National Police Week 2016 - Concerns of Police Survivors
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National Police Week 2016 - Concerns of Police Survivors
The Quarterly Publication of Concerns of Police Survivors for Survivors, Agencies and Supporters H PE National Police Week 2016 Pg. 16-18 Spring 2016 The President’s Message Spring is typically a time of renewal. A time to refresh and restore. ‘Spring Cleaning’ of your home and ‘Spring Training’ for Major League Baseball come to mind as visible descriptions of the promise of starting over. We who have lost our law enforcement officers in the line of duty wish we had a ‘reset’ button, to rewind back to when our officer was still with us. Since we don’t have this magical ability to turn back the clock, look to C.O.P.S. for Spring offerings to help you navigate your grief. National Police Week (NPW) is a remarkable opportunity to be with others just like us, who have suffered the pain of losing our beloved officers in the line of duty. Whether it would be your first time attending NPW, or your 20th, you are certain to find support and perhaps be a beacon of light for another survivor. Take advantage of the Hands-On Programs offered by C.O.P.S. I have heard survivors state, “My loss is still too raw. I don’t want to attend my retreat yet”, or “This year won’t work for me to go.” That’s why C.O.P.S. offers our retreats each year. The staff at the C.O.P.S. National Office work tirelessly each year to schedule our retreats. They ensure that we have plenty of sharing/caring experiences designed for us to support and encourage one another (Alpine Tower, karaoke, canoeing, etc.), one-to-one counseling as needed, group talk sessions, and camp food! “My officer died many years ago; why should I participate?” I hear that as well; in fact, I was one who uttered those words! May 14, 1966 is the date of my dad’s line-of-duty death. Decades later when I found out about C.O.P.S. and was told about services offered, I asked that very question regarding retreats. I was convinced that I would get nothing out of my retreat, nor would I be able to offer anything. I was wrong. No matter when you lost your officer, attending your retreat – at least once – will help you understand that you’re not isolated, even though your particular circumstances are yours alone. Visit nationalcops.org to find the dates of your specific Hands-On Program, and make plans to attend! Spring is when many chapters host or participate in fundraising events designed to help survivors attend NPW or their retreat. In addition, many memorial services are held during Spring. We invite you to share your chapter events and C.O.P.S. fundraisers on our calendar page, at http://www.nationalcops.org/calendar.html. The calendar is visible to anyone visiting the website, so be certain to share only those events that are public. C.O.P.S. takes our pledge to provide survivor support and outreach very seriously. When you see C.O.P.S.’ staff members at NPW or your retreat, please be sure to thank them for the hard work they perform to help in our healing. I hope that as the season of Spring progresses, you can appreciate the riot of colors as flowers and trees bloom, breathe in the intoxicating fragrance of freshly cut grass, and accept the support of your loved ones and fellow survivors. Please know that C.O.P.S. is here for you; reach out and take our hands! Brenda Donner C.O.P.S. National President 2 ~ Concerns of Police Survivors www.nationalcops.org 2016 Preview 2016 Roll Call items Spring/Summer Gear Youth Gear Gifts Athletic Wear 3 ~ Concerns of Police Survivors Survivor Specific Shirts C.O.P.S. “Legacy of Hope” Line www.nationalcops.org C.O.P.S. National Board The 2015-2016 National Board invites members of C.O.P.S. to attend its next meeting to be held on May 11th at the Hilton Alexandria Mark Center Hotel in Alexandria, VA, during National Police Week 2016. If needed, the meeting will continue on May 12th. If you wish to speak on a topic, you must submit your request in writing two weeks before the meeting to National President, Brenda Donner, [email protected], and C.O.P.S. Executive Director, Dianne Bernhard, [email protected]. One of the main functions of the C.O.P.S. National Board is to offer peer support to law enforcement survivors nationwide. During the coming months, you may find yourself in need of a sympathetic ear. Our 2015-2016 Board will give you that support. National President Brenda Donner AC/66 - (206) 915-6437 7352 36th Avenue SW Seattle, WA 98126 [email protected] Immediate Past President Madeline Neumann W/89 - (609) 625-1024 PO Box 504 Mays Landing, NJ 08330 [email protected] Northeast Region Trustee CT, ME, MA, NH, NJ, NY, PA, RI,VT Happy Snodgrass SO/05 - (951) 526-9617 PO Box 936 East Wareham, MA 02538 [email protected] Atlantic Region Trustee DE, MD, NC, SC, VA, D.C. Hector Dittamo F/10 - (703) 491-5585 2605 Deepford Dr. Woodbridge, VA 22192 [email protected] Southeast Region Trustee FL, GA, Puerto Rico & US Virgin Islands Pete Geary CW/90 - (954) 914-4984 10224 Bermuda Dr. Cooper City, FL 33026 [email protected] Midwest Region Trustee IL, IN, KY, MI, OH, WV Thomas Rees, Jr. CW/79 - (740) 207-0178 427 Imperial Ct. Circleville, OH 43113 [email protected] Northwest Region Trustee AK, ID, OR, MT, WA, WY Laurie Huckeba W/97 - (907) 632-3795 PO Box 230772 Anchorage, AK 99523 [email protected] Central Plains Region Trustee IA, KS, MO, MN, NE, ND, SD, WI Toyia Bulla AC/81 - (316) 734-2749 5570 S. Gold St., Apt. 300 Wichita, KS 67217 [email protected] Southwest Region Trustee AZ, CA, HI, NV, UT & Mariana Islands Tami McMillan S/06 - (650) 255-5721 778 Rustic Lane Mountain View, CA 94040 [email protected] South Central Trustee AR, AL, LA, MS, OK, TN Patricia Carruth M/03 - (318) 308-2850 215 Highway 484 Natchez, LA 71456 [email protected] Western Region Trustee CO, NM, TX Cheryl Schultz W/02 - (505) 920-0733 28A Avenida de Molino Espanola, NM 87532 [email protected] Executive Director Non Voting Board Member Dianne Bernhard PO Box 3199 Camdenton, MO 65020 (573) 346-4911 [email protected] National Chapter Liaison Non Voting Board Member Janis Betz Lampe W/94 - (904) 251-3219 10548 Fort George Rd. Jacksonville, FL 32226 [email protected] Executive Director Emeritus Non Voting Board Member Suzie Sawyer PO Box 3199 Camdenton, MO 65020 [email protected] ©2016 The C.O.P.S. Newsletter is a publication distributed free to approximately 43,000 readers. All content in each issue of the C.O.P.S. Newsletter is copyrighted and no part of the publication may be reproduced in any form or by any means without written permission from the publisher or author. The C.O.P.S. Newsletter is an independent publication which does not represent or receive endorsement from, nor is sponsored by, any law enforcement agency, police organization, or social association. 4 ~ Concerns of Police Survivors www.nationalcops.org H PE Spring 2016 VOL. 30, NO. 2 The Quarterly Publication of Concerns of Police Survivors is for survivors, agencies and supporters. P.O. Box 3199 - 846 Old South 5 - Camdenton, MO 65020 - Phone: 573-346-4911 - www.nationalcops.org In This Issue Columns & Features 2 President’s Message 8-9 News of Note 12 Nominees for C.O.P.S. National President 13 Nominees for C.O.P.S. National Board 14-15 2016 Hands-On Programs 16-17 2016 National Police Week Information 19 Donor Spotlight - Ride4Cops 20-21 A Sibling’s Grief: Losing My Brother in the Line of Duty 22-23 Tips for Fundraising Fundraising at its Best 25-27 C.O.P.S. Special Events 26-27 Major Donors and Chapter Donations Contact Information 4 National Board Members Contact Information 6-7 C.O.P.S. Chapter Contacts On The Cover Surviving family members raise their blue ribbons to honor all fallen officers during last year’s Peace Officers Memorial Service. For details about the 2016 Memorial Service, see page 17. Submission Information Concerns of Police Survivors welcomes the submission of articles, trial updates, survivor news and memorials. Please know that not all submissions will be published but all will be considered and checked for accuracy. Inclusion of news articles or court documents makes the process much easier for C.O.P.S. When sending photos, please make sure they are high resolution (600KB or higher) or the original files. All submissions can be e-mailed to [email protected] with subject line “Newsletter Submission.” Mission Statement Rebuilding shattered lives of survivors and co-workers affected by line-of-duty deaths through partnerships with law enforcement and the community. Survivors can seek comfort from C.O.P.S. while awaiting a decision from the following determining agencies: The Federal Bureau of Investigation (FBI), Public Safety Officers’ Benefits (PSOB) Program, National Law Enforcement Officers Memorial (NLEOMF) or Fraternal Order of Police (FOP). Information for Our Readers Throughout C.O.P.S. publications, you will find codes that tell how a person is related to an officer who has died in the line of duty. If you are not familiar with these codes, here is a key for you: W=Spouse; AC=Adult Child; C= Child; S=Sibling; M=Mother; F=Father; CW= Co-Worker; SM= Step-Mother; SF= Step-Father; SC=Step-Child; GM=Grandmother; GF=Grandfather; GC=Grandchild; FS=Former Spouse; FN=Fiancé; SO=Significant Other; F-IL=Father In-Law; M-IL=Mother In-Law; D-IL=Daughter In-Law; SN-IL=Son In-Law; SS-IL=Sister In-Law; B-IL=Brother InLaw; U=Uncle; A=Aunt; NC=Niece; NP=Nephew; CS=Cousin; FR=Friend This project was supported by Grant No. 2012 PS-DX-0002 awarded by the Bureau of Justice Assistance. The Bureau of Justice Assistance is a component of the Office of Justice Programs, which also includes the Bureau of Justice Statistics, the National Institute of Justice, the Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention, the Office for Victims of Crime, the Community Capacity Development Office, and the Office of Sex Offender Sentencing, Monitoring,Apprehending, Registering, and Tracking. Points of view or opinions in this document are those of the author and do not necessarily represent the official position or policies of the U.S. Department of Justice. 