A day for transgender, genderqueer, gender non
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A day for transgender, genderqueer, gender non
nc et on 01 P ri A day for transgender, genderqueer, gender non-conforming, non-binary, and gender questioning youth and allies 6 Trans Youth Forum ,2 dA on c e S al u nn Da yS ch ool • A pr t il 9 h Dear Friends, Welcome to the second annual New Jersey Trans Youth Forum sponsored by HiTops and GLSEN Central NJ. We are so happy and honored that all of you are here! Today is about taking advantage of great opportunities, gathering information, and enjoying a wealth of workshops that are enriching and challenging. You will have the opportunity to meet special guests, participate in activities and connect with local, state and national resources. This is your day to come together and know that you are not alone, but rather part of an incredible and resilient community of talented, tough individuals. To be transgender, genderqueer, gender non-conforming, nonbinary, or gender-questioning can be challenging to say the least. Though all of your stories and desires are different, they are all valid and are the mark of a gender culture that is growing and flourishing. Allies, we appreciate you for being part of the conversation. Today we are all here to share with each other, make connections, and continue to challenge the status quo. We give heartfelt thanks to Princeton Day School for their perseverance and creativity in planning and their generous hospitality in hosting this Forum, and we are honored to share the day with educator and trainer, Dr. Eli Green and his and Luca Maurer’s groundbreaking contribution – The Teaching Transgender Toolkit. Thanks to our hard working and generous planning committee, presenters, volunteers and donors who brought this program to life. It has been an honor to work with you to gather information and resources, as well as create a safe and welcoming space to celebrate the trans community. Thank YOU for being here today. You are part of a rich and diverse community with many truths. And remember, there are countless ways to be you. In a community of respect for all, Corrine O’Hara, Daniel Fernandez HiTops 3 Carol Watchler GLSEN Central NJ Transgender Resources Education and Advocacy National Center for Transgender Equality Social justice organization dedicated to advancing the equality of transgender people through advocacy, collaboration and empowerment. Offers info about rights of transgender students in schools. www.transequality.org Transgender Law Center Transgender Law Center works to change law, policy, and attitudes so that all people can live safely, authentically, and free from discrimination regardless of their gender identity or expression. www.transgenderlawcenter.org FTM International This is a worldwide female-to-male trans community support. This site is the internet contact point for the largest, longest-running educational organization serving FTM transgender people and transsexual men. Provides information, newsletters, publications, and support from volunteers who are willing to help if you need someone to talk to. www.ftmi.org Advocates for Youth Project “I Think I Might Be Transgender… Now What Do I Do?” http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/storage/advfy/documents/transgender.pdf ACLU’s Know Your Rights: Transgender People and the Law Provides legal information about document changes, employer issues, bathrooms, and more. https://www.aclu.org/translaw PFLAG’s Transgender Network (T-NET) Our Trans Children and Welcoming Our Trans Family and Friends, publications of the Transgender Network of PFLAG. Good resources to give to struggling parents or family members. http://community.pflag.org/Document.Doc?id=189 http://community.pflag.org/Document.Doc?id=202 Gendertalk The leading radio program advocating for transgender rights and dignity, while also exploring related issues that affect us all, like gender, sex, race, class, and more. www.gendertalk.com Sylvia Riviera Law Project The Sylvia Riviera Law Project works to protect the right of gender selfexpression and works to guarantee that all people are free to self-deter- 4 mine gender identity and expression, regardless of income or race, and without facing harassment, discrimination or violence. www.srlp.org TransFaith Online TransFaith is a national non-profit that led by transgender people and focused on issues of faith and spirituality. They work closely with many allied organizations, secular, spiritual, and religious, transgender-led and otherwise. www.transfaithonline.org Philadelphia Trans Health Conference A program of the Mazzoni Center—the focus of this unique three day conference is promoting transgender health and wellness in mind, body, spirit, and community. PTHC recognizes all aspects of well-being; including health, safety, education, employment, housing, and social support. www.trans-health.org Trans Youth Family Allies TYFA empowers children and families by partnering with educators, service providers and communities, to develop supportive environments in which gender may be expressed and respected.www.imatyfa.org Gender Spectrum Gender Spectrum provides education, training and support to help create a gender sensitive and inclusive environment for all children and teens. www.genderspectrum.org Trans Youth Equality The Trans Youth Equality Foundation provides education, advocacy and support for transgender and gender non-conforming children and youth and their families. Check out their Rosetta Stone, a translation guide for adults with transgender children.www.transyouthequality.org http://www.transyouthequality.org/trans101.html Mermaids Family and individual support for teenagers and children with gender identity issues.http://www.mermaidsuk.org.uk/ GALAEI A queer Latin@ social justice organization founded in 1989 to respond to the lack of support and resources for our community during the HIV epidemic. GALAEI embodies the histories of both the queer and Latin@ communities and maintains a strong commitment to being a community based organization dedicated to serving Latinidad through leadership and economic development, sexual empowerment, and grassroots organizing.www.Galaei.org 149 W. Susquehanna Ave, Philadelphia PA 19122 (267) 457-3912 5 LGBTQ Resources Education and Advocacy HiTOPS An adolescent health and sexuality education center in Princeton, NJ. Offers educational programs for all, and support groups for adolescents and young adults. 