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Every Moment
A Biannual Newsletter
of Hospice of the Valley
Since 1979, tens of
thousands of our friends
and neighbors have
received compassionate
care and grief support
Photo Credit: Elley Photography
from Hospice of the Valley.
Founders Jennie Magid, front right, and
Gay Crawford address the crowd at
the 35th anniversary celebration.
Since 1979, tens of thousands of our
friends and neighbors have received
compassionate care and grief
support from Hospice of the Valley.
That care has made a big difference
in lives all over Silicon Valley.
Our Beginnings
Hospice of the Valley was created
on the belief that there had to be a
better way to serve
patients and their
families at the end of
life. The organization
began when local
resident Jennie
Magid gathered
a group of friends
after the death of
her husband and
launched Project
Journey (Hospice
of the Valley’s first
name) in an effort
to provide quality
of life to terminally-ill patients and
their families.
In January 1972, Jennie Magid stood
by her husband, George Joseph
Magid, MD, as he was diagnosed
with lung cancer. Enduring multiple
surgeries, he finally succumbed to
the disease in 1975. Jennie and their
three small children did not have
an opportunity to say goodbye
the morning he died.
“My husband was a physician and
practiced here in Santa Clara
County,” Magid said. We were
lucky to have a life raft of family
and friends for support. But, while
I waited in the hospital waiting
rooms, I saw families all around
me who were isolated and alone.
I felt at that time that we needed
to find an organization that could
help patients and their families
through this difficult period in their
life. Being a young woman at the
time, I thought instead of becoming
a bitter person, I needed to do
something. Hospice was the
answer to that need.”
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LIVING EVERY MOMENT | Hospice of the Valley | FALL/WINTER 2014
James Ramoni and Jennifer Ramirez Named to
Hospice of the Valley’s Professional Advisory Board
Hospice of the Valley has named
aging, hospice and palliative
care experts James Ramoni and
Jennifer Ramirez to its Professional
Advisory Board.
Ramoni is
director of the
of Aging and
Adult Services,
Social Services
Agency, for the
County of Santa
Clara. His entire
professional career has been in the
Santa Clara County Social Services
Agency, dating to 1990 as an entrylevel social worker in child welfare.
In 1999, Ramoni moved to the newly
created Department of Aging
and Adult Services, serving as the
manager of the Senior Nutrition
Program, as well as the In-Home
Supportive Services Program. He
was appointed director of the
Department of Aging and Adult
Services in 2013 and is responsible
for Adult Protective Services, the
Senior Nutrition Program, In-Home
Supportive Services Program, and
the Public Guardian/Administrator/
Guardian/Conservator Office, as
well as the county initiative, the
Seniors’ Agenda.
Ramoni has a master’s in social
welfare from the University of
California, Berkeley, and a
B.A. in molecular biology and
psychology from San Jose State
University. He is also a licensed
clinical social worker.
Jennifer Ramirez
is deputy director
at Children’s
Hospice and
Palliative Care
Coalition. She
advocates statewide for pediatric
hospice and palliative care, oversees
the Family Advisory Council, directs
the agency’s internal operations,
and manages the local Partnership
for Children transportation and
financial assistance program
serving Monterey, Santa Cruz and
San Benito counties in California.
She brings 14 years of experience
in the nonprofit sector, previously
working in the independent living
movement at Central Coast Center
for Independent Living (CCCIL),
advocating for the rights of people
with disabilities, including those with
serious illnesses.
“Hospice of the Valley is very
fortunate to add the expertise
of James Ramoni and Jennifer
Ramirez to our Professional
Advisory Board,” said Sally Adelus,
president and CEO of Hospice of
the Valley. “We look forward to
their contributions to our mission
of bringing dignity and hope for
those facing serious illness by
providing comfort through
compassionate palliative,
hospice and grief care.” n
Remember your
loved ones at
our annual Wings
of Remembrance.
Wings of Remembrance is Hospice of the Valley’s annual winter memorial to remember loved ones. The memorial
consists of music, reflection, and a seasonal meditation. The highlight is a dove ceremony in which participants can
place their decorated dove on our remembrance tree.