5 ~ Concerns of Police Survivors www.nationalcops.org Concerns of Police Survivors Chapters and Contacts To enable the C.O.P.S. organization to provide peer support close to home, 52 C.O.P.S. chapters are functioning and others are in the process of organizing. Below are state or regional chapters that are here to help you through the difficult times: Alaska C.O.P.S. Wendi Shackelford, President [email protected] (907) 632-3619 Alabama C.O.P.S. Cindy Warren, Secretary [email protected] (251) 604-0602 Arkansas C.O.P.S. Mary Carmikle, President [email protected] (501) 206-8689 Arizona C.O.P.S. Jan Blaser-Upchurch, President [email protected] http://www.arizonacops.org (520) 247-2631 California Central CAL C.O.P.S. Jimmy Howell, President [email protected] (559) 772-2344 Northern CAL C.O.P.S. Susan Moody, President [email protected] http://www.norcalcops.org (707) 372-1604 Southern CAL C.O.P.S. Irma Rios, President [email protected] http://www.socalcops.org (626) 224-1735 Colorado C.O.P.S. Donald Enloe, President [email protected] http://www.coloradocops.org (303) 915-8248 Connecticut See New England C.O.P.S. DC C.O.P.S. Tony Hughes, President [email protected] http://www.dc-cops.org (315) 244-0361 6 ~ Concerns of Police Survivors Delaware C.O.P.S. Eleanor Allione, President [email protected] http://www.delawarecops.org (302) 388-2657 Illinois C.O.P.S. Terry Roderick, President [email protected] http://www.ilcops.org (217) 306-4691 Florida Northwest FL C.O.P.S. Joey Forgione, President [email protected] (850) 685-6084 Indiana C.O.P.S. Nancee Hetrick, Advisor [email protected] http://www.indianacops.org (765) 427-4097 Central FL C.O.P.S. Mary Huggins, President [email protected] http://www.centralfloridacops.org (321) 436-8500 West Central FL C.O.P.S. Cindy Roberts, President [email protected] http://www.wcfcops.org (813) 713-1756 Northeast FL C.O.P.S. Charles Shinholser, Director [email protected] (904) 771-1827 South FL C.O.P.S. Eric Strzalkowski, President [email protected] http://www.soflocops.com (754) 224-7098 Georgia C.O.P.S. Roger Parker, Director [email protected] http://www.gacops.org (770) 354-8771 Iowa C.O.P.S. Toni Galetich-Christofferson, Director [email protected] http://www.iowacops.org (515) 422-6252 Idaho C.O.P.S. Eric Anderson, President [email protected] (304) 261-3911 Kansas C.O.P.S. Karen Bohlender, President [email protected] http://www.kscops.org (785) 364-3353 Kentucky C.O.P.S. Brandy Durman, President [email protected] http://www.copskentucky.org/ (859) 230-0986 Louisiana C.O.P.S. Kim Stuckey, President [email protected] http://www.la-cops.org (225) 933-5191 Maine See New England C.O.P.S. Maryland C.O.P.S. Sue Nickerson, President [email protected] http://www.mdcops.org (410) 348-5653 Massachusetts See New England C.O.P.S. Michigan C.O.P.S. Denise Scarbrough, President [email protected] http://www.mi-cops.org (734) 934-2779 Minnesota C.O.P.S. Susan Smart, President [email protected] http://www.mncops.org (612) 590-6046 www.nationalcops.org Concerns of Police Survivors Chapters and Contacts Concerns of Police Survivors Chapters and Contacts Missouri C.O.P.S. Wendy Viers, President [email protected] www.mo-cops.org (816) 645-9242 Montana C.O.P.S. Joyce Kramer, President [email protected] http://www.montanacops.org (406) 855-8223 New England C.O.P.S. Kim McCarthy, President [email protected] http://www.newenglandcops.org (774) 306-2458 New Jersey NJSP Survivors of the Triangle C.O.P.S. Michelle Carroll, President [email protected] http://www.survivorsofthetriangle.org (732) 208-2611 Garden State C.O.P.S. Lisa Preslar, President [email protected] http://www.gardenstatecops.com (732) 330-8111 New Mexico C.O.P.S. Yolanda Cline, President [email protected] http://www.newmexicocops.org (575) 512-6685 Nevada Northern Nevada C.O.P.S. Jennifer Grant-Blount, President [email protected] (209) 743-2812 Southern Nevada C.O.P.S. Stanley Jerlecki, President [email protected] (702) 875-3359 New Hampshire See New England C.O.P.S. New York Genesee Valley C.O.P.S. Ellen Guerdat, President [email protected] http://www.geneseevalleycops.org (585) 957-3878 Western NY C.O.P.S. Jeanette Shields, President [email protected] http://www.wnycops.org (716) 684-7028 7 ~ Concerns of Police Survivors Metro NY C.O.P.S. Leslyn Stewart, President [email protected] (631) 258-8998 North Carolina C.O.P.S. Wanda Rhyne, President [email protected] http://www.nccops.com (910) 315-8150 Ohio C.O.P.S. Grace Leon, President [email protected] http://www.ohiocops.org (216) 401-7109 Oklahoma C.O.P.S. Susan Green, President [email protected] http://www.okcops.org (918) 857-9603 Oregon C.O.P.S. Jim Whitehead, Treasurer [email protected] http://www.oregonpolicesurvivors.org (503) 465-8082 Pennsylvania C.O.P.S. Kim Weigand, Director [email protected] http://www.centralpacops.org (717) 259-6622 Rhode Island See New England C.O.P.S. South Carolina C.O.P.S. Lois Rao, President [email protected] http://www.carolinacops.org (803) 320-2252 Tennessee Middle and Eastern TN C.O.P.S. Trish Mundy, President [email protected] (615) 364-9094 West TN C.O.P.S. Andrea Woods, President [email protected] (901) 412-5782 Texas South Texas C.O.P.S. Gilda Garza, President [email protected] (210) 325-7386 Metroplex TX C.O.P.S. Ashlee Hardy, President [email protected] http://www.metroplexcops.org (214) 202-0809 Greater Houston TX C.O.P.S. Carol Lane, President [email protected] http://www.greaterhoustoncops.org (713) 410-9068 Utah C.O.P.S. Laretta Beesley, President [email protected] (801) 825-6354 Vermont See New England C.O.P.S. Virginia C.O.P.S. Sandi Sisco-Todaro, President [email protected] http://www.vacops.org (540) 220-2955 Washington State C.O.P.S. Ernie Barber, President [email protected] http://www.wastatecops.org (425) 522-2677 Wisconsin C.O.P.S. Denise Held, President [email protected] www.wicops.org (414) 416-5999 States without an active chapter: Hawaii Mississippi Nebraska North Dakota South Dakota West Virginia Wyoming Have an announcement or story idea for the newsletter? Send your news to Sara Slone, Director of Public Relations, at [email protected]. www.nationalcops.org News of Note On February 1, the Florida Sheriff’s Association presented a check in the amount of $10,000 to be divided equally among the five C.O.P.S. Chapters in Florida. Surviving father, Charles Shinholser, accepted the check during the opening ceremony and said, “It is our goal for each survivor in the State of Florida to have a share of these funds through the programs of Concerns of Police Survivors.” Pictured at left is Sheriff Mark Hunter (Committee Chair of the Florida Sheriff’s Association), Charles Shinholser (Executive Director of Northeast Florida C.O.P.S.) and Sadie Darnell (President of the Florida Sheriff’s Association). Thanks also goes to Steve Casey, Executive Director of the Florida Sheriff’s Association. Congratulations to Michael Shinholser, surviving son of Jacksonville (FL) Sheriff’s Officer Charles Ray Shinholser Jr., EOW 12/14/1988. Michael was not quite five years old when he lost his father. Today, at 32, he has outlived his father, and he has turned his career toward serving others in the United States Army. In the past, he has served as an Army Ranger with the Delta Force where he has been deployed 13 times. On February 4th, Michael realized his lifelong dream of becoming a pilot when he graduated first in his class as a Black Hawk helicopter pilot. Congratulations to Blake and Veronica Haynes! Blake and Veronica were married on Saturday, April 23, 2016, in Lebanon, MO. Blake is the Multimedia Specialist at the C.O.P.S. National Office. Veronica is a Registered Nurse for the local hospital where she specializes in Home Health. More Congratulations at the C.O.P.S. National Office goes to Erin Barnett, C.O.P.S. Director of Programs, and her husband Trenton on the birth of their daughter Hallee Ann. Hallee was born February 13, 2016, in Osage Beach, MO. She weighed 9 lbs. 5 oz., and measured 22.5 inches long. Mom and baby are both doing great! In Memoriam Marianne Virginia Wrede, 83, died on Tuesday, February 16th, 2016, in Orange County, CA. Marianne and her husband Ken founded the very first C.O.P.S. Chapter in California. She also worked on the committees to build the National Law Enforcement Officers Memorial Wall in Washington, D.C. and in Sacramento, California. Marianne is survived by Ken, her daughters Karen Lynn-Bledsoe and Kerry Jo Swartz, her brother William Miceli, and one grandchild. Marianne was preceded in death by her son, West Covina (CA) Police Officer Kenneth Scott Wrede, EOW 8/31/1983. 8 ~ Concerns of Police Survivors www.nationalcops.org New Faces at the C.O.P.S. National Office Chris Kahmke joins C.O.P.S. as the Director of Development. Chris grew up in Missouri and currently resides near Springfield, MO. He’s been married to his wife, Becky, for 16 years and they have a tenyear-old daughter, Morgan, and an eight-year-old son, Braden. Chris recently concluded his law enforcement career and jumped at the opportunity to join C.O.P.S. He says, “I want to help C.O.P.S. and survivors by increasing awareness and support for those that have sacrificed so much. I am hoping with my law enforcement background, I can help gain resources and support for survivors, both on a National and grassroots level.” Rachel Johnson is the new Training Coordinator at C.O.P.S. Rachel is originally from Linn Creek, MO, just a few miles from the C.O.P.S. National Office. Rachel now lives in Camdenton with her three children and her nephew. Rachel has spent the last six years in mental health, substance abuse, and behavioral management for adolescence. While completing her Masters in Educational Counseling K-12, Rachel discovered that she enjoyed the development and planning aspect of mental health. She is excited for all the ways C.O.P.S. will allow her to use her passion for empowering individuals and communities while coordinating trainings. Claire Perkins joins C.O.P.S. as a part-time Outreach and Programs Assistant. She is originally from Fort Smith, AR, but recently moved to Missouri with her husband Chris, a Worship Pastor at a local church. Claire says she is excited to be a part of the team because she sees the value in what C.O.P.S does for surviving families and friends. She is currently pursuing a Bachelor of Science degree in Psychology with a focus on Counseling, and she is excited to see how working at C.O.P.S will help her gain experience in that area. Father/Son Duo Uncover Forgotten Officers in Pennsylvania The two men in this story not only put their lives on the line as law enforcement officers, they also spend their free time making sure not a single Pennsylvania