HIS BRAIN/ HER BRAIN Why It Took Moses Forty Years To

HIS BRAIN/ HER BRAIN
Why It Took Moses Forty Years To
Find His Way Out Of The Desert
THE BRAIN
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Reptilian
Mammalian
Homo Sapien
Corpus Collosum
• Wired For Survival
• Unchanged 50,000 Yrs
DEVELOPMENT
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Basic Template Female
Affected By Chromosomes
XX Girl
XY Boy
Hormonal Wash 6-8 Week Brain
Genitals
Brain Orientation
HIS
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Hunter
Long Range Directional Skills
Spatial Sense
Single Task (Charles Emerson Winchester)
Procreation
Things
Pain And Empathy
HERS
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Nest Protector
Communal
More Finely Tuned Sensory Skills
Multi-Tasker
Non-Verbal Communicator
People
Can Process Input Faster, Integrate
BRAIN 2
• MEN
– Resting Brain 30%
Active
– Logic
– Left Brain Dominant
(Except Spatial Area)
– When Speak, Only
One Site Active
• WOMEN
– Resting 90%
Active
– Emotive
– Multi-Hemisphere,
Corpus Collossum
– Speech And
Hearing Centers
Active
SPEECH
• MEN
• WOMEN
– Left Brain Frontal
– Multiple Sites, Bilat
– 8000 Signals
– 20,000 Signals
– Direct, Literal
– Indirect Language,
Negotiating, Emotive
– More Stutterers
– Use To Compete
– Emotionless Listening
– Don’t Feel Need To Express
Pleasure In Words
– More Facile, Integrated
– Use As Reward, As Bond
– 6 Listening Postures
– Talks And Talks
SPEECH 2
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60-80% Non-Verbal Signals
20-30% Voice Sounds
7-10% Words
Men Only Hear The Words
Women Hear And Use 6 Tones
Men Hear And Use 4 Tones
Silence Is Not Punishment
LYING
• Women Lie To Make Others Feel Better
• Men Lie To Make Selves Look Good
• Men Don’t Lie More, They Just Keep
Getting Caught
• Most Common Lie Self-Deception
• The Closer A Person Is In Relationship,
Harder To Lie
SOCIAL
• MEN
– Goal Oriented
– Lone Hunter
– Problem Solver
– Talks Achievement
– Defines Self By
Achievements
• WOMEN
– Community Builder
– Communal
– Problem Sharer
– Talks Relationships
– Defines Self By
Relationships
PROBLEM SOLVING
• MEN
– Linear
– Compartmentalize
– Emotion Divorced
– Solitary
– Gives Space
– Wants Answers
– Help Means He
Failed
• WOMEN
– Cluster
– Churns Til Solved
– Emotion Involved
– Communal
– Wants A Hug
– Wants Support
– Wants To Help
SIGHT
• MEN
– Tunnel Vision,
Great Distances
– Can See Zebras
On The Horizon
– Better Spatial
Vision
– Color Cones Xattached (What
The Hell Is
Mauve?)
• WOMEN
– Greater Peripheralup To 180°
– Can Find The Butter
In The Fridge
– Better Night Vision
– Rarely Get Caught
Ogling Men
OTHER SENSES
• SMELL
– Women Can Smell Whether A Man Has Healthy
Immune System Within 3 Sec.
– Most Sensitive At Ovulation
• HEARING
– Women’s Hearing On At All Times
– Men Find Sound Direction Better
• TOUCH
– Women 10X As Sensitive
– Touch Releases Oxytocin “Cuddle Hormone”
– Men Grope, Women Caress
ATTRACTION
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Athletic Body
Sensitive Mouth
Full Breast
70% Waist-Hip Ratio
Round Butt
Attractive Eyes
Flat Belly
Blonde
12-14 Yr Old
Meat On The Bone
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Athletic Shape
Broad Shoulders, Chest
Full Hair
Sensual Mouth
Kind Eyes
Strong Nose And Chin
Narrow Hips
Credit Cards
SEX
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Larger Hypothalamus
Orgasm 2 ½ Minutes
Need To Spread Seed
Relieve Tension
Really Can Mean
Nothing
– Visual Stimulation
(Lights On)(Playboy
Handy)
– Talk Dirty Before Sex
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Larger Amygdala
Orgasm 13-30 Minutes
Need Monogamy
Build Tension
Needs Emotional
Bond
– Touch, Sound, (Lights
Off)
– Talk, Listen, Smell,
Touch…
LOVE and SCIENCE
Each Stage Has Chemical Release,
Specific Brain Activity
LUST - Physical, Non-Verbal Attraction
INFATUATION - Attempt To Form Bond With
Potential Partner: Associated With Elation
ATTACHMENT - Build Cooperative Bond To
Raise Child
REFERENCE
• WHY MEN DON’T LISTEN AND WOMEN
CAN’T READ MAPS
– Barbara and Allan Pease
– ISBN# 0-7679-0763-9
• WHY MEN DON’T HAVE A CLUE AND
WOMEN ALWAYS NEED MORE SHOES
– Barbara and Allan Pease
– #ISBN 0-7679-1610-7
QUESTIONS?