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PREVENTION, EDUCATION & OUTREACH
Maintain open,
honest
communication
with your kids
Communicate in ways
that work well for
you. Texting
sometimes gets a bad
rap, but so did the
telephone years ago.
Lots of kids today
text—many of them
even include their
parents. If it works
for your family, go
for it. The medium
you use matters less
than how much you
truly listen.
Inside this issue:
Parenting Tip
1
Road Trip with
kids
1
Family Fun
1
Effective
Communication
2
For the Kids
2
Calendar
3
Description of
Classes
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655-4ACS (4227)
SCHOFIELD BARRACKS
JUNE 2014
Road Trip with Kids
Planning will take out many of
the stressors of road trips with
kids. First, make sure that your
license and vehicle registration
are up-to-date and that your car
has been serviced and is road
trip ready. Next, get a map of
your route and ask the whole
family to start planning where to
stop to eat and what to see along
the way. Finally, pack the car
carefully for maximum comfort
and safety. Consider bringing
the following items to keep the
kids busy:
boonies” restrooms may be
non-existent.
spot all 50 states. Check online
for other license plate, and
car-trip, games such as the Alphabet game.
Spill-proof cups: Sippy cups
work great – even if your kids
have outgrown them. Squeeze
bottles are good too, but often
leak when dropped. Insulated
mugs can be filled with ice each
morning and refilled at pit stops.
Painter tape: Kids can play with
it, you can use it to label things
Postcards: Buy Pre-stamped
and it can be used to cover outlets
blank postcards which your kids in hotels. Painter tape is better
can decorate or buy postcards on than masking tape as it is
“I spy” Jar: Collect a jar full of the road and have your children removable without harming
tiny “treasures” such as paper
write to friends, relatives, even painted surfaces.
clips, candy, hair bows, buttons, pets.
Food Storage Containers:
coins, rings, keys, etc. Fill the
Easy
Wipes:
Diaper
wipes
are
a
Bring a variety of stackable cups
jar with rice, wheat, dried
road
trip
necessity.
They
are
and bowls with lids (such as
lentils, whatever, and glue the
great for cleaning faces and
Tupperware) to store snacks and
lid onto the jar. Have the kids
sticky
surfaces.
Also,
some
trash. Paper towels, plastic trash
find the items by turning the jar.
roadside restrooms are less than bags and clothes pins complete
super clean. Finally, out in “the this list.
License Plate Games: Try to
Family Fun - - - Crystal Garden
Supplies
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Several pieces of porous
material (such as BBQ charcoals, brick, sponges, or
broken clay pots.
Plastic or glass container
Paper cup
Salt
Plastic spoon
*Laundry bluing (Fabric
whitener, such as Mrs. Stewart’s or Bluette)
Ammonia
Directions
Place the porous materials in
the bottom of the glass or
plastic dish
Mix 4 tbsp. of water with 2
tbsp. of salt in the paper cup.
Stir the solution until the salt
dissolves. Add 2 tbsp. of
laundry bluing and 2 tbsp. of
ammonia to the mixture to
create a blue sludge.
Pour the sludge on top of the
porous material. Completely
empty the cup, including any
salt granules that didn't
dissolve.
The garden may have to
sit overnight before the
crystals start to grow
through the evaporation
process.
Add 2 tbsp. of salt two
days after starting the
garden. To keep the garden blooming, repeat
Step 2 but cut all ingredients in half. Add this new
mixture anytime the garden seems to be losing
its vibrancy.
Add a drop of food coloring for
colored crystals; otherwise,
the garden will be white. Wait *Laundry bluing stains
anything it comes in
for the sludge to absorb into
contact with.
the base material.
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ACS Family Advocacy Program
Effective Communication Skills #1: Listening
Come kick off Child Abuse Prevention Month with us!
Part 2 of a 5 part series on effective communication
Family Advocacy Program
Open
Houseof effective communication.
Listening is one of the most important
aspects
FOR THE
FOR THE
KIDS
KIDS
Successful listening means not just understanding the words or the information
Tuesday, April 1st
being communicated, but also understanding how the speaker feels about what
they’re communicating. Schofield Barracks ACS, Bldg 2091
10:00am-2:00pm
Effective listening can:

There will be activities for kids & a clothing swap!
Make the speaker feel heard and understood, which can help build a stronger,
deeper connection betweenStop
you.in and learn about the
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Create an environment where everyone feels safe to express ideas, opinions, and
wonderful
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feelings, or plan and problem solve
in creative
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Save time by helping
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information,
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and misunderstandings.
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going on.
Relieve negative emotions. When emotions are running high, if the speaker feels that
he or she has been truly heard, it can help to calm them down, relieve negative
feelings, and allow for real understanding or problem solving to begin.
Children’s Safety Comes First—
Be Ready to End Child Abuse
Tips for effective listening
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in a motor vehicle.
