Senior Life

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Senior Life

A Word
from the
Founder
“Spring In
To Spring
2016”
Senior Life
Enrichment
“What
Happens to
My IRA After
I’m Gone”
Page 5
April 2016
CONTRIBUTORS
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Caregiver
Support With
a Twist
Spring In To Spring 2016
By Mallie Sharafat
Mindy Strich
Healing Hearts
Dara McMillan,
LMSW
Mike Martin
Edward Jones
Investments
Tim Schnabel, MEd
S
pring is upon us, and with it
promises of new beginnings. Flowers
are blooming; trees are coming alive
again with
new growth;
and our days
are longer,
ripe for new
possibilities.
With the more
hospitable
weather, it’s
time to create
new memories,
get outside
and enjoy
activities with
your entire
family.
Spring-time activities are plentiful.
Here are just a few ideas:
• Add to your garden or start a
new one.
There are
innumerable
options for
outings in the
spring with
art, culture,
music and
more. Here are
just a few in
neighborhoods
near you:
Alabama
• Magic
City Art
Connection (April 22); Birmingham
• Gardendale Magnolia Festival
(April 22); Gardendale
• Earth Day (April 23); Fairhope
• Gumbo Gala (April 23);
Birmingham
• Have your café au lait al fresco;
find a new cafe or coffee shop.
• Alabama Book Festival (April 23);
Montgomery
• Visit a local farmer’s market for
in-season delicacies.
• Blues Spring Fling (April 28-May
8); Mobile
• Find a field and fly a kite.
• Panoply Arts Festival (April 29May 1); Huntsville
• Take a walk and sing in the rain.
Puddles are for jumping in!
• Forget the heavy clubs and go to
a mini-golf course.
• Get your dog or if you don’t have
one, your neighbor’s dog for a
fun game of fetch.
Mihaela Grigore
TZMOUSA
By Dara McMillan, LMSW
• Pack a picnic and hit your local
parks.
• Turn your craft project inside out;
make something for the outoors a birdhouse perhaps.
John Butler, Family
Private Care, LLC
Fairs, festivals and fun
• Do something all-American. Go
watch a local baseball game and
then grill out at home.
• Go tandem biking.
• Get a blanket and take a nap in
the sun and find shapes in the
clouds. Or pitch a tent at night
and turn your background into a
family campground.
• Auburn CityFest (April 30); Auburn
• Gulf Coast Hot Air Balloon Festival
(May 6); Foley
• Moulton Strawberry Festival (May
6); Moulton
• Arts Alive Fine Arts and Crafts
Festival (May 21); Florence
Arizona
• Downtown Chandler Art Walk
(April 15); Chandler
• Phoenix Arts and Crafts Festival
(April 15)
• Chandler Spring Concert Series
(April 16); Chandler
• Scottsdale Culinary Festival (April
16-17); Scottsdale
Cont’d. on page 4
M
emory. We rely on
it each day to help
us with everything from
making breakfast and getting
dressed in the morning to
driving to familiar places,
such as the grocery store.
But for those who are
experiencing any memory
impairment, navigating
daily tasks can often feel
like a struggle to complete.
For those living with the
degenerative brain disease
Alzheimer’s disease or
another type of dementia, it
can be frightening to exist in
a world where your abilities
are changing without your
control. If you think you’ve
seen one person living with
memory impairment and
that “one size fits all,” think
again.
The symptoms
of dementia and/or
Alzheimer’s disease vary
from one person to the next
but are characterized by a
decline in memory, language
skills, problem-solving
abilities and other cognitive
skills that impair a person’s
ability to perform everyday
tasks, also known as ADLs or
activities of daily living.
If you’re the primary
caregiver for a loved one
with memory impairment, it
may feel overwhelming and
all-consuming. While it is
important for caregivers to
not feel alone and isolated,
it may be difficult to feel
comfortable taking your
loved one out in a public
place where his or her
actions and behavior will be
accepted or understood. The
good news is now there is a
safe place where caregivers
Cont’d. on page 3
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What Makes Us Successful
By Mary Kay Dalby
H
ave you ever wondered
how successful people
attained their success? We are
prone to attributing success to
superior intelligence, talent or
ambition. Malcolm Gladwell
made a study
of success and
published some of
his findings in a
book called Outliers.
Nothing escaped his
examination resulting
in a most illuminating
study of the factors
that contribute to the
outside forces which
produce a winner.
I came by this
publication via my
next door neighbor’s
son. Apparently our
school system has
marked this book as
a “must read” for a
very good reason.
Not only is this book
a best seller but it examines
the tendencies that contribute
to winning in a chosen field or
quest for life.
Gladwell begins his
publication with the story of
an astonishing community
of Italians who came to
Pennsylvania. The people of this
village were dying of nothing
more than old age – no heart
disease or cancer. The village
that these people established
known as Roseto thrived and
only a community they were
true neighbors. They visited one
another, cooked for those who
were sick and served as extended
families. My experience with this
concept helps me to understand
caused many people to wonder
about their secret to life. The
“outlier” to this village’s success
was examined from a medical
prospective, their diet and
numerous other factors but the
final conclusion will astonish
you. These people were not
the power of community caring.
After my hospitalization two
years ago my neighbors mowed
my yard and trimmed the
hedges for one year. I was told
not to concern myself that those
chores – were covered. I still
hold the “warm glow” generated
from their caring.
Moving from community
caring to hockey focuses
our attention to yet another
outlier contributing to success.
Gladwell’s examination of
outstanding hockey players
found that men born in
January, February, March
and April were more
successful than others. This
statistic is not based on
astrology it centers on the
nature of the game. Look
at the season for hockey. In
order to qualify for a team
age is a factor and with
that age comes a degree of
maturity. The outlier here is
contingent upon maturity.
This does not automatically
make you a superstar but
it boosts your likelihood of
success. He notes later in
his book that practice adds
to that avenue of success
and he notes that 10,000
hours of practice is required
to achieve a level of mastery.
Upon special examination he
discovered that Mozart did
not hit his stride until he had
at least spent 10,000 hours in
Cont’d. on page 5
Common Men’s Health Issues
By Mihaela Grigore
E
very eighth man suffers
from urinary incontinence
problems. Most of them are
men with benign prostatic
obstruction – enlarged prostate
gland. At first glance it looks
like a paradox. How prostate
gland enlargement which blocks
urethra can lead to incontinence?
Prostate, prostate gland.
This organ, known under
different names, if working
properly, ensures male fertility.
As long as it functions properly
it is practically unnoticeable.
Problems appear when the
prostate begins to grow. There
are two main reasons of it. The
first one is a natural process of
body aging. Enlargement, being
its consequence, may occur in
men over 50 years of age – those
who went through male version
of menopause, i.e. andropause.
