november 2012 issue
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november 2012 issue
1 Pretty T Girls November 2012 The Magazine for the most beautiful girls in the world A publication of Pretty T Girls Yahoo group 2 In This Issue Page Editorial by Barbara Jean A Time to Remember Loving My Crossdressing Partner Makeup Mistakes that add 10 years to your life 15 Tips For A Perfect Manicure Best Beauty Products of 2012 The Exploits of Barbara Marie Tasi’s Musings Humor Thanksgiving Day Weather Forecast Angels In The Centerfold Kathy’s Korner The Adventures of Judy Sometimes TG Tips from Mellissa 7 Trends Every Woman Can Wear Tasi’s Fashion News Closets by: Randy Lucilla Sorella Rhonda Lee—My Journey Towards Learning to Love The Gossip Fence Shop Till You Drop Calendar 3 4 5 7 9 13 16 20 26 27 28 30 31 33 39 41 45 47 49 52 64 75 3 By Order of the Court An Editorial by: Barbara Jean For years, Michelle Kosilek has been asking the Massachusetts prison system for "sex -change" surgery. Born Robert Kosilek, she went to jail in 1992 for murdering her wife. and at that point, changed her name and "began living like a woman to the maximum extent possible," according to a recent court ruling. In 2003, after Kosilek sued the state for refusing to grant her hormone therapy and a sex-change operation y -- a judge ruled that the therapy was necessary treatment. In September a federal judge rules that the state of Massachusetts would have to give Michelle Kosilek, a convicted killer sexual reassignment surgery. The decision is a landmark decision in the fact that it is the first time a court has ruled the surgery to be medically necessary. Well of course the decision is under appeal, especially since the court also ruled that the state must pay Ms. Kosilek’s legal fees which amount close to a half million dollars. But what is the effect of this decision for us, especially if the decision holds during appeals? For years we have felt that having the surgery was a medically necessity, but insurance companies would not cover it saying it was simply cosmetic surgery. Most insurance companies will pay for a surgery that is medically necessary, but not for one that is simply cosmetic. As a result for many of us obtaining the surgery has been a virtual impossibility. For many of us where someone would employ us, the pay has been low and thus there was no way to save the money needed for the surgery. A late friend of mine worked with the organization “Transsexuals in Prison” and he told me that 40% of the transsexuals who were incarcerated had turn to crime in an attempt to obtain the funds needed for the surgery. Generally these were bank robbery, prostitution and drug sales. This is not a question of should someone who is incarcerated for life get this surgery at taxpayers expense, but rather since it was ruled as medically necessary why should not someone who is on medicare or medicade also be able to obtain the surgery? 4 In another instance after two appeals, a woman in NYC has won insurance coverage for her reassignment surgery. This is another landmark event in that generally insurance companies have ruled SRS to be cosmetic and not covered. In all cases be it someone who is incarcerated, someone who is on government insurance, or private insurance the bottom line is what is always considered. I think the fact that a federal court has ruled it medically necessary and an insurance company has also deemed the surgery to be medically necessary can be a landmark ruling for all of us. Perhaps in the future it will no longer be necessary to fly out of the country to obtain the surgery, perhaps those of us who wish that surgery but were not able to afford it will now have the coverage that will make it affordable A Time to Remember By: Barbara Jean On October 3rd, 2002 a beautiful young lady by the name of Gwen Araujo was brutally murdered, murdered because she was transgendered. Gwen Araujo is but one of the many brothers and sisters of our community who’s lives were cut far too short simply because they were being true to themselves. November 20th is the Transgendered Day of Remembrance, a day that we set aside to remember those who have lost their lives to violence simply because they were transgendered. We remember them and we pray for an end to the violence that has taken far too many lives from our community. But in addition to those who have lost their lives to hate, there are as many or more that have survived brutal attacks. For those whose lives have been lost the agony is over, but for those who have survived those brutal attacks the memory will haunt them for the rest of their lives. As we come to the various services for the Transgendered Day of Remembrance, let us remember to pray for an end to the violence against members of our community. 5 Loving My Crossdressing Partner, Not Just "Dealing With" Him …I sat on his bed and watched his shadow change as he became my new girlfriend...the first time I met her, she was shy and nervous, and I was anxious to take pictures to show off my beautiful girl--and my makeup skills ;) I was a bit nervous for her too, though. Afterwards, I wished I would have paid more attention to her—touched her, kissed her—instead of just being her photographer, but thankfully there were plenty more opportunities for fun after that… ;) Since I was very young, even before I really understood my tendencies, I’ve had a strong connection to gender bending, androgyny and anything related. As I got older, I realized I was bisexual/queer and had an attraction to androgynous men, crossdressers, and trans women. Now, since the universe has decided to bless me with exactly who I’ve been wishing for, I have to stop and think every once in a while of how amazingly grateful I am. I thought I would share some of my thoughts and feelings with you, and maybe it will be useful, interesting, or something you can connect with. Part of what inspired me to share my story is a book I’ve been reading called “My Husband Betty: Love, Sex, and Life with a Crossdresser” by Helen Boyd. I realized that so few girlfriends and wives of CDs share my same perspective. There are plenty of stories of women who suddenly found out about their partner’s crossdressing after years of marriage and were horrified. There are also those who found out, or were told early on in the relationship, and were more able to be accepting, but still did not feel quite the same as I do. I think a big part of my (seemingly rare feelings compared to other partners) is my bisexuality, and my specific attraction to those of unique gender identities and expressions. Since not all bisexual women feel the same about crossdressing as I do, I thought I should make that clear. I have realized recently that I do 6 feel more fulfilled with my CD/Two Spirit partner than I probably would with a typical man or woman. I use the term Two Spirit for him as well because he truly connects with that concept of being two different gendered souls in one body. Being with him/her has helped me to learn about myself and how I really did need someone who has elements of both genders and embraces them both beautifully. Another reason I decided to talk about my thoughts is because I don’t see enough support from CDs’ significant others. I mostly see CDs themselves talking about how they wish they could find women who accept them, and according to “My Husband Betty,” there are some forums where women complain about their husbands and even ban women who try to show any feelings of acceptance. I really wish there was more of a movement to promote acceptance of this group along with the more prevalent movements for the LGBT community. No matter how small or hidden or looked down upon the movement may be, I would love to be a part of it. I would love to share my feelings if it could even help just a few people. I would love to talk about how I love and admire my partner’s feminine nature in so many indescribable ways, and how I love doing his makeup, dressing him up, and just enjoying spending time with ‘her.’ He makes me want to do everything from making love to his sexy female self and being fun and crazy and kinky, to writing old fashioned love poems about the simplest gestures that make her so beautiful to me. I want to be a part of celebrating something that shouldn’t be thought of as shameful. So, some people think it’s “perverse” because it might turn him on to dress up, but why can’t it be a sexual thing? Why does it become more “wrong” if it has to do with sex too and not only “getting in touch with his feminine side”? Being gay, lesbian and bisexual has to do with sex too, but those communities are becoming more accepted and celebrated now, so why shouldn’t crossdressing follow along with that? I really do have hopes and dreams of showing the world how beautiful this can be. There are so many wonderful layers and facets far beyond what you see on Jerry Springer. I may be crazy to think of changing the world, or even changing just a few minds, but I don’t care anymore about sounding crazy or being too controversial…nothing inspires you to want to change the world quite like being in love 7 Makeup Mistakes that Add 10 Years By Jenny Bailly Mistake #1: Using Too Much Foundation A foundation that's too thick will settle into fine lines and sap the luminosity from your skin. "Only use foundation where you need it to even out discoloration," says makeup artist Frances Hathaway. "You don't have to cover every inch of your skin." When buying a foundation, avoid those described as "matte," "velvet," and "long-wearing"; look for sheer liquid formulas with light-diffusing pigments. (A great option: Chanel Vitalumiere, $55; chanel.com.) If you have dry skin, foundation can look patchy and accentuate discoloration, so exfoliate two to three times a week and always apply a moisturizer after cleansing. Hathaway's favorite moisturizers to use under foundation: Aveda All Sensitive Moisturizer for combination or normal skin ($33; aveda.com) and Weleda Skin Food for dry skin ($18.50; usa.weleda.com). Mistake #2: Over-Concealing Your Under-Eye Circles A thick concealer that comes in a stick or pot will eradicate the shadows under your eyes, but it will also draw attention to the crepiness and fine lines that usually show up in that area first (because the skin there is thin). A better option: A brush-on highlighter pen (like Neutrogena Healthy Skin Brightening Eye Perfector, $11.99; drugstores) that uses illuminating particles, not opaque color, to camouflage dark circles. Apply it only near the inner corners of your under-eye area, where shadows are most prominent (and lines least). Mistake #3: Wearing Deep, Dark Lip Colors A dark color makes any surface look smaller--a welcome illusion perhaps on your hips but not your lips. To make your mouth look fuller (one hallmark of a youthful face), choose bright lipsticks and glosses (peaches, pinks, vibrant reds) over deep shades (burgundies, wines, browns). Makeup artists use another trick to create the illusion of luscious lips: Before applying color, trace a highlighter pencil along your upper lip line, then buff it out with your finger. (Try Nars Soft Touch Shadow Pencil in Hollywoodland, $24; narscosmetics.com.) RELATED: The 7 Best New Coats for Fall Mistake #4: Finishing with Powder Youthful skin reflects light. Powders prevent light reflection and tend to magnify lines in the skin. If powder has been the final step of your makeup routine since high school, it 8 can be difficult to quit cold-turkey. Here's a three-step program: First, switch to a very sheer translucent powder (like Laura Mercier Loose Setting Powder, $35; lauramercier.com). Then, start using it only on your nose and chin. Finally, trade the powder for a packet of blotting tissues--use one, only on the T-zone (nose, chin, and forehead), if you're shiny midday. Mistake #5: Wearing Black Eyeliner Don't skip eyeliner altogether--it's a great way to make your eyes look more open--but choose brown over black, which can be harsh. And keep the color diffuse. "You want to define the eyes with softness and blending, not strict lines," says makeup artist Troy Surratt. "A thick liner can leave the upper lids looking heavier than they are." The best technique: Trace a brown pencil liner along the upper lash line (into the roots of the lashes), focusing on the outer corners; smudge it with a Q-tip. Mistake #6: Going Overboard with Lip Liner A lip liner can define your lips and prevent color from feathering into any lines around the mouth--but choose one very carefully. If you line your lips too heavily, or with a color that's too dark, they'll look tight and pursed. For the most natural effect, your lip liner should match the color of your lips, not the color of your lipstick. Choose a creamy formula that won't adhere to any dry patches, and use it to fill in your lips entirely, so it wears evenly. RELATED: How to Save $162 Every Month Mistake #7: Using Liner and Mascara on Your Lower Lashes Playing up your lower lashes can make your eyes look droopy and draw attention to dark circles. Instead, curl your upper lashes and wiggle a volumizing mascara into their roots and slowly through the ends for the most uplifting effect. (Try Rimmel ScandalEyes Curve Alert Mascara, $6.99; drugstores.) Mistake #8: Skipping Blush A rosy flush on your cheeks brings instant life to your face. And, if applied correctly, blush can offer a little lift. Smile, find the fleshiest part of your cheek and apply color just slightly above it. Blend the color out toward your temples in circles, not a line, using a big fluffy brush. You want to avoid a stripe of color that stretches along your cheekbones, which can make you look drawn and hollow, says Surratt. Mistake #9: Applying Lipstick Straight from the Tube The borders of the lips soften with age, and any extra lipstick migrates easily. To avoid bleeding color, use your finger or a lip brush so that you don't deposit too much pigment. Concentrate the lipstick in the center of your mouth, and blend it out with a fin- 9 ger. Top it with a moisturizing balm or light gloss. Mistake #10: Choosing a Too-Dark Eyebrow Pencil "Your brow color fades as you age, so the brow pencil that you were using at 25 will look too stark against your complexion at 50," says makeup artist Denise Markey. She recommends Maybelline Define-a-Brow Eyebrow Pencils ($6.95; drugstores), which come in four shades. Choose the one that's a shade or two lighter than your natural brow color. If your brows are starting to get a little wiry, run a clear brow gel over them as well, brushing them up and out toward your temples. 