609-683-5155 www.hitops.org Appreciating Differences: Creating Safe and Respectful Schools This class defines biological sex, gender identity, and sexual orientation in a way that middle school students can understand. HiTOPS uses fun, interactive and age-appropriate activities to foster understanding, reduce harassment, and appreciate differences. Can be adapted for older students, parents, and teachers. Contact Elizabeth Walters at 609-683-5155 x218 GLSEN - Gay Lesbian Straight Education Network National organization for students, teachers and parents fighting to make schools safe for all, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity. Extensive resources for creating respectful, inclusive schools. www.glsen.org/centralnj www.glsen.org Safe Schools Coalition Extensive, up to date resources for making schools safer for all. Includes websites, research, classroom activities, and lots more. www.safeschoolscoalition.org PFLAG Provides support and educational materials for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, queer and questioning individuals, allies, and their families. www.pflag.org ANSWER Encourages sexuality to be understood, respected, valued, and celebrated through education and activism. Online sexual health resource for teens, by teens: www.sexetc.org & www.answer.rutgers.edu Ambiente Joven Un proyecto de advocates para jovenes y esta dedicada a la communidad gay, lesbian, bisexual, y transgender joven Latina en E.E.U.U. y Latino America. www.ambientejoven.org 6 Asexual Visibility and Education Network AVEN is a supportive community of sexual people and our allies that seeks to create open, honest public dialogue about asexuality. www. asexuality.org African-American Office of Gay Concerns A resource for the GLBTI community, focusing on HIV prevention, particularly for young men of color, as well as transgender and questioning youth. Located in downtown Newark. All are welcome, regardless of race or gender. 877 Broad St. Suite 211, Newark NJ. 973-639-0700. www.aaogc.org The American Institute of Bisexuality Organization focused on educating the general public about bisexuality. www.bisexual.org American Civil Liberties Union Working to make public schools safe and bias-free for LGBT students, defending their free speech in school, and working to help students start gay-straight alliance clubs. Several resources on students’ rights in schools. https://www.aclu.org/lgbt-rights/lgbt-youth-schools Advocates for Youth Resources for youth, parents and professionals concerning policy and advocacy for GLTBQ people. http://advocatesforyouth.org/topics-issues/glbtq Generation Q Queer radio from New Brunswick with Pedro Serrano. Thursdays 1011pm on WRSU-FM 88.7 http://wrsu.rutgers.edu Gender Spectrum Supporting gender expansive students. Excellent resource for schools and students. www.genderspectrum.org/studenttransitions Many Voices: A Black Church Movement for Gay and Transgender Justice www.manyvoices.org/getinvolved/shop New Jersey school district lets transgender student use the boys restroom http://www.nbcnewyork.com/news/local/Transgender-bathrooms-UseNew-Jersey-Lacey-Township-286236691.html American Psychological Association “Answers your questions about transgender persons, gender identity and gender expression.” http://www.apa.org/topics/lgbt/transgener.aspx 7 Transgender Youth Groups in NJ Add your group to this list at http://bit.ly/NJlgbtGroups HiTOPS - Trans Youth Group 1st & 3rd Saturdays, 3:30-5:00pm HiTOPS, 21 Wiggins St., Princeton, NJ Age range 12-20, www.hitops.org Contact: Corrine O’Hara, 609-683-5155 x217, [email protected] Gender Spectrums Support Network First and Third Transtime Social Group 1st & 3rd Wednesdays, 7-9pm, for youth of all ages At Project R.E.A.L. 805 4th Ave., Asbury Park, NJ www.GenderSpectrumsSupportNetwork.org Contact: Margo Saltzman 732-531-4290 [email protected] https://www.facebook.com/GenderSpectrumsSupportNetwork Gender Spectrums Support Network Church House of the Presbyterian Church 4th Wednesdays, 7-9pm 352 Sycamore Ave., Shrewsbury, NJ For trans* folks and allies of all ages www.GenderSpectrumsSupportNetwork.org Contact: Margo Saltzman 732-531-4290 [email protected] https://www.facebook.com/GenderSpectrumsSupportNetwork Transgender Support Group Free drop-in group for ages 18-26; meeting dates and times TBA 133 Franklin Corner Road, second floor, Lawrenceville, NJ Contact: Tracey Post, LCSW, 609-375-8727 Garden State Equality - North Jersey Transgender, Gender NonConforming and Questioning Youth Group 2nd Thursdays, 5:30-7pm; Ages 13-20 Garden State Equality Headquarters, 40 South Fullerton Ave., Montclair, NJ Contact: [email protected]; www.gardenstateequality.org Pride Center of New Jersey - TrueSelves 3rd Sundays, 4-6pm; Recommended for trans individuals 18+ The Pride Center, 321 Raritan Ave., Highland Park, NJ Contact: Samantha Nokes, [email protected], or Pride Center, 732-846-2232; www.pridecenter.org/groups 8 Institute for Personal Growth (IPG) – Playgroups, Youth and Parent Support Groups 3rd Saturdays, 12:30-2pm; Age range 13-21, 10:00-12:00; Age range 5-13. Parent Groups at same time. 1119 Raritan Ave., Highland Park, NJ Contact: 800-379-9220 or 732-246-8439; www.ipgcounseling.com Cost: Sliding scale fee; insurance accepted, see website for details. Pathways - Transgender Support Group 2nd Saturdays, 7-11pm in Bergen County, NJ Contact: [email protected] to join the group; www.pathwaystg.org Hudson Pride - TransView Every Tuesday, 6-8:30pm; Age range 13-20 32 Jones St., Jersey City, NJ All trans allies are welcome on the last Tuesday of every month www.hudsonpride.org Contact: Kimberly Adams, 201-963-4779 x116, [email protected] PFLAG Princeton - T-Net Parent Support Group 2nd Mondays, 7-9pm; Trinity Church, 33 Mercer St., Princeton, NJ www.pflagprinceton.org Contact: [email protected]; HiTops, 609-683-5155, Cheryl Ryan, [email protected] PFLAG Collingswood - Transgender Support Group 4th Mondays, 6:30-9:30pm Collingswood Community Center, 30 W. Collings Ave. Collingswood, NJ Contact: Dr. Lee Ann Etscovitz, [email protected] PFLAG Jersey Shore - Transgender/Transfamilies Support Group 3rd Mondays, 7pm; Church House of the Presbyterian Church 352 Sycamore Ave., Shrewsbury NJ; www.jerseyshorepflag.org Contact: Abby Maisonave, 908-814-2155, [email protected] Bergen County PFLAG - Transgender Support