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driver
will be held
responsible
for compliance
withto
If traveling
you’re daydreaming,
checking
messages,
or doodling,
you’re
almost certain
the law. Violators of the law are required to attend a 4-hour class and may be
miss
assessed
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of $100-$500
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speakers,
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their
words
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head—it’ll
reinforce
their message
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and help you stay focused.
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the
same
as
waiting
for
your
turn
to
talk.
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can’t
concentrate
pounds.
on what someone’s saying if you’re forming what you’re going to say next. Often,
 Convertible Seat – Convertible seats can be used rear-facing, then converted to
the
speaker can read
and know
that your
mind’s limits
elsewhere.
forward-facing.
The your
seats facial
can beexpressions
used longer since
the height
and weight
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than for infant-only seats.
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Strive to be non-judgmental. In order to communicate effectively with someone,
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Children
that
are difficult
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seven years when
of agesuccessfully
should ride in
booster
seats
in
the
back
seat
until
the
vehicle
seat
belts
fit
properly.
executed, can lead to the most unlikely and profound connection with someone.
Next month will focus on Nonverbal Communication
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May 2014
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Army Community Service
Schofield Barracks
Bldg. 2091
(808) 655-4ACS
JUNE 2014
FAMILY ADVOCACY PROGAM
PREVENTION, EDUCATION & OUTREACH
Ft. Shafter ACS
Aloha Center
Bldg. 330
(808) 483-4ACS
Sun
Mon
Tue
Wed
Thu
Fri
Sat
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
Anger Solutions
9:00-10:00am
SB ACS
Active Parenting
of Teens
12:00-1:30pm
SB ACS
Wahine Walk & Roll
8:30-9:30m
Watts Field
New Parent Support Happy Couples
Orientation
5:30-6:30pm
1:00-2:00pm
SB ACS
SB ACS
Play Morning
10:00-11:00am
SB ACS
Stress Solutions
12:00-1:00pm
SB ACS
8
NPSP Movie
Matinee “UP”
10:00-12:00
SB ACS
9
10
11
12
13
The Prosperous
Parent
9:00am-12:30pm
SB ACS
Happy Couples
5:30-6:30pm
SB ACS
Partner Talk
11:45am-12:45pm
SB ACS
Happy Couples
11:45-12:45
FS ACS
Wahine Walk &
Roll
8:30-9:30m
Watts Field
Sleep Solutions
3:30-4:30pm
SB ACS
Active Parenting
of Teens
12:00-1:30pm
SB ACS
Communication
Solutions
4:00-5:00pm
SB ACS
14
Sports Play
Morning
9:30-10:30am
AMR Sport Filed
Anger Solutions
2:00-3:00pm
FS ACS
15
16
17
New Parent Support Happy Couples
Orientation
5:30-6:30pm
1:00-2:00pm
SB ACS
SB ACS
Conflict Solutions
9:00-10:30am
SB ACS
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18
19
20
Play Morning
10:00-11:00am
SB ACS
Happy Couples
11:45-12:45
FS ACS
Wahine Walk &
Roll
8:30-9:30m
Watts Field
Expectant Parents
Series
4:00-5:30pm
SB ACS
Active Parenting
of Teens
12:00-1:30pm
SB ACS
Commander’s Brief
1:00-3:00
SB ACS
Anger Solutions
3:00-4:00pm
SB ACS
Regaining Balance
Seminar
9:00am-3:00pm
Call 655-4ACS for
more information
25
26
27
Happy Couples
11:45-12:45
FS ACS
Wahine Walk &
Roll
8:30-9:30m
Watts Field
23
24
Stress Solutions
12:00-1:00pm
SB ACS
Sports Play Morning Parenting Styles
9:00-10:00am
11:45am-12:45pm
Kalakaua Center
WEBINAR
SB
Expectant Parents
Series
4:00-5:30pm
SB ACS
Active Parenting
of Teens
12:00-1:30pm
SB ACS
Stress Solutions
2:00-3:00pm
FS ACS
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Home Alone
9:00am-1:30pm
FS ACS
Boot Camp For
New Dads
4:00-7:00pm
SB ACS
28
FAP Prevention, Education and Outreach Classes
June 2014
FOR COMMANDERS
COMMANDER’S BRIEF: Desk-side or Standing (see below) mandatory Command Brief for Company Commanders and their Senior Enlisted Advisors
Wednesday
June 18
1300-1500
Schofield ACS — or Desk-side on demand
ANNUAL FAP TROOP TRAINING: On-demand for groups of 10—1000 troops
ON-DEMAND ADDITIOANL CLASSES: We can provide classes on parenting, stress, communication, de-escalation, anger, couples, etc. etc. Give us a call and we will
tailor a class to your company’s needs and training schedule.
FOR ANGER/CONFLICT/SLEEP/STRESS
Anger Solutions This prevention program is for individuals to learn the basic foundations of anger awareness. The class will help participants identify their
own personal anger cues and ways to avoid letting anger get them in trouble.