The second common reason is
cancer. It primarily affects the
elderly but it can also happen to
younger men. Prostate cancer is
one of the most common cancers
in men.
Prostate enlargement is
often asymptomatic. A clear
symptom of problems with
prostate is difficulty when
passing urine. It happens when
the enlarged prostate (located
under the bladder) pinches the
urethra, blocking the outflow
of urine. Despite strong feeling
of pressure, a man cannot pass
urine which being collected in
the bladder causes discomfort. A
healthy person with the bladder
of an average volume of about
2 cups feels an urge just after
filling it with urine in one third
of its volume. For a man with
prostate gland enlargement it is a
volume at which urine cannot be
excreted from the body.
When urethra is pressed
by enlarged prostate, urine
stream is not strong, sometimes
interrupted. With further
prostate enlargement urine
passing becomes possible only
after the bladder fills almost
completely. Arises pressure,
thanks to which the channel of
urethra becomes wider and the
urine is passed out mostly in
interrupted stream. When the
amount of urine in the bladder
diminishes, pressure decreases,
urethra closes and the rest of
urine lingers in the bladder.
Between visits to the toilet
there can appear uncontrolled
leaks in small amounts – these
can be singular drops of urine
leaking regularly. This ailment
is called overflow incontinence.
The paradox is that despite the
existence of blocked urethra
there are uncontrolled urine
leaks. Permanent collection
of urine in body may lead to
stretching of bladder walls and
extending its volume. In such
a situation there is more and
more urine lingering in the body
which favours infections that
increase the feeling of urge.
Urinary incontinence in men
does not have to mean prostate
enlargement. If it happens
after treatments or surgeries
involuntary leakage of urine has
Cont’d. on page 7
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Why It’s Important for Caregivers to Take Breaks
By John Butler, Family Private Care, LLC
I
t can be difficult to know
when to clock out of your
caregiving job. In a way, it can
feel like parenting. You always
have your loved one on your
mind, even when you’re not
with them. They may be at home
or participating in Bingo night
at the senior center, and there
you are, scheduling doctor’s
appointments, planning healthy
meals and organizing their
medication. So where do you
draw the line?
Each caregiving situation is
unique, so it’s difficult to say
when it’s time to take a break.
Only you know how much you
can handle and how much help
you have. What’s important to
realize is that every caregiver
needs a break sometimes.
Let’s discuss some of
the reasons why breaks are
beneficial for your mental and
physical well-being.
Recharge Your Mind, Body and
Spirit
Caregiving is physically
and mentally demanding. You
need to step away from these
demands and give yourself time
are understandable. This is your
parent, and who better to take
care of them than you. You may
also feel guilty about leaving
them with someone else. You’ve
taken the time to learn what they
like and dislike, so why bring
someone new in?
to recharge. If you don’t, you’re
going to pile stress on top of
stress, and you can crumble.
Find an outlet that allows you
to de-stress such as yoga, feng
shui or meditation. Not only
will these activities restore your
spirit, but also they will allow
you to return to caregiving fully
charged.
Strike a Balance
Caregiving is not your entire
life. If it feels like it is, then
you’re doing too much. As much
as you love your parent, you
can’t center your life around
them 24/7. You need to take time
for yourself, your friends and
other family members. Taking
breaks teaches you how to
balance things in your life more
efficiently. It also reminds you
of who you are as a person. You
don’t want to lose yourself in
caregiving.
Learn to Trust Others
It’s very important as a
caregiver that you learn to trust
others. You need to allow people
into your caregiving life, and
that starts by taking breaks. Just
one four-hour break per week
provided by a trusted, licensed
home care company can do
wonders for recharging your
mind, body, and spirit! As you
start to see that your loved one
will be fine with others in your
absence, you will learn to let go a
little more.
You have an important job at
stake. Make sure that you take
care of yourself so that you can
be the best caregiver you can be.
John Butler is the Director of Client
Services at Family Private Care, LLC.
24 X 7 Office number is 404-252-9005
[email protected]
www.FamilyPrivateCareLLC.com
Many caregivers find it hard
to trust others. These feelings
Caregiver Support With a Twist
By Dara McMillan, LMSW
Con’t.d from page 1
can feel the most comfortable.
Have you heard about the first
free-standing Memory Care Café
in the United States? It’s called
“Amy’s Place” and is located in
Roswell, GA. (www.amysplace.
net). As a social worker, I work
with family caregivers who
dedicate their time and energy
to their loved one. I hear the
stories of exhaustion, isolation,
anger and frustration, as family
caregivers navigate a life with
a brain disease that has no
compass. So, I am excited to
share details on this new, free
resource. Those who would
benefit the most from attending
this café concept are often the
most difficult to reach so please
share this information with
those who would benefit from
participating.
What is a Memory Café? It’s
new concept for Georgia but
there are currently over 200
café’s throughout the United
States that are mobile and meet
at various locations, such as
coffee houses.
A Memory Café is a
social gathering place where
individuals with memory
impairment and their care
companions can come
together in a safe, supportive
environment. Amy’s Place,
as a Memory Café, offers
programming intended to honor
the whole person living with
dementia and provides a space
where caregivers can come with
their loved one and meet others
living a similar life experience.
Amy’s Place was a vision
of the founders of Caring
Together in Hope, a nonprofit
organization that provides
financial support for respite
care to allow family caregivers
who are in need of some time
away from the caregiving role to
receive that relief. The founders
of CTH were family caregivers
themselves and understand firsthand the emotional and physical
toll the caregiving role can have
without the right support in
place.
Amy’s Place exists to help
reduce the isolation of being
a caregiver and increase the
opportunity for caregivers to
receive meaningful support, as
well as offering them a sense of
normalcy when they may feel
like no one else understands
their daily life.
Amy’s Place asks that you
bring your loved one with
memory impairment and leave
the disease at the door, as this is
a time to relax and enjoy your
time with others in a shared
experience.
Guests of Amy’s Place can
stop by any time it fits their
schedule and share conversation
over a cup of coffee or tea,
participate in an activity that
may include music or art, or
even play a game of cards.
This is a space for everyone!
The best way to de-stigmatize
this brain disease is to be present
in the community and talk about
the needs that family caregiver’s
experience.
For questions about the Memory Café,
please contact Pam Van Ahn with
Caring Together in Hope at 470-349-8349
(www.CaringTogetherinHope.org).
Dara McMillan, LMSW, is a licensed
social worker and manager with Prosper
Home Care. She can be reached at dara@
prospercare.com or (404) 623-8000.
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Spring In To Spring!
