Connie and Kaiti Verbruggen
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Connie and Kaiti Verbruggen
Fighting breast cancer I Bridal style I Low-fat cookies For and about women in Northeast Wisconsin www.mywomenmagazine.com PINK PARTY Connie and Kaiti Verbruggen OCTOBER 4, 2011 ultimate wedding ShowcaSe ultimate wedding ShowcaSe January 15, 2012 10:30 a.m. - 3:00 p.m. grand Prize getaway Sponsored By: 2 Fashion Shows Presented By: 920.733.8000 800.242.3499 DOWNTOWN APPLETON www.radisson.com/ultimatewedding Football returned to Titletown on Sept. 8. photos by Kim Martin of Accent by Kim, Green Bay Profile 6 Connie and Kaiti Verbruggen By Terri Dougherty Body 10 Breast cancer warning signs by Jasmine Buchberger Treatment improvements for breast cancer by Jasmine Buchberger Reconstructive surgery by Terri Dougherty Fashion: Dress for Success Mind 19 Organize your home by Sandra Peterson Tech talk: Using your GPS by Tammy Homan Spirit 23 5 Questions for Cindy Stilp Woman who inspire 24 Supporting those with breast cancer SPECIAL SECTION: Bridal Choosing the right gown 32 by Brooke Vanden Branden Vegas style 37 Wedding locations 38 by Darren Hindman Dessert options 42 by Deniz Cakmak Departments Big Night at Lambeau Field contents Checking In 4 Recipes 21 Cookbook contest 21 Out & About 44 Women in the News 45 Women’s Voices 46 3 editor’sletter TERRI DOUGHERTY Checking In Volume 10 Number 2 October 4, 2011 Publisher Leslie Asare [email protected] Editor Terri Dougherty [email protected] Account representative Nancy Meilahn [email protected] Contributing writers Deniz Cakmak, Tammy Homan, Chef Jenn Malvitz, Sandra Peterson, Jan Mirenda Smith, Brooke Vanden Branden Editorial interns Jasmine Buchberger, Darren Hindman ADVISORY BOARD Tricia Voskuil, The Real Estate Group Kate Thome, Thome Benefit Solutions, LLC Beth Davis, Community First Credit Union Nee Yuan, Nee Yuan’s Permanent Beauty Lisa Malak, St. Mary’s Hospital/ St. Vincent Hospital Lisa Olejniczak, Parkside Care Center Bobbie Thompson, Touchmark Cover photo by Debbie Daanen of Debbie Daanen Photography, Appleton Cover makeup by Brenda Lee and Chelsea Crook of Abracadabra hair salon, Appleton is published every four weeks by Asare Enterprises, LLC. Contents of this publication may not be reproduced in any form without the consent of the publisher. For a subscription to Women, send name, address & phone number to: Women, 1835 E. Edgewood Drive, Suite 105 #26, Appleton, WI 54913 or call 920-205-6407. Send $13 for 1 year/13 issues or $25 for a 2 year/26 issue subscription. Or e-mail us at [email protected]. 4 Compassion kindles warmth The weather cools in October, but to me it’s one of the warmest months of the year. October is breast cancer awareness month and once again our issue is filled with encouraging stories that warm the heart. Our cover ladies, breast cancer survivor Connie Verbruggen and her daughter Kaiti, put a fun spin on breast cancer awareness with their Pink Party Foundation. Along with a committee of go-getters, they host a mid-October event in Little Chute that this year will include a walk, cribbage tournament and a performance by Connie’s band, MadCats. The foundation also raises money throughout the year at other events and assists local breast cancer patients. Their enthusiasm is matched by their compassion as the foundation provides support with a personal touch. They offer not only a basket full of useful items, but encouragement and hope as well. The more I learn about the people of our community the more I see that our area is filled with compassionate women. They make a difference every day, especially in the lives of those who could use a friend. In this issue’s Women Who Inspire centerspread we feature women who help those with breast cancer. It’s uplifting to see their concern, empathy and strength. October is a beautiful month as well as a crisp one, and as the trees Kaiti and Connie Verbruggen put on their finest colors we’re looking at some beautiful bridal styles. This issue presents gowns for every figure as well as some gorgeous wedding locations. We also feature dessert ideas that will tempt you even if you’re not planning a trip down the aisle. This is a great time of year to sit back, settle in, and read about some great women and interesting ideas. I’m ready to snuggle in, and I hope you are too. Terri Dougherty, editor women I OCTOBER 4, 2011 Profile Connie and Kaiti Verbruggen ’’ If breast cancer had taken the wrong turn and she was gone, I don’t know where I would be today. ’’ Kaiti Verbruggen Mom and daughter celebrate the fight against breast cancer BY TERRI DOUGHERTY Photos by Debbie Daanen of Debbie Daanen Photography, Appleton. 6 PARTY foracause W hen Kaiti Verbruggen decided she wanted to do more than talk about breast cancer awareness, she started a party. It’s not just any celebration, however. The Pink Party Foundation raises thousands of dollars to help men and women with breast cancer. “I’ve always had a big heart for breast cancer patients because my mom went through it,” Verbruggen says. “But I think every woman needs to be concerned about getting breast cancer.” Her mother, Connie, an 11-year breast cancer survivor, knows how important it is for women to be aware of the threat of breast cancer. women I OCTOBER 4, 2011 If she had not insisted that a surgeon remove a lump that was found to be cancerous, her cancer would likely have gone undetected until it was too late. “If breast cancer had taken the wrong turn and she was gone, I don’t know where I would be today,” says Kaiti, a 21-year-old University of Wisconsin-Eau Claire student. “She’s my support system. I go to her for everything. She’s my angel.” Close call Connie, 51, felt like she had an angel on her shoulder the day she went to the hospital to have a biopsy done on the mass in her breast. The mass was not found to be cancerous, but something still didn’t seem right to her. “I just had this little angel on my shoulder,” she says. “I got into my car and started backing out, but instead pulled forward, parked, and went back in.” Just to get to this point, she had had to push hard. After her grandmother died of breast cancer at age 89, she had asked her doctor for a mammogram. At age 39, she was told she was too young. Then she discovered a lump. The doctor told her it was probably a cyst, and she should come back after her next menstrual cycle to have it checked again. She returned a month later and after the doctor tried and failed to aspirate the lump a biopsy was ordered. Although the biopsy did not show that the mass was cancerous, she made an appointment with the hospital’s general surgeon to have the lump removed, knowing that the elective surgery would not be cov- ered by insurance. “I said, ‘I don’t care, I just want it gone,’” Connie recalls. When she finally had surgery to remove the mass, the surgeon found cancer. The lobular invasive cancer had begun in the milk-producing glands and spread. This type of cancer typically doesn’t form a lump, but causes a thickening of tissue in an area of the breast. When Connie’s cancer was found it was at an advanced stage and had spread to the lymph nodes and breast muscle. Her treatment involved surgery, six months of chemotherapy and 31 days of radiation, and turned her into a survivor. “There are some daily reminders when I look in the mirror but it’s not something I focus on,” she says. “I focus on how I can make it better.” Party planning She wanted to give back, and made charitable contributions and volunteered. But she didn’t really become active until Kaiti suggested the Pink Party. The suggestion came as they drove home from the Miss Wisconsin USA pageant in September 2010. Kaiti had chosen breast cancer as her platform, but wanted to do more. By the time the ride was over they decided to plan not just an event but a party, and before long they had a committee helping them pull it all together. Five weeks later the first Pink Party was held, featuring raffles, bracelet sales, a cribbage tournament and Connie’s band, MadCats. After the party, the committee stayed together and turned the event into a nonprofit organization. The Pink Party Breast Foundation Inc. has raised more than $11,000, given away comfort baskets to 16 recipients, and made donations to area breast cancer organizations and research facilities. “It’s been wonderful,” Kaiti says. “All the tremendous help and support from everybody is awesome. I didn’t know there were so many good people out there to help.” WWW.MYWOMENMAGAZINE.COM 7 Profile The Pink Party Breast Cancer Foundation Inc. gives 40 percent of the money raised to breast cancer patients in financial need, 40 percent to local healthcare organizations and services and 10 percent to research. The remaining 10 percent covers fees and expenses. Offering support The Pink Party sponsors booths at area events, selling handmade beaded bracelets to raise money for the foundation. At Little Chute’s Kermis Dutch Festival in September, Connie had the opportunity to provide first-hand support to a woman who had been recently diagnosed with the same type of breast cancer she had. “In my 11 years of survivorship I don’t know that I’ve met someone with exactly what I had, and she had exactly what I had,” Connie says. “She knew it was very rare and aggressive, and she had a long haul ahead of her. We spent what seemed like hours talking and hugging.” A few days later Connie visited her in Green Bay, bringing along a comfort basket from the foundation. The woman was scheduled for a double mastectomy the next day, and looked to Connie for support. “She was scared and teary, and it was just really nice to ensure her that 11 years later I’m healthy and doing fine,” Connie says. It’s these opportunities to offer 8 support that show committee member Trish Van Lith that the foundation’s efforts are worth it. “It’s just so gratifying,” says Van Lith, a friend of Connie’s from high school who often delivers the foundation’s gift baskets. For Connie’s mother Barb Gietman, it’s heartwarming to see her daughter and granddaughter turn a difficult time in their lives into something that offers help to others. “It was awful as a mother to have her come and say, ‘Mom, I have cancer,’” she says. “I think it is just beautiful to see the way she is now and how the two of them are working together. It’s just amazing and it’s just wonderful.” Kaiti, who was 9 when her mother was diagnosed with breast cancer, doesn’t recall a great deal about her mother’s treatments, but she does remember hearing the news from her mom and dad that her mother had breast cancer. The next day, she asked her mom if breast cancer was like the flu or chicken pox, something she could catch. When her mom told her no, she was relieved, because she really wanted to give her a hug. Kaiti and her brother went places with their dad so Connie could rest after her chemotherapy treatments, but on other days she would head right to her mom’s room after school. “I would jump on mom’s bed and give her a big hug and ask her how she was doing,” Kaiti recalls. “She’s healthy now and that’s all that matters.” New outlook After her treatment, Connie realized how having cancer opened her eyes to how she could make a difference to others. She also made time in her life for one of her passions: music. A human resources consultant at Theda Clark Hospital, Neenah, Connie had minored in piano performance at the University of Wisconsin-La Crosse, and had been the rehearsal pianist