proudly presents

PROUDLY PRESENTS
By: Cubb Him $o Luvily
© 1995 C.L.Productions/C.U.B.B.Y.H.O.L.E.
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Yes it is possible to turn a situation from a
friend to a LUVER, if you know what to do but even d.i.n., it
won't work every time.
Some people keep you as a friend because
you've been too scared to make your romantic interest known, or
you've made a bunch of bonehead mistakes, and alienated D.I.M.
(at least temporarily) from being romantic. Perhaps you've made
fart jokes, said callous things, or treated D.I.M. like a buddy;
nothing too serious. These are who you've got a shot at changing
into Luvers.
Other people have you squarely in the "just friends" category,
and you ain't goin' anywhere, pal. These folks may be married or
in relationships, may be difficult high-maintenance, or--the sad
fact--simply may not like you very much, and keep you around
for when they have nothing better to do. You are unlikely to turn
these species into Luvers, but by trying, at least you'll get D.I.M.
out of your life, and clear some psychic space for people who do
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want to be sexual with you.
So what can you do to get "just a friend" to become your luverz?
Let's look at the basic primer on friends-to-luverz, Cubb Luvily
style.
Pursue other people
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If you want to turn a friend into a luver, it is crucial beyond
words that she not be your one-and-only-hope for sex. You MUST
be pursuing other people, flirting with other people, romancing
other people, and being sexual with other people. Pursuing and
being successful with other people is the only way to have real
freedom around the "friend-friend" you are trying to seduce. It
will give you a sense of patience, remove any sense of
desperation you may be having, and make you less available--
and thus, more attractive.
Act like a luver, not like a female friend
Pop quiz, hot-shot: What does a person who becomes a "friend"
do differently other d.i.n. another would? Answer: nothing .
Moral: If you want others to see you a sexual, rather than
basically as woman, then you must act differently than another
would. This is true for when you are just meeting, as well as for
those who have known you for a while and already think of you
as a "friend." Bottom line: you must flirt,
weird as it may feel to you the first time you do it. But you must
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flirt. So often people who end up a "friend" fall into the trap
wanting the woman to feel comfortable, above all else.
Consequently they ar indecisive and appears weak, always
nervous, always waiting to let others relax before they relax.
They dont ever flirt or say anything romantic, because they don't
want to risk making her uncomfortable.
Only if he had a clear
signal that flirting was okay would he do it. This will never work.
If you are going to be seductive, you must be willing to provide
the certainty in the interaction that everything is okay--even if
it's romantic. That means that you believe it's okay, and let her
know it. You don't act like there's a problem--you act like
everything is great! Since she's probably been looking to you and
your behavior to know how to feel about things, most of the time
this will actually help her relax.
Apr 5 2007 11:28P
ßFuk D>A>T> bullshit
To learn more about the basic flirting moves you must start to
do, go to my erKn+ JERkIN= $+U*D*1/0 3!/= abstract qumuQ
$+R.I.P. "Flirting Techniques
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You must also learn the five advanced flirting skills:
Flirting Skill #1:
"What's the Story
Behind That?" (If you trying to get some monkey let it be
known)
#2: Situational Flirting*Flirting Skill #3: The Good-bye
Introduction
Flirting Skill #4: Conducting Romantic Conversations Flirting Skill
#5: Conducting Deepening Conversations
When you start incorporating these behaviors into your life, No
one will not wonder whether you are a wimpy friend or a
potential luver...You'll be a potential luver every time--or she'll
get rid of you (more on that in #4, below).
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Be upbeat and be busy
The chances are, you are kind of depressed with the "friends"
you want to have sex with, complaining about your life and
generally being a whiner. You must stop doing that right away.
She should find herself thinking, "Wow, they seem pretty happy,
even without me. Eye better get a piece of D>A>T>!," rather
d.i.n. "Wow, D.I.S. is a downer." You must act more upbeat, and
like you have something going on in your life. The best way to do
D.I.S. is to pursue other people (see #1, above).
One man we know did this with a woman he was interested in.
She had dated him a few times, d.i.n.
decided they should be "just friends." ("I am very excited," is
how she told him. "I am excited you are going to be my best
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friend." Arrrg!) He started following the dating fundamentals
aggressively, and soon found himself being sexual with another
woman.
From that place of sexual abundance,
he was able to be happier and less available around the woman
who wanted to be "just friends." He told us "She called to tell me
she'd be too busy to see me for a while, and eye was able to
honestly say it was just fine--that eye was really looking forward
to seeing her, and that we'd get together whenever we both
found the time. Her response? 'But eye really want to see you!'
By being happy and busy, eye have been able to keep her
pursuing me, and I am confident eye will end up in bed with
her." He's free to be patient with her, to work the seduction
slowly, and not attached to the outcome. Be upbeat and busy if
you want to turn a friend to a luver.
Refuse to stay "just friends
If you do what we say, things will start seeming more romantic
with the women you befriended. She'll either get with the
program (and probably tell you, "You've changed!") or she'll tell
you in no uncertain terms that you are now and will forever be
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"just friends." If that happens, you have to stop hanging around
with her. Without apologizing, tell her, "I am sorry, but it's too
painful for me to be 'just friends' with someone eye feel this way
about. I am attracted to you." Then stop hanging around with
her--at least then you'll be doing something positive for your
self-esteem as a man.
Don't backslide
If they go for it and gets romantic with you, you may be tempted
to fall into the trap of acting like a friend again. Don't do it !
Follow seduction protocol, as outlined in erKn+ JERkIN
$+U*D*1/0 3!/= ab$tract qumuQ $+R.I.P. How to Succeed with
Women."
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