Group 3rd Wednesdays, 7:30pm Temple Beth Or, 56 Ridgewood Road, Washington Twp, NJ Contact: Wendy, [email protected], www.bergenpflag.org 9 LGBTQ Youth Groups in NJ Add your group to this list at http://bit.ly/NJlgbtGroups HiTOPS First & Third - Now in our 18th year! 1st and 3rd Saturdays, 1:00-3:00pm HiTOPS, 21 Wiggins St., Princeton, NJ; www.hitops.org Contact: Daniel Fernandez, 609-683-5155 x234, [email protected] Kaleidoscope - LGBT Youth Group 3rd Saturdays, 1-3pm; youth age 15-19 The Spot Teen Center (2nd floor, near Boscov’s) 2120 Voorhees Town Center, Voorhees Township, NJ http://www.centerffs.org/kaleidoscope-teens-along-spectrum Contact: Kristen Tahaney, 1-800-255-4213, [email protected] QSpot, Jersey Shore LGBT Community Center - WAVE Youth Fridays, 3-6pm, for all LGBT and questioning youth QSpot LGBT Center, 66 South Main St., Suite 20B, Asbury Park, NJ Contact: 732-455-3373, www.qspot.org Newark LGBTQ Community Center - True Colors Drop-In Every Thursday 4-8pm, for LGBTQIA and allies, youth and young adults Newark LGBTQ Community Center, 11 Halsey Street, Newark, NJ Students interested should email: [email protected] Pride Center of New Jersey - Youth Drop In 2nd & 4th Saturdays, 1-4pm (support group session 2-3pm) 85 Raritan Ave., Suite 100, Highland Park, NJ For LGBTQIA youth and allies 17 and under Contact: Ellen, [email protected], 973-342-1108 Pride Center of New Jersey - Under the Rainbow 2nd & 4th Thursdays, 7-9pm, for LGBTQIA people ages 18-25 85 Raritan Ave., Suite 100, Highland Park, NJ Contact: Group Leader Joe at [email protected] or Samantha at [email protected] Hudson Pride Connections Center - LGBT YouthConnect Progra Fridays, 3-8pm; dinner and snacks provided 32 Jones Street, Jersey City NJ Contact: Stephanie Mills, [email protected], 201-963-4779 x118 Bergen PFLAG - Rainbow Café Teaneck 1st & 3rd Wednesdays, 6-8pm; Ages 12-19 St. Mark’s Episcopal Church, 186 Chadwick Rd, Teaneck NJ Contact: Jean Boranian, 201-357-5655, [email protected] 10 Toll-Free Hotlines & Chatlines Trans Lifeline translifeline.org US: (877) 565-8860 Canada: (877) 330-6366 Fenway Health LGBT Helpline (25+) (617) 267-9001 Toll Free (888) 340-4528 Peer Listening Line (25 and under) (617) 267-2535 Toll Free (800) 399-PEER (7337) Trever Project Trevor Lifeline (866) 488-7386 Trevor Text text word “Trevor” to 1 (202) 304-1200 GLBT National Help Center 1 (800) 246-7743 (25 and under) 1 (888) 843-4564 (youth and adult) Trans Teens Online Talk Group www.GLBThotline.org/transteens Wednesdays from 7-9pm EST Teenline teenlineonline.org (310) 855-4673 Toll Free (800) 852-8336 (6pm - 10pm PST) Text TEEN to 839863 (5:30pm - 9:30 pm PST) California Youth Crisis Line (24 hours) (800) 843-5200 RAINN (Rape & Battery Hotline - 24 hours) (800) 230-7526 National Eating Disorder Association (800) 931-2237 (8:30am - 4:30pm PST) National STD & AIDS Hotline (24 hours) (800) 227-8922 11 Social Media and Online Groups TrevorSpace - www.trevorspace.org - Social networking site for LGBTQ youth ages 13-24, friends and allies. BiNet USA - www.facebook.com/groups/binetusa & www.binetusa.org SMYAL’s SafeSpace - www.symal.org/safespace.php - A discussion board for LGBTQ youth and allies, ages 13-21, to discuss what’s on their mind. It Gets Better Project - www.itgetsbetter.org - You are not alone, and it will get better. Record your own “It Gets Better” video and submit it! Transitioning Resources FtM Essentials Packers, stand-to-pee devices (STPs), harnesses and binders http://www.ftmessentials.com/ FTM Chest Binders Compression tanks, shirts, and swimwear. http:www.f2mbinders.com/ T-Kingdom http://www.t-kingdon.com/ Tool Shed Toys Packers, stand-to-pee devices (STPs), harnesses, and more! www.toolshedtoys.com The Levamentum Project A non-profit that works to build comfort for trans youth through selling products at a better price-packers, binders, and stand-to-pee devices (STPs). www.thelevamentumproject.com The Original STP Tool Packers, stand-to-pee devices (STPs), news updates and more! http://www.pee3.ca/ Peecock Products www.peecockproducts.com TranzWear http://www.tranzwear.net/ Cinderella Transgender Salon Silicone and latex breast forms, fem pads, vee strings, girdles and more! http://www.cinderelladream.net/ 12 Early to Bed Committed to helping people of all genders and orientations explore their sexuality to the fullest-packers, binders, movies, books and more! http://www.early2bedshop.com/ Male to female products Products such as breast foams and forms, genital hiding gaffs and creams that help to achieve female presentation. http://transgendered.net/ Breast Forms Dedicated to the crossdressing and transgender community. www.thebreastformstore.com Classic Curves International Custom made hip, butt, and breast enhancers, www.clcrv.com/index.cfm/ Barefoot Tess Baltimore based company that carries larger women’s size shoe up to size 15. www.barefoottess.com Long Tall Sally Large and tall women’s clothing http://us.longtallsally.com Health Care Services Mazzoni Health Center (215) 563-0658 https://www.mazzonicenter.org/ Callen-Lorde (212) 271-7200 http://callen-lorde.org/ Fenway Health (617) 267-9001 http://fenwayhealth.org/ Name Change National Center for Transgender Equality http://transequality.org/documents New Jersey Residents https://www.judiciary.state.nj.us/prose/10551_namechg_adult.pdf 13 Trans Starter Library Take this list to your school or community library to encourage the development of a diverse collection for trans youth, advisors and allies. Curated by Megan McCafferty, New York Times bestselling author and HiTOPS volunteer. Favorite Trans Young Adult Fiction “Love in a Time of Global Warming” (2014) Francesca Lia Block Like a female Odysseus in search of home, Penelope navigates a dark world full of strange creatures, gathers companions and loses them, finds love and loses it, and faces her mortal enemy. “I AM J” (2011) Cris Beam J was certain everyone would eventually understand who he really was; a boy mistakenly born as a girl. An inspiring story of self-discovery and of finding your own path. “Beautiful Music for Ugly Children” (2012) by Kristin Cronn-Mills When you think about it, I’m like a record. Elizabeth is my A side, the song everybody knows, and Gabe is my B side--not heard as often, but just as good. It’s time to let my B side play. “Freakboy” (2013) Kristin Elizabeth Clark In razor-sharp verse, Brendan tries to understand his sexual identity, Vanessa fights to keep her relationship alive, and Angel struggles to confront her demons. “Being Emily” (2013) Rachel Gold They say that whoever you are it’s okay, you were born that way. Those words don’t comfort Emily, because she was born Christopher and her insides know that her outsides are wrong. “Every Day” (2012) David Levithan Every day a different body. Every day a different life. Every day in love with the same girl. “The Unintentional Time Traveler” Everett Maroon Jack/Jacqueline is caught between two lives and epochs, and must find a way to save everyone around him as well as himself. 