and recruited musicians for the ThedaCare Follies. After the show was over, she asked some band members if they would like to keep playing. “I have played since I was 4, and I wanted to play in a rock band and I do,” she says. The MadCats also include Amy Stanelle, Troy Metko, Russ Miller, Jeremiah Smith and Chelsa Baum. They have performed around the state, at events such as Paperfest as well as at the Abbey in Lake Geneva and StoneYard in Greenville. Of course, they’ll also be playing at the Pink Party on Oct. 15 and 16 at Hollanders in Little Chute, which is owned by Connie’s husband, Todd, and his brother, Jerry. The second annual event has been expanded to include the Pink Laces Walk for a Cure, and will also feature a necklace designed by Mark Witzke of Knight’s Jewelers as a raffle prize. Connie was understandably concerned that she might be passing a genetic disposition to breast cancer on to her daughter, and underwent genetic testing. Her cancer was not found to be genetic, so Kaiti has the same probability of getting cancer as any other young woman. Kaiti does, however, have an increased sense of awareness and an important message to pass on. “Check yourself and get your mammogram,” she says “If you can catch it earlier it makes a world of difference.” w women I OCTOBER 4, 2011 Going Pink This year’s Pink Party Gala and Fundraiser will be held Oct. 15 and 16 at Hollander’s Pub & Grill, 1520 Main St., Little Chute. The Pink Laces Walk For A Cure begins at 10:30 a.m., Oct. 15 at Soldier Park, at Highways 55 and 96, Kaukauna, or Wind Mill Park, Highways N and 96, Little Chute. The Pink Party Foundation committee has been instrumental in raising money for the organization. Members include, from left, Lisa Blohm, Trish Van Lith, Kaiti Verbruggen, Connie Verbruggen, Barb Gietman, Kim Heid, Linda Hallett, Marta Karlov and Kerri Miller. Also pictured is Carter Lathrop. Committee members not pictured are Mary Ann Anderson, Karen Carlson, Kelli Celsor and Jenni Roberts. CONNIE AND KAITI VERBRUGGEN Up Close and Personal What is the most fulfilling part of the foundation? Connie: Giving back: I remember telling Dr. William Guenther that I wanted to do something to make a difference. He said something along the lines of “everyone says that.” I suppose I’m not alone in feeling nothing less than privileged to be alive. I know how much I appreciated people like the friend who made an entire meal for my family each time I had chemo. She never asked or called, just showed up every couple weeks with everything from salad to dessert. I can’t tell you how wonderful that was! Thank you. It’s my turn to help now. Kaiti: It is very rewarding to know that I am having such an impact on countless lives. To help someone in need truly makes all the hard work worth it. I am very blessed to have such beauti- WWW.MYWOMENMAGAZINE.COM ful people working with me to make this possible. Where do you like to vacation? Connie: I love the islands. I love the people of Jamaica. They’re charming, kind, fun and welcoming. Nothing beats the beautiful sound of waves on the shore and my husband holding my hand as we walk the beach at midnight. Kaiti: I especially like the U.S. Virgin Islands. The scenery is gorgeous and the atmosphere is so calming and welcoming. I love the smell of the ocean and the wildlife in that area of the world. What is your favorite book or who is your favorite author? Connie: I enjoy Chopin’s music, and I already love Jodie Kacer’s book in progress. Kaiti: My favorite author would have to be my mom. She writes the most touching, beautiful pieces I have ever come across, and each and every one comes directly from her heart. During the Miss Wisconsin USA pag- eant this year, she brought the whole auditorium to tears with the letter she wrote to me. What is your favorite movie? Connie: There are many: “The Lion King,” “West Side Story,” “South Pacific,” and of course there’s “Prancer,” “The Greatest Story Ever Told,” “Miracle on 34th Street,” “Ben Hur,” “Happy Feet” and “Shrek the Third.” Kaiti: My ultimate favorite movie is “27 Dresses.” I fall asleep to this movie almost every night and still never get sick of it. What is your favorite way to unwind? Connie: Playing music. I have always turned to playing when I have a lot on my mind. It changes my focus, soothes me and challenges me. It’s probably what I know best. I’ve played since age 4 and could read music before words. It’s my first language. Kaiti: To relieve tension and stress I go to the gym. I love to work out; it helps me relax. It makes me feel better and puts me in a great mood. 9 Body Breast cancer awareness Watching for Early detection I signs n November 2009, just a year after she retired, Joy Schabow got a wakeup call. An annual mammogram detected something suspicious, which turned out to be breast cancer. “The very hardest part of discovering I had cancer was telling my two daughters,” she says “It was one of the most difficult things I have ever had to do in my life.” The small, deep lump had been difficult to detect. Although learning she had breast cancer was heart wrenching, Schabow’s surgeon helped her look at it as a bump in the road. After treatment, she could continue with her life. Detecting cancer early improves a woman’s five yearsurvival rate, notes Dr. Kelly Lynch, a medical oncologist at the Cancer Team at Bellin Health, Green Bay. 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A mammogram machine X-rays the breast tissue to find signs of lumps or tumors, and helps discover breast cancer in the earliest stage possible. During a mammogram appointment the radiologist will take multiple X-rays, repositioning the breast while the machine applies compression to spread the breast tissue and make any tumors more visible. Starting in her 20s, a woman has the option of doing a breast self exam. This helps a woman know how her breasts look and feel normally so she’s aware if a change occurs. Risk factors Women whose first-degree relatives, such as a mother, sister or daughter, have had breast cancer are at high risk for breast cancer. A blood test can be used to see if a woman carries the genes that increase her lifetime risk of developing breast cancer. A woman’s risk for breast cancer increases as she ages. The American Cancer Society notes that 1 in 8 invasive breast cancers are detected in women less than 45 years old, while about 2/3 of invasive breast cancers are found in women 55 or older. women I OCTOBER 4, 2011 Treatment Treatment for breast cancer typically includes surgery such as a lumpectomy or mastectomy, chemotherapy, radiation therapy and hormone therapy. Schabow underwent a mastectomy in December 2009, and it was not as bad as she had feared. “The surgery came off without a hitch and there was really a minimum of pain and discomfort,” she says. A week later, her mood also was lifted when her surgeon sang “Blue Christmas” when she had a port installed so she could begin chemotherapy. “Every single person I met at Green Bay Oncology – from the volunteers, to the receptionists, to the nurses, the doctors – is extremely dedicated, caring, professional and absolutely wonderful,” she says. Dealing with the hair loss that accompanied chemotherapy was another challenge, but she was helped WWW.MYWOMENMAGAZINE.COM by a support system that included a neighbor who gave her a fun hat to wear. Her sister, who is also a breast cancer survivor, provided care packages each time she came home from chemotherapy. “I have a great respect and admiration for all of my caretakers. I love my family and friends and appreciate all they do for me even more than I did before,” she says. “I also feel a need to reach out and help others more. “Cancer has changed, me but for the better,” Schabow adds. “I do take more time to smell the roses now. I do not care as much if the dusting doesn’t get done.” Schabow is thankful that the mammogram detected her cancer. Now finished with treatments, she’s concentrating on enjoying her retirement. “Recurrence is a possibility, but then again, there is also the possibility that I might be in a car accident tomorrow,” Schabow says. “It is not something I dwell on.” w What to watch for While doing a breast self exam, Dr. Kelly Lynch suggests women look for: • Breast pain • Lumps that can be felt (palpable lumps) • Clear or bloody nipple drainage, usually from only one breast • Bumpy or red skin • Fullness in the armpit 11 Body Breast cancer awareness Getting better Treatments, outcomes improve for women with breast cancer BY JASMINE BUCHBERGER D uring 37 years of nursing, Marilyn Wilson has seen survival odds improve for breast cancer patients and treatments become less taxing on their bodies. “My first supervisor was a breast cancer patient,” Wilson recalls. “I remember her losing the strength in her arm due to the radical mastectomy she had. She had to have the muscles in her chest wall removed and all of the lymph nodes. She would sit at work and squeeze a little rubber ball to regain use of her arm. “Now patients can have lumpectomies (removal of only the cancerous tissue) and modified radical mastectomies (only the breast tissue is removed),” notes Wilson, a cancer patient navigator at St. Mary’s Hospital, Green Bay. Breast cancer survival rates have improved dramatically over the past 60 years. A study done at a Texas hospital showed that between 1944 and 1954 a quarter of women with breast cancer survived for 10 years. Between 1995 and 2004, more than three-fourths survived. “Breast cancer treatment and outcomes have taken great strides over the many decades through improvements in breast cancer awareness and screening, less invasive surgical approaches, genetic testing for hereditary cancer risk, and testing of the actual tumor to make treatment decisions, improvement in radiotherapy delivery and a wide variety of chemotherapeutic agents and the drugs needed to help combat the side effects of treatment,” says Dr. 12 Timothy Korytko, a radiation oncologist at Agnesian HealthCare’s Central Wisconsin Cancer Program. While cancer treatment is by no means easy, and emotional and physical side effects take a toll on patients, advancements have improved the odds of survival and lessen the burden of the cure. Here are some advancements that women benefit from: Sentinel lymph node biopsy One advancement that has improved the lives of those being treated for breast cancer is the sentinel lymph node biopsy. The first lymph node that receives drainage from the tumor is called the sentinel lymph node. If cancer is spreading, this is the first area it hits. To see if the cancer has spread, a radioactive substance and blue dye are injected near the tumor. This helps the surgeon find the sentinel lymph node or nodes, which are removed and tested to see if cancer is found. Additional lymph nodes in the underarm area are removed only if the sentinel lymph node proves to be cancerous. “Prior to sentinel lymph node biopsy procedures, patients had all of their lymph nodes in the (underarm) region removed,” Wilson says. Removing fewer lymph nodes significantly reduces swelling and weakening of the arm. Lumpectomy At one time a mastectomy, the removal of the entire cancerous breast, was thought to be the best way to get rid of a tumor. The introduction of lumpectomies gives women the option to have only the tumor and a small amount of normal tissue removed. Chemotherapy There are many unique features to each breast cancer case, Wilson notes, and chemotherapy treatment can