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Newspaper of the Roman Catholic Diocese of Trenton, N.J.
W e d d i n g
G u i d e
April 26, 2012
‘What God
Has Joined…’
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From This Day Forward
Contrary to the prevailing culture,
preparing for a wedding, and a marriage,
should be an act of faith | P W-2
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Sacredness of Marriage
The biblical vision of marriage is one of
partnership, communion and a metaphor
for God’s love of his people | P W-3
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Step by Step
For those entering into marriage, the
journey of a lifetime begins with one step…
preparation | P W-10
W-2 | April 26, 2012
Wedding Guide
‘From this day forward…’
By Mary Morrell
Managing Editor
A
number of years ago “The Wedding
Planner” came to the screen. Reviews
of the movie were as entertaining as
the film, but one of them stood out as much
as a cultural commentary as a movie review.
A.O. Scott of the New York Times wrote,
“Say what you will about the institution of
marriage, but without it the possibilities
of romantic comedy would be drastically
impoverished. Not only is the fantasy of
everlasting love capable of melting the most
cynical heart, but weddings, with their
ridiculous formal wear, pretentious catered
food, free liquor and cheap sentiment, also
overflow with potential for comic disaster.”
Are you planning
to be married?
The Monitor
Wedding
Miracle – This
16th century
painting of
the Marriage
Feast at Cana
attributed to
Hieronymus
Bosch, depicts
the first miracle
of Christ. In
an address to
families, Pope
John Paul II said
of this event,
“The wedding
banquet at
Cana leads us
to think about
marriage, whose
mystery includes
the presence
of Christ.
May it not be
legitimate to see
the presence
of the Son of
God at that
wedding feast
as an indication
that marriage
should be an
effective sign of
his presence?”
Second World
Meeting For
Families, October
1997
A Countercultural View
“How we, as Catholics, look at marriage
and how society looks at marriage,” said
Msgr. Sam Sirianni, diocesan director of the
Office of Worship, “are completely different.
For us, when two baptized persons marry
each other, that marriage is a sacrament” …
an encounter with Christ that strengthens
the couple in keeping their sacred promises
to each other.
“For two people willingly giving consent to be husband and wife,
the planning of a wedding is
“For two people
not just a social event, it is an
act of faith,” stressed Msgr.
willingly giving consent Sirianni.
It is, as the Catholic faith
to be husband and
teaches, the grace of God
through Christ that makes
wife, the planning
everlasting love not only a
but a probability
of a wedding is not just possibility,
for those who enter freely into
a marital relationship aware
a social event, it is
of what lies ahead, not only at
the reception, but around the
an act of faith.”
kitchen table, in the principal’s
office, in the hospital and in
the bedroom. Both Blessed John Paul II,
especially in his profound work, “Theology
of the Body,” and Pope Benedict XVI have
written and taught on the pressing need for
adequate formation of couples for marriage,
in particularly in the area of human sexuality.
During their recent Ad Limina visits,
Pope Benedict addressed the U.S. bishops
on the matter of marriage preparation,
which, he said, has “failed at times to
communicate the rich heritage of Catholic
teaching on marriage as a natural institution
elevated by Christ to the dignity of a sacrament, the vocation of Christian spouses in
society and in the Church, and the practice
of marital chastity.
“Young people need to encounter the
Church’s teaching in its integrity, challenging and countercultural as that teaching
may be; more importantly, they need to see
it embodied by faithful married couples
who bear convincing witness to its truth
… In a society which increasingly tends
to misunderstand and even ridicule this
essential dimension of Christian teaching,
young people need to be reassured that if
we let Christ into our lives, we lose nothing,
absolutely nothing, of what makes life free,
beautiful and great.”
Preparation for Life
“I realize that many couples do not
think about the religious aspect of marriage
when they are in love,” acknowledged
Msgr. Sirianni, who also serves as pastor in
St. Robert Bellarmine Parish, Freehold. “A
major influence in this development has
been how our society has turned getting
married into a big business. The popular
television programs that emphasize the
planning for the reception and the hunt for
the dress have trumped the preparation
for the religious ceremony and the lifelong
commitment that this sacrament entails.”
As a pastor who makes it a point to
teach and inform his parishioners on the
elements of faith that affect them and their
families, Msgr. Sirianni shared with his
congregation that he was “amazed by the
number of couples who make all their arrangements for the wedding – the date, the
time and the reception – and then call the
parish to arrange a meeting with the priest
and then schedule the church,” only to be
upset with the parish when their pre-arranged details cannot be accommodated.
This order of preparation reflects the
state of the couple’s understanding of their
Catholic faith and their relationship to the
Church, said Msgr. Sirianni, noting also the
powerful evangelizing potential of a wedding. “We have to recognize it is our obligation, as clergy, to work with couples, to sit
with them and answer questions honestly
See Marriage | P W-11
What We Believe
‘Fairest Love’
“All that a husband and a wife promise to each other—to be ‘true in good times and in bad, and to love and honour each
other all the days of their life’—is possible only when ‘fairest love’ is present. Man today cannot learn this from what modern
mass culture has to say. ‘Fairest love’ is learned above all in prayer. Prayer, in fact, always brings with it, to use an expression
of St. Paul, a type of interior hiddenness with Christ in God; ‘your life is hid with Christ in God’ (Col 3:3). Only in this hiddenness do we see the workings of the Holy Spirit, the source of ‘fairest love.’ He has poured forth this love not only in the hearts
of Mary and Joseph but also in the hearts of all married couples who are open to hearing the word of God and keeping it (cf.