14 “Lizard Radio” (2015) Pat Schmatz Kivali never fit in. As a girl in boys’ clothes, she’s accepted by neither tribe, bullied by both. Is it true she was left by a mysterious race of saurians and that she’ll one day save the world? “Parrotfish” (2007, updated 2015) Ellen Wittlinger Angela Katz-McNair has never felt quite right as a girl. Her whole life is leading up to the day she decides to become Grady, a guy. Why can’t people just let Grady be himself? “The Art of Being Normal” (2015) Lisa Williamson David’s parents think he’s gay. The school bully thinks he’s a freak. Only his two best friends know the real truth – David wants to be a girl. Favorite Trans Middle Grade Fiction (upper grade school/junior high) “George” (2015) Alex Gino George’s class play is Charlotte’s Web. When the teacher says she can’t try out for Charlotte because she’s a boy, George comes up with a plan so everyone can finally know who she is. “Gracefully Grayson” (2014) Ami Polonsky Alone at home, twelve-year-old Grayson Sender glows. But at school, Grayson grasps at shadows. Grayson has been holding onto a secret: “he” is a girl on the inside. “Lily and Dunkin” (coming May 2016) Donna Gephart A compelling dual narrative about two remarkable young people: Lily, a transgender girl, and Dunkin, a boy dealing with bipolar disorder. Favorite Trans Graphic Novels/Manga “a+e 4ever” (2011) Ilike Merey Set in that ambiguous crossroads where love and friendship, boy and girl, straight and gay meet. It goes where few books have ventured, into genderqueer life, where affections aren’t black and white. “Wandering Son, Vol. 1” Takako Shimura and Matt Thorn (Translator) Shuichi Nitori and his new friend Yoshino Takatsuki have happy homes, loving families, and are well-liked by their classmates. But they share a secret: Shuichi is a boy who wants to be a girl, and Yoshino is a girl who wants to be a boy. 15 “A Boy Like Me” (2013) Jennie Wood Born a girl, Peyton Honeycutt meets Tara Parks in the eighth grade bathroom shortly after he gets his first period. It is the best and worst day of his life. Flutter: Volumes 1-2 (2011, 2015) Jennie Wood and Jeff McComsey Fifteen year-old Lily shape-shifts into a boy to get the girl. Chaos ensues from pretending to be someone she’s not. While coming to terms with who she really is and what she’s done, Lily learns that life as a boy is just as difficult. Favorite Trans Picture Books “Goblinheart: A Fariy Tale” (2012) Brett Axel and Terra Bidlespacher Julep insists on growing up to be a goblin rather than a fairy. The tribe learns to accept that Julep is a goblin at heart and support the physical transition that must be made for Julep to live as a goblin. “10,000 Dresses” (2008) Marcus Ewert and Rex Ray Every night, Bailey dreams about magical dresses: dresses made of crystals and rainbows, dresses made of flowers, dresses made of windows. . . . “When Kayla Was Kyle” (2013) Amy Fabrikant and Jennifer Levine Kyle doesn’t understand why the other kids at school call him names. He looks like other boys, but doesn’t feel like them. “Red: A Crayon’s Story” (2015) Michael Hall Red has a bright red label, but he is, in fact, blue. “Jacob’s New Dress” (2014) Sarah Hoffman and Ian Hoffman Jacob loves playing dress-up, when he can be anything he wants to be. Some kids at school say he can’t wear “girl” clothes, but can Jacob convince his parents? “I Am Jazz” (2014) Jazz Jennings and Jessica Herthel The story of a transgender child based on the real-life experience of Jazz Jennings, who has become a spokesperson for transkids everywhere. “My Princess Boy” (2010) Cheryl Kilodavis and Suzanne Disimone Dyson loves pink, sparkly things. Sometimes he wears dresses. Sometimes he wears jeans. He likes to wear his princess tiara, even when climbing trees. He’s a Princess Boy. 16 Favorite Trans Nonfiction (High School and up) “Some Assembly Required: The Not So Secret Life of a Transgender Teen” (2014) Arin Andrews “Transparent: Love, Family and Living the T With Transgender Teenagers” (2008) Cris Beam “Rethinking Normal: A Memoir in Transition” (2014) Katie Rain Hill “Becoming Nicole: The Transformation of an American Family) (2015) Amy Ellis Nutt “Trans Bodies, Trans Selves: A Resource Guide for the Transgender Community” (2015) Laura Erickson-Schroth (Editor) “Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love & So Much More” (2014) Janet Mock “Beyond Magenta: Transgender Teens Speak Out” (2014) Susan Kuklin Favorite Trans Literary Resources Topside Press www.topsidepress.com GAY YA www.gayya.org (See: Transgender Masterlist) American Library Association Rainbow Books www.glbtrt.ala.org/rainbowbooks/ We Need Diverse Books www.weneeddiversebooks.org/ Bringing Gender Diversity Awareness to the world with Amy Fabrikant [email protected] www.whenkaylawaskyle.com 17 Keynote Speaker Katie Rain Hill Katie Rain Hill is a transgender advocate living in Oklahoma. She transitioned during her sophomore year of high school and was the first transgender student to graduate from a school in Oklahoma. She has spoken at high schools and colleges around the country about supporting transgender students. Ms. Hill has been interviewed by England’s Daily Mail, has appeared on ABC Television’s 20-20, modeled in the 2014 Barney Spring Campaign, and has appeared regularly in both local and international newspapers. She has also been featured in several YouTube videos. She is the author of, “Rethinking Normal,” published by Simon and Schuster. Ms. Hill is a senior, majoring in anthropology and sociology at the University of Oklahoma in Tulsa. 