The event at our office, 4850 Union Ave., San Jose, will take place from 1 to 3 p.m. and 5 to 7 p.m. Sunday, December 7.
Please join us. Admission is free and refreshments will be served. Please RSVP at 408.559.5600 or online at
www.hospicevalley.org/calendar/event/wings-of-remembrance1. n
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LIVING EVERy MOMENT | Hospice of the Valley | FALL/WINTER 2014
This month Hospice of
the Valley launched a
yearlong celebration of
our 35th year. I am so
grateful for the vision
and tenaciousness of
our founders, Jennie
Magid and Gay
Crawford, and so
many other volunteer
leaders who paved the
way for thousands of
our families and neighbors
to receive help through their
end-of-life journeys.
The holidays also mark a season
of hope and gratitude.
I am grateful for our Hospice of the
Valley team who work tirelessly,
24/7, 365 days a year, to be
available when patients and
families need them most.
People have a choice in choosing
a hospice. And tens of thousands
chose and continue to choose
Hospice of the Valley for our
expertise, personal attention
and compassion.
Photo Credit: Alain McLaughlin
By Sally Adelus, President and CEO
It is because of you
that Hospice of the
Valley has grown and
expanded to serve the
needs of the seriously
ill and dying in our
community. We serve
all ages, from children
in our expressive arts
classes who have
experienced a loss, to
our nation’s veterans.
Last year, we opened the Palliative
Care Center Silicon Valley to serve
patients and families coping with
serious illness. This year we achieved
Level 2 status with the National
Hospice and Palliative Care
Organization (NHPCO) We Honor
Veterans Program, ensuring veterans
in Silicon Valley have support and
quality end-of-life care.
I am so proud of the role we’ve all
played in Hospice of the Valley’s
35 years of success. Thank you for
supporting our mission with your
end-of-year gift so that our
neighbors in need may find
dignity in end-of-life care. n
We affirm dignity
and hope for those
facing serious
illness by providing
comfort through
palliative, hospice,
and grief care.
We strengthen our
community through
advocacy, education,
research and
But I am especially grateful for
you, our donors, for your continued
support of our mission.
“I am so proud of the role we’ve all
played in Hospice of the Valley’s
35 years of success.”
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LIVING EVERy MOMENT | Hospice of the Valley | FALL/WINTER 2014
“After my husband died, I visited
Hospice of Marin and it was then
that I decided to gather a group
of friends who I felt were talented
and skilled, who had a lot of
commitment and dedication,
and I knew would see things
through,” Magid said.
She engaged her friends to become
founding committee members to
start a hospice, including Dr. Phillip
Blumenthal, Anne Louden, Margaret
Slemmons, Grace Collins, Helen
Hansen, Grace Parker, Jim Katzman,
Molly Ording and her neighbor,
Dr. Robert H. Reid. In an effort to
create structure and support, she
called Gay Crawford, who had
been a volunteer for the American
Cancer Society.
“It seems to me a guiding
hand always brings the
right person to you at the
right time,” Magid said.
“This journey has been
From left, Chuck Toeniskoetter, Neal Slatkin, M.D., and
so rewarding. Everyone
Randall Willoughby at Hospice of the Valley’s 35th
involved was so supportive
anniversary celebration at the Capital Club Silicon Valley.
and gave of their time
because they knew how
advance directives to inform
important this was. And look what
medical providers about
happened. It has really come to
end-of-life wishes, life transitions
fruition. When you go through a
workshops for families in transition,
period like I did, it’s like you are in
as well as palliative care for those
limbo and your compassionate,
coping with serious illness, in-home
loving and kind friends come through
hospice care for all ages, and grief
for you. It’s like a gift. And I wanted
counseling for adults and children.
everyone else to have that, too.”
Hospice of the Valley continues to
Hospice Today
expand our services and outreach.
Last year, we opened the Palliative
Silicon Valley residents
Care Center Silicon Valley to serve
continue to benefit from
patients and families coping with
Magid’s vision and the
serious illness.
group’s commitment and
Photo Credit: Elley Photography
So began Project Journey. The
group met in homes for several
years and, joining the group, the
Rev. Roy Strausberger helped to
put together a planning board
to seek funding. Reid
also suggested the name
of Hospice of the Valley.