Lk 8:15). The future of each family unit depends upon this ‘fairest love’: the mutual love of husband and wife, of parents and
children, a love embracing all generations. Love is the true source of the unity and strength of the family.”
- Pope John Paul II, Letter to Families, 1994
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Embracing the
biblical view of marriage
of partnership and communion in which the
stewardship of the earth and the image of
God are shared by the man and woman.
With the fall of Adam and Eve, marriage
You’re standing in a neighbor’s backyard
is beset by a competitive spirit and a tendenat a cookout when a non-Christian friend
cy to discord and domination, a departure
who knows of your interest in Scripture
from God’s initial plan.
asks, “What’s the Bible say about marriage?”
“Beulah,” a common Hebrew word for
One obvious response might be a list
“wife” has a root meaning of “owned,” and
of the passages in which marriage is men“Baal,” (“husband”) also
tioned. But such a compremeans “owner.” The sense
hensive list, by itself, might
“Nowhere is there a of marriage understood as a
be more confusing than
commercial relailluminating.
suggestion that marriage one-sided,
tionship is transformed over
The biblical theology of
marriage is complex and
is an innovation. It’s an the centuries to a vision of
mutuality and self-donation
in some ways challenging,
integral part of human (see, for example, Chapter
more the subject of a semes7 of the First Letter to the
ter-long course than a twosociety.”
Corinthians).
minute response in casual
Third, the consistent use
conversation.
of marriage as a metaphor
One practical way to help
for the relationship between
your inquisitive friend get an
God and his people suggests a vision that
overview of the Bible’s “take” on marriage is
understands marriage not as a matter of
to note four points.
dominance or utility but of love.
First, the Bible assumes that marriage
Prophets speak of God as married to
is a given of human social and familial life.
Israel precisely because marriage communiChallenging elements of the biblical view,
cates the intimacy to which God calls us and
such as its occasional acceptance of pothe intensity of his love.
lygamy, reflect the influence of local cultural
When the Letter to the Ephesians says
norms. Nowhere is there a suggestion that
that Christ is the bridegroom of his beloved,
marriage is an innovation. It’s an integral
the Church (see Eph 5:22-32), it presupposes
part of human society.
marriage as a relationship of generosity and
Second, there is a perceptible arc in the
reconciliation, of deep, transforming love.
biblical view of marriage. The creation
In using marriage as a central image for
stories of Genesis point to an original vision
By Dan Luby
Catholic News Service
Marriage as Sacred – Deacon John Ford presides at a wedding. “In using marriage as a central image for the love between God and his
people, the Bible elevates marriage to an exalted
status,” suggests Dan Luby. CNS photo/Gregory A.
Shemitz, Long Island Catholic
the love between God and his people, the
Bible elevates marriage to an exalted status.
And last, anything and everything specific the Bible has to say about marriage has
to be understood in the overarching context
of the vision and person of Jesus.
All human relationships should reflect
the kingdom of God, that realm of joy and
healing and forgiveness and communion
that illuminates Jesus’ preaching and for the
sake of which he offers his sacrificial love.
Luby is Tschoepe Chair of Homiletics at the
School of Ministry, University of Dallas, Irving,
Texas.
Couples say commitment and caring are keys to lasting marriages
By Louise McNulty
Frank and Jennifer Ricard, married 17
years, and Rick and Kelly Turner, wed for 24,
are friends and fellow parishioners at St. Mary
Church in Hudson, Ohio.
They say their marriages are healthy and lasting due to love, still having fun together, sharing
the same interests, belief in keeping the vows
they made to each other and the support of likeminded friends.
Both couples feel their church community
has nurtured and supported their marriages. The
Ricards moved from one suburb to another to be
within the parish boundaries – their choice supported by the fact that it also put Frank closer to
work.
“Of course the most important thing (that has
kept our marriage strong),” said Frank Ricard,
“is the vow we made to each other. Not every
day is easy – you don’t feel madly in love every
day – but you work through problems because
you’re committed. You work on mending things
and finding solutions because you have no other
option in a lifetime commitment.”
Frank Ricard also believes children – they
have six – are a stabilizing factor.
“After you have children and find out how
dependent they are on you, you realize marriage
is not just about how I feel today, but about your
responsibility,” he said.
Ricard’s wife Jennifer said believing in the
same things helps the marriage.
“Because we believe in staying together, we
prioritize (our marriage) in our life. If things are
not in a good place, we stop and get it there,” she
said.
“Children are one of the things that keep our
marriage together, but on the other hand parenting is one of the hardest parts of marriage,” she
said about their large family.
For example, each parent may have a different
solution to a problem.