Wednesday
June 4
9:00-10:00am
Schofield ACS
Thursday
June 12
2:00-3:00pm
Ft. Shafter ACS
Thursday
June 19
3:00-4:00pm
Schofield ACS
Conflict Solutions: We all have conflict in our lives. Sometimes we let this conflict control our lives, when ultimately the only thing we con control is our reactions. You will learn your conflict management style and the barriers to, and tips for, dealing with people whose styles are different from your own.
Monday
June 16
9:00-10:30pm
Schofield ACS
Regaining Balance Seminar: Regaining Balance with Master Resiliency Training . This one day seminar is designed for individuals who are rebuilding their
lives after an abusive or unhealthy relationship. Develop resiliency, sustainability and confidence!
Friday
June 20
9:00am-3:00pm
Call 655-4ACS for more information
Sleep Solutions: This workshop provides the latest research and tips on getting the best sleep possible. NOTE This is an informational class. Please consult
your health care provider if you are having severe sleep difficulties.
Wednesday
June 11
3:30-4:30pm
Schofield Barracks
Stress Solutions: In this basic workshop, we will identify the causes of stress as well as how it affects our lives. We share techniques such as positive self-talk
and how to not take things personally. We also teach ways you can help
yourself relax.
Monday
June 2
12:00-1:00pm
Schofield ACS
Monday
June 23
12:00-1:00pm
Schofield ACS
Thursday
June 26
2:00-3:00pm
Ft. Shafter ACS
FOR COUPLES
Communication: Learn tip and techniques to improve your communication in your relationship.
Monday
June 9
4:00-5:00pm
Schofield ACS
Happy Couples: This is a 3 week series of classes that helps couples build stronger, healthier and more resilient relationships.
Tuesdays
June 3, 10 & 17
5:30-6:30pm
Schofield ACS
Thursdays
June 12, 19 & 26
11:45am-12:45pm
Ft. Shafter ACS
Partner Talk: Building through communication. Learn techniques to improve the way in which you communicate with your partner. Explore how voiced and unvoiced
emotions impact the way you talk, or don’t talk, to your spouse.
Wednesday
June 11
11:45am-12:45pm
Schofield ACS
FOR PARENTS/FAMILIES
Active Parenting of Teens: This four-session program is designed for all parents of children ages 12-18. Parents will learn to identify ways to instill
courage and self-esteem as well as techniques for helping to develop responsible and cooperative teens.
Thursdays June 5, 12, 19 & 26
12:00-1:30p
Schofield ACS
Boot Camp for New Dads: Dads only! This class brings together first-time/expecting fathers with experienced dads in a discussion based class that
allows dads to ask questions and learn practical skills for taking care of mom and baby.
Friday
June 27
4:00-7:00
Schofield ACS
Expectant Parent Series: This four-week course for pregnant parents covers newborn care, planning your family’s finances and couples communication.
Wednesdays
June 18 & 25 July 2 & 9
4:00-5:30pm
Schofield ACS
Home Alone: An interactive workshop for parents and children that will provide children ages 10 to 12 tools to make responsible decisions as they prepare to stay home without parents present. Topics include: First Aid, Fire Safety, Stranger Awareness and Internet Safety. A parent must attend this
class with their child. Please register 2 days ahead of class.
Friday
June 20
9:00am-1:30pm
Ft. Shafter ACS
Mommy and Me Matinee: For caregivers and their children, ages 0-3 (older siblings welcome) join us for a free movie, fun and fellowship.
Friday
June 6
10:00am-12:00pm
Kalakaua Com. Center (SB)
New Parent Support Program Orientation: Stop in to find out about all the wonderful services New Parent Support Program has to offer. While there
you can sign up to be part of this extraordinary program.
Monday
June 2
1:00-2:00pm
Schofield ACS
Monday
June 16
1:00-2:00pm
Schofield ACS
Parenting Styles:
Wednesday
June 25
11:45am-12:45pm
WEBINAR
*Sign up on himwr.comm for this class and information will be emailed to you*
Play Mornings: This is a wonderful opportunity to meet other moms and dads, share information and parenting tips, and give your infant/toddler a
chance to interact with other children in a safe, structured and nurturing environment.
Play Morning - Little Ones (ages 0-3)
Wednesdays
June 4 & 18
10:00-11:00am
Schofield ACS
Sports Play – Pre-school (ages 3-5)
Friday
June 13
9:30-10:30am
AMR Sports Field
Sports Play – Pre-school (ages 3-5)
Tuesday
June 24
9:00-10:00am
Kalakaua Comm. Center
Prosperous Parent: Discuss essential parenting skills and challenges to parenting. Explore realistic and unrealistic expectations for children, understand
your child’s development, and create a plan for your child’s safety and
well-being at home, in the car and with others. Learn the 12 Rules of Discipline and effective punishments and rewards.
Monday
June 9
9:00-12:30pm
Schofield ACS
FOR WOMEN
Wahine Rock & Roll: No registration necessary. This is a social/exercise group for moms. We meet in the parking lot next to the red castle.
Fridays
June 6, 13, 20 & 27
8:30-9:30am
Schofield Watts Field
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Community. This includes Soldiers, Family
Members, and all of us who are concerned about the
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