officer is forgotten. Oakmont (PA) Police Officers Rick Geppert and his son Rocky have spent countless hours digging through libraries, newspapers, microfiche and any means necessary to try to find all officers who have died in the line of duty in Pennsylvania. Since 2007, they have located a total of 77 officers yet to be honored, the oldest being from 1835. Due to their efforts, 52 of those officers have been added to the Allegheny County Law Enforcement Memorial in Pittsburgh, PA, and 27 names have been added to the National Law Enforcement Officers Memorial Wall in Washington, DC. “Rick and Rocky Geppert have been instrumental in uncovering and recognizing the forgotten deaths of dozens of fallen Pennsylvania officers. Without their unwavering commitment to researching cases to the very end, many of these fallen heroes would have been forgotten. In a time where law enforcement is attacked by the media and misguided activists, their willingness to honor officers who have died protecting America brings a renewed sense of brotherhood to the law enforcement community,” says Chris Cosgriff, Executive Director of The Officer Down Memorial Page. Thank you to Rick and Rocky for your dedication to honoring all fallen heroes in Pennsylvania! Pictured: Oakmont (PA) Police Officer Rick Geppert and his son Officer Rocky Geppert (left) at the National Peace Officers Memorial Service in Washington, DC. Story submitted by: Margo (Surviving Adult Child) Attention all C.O.P.S. Chapters! If you would like to submit an article or event update to be featured in the C.O.P.S. quarterly newsletter, please contact Sara Slone, Director of Public Relations, by emailing [email protected]. Submission Deadlines: Summer Newsletter - June 15th Winter Newsletter - January 15th Fall Newsletter - September 15th Spring Newsletter - March 15th Please note submissions are not guaranteed to be printed and are based on space availability. 9 ~ Concerns of Police Survivors www.nationalcops.org Why I passionately advocate for law enforcement By Cynthia Brown In the late 1970s, I accepted a part-time job working on an early community project with the Boston Police Department. At that time, the relationship between the Department and the people of Boston was tense. A federal court had ruled that Boston schools were unconstitutionally segregated and ordered students bused outside their neighborhoods to correct the situation. Anger, particularly in the white neighborhoods, resulted in near-riots and numerous incidents of violence. My job was in a busy police station in one of the most crimeridden areas of the city. At that time there were very few women or minorities on the force. Most of the two hundred officers assigned to the station where I worked were very outspoken about their conservative views on everything from the Vietnam War to women’s rights to homosexuality. One officer told me he didn’t think “girls” should have driver’s licenses. It was quite a culture shock for a liberalminded young woman who came of age in the 1960s to find herself plopped down in the middle of this strange world. I worked there for three years, organizing and facilitating meetings between residents and the officers who patrolled the district’s neighborhoods. During that time I saw firsthand the officers’ constant dealings with armed assailants, drug dealers, drunks, rapists, gangs, the homeless, the mentally ill, and a whole range of garden-variety crooks. I was continually amazed at the restraint, humor, and humanity they showed as they went about their difficult task of keeping us safe. I also witnessed extraordinary acts of human kindness and compassion. I will never forget the time I came back to the station and found an older officer sobbing—the kind where your whole body heaves. He had just returned from a call where he had found a three-month-old baby dead in a bathtub. The day of Christmas Eve the first year I worked there, I saw one officer take home a particularly violent eleven-year-old boy so he wouldn’t have to spend Christmas Eve alone in a cell. The boy was black. The officer, who had six children of his own, was white. Then there was the policeman who was reading the book, Against Our Will: Men, Women, and Rape, Susan Brownmiller’s seminal history of the crime of rape, after he responded to a brutal sexual assault of an older woman near a church. When I asked him about it, he seemed a little embarrassed. He told me, “I’m just trying to figure out why it would happen. My daughter told me to read this book.” After those three years in that station, I knew I wanted to do something that would help the law enforcement profession. Several years later, when I founded American Police Beat, my goal was to create a publication for law enforcement officers around the country to communicate. Today, American Police 10 ~ Concerns of Police Survivors Beat is the leading police magazine in the United States, with over 250,000 readers every month. Law enforcement agencies in any community in the United States are as varied as their assignments. But they all share a passion for their work and a conviction that they are doing something important with their lives. Despite the constant exposure to America’s dark side, they all view their work as a privilege and a job they are lucky to have. These real-life heroes are also moms and dads. They get sick, suffer moments of weakness, and don’t always emerge victorious. But no matter the circumstances, they are right back to work for their next shifts, trying to do their jobs a little bit better than the day before. They are ordinary people, no different than you or me, except when it’s time to risk their lives to save a stranger or get a criminal off the street. Then these individuals display qualities we rarely see. The years have only strengthened my admiration and respect for the dangerous, stressful, and unpleasant work law enforcement officers do. I know that some people have negative perceptions of police officers. It is my hope that after learning more about the extraordinary efforts these brave men and women make to protect us from evil and violence, those folks will begin to see them in a new way. It has been a privilege for all of us at American Police Beat to take our reach and influence in the law enforcement profession and use that to tell the world the story about the great work Concerns of Police Survivors does for the loved ones, friends and families of officers who have made the ultimate sacrifice to serve and protect the people in their communities. They are as committed to their mission and even more so than when they started over three decades ago. Cynthia Brown is the Publisher of American Police Beat, a magazine that offers comprehensive access to the law enforcement community. She is also the author of Brave Hearts: Extraordinary Stories of Pride, Pain and Courage. For more information and up-to-date stories for the law enforcement community, visit www.apbweb.com. www.nationalcops.org Streamlight, Inc. is one of C.O.P.S. largest supporters. This year, they have created a custom C.O.P.S. lantern that shines BLUE wherever you take it! Purchase yours from the COPS SHOP during National Police Week or online at www.copsshop.com! Children’s Book Donates Proceeds to C.O.P.S. Now you can support C.O.P.S. while enjoying story time with your family through “Rescue Wheels” children books. Rescue Wheels books are written and illustrated by Todd Bryarly. Bryarly created the idea for Rescue Wheels from his son’s love for fire trucks, cop cars and ambulances. To help teach kids important lessons about safety, respect and kindness, characters such as Pete the Cop Car, Ted the Police Chief, Liz the Police Detective, and Dash the K-9 Unit came to life. Bryarly says “Police officers and firefighters risk their lives on a daily basis to serve and protect the general public by placing the public’s interest before their own. They are true heroes and should be honored as such. For this reason, Rescue Wheels has decided to donate 100% of net profits from the sale of Rescue Wheels eBooks to support the families and co-workers of fallen police officers and firefighters through C.O.P.S. and the Terry Farrell Firefighters Scholarship Fund.” Other Rescue Wheels books available are: Place your order online at www.rescuewheels.com! 11 ~ Concerns of Police Survivors www.nationalcops.org Nominees for C.O.P.S. National President Brenda Donner Tami McMillan If re-elected National President of C.O.P.S., I’d like to continue pursuing the idea of chapter-wide collaboration and information-sharing. I believe this would help survivors feel connected to the support offered by C.O.P.S., even if there is no chapter in their region. Over 10 years ago I was welcomed into an organization I didn’t even know existed, Concerns of Police Survivors. An organization in which I hope everyday membership doesn’t continue to grow; and sadly each year welcomes more family and coworkers. Surviving Daughter of Rossford (OH) Patrolman Clifton Miller, EOW 5/14/1966 Unfinished business that I’d like to continue to pursue for our survivors include: 1) The online calendar that the National Office established is a good start for chapters to share what activities are planned, and when. 2) A secure area on our website for chapter newsletters would allow us to learn from the design and content of each chapter’s newsletter, possibly implementing others’ ideas and sharing ours. 3) I envision a ‘market’ for idea-sharing or best practices. How many chapters have great ideas but don’t know how or where to share? A secure area to share ideas and bestpractices might help lower stress levels for new chapter officers, and provide ideas for chapter events. A chapter might have a scavenger hunt at an amusement park. Another might have standardized forms for their meeting minutes. Yet another may have found an inexpensive place to print newsletters. 