be tailored to fit an individual’s case to determine which therapies are appropriate. Some women with an aggressive type of breast cancer benefit from drugs known as PARP, also known as poly (adenosine-diphosphate-ribose) polymerase, inhibitors. They prevent DNA in damaged cells from repairing themselves. As a result the cancer cells die off or become more susceptible to chemotherapy drugs. Radiation therapy Radiation therapy also targets tumors and keeps cancer cells from growing or kills them altogether. External beam radiation therapy, which zaps the tumor with a radioactive beam, typically takes 6 ½ weeks. A newer development called accelerated partial breast irradiation delivers radiation to the site of the tumor either during or after surgery. It can shorten the radiation treatment to between one and five days. It also reduces the treatment areas from the entire breast to the area just around the tumor site. “The goal is to use a less invasive, more focused treatment of radiation, without compromising survival,” Wilson says. women I OCTOBER 4, 2011 Targeted therapy Another advancement in treatment is the use of targeted therapies, which use drugs or other substances to identify and attack specific cancer cells without harming normal cells. The targeted cancer therapies block the signals that cause tumors to grow. Hormone therapy is a type of targeted therapy. Drugs such as Tamoxifen and aromatase inhibitors remove hormones or inhibit their actions, which stops cancer cells from growing. Tamoxifen can reduce the risk of recurrence by almost 50 percent; women generally take the oral medication for up to five years after breast cancer treatment. Another treatment innovation is the use of antibodies to kill cancer cells. Monoclonal antibodies are sometimes combined with chemotherapy. They help the immune system attack cancer cells, keep the cancer cells from growing, and help keep a tumor small by preventing it from developing a blood supply. Herceptin is one such monoclonal antibody. It targets cells that make too much of the growth factor protein HER-2, found on some cancer cells. About 25 percent of patients with breast cancer have tumors that are treatable with Herceptin and chemotherapy, Wilson says. More on the way While great strides have been made in breast cancer treatment, improvements are continually being sought. Agnesian HealthCare’s Central Wisconsin Cancer Program conducts research through an affiliation with the North Central Cancer Treatment Group and has trials open for breast cancer genetic testing, breast cancer prevention after diagnosis, radiotherapy treatment and chemotherapy treatment. St. Vincent Regional Cancer Center is one of 63 Community Clinical Oncology Programs in the United States and Puerto Rico. It has 15 clinical studies open for breast cancer and a total of 155 studies in progress for all cancers. Wilson’s responsibilities include being well informed on all available and potential treatments she can offer to patients. One study being conducted aims to prevent another recurrence in patients whose breast cancer has returned. Another study aims to prevent heart damage while using Herceptin. Drugs used to treat patients with advanced breast cancer are also being studied, and another treatment aims to prevent breast cancer recurrence with a medication that’s also used by patients with diabetes. In the future, Wilson expects to see continued improvements, particularly in treatments that work to keep breast cancer from recurring. “It would be good if nobody had breast cancer, but it’s so exciting to see that if you do get cancer of the breast that there are so many treatments now and it’s so tailored specifically to your kind of breast cancer,” she says. w WWW.MYWOMENMAGAZINE.COM Care Close to Home... We are proud to offer digital mammography! Visit us today. • St. Agnes Hospital • Ripon Medical Center • Waupun Memorial Hospital agnesian.com All About You offers a full line of specialty mastectomy products for patients facing breast cancer. We work one on one in a private consultation to address your personal needs Mastectomy Supplies in prosthesis and bra fitting. We provide solutions to help you feel better, look better and enjoy your shopping experience. 1045 N. 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Her final surgery, in which she received breast implants, made the Appleton woman feel like herself again. “When it was over I felt like it was a dream, and now I’m back to where I was before,” says Vanderslice, who was diagnosed with cancer in February 2010 and had implant surgery that fall. “I’m really glad I did it, I just feel comfortable. I’m comfortable with my body right now.” This card makes me smile. Meghan, member since 2001 Low fees, great rates, AND rewards make it an easy choice! 14 Money Made Easy 920-729-5100 www.lakeviewcu.org For a woman dealing with a mastectomy and breast cancer treatments, reconstructive surgery offers an opportunity to regain her former look and Dr. Todd Van Ye provides a psychological boost as well. “It provides a sense of wholeness that’s very important,” says Dr. Todd Van Ye, founder and medical director at The Center for Aesthetics and Plastic Surgery, Neenah. “Some women choose not to, but the women who have chosen it are overwhelmingly glad they underwent reconstruction. I’ve never had a patient say, ‘I wish I had not done this.’” Early consultation Reconstruction is more than an afterthought for those who have received a diagnosis of breast cancer. It’s something a woman can start thinking about, and looking forward to, soon after being diagnosed. “Having a consultation with a plastic surgeon even before you undergo a mastectomy is very, very important,” Van Ye says. This gives the women the opportunity to learn about reconstruction options that can begin in the same surgery as a mastectomy or lumpectomy. While the patient is understandably most concerned with doing what she needs to to beat cancer, she can also look forward to having her figure back. “The social, emotional and psychological ramifications of a mastectomy are tremendous,” Van Ye says. “Every woman should be offered the opportunity to speak with a reconstructive surgeon. It makes a huge difference in a patient’s wellbeing in years to come. “It’s good to give them that hope early on.” A patient should ideally also speak with someone who has gone through treatment and reconstruction, he adds, to see that life does return to normal. women I OCTOBER 4, 2011 “It’s so nice to see a patient a year or two down the road,” he says. “They feel complete, and can put on a bathing suit and take their kids to the pool.” Reconstruction options Reconstructive surgery is not limited to patients who have had the entire breast removed; it can be done in a patient who has had a lumpectomy or other surgery that distorts the look of the breast. It can also help patients who have had tissue scarred or distorted by radiation treatments. “There are a variety of reconstruction options to help them return to symmetry,” Van Ye says. The breast on the opposite side may need a lift or augmentation to make the sides look proportional, he notes, and the result is usually moderately sized, youthful appearing breasts. Breast reconstruction can be done with an implanted device, body tissue taken from the lower stomach or back or a combination of the two. Today’s implants are very soft and natural feeling, Van Ye notes, and use a cohesive gel that’s much like Jell-o. “It’s different than 20 years ago where the gel was like honey or molasses,” he says. “With these implants it replicates breast tissue very well. You very often can’t tell by feeling the breast that there’s an implant there.” In addition, breast implant results can be improved by using an additional substance to support the breast and give it better contour. The breast implant procedure typically starts with a tissue expander that is put in at the time of a mastectomy. Over the next weeks, the patient comes in to have the expander filled to stretch the skin and muscle. After the desired size is reached, the expander is removed and implants are put in. The opposite breast is typically worked on as well, to even things out. Luncheon and Purse Silent Auction October 25th, 2011 11:30 am – 1:30 pm Radisson Paper Valley Hotel Downtown Appleton $45 per person $360/table of 8 $450/table of 10 Contact Marilyn Schenian at 920-954-1015 or [email protected] for more information. A Benefit for Finishing touches Finally, the look of the nipple is added. At The Center for Aesthetics and Plastic Surgery, Samantha Moeller, a master certified permanent cosmetics specialist, recreates the look of the nipple and areola complex with a pigmentation process. “It is shadowed and lightened to give appearance of a whole nipple and areola,” says Moeller, who applies pigment to the breast tissue in a procedure that takes about 30 minutes. “It’s usually not painful, although it can be done with anesthetic if necessary,” she adds. “There is very little discomfort.” The result is a natural-looking breast. “I had one patient tell me it took her from victim to survivor,” adds Moeller, a registered nurse who has helped hundreds of women in the decade she has been doing permanent cosmetics. A relief From her diagnosis to treatment and reconstruction WWW.MYWOMENMAGAZINE.COM 15 In OSHKOSH Tour 9 Amazing Homes including 7 New Construction and 2 Remodel Projects Details at www.whba.net at Sunnyview Expo -Home Improvement Booths – Fri-Sun. -Holiday Vendors Fri. & Sat. Only -Halloween Fun Fri., Sat. & Sun. 2 Great Family Events $5 Adult Tickets incl. admission to both! Call 235-2962 for details. Samantha Moeller surgery, everything seemed like a whirlwind for Vanderslice. She had a lumpectomy, but because the tumor was large most of her breast was removed. Because of the type of breast cancer she had, she did not need to be treated with radiation or chemotherapy. Vanderslice, who is in her 50s, spoke with Dr. Pawel Stachowicz of The Center for Aesthetics and Plastic Surgery before surgery to discuss breast reconstruction. At the end of her lumpectomy, he inserted expanders to begin the reconstruction process. Every few weeks for six months she went to the center to have the expanders filled a little more. “It was not painful, just uncomfortable,” she says. “After a couple days I would start to feel normal.” It helped that the staff was caring and thoughtful, she notes. “The staff there was so wonderful,” she says. “They were almost like family. That was a very nice experience.” After the expansion was complete in fall 2010, she returned for implant surgery. “That surgery was nothing,” she says. “I don’t think I even took Tylenol. It was almost like a relief. It was over and it was nothing compared to the rest of it.” She loves her new look, and advises other women who have had lumpectomy or mastectomy surgery to check into their reconstruction options. “It’s a very personal choice, but check out every opportunity you have,” she says. “Do whatever you can to get through it.” w “When I found I had to have surgery, this was the first place I chose to come for rehabilitation. 