18 Agenda 9:00 - 9:50 Registration, Breakfast, Workshop Sign Up – Theatre Lobby area Resource Tables, Activities, “Buddy” Bench - Theatre Lobby, Fox Room 9:55 - 10:30 Welcome, Opening Remarks, Large Group Activity - Fox Room 10:35 – 11:45 Workshop Session 1 11:50 - 1:05 Lunch, Resource Tables, “Buddy” Bench, Gift Basket Awarded, Keynote, Katie Rain Hill - Fox Room 1:10 - 2:20 Workshop Session 2 2:25 - 3:35 Workshop Session 3 3:40 - 4:00 Raffle Baskets Awarded, Closing Remarks, Resource Tables - Fox Room SIGNING UP FOR WORKSHOPS Workshop titles and descriptions are on the lavender pages of this booklet. Please choose one workshop in each session and sign up at the tables in the theatre lobby. If you need help or want to talk about what to sign up for, ask any of the volunteers. TAKING PHOTOS In order to protect the confidentiality of those who may not feel safe outside of this space, we ask that you do not take any photos of other people in workshops and other group gathering spaces. Be mindful of the backgrounds in your selfies, and always ask for consent to photograph others. EVALUATIONS We need your feedback! What worked/didn’t work about today’s event? Please complete and return an evaluation before leaving each workshop and at the end of the day to the workshop monitor. BUDDY BENCH Join us at the “buddy” bench in the Fox Room to hang out, decompress, get a hug, or just to talk. Available where marked on the agenda. NEXT YEAR! Want to host next year’s Trans Youth Forum? Want to be a part of planning the Forum? Contact Daniel Fernandez, [email protected], to learn more about how to get involved. 19 Session One Workshops 10:35 - 11:45 1. Love is the Message (Room 231) Kate Okeson It’s kind of hard to hold onto an emoji or a snapchat story. Have you ever wanted a letter just to have and hold? Well we’re going to make a postcard message of love to ourselves (and maybe a special friend as well)! Bring your super fun self to this crafty workshop where we will collage, paint, rubber stamp art and write something to ourselves that reflects the creative and unique individuals we are. Let’s make a message of love! Workshop is limited to 20 participants. 2. PFLAG/T-NET Support Group (Room 223) Sylvia Stengle, Ellen Schneider, Doreen Boerner-Gage, Caroline Smith, Linda Murphy and Abby Maisonave. Are you a parent, guardian, sibling, family member or friend of a loved one who identifies as transgender, gender variant or questioning their gender and needs support? Then this group is for you! Join members from New Jersey’s PFLAG/ T-Net groups to learn about what you can do to help support your loved ones who are in the process of coming out and or have come out about their gender. Bring your experiences, stories, questions/concerns and words of advice as well as any useful resources to share with the group. 3. Don’t Pass it On - Preventing STI’s (LIBRARY) HiTops Teen Council In this peer-led workshop, age-appropriate skits, activities and discussions are used to increase students’ knowledge of sexually transmitted infections. Participants will learn what behaviors can put them at risk, the signs and symptoms of common STIs, and important steps to take to reduce the risk of contracting an STI. 4. Befriending our Bodies (Room 224) Tasha Wirth & Nikki Hatza, Mazzoni Center Feel weird any time a parent/guardian mentions S-E-X? Turn red whenever the doctor tries to talk to you about contraception or testing? Want to talk to your partner about sexual intimacy but not sure what to say? Join us for a workshop that will empower you to get comfortable talking about your body, your sexuality and your identity in new ways. Ditch the shame and stigma and replace it with body-positive and sex-positive perspectives in this raw, real, and radical birds and bees 2.0 workshop! 20 5. Queer & People of Color Panel (Room 232) Moderator: Daniel Fernandez, HiTops Panelists: Z Murphy, Nathan Rodriguez, Alyssa Hargrove, Bianca Mayes Being queer in a heteronormative cisgender world is hard to navigate. Being a queer person of color and navigating the many intersections of race, orientation, and gender can feel very alienating at times. This panel, composed of LGBTQ+ leaders of color, will discuss the issues of race and privilege outside of the Queer community as well as within through sharing real life experiences and stories as well as best ways to support and advocate for Queer POC. Audience participation encouraged. 6. Living outside the Binary (Room 202-203) Moderator: Tracey Post Panelists: Mark Travis Rivera, Randall Parker, Max Nazario, Hailey/Jack Marr, Eily Mixon The process of coming out for many gender non-conforming, agender, genderqueer, gender fluid, non-binary, and gender questioning individuals is often misunderstood and inaccurately represented in society and in the media or not represented at all. Join these 6 exceptional young leaders in a conversation about what it means to live outside the binary. 7. Case Management & Client Advocacy for Trans Youth Clients (Room 221) Shannon DiBlasio and Jade Wynne This workshop serves to help educate parents, human service care providers, adults, and social services workers on the topic of healthcare with regards to trans-youth. This workshop will also address ways to advocate effectively and efficiently for trans-youth in order to help them achieve emotional and health wellness in addition to providing useful resources. 8. Changes, Plans & Staying Safe: Experiences and Information from a New Jersey Trans Man (Room 222) Asher Sosinsky Interested in what it’s like to go through a medical and social transition in New Jersey? Join Asher Sosinsky, a 21-year-old transman, to learn about how to go through a legal name change process in New Jersey, starting hormones, booking surgeries, coming out, and most importantly, staying safe from his first-hand experience. Come in with your questions, stories, and open minds for a fun and educational workshop! Indicates this workshop is led or co-led by a youth or young adult 21 Session Two Workshops 1:10 - 2:20 9. GSA Advisor Roundtable (Room 232) Sue Henderson and students from Ocean Township High School Have you been wanting to make your GSA/LGBTQ+ club more trans inclusive but not sure how? Join one of New Jersey’s amazing GSA advisors and her students for an interactive discussion including lots of activities and resources that really are effective and fit the needs of all your students. Areas covered include terminology, questions to avoid and to ask of trans youth, tips for allies, help with policy issues, importance of getting pronouns right, boundary breaking games and more. Bring your personal experiences, problems and solutions, best practices and ideas to the table! The HiTops Trans Resource Packet will be available for revivew and purchase at the Forum. 