January 10, 2016

2121 South Rural Road Tempe, AZ 85282
Parish: 480.967.8791 www.olmctempe.com
School: 480.967.5567 www.olmcschoolinfo.com
Preschool: 480.966.1753
PARISH INFORMATION
WEEKDAY MASSES
Monday through Friday 6:30 am & 8am
Saturdays at 8am
WEEKEND MASSES
Saturday Vigil at 5pm
Sunday at 7am, 9am, 11am & 5pm
Holy Day/Holiday Masses As Announced
ADORATION
Mondays 8:30am-7pm in the church
24hr Adoration in Youth Annex
First Fridays 8:30am to 8am Saturday
Confession
Saturdays 3pm to 4:30pm
Childcare available during 9am &11am Masses
Sundays in the preschool for infant to 5 years.
WEEKLY MASS
INTENTIONS
Monday, January 11, 2016
6:30am - Intentions of Brinkman Family
8am – Soul of Vince Canzano
Tuesday, January 12, 2016
6:30am - Intentions of Charles Uyan
8am - Intentions of Dr. Breaux
Wednesday January 13, 2016
6:30am - Soul of Emily Laurent
8am - Soul of MaryAnn Clark
2pm - Soul of Ella Bowen
Thursday, January 14, 2016
6:30am - Soul of Barbara Pawlak
8am - Intentions of Kari Morris
Friday, January 15, 2016
6:30am - Soul of Louise Fonua
8am - Soul of Ellen Ethier
Saturday, January 16, 2016
8am - Soul of Joan Marie Beauvias
5pm - People of Mount Carmel Parish
Sunday, January 17, 2016
7am - Soul of Mary Folz
9am - Soul of Alex Cipolla
11am - Soul of Wendy Regalado
5pm - Soul of Erna Buchanan
Baptism of the Lord
January 10, 2016
Thursday, January 14
8:25am 6th grade - North Hall
6:15pm Co - Anon - Youth Annex W
6:30pm M. CA - South Hall
Monday, January 11
7pm Music - Church/MR/UCR
8:25am 6th grade - North Hall
Friday, January 15
8:30am Adoration - Church
2:30pm School Rosary - Church
8:30am Mom’s Group - Youth Annex
5pm Wedding Rehearsal - Church
3:15pm Girl Scouts # 987 - 4A
7pm Alanon - N. Hall, 2A, 2B, 3A, 3B
6:30pm Bible Club - Music Room
8:30pm AA - McCready Hall
7pm NFP - Youth Annex West
Saturday, January 16
Tuesday, January 12
7am Outside Group - Youth Annex E
8:25am 6th grade - North Hall
9am Parish Council - Teacher’s Lounge
9:15am School SET - North Hall
9am Women’s Studies - Youth Annex E
3:15pm Girl Scouts # 15 - 2A
10am Rosary Makers - Youth Annex W
7pm RCIA - North Hall
12Noon K of C - McCready Hall
7pm W. CA - South Hall
2pm Wedding - Church
7pm M. 12 Step - Youth Annex
3pm AA Sr. Group - Youth Annex
7pm Meditation - Church
Sunday, January 17
7pm Mom’s - Teacher’s Lounge
7am
Coffee Shop - South Hall
Wednesday, January 13
9am
Faith
Formation - 8A,/8B MR
8:25am 6th grade - North Hall
1:30pm
Girl
Scouts - Youth Annex E
9:15am School SET - North Hall
3pm Boy Scouts #71 - South Hall
5:30pm Kidz Choir - Church/MR/UCR
6pm 12 Step Group - Youth Annex West 6:15pm Life Teen Parent Nite - N. Hall
7pm AZ Bible Class - McCready Hall
Incorporated July 1, 2008
HAPPENING
THIS WEEK
A Note from Fr. John
10 January 2016
Dear Friends,
When I was a young boy I always hated the Woody Woodpecker cartoons because he always got away
with being nasty and mean. On the other hand I really loved Roadrunner cartoon since Wiley Coyote always got
instant consequences not matter what. That was a much better message to send to children.
One of the surest disciplines on the road to maturity is logical consequences. Whether positive or negative,
consequences either reward good behavior or inhibit bad behavior. For a parent as hard as it may be to watch a
child experience the consequences of bad behavior most parents know that it will help their child to avoid such
behavior in the future. And of course when a parent protects a child from such consequences the child is more than
likely going to engage the same negative behavior in the future. Case in point the “affluenza teen”.
This young man killed four people while driving intoxicated. The court sentenced him to 10years probation. Not much of a consequence. With his Dad providing the high priced lawyers, the attorney’s argued that the
young man was not able to understand the consequences of his actions because of his financial privilege and therefore needed rehabilitation not prison. Somehow he became the victim and not the four people he mowed down
with his vehicle. The Court obviously agreed. The message the young man took away from that experience was
that he could escape whatever consequences came with his behavior so why make any effort to change? No surprise then that recently the young man was seen on video at a beer party with his friends (which was a violation of
his probation terms). Again instead of facing the consequences he fled with his mother to Mexico. At one point
after an all-nighter at a Mexican strip club when the young man couldn’t pay the bill, the proprietor went with him
to his hotel where he promptly woke his mother so she could pay his tab. These parents should be awarded the
prize for “Most Enabling Parents in the World”.