By Mallie Sharafat
cont’d. from page 1
• Art For Sedona’s Sake
(April 23-24); Sedona
• Lemonade Days Festival
(April 13-17); Dunwoody
• Annual Tucson Folk
Festival (April 30); Tucson
• Alpharetta Art in the Park
(April 16); Alpharetta
• Prescott Art and Wine
Festival (May 7); Prescott
• Bear on the Square
Mountain Festival (April
16-17); Dahlonega
• West Sedona Spring Art
and Craft Show (May 7);
West Sedona
• Art for Sedona’s Sake
(May 7-8); Sedona
• Maricopa Spring Saturday
Market (May 14);
Maricopa
• Downtown Chandler Art
Walk (May 20); Chandler
• Flagstaff Art and Craft
Show (May 28); Flagstaff
Georgia
• Blairsville Kiwanis Fair
(April 12-17); Blairsville
• Vidalia Onion Festival
(April 21-24); Vidalia
• Annual Rose Show &
Festival (April 21-23);
Thomasville
• Sacred Heart Garden
Festival (April 22-24);
Augusta
• Blue Ridge Spring Fest
(April 23-24); Blue Ridge
• Taste of Marietta (April
24); Marietta
• Spring Arts Festival (April
30); McDonough
• Inman Park Spring
Festival (April 30-May 1);
Atlanta
• Earth Day Festival (April
23); North Charleston
• River Street Seafood Fest
(May 6-7); Savannah
• North Charleston Arts
Festival (April 29); North
Charleston
• Georgia Apple Blossom
Festival (May 7-8); Ellijay
• Spartanburg Spring Fling
(May 6); Spartanburg
• Chastain Park Spring Arts
& Crafts Festival (May
7-8); Atlanta
• A Taste of Beaufort (May
6-7); Beaufort
• Decatur Arts Festival
(May 28-29); Decatur
South Carolina
• Columbia International
Festival (April 16);
Columbia
• Pee Dee Plant and Flower
Festival (April 21);
Florence
• ArtsField 2016 (April 22);
Lake City
• Artisphere (May 13);
Greenville
• Walhalla Mayfest (May
13); Walhalla
• Blue Crab Festival (May
14); Little River
• Greenville Beads and
Jewelry Show (May 14);
Greenville
• Red Rose Festival (May
21); Lancaster
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What Happens to My IRA After I’m Gone?
By Mike Martin, CFP
Edward Jones Investments
C
ontributing to an IRA can
help you build some of the
resources you will need to enjoy
a comfortable retirement. But
what happens to your IRA if you
don’t use it up in your lifetime?
You can still put the IRA’s
assets to good use — as long as
you’ve made the right moves
and communicated your wishes
clearly to your family.
When you opened your
IRA, you should have named
a beneficiary — someone who
will receive the IRA assets when
you pass away. You could also
name a contingent beneficiary
if the first beneficiary dies
before you. These beneficiary
designations are important
because they can supersede the
instructions left in your will
If you name your spouse as
beneficiary of your IRA, he or
she has options unavailable to
other beneficiaries. Here are two
possibilities:
• Roll over assets into a
new or an existing IRA — Your
surviving spouse can roll over
your IRA’s assets into his or her
IRA or use the money to create a
new IRA.
And, as long as your spouse
is eligible, he or she can then
add new contributions to the
IRA. This could be a good
choice if your spouse won’t
need the money right away
and would like to keep it in
a tax-advantaged account
for as long as possible. Upon
reaching age 70½, though, your
spouse will likely need to start
taking withdrawals (“required
minimum distributions”), unless
the inherited IRA was a Roth
IRA.
• Convert the assets to a
Roth IRA— If you are leaving
a traditional IRA to your
spouse, he or she could roll
over the assets into a new
or an existing IRA and then
convert the assets into a Roth
IRA. This move gives your
spouse at least two potential
advantages. First, if certain
requirements are met, no taxes
are due on the withdrawals.
Second, as mentioned above, no
withdrawals are even required
— your spouse can leave the
money intact for as long as
desired. However, taxes will be
due on the amount converted to
a Roth, so this conversion may
only make sense if your spouse
has enough assets available in a
nonretirement account to pay the
tax bill.
Cont’d. on page 7
What Makes Us Successful
By Mary Kay Dalby
Cont’d. from page 2
practice. Notable’s adherent to
this rule claim Bobby Fisher, The
Beatles and Bill Gates to name
a few. You will be amazed at
their stories and how practice
molded their achievement into
recognized success.
We mentioned intelligence
at the outset of this article and
Gladwell does an excellent job of
exploring the world of genesis.
He noted that many of the
designated geneses are limited
by their lack of skills to possess
the things that they want in life.
Two individuals were discussed
within this book – Chris Langan
and Robert Oppenheimer. Both
individuals were remarkable in
their mental skills but Langan
was limited in that he did not
have the savvy to obtain what
he wanted in life. He was
very poor and was constrained
first when his mother failed
to sign a financial aid form for
his education rendering his
scholarship null and void. He
persevered over this hurdle
only to have his vehicle break
down. He requested that his
college courses be changed
from early morning till later
in the day which would allow
him to secure a ride. When the
professors reviewed his record
they denied his request and he
elected to leave school to work
full time. His scholastic record
was not impressive because
he had become bored with the
subjects and the way they were
being taught. He was a genesis
but lacked the skills to obtain
what he wanted. On the other
hand, Robert Oppenheimer was
a genesis who became bored
with his tutor and the methods
being used to teach experimental
physics. After numerous tries
to change the style of teaching
Oppenheimer attempted to
kill his tutor. He possessed
the skill to talk himself out of
the murder wrap and into a
key position on the Manhattan
Project. The way that a genesis
approaches his life experiences
can make all the difference. This
is sometimes called entitlement.
The examination of outliers (the
ability to be different, outside
of the normal experience)
highlights a common sense
approach to the story of success.
Because of the importance of
this book, the messages that it
imparts we need more space
to explore the wisdom shared
herein. I will endeavor to
expand upon other aspects of
Outliers in the next segment
of my report. In the meantime
I hope that you will take the
time to read this fascinating
book. I was both fascinated and
surprised by the information
shared within its covers.
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A Family’s Secrets
By Tim Schnabel, MEd
F
amily secrets are always
destructive. The residual
costs to both the individual
holding the secret and family
members are painful, shamebased and, some times,
everlasting. I know this well
not only because I am a
licensed psychotherapist, but
also because my parents took
profound secrets regarding my
father to their graves… Secrets
that I later uncovered. My
discovery was traumatic for my
sisters, other family and friends,
and especially for myself.
