Document 6508485

How To Please
Yourself and Him With
Fantasic Oral Zexxx
• How to Give Your
Man The Best Pleases
Of His Dreams
• And Keep Him
Coming Back for
More!
• Become The
Goddess He Worships!
And a whole lot about how to please a woman too!
You'll Become Instantly Fabulous In Bed!
Clit kissing explained. She Says, “Cliss Me Right HERE!”
Deep Throating and how to stop the gag reflex. Deep
Throat How-To Exercises + (!)
URLs explain how it’s done at UTube!
Instructional Video URLs
Self Hypnosis suggestion to love it and no gag
reflex. Learn Self Hypnosis & Make It Easy!
Sex Positions – Piles of photos. Positions Guide, X-Rated
Photos
Sex Furniture you can buy or build
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From Our Lesson #6
We’ll begin to cover “Phalophagia -The Fine Art of
Oral Pleasuring A Man.”
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I’ll begin with the emotional side of the discussion because it is so
extensive and pervasive in American and British society.
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You’ll find a few helpful links from other experts on video, and two
recommended books you may choose to buy.
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What about worship through sex? I’ll take you to some of those
thoughts and histories, -- places you may never have known before
among ancient and modern peoples. Who knew anthropology was so
lascivious? We’ll take you from here to Ancient Babylon and even
earlier to Ancient India, Tibet and China. You’ll understand the
deepest meanings of sexual connection in the attempt the ancients
made to touch the heavens. We’ll launch into some psychosexual and
theo-sexual history. As a hint, it’s probably true that girls have been
sucking guys for the past 100,000 years!
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Should women do this? I’ll show you arguments that it is indeed
healthy for both genders and possibly was even recommended in The
Bible! I’ll bet your clergy never told you that.
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You’ll discover the many biological, healthy and emotional reasons
why many women naturally are drawn to sucking cock and
swallowing crème. What’s in that stuff anyway? You’ll find out, and
discover why she wants and even needs it! What’s in that stuff? Why
does it taste the way it does, and ….
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How oral sex pleasuring might be the key to the survival of
humankind in a world populated by over 7-Billion of us.
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Did your English teacher explain that Shakespeare loved it too? I will,
and I’ll document the information.
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Then we’ll move into a few best oral sex positions, illustrated of
course. Verbose descriptions never can explain so well as photos can.
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What could a woman say while dancing in public that would make
her husband want to spend more time with her, and less time out with
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‘the boys.?” These are secrets revealed even Cosmo magazine never
told you!
If you and he aren’t together very much any longer, maybe I’ve got the key
reasons and the obvious answer about what to do to reverse that trend and
give you the pleasure and attention you need and want.
It’s pretty obvious much of the public is quietly curious about genital size,
so I’ll show you the data about normal, abnormal, and how men and women
feel about the subject.
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What about oversized penises and oversized breasts? How common
are they and what do you do with them? I’ll help you get a good grip
on the problem and I’ll include charts and listed scientific
measurements from all over the world to help satisfy your curiosity.
I’ll drop some more hot information about how the man can continue to
please his woman for minutes, even hours until she’s totally satisfied, and
what women must do to take the best of orgasmic pleasure for themselves.
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What do you know about warming a woman’s heart? I’ll tell you
what no one has until now.
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What happens when you focus on a woman’s physical imperfections?
Here’s some advice you need to hear.
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Do you undress and climb into bed or do you know how to undress
her and yourself with flair, style and finesse? I’ll teach you how to be
the most charming man in the bedroom any woman ever had a day
dream about.
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What is this word “frigid?” What does it mean and what is the right
approach to the subject. I’ll tell you all about it on page 7
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You’ll begin to discover the breathtaking beauty and artistry in love
making and attitudes about love.
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We’ll launch into a LOT more about oral Pleasuring techniques
including movements, positions, shapes and exercises for your
tongue! Who else is teaching you that for the price of a cup of coffee
and a sandwich?
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Why you should Pay No Attention if a woman who tells you, “I’ve
never cum more than once with a man.”
The discussion about oral pleasures expands into extremely valuable and
superior skills allowing you to please a woman before you enter her pussy.
When you understand this she will naturally move into multiple orgasms
without any particular fantastic techniques required. Your body is properly
equipped with what you need. You do not need a gigantic penis to succeed.
You need the right understandings.
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The Best Positions for Clitoral Stimulation
The Hypersensitive Clitoris and how to deal with and handle
it
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Some comments and photos about best positions for sex
and pleasuring the clitoris
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The most pleasure sensitive parts of the clitoris and vagina
Cultivating Her Desire For Regular Powerful Orgasmic
Release
MUCH MUCH MORE!!!
86 Photos, 94 PAGES, 33,000 words
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Hi, and thanks for picking up this booklet. Everything you see here and A WHOLE LOT
MORE is part of the first 12 Lessons from our course called Repeat Performance and you
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We’re going to deliver what we promised. But you’ll find even MORE at our course, and
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We Suspect you want MORE than just giving and getting great Oral Sex. You might also
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Let’s get into Oral Sex and how you can give one another more pleasure than you have
ever before.
Oral Sex
Oral sex conveys a lot of emotion (which is
so well appreciated by women), it also
delivers immense pleasure for both partners.
Many people always include oral sex in their
play. Depending on what you and your partner
want to do, you can use oral sex as a tease
(don’t bring your partner to orgasm) or you
can use it to give your partner an orgasm to
prep for multiples later (this is usually done
with women and can make sex absolutely
explosive!)
If you’re concerned about passing yeast infection to your woman you can do as
well holding and kissing her while your fingers do what your tongue can do, and more, if
you use enough lubricant and keep your fingernails and the cuticles around them cut short
and smoothed meticulously with several finer and finer fingernail sanding boards. Fingers
can please her clit and slip into please her G-Spot. The long middle finger can be circling
around her G-Spot while the thumb is simultaneously circling the clitoris hood and glans.
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Those who don’t know these techniques will insist tongue kissing the clit is the only best
way, but I disagree most vehemently.
A young flexible person can lie prone and suckle a clitoris. Someone less flexible will
find it causes serious low back and neck difficulties. Holding her with your left arm while
you lean on your left side allows your right hand to be busy pleasing her while you kiss,
speak words of endearment, and suckle her nipples.
Look at the photo above again.
There is either a cell phone or a TV remote control in the room. These items should never
be there! This room is for your privacy and your sexual life exclusively. Bringing “the
world” into your bedroom with TV, phones, computers, and so forth is a move destined
to bring you to disaster. And…. Fung Sui people will tell you never to have a water sink
and drain in the room either – though I’m not quite ready to agree.
You can see the man is bending one leg trying to maintain comfort. I don’t mean to turn
this into a pornographic booklet, but to illustrate farther look at these two photos.
Looks pretty sexy. She’s beautiful, but he is trying to
relieve the tension on his low back.
This is a common problem.
Here the man is relieving his back and neck seated in a chair. It’s
an answer that may work for you.
Switching chairs, this might work for a
little while until his hip and low back strain.
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You can buy or make a lounge like this.
Add a pillow under her head and enjoy
the experience.
This is the entire chair and there are lots of
creative positions you can take in it.
www.Tantrachair.com
http://www.tantrachair.com/en/content/1/homepage/
See the “films” videos and at the bottom of the
page the POSITIONS link. See that and THEN
you’ll understand! This is the white chair
above. It’s the PREMIUM product from Zen
by Design, of Scottsdale, Arizona.
These chairs sell for around $1500 – about the
price of a good quality man’s suit.
Of course there are ways to have a similar chair for less money, including making your
own. You might go into business making these….
Do It Yourself: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3ce-oDJSlSU part 1
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=iv&src_vid=3ceoDJSlSU&v=V9_FSERuIO4&annotation_id=annotation_439970 part 2. The Carpenter
is a wee bit flakey but she gets A job done. At YouTube
I think by the time you’re done building your own it’ll cost you $300, and for that price
you can buy a similar one from Liberator or go through Amazon to get it.
https://www.theliberator.co.uk/liberator-esse-chaise-longue-761
http://www.amazon.com/Liberator-Esse-Chaise-Black-Leather/dp/B003M094U2
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There’s only one thing that would better in your house than ONE of these,
and that would be TWO of them! But wait before you order because….
I’m not sure every woman can pretzel herself up like the model so you’ll
have to think about this a little more before leaping for the phone to place
your order.
Of course I’m joking. This
chair will accommodate
many positions and allow
comfort for anyone, even
someone a bit disabled. I
really love these chairs.
http://www.liberator.com/eng/categories/sex-furniture
here’s a very nice $400 alternative.
Beautiful Naked Women On Expensive Chairs!!!! I Love It!
The sex chair is actually two chairs. One, the Tantra Chair is the higher
priced alternative ($1200 on sale, down from $1500) and comes with a
website of great naked videos of a pretty hot couple slowly "doing it" on the
chair. The marketing is WAY better here
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This elegant furniture design, inspired by the female form, was created to enhance the sacred
sexual positions of the Kama Sutra. The Tantra Chair gently guides and changes your pelvic
angles during lovemaking creating amazing new sensations and unparalleled comfort.
>> TantraChair.com I think, unquestionably, this is the better chair on offer.
The Esse Chair is the lower priced alternative ($400) and comes with a lot less heat. Just the
chair and this straight ahead pitch:
By day this chair is a chic chaise lounge, a place to read, relax and unwind. By night, it is the
ultimate love making lounger! You will lose yourself in the experimentation and sexploration.
>> Athenashn.com
After crawling around the Tantra Chair site for awhile, there is no reason NOT to buy this
chair. It just looks like fun, and a hell of a lot more interesting than a new rowing machine.
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I wouldn’t hide it! That would be like hiding your Lambourgini
sports car.
From Lesson 6
For Women & Men
Who Adore Them
The Fine Art of Oral
Pleasuring Your Man
Make Him Want You
Forever!
Dr. Nate Nacarato
Single and Searching? Men, Go Here!
Oral Pleasuring is a gigantic subject, because it is so woven with emotional
content for me and for so many others. If oral sex were purely mechanical it
would take one page. Women and their lovers have so much emotion tied to
blow jobs that we really need to cover some of that emotional discussion
before we go into the mechanics of it.
First, I should say that both parties must remember “Cleanliness in next to
Godliness” and soap and a wash cloth can avoid a lot of embarrassments. I
need not gross you out with some awful stories I’ve heard. Let this warning
be sufficient. Men who behave like boors don’t deserve a woman’s
companionship. Disgraceful women should give up hope of making a life
with a really good man. It’s easy to find a sex partner, but a really good man
worth keeping is harder to find.
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We are going to cover EVERYthing a woman might want to learn about giving oral sex
to her man including how to give deep throat. If… if, that’s what you and she are into….
And …. No it’s not required.
My PERSONAL opinion: Ask me what I’d prefer, given a choice between a
woman with strong legs and a strong pussy and the ability to squat over me and ride up
and down, or a woman who likes to give head – I’ll take the pussy every time. We both
enjoy it more and her pussy can be much stronger than her mouth. In fact a woman who
does regular pussy exercise around a dildo can strengthen her pussy to a crush of 20
pounds! No mouth can do that! And, really, 10 pounds pressure would be quite sufficient
to satisfy any man. But that’s my opinion and we’ll cover more about the subject now
that we’re here in as promised – and it’s going to be a long study with a lot of value given
to you for just $1.99!
I do hope, considering all you’re getting from our lessons that you have been so kind to
your friends as to tell them about what we offer. Go to your favorite social media site and
just let them know we’re being honest and giving a lot of information for the money and
point them our way. We’re very thankful for your referrals and we’re hopeful that these
instructions will help solidify a lot of long-term relationships, and make for perfect
romances and solid happy marriages – which ultimate lead to a healthier foundation for a
healthier society.
Speaking for a minute about a Strong Healthy Society, I want to explain my
occasional comments. There is a philosophy behind my work and I have been
occasionally accused of being an analytical thinker. So, here’s some analytical thought.
Our society has been in a battle since around year 1960. The people who have promoted
the Karl Marx, Fredrick Engels – Socialist thesis, and Charles Darwinian’s evolution
mythology, have been telling us we can make up our morality as we go along, and drop
the old traditions about family caring for women and children first, working hard, being
thrifty, bringing home the money to raise the family, investing and spending money
wisely, and planning for a decent retirement. We’ve been sold the idea that the
government will feed all of the hungry and miserable, including single mothers, and care
for everyone who grows old and retires. It’s a GREAT thesis, with ONE HUGE FLAW.
The flaw has been that we have lived on loaned money (bond sales) to foreign investors.
The stability of the US dollar and the ability to call it the world’s standard currency has,
combined with all the mineral wealth North America had, gave the US virtually unlimited
wealth.
Our government built a vast world wide empire forcing other countries to buy
infrastructure projects from us and pay us back on “loans” virtually forever. Our
government used the money for vast highways, electrical grids, and super-high
technology weapons. The world may have cheered when we sent people to the moon, but
it was their money we were using to do it.
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The US citizenry has been taught to believe we’re invincible, superior to other cultures in
every way, and that the government can support us forever. Many university professors
have taught that free enterprise is basically a form of aggression and that the socialist
model is better.
It IS better, if you run the government. It’s terrible if you’re one of the millions of wage
slaves.
In 1970 the Federal Communications Commission would throw you in jail for curse
words over radio. Pornography was like smuggled drugs, very much underground.
By 1980 the pornography industry and the socialists in the colleges were teaching you
and your friends that sex and love have no correspondence, and that an interest in old
fashioned morality is just foolish belief in a silly “religious mythology.”
By logical extension if old fashioned morality is a bunch of nonsense then it’s perfectly
all right for us to kill anyone who doesn’t fit into our new perfect plan. We can kill the
old people, who are after all just a non-productive drag on the economy. We can kill the
mentally limited, anyone with any physical disability, anyone who was any sort of
criminal, any babies that we didn’t intend to bear. We could kill all the drug addicts. We
could kill all the old fashioned Christian moralists. We could even kill all the college
teachers who think Socialism is unworkable.
There, now we’ll have a perfect society.
No one wants to work, or save. No one cares about raising children properly. Men use
woman for their immediate sexual gratification and then cast them aside calling them
ugly names. What a perfect society we can create!
Every reader can take all of this information and do whatever he wants with it. I won’t
know and I’m in no position to argue about it. But my purpose is to help couples stay
together, raise kids properly, express real generous love and care for one another, and that
includes working hard, paying the bills, saving for retirement, and helping others do the
same.
I have always known that my reading public will be small. This course has never been for
the functionally illiterate, or for men who secretly hate women and think marriage is an
obsolete idea. I can’t do anything for that portion of society that won’t use the brains God
gave them. They had the gift of normal abilities at birth. They wasted it, burned it out
with drugs or something, and it’s gone. I can’t help them now, and that includes the
career criminals running the pornography studios.
The battle to restore a healthy society that was launched in earnest in the 1960’s is still
ongoing. You can consider the logic of this argument, and you can by example live a
decent life, avoid temptation, and be honest, good and kind to your marriage partner, and
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treat your kids as if they were sacred gifts. Or, you can let the entire dream degrade as it
has so many elsewhere-s in the USA, England and Europe.
There are those men who are control freaks. It appears their real interest is to rape some
girl’s head. I think they’re fucking the wrong mouth. They should mate a crocodile. Such
men, and all of society, would be much better off blessing their union.
As for REAL men who adore and even nearly worship women – (and God
knows some of us do!,) men who want to express love to someone around whom we can
surround our lives, I recommend both of you read this information so you understand
more about the subject and can talk it through comfortably. You might both first go to
this videos.
http://www.cherrytv.com/video/how-to-give-a-great-blow-job
and then there are two others at You Tube
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8CuvVYoFR6c
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ocHHS3QIM8g
There’s a lot of stuff at YouTube that is simply a waste of your time but these three
videos are short and teach a lot, and all three are given by women and women like to talk
to and hear from other women, so these videos are a good beginning.
I might also recommend you look at Amazon.com and consider two popular books
there….
The Prostitute’s Complete Fellatio Training Manual by Dark Evening-Star (Kindle
Edition – May 7, 2011) – Kindle eBook
Buy: $9.99
How Any Man Can Experience Multiple Orgasms, Gain Ultimate Penis Control
and The Ability To Make Love For Hours! By Dr. Gregory Goodlove (Kindle Edition –
May 7, 2011) – Kindle eBook
Buy: $4.95
These books are not expensive and I think if the money is available you’ll
like them and find the information useful. And really, in just this past one
and a half pages I have led you to more information than you would get from
someone charging forty-five dollars for a download from clickbank. But
wait! There’s MORE!!! And it begins right NOW.
Let’s talk about
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Phallophagia.
Phallus = Penis
Phalophage = Penis Eater
Phalophagia
Phalophagia – the art and practice of
“penis eating.”
Semenophagia – the practice of eating
semen.
Lacking for a clitoris or similar sexual
sensation organ in her mouth or throat
there must be some other very basic
reasons for women’s desire to suck and
lick a man’s cock and swallow his crème.
For starters; She does it to please YOU
and if you indicate you like what she’s doing with your voice words of love
and appreciation as for examples; “Oh, yes. I love it when you do this. It’s
the sexiest kiss you can give me. It makes me feel so (wanted,) (loved,)
appreciated. I love you so much. Every time you do this I want to make love
to you even more!”
A second reason she might like to suckle your cock is that it reminds her of
being a baby sucking at her mother’s breast. Only now the nipple is a bit
bigger. At least it fulfills her fantasies, and let’s remember the mind is the
“biggest,” most important, all controlling sex organ.
The City Babylon
dated from 3,000 BC and lasted as a home for
people until approximately 300 BC. Its location is about 55 miles south of
Iraq’s capital Baghdad. It may have been the seat of Satan’s throne, (I think
it was) committed many sins, saw many wars and was conquered by
Alexander the Great in 330BC.
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The story of its Temple is vast and those interested in theology might look
into it. Here’s a shred.
is tied into the very first pagan religions of humanity,
initially found in Babylon. The term prostitute or harlot or whore did not originate with the idea
of a woman having sex for money.
The concept of Prostitution
The terms Prostitute, Harlot, and Whore were terms originally assigned to women who carried
out the holy, sinless duties of the temple of the Babylonian Goddess known initially as Inanna
(pronounced: in-yah-nah). Please note Inanna was a name in the earliest Shumerian dialect. In the
later dialect’s Inanna’s name switched to Ishtar of the more dominant Akkadian dialect of
Babylonian.
So, if you lived in Babylon 4,000 years ago you called the women who worked in the temple by
the term Harlot, or Whore or Prostitute, which were terms of great honor, purity and a term of
their office of position in the Ishtar Temple.
In our language of today, the more accurate term would be Priestess.
In the time of Ancient Babylon women performed sex in the temples with
the understanding in that society that this act would purify the man of his
“sins” and bring him closer to “the gods.” Since that time some of those
worshippers have traveled all over Europe, into Eastern Europe, and even
into Asia and South East Asia.