15 Tips for a Perfect Manicure WebMD French Manicures: Hot or Not? Before all else, a manicure lover dreams of her fashion statement. Is yours the French manicure? Depending on who you ask, this pale pink polish with a white tip is either classic or old-fashioned. If you love the look, you'll be happy to know that it makes nails look longer. And pale shades are just right for serious moments, like a job interview. Gel and Shellac Can Take a Beating Maybe your crazy hobbies wreck your nails. A gel or shellac manicure may give you two to three weeks of shiny, chip-free nails. Both types require several layers of polish that need curing under a special lamp. And you probably need to pay a pro to remove these tough polishes. But fuss-free nails may be worth the price. Do a Skin Check for Sizzling Color Will cherry red polish make you look vampirepale or sizzling hot? The answer is in your skin tone. For skin with blue undertones, choose pinkish nudes, deep violet, fuchsia, or that cherry red. For olive or yellow undertones, pick beige or white nudes, chocolates, and corals. Test new shades on a piece of clear tape stuck to a nail. 10 Let Nail Shape Flatter Your Hand Should your nails be short and square or long and pointy? You can play it safe with an oval shape, which flatters most hands. If you want to soften your look, try a round shape. Square nails look best on long fingers. A "squoval" looks like a square, but has rounded corners. A point is more daring and makes your fingers seem longer. Pearly Pinks Look Good Longer Shimmery or pearly nail polishes may last longer than matte ones. And a neutral color -- pale pink or a pretty cream -- makes nicks and dents less obvious. To touch up your nails at home, use an extra layer of top coat (instead of any old clear nail polish). Two thin coats are less likely to chip than one thick layer How to Go Blue or Bold Blue, green, yellow and other bold colors are ever more popular. Keep these fun fashion statements neat and freshly polished, so your bold color is the main attraction. You also may want a fresh manicure a little sooner than with a quiet color. It's easier to see where your nails have grown, revealing their natural color at the base Fake Nails Are an Artful Cover-up Nail extensions can hide weak, damaged, or broken fingernails. But you have to go to the salon often to keep them looking good. And they may damage your real nails even more. Wet, loose, or chipped acrylic nails can trap moisture and give you an infection. Go completely fake-free once in a while to keep your nails healthy. 11 Nail Art When plain colors are simply too plain, tiny stick-on jewels and painted designs can jazz up your look. Some newer trends: crackle finishes (like old paint), colored tips, and dragging magnets through wet metallic polish for squiggly designs. A "moon manicure" has a pale semicircle at the nail base and the rest is polished in another color Wear Sunscreen to the Salon A manicure shouldn't put you at risk for wrinkles and skin cancer. And some doctors worry that putting your hands under a UV nail lamp frequently could do just that. It uses the same UV rays from the sun or a tanning bed. So rub a broad-spectrum sunscreen on your hands. And ask about fans or letting your nails dry naturally Forward Thinking Saves Nails Prevent that "Oops!" moment. Before your manicure, get your wallet and car keys handy. No digging into your purse with wet nail polish! In winter, keep your coat on during a manicure to avoid smudging polish on your sleeves later. You also can ask for a protective oil on your finished nails. It lessens the chance of smudges. Quick Fix for a Smudge or Chip A smudge or chip after you've left the salon is maddening. Not to worry. Dab a little acetone nail polish remover on the trouble spot and smooth it. When it's dry, fill in the area with matching polish. Follow this with a new coat of polish on the whole nail and a clear top coat. Allow 10 minutes to dry. 12 First Aid for Split Nails Cut paper strips from a tea bag to give a split or cracked nail extra support while it grows out. Apply a base coat to a clean, dry nail, wet the strips with the same polish, and wrap them around the nail. Smooth your work with a manicure stick and seal with another layer of polish. For severe nail cracks, see your doctor. Fight the Manicure's Natural Enemies Chores are brutal on manicures, so become BFFs with gloves. Get a few pairs to wear when hand-washing dishes, gardening, and painting. Scrape price tag stickers off with a spoon instead of your nails, and buy a soda can opener. Switch from bar soap to a gentle hand wash to prevent drying. And put lotion on your hands to keep your cuticles soft Prevent Nail Infections You probably know that the salon's tools should be clean and disinfected between clients. You can also bring your own equipment. If you feel any itching or burning after the manicurist uses a product, say something right away. And if your nails or fingers become red, sore, or ooze pus after a manicure, see your doctor. It could be an infection. Salon Manicures for Girls? There's no magic age when it becomes OK for little girls to have a manicure. It's usually up to the parents to decide when. Most nail services are safe, as long as the salon cleans equipment properly. Some spas and salons even specialize in serving girls and teenagers. And a mani before the big dance can be a fun mother-daughter event 13 Best beauty products of 2012 Woman's Day – Thu, Aug 23, 2012 12:49 PM EDT )Discover new cosmetics that get the job done better than the rest. With the amount of beauty products available on the market, shopping for anything from mascara to manicure sets can involve some serious decision making. It seems like every product claims to go on flawlessly, last longer and give you salon-quality results at home, but do these innovations really work? Woman's Day editors put them to the test and picked the most effective ones at the best price. Long-wear lipgloss Lipsticks and stains are known to have staying power, while gloss tends to fade faster. Until now. Thanks to special waxes and polymers formulated to lock in color and help it adhere better, lipgloss has gone from fleeting to fantastic. Unlike other long-wear formulas that can feel clumpy, NYC New York Color City Proof 8HR Lip Gloss ($3.15, at drugstore.com) "went on smoothly" and never had to be reapplied. The "vibrancy" and stain-like finish of Maybelline New York SuperStay 10HR Stain Gloss ($8.99, at drugstores) seriously impressed one tester. The formula lasted a solid 8 hours, "even after lunch and an afternoon snack." 14 Instant Highlights At-home kits have evolved beyond foil and messy applicator bottles and brushes. These days, you can use your flat iron to create highlights in less than 10 minutes or wash them away after one night. Spritz Marc Anthony Easy-Lites Instant Highlighting Spray ($8.99, ulta.com) onto the areas you want to highlight, then run your flat iron over them. "Be sure to do a few practice sprays to ensure the nozzle deposits the solution evenly," said one tester. Alterna 1 Night Highlights (Starting at $22, Yahoo! Shopping) is "a fun change for a special occasion." Comb the mousse onto dry hair, wait 5 minutes and—voilà—lighter streaks. A note from the tester: "Have a friend help you apply to prevent any mistakes." Smoothing Treatments Superstar ingredients typically found only in salon keratin treatments—Moroccan and avocado oils— now appear in products at your local drugstore for a fraction of the cost. They claim to keep hair smooth and shiny for up to a week, but not all are as effective as they promise. Above, two that truly deliver. Organix Ever Straight Brazilian Keratin Therapy 14 Day Smoothing Treatment ($7.99, at Target stores) is "simple to apply": Spray onto 80% dry hair and expect "smoothness for 10 days." One tester warns against oversaturation, since it weighed her hair down. A drop of Garnier Fructis Sleek & Shine Moroccan Sleek Oil Treatment ($4.75, at walmart.com) left our user's hair "feeling soft" and frizz-free "for more than three weeks." But if you have thin or fine hair, she warns, "A little goes a long way." Lash Enhancers The strengthening peptides found in lash-boosting serums aim to give you longer, plumper lashes—and now you can find them in mascara too. Another enhancer: primer, which helps mascara adhere better so lashes look fuller. Woman's Day tested both and loved two. Mary Kay Lash Primer ($15; MaryKay.com) "glides on easily" but left the tester wondering, Is this just an unnecessary step in my morning makeup routine? Once she put on her mascara, though, she was sold. "My eyelashes look lusher than they ever have with mascara alone." Just one coat of Rimmel London Lash Accelerator Mascara ($8.60, at drugstore.com) noticeably enhanced 15 the tester's lashes and the brush's shape "made lashes in the hard-to-reach inner corners easier to get to." But any real growth is "subtle at best." At-home Gel Manicures Known for their durability (think two weeks or more without chipping), gel manicures are the newest nail craze. At the salon, a gel will run you $50 to $75, but now DIY kits and polishes are popping up for much less. Typically sold with an LED light (to "set" your manicure) or an adhesive base coat, at-home gels promise to last the standard 14 days and save you money in the long run. Here are two standouts to try: Unlike most salon gel manis, Nutra Nail Gel Perfect ($12, at Yahoo! Shopping) uses an activator base coat instead of an UV light to help create a shiny, solid finish. Though this gel "dried within 5 minutes," one user reported that "it didn't last as long as a salon gel" (only eight days). But the "convenience of doing your nails at home is worth the slightly shortened life span." The LED lamp included with the SensatioNail By Nailene Invincible Gel Polish Starter Kit ($60, at Walmart stores) explains the hefty price tag. While the starter polish is good for 10 manicures, you can buy larger bottles separately. The tester's verdict: "I've had gels done at the salon before and this one lasted just as long—13 days straight!" Teeth whitening kits The cost of in-office whitening ranges from $500 to $1,000—enough to give you a permanent frown in spite of your pearly whites. At-home counterparts are less expensive, but have been tricky to use and took a long time to work. Some brands now promise results in as little as 2 hours and offer strips that dissolve, rather than bunch up, in your mouth. Extra-adhesive Crest 3D White Intensive Professional Effects Whitestrips ($45, at Amazon.com) never slipped, whitened better than other products the tester had used and caused no sensitivity. One drawback: having to wear them "2 hours a day for seven days straight." Rembrandt Intense Stain Dissolving Strips ($20, at Amazon.com) melt after 10 minutes in your mouth—a huge plus for testers. "I loved that I didn't have to wait to remove them," one said. And after using them for two weeks, the tester reported a brighter, whiter smile. 16 The Exploits of Barbara Marie SO YOU ARE PLANNING TO “COME OUT OF THE CLOSET” BY BARBARA MARIE DAVIDSON The motto of the Boy Scouts is to “BE PREPARED” as scouting (both Boys and Girls) teaches you to be prepared for life’s adventures and skills to make that happen. If you are a transgendered male to female cross dresser, everything that you have learned about life through scouting disappears in a heartbeat when you take that first step out of your “sanctuary”. Your sanctuary may be your closet, bed room, or house. Speaking from experience, my stomach was in knots when I took that baby step out of my comfort zone. There was no one around me to point fingers, or to lead me on like cattle to a slaughter, yet, I was still a wreck. What if I met someone I knew, what if I got sick or had a wreck? What if etc went through my mind. My first few “outings “ as a novice, were to do menial task such as a trip to the post office, to an ATM, to put gas in my car or just to ride around for a little while. All of this was done after the sun went down so that I might not meet someone that I might know. I wore my hair in a pony tail at work so I would just let it fall about my ears and neck, but there would still be folks that I could meet who would know who I was. All of these things and feelings came about after my wife passed away in 2006 and I had made the decision to try to “dress again”. See my article about “A Quick History” that appeared in the February or March issue of the PTG magazine 2011 about my changes that have occurred. There have also been a number of other articles that have appeared in the PTG Magazine in the past few years concerning my “Coming Out”. Make up was something that I knew very little about. I did find out quickly after some experimentation with Cover Girl that CG does not always cover guys! I wrote an article about my nontraditional make over where I finally bit the bullet, had a makeover and purchased about $270.00 of “Clinique” Make up. 4 ½ years later, I am still a “Clinique Girl”! It was the first of many adventures that have occurred as I got more comfortable in being out of my comfort zone(s). Then there was a problem with my family (kids) when I decided to tell them. This resulted in still another article “So You Think That Your Family Doesn’t Know.” When I say that most do as children are very observant because of their learning ability that they have to pick up on even the smallest of things/detail, although they may not understand at the time.. Believe me when I say that as you get more accustomed to leaving the sanctuary of your house, it does get better as you become more comfortable with yourself and your presentation. Most folk’s biggest fears are that they will be recognized by a friend or someone that they know. A very nice wig that suits your facial style will do wonders in 17 cutting down on being recognized. Also, dressing conservatively is another way to cut down on your recognition. Another thing that might occur is that they get read as being as male. The best advice that one can give is to look your best, present yourself as a female and try not to do anything that would bring attention to yourself. It is more socially acceptable for a female to dress in men’s clothing than it is for a man to be seen in female attire as society says that a female can dress in men’s clothes but men can not have the same opportunity to dress as a female. (Then it is/becomes socially unacceptable to do so.) If you belong to some groups or clubs, especially some that are male orientated, a word to the wise, be prepared for the worst. Become familiar with the By Laws so that if you are confronted with a problem, that you know what the bylaw is and what you options are in dealing with it. It raised it ugly head last summer (see below) and has raised its ugly head again this past week after being dormant for almost a year. This time, it is two Military orientated groups that I belong to. I have been attending their meetings for almost 2 years now and the sleeping giant has begun to arise. More on this topic a little latter. I got tired of living a double life in October of 2009 and thus the first of November 2009, I went back down to one life, and begin to dress full time, 24/7, en femme. One also needs to consider some avenues that they can do to cover themselves, legally. I saw a clinical psychologist several times which then she wrote a letter which I carry in my car and in my purse about my current lifestyle. When I decided to pursue HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy), she wrote me a letter which I presented to a Doctor in Aiken SC that placed me on HRT. I also have a copy of his letter as well. I decided to go a little further in my “transition, and had a legal name change (another article – “So You Wish To Change Your Name” that I wrote earlier this year). I enjoy the freedom to be able to go and come and to many things that I could not or would not have done in the past. I have also found that my self esteem and self confidence has tripled what it was when I “was a guy”. I recently had a breast augmentation with 350cc implants and have a letter also from my surgeon to that effect. I have enjoyed becoming the person that I have become. However, one must also remember that there are pit falls and stumbling blocks that will be placed in your way and you may be put in a situation(s) you do not wish to be in. Such was my case. As it gets better and better to become more of the person that you want to be, so does the responsibilities as well as the unpleasant things that can go along with your being a M2F TG cross dresser. One has to be careful of the various organizations, clubs that you belong to as some of the members can be very “homophobic” and can try to make one’s life miserable. Also, many men do not understand as they feel that if you are male, you are suppose to be a MAN. Some feel that you are/might be a threat to their masculinity