In this place we walk the inner corri- dors of people`s

Reflections
In this place we
walk
the inner corridors of people’s
lives
Therefore walk
softly
with wonder and
awe
for no greater
privilege
can they give
than to open
their hearts
and let another
in
We apologise for the length of time between newsletters and sadly
welcome our new families to our centre.
The past couple of months have been very busy with Red Nose Day and
our Rhapsody in Red Charity Ball, both of which were a huge success and
you can find photos in the following pages.
Sadly in this newsletter we bid farewell to 3 of our staff members.
Col our General Manager, who will be moving into a new job. We wish him
the best of luck and thank him for his hard work over the past year.
Phil, our family counsellor has accepted an exciting new role as Team
Leader of personal counsellors at Lifeline. Phil was instrumental in initiating our outreach groups, thanks Phil! We wish him all the best in his new
role and we know our families are going to miss him greatly. And lastly
but certainly not least a very sad farewell to our beautiful friend Robin,
who has been here in the office as an admin and fundraising assistant as
well as a valuable peer supporter to our families for the past six years.
Robin will be truly missed by everyone. Thank you Robin for everything!!!!!
But with change comes a silver lining….we welcome Moira to our centre as
the new bereavement counsellor, she is already fitting in beautifully and
we know all our families will welcome her warmly. Leone will continue to
support Moira’s work three days a week. Kate will step up to five days a
week in the office for administration, fundraising and peer support,
alongside Shellie on Mondays and Annie on Tuesdays. We warmly welcome
our bereaved parents to drop into the centre whenever they need to for
a cuppa and a chat, or if you want a safe and comforting place to land.
We hope you find some comfort from our newsletter and remember that
you are not alone on your journey of grief
Take care xoxo
SIDS and Kids Hunter Region, 78 Stewart Ave Hamilton South NSW 2303. PO Box 64, The
Junction NSW 2291.
Telephone 02 49693171 (24hour bereavement support. Facsimile: 02 49693170
Patrons: Mrs Margaret McNaughton AM, Mr Mark Richards OAM, Mrs Jenny Richards.
Sudden Infant Death Association Newcastle & District Inc. ABN 91 023 618 500
Registered under the provisions of the NSW Charitable Fundraising Act 1999, No CFN 10715
All donations over $2 are tax deductible www.sidsandkids.org/hunter
email: [email protected]
Hello Everyone!
My name is Moira Berriman the new Bereavement
Counsellor here at SIDS and Kids.
I have taken over this position from Phil Hough whom is
very much loved and respected by all that have walked
through the doors at 78 Stewart Ave.
I must say that Phil’s shoes will be hard to fill, so I come to
the organisation with different shoes on and will walk a
different path with you all if you allow me.
I am extremely proud and honoured to be a part of SIDS
and Kids.
My door is always open and I am only phone call away.
Take care and I look forward to meeting you all at some
stage.
Moira
Bereavement Support Groups
Venue: SIDS and Kids Drop in Centre, 78 Stewart Ave. Hamilton South
For Parents who have experienced
the death of their baby during
pregnancy or birth
5th October 6pm-8pm**
2nd November 10am-12noon
Children’s Workshop
7th October 10am-12noon**
For parents who have experienced the
death of their baby during infancy or
childhood
21st September 6pm-8pm**
19th October 10am-12noon
16th November 6pm-8pm**
Dad’s Group
4th November 5.30pm-7.30pm**
Outreach Groups
Please contact our office for each venue’s details
Gloucester
28th September 1pm-3pm**
30th November 1pm-3pm**
Raymond Terrace