The religion that required sexual activity so that you could reach to the
heavens found its way via caravans and coastwise sailing ships across Iran
into and across today’s Iraq or along the shore of today’s Persian Gulf, Gulf
of Oman and Arabian Sea to India where it cuddled its home amongst the
many extant religions there. (Paraphrasing from Out of Africa by Isak Dinesen)
I had a lover. I had a lover at the base of the Chandigarh
mountains.…and when we parted I took what she had taught me and
climbed across the Himalayas into Tibet
and taught the multitudes who taught more
teachers who took the religion into China.
Taoism (and it’s Tantra), Jainism,
Hinduism, Sufism, all of these “believers”
in what Christians call Pagan religions
made sex a part of their worship, and
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orgasm was the experience where by they hoped to almost see the face of the
gods.
Worship through sex has been practiced, probably much earlier, possibly for
100,000 years. (There’s considerable evidence to indicate people have been
around at least that long.) Right, wrong, or indifferent (as it may be to you)
they justified their sexual experiences as holy and made lust their endeavor
and climbing the love mountain their favorite excuse to miss a day of work.
Part of that religious experience (which many believe is with us in our
previous lifetime memories) is oral sex. It is the act of making her wetness
part of the man’s flesh and vis-versa. Making part of her part of “me,” part
of my genetic structure – for the rest of my life. Making part of him part of
me. Making part of his body part of my body, and together creating a new
life that is a union of the two of us.
And likewise, women have told me they wanted to suck a man’s cock since
age 2 or 3 and somehow “knew.” She wants to make the man of her life a
permanent part of her body forever and the perhaps produce children with
him. It is an effort to cleave, to become as one flesh.
Genesis 2:24
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and
shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
It may be heretical to attach this phrase to oral sex, and it may be that the
meaning of the sentence is much deeper than most people know. The Bible
is full of mysterious phrases and double meanings.
Semenophagia is a great way to show love and have birth control too. It’s a
way to please the man if she finds it inconvenient to have intercourse, or
simply doesn’t want to today. It also provides several proteins and trace
minerals which she may crave.
The average ejaculate contains ascorbic acid, blood-group antigens, calcium, chlorine,
cholesterol, choline, citric acid, creatine, deoxyribonucleic acid (DNA), fructose,
glutathione, hyaluronidase, inositol, lactic acid, magnesium, nitrogen, phosphorus,
potassium, purine, pyrimidine, pyruvic acid, sodium, sorbitol, spermidine, spermine,
urea, uric acid, vitamin b12, and zinc. The caloric content of an average ejaculate is
estimated to be approximately 15 calories
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There are many health, philosophical and
theological arguments about women offering oral
sex pleasure to their men.
Prostaglandins are hormone-line substances
that affect the body in many ways. First found
in semen, produced by the prostate gland,
prostaglandins are known to stimulate the
contraction of the uterus, thus promoting
better, more powerful and pleasurable orgasms.
Any woman who wants to avoid pregnancy
and at the same time enjoy longer sexual sessions, more sex more often
and more powerful and pleasurable orgasms, should make
Phallophagia (swallowing penis) and Seminophagia (swallowing
semen) a “normal,” regular part of her daily sexual routine.
Put simply, the young man you live with is designed to be a milking cow
for you. It’s healthy for him and healthy for you to milk the cream from
him, and drink that health and life giving liquid as often as you can get
it. Any woman who doesn’t do this is missing out on a great benefit.
You are literally assimilating some of his life force, and this will keep
you younger and healthier, more energetic and more sexual.
The flavor is an acquired taste. If it’s bitter you’re probably just tasting
the zinc in it. If it’s sour it’s from other elements. If you’re willing to eat
cheese, or drink wine, which are alive with bacteria and have various
flavors, why not “man-cream?”
The young man is a milking-cow because semen builds pressure in the
seminal vesicles (little sacs) and he needs to release it. Milking him is a
great way to release the sexual pressure men feel and with it the
emotional demand for sex, and it’s a huge help with birth control,
especially in situations where women are not using birth control
pharmaceuticals.
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Our world would be environmentally better balanced with a population
of about 2.5 billion people. It is difficult to mathematically demonstrate
how this world can comfortably support more, and the present
population of 7-billion presents insurmountable problems. For this
reason alone, birth control with oral sex first, followed by washing and
then long intercourse without male ejaculation is a cost free and healthy solution to
the problem. Everyone enjoys the sex and the orgasmic release and there’s a far
lower chance of unwanted pregnancy. Oral sex as play, satisfaction and birth control
could be a major factor in the survival of our species on this small planet.
Women in ancient times and even today all over the world, notably in Japan and
S.E. Asia, think draining a man this way is perfectly natural and “nurse” from their
man’s penis regularly. Many seem to instinctively know this is good for them. Only
in the “Christianized western world” have women received a message that this isn’t
right in some way. Likewise there have always been lesbian encounters world wide
and only in the Christianized world were they told “You mustn’t do that.”
Particularly, only The Apostle Paul writes about this at length. For some of us his
authority is questionable. Did he really meet Jesus on the road to Damascus or was
he just telling a story? He had horrendous fights with the other apostles even to the
point they held a hearing and asked him what he was preaching and was he on their
side or not?
There are too many questions to have an absolute positive answer about anyone’s
sexual rightness or wrongness.
Even in Shakespeare mentions oral sex and other sex practices in his plays.
The works of Shakespeare contain more than 700 puns on sex and more than 400 on
genitals. But, sadly, most of these have been kept under wraps for centuries, depriving
the world of some of the sharpest, most sophisticated and hilarious jokes in the whole of
literature. Shakespeare’s sexual wordplay ranges from uproarious innuendoes to
profoundly moving expressions of emotional pain. His kings, queens and aristocrats are
as foul-mouthed as his clowns, and his women are expert dealers in the raciest doubleentendres.
Why so many sexual puns? Shakespeare lived in a world that was vulgar and brutal by
our standards, and people across the social spectrum spoke in a language that was full
of colourful, bawdy and often blatantly filthy speech.
His first patron, the Lord Chamberlain, was Queen Elizabeth I’s cousin, known for his
‘custom of swearing’and ‘obscenity in speaking’(as well as for fathering several
illegitimate children and growing rich from the brothels up the road from Shakespeare’s
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theatre!) Shakespeare’s second patron was the King himself, Elizabeth’s successor
James I, who was known as ‘the foul-mouthed King’.
Shakespeare’s theatre, the Globe, was located at the heart of London’s most notorious
red-light district, Bankside (not far from where the reconstructed Globe stands today),
and his plays abound with brothels. His most famous prostitute is Mistress Quickly —
her name itself an obscene pun on Quick-lay.
Shakespeare’s astonishing genius lies in his supreme understanding of the human
condition, and one of his favourite devices for getting his audience to explore the funny
as well as the serious side of life was to play to its love of decoding meanings by making
his tantalizing subtext sizzle.
more: http://www.emusic.com/book-news/book-collection/bookshelf/dirty-jokes-in-shakespeare/#ixzz1g4FG20cm
The problem isn’t with you and your natural desires. The problem has been with a
few church “fathers” who made it their business to cause a lot of trouble.
Today, the Catholic Church in Rome is still reluctant to acknowledge the desperate
need for birth control. They have somehow denied even married couples to have
normal healthy sexual expression, claiming that this “lust” is taking our mind away
from a love for God.
On one hand the Papacy has said, that we should let everyone possible be born so
they might come to the table of life and accept Jesus, and on the other hand they
deplore the poverty of the world and work for charity. From their ivory tower the
make proclamations while the world suffers and some women produce 20 babies in
their lifetime.
The church wants you to abstain from sex unless it is for procreation. I might argue,
“Absence (or abstinence) makes the heart grow fonder – for someone else! Where’s
the good in that?
Sex, particularly between husband and wife is a health and social issue. I think
sexual moral issues must lie between you and God, not you and a Church or a
Temple. Sex is not a religious issue and should never be the determined by dogma.
The dogma of the Catholic Church in particular has caused more confusion and
violent upheaval than any other historically long-term institution. They indeed have
done much to chase people away from Christ than draw people to the true Christ. If
you doubt this, just consider how many Catholic churches lie empty nowadays.
You can see there are plenty of strong arguments as to why a woman might want to suck
a man off and girls are known these days to indicate their desire for doing so as we see in
this photo.
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There are many oral sex positions.
Oral Sex, as all sex, should begin with the
psychological seduction. I remember watching a
beautiful blonde girl in a college cafeteria peal a
banana and eat it.
She was so beautiful and the suggestions that picture
made caused me to shudder with excitement and
desire. Doing little suggestive things for him can make
him crazy with desire, just as sending you little txt
messages through the day can make your heart beat a
little harder too.
Like what? Look him in the eyes while you seductively eat a banana, ice cream,
even lick oatmeal off a spoon. (General Mills ran a TV ad like that
years ago. It was very powerful, and I think the producers killed
the ad because in those days it was a bit too suggestive for polite
society to tolerate.)
Push your tongue into the side of your mouth as in the
photo you saw, and hold your hand to your lips like you’re
sucking him. He’ll get the message. “How about us doing some of
this?”
And if he can’t stop himself from cumming too quickly,
this is a great way to bring him off, then play together a bit more
and after 20-minutes he’ll be ready to fuck you to your heart’s
content. This is the ideal way for a hot woman to turn her bf into a
long term fuck-toy. Any complaints about that on a day off from work?
And for the men, if you feel like you want to sleep after cumming, get onto your
feet immediately after you ejaculate. The tiredness sensation will dissipate quickly and
you’ll be able to massage her, give her oral sex, and enter her again very soon there after.
While slow dancing with him, press your hips to his and whisper your true feelings into
his ear. Sometimes a lady has to know when to be all woman.
Telling your husband, “I love your cock and when we get home I want to suck the crème
out of you and then make love” might be listed in the top 3 most welcomed messages.
You want him home with you more and out fishing less? I’d say this might be a strong
motivator.
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A lot of those hours away are revenge for the times you rejected him! If you accept his
advances, he’ll stay home more. On the other hand if you try to control his life, his
speech, his thoughts, his every action, and try to alter his personality, use the bedroom for
a battlefield, and behave like a control freak with serious psychological problems, he’s
likely to just “tolerate” the marriage for social reasons, or for the children, and be sorry
for the day he walked to the alter with you!
Oral sex positions
Whether you like to use oral sex as part of foreplay or
prefer to take it all the way to orgasm, whether you like to
enjoy it regularly or just once in a while as a special treat,
oral sex can certainly be one of the greatest pleasures of a
romantic relationship.
The Standing Man
As the penis is right in front of the woman, neck cramps do not occur as
frequently as when a man tries to perform oral sex on the woman. The
woman is free to pull his penis down for easy access, straighten her back or
squat if he is really tall.
The Sitting Woman
You can set up for this position by having the woman
sit on a chair, a couch, or the side of the bed. The
man should now situate himself between her legs for
easy access. For comfort it is suggested that you
place a pillow on the floor and put your hands on her
knees. The best thing about this position is the way
the man is situated between her legs. The man can
also finger her while performing oral sex. To mix it
up a little bit the man can place both of her legs on
his shoulders while performing oral sex.
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The Sitting Man
Women find this position much easier for them since
they are between the mans legs and can bend over, rather
than reach up to perform fellatio. If a woman would like
to increase her man’s pleasure, she can have him sit at
the edge of the chair while she concentrates on his
testicles or the perineum.
The Woman Lying
Women can lie on her stomach or on her back when performing oral sex in
this position. Like the sitting position, you are between her legs or at the side
of her body. When in this position don’t forget to concentrate on her inner
thighs, the vulva, and the clitoris.
When a girl is on her stomach, you can change things up by propping her on
all fours. Now situate yourself so you are sitting behind her and between her
legs. This position allows you to gently insert a finger into her anus, if she is
willing to experience this sensation.
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The Man Lying
Start off with having the man laying on his back with the woman between
his legs or at his side. When in this
position, the woman can grip her man’s
penis and perform oral sex on him.
Women find this position the most
comfortable. This position is great because
it gives the best access to his testicles and
his perineum which are both very sensitive
to stimulation.
MmoooOOOOoooo! >
If the woman wants to she can also place the
man on all fours or he can be on his knees and
leaning over a chair back or the bed
headboard. In this position she would be lying
on her back while he is on his knees above her.
Every young man needs to be milked at least
once a day and every young woman should have a
man to milk! Women are designed to be ‘cows’
when feeding babies, and men are designed to be
“cows” for women from age 14 to 28. Make this a
regular routine and you’ll both be happier. You’ll
also stay together a lot longer! No man wants to lose
a lover like this! The minerals, protein and hormones
in a man’s crème keep young women younger
longer, hornier more regularly, and give them better
orgasms. If you’re not sucking the crème out of your man every day like
clockwork, it’s time for you to start!
Every doctor with a good grounding in physiology knows this but our
society has been so conservative, they can’t tell you because that would be
seen as “unprofessional” so it has stayed a secret TOO long!
During oral sex in this position, the man should lower his body so she can
perform oral sex on him. This position is also set up for another sexual
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activity called, “tea bagging”. In Tea bagging the man lowers himself,
letting the scrotum drop into her mouth so she can suck on his testicles.
Genital Size Curiosity
I should say here to the men, if you’ve been secretly wishing to have a penis
thicker than that of a bull you should feel assured that scenes like these
wouldn’t occur in your life if you did.
One man told me he has some experience in this. “I’ve been photographed
with my cock wearing my Timex with a metal flexible band. My lover who
was then in The Philippines while I was in the US nearly went crazy when
she saw that photo.
“I’m not very tall, but my size is on the large end of average and really a bit
too much for delicate short slender girls, and especially Asian girls.
“I have occasionally admitted I wished I had naturally grown even bigger,
and every lover I said that to told me something like, “No. It’s almost too
much now.” He said
He added, “I do not experience oral sex
very much, and when I do, the feeling
of her teeth scraping over me gives me
reason to ask her to come up and kiss
me, instead.
Altered Photo – or – altered mouth?
(I like the feeling of my penis in her pussy better than anything, which goes
along nicely with the designer’s intensions, I think.)” But then, short slim
girls can’t take the full length of me either, so the only complete satisfaction
I get is with a woman at least 5’4” tall with some flesh on her bones. That’s
like heaven! The smaller girls are always a source of frustration.
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As you might guess, some of these photos have
been altered. These days there are guys that make
their living “morphing” photos for the porn
industry.
Don’t get too caught up in what you may have
seen on line. With Morphing there is virtually
nothing they cannot create. These are all morphs
and they can look real!
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This is the same photo altered. These days men graduate from college to
produce hours of non-productive “commercial digital art” and it’s all
nonsense designed to “mess with your head.”
If indeed the men seen here are this big they won’t enjoy much oral
pleasuring. On the other hand, a fit healthy man displaying a bigger cock at
least satisfies her fantasies and draws her complements.
2.3”
diameter
very
rare
You might be interested in these excerpts from a cosmetic surgeon’s
website. Additions from other sources are in dark blue. (Actually I think the
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entire breast and penis enhancement cosmetic surgery work is a bit like the
dark side of medicine. It has its place, but it is often taken too far.)
What’s The Big Deal About The Penis?
http://www.drgiunta.com/penis-enlargement-surgery.html see the website here
Why?
The root (sic) of this discussion begins with primitive tribal customs and ancient beliefs that
well “endowed” males had more strength and power, supposedly being able to sire the largest
number of offspring—at least in theory—and hence were deemed more valuable to members
of the opposite sex. Translation? Guys who were “big” supposedly got more females. And guys
who were “small” . . . well, they got what was left over.
Penis enlargement is, even today, a very important issue to men and it can be divided into
two different categories; methods that are largely temporary . . . and methods that enable
permanent penis enlargement.
It’s been reported that there are varying degrees of success (or lack of success) with
temporary methods—specifically claims from different groups including those from pill and
herbal supplement makers, and vacuum devices. Our focus, however, is on permanent
methods of penis enlargement, exclusively penis surgery, because in virtually every instance,
penis surgery, or Phalloplasty, generally results in permanent gains in both length and girth.
History of Phalloplasty
Today’s surgical Phalloplasty technique involves two aspects; lengthening and thickening. The
lengthening technique actually began back in the early eighties, in Boston, as a surgical
method to help children who were born with a congenital defect known as Micro penis
(measuring less than 6cm erect). In this method, the surgical release of the ligament
(suspensory ligament) that held the penis cradled from the pubic bone (S1-S5), allowed the
penis to become extended, in many cases, up to six additional centimeters (roughly 2.4
inches). By the end of the eighties, a Chinese doctor improved the penis lengthening
technique significantly, and he is generally credited as being the “inventor” of the technique
for penis lengthening.
Thickening of the penis first appeared in Miami, (Florida) again in early eighties, when a
surgeon experimented with the technique of lipo sculpture—filling the penis with the patient’s
own fatty tissue. It was the very first application of what is now termed FFT, or Free Fat
Transfer, a method widely accepted as being the original technique that produced high success
rates. Since then, another method of thickening has been employed by some surgeons—that
of widening the penis using tissue grafts, or dermal matrix grafts, whereby the body generates
new cellular growth on the graft substrate. But, in most cases, fat transfer or dermal grafts
yield the same results.
What Size Is Best?
The question of penis size is often viewed differently by men and women. Men universally say
that having a large penis is paramount for having a good sexual relationship. Studies show
that women, on the other hand, tend to change their viewpoint when asked about the
question of penis size in public, versus what they say in private. Publicly, most women will
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affirm that it’s the male “technique” rather than the size that matters. Yet, when asked the
same question in private, virtually all these same women say the opposite . . . size of the
penis DOES matter.
So, what actually is the “average” size of the penis?
In a rigid state, the average size is 14-15cm in length (5.5” – 5.9”), and approximately 12cm
(4.7”) in girth.
As for unusual sizes, it’s been reported that roughly one man out of 10,000 has a penis that is
25cm in length (9.8”) when erect. Approximately 3% of men have a 20cm penis (7.9”). About
15% of men have penises measuring seven inches. And the average male 75% have a penis
measuring roughly 15cm in length (5.9”).
Studies on penis size
While results vary across studies, the consensus is that the mean human penis is
approximately 12.9–15 cm (5.1–5.9 in) in length with a 95% confidence interval of
(10.7 cm, 19.1 cm) (or, equivalently, 4.23 in, 7.53 in).[6][7][8]
The typical girth or circumference is approximately 12.3 cm (4.85 in) when fully erect.
The mean penis size is slightly greater than the median size. Contrary to popular belief,
there is no scientific relation between penis size and race.[9][10]
Circumference ÷ 3.14 = diameter. 4.85/3.14 = 1.54” diameter
So the Average penis is nearly 6” long and 1.5” diameter, and since they’re really oval
the width is a bit more than 1.5 inches. Generally most of men fall into the average and
the best thing you can do is not worry yourself over it.