4) I’d like to see if there is interest in developing a skillsassessment database of our survivors. Many survivors possess incredible skills but don’t know how or when to offer them. This could help if a chapter needs website help, or planning an event, etc. Secure areas on the National C.O.P.S.’ website ensures a strong centralized location for idea-sharing, best practices, and chapter event calendars, which would help National serve survivors even when we are not physically at National Police Week, retreats or chapter events. Surviving Sister of East Palo Alto (CA) Police Officer Rich May, EOW 1/7/2006 The heartbeat of this amazing organization are the feet on the ground in the local chapters; the first representatives of our organization. If elected National President of C.O.P.S., I would utilize my background in education and focus on what I call the “Cycle of Leadership” in the local C.O.P.S. chapters. It takes a village, and the same is true for a local C.O.P.S. chapter; it takes more than a board to run a chapter. My Cycle of Leadership vision would provide the education and support to the local chapters on the importance of getting families and co-workers involved and active in our organization. As the membership in our organization grows, we need survivors to share their experiences with the new membership and encourage them to share their experience with others like them. This organization works because of the amazing membership who is always available to support the survivor. Our members are not professionally trained to be survivors, and I believe this is why it works. We support each other and we educate those who we hope are never part of our organization. We need to focus on the importance every member of our chapter brings to our organization. As a Past President of a local C.O.P.S chapter, I know firsthand the significance of having other survivors, like myself, available to assist in the responsibilities at the local level. I know one single person cannot do it all. As much as they might try, our chapters need support. It would be an incredible honor to represent this organization as National President; sharing my hope as a survivor and my experience as an active local chapter member. I hope to bring the Cycle of Leadership into all our local chapters. I appreciated serving this term, meeting new people, working with the National Office and the Chapter Liaison, and advocating for C.O.P.S. and survivors. Thank you for your input and support this past year! Election results for the 2016-2017 National President and Board Members will be announced during the C.O.P.S. Board and Chapter Training in July 2016. 12 ~ Concerns of Police Survivors www.nationalcops.org 2016 - 2017 C.O.P.S. National Board Nominees Midwest Region Trustee Nancee Hetrick President Brenda Donner Tami McMillan Northeast Region Trustee Happy Snodgrass Northwest Region Trustee Laurie Huckeba Atlantic Region Trustee Hector Dittamo Western Region Trustee Cheryl Schultz South Central Region Trustee Patricia Carruth Southeast Region Trustee Pete Geary Southwest Region Trustee Jimmy Howell James Warriner Central Plains Region Trustee Toyia Bulla To be eligible to vote, a survivor (as defined in the Bylaws Article III Membership; Section 1.) must be registered in the database at the C.O.P.S. National Office as a member of a Chapter no less than 30 days prior to any vote being cast. A survivor can have voting privileges in only one chapter at any one time. Please contact your local Chapter for more information. 13 ~ Concerns of Police Survivors www.nationalcops.org 2016 Hands-On Programs Online Registration is OPEN! www.nationalcops.org C.O.P.S. provides Hands-On Programs designed specifically for each survivorship to help rebuild their shattered lives. These programs allow survivors to receive support from peers who know how they feel, attend seminar sessions specifically designed for their needs and obtain resources to help them on their journey of grief and coping. Our programs are held in a relaxed setting that is removed from the stress of everyday life and are free for survivors to attend. The only cost to the survivors is their travel to and from the program. It is our goal for you to leave a retreat feeling relaxed, with a continuing support system and a tremendous sense of personal growth and self-awareness for the future. C.O.P.S. Adult Childrens Retreat June 17-20- YMCA Trout Lodge - Potosi, MO C.O.P.S. Adult Children’s Retreat is planned for surviving adult children and their spouse/domestic partner (21 years or older). At times, adult-aged children are very young when they lose their parent and struggle with their loss as they grow into the milestones of adulthood, while others may have lost their parent in their adulthood. Attendees of this program are a wide variety of ages and all ages are encouraged to attend. C.O.P.S. Young Adults Camp June 27-July 1 - Federal Law Enforcement Training Center - North Charleston, SC C.O.P.S. Young Adults Camp is planned for surviving children and siblings (15-20 years of age). Growing up without a parent or older sibling role model can be challenging for young teenagers and young adults. C.O.P.S. Young Adults Camp will give surviving children and siblings the opportunity to be surrounded by peers who understand, attend grief seminar sessions specifically designed for their needs and participate in fun and challenging outdoor activities. This camp is planned to offer an alternative program option to surviving minor-aged children and a new program option for surviving minor-aged siblings. We still encourage surviving children to attend the Outward Bound® Adventure Program, but if they are physically unable to participate or have participated for a few years and would like a change, this camp would be a good fit for them. C.O.P.S. Outward Bound® Adventure July 24-31 - White Water Rafting in Canyonlands National Park - Cataract Canyon, UT C.O.P.S. Outward Bound® Adventure is planned for teenagers and young adults (15-20 years of age). Space is limited for this program. Outward Bound® is an adventure-based program structured to inspire character development, selfdiscovery, compassion for others and to actively engage in creating a better world. This year’s Outward Bound® Adventure will be a water rafting trip taking place on the Colorado River through the Cataract Canyon in the Canyonlands National Park in Utah. This program is designed to challenge surviving children to overcome the obstacles they face in their lives after losing their parent to a line-of-duty death and allow them to be surrounded by peers who genuinely understand what they are going through. C.O.P.S. Kids Camp July 25-31 - Salvation Army Lake Camp - East Troy, WI C.O.P.S. Kids Camp is planned for surviving children (6-14 years of age) and their parent/guardian. Children MUST be accompanied by a parent or guardian. C.O.P.S. Kids Camp provides family interaction, camp activities, grief counseling, relaxation and lots of old-fashioned fun! Campers will have the opportunity to attend age appropriate grief counseling sessions and participate in activities such as: swimming, fishing, arts and crafts, canoeing, ropes courses, archery, shooting sports and campfire skits. C.O.P.S. Fiancés & Significant Others Retreat August 19-22 - YMCA Trout Lodge - Potosi, MO C.O.P.S. Fiancés/Significant Others Retreat is planned for surviving fiancés, significant others, live-in partners, parents of the fallen officer’s children that were not married and life partners of law enforcement officers who died in the line of duty. Surviving Fiancés, Significant Others and Life Partners have to cope with the fact that plans they may have created for their future have changed after the loss of their officer. This retreat allows them to get assistance on how to handle these challenging life changes. 14~ Concerns of Police Survivors www.nationalcops.org C.O.P.S. Co-Workers for Couples Retreat August 25-28 - YMCA Trout Lodge - Potosi, MO C.O.P.S. Co-Workers for Couples Retreat is planned for surviving co-workers, active or retired, and their spouse/ domestic partner (21 years or older). C.O.P.S. Co-Workers for Couples Retreat will give couples the opportunity to discuss their grief issues in a relaxed setting and gain a better understanding of what each side is going through. Many times surviving co-workers have a difficult time explaining to their family what they are going through after the loss of a co-worker. Additionally, significant others of surviving co-workers struggle with how to support their loved one as well as the fear that something will happen to them. These issues will be addressed through seminar sessions and teambuilding activities. Attendance at this retreat is strictly confidential and participant names are not shared. C.O.P.S. Siblings Retreat September 9-12 - YMCA Trout Lodge - Potosi, MO C.O.P.S. Siblings Retreat is planned for surviving siblings and their spouse/domestic partner (21 years or older). On occasion surviving siblings have been referred to as the forgotten ones, due to putting their grief aside to help the surviving parents, spouses and children. Siblings who attend this program find relief in having an outlet to express themselves with others who understand how they feel. C.O.P.S. Spouses Retreat September 23-26 - YMCA Trout Lodge - Potosi, MO C.O.P.S. Spouses Retreat is planned for surviving spouses of law enforcement officers who died in the line of duty. After losing their spouse to a line-of-duty death, surviving spouses can be faced with challenges such as changing life plans, raising children alone and/or becoming a one income household. Surviving spouses will spend the weekend bonding and receiving support from others who genuinely understand how they feel, participating in activities that challenge their limits and unwinding in a stress-free environment. C.O.P.S. Co-Workers Retreat September 30 - October 3 - YMCA Trout Lodge - Potosi, MO C.O.P.S. Co-Workers Retreat is planned for surviving co-workers, active or retired (21 years or older). C.O.P.S. Co-Workers Retreat is designed for surviving co-workers to receive support from other law enforcement officers who have experienced a line-of-duty death. Topics of discussion at this program include but are not limited to: how to cope with survivor guilt, assisting surviving families, how to help your department understand what you are going through, and awareness of post traumatic stress disorder. Attendance at this retreat is strictly confidential and participant names are not shared. C.O.P.S. Extended Family Retreat October 14-17 - YMCA Trout Lodge - Potosi, MO C.O.P.S. Extended Family Retreat is planned for the surviving extended family members and their spouse/domestic partner (21 years or older). Eligible family members include: grandparents, aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews, cousins, and in-laws. After the loss of their officer, extended family members typically assist the immediate family members with their grief and want to know how to better help them. These subjects are addressed as well as how to handle their own grief. This retreat would be fitting for non-traditional families where an officer may have been raised by someone other than their biological parents. C.O.P.S. Parents Retreat 2016 October 21-24 - C.A. Vines Arkansas 4-H Center - Little Rock, AR C.O.P.S. Parents Retreat is planned for surviving parents of law enforcement officers who died in the line of duty. Couples as well as single parents are encouraged to attend. Losing a child can be the most devastating thing for a parent to experience, especially in a sudden, traumatic and often violent death. After the loss of their officer, surviving parents must deal with their personal grief as well as supporting other family members along their grief journey. C.O.P.S. Parents Retreat will help you resolve your individual and family grief issues through attending grief seminar sessions specifically designed for your needs, participating in challenging and fun outdoor activities and receiving support from peers who truly understand. 