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The trick is to teach children some organizing skills without interfering with all that great energy. Children are natural helpers. Even very young children love to emulate their parents and find joy in feeling valued for helping out. When you’re dusting, hand them their own dust rag. Give them a broom and let them help sweep the floor. Even a 3-year-old can do many small jobs that will help keep their room and your home clean. On the shelf To encourage children to keep their space clean, give them a place to put their things. Set up some shelves in your child’s room, making sure the shelves are low enough for the child to reach. Shelves work great because kids can see at a glance what they want to play with. When they are done playing, before nap time, or at the end of the day, the can put their toys back on the shelves. Hooks and hammocks Other items can be kept off the floor with hooks and a small hammock. Hooks can be used to hang up coats, backpacks, robes and accessories. Kids enjoy using hooks, as they are used to them at school. A stuffed animal hammock works great in the corner of WWW.MYWOMENMAGAZINE.COM a room. It’s easy for kids to store their stuffed animals here. Toys can also be organized in clear plastic bins or containers that allow children to see what is in the box. Small toy pieces can be put in used plastic food containers or Tupperware. Collections Children love collecting small things, such as shells, marbles and stickers. Cigar boxes are great for this, and children can decorate the outside with felt, paper or stickers. A collection of the child’s artwork can be stored in a threering binder. Purchase plastic sleeves and slip the pictures into them. At the end of the year, go through the book and let your child help decide which ones to keep. Artwork can also be stored in a scrapbook. It’s also a great place for each child to keep school pictures, report cards, notes and mementoes. Write the child’s name on the scrapbook in big letters to help the child look forward to contributing to the book. You can also include pictures of special projects. Sharing and caring Children learn the importance of giving when they donate toys they no longer use. Have them go through their toys and decide which ones to give away. Then take them with you to donate to the charity of your choice. This will teach your children the value of sharing and help them see that another child will enjoy the toy they once loved. Keeping their space clean will also teach them a valuable lesson. It will instill in them a sense of pride in their abilities and accomplishments, helping them on their journey to becoming responsible young adults. Sandra Peterson is a professional clutter consultant and organizer from Sherwood who teaches classes on organizing. 19 Mind Tech Talk Use your smartphone as a pocket travel guide Let’s face it: We’ve all been Aloqa and Urban Spoon lost, whether while looking for a store in your own For the BY TAMMY HOMAN neighborhood or visiting a times when new city. you have nowhere to go and plenty of time to get there, there For the explorers and directionally-challenged are a number of applications that can help you among us, it may be time to add your smartexplore. Aloqa notifies you of interesting places, phone to the list of things you never leave home events, music and movies near you based on without. Beyond making calls and sending texts, your preferences. your smartphone can serve as a GPS, business directory and all-in-one travel guide. Urban Spoon helps you choose where to eat based on location, Google Maps price or cuisine. Set your preferNo matter which smartphone you ences, press “shake” and the aphave, Google Maps for mobile replaces plication will pick a restaurant the need to carry a paper map or print that meets your craving. The app out directions. will provide a phone number, map and reviews. The mobile site provides searchable Travel apps maps, driving directions and business When it comes to traveling, everyone has their listings with addresses and phone own interests. Luckily, the app stores for Annumbers. The Google Map application droid, Windows Mobile and Blackberry each for Android devices enhances the experience by feature a travel application section. providing turn-by-turn directions and eliminating the need for a separate GPS unit. Before starting on your next cross-country vacation or Saturday afternoon road trip, take some The app can also find your location, in case time to browse the travel apps and find one that you’re not quite sure where you are. meets your needs. Poynt With a smartphone as your guide, you can exWhen you’re on the go, getting plore and get where you need to be without getto your destination is usually ting lost again. only half the battle. Finding gas Tammy Homan is the media relations/communications stations, restaurants, shops and coordinator for Nsight/Cellcom in Green Bay. things to do is another story. Google Maps provides business listings, but apps like Poynt go above and beyond to help you find exactly what you’re looking for. Poynt helps you find local businesses and provides an option to call or get directions right from the listing. The app lets you search for restaurants by name, cuisine or to proximity to your location. You can see reviews, hours and prices without going to a separate page. It is also possible to search movie listings, look for gas stations, check gas prices and peruse local events by category, venue or performer. The application is available for free across all popular smartphone platforms. 20 women I OCTOBER 4, 2011 Recipes Half the Fat Caramel Apple Cookies From Chef Jenn Malvitz, Fox Valley Technical College Joe Bruno and Mark Heinrich, two of my students, helped develop this recipe and worked diligently to decrease the fat. They replaced the shortening from the original recipe with our applesauce and prune mixture. 6 ounces butter 1 tablespoon vanilla 2 teaspoons butter flavor 1 teaspoon maple extract 1¾ cups sugar 2 cups brown sugar ½ cup applesauce 4 prunes 5 egg whites 2 egg yolks 3 cups all purpose flour 2 teaspoons baking soda 2 teaspoons baking powder 2 tsp salt 4 cups quick oats 3 cups butterscotch or caramel chips 2 cups walnut pieces 2 cups dried apples (chopped) Cream the butter, vanilla, butter flavor, maple extract and sugars until light and fluffy. In a food processor, combine the applesauce and prunes and process until smooth and blended. Add applesauce-prune mixture and egg whites and yolks. Beat again until fluffy. Scrape the bowl. Mix together the dry ingredients. Gradually add flour/oat mixture, beating only until well combined. Scrape the bowl, especially the bottom. Blend together butterscotch chips, walnut pieces and chopped dried apples. Add to dough. Scoop onto parchment-lined sheet pans in rows of 4 by 6, leaving at least 2 inches between each cookie. Bake at 325 degrees for 10 to 12 minutes, rotating the pans half way through. Get the fat out by Chef Jenn Malvitz Just about any baked item can be altered to decrease the fat. There are a few ways to do this. First, we must understand the functions of certain fat-based ingredients such as butter, shortening and eggs. Removing all the butter and shortening is not a wise move for a sellable product. Butter provides both tenderizers and flavor while shortening is only a tenderizer. So it’s better to replace the shortening for less fat. Likewise, egg whites provide structure and moisteners with no fat, while the yolks contain fat and a little moisture. Thus, it’s better to decrease the yolks. Pureed fruits are a great way to replace the fat in baked products. My favorite is 1 cup of applesauce and ½ cup of prunes, pureed together. This can be substituted cup for cup or ounce for ounce for the fats in the recipe. Once made, the applesauce-prune will keep for weeks in the cooler. When using a fruit puree in a recipe, remember to add it after the butter and sugars have been creamed together. WIN a cookbook What is Connie and Kaiti Verbruggen’s foundation called? from the American Heart Association! Enjoy great, healthy recipes from the American Heart Association. For your chance to win, send your name, address and phone number along with the answers to the questions listed to: Where is the White Oak Chapel? Women magazine, 1835 E. Edgewood Dr., Suite 105 #26, Appleton, WI 54913-9325. Name a travel guide for a smartphone. NAME ADDRESS CITY PHONE Congratulations to our most recent winner: Jackie Foster of Green Bay. All That Glitters will be at the Bergstrom-Mahler Museum until All answers in this month’s issue of Women. Entry deadline is Oct. 20. MINI TO THE MAX GIVEAWAY Watch GOOD DAY WISCONSIN this November for your chance to win! DRIVEN BY Layered Black Bean Dip 22 2 cans (16 oz) refried black beans 1 teaspoon cumin 2 tablespoons finely diced pickled jalapeno peppers (optional if you want it spicy) 1 teaspoon fresh lime juice 1 tablespoon of warm water 1 1/2 cups sour cream 1 package of taco seasoning 2 to 3 cups shredded romaine lettuce 1 to 2 cups shredded Mexican blend cheese 1 cup seeded, diced tomato 1/4 cup sliced pickled jalapeno peppers (optional) 1/4 cup sliced black olives A few tablespoons chopped scallions Tortilla chips Directions: In a bowl mix together beans, cumin, lime juice, water and diced peppers. If mixture is too thick you can a little water. Spread black beans on the bottom of pretty plate or clear dish. In another bowl, mix together sour cream and taco seasoning. Spread sour cream mixture on top of beans. Cover loosely and refrigerate until ready to serve. Right before serving, layer on, in this order, lettuce, shredded cheese, tomatoes, peppers, olives and scallions. Serve right away with tortilla chips. women I OCTOBER 4, 2011 Spirit Personality 5 Questions for... Cindy Stilp You’ve championed the public relations around the wind turbines and solar energy at SCA. Where does your interest in environmental issues stem from? I grew up around the very beautiful woods, lakes and rivers of northeast Wisconsin. That is still one of my favorite places to spend time. My appreciation for nature started during my childhood. It instilled a lifelong respect and consciousness for being environmentally responsible. That personal connection continues with my family and me. I am very fortunate to have that same connection in my professional life as well. When SCA decided to invest in alternative energy sources for our Service Excellence Center in Menasha, I was proud to oversee the communication of this exciting news. Last year SCA installed four new wind turbines. These turbines produce 100 to 125 megawatt-hours of energy per year, enough to power 10 homes. Wind turbines and solar panels are expected to deliver two to 2½ months of our facility’s electricity each year. Which project at SCA has been your favorite? In 2007, I led SCA’s launch of the Tork brand here in North America. We called the change the “Tork Revolution.” As a company, we evaluated our entire product portfolio, which incorporated hunWWW.MYWOMENMAGAZINE.COM Hometown: Goodman Now residing in: Appleton Age: 47 Occupation: Director of marketing and communications, SCA Tissue North America dreds of existing products and four brands that were being rolled up under the Tork brand name. One of the ways we introduced it was through a series of humorous and insightful videos that demonstrated that Tork would save money, reduce customer concerns and improve a business’s image. The videos and complementary tools were well received and were even mentioned in Advertising Age because of their unique approach. Best of all, the entire launch was rolled out without a single customer complaint. At first, this project seemed daunting. It was a new challenge for me and I understood the magnitude. I