Plotting numbers on a bell curve we would end up with about 80% of humanity close to
this range and 1.5” in the far extremes. The photos I’ve dug up here are the far extremes;
literally 1 in a million.
Before you get too deep in wishing and worry over this I want to remind you one of the
most famous women porn stars simply said, “I make ‘em all work.”
The vagina is a muscular barrel. With a bit of daily kegel squeezing a woman can
strengthen her vagina to fit comfortably around a thin one, and she can stretch to fit
around a thicker one, with approximately 4” across (the width of a baby’s head) being the
maximum and the thickness of ¾ of an inch being the thinnest.
Adam and Eve sell a Slim Jim Vibrator just 1” across. If it weren’t moving through the
stock they wouldn’t continue to stock it.
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A great vibrator for beginners, this sex toys is quiet and easy to use. It's
also equally easy to clean; simply wash with a mild soap or sex toy
cleaner and warm water. Or use a condom for easier clean up. This
vibrator is compatible with water based sex lubes.
And the biggest one they sell is 8” long and 2” across. So, someplace in there is the right
size for every woman. As for medical doctors who are trying to sell you on $10,000
surgeries during which they inject your penis with fat – their website might say anything
and I wouldn’t get too upset about it.
I should remind you, women love their men for reasons other than penis size. I’ve
displayed (or will) photos of every sort of woman’s breast and vulva size and shape, and
they’re all attractive to someone. But….anyone who marries just because she has big
breasts is an idiot. Any woman who wants to move in with a man because he has a big
penis is likewise an idiot and that relationship is destined to fail quickly.
As I dig up more information on this I’m struck by a survey that indicated most men
thought they were too small but in fact were average size. Your worry over your size, or
the amount of crème you produce, is all a lot of nonsense over nothing. As I have grown
older I’ve concluded one should grow old gracefully and put one’s mind upon doing good
for others, and making less of glorifying oneself in any way.
What About Being Too Small? (from that doctor’s website)
A genital condition known as Micro penis is often diagnosed at birth in a small number of
males. As an adult, Micro penis refers to a penis that, when erect is less than 6cm(2.6”), and
less than 7cm(2.76”) in girth. What is termed a small penis is one that is between 10-12cm
erect in length or less than 9-10cm in girth.
Variations In Size By Country & Ethnic Origin
Depending on the country where one lives, it is said that there are differences in penis size.
More accurately, penis size is a reflection on ethnic background rather than geographic origin.
According to Andro Medical the following sizes are averages found from country to country:
France – average erect size equals 16cm, or 6.3 inches
Italy, Russia – average erect size equals 15cm = 5.9”
Mexico – 14.9cm
Germany – 14.4cm
Spain – 13.6cm
Japan – 13cm = 5.25”
United States – 12.9cm, or 5.1 inches when erect
Saudi Arabia – 12.4cm = 4.9”
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India – 10.1cm = 4”
Korea – 9.6cm = 3.8”
Ethnic Origin plays a greater role in penis size than geographic locale. It’s been said that Black
men are generally better endowed than Caucasian men. Some facts bear this out with the
average black man having a penis size almost one centimeter in length greater than an
average Caucasian man. Also of interest is that generally, Asian men or North American
Indians are less in length than black or white men.
I think this is enough from this medical doctor’s site, and I think this last
paragraph is just shameless advertising implying that “you’re not big
enough” and you should come in for cosmetic “enhancement” to gain a half
inch, after which you may never again be able to enjoy an erection and
normal sex. For a half an inch, just push yourself in a little deeper if it’s so
important to you.
One centimeter ( ½ inch) in length difference is insignificant. Genitals the
size we’ll see in the photos below are significant for the porn studios, are
ugly and rejected by most women, and statistically are less than one half of
one percent of the population. Your chance of meeting people this size in
your bedroom are about 5 in 1,000 or 1 in 200 or much less considering
geography, age, and other probabilities. Don’t get too worked up about this.
It’s all a lot of nothing. If you’re a woman meeting a man like this back
away. He’s probably a poisoned disease pit! Let’s get to what is important!
What do women REALLY want in a man? I’m pulling some direct quotes
from profiles of these Ukranian and Russian girls, because as a culture their
women are thoughtful and in these websites they are encouraged to tell what
they really feel and want.
I see my partner and beloved person as a many sided man.. I
think that my beloved man is to be cheerful, brave, reliable. It is a
creative man and a business man, he is also a good master
(teacher), a philosopher, he has many sides...))) He loves me,
respects and understands......
I’m showing the photos so you can see these are beautiful women, not
desperately lonely. Consider the wisdom of their words.
A true man. He is strong and his hugs make me feel secured and
desired. He is faithful and wants to have a strong family. He can
compromise and understand his woman. He appreciates my efforts
to become his true and great woman in his life. I see the man who
will be able to love and to be loved! I want my man to be an
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optimist and easy-going in any situation in our future life. I want that he will be
able to raise our spirits when we’re in need.
I like positive people and I like those who share my interests in
life – it’s a good basics for the communication. I love meeting
kind and responsible men, talkative and caring; but those who
value faithfulness. I strongly dislike cheating and lies, and I am
sure if he is my only one he would understand this.
I would like to see a real Man by my side. I would like him to be
strong in the literal and figurative sense of a word. He should
keep his words. I want him to be honest, kind, loving, intelligent,
with good sense of humor! My Man should know how to treat a
woman and how to make his woman feel a real queen! But of
course the most important thing for the strong relationship is
love! There should be a spark between us for sure and I believe
that it is possible to feel it even through the photos!!!! Don’t you
feel it??
My ideal relationship is one where we both can feel
trusting enough to open up our hearts to share hopes,
dreams, fears and innermost thoughts. Are you ready to
plan special little things to let me, your partner, know I
am loved and bring a smile to my face?
I hope I’ve made my point that decent women look for
something more in a long-term romance than the size of your dick. If you’ve
been emotionally trapped about that subject for too long, it’s time to develop
a more mature attitude.
Since we were talking about genital size, I’ll just finish the subject in a few
pages with sources from all over the place including Wikopedia.
Erect length
Several scientific studies have been performed on the erect length of the adult penis.
Studies which have relied on self-measurement, including those from Internet surveys,
consistently reported a higher average length than those which used medical or scientific
methods to obtain measurements.[8][13]
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The following staff-measured studies are each composed of different subgroups of the
human population (i.e. specific age range and/or race; selection of those with sexual
medical concerns or self-selection) which could cause a sample bias.[13][14]
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A study published in the September 1996 Journal of Urology concluded that
average erect length was 12.9 cm (5.08 in) (measured by staff).[6] The purpose of
the study was to “provide guidelines of penile length and circumference to assist
in counseling patients considering penile augmentation.” Erection was
pharmacologically induced in 80 physically normal American men (varying
ethnicity, average age 54). It was concluded: “Neither patient age nor size of the
flaccid penis accurately predicted erectile length.”
A study published in the December 2000 International Journal of Impotence
Research found that average erect penis length in 50 Jewish Caucasian males was
13.6 cm (5.35 in) (measured by staff).[7] Quote: "The aim of this prospective study
was to identify clinical and engineering parameters of the flaccid penis for
prediction of penile size during erection." Erection was pharmacologically
induced in 50 Jewish Caucasian patients who had been evaluated for erectile
dysfunction (average age 47±14y). Patients with penis abnormalities or whose ED
could be attributed to more than one psychological origin were omitted from the
study.
A study conducted by LifeStyles Condoms found an average of 14.9 cm (5.9 in)
with a standard deviation of 2.1 cm (0.8 in) (measured by staff).[8] The purpose of
this study was to ensure properly sized condoms were available.
A review published in 2007 issue of BJU Internetional, have shown that average
erect penis length is 14–16 cm (5.5 to 6.24 in) and its girth is 12–13 cm = 4 ¾ - 5
¼” which is approximately 1.6” thick at larger end of average.
This paper compares results of twelve studies conducted on different populations in
several countries.[12]
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An Italian study of about 3,300 Italian men concluded that stretched length was
measured on average to about 5 inches. In addition, a correlation between weight
and height and penis length was also found. However this was done only on 500
men with a small correlation value.[15]
Erect circumference
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The Cancún LifeStyle study, (LifeStyle is a swinger’s magazine) in which the
circumference of the shaft was measured at three points (base, mid-shaft, and just
below the head) and then averaged, found an average of 12.63 cm (4.972 inches)
= 1.58” diameter with a standard deviation of 1.3 cm (0.5 in).[8]
Similar results exist regarding studies of the circumference of the adult fully erect penis,
with the measurement taken mid-shaft. As with length, studies that relied on selfmeasurement consistently reported a significantly higher average than those with staff
measuring.
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You can see each studies comes up with similar numbers. The differences are not very
large for 80% of the men in the world. A very few guys are 3 inches long and a very few
are 14 or 16 inches long and unless they’re fucking a cow they’re never going to know
what it feels like to be completely enveloped in a vagina. I feel sorry for those guys!
As for women who want to experience “more” just for an experience, there are toys, there
are tubular shaped vegetables (like zucchini) and you can even whittle and carve them to
any shape you want. You can also carve clay or wax candles and create your own which
might be far better than some of the weird stuff the Chinese toy manufacturers are
making. There are guys in Guan Dong, China that hang out all day blowing glass and
molding plastic into strange “vibrator” shapes to sell. Now note, I said GUYS make these
things up out of their imagination. There are very few women making them. The few
made by women are expensive and they usually have smooth curve shapes. I don’t
advocate vibrators, but if you’re into them, buy a really good one.
A nice website with a take on that subject is here: http://www.trojanvibrations.com/sexexploration/g-spot
Also see:
http://www.completelafemme.net/amourtouch.htm
There certainly is a point where a man can be too big and women will
complain and even reject a man who hurts her. These people may be happy
to work for the pornographers but mostly it’s because that might be the only
place they get a regular sexual connection.
Also visit here: http://www.jimmyjane.com/shop/form6-p-85.html
http://www.jimmyjane.com/index.php (Get Link from LinkShare)
There’s a good bit more about Gigantic Genitals (with some
frightful photos) in the lesson concerning this subject at
If you’re interested to see more you’ll find much more about freak natural sex organ
growth in our lessons at http://www.Ultimate-Romance2020.com
Women fall for men for reasons other than age and appearance. Your ability
to pay the bills as she raises children has a lot to do with love. That’s not
always a pleasant thought but is often the truth.
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Your willingness to be faithful and pay no attention
to women passing while you sit in a café is a very
big deal. In fact I’d say every man should make a
point of teaching himself to keep his eyes glued on
his partner when anyone walks by or in the
background.
I realize we’re being a little random here but photos
draw comments.
I’ll reveal a secret. Big breasts look great in clothing. They’re wonderful
advertising signs. That’s what they do best. In bed – they’re not important.
There are a lot of “morphed” photos out there but this one was printed
circa 1951 and I give it to you
as a gift antique. This is
“Chesty Morgan” born in
1929 as Lilliana Ilana
Wilczkowsky with a 73FF
bust. This was a young woman
who could get a lot of
masculine
attention
just
standing at a bus stop. She
probably got some attention
from a massage therapist for
her sore back too, considering
she was carrying about 40Lbs
on her chest!
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We men are hardwired to find healthy women
attractive. She can be blonde, tall, and slim and
we’ll call her attractive, or she can be Hispanic,
with dark hair and an hourglass figure and she’s
attractive. They all are quite capable of turning
us men on and making us want to come back for
more again, and again, and….
This slender girl with an A-bra-cup or smaller is
very attractive even though her body is
comparatively so different from the big breasted
brunette. And another deep dark secret revealed
– often the slender girls have stronger and
tighter pussys! So, don’t go looking for another
body style. Look past the breasts and consider
the heart that beats behind them, and concentrate your thinking there.
I hope this alleviates the sexual fantasy and worry about genital size for
some readers. Burry that concern. It’s nothing!
This was originally a discussion about oral sex, do you
remember? So to get back on subject….
Sixty-Nine
Mutual oral sex – the 69 Position
“My tip to the guys is to resist grabbing the back of her head or her hair.
You’re welcome to gently stroke her hair or brush it to the side, but I find it
to be a major turn off if guys try to be too forceful about it. Give us time,
we’ll get it right!”
Haley, age 19
Sixty-Nine
This position is the most intimate of all the oral sex positions since it has
both parties stimulating each other at the same time. This position can be
performed while standing, sitting, lying on the side, or with either person on
all fours. Though very intimate and erotic, the sensations can be
overwhelming if either party is close to orgasm.
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Some people love the classic 69 position. The great benefit of this position is
that you’ll be receiving pleasure as well
as giving it, so make sure you don’t
stop on your end. You can position
yourselves in many ways (even
standing), so experiment a little and
find what works best for you.”
Variations on the theme next:
For the woman who has trained herself to relax and
avoid gagging, she can slip the penis down her throat
and out again stroking about once in and out per
second. It would be extremely unusual for a woman
to be able to hold him in her throat while he
cums/ejaculates. There are some rare few such
women. This is best
done with men who
have a penis 1 ½ inches
in diameter or less.
As for guys this
size….
…uhhhmmm.
Probably never. IF this photo is not a morph this guy would be statistically
about ¼ of 1% of the population. A porno actress might find two or three
such men in every 1,000 if they offered to show off at the studio. For us
“regular people” it’s about as likely as catching a
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On a medical blog a woman wrote, “My husband is freakishly large and I’m sore for
three days after he has sex with me.”
This illustrates the
saying, “too much of a
good thing.”
Variations on this
theme are a lot of fun
and many women gain
a lot of pleasure from it
especially if the man
occasionally moans or
in someway indicates
she is pleasing him.
Silent men won’t
enjoy the privilege.
Communicative men will get blown much more often. Brush her hair, touch her face, say
“I love you” and moan when it feels good. Very probably the above photo also has been
“morphed.”
The problem for those of us who are 1.75” thick or larger (the larger end of “average”) is
that the woman can’t hold this for very long and we often feel her teeth scrubbing the
skin, which isn’t very pleasant. I personally think this cumming down her throat stuff is
mostly a fantasy. I know some women do it but they’re rare and not a one of them has a
sexual pleasure spot down there, so why get so
excited about it?
The greatest pleasure I get is slipping into her vagina
and admiring how beautiful she is while I please her.
I get a big thrill feeling her squeeze my hands while
she’s cumming or having her on top, crushing me
into the bed and kissing me like she’ll never let me
go.
But you see …. I’m interested in Love and the
Ultimate Long-Term Romance and that’s why
knowing my lover is extremely pleased to be with me
makes my heart sing! Of course everyone doesn’t
feel as I do, possibly because their heart is made of
ice.
Just bouncing around related sex subjects to finish up ….
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Many a man would nurse from his wife’s breasts, and there are some people
who have been doing that for years as a way to express love to one another.
Many men also imbibe the wetness from a woman’s vulva.
See these links for more: http://www.erotic-lactation.net/
The word “Christian” here is really
stretching. I don’t suppose Christian has anything to do with it all. But it’s all right to
love God and love (even lust for) your partner.
And see: http://christiannymphos.org/2008/09/10/adult-nursing/
Q&A:
Adult
Nursing
“I haven’t read
anything about
lactation erotica.
My hubby is
interested in trying
it. I’m not
pregnant yet but
he said he wanted
to test the waters,
so to speak, with
me to find out if I
was okay with it.
I’m not sure what I
think. My hubby is
definitely a boob man so maybe it’s no surprise that he’d bring this up. I just hadn’t thought
about it. I figured once a baby came that “the girls” would be on active duty for the baby and
hubby would have to do without. I guess I’m wrong on this! Now I’m wondering what it would
feel like to give him my milk. What if he likes it? What if he likes it a lot (he thinks he will)? We
both know that the baby will come first but it is different to think about. How do I wean a baby
off the breast and keep it for my husband? Any thoughts would be helpful. My gut feeling is that
if we start with this that it won’t be a temporary thing and that he would want to keep it going as
long as possible. Please tell me I’m not the only one to have to think about this!!!”
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No, you are not the only one to think about this. Adult nursing is something that
many couples think about and/or try. Once a baby comes, I think it’s perfectly
normal for a man to be curious about breast milk. (Especially if he is a ‘boob
man’ ) I have heard of Christian couples who practice this and say that it
brings them a great deal of satisfaction. They view it as a type of nurturing
between them, and say it adds to their intimacy.
While some of us may think this is odd, I certainly can’t find where the bible
speaks against this. I do see where breasts are mentioned to give nutrition to
infants, and I also see where breasts are mentioned as sexual organs between a
husband and a wife in the Song of Solomon. I also found this scripture:
Proverbs 5:18-20 (New Living Translation)
18 Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you.
Rejoice in the wife of your youth.
19 She is a loving deer, a graceful doe.
Let her breasts satisfy you always.
May you always be captivated by her love.
It would seem to me, that God is saying that it is okay for a husband and his
wife to enjoy her breasts in all their glory. I don’t see any rules or
commandments limiting breast play.
There are also some marriages that continue with the adult nursing, even after
the baby has been weaned. Just know that this does take work. The breasts
need to be suckled several times a day in order to keep lactating. This can be
difficult to do with most couples’ schedules. Pumping may help some, but you
may become tiresome of the whole thing. It takes a great deal of commitment to
continue nursing after the baby has stopped.
As I write this article, I’m reminded of a friend of mine who was nursing her one
year old. Her husband complained one morning that they were out of milk for his
cereal. She told him to feel free to defrost some of her breast milk and use it! He
started acting like he was gagging and such, and they both laughed. He did end
up trying it later, out of curiosity, but found he didn’t like it.
Like many other things, this does have the potential to become a fetish, so I
would caution you to just be aware of that. Other than that, this seems to be
something that you, as a couple, will just need to decide on together. If any of
our readers have any experience with this, maybe they will leave a comment or
advice for you.
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Well, the woman has a point that it may become a fetish. Would it be so
bad if your husband had a fetish about making love to you? If he was in lust
and in love with you for years and years, would that be so trying? I just hear
some New York City woman bitching,
“Oh, my goddamned husband, he makes me cum repeatedly every
day! I just hate that!” (yeah, sure you do.) “And then he treats me good,
smiles and lot and takes me to nice places for dinner every other night. I
can’t stand it when he does that!”
“Yeah, I know. I feel bad for ya. I like staying home washing dishes
and scrubbing pots.”
For additional information and support on ANR (Adult Nursing Relationship)
check out: Woman-essence. Or http://hismilkmaid.com/ (same place)
http://hismilkmaid.com/my-journal-bringing-my-milk-back/3-to-7-weeks-page-1/
I’m not judging right or wrong. I see there’s quite a lot of this discussion on the
net.
I want to encourage you to see her writing and consider this excerpt from her
journal.
Seventeen Weeks, (4 months)
Posted March 8, 2009
Something has changed this week, but I am not sure I can put this in words.