What are the facts
surrounding my father? He
was a first-generation GermanAmerican named after his own
father, Arthur Henry Schnabel.
His first language was German,
learning English only when he
started first grade. He was 22
years old when his psychotic
and alcoholic father committed
suicide. Shortly after turning 23,
he married and a year later had
a son who was named, simply,
Arthur Henry Schnabel.
Three years later my father
deserted them both and
shortly thereafter he joined
the U.S. Army – not once, but
twice. He listed his marital
status as “single” both times.
He spent most of his service
time deployed in Honolulu
pre-WWII. In other words:
idyllic. Back in New York City
as a civilian, he was lost and
apparently desperate. On May
13, 1938, my father was indicted
for armed robbery, pleaded
guilty and served 4.5 years of
a maximum six-year sentence.
With the exception of his time
in the army and that his first
language was German, the rest
constituted the secret.
While on parole, my father
worked at Bellevue Psychiatric
Hospital in NYC as an orderly.
There he met a cute psychiatric
nurse 17 years his junior and
they fell in love. When they
decided to marry, my father’s
future bride asked the help
of her influential father back
in Beverly, MA. My mother’s
father, James Delaney, was the
first American prisoner of WWI
and a POW for 15 months in
Brandenburg, Germany. There
his harsh life was repeatedly
threatened for accusing his
captors of withholding Red
Cross packages meant for the
prisoners. James Delaney was
later awarded the Navy Cross
and was selected as one of the
pallbearers of the first Unknown
Soldier in 1921.
What I believe happened was
that my grandfather drove to
New York City, met his future
son-in-law, and that part or all of
the entire secret was revealed to
him. My favorite aunt said she
remembered her father-in-law
Delaney visiting with them in Ft.
Lee, NJ, right after he had met
his future son-in-law in NYC.
The plan was for my parents to
marry and work in New York
until such time as they began a
family. Then, they would move
to Beverly to begin a new life.
As my grandfather was a labor
inspector and beloved war hero
in Massachusetts, my father
would be assured a job. In fact,
a job was later secured for him
at General Electric, where he
worked until his death 21 years
later.
When my mother became
pregnant with me a month
after they were married, she
apparently returned alone to
Beverly to live with her parents.
The story told to my sisters and
me was that my father stayed
in NYC to work, earn money
and save. He arrived in Beverly
shortly before my birth. I never
questioned the story until I
discovered the secret.
After both my parents were
deceased, I pretty much begged
an older cousin to say what she
knew and she finally disclosed
she thought my father had been
involved with the law. I obtained
records from both the New York
City Police Department and
the Department of Correctional
Services in Albany, NY. In the
matrix of secrets, one really
jumped out at me… I had a
brother who was 18 years older
than me! His name? Same as our
father and grandfather, Arthur
Henry Schnabel!
In 1991 with the
encouragement of my wife,
Nancy, I found my half-brother
living on Long Island. In the
course of 25 years, we saw
each other a half-dozen times.
It wasn’t until after both Artie
and his wife died last summer
that I decided to meet my
father’s grandchildren and
some of their family. A catalyst
for doing so was my great
nephew, Rob, a New York City
policeman with a big heart. He
did extensive research on the
Schnabels through Ancestry.
com. For over a year Rob and I
talked and exchanged emails.
This past December I spent three
days on Long Island meeting
the two oldest of my father’s
grandchildren and their families.
I found them wonderful people
and the visit most healing
But let’s look at some of the
emotional and social costs of
my parents’ secret. As a kid
and teenager trying to fill in
the blank places in my father’s
life, I was met with stories that
didn’t make sense. My father
never obtained a Massachusetts
driver’s license not because of
some made-up story but because
when he finally left New York
City to be with his expectant
wife, he was breaking his parole.
Obtaining a driver’s license
would have increased the risk of
his being found and arrested.
What was it like living with
a father whose early life was rift
with mistakes, deep shame and
a mystery? He did not have a
lot of friends. His one friend Les
never knew the secret. Friends
who came to our house to visit
were my mother’s friends. My
father had a short fuse. While
I was both spanked and hit, I
knew he loved me. A man filled
with shame cannot love himself
and so I knew back then as well
as now, he loved me as best he
could.
My sisters were angry with
me for uncovering our father’s
past. One has not forgiven me.
My father’s only brother, whom
I adored, became enraged with
me, saying, “Your father’s life
before he met your mother
was none of your business.”
Because I disagreed, he closed
the door on our relationship.
My half-brother, thrilled I found
him, died with the unresolved
pain that our father left him
and stayed with me. But our
father was never really with
me because secrets require the
creation of intricate lies that
necessitate being walled Because
you don’t want to slip!
As my sisters and I were
well into our adolescence and
the pace of the house picked
up, I noticed my dad becoming
more depressed. He smoked
heavily and drank more beer
on the weekends. Sometimes
when I looked at him he seemed
far away. And when he began
behaving erratically, sleeping
more and not making sense,
my mother and I took him
to a psychiatrist. Yes, he was
depressed, and after being
admitted to the hospital there
Cont’d. on page 16
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What Happens to My IRA After I’m Gone?
By Mike Martin, CFP, Edward Jones Investments
Cont’d. from page 5
Thus far, we’ve just talked
about your spouse as the
beneficiary. But what might
happen if you’ve named
someone else— perhaps a
child or grandchild — as
the primary beneficiary of
your IRA? In this case, the
beneficiary won’t have the
option of rolling over the IRA.
Instead, he or she can either
take the money as a lump
sum or take distributions over
time.
your death.
If you pass away before
age 70½, and you hadn’t
started taking the required
minimum distributions, your
beneficiary must start taking
withdrawals by Dec. 31 in
the year following the year in
which you pass away.
Mike Martin, CFP®
Edward Jones Investments
100 N Peachtree Parkway, Suite 15
Peachtree City, GA 30269
678-364-1204
These withdrawals
can be stretched out over
your beneficiary’s lifetime,
When dealing with
any aspect of your estate
plans, including naming
beneficiaries for your IRA,
you’ll want to consult
with your tax and legal
professionals. You put a lot of
time and effort into building
the assets in your IRA — so
you’ll also want to take care
in how you pass these assets
along.
This article was written by Edward
Jones for use by your local Edward
Jones Financial Advisor.
though, spreading out the tax
obligations. As an alternative,
your beneficiary can delay
Common Men’s Health Issues
By Mihaela Grigore
different character. The weaker
the sphincter or the nervous
system, the more abundant may
be urine leaks.
Underwear and clothes
soaking is embarrassing
especially for active and
professionally engaged men.