really challenged myself and learned so much along the way. How would you rate northeast Wisconsin on its environmental focus? Northeast Wisconsin is very sustainable in comparison to other regions in the country. As a lifelong Wisconsinite, it makes me proud to see others, our communities and businesses striving to do more to decrease our region’s impact on the environment. How do you “go green” on a personal level? I do my best to be mindful of the small choices I make each day. This means using reusable water bottles rather than disposable ones, trying to reduce the number of documents I print out and conducting more meetings via conference call rather than traveling. CONTINUED ON PAGE 30 23 Women whoinspire Dr. Deidre Flanagan General surgeon Affinity Medical Group Appleton Why did you choose this line of work? I have wanted to be a physician for as long as I can remember. As a surgeon, there is great satisfaction in being the fix-it person. When did you know you were making a difference? So often, women come to me in a panic over a new diagnosis of breast cancer. Most of the time, I can reassure them that we will work together to give them Supporting the care that will let them grow old with their husbands and see their grandchildren. By the time they leave the office, I can see the devastation start to be replaced by hope and determination. That’s when I know I can make a difference in that woman's life! Marilyn Wilson Registered nurse; certified breast patient navigator, imaging and cancer St. Vincent Regional Cancer Center, St. Mary’s Site, Green Bay Photo by Kristi Kemp, Beau d’Art Photography, Kimberly. Photo location: Encircle Health, Appleton. Why did you choose this line of work? I believe that this job found me rather than the other way around. After a 35-year nursing career in obstetrics, our clinic was closed and I was presented with the opportunity to accept a position in the cancer center at St. Vincent Hospital. I knew I loved working with people and felt that I could make a difference in the lives of patients touched by cancer. This has been the most rewarding experience I have had in my life and I cherish all the friends I have made. Those with Breast Cancer When did you know you were making a difference? I know that I am making a difference by lightening the burden of a cancer diagnosis. I am there to provide hope, emotional support and a listening ear as patients walk this journey. I can direct patients to resources that can assist them. Back row, from left: Dr. Deidre Flanagan, Marilyn Wilson, Dr. Carrie Ann Thoms, Jodi Huebner, Kathy Jarek, Jennifer Kloostra, Dr. Elina Pfaffenbach and Fleurette Wrasse. Front row, from left: Jean Kuepper, Tara Bottchen, Becky Christensen, Kay Groeschl, Connie Worzala and Ruth Rodda. Every time I get a thank you or a hug from a patient or their family, I know that I have helped in some small way. Dr. Carrie Ann Thoms Breast surgeon Prevea Health Green Bay Why did you choose this line of work? When I finished general surgery residency in the 1988, women surgeons were an extremely rare commodity. Many of my patients were women with breast concerns. I found it a privi- lege to care for breast cancer patients and in an effort to offer the best care that I could provide for my patients, I acquired familiarity and skills in the latest techniques of breast surgery. Several years ago because my office practice consisted of almost entirely breast patients, I decided to devote all of my attention to breast surgery. I knew I was making a difference when patients returned for their yearly post-op checks and were cancer free. It has been a privilege to have nurses and physicians choose Womenwhoinspire me as their surgeon and send their loved ones to me for their breast concerns. It has also been very gratifying to be able to serve on state advisory panels, national breast cancer advocacy groups and with the American Society of Breast Surgeons. Jodi Huebner Cancer support counselor ThedaCare Appleton Why did you choose this line of work? My choice to work with cancer patients and their families is a blend of my personal and professional experience. I have been blessed to learn and experience what families who have been affected by cancer go through. All families have strengths as well as areas that need improvement. Stress magnifies both and I chose this line of work to help families learn how to go through this part of their journey in the healthiest way possible. When did you know you were making a difference? The work I do is truly humbling. I stand in awe of cancer survivors and family survivors every day. I know I am making a difference for patients when I stand with the women in our Breast Cancer-Vive! groups by providing a therapeutic and safe atmosphere where they are able to open up in ways they may not be able to with their other sup- ports. Cancer patients need to be supported in many different ways. We offer group support, individual therapy and therapy for families as well. It is also important to work as a part of the patient's team. The work I do fills a niche in making sure we are assessing all needs and treating the whole patient. helping with my first breast needle localization procedure. This patient did end up being diagnosed with breast cancer, which was caught early due to yearly mammograms. She is doing great 12 years later! Every year she reminds me how grateful she is that I helped her feel relaxed during a very stressful and scary time. Kathy Jarek Registered nurse; breast health educator St. Mary’s Hospital Green Bay Why did you choose this line of work? I love patient teaching! When did you know you were making a difference? When I am helping patients navigate the health care system after they’ve had an abnormal mammogram or breast ultrasound. Dr. Elina Pfaffenbach OB/GYN Physician Women’s Health Specialists, S.C. Appleton Why did you choose this line of work? I am not a breast surgeon, but I often make the diagnosis of breast cancer. When I have a patient who is diagnosed with cancer, my job is to follow through and make sure she knows where to go next. Women can be scared, and they look to me for reassurance and emotional support because we have already built a trusting relationship. Sometimes I’m just the compassionate ear. I become a friend with medical knowledge who can guide her through the process. As an OB/GYN physician, I really like the variety of taking care of patients young and old, from well women checks and obstetrics to surgery or through menopause. I follow a patient through her life changes and form a bond and a relationship with her. If I have a suspicion that a patient Jennifer Kloostra Mammography coordinator Agnesian HealthCare – Ripon Medical Center Ripon Why did you choose this line of work? I chose to work in mammography because of the close interaction with patients and knowing that I play an important role in women’s health. When did you know you were making a difference? I knew I was making a difference when I was Send flowers they can eat. EDIBLE FRESH FRUIT BOUQUETS The perfect gift for any occasion. SPECIALIZING IN PRIMARY CARE • Kidney Diseases • Diabetes • High Blood Pressure Accepting • Thyroid & Heart New Diseases • Asthma Patients Ifueko Okundaye, M.D. Board Certified Internist and Kidney Specialist La Sures’s Hall Banquets & Catering 3125 Washburn Street Oshkosh 920.651.0796 26 www.blossomsatlasures.com Most insurance accepted, including United Health and Network Health women I OCTOBER 4, 2011 might have breast cancer, I prepare her for what we might discover. When there is a diagnosis, I call her and ask her to come in and we talk face-to-face about what this means to her and what the next steps will be. I connect her to the right people to take care of all of her needs. I want to be with the patient throughout the journey so she is not lost and wondering what to do next. When did you know you were making a difference? I saw that my patients needed more than a skilled breast surgeon; they needed to have a guide for all the steps they would go through with breast cancer. When I have built a trusting relationship with a patient, she feels more comfortable with what is happening to her. I had a patient I’d known for 10 years give me a hug and say “thank you for being there for me.” That was the moment I knew I had made a difference in her life. Fleurette Wrasse Registered nurse; breast care coordinator Aurora Medical Center Oshkosh Why did you choose this line of work? I am a breast cancer survivor. I am also a nurse. When I was told that I had breast cancer I was astounded at how much I didn't know or understand, at how many questions I had, and at the emotional roller coaster I was on and couldn't seem to get off! Two years later, when I had the opportunity to develop this role at Aurora, I knew I could help women, newly diagnosed with breast cancer, to navigate those turbulent times. When did you know you were making a difference? I knew I was making a difference immediately. I can see it in my patients’ eyes when they realize that I have been there and done that. It’s comforting to talk with someone who understands your feelings and your fears. Jean Kuepper Owner All About You Appleton Why did you choose this line of work? I choose this line of work for many reasons. At the time of my breast cancer diagnosis, 15 years ago, there were a few shops in the Appleton area that offered mastectomy products for women. As time went on, these shops all seemed to disappear, with Lillies being the last shop in the area to close. My insurance company sent me to a pharmacy to get my bras and prosthesis. It was such an uncomfortable experience. I decided at that time the women of the Fox Cities needed a warm and welcoming place to go for products. I slowly started All About You in 2007, while working WWW.MYWOMENMAGAZINE.COM at Appleton Medical Center in the nuclear medicine department. As time went on and the shop got busier, I was able to build my inventory and decorate to where women truly have choices and a place to feel comfortable in. That has been my goal since opening All About You. When did you know you were making a difference? I know I am making a difference when my clients tell me how thankful they are that I am here. I think that the fact that I truly know what they are going through makes that difference in my business. Tara Bottchen Lead mammography technologist/patient care coordinator ThedaCare Encircle Health, Appleton Why did you choose this line of work? I am a very caring and compassionate person and wanted to be in a career that allows me to treat every patient like my own family and help them through what can be a time of very high anxiety. When did you know you were making a difference? I had just finished an exam and as I was walking a patient out, she stopped me and gave me a big hug and said, “Thank you!” I have carried her gratitude with me every day since then. Love Your Career! They say that the best way to predict the future is to create it yourself. Why not start right now? www.fvtc.edu/getstarted 27 Womenwhoinspire Becky Christensen President Necessities Bag Wisconsin, Inc. Omro Why did you choose this line of work? I am a breast cancer survivor who had wonderful care and wanted to give back to my community. One way to give back was to help other women with breast cancer by giving them practical guidance and essential supplies. The Necessities Bag does just that. When did you know you were making a difference? When I first started my business I gave all of the Necessities Bags out myself. I recall one woman who was very upset with her diagnosis of breast cancer. I started to go through the supplies in the bag, but I could tell that she was not listening so I set it aside. I started to ask her questions and she was just so ridden with anxiety that she could not answer and spent most of her time crying. I then resorted to stating what I felt when I was at that point, and her body language showed me to continue. I explained that I was not aware that I would not be able to lift my arm up very far after surgery and that is why we include a men's Tshirt in the bag. She asked to see it and then I pulled all of the items out. She started to ask more questions about how items in the bag helped me and I ended up going through everything. When I got to the homemade pillows, her eyes lit up. She immediately said, “I am a quilter and I have a lot of fabric. Can I make pillows for your bags?” She started to tell me the types of material patterns she had at home and how pretty they would be as pillows in the Necessities Bags. We ended up talking for almost two hours and she realized that she now had a purpose in life. She told me that her purpose in life was to get better so she could help others. 