I know I have been saying that, “Just when I think it can’t get any better it does.” Well it
just got better again. This time though, I can imagine it getting even better. There is a
kind of intimacy that is all together new to our relationship. Actually, it is new to me
personally. This is why I am having a hard time describing it. All I can say is that it is very
precious and deep. It is a point where there are no walls between us. We are both
vulnerable and emotionally naked. I can look into his eyes and know he has let me
inside.
At this point I feel this intimacy only when he is at my bosom. If this was to carry over
into the rest of our times together… I could not imagine hiding anything from each other.
I have heard of a couple cases, where the intimacy gets to be too deep for someone,
and they are scared off from it. I can see now how that is possible. This nakedness…
this vulnerability… on both parties part; Can any of us afford to be so well known, and so
open to another person?
I am finding that I have to ask this of myself. Is there anything I wish for no one else, not
even my mate, to know about me? Can I let him inside me like this?
Then the hardest question; If something was to happen… and we were to be torn apart,
could I survive it? If he was to be mean or unfaithful in the slightest way, I believe the
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pain would be felt deeper then any pain I have ever felt before. What of death? What if I
was to be left behind?
Thing is, this vulnerability is going both ways. I can feel his guard going down with my
own. Maybe this is why it is even possible… because we are both becoming more naked
together.
I am finding my love for him growing. I could never imagine intentionally hurting him. I
feel a need to be cautious, so I don’t accidentally give him reason to bolt from what is
happening. I also have to watch myself, being aware that I do not back off from this
either.
After 25 years of marriage, we have a lot of history. I never imagined that it would be
possible to lay the negative and hurtful parts completely down, and be vulnerable again
as if they never happened. Even though there has been forgiveness and bitterness has
been overcome, trust has been something I have refused to allow back into my heart.
Can we be trusted with such intimacy? I can see that at some point soon, I am going to
have to make this decision. If the answer were to be no; then what? Is it possible to
continue with bosom love as an aspect of our relationship, and not have the intimacy
grow to that point? I have a hard time imagining it being so.
I am finding our relationship as it is, to be such a blessing. The preciousness, the
richness, the joy and passion… I believe it is something that very few attain. I don’t want
to give up this intimacy. I can not imagine being satisfied with anything less now. Do we
really want more? Is more even avoidable, without losing what we have in trying to avoid
it?
This is where we are at seventeen weeks.
The blue for emphasis is my doing. This is new to me, but I have intuitively
always felt it must be that couples have always done this and for those so inclined I wish
you would read her journal, experiment with it, and write about it on my blog and hers.
This is vitally important to the spiritual journey we call marriage. I believe
marriage and what we do within it has deep spiritual significance. That is why
“swinging” and the like seem so perverse and “Satanic” to me. Satan perverts everything
good. This course is attempting to take everything sexually perverse and revise the
thinking so sex becomes beautiful and good again.
Some people have criticized me as if my interest in great sex and happy marriage
was aberrated. It wasn’t me with the problem. It was them. They have a problem about all
things sexual and intimate. They’re afraid to open up and confront their own
psychological issues!
Marriage has never been simply a license to have sex and raise kids. It has always
been intended as a spiritual journey that brings the two of you closer to oneness with
God. Think about this and spend a year in this effort to be intimate. Write your own
journal and please pass the information to me. Together we, all of us, can open new
understandings to maintaining happy Ultimate Romantic Relationships.
NN
There are many women who are natural seminophages – (cream eaters.)
They have had a desire for this since their youth. A man’s crème is mostly
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protein, hormones, and trace minerals (particularly a lot of zinc which may
account for it tasting bitter in some cases). I’m certain women have been
doing this through all history for birth control, for pleasure, for the perceived
health benefits of more orgasms, softer skin, and so forth. It’s probable that
many couples feed upon one another and make a complete biological circle.
They complete one another, increasing pleasure, sexual interest, improving
health, even extending life span. I certainly do advocate this for those who
will commit to one long term lover or marriage partner, and remain healthy
for one another. It’s likely couples have done this for the past 100,000 years
and in most places no one spoke any word against it.
Bacteria from saliva can be carried from the mouth into the vagina causing
repeated “yeast infections.” Therefore a bit of washing between oral and
vaginal sex is in order, and it can be done even on the bed with a bowl or
two of warm water and a wash cloth, and a couple of small towels. A
bedside shelf, cabinet or table should contain these, any toys, lubricant and
massage oils, perhaps an oil lamp or candle or incense, and essential oils. An
antibacterial soap is a good thing. Extra towels keep her bed dry. Men may
think nothing of this but the esthetic is important to women. Just treat her as
if you have the situation in control and just say reassuringly, “Give yourself
to me. Relax and I’ll take care of us.”
In most cases, she will relax and later when you say, “Give yourself to
pleasure. Forget about pleasing me, just lose yourself in pleasure” she’ll be
able to do that too, and her orgasms will turn into extended waves of
pleasure that go on and on for as long as you both have energy to go.
When she reaches Extended Orgasm (which I’ll teach you more about in
further lessons) she can get lost in a personal time-space continuum – an
experience of endless pleasure where time has stopped. You’ll be aware.
She’ll be “lost in space.” You can cause her to orgasm this way for anything
from 20-minutes to an hour or longer (one woman claimed 6-hours). …
This sort of pleasure combined with your assurance that you want this often
can bring a woman to look forward to part of her every day with you doing
this again.
Sex can, and I think should, become part and parcel of life just like washing,
cooking and eating. It should not be a separate event. It should be a constant
part of all events.
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What man wouldn’t wish a beauty like
this to make love with him a constant
regular part of her daily life?
A gentleman with a bit of finesse in his
bedroom, can take the lead while the lady
relaxes. He can massage her, please her,
wash himself and her vulva, lubricate her
with a good personal lubricant and enter her
first with more soft swirls of his fingertips
gently around her clitoris, “torturing her”
until she is virtually desperately begging
him to enter her.
Then enter gently and slowly – just the tip
of your cock at first, in and out an inch, a
little more, a little deeper each time giving
her time to adjust, and allow you time to avoid so much stimulation that
you’ll ejaculate too soon.
She may want you to enter deep and pound the hell out of her right now.
Don’t do it!
She’s asking for more. A really good lover (you?) will say, “Wait…wait a
moment….I don’t want to cum too soon. Give me a little time to relax.”
Breath deeply, relax yourself, enter her a little bit again, repeat the process.
Slip in and don’t move at all for some short time until you can desensitize
and then please her.
Draw the pleasure out longer and longer. When she finally begins to orgasm
it will overtake her entire body and her orgasm will be more than just
vaginal contractions, the uterus will contract repeatedly (it does this to
“vacuum” in the semen) and she will experience the best of pleasures.
You can be sure when you please a woman this way her brain produces
hormones that lead to her feeling/thinking that you are the man she wants
again and again (nearly to a point of addiction) and she’ll want you longterm not just for a fling. Women also like to see men’s bodies and see what
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there are like in bed. The man who can really please her so much the others
of her past seem like children, is the man she’ll hang onto with all claws.
A technique I have written on in several places: The man can enter, slip out,
relax, do it again and concentrate on relaxing and breathing deeply. You will
“desensitize” and finally be able to please your woman for a very long time,
even an hour or longer and you won’t be inclined to cum until you use that
pounding technique I taught you earlier.
This was my answer to cumming too soon and it has been “too” effective.
I’ve done this many times and many time I don’t give her my crème – I’m so
desensitized I can’t, but there’s always a chance to try again an hour later
and she never refuses me.
In the mean time, if you excite yourself with her
this way several times through a day or even do
this without cumming for two days I can promise
very hard erections (she’ll feel the difference) and
your own orgasm will be so pleasurable you’ll
imagine you have touched the robe of God.
In the mean time, if you excite yourself with her
this way several times through a day or even do
this without cumming for two days I can promise
very hard erections (she’ll feel the difference) and
your own orgasm will be so pleasurable you’ll
imagine you have touched the robe of God.
Before we end off, I think it’s important that I give you more to
think about as part of your “weekly considerations.”
Years ago I read a story, a sexual fiction. It seems this guy was
on his way to a bar when he had a little accident. The car
wouldn’t back up out of the woods so he got out of the car and
walked to the bar, which usually had a few customers. Tonight
it was empty but for the pretty young barista. She gave him a
beer and he set it on the piano beside the pool table, and
began to shoot the billiard balls.
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With nothing else to do the barista came around and sat on
top of the piano, looking positively delicious. They talked a
very little, and eventually he admitted he wanted to have sex
with her. She said, “Ok, sure” and they had one another right
there on the pool table.
The story cycled through another beer and another sex session
and then he said, “I think I should go back and check on my
car.” She said, “OK” and he went out to walk the half block to
where the car was stuck in the woods by the side of the road.
When he got there he realized the car was really wrapped
around a tree and his dead body was sitting inside behind the
steering wheel. It was then he came to the realization “this is
all there is! No Heaven, no Hell – just this! At least I guess this
is all there is. I have an eternity of that bar and that girl.”
If this course were a year of just sex -- about rubbing bodies
together, it would be a little like the guy with his “angel” in the
bar. Eventually, we’ll have taught the basics and the many
details about pleasing your lover physically, and move into
bigger and better thoughts.
As stated in earlier lessons, I teach a somewhat circuitous
path. It’s a bit like a large central cloud of main thought with
many lines drawn to side thoughts. The American schooling
system has taught us to focus on one line of thinking without
side thoughts. The result is the inability to become anything
but a robot.
The robot adult is the grown child who was taught to be afraid
to do anything other than precisely what she was told to do.
She’s the girl working at McDonalds who can’t do anything
other than what she is ordered to do because, she says, “I
don’t want anybody to yell at me.”
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She’s the older lady who plays piano at the local church. She
has never learned to transpose keys or change cords from
major to minor for interest. If the Pastor would like music
while he finishes his message she plays the exact same
beginning of the piece, plays it exactly the same from start to
finish and ends it exactly as it is written. She couldn’t think
through a few cords to make a bridge back to the beginning if
her life depended upon it. She has been educated to be a
robot.
I am attempting to educate artists. I am giving you all the tools
you need to turn mechanical and psychological skills into the
art that you make of it. After you have learned “all the rules”
(the music teacher said) “you can do anything you want!”
That’s where I want to take you.
I can’t force anyone to absorb all of this. Some people are so
stuck in their belief systems they won’t even LOOK at options
– about any subject.
They might say: Don’t confuse me with new ideas. I’m stuck
the way I am and I refuse to change. If I have to learn
something new I might have to change my beliefs. That would
be terrible. That would mean I would be free to be self
determined, and we can’t have that, because for the past
16-years I’ve been carefully educated to be a robot.
Such people are so stiff and unyielding in their thinking, they
reflect the stiffness with a painful, stiff, unyielding body. They
call it “arthritis” but it’s really a reflection of their thought
form.
They’re the people who are sure they’re right about everything
because they don’t dare admit to being wrong about anything.
To admit “wrongness” would mean, “I’m not in control of
everything and everyone. If I’m not in control someone will
harm me or kill me. I have to be in control or I’ll die! My
psychological universe will collapse around me. I can’t have
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that, so I’ll lie to your face even though we both know that I’m
lying. That’ll be my story and I’ll stick to it no matter what you
say.
These people hang onto any authority they can manage and as
they grow older and their children mature they appear weaker,
and more foolish as their final days come nearer.
And so they have marriages of quiet desperation. They can’t
really love one another. The sex is perhaps gone, OR – The
passionate act is mechanical. They might even have sex while
imagining they’re making it with someone else! Their favorite
sex positions are those where you can’t see the partner’s face
or look into his/her eyes.
Yes I know I’m being tough on you. I’m asking you to light a
fire and melt the icy shell around your thought form and free
yourself to become a self determined artist.
Like most journeys, self-evolvement has a starting point. That
starting point is the recognition that some (or even most) of
your guiding values and beliefs are based on imitation of
parents, teachers, someone in authority or even someone
failing.
So consider these ideas this week.
1. IS the life you are living a copy of someone else's? Is it a
play you have created by borrowing what you
unconsciously absorbed from others?
Is my demeanor, my behavior, the clothes I wear, the fashion
of my hair, my voice, my smiles or lack of them, all made to fit
what others expect of me? What sort of person and behavior
would I prefer to display?
2. Do I have the courage, honesty and perseverance to
discover that the character I play in this drama I call
“life” is really not me? Am I really someone else much
freer and more independent?
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If I changed would other people reject me? Do I really care if I
shake up their “mind set” a little and find myself along the
way?
3. If I am the source of all my thought what can harm me
– the real spirit that animates this body? What can
harm that?
Am I a meat body? Am I my thoughts? Am I subject to matter,
energy, space and time? Am I spirit? Am I anything else that
can be named within this physical universe?
I have created the prison of my mind. I have set these
parameters, these walls in which I dwell. I can change these
walls, these rules, any time I like and develop new rules. I can
be self determined, creative, and able to create for myself a
different thought universe.
As I learn to manage my beliefs, more and more of the
elements of life come under my control allowing me to be
happier, more able, more loving, compassionate and
understanding.
4. Considering the big picture, my self development or self
“evolution” is my most important personal goal.
I can choose to evolve. As I evolve I’ll become more able to
control the elements of life and be successful at anything,
and therefore I’ll be able to thrive.
5. I am immune to irrationality. I value wisdom, with the
Creator as the source of wisdom
You’ll get much more of this and a lot of help for the mind and
body in our course “Repeat Performance” at
http://www.Ultimate-Romance2020.com
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Here’s some from one our BIG Lessons!
Oral Sex Given By
Her For Him
Fellatio
Repeat Performance!
Lessons 6, 7, and 8 are designed to please both of you, but are
particularly for women. Women are uncertain about what men want
in bed (and out). They’re just as worried about “getting it right” as we
men are!
We address women’s particular needs and concerns in these three
lessons. Every man should own these just so he can share them with the
woman he loves now or will meet in the future.
We go to great lengths to cover everything a woman could want to
know about pleasing with oral sex. The entire three lesson set is so big
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we could easily have packaged it separately as a book and sold it for
twenty-five bucks. My publisher thinks I’ve lost my mind. He thinks I should
be selling this for much more. My contention is, we will please YOU and
other readers so much we’ll end up with a large list of loyal customers
who will want to do business with us for years. I hope you’ll prove me
right!
This subject is so big we have several writers developing these
lessons with me writing some, and editing some. Just when you
thought it was safe to go back into the bedroom, we’re still
“being eaten!” and all together it’ll file into your mind and be
useful as you need it just at the right time.
Here’s SOME of What We’ll Cover
• What you should put into your mouth, before you put
him in
• How your looks impact the quality of a blow job
• Kissing Techniques
• Best Positions
• Why He Desperately Wants YOU To Take Him Off
The Singles Market
• Techniques for Giving Head
• Voicing To Pleasure Him
• What Your Fingers Can Do to Drive Him Crazy!
• What you can say to make him want you MORE!
• Stroking Techniques
• How Your Fist Used Correctly Will Make Him Think
You’re A Sex Goddess!
• The Nervous System Switch That Is Guaranteed To
Make Him (and You!) CUM
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• Best Speed To Use Rhythmically To Give Him An
Explosive Orgasm
• Hypnotic Phrasing – I think I never should have told
you this “brain washing” secret so soon, but ….
• The Perfect Lover Persona – Answers to What
Hundreds of Surveyed Women Want to Know About
How To Drive A Man Crazy With Lust His
• Erogenous Zones and How I Can Get Him to Seduce
ME!!!
• What Three Characteristics Hundreds of Surveyed
Men Say they Want MOST In A Woman – and how
you can easily develop them!
• Becoming The Woman Who Always Gets What She
Wants!
• What Does A Famous Music Star Whom You Know,
have in common with The man who started Honda
Motors, The man who was laughed out of the IBM
Offices, and the man who started Apple Computers,
and what they know that relates to YOU!!!!!
http://www.Ultimate-Romance2020.com
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Oral Sex Given By Her For Him
Fellatio
This subject is so big we have several writers developing this lesson with me
writing some, and some. Just when you thought we were finished with oral sex,
we’re still “being eaten!” and all together it’ll file into your mind and be useful
as you need it just at the right time.
How to Give Head - Foreplay Tips
Preparation
Before you give head - make sure you drink some fruit juice or eat a
peppermint to stimulate production of saliva. The more saliva you
have the better the blow job will be. It’s an absolute must that you are
well hydrated before you start and that requires drinking water
regularly for several days.
Most of us have no idea that we are drinking coffee and sodas which
dehydrate us. We’re wandering around somewhat dehydrated all the
time.
It is a very healthy habit to drink a couple of quarts of filtered water
daily. At first you’ll complain that you’re going to the bathroom too
often, but then your body will have flushed old toxins out and through
adaptation you will find a right balance of water drinking to be
healthier and properly hydrated all the time.
Having enough water will help you maintain more energy and a
wetter mouth, and pussy.
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How your looks impact the quality of a blow job
I know a lot of you girls have issues about your looks, but don't worry
about that so much. Attitude is more important and, everything else is
secondary. Your man is so happy to be with you, perfect hair and
make-up really mean nothing.
Remember a winning blow job attitude is 90% and everything else is
only 10% of your success at giving great head.
Getting his dick hard
The reproductive system is actually pretty delicately balanced. Most
men and women cannot have sex on command. A lot of men would
appreciate a little warm-up time before you just appear naked and
ready.
Lying on a bed naked and waiting for him is NOT very sexy.
Reaching for him, kissing, holding his hand, touching his face, kissing
more and more, and then gently drawing him to the bed is much more
inviting. If you approach a man in that way you’ll likely see he’s
pointing his erection in your direction soon enough.
If HE knows that you want him, he’ll be hard.
If you have this look of desire on your face - you can be sure that a
young healthy man will get hard in a matter of seconds. Try licking
and sucking his fingers, or milking one like it was a cock, so he gets a
preview of what is in store for his cock. Doing this is likely to nearly
drive him crazy.
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From any favorite position you choose
slowly start by teasing him with your
hands. Massage him through his
clothing. Kiss his dick passionately.
Moan... then look into his eyes and
smile as if you're hungry for his semen.
While you're kissing his shaft, hold his
balls gently in your hand - remember to
BE CAREFUL, his balls are very
sensitive. Tickle them, be gentle.
As you hold his cock, with forefinger
and third finger lift more scrotal skin
toward the penis so you have plenty to
work with, and then slide those two into
the scrotum along the underside of the shaft toward the root, milking
there firmly. If he has strong PC muscles you’ll feel them begin
squeeze and release just as he will when he’s squirting crème. Press
in there and you may also feel his pulse. You may choose to take his
cock into your mouth while it’s still soft and feel it get harder and
thicker in your mouth. As it thickens look back up in his eyes, nod a
little. Slide your mouth off and while looking into his eyes put your
tongue out and lick his shaft from the bottom to the tip, back and forth
a few times - without breaking eye contact.
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Keep on experimenting and you will see what gets you the strongest
response. You’ll learn quickly what makes him hard faster. Once his
dick is standing tall and strong - you're finished with the oral foreplay.