They try to look for different
solutions, for instance they try
widely known briefs which are
not particularly discreet and in
terms of absorption capacity
exceed the needs of men with
light and moderate urinary
incontinence. Another way of
dealing with the problem is
trying to cope with the problem
using female methods. Men
tend to choose pads or sanitary
napkins which are designed
to absorb different types of
secretion and do not meet the
needs of incontinent people.
Meanwhile, for a few years
on the market there have been
available Seni Man bladder
control guards, made especially

for men and adjusted to male
anatomy. The location of urethra
in men is different than in
women that is why absorbent
products for men have special
construction. They create a
kind of pocket in which penis
should be placed (Seni Man
Fit), or have the shape of boxing
protector fixed to the front of the
underwear (Seni Man Active).
These products are as discreet as
products for female hygiene and
provide at the same time better,
since adjusted to male needs,
protection against underwear
and clothes soaking.
To prevent prostate
enlargement or detect cancer
at early stage, preventive
examinations – per rectal (Lat.
per rectum) are being carried
out. Although a lot of men
have concerns before these
examinations, they can prevent
the occurrence of unpleasant
symptoms in the future. In men
with already enlarged prostate
surgical cutting of enlarged part
can be carried out; however,
not all men qualify for such a
treatment. Regardless of the
nature of the problem, the
solution is the use of absorbent
products.
taking distributions, but he or
she would need to withdraw all
the money within five years of
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How to Talk to Someone With Alzheimer’s Disease
By Samantha Costa
from seniorjournal.com
W
hen John Ellsworth
was diagnosed with
Alzheimer’s disease in 2013,
he could already recognize his
words just weren’t coming out
right. The former marketing and
design professional and avid
gardener struggled to identify
flowers and plants, and later
the names of close friends.
But it wasn’t until his wife,
Karlene, had to begin finishing
his sentences that John felt the
gravity of the disease take hold.
The couple, who live in,
Gwynedd, Pennsylvania, were
aware that John’s ability to
communicate would become a
challenge as his brain changed.
“It goes with the nature of
the disease,” explains Ruth
changes over time. Those
changes become more and more
profound, impacting various
aspects of communication,
especially language.”
Drew, director of family and
information services for the
Alzheimer’s Association in
Chicago. “Alzheimer’s is a
disease that attacks the brain,
and it starts with very minor
A person’s ability to say
what he or she wants – and
decode what others are saying
– becomes increasingly difficult
as Alzheimer’s progresses.
That’s challenging for caregivers
like Karlene, 68, who doesn’t
struggle to find the right words
herself but must now find a way
to adjust and accommodate John,
75. “The good news is there
are good ways to communicate
throughout the course of the
disease,” Drew says. Consider,
Cont’d. on page 5
Senior Citizens Gain Health Benefits from Cha, Cha, Cha
A
four-month dance program
helped older Latino adults
walk faster and improved
their physical fitness, which
may reduce their risk for heart
disease, according to research
presented at the American Heart
Association’s Epidemiology/
Lifestyle 2016 Scientific Sessions.
Researchers at the University
of Illinois at Chicago tested
whether a community-based
intervention focused on Latin
dancing could benefit 54
Spanish-speaking adults (about
65 years old, 80 percent Mexican
female) who were not very
physically active.
Participants were randomly
assigned to either participate in
a dance program twice a week
for four months or to attend
a health education program.
All participants completed
questionnaires about their
leisure time physical activity and
a 400-meter walk test at the start
and end of the study.
After four months of
twice-weekly Latin dancing,
researchers found:
• Dancers walked faster
and were more physically
active during their leisure
time than before they
started dancing.
• Dancers completed a
400-meter walk in just
under 392 seconds
mobility and reduce stress.
Scaling up such a culturallyattuned, and what appears to
be a fun intervention could
have significant public health
effects, said Priscilla Vásquez,
M.P.H., lead study author at the
University of Illinois at Chicago.
compared with almost 430
seconds at the start of the
study.
• Leisure physical activity
rose from 650 minutes
to nearly a total of 818
minutes per week.
Those in the health
education classes had a smaller
improvements in their fitness
– they finished the 400-meter
walk in about 409 seconds at
the end of the study compared
with 419 seconds four months
earlier; total time spent on
weekly leisure physical activity
increased from 522 minutes to
628 minutes over the course of
the study.
The dance program is a
program called BAILAMOS©, a
culturally-tailored, communitybased lifestyle intervention
developed at the University of
Illinois at Chicago by David X.
Marquez and Miguel Mendez,
included four different dance
styles -- merengue, bachata,
cha cha cha and salsa – led by
the dance instructor, with more
complex choreography as the
program progressed.
Increasing physical activity
is one of the key 2020 Impact
Goals of the American Heart
Association, which calls for all
adults to get a minimum of 150
minutes of moderate physical
activity or at least 75 minutes
of vigorous physical activity
(or a combination of both) each
week. Regular physical activity
has been shown to reduce the
risk of heart disease, stroke, type
2 diabetes and complications
associated with advancing age
as well as improve balance,
‘There are many barriers
older Latino adults face, and
they are busy with caregiving
and other responsibilities, so
often physical activity takes a
back seat and many times the
opportunities are unavailable,”
Vásquez said. “This program
engaged them on many levels,
physically, culturally and
emotionally. Anecdotally, I’ve
heard participants say attending
dance class is their stress relief.
They also interact with others
and build community. This
impacts their physical as well as
emotional health and wellbeing.”
Dancing could have wider
health implications, too.
Vásquez said the research team
is interested in testing whether
BAILAMOS© can help older
Latinos already experiencing
mild cognitive impairment. “We
are interested in using magnetic
resonance imaging to see if
dancing positively affects their
brains,” she said.
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5 Ways to Help Protect Retirement
Income during Market Volatility
By Fred Johnson, Investment Advisor, Basic Weath Advisors Inc.
S
ometimes choices
involving finances and
retirement can be difficult.
Those choices may become
even more difficult during
uncertain economic times
when the market experiences
volatility. Here, we’re going
to address ways to help
protect retirement income
during market uncertainty
with information and
answers to commonly
asked questions. Although
maintaining financial
confidence may not be
easy—it is possible.
It seems as though
everywhere you look, there’s
a new reason to be concerned
about your hard-earned
savings—including your
retirement income. Turn on
the television or radio, read
a newspaper or simply have
lunch with friends—and
the conversation can turn
to uncertainty in the stock
market. Many Americans
may be feeling confused and
uncertain about the economy,
thinking there’s nothing
they can do about their
retirement income. They’re
also concerned they may end
up working longer—and
their retirement goals may
be delayed. The good news
is there are ways to protect
retirement income from
market volatility through
risk-tolerant insurance
options, to name just one.