“It’s a matter of getting to the point where we
recognize it doesn’t have to be that one of us is
right and the other wrong but that we recognize
that our different (perspectives) are complementary and support the best solution.”
The Ricards’ friends, the Turners, also have
found children a binding force in marriage. One
of their hardest challenges came seven years ago
when they lost their sixth child, who was five
months old.
“Normally, in tough situations in a marriage,
one person is stressed and the other is the rock,”
said Kelly. “But with the loss of a child both
people are stressed.”
What kept the couple together?
“First, we already had a good marriage and
strong faith, but we slowed down on activities
and spent more time together.”
That included Rick working from home for
several years following the tragedy.
The efforts of the individuals, their belief in
marriage as a lifetime commitment and becoming
involved in a supportive church community have
helped both couples succeed.
Rick Turner said, “We believe in the commitment we made the day we got married – that two
shall become one. That is important and what
keeps us together. (I just) don’t feel whole when
we’re not together.”
Frank Ricard, who appreciates the support of
like-minded families in the couple’s social circle,
confesses, “We tend to hang out with families
with larger numbers of kids. People with less
kids tend to avoid us.”
He said, “We tend to share our trials and
tribulations (with other couples with large families) and become a supportive group.”
Ricard believes a couple’s faith plays a key
role in a lasting marriage.
“In a selfish society, we have to learn from the
Gospel that we must die to ourselves and make
sacrifices,” he said.
McNulty is a freelance writer in Akron, Ohio.
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Wedding Guide
The Monitor
Following is a listing of wedding services
Reception
Facilities
Adelphia’s Grand
Ballroom
1750 Clements-Bridge Rd.
Deptford, NJ 08096
856-845-8200
www.adelphiarestaurant.com
Aloft Mount Laurel
558 Fellowship Road
Mount Laurel, NJ 08054
856-234-1880
www.aloftmountlaurel.com
American Hotel
18-20 East Main Street
Freehold, NJ 07728
732-431-3220
www.americanhotelnj.com
Atlantis Ballroom at the
Holiday Inn of Toms
River (Hotels Unlimited)
290 Route 37 East
Toms River, NJ 08753
732-244-4000
www.atlantisballroom.com
Auletto Caterers
1849 Cooper St.
Almonisson, NJ 08096
856-227-3800
www.auletto.com
Christopher’s Kitchen
165 Amboy Road - Suite 504
Morganville, NJ 07751
732-491-3399
www.christopherskitchen.com
Beau Steak &
Seafood
Courtyard on Main
Branches Catering
Crystal Ballroom
at the Radisson Hotel
of Freehold (Hotels Unlimited)
128 Taunton Blvd
Medford, NJ 08055
856-983-1999
123 Monmouth Road
West Long Branch, NJ 07764
732-542-5050
www.branchesnj.com
Channel Club Caterers
1 Channel Drive
Monmouth Beach, NJ 07750
732-229-3131
www.channelclubnj.com
Chauncey Conference
Center & Laurie House
1 Chauncey Road
Princeton, NJ 08541
609-921-3600
www.acc-chaunceyconferencecenter.
com
30 East Main Street
Freehold, NJ 07728
732-294-0424
www.courtyard1.com
50 Gibson Place
Freehold, NJ 07728
732-780-3400
www.crystalballroomnj.com
Eagle Ridge Golf Club
2 Augusta Blvd.
Lakewood, NJ 08701
732-901-4900
www.eagleridgegolf.com
Filomena
13 Cross Keys Road
West Berlin, NJ 08091
856-753-3540
www.filomenasberlin.com
Flanders Special Event &
Catering Facility
11th & Boardwalk
Ocean City, NJ 08226
609-398-9998
www.theflandershotel.com
Grand Marquis Caterers
1550 Route 9 South
Old Bridge, NJ 08857
732-679-5700
www.grandmarquiscaterers.com
Great Bay Country Club
901 Mays Landing Road
Somers Point, NJ 08244
609-927-5071
www.greatbay.com
Hotel Unlimited
399 Monmouth St.
East Windsor, NJ 08520
609-448-7000 x628
www.hotelsunlimited.com
Lakeside Manor
410 Route 36 South
Hazlet, NJ 07730
732-739-2700
www.thelakesidemanor.com
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Lakewood Country Club
145 Country Club Drive
Lakewood, NJ 08701
732-363-8125
www.thelakewoodcountryclub.com
La Riviera Lounge
113 Main Street
Matawan, NJ 07747
732-566-8400
www.larivieraloungenj.com
Lucien’s Manor
81 West White Horse Pike
Berlin, NJ 08009
856-768-9444
www.luciensmanor.com
Maggiano’s
2000 Route 38 - Suite 1180
Cherry Hill, NJ 08002
856-792-4470
www.maggianos.com
Marco’s Banquets
(Indian Springs Country Club)