Patient service began on
February 29, 1980, with
an all-volunteer team of
physicians, nurses, respite
workers, a social worker,
and a chaplain.
From left, Paula Reed, Sally Adelus, Jennie Magid, Gay Crawford,
Jeff Strawn and San Jose Mayor Chuck Reed at the 35th
anniversary celebration.
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Photo Credit: Elley Photography
Continued from page 1
dedication. For decades,
community residents
have planned for endof-life with their doctors
and care teams with the
Hospice of the Valley
team at their side.
We continue to help and
support the community,
from workshops on
Letters, notes and emails of praise
from those we’ve served continue
to flood our inbox, and we’ve
shared a few of those with you in
this newsletter.
We plan to be here for the
community for years to come and
continue to deliver on our mission. n
LIVING EVERy MOMENT | Hospice of the Valley | FALL/WINTER 2014
By Debra Moorehead
“Words cannot truly describe how grateful
I am to Hospice of the Valley for the level of
unconditional love and care they provided”
My husband, Mark,
and I never thought
we’d need Hospice of
the Valley so early in
our lives. And I wish
I had reached out
for help sooner.
After marrying, Mark
and I saved our
money for 11 years.
While everyone else
bought homes at
inflated prices, we frugally lived
in a loft apartment above my
husband’s plumbing business.
When the housing market crashed,
several people lost their homes, yet
because of my husband’s foresight,
we had saved enough to buy our
first home.
Mark Moorehead
and his daughter
at a fund-raiser to
fight cancer.
We moved into our new home.
It needed work, but it was ours. We
shared dreams of all the renovations
we would like to make. The list was
long and we knew it would take
years before it would be finished.
Not long after, Mark began
complaining of pain in his
mid-section. Being only 48, he
didn’t think much of it. Eventually
the pain caused him to visit a
doctor. Some tests were run, and
like a thief in the night, our dreams
were dashed as we were given
the diagnosis: Mark had stage 3
pancreatic cancer.
We gave it a good fight, yet despite
all our efforts, my once vigorous
and strong husband began to
lose his energy after the chemo
and treatments.
Knowing his time was short, I asked
him how he wanted to spend his
remaining days: a trip, a cruise, some
long vacation? He said he wanted
to use his remaining time to deliver
on all the promises he had made
to me to renovate our home.
From his bed he mustered contractors,
electricians and carpenters to work
on the many home improvement
projects we had dreamed up
together. I could see this was really
taking a toll on him and told him
it wasn’t necessary, to which he
adamantly refused to stop and
emotionally declared a promise
to me that he would live to see all
of this through. My well-being was
the most important thing to him.
Eventually his condition worsened,
and we were referred to Hospice
of the Valley. The very next day, like
a band of descending angels, an
entire team of help arrived. I had
thought I had to handle this all
alone, so when the doctors, nurses,
aides, volunteers, social workers
and grief counselors came into our
life, they became like family. They
took over all the stresses I had been
dealing with; they managed all of
his medical needs; the doctors and
team managed his plan of care at
every stage of his illness.
Over the next months, we became
remarkably close with the team
from Hospice of the Valley. They
marveled at my husband’s refusal
to stay in bed. Sometimes they’d
arrive to find him overseeing some
contractor’s work, or climbing a
In the spirit of the season,
we ask you to make a
contribution today to help
us continue our mission of
compassionate palliative,
hospice and grief care.
you may donate online
at www.hospicevalley.org.
Or use the envelope inside
this newsletter and make a
check payable to “Hospice
of the Valley” and mail to:
Hospice of the Valley, 4850
Union Avenue, San Jose, CA
ladder to inspect the work being
done on the roof. They had never
seen anyone so determined to
complete something with the time
he had left. Mark amazed them with
his determination and drive, despite
his worsening condition.
It wasn’t until the last nail was
hammered on the last project that
we shared a very intimate moment.
I told him that there was nothing left
to do; the house was done and it
was beyond both of our dreams and
expectations. I told him it was ok for
him to let go. He passed away in my
arms later that day.