as they do not understand us. Some all male clubs are very exclusive in who is or will be a member. I have found out the hard way. One I was able to resign as a member in good standing before being expelled for the group. Be sure that you know your bylaws and what article, section concerning expulsion from the organization/club. I had been seen at a public function as a female and was NOT representating this or- 18 ganization either in an official or un official position, But, the by lawn quoted was conduct unbecoming a member which could bring discredit and/or dishonor to the organization. This was the Society of Colonial War in the state of Georgia of which I had been a member for about 25 years or longer. Since this organization was basically and male dominated group, Lambda Legal could only offer me the names of a couple of TG friendly Lawyers in the Savannah area. It has now been just about a years since I had the problem and It has arisen again compliments of the Chatham Artillery Association as well as the Savannah Volunteer Guards association. Both are “social organizations” and the requirements are that one, male or female, who has been in a National Guard Unit that meets the qualifications for membership, can apply. Before I went in the NAVY in 1969 I was a member of the National Guard unit that was “flying the Chatham Artillery Colors” at that time. I have been an active member for over 31 years of the Association. In the case of the Savannah Volunteer Guards, my membership in the National guard along with my 20 Years active service with the navy, was my qualification. Both of these “units date back over 200 years. I was called on the carpet with the Chatham as there were questions as to who the “female was” and several of the officers did not like the idea of telling those who asked that I was a members who is now dressing as a female. (That was the basic problem). Then, I got an email wanting to know about my change, Id Cards, Drivers license, and ETC. Of course I sent them copies of my documents from the doctors, the court document with my name change. Then, the ugly question arose – “what bathroom do you use?” Of course I told them – “the one for which I am dressed”. They did not like that answer at all especially as we have 3 functions a year where the spouses, significant others are invited. The by law that they are going to use in my case is conduct unbecoming a gentlemen – use of the ladies room when there are ladies present – as I am still male (Technically). They apparently do not care about my “documentation”, my life style over the last few years, or my note from Lambda Legal with documents attached supporting my use of a ladies room. This time Lambda Legal was a little more helpful due to the fact the females are not “excluded” from the membership, just that none have qualified and/or applied. FYI one of the documents is the transgender tool kit which covers specifically the use of bathrooms by transgender/ transsexual people. The Savannah Volunteer Guards is getting into the picture also because at least 2 of the members of the Chatham Board of officers are also officers in the SVG. Thus, I am catching it from all sides. I most likely will struggle with this problem again in the next year or so with the St Andrew’s Society of Savannah, GA that dates it history back 250 years. It is, however, an all male organization, thus Lambda Legal cannot help me at all. Currently, I have not violated any of the By Laws as the reason for expulsion from the society is nonpayment of dues. Believe it or not, I don’t pay dues as I am a life member. My association goes back to 1957 as I attended the meeting with my father as I played the bagpipes. I became a member in 1965. In 2015, I will be a 50 year members of this group. However, the same two individuals who got me removed from the Society of Colonial Wars is pushing for a change in the bylaws that would resemble the one that had me removed from that group as well. One of these individuals will also be a 50 year member 19 in 2015. To make a long story short, I will know before September where I stand with each of the units above. My gut feeling from the meeting that I had last week, that there are a number of homophobic individuals on the board(s) and things may not go well for me. I even offered a compromise. As a Member in good standing, I am free to attend ALL functions of both group, but I offered to stay away the big party function when their wives and girl friend would be present. But that is a shot in the dark, believe me. So Ladies, when you make your decisions or commitments on “coming out of the closet, what the facts are and where you stand in the groups to which you may belong as you may not be happy when the find out. Well ladies, all I can say is no news is/was good news. August 23rd came and went and nothing. Then, during the first week in September, I got notification from the Chatham Artillery (CA) addressed to WMD pertaining to the membership meeting on September 17th in Savannah. I signed the card both with my new legal name and my “old name” and returned it saying that I would be there. Several days later, I got another meeting note from the Savannah Volunteer Guards (SVG) telling me about their membership meeting and it was also addressed to WMD. I did go to both of them as Barbara with no questions or problems. Ladies, Just remember one thing - documentation is the name of the game when it comes to who (m) and what you are. For the August meeting, there were officers from both groups present. I had given them copies of letters from my three doctors, a copy of my legal name change, a copy of the front page of my new passport showing my feminine photo and name. The was also a copy of all of my id cards from the various military groups I belong to as well as my Mil ID card, Medicare card and my state DL, all showing my new name and photo. I also included information from Lambda Legal as to the proper bathroom to be used. Their Beef and the bylaw they were going to used was conduct unbecoming a “gentleman” for using the ladies bathroom when ladies were present. FYI, if or when you have problems at work or in others areas, Lambda Legal is a great place for resource material. I found out that several of the officers had done some research on their own and all came up with the same basic conclusions. They had no real grounds to have me removed from either group because of all of my documentation, etc as to the fact the I was a M@F transgendered person living full time as a female. One even mentioned a non pre-op transsexual, which I feel that I am now. Thus when I went to the Chatham artillery, not a word was said to me as to my status other that I was still a member in good standing. The following Thursday, I was back in Savannah for the SVG meeting and supper.. When I was signing the sheet of those present, I was told to sign in as Barbara as they had changed my name in their roles. Saturday, I received an invitation to the annual shrimp and beer party given by the CA and there will be ladies present at the party. It was addressed to Barbara Marie Davidson. I suspect that the next thing I get will be an invitation addressed to Barbara Marie 20 to the “ladies Night” party given by the SVG on October 10th. Of course as the name of the party states, there will be ladies present for that one as well. Just for grins and giggles, I will most probably watch my “p’s and q’s” if or when I go to the ladies room (not that I don’t already do that). So again, Ladies I say if you have problems or know that there might be a problem with your life style, please remember that documentation is the name of the game. Also remember that Lambda Legal is also a resource that is available. If the organization is an “all male organization”, then they might not be albe to do any thing but givey the names of some TG friendly lawyers in your area. GOOD LUCK to all of you! Barbara Marie Davidson Tasi’s Musings, November, 2012 Greetings from Merida. To those not familiar with Mexico and particularly the Yucatan (the peninsula that juts into the Caribbean Sea), it is culturally different from the rest of Mexico, largely due to the Mayan influence. The Mayan civilization encompassed the whole of the peninsula and extended down into the Guatemalan highlands and on to the Pacific. The Mayan people date back to 1800 BC and were the last of the Mexican tribes to be conquered by the Spanish in the late 1700s. Their civilization saw the greatest decline however between 700900 AD for ecological reasons and perhaps the overhunting of megafauna. You have probably heard of the ancient ruins at places like Uxmal and Chichen Itza which are popular tourist attractions. Today Merida is the current center of the Yucatan and this building to the right, the Gran Museo del Mundo Maya, was just completed to honor and tell the history of the Mayan people. It is also interesting that the concept of gender in ancient Mayan culture is ambiguous; the duality in their art is explicit there being a male figure on one side and a female figure on the other side. Even though there is a sense of duality and equality in the society there is also a lot of evidence that women were considered the superior. The mythology and power 21 associated with the ability to create life was one which men tried to emulate. Men would participate in the act of bloodletting their own genitals to create something new from their blood. The blood was allowed to drip on cloth, which was then burned. Well on to the fun stuff. We managed to capture a few tidbits that you should fine interesting. In the News LGBT History Month. October is LGBT History Month. The month of observance was first organized in 1994 by high school teacher Rodney Wilson to coincide with National Coming Out Day (Oct. 11) and was meant to highlight the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender rights movement. This is the 7th anniversary of LGBT History Month. Throughout the month, the Equality Forum will highlight LGBT heroes in media, government and everyday life who have had an impact on our civil rights movement. Visit www.thegavoice.com every day to meet these LGBT leaders. A Gallup survey shows 3.4% US citizens are LGBT. A survey of 121,000 Americans has shown that 3.4% publicly identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender. “This is the largest single study of the distribution of the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) population in the US on record,’ said the authors of the report Gary J Gates and Frank Newport in the introduction. http://www.gallup.com/poll/158066/special-report-adults-identify-lgbt.aspx The first transgender bellbird Down Under? Workers at Zealandia, an eco-sanctuary in New Zealand, have announced that they've discovered the country's first transgender bellbird and they have dubbed it ''butch bellbird”. Victoria University moult expert Ben Bell says that the bird's plumage "could be due to a hormonal imbalance or it could be a reaction to shock or an incomplete moult — given the appearance and behaviour, any of those would be unusual though." Among the "trans" characteristics staff noted to Stewart: • • • The bird has the white stripe "of a female on one side, but the dark body plumage of a male." When feeding, the bird "doesn't flit between flowers like a female, but moves more deliberately, primed to defend attractive food resources." • * S/he "makes both male calls and the lively 'chup chup' of the female, but these are 22 are much louder and more frequent than is usual for females." Anyone see an analogy to us Maria Keisling, founding Executive Director of the National Center for Transgender Equality, will be honored with the 2012 Virginia Prince Transgender Pioneer Award at Fantasia Fair in Provincetown on October 16th. Fan Fair” is the longest-running annual event in the transgender world. It is a place where TG people and their SOs can learn, grow, play and develop community. I would love to have a report from anyone that attended this wonderful event. TG Bathroom App. Using a public restroom might seem like a simple, if occasionally disgusting, task: look for the familiar man and woman stick figures and help keep the Starbucks bathroom line moving. But for the transgender community, the ritual is riddled with anxiety and the constant threat of harassment, even violence. If you’re a man who used to be a woman, or vice versa, or in the process of transitioning genders, picking a door can be confusing. Going through that door can lead to anything from a sideways glance to physical violence. Enter TranSquat, a brand-new iPhone app that uses a vast database of gender-neutral bathrooms across the United States and Canada—and now extending as far as Kuwait—to point users to the closest safe restroom. Well, someone is trying to help. Let me know if you find this useful. Jesus was a Transvestite. This is not intended to offend or belittle anyone’s beliefs but I did find this interesting. A police cordon has been put up to protect an exhibition portraying Jesus Christ as a transvestite as fears arose it could provoke a riot. The image, which portrays a version of the Last Supper, shows Jesus Christ dressed in women's clothes wearing high heels. Jesus is surrounded by apostles wearing S&M objects and lingerie. The artwork, by controversial Swedish artist Elisabeth Ohlson Wallin has been put under armed police guard in Belgrade, Serbia. The 2,000 guards have surrounded the Ecco Homo exhibition where the artwork resides amid threats of mass protests and violence, according to local sources. 