10. Know Your Rights -- A Legal Toolkit for Trans and Gender Nonconforming Youth (Room 224) Aaron Potenza Let Garden State Equality walk you through the legal rights of transgender and gender nonconforming students in New Jersey schools. Learn your rights under federal and state law, discuss common scenarios around gender identity and gender expression playing out in your own schools and around the country, and leave prepared to advocate for yourselves and your fellow students. 11. Making a Spiritual Path and Being LGBTQIAP+ (Room 202-203) Moderator: John Marron, Lay Zen Agnostic Panelists: Rev. Tina Nummela (Lutheran/ RWJUH Pastoral Care), Marsha Shapiro & Louis Walpin (Temple Emanuel), Jonathan Elliott (Episcopal Diocese of NJ), Reshma Rajani (Edison Ismaili Mosque), Pauline Nijander (Princeton Unitarian/Pagan), and Steven Love (Unity Fellowship of Christ Church) Whether you are Muslim, Jewish, Christian, Hindu, Buddhist, Atheist, Agnostic, Tribal, or None, being Queer is a blessing and a challenge to make a spiritual path that works for you, especially in a conservative faith-based family and community. This interactive workshop will explore your questions and provide resources to form effective responses to challenges based on faith and being queer. 22 12. Trans Youth Panel (LIBRARY) Moderator: Katie Rain Hill Panelists: Ashlynn Harvey, Jake Pucci, Ryland Smith, & Fi Pisacreta What would the Trans Youth Forum be without a trans youth panel?! Join these 5 exceptional, awesome and young radical leaders as they walk us through their own journey navigating their identities and what it means to be a transgender youth in today’s world. 13. How to be an Ally and still be a Parent for Transgender Youth (Room 231) Russell Healy, MSW, LCSM Parents of transgender youth have to balance good parenting with being an ally for their child. Navigating the complex maze of medical decisions, legal decisions and family life can be overwhelming, especially since there is no model to follow. This workshop will help parents learn how to support their transgender youth in transitioning while also maintaining a parental stance. 14. Love is an Act of Leadership (Room 223) Mark Travis Rivera This workshop focuses on the importance of self-care and self-love. As leaders, we have the opportunity to inspire, uplift, and encourage others, and it’s important to remember that we have to show ourselves empathy too! Too often we ignore our own self-care and neglect to love ourselves in the process. This workshop aims to explore how love is an act of leadership and how when we dare to love ourselves—we’ll improve the way we lead. 15. Real Talk (222) Seth Rainess Are you worried about transitioning? You don’t know where to begin? Who to tell? How to do it? Join Seth Rainess as he offers wisdom from his own life in discussing the surprises, worries, joys, and rewards of transitioning for youth today. This workshop is designed to give teens the fundamental building blocks of gender transitioning. It will also equip them with a mental toolkit on how to navigate other areas of life. Indicates this workshop is led or co-led by a young adult or youth 23 Session Three Workshops 2:25 - 3:35 16. I-Dentity (Room 223) Nathan Rodriguez Putting the “I” back in “Identity” is hard for people, especially with media and social network outlets telling us who to be. This workshop is a fun and interactive exercise in learning to discover your own truth through pulling away from confining social norms of gender expression. There is no “right” or “wrong” way to be Trans* or express your gender. It is about finding what works best for you, and supporting each other as you grow. 17. Creating a Trans Inclusive Policy (Room 232) Norah Langweiler, Nora Aguiar and Paula Rodriguez-Rust. In this workshop, participants will learn how to structure and write school policy. This workshop is intended to break down the often confusing process of drafting a new school policy, making it accessible to students, teachers, and community members. Together, we will write our own trans-inclusive policy for youth and adults to bring back to their schools as a template or official policy proposal. 18. Trans Lit Story Time (LIBRARY) Megan McCafferty & Amy Fabrikant Readers of all ages can find comfort in characters and stories that reflect or represent their own experiences. In this low key session led by NY Times bestselling author Megan McCafferty, book-lovers will have an opportunity to “borrow” from our Trans Lit library and introduce themselves to the best of children’s, middle grade, and young adult literature for and about gender nonconforming youth. Quiet 10-minute reading periods will be interspersed with dramatic readings from the best in the genre, including a special student presentation of Amy Fabrikant’s, WHEN KAYLA WAS KYLE. Workshop is limited to 30 participants. 24 19. Students Take Action: Creating Better School Environments for Trans and GNC Students (Room 224) Taty Benson Do you spend your time thinking about how your school could create a better environment for trans and gender-nonconforming students? Sometimes the issues feel so big that they cannot be tackled. This workshop will give you the tools to assess whether your school provides a safe environment for trans and gender nonconforming students. Participants will identify issues that they personally experience at school and together we will move towards creating projects that can address issues that prevent trans and gender non-conforming students from feeling safe at school. 20. ABC’s of Zen - Meditation as Loving Kindness across the Gender Spectrum (Room 222) John Marron Experientially, you will learn the core principles of Zen: the Four Noble truths, the 4 Vows, taking refuge, breath counting, posture, hand mudra, loving kindness practices, soft eyes & belly, half smile, prajnaparamita (compassionate wisdom), & tips on staying in the here & now with quality attention, nonjudgment, & love in your heart for everyone across the gender spectrum. Interactively, you will explore, document & express your own personalized health inventory in a small group & take away a practical time-framed action plan of self-care with the option of staying connected with our transgender network & online resources. 