Experiencing Travel Life - San Francisco Parents of Multiples Club
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Experiencing Travel Life - San Francisco Parents of Multiples Club
VOLUME 13, NO. 04 APRIL 2004 The monthly newsletter of the San Francisco Mother of Twins Club Experiencing Travel Life It’s still fun—just different! by Carla Hashagen, President A personal matter has been taking time away from my club duties. With apologies in advance, here is another recycled and updated column. This piece was originally written when my now 6-year-old twin daughters were 3. We have been lucky enough to travel each year since our girls were born. In our 21-year marriage, Warren and I have loved visiting both new and familiar places. When the girls were born, I was sure travel would be an impossibility for years. Traveling with the children was hard in the beginning, but it has gotten easier and easier. Looking back, I can count at least 12 trips that we took with Caroline and Alexandra in their first 3 years, and probably as many in the last 3 years. Our trips have ranged from a weekend in Sacramento to three weeks in Europe. Our first trip was when they were 5 weeks old (probably a mistake), and our most recent just last month. We’ve had fantastic travel, and have been up all night with children suffering from the flu, croup, or a bad cold. We’ve seen wonderful things, and have also learned to find the closest all-night pharmacy. There were flights where the girls were whisked away by flight attendants while we ate, and flights where we endured the stares of a cabin full of tired passengers as two kids screamed for hours. Would I take those trips again? Absolutely. Well, most of them. Here’s some of the things we’ve learned. • Have realistic expectations. Don’t presume you will have as much energy or see or do as much as in your pre-baby days. Maybe year one isn’t the year for that trip to New York, but maybe it is a great year for a week on the beach or in the mountains, or visiting family. • Realize you will probably have some awful hours or days in a trip. If you know those hours are coming they’re not Spring Garage Sale Times & Dates Thursday, May 13 • • • • • • so hard to bear. When the girls were very young we always presumed that our flight days would be horrible, and were pleasantly surprised if they weren’t so bad. Be flexible. Have (or quickly devise) a Plan B. We spent a long night tending to a croupy child and missed the San Diego Zoo—no one was up to it. Instead we spent time at the beach and pool and rearranged the remaining days. We had a good time anyway. Move around as little as possible, or not at all. Whenever you can, book a condo or at least a unit with a kitchenette. A condo for a week is a lot easier than moving in and out of hotels or motels. The added space in a rental unit is a real plus too. Honor your children’s schedule. We’ve had family trips where we took a nap in the afternoon when the kids napped and went to bed on the early side. Just like our children, we smile more when we’ve had a lot of sleep. I also remember Warren and I sharing a takeout pizza in the bathroom of our motel after we put 10-month-old girls to bed. Have some quiet time with the kids each day for playing, reading, and cuddling. In addition to making quiet time each day, we usually try to balance our activities—alternating big days (excursions, new things) with quiet days (parks, pool, beach). Travel with all your children’s medications. Find out where the closest grocery and pharmacy are. If your children are sick and you’re far from home, call the pediatrician sooner than you would at home. Travel light, but bring essentials. Don’t leave home without enough diapers or formula for the first few days. If you’re flying, pack those essentials in your carry-on. 5:00—9:30 p.m. Sellers Drop-Off Friday, May 14 10:00 a.m.—5:00 p.m. Sellers Drop-Off 6:30—9:00 p.m. Members Night Saturday, May 15 8:30—9:00 a.m. Sellers Sale 9:00 a.m.—3:00 p.m. Public Sale 4:30—5:00 p.m. Sellers Pick Up Volunteer Shifts Thursday 1:00—3:00 p.m. CLOSED 1:30—5:30 p.m. Set up 5:00—9:30 p.m. Set up Friday 9:30 a.m.—2:00 p.m. Set up 1:30—6:00 p.m. CLOSED 5:00—9:30 p.m. Sale Saturday 8:00 a.m.—12:30 p.m. Sale 9:00 a.m.