The following are five
ways to help protect your
retirement income from
market volatility:
1. Understand the
Difference between Volatility
and Risk
You’ve heard what goes
up must come down, but
when you’re talking about
the stock market and how it
can impact your retirement
income savings, ups and
downs can be somewhat
unsettling.
To learn how insurance
products can weather market
put all of your eggs in one
basket. On any given day,
the stock market may be up
or down. Asset allocation
is a good way to diversify
a portfolio to help reduce
overall risk.
4. Look for Windows of
Opportunity
fluctuations, it’s important
to first understand the
differences between volatility
and risk.
• Volatility is defined as
the rate or pace at which
a price moves up and
down. If a bond or stock
price fluctuates at a
rapid pace over a short
time period, it has high
volatility. If the price
rarely changes, it has
low volatility.
• Market Risk is the
risk of the value of a
product decreasing due
to movement in market
factors.
Confusion between risk and
volatility can cause individuals
to be more financially cautious
than necessary. Throughout
one’s lifetime, insurance
products can be up or down
depending on a number of
factors. The good news is
insurance products, by nature,
are generally long-term, and
can usually stand the test of
time.
As we age, it’s important to
feel comfortable with the state
of your retirement income so
you can retire comfortably at
the age you choose. People in
their 30s and 40s are probably
more comfortable taking
additional risk with their
retirement strategies than
people in their 50s and 60s,
simply because of their age.
Consider your retirementtime horizon and risk
tolerance when evaluating
any long-term insurance
products.
2. Focus on the Bigger
Picture
It’s normal to be
concerned whenever you see
fluctuations in the market,
but it’s important to put your
concerns in perspective.
At age 55+, it’s important
to ensure your portfolio
is managed appropriately
for your retirement income
goals. Review your portfolio
quarterly, or more frequently,
as market conditions
fluctuate, and meet with
an insurance professional
annually to help make
certain you’re on track for
retirement with an acceptable
balance of risk and return.
3. Don’t Put All Your Eggs
in One Basket
To make your retirement
income more resistant to
market volatility, diversify
your portfolio and allocate
assets. Since different
elements of the market can
underperform or exceed
expectations at different
times, it’s important not to
Times of uncertainty can
also reveal opportunity.
When the stock market is in
flux, prices are traditionally
lower. When markets are
volatile, individuals have
the opportunity to take note
of their investments and
review their portfolios. This
time allows for individuals
to consider new products
that may help balance overall
risk.
5. Consider Other Options
If you’re mostly invested
in stocks and bonds
within your 401(k), own
a mix of traditional and
Roth IRAs and have some
money allotted in riskier
investments to reach your
retirement income goals.
There are a number of
products available as you
look toward retirement.
Growing your retirement
income involves a careful
balance of risk and return.
Only you know your
tolerance for risk versus
your goals. For additional
information on risk-tolerant
strategies and how they
can play a role in your
retirement, it’s important
to consult a financial
professional. We hope you
found some answers to your
questions regarding ways to
help protect your retirement
income during market
uncertainty.
Fred Johnson
Investment Advisor
Basic Wealth Advisors, Inc.
864.631.6459
[email protected]
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The Heart of the Matter
By Mindy Strich
T
he Institute of Heart
Math defines heart
intelligence as a flow of
awareness, the understanding
and intuition we experience
when our minds and our
emotions are brought into
coherent alignment with
the heart. The more we pay
attention to when our heart is
speaking to us, the greater our
ability to access this guidance.
of energy that will allow us to
receive the one thing we most
want to experience in our lives.
In other words….. Listen to
your heart, not your head!
Our hearts are more than a
physical organ and muscle. Our
hearts are the core of who we
are. All the thoughts, emotions
and energy we hold in our
hearts, have a direct influence on
what we are and are not creating
in our lives.
We want to be loved,
give love and feel love
UNCONDITIONALLY and we
can’t do that freely if we put
restrictions on the flow of
love we send out and receive. You can’t have an open heart
without the willingness to let all
your emotions in.
The electromagnetic field
of the heart is 60 times more
powerful than that of the brain
so if you want to make a change
in your life, start living from
what you feel, not what you
think.
Very often it takes a wound…
a physical or emotional heartbreak to get us to look deeper. (Death, divorce, illness, loss of
a job…) We’ve all experienced
these painful events. I don’t
know about you but they have
been the most transformational
experiences of my life. Pain has a
way of getting our attention. Pain can literally break us
open so we can finally uncover
what we have buried. When
we shine a light into our own
darkness we begin to see clearly
and start healing. When we
leave our wounds unhealed, we
really can die of a broken heart.
It should come as no surprise
that heart disease is the #1 cause
of death. We need to feel it to
heal it. When the rhythm of our
hearts are not functioning
properly it impacts the health
of all the other organs and
systems in our bodies. We
guard ourselves from being
hurt and learn to make love
conditional.
The stories we create get
projected onto our hearts, and
cause imbalances, not only in
our hearts but in all other areas
of the body. Has heartache
ever made you feel sick to your
stomach? Given you a lump in
your throat? Made you feel like
you couldn’t breathe? It is all
connected! It’s not uncommon that we
try and protect ourselves from
being hurt, or feeling pain. To not risk being rejected or
hurt we build up walls, defend
ourselves, judge, and blame.
We imprison ourselves inside
our comfort zones. After all it
feels safer in there. What we are
really doing is stopping the flow
When the energy of our
hearts are in balance we feel joy,
gratitude, love, compassion and
forgiveness. Take a moment and
bring your awareness to your
heart. Ask yourself….. Are you
living from the wounds or the
wisdom?
Mindy Strich, Certified I.E.M.
Energetic Healing Practitioner
www.healingheartenergy.com
[email protected]
(678) 642-7771
Healthy Spring Recipes
Asparagus with Balsamic Tomatoes
Ingredients:
• 1 pound asparagus,
trimmed
• 2 teaspoons extra-virgin
olive oil
• 1 1/2 cups halved grape
tomatoes
• 1/2 teaspoon minced fresh
garlic
• 2 tablespoons balsamic
vinegar
• 1/4 teaspoon salt
• 3 tablespoons crumbled
goat cheese
• 1/2 teaspoon black pepper
Instructions:
1. Cook asparagus in boiling
water 2 minutes or until crisptender. Drain.
2. Heat olive oil in a large
skillet over medium-high heat.
Add tomatoes and garlic; cook
5 minutes. Stir in vinegar; cook
3 minutes. Stir in salt. Arrange
asparagus on a platter; top with
tomato mixture. Sprinkle with
cheese and pepper.