23 City officials cancelled a planned Gay Pride march, which had been timed to coincide with the exhibition after threats of violence by a far-right group Now we understand why Muslims get upset when someone publicly burns a Koran. Anthony Owen, TESCO checkout boy, becomes leggy transgender model. Spotty teen Antony Owen had dreamt of getting out from behind the Tesco till but never had chance until he became Lisa Heart - the transgender model. Now Lisa - who has 34 inch long legs - is making a living from glamorous photo shoots and artistic portraits and she’s even become a hit with the men. The 32-year-old, from Leighton Buzzard, Herts, said: “I was 18 when I realized that I was meant to be a woman, and it was another year before I could tell anyone. Due to copyright restrictions you need to visit the site to see Lisa’s pictures. http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/ features/4592539/supermarket-till-boy-now-leggy-model-calledLisa.html#ixzz2A4HmPdTI. Fashion and Beauty British home-shopping group N Brown Group Plc said a trial of its brands in the United States had convinced the company it can take a slice of a plus-size ladieswear market worth $35 billion. The Manchester-based group, targets older and larger shoppers with brands such as Simply Be, Jacamo and Marisota. N Brown, whose High & Mighty brand for instance offers sizes up to XXXXXL - equating to a 60-inch waist. Their Marisota brand is focused on a 50-year-old customer in the UK and the U.S. On the other hand, some Americans will look at the Simply Be catalogue and say ‘isn't this for a customer in their twenties', whereas actually in the UK it's for someone in their late thirties, early forties,". The company has found U.S. customers dress more casually and, for their age, are less fashion-conscious than their UK counterparts. This is a good point to stop and toot my own horn. I was just published in Repartee, a glossy TG lifestyle magazine published in the UK but with worldwide distribution. It’s a quarterly magazine of very high caliber, comparable to some of the glossies produced in the U.S. in past decades. More information is here: http://www.repartee.tv/. My article dealt with the differences between American and British fashion. Buy an individual issue and see for yourself. And continuing on the line of plus-sized girls (aren’t most of us size 14 and up) I hope you watch Marcy Guevara on the Hello Style channel of You Tube and Yahoo. Her most recent video talks about the popular plus-size fashion designers. Included in there is Simply Be (noted above) along with us.asos.com, eshakti.com, jamesjeans.com and my personal favorite Kiyonna. If you haven’t looked at the Kiyonna designs, go to their website at 24 http://www.kiyonna.com/ There isn’t a single outfit on the site that I don’t love and guaranteed, you will look sexy in everything from jeans to a cocktail dress. Watch Marcy’s video here: http://www.youtube.com/watch? feature=player_profilepage&v=D1LA2flJ_6o And my wife just found a new site for plus-size girls up to 9X (http://sanctuarie.net/) eg 80in bust and 94 in hips. Got it made now. Corsets: The Newest Fashion Craze. Yes, unbelievable. If you want that hourglass figure without dieting, here’s you answer ladies. If you can wiggle into one of these waist-crunchers, they are also very sexy and will get your juices flowing. Check out these videos and by the way, lawyers wear them at trials http://news.yahoo.com/video/2020-corsets-newest-fashioncraze-080000743.html How to Wear and Lace a Corset: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5zMc67CZVGM How to Lace Up A Corset By Yourself: http://www.youtube.com/watch? v=eZJL8AVhp0I&feature=related Lipstick Quiz. A swipe of lipstick can transform your look in seconds. From look-at-me reds to barely-there balms, the color you wear conveys your mindset and mood (Sexy? Subdued?). But finding the most flattering tone takes a lot of lip pursing—and a workout on your wallet. Avoid makeup missteps with our customized lip tips based on your unique hair and skintone, lip shape, shade and desired look. Discover your best colors and application techniques along with advice on how to play up your unique beauty Take some of the other quizzes while you are there. . http://www.youbeauty.com/quizzes/lipstick? utm_source=Sailthru&utm_medium=email&utm_term=Newsletter%20Full% 20List&utm_campaign=Lipstick%20Quiz%20-%2010%2F18%2F12%20-%20NEW% 20TEMPLATE&utm_content=A What Do You Spend on Clothing? A recent study conducted in the UK says that women there spend 1/5 of their salary on clothing. This shocked me as it’s a lot of money to be spending to keep yourself looking great for your work. And it made me think about the work I do and how often I see unnecessary purchases in women’s closets as they buy clothes that don’t suit their personality, their body shape or their coloring. And the clothes go basically unworn, as the owner knows that they’re not quite right, but can’t let them go as they’ve spent hard earned money on them 25 It also brought up the value of a wardrobe – what is it worth? I read some research from an insurance company that said that the average American wardrobe is worth $18 000 (this includes shoes, underwear, scarves etc.) as that is the average payout figure after a fire. Yet most women only wear 10- 20% of their clothes, which means that at least $10 000 is mis-spent. Here’s what women said they spent. less than 2% 27.22% (46 votes) 3-5% 28.4% (48 votes) 6-10% 21.3% (36 votes) 11-15% 7.1% (12 votes) 16-20% 6.51% (11 votes) 21-25% 2.96% (5 votes) 25-30% 2.96% (5 votes) 30-40% 1.78% (3 votes) 41% or more 1.77% (3 votes) Humor. If you are unfamiliar with Jeff Dunham, an American ventriloquist and stand-up comedian, you have a treat in store. Describing his characters, Time observes, "All of them are politically incorrect, gratuitously insulting and ill tempered.". Dunham has been credited with reviving ventriloquism, and doing more to promote the art form than anyone since Edgar Bergen. His introduction of Achmed the Dead Terrorist in Spark of Insanity was ranked as the ninth most watched YouTube video at the time. So in this very special episode of -- Achmed is an American Woman! -- Minding the Monsters, you’ll get a surprise ending. http:// www.youtube.com/watch? v=VrIt6PdHoQM&feature=em-subs_digestnewavtr So I would like to end this months musings in a tribute to all my friends in Texas Hugs to everyone …….Tasi 26 Humor 27 Thanksgiving Day Weather Forecast In the pre-Thanksgiving rush, we have received an early weather report from our in-house weather reporters. This is one, you should be sure to email your Mom. Turkeys will thaw in the morning, then warm in the oven to an afternoon high near 190F. The kitchen will turn hot and humid, and if you bother the cook, be ready for a severe squall or cold shoulder. During the late afternoon and evening, the cold front of a knife will slice through the turkey, causing an accumulation of one to two inches on plates. Mashed potatoes will drift across one side while cranberry sauce creates slippery spots on the other. Please pass the gravy. A weight watch and indigestion warning have been issued for the entire area, with increased stuffiness around the beltway. During the evening, the turkey will diminish and taper off to leftovers, dropping to a low of 34F in the refrigerator. Looking ahead to Friday and Saturday, high pressure to eat sandwiches will be established. Flurries of leftovers can be expected both days with a 50 percent chance of scattered soup late in the day. We expect a warming trend where soup develops. By early next week, eating pressure will be low as the only wish left will be the bone. Oh Whatever am I to do? So many people have asked me to come to their house for dinner! 28 Angels In The Centerfold Ginger Lainey S Secret Suzane Olivia 29 Tammy Trueheart Alicia Rio 30 Kathy’s Korner Coming Out By: Kathy King I came out to my wife 3 1/2 years ago, after 40 years of a wonderful marriage. I got the usual comments - Are Gay?, is there something I did to make you this way, do you love me? There was crying and anger on both our parts. I tried to tell her I was Trans Gendered and a Cross Dresser not Trans Sexual and tried to explain the difference with all type of articles and books. I tried to tell her that this compulsion started when I was 5 or 6 and has never stopped. The compulsion hadbeen stifled into my mind but would come out when the opportunity was there. If clothes, under ware cosmetics were left out and the coast was clear, my female self would be free to lavish myself in femininity. After, guilt and anger would follow and I would put back the garments as best I could. My wife just looked at me eyes closed, shaking her head back and forth. The next question was who's clothes have you worn? The tears came to my eyes and visibly started to shake and said "my Moms, Aunts and Yours. My wife is very old school and 'Straight Laced", so I expected the worse "Get Out" but that didn't happen, thank God. She read some of the research that I had gathered, not saying a word. The next utterance was "I Love You, I married a man not a women" and you are a good man and I want to spend the rest of my life with you. Talk about a gasp of relief, but then the hammer fell. She started to talk after about 5 minutes of silence. "If you except my terms nothing will change. The terms are, that you never dress in front of our family or me. If you disgrace us "pack your bags". The biggest question was, Where do we go from here? My wife has allowed me a large closet for all my clothes, a large ceiling to floor mirror in one of our bedrooms. I have told her that I've had make overs and belong to a couple of TG networks and have asked her to see some of my Kathy photo's, all she would say is "NO". I try and breach the subject every 6 months or so, but she never wavers. I guess I am the situation as in the military Don't Ask Don't Tell". We are now married for 44 years and still a loving couple with a wonderful children and a burch of darling grand kids. 31 I am not going to rock the boat, there is to much to lose, but I still get out when I can as Kathy Ann. It's not the best situation for me but i's the best situation for my family. I know some of my hard core sisters will say I am a wimp and I should be out 100%, answer to them is that, you have to walk in my shoes and lose so much Love. All My Love, Kathy Ann The Adventures of Judy Sometimes By: Judy Danials Fall Colors and Bar Hop It’s been a tradition for my wife and I to take a fall color tour of our area and for the last several years I have been doing this dressed. Last year our friends Jack and Jane joined us so we invited them along this year too. Since our starting point was from our cabin Jack and Jane arrived about 1:00 to get things stated. The best colors are within about 30 minutes of our cabin so our tour included some of the Ottertail County Scenic Byway and many of the lake roads between Cormorant Village and Battle Lake. Our first glimpse of natures beauty was on Fish Lake Road just north of where we are located. This 5 mile stretch runs around the south end of Pelican Lake, one of Ottertail counties most prestigious areas. Up next was a favorite of mine, Lake Melissa. As a youth I spent many summers exploring the roads that encompass this lake on my Schwinn Stingray. I have many fond memories of the cabin we rented on Fern Beach. Along with the tradition of the fall color tour comes a bar hop. Jack and Jane are frequent patrons of Duffy’s, the bar I often mention in my posts, and they enjoy this part of the tour even more than we do. The first watering hole on our list was County 17, a place we affectionately call a "SHIT HOLE" with its chipboard interior and rather disgusting bathrooms. On the upside they serve great food and strong drinks. It’s not unusually for us to run into people we know and our first stop was no exception. Our friend Jack is a local radio personality in Fargo so he seems to know everybody including the owners of County 17, Dick and Joy, as we do. Neither are real comfort- 32 able with me being dressed, but when it comes right down to it, my money is as green as the next. The next part of our tour took us back south on Highway 59 to a gravel road called the Lost Highway. Along this 6 mile stretch are many road side ponds that are surrounded by trees. The colors this time of year are simply spectacular in the background along with the reflections. Up next on the bar hop was Billy’s, a popular lake spot in Vergas, MN. My wife and I have been going there for years, but up until this point I had never been there dressed. With the Vikings playing, free chili and bingo after the place was packed. We did manage to find a booth in the center of the bar and to my surprise I didn't even get a second look, even when I used the ladies restroom. We all ordered cocktails, then took advantage of the free chili along with an order of waffle fries. If we had not been on a color tour we would have likely stayed to play bingo, at least the games of Blackout. The next leg of our journey would be the longest, about 45 minutes; it took us around Maplewood State Park and across Stony Bar that divides north and south Lake Lida, where we purchased our first cabin some 20 years ago. This area is full of Maples, which gives us that cherry red color that everyone seems to favor up here in the northland. Our last stop with Jack and Jane would be a place called the Otter, in where else, Ottertail, MN. Again, the place was quite busy, but no one seemed to give me a second look. We decided to throw $ 20 in the jars to see if we could recouped what we spent on drinks earlier in the day, but alas, it wasn't to be. By now it was nearly 6:00 so we said our goodbyes and parted ways. Since we had about a 40 mile drive back to our cabin Tracy and I figured a couple more stops couldn't hurt so we stopped in Dent, MN at a place called Peg Legs, known for its famous slogan. "I got Bent in Dent and the Pelican, just a short drive to our cabin. The latter of the two bars proved to be the most interesting as it was filled with drunk, horny men who seemed determined to pick up the two "hot chicks" who had just arrived. For the record we went home with each other, lol, but we did get free drinks. Judy (the colors are fading) sometimes 33 Mellissalynn’s Tips & Tricks Hi, girls! How was your Halloween? I hope you had a great time of it. I’d tell you more about mine, but as it’s not actually Halloween as I write this, I have nothing to tell…yet! I entered a contest for Joico hair products, looking for 80s hair styles. My entry is the collage below. Beauty school is going well! So far, I’ve learned how to cut hair and am slowly getting better at it, how to roll perms, and how to use the flatiron and the curling irons. Oh, and how to do roller sets, let’s not forget that one. Here’s a new sample of my work so far; this was done with the flatiron, after using a round brush to blow dry. I think Vanessa looks pretty good here! Let me know what you think of Vanessa, or share your Halloween stories, or what youthink ofmy 80s hair, or any other stories you want to pass along. You can do this by e-mailing me [email protected] . I’d love to hear from you! And now, back to our regularly scheduled column… 34 @@@@@@@@@@@@ To keep your color in place, fill the entire lip with neutral pencil before applying lipstick. If necessary, roll the tip in the palm of your hand to warm it up and prevent hard lines. @@@@@@@@@@@@ Another great tip from beauty school! Avoid rubbing your wet hair with a towel to dry it. Drying your hair this way opens up the cuticle (the outer layer of your hair) and causes damage. Instead, squeeze water out with your hands, then pat or blot it dry, @@@@@@@@@@@@ Turn any lip color into a shimmery new shade: Swipe sheer golden gloss over lipstick—it instantly warms up every color. @@@@@@@@@@@@ Over the next few articles, ladies, I'm going to talk about some great tricks to do with your eyes to make them fab-u-lous! We're going to start with one of the simpler ones, creating the doe-eyed look. This lengthens both theupper and lower lashes and opens your eyes up to create a more youthful look. By using pastel colors, your lashes will really pop as well. The first thing to do is to apply a pastel color such as a petal pink, mint green, sky blue, or a shimmery lilac to your lid and brow bone. If you want to build up your lashes a bit, use a lash primer on both upper and lower lashes, then sweep a lash-bulking fiber mascara across both upper and lower lashes. Note: this look doesn't require eye liner. @@@@@@@@@@@@ Turn any lipstick into a durable stain by blotting, reapplying, then blotting again to remove excess oils. Blot with lint-free blotting paper rather than tissue for a more natural, long-lasting look. @@@@@@@@@@@@ This is a pro tip for getting tangles out of your hair. When you’re blow-drying your hair, separate tangles with your fingers until the hair is about 75-80 percent dry, then try brushing. You want to make sure your fingers glide through hair effortlessly before introducing a brush to wet or even damp hair. This is also how you avoid breakage. @@@@@@@@@@@@ This trick will give you what's called a powdered lip look. Start with a pale pink shade, then dust translucent powder on top for a matte effect. 