115 South Elmwood Road
Marlton, NJ 08053
856-596-1106
www.marcosbanquet.com
Merri-Makers Caterers The PNC Reception Center
Exit #116 NJ Parkway North
Holmdel, NJ 07733
732-264-3355
www.merrimakers.com
Merri-Makers Caterers The Water’s Edge
1465 Ocean Avenue
Sea Bright, NJ 07760
732-842-1714
www.merrimakers.com
Moorestown Community
House
Shadowbrook /
The Zweben Family
Route 35,
P.O. Box 97
Shrewsbury, NJ
732-747-0200
www.shadowbrook.com
Sheraton
Eatontown Hotel
Industrial Way
Eatontown, NJ 07724
732-542-6500
www.sheratoneatontown.com
South Gate Manor
260 South St.
Freehold, NJ 07728
732-431-1500
www.southgatemanornj.com
Spring Lake Manor
415 Route 71
Spring Lake Heights, NJ
732-449-6630
www.weddingreceptionnj.com
Sterling Ballroom
at the Doubletree Hotel
of Tinton Falls
700 Hope Road
Tinton Falls, NJ 07724
732-544-9300 x708
www.sterlingballroomevents.com
Sterling Gardens
227 Freneau Avenue
(Rt. 79)
Matawan, NJ 07747
732-583-9200
www.sterlinggardensnj.com
The Atlantis Ballroom
at the Holiday Inn
of Toms River
16 East Main Street
Moorestown, NJ 08057
856-235-0326
www.thecommunityhouse.com
290 Route 37
732-244-4000 x505
www.hiweddingsnj.com
Ocean Place
The Avenue
1 Ocean Blvd.
Long Branch, NJ 07740
732-571-5732
www.oceanplaceresort.com
23 Ocean Avenue
888-427-4339
www.leclubavenue.com
Park 33
The Bradford Estate
618 Park Avenue
Freehold, NJ 07728
732-761-1300
www.park33.com
1910 Marne Highway
Hainesport, NJ
609-261-8778
www.thebradfordestate.com
Piazza di Roma
The Breakers Hotel
1178 Route 34 South
Aberdeen, NJ 07747
732-583-3565
www.piazzadiroma.com
1507 Ocean Avenue
Spring Lake, NJ 07762
732-449-7700
www.breakershotel.com
Running Deer Golf Club
The Buttonwood Manor
1111 Parvin Mill Road
Pittsgrove, NJ 08318
856-358-2000
www.runningdeergolfclub.com
845 Route 34 North
Matawan, NJ 07747
732-566-6220
www.thebuttonwoodmanor.com
The Castle Yacht Club
63 Saint Mihiel Drive
Delran, NJ 08075
856-824-0444
www.theyachtclubcaterers.com
Doubletree
Mt. Laurel
by Hilton
515 Fellowship Rd.
Mt. Laurel, NJ 08054
856-778-8999
www.doubletree1.hilton.com
The Mansion
Main St.
Voorhees, NJ 08043
856-751-1717
www.mansiononmainstreet.com
The Merion
1301 Route 130 South
Cinnaminson, NJ 08077
856-829-2111
www.themerion.com
The Mill at Spring Lake
101 Old Mill Road
Spring Lake Heights, NJ 07762
732-449-1800
www.themillnj.com
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The Reception Center
at St. Clement
172 Freneau Avenue
Matawan, NJ 07747
732-591-8180
www.mayercatering.com
The St. John Neumann
Conference & Banquet
Center
146 Metlars Lane
Piscataway, NJ 08854
732-562-2411
www.diometuchen.org
The Sunset Ballroom
at Jack Baker’s
62 Broadway
Point Pleasant Beach,
NJ 08742
732-295-0350
www.thesunsetballroom.com
The Ultimate Caterer
52C North Main Street
Marlboro, NJ
732-577-0490
www.ultimatecaterer.com
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THE
CONFERENCE & BANQUET CENTER
WEDDING RECEPTIONS • SPECIAL OCCASIONS
CONFERENCES & MEETINGS
50 to 300 Guests • Buffets and Sit-Down Dinners available
Conveniently located from Route 287,
the NJ Turnpike, Parkway, Routes 1,18
& close to a large selection of accommodations
146 Metlars Lane, Piscataway, NJ
For More Information 732.562.2411
e-mail: [email protected]
diometuchen.org/banquets
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Woodlake Country Club
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The Versailles Ballroom
at the Ramada Inn of
Toms River (Hotels Unlimited)