Still I can understand the fears and the accompanying delusional thinking that parents have that such serious blots on their son’s record would only haunt him for the rest of his life and that it was their responsibility to
somehow mitigate their son’s consequences. Therefore cushioning the fall seemed like the helpful thing to do. Except it wasn’t. In fact it ultimately made things worse. The judge should sentence the parents to 10yrs of Al-Anon
Meetings.
The first principle of the Al-Anon Family of Programs is under no circumstances, no matter what, do not
enable wrong and/or destructive behavior. If you continue to enable it you will only get more of it. Therefore Stop.
Immediately. No exceptions. Period. That may sound simple enough unless you are caught in the web of someone
else’s addictive behavior. And if you are then enabling even the most harmful behaviors can seem like an act of
love. I’ve seen parents hand a gun to their out of control teenager, strung out on drugs because he promised if they
would only love him enough to purchase him a firearm he would stop using drugs and alcohol. The result was not
good.
The “affluenza teen” is just one case that serves as a poignant example. The lesson however is not just for
those caught up with addictive behavior but for all of us living in a society that does a remarkable job of letting us
off the hook for many of our bad behaviors even rewarding bad behaviors. And therefore way too many of us believe the false message that we can get away with it and so we do it again. Much of our medical research is devoted to getting us out of the consequences of our poor lifestyle choices. How often are we told by a physician to
change our eating habits lest we develop, pick your disease, and we fail to do so and then have to subject ourselves
to the appropriate but once avoidable medical treatment. The place where we really excel is finding ways out of
our bad moral choices. It’s one thing to try to cover up bad choices (unintended pregnancy: get an abortion, watching porn: just make sure to clear your browser history etc.) but now we just flat out deny that there even are consequences and if there are any we claim to be victims of an unjust universe. Try as we may there is no escaping the
fact that there are consequences built into the moral law that eventually add up and cause a life to implode or a
society to collapse. We may want to deny that or pretend it will not apply to us but it eventually will.
At some point we have to stop thinking like invincible teens: “it won’t happen to me”, “I won’t get pregnant”, “I can handle drugs” and a thousand other memes and stop enabling whether our own or others even society’s wrong, self-destructive behaviors. The game is not Truth OR Consequences but rather Truth AND Consequences. Knowing and accepting the consequences of our behaviors helps us become holy and healthy, emotionally and spiritually.
Are you more Woody Woodpecker or more Wiley Coyote?
Love, Fr. John B.
Parents, this night is dedicated to
you! Before our semester begins, we
want to give you the opportunity to
ask the youth minister any questions
you may have. Before we kick off
EDGE and Life Teen at the end of
January, we will be having a Q&A
on January 17th after the 5pm mass
from 6:15-8pm. Come join Sammie
in the North Hall and help this semester start off strong!
Journey of Hope
is a program addressing the concerns of separated and divorce
Catholics. A women’s group will
be starting January 29th here at
OLMC at 7pm to offer prayer and
healing. We will address topics
such as church teaching, anger and
forgiveness.
Program cost is $30 person. please
call Cara at 480.248.8257 with
questions or to register.
OLMC Women's
Studies Ministry
Spring Session
Study will be:
Oremus “Let Us Pray”.
In this eight-part DVD series, Fr.
Mark Toups guides you through
the simple, yet profound steps to
an effective and fruitful prayer
life. You will discover how God
speaks to you, even in the smallest encounters. Following the
Tradition of the Catholic Church
and the wisdom of the saints, you
will learn how to express yourself
to God in prayer, and how to hear
his voice. $20 fee for spring session.
Our Winter Retreat,
'Allowing God to Meet You
Where You Are'
on January 30th
9-3pm in McCready Hall
$10 fee includes lunch for retreat.
Men: The 9th Annual
Into the Desert for Christ
Catholic Men’s Conference is
being held on February 6th at
Xavier College Preparatory
Performing Arts Center.
This is an extraordinary time for
fathers, sons and friends to spend
the day focused on Jesus. Both of
our Bishops will be there along
with some great dynamic speakers,
including Deacon Harold BurkeSivers and Chris Stefanick. All of
the information is available at
www.cmfp.org. The theme of this
year’s conference is “Into the
Breach”, based on the Apostolic
Exhortation that Bishop Olmsted
issued to all of the men of the diocese on September 29.
To read the Exhortation, go to
www.intothebreach.net. To sit
with the OLMC group and to save
$10 per ticket. Please contact
Dave Knebelsberger at
[email protected] or call at
602-451-0217.
Open to all the women of the parish the sign ups will be held after All are invited to attend
Masses starting Jan. 10th. for the a special Mass in
celebration of the life
spring session and the retreat.
and contributions of
Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
Monday, January 18, 2016
3pm at St. Mary’s Basilica
231 North 3rd Street
Phoenix, Az
Bishop Thomas J. Olmsted will be
the principal celebrant and Guest
Homilist, from the archdiocese of
Washington, Bishop Martin D.
Holley, D.D. VG. Prelude will be
2-3pm, hospitality follows Mass.
Please visit the OLMC Coffee Shop
Sundays after morning Masses .
Proceeds benefit FullCircle the
OLMC ministry that offers assistance
for at risk kids and their families.
For more info contact
AJ Creswell via email
[email protected].
or call parish office
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