19th September 6-8pm**
21st November 1-3pm**
Maitland
7th November 1pm-3pm**
Muswellbrook
14th September 12-3pm
9th November 12-3pm
14th December 12-3pm
Morisset
26th October 2011 1pm-3pm**
Please RSVP for meetings marked by ** by ringing the day before on 49693171
My Special Daddy
A special daddy chosen for me,
a strong-hearted man is what he'd be.
A wonderful person and so full of dreams,
a man who has fun laughs smiles and gleams.
Someone who'd love me through good times and bad,
one who'd be happy even when sad.
Dad you were chosen to love me so true,
to be there for mummy through and through.
I am the special one who changed your whole life,
I was gone in a second without saying goodbye.
But I know you love me you told me so much,
Although I couldn't see I could feel your gentle touch.
You're my special daddy,
I'll always love you.
I'm sorry things had to be,
but I'll be watching over you.
Little Snowdrop - Author Unknown
The world may never notice
If a Snowdrop doesn't bloom,
Or even pause to wonder
If the petals fall too soon.
But every life that ever forms,
Or ever comes to be,
Touches the world in some small way
For all eternity.
The little one we longed for
Was swiftly here and gone.
But the love that was then planted
Is a light that still shines on.
And though our arms are empty,
Our hearts know what to do.
For every beating of our hearts
Says that we love you.
Our thoughts are with the families who are experiencing an anniversary around this time.
We remember those precious children who are listed below, and those names who do not appear.
July
August
Peace Sillett
Jacob Paul Boucher
Jasmine Carys Kyte
Angus John Robert Baxter
Josiah Griffiths
Kody Beckton Weekes
Tayla Peterson
Elkan Jaymez Laws
Maxx William Albury
Luke James Morison
Amelia Ava Wilton
Kaiden Jack Allan Blakemore
Zane Graham Burgess
Cooper Mickle
Sophie Wishart
Connor Allan Clark
James Smith
Charlotte White
Maddison Lily Manewell
Rebecca Robinson
Brianna Grace Sharkey
Luke Scott Goodwin
Bryce Tyler Reynolds
Brent Jordan Londrigan
Ruby Ella Gover
Cooper John Lund
Fergus Oisin Quigley
Olivia Hoslin
2
2
5
5
5
7
9
11
12
12
14
14
15
15
15
17
18
19
20
20
20
22
24
26
27
30
31
31
Phillip Arthur Prowse
Ella Marie Hensell
Archie Michael Valentine
Isaac Lewis Porter-Steele
Massimo Gerardi
Addison Olivia Kolk
Bailey John Hughes
Aroha Alexandra Tipene
Lucas Samuel McTaggart
Jesi Jane Lee
Nicholas Duncan MacKay
Caleb Peter Sly
Eden Miner
Alex Miner
Jye Hughes
Zarra Ann Hardy
Zac Graeme Taylor
Peter Michael Connors
Josephine Angel Payne
Malachi Caleb John Jimmieson
Matthew McLean
Jayden Tyler Brook
Lana Theresa Williams-Tayt
August Lally
Lachlan O'Connell
1
1
6
6
6
7
7
10
12
12
13
13
13
13
16
16
17
18
25
25
26
28
30
31
31
September
Jacob Peter Matthews
Sally Jemimah Mayes
Freya Girvan Sheriff
Grace Martin
Nathan Barry Morris
Thomas McGlynn
Charlie Robert Gore-Hawkins
David Vassallo
Baby Byfield
Joshua Sutherland
Riley Owen Gay
Eligh Sarnelli-McDonald
Jessica Anne Bell
Matthew Murphy
3
5
7
8
8
10
13
13
13
13
15
15
15
15
Scott Andrew Heggie
Mathew Ian Jones
Ryan Stewart Pickles
Layla Joy Bowley
Joshua Howard
Kylar Ann Sippel
Kiyarna Marriott
Elijah Maynard Walters
Alicia Bartlett
Joshua Robert Cashin
Brodie William Hunt
Daniel Carles Robertson
17
18
22
23
24
26
28
29
29
30
30
30
Our thoughts are with the families who are experiencing an anniversary around this time.
We remember those precious children who are listed below, and those names who do not appear.
October
Bonnie Anne Copetti-Perret
Chloe Peterson
Dainna Peterson
Jayden Jack Bashford
Jamie Paul Coleman
Elle-Mae Shelton
Tyler Toombs
Charlotte Rose Harper
Emily Maria Niness
Samuel Turner
Noah Thomas Vas
Hamish William Middleton
Jessie Anne Kate Sullivan
Maggie Joy Woolcott