Common Blowjob Positions
It is important how you position yourself when you give head. It
should be comfortable for both you and him, so you can both relax
and enjoy the experience. Also - you should be in a position in which
you won't get tired too fast, or hurt your neck.
#1
Your man is lying on his back with his head
propped up and you "go down" on him. This
position is easy for you. You can have control
as you please him and you’re “getting right
down into it.”
Be sure you communicate with him. If he
reaches for your head and presses you onto
him, lift off and say, “You’re choking me. You
can touch my hair, but not that.”
Men are visual, we like to see things - especially if they make us
horny.
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#2
When the two of you have been doing this
together a while leave him standing and go to
your knees, maybe in the shower or anywhere
you’d like for any reason you imagine.
This is an easy comfortable position. You get a
good view. You have good control. It’s easy on
your back and neck because you’re in a natural
“standing” position.
Your man enjoys the view and he’s required to do nothing but caress
your hair. You can look into one another’s eyes, as if you are giving
the ultimate kiss. Well….you are. A kiss, after all, is simply a symbol
of what you really want to do, and this IS what you (biologically
speaking) really want to do.
Meantime, he can admire your face, hair and eyes, your back and
your buns. This it the perfect view for getting a blow job.
Be sure if you’re going to be on your knees for long to have a pillow
or carpet under your knees for comfort.
The more comfortable this is for you the more pleasurable it is for
him. Variations are with him sit on a high couch arm, bar stool, or
leaning against anything solid.
#3
Another very good position is when your man sits in a
comfortable couch or chair and you kneel between his
legs. This is a very nice position for him. He can
luxuriate and relax as you please him.
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#4
Your man lounges on a couch or chair or is
half sitting up in bed. Like #1, you just lie on
your stomach and get between his legs. This
way your mouth is right next to his cock and
he is in a position just above you - so he can
have a clear view of your face, legs and butt.
This is good for a few minutes but not very
long as it demands that you hold your head
up in the horizontal position.
#5 - sixtynine (69)
This is a very much “over rated”
position. Woman on bottom means
she’s trapped and getting her throat
fucked until it is torture. Woman on top
without enough height forces her pubis
against his chin threatening to
dislocate his jaw. If you’re doing this
have dense thick pillows
beneath your knees allowing
the man some space to move.
If his hands are pushing away
it’s
telling
you
he’s
uncomfortable.
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You’re comfortable, embracing him with your body, your head is
resting on the bed. He is embracing your shoulders. It’s like a hug
and kiss with oral.
You may also try the both of you lying on your sides and this way you
both get a sort of 69 this way. Not ideal but interesting. He is
embracing your shoulders. It’s like a hug and kiss with oral.
You may also try the both of you lying on your sides and this way you
both get a sort of 69 this way. Not ideal but interesting.
Another, especially if he’s tired or you can’t sleep is to lay a pillow on
his abdomen, curl up and get comfortable with your head on the
pillow and his cock in your mouth and just nurse at it, hard or soft, as
an infant at the breast. It’s a very sweet experience expressing love
without any further demands. Sometimes women will feed upon their
men this way and men will ejaculate in their sleep. It’s very pleasant
when you both get it right. He might even give you a phone call some
time next day and say, “Hey! I realize now what you did last night.
Wow! Honey. You are so good to me. You’re the perfect woman for
me. Really. I love you so much!”
(and now guys, that you’ve read this you had better do it or your relationship is
toast!)
Women LOVE a hello call mid day or a TXT message. Always let her know she’s
in the back of your mind. If she’s not – there’s really something truly wrong with
you.
These are some basic blow job positions, there are many more that
work like magic. Whichever position you choose make sure that both
you can enjoy comfort and relaxation, to fully enjoy the experience.
Experiment “early and often.” The more the better. Getting good at
giving head is an art. The more you practice, the better you’ll get.
ASK HIM how often he’d like this. Young men might say 3 or 4 times
a day and mean it! And, some young women, and young mothers,
prefer this while they’re busy with other things, and then enjoy real
love making when the day’s busy-ness is done.
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This is a great way to keep a man happy and willing to stay with you!
If he knows you love pleasing him, you exponentially increase your
chances of keeping him with you to complete a family.
Single motherhood is a TERRIBLE idea. You need a man. The two of
you need to make a commitment. You need to know how often he
would like some sexual stimulation. Some young men would like to
ejaculate up to five times a day. If you have sincerely told him you
love doing this and that you want to be “fed” several times a day, the
two of you will discover a deepening relationship and with it the
completion of a family commitment you (and the child) so desperately
need.
Little sex fantasies as I have added later (don’t ruin it. Wait till you get
there) make it more fun. Hint: Every man wants to be wanted,
needed, even demanded.
In that vein I will tell you, some of us men secretly want a woman to
pin us to the bed or the wall and say something like, “This is it for you.
I’m taking you off the singles market. You belong to me now. I want
your cock and your crème and your love as much as I can get. I will
belong to you. YOU belong to me. Forget other women. No one will
treat you better or love you more than I will.” Then seal it with a kiss,
or maybe a kiss, a blow job and the fuck of the century. Hey! It’s a lot
better than begging! Tell him, “I WANT You” and it’s likely you’ll get
what you want, and he’ll feel extremely privileged, and complemented
about it. He might even tell a few friends. She took me off the singles
market. I had no choice. Thank God, the search is ended. I can finally
relax and enjoy a life of secure love with her!
Oh! You never thought of it that way. You thought men want to
roam around like stray dogs forever. No. Many of us do not. Many of
us are looking for a home.
Beg a man and you might possibly get what you want. Demand his
body and soul and you’ll probably always get what you want, because
he is secretly uncertain what you think and he’s a terrible mind
reader. When he KNOWS you want him he can relax and enjoy the
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experience. He has also (like you?) looked in the mirror and thought,
“I’m not good looking. No girl wants this.”
When you prove otherwise, he feels as if his second half has finally
joined him. He feels a security he has secretly longed for since age
15. Now at last he can relax and enjoy.
“Finally, after 500 years, someone bites Me!”
The vampirella (female vampire) movies are funny and silly but I think
they reflect this profoundly seated desire to be taken. Finally, I’ve met
the woman who wants me! So don’t be afraid to repeatedly from day
to day say, “I’m thinking of you. I want you with me. I want you in my
bed! I want to serve breakfast to you before go to work. I want to
share my life with you.
It’s what you really feel, and HE has to know without question that he
is really wanted.
Techniques for Giving Great Head
Even if you feel you know how to give great head already, you may
find something in this article that will further blow your man's mind.
Some of the sexiest blows happen when the man is soft and you
begin by suckling at his soft cock, moving it around in your mouth
with your tongue while you feel it thicken in your mouth. Swirl your
tongue around it in circles before it gets too thick. It’s a rare sensation
that nothing can match.
Deep voice humming, like a low growl that resonates to your mouth
adds a vibrational touch. Pressing a vibrator to your tongue or mouth
as you give oral sex will also give interesting sensations.
Once you've completed foreplay and his cock is proud and erect you
have two options - One is that you immediately start milking him with
your mouth, or you can slowly tease him and make him wait.
Take a little time and ‘torture” him with desire.
Play your fingertips over his cock. Lick the underside of his cock and
frenulum (where the shaft meets the head) while you roll his balls in
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your hand. Make him so hot he’s virtually forcing his pelvis forward
begging to be swallowed.
Build his anticipation and arousal to an incredible level. Tell him how
much you like his cock. If you really feel that way tell him, “I love your
cock. I think I’m addicted to it. I never get enough. I always want you
again and some more. Rub your breast cleavage around his shaft.
Tickle his cock with your nails, softly touch the inside of his legs.
Tickle his balls. All this will make him go nearly crazy with desire.
Women particularly have to know when to stop teasing and satisfy
the beast. Teasing for some men can be a very fine line. When he
says, “Oh, Baby, Please…” don’t torture him any longer. Take me.
Just smile, say, “I love you” and get busy “milking.” A little frustration
is cute. A little too much turns to anger and ruins everything.
Your options are basically endless. The art is combining all of the
good blowjob techniques, using the right one's at the right time and
getting ready for the grand finale. So, here are a few basic, but
effective things you will be using.
Stroking
Remember first ladies, the skin
of the penis is loose from the
bottom (belly end) up, never from
the top down. A dry grip pulling
down (from the tip toward the
belly is an attempt to skin the
penis alive. Do it once and he’ll
forgive. Do it twice and he may
replace you.
Don’t expect him to explain this
for you. Explore gently and see for yourself how the skin moves,
before you end up looking incredibly stupid.
Some girls have absolutely no idea how to give head. Why on earth
do they use only their mouth? The mouth isn’t strong enough to make
most men cum. A pussy can, a mouth cannot unless it is aided by
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hands. Use your hands, starting from the belly end (proximal) and
pulling, milking, toward the head (the distal [distant] ) end.
Use every pleasure instrument at your disposal. He admires your
face and your breasts, so don’t be afraid to smile, rub his cock across
your cheeks and hair, enfold it in your breasts and speak or coo or
moan or kiss.
Almost always, while you're giving him head, while you're holding his
cock in your mouth also hold it in your hand and stroke it like you’re
milking a cows teat. The important thing about stroking is Tempo and
Pressure. Tempo is the speed of the stroke. The blow job is really a
“tug job” a “jerking off,” a masturbation effort which includes your
mouth, your hands, breasts, hair, even a combination of crouching
over him, taking his cock into your pussy, riding up and down and
telling him you intend to milk the crème from him, and then go back
and use your hands and your mouth some more.
As for the idea of milking him into your mouth, that really should be
completely optional. What really matters is that you drain his crème
and please yourself. Cumming down a woman’s throat is a fantasy
about making the two of you as one. It’s just a fantasy and is not
necessarily a better physical sensation. As for the emotional side, I
say there’s nothing on earth more exquisite than making a woman
love cum multiple times and end up with her saying, “In all my life, no
body did it better. With you I’m always completely satisfied.”
“Nobody does it better.
Makes me feel sad for the rest
No body does it quite the way you do
Baby you’re the best”
American’s are trained by our public “compulsory” schooling system
to be entirely one track minded – focused like robots on one
technique, as for example only using your mouth or only hands.
That’s ridiculous. If you want to, put hand lotion between your thighs,
and while standing up, grip him between your thighs against but not
in your pussy, and fuck him as if you were a man. Use every idea you
can think up.
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(Well, not bottles. Don’t get him stuck in a tomato sauce jar or something! And
while I mention it, never stuff the open end of a beer or coke bottle into your
pussy either. You could create a vacuum and be unable to release the thing
without someone drilling a hole in the glass. Scary and dangerous! And it has
happened. Don’t YOU be another beer bottle victim. I suppose you could sue
them in court for not having a warning label on the bottle, but let’s not go to
extremes to gather money.)
Usually as the blow job progresses, slowly increase the tempo of your
milking stroke until finally he’s indicating he’ll cum any moment. The
worst thing to do then is to stop. Like stuffing it into the back of your
throat and not moving is like the worst downer in the universe.
In your pussy he would naturally continue thrusting while he’s
cumming, so naturally continue the motion while he squirts crème.
If you want it into your mouth use your hand to stroke his cock and
even better, use the “knife edge” of your hand (small finger edge) to
gently pound into his pubis.
For most guys it's impossible to cum if you're not stroking it at least a
bit. It's hard to put enough pressure on the shaft by using only your
mouth. Never let your hands lie still. Put them to work for your best
advantage.
The point is, ….
You can emulate the same impact with a soft
fist pounding his pubis while you have your lips
slipping over the head of his cock, or have it
deeper riding in the back of your throat. Your
pounding at a speed of about 4 impacts per
second will virtually FORCE him to have a very
powerful and pleasurable orgasm.
A combination of pounding with one hand and with the other hand
milking with a ring made of your forefinger and thumb, and your lips
over his cock head will be really something beyond what a pussy can
do and he is very likely to remember the experience and wish for it to
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be repeated about 10,000 times before he ends his life. It’s also a
fabulous way to tell him, “I really really love you!”
You can also use some more lubricant between your palms wrapped
around his cock, fingers interlaced, and ride your hands like a strong
pussy stroking at 4-beats-per-second with the knife edge of your
hands pounding his pubis with every stroke.
I think most healthy young men could endure this no longer than 10seconds before they say something in Ancient Transylvanian and
cum all over your chest. When they do just pretend it’s hot car wax
and start buffing in circular motions. “Wax on. Wax off.”
Let’s just imagine for a moment that you’re pounding the hell out of
his cock this way and saying, “You belong to me. I love your cock and
your crème. Feed me my love. Your crème is mine and I’m not gona
stop till I get it! Feed me, feed me!” and then as he begins
ejaculating…
“Yes! I want your crème. Give me your crème. Feed me!” I suspect
he’ll end up inexorably in love (and in lust) with you forever – because
almost NObody knows the power of such phrases spoken by a
passionate woman to a man who loves her.
I discuss quite a lot more about secret hypnotic phrases to capture a man’s
commitment (he won’t realize what you doing to his mind) in the full series
of lessons at http://Ultimate-Romance2020.com )
Bonus Addition
The Perfect Lover Persona
In surveys we know the top two or three things men and women
want.
Women want to know:
1. How to drive a man crazy with lust
2. His Erogenous Zones
3. How can I get him to seduce me?
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Men say:
1. I want an enthusiastic partner who is in touch with her sexuality. I want
her comfortable with her own sexuality!!!
2. I want a woman that makes me comfortable being me.
3. I want a woman who is PASSIONATE!!!
Of far lesser importance, GOOD oral sex is highly rated but above it “She is
comfortable with me giving her oral sex. She is happy to receive it.”
These concepts are probably different to what you have expected. The media
has been busy messing your mind up. The porn industry is the very worst
showing you all sorts of dysfunctional personalities abusing one another, and
the gossip columns are the 2nd worst with their talk about celebs living
dysfunctional lives and with their endless articles about what he wants, to
add to your confusion.
Become excellent at giving, not just sexually. Giving must be practiced
unselfishly all the time. Give friendship, music, smiles, meals,
housecleaning, love, a friendly voice, a word of encouragement, a
complement, a prayer. Receiving selfishly – is a bit more subtle. You should
be willing and happy to receive and take an orgasm for yourself.
I remember being with my woman friend in The Philippines. These people
were very poor and while I was there we bought more groceries and the
whole family ate better. I learned after that to send more money because she
wasn’t willing to tell me how much she really needed.
One day we bought tropical fruit and cut it up for salad to mix with green
vegetables. I wanted to encourage her kids to eat more greens instead of
living on brown rice almost exclusively. We finally cut up a papaya for
ourselves and she said with a guilty smile, “and this is mine….” And took a
bite. I smiled and kissed her cheek to approve of her saying she could have
something. More, she’s allowed to take something for herself.
In the same way, you should not have “guilty pleasures.” You should take
pleasure without guilt.
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It pleases the man to give you pleasure. It please him to help you reach
orgasm. It pleases him to give you clit kisses and rub your g-spot and make
you cum. If you feel embarrassed or guilty about receiving this gift he gives
of himself to you, it’s a bit of a drag.
Become an excellent, happy, receiver. Don’t feel guilty about getting good
sex. Receive it, enjoy it, and be thankful for it.
You should receive and take it with pleasure and without feeling you have to
give back immediately. You don’t have to propitiate. Ask for what you want.
Receive selfishly and believe you DESERVE IT.
“Deserve” is an interesting word. It originally meant to devote oneself to
service. Later it came to mean to
to be worthy of, qualified for, or have a claim to reward. That you rate.
That you can justify receiving, or warrant punishment.
The word does not have a good background meaning. In some ways it is the
reverse of feeling guilty.
Take “deserve” and “guilt” out of your life and your vocabulary, and just
enjoy without feeling that you have to propitiate or give back in some way.
Be like a little kid who just gets and is happy to get it. She doesn’t think she
has to do anything to pay you back. She just smiles and says “thanks!” and
enjoys it.
Christians sometimes hear that we should come to God and just accept His
gifts with thanks. There’s nothing we can do to warrant any reward. Jesus
said to allow the children to come to him, and then said, you adults should
be like the kids. Be open and innocent and willing to receive God’s blessings
without feeling there is some way to earn them, because there never is any
work you can do to merit any reward.
The Christian gospel is about that too. Most people don’t understand this.
It’s about getting a free justification and being freely accepted and
sanctified. It’s about getting your debt paid in full. It’s about getting a free
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“get out of jail” notice. And you cannot do anything to pay back. You can
only say, “thanks!” and try to live your life better in future.
When you get “it” – the oral sex, the orgasm, whatever, just enjoy it. That’s
what was supposed to happen. Just receive it and accepted it Unselfishly.
Accept the gift for the pleasure of the giver! Because the giver loves to give
and be acknowledged for it. He gets tremendous pleasure by pleasing you! If
you won’t allow yourself to be pleased he gives up and goes away.
Men want a woman who is ok with sex, likes it, is passionate and
comfortable with her own sexuality. That’s why some of them stray.
They’re looking for a lover who enjoys the sex just for the pure delight of
the pleasures of the flesh. Some men buy prostitute time in the hope at least
here she’ll enjoy me, or act like she enjoys me and I’ll never really know if
she did or did not.
If you ARE the woman who wants to enjoy sex, but are guilty or afraid to
show it, or think you shouldn’t admit to it, you need to change that behavior
pattern right now. RIGHT NOW!!
Changing who you are seems tough. Live in a mental state in which nothing
ever disappoints you. See every difficulty as an opportunity to grow. Make
growing your passion. Be in a state of open mindedness in which you accept
anything, where you can happily receive everything. Where you can accept
that even your husband might balk at this idea and it might take him two
months to wrap his mind around the idea that his wife is NOT a latent,
hidden, sinful, evil slut. SHE IS A WOMAN. (Thank God!) She is a woman
who loves great sex!
This is not just about sexually. I mean, accept it all, accept all the pleasures
and the difficulties of life, and seek opportunities to grow. Growing can be
your passionate interest, and should be!
Women are more able to do this. Men are often too stiff and unyielding to
change their minds. They’re too wrapped up in defending their foolish self
pride.
Men will destroy lives, businesses, friendships, marriages, father-child
loving relationships simply because they’re busy being “masculine” and
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defending their social or psychological territory. They’re stiff and unyielding
and when they old their bodies become stiff and unyielding.
In this life time, make the most of your opportunity and seek your mental
and spiritual advancement which will include great sex and great love.
If there’s something in your life you want and you don’t get it, it’s because
you’re not the person who GETs that.
But to get it, you have to simply BECOME the person who DOES get it.
I’ll illuminate.
There are women who find a soul mate instantly. If he dies too young, she
finds another perfect soul mate a year later. NOT because of what she does,
but because of WHO SHE IS!
This is threatening. “How dare you! I am who I am. I can’t be someone else.
I like me as I am.”
No, you’re NOT who you think you are. You’re wearing a personality
costume which you can change at any whim, when you decide to change it.