28 It was at that point that I knew I was making a difference. My job is not just to supply Necessities Bags to women about to undergo a mastectomy for breast cancer, but to also inspire others to do the same. Most of my volunteers are past recipients of the Necessities Bag. Kay Groeschl Registered nurse; Agnesian breast care coordinator Agnesian Healthcare Fond du Lac Why did you choose this line of work? I have been in nursing since 1975. As a young person I felt that nursing was more a vocation than a job, therefore I chose nursing for my profession. I love working with people, including our patients and associates. I worked in surgical nursing and medical imaging for years and then in 2007 became one of the breast care coordinators at Agnesian, sharing the position with Lisa Michels. When did you know you were making a difference? I have felt that every day since I started in nursing I have had the opportunity to touch peoples’ lives when they are in need – physically, mentally and spiritually. When our breast cancer patients are going through the diagnostic workup and hear the diagnosis, they appreciate that someone is there with explanations and support in their journey of procedures, appointments and emotional struggles. Connie Worzala Registered nurse; patient navigator St. Vincent Hospital Regional Cancer Center Green Bay Why did you choose this line of work? Most of my nursing career has been in oncology work. When I returned to nursing after being away nine years with my children, I had an opportunity to work evenings on a mixed medical, renal, oncology floor at St. Vincent Hospital. I felt I was meant to be there working with patients from the spectrum of recent diagnosis and treatment to end of life care. More than 12 years later my daughter suggested it was time to find something on the day shift since she would be leaving for college and she did not want her dad to be alone in the evenings. I applied for a day position in clinical research but did not get it. However, the director of the cancer center called and offered me my present position as a patient navigator. I feel my job is a gift from God. It allows me to work with many different people with many different cancers at a variety of stages. I love my job, the people I work with and the patients and families I care for. No one day is like the other! Ruth Rodda Woman’s health specialist A Woman’s Place, St. Mary’s Hospital Medical Center and St. Vincent Hospital, Green Bay Why did you choose this line of work? I was fortunate to work with women and infants early in my nursing career, originally as a neonatal intensive care nurse. I developed a passion for empowering women to take responsibility for their own body and their own health. When did you know you were making a difference? Recently I had an encounter with a woman here at A Woman’s Place that really changed me. This woman was familiar with our loan closet and staff. The loan closet supplies wigs, hats, breast prostheses and bras for women who may not be able to afford the items while going through cancer treatments. It was at the end of the day, right at closing time. In a very soft-spoken women I OCTOBER 4, 2011 voice the woman asked if she could look for a new bra. She said she had just come from her doctor’s appointment and finally had the energy to make it up here. I clumsily helped her as best I could to sort through different sizes and styles. (Usually our front desk staff members help women with the loan closet, but they had gone for the day.) Nothing really seemed to work for her. However, as we “shopped” and laughed and cried, she mentioned that she had just been told that her cancer, which had been in remission, had returned. She went on to say that the doctor informed her that there were no more treatment options that could be offered to her. Finally, the women and I walked to the elevator together. She was not successful in finding the right bra. Before getting on the elevator, she stepped back, looked me in the eyes, and meekly said, “Thank you so much, I just knew I needed to come here today.” She then gave me a big hug. At that moment I realized, it’s not about the wigs, or the hats or the bras, but much more. The staff at A Woman’s Place offer so much more. God puts us each on the earth for a reason, and I pray each of us finds our purpose. (Not in larger photo) Lauren Klemm Patient navigator American Cancer Society Appleton Why did you choose this line of work? I wanted to combine my educational background in social work with the medical field, particularly oncology, because I have a family history of cancer and I know the effects it can have on families. When did you know you were making a difference? I met a patient shortly after she moved to the United States from a European country. She had support from her church but was concerned about how all of her needs would be met and how to find the right support and resources for her and her children. I connected her to local resources and was able to help assure that all her needs and the needs of her family had been addressed. Now each time I see her, whether in the clinic or in the community, we exchange hugs and she lets me know how she and her children are doing. After working with her for over a year, I know she has come to trust me and the American Cancer Society, and she values the services we can offer. 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My husband and I try to instill the same environmental values in our family. We try to reduce the amount of waste we generate, and we certainly recycle our paper, plastic and aluminum. We are enrolled in an energy savings program through WE Energies that limits our energy use to off-peak hours. Of course, we use Tork 100 percent recycled paper towels and napkins throughout the household. Our children are growing up with a much higher awareness of environmental stewardship than we had when we were young, and their dedication to this important effort helps to make it easier for our entire family to stay focused on living green. What’s your secret to balancing work and family? It’s all about stepping back and asking, “What is most important?” Every day it comes down to give and take in balancing work and family. Maintaining this stability remains an ongoing challenge. I approach this balance by making sure I focus on each and every little thing I can do. That means trying to always be home in time to have dinner as a family. It means marking all school activities on my calendar so I can try to work my travel and work Hello, I’m schedule around them. Sometimes it’s as simple as leaving work 30 minutes early and surprising my family. Going away to our cottage is also great personal and family time for me. The greatest factor in achieving balance is my husband’s support. A few years ago we had a serious conversation about one of us staying home with our children. He left his job of 23 years and started a business at home to give us the balance we desired. He continues to be my source of inspiration and serves as an amazing father and partner. w Do you know someone who should be in Women magazine? We want to hear about her! Send your suggestions to [email protected] or Women magazine, 1835 E. Edgewood Drive, Suite 105, # 26, Appleton, WI 54913. Kelly Krueger, a family medicine physician for Affinity Medical Group. While treating patients of all ages, my goal is to listen and create an individualized care plan that helps them maintain a healthy lifestyle. I have a special interest in preventive medicine and health promotion. If you would like to learn more about me or to schedule an appointment, please call (920) 223-7500. Outside of the office I enjoy traveling, reading fiction and spending time with my family. 2725 Jackson St. 30 | Oshkosh, WI, 54901 | affinityhealth.org women I OCTOBER 4, 2011 Kim M. Molitor, Kim M. Manager Molitor, Relationship Reinhart Partners, Inc. Relationship Manager Reinhart Partners, Inc. Savvy Money Management Savvy Money Management The last edition of Savvy Money Management provided sound strategies and suggestions for selecting an investment advisor that The last Savvy Money soundwith you can edition work inofpartnership with Management to reach your provided financial goals strategies and suggestions for selecting anwomen’s investment advisorgoals that confidence. 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Reinhart Partners, 2370 Highway You can reach herWI at [email protected] or Suite B., Oshkosh 54904 920-230-6929. Reinhart Partners, 2370 State Highway 44, Suite B., Oshkosh WI 54904 Sources: Morris, Virginia B. and Morris, Kenneth M. (2003) A Woman’s Guide to Investing, Lightbulb Press, NY, NY. Bach, David (2002) Smart Women Finish Rich, Broadway Books, NY, NY. Hill, Catey (2010) SHOO, Jimmy Choo! The Modern Girl’s Guide to Spending Less and Saving More, Sterling Publishing Company, NY, NY. Sources: Morris, Virginia B. and Morris, Kenneth M. (2003) A Woman’s Guide to Investing, Lightbulb Press, NY, NY. Bach, David (2002) Smart Women Finish Rich, Broadway Books, NY, NY. Hill, Catey (2010) SHOO, Jimmy Choo! The Modern Girl’s Guide to Spending Less and Saving More, Sterling Publishing Company, NY, NY. SPECIAL SECTION: Bridal The right fit ACCENT THE POSITIVE TO LOOK GREAT E very bride wants to look her best on her wedding day, and a gown that highlights her best features can help her look stunning. From ball gown styles to fitted mermaid dresses, there’s a style to complement all body shapes. Pear A woman with a pear shape is narrower through the shoulders and wider through the hips and thighs and benefits from a dress that draws attention upward. “A-line dresses are flattering on women with fuller hips and legs because they float away from the body,” notes Lu Ann Vander Zanden, owner of Bridal Elegance, Kaukauna. “A belted empire waist can be especially flattering on this body shape. It draws the attention up, away from the hips, accentuating the bride’s smaller top half.” Brides with a pear-shaped body may want to stay away from formfitted gowns and gowns with a dropped waist, she notes. Apple A woman with an apple shape is larger in the shoulders and chest, with smaller hips and legs. Staying away