Words cannot truly describe how
grateful I am to Hospice of the
Valley for the level of unconditional
love and care they provided, both
with my husband’s illness, and with
helping me be able to cope with
such a difficult time in our life.
Please join me in making a gift today
to Hospice of the Valley to help
other families and individuals get the
expert care and compassionate
support when it’s needed the most. n
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LIVING EVERy MOMENT | Hospice of the Valley | FALL/WINTER 2014
By Brad Leary, LCSW, CT, Vice President of Counseling Services, Hospice of the Valley
a religious service may be
helpful. Some grievers enjoy
reaching out to help others, such
as the homeless or someone else
in need, as an alternative way to
spend a holiday.
• Be intentional about how you
plan your holidays. you may
decide to change your plans.
Build in alternatives should you
feel differently on the holiday
itself. Ask yourself, “Do my plans
allow for meaningful expression
and celebration of what the
holidays mean to me?”
Getting through the holidays is
a challenge for most of us. The
holidays conjure up a myriad of
emotions, bundled up with all the
hustle and bustle to get everything
done in time.
you get through the holiday season
and throughout the year. While you
may want to dismiss the holidays
entirely, it is impossible to ignore the
decorations, party invitations and
advertisements everywhere.
The anticipation of the season can
yield great joy with family and friends
at our side. yet, we know the holidays
can also bring incredible sadness,
frustration and anger at a world
that seems totally oblivious to those
grieving the death of a loved one.
The key is to prepare for the
holidays. We find that our grieving
clients are able to cope more
effectively when they communicate with their family and friends
weeks and months ahead.
you may be asking: How can the
world keep on going like nothing
has happened? How can I cope
when others’ holiday cheer clashes
with the way I am feeling? Can’t
I just pretend the holiday season
isn’t happening this year?
At the Center for Grief & Loss at
Hospice of the Valley, we can help
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These suggestions may help
you prepare:
• Remember there is no right
or wrong way to handle the
holidays. you may want to follow
family traditions or do something
completely different this year.
Small changes like having dinner
outside your home, opening gifts
at a different time or attending
• Solicit support from loved ones.
Friends and family want to help
in a practical way during this
time, but they often don’t know
how. Be specific about what
you need from your friends and
family, even though this may be
difficult for you.
• Be genuine and self-accepting
regardless of your emotions.
It’s ok to feel sad, withdrawn,
depressed or angry. And it’s
equally ok when a wave of
happiness and joy comes over
us. The point is to accept your
feelings in the moment without
judgment. Remember the
importance of taking a break
from your grief. Give thanks for
the things that you identify as
good, even in the midst of this
difficult time.
LIVING EVERy MOMENT | Hospice of the Valley | FALL/WINTER 2014
• Establish a safe place to go
when you feel vulnerable. This
could be at home, a religious
institution, or a family member’s
or friend’s home. This safe place
may allow for a time of quiet
reflection and perspective.
• Create a special tribute for the
day. Light a candle, gather some
special remembrances or create
a new tradition in memory of your
loved one.
As grief counselors, we suggest
talking about your loved one during
the holidays. Include the name of
the person in your conversations.
Others will take your lead and
recognize the important role this
person played in your life.
“Keep each holiday
as a reminder of all
the things you shared
with the person you
loved who has died.
The remembering is
part of the healing.”
Remember that no one has the
answers for you. The wisdom of
how to proceed through the
holidays is already within you.
Listen to your heart and recognize
your limitations.
Whatever you choose to do this
year, you may decide to handle
differently next year. Grief author
and educator Dr. Alan Wolfelt says
it best: “Keep each holiday as a
reminder of all the things you shared
with the person you loved who has
died. The remembering is part of
the healing.” n
It’s not only during the holidays
that those grieving loss may need
help and support. And sometimes
the loss is from circumstances
other than death.
Support groups allow participants
to talk about a loss or simply listen
as others share their experiences
through their grief journey. Groups
are offered regularly for:
The Center for Grief & Loss at
Hospice of the Valley can also
help with life transitions that affect
an individual or a family, including
divorce, job loss, relocation,
infertility and even retirement
for those looking for meaning
and purpose after a career.