We change over the years. We change based upon our mood and based upon
with whom we’re speaking or working. We change personality just based
upon another person’s tone of voice and the way she presents her words. Just
find three or four ways to say, “Oh, I love your hair” and see how different
the pictures in your mind of who says that to you become. Each person
saying that to you looks different and you imagine a different person.
We are different with our friends, with our family, with our co workers, with
a “date.” We vary our personality all the time. Much of what we do with our
personality is based upon “a belief.” The stuff we believe about ourselves
just works for us right now. It’s what I do, it’s my thing for now.
The person you WANT to be or always hoped to be is entirely based upon
the belief you create about yourself! YOU CREATE who you are. And you
can respond to any sort of stimulus in any way you choose. You can choose
to get mad, or choose to ignore, or choose to get calm and think about it.
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About 15 years ago a girl named Stefani Joanne Angelina Germanotta was a
nice kid, though perhaps a troubled kid with a difficult home life. She was
really too smart for the terrible public school system. She was a fine artist
and musician. She was so good, her parents allowed her to enter a very fine
music college at age 17, NYU’s Tisch School of Arts. She was one of just
20-people ever to be matriculated at such a young age there. She played in a
couple of small bands around New York and wrote several hits played by
other bands.
She, pissed people off. She was different, and better, and smarter, and some
people feel jealous and threatened by that.
She got someone so mad she took a bullet wound for it. By her own
admission, she ended up in a hospital mental ward receiving treatment. One
day she said, “I’m going to be a star because I have nothing left to lose.”
Today you know her as Lady GaGa. She just completely changed or adapted
her personality. She recreated herself! If you call her Stefani Germanotta
she’s a bit insulted and says, “If you call me by that name you don’t
understand me!”
She is still a rebel and calls herself a Free Bitch. She calls herself “Mother
Monster” and her fans “Little Monsters.” She gets what she gets now
because she created a new persona, a new personality, a new person.
For you, there’s a point in your future. That’s the woman (or man) you
dreamed you would be, dreamed you could be. You must create that woman.
You must give up the fear of change and fear of rejection and just become
that person.
People laugh about sex because they’re nervous and embarrassed about it.
During sex you are seen naked. You are your most vulnerable. You’re
afraid. Some people have never been seen naked since adulthood. They have
sex in the dark under bed covers. On their feet they’re always covered with a
robe or pajamas or something.
People laugh and joke when they’re frightened. I was in an earth quake and
made jokes about all of us gathered to talk about when it ended. Soldiers
joke about killing and waging war battles. They don’t think it’s funny. The
truth is they’re frightened.
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Some men take a woman’s hand and lead her to bed, and then peal her
clothes off and please her, leading the dance, give her great comfort. Such
men say she is beautiful, admire her, kiss every inch of her skin, run their
hands over her curves and speak about how beautiful “this place” is, and
please her so much she feels safe enough to release all of her resistance and
just enjoy it. Such men are the world’s best lovers.
I once watched Jane Fonda play the part of a confident prostitute, leading the
client. It was fantastic. She was so comfortable with being herself. I was
drawn into this love making scene and I identified with it. I recreated myself
in her role and became the confident leading lover – sometimes. When I did
it was always fantastic. When I didn’t, when I let my woman friend just
expect and demand bland sex because she was afraid to receive anything
else, it was always terrible. She said, “You’re a great lover” but I always
thought, “You’ll never know how good I can be for you because you cramp
my style so terribly.” Sex with her was always disappointing.
I tell my woman, “Give yourself to pleasure. Let me make love to you. I
want to give you the best massage of your life! Please lie right here face
down, close your eyes, and give yourself to me.
And I begin with massaging feet and then move on, as I’ll teach you. It’s
always magnificent. In my promiscuous younger years I was always
complemented. It seems impossible. I’m not good looking. I’m not tall. I do
exercise to have a nice physique, but was never a superior athlete. But for a
few women I was often told I was the best lover of her life BECAUSE I put
myself into the persona of the imaginary perfect lover.
You can experiment with the new you. You can begin in the bedroom. If it’s
accepted there, take the act out into the world and experiment with the new
you out there. Become the persona you want to be. Become the “I don’t care
what they think of me” woman, or man. Like Gaga, became “the free bitch”
with nothing to lose. She doesn’t mind if some people don’t like her persona.
She likes it. If she doesn’t piss a few people off she isn’t Mother Monster!
And being Mother Monster to several million young rebellious kids is her
fortune.
Allow the give and take of communication to flow effortlessly. Word
expressions have too many meanings and implications. Verbal language is
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extremely difficult. I know 3 to 5 definitions for every word I use. Most
people don’t and talking to them can often drive me nearly to distraction.
They think they speak English! What a joke! Getting an idea across verbally
is a little like doing brain surgery!
Touch is unmistakable. It’s meaning is generally very clear. Do touch your
lover, all allow touch to occur. Allow real communication through all the
experience sex play has to give to the two of you.
Take the risk. BE the woman who allows men to be themselves. Be the
woman who is passionate in all of life! Be the lady who loves her body,
loves herself, is confident and comfortable with herself, with her passion,
with her voice, loves sexual pleasure, and is comfortable with her own
sexuality.
If you are that woman, he will be that man for you. That is a fundamental
truth of the way humans operate.
It has been a truism through all of my life that because I was different I had
only a small cadre of friends. I felt like the character in the old novel
Jonathan Livingston Seagull. They ask him, “Why are you different? Why
won’t you just find fish at sea like the rest of us. Why must you fly inland?”
Adults either “hate” or “love” the Lady Gaga because of her differences. She
offends people with her differences. That’s why she is so popular with the
press.
The ones who have the problems are not the artists, writers and thinkers. The
ones with the problems are those who can’t think, won’t open their minds
and won’t permit themselves to rise above average. I have been running into
people like that all of my life. Working as a young salesman I could barely
say hello before people would throw up a wall of resistance.
I finally found a book by a woman working on her psychology Ph D.
Liberating Everyday Genius: A Revolutionary Guide for Identifying
and Mastering Your Exceptional Gifts by Mary-Elaine Jacobsen available
at Amazon.com.
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She explains there are a great multitude of people who are different, think
faster, have further vision, and they always feel like they are social misfits.
Great industrial giants come to mind who also were social fits for the same
reasons.
Mr. Soichiro Honda, the man who started Honda motorcycles which became
Honda Motor Car Company. He was different. He persisted right through
multiple bombings during World War II. The other students laughed at him.
He had new ideas and they didn’t like that. Now they’re thankful to have
employment with his company!
Bill Gates; They laughed him out of the IBM offices. His idea with icons
that you click to get a program to open was ridiculous. Now he eats their
lunch and they will never forget their mistake.
Steve Jobs, the man who launched Apple Computer. Tough, different, smart,
demanding, a perfectionist, a salesman, a visionary who understood what
people wanted and needed. He has changed lives and changed modern
civilization!
The problem has not been with the geniuses, it’s been with the people who
won’t allow themselves to express their own genius.
YOU can. You can express your genius, your abilities, the person you want
to be. You can start with your flirtations and your bedroom time and then
move on to express yourself as a different person outside and enjoy the
change.
Don’t change your name. Don’t try to do some sort of flakey magik kraft.
Just create a different and better persona, and then slowly fit into that person.
Create that person and become her.
You’ll love the change.
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Sexual Pleasure Trio
Part 1 of 3:
25 Techniques
For Pleasing a Woman In Bed
So Much,
She Returns Again And Again
For More!
This really is the beginning of a study into how to make a woman absolutely
addicted to making love to you. This compilation of interviews with prostitutes, sex
therapists and very sexy woman who absolutely adore the best the bedroom has to offer is
the first major “lesson” in becoming a lover women crave. You’ve probably seen the
t-shirt that says, “to find your handsome prince you’ve got to kiss a lot of toads.” Well ....
this is how you become the handsome prince. I used these techniques with the prettiest
woman I ever met – and she married me! She still gives me complements about my
sexual technique and says other men never pleased her the way I do.
Learn more about:
•
“Pleasure Potions”
•
“Clit stim 101: A short course is proper clit kissing
•
What the girls want in Nipple and breast stimulation. – (It’s an art form)
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Massage techniques
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Cockteasing – male style
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•
Deep and shallow insertion techniques to drive her crazy
•
Fabulous positions no one has ever spoken clearly about – till now...
•
The sex triangle technique
•
Much more than I can list here.
11 pages of densely packed information. Worth much more than just … $5.00 I’m
giving it to you NOW with thanks for being a loyal reader of my weekly lessons.
“When you said this was worth much more than $5.00 I
thought: ‘Yea right. Maybe, I’ll be the judge of that.’
Well I met this great looking business executive at a
convention in Florida and after a night out ended up making
love to her. She wouldn’t let me leave her that night. The
next morning she offered me a “position” as her “Aid”.
I travel with her, protect her, arrange hotel rooms,
handle last minute travel schedule changes, rent cars,
drive while she’s on the phone or doing papers. She’s let
me know the job requires that I massage and make love to
her almost every night. As long as I do that she pays me
very well, and whispers in my ear that she’s falling in
love with me. (She’s a tough business woman and very
cautious about any kind of love commitment.) Mean time I
can tell you that what I’ve learned from you has paid for
itself a thousand times over. “ James B., Boston
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The Sexual Pleasure Trio
Part I: 25 techniques for
Pleasing a Woman in bed so much, She
Returns for More!
A compilation of interviews with prostitutes, sex therapists and very sexy
women who adore the best the bedroom has to offer
You may have always wondered if prostitutes like their work. I have wondered.
Some hate it. Some won’t talk about it. Some adore it! The ones that do have told my
lady telephone interviewer what pleases them most. If you want to be great in bed and the
kind of man the women want to come back to for more and more, read on.
“I don’t get excited by every man of course, but sometimes the sex is so great we
both get more than he paid for!”, says Monica in Los Angeles.
Bonnie in Las Vegas concurs. “There are half a dozen regular customers coming
here who are so great in bed the girls actually fight over who gets them each time! With
one of them, I just wish I could stay in bed with him all day and follow him home that
night!” Talk about a complement! Can you imagine having twelve young hookers
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wishing they could make you their “for real lover” because you’re so damned good in
bed? Well, here’s what 25 professional sex entertainment specialists in Florida, Nevada,
California, Oregon, and Washington say turns them on and makes them explode into
orgasmic pleasure.
1) Potions: Some people like to try those syrupy lotions that make her pussy taste like
strawberries or something else, but one pro in Las Vegas, Michelle, reports she likes
“Heet” ointment. Heet is the ointment athletes use on sore muscles.
Michelle says “when you rub it in, it makes the area really warm. I like to put in
my pussy and on my nipples. It’s sort of an artificial hot flash, but it feels so good! It
starts to get warm in just a minute, and it’s like my tits and pussy are linked together.
What a climax you get!”
Well, she’s right. Those of us who understand how the nervous system works
know a woman’s mouth, breasts and pussy are all “wired” together. As for “heet” I’d test
this very carefully. That stuff is not “made” for use on delicate tissues and may cause
more irritation than exultation.
2) Clit Stim 101: The Proper Kiss: While clit kissing is nothing new, you may not
know there is a right and wrong way to do it. If you’ve ever had a girl scrape your cock
skin with her teeth or nearly tear the skin off milking down when she should push up you
know what I mean. At that moment if you were holding yourself from calling her “an
idiot” you can imagine how the girls feel when you hurt them. So here’s the right way to
kiss that clitoris.
Forget 69 position. It may seem like a great fantasy to get sucked while your sucking and
licking her but the truth seems to be for most people it’s just too difficult to concentrate
on giving pleasure to your partner when you’re on the verge of
your own climax, and likewise, it’s difficult to climax when
you’re trying to please someone else.
Most women will tell you the absolute maximum pleasure comes
when you stroke the flat upper surface of your tongue upward
along her vaginal lips and over the clitoris. In the 69 position,
with your nose pointing into her anus, this just isn’t possible.
The best positions for you to kiss clit require you to be facing her
body and looking at her pubic hair. That may be done lying on
your abdomen – but for long periods of time that will compress your low back and hurt
you. You can try kneeling, but that won’t last long either. Lifting her hips up on a pillow
will help a lot. You can sit her on the edge of a chair, and that works well. You can kneel
at the end of the end of the bed but that restricts you somewhat. One of the best positions
for long time pleasuring is to lie behind her with your legs bent from the hips and your
feet behind her head, or with legs stretched across the bed. Your head will be between her
thighs, perhaps resting there, with your nose in her pubic hair and your lips securely
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locked over her clitoris. Possibly the best position can only be attained using one of those
canvas swings that loop under her legs and allow her to stretch and swing freely. You can
kiss her vulva and lower her onto your spike. Use several bunji cords wrapped together
and she’ll bounce up and down on you with no effort on her own. It’s kind of like making
your woman’s pussy into an automatic cock milking machine. I’m sure, after a good long
clit licking, she won’t object at all. Being “trapped” in a pleasure swing while her man is
clit kissing might be one of her grandest fantasies.
3) Clit Stim 102: -- Teasing the Clitoris: I don’t mean to belabor the pout – aghhh
point – but my notes show a large body of advice in this subject, so we’ll continue toward
your Masters Degree in Clit Care.
The clitoris is the center of sexual sensation and it gets hard as she becomes excited.
Simple slurping up and down endlessly will get tiresome and even annoying after a
while. Missy, an Asian sex pro in San Francisco advises thus. Run your tongue up one
side of her pussy, across the smooth hairless zone just above the clitoris, and then down
the other side – all the while avoiding touching the clitoris. “Teasing my clit this way
gives me the best orgasms”, she says. “One man eats me really softly, but never touches
my clit, and I end up grinding my hips back and forth trying to put my clit under his
tongue. When he finally touches it, my orgasm is explosive.”
4) Clit Stim 103: -- Suckling the Clitoris “When he pulls my clit into his mouth the
sensations are unbelievable!” says Victoria in the LA area pornographic movie business.
Remember to be gentle because the clitoris is really just a small bundle of nerve
endings and is very delicate. Spread her pussy a bit to expose the hard clitoris, purse your
lips, and then very gently draw your tongue back using the vacuum to pull her clit
between your lips. You can dance your tongue tip back and forth around and over it
vertically and horizontally, and then in small circles around it. Change direction every
20-strokes to avoid irritating the delicate tissue. Suckle and release very gently as an
infant might at the breast. Alternately pulling and releasing with a vacuum between your
lips is very pleasurable if done gently for a short time.
Also try moving your head in a circle while holding the clit between your lips.
Also try deep tone humming to make vibration between your lips. Just remember to
always be extremely gentle. This is a little like petting a kitten. Do it gently and make a
friend. Do it too hard and you’ll never be allowed to pet her again!
Keep watching and listening to know if she’s pleased or losing interest. (Some women
will relax and say nothing as they move into deeper orgasm. Read my report on ESO
[Extended Sexual Orgasm] to understand and recreate this little known phenomena.)
Once you understand this you’ll guide her to orgasms such as she has never before
experienced. It will take time, perhaps days or even weeks, but it will be worth the effort,
I promise you.
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I advise that you discuss before you get into this with her that you want some indicators
as to what pleases her best. If she doesn’t want to speak she can at least press her
fingertips against your face (a gentle push away move) if she doesn’t like something, and
press the back of your head (pulling you into her) if she wants more. Usually, mature
women are comfortable with, and even find erotic pleasure in saying something like, “Oh
yes, oh yessss.” Or “Oh, Yes! Do that some more.” A few words or moans and pressing
her hips and pubis up against your face is as natural as the animal in all of us and usually
if you’re attentive you’ll get the message and give her what she wants. You’ll be well
rewarded for your attentiveness too. (If you were to ask me “What is the one secret to
making a woman fall in love?” I would answer “Be attentive. And, within reason, give
her what she needs and wants.”)
The Kama Sutra mentions folding your lips over your teeth and squeezing gently until
you get a little crunch. I’ve only tried this twice very carefully. It’s a little like disarming
a bomb. I would only do this with someone I know is dedicated to experimentation and to
staying with me. Never ever try this with a first time lover!
5) Deep Throat – Sore Throat? [You’d be amazed how many people get the name of
the movie mixed up with the name of the guy who blew open the Watergate Hotel case.
He was “Sore Throat”. – Oh well, back to sex.]
Before I move out of oral sex it should be clearly stated that some women love giving
head and some do not. Some openly admit they love to feel a man shoot cream down
their throat and some find the whole idea disgusting and probably will never do it.
Likewise some men get a great pleasure about shooting off in a woman’s mouth or throat,
while other men find no great pleasure in it at all. For me, mouths are too soft and pussies
can become very strong. I’m most happy spending my sex time and shooting my cream
into my wife’s pussy. However, just to be even handed....
Donna in Ft. Lauderdale says: “I don’t care how thick and long a cock is. I want it all the
way down my throat so that the guy’s balls are against my chin and my face is crushed
against his pelvis. If he fucks my throat and cums that’s fine with me. I love it! If he
fucks my mouth I get so excited that when he finally enters my pussy I explode almost
instantly.”
It’s not easy for a woman to relax her throat to do this. Some use a menthol gel to
diminish the strength of the gag reflex. Others just learn to turn the reflex off with
practice.
Two scientific notes. (1) The word for this practice is “irrumation”. It apparently makes a
man feel like a part of him is part of her now and forever, and perhaps that feeling of
joining is something some people always want. The practice has been going on for
centuries back to the beginning of recorded history and if that isn’t a definition for
“natural” behavior I don’t know what is. Some women report wanting to suck a cock
since they were children and discovered male genitals. Some never have liked the idea.
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Some men have always wanted it and some don’t really care. Hint: Raising the chin, or
lying on her back with her head over the edge of the bed is sometimes helpful in opening
the passage so the penis can slip in deeply. Allow her to guide the movement. Keep her
hands off her head. She can slip you in for a moment, slip out and back in guiding her
own gag reflex, relaxing, letting it happen and breaking her tendency to resist. A few
women have shown off on video swallowing a foot long sausage.
(2) Oral sex may spread disease-causing bacteria from the mouth to the vagina. At very
least use mouth wash before you do oral sex. If there is any hint of gum disease, I would
not do oral sex until the disease was cured.
6) Nipple and Breast Stimulation – it’s an art form: Most women touch their breasts
when they masturbate. That tells you they have attuned their brain to connect sexual
pleasure in the vaginal area with breast and nipple stimulation. Again, they’re all wired
together....
Angie, a hooker in Los Angeles says she likes it best when a “customer” pays
attention to her breasts. “Suck my nipples, bite them gently, or squeeze them between
your fingers. That’s how I’ll cum.”
7) Massage: Nipples can be squeezed gently with your lips, circled with your tongue as
you would do with the clitoris. Nipples and aureoles can be stimulated by gently
scratching them or pressing them with your fingertips. Gently squeeze and fondle the
breast with the palm of your hand.
