especially for women. It is never too early to start understanding Social Security benefits for both you and your loved ones. The more you learn now, the better prepared you will be in the future. In addition to the webinars posted at www.royalneighborsfoundation.org, the Foundation also Watch it at: www.royalneighborsfoundation.org/ss.aspx. provides valuable online tools, including calculators that can help determine savings, retirement, and investment objectives. These tools not only educate women, but motivate them to review and understand their situations and do what it takes to secure their financial futures. By making a tax-deductible donation to the Foundation, you and your chapter have the opportunity to have an impact on the financial success of women. It’s easy and it will make a difference. Donations can be sent to the Royal Neighbors Foundation, at 230 16th Street, Rock Island, IL 61201. Let’s continue to follow our founders’ lead by empowering women to know their worth! For more information about the Foundation, call (800) 537-1396. The material provided in the Royal Neighbors Foundation’s financial webinars and online tools are for informational purposes only and do not constitute tax or financial advice. Individuals should contact their financial professional for assistance. Thank you for the donations to the Royal Neighbors Foundation • Mar. 1, 2014 - May 22, 2015 10 Chapter 8753, Hillsboro, OR - $300 Chapter 553, Monticello, IA - $75 Chapter 1228, Rexford, KS - $50 Chapter 5146, Grasston, MN - $200 Chapter 1373, Atlantic, IA - $75 Chapter 9500, Oroville, WA - $25 In honor of the Grasston Chapter In appreciation of Mary Lou Barnett, Chapter 76, Brooklyn, WI - $150 Royal Neighbors Integrated Marketing Dept. - $60 In memory of George Schwartz Chapter 179, Watseka, IL - $100 Chapter 30, Sterling, IL - $50 Chapter 2184, Rapid City, SD - $100 In memory of Mary Estrada Chapter 20073, Lincoln, NE - $100 Chapter 1132, Kennard, NE - $50 In memory of all deceased members Chapter President Good to Know Do You Know Someone with a Dream? If you know someone who could reach a goal, realize a dream, or make a difference, submit a nomination to the 2015 Nation of NeighborsSM Program. Deadline for this significant grant program is July 31. More than $1.7 million has been awarded to help empower women since 2007. Go to www.royalneighbors.org/NofN for complete program guidelines and to submit an online nomination form. Royal Selfie Contest 1-2-0 Winner Molly Klag, of Chapter 20039, Davenport, IA, is the winner of our Royal Selfie Contest 1-2-0! In recognition of our 120th anniversary, we requested that our members’ selfies include some type of Royal Neighbors identification. Molly's selfie received the most “likes” on the Royal Neighbors Facebook page, therefore earning her $250 which will be donated to her favorite charity. Brenda Murphy, Chapter 139, Sauk City, WI, received Honorable Mention for her picture. $100 will be given to her charity of choice. Go to www.royalneighbors.org/Facebook to see all the selfies. They’re great! INSURANCE SPEAK DEFINITION: Whole Life Insurance is permanent insurance that provides a death benefit over the insured’s entire lifetime as long as the required premiums are paid. It builds cash value over time and premiums remain level throughout the insured’s life. Household HINT Put two or three new tennis balls in the dryer on low heat for 10 minutes to fluff up comforters or pillows. CYNTHIA TIDWELL SPOTLIGHTED ON LIFETIME TELEVISION® Cynthia Tidwell, President/CEO, shared her knowledge about women and life insurance with a nationwide audience during “The Balancing Act®” airing on Lifetime Television®. Watch her segment entitled “Know Your Worth: Empower Your Future” at www.royalneighbors.org/BalancingAct. QUOTE OF THE QUARTER “How important it is for us to recognize and celebrate our heroes and she-roes! ” ~Maya Angelou 6 slices chopped bacon ½ cup chopped onion 2 16-oz. cans pork and beans ½ cup brown sugar ¼ cup pancake syrup 1 tsp. Worcestershire sauce 1 tsp. mustard, optional Cook bacon and onion in non-stick pot until bacon is done. Drain pork and beans of all juices. Add beans to pot at medium heat with syrup, brown sugar, Worcestershire sauce, and mustard. Bring to a boil and reduce to low heat to simmer. Add additional brown sugar and syrup to taste. Let stand for a few minutes before serving. ~Michelle Hilliker, Chapter 20081, Blue Grass, IA 11 A PROMISE TO YOUR FAMILY Caring for your loved ones is your top priority. But that means caring for yourself, too. If you receive a cancer diagnosis, you will want to focus on your recovery and your loved ones, not how to keep your life insurance coverage in force. Promise Plus, Royal Neighbors’ patent-pending, new suite of products designed with women in mind, can help take some of that worry off your mind. And, it can serve as a promise to the important people in your life that your attention will be centered where it should be…getting well and spending time with them. Promise Plus is permanent whole life insurance and a Cancer Waiver of Premium Rider to benefit the insured in the event of a diagnosis of Stage II or greater breast, cervical, or ovarian cancer. With Promise Plus coverage, two years of life insurance premium payments are waived following a diagnosis of a covered cancer for those under the age of 60. Promise Plus is exclusively offered through Royal Neighbors and represents 120 years of protection, empowerment, and support of women and their families. Call (866) 845-6665 or visit www.royalneighbors.org/PromisePlus to learn more. Promise Plus is Essential Whole Life Insurance (Form Series 1314) + Cancer Waiver of Premium Rider (Form Series 2084). Certificates and riders are not available in all states. Contractual provisions and limitations may vary by state. Subject to reinsurance and underwriting requirements. RNA 0615A