Raisin and Pine Nut variation:
Omit tomatoes, garlic, vinegar,
and goat cheese. Cook 1/3
cup sliced red onion and 2
tablespoons pine nuts in oil for 4
minutes. Add 2 1/2 tablespoons
orange juice, 3 tablespoons
raisins, and 2 teaspoons honey;
cook 2 minutes. Stir in 1/4
teaspoon salt and 1/4 teaspoon
orange rind. Spoon over
asparagus; sprinkle with pepper.
Yield: 4 servings.
Calories 111; Fat 5.3g (sat
0.6g); Sodium 151mg
Sesame-Ginger Glazed
variation: Omit oil, tomatoes,
vinegar, salt, cheese, and pepper.
Microwave 1 tablespoon lowersodium soy sauce, 1 teaspoon
honey, 1 teaspoon lime juice, 1
teaspoon minced peeled fresh
ginger, and garlic on HIGH for 2
minutes. Drizzle over asparagus;
sprinkle with 2 teaspoons
toasted sesame seeds. Serve with
lime wedges. Yield: 4 servings.
Calories 43; Fat 0.8g (sat 0.1g);
Sodium 134mg
Lemon-Tarragon variation:
Omit tomatoes, vinegar, and
cheese; decrease pepper to 1/4
teaspoon. Combine 1/8 teaspoon
lemon rind, 1 tablespoon lemon
juice, 2 teaspoons chopped
tarragon, garlic, 1/2 teaspoon
minced shallot, 1/2 teaspoon
Dijon mustard, salt, pepper, and
oil. Drizzle tarragon mixture
over asparagus; toss gently to
coat. Yield: 4 servings.
Calories 49; Fat 2.3g (sat 0.3g);
Sodium 153mg
Source: http://www.myrecipes.com/recipe/
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How to Talk to Someone With Alzheimer’s Disease
By Samantha Costa
for example, these strategies:
Understand the disease.
As Alzheimer’s progresses,
difficulties with speech and
memory c an become more
pronounced, according to
the Alzheimer’s Association.
Someone with the disease might
repeatedly rely on familiar
words, begin inventing new
words to describe familiar
objects and easily lose his or her
train of thought. He or she might
revert back to a native language
– say, Spanish despite speaking
English the past few decades.
People with Alzheimer’s will
also likely have difficulty
organizing words logically and,
ultimately, will speak less often.
In the early stages of dementia
and Alzheimer’s disease, Drew
says communication doesn’t
necessarily suffer in a significant
way. At most, someone might
repeat stories or not be able to
find the “right” words. John,
for example, says Karlene has
worked tirelessly to adjust the
way the couple communicates
with each other. “It’s important
for both of us to be comfortable
with letting the other person talk
and not getting angry because
things aren’t going fast enough,”
he says.
Learn how to get – and keep
– attention. Start by limiting the
number of distractions nearby
– turn off the TV or radio, or
go into a quiet room and close
the door, suggests Dr. Robert
Santulli, an honorary associate
professor of psychiatry at the
Geisel School of Medicine at
Dartmouth in Hanover, New
Hampshire. Throughout the
conversation, maintain eye
contact. If the person with
Alzheimer’s is sitting, sit nearby
rather than looming above and
speaking down to him or her.
Touch can help, too. Try holding
the person’s hand, placing your
hand on his or her shoulder
or gesturing by pointing to
whatever you’re describing.
Prepare to repeat yourself.
Someone with Alzheimer’s likely
won’t recall certain details for
more than a few moments at
a time. Keep in mind this isn’t
intentional or meant to frustrate
you, and your friend or family
member with Alzheimer’s is
likely unaware of his or her
behavior.
Identify yourself. A loved
one with Alzheimer’s may not
need direct family members or
caregivers to identify themselves
until the later stages of the
disease, but that’s not necessarily
the case for extended family or
friends. In “The Alzheimer’s
Family: Helping Caregivers
Cope,” Santulli recommends
using language such as: “I’m
your nephew Carl … Your
brother Fred’s son,” or another
identifier. Even though a person
with dementia or Alzheimer’s
may not remember who
someone is or the nature of the
relationship, he or she will find
comfort in knowing a member
of the family or close friend has
come to visit.
Call him or her by name.
“All the rules of courtesy
apply” when greeting someone
with Alzheimer’s, Drew says,
which means using his or her
name – which creates a sense
of individuality. “If they prefer,
say, Mary – say Mary. If they
say Mrs. Jones, say Mrs. Jones,”
she adds. Addressing someone
directly helps retain attention,
too.
Speak in slow, s hort
sentences, not paragraphs. If
you’re telling a loved one with
Alzheimer’s a story or plan to
share multiple ideas, consider
how confusing it might sound.
Instead, limit your requests or
stories to short, direct sentences
– with only one idea per
sentence. “Keep communications
clear and simple,” Santulli says.
Be specific. If you want to
show someone with Alzheimer’s
where something is, identify
objects by name – “here is your
hat,” for example, rather than
“here it is,” the Alzheimer’s
Association suggests. And avoid
confusing and vague statements.
Rather than saying, “Hop in the
shower,” try, “Please come here.
Your shower is ready.” The first
request could be taken literally –
creating an unsafe situation.
Ask direct questions. Santulli
suggests opting for closedended questions that can either
be answered with a “yes” or
“no.” In his book, for example,
he recommends a sking, “Did
you enjoy the roast beef and
potatoes at dinner?” rather
than, “What did you have for
dinner?” Otherwise, someone
with Alzheimer’s could feel like
he or she is being quizzed on
memory, leading to unnecessary
frustration. Direct questions
make it easier to supply concise
answers, Santulli says.
Avoid phrases like “Don’t
you remember?” Same goes for:
“Did you forget? We already
talked about that. I just told you.
How could you not know that?
Try to remember!” This type
of wording can make someone
with Alzheimer’s feel worse
about his or her inability to recall
certain people, places or things.
It’s not fair to ask someone
with Alzheimer’s to remember
something, S
antulli says. Once
it’s forgotten, it’s likely gone
for good, and speaking in this
way will only elicit feelings of
frustration and guilt.
Offer to help. Making

slight
accommodations can go a long
way, Drew says: “Maybe they’re
having difficulty finishing
sentences or can’t think of the
right word for a certain thing but
are still very capable overall. It’s
important to focus on the person,
and ask: ‘Does it help when I fill
in the word, or did that frustrate
you?” If the answer is that it
helps, Drew says, suggest a word
you believe the person is trying
to think of. Just be careful not to
cause unnecessary frustration by
being overly suggestive or taking
over the conversation. And if
you understand what the person
is trying to say, you might not
need to give the correct word.
“It takes a bit of detective work,”
Drew says, to determine what
works best.