When massaging the breast use a small amount of vegetable oil or massage cream or
a high quality skin lotion. (I wouldn’t use anything that contains mineral oil, alcohol, or
“petrolatum”. None of it is good for you.) Be gentle. Treat breasts with the same gentle
respect you give your own scrotum. You’re not here to show how strong your grip is.
You must show how gentle and sensitive you can be.
Use two hands and lift the breast gently away from the body letting it slide between
your hands back into place. Massage it from hand to hand in a gentle kneading motion
with each hand moving in an arc from outward toward centerline and outward again, one
following the other, the motion of the two hands taking one to one and a half seconds
each.
Raise each hand from the base of the breast up to the nipple surrounding it gently
with fingertips and sliding up and off it. Do it in such a motion that one hand follows the
other like a man rhythmically milking a cow. First she’ll smile. Then the pleasure will
relax her even more deeply. I consider that when she relaxes like that her heart becomes
yours.
(Seeing videos about massage or taking massage classes would be helpful. If you really
want to be great in bed, learn basic Swedish massage and massage your partner regularly.
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Some times I do a partial body massage for the trunk only. Other times I start with her
feet, massage each foot, all of each leg, her buttocks, her entire back, her shoulders: turn
her over and massage her arms, her breasts and chest, abdomen, pubis and clitoris, and
perhaps then enter her, or do it in reverse and enter her vagina from behind. Or I might
not fuck her at all. I might massage from feet to head on the back side, turn her over and
work from feet to head on the front side, then move around sit on the bed north of her
head and massage the back of her neck and her face and scalp. Then I’ll very gently wipe
away the excess oil with a towel, cover her with a sheet and blankets and then climb into
bed beside her. According to her mood and physical condition that day she may sleep or
she may massage me and then fuck me and then sleep. I’m not here to tell you I’m the
greatest lover known to mankind, but my wife thinks I might be.... and that’s all the
matters to me. There isn’t a man in the world that can steal that woman’s heart from me
so long as I treat her so well.
By the way, the face is an erogenous zone and for many women a facial massage may
lead her to reach for your hug and kisses when you’ve finished.
Always wipe away excess oil before turning the “patient” over or when ending. Finish
massage with gentle wipe of the towel or by making your strokes gentler/lighter until
they’re just a whisper, like a soft zephyr tickling the hairs on her skin.
If you don’t want to end massage and lie down, then continue by pushing the flesh and
the energy from the inside of her knees toward her vulva trapping her pusssy between
your right and left thumb/forefinger webs. Do this several times and then land on her clit
with your mouth and drive her through the roof. She’ll never forget you for this.
Massaging her while fucking is also unforgettable. You can do this on your knees with
her on her back, or on your knees with her face down. The only limits are your
imagination. I would only do this with a woman I hoped would move in with me. When
you treat a woman this well she is very likely to fall in love, -- which is great if that’s
what you want, and a real problem if all you wanted was a “fling”.
8) Cock-teasing male style: Women love to play with a hard cock. They often suck it
and then rub it over their cheeks and under their chin. Some of them just about worship a
hard pleasure toy. As she gets more excited, hold your hard cock and rub the tip up and
down between her pussy lips without entering her. Pay particular attention to gently
rubbing her clit with the tip of your cock. Tease and torture her until she’s begging and
then demanding that you enter her. Play hard to get. When she asks you to enter her, just
say “I will in a little while” and do something else, like kiss her lips and then her clit.
One ancient Indian technique involved kissing a figure eight across the breasts and
nipples, across the navel, around the pelvis to cross the clitoris but not touch it, and back
across the navel and then across the breasts. Do this several times until it appears she may
start tearing the walls down. Then land on her clit, hugging her pelvis so she feels
captured. Please her this way to at least one orgasm, (more is better) then put on bomb
blast protective gear and enter her. If you come out alive consider yourself lucky. If you
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don’t, you’ll die knowing you were the stuff of legends. We Klingons will sing of you in
the Halls of the Gods.
9) Shallow Insertion: As before, while you’re on your knees admiring her, tease the
pussy by pushing your cock into her just an inch or so, just enough for the head to spread
her lips, or just enough to bury the head of your cock in her and no more. Then withdraw
and wait a moment before you enter her again. She may start thrusting against you to
drive it deeper. You can wrap your hand around the shaft so she can only get the head of
it into her. Let her buck and scream a little as you torture her, then enter her with a full
smooth slow slide to the hilt. She’ll go crazy.
10) Deep Penetration: Because deep penetration would naturally more likely result in
procreation, most women and men naturally have nerve centers most easily stimulated by
deep penetration. One of the reasons men like to fuck kneeling behind a woman on her
hands and knees is that they can slam the pubis against her pelvis “sitting bones” as they
thrust deeply. You have to do this carefully, being sure the lady has had sufficient time
for the vaginal canal to engorge with blood and stretch to accommodate your entire
length. And of course, a woman with a little more padding on her backside can take the
impact of your pubic bone against her pelvis more comfortably than a woman whom
some of us might consider “too thin.” My experience has been that both partners will
absolutely cum even after a long fuck session in this position employing this technique.
Very vocal and bold women may say something like, “Oh, yes! Do that!” which of
course let’s you know with a certainty that you’re offering her what she really wants. As I
have said before, when you really understand how to please a woman, she can almost
literally scratch your skin off or tear the walls down when she cums. Of course, if you
want her to stay with you “forever” this kind of pleasure is an extremely strong (almost
addictive) incentive!
As you read my additional information about the X-Spot or the Cul-de-sac orgasm
you’ll understand how to take greatest advantage of the deepest of penetration. I can
assure you, just forcing yourself into her depths won’t be sufficient. But if you know the
technique and she has prepared herself properly, the Cul-de-sac orgasm she can
experience with extremely deep penetration is more powerful and satisfying than any
other presently known, and indeed the other orgasms, (clitoral, vaginal and G-spot,) are
merely sweet steps to this ultimately pleasurable release.
“I like it really deep,” says Julia, a prostitute in California. “I can’t get enough! I’ll pull
my legs up over my head to expose my pussy and make it easy for a guy to stuff his cock
inside me, and I’ll end up begging him to bang me as hard as he can. I’ve knocked plaster
off the wall while I’m cumming, it’s that good!” (I wasn’t exactly joking when I said she
might tear the walls down.)
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A deep insertion reaches areas not usually stimulated during face to face position sex. It
requires some additional flexibility for the woman to expose
herself to such deep penetration.
The woman on her hands and knees can also lower her head to
the pillow and lower her pelvis to the bed.
These two photos help illustrate another very good
position. The woman lies face up. The man is
squatting below her with his knees spread wide and
his hands on either side of her shoulders. He has
lifted her legs so they lie across his upper arms or
over his shoulders.
The thrusting requires that he be pretty strong
and flexible to spread his knees this much. She just
relaxes and enjoys the pleasure which can be so
long lasting she’ll work you until you’re near
collapse.
A variation on this is having her face down. Again,
you straddle her hips with knees spread wide while
thrusting inside her vagina.
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Another variation on this is to have her knees under her
shoulders while she is face down, and her head is on a
pillow. Here again, the man squats behind her, knees
spread wide as he thrusts. (In time the inside muscles
of your legs will become more flexible and this will
be easier.)
This position is especially good because the man
can be nearly upright which takes strain off his back
muscles. He can admire her back and run his hands
over her back and buttocks. He can also lean forward
to slide his hands under her breasts.
In each of these positions deep penetration is achieved. It must be done gently and
with her guidance so you don’t cause pain and even injury. For that approximately 5%
percent of men with cocks longer than 6.5 inches, caution is especially required.
11) The Taste of Stars: The first monk to taste the wine that was bursting bottles in
Champagne France said he was tasting stars. Actually, any drink with bubbles, including
beer will do nicely, probably even Alka-Seltzer or tonic water.
“I’d never had a champagne kiss before”, said Penny in Reno, “but this one guy had a
mouthful of it. He put his lips firmly against my pussy and forced the champagne into
me. It surprised me because it was still cold. But then I got this incredible tingling
sensation from the bubbles that made me unbelievably horny. All these bubbles were
fizzing inside my cunt, and this guy kept his mouth over my pussy lips to hold the
champagne inside me. When I came, the champagne sprayed everywhere. It was an
absolutely incredible orgasm!”
12) Stimulating The Perineum: The perineum is the skin just
behind the scrotum or on women just behind the vagina. For many
people this is a secret erogenous zone. A gentle touch here can be
extremely exciting to many women. Anne, a French escort in
California admits, “When I’m on my back with my legs apart, it
pulls the skin there really tight, and I can get off if a man strokes it
very gently. When he puts a finger in my pussy and puts pressure on
this spot at the same time I can’t last 60 seconds before I have a hot
rush in my belly and an orgasm soon there after!”
13) Erogenous Zones: While I’m mentioning erogenous zones I should say that with
time and training almost any place can be “turned into” an erogenous zone as we
stimulate the brain enough. Western woman, because they keep breasts covered consider
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breasts and nipples an erogenous zone. However, many African and South Pacific woman
who are always bare breasted think men who suckle their breasts are a little strange.
The Primary erogenous zones on most Western women are external genital organs,
Breasts and nipples, lips, and buttocks.
The region of the clitoris is a woman’s most sensitive zone. This is usually followed by
her mouth. Most women’s nervous systems are “hard wired” so that a deep kiss will light
up breasts, clitoris, and vagina.
Secondary erogenous zones are those with sexual connotations derived from society or
those specific to your relationship. These would include ears, eyelids, hairline, forehead,
temples, eyebrows, cheeks, upper legs – particularly inner thighs–and any part of the skin
that is normally covered.
For many women the neck and upper shoulders are also secondary zones. A touch, kiss or
massage here can send strong messages. These messages can be so strong that for some
women a strong touch on the upper trapezius (between shoulder and neck) or light
massage there will turn them on at once. I caution you however as it may offend a
stranger. Your kind intention to relax her shoulders may be interpreted as “a pass.”
Your friendly touch, should you happen to lay hands on one who is inclined to scream
“sexual harassment” at the slightest provocation, can lead you into big problems. This
can be especially puzzling if you never considered upper shoulders to be a “sexual zone”.
On the other hand:...Pass behind a lady at her desk, with whom you have a flirtatious
speaking and eye contact relationship, and run your hand over her upper back with a
slight squeeze on an upper shoulder. This may keep her thinking about the two of you
connected for the rest of the afternoon. (Try it around 3 PM and suggest dinner together
around 4:00.) It could be the start of something great!
Another Hint: The leverage your back muscles apply to hold your head up while leaning
over a desk can run toward 60 pounds and remain there for hours! Add to this the habit of
crushing the phone between shoulder and ear and you have a person in very mild pain
who may appear to be irritable and nasty, but really needs some kindly attention. If you
learn some massage, you may be her interest for life. Search the libraries, order some
videotapes, or call a local massage school or massage therapist and ask to have a short
course in massage techniques for the upper back and shoulders. This knowledge will
serve you well for life.
Tertiary erogenous zones are those parts of the body that on occasion feel sexy when
touched, for example the waist, hands, arms, feet, and palmer side of the wrists. As with
shoulder massage, massage of feet and calves, especially for women in high heels all day,
can earn you many points in the “I like him” department.
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14) Sex In Water: Sherri, a working girl from a Reno brothel says “I just love to fuck in
water. I can climax in anything: a lake, a bathtub, a spa, the ocean, even a shower. I’ve
done it in all these places. The water decreases your weight, so you can be suspended. I
like to put my back against the side of a pool or spa and spread my legs so the man can
enter me. I sometimes just float with his movements, or I can put my legs around him and
let him support me. It’s great.”
You have to be careful when you do this. Sherri says to slide in gently at first, and avoid
deep thrusting so that you won’t slip out because that will let cool water rush into the
now extended vagina. Ramming your cock in behind the water will create too much
water pressure inside her and that can be injurious!
She also advises before you get into the water rub her pussy lips and your cock with a
very slippery skin lotion. Again, I would a silicone based lubricant and absolutely avoid
any chance of coating her insides with mineral oil.
15) The Hard Stamen of the Lotus Blossom: Several hookers say
their favorite position is this.
With the man sitting cross-legged on the
bed, the woman sits atop his legs as he
enters her, and wraps her legs around his
back. With both partners leaning back on their arms the
sensation of a hard cock inside her is increased. “The trick of
course, is for neither of us to move,” Angella says. “Pretty
soon, I can feel his heartbeat from the blood pulsing in his
cock, and I might tighten up my pussy a bit. Then he’ll do something that makes his cock
surge, and all of a sudden I can’t stop cumming!”
16) Woman on Top positions: These positions are fabulous for lots of reasons. Women
can feel powerful. Men can feel like they’re being “taken”
entirely for their sexual attraction. (There’s nothing quite so
wonderful as having a beautiful woman just “use you for
sex”, and ride you so hard it almost hurts.) Men can use
different muscles to do the thrusting. Women can control the
insertion and the pressure and angle of his cock against and
inside her. Men can look up and admire and touch her, and
she can look down and admire him. She can lie on him with
her knees up under his arm pits and her head beside him on
the pillow and cum endlessly while he holds her hips in his
hands and uses his abdominal muscles and leg and buttock
muscles to fuck her into sweet oblivion. If he’s flexible
enough he can fuck her, suck a breast and rub her clit, and massage her back and butt all
at the same time. For me, these positions are “the most”. And if you have a woman who
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does some squat exercises and gets real strong legs, she’s likely to become the milking
machine and you’re likely to feel like the cow. MooOOOOooo!
Tanya, a big breasted X-rated movie whore says “I love to squat on top of a guy with a
good cock and let my pussy slide down slowly until he’s all the way inside me. It puts a
lot of tension in my legs and a ‘big O’ builds up inside me really fast, especially if I ride
his shaft in a circle so his cock reams the inside of my pussy. Oh, I
love that! I can come for a long time in this position, and I love
having him play with my boobs while they dangle in front of him.
As I cum, I feel my tits slapping against each other, and that gets
me even wetter!” (Yeah, and I’m sure her words got a few of us
even harder...)
This is a fantastic sex position and can bring tremendous
pleasure. Placing the woman’s feet on thick pillows to lift her
higher allows the man to trust into her as she remains
immobile and just enjoys what she feels.
17) Reversed On Top: Allison, another Xrated movie “actress” tells us: “When I get
with a guy whose cock curves up a little
this is my favorite position. I kneel down
on top with my back to him. All he sees is
my back, and all I care about his what I feel
in my cunt. It’s like having a live plastic
dildo that’s guaranteed to squirt hot jiz. I
play with his cock until it’s rock hard, then
I slide down on it like it’s mine and I can
do what ever I want with it. I can ride it and
bump and grind on it, and reach down and
feel his balls and even rub them against my
pussy hair and clit while he’s way deep
inside me. He loves it. I get to cum and get
paid at the same time. The camera guy is
right there photographing my body, my
bouncing boobs and pussy. I’m screaming
like an animal in heat. The director is lovin’
it. The guys watching behind the scenes all end up rubbing themselves inside their jeans.
Sometimes it gets so crazy the make-up gal takes one of the crew back to her office for a
quick one. What a job! What else could you want for an afternoon? Hey! I know what
boys like!”
18) Visions: “I like to watch myself fuck.” Says Gina, a beautiful blonde call girl who
takes most of her work from strip bars to Orlando hotels. I love the mirror. I like to get on
top and watch his cock disappear into my pussy. I also like to get on my hands and knees
and watch my breasts bouncing as he humps me. In my own house I have a bedroom with
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mirrors on the ceiling, and walls. When my regular lover comes over I like to lie on my
back and watch his slim strong butt tensing as he thrusts into me. We both cum and we
can watch ourselves as we do. I just love that!”
19) Watching Him Cum: Several hookers interviewed for this piece said they get off
watching a man masturbate. One on the phone told our interviewer: “I like to get on my
knees while he’s standing and suck him a little, then put lube in his hand and ask him to
jerk off for me. Watching a man with strong hands wrap a fist around his wang and wank
off in front of my mouth makes me crazy. I sometimes rub or tug his balls gently, or wrap
my hand around his to feel the power of his stroking, like some great steam engine
working to pump cream just for me. When he’s about to shoot his load, I love to have it
all over my breasts and nipples, or sometimes right into my mouth. After that, if he licks
and suckles my clit I cum so good it’s to die for.”
The general consensus seems to be that just as men get off watching women rub their clit,
so too women get off watching men work themselves over the top. After that, even the
slightest bit of physical stimulation will make her cum.
20) Triangle: Karen, a dancer in Las Vegas tells about her favorite sex triangle. “I’ve
got this thing going with these two identical twin guys who work in the hotel. At least
two or three times a month I call and ask them to come to my place for “some
entertainment.” They always say ‘yes’. I get them both into me in any position we can
dream up, some times on my side, sometimes on my back. Still, I like the doggie position
best. One is pounding me from behind while I’m sucking the other one. The thrusting
behind me forces the guy I’m blowing down my throat. At some point I stop thinking
about what I’m doing and just get lost in the feelings. Moments later I cum and
completely lose control. If the guy I’ve been sucking doesn’t cum down my throat at the
same time his brother cums in my pussy (sometimes they do), we’ll rest a few minutes
and then switch positions. I make sure both of them are completely satisfied and then get
them to promise they’ll come back and do it again with me in a week or so.
21) Spooning: Kari in Fort
Lauderdale, Florida says of all
the positions, she likes “spoonstyle” best. “I lie on my side
with him curled up behind me. I
like to feel his tummy and chest
against my back and buns. I pull
my knees up and he slips into
me and holds me tight, and we
rock gently against each other. I
can rest this way, close my eyes
and float in a heavenly sea of
pleasure. If he wants to get more
outrageous, he gets on his knees while I’m still lying on my side, holds my hips and fucks
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me so hard my big tits flop around as the bed bounces. Sometimes we both cum so loud
I’m afraid the neighbors can hear us.”
22) Good Vibrations –ooooWAaaaa!: Many women absolutely love vibrators. They
usually admit there’s nothing better than a live hot hard cock. Still, vibrators have
become a standard household appliance for many women. They won’t go anywhere
without a hair drier and a pussy massage machine. If used by a man during lovemaking,
they can bring on a stream of orgasms and a great change of sensation.
Bonnie in Seattle says, “I’ve got a collection of them, small eggs, little butterflies, big
ones with beads, plug in massage vibrators. I just love them. I like it even better when a
man fucks me and uses a vibrator at the same time.
I like it if I lie on my back while he kisses me and sucks my breasts and fucks me with
the vibrator all at once. Sometimes he’ll run it over my breasts, or clitoris, or even against
his mouth or tongue while he gives me oral sex. That really makes me crazy.”
23) Dressed to kill: Dorothy in Portland, Oregon tells us: “I like to fuck him when
we’re both dressed. I did it once just before we were going out to dinner. It was so
decedent. I pulled his cock out of his pants and started sucking. I got the sensations of his
cock in my mouth and that black wool smell in my nose. I got so wet he soon had me
leaning over the dresser table, standing behind me, holding one of my breasts and
pounding the hell out of my pussy with my panties pushed to one side. I could see him in
the mirror holding my hips and fucking me with his jacket and tie moving in our rhythm.