—1:30 p.m. Sale 1:00—5:30 p.m. Wrap up 4:30—6:30 p.m. Transport To volunteer, contact Kirsten Patel at kirsten_ [email protected]. For more information about the Garage Sale, see www.sfmotc.org. sfmotc A Member of the National Organization of Mothers of Twins Club letter from the editor April is shaping up to be a pretty busy month. The SFMOTC General Meeting is going to be held April 14 and it’s a topic dear to my own heart—fostering creativity in our kids. I provided paints to my boys for the first time around 14 months and now, just one short year later, I’ve got a whole kitchen cabinet dedicated to art supplies—stickers, yarn, paint, PRESIDENT CO-VICE PRESIDENTS TREASURER SECRETARY Carla Hashagen Marlene Allen Ellyn Weisel glitter, glue, textured paper, construction paper, wooden spools, pipe cleaners, etc. On those days I don’t want paint in the hair, I get out the colored sand and glitter, give Alex and Marge Weiss Parker a piece of contact paper (sticky side up) and let them create. Clean-up is as easy as Sarah Taft a sweep. I can’t wait to get more ideas at the General Meeting—and a kit to bring home. Hannah Goh picnics are always a great time to reacquaint ourselves with each other, meet the new mem- We’ve also got the SFMOTC Spring Picnic coming up the first Saturday in May. The AFFILIATES CHAIR GARAGE SALE CHAIRS MEMBERSHIP CHAIR NEWSLETTER EDITOR NEW PARENTS COORDINATORS MEALS FOR NEW MEMBERS PHILANTHROPY CHAIR SOCIAL CHAIR WEBMASTER Kimberly Azzolini Robin Bennett Becky Sorensen bers and their babies, and observe the carefree attitude of the wiser, been-there-past-that parents. The picnic will be followed by the SFMOTC Garage Sale, a great fundraiser and an Kirsten Patel opportunity to meet with each other again. In this Diaper Rag, we’ve tried to give expecting Robin Bennett and new parents an idea on what toys they might want to get at the Garage Sale. And, in Kimberly Azzolini Karen Perlman Pat Newberry Hannah Goh Karyn S. Campbell Fintan Coleman Membership dues are $40 per year. For more information please call 415.440. TWIN or contact us at www.sfmotc.org. the May Diaper Rag, we’ll be offering common items recommended for the twin nursery and the retail prices of those items. It’s our own Garage Sale 101 Guide. In between the Spring Picnic and the Garage Sale, I’ll be traveling with Alex and Parker to my grandmother’s 80th birthday. We made this trip when A & P were 7 months and it was a breeze. But, since then we’ve traveled by plane with them at 21 months and that was nothing short of grueling and horrific (The plane trips only. The vacation was wonderful, see page 7). It was our fault. We bought just one extra seat for them to share (hah!) and left the DVD player at home! We’ll be ready for the trip in May and have fairly high expectations that we won’t repeat some of our past Roster revisions should be forwarded to club secretary Sarah Taft at [email protected]. mistakes. Hopefully the travel tips on pages 4 and 5 will help parents traveling with twins under 2 years. Meals for New Parents. Dinner provided by the club for new moms with twins under three months. Contact Pat Newberry, 415.921.2879 or [email protected]. New Parents Group. Bimonthly meetings offer support through the most difficult time. Kimberly Azzolini, 415.386.7886 or kimmytwinmom@sbcglobal. net. Karen Perlman, 415.397.6777 or [email protected]. Preemie Closet. Borrow clothes from the supply handed on by other members. Frances Trefny, 415.661.6742 or [email protected] SFMOTC Email List. Members with email access can participate in online discussions with each other. To subscribe, send a blank email to [email protected]. I spoke with 10 airlines two to four times each to research the information that appears on page 6. The most surprising thing to me was how each different person could give you an entirely different truth. For example, when I first called Alex and Parker at 7 months on a Southwest flight. Northwest, they indicated they did not offer infant fares! A second and third call indicated they did. I tried to get the most accurate information in the table by calling each airline several times, but it’s good to know that the airline personnel you’re talking to may just not know what’s going on. And, in the airport