2373 Route 9
732-905-2626 x154
www.versaillescaterers.com
The Waterford Ballroom
110 First Avenue
King of Prussia, PA
610-354-8220
www.the-waterford.com
25 New Hampshire Ave.
Lakewood, NJ 08701
732-367-4500
www.woodlakecountryclub.com
Entertainment
Boardwalk Photo Booth
Rentals
609-742-4110
www.boardwalkphotoboothrentals.com
Dancing DJs
Vanity Fare Caterers
1600 Route 70 East
Lakewood, NJ 08701
732-364-6400
www.vanityfarenj.com
6843 Route 9 North
Howell, NJ 07731
800-669-3123
www.dancingdjs.com
Joey Arminio &The Family
Windows on the Water
Brick, NJ
732-836-9015
www.joeyarminio.com
931 Ocean Avenue
Seabright, NJ 07760
732-842-8463
www.njwindowsonthewater.com
NjDjs
Windsor Ballroom at the
Holiday Inn East Windsor
18 Hervey Street
Staten Island, NY 10309
866-plat-wed
www.platwed.com
(Hotels Unlimited)
399 Monmouth Street
Easr Windsor, NJ
609-443-8000
www.windsorballroom.com
732-722-5100 • www.njdjs.com
Platimum Entertainment
RKM Productions
732-492-0365
www.rkmentertainment.com
564 PALMER AVENUE
MIDDLETOWN, NJ 07748
732-787-1410
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165 Route 37 East - Suite B
732-240-7300
www.djs4you.com
Flowers
Ana’s Floral Garden
564 Palmer Avenue
Middletown, NJ 07748
732-787-1410
www.anasfloristandgifts.com
Emerald Isle Flowers
& Gifts
1022 Route34 South
Matawan, NJ 07747
732-566-4090
www.emeraldisleflowersandgifts.com
Especially For You Florist
and Gift Shop
37 & 39 West Main St.
Freehold, NJ 07728
732-431-2053
www.especiallyforyounj.com
Flower Boutique
1211 Kings Highway North
856-427-4334
www.myflowerboutique.com
Mueller’s Flowers & Gifts
245 Route 71
Manasquan, NJ 08736
732-223-1882
www.muellersflowers.net
Skip’s Toms River
Florist & Gifts
1187 Washington Street - Suite 1
732-270-5900
Dance Studios
The Fred Astaire Dance
Studio
46 Newman Springs Rd.
Red Bank, NJ 07701
732-741-4188
www.fredastaireredbank.com
Limousine
Companies
A-1 Limousine
2 Emmons Drive
Princeton, NJ 08540
609-951-0070
www.a1limo.com
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Ace Limousine
189 Drum Point Road
Brick, NJ 08723
732-920-4899
A E & L Limousine
Service
Jackson, NJ 08527
732-367-3629
Albert’s Transportation
1126 Route 73
856-222-9600
All Over Town Limousine
856-227-0018
Allaire Limousine
Service
Freehold, NJ 07728
732-431-1990
Allaire Limousine
Service
Manasquan, NJ 08736
732-528-7880
Allways Limousine
Service
133 Brittany Drive
Freehold, NJ 07728
732-431-3998
Americano Limousine
Service
900 Dudley Avenue
856-663-8773
Anchor Limousine Service
PO Box 986
Barnegat, NJ 08005
609-492-2287
Anthony’s Limousines
2311 Route 70
856-662-5466
Apc Limousine
21 West Main
Marlton, NJ 08053
856-596-9655
Bordentown Taxi & Limo
1077 Route 206
Bordentown, NJ 08505
609-291-9940
Carlin Limousine Service
2 Winter Lane
Burlington, NJ 08016
609-747-1088
Chariot Limousine LLC
601 Prospect
Lakewood, NJ 08701
732-363-2441
Class Act Limousine
407 Route 130 South
856-786-1001
Driven by
Excellence
1 Ocean Blvd.
732-513-4330
www.jerseyshorelimos.com
East Coast
Limousine Services
Brainerd Street
Mount Holly, NJ 08060
609-267-0809
Exclusive Car &
Limousine Service
Toms River, NJ
732-864-9001
www.exclusivecarservice.com
Executive Coach East
2514 Route 73
856-662-5443
Fancy Limos
399 Route 9 North
Freehold, NJ 07728
732-409-9961
www.fancylimos.com
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Fancy Limousines
of Cherry Hill Inc.
2442 Route 38
856-667-5446
First Class
Limousine
187 Route 9 South
Englishtown, NJ 07726
732-972-3200
www.ridefirstclass.com
Gateway Limousine
Service
Freehold, NJ 07728
732-780-0737
James Limousine
Service
2050 Springdale Road
856-424-6655
Jersey Shore
Limousine
Manasquan, NJ 08736
732-528-0433
Leggs Limousine
Medford, NJ 08055
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68 Stacy Haines Rd.
Mount Holly, NJ 08060
609-914-0790
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Ross Limousine
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16 Maplewood
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East Brunswick Avenue
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732-257-0233
Michael Romeo Creations
349 Route 9 South
Manalapn, NJ 07726
732-617-7333
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Phantastic Images
400 Route 38
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856-667-2706
Route 33
Neptune, NJ
732-922-2222
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33 First Avenue
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732-291-8000
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Royal Limousines
231 South Hope Chapel Rd.
Jackson, NJ 08527
732-364-0640
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Zark Limousine
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Liberty Limousine
133 Gaither Drive
856-778-1818
Pampered Travels
15 Lowershore Road
Banegat, NJ 08005
609-607-1280
Phl Limousine
101 Route 130 South
856-786-7151
Regal Limousine
Service
Route 206
Bordentown, NJ 08505
609-298-2425
Memorial Pkwy. (Rte. 36 South)
& Central Ave.