35 @@@@@@@@@@@@ Ponytails, no matter if they’re high or low, are perfectly precise and chic and not that gym-wearing pony you’ve been trying to pass off as fashionable. Put some effort and styling into the look. It will only take a few minutes and you’ll look like you just stepped off the runway. Start by preparing your hair with a light serum to add shine. Pull your hair back, using a flat brush to get hair smooth, and secure it with a band. Take a lightweight hairspray and spray lightly. To smooth down the surface and prevent those pesky bumps, spritz some hairspray onto a clean toothbrush (or a small hard bristle brush) and run it over the surface of your pony tail to get rid of those annoying little flyaways. There it is, a picture-perfect, beautiful ponytail! @@@@@@@@@@@@ This is a great tip to remember when you’re doing pictures. It's not just black that makes you look thinner. Wearing an entire outfit of just one color will do the trick as well, whether it be white, beige, brown, blue or red. One color tends to elongate your figure. @@@@@@@@@@@@ Wendy sent in this incredibly useful tip. She writes, “Most women should keep two different foundation colors in their makeup kits, one for summer and one for winter. Most likely, the light tinted moisturizer or foundation that you relied on all summer is too sheer for your skin in the winter, or might be too dark, because in summer we tend to have tanned skin. In winter, most women should opt for a super moisturizing foundation (unless you suffer from oily skin, in which case, oil-free foundations are your best bet).” Thanks, Wendy! 36 @@@@@@@@@@@@ Every winter my skin gets super dry and itchy. If you suffer from thi as well, here are a few tips to keeping your skin soft and supple. Start by investing in a humidifier. Unless you live in a humid area like some parts of the South or the Pacific Northwest, likely the air is dry this time of year. I keep a humidifier in my house and it's helped immensely. Next, look for a thick body & facial moisturizer. You generally want a thicker moisturizer in winter than in summer or spring. Your lips are especially vulnerable this time of year, so keep them hydrated with Vaseline. Apply a thick layer of Vaseline to lips and exfoliate with an old toothbrush in a circular motion. Lastly try taking lukewarm showers, then hydrate with coconut oil. @@@@@@@@@@@@ When applying your mascara, try to wait about five seconds before blinking. This will help to avoid getting ‘mascara dots’ all along your eyelid. Also, double-check your lids before going out. There’s a good chance that you’ll find an error that’s easily fixable in private rather than having it seen in public. @@@@@@@@@@@@ Here's another beauty school tip. When you use curling irons or flat irons often, you are at risk of frying your hair. Once your hair is fried, there's really no option but to cut off the frayed bits. To protect your hair from hot tools, comb in a healthy dollop of smoothing cream to damp hair. Almost all hair companies have creams to protect hair from heat. Also, invest in a ceramic flat iron which will straighten a section of hair in one sweep instead of the many sweeps a cheap flat iron will cause. Hair dryers can also cause damage to your hair. For those of you who use blow dryers, invest in an ionic one. You'll find your hair dries much faster and the cool shot of air the ionic dryer provides helps prevent damage. @@@@@@@@@@@@ So you were watching an awards show the other night and saw those to-die-for red carpet nude lips all the stars are currently sporting, the ones that go oh-so-perfectly with the smoky eye look? If you're wondering how to get them yourself, have no fears, nude lips were not made for celebrities only. The secret lies in choosing a lip shade that's closest to your natural skin tone. A bit of gloss placed over the lipstick adds the perfect bit of shine. You can then play up your eyes and add a swipe of bronzer to make your skin glow. @@@@@@@@@@@@ This tip is for the girl who’s going in for her first-ever manicure. Have you payment and tip, and your car keys, readily accessible before you get your polish applied! This will 37 help prevent chipping your new look five minutes after finishing it. @@@@@@@@@@@@ With winter coming on, many women use bronzers more frequently. Bronzer is a staple for any woman's makeup kit. It can make your skin look sun-kissed even when it's protected with sunscreen. It can also wake up tired, pasty skin. Here are a few triedand-true tips for proper application: Bronzer looks best when it's applied lightly to all the spots where the sun naturally shines (the forehead, cheeks, nose and chin). Remember not to go too dark with it, though. Most companies sell light, medium and dark bronzers. Choose a shade that's no more than two shades darker than your skin. I once made the mistake of buying bronzer that came in a quad of four colors. The darkest was WAY too dark for my skin! Also, keep in mind that you'll likely need a different shade in winter than summer. If you're fair and sunburn easily, peach or pink bronzers are a great choice. Copper shades are nice on olive skin tones, while darker shades are perfect for dark skin. Avoid orange shades, which can look unnatural. If you have normal or oily skin, powder-based bronzer is best. Use a short, fluffy blush brush to apply, but first blow any excess bronzer off your brush; otherwise, you risk going overboard with color. For dry skin, cream- or gel-based bronzers work best. Apply it with your finger or a sponge. As with most cream-based beauty products, it's important to blend it into your skin very well, or you risk looking like a clown. Bronzer alone can appear dull. For a dewy look, apply cream blush to the apples of your cheeks. The combination of bronzer and cream blush is absolutely gorgeous. @@@@@@@@@@@@ If you aren't happy with the size or look of your nose, you can make it appear smaller with a couple of nifty makeup tricks. These are especially useful when taking pictures. First, take a foundation that's a couple shades darker than your regular foundation and apply it on either side of your nose. Make sure to blend it in well. You want to create the appearance of a shadow. Next, take a highlighting pen, which you can find at most department store makeup counters, and swipe it down the bridge of the nose. The contrast of light versus dark does wonders for your nose! @@@@@@@@@@@@ This is a neat little tip of my own creation for helping to hide beard shadow. Swipe a SMALL amount of baby powder onto a blush brush and apply it over your beard area. The powder will coat the hair stubble under the skin and lighten its color, making it easier to hide with foundation. 38 @@@@@@@@@@@@ And with that, ladies, I close my second-to-last column for 2012. I hope that you all find something useful in this month’s column, and if you do, please share it with us all! To all of my fellow veterans in our readership, I want to say happy Veteran’s Day and thank you all for the service to our country. To everyone, I want to wish you a happy Thanksgiving. I hope you are able to spend it with family and/or friends. If you’re able to be your feminine, beautiful womanly self while doing so, so much the better! If you have stories of your November holidays to share, or any tips or tricks, you know I’m always available. E-mail me at [email protected], and I’ll happily share whatever you have to say, and always give you a personal reply. See you all next month! 39 7 Trends Every Woman Can Wear No more excuses, ladies-you can pull off that romper. We teamed up with Refinery29's Neha Gandhi to give you a list of looks every woman can work. The lesson here: Take a chance! The results will surprise you. By Alexa Tucker, REDBOOK. Trend #1: Maxi Dress A maxi dress is a hassle-free way to look pulled-togetherwithout too much effort. Neha Gandhi, Refinery29's deputy editor, says, "A floor skimming hem gives you a lean, statuesque look - just be sure to go for one that doesn't have too much gathered fabric, so you don't feel like you're drowning in it." Dress it down with flat sandals and a topknot, or dress it up with a blazer and a fun necklace. The possibilities are endless! Trend #2: Blue Eye Makeup Blue eye makeup doesn't have to remind you of your 10-year-old self digging around your mom's bathroom drawers. Gandhi says, "Adding a sweep of color across your lid or just lining your eyes with navy feels fresh and fun, particularly for summer, and it makes pretty much every eye color pop." Trend #3: Daytime Clutches We're not talking miniscule prom pieces, but Gandhi describes switching your carryall to a big clutch as "an exercise in editing and sloughing off the excesses." Ditching your usual crossbody isn't just a selfimprovement trick, though: "In a sea of totes and shoulder bags, a bright envelope clutch stands out in a special way," says Gandhi. 40 Trend #4: Neon Add some interest to an otherwise-plain outfit by including a pop of neon. Gandhi mentions, "We're big proponents of highlighter-hued heels around the Refinery29 offices-they give any outfit a shot of color (and fun!), but they're not over the top." Take a leap of faith and add a neon necklace to an LBD or step out in fluorescent flats and a bright belt. If you're feeling bold, go for a bright skirt or jacket. Trend #5: Mixed Prints If you're the stylish-but-safe type, pairing prints can be intimidating, but don't let fear get the best of you. Gandhi shares her pattern-blending technique: "Start out pairing only two prints, making sure that only one of them is the dominant one (so, stripes and mini flowers that feel quieter are a great starting point) and that both of the printed pieces are tied together with a similar base color (so maybe your stripes are navy and white and your florals are on a navy backdrop). Fail-proof." Trend #6: Jumpsuits Every woman should embrace the jumpsuit trend. Gandhi says, "I love that you can run your errands all around town without worrying that an errant wind will blow your skirt up over your head." Short rompers are a great place to start, but don't be afraid to take it a step further. Neha shares, "I'm a big fan of the pants version of this look. It feels a little bit dressier, especially with a great pair of heels." Trend #7: Bangs If you're ready for a change in your look, it might be time to give bangs a chance. Gandhi advises, "Whether you want a blunt fringe or just a side-sweep, adding a little interest right at your face is the easiest way to transform your look without chopping all of your hair off or going nuts with color." 41 I Love That Dress But It’s From China Tasi Zuriack | I normally love to talk just about fashion and how we use fashion to create that personal style that leads to your special brand of femininity, but some recent experiences in searching for quality clothing online has left a surprising sour taste in my mouth over all the bad customer experiences, poor product quality and well, just plain untruths from many vendors, and especially those in the Far East. So why do we need to talk about this? Well, let’s say you went online and found just the perfect special occasion dress, a bridal outfit, a prom dress, or maybe just a special costume to fulfill one of your fantasies, Ah! And look at that special price . . . I just saved $200 or more, and I love the beading, and turquoise is my very favorite color. So I order through PayPal for a 3 week delivery time. Well three weeks go by and still no dress, so I contact the vendor. Oh, yes, we did ship and here’s the tracking number. Well unfortunately a tracking number for China Post only works in China (surprise, surprise). The same is true for other countries as well. But you were going to use an express carrier. We did, China Express. Okay, so I grumble a bit but with the assurances that my package will soon arrive. And finally it comes and I’m so excited as I tear open the package and hold up the dress of my dreams. Except that’s it so crumpled that I doubt even the dry cleaner will get all those wrinkles out. And wait, it’s not turquoise, but purple, and this beading that made the dress so special is barely attached, and the lace shawl that was part of the purchase is missing. Well, of course, I immediately email the vendor and well, you know how colors are not true to life on the computer, and I’m sure you can find a seamstress to reattach the beading . . . you know that happens in shipping sometimes. Oh, the shawl was out of stock. Now, least you think I’m making this up, this story is repeated many times over when 42 you read customer reviews about their online purchases. And oh! IT GETS WORSE. Here are just a few more examples of quality issues. • • • • Not as described Missing pieces Wrong color (not what they had in stock when the dress was made) Wrong size (even with measurements given) • Rips and poor stitching • Fabric so sheer that well, everything underneath shows Burns (was she smoking when she made the dress?) Without a doubt, poor manufacturing is a major problem and one to which there really isn’t a ready solution other than “Buyer Beware”. You are not likely to get your money back either, so those savings become like a puff of smoke — fast disappearing if you can’t wear the dress. Or whatever your purchase might be. But they have “return policies”. Hope you have a law degree when trying to interpret those return policies. Most have a set number of days to return an item and some have times that start when you make the purchase – not when you receive it. Then there’s the never-ending back and forth with customer service ending in OOPS! The return period has expired. There was one incident, and believe me, this is real. The belt was missing. Sorry-out of stock. The sleeves are puffy, not straight. Sorry, wrong picture. I’d like my money back. Sorry, but we already paid the dressmaker. This went on for several weeks. Finally – well then, I’ll just return the dress. Sorry, the return period has expired . . . PayPal is the frequent method of payment. It’s fast and it’s easy. But when you have problems with the vendor, PayPal, unlike credit card companies will not get involved. This is not a condemnation of PayPal. They are a transaction processing company and nothing more, and their payment mechanisms work well. Just be aware that your money is at risk if the vendor does not provide you what you think you bought. 43 Vendors also post pictures of items that they do not have (and never did) and their rampant misinformation is frustrating and hurtful. Then you have “Bait and Switch” which large companies with multiple product lines utilize to get clothing buyers to buy electronic goods with their corresponding higher markups. This is really annoying. Now here’s one that I have difficulty understanding in this modern technological age . . . search engines that don’t work. Computers as you know are very specific and if you put a dot instead of a dash, it may not find what you are looking for. Or more so, the description is something other than what the vendor has named it. I’ve even used the description in a stores advertising and their search engine could not find it. It could be something as simple as clip earring versus clip-on earring. Good search engines like Google and Yahoo will suggest alternate spellings. I guess only large companies have access to this technology. Well, maybe not. Amazon has problems too. Apparently the technology used in their book selection process never made it over to the clothing side. Did you know that according to a recent survey 1 in 3 people don’t think that complaining is worth the effort. For small value purchases perhaps that is true, but to be out several hundred dollars is another matter, not including the disappointment and lost time and money. If this was a domestic purchase there are steps you can follow to turn a negative situation into a positive outcome. Traditional advice centering around keeping records, speaking to management, and acting calmly may often work, but in dealing with foreign companies, particularly those that have learned all the marketing tricks and processes for keeping their money, you need to exercise due diligence before you purchase. First, check out the consumer experience with the vendor. Even the better foreign companies run higher complaint rates than domestic suppliers, but a 20% complaint rate is still better than an 80% complaint rate. Top sales executives across industries have told us that the sales model is broken in most retail companies. Instead of building profitable long-term customer relationships, most sales associates and customer service personnel focus just on transactions. Here are some sources for checking out possible suppliers: TrustPilot.com Top Consumer Reviews Rip-offReport.com SiteJabber.com 44 Epinions.com The next step is to really understand what you are buying. Be specific on the details, measurements, and specifications of the purchase and get confirmation from the vendor. This involves a little more work than filling out an online purchase form and clicking the Buy Now button. Email customer service and confirm the details and availability of the items including any accessories being purchased separately. Be knowledgeable on the shipping options and their cost. But if all else fails and you still experience a failure in service, there are options. How to complain is a fine art unto itself and if you need help, we suggest you start at How to Complain. This comprehensive site provides much information and resources. For domestic vendors, you can file a complaint with the FTC online; use the agency’s Complaint Assistant form. There is some general information here. For a foreign vendor, there is less satisfaction but the page for accessing the complaint form also has a link to the econsumer.gov site for registering a complaint against an entity in another country. So, be aware and be smart least you join that increasingly larger group of consumers that are being ripped-off with little or no recourse. Happy Shopping. 