• Spousal or partner loss
(age specific)
Whether you prefer the help of a
trained professional in individual
sessions or you want to lean on
and draw strength from others
who are grieving, the Center offers
support to best meet your needs.
Services are provided by licensed
and professional trained staff.
The Center for Grief & Loss offers
individual counseling as well
as support groups for all ages,
including children and teens.
• Adult parent loss
• Suicide loss
• Adult expressive arts
• Grieving children (ages 4 to 17)
We are also available to support
employers when employees
experience death in the workplace or within their families.
At the Center for Grief & Loss,
you will find a trusted companion
to help you rediscover your life
and give you practical advice and
support that will carry you through
the grief process. Contact our
Center for Grief & Loss today at
1.408.559.5600. n
Support Groups Schedule (6 week groups)
Partner Loss, Parent Loss
Kids Group, Senior Partner Loss, Expressive Arts,
Suicide Loss
Wings of Remembrance
Individuals who have lost loved ones are encouraged
to attend this special memorial event.
December 7, 2014, 1 to 3 p.m. and 5 to 7 p.m.
Hospice of the Valley, 4850 Union Ave., San Jose.
To RSVP, please phone 408.559.5600 or online at
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LIVING EVERy MOMENT | Hospice of the Valley | FALL/WINTER 2014
We wanted to share some of the
notes we received on our social
media sites. Thank you all for
your compliments on Hospice
of the Valley’s talented and
dedicated team.
Services of Hospice’s Grief & Loss Center
“your services are amazing.”
—Leslie Leonetti
“This team was so wonderful during both our parents’ last days.
We were so grateful for their support.”
—Terri Brittain Bland
Hospice of the Valley’s
Advance Planning
“I am SO thankful my mom and I
approached and discussed these
things often for each of us and had
all documents done through our
Trusts. There was never a question as
to what to do. Thank you, Mom, and
thank you, Hospice of the Valley!”
—Barb MacNeil
“Thank you so MUCH for all your support.”
—Veronica Iniguez
“Angels! Did my grief support with Hospice of the Valley.”
—Georgette Silver
“They are the best. We will be calling them again when needed. They
are so sweet and have so much compassion for the family. Thank you
for your support.”
—Helen Lopez Diaz
“These people do amazing work. I know after having
their help with my mother-in-law and my husband.”
—Marlene Cox
Leave a Legacy
Making a planned gift to non-profit Hospice of the Valley is your
opportunity to leave a lasting legacy for generations to come.
Simply advise Hospice of the Valley of your intention to make a gift in your will or
living trust. If you would like more information on making a legacy gift, please call
Kathy Phelan at 408-559-5619 or [email protected]
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LIVING EVERy MOMENT | Hospice of the Valley | FALL/WINTER 2014
The 10th Annual Kent Kirkorian
Benefit Dinner and Memorial
Golf Tournament, held
September 25–26, raised
a record $100,000 for
Hospice of the Valley.
More than 160 people attended
the benefit dinner at Three Sons
Ranch in Los Gatos and 100 golfers
participated in this year’s golf
tournament at Cinnabar Hills Golf
Club in San Jose. That brings
the 10-year total raised by the
Tournament to more than $875,000,
benefiting Hospice’s mission to affirm
dignity and hope for those living with
serious illness by providing comfort
through compassionate palliative,
hospice and grief care.
Photos by CB Photo Design
Studio and Elley Photography
“The family thanks all of
those involved for their
generous support of
Hospice of the Valley.”
Top photo and clockwise, golfers John Moore, Jack Kent, Jeff Steinberg and Dave Hopp
enjoy the tournament. From left, Jeanne Wun, John Kirkorian and Kim Brodnik. From left,
golfers John Branton, Brett Kelez, Bob Kelez and Sherrel Kirk. Isidro Flores tries the mechanical
bull at the Benefit Dinner. From left, friends Karen Wilcox, Anne Plane, Michelle Stojanovich,
Monica Kirkorian, Barbie Taormina and Shari Williams.
The Kent Kirkorian Memorial Golf
Tournament was established by the
Kirkorian and Brodnik families in 2005
in memory of their father, Kent, who
passed away in 2004. Kent was
an entrepreneur, businessman,
contractor and draftsman. In his
memory, the family celebrates
Kent’s life and his love of golf while
raising funds.