21. Writing From the Heart Session (Room 231) Pandora Scooter Did you know that writing just 15 minutes a few times per week can alleviate feelings of depression, isolation, and anxiety? It’s true! In this interactive creative writing worshop, you’ll get to express yourself. No worries, no experience necessary. Indicates this workshop is led or co-led by a young adult or youth 25 HiTops is a health education and advocacy organization that supports adolescents, schools, and parents. All of our programs are designed and updated to address current research and social changes. Our workshops meet with the NJ Core Curriculum Standards. HiTops educational programs can be delivered by our trained adult health educators or by the HiTops Teen Council, using the peer education model. Check out some of our programs below: www.hitops.org, 609.683.5155 x218 Youth: Health classes for students • • • • • • • • • Cyberbullying Sexual Harassment Puberty Pregnancy Prevention Sexually Transmitted Infections HIV/AIDS Dating Violence Prevention Sexual Assault Prevention Appreciating Differences – LGBT education Schools: Teacher and staff in-services • • • • • • • • Safe Schools – Helping Schools Improve School Culture Understanding & Addressing the Needs of Transgender Youth The Teenage Brain Cyberbullying and Sexting Dating Violence Homophobia Reduction Sexual Harassment Body Image and Eating Disorders Parents: • • • • Teens and Stress Raising Self-Esteem in Kids Sexuality and the Young Adolescent Talking with Your Child about Puberty 26 Meet Trainer, Dr. Eli Green Eli R. Green, PhD, CSE, is an Assistant Professor of Public Health at William Paterson University and Adjunct Assistant Professor in the Center for Human Sexuality Studies graduate program at Widener University. Dr. Green is the founder of the Transgender Training Institute, and is a nationally recognized educator who helps non-profits, medical providers, and educational professionals expand their transgender-related cultural competency. Dr. Green’s book, co-authored with Luca Maurer, The Teaching Transgender Toolkit: A Facilitators Guide to Increasing Knowledge, Reducing Prejudice & Building Skills is the first of its kind and establishes standards of excellence in transgender trainings. As a consultant, he develops curricula, leads train-the-trainer courses, and provides ongoing technical assistance and coaching for current educators and trainers. Dr. Green has worked with the NYC Administration for Children’s Services LGBTQ Policy & Practice Office’s initiatives to ensure that all LGBTQ & TGNC (transgender and gender non-conforming) youth in foster care, congregate care and juvenile justice are safe, respected, and affirmed. He is a Certified Sexuality Educator (CSE) through the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors & Therapists (AASECT), and is a member of the World Professional Association for Transgender Health (WPATH). Learn more about Dr. Green at www. elirgreenphd.com and The Transgender Training Institute at www.transgendertraininginstitute.com. 27 GLSEN Central New Jersey P.O. Box 261, Hightstown, NJ 08520 609-448-5215, [email protected] www.glsen.org/centralnj GLSEN, The Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network, strives to assure that each member of every school community is valued and respected regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity/expression. You’ll find many transgender resources on the GLSEN website: http://glsen.org/article/trans-and-gender-nonconformingstudent-resources For Trans and GNC students and allies • ONLINE COMMUNITY RESOURCES and LEADERSHIP • Where’s the “T”? Making Your Student Club Trans-Inclusive • Know Your Rights: A Guide for Trans and Gender Nonconforming Students, by GLSEN and ACLU • Transgender Day of Remembrance and Transgender Heros • Be an Ally to Trans and Gender Nonconforming Students For Educators • Unheard Voices: Jamison Green • Ready Set Respect, Set 3: Gender Roles and Diversity • Model District Policy on Transgender and Gender Nonconforming Students • GLSEN Webinar Series: Supporting Transgender and Gender Nonconforming Students 28 29 The 200,000 members of the New Jersey Education Association congratulate GLSEN Central New Jersey & HiTops on the 2nd Annual NJ Trans Youth Forum We applaud your work for safe schools for all. NJEA… making public schools great! Wendell Steinhauer, President Marie Blistan, Vice President Sean M. Spiller, Secretary-Treasurer Edward J. Richardson, Executive Director Steve Swetsky, Assistant Executive Director 30 Atlantic Health System Salutes HiTOPS, and GLSEN Central NJ for your presentation of The Second Annual Trans Youth Forum Morristown Medical Center, Overlook Medical Center, Newton Medical Center and Goryeb Children’s Hospital, all part of Atlantic Health System, have been recognized as “Leaders in LGBT Healthcare Equality,” by the Human Rights Campaign (HRC) Foundation. We earned this designation for our commitment to equitable, inclusive care for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender patients and their families,who can face significant challenges in securing adequate health care. The findings were part of HRC Foundation’s Healthcare Equality lndex 2015, a unique annual survey that encourages equal care for LGBT Americans, and recognizes health care institutions doing the best work. Throughout Atlantic Health System, we recognize that an important part of providing the highest quality health care is to ensure that the experience is inclusive at all levels. This recognition reflects Atlantic Health System’s role as a leader in promoting equality within our communities and we are honored to have been selected among health care facilities nationwide. 