Gabby Danovaro
November
1
2
4
6
6
12
13
16
17
19
22
23
24
27
29
December
Miranda Nean
Jane Martin
Rabeh Zac Taylor Rifahi
Zane Adam Mitchell
Rebecca Robertson
Levi Samuel Berry
Jonah Pete Owens
Jayden Matthew Lynch
Georgia Mary Duckett
Maddison - Roze Etienne
Andre David Levene Drylie
Sara "Peanut" Smith
Lilliana Ryan
Joshua Brooker
Christopher Beckingham
1
2
4
4
1
12
12
15
15
19
19
20
22
25
25
Benjamin Alexander Zachary
Young
Kurtis Craig Boys
Jarvis Terrence Boys
Darcy Martin Boys
Josh Blanch
Angus Jay Woolcott
Michael Argyvarkis
Jemima Louise Green
Tanner Young
Christopher Shaun Hector
Bradley John Hallinan
Graeme Richardson
Cooper Roy Jenkins
Sienna Mary Rees
Madalyn Grace McMahon
Jay Martin
Bethany Lee Kerr
Thomas Randall
Leah Fuge
Eileen Joyce Duce
Brendon James Clark
Baylee John Capes
Charlotte Lawrence
Danny Heard
1
4
4
4
4
5
7
7
12
12
16
16
17
17
18
19
23
24
25
27
27
28
30
30
Red Nose Day 2011
The Launch…..
Thanks to Zeb Taia and Mark
Taufua from the Newcastle
Knights for coming along , the
kids loved it!
Thanks to Prydes Confectionary
for supplying all the fabulous
red lollies!
Thank you to Subway
Honeysuckle
Warners Bay High School Year 11 Food
tech students with their teacher Miss
Saunders very generously made us
some beautiful Red Velvet cupcakes for
our launch
Social work student Stef (back right)
organised a colouring in competition
through all the Hunter schools - here
are the winners!
Tilly’s at Dungog held a fete
to support us, thanks so
much!!
DID YOU KNOW…….
SIDS and Kids Hunter Region has it’s own Everyday hero account?
You can create your own online fundraising page and collect donations in
support of us! Make sure you choose the SIDS and Kids Hunter Region
logo!
www.everydayhero.com.au
Colour Me
Our new fundraising campaign,
“Colour Me Red” was a huge success! We had lots of great schools
and groups supporting our cause by
holding their own Colour Me Red
event. Our Colour Me Red Campaign is not limited to Red Nose
Day, you can hold your own event
any time of the year!
Clarence Town Public
School students
Scrapbooking from Scratch
Retreat @ Branxton
Melanie Cressy’s cupcakes were a big hit at Islington
Public School
Nancy Learoyd & her mum at their
family fun day!
The girls from
NIB at Kotara
Jarrod Sault & Kylie Lipinski held
a dinner in memory of their son
Jackson at Club Macquarie and
raised over $8000!! Well done
Kylie & Jarrod
Charmaine Brown & Amanda
Facey’s “Girls Night In” party
Our shopping centre stalls
were a huge success this
year, with all the thanks
going to our wonderful
volunteers!!!
Tamara King and co from
Thiess Constructions
Brooke Bailey and friends, at their Red
Nose picnic
Thanks TOLL for
delivering all our
Red Nose
Merchandise!
A Night of Mediumship with
Kerrie Wearing
When:
7th October
Where: Newcastle Panthers
Cost:
$35 per head
Phone: 4969 3171 to book
Star Fundraisers!!
A huge thank you to Belinda & Chad Ryan for organising
the Lilliana Ryan Memorial day, in memory of their
daughter. They raised approximately $9000!!!
A huge thank you to Racheal Blaxell for organising the
Lilli’s Wish of Hope 1st annual Yacht Race, in memory
of her daughter. Rach raised approximately $11,000!!
Such a fantastic result, thanks so much!!
We look forward to getting some photos for the next
newsletter
AN INVITATION FROM ONE OF OUR MUMS
The Charlestown Square Body Shop team is kindly donating their
time, skills & products for angel mums as part of their
community service allocation for the year. Here are the
details...
What:
Free facials, make up & hand massages
Where: My home (interested ladies can RSVP me on
[email protected] for the address)
When:
Time:
Wed 12th October, 2011
10 am - 12 pm
Note: Angel mums who are attending could bring some drinks &
nibbles to share.
Ta,
Gayle