“Our father’s remarkable legacy
continues to live on through his
family and this annual event,”
said Kent’s son, John Kirkorian.
“The family thanks all of those
involved for their generous
support of Hospice of the Valley.”
“We are truly honored by the Kirkorian
and Brodnik families’ continued and
very generous support of our mission,”
said Sally Adelus, president and CEO
of Hospice of the Valley. n
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LIVING EVERY MOMENT | Hospice of the Valley | FALL/WINTER 2014
Hospice of the Valley is honored
to serve our nation’s Veterans
24/7, 365 days a year!
For more information please contact Vicci Wild at [email protected] or please call 408-559-5600.
If you’re a veteran interested in volunteering
or know of a veteran needing support, call
Hospice of the Valley at 1.408.559.5600
or visit hospicevalley.org.
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H o s p i c e o f t h e Va l l e y ’s
Hospice of the Valley’s Community Life Program provides
education and outreach on end-of-life care, life transitions,
advance care planning, estate and financial planning,
and more. The Community Life Program relies on the
generous support of our community to meet the needs
of our aging population. Please consider making a donation
in support of the Community Life Program. To make your gift,
visit www.hospicevalley.org. n
If you had a medical emergency,
who would you want to speak for you?
Would that person know what
is important to you about your
care and quality of life?
Please join Hospice of the Valley for one of our free
community workshops on Advance Care Planning to
help you learn how to start the conversations with loved
ones, how to select the most effective healthcare agent,
and the do’s and don’ts of completing an advance
directive form. These workshops are open to the public
and are free, but donations are gratefully appreciated.
Workshop in Mandarin
Workshop in English
1–3 p.m. December 9, 2014
1–3 p.m. December16, 2014
Cupertino Senior Center
21251 Stevens Creek Blvd.,
Cupertino Senior Center
21251 Stevens Creek Blvd.,
Facilitated by
Facilitated by
Sandy Chen Stokes,
Karen Storey,
founder of the Chinese
certified Respecting
American Coalition for
Choices master trainer
Compassionate Care
RSVP online at www.hospicevalley.org/planning or call 408.559.5600, Ext. 5423
Look for 2015 workshops coming soon.
Check www.hospicevalley.org/planning for details.
LIVING EVERy MOMENT | Hospice of the Valley | FALL/WINTER 2014
To register, visit hospicevalley.org/communitylife or contact Jeanne Wun at 1.408.559.5600. Events are
complimentary. Donations to Hospice of the Valley are gratefully accepted. n
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Hospice of the Valley
4850 Union Avenue
San Jose, California 95124
1.408.559.5600 | hospicevalley.org
©2014 Hospice of the Valley. All rights reserved.
501(c)(3) non-profit corporation. Tax ID 94-2803411.
Board of Directors
Ex Officio
Professional Advisory Board
Euan Thomson, PhD
Jeff Strawn
Corporate Secretary
Rajeev Singh
Art Adams
Zoe Alameda
George Block, MD
Linda Golino, RN, BA
Sylvia Katzman
Linda Kramer, JD, MBA, RN
Harris Meyers
Sutton Roley
Terry Rutledge
Cara Sansonia, JD
Chuck Toeniskoetter
James Yates, JD
President & CEO
Sally Adelus
VP Finance/CFO
Jim Ptak
Euan Thomson, PhD
Brian Adams
Larry Blitz
Gay Crawford
Elizabeth Darrow
Kathleen Fahey, RN, CNS, ACHPN
Jeff L. Fischer
James Hallenbeck, MD
Jerina Kapoor, MD
George Labban, MD
Dale G. Larson, PhD
John Massey, MD
Jennifer Ramirez
James Ramoni, MSW, LCSW
Paula Reed, BSN, RN, OCN
Terry Rutledge
Cara Sansonia, JD
Sandy Chen Stokes, RN, MSN
Karen Storey
Ernest Thomas, Jr, MD
Randall Willoughby, Esq.
Executive Team
EVP Medical Services/CMO
Neal Slatkin, MD
EVP Development &
Kathy Phelan
EVP Business Development
& Strategy
Kieran Shah

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