45 Closets By: Randy Since I retired a year ago, my wife and I have been preparing our house to put on the market. The two of us really don’t need a house as big as ours for just the two of us, and we are thinking of moving to a condo where when we want to go, we can just lock the door and let someone else worry about the lawn. To that end there are many little fix it jobs that I have been engaged in. We have a loft area that overlooks our living room. When we moved in, there was a small closet in the loft that was of not much use for anything. One of my first improvements was to enlarge the closet into the attic space behind it and over the garage to make a nice walk in storage closet with shelves and a hanging bar. At that time, my home improvement skills were not at a high skill level. The bar and shelf above were sloppy and sagged. It has always been one of those things that have nagged at me over the years that I should redo it. In the background of the attached photo you can see that my skills have improved over the years as I did almost all of the work finishing off my basement. Floors, walls, cabinets, everything. So to work I went, clearing out everything, tearing down the old bar, salvaging what I could, hitting Lowe’s for new lumber and fasteners, fill in dents and holes, sand, paint, and on and on. So much work for a space that no one will ever see. Spending so much time in that closet allowed me time to think. Always a dangerous thing, but I imagine you can see where I am going with this. We, as transgender individuals, know all too well about closets. Just as my loft closet in the beginning was less than spectacular, it was functional and served a purpose so too have our selfconstructed TG closets served a purpose. Just as I am doing now with the loft closet, over the years we have gone into that selfimposed TG closet and purged everything out, only to rebuild it making it cleaner, 46 prettier, more functional. The problem is that it is still a closet, not to be seen by anyone, used primarily to hide things away, and only to get cluttered over the years. The thing is that closets are for storing things in, not for living in. So eventually, we begin to take things out of the closet into the light of day and use them as intended. Maybe we take small steps at first. Possibly you take a walk around the block in the black of night or a drive around the neighborhood. Eventually we get the courage to take that drive during the day For me the first time I was ever around other individuals was a Tri-Ess meeting at the home of our president Jamie Renae. I still didn’t have the courage to walk out of that hotel room dressed, and dressed at her home. I still remember the fear, sitting in that hotel room, dressed in drab, knees shaking, thinking about what I was about to do. Yet that closet was becoming too confining, so I forced myself up picked up my duffle that contained my makeup kit, wig, hose, bra, forms, and all the other accoutrements to transform into the woman I wanted to show the world along with the garment bag with my skirt and top. I was sure that everyone that saw me knew where I was going and why. However, the thrill that I got when I walked out into Jamie’s living room and her wife told me how pretty I looked is an experience that I will never forget. Since that time I have had many more first time experiences. The first time that I traveled from the hotel to the meeting site. The first time that I went shopping with Jamie enfemme and later garnering the courage to go alone. The first time I ate out with some girls from a group in Iowa. All things that I would not have experienced had I stayed in my little closet. No matter how pretty you decorate it, or how well the lighting is, your still alone in there. I have found that the world isn’t quite as frightening as I once thought it was. Most people are pretty accepting or really don’t care. The sales associates have been very accomodating and fun to work with, even if shopping en drab. I have finally reached the point to let them know I’m shopping for me and ask if I can try things on. One place I shop, the assistant manager insists on giving me a hug when I come in. All because I have dared to step out of that closet. It sure is fun being a girl in that big wonderful world! If you have comments, let me know at [email protected]. You know a girl loves to chat. 47 How to Make Your Legs Look Amazing ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Lucille Sorella is a GG (genetic girl) who teaches crossdressers, transsexuals, and transgender females how to look, act, and feel like real women. Her goal is to help Twomen express their inner and outer femininity and increase their confidence as women. She has a professional background in fashion, beauty, dance, and natural healing and has been working with the transgender community for the past 12 years. Her website is loaded with useful information and is located at http://www.flat2fem.com/index1.html . Nothing is hotter than a great pair of legs – and you’re in luck since most crossdressers and transgender women have gorgeous, defined legs. (I’m jealous!) How can you make your legs your BEST feminine asset? Keep reading to discover 3 ways to make your legs look amazing 1. Add some color Smooth, tanned legs are SEXY legs. But what if you have pale legs marred with scars, bruises, and visible veins? Pantyhose are a no-no in the summertime – instead, add color and cover imperfections with a tan (either a real tan or a spray tan) or leg makeup. I’m a huge fan of Sally Hansen Salon Airbrush Legs Leg Makeup. It’s like sexy spray-on pantyhose that gives you perfect legs. Love it! 48 2. Show off your legs in sexy shoes The right shoes can take your legs from good to GREAT. Anything goes as long as you keep these two tips in mind: Go high, but not TOO high. High heels make your legs look sexy and super feminine, but be careful not to go too high if you have very defined legs. The higher the heel, the more your calf muscles contract. This can make your legs look overly muscular and masculine. Choose a rounded toe. Square toe shoes make legs look stumpy, while pointy toes add unwanted inches to the feet. Round toe shoes will give you the long-leg/dainty-foot look you’re going for. 3. Choose the right skirt length When it comes to showing off your legs in a skirt, shorter is NOT always better. How short is too short? Try the finger length test: Stand up straight and put your arms to your side. If your fingertips fall past the hem of your skirt, it’s too short. You should also avoid skirts that are too long. Calf length skirts tend to look dowdy – besides, we want to see those gorgeous gams! The most flattering skirt lengths are from mid thigh to just above or just below the knee. Don’t: Too short Don’t: Too long Do: Fingertip length or longer 49 My Journey Towards Learning to Love Recently I was invited to deliver a sermon at our local Metropolitan Community Church. Like Atlanta’s MCC, this church welcomes and demonstrates love to everyone, attracting a large representation from the LGBT community, who often feel uncomfortable, condemned, or rejected by more mainstream churches. As one of only a few cross-dressers in the church, I have myself been challenged to learn to adapt, understand and love others who live and embrace lifestyles with which I have difficulty relating, just as they have been learning to understand, accept, and love me. It has been an exciting, growing experience for all of us. The church has surprised me by inviting me not only to attend as Rhonda, but to lead services. I have read scripture from the pulpit, assisted in delivering communion, and played piano for services and for a holy union of a lesbian couple. I have also participated in Bible studies. This extreme inclusiveness has dramatically conveyed to me the love of the church and acceptance of all, even an “outsider”. But being invited by the pastor to give a sermon was for me one of the highest honors. It demonstrated his trust in someone who, in past days, would never have been comfortable gathering with such a crowd, let alone daring to know or care about them as individuals or as a church. I focused on the two greatest commandments, which Christ said encompassed all law and prophecy (Matthew 22: 34-40): You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind; You shall love your neighbor as yourself. While this may seem easy to do, it has been a tremendously difficult process for me, something I have only begun to grasp since meeting my Sig Ep sisters in 2009, the first time I had ever fully dressed or met another cross-dresser. I expected my first encounter to be shocking, to confront folks focused on the same deviant behavior I felt had “infected” me. I never envisioned meeting sensitive, caring people, with issues and feelings much like mine, people interested in having clean fun, in supporting and loving each other and serving church and community. I quickly discovered the truth of the principle espoused in Matthew 7:1-5: “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your 50 own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.” I realized that I had been wrongly judging myself and others, believing myself to be well-intended in guiding others to truth, when it was in fact me who needed to deal with my own prejudices, to remove the log from my own eye before tending to specks in others’ eyes. As I realized my own errors in judgment I opened my mind to the possibility that others really didn’t have it “wrong”; they simply had different perspectives on truth. I came to realize that everyone has unique gifts and perspectives, to be shared with any who would but observe. With a daughter considered a “black sheep” by some in the family, a hippie out of time, I didn’t have to look far to find someone with very different perspectives on life. I opened my mind to enable her to convey her truths to me, determining to seriously consider that her perspectives had more merit than mine. I allowed her to introduce me to friends and activities which had heretofore made me uncomfortable, giving her license to spend a week with me as she chose, my only boundary being that I would not do anything unhealthy or illegal. Even my counselor doubted the wisdom of that move. But it paid big dividends. Instead of seeing things I’d be inclined to condemn and avoid, I discovered a wealth of treasures by interacting proactively with my daughter and her friends. A fresh bond developed with my daughter. I found I could learn new, exciting things from her and her friends, many of whom I previously dismissed as “space cadets”. Perhaps my previous objective of removing specks from others’ eyes was indeed misguided. Perhaps the specks were only chips falling off my own log. My journey increasingly led me, a consummate introvert, to become more extroverted, as I hungered to relate to, and even genuinely care for people I previously considered unapproachable or perhaps unworthy of my attention. Experiences with my daughter and her friends and with my sisters at Sig Ep extended to other relationships. I thirsted to better understand myself and to know and support others, particularly those in or associated with the TG community, folks I knew were commonly misunderstood, often unloved, and would routinely face prejudices, rejection, and other pressures as a result. I found friends in Atlanta and locally and began to build liasons between them, myself, and the churches in both cities, Opportunities to get involved with others in positive ways multiplied. Support groups began to spring up. Lives began to change as love broke through on all sides. I began to realize that something that started as a lark, a self-challenge to meet this odd Atlanta sorority, had led me to better comprehend the truth of the commandment to “love your neighbor as yourself” and that the other commandment, to love God, depended upon absorbing and incorporating that truth into my life. Furthermore, I realized 51 it was not my effort that made this possible. Rather, it was the love exhibited to me by the grace of God, working through my sisters at Sig Ep, my daughter and friends, and the churches, before I had concluded to accept them in turn. I began to realize the truths expressed in 1 John 4:19-21: “We love because He first loved us. If anyone says, ‘I love God,’ yet hates his brother, he is a liar. For anyone who does not love his brother, whom he has seen, cannot love God, whom he has not seen. And he has given us this command: Whoever loves God must also love his brother.” It is interesting to me that in the narrative preceding Christ’s proclamation of the greatest commandments Christ had been challenged by those desiring to discredit and even execute him for spreading falsehoods, failing to honor and espouse accepted truths. Spouse and friends accuse me of being “abnormal”, suggesting I need to change who I feel I am because this surely cannot be what God intended, “cure” my desire to cross-dress, and advise those in my path that they are leading sinful lives and need to repent of their ways and return to truth. But is being “normal” a desirable goal? Was Christ “normal”? … Einstein? Where would we be without “abnormal” people, people who see the universe in different ways than most? Another term I often hear is “weird.” But the dictionary gives “eccentric” as a synonym. I can live with that, can’t you? And if I can live with my own idiosyncracies, shouldn’t I be able to accept and even enjoy the same in others? Summing up my conclusions on the process of learning to love: Realize that we can love because we are loved. I know an attorney who, after 10 years of intense Bible study told me he all he ever needed to know was conveyed in a song learned in vacation Bible school: “Jesus loves me this I know, for the Bible tells me so.” An initial step is to recognize our blindness, those beliefs thrust on us by family, church, society, etc. which may have no basis in fact and can truly hinder us from loving self and others. Discover and love ourselves as the creatures we were created to be, not the creatures we would ourselves author if playing God. Learn to seek out the unique gifting of others, accepting, welcoming, and loving others for who they are, and by doing so, honoring and loving their creator. 