and on the plane, the individual airline representative has a lot of discretionary power to override everything you’ve been told. I was amazed at how many airlines would not let you bring a carseat to the gate for a lap baby—so you could use if a seat is empty! Some reservationsists I spoke to indicated the flight attendant has discretion to allow you to occupy an empty seat, but that it is frowned upon by the airline. One airline—Continental—even said that if you did take the Editorial Correspondence. Send ideas for articles or written articles to Robin Bennett at [email protected]. Advertising Rates. Business cardsized ads are $15 per month. Quarter page ads are $25 per month. Contact [email protected] for ad placement and discount information. empty seat with your carseat, you would need to purchase the seat! Hands down the family-friendliest airline is Southwest. Not only do they offer infant-priced tickets that are fully refundable, they also offer child prices. Not only do they allow you to pre-board, they steer you to those seats that are just a little wider and will accommodate a carseat just that much better. In the end, it depends on how you’re traveling and what is most important to you. Good luck! Robin Bennett, Mom to Alex and Parker Page 2 THE DIAPER RAG sfmotc members are invited to a . . . Spring Picnic 10:00 a.m. to 2:00 p.m. Saturday, May 1, 2004 fun location directions food APRIL 2004 Egg hunt, coloring, & games Midtown Terrace Playground @Clarendon Avenue/Olympia Way Lunch provided Page 3 <2 Twin Should we purchase four seats, three seats, or just two seats? Small Toys Rule of thumb is one new small toy per child per hour of the flight. You can wrap them, but if they set off the security alarm, they need to be unwrapped. • Plastic animals • Matchbox cars • Books • Hand puppets • Walkman and headsets • Travel Magna Doodles • Color Wonder coloring books & markers • Stickers as simple as the kind bought from Office Depot or as elaborate as you can find • Colorforms • Viewfinders • Pads of paper and clicky pens, i.e. pens with four colors of ink • Playdoh • Pipe cleaners • Candy, lollipops, or chocolate are great extra special treats for children and other passengers Activities • Read and sing a lot • Watch movies on your computer, DVD player, or camcorder that plays VHS tapes On the Plane • Airplane food—even if you don’t eat it—can entertain. • Extra cups of ice from the galley will result in wet, yet happy, children. • Extra empty cups from the galley can be used for stacking and coloring. Page 4 The decision on this one is as varied as the individuals who make them. Legally, if your child is under the age of two, you are not required to purchase an airline ticket for them. Most airlines require one adult per lap baby. In addition, only one lap baby is allowed per row—only one extra oxygen mask is installed per row. This means if you’re traveling with two adults, two infants, and only two purchased tickets, you will need to sit in different rows. Most domestic airlines sell infant tickets for 50% off the adult fare. Be sure to bring along birth certificates for any lap babies if they remotely look like they could be 2 or older. Obviously, one adult flying alone will need at least one additional seat. Safety issues aside, you could probably get away with no infant seats if your infants are truly infants (less than 8/9 months), two adults are traveling, and the flight is only two to three hours. If your infants are a little older, or if you’ve got a longer flight, think about purchasing one extra seat. Not only does it allow the entire family to sit together, it also provides room for changing diapers, giving one parent a break, and storing all those supplies. However, when your children are walking, do yourself and all the passengers around you a favor and buy two extra seats for any flight longer than two hours. Carseats help young children stay contained and more at ease. Be forewarned, there are a couple of airlines—America West and US Airways—that only allow you to buy one infant-priced ticket per adult. So, if you’re traveling alone and want to buy a seat for each infant, steer clear of these airlines unless you want to pay for two adult-fare tickets. How in the world do we get