from strapless gowns may be a good idea with this figure, as 32 they can emphasize broad shoulders and be difficult to wear with a fuller bust. Vander Zanden suggests trying a one-shoulder gown accented with flowers. This style can break up the look of a wide shoulder and provide support for a fuller bust. A strapless gown can be worn by a woman with a larger bust if the sweetheart neckline is not too deep, notes Theresa DeMerit, owner of the Bridal Event, Appleton. “Make sure the fullness of the gown over the bustline is enough and it doesn’t cut too low,” she says. A woman with a generous waistline can also benefit from a dress with a ruched waist, which bunches the material in an eye-catching manner. “It’s almost a visual distraction,” DeMerit says. “It pulls the eye to a point at the side of the body. It’s nice for someone who wants to make their waist look smaller.” photos courtesy Lu Ann Vander Zanden, Bridal Elegance, Kaukauna by Brooke Vanden Branden Ruching is an eye-catching way to enhance the waistline. women I OCTOBER 4, 2011 Hourglass A woman with an hourglass shape has curvy hips and bust and a slim waist. “On a curvy figure, a dress with a fuller bottom is usually more flattering than something that fits tight around the hips,” Vander Zanden says. “To keep a nice shape, a beaded belt may be used to accentuate a thin waist.” A woman with an hourglass shape has many options, DeMerit notes. “Almost anything looks good,” she says. “Mermaid dresses are gorgeous on women with curvy figures.” Straight A woman with few curves can benefit from styles that emphasize full skirts. Ball gowns, such as those in the Disney collection by Alfred Angelo, offer a fitted top and a flowing skirt with layers of material such as tulle on the bottom. “A lot of the ball gowns have a wide belt and they really accentuate a small waist,” DeMerit notes. Vander Zanden likes to put brides with this body shape into gowns with a fit and flare style. These dresses are fitted throughout the body and flare toward the knee. Short A woman who is short in stature should remember that vertical lines in the gown will elongate the body and extensive detailing on the bottom will take away the illusion of height. “With some of the newer styles, such as the mermaid style and the more fitted gowns, you’ll want to stay away from a lot of detailing on the bottom if you’re shorter,” DeMerit says. “You want to keep the bottom more simple.” If a shorter bride wants a mermaid style dress, it might be best to modify it, DeMerit adds. “You may want to look at a modified mermaid without such a long waist,” she says. The right fit Even if your favorite style isn’t supposed to match your body type, a bride can still have the gown of her dreams. The right details and accents can make the difference. “We see every figure in every type of gown,” says DeMerit says. “You can find the style you’re looking for in something that will complement your shape.” No matter what your body shape, the first step is to start trying dresses on to see what looks good on you. “Try on a number of different styles,” DeMerit suggests. “You really cannot tell until you start trying things on.” w The Val le y’s largest selection o f w e d d i n g b a n d s w i t h t h e Va l l e y ’s lowest prices. TENNIE’S JEWELRY WWW.MYWOMENMAGAZINE.COM Downtown Appleton Downtown Oshkosh 920.734.1858 920.231.0462 www.tenniesjewelry.com 33 hope is not giving cancer a fighting chance No matter what type of cancer we’re fighting, our goal is to beat it. And few are as well equipped as we are to do just that. We offer the largest group of oncologists, centered on a multi-disciplinary approach to treating all cancers— with more treatment options and more clinical trials than any other center. Our team of experts work together, developing a treatment just for you. Carrie Ann Thoms, MD, FACS Breast Surgeon The fact is we have a long history of treating cancer, with a program that has multiple locations and the highest level of accreditation in the region. And we’re the only program in the region recognized by the National Cancer Institute. With survival rates that are proven and outcomes that exceed national rates, this is a fight we are winning. Seth Smith, MD, FACS Breast/General Surgeon In recognition of Breast Cancer Awareness Month, no one understands better the importance of regular mammograms and no other cancer team in Northeast Wisconsin has two specialists certified in Breast Ultrasound and Stereotactic Breast Procedures by the American Society of Breast Surgeons. 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That’s when layers and ruching can come to the rescue. “A lot of the bridesmaids dresses we are seeing this year are cut shorter, above the knee,” says Lu Ann Vander Zanden of Bridal Elegance, Kaukauna. “This is not always a good look on everyone. Dresses with layering or ruching are a good idea because they are flattering on most body shapes. Something with an empire waist is another good option because it will float away from the body.” 36 women I OCTOBER 4, 2011 Vegas style Bridal Fashion: Las Vegas is known for glittery casinos, opulent hotels and of course, weddings. The sparkly city was the backdrop for a recent bridal fashion shoot put together by Sue Diehl of Model Your Brand, a division of Visuelle Productions in New London. PHOTOS BY DEBBIE DAANEN AND ASHLEY SCHMIT OF DEBBIE DAANEN PHOTOGRAPHY, APPLETON. MODELS: LORIE SCHREITER AND MIKE RAKOVSZKY WWW.MYWOMENMAGAZINE.COM 37 SPECIAL SECTION: Bridal by Darren Hindman O ne of the major decisions a couple makes when planning a wedding is where to hold the ceremony and reception. A number of locations in Northeast Wisconsin provide memorable settings, including: White Oak Chapel Forest Junction The wooded setting of the White Oak Chapel, W2230 Highway 10, Forest Junction, presents couples with a choice. They can get married under a canopy of trees or in the chapel with a view of the forest, and the decision can be a tough one. “What makes the decision so difficult is that the side walls of the chapel open up to make for a spectacular view of the wooded camp perimeter,” says Judy Keller, president of the board of directors for Camp Forest. “They can be opened all the way or just on an angle. “I had a couple last July that had their wedding here and before they even came out they said they wanted the ceremony outside,” she adds. “They came out and saw the chapel and the spectacular view from inside and then wanted the wedding inside.” The chapel, open May through October, is the centerpiece of Camp Forest, a Christian church camp 20 miles southeast of Appleton. The camp also has cabins, a dining hall, kitchen facilities and an outdoor pavilion reception area. The chapel seats 400 and offers a rustic, quiet setting. Keller often knows by the way couples look at the White Oak Chapel that it’s right place for them. “It just clicks with people,” Keller said. “Usually I can tell when people come out to see the place, the look on their face just says, ‘Wow, this is where I want to get married.’” White Oak Chapel can accomodate up to 400 guests. Charming location Couples have options when selecting a beautiful setting 38 women I OCTOBER 4, 2011 The Outeredge Stage Appleton You may not expect to find a wedding chapel featuring Old World architecture and state-of-the-art technology, in downtown Appleton, but that’s what’s offered at the Outeredge Stage, 303 N. Oneida St. This 90-year-old structure features Greek Revival architecture, 25-foot stained glass windows, 30-foot ceilings and a balcony. It also features a stage surrounded by crushed velvet drapes. Meyer Melodie Speakers enhance the sound system and a High End lighting system from Barco provides virtually limitless lighting possibilities. Wedding packages are customized, notes owner Lyssa King, and the building’s technology allows couples to enhance the setting on a budget. “We are very service oriented because of our technology,” King says. “We can put images right over the stained glass or we have a theater backdrop to portray images on. “We have a lot of winter weddings and can put trees on the back wall with ice cycles dripping off them. They can really use the lighting to their benefit.” The Outeredge Stage, which seats 300, is open yearround for weddings as well as receptions. Another option is to have the ceremony at the Outeredge Stage and a reception in a nearby downtown location. “A lot of people hold their ceremony here because the building just screams tradition and at the same time they get use of the technology that makes them feel like they’re in a unique and hip environment,” King says. us that loved ones from as far away as Australia and Alaska were watching their ceremony. They say it makes them feel like they’re really there.” The chapel at W8832 Highway 96, Medina, got its start in 1875 as a Methodist church. The Goffards bought the building in 1994 and refurbished the structure. The chapel is open year-round for weddings and receptions and features a gazebo in the garden for ceremonies or pictures. Other amenities include seating for 100, original wood floors, turn-of-the-century pews and an extensive music library. The music is played on a Bose sound system that enhances the chapel’s acoustics, and the chapel also features a Story & Clark baby grand piano. Precious Memory Chapel Kaukauna Weddings are supposed to be a splendid celebration of a couple’s love for one another, and Mona Weaver cringed when she saw poor weather take away from the beauty of that special day. Weaver, owner of Mona J’s Precious Memories, vowed to help couples have a cost effective and beautiful wedding to begin their lives together. “I’ve seen weddings held outside in the rain,” Weaver says. “The bride was soaking wet and freezing and the wedding cake as well as all the other food was ruined. I thought that’s no way to start a precious memory. That’s Medina Wedding Chapel Medina Wedding Chapel Medina If you have loved ones who cannot attend your wedding, the Medina Wedding Chapel may be the place for you. The chapel streams all its wedding ceremonies live on its website. “It’s a very popular feature,” says owner Dennis Goffard. “Family members can watch a wedding live online from wherever they are. We’ve had couples tell WWW.MYWOMENMAGAZINE.COM 39 Precious Memory Chapel where the name Mona J’s Precious Memories came from.” Mona J’s Precious Memories, 1913 Crooks Ave., Kaukauna, can be a one-stop-shop for couples. “Guests can order their cake here, I can do the floral arrangements, and most importantly they can get married and have their reception here,” Weaver says. Featuring seating for 200 guests, 100 on the lower level and an ad- ditional 100 in the balcony area, Mona J’s offers an elegant, photofriendly setting with decorations that highlight the wedding colors. The garden, just outside the main chapel, provides a photo setting with a majestic gazebo, a pond with a bridge and an arched walkway. Couples can also have their ceremony in the garden. Free wedding planning and consultation are also available, and Weaver notes that primary focus of Mona J’s is to offer couples wedding packages that are customized for them. “Going into debt is really no way to start a marriage,” Weaver says. “I wanted to provide a beautiful yet cost-effective alternative.” w LET OUR HISTORY BE A PART OF YOUR HISTORY Celebrate your day at Algoma Club Trollbeads trunk show Follow us Friday, 14th Oct, 3–7pm. Saturday, 15th Oct, 