As you release this butterfly in honour of me,
know that I'm with you and will always be.
Hold a hand, say a prayer, close your eyes and see me there.
Although you may feel a bit torn apart,
please know that I'll be forever in your heart.
Now fly away butterfly as high as you can go,
I'm right there with you more than you know.
By Jill Haley
“Some people only dream of angels...I
held one in my hands”
Author Unknown
Fly
Fly little wing
Fly beyond imagining
The softest cloud, the whitest dove
Upon the wind of heaven’s love
Past the planets and the stars
Leave this lonely world of ours
Escape the sorrow and the pain
And fly again.
Fly, fly precious one
Your endless journey has begun
Take your gentle happiness
Far too beautiful for this
Cross over to the other shore
There is peace forevermore
But hold this memory bittersweet
Until we meet
Fly, fly do not fear
Don’t waste a breath, don’t shed a tear
Your heart is pure, your soul is free
Be on your way, don’t wait for me
Above the universe you’ll climb
On beyond the hands of time
The moon will rise, the sun will set
But I won’t forget.
Fly, fly little wing
Fly where only angels sing
Fly away, the time is right
Go now, find the light.(unknown)
Grief and Couples
“ The first few months were very hard. We seemed very separate and
at times I wondered if we would ever get through this. But looking back
now, I think it has made us stronger as a couple.” Mother
Bereaved couples often feel cut off from each other. It is extremely hard to give support and
understanding to someone else when you are in such need of support yourself. The way that
grief comes and goes means that you and your partner may not feel or need the same things at
the same time. You may also have different ways of expressing and dealing with your feelings.
For most mothers, the death of their baby is intensely physical as well as emotional. The baby
that has been growing and moving inside the mother is suddenly gone. After the birth, her
body still reacts as though she has a baby to care for. Many women are also more inclined to
focus on their feelings and to want their partner to acknowledge these. They may need to cry
and to be allowed to feel sad. They may need continuing reassurance that there was nothing
that they could have done to prevent their baby dying.
Many fathers put their feelings on hold and get through by focussing on supporting the mother
and planning for the future. Other people often assume that men will be strong and just keep
going. Fathers are also generally expected to return to work very soon after the death of
their baby and this too may lead some men to ignore their grief and to focus on “getting on
with life”.
“ I think if the truth be told, we’ve probably moved a bit further apart. I don’t think we
communicated how we were feeling particularly well. Maybe it’s our inability to share how
we feel, or maybe just thinking I’ve shut this chapter door. I want to get on with my
life.” Father
Same sex partners may also find that other people expect them to be strong and to focus on
supporting the mother. Friends and acquaintances, as well as health professionals, may show
far more concern for the mother than for her partner, who may feel left out and ignored. It is
easy to see why bereaved couples may misunderstand each other and how this can lead to anger, hurt feelings and arguments. These are all the more distressing at a time when many couples feel that they should be especially close and should be supporting each other. Such difficulties can affect all aspects of a couple’s relationship, including their sex life. While sex may
be a source of comfort and intimacy for one partner, the other may not even be able to consider the idea, especially soon after the baby’s death.