15 ~ Concerns of Police Survivors www.nationalcops.org National Police Week 2016 General Information Orientation NP W 2 016 On Friday, May 13, orientation sessions will be held from 9:00 a.m. - 3:00 p.m. every hour, on the hour in the Terrace Ballroom, Lower Level, Hilton Alexandria Mark Center. First-year survivors are asked to attend an orientation session. Shuttle Bus Service Between National Police Week Hotels Shuttles will run from May 13 through May 16 throughout the day. Shuttle buses are available to take you to and from the Hilton Alexandria Mark Center, Hilton Crystal City, DoubleTree Crystal City and Marriott Courtyard Pentagon South. Shuttle service will follow varied schedules each day, depending on “peak” transportation times. Check the daily schedules in the lobby of each official C.O.P.S. hotel and/or the All Points Bulletin (APB) provided each day. Friday, May 13 Saturday, May 14 Sunday, May 15 Monday, May 16 7:00 a.m. - 6:30 p.m. 7:00 a.m. - 7:30 p.m. No shuttle service except for early morning escort officers at 6:45 a.m. 7:00 a.m. - 9:30 p.m. (There will be no pick-ups from overflow hotels after 7:30 p.m. Shuttles will only return riders from the Hilton Alexandria back to other hotels until 9:30 p.m.) Law Enforcement United “Road to Hope” Arrival Ceremony Marine Corps Memorial w Thursday May 12 w 12:30 p.m. - 3:00 p.m. Active/retired law enforcement officers and survivors will complete Law Enforcement United’s 250+ mile rides from Chesapeake, VA; Reading, PA; and Cumberland, MD. They will be carrying flags of fallen officers from 2015 along the “Road to Hope” bicycle ride to present to the surviving families attending this arrival ceremony. Busing from the C.O.P.S. host hotel, the Hilton Alexandria Mark Center, to the event and return will be provided. All proceeds raised by LEU support C.O.P.S. Kids Camp and the Officer Down Memorial Page. 28th Annual Candlelight Vigil The National Mall w Friday, May 13 w 8:00 p.m. Shuttle buses will transport people to and from the C.O.P.S. hotels to the Candlelight Vigil. Additional details of transportation to the vigil will be available to you prior to National Police Week. At the vigil, there is a small reserved area for wheelchairs. Please locate a volunteer or staff member for assistance. Law enforcement officers are requested to join the ranks of other officers who remain standing during the ceremony. The Vigil is held rain or shine; please prepare accordingly. Due to construction of the Law Enforcement Museum, near the memorial site, this event has been temporarily moved to The National Mall for 2016. The National Law Enforcement Officers Memorial will be open during National Police Week. Shuttle buses will run to the National Law Enforcement Officers Memorial Wall on Thursday May 12 (3:00 - 8:30 p.m.) and Saturday May 14 (4:30-9:00 p.m.). 16 ~ Concerns of Police Survivors www.nationalcops.org Sacrifice Honor Remember National Police Survivors’ Conference Saturday, May 14 & Monday, May 16 w 9:00 a.m. - 4:00 p.m. The National Police Survivors’ Conference provides all surviving family members and co-workers affected by a line-of-duty death the opportunity to find support and understanding from other survivors, access to mental health professionals, and seminar sessions that will help them and their family address their grief issues. Conference attendees leave National Police Week with a greater understanding of the grief process and the support available through C.O.P.S. C.O.P.S. Kids/Teens Activities Saturday, May 14 & Monday, May 16 w 8:20 a.m. - 4:30 p.m. Check-in for C.O.P.S. Kids/Teens and Day Care programs will be held in the Upper Foyer of the Hilton Alexandria Mark Center on Friday, May 13 from 9:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. Children must be pre-registered and must attend both days of the C.O.P.S. Kids/Teens program. There is no onsite registration for these activities. The C.O.P.S. Kids/Teens program is intended only for fallen officers’ surviving children/step-children and siblings currently in kindergarten through 12th grade. Day Care for Surviving Children/Step-Children and Siblings of the Fallen Officers (Infants - Pre-school) Saturday, May 14 & Monday, May 16 w 8:30 a.m. - 4:30 p.m. Concerns of Police Survivors provides day care for infants through pre-school at the Hilton Alexandria Mark Center while adults are in seminar sessions. This service is provided exclusively to the surviving children/step-children and siblings of the fallen officers only during seminar hours. Children at day care will be fed lunch on both days. Please place a check mark on the registration form on the line for each day you will need child care. The 35th Annual National Peace Officers’ Memorial Service Sunday, May 15 w 11:00 a.m. w National Peace Officers’ Memorial Day The National Peace Officers’ Memorial Service honors officers who died in the line of duty during the previous calendar year. The service will be held on the West Front Lawn of the United States Capitol. Surviving families of 2015 will have the opportunity to participate in the Memorial Service; however, the number of family members afforded this opportunity will be limited. All other family members can attend in a non-participating role. The length of the Memorial Service varies based on the program presented each year. Buses returning to hotels will run until 5:00 p.m. If you plan to depart the DC area immediately following the Memorial Service, do not make flight plans before 7:00 p.m., there will be no transportation from the Memorial Service to the airport. You must take transportation back to your hotel. (The memorial service is in direct sunlight. It is recommended you bring a hat, sunscreen, water and snacks.) Picnic on the Patio Monday, May 16 w 6:00 p.m. - 9:00 p.m. Concerns of Police Survivors hosts the Picnic on the Patio at the Hilton Alexandria Mark Center to close out National Police Week. There will be activities to entertain everyone. Dinner will be at 6:00 p.m. and music and dancing will follow to help you unwind from a difficult week. Returning survivors and co-workers must pay the returning survivors’ fee in order to attend the Picnic on the Patio. Important Update: C.O.P.S. regrets to inform you this year’s NPC-50 Relay Race scheduled for May 13th has been cancelled. The U.S. Secret Service has long supported this race as its host at the James J. Rowley Training Center. Unfortunately, due to the current operational commitments of the 2016 Presidential Campaign, extensive travel of the President and Vice President, and planning of the Republican and Democratic National Conventions, the Secret Service has advised they will be unable to host this event. The NPC-50 committee will begin to evaluate other ways in which to continue to support C.O.P.S. and its mission. 17 ~ Concerns of Police Survivors www.nationalcops.org Federal Legislation on Lowering Flag to Half-Staff on May 15 Fifty-four years ago, in 1962, President John F. Kennedy signed the Public law 87-726 designating May 15 as Peace Officers’ Memorial Day, and the week in which May 15 falls as National Police Week. The law was amended by the Violent Crime Control and Law Enforcement Act of 1994, Public Law 103-322, signed by President Bill Clinton, directing that the flag of the United States be displayed at half-staff on all government buildings on May 15 each year. While the actual dates change from year to year, National Police Week is always the calendar week, beginning on Sunday, which includes May 15. Sample Proclamation for National Police Week: Whereas, The Congress and President of the United States have designated May 15 as Peace Officers’ Memorial Day, and the week in which May 15 falls as National Police Week; and Whereas, the members of the law enforcement agency of (municipality) play an essential role in safeguarding the rights and freedoms of (municipality); and Whereas, it is important that all citizens know and understand the duties, responsibilities, hazards, and sacrifices of their law enforcement agency, and that members of our law enforcement agency recognize their duty to serve the people by safeguarding life and property, by protecting them against violence and disorder, and by protecting the innocent against deception and the weak against oppression; and Whereas, the men and women of the law enforcement agency of (municipality) unceasingly provide a vital public service; Now, therefore, I, (title) of (municipality), call upon all citizens of (municipality) and upon all patriotic, civic and educational organizations to observe the week of May (date) - (date), (year), as Police Week with appropriate ceremonies and observances in which all of our people may join in commemorating law enforcement officers, past and present, who, by their faithful and loyal devotion to their responsibilities, have rendered a dedicated service to their communities and, in so doing, have established for themselves an enviable and enduring reputation for preserving the rights and security of all citizens. I further call upon all citizens of (municipality) to observe (day), May (date), as Peace Officers’ Memorial Day in honor of those law enforcement officers who, through their courageous deeds, have made the ultimate sacrifice in service to their community or have become disabled in the performance of duty, and let us recognize and pay respect to the survivors of our fallen heroes. In witness thereof, I have here unto set my hand and caused the Seal of the (municipality) to be affixed. Get your department to lower their flags on May 15 and have your Get your department to lower their flags on MayWeek. 