10am–4pm. facebook/Algoma Club Twitter: @AlgomaClub 103 Algoma Blvd. I Oshkosh I 920.230.1082 www.algomaclub.com 40 Door prizes, factory representatives and refreshments 430 E NORTHLAND AVE, APPLETON www.theframeworkshop.com 920-731-2913 Mon-Fri 10am-7pm; Sat 10am-4pm women I OCTOBER 4, 2011 SPECIAL SECTION: Bridal What's for dessert? Brides have plenty of sweet choices by Deniz Cakmak Brides are always looking for fresh ideas to incorporate into their wedding, and the wedding cake is no exception. “Couples are looking for fun, unique cakes that reflect their personality,” says Tamara Mugerauer of Tamara’s the Cake Guru, Oshkosh. “Most of all, couples want a cake that is a great dessert as well as the centerpiece of the reception.” Flavor and taste From fruit flavors to creative combinations, couples have plenty of delicious choices when deciding what their wedding cake will taste like. “My most popular flavors are raspberry swirl filled with raspberry, red velvet with cream cheese, and confetti and chocolate chip filled with chocolate silk,” Mugerauer says. “Our top seller is chocolate raspberry swirl with chocolate mousse or almond strawberry swirl with a cream cheese filling,” notes Jenny Simon of Simple Simon Bakery, Appleton. “But we still get a fair amount of requests for our red velvet and carrot cake as well.” 42 Traditional flavors also have a strong hold on the market, as white and marble cake continue to make appearances. “We’ve been doing a lot of almond and carrot cake, which have been popular for a long time,” says Debra Reis of Manderfield’s Home Bakery in Appleton and Menasha. “People still order the normal white cake or marble cake because that’s something a lot of people would like. A lot of couples choose a flavor depending on what they think the people they invited to the wedding would like.” Styles and Trends The style of the cake often goes hand in hand with the wedding’s theme and colors, and can even highlight the details of the bride’s gown. “When I meet with couples we have so much fun designing their cakes, working off anything from the gown to the invite,” Mugeraurer says. “Brides will bring me a photo of their gown as a starting point and we decide from there. This year I am doing a lot with sugar flowers that mimic the fun whimsical fabric flowers that are showing up on the runways.” women I OCTOBER 4, 2011 Cakes can have a clean design with patterned tiers or something decidedly non-traditional. Simple Simon’s has fielded requests for themed cakes as well as showstoppers, such as a haunted house cake for a Halloween wedding or a Miller Park cake for Milwaukee Brewer fans. “Not everything is just traditional white cake with lacy scrolls,” Simon points out. Sweet alternatives WWW.MYWOMENMAGAZINE.COM photos courtesy Tamara's the Cake Guru, Oshkosh Television shows such as “Cake Boss” and “Cupcake Wars” have some couples veering away from the traditional cake and using cupcakes or small cakes as centerpieces for each table. “The trend is to go with a small cake, then to compliment it with either sheet cakes or side cakes,” Reis notes, adding that square cakes are becoming more popular than round ones. When couples use centerpiece cakes for each table, they can decorate them with different colors and designs, Mugerauer notes. “On each table a small cake serves double duty as décor and dessert,” she explains. “Some couples will even greet their guests by cutting the first slice of each cake at each table.” The cake can become a decorative focal point, taking the place of a floral centerpiece. “We have cake platters of different patterns and sizes that we have used for such an occasion,” Simon notes. “Other options becoming wildly popular are cupcake weddings, individual cakes, pie or torte table centerpieces, assorted dessert and candy buffets and petits fours.” Other couples use cupcake towers as a showpiece dessert. “Due to the popularity of ‘Cupcake Wars’ couples realize the great flavor combos these small desserts can provide,” Mugerauer says. “My couples choose a large variety of gourmet filled cupcakes, each decorated with anything from edible fall leaves to white chocolate seashells to tiny bows, candy pearls, polka dots, scrolls or monograms.” w 43 People and events from Green Bay to Fond du Lac Women's Fund Luncheon The Eleventh Annual Appleton Women’s Fund Luncheon was held on Sept. 8 at the Radisson Paper Valley Hotel. The Cup O Joy benefit concert was held at the Meyer Theater in Green Bay on September 10. Bebo N orman, Jan Oet tinger, K im M a r tin and G a b e. Black Tie and Blue Jean Extravaganza for The Bellin Erin Davisson and Diane Roundy Gayle Kagen and Irene Strohbeen Caryn Juidici and Sherry Coley Julie Heimerman, Janet Planet and Nancy Jorstad 44 Health Foundation was held on Sept.10 at The Weidner Center for the Performing Arts. Oshkosh Business After Hours was held at Fratello's on Sept. 7. Edie Krueger and Jody Wilmet Amy Blaskowski, Rachel Johnson and Wendy Lloyd Terri and Denis Dougherty Mindie Boynton and Dana Racine Cathy Smith, Carrie Clements, and Dawn Johanknecht Lindsay Stellmacher, Shane and Amanda Anderson women I OCTOBER 4, 2011 Algoma Club Ribbon Cutting Power of the Purse took place on Sept. 22 at the Algoma Club in Oshkosh. Jess & Nilda Madachor, Lily Ayhon and Rebecca Boyle The Women's Fund of Greater Green Bay held their 7th annual Power of the Purse Luncheon at the Radisson Hotel in Green Bay on Sept. 28. Karen Smits and Sherri Valitchka Jeanne Stangel and Barbara Vo-Koldos Dawn Collins and Caryn Juidici Gifty Berko, Nicole Jennings and Rupa Tak Rene Van Den Elzen and Amy Gutzman Cami Rapson, Judy Sweet and Jeanne Wolf Dorie Huss, Erfe Zaragoza and Maria Fe Espantaleon Pepe & Mila Ambas, Jesse Koonce and Patty & Marlo Ambas Women in theNews Lisha M. Vanevenhoven has joined Naturally Healthy Concepts, Menasha, as operations manager. She reports to owner and certified nutritionist Theresa Groskopp and supervises a team of 15. The following women are celebrating anniversaries with Coldwell Banker The Real Estate Group: Judy Owen, Neenah, 22 years; Marge Stammer, Appleton, 16 years; Jill Reinhard, Green Bay, 13 years; Marlyce Kaiser, Green Bay, 13 years. Cassie Wenzel, internal communications specialist with Integrys Energy Group in Green Bay, has successfully completed the Examination for Accreditation in Public Relations, entitling her to use the WWW.MYWOMENMAGAZINE.COM APR professional designation. The announcement was made by the Universal Accreditation Board (UAB), a consortium of nine professional communication organizations that directs this competency certification program. Hanson Benefits, an independent healthcare insurance agency owned by Chris Hanson, and Remmel & Associates, a life and estate planning agency owned by Darrell Remmel, have teamed up to create a shared office environment. Their new facility is at 5601 Grand Market Drive, Appleton. The following women were among those named Great Women of the Race for the Fox Cities Marathon, which was held on Sept. 18: Alisha Damrow, Menasha; Michelle Miller, Appleton; Karen Onderko, Neenah; Christine Schwartz, Little Chute; Malorie Rivet, Neenah; Stephanie Pereira da Silva, Oshkosh; Emily Bowles, Appleton; Kathy Vendola, Appleton. 45 Women's Voices Handling with care COMPLICATED MOVES BEHIND THE SCENES BRING EXHIBIT TO LIFE BY JAN MIRENDA SMITH L ike performances, exhibits in a museum must go on – no matter what happens behind the scenes. The audience sees a seamless, informative presentation, despite the maneuvers needed to bring it to fruition. I’m excited that the Bergstrom-Mahler Museum, 165 N. Park Ave., Neenah, is presenting All That Glitters through Feb. 19. It will examine the simplicity of sculptural forms that capitalize on the complex refractive qualities of light to create a seductive allure and glimmer so natural to glass. Bringing these beautiful objects together has not been without its challenges, however. Exhibits like this are not easy to construct or fund; they do not come packaged as a rental. About a year ago, I began assembling the artists for this show from across the country. We discussed the concept and I asked if they could consider sending about six works each for exhibition. At the time it seemed a reasonable request. As the year progressed, the economy took its toll on the artists. Some were not producing enough work to spread to exhibition commitments, let alone tie work up in a museum for months. There were health issues, studio shutdowns and layoffs, as well as packing and shipping challenges. I soon realized there was no exhibition to be had without a scramble. The hunt evolved to a tremendous collaborative effort on the part of the artists, the collecting community, galleries and the museum. Artist Sidney Hutter had a shoulder injury, so packing anything from his studio was out of the question. We found his works through collectors and Habatat Gallery, Michigan, and he found a contribution from an exhibition angel to assist with the expense of shipping. Kreg Kallenberger was also injured, but sent two incredible pieces from his studio and one from a private collection in Chicago. Christopher Ries could manage three pieces from his studio. However, selecting the right three as he prepared for a show in Amsterdam was difficult. After some deliberation, three stunning pieces were shipped as promised, in spite of a studio flood as a result of the hurricane that caused rivers to overflow. A work by Michael Taylor was generously supplied by a collector from Maryland, and David Huchthausen has kept in close contact, even after his studio manager passed away and he had a sewer pipe break in the studio that wreaked havoc on inventory and computer systems. Just as I began to wonder if this was truly out of our hands, Toland Sand made six new works expressly for this exhibit and sent them from his studio in New Hampshire. He also promised a gift to the museum. After a difficult journey, it has all come together. The show will go on. All That Glitters would not be possible without tremendous behind-the-scenes support. Sponsors such as the John E. Julien Fund of the Greater Milwaukee Foundation and the Wisconsin Arts Board deserve our gratitude. In addition, the value of relationships with artists, collectors and galleries is priceless. The public sees a stunning display when they walk into the museum, but what they do not see is the importance of credibility in defining the lender/museum relationship and trust established in how the museum handles and displays the work. It is truly a privileged relationship to share these valuable pieces. Finally, this does not happen without a small dedicated staff enduring long drives and long days of packing, transporting, cleaning, installing, creating educational materials and ensuring the safety of the works on exhibit. In the end, our hope is to provide an inspiring, valuable and meaningful experience. Our purpose is to fulfill an educational mission, but also to provide the context for a meaningful, inspirational encounter with a work of art. We welcome you to experience this for yourself. In addition to All That Glitters, we will present glass making artists at work during Arts of Fire from Oct. 6 to 9, and a glittery celebration on Oct. 8 with Get Your Glitter On! Enjoy the events, now that you know all that went on to bring them to life. Jan Mirenda Smith is the executive director of the Bergstrom-Mahler Museum. 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