Atlantic Highlands, NJ 07716
732-291-7373
Santos VIP Limousine
1105 Route 1 South
Avenel, NJ 07001
732-596-1100
www.santoslimousine.com
Signature Limousine
732-669-7545
www.sls-limo.com
Stretch One
647 North County Line Rd.
Jackson, NJ 08527
732-928-6031
Tri-State Limousine
856-222-1060
Photographers
Alliance Video
Productions
609-268-7044
www.alliancevideousa.com
B Style
Photography
Bridgewater, NJ
908-334-6600
www.bstyle-photography.com
Dupree Studios
1 Bethany Rd.- Suite 15
Hazlet, NJ
732-264-8855
www.dupreestudios.com
Harvey Video &
Photography LLC
Freehold, NJ
732-363-2442
www.harveyvideophoto.com
Belford, NJ
732-241-6585
www.phantasticimages.com
609-280-8400
www.photographybymiked.com
www.pictureusperfect.com
Pittelli Photography
856-885-8527
www.pittelliphotography.com
Stan the Fotoman
Freehold, NJ
732-610-7300
www.stanthefotoman.com
The Studio
8 West Main Street
Freehold, NJ
732-431-2660
Timeless Studio
of Photography
Freehold, NJ
732-866-1709
www.timephoto.net
Trenton Photographers
1207 South Broad Street
Trenton, NJ 08650
609-394-3390
www.trentonphotogrephers.com
Unlimited Exposures
John Arcara
Photography
285 Gordons Corner Road
Manalapan, NJ 07726
732-617-1588
www.unlimitedexposures.com
Karenscape
Trade Shows
2 Broad St. - # 202
Red Bank, NJ
732-299-9537
Manalapan, NJ
917-734-1632
www.karenscape.com
Korbman Fine
Photographers
Bridal Event
by Bouche Productions
610-917-9300
www.bridalevent.com
22 Anderson Lane
Robbinsville, NJ
609-208-0930
www.korbmanandcompany.com
Bridal Showcase
Mer-Made
Photography
Elegant Bridal
Productions
856-265-5838
www.mer-madephotography.com
888-427-4339
www.elegantbridal.com
Michael Dill
Photography
Planit Expo
172 Applegate Dr.
Hamilton Square, NJ 08690
609-588-9502
www.michaeldillphotography.com
856-273-9499
www.bridalshowcases.com
1187 Washington St. - # 3
732-506-6800 x 11
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Boutiques
Party Planners
409 Crooks Ave.
Clifton, NJ 07011
973-546-1503
www.bridaltradeshows.com
Cinderella’s Bridals at
the Marketplace
Full Splendour Weddings
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Travel
Cherry Travel
Route 34 South & 2 MacArthur Drive
Matawan, NJ 07747
732-583-2750
www.cherrytravel.com
Rapka Travel, Inc
5211 Route 33
Wall Township, NJ 07727
732-938-5000
www.rapkatravel.com
Videographers
Command Performance
Videography
856-783-7098
www.cpweddings.com
Harvey Video &
Photography
6843 Route 9 North
Howell, NJ 07731
732-363-2442
443 L Route 34 North
Matawan, NJ 07747
732-290-1045
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Hearts For You
Pine Creek Plaza 415 Route 9 South
Manalapan, NJ 07726
732-536-7808
www.heartsforyoubridal.com
Marlene’s
710 Haddon Avenue
Collingswood, NJ 08108
856-858-4777
www.marlenesdressshop.com
One Special Evening
1846 Hooper Ave.
732-255-4040
Verenique Plus Size
Boutique
710 Haddon Avenue
Collingswood, NJ 08108
www.vereniqueplussize.com
609-518-1259
www.eventmood.com
Jersey Shore Wedding
Professionals
www.jswa.org
Lasting Memories
856-404-3423
www.lastingmemoriesparty.com
New Jersey Wedding
908-874-0417
www.njwedding.com
Gift Store
Ballyhugh
235 South White Horse Pike
Audubon, NJ
856-546-0946
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732-617-2168
www.diamondcastle.com
Gary Michaels Fine
Jewelry
55 Route 9 South
Manalapan, NJ 07726
732-577-1030
www.garymichaelsfinejewelry.com
Tuxedos
Tuxedo Junction Rentals
& Sales
Town Hall Shops-Cedar Bridge & Brick Blvd.
Brick, NJ
732-477-0222
www.tuxjunctionnj.com
Bakery
ChocaL8Kiss
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Voorhees, NJ 8043
856-770-1177
285 Gordon’s Corner Rd. # 3
Manalapan, NJ 07726
888-986-2253
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Step By Step
Marriage preparation is first step on journey of a lifetime
Peg Hensler
Special Contributor
There is nothing more exciting
in the lives of a
young couple
than the moment
of their engagement. For couples
wishing to marry
in the Catholic
Church, the first
step after engagement is to set up
a meeting at the wedding parish to
discuss all the elements of preparing
for sacramental marriage.
For the typical engaged couple, it’s
all about planning the wedding day
– shopping for the gown, choosing a
reception venue, picking out flowers,
selecting a photographer – the list
goes on and on.
Yet for a Catholic couple, planning
the wedding itself is just the tip of the
iceberg, because it’s much more about
readiness for lifelong marriage than
it is about the wedding day. In fact,
the Catholic Church teaches that a
person begins preparing for marriage
long before they fall in love with their
future spouse.