31 The faculty, staff, students, and board of PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL are honored to host the second annual Trans Youth Forum. PRINCETON DAY SCHOOL Opportunities of a Lifetime. Every Day. www.pds.org 650 Great Road, Princeton, NJ • 609-924-6700 x 1200 32 33 Let's celebrate When people can express and be their true selves, they enrich all our lives. Landmark proudly supports the work of HiTops and the Trans Youth Forum. Landmark Companies 34 Congratulates The 2nd Annual Trans Youth Forum for your Continuous Service & Support to the Trans and Gender Variant Community. Morris Home is the nation’s first residential treatment program to offer comprehensive services specifically for trans and gender variant individuals. Morris Home provides a safe, recoveryoriented environment for trans and gender variant individuals as they develop the knowledge, skills and supports necessary to promote sobriety, manage emotional and behavioral difficulties, choose and maintain safe and healthy lifestyles, and develop healthy relationships with peers, family and community. For more information about Morris Home or to make a referral please email us at: [email protected] 35 New Transgender Family Support Group First meeting is Thursday, March 24, 7 to 9 p.m. Beginning April 21, meets every third Thursday of the month, 7 to 9 p.m. RWJ Somerset Family Practice Conference Room 110 Rehill Avenue, Somerville Admission is Free Led by facilitators from Robert Wood Johnson University Hospital Somerset and the Pride Center of New Jersey, this free support group will help spouses, partners and adult children better understand, accept and cope with their transgender family members. Light dinner will be served. For more information, call Nicole Brownstein at 732-740-3971, Jackie Baras at 908-595-2376 or Kimberly LaGregor at 732-770-3394. Confidentiality will be maintained. 36 37 Pingry sends best wishes to HiTOPS and GLSEN Central NJ for their 2016 Trans Youth Forum. pingry.org 38 Russell Healy MSW, LCSW Full Professional Member, World Professional Association for Transgender Health Gender Dysphoria specialist with a focus on transgender youth and their families. 4 East Cliff Street Somerville, NJ 08876 133 Franklin Corner Road Lawrenceville, NJ 08648 908-526-5784 New Jersey’s statewide LGBT Advocacy and Education Organization Proudly Supports Trans Youth Forum 2016 40 South Fullerton Ave, Montclair, NJ 07042 973-509-5428 www.GardenStateEquality.org 39 TLP COUNSELING First book for trans teens Specialities: Sexual Health Trauma Sexual Identity Tracey L. Post LCSW, CST, CCPT 609.375.8727 [email protected] www.tlpcounseling.com Purchase at www.SethRainess.com Offices in: Princeton, NJ Kingston, NJ Good read for parents and anyone involved with the trans community 2nd Annual Trans Youth Forum PFLAG Collingswood is honored to be part of this AMAZING event! Marsha N. Shapiro LCSW,BCD,LLC Meets the 4th Monday of each month at the Collingswood Community Center 6:30 - 9:30pm Licensed Clinical Social Worker Board Certified Diplomate A SPECIAL THANK YOU to GLSEN - Central NJ and HiTops for their dedication and hard work all year long!! Individual • Couple • Family Group • Education • Staff Training PFLAG offers programming to educate and support families through the coming out and transitioning processes. We are supportive and accepting of anyone anywhere along their journey. We offer differentiated support groups for trans support and LGB support. Offices in North Brunswick and Toms River (732) 422-9400 In Southern New Jersey, contact: [email protected] Like our Facebook page! https://www.facebook.com/collingswood.pflag License# 44SC00004600 40 Donors To transgender, gender non-conforming, non-binary, genderqueer, and gender-questioning young people. These folks made today possible through their generous donations. They believe You Are Enough and just what the world needs. Navigant Sarah Schwartz Michael LaSala Rachael Schwartz Paula Rust Ash Beckham Jason Kidushim Kaitlin Sheldon Linda Berger Beatrice Mwariri Ilana Sigal Kimberly Brennan Laurie Suarez Sharon Hartmann Michael Katz Norn Glickman & Elyse Pivnick Amanda Heimann Vicki Reback Ivy Pearlstein Charles Leiden & Barbara Wertz Ivy Weitzman Cheryl Ryan Eleanor Horne David & Vicki Huebner Russ Healy Teresa Simao Sue Henderson Maggie Filipiak Anne Wright Wilson Bruce Weiss Alison Politziner Jane Milrod Ruth Genne Julie Harrington Kate Winton Lori Simon Kathryn Waugh Judy Leopold Ann Vershbow Connie Poor Jessica Deutch Mary Smock Mara Connolly Taft Terri Gans AliciaAnn Caesar Cherie Campbell Jamie DiNicola Everett Kline & David Wald Lylah Alphonse Ellen Vellance John Marron Anita Gooding Barbara Raffel Lisa Schwartz Nikita Correa Naomi Drew Geoffrey Gingerich Deborah & Jeff Dorman Yvette Lopez Cameron Linville Magdalene O’Hara Shari Halpern Tracey Post Kevin Maxam Barbara Coe Kate Okeson Claire & David Jacobus Naisha Andrews William Baker Bill Schofield Tess Kline Laura Rothschild Ron & Diane Shimanowitz Carolyn McGuire Maria Myers Mike Houston & Steve Benoit RWJUH Proud BRG Carol Watchler Dawn Durain Rodney Crownover Elizabeth Walters Corrine O’Hara & Joel Schwartz Jacqueline Dorman Alyssa Hargrove Jackie Baras Linda Hawkins 41 Acknowledgements Many thanks to all who gave generously of their time, talents and resources to make the 2016 Trans Youth Forum possible. Princeton Day School LGBTQ Affinity Group, GLOW, and their fearless advisor, Alex Lasevich Our kick-a** planning committee John Marron, Pandora Scooter, Megan McCafferty, Alyssa Hargrove, Eily Mixson, Max Nazario, Norah Langweiler, Daniel Fernandez, Corrine O’Hara, Elizabeth Casparian, and Carol Watchler Our wonderful “I’ll do it!” volunteers Eric Wells, Katlyn Le Leal, Steve Pitts, Barbara Reeder, Samantha Chang, Ian Penrose, Doreen Boerner-Gage, Nika Omotoso, Julia Robertson, Cheryl Ryan, Alli Londres, Caroline Smith, Claudary Jones, Lisa Brown, Diane DesPlantes, Jill Preis, Ellen Schneider, Alicia-Ann Caesar, Christine Hamlett, Jon Priester, Sylvia Stengle, Aiden Carcamo, Ellen Schneider, Shelley Krause, Katlyn Le Seal, Pierce Logan, Jacob Edelman, Alec Skwara, Thomas Louis Richard Green III Eli Green Eric Wells HiTops Trans Youth Group and First & Third LGBTQ Group Russell Healy, MSW, LCSW Katie Rain Hill The HiTops Staff xox The Albin Family Foundation The Mazzoni Center of Philadelphia Princeton PFLAG, Transgender Network Trans Student Educational Resources HRC ANSWER Our generous authors and publishers for building the Trans Lit library Our fabulous and inspiring workshop presenters Our generous advertisers 42 cis Femme agender Gender questioning Non-binary him Transgender gender-neutral Demiboy Demigirl Transmasculine G enderqueer Queer trans Agender fluid zir gender-fluid Nonconforming ftm Transwoman She Transman Woman mtf Man female GLSEN Central New Jersey P.O. Box 261, Hightstown, NJ 08520 609-448-5215, [email protected] www.glsen.org/centralnj GLSEN, The Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network, strives to assure that each member of every school community is valued and respected regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity/expression. - PLEASE SHARE THIS BOOK -