15 city/town council adopt a Proclamation for National Police and have your city/town council adopt a Proclamation for National Police Week. The official dates of National Police Week 2016 are May 15-21. Official dates for the observance of National Police Week 2016 is the week surrounding May 15. However, events are planned for May 11-17, every year. 18 ~ Concerns of Police Survivors www.nationalcops.org C.O.P.S. Spotlight on: RIDE4COPS Former police officer, Harry Herington, made a promise to his partners just as thousands of officers do today – “If something happens to me, take care of my family.” Today as the CEO of NIC Inc., he continues that promise with Ride4Cops – an initiative to support the families of fallen officers. Ride4Cops takes Harry’s personal pledge to each State Capitol to raise awareness of the inherent dangers of law enforcement and to support survivors. Along the journey, he rides the Memorial Bike, a customized Harley-Davidson that has become a traveling memorial to our fallen heroes. Today Ride4Cops has traveled coast-to-coast from the Statehouse in Trenton, New Jersey, to the Capitol in Honolulu, Hawaii. And, the ride continues as Ride4Cops fulfills its goal of visiting each state capital in the United States. With each ride, donations are collected to help the children, spouses, parents, siblings, fiancés/significant others, extended family members and co-workers of officers who have died in the line of duty through C.O.P.S. Harry has been a supporter of C.O.P.S. and active volunteer for several years. He has supported a variety of C.O.P.S. initiatives including various chapter golf tournaments, National Police Week events, and Kids Camp. For his dedication and support, C.O.P.S. presented him with The Charles Shinholser Award for Volunteerism in 2012. During one of Harry’s first Ride4Cops events, he was approached by a surviving spouse. The crowds had dispersed and she handed him a photo of her late husband. She said, “I have carried this with me ever since he died. But, now, I want you to have it. I want him to ride with you.” Harry has worked tirelessly to support the families of fallen officers. “When I see in their eyes how important this is to them, I know I must keep going. I’m proud to support C.O.P.S. as we work towards this shared mission together,” says Harry. In March 2016, Harry and NIC committed to a significant donation to help advance the C.O.P.S. mission. On behalf of the entire C.O.P.S. membership, we send our greatest thanks to Harry and Ride4Cops for your unwavering support and dedication to the surviving families of America’s fallen law enforcement heroes. “A police officer’s greatest fear is not their safety, but what happens to their family. C.O.P.S. is there to help with that concern.” - Harry Herington 19 ~ Concerns of Police Survivors www.nationalcops.org A Sibling’s Grief: Losing My Brother in the Line of Duty By Tina Jaeckle, Ph.D., LCSW, B.C.E.T.S., F.N.C.C.M. and Stephanie Barnes Tina - I closed my eyes, exhaled, and waited for the sound of the 21-gun salute. I instinctively knew this would be followed by the final radio call, taps, folding of the flag, and the playing of the bagpipes. As a crisis and trauma consultant with first responders, I have had the honor and sadness to attend numerous memorial services for fallen law enforcement officers and yet, with each one of these ritualistic ceremonies, I am always struck by their powerful impact for those who experience it. Ritual can be defined as an act or series of acts regularly repeated in a precise manner and they have a special purpose. While I have witnessed countless officers in attendance let down their guard long enough to shed a tear, I understand these demonstrations of grief and respect the need to be given a safe time and place to feel this pain and loss. It strangely allows us to attend to our emotional wounds. It is also through the concept of symbolic interactionism that we give symbols and meaning through the lens of these tragic events and these often drive the ultimate interpretation of the overall impact in our own lives. As a part of this process, survivors of law enforcement officers killed in the line of duty often must engage in the sharing of their story as they work toward healing and implications for their own purpose in the world. As they recount the details, often time and time again, the meaning of their loss evolves and often gives them direction to positively impact the lives of others. Although difficult to hear, we have the ability to learn valuable life lessons from their grief, share in their journey, and can help them embrace the positive influence of the memories. It thus becomes a ritual. I was recently contacted by Stephanie Barnes, the sister of fallen St. Petersburg (FL) Police K-9 Officer Jeffrey Yaslowitz, EOW 1-24-2011. She agreed to share her own story of love and loss and how it has created a deep desire for her to help others. I encourage you to truly listen as it will definitely touch your heart as it did mine. Stephanie - The morning of January 24, 2011 began with the typical routine. I woke up and turned on the local news channel and started to get the children ready for school just like every other day. A breaking news story came across the television that caught my eye. There was a shooting in St. Petersburg and the police were involved. My brother worked nights, so I was not initially concerned that he was at the scene, though my heart was sick for the family that would be getting news that their loved one was involved in a shooting. I called my father, as I always did in the mornings to see what he was up to. Dad was a substitute teacher and he was working at the same school as Jeff’s wife, Lorraine. I told 20 ~ Concerns of Police Survivors him about the breaking news story, and he called out Jeff’s name. I said, “Dad, he’s not working, he works nights!” He reminded me that he was filling in for another officer and was working. My heart quickly jumped, but then I calmed down quickly telling Dad, “He’s fine, they did not mention anything about a K-9 officer.” I finished getting the children ready, and then dropped my daughter off to school. As I drove home, I got a call from Dad telling me that he and Lorraine were just picked up at the school by the police. As Dad feared, Jeff had been shot and was now at the hospital. Dad and Lorraine were being taken to the hospital. I froze knowing this was not good! I called my mother at work, she was a teacher assistant at my children’s school. They told me that she could not come to the phone, and I remember crying at that moment telling them that her son has been shot. They quickly got her on the phone, and I told her she needs to come to my house, Jeff’s been shot. She arrived and we watched the news briefly and decided we needed to get to the hospital. By that time, I had already called my husband and told him about the shooting, so he was on his way home. I still had my 3 year old, and my 8 year old that was home sick, so my husband met us to take the boys as my mom and I headed to the hospital. While on our way down to St. Petersburg, Dad called and told us that Jeff was gone. Mom and I were devastated. Thankfully, the St. Petersburg Police Department met us half way and transported us the rest of the way in the officer’s car. We arrived at the hospital after what seemed like an eternity, though we were driving very fast to get there, and I’ll never forget the look on those faces I saw! I just wanted someone to smile, and show me that it was going to be ok. Surely the news Dad had was not true. We walked into the hospital, and everything was overwhelming. Seeing Dad’s devastation over losing his son is something that I will never forget. My father could barely stand up, he was so distraught over the news. Mom and I were taken into the room where Jeff was so peacefully laying on the gurney. His head covered where he had been shot, and a blanket over his body. It was so quiet, and I just wanted to tell him the joke is over wake up! But it was not going to happen, he was already gone. How could this happen? I had just talked to him two days ago! This is my big brother, he could not be dead! Two days earlier on January 22, 2011, our family gathered www.nationalcops.org for a celebration of my grandmother’s 95th birthday. It was a great day celebrating her life, and laughing with the family. The whole family was to be there. Mom, Dad, Jeff and Lorraine, my sister Michelle, aunts, uncles, and cousins. As we waited for my cousins to arrive, Mom and Dad, Jeff, Michelle, and I were reminiscing about good times from years past. I remember laughing so hard I was crying at times just listening to my brother’s dry humor. I never would have thought, that day, that this is the last time I would see my brother! Jeff was two years older than me, he was the middle child, and my sister was 4 years older than him. We were all very close growing up, but we also fought as siblings do. I am thankful that I have the memories I do of my brother, playing adventure people, building tents in our living room, creating our own summer Olympics during our long summer breaks, playing stick ball, and kick the can, then working together in college traveling to do inventory on bank computers, and working in a telemarketing job together before he became a police officer. I remember the day he married Lorraine. I was so happy for him, but sad I would not have him around like old times. We were getting older, and our lives were moving on. Thankfully he stayed close, and when I got married we built homes in the same neighborhood so our kids were now growing up close together. Dad would schedule family vacations, even as we all were having our own children. The trips we took to the beach and to the mountains were so much fun, but now would be no more. A sibling, and friend, I have known so close for 37 years was now gone tragically! One day I am laughing with him, two days later he is gone. As a sibling, I literally