Remote preparation for sacramental marriage actually begins the day
a person is born and enters a family,
and, officially, when they are baptized
into the Catholic faith. Parents who
exhibit unconditional love for each
other and their children offer the best
example of the kind of self-giving
love needed for successful, lifelong
marriage.
Here in the Diocese of Trenton,
preparing engaged couples for sacramental marriage is one of our greatest
priorities, just as it has been for the
entire Catholic Church for the past
forty years.
To prepare couples adequately
for their life together, the pastoral
minister of the parish, normally
a priest or deacon, works closely
with each engaged couple through
a series of meetings to discuss their
hopes and dreams, assess their level
of readiness for the sacrament, and
provide appropriate teaching and
pastoral care.
A premarital inventory may be
offered to enable the pastoral minister and couple to identify particular
areas of strength in the relationship,
and skills that need to be developed.
“It’s much more about
readiness for lifelong
marriage than it is about
the wedding day.”
Each couple is also required to attend a formal marriage preparation
class, either a parish Pre-Cana class,
a diocesan Pre-Cana class (based on
Pope John Paul II’s holistic vision of
the human person in body, soul, and
spirit, as presented in “Theology of
the Body”) or a Catholic Engaged
Encounter weekend. All couples are
encouraged to take a class in Natural
Family Planning.
The final step in the preparation
process is to plan a meaningful wedding liturgy that reflects the uniqueness of the couple’s relationship and
the sacredness of their sacramental
bond. The entire marriage preparation process is considered a moment
of evangelization.
For those of us who work in marriage ministry, it is a special privilege
to witness the remarkable transformation that can happen when young
couples fully embrace their faith
and invite Jesus to walk with them
throughout their marriage journey
Hensler is diocesan Coordinator of
Marriage Ministries and Natural Family
Planning.
For more information on marriage
preparation visit www.dioceseoftrenton.
org and follow Who We Are>Our Offices/
Ministries>Department of Youth,
Marriage and Family Life>Marriage
Matters, or call 609-403-7156.
Kindness can carry a marriage through life’s journey
By Mary Eileen Andreasen
Older couples must have a secret.
Their marriages defy the odds and
they are often examples of generosity
and kindness for several generations.
What do they know that we don’t?
I watch older couples with fascination, hoping for insight. I need to
learn from them. I’ve been married for
more than 30 years and empty nesting
is upon us.
Kids have a way of distracting
you from your marriage by their wild
noisy chaos. These days, there’s no
distraction. It’s just us. I’ve already
vacuumed three empty bedrooms and
shut the door. Our baby is graduating
from high school this spring and the
house is falling silent.
How does a long marriage survive
and improve with time? There must
be a way to avoid that irritation when
you anticipate the next sentence your
spouse will say and know every maddening idiosyncrasy.
I know a good marriage is the
union of two good givers and forgivers, and, of course, I’ve learned that
marriage is so much more than glamour and sexuality. The older couples
I know have talked about the need to
stay active, try new things and meet
new people. They have not lost their
zest for living and willingly embrace
a quiet but meaningful life. A priest
friend calls this “the courage to be
boring.”
But there’s something more.
Lifetime of Respect – “In stable marriages, couples grow in kindness and respect
through the passage of time,” states Mary Eileen Andreasen. CNS photo/Bob Roller
As newlyweds, we had no idea
what our struggles would be. We had
no thought for the future even though
everyone tried to warn us about the
gloom and doom of “difficult times
ahead.” We didn’t pay attention.
Hard times hit soon enough and
came with unrelenting wavelike
fury. The unplanned pregnancies,
the seriously ill child and the surgeries, the moves and the job changes
overwhelmed us. There also was the
moodiness and the restlessness we
both fought.
Over the past 30 years, we have
buried our parents and some siblings,
paid thousands in tuition and walked
three of our five children down the
aisle.
Our life has unfolded day by day,
side by side. We have felt the years
zoom by like spectators at a NASCAR
race. So far, we’ve survived.
But after the years and tears of
raising a pack of kids, something
maturing is happening to us. We
know so intimately about the life of
the other that compassion and charity
have taken deep, deep roots.
Knowing the hardships and the
triumphs my spouse has faced helps
increase my respect for him. I have
stood witness to the ups and downs
of his life, as he has with mine.
This doesn’t happen with all
unions. Marriage can be a stormy sea,
and often it’s not a faithful partnership. But for caring couples, I think
this is the secret.
In stable marriages, couples grow
in kindness and respect through the
passage of time. They desire the good
of the other because they alone know
the deepest secrets of their spouse.
I love Thomas Merton’s description
of the Christian life as the “school of
charity.” It’s also a mantra for marriage.
There’s a quote attributed to the
Jewish philosopher Rabbi Abraham
J. Heschel that says, “When I was
young, I admired clever people. Now
that I am old, I admire kind people.”
Kindness and respect are the
pebbles that can slay Goliath. They
allow the Holy Spirit lots of room to
work.
I want to be around when my
husband is elderly to know that he
receives good care. He has been a
good father and husband, but I know
his life has not been easy. We’ve both
been tested in the fire over and again.