Don’t rely on verbal
communication. There are many
ways to communicate beyond
speaking verbally – thinkfacial
expressions, body language
and behavior, Drew says. “Just
because someone might not be
able to speak as eloquently as
before, doesn’t mean you can’t
look them in the eye, greet them
by name and take them by the
hand.”
Avoid talking as if he or
she isn’t in the room. Your
family member or friend with
Alzheimer’s disease is still a
person, Santulli says: “Don’t
talk to someone else in the
room about [him or her]. Just
because they have Alzheimer’s
disease, doesn’t mean they’re
not in the room.” People notice
when they’re excluded from the
conversation – it feels demeaning
and can strip away dignity.
Relax your tone. Like anyone
facing a lifelong illness, people
with Alzheimer’s disease
appreciate a calm and supportive
attitude from caregivers, friends
and family. The Ellsworths often
find themselves frustrated – or
even angry – when one of them
doesn’t understand what the
other is trying to communicate,
John says. Keep in mind that
even when someone loses his
or her words, that person can
still recognize tone. “If we get
frustrated and frantic or seem
like we are in turmoil ourselves,
we exude that, the other person
can feel it and it can be upsetting
to him or her,” Drew says. He or
she may not know why you’re
impatient, but they will certainly
detect that you are. “We can
help [people with Alzheimer’s]
be their best when we are calm,
supportive and kind,” Drew
says.
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Roasted Baby Artichokes with Lemon Aioli
• 1/4 cup light mayonnaise
Ingredients:
• 6 cups water
• 1 teaspoon minced garlic
• 5 tablespoons fresh lemon
juice, divided
• 1/2 teaspoon grated
lemon rind
• 12 baby artichokes
• 5 teaspoons extra-virgin
olive oil, divided
• 1/4 teaspoon kosher salt
• 1/8 teaspoon freshly
ground black pepper
Instructions:
1. Preheat oven to 425°.
2. Combine 6 cups water and
4 tablespoons juice in a large
bowl. Cut off top 1/2 inch of
each artichoke. Cut off stem of
each artichoke to within 1 inch
of base; peel stem. Remove
bottom leaves and tough outer
leaves, leaving tender heart and
bottom. Cut each artichoke in
half lengthwise. Place artichokes
in juice mixture.
3. Drain artichokes; pat dry
with paper towels. Combine
artichokes, 1 tablespoon oil, salt,
and pepper; toss well. Arrange in
a single layer on a baking sheet.
Bake at 425° for 15 minutes or
until tender, turning after 10
minutes.
4. Combine remaining 1
tablespoon juice, remaining
2 teaspoons oil, mayonnaise,
garlic, and lemon rind in a small
bowl. Serve aioli with artichokes.
roasted-baby-artichokes
Strawberry-Rhubarb Trifle
frozen rhubarb, thawed
and undrained
Ingredients:
Custard
• 2 cups 2% reduced-fat
milk
• 1/3 cup sugar, divided
• 1/4 cup cornstarch
• 1 large egg
• 3 large egg yolks
• 1 1/2 teaspoons vanilla
extract
Remaining ingredients:
• 1 (15-ounce) prebaked
angel food cake, cut into
2-inch cubes
• 1 pound strawberries,
sliced
• 2 cups reduced-fat frozen
whipped topping, thawed
• 1 tablespoon sliced
almonds, toasted
Rhubarb
Instructions:
• 1/2 cup sugar
1. To prepare custard, heat
milk, 3 tablespoons sugar, and
1/8 teaspoon salt in a saucepan
to 180° or until tiny bubbles
form around edge (do not
• 1/2 cup fresh orange juice
• 1 (12-ounce) package
boil). Combine remaining 2 1/2
tablespoons sugar, cornstarch,
egg, and egg yolks in a bowl,
stirring with a whisk until
smooth. Gradually add hot milk
mixture to egg mixture, stirring
constantly with a whisk. Return
milk mixture to pan. Cook
over medium heat until thick
and bubbly (about 4 minutes),
stirring constantly. Remove
from heat; stir in vanilla. Place
pan in an ice water-filled bowl
20 minutes or until mixture
comes to room temperature; stir
occasionally.
2. To prepare rhubarb, place
1/2 cup sugar, orange juice, 1/8
teaspoon salt, and rhubarb in a
medium saucepan, and bring to
a boil. Reduce heat, and simmer
15 minutes or until rhubarb
breaks down and mixture
thickens. Place the pan in an ice
water-filled bowl until mixture
cools to room temperature,
stirring occasionally.
3. Arrange one-third of cake
cubes in bottom of a 3-quart
trifle dish. Arrange one-third
of strawberries around edge
and over top of cake. Spoon
one-third of rhubarb over cake.
Spoon one-third of custard over
rhubarb. Repeat layers 2 more
times. Carefully spread whipped
topping over top. Sprinkle with
nuts. Cover and refrigerate 4
hours or overnight.
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“A great pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do.”
- Walter Bagehot
An Ode to Seniors
By Leonard B. Blount
The flowers make their entrance
When winter is through.
When I hear the word beauty,
I think of you.
Many years have passed,
and you are still around.
Your presence has a way,
of erasing the frown.
You have touched many lives,
both old and young.
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to the robin’s favorite song.
You injected warm feeling,
into many wounded hearts,
that unique echo will ever depart.
Your gray hair compliments
the wisdom that’s on the inside.
Your precious wrinkles cause many,
to evaluate their lives.
A diamond will never duplicate your glow,
Society benefits from the creativity that you show.
Though your vocabulary may contain
the word hesitation,
you manage to make it your destinations.
Stand tall and continue to make your contributions.
This world is crying out for harmony,
and your generation is equipped to supply the solution.
Copyright 1995
Blount is a storyteller with our Nurturing Arts Program.
A Family’s Secrets
By Tim Schnabel, MEd
was much more – advanced lung
cancer with metastases to the
portion of his brain responsible
for long-term memory. I think
God gave him a gift. The more
his cancer advanced, the “file”
containing the secrets was being
erased. The nurse he married
and the children he had with her
cared for him until he took his
last breath.
I love my father more now
knowing how he lived his life
after meeting my mother. I am
sorry he never disclosed that
difficult part of his past to those
who would love him regardless
– his children. And also, I am sad
that even though he was released
from a physical prison serving
his sentence, he lived most of
his life in a self-imposed prison
where true freedom only came in
death.
Tim Schnabel, MEd is a licensed
marriage and family therapist,
consultant and trainer in private
practice. He lives in Monroe, GA. www.
timschnabel.com. (770) 207-4888
This article first appeared in The Walton
Tribune Feb. 14, 2016.

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