feel like a piece of my heart has been ripped apart. It’s not supposed to happen that way. As days, weeks, and months passed after Jeff’s death, it seemed we were going to so many memorials, benefits, and events in my brother’s honor. The police department Jeff worked for was very good at making sure we knew about events they were putting on, and Lorraine was very good to my family, ensuring we knew about them as well, and even asked us to go with her to many of the benefits that were put on by the community. I was always honored to be there, knowing that the benefit was honoring my brother, and the great sacrifice he made, but there were times it was hurtful as well. I’ll never forget being at one event in particular. Lorraine was going to drop a puck on the ice to start the hockey game between other officers and some professional hockey players. She had asked me to take a picture of her, which I was more than happy to do. I asked some people if I could go to the other side of the ice where I thought I could get a better picture. The next words I heard from the people 21 ~ Concerns of Police Survivors I asked will never go away from my memory of that event. They told me you have to be someone important to go to that side. Important? I looked at them trying to hold back my tears and said, “Is being Jeff’s sister important enough?” They looked at me and apologized, and said “Yes, you can go over there.” At other events people would approach and thank me for coming and supporting my sister-in-law. Support her? Of course I will support her! But I am here for my healing as well, is all I could think. It seemed anytime someone heard I was Jeff’s sister, the next question would be, “How is the wife?” They always say, she is one strong woman. Yes, she is, and I am very proud of her, and her children! But I am missing him too, is all I wanted to say. I have also borne the hurt I saw in my parents, and it was so hard to watch. There were events that my mother just appeared in the background; no one even knew she was Jeff’s mom. I still cry sometimes when she talks about just wanting to be there when they picked out his plot at the cemetery. She did not need to be the one to make the big decisions, she just wanted to be there. And then watching my dad grieve in a way that only seven months after Jeff’s death, he passed away suddenly. I do not believe anyone was intentionally hurtful, but at times it felt our feelings were not as important. The guilt I have felt for my feelings over the last few years has bothered me. I never went to the benefits or events to get recognition, nor did I expect anything out of the events or benefits. I went because it was my brother, and I love him, had a relationship with him, and needed to heal as well! Not that anyone has ever meant to hurt me with words, but it did hurt, because it gave me a feeling as if being a sibling was not important. I felt invisible at times, yet I grew up with him. I knew him my whole life. He was my big brother. I knew things about him that no one ever knew or will ever know about him. Stephanie and her husband Brandon at C.O.P.S. Siblings Retreat 2015. I have sought counseling after losing my brother, in trying to cope and heal, and that has truly helped me. Organizations (continued on page 24) www.nationalcops.org Tips for Fundraising C.O.P.S. has several special events coming up that allow fundraising opportunities for you and your community. Here are a few tips to help you get a headstart on your fundraising goals: Garage Sale: One person’s trash can be someone else’s treasure. Get all of your friends to donate items for a super garage sale and have people “buy” things with pledges. Advertise it in a local newspaper. Ask your Doctors, Dentist, Chiropractor, Insurance Agent, Veterinarian, and other members of your community (that you pay to visit) for pledges. Extra Change Exchange: Ask all of your friends and relatives to put their extra change in aside for a month. At the end of the month, you could have quite large chunk of change donated for your event. Mow-a-Thon: Hold a mow-a-thon. Get your kids involved and declare a weekend where you will mow your neighbor’s lawns for $50 (or whatever amount you want to set). Car Wash: Hold a car wash either in your neighborhood or at work. Ask some local business to contribute items you will need for the car wash and get your friends involved. Labels: Create return address labels that state “I’m walking 25 miles in 2 days in honor of Officer (name). Will you sponsor me?” Silent Auction at work: Ask some of your local businesses to donate items, (i.e. gift cards, movie tickets, car washes, etc.) Set minimum pledge limits. Hold the auction over a week and notify the winners. This is a great idea for work. Swear Jar: Every time a family member or co-worker swears, have them pay a dollar to your fund. Holidays: Don’t forget about all those holiday parties. Bring your pledge forms and hit up everyone in attendance. My Neighbor: Write to all your neighbors on your block or in your apartment building or complex. Attach an update on your training and fundraising progress. Photographer: If you are an artist/ photographer, do portraits for pledges. Gala Night: Host an elegant or formal party. Make it a “blue carpet” event on the night of your favorite awards show. Fundraising Dinner: Ask a local restaurant to host a Fundraising Dinner for you. Have a Wine-Cheese Tasting Party: An interesting spin on this one: have your guests (along w/ a donation) bring an inexpensive bottle of wine in a paper bag. Everyone samples the wine and votes on their favorite. At the end of the night the wine is revealed. (Please drink responsibly and never drink and drive.) Theme Dinner: Hold a theme dinner party for 10 of your friends. Donation: $50 a head. Spend no more than $20 a head on the food and you will have $300 in pledges. Better yet, get the food donated if possible and simply ask for donations at the door. Might we suggest a BLUE costume theme dinner? Old Prom Dress Donations: This is fun! Have an old prom or bridesmaid dress in your closet? Put that old dress to good use for a good cause, get your friends to do it as well! Rock On! If you know musicians, ask them to perform a benefit concert. Tell people that their admission ticket is a check made out to C.O.P.S. Ask everyone you know! Ask everyone you see. Ask everyone you talk to. Don’t be afraid to ASK! Movie Party: Hold a movie party at your house/apartment. Every time the word ‘Run’ or ‘Walk’ is said in the movie, everyone antes up $1 in a pledge bowl. Birthday: In lieu of gift for your birthday, ask your friends and family to make a pledge. Wedding: In lieu of a gift for your wedding, ask your friends and family to make a pledge. Delegate: Give 10 friends 10 pledge forms and ask them to get pledges for you or send emails to 10 of their friends. Bright Flyers: Create a flyer to request donations and make it stand out with bright paper, pictures of your officer, and other key information. Business Cards: Make up business cards with the COPS WALK information - your name and address to send donations to or the web address. Hand them out to everyone! 22 ~ Concerns of Police Survivors Give a captivating story when asking for donations. You don’t have to tell your full story, but let them know how C.O.P.S. has personally impacted your life. Make your donors your partners. Yes, you are the one lacing up the sneakers, but it is their dollars that are helping to rebuild shattered lives. Make sure they know how big of a role they are playing! If they say “Let me think about it” or “I will get back to you”, make sure you set a reminder to follow up with them. Don’t take “NO” personally. They just can’t donate right now. After the walk, don’t forget to send donors a thank you card and even include a picture of you crossing the finish line. Do you have other ideas that have proven to be successful? Share them with the C.O.P.S. membership on the C.O.P.S. National Facebook page at: www.facebook.com/nationalcops www.nationalcops.org Notice to Claimants Protocol for Determining PSOB Claims Involving 9/11 Exposure Effective April 6, 2016, the Bureau of Justice Assistance (BJA) has implemented a protocol for determining Public Safety Officers’ Benefits (PSOB) claims submitted for firefighters, law enforcement officers, and other first responders whose deaths and disabilities have been linked to exposure from their September 11, 2001 response efforts. Background: Currently approximately 175 death and disability cases arising from illnesses related to exposure to the 9/11 site have been filed with the PSOB office. These claims have been pending while medical experts have worked to establish a link between the exposure of public safety officers to the chemicals and toxins at the 9/11 sites and the injuries, in many cases different forms of cancer, which caused the officers’ deaths. Through the dedicated work of the medical experts at the World Trade Center Health Program (WTCHP), following the enactment of the James Zadroga 9/11 Health and Compensation Act of 2010, WTCHP has developed a methodology to determine whether exposure to hazards and toxins resulting from the attacks was substantially likely to have been a significant factor in aggravating, contributing to, or causing many serious medical conditions suffered by the nation’s public safety officers who responded to the sites to assist in rescue, recovery, and clean-up efforts. This methodology is used by the September 11th Victim Compensation Fund (VCF). Working in close collaboration with the WTCHP and the VCF, BJA has developed a process which enables it to rely on the WTCHP’s methodology to determine PSOB 9/11 exposure claims based on the WTCHP medical certifications and VCF determinations. The ability to access and rely on the public agency findings of WTCHP and the VCF will allow BJA to process a significant number of the PSOB claims filed thus far for deaths and disabilities related to 9/11 exposure. Until the WTCHP methodology was established, no medical and legal framework was available to link the 9/11 exposure with the wide range of serious medical conditions now accepted by the WTCHP as causally linked to the attacks. BJA is also coordinating 9/11 payments with the VCF because, by law, any PSOB death or disability payment is required to be reduced by the amount of a VCF award. Protocol for Determining 9/11 Claims with WTCHP / VCF Certifications / Determinations 1. BJA will request from the WTCHP medical certifications and eligibility determination letters from the VCF related to pending PSOB claims. BJA will ask Claimants to provide medical release forms to obtain medical information from WTCHP when necessary. BJA will also request from VCF the amounts of its awards, if any, to apply the required offset. 