We know what our journey
has been and respect how hard we
have worked and the trials we have
endured. That’s the secret, I think.
As the chant says, “Where charity
and love prevail, there God is ever
found.”
Andreasen has worked in a variety of
ministry settings for 20 years. She lives
in Omaha, Neb., with her husband and
five children.
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faith’ to a flame.”
“Believe me the Roman Catholic
Church supports marriage,” stressed
Msgr. Sirianni. “We see marriage as
a gift from God that is a vocation of
love and service. But we also see
marriage as exclusive, a lifelong commitment and open to children; a vision not embraced by society. This vision is why the Church invites young
people to see preparing for marriage
as more than planning the day, but
really a preparation for life.”
While preparation for a marriage
begins long before preparation for
the wedding, within the relationships of the family, arranging for a
wedding in a Catholic church has a
specific starting point and includes a
number of priorities to be considered,
said Msgr. Sirianni.
His suggestions include:
• Call the parish first to set an appointment with one of the priests or
deacons to find out what is required
for getting married in the Church.
• If you, or your intended, were married
before, whether in a church or civil
ceremony, call us. Each previous
marriage needs to be reviewed before
plans can be made for a wedding.
• Even if the love of your life is not
Catholic, the Church will work with
you to prepare you both to be married
in the Church, or receive the proper
permission to be married.
• Church law does not dictate that a
church wedding has to be a lavish and expensive event! The “Big
Church Wedding” is more cultural
than traditional. A Catholic wedding can be as simple as the couple
wants. For a valid Catholic wedding
you need only the bride, the groom,
two witnesses and a sacred minister
(a priest, deacon or bishop). Although
it would be nice to invite the parents!
• The Sacrament of Matrimony is a
sacrament of the Church, therefore,
the proper place for the celebration is in Church. Although God is
everywhere, the public character of
marriage means that the sacrament
takes place where the community
worships … and that place is the
Church. Therefore, destination weddings scheduled through wedding
or travel agents, and weddings with
clergy (former priests) in parks, on
the beach or in the reception hall are
not recognized by the Church.
• If a couple does marry outside of the
Church, and without Church permission, then they need to know they
will be unable to stand as godparents at Baptism or sponsors at
Confirmation.
For a comprehensive overview of the
Catholic wedding ceremony, including an
overview of options for the various forms
of the wedding, visit foryourmarriage.org,
an initiative of the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops.
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Marriage preparation events
Sponsored by the Department of Youth, Marriage and Family Life,
a variety of marriage preparation programs are offered to nurture and
support engaged couples as they move toward a life together.
June 8 - 10, 2012
Engaged Encounter Weekend,
Stella Maris Retreat Center,
Elberon
Weekend Retreat for Engaged
Couples
Time: Fri., 7:30 pm - Sun.,
4:00 pm
Cost: $395.00 per couple
June 16, 2012
God’s Plan Pre-Cana, St. Gregory
the Great, Hamilton Square
Diocesan Pre-Cana
Time: Sat. 9:00 am - 4:30 pm
July 21, 2012
Pre-Cana, St. Barnabas, Bayville
Parish Pre-Cana in Spanish
Time: Sat. 9:00 am - 4:00 pm
July 21, 2012
God’s Plan Pre-Cana, St. Gregory
the Great, Hamilton Square
Diocesan Pre-Cana
Time: Sun. 7:00 pm - 9:00
pm; Fri. 7:00 pm - 10:00 pm;
Sun. 2:00 pm - 6:00 pm
August 25, 2012
Pre-Cana, St. Anselm, Wayside
September 28-29, 2012
Parish Pre-Cana
Pre-Cana, St. Barnabas, Bayville
Time: Sat. 9:30 pm - 6:30 pm
Parish Pre-Cana
Time: Fri. 7:30 pm - 10:30 pm,
September 15, 2012
Sat. 7:00 pm - 10:00 pm
Pre-Cana, St. Gabriel, Marlboro
Parish Pre-Cana
October 5-6, 2012
Time: Sat. 9:00 pm - 4:00 pm
Pre-Cana, St. Mary, New MonCost: $115.00 per couple
mouth
Parish Pre-Cana
September 22, 2012
Time: Fri. 7:00 pm - 10:00 pm,
Pre-Cana, St. Katharine Drexel,
Sat. 1:00 pm - 6:00 pm
Burlington
Parish Pre-Cana
Time: Sat. 9:30 pm - 4:00 pm
October 5-6, 2012
Pre-Cana, St. Robert Bellarmine,
Freehold
September 23, 28, & 30,
Parish Pre-Cana
2012
Pre-Cana, St. Joan of Arc/St. Isaac Time: Fri. 7:00 pm - 10:15 pm,
Sat. 12:30 pm - 5:30 pm
Jogues, Marlton
Parish Pre-Cana
Time: Sat. 9:00 am - 4:30 pm
For more information or to register for any event contact Beatriz Cancel at
609-403-7151, or [email protected].
For additional dates, check the Department of Youth, Marriage and Family Life
webpage at www.dioceseoftrenton.org
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