52 The Gossip Fence Transgender in the News ACLU appeals judge's denial of name change for sex-change patient OKLAHOMA CITY - The American Civil Liberties Union of Oklahoma on Thursday appealed a judge's refusal to let an Oklahoma City resident who is in the process of a sex change have a feminine name. The ACLU filed the appeal at the Oklahoma Supreme Court. Oklahoma County District Judge Bill Graves on Aug. 30 refused to let James Dean Ingram, 29, legally change to the name Angela Renee Ingram. Ingram told the judge in a petition that the reason for the name change request was "transition from male to female." Ingram said the judge stated, "You can't change what God gave you." Ingram plans to have gender-reassignment surgery. Ingram already presents as a woman, is seeing a therapist and is taking hormones. The judge told The Oklahoman: "If you're born male, you stay male, according to the study I've done on DNA. If you're born female, you stay female." He denied both requests because he said they were made for a fraudulent purpose. Gender markers dropped for new voter IDs In an unprecedented step announced this week, Pennsylvania’s new state-issued voter identification card will not include a gender marker. The revelation was made Tuesday during a Commonwealth Court hearing on the contentious new law, which would require voters to present a valid government ID each time they vote. Voters will also not need to present proof of residence to obtain the card. While the card will be marked for “voting-purposes only,” Rosenblum said its significance cannot be overlooked. “If a transgender person goes to a bar, the bouncer is not going to look at the ID and turn them away because the card is for voting. This will be a government-issued ID card with your name and your picture. It’s a way for transgender people to have an ID card and not have to worry about it having an inconsistent gender.” Rosenblum said he was “stunned” that the change was made so quietly, with little fanfare. 53 Casa Ruby Covergirls A local makeup artist who recently launched his new brand of cosmetics is giving back to the local LGBT community, offering makeup and fashion instruction, as well as giving a share of proceeds from his nail-polish line to LGBT community center Casa Ruby The artist, Eduardo Carcamo officially launched his new cosmetics brand, V*Glam Cosmetics Sept. 21, offering various types of lipstick, lip liner, eyeliner and eye shadow. He will also launch a line of men's skincare products Nov. 1. But Carcamo's biggest impact, as far as the D.C. metropolitan area's LGBT community is concerned, is his partnership with Casa Ruby, in which he offers certification classes to interested clients of the center, particularly transgender women seeking to pursue new employment opportunities. ''Our mission is to empower those interested in a field of cosmetics and makeup artistry,'' Elvia Hernandez, creative and marketing director for V*Glam, said of the certification course. ''Once the certification is done, we would like to start working with salons to say, 'Listen, we have students who are willing and able to do makeup for your salon,' and they can start there. And to also use the makeup line to launch them as entrepreneurs to sell that on their own, to do makeup, various events, so they, too, can one day do something like we're doing now, but on their own.'' Carcamo said he will donate V*Glam's products for the participants to use in the certification course. He also told Metro Weekly he has plans to launch a nail-polish line specifically for Casa Ruby by Oct. 10. All proceeds from sales of the nail-polish line will go directly to Casa Ruby, he said. ''For most people in this city, there's no school for makeup artistry in D.C.,'' Corado said. ''And it's very hard and very expensive to get certified.'' ''They will be able to work anywhere,'' Corado said. ''Because they will have the basic skills that are needed. And it's a curriculum, so they aren't just learning how to do drag makeup. They're actually learning different techniques and kinds of makeup.'' EU law to protect victims of crime due to sexual orientation, gender identity or gender expression Today the European Parliament agreed on a new Directive on the rights guaranteed to victims of crime in the EU. Notably, it provides specific assistance and protection to people who suffered crime because of their sexual orientation, gender identity or gender expression. The Directive of the European Parliament and of the Council establishing minimum standards on the rights, support and protection of victims of crime now says victims should receive appropriate assistance and protection. This will be determined on the basis of “the personal characteristics of the victim such as his or her age, gender and gender identity or expression, ethnicity, race, religion, sexual orientation, health, disability, residence status, communication difficulties, relationship to or dependence on the offender and previous experience of crime.” It is the first time EU law mentions gender expression. EU Member States will now have three 54 years to transpose the Directive into their national law. New analysis shows startling levels of discrimination against American Indian and Alaskan Native transgender people WASHINGTON, Oct. 8 — American Indian and Alaskan Native transgender and gender nonconforming people face some of the highest levels of discrimination of all transgender people, according to a new analysis released today, Injustice at Every Turn: A Look at American Indian and Alaskan Native Respondents in the National Transgender Discrimination Survey. “This report shows the devastating impact that racism and anti-transgender bias play in the lives of American Indian and Alaskan Native transgender people,” says Rea Carey, executive director of the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force. “The findings are as heartbreaking as they are unconscionable. They serve as a call to action to the LGBT movement and others to prioritize racial and economic justice and the needs of indigenous nations.” NCTE Launches Innovative Resource For Transgender Students And Allies The National Center for Transgender Equality (NCTE) has launched a new resource for transgender advocates and allies in college. The Transgender On-Campus Non-discrimination Information Project (TONI Project) provides prospective college students with a place to explore inclusive policies and practices at various universities and allows current students to share ideas about how to improve their own campus. The profiles of individual schools may touch on everything from gender-neutral housing options to course content and university healthcare. In addition to listing schools and their policies, the TONI Project website offers forums for users to discuss and organize around issues, shares guides for approaching common campus policies, and gives advice for creating effective campaigns for change <http://www.transstudents.org/action> . No Military Welcome for Transgender Americans The repeal of ''Don't Ask, Don't Tell'' ushered in a new era of acceptance in the armed forces for thousands of Americans. For almost two decades, the ban on out gay servicemembers was an issue fueling the LGBT-rights movement. With President Barack Obama's signature – following a Pentagon working group, surveys, and approval from the chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff and the secretary of defense – the ban became a thing of the past. But for some members of the military, the fight for acceptance is long from over. Although 2011's repeal of ''Don't Ask, Don't Tell'' opened the door for gay, lesbian and bisexual servicemembers, transgender Americans must continue life in the closet in order to serve their country. Despite the repeal of DADT, a medical regulatory ban remains in place for those who identity 55 as transgender. Not only is evidence of transition therapy grounds for disqualification for potential recruits, so is openly identifying as transgender, which the Pentagon considers a psychiatric condition. Transgender veterans who transition after leaving the armed forces face other obstacles as well. Upon discharge from the military, servicemembers receive a DD-214 form with their full name. Some transgender veterans who seek to change the name on the form, which is used to secure veteran benefits, are not always able to do so. Transgender people have faced an uphill battle educating straight and gay people alike about gender identity. Having successfully repealed DADT, many activists have shifted their focus to marriage-equality battles playing out on the state level and in the courts. Securing rights for transgender servicemembers has not been the call to arms that repeal of DADT was. In many instances, the ''T'' in LGBT is left undefined and undiscussed, even among the gay community. In a video statement delivered during an event at the Pentagon honoring Pride month in June, Secretary of Defense Leon Panetta thanked only gay and lesbian servicemembers for their service to their country. Although Panetta said he remains ''committed to removing as many barriers as possible to make America's military a model of equal opportunity,'' there are no plans in the foreseeable future to alter military medical regulations to allow transgender Americans to serve their country openly. State bans gay-repair therapy for minors Sacramento -- California has become the first state in the country to ban controversial therapy practices that attempt to change the sexual orientation of minors after Gov. Jerry Brown signed a bill to outlaw them Saturday. The bill, SB1172 by Sen. Ted Lieu, D-Torrance (Los Angeles County), bars mental health practitioners from performing so-called reparative therapy, which professional psychological organizations have said may cause harm. Gay rights groups have labeled them dangerous and abusive. Brown approved the ban after the public release of two other lists of bills signed and vetoed earlier Saturday. Lieu's bill is expected to appear on a new list to be released Sunday. Penalty for therapists Under the new law, which will take effect Jan. 1, no mental health provider will be able to provide therapy that seeks "to change behaviors or gender expressions, or to eliminate or reduce sexual or romantic attractions or feelings toward individuals of the same sex." Mental health professionals who violate the law, which applies to therapy for patients younger than 18, will be subject to discipline by whatever group licenses them. 56 NYC woman wins coverage for transgender procedure NEW YORK — A New York City transgender woman has won insurance coverage for her sex change operation. The Transgender Legal Defense & Education Fund said Wednesday MVP Health Care agreed to cover the doctor-recommended procedure for Ida Hammer. It had originally denied her claim on the grounds it was "cosmetic," and therefore not covered under her policy. TLDEF said that after denying two appeals, MVP reversed its decision and deemed the surgery medically necessary. The American Medical Association recommends insurance coverage for sex reassignment. But only a small number of companies actually provide it. U-I to offer LGBT targeted clinic The University of Iowa Hospitals and Clinics will begin offering a new health care option next week for patients who are lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender. Doctors Katie Imborek and Nicole Nisly have teamed up to start the clinic, which will be located in the U-I Health Care, Iowa River Landing facility in Coralville. Imborek believes the LGBT community has been medically underserved. She says staff at the clinic have specific training to handle their unique needs. “They’re going to have physicians and providers who care for them…and are exceedingly knowledgeable in taking care of folks from this community,” Imborek said. The only other LGBT clinic offered in the Midwest is located at the University of Minnesota. “They have a really wonderful institute there,” Imborek said. “It is our humble hope that what we’re starting here would gain momentum one day and be anything close to that.” Imborek hopes the clinic will serve patients not only from Iowa but throughout the Midwest. She made her comments on Iowa Public Radio’s River to River program. To contact the U-I LGBT Clinic: call (319) 384-7444 Rutgers University introduces transgender studies class The University Department of Women’s and Gender Studies is offering a new course this fall that aims to give students an in depth look at what it means to be transgender. “Introduction to Transgender Studies” is the first course offered at the University that solely discusses transgender topics, which relate to people whose assigned sex does not correspond with their gender identity. “There’s still a lot of transphobia, and I think that a lot of people don’t understand what it means to be transgender,” Kurtz said. She said similar University courses in the future would be appreciated because of how many people are allied with the transgender community. It has not yet been announced if the class will be offered in the spring. 57 Transgender woman told to leave women’s locker room OLYMPIA, Wash. — A transgender woman said she was discriminated against after using the women’s locker room at Evergreen State College. Colleen Francis was using the sauna in a women’s locker room inside the recreation center at the school late in September. The same facility is used by two high school girls swim teams from Olympia, who also practice in the pool. “I looked at her and said, ‘Excuse me?’ And she said, ‘You have to leave, I’ll be right back,’” said Francis. “She wouldn’t identify herself. All she said was that there were a couple of girls that came upstairs to the pool, and said that there was a man in the sauna.” Francis, who acknowledges she was born a man, said she lived as a woman since 2009. Someone still called campus police, and local parents heard about the incident. According to state law, it requires equal access to state facilities regardless of gender identity. Francis believes the students need to be informed. “This is not 1959 Alabama. We don’t call police for drinking from the wrong water fountain,” said Francis. TranSquat App Helps Transgender Community Find Safe Restrooms For the transgender community, the ritual is riddled with anxiety and the constant threat of harassment, even violence. If you’re a man who used to be a woman, or vice versa, or in the process of transitioning genders, picking a door can be confusing. Going through that door can lead to anything from a sideways glance to physical violence. Enter TranSquat <http://itunes.apple.com/us/app/transquat/id521546602?mt=8> , a brand-new iPhone app that uses a vast database of gender-neutral bathrooms across the United States and Canada—and now extending as far as Kuwait—to point users to the closest safe restroom. The app is powered by Safe2Pee <http://safe2pee.org/new/> , a gender-neutral bathroom database that dubs itself a “copyleft” organization, meaning its content can be used and shared openly. The Safe2Pee database includes more than 400 cities; Las Vegas, Toronto, San Francisco, and Portland have the most abundant bathroom options listed. Users of TranSquat, which sells for $2.99 through Apple’s iTunes Store, can plug in their location and be directed to all the gender-neutral bathrooms in the area, with additional tips like “the bathroom is free, stroll right in.” But finding a place to pee safe from harassment is just one of several daily obstacles for transgender people. Driver’s licenses and IDs present a major problem, says Harrison. “If you’re able to pull out your driver’s license, that has a major protective effect” as a means of proving gender identity, he says. “Unfortunately there’s a patchwork system of different laws and policies” that makes it difficult for people transitioning genders to have their IDs updated. “No one should be denied accurate identification,” he says. 58 CEO Refuses to Do Business in Antigay Jacksonville It was in August when the Jacksonville City Council shot down an antidiscrimination ordinance protecting LGBT residents. Repercussions of that decision are now reverberating, as a local attorney says a major corporation refused to move to Jacksonville because of the measure's failure. Marianna Smith is a lawyer and board member at an unidentified company. She writes in the The Florida Times-Union that the CEO of the company she serves on the board of refused to relocate to Jacksonville after the council rejected the ordinance . The CEO was also affected by antigay letters and op-eds that appeared in local newspapers. When religious beliefs and convictions are infused into the responsibility of creating public policy, the resulting sad consequences are totally predictable. Where was strong, wise and meaningful leadership when we needed it? If I ever questioned the wisdom of separation of church and state, that doubt has been completely erased by this event. I am saddened to have my home city of Jacksonville defined in this manner. My company is now investigating Savannah, Charleston and the ports in Virginia." — Transsexuals have right to breast enlargement: German court Male-to-female transsexuals have a legal right to breast enlargement operations when hormone therapy fails to give them a feminine shape, a German federal court ruled. A transsexual may receive implants if her new breasts have not yet reached the size of a bra's A -cup, the Federal Social Court in the central city of Kassel said. "Transsexual insurance policy-holders can make a claim to treatment measures to allow them to adapt their gender, including surgical procedures on healthy organs to minimise their psychological suffering, so as to approach the appearance of the other sex that is desired," the court said. The judges said that this right to breast-enlargement surgery applied even before a sex change, basing its ruling on a recent decision by Germany's top court which found that such a procedure was not a requirement for a legal name change. Transgender Voters Left in Cold With Patchwork of ID Laws A study from the Williams Institute, an LGBT think tank at the University of Los Angeles, estimates that about 25,000 transgender Americans could be disenfranchised in the upcoming election because of a patchwork of voter ID laws. And it's not just voter ID requirements that are the problem. Poll workers have discretion in giving voters a regular ballot or a provisional ballot, and bias could still affect who gets to vote. Provisional ballots can also be counted differently from 59 regular ones. "There is discrimination against trans people," said Mara Kiesling, executive director of the National Center for Transgender Equality, which is on a mission to get transgender Americans to the polls. "Voting is a perfect storm," she said. "There are ID documents and authorities with discretion. When people are given discretion, trans people get hurt." Studies on the transgender community have also found that they are more often than not economically disadvantaged and are more likely to change addresses or even be homeless, making it harder to register to vote. When it's difficult to get ID -- for financial, medical or other reasons -- it's hard to cast a ballot, according to Kiesling. Some get so discouraged they stop trying. NCTE has partnered with the advocacy organization GLAAD to launch a series of public service announcements, "Voting While Trans," aimed at educating and preparing transgender voters for the upcoming election. Voter laws vary from state to state, but according to the Williams Institute study, voters will face the most complex requirements in Florida, Georgia, Indiana, Kansas, Louisiana, Michigan, New Hampshire, South Dakota and Tennessee. Four of those states -- Georgia, Kansas, Indiana and Tennessee – have strict photo ID requirements in addition to laws that require sex reassignment surgery before birth certificates or licenses can be updated. Many transgender people cannot afford the $20,000 price tag for surgery or do not medically qualify. Most choose not to take the last surgical step in gender change, advocates say. Claire Swinford, a 41-year-old activist had difficulty voting in Arizona in 2010 before she moved to Missouri, where she now works for a transgender outreach group. Swinford was in the beginnings of transition from male to female and her name had not yet legally been changed on either her driver's license or the voter registration list. "All the information matched, however it did not match the person they were seeing," she said. "Clearly, it was a male name and clearly here was someone acting female and that caused a terrible red flag to go up with the poll volunteer." One of the huge issues with voter ID laws is that many in the transgender community cannot afford the steps necessary to legally change name and gender markers, even in states that allow for such changes. Though not required for voting, it would have cost Swinford $265 to legally change her name. It costs only $4 to change it on a license in Arizona, but a doctor or psychologist visit to get the required letter is costly. Arizona eventually put her on the early voting list and Swinford could vote by mail, a solution she suggests to other transgender voters. Swinford has now invested in getting a federal passport, which she can use as a second form of identification, a move she recommends to others. "We wind up playing these games, but it's not the cheapest ID in the world," she said. Still, many say it is the ignorance in the general public about being transgender that makes it difficult to show up to vote. 60 Ontario alters gender-change rules What was once impossible for trans Ontarians is now attainable in six to eight weeks for a $37 fee. The Ontario Human Rights Tribunal ruled in April that the Government of Ontario’s regulations on changing the designated gender listed on birth certificates were discriminatory. It sent Queen’s Park back to the drawing board to come up with some new ideas. Previously, trans people had to undergo the full sexual reassignment surgery before being permitted to change their gender on a birth certificate – the document that acts as a foundation for the information on all other government-issue identification. Many in the trans community thought this an unnecessary hurdle. But now all that’s required in an application is a signed declaration and a note from a doctor or psychologist. The only caveats for changing a birth certificate is that the applicant must be 18 years of age. The cost for editing the designated gender is $37, plus the $25 or $35 fee for ordering the new birth certificate – either short form or long form. These changes – published to the Ontario Government Services website –came in right under the wire. The Human Rights Tribunal gave the government 180 days to edit its procedures, which meant a deadline of Oct 8. The changes went online Oct 5. The one improvement the group would like to see implemented would be a guarantor system, which would allow trans people under 18 or without a regular physician to change their documents. The landmark decision – the first of its kind in Canada – could set a precedent for other provinces to follow suit. Some of the requirements outside of Ontario require both the surgery itself, as well as other cumbersome documentation. That sets up obstacles for trans people looking to avoid problems caused by having their documentation, such as passports, list the wrong gender. As demand for illegal silicone injections grows, so do deaths People seeking bigger buttocks often end up at illegal 'pumping parties' with unsanitary – and sometimes fatal – injections of industrial-grade silicone. Some see the injections as a quick fix to a body image problem. Others are strippers or sex workers who seek more feminine bodies, or transgender men who can't afford hormone therapy. "Too often, these are acts of desperation," said Harper Tobin, policy director at the National Center for Transgender Equality. 61 Since 2002, authorities across the country have investigated more than a dozen deaths related to illegal buttocks injections. Eight people were convicted of practicing medicine without a license or similar offenses. Two others were convicted of negligent homicide or manslaughter. "Until recently, this has been sort of a dark secret," said Dr. Malcolm Roth, president of the American Society of Plastic Surgeons. "If you have a back-alley procedure done and live to tell the tale, you'll never be able find the person who did it." The practice is an illegal variation on a growing trend sometimes called the Jennifer Lopez effect: the search for the perfect posterior. According to the society of plastic surgeons, Americans spent more than $26 million last year on legal buttocks augmentation. As the legal market grows, so do less-legal options. "People don't know what they're getting into when they go into that hotel room," Coz said. It's impossible to say how common the practice has become, but Kimberly Smedley's case suggests it's widespread. Silicone has been a central part of plastic surgery since the 1960s, when it was first shaped into implants and injected freely into cheeks, breasts and hips. Medicine has since shown that silicone can migrate. The Food and Drug Administration banned direct injections of silicone in 1992. "The body recognizes microscopically that silicone doesn't belong there," Roth said. "When you inject things, they don't stay in one place." The buttocks have a high blood-vessel count. Silicone injected there has a higher likelihood of entering the bloodstream, hurtling resin particles throughout the body. In the lungs, silicone can cause major artery blockage. In the brain, strokes. Everywhere else, tumors. Doctors can try to remove silicone particles, Coz said, but there's no magnet or vacuum to catch every piece. For transgender men, risking the procedure is often a result of frustration, said Tobin of the National Center for Transgender Equality. Patients pay thousands of dollars for cosmetic surgery and hormone therapy, and sometimes expect immediate or dramatic results. Procedures are not always covered by health insurance. "Transgender people can suffer real distress," Tobin said. "They're distraught about their appearance corresponding with their mental image of themselves." Muxes In Mexico, A Third Gender Embraced By The Zapotec People In Oaxaca, one of the southernmost states of Mexico, the indigenous Zapotec people have embraced a third gender within their communities: the muxes. 62 Said to be derived from the Spanish word for women mujer, the Zapotec word ‘muxe’ is used to describe the young boys and men who choose to identify as women or are unable to identify concretely with either gender. "On the Isthmus of Tehuantepec, especially in Juchitán, every family considers it a blessing to have one gay son," Susana Trilling, who manages a cooking school hours from Juchitán, told Travel + Leisure magazine. These sons do handicrafts and sell embroideries in the market with the women, while the men work in the fields, so it's a monetary boon to the family. And while daughters marry and leave home, a muxe cares for his parents in their old age." Since the 1970s, the town holds a three-day festival known as Vela de las Intrepidas (Vigil of the Intrepids) to celebrate the muxes. Many crossdress for the event, as well as in their daily lives, as they walk the streets of what many have called a “haven” or “paradise” for gay men and transgender people. This haven has caught the attention of muxes outside of the indigenous communities. Alex Hernandez who immigrated to the United States from Oaxaca at the age 4 returned recently as an adult with photographer Neil Rivas to take part in the November festival for the first time, something he told NPR felt like “reclaiming a role that was lost in time.” Transgender seminar proves popular CHARLOTTE, N.C. — A local doctor and organizers of a seminar series for transgender people say their first event on Sept. 15 was a success. The “Express Your Inner You” seminar was held at Presbyterian Family Medicine Midtown on Saturday, Sept. 15. The five-hour-long seminar attracted 17 members from the Carolina Transgender Society. Dr. Rhett Brown discussed a variety of topics including: skin care, hormone treatment updates, hair, makeup, dressing for your body type, fashion trends, shoes and plastic surgery. Other guest speakers at the seminar included: Robyn Allen of Charlotte Skin & Laser, Daniel Persirithes of Planet 21 Southend, Roby Abraham of Buffalo Exchange, Dr. Eric Emerson of Southeastern Plastic Surgery and Laser Center and seminar organizer Dan Mauney. Mauney expects future events in next spring and fall. For more information about future seminars or other events, visit carolinatransgendersociety.com HRC scorecard shows drop in support for LGBT rights in Congress Support for LGBT equality declined significantly in Congress during the past two years compared to the previous two-year period, according to a Congressional Scorecard for the 112th Congress released on Thursday by the Human Rights Campaign. 63 The scorecard, which HRC has compiled for each two-year session of Congress since 1989, shows that the average score for members of the House of Representatives on LGBT issues dropped from 50.8 percent in the 111th Congress to 40 percent in the current Congress. For the Senate, the HRC Scorecard shows a drop in support from 57.3 percent in the 111th Congress to 35 percent in the current 112th Congress. “While we continue to make advancements towards equality in Washington, the 112th Congress has more anti-equality members set on halting our progress,” said HRC President Chad Griffin. The HRC Scorecard evaluates all 435 House members and 100 senators based on a rating scale of 0 to 100 on a wide range of LGBT issues, including members’ co-sponsorship of pro-LGBT bills and their votes on bills or amendments deemed LGBT supportive or hostile to LGBT rights. Similar to its Scorecard ratings of past years, the latest HRC Scorecard shows a breakdown of its ratings along party lines, with a majority of Democrats receiving the highest scores and most Republicans receiving low scores. Study shows high rate of discrimination against transgender people in Texas Transgender Texans generally face even higher levels of discrimination than transgender people nationwide, according to a state-level breakout from a national study conducted last year. In Texas, transgender people faced higher rates of harassment and assault in school. Nationally, 78 percent reported being harassed, but in Texas 85 percent faced harassment. Physical assault was also higher in the state at 46 percent compared to 35 percent nationally. Sexual assault in school was comparable at 12 percent nationally and 9 percent in Texas. Texas doesn’t have LGBT-inclusive employment nondiscrimination or anti-bullying laws. The state’s hate crimes law covers gays and lesbians but not transgender people. Results from the Texas breakout of the study are below: TEXAS RESULTS Tran Discrimination Survey 2012 <http://www.scribd.com/doc/110206629/TEXAS-RESULTS-Tran-Discrimination-Survey2012> 64 65 66 67 68 69 70 71 72 73 74 M i ss No vem ber Sa nd Se i a 75 November 2012 Sun Mon Tue Wed Thu Fri Sat 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29 30