2. After BJA reviews all PSOB claims having a WTCHP certification or VCF eligibility determination letter, BJA will provide written notice to survivors and injured officers regarding the outcome of their claim and any PSOB benefit amount they may receive. Claims without WTCHP / VCF Certifications / Determinations Under its current regulations, BJA cannot independently apply the WTCHP methodology to 9/11 claims without WTCHP certifications or VCF determinations. For these PSOB 9/11 claims, BJA is developing a process to allow the claims to be determined using the methodology established by the WTCHP. For additional information regarding this process or the PSOB Program, contact the PSOB Office at 1-888-744-6513. Approved: Denise E. O’Donnell Director Bureau of Justice Assistance Date: April 6, 2016 23 ~ Concerns of Police Survivors www.nationalcops.org 2nd Annual C.O.P.S. National Conference on Law Enforcement Wellness & Training November 11-13, 2016 Grapevine, Texas Topics Include: Police Chaplain Programs Law Enforcement Officer Benefits Peer Support Programs Retirement Transition Officer Fitness and Nutrition “To know that I am not alone and to hear some of my fellow Managing Cumulative Stress co-workers who I admire and respect say that they are experiencing Negativity and Intense Scrutiny some of the same things I am was encouraging to me. Although I was Handling a Line-of-Duty Death sent to this training as a member of my agency’s Peer Support Team, I personally benefited from the conference in a way that I would not Law Enforcement Spouse/Family Support have otherwise.” Post-Trauma Stress -Testimonial from 2015 Conference Attendee ...and much more! Register NOW at www.nationalcops.org! (continued from page 21) like C.O.P.S. have helped, and have been a blessing as well. Through them, I have had opportunities to meet and talk to other surviving siblings. I have learned and realized that I am not alone. Others are going through, and have gone through the same feelings and hurt that I have. The feelings are valid, and we can heal from that. Holidays have become hard, not having him here opening up gifts, cutting the turkey, taking the kids trick or treating together, hiding Easter eggs, or even having to stress finding a fudgy whale cake on his birthday. I do feel that God has blessed our family that we were so close, and had some great memories of times together, but the emptiness never goes away. Some say that it gets easier as time goes on, but honestly, it just becomes a reality that you learn to live with. I praise God that I was able to have 37 years on earth with a wonderful brother, that meant so much to so many, but I cry because I miss him making me laugh, I miss the chats we had, I miss the brother I grew up with. I rejoice knowing that Jeff is in a better place, and that one day I will see him again. Until that day I have made a promise to myself, to my brother, and to my Lord that I will live each day sharing the passion we grew up sharing in helping other people. 24 ~ Concerns of Police Survivors Jeff knew that there would be risks in his job, but you never truly believe that it will happen to you. I may never know, or understand why Jeff’s life was taken on January 24, 2011, but I know he died a hero, and I tell my story to continue to share his testimony, and ensure that I live my life helping others heal from their tragedy that they have faced in life. This article was originally posted in the law enforcement publication Law Enforcement Today. In 2015, C.O.P.S. Siblings Retreat hit an attendance record of 158 survivors. www.nationalcops.org C.O.P.S. Special Events Congratulations to all participants who completed the 25-mile walk in Scottsdale, AZ at COPS WALK Southwest! You raised a net income of $42,394! YOU DID IT! There are two more COPS WALK events just around the corner! September 16-18, 2016 St. Louis, MO October 14-16, 2016 Harpers Ferry, WV It’s that time again for the C.O.P.S. Blue Ribbon 5K! This year’s theme is all about your HERO! Have some fun showing your support for law enforcement by dressing in blue or dressing up as your favorite super hero. Batman? Superman? Policeman? Who will you dress up as? Join us in Linn Creek, MO Saturday, August 20, 2016 Register for all events at WWW.NATIONALCOPS.ORG! 25 ~ Concerns of Police Survivors www.nationalcops.org Major Donors and Chapter Donations - 2/1/2016 - 3/31/2016 Major Donors Streamlight, Inc., PA $94,400.00 NIC, KS $50,000.00 Officer Harold L. Vitale Memorial Fund, MA $25,000.00 Justice Federal Credit Union, VA $24,742.50 FBI National Academy, VA $16,362.70 US Armor, CA $6,000.00 Shirley Richardson, MO $5,400.00 Talking Stick Resort, AZ $5,000.00 Peace Officers Research Association of California, CA $5,000.00 Texas Municipal Police Association, TX $5,000.00 Horace Small, TN $5,000.00 Behind the Badge Foundation, WA $5,000.00 National Western Life Insurance Co., TX $4,787.56 Port Authority Police Benevolent Association, NJ $3,250.00 The Wesley & Jacinda Dyk Giving Fund, CO $3,000.00 Denise McDonald, VA $1,719.00 Wyoming Association of Sheriffs & Chiefs of Police, WY $1,500.00 American Association of State Troopers, FL $1,500.00 San Jose Police Officers’ Association, CA $1,500.00 Walton County Sheriff’s Office, FL $1,222.41 Project Peacekeeper LLC, FL $1,095.00 Silicon Valley Community Foundation, CA $1,065.00 Fraternal Order of Police Illinois State Lodge, IL $1,000.00 St. Louis Area Police Chiefs Association, MO First Potomac Realty Investment, LP, MD Guardians of the Ribbon, Inc., AZ FOP Baltimore County Lodge #4, MD Deputy Sheriffs’ Association of San Diego County, CA Hien Nguyen, VA Nassau County PBA, NY Massachusetts Police Association, Inc., MA Detectives’ Endowment Association, NY Chicago Police Sergeants’ Association, IL Law Enforcement Legal Defense Fund, VA Peace Officers Research Association of Nevada, NV International Association of Chiefs of Police, VA California Police Chiefs Association, Inc., CA Dive Rescue International, Inc., CO Rhonda Shough, PA Brant L. Flint Charitable Giving Fund, AK Mechanix Wear, CA Danielle Murphy, AZ Alexandria Sheriffs’ Association, VA Anthony De Grazia, CA Jeffrey Chostner, CO Ft. Lauderdale FOP #31, FL $1,000.00 $1,000.00 $1,000.00 $1,000.00 $1,000.00 $1,000.00 $1,000.00 $1,000.00 $1,000.00 $1,000.00 $1,000.00 $1,000.00 $1,000.00 $1,000.00 $984.63 $965.00 $786.16 $750.00 $615.00 $500.00 $500.00 $500.00 $500.00 C.O.P.S. 2nd Annual Suzie Sawyer Golf Classic Presented by: Golf Classic June 17, 2016 St. Augustine, FL Support America’s law enforcement survivors through C.O.P.S.! Join Concerns of Police Survivors (C.O.P.S.) on June 17, 2016 for the 2nd Annual Suzie Sawyer Golf Classic in St. Augustine, Florida. Registration will open at 7:00 a.m. at The Royal St. Augustine Golf Course, followed by a shotgun start at 8:30 a.m. Entry fee is $400 per 4-Person Scramble ($100 per person) and includes golf, lunch and all the fun. Register online at www.nationalcops.org. Registration deadline is May 20, 2016. 26 ~ Concerns of Police Survivors www.nationalcops.org Player #1 Name ___________________________________________Shirt Size ___ Major Donors and Chapter Donations - 2/1/2016 - 3/31/2016 Schwab Charitable Fund, CA Boston Police Patrolmen’s Association, Inc., MA Dade County PBA, Inc., FL America’s Charities, VA United Way of Northeast Florida, FL Janelle Paris, CA Motorola Solutions Foundation, IL Dunn Transportations, AZ Denise Held, WI Leslie O’Loughlin, TX American Express Charitable Fund, NJ Mansfield Division of Police, OH Hope United Methodist Church, OH Carrie West, CA Linda Greinke, AZ Santa Monica Police Officers Association, Inc., CA Anchorage Police Department, AK Luck Stone, VA Adam Pillar, OH Southside Fitness, Inc., CO Nassau County Superior Officers Association, NY Amherst Police Club, NY The Thin Blue Line Photography, OH Delmar Rawson, CA Thomas Giannakopoulos, CT Tim Mathers, CA Suffolk County Superior Officers Association, NJ Ohio Patrolmen’s Benevolent Association, OH Sean Griffin, MD Michael Saharceski, MA Cape May County Emerald Society, NJ Buffalo Police Benevolent Association, NY Kevin Sagehorn, MO Suffolk County Detectives Assn., NY $500.00 $500.00 $500.00 $495.10 $479.18 $450.00 $445.00 $360.00 $355.00 $350.00 $315.40 $273.00 $268.45 $260.00 $250.00 $250.00 $250.00 $250.00 $250.00 $250.00 $250.00 $250.00 $250.00 $250.00 $250.00 $250.00 $250.00 $250.00 $250.00 $250.00 $250.00 $250.00 $250.00 $250.00 Chapter Donations Illinois C.O.P.S. Ohio C.O.P.S. South FL C.O.P.S. Georgia C.O.P.S. Maryland C.O.P.S. Metroplex TX C.O.P.S. Kansas C.O.P.S. Carolina C.O.P.S. Central FL C.O.P.S. NJSP Survivors of the Triangle C.O.P.S. Northwest FL C.O.P.S. Oklahoma C.O.P.S. Virginia C.O.P.S. New England C.O.P.S. Greater Houston TX C.O.P.S. $21,000.00 $10,000.00 $5,000.00 $3,500.00 $3,500.00 $3,500.00 $3,250.00 $1,000.00 $1,000.00 $1,000.00 $1,000.00 $1,000.00 $1,000.00 $500.00 $250.00 Chapter Contributions Arizona C.O.P.S. South Texas C.O.P.S. Kansas C.O.P.S. Colorado C.O.P.S. Montana C.O.P.S. South FL C.O.P.S. $9,082.35 $1,244.17 $1,027.11 $756.67 $275.32 $149.47 If you would like to make a donation, sponsor an event, or have a major contact that is looking to make C.O.P.S. their “Charity of Choice” please contact the C.O.P.S. National Office and ask for the Development Office. (573) 346-4911 10 thnnual A Sunday, August 7, 2016 All proceeds benefit surviving families and co-workers at the C.O.P.S. Hands-On Programs! post card ad 2016.indd 1 27 ~ Concerns of Police Survivors Camdenton, Missouri v 11a.m. shotgun start Call the C.O.P.S. National Office at (573) 346-4911 for sponsorship opportunities! 3/15/2016 3:27:00 PM www.nationalcops.org Concerns of Police Survivors P.O. Box 3199 846 Old South Highway 5 Camdenton, MO 65020 Change Service Requested Fly t Blue Show your support for law enforcement by tying a blue ribbon to your car antennae, mailbox, or anywhere that is visible to your local police. Request blue ribbons for your community at WWW.NATIONALCOPS.ORG