It is important to try to be patient and gentle with each other. Try to tell each other how you
feel, and to really listen to each other - even if this is very difficult. Try to accept what your
partner is saying and doing, even if his or her reactions are very different from your own. It
may help if each of you gets some support from other people so that you do not rely totally on
each other. You may also find it helpful to attend local support group meetings together ,
partly to hear how other couples are managing.
UK-Sands.org
We had a Ball!!!!!!
This years ball sold out in record time, and the 412 guests seemed to
have an awesome time. The dance floor was packed, all busting some
moves to the awesome sounds of Genr8.
Thanks to the generosity of the guests & sponsors we raised over
$40000!!
Thanks so much to Ashleigh Grace
for providing beautiful background
music during dinner.
Ashleigh Grace’s debut album “Songs for
You” is now available for you to purchase
through our office. It also includes her new
original single “Lullaby” for only $20. All
proceeds go directly to SIDS and Kids
Hunter Region.
We thank Ashleigh for her generosity
Thanks to the lovely girls from All That
Glitters for helping to make the night a
great success.
Australia Zoo
Captain Cook Cruises
Taronga Western Plains Zoo
Newcastle Knights
Sydney Swans
Dizzyland
Lake Macquarie Cruises
Myer
Pollyanna and Me
The Duke Hotel
Michael Hill Jewellers
The Austalian Shark and Ray Centre
Ivanhoe Wines
Redhaead Mobile Surf School
Newcastle Kayak Tours
IMAX Theatre
Warners at the Bay
Endota Spa
Bliss Hair and Beauty
Westpac Rescue Helicopter
Toboggan Hill Park
Hunter Valley Restaurant Management Services
Tamboi Queen Cruises
Civic Theatre Newcastle
Moonshadow Cruises
Get Smart Promotional Products
Hunter Valley Gardens
Heddon Greta Drive-in
Kourdizo Photography
Morisset Country Club
Tree Top Adventure Park
Melbourne Storm
Big 4 Holiday Parks
Quest Apartments
Lizotte’s
Abbiss Hair
Stockland Glendale
Taronga Zoo
Panthers Cardiff
Fair Play Café
Pet Shop Boyz
Simply Pharmacy Wallsend
Pumpkin Patch
Newcastle Famous Tram
Dive, Skate and Ski
Sydney Olympic Park Aquatic Centre
Newcastle Golf Club
Nelson Bay Golf Club
Catwalk Hair Design
Sculpt Hair Design
Terrace Plaza Pharmacy
Elegant Essentials
Hannah’s Nails
Lindemans
Morpeth Wine Cellar & Moonshine Distillery
River Royal Inn
Farmer’s Hotel
The Commercial Hotel Morpeth
Tulloch Vineyard
First Creek Vineyard
Potters Brewery
Tuff ‘N Up Boxing Gym
Pokolbin Wine Makers Outlet
Chemmart Pharmacy
The Secret Garden Day Spa
Bella Cheveux
Orrsome Creations
Woolworths
Sweet Vintage Collection
Dulux Trade Centre
The Bottle-O
Clarence Town Butchery
Dan Murphys
Rachel Mulley’s Chemmart Raymond Terrace
Erringhi Hotel Clarence Town
The Junction Inn Bistro Raymond Terrace
Clarence Town Hardware
Lovey’s IGA Dungog
What’s the Fashion
And a big thanks also, to all the
local businesses who donated
items and supported us.
Entertainment books still available
and still great value at only $60 each!!
Now on Sale!!!
2012 SIDS and Kids Calender
$20 each
If you would like to contribute to our
newsletter, please email your submissions of
stories & poems to
[email protected]
Calendars are available for purchase from our office, as well as
the following places….

Giggletot and Snugglemum
Cardiff South

Ollie’s Service Centre

Gloucester Health foods

Gloucester Medical centre

Gloucester Public School

Department of Defence,
Raymond Terrace

Jacaranda Preschool, Nelsons
Plains

Blooms the Chemist, Raymond
Terrace

Hunter River High School

Tilly’s Dungog,

Swish Lily, Whitebridge

Hunter Nappy Warehouse,
Cardiff

WHO Printing, Mayfield West

Target Glendale

The Greater Building Society
Hamilton

Terrace Tiles, Heatherbrae