He was so handsome that way. When I came I screamed so loud he told me he thought I
might crack the mirror with my sound. It was fantastic. Dinner was nice too.”
24) Victory at Sea: Joyce, also from Portland told us, “We were out sailing across
Puget Sound from the San Juan Island. The weather was beautiful and warm. The breeze
was just enough to keep us moving and that big heavy boat was tracking as straight as an
arrow. We didn’t have to do anything but check our course location now and then. Stephi
got behind me and kissed me and then started rubbing my clit through my bathing suit.
Pretty soon I was kissing him and running my hands through his hair. Then I got up and
dropped my bathing suit bottom right there out on the open water. There were other boats
about a quarter of a mile away, but we didn’t care. Stephi slipped in and I sat down on his
lap with my back to him, and the wheel in front of me. The birds were screeching, the
wind was gently blowing my hair and tickling my skin, we stayed that way for a while
and finally Stephi started thrusting and I started cumming my eyes out! I couldn’t believe
it. We were so bad, but it felt soooo good!”
25) Blindfolded before execution: Several women told us they played with sex in the
dark or blindfolded. Not knowing where the next touch would be, and the excitement of
being at a man’s mercy was incredibly erotic in a safe sort of fantastical way. Several
mentioned the uses of food, drink, ice, sex toys, fur, spanking, and all said it was a great
new experience. Try it.
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Final Words of Advice: Be imaginative, and be gentle. Avoid drugs and alcohol. Be
very careful about playing with chemicals like “heet” or other irritants. Try new ideas.
My lover lived in a poor cottage on a small farm in the southern
end of the Philippines. My visits to her were like one very long
constant sex act. We had to say tearful good-byes while we attempted
to get permission to bring her to the U.S. I visited her several times
months between visits. It was a beautiful, bitter sweet and painful
affair. There alongside a dirt road in the pitch black under a hot corrugated steel roof she
took me to herself as many times as I had energy for her.
I once in the dark massaged her and then slid very slowly over her back occasionally
hissing gently like a huge dangerous snake, kissing her backside, tugging her hair with
my teeth, flicking my tongue in her ear, gripping her tightly against me, entering her just
a little, then withdrawing, massaging, masturbating her with my tongue and my hands
until she came several times, and then finally entered her deeply and just used her pelvis
while she lay there in the dark whimpering in pleasure.
Weeks later she wrote me a card and thanked me again and again for the sexual
torture that led to such sweet pleasure. She promised total loyalty to me and said “Making
love is so wonderful because we both in love to each other. Oh, honey I’m so glad you
tortured me with pleasure!
“Every time when we make love I feel crazy on you. I’m moaning very loud like you
kill me! Oh, Honey I’m addicted to YOU. I miss you like crazy. I still cum and wishing
you. I’m thinking of you always day and night. I so glad you will become my loving
husband!”
I only wish we could have stayed together. The US Immigration and Naturalization
service managed to drag the process out so long the affair ended before she got a visa. I
occasionally have called her “my wife” but really she was just my fiancé .
25 Quick Read Sex Tips (Mostly for Girls)
To Please Both of You !!!
Turn off your cell during sexy time, that way nothing will
distract you from having an oh-hell-yeah climax. If you
have a TV in your bedroom, ask that man to help you
remove it! The bedroom is for YOU, not for major media to
distract you!!!!!
Master solo sex first. Figure out what rubs and touches
work best so you can show your man exactly what makes
you climax.
Girl, get on top of him during sex. Not only does it let you
control the speed and depth, you can reach down and touch
yourself.
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While on top, slip him in just an inch or two and rotate on him for 4 or 5 minutes, then
get off, and get a drink of water or something! Then come back, slip him in again and
settle down on him as deep as you can take him and ride him like a natural born milking
machine. He’ll be on sensory overload and he’ll never forgive how much he needs YOU
and ONLY you!!!
Before a date, try a little solo sex. But don’t let yourself climax. At the end of the night
when you do it with him, you’ll be even more aroused.
Touch yourself in front of your guy during foreplay so he can see exactly what you like.
Doggie-style angles angle his cock to rub your G-spot and allows him to go really deep,
giving you a most powerful orgasm.
As he thrusts, squeeze your PC muscles—what you use to hold in pee. It creates friction
that feels amazing for both of you. Do this same exercise several times daily when you’re
alone to build strength and the pleasures you both can share.
Alternate stimulating your clitoris and your G-spot by gyrating your hips in wide circle
when riding him.
To do this, as in the picture, your man
lies on the bed or floor on his back with
his arms relaxed above his head.
Straddle him on top as in the picture.
Hold his shins or push on the floor for
leverage, and start swiveling your hips in
figure-eight motions so you’re moving
his cock around inside.
This movement technique allows you control adding an exciting twist to your typical inout motion. You control the speed, direction, and overall activity level. And as you’re
swiveling, your boobs will be giving him a show he’ll dream about for months!
Are you close to cumming? Tell him to squeeze your nipples. The sudden burst of
pleasure may be all you need to reach that peak.
Add a dime size amount of lube over your clit. It creates a smoother ride and prevents
chaffing.
Get on top while he wears a vibrating penis ring. The buzz-ing will shoot straight to your
clitoris and feel so good.
Breathe deeply during sex. Push other words and thoughts out of your mind and
concentrate, as you would in meditation, upon what you feel. No “things-to-do” are
allowed. No television, no music, nothing but you, him, and your concentration upon
giving yourself to pleasure.
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Have him bring you to the brink with his mouth and then enter you just as you’re about to
burst.
Before getting dirty, ask him whisper a play by play of what he’s going to do to you in
bed. The anticipation will drive you nuts.
Tell him to start with quick strokes and fast penetration making you more sensitive, then
slow it down and concentrate on what you feel.
Bring chocolate sauce to bed. Dribble it on any place where you want for him to pay
special additional attention bringing you closer to orgasm.
Envision what’s happening to your clitoris as he touches it.
Repeat something sexy in bed to maintain your focus. This becomes a form of selfhypnosis, and draws you closer to orgasm. An example would be, “I need this with you
every day. Make me cum. I’m cumming. Every day. Need your cock. Make me cum. I’m
cumming. I’m cumming.”
You can use similar techniques to help you build a desire for oral sex. Write out several
phrases that appeal to you. Use Positive phrases, with words related to “do” rather than
words related to “don’t.” For examples:
I like sucking his cock
I like it in my mouth
It feels good in my throat
Love it in my mouth
It gives me so much pleasure
I relax with it deep in my throat
I cum when he does.
When I feel him cum it my throat I cum too.
Cum for me Honey. I want your crème in my throat. Make me cum more.
I have really strong orgasms when he cums in my throat.
You see in all of these there was nothing that said, “I’m not” or “I don’t.” Choose any of
these, relax deeply and repeat this to yourself as your body relaxes more and more.
Concentrate on your breathing and on hearing ONE of these phrases repeatedly in your
mind. You’ll see over time your desire for giving oral sex increases and you’ll enjoy it
more. And indeed, eventually, if he shoots his crème into your throat you will have
orgasms.
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If he’s not doing something you like during oral, swivel your hips so your clitoris moves
against his tongue in a way you prefer. Tell him what you like. In my early years a girl
said, “Don’t lick so hard.” I still am thankful to her and still wish we could experience
those days again. Speak up! If it feels good, say “Ooooh, keep doing that” so he knows
you’re getting closer. Men are not mind readers. The more you say things like, “Yes
Baby, like that. Uhhh, a little higher. Right….THERE, yeah, that, ohhh, yess, do that
some more. Ohhhh, I just love it when you do that. Please, make love to me like this
again tomorrow and every tomorrow forever. Oooohhhhh.” You can be sure, those kinds
of encouraging words will give you everything you want, and make you into the fantasy
lady he has always wanted.
Place a pillow under your backside. Have him lean forward
after he enters you so his pubic bone rubs your clitoris with
every thrust.
Break the cycle. Suggest a new position or move next time
he trots out the usual, experimenting will excite both of you.
Try spooning sex it allows him to reach around and
stroke your clitoris or breasts while he thrusts.
Thinking about your guy in steamy situations throughout
the day will improve your sex hormone production. When
you two get connected the pleasure will be all the better.
We’ll get Parts 2 and 3 of the Sexual Pleasure Treo, and
sections like this one in later lessons.
For some readers I suppose the only interest is to please a woman, admire her body, and
move on to another one. Of course I can’t tell you what to do. This information is here for
people to use however they wish. It can turn a man into a legendary lover and a male
prostitute, or into the husband his wife always secretly wished for. Or it could help
capture the heart of a single women who has been to bed with too many toads while
shopping for her prince.
My bias and the interest of this entire course is to help heterosexual couples have
better sex lives and better marriages. I don’t believe you can have as much fun with a
passing “stranger” as you can with someone to whom you’ve committed your life. If
you’ve never known commitment, I feel a bit sorry for you, because you really don’t
know what you’ve been missing. As the poet wrote, “Better to have loved and lost than
never to have loved at all.”
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Great sex isn’t “just natural”, any more than is dancing. Some people without dance
education do it pretty well, but they don’t ever look as good as a trained dancer. Some
people who make love do it pretty well, but never as well as someone who concentrates
on developing extraordinary bedroom skills.
These skills are capable of bringing you and your lover much greater fun, pleasure,
and emotional connection. With a combination of loving style and flair, wisdom,
forgiveness, a good heart and some good luck, you too might hear someone say, “I’m
addicted to YOU. I think of you day and night. I’m so glad you are my loving husband!”
A Meditation Exercise
Please read through these ideas several times and then relax in your chair, close your
eyes and contemplate each thought. Turn it over in your mind, and consider how it may
affect your attitude and your place in the time-space continuum.
1. There is no SELF
2. I am ONE with the Universe and/or God
3. The energy of love and life is constant and infinite.
4. There is no time. Time is a consideration. It does not affect me.
5. Aging is therefore a consideration which I can release and replace with what I
prefer.
6. Life is a game. I can enjoy the experience without allowing it to upset me.
7. The important purpose of my life is my personal spiritual development.
Everything else is lower priority.
8. Love is the perfection of The Infinite and the love I perceive and extend to
another is my extension of the universal source of life. I am part of that source
forever.
9. I make love to express feeling of adoration when words fail me.
10. Move out of the cold darkness into the light of the Creator. Settle there in deep
relaxation and allow what comes to mind. Remind yourself of these ideas.
Do this exercise several times this week and give each question a few minutes to work
through your mind. I do not mean for you to logically talk to yourself about it. I mean let
yourself create mental images and imagine it as your reality. LIVE that experience.
I think we have covered as much about oral sex given by man to his woman as is
necessary. There comes a time when theory study must end and clinical practice must
begin. Review what you’ve learned by mentally imagining doing it. In your imagination,
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See it, feel it, taste and smell it if you can. Hear her reactions if you can. Keep trying and
these mental abilities will come to you as you continue to work on them.
I want to be sure you know, in future lessons I (we) are going to cover EVERYthing a
woman might want to learn about giving oral sex to her man including how to give deep
throat. If… if, that’s what you and she are into it …. And …. No it’s not required.
My preference, given a choice between a woman with strong legs and a strong pussy and
the ability to squat over me and ride up and down, or a woman who likes to give head –
I’ll take the pussy every time. We both enjoy it more and her pussy can be much stronger
than her mouth. In fact a woman who does regular pussy exercise around a dildo can
strengthen her pussy to a crush of 20 pounds! No mouth can do that! And, really, 10
pounds pressure would be quite sufficient to satisfy any man. But that’s my opinion and
we’ll cover more about the subject when we get to Lesson 6.
Try doing a first massage.
The big lesson for massage is Later – In Lesson 9 – which is really a work
big enough to become its own book, and can teach you to enjoy tremendous
pleasure together – no formal schooling is required to learn basic Swedish
Massage techniques.
I remind you I have been a student of healing since age 10, and along the
way became both a Chiropractor and Massage Therapist, taking up formal
Psychology study later in my life. I took in about 4,000 patients each year
for 15 years. You might guess I’m pretty good at massage. You can learn the
basics of giving great massage without going to a formal massage school.
Is massage new to you? You never did one before? Are you frightened? It’s as natural as
rain. There are pictographs of people doing massage and back care running back at least
25,000 years.
The general rule is to never massage someone with a fever or a skin infection because
we’re afraid you might spread and make the problem worse. I think some of the caution
about fever is debatable however I recommend you stick to the general rule for now.
You were born knowing how to massage. My writing and other books and video
presentations you may find will help you learn more. It’s a gigantic subject. It’s an art
form and a science, but it’s naturally a part of your genetic “memory.”
Your first massage session is to be done when the house is quiet and you will be
undisturbed by anything or anyone, including pets. Remember, the telephone is a request
to answer, not a demand and that’s why we own answering machines. Be sure to close the
door if there’s a cat in the house. Cats love to get into bed with their people and can be
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quite annoying at sensual moments. They are sensitive to estrogen and when they smell
it, or an estrogen mimic like bleach, they may tend to pester you endlessly.
People tend to “personify” cats and think of them as intelligent. I don’t agree. I find cats
can be your best friend and might at any moment without little warning, become your
most injurious enemy. They carry parasites and do not belong in your bed!
To begin an on-bed massage seat yourself on the bed in the posture you see in this
photo. OR, you can begin in a chair and she on the bed with the
blankets turned down, lights low and the room warm. Ideally you’re
both naked but if not, begin wearing whatever makes you feel
comfortable. For years I did massage combined with Chiropractic
adjustments on patients while they wore sweat shirts and sweat slax.
It works just fine.
Cover the bed with more big towels so any oil drippings won’t stain
the sheets. Women will be thinking about this and it’s best to allay
her concerns with more sheet coverings.
Begin with gentle kisses. Have a small ceramic bowl into which you’ve poured some
vegetable oil sitting on the bed side table. Don’t set it onto the bed. It might spill. Pick up
a little vegetable oil with finger tips and rub between your palms, rub the palms together
to warm the oil and begin rubbing her right hand. Work the thumb web, between the
fingers and down the fingers. Work the wrist and palm.
Work on it carefully for 5 minutes and ask her as you go alone how it feels – too gentle,
too strong? We already know you’re strong. The purpose here is not to prove you’re
strong. The purpose is to discover how sensitive you can be. In time you’ll be able to feel
lumps in muscle, points and attachments of bone, layers of muscle beneath muscle and
more. Concentrate your mind on what you’re feeling with your hands and push out of
your mind any foolish embarrassments about bodies, sex, touching and all of that childish
nonsense you may have been “taught” by your elders. They have very carefully taught
you to be afraid of living. It’s time to drop all of that like a filthy wet blanket into the
garbage and never put it on again.
Work on the left hand the same as the right. Ask her to lie on her back. With your legs
folded under you sitting on your heels, or if that’s not good for you, sitting on the edge of
the bed, continue massaging the hand and continue working up the arm, slowly moving,
rubbing, squeezing, kneading along the forearm and up to the shoulder and axia
(underarm.) You’ll be adding more oil as you go along. You can break contact to get oil
and then return but always touch again gently and then begin a firmer pressure. No
slapping or rushed movements, please.
On larger muscles of the back, buttocks, legs and chest, use the muscles
of your chest, arms and shoulders to do the work. You must not grasp
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and clasp the flesh continuously with your hands. Doing so will result in
repetitive motion syndrome and ruin your hands. Instead the heels of
your hands and your thumbs will do most of the work allowing your
hands to be somewhat firmly held into their position of contact over the
curves of the skin.
Do your best to develop a movement like this. Your right hand and thumb move up and
circle out and continue around. As the right thumb gets to the top of the circle the left
thumb begins at the bottom of the circle and makes its circle rising up and to the left. The
hands follow one another this way, circling hands following one another. If it isn’t
exactly right don’t worry about it. Don’t be foolish expecting perfection. Don’t find
excuses why you can’t. Find reasons to continue teaching yourself. No one learns any
skill perfectly on the first day, nor in the first month. Musicians, dancers, artists and
massage therapists spend years reaching for perfecting, working and meditating and
concentrating on what they are doing with each opportunity.
Ask the lady to turn face down and get comfortable. She may require a pillow between
her breasts if they’re quite large, or she may need a pillow beneath her hips to take
pressure off her low back. An additional pillow beneath her feet will comfort her.
Massage one foot and leg all the way up the backside to the top of the hip with similar
motions as you’ve done with the arm. Do the other leg.
That will be enough for today, unless you have some of these skills already. If you do,
continue with at least a bit of massage over the erector spinae group musculature up the
back and finish with some massage of her upper trapezius.
When you see something in blue, in 14 point type and italics it indicates I am attempting
to emphasize in the strongest way I can.
When you’re done, thank her for allowing you to practice. Lie beside her
and let what ever naturally occurs happen without feeling pressured to
perform sexually, neither should you pressure her to allow intercourse.
Eventually massage will naturally lead to intercourse, but that’s later. We’re
in the process of healing a lot of emotional pain now. If you force
intercourse upon her you will only betray the healing effort and cause more
pain.
I told you when we began this course; it’s for intelligent men who want an
ultimate romance. The thoughtless jerks out there don’t deserve a woman
and they can die alone. Who cares? They get what they ask for and if they
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betray a woman’s trust and abuse her body or call her ugly names they
deserve to live and die alone.
I assume you are intelligent enough to heal a woman and love her. You can’t
force a woman to be sexual but you sure can love her into being sexual.
When things go badly I say to my love, “I’m going to love you anyway, no
matter what.” I hug her and let her know I love her even during the cloudy
days! And that’s what you should be doing too. That’s the attitude that
creates super sexual ultimate romances.
After the first few massage sessions (and sometimes during a session) She
may tell you many things. She may cry. Just continue massaging and allow
her to cry as you work. Be quiet and let it all happen. Do NOT try to tell
your story or evaluate for her. Do not ask her why she is crying. If you did,
She might likely say, “I don’t know.” This is not your time to talk. It is your
place now to listen. This is not a time to force an emotional person to be
“logical” and “analytical.” It’s a time for silence and listening. As the
Buddha said, “Wise men listen.” So listen.
I could write an entire chapter about why some men must learn to be quiet
and listen, and another chapter about why people should make fewer
statements and ask many more questions beginning with the words What,
Why, When, Where, Who, Which, and How.
Just listen and thank her for telling you. “Thank you for telling me that. I
love you and I’m glad we had this time to relax together. We should do
this again soon. Let’s rest together now.”
Other women, (be thankful if you have one) are not so traumatized. The
massage makes her want more and she’ll tell you in some way that she
wants you to enter and please her more. Every woman can get to that point if
you are patient, loving and willing to help and to heal. It’s up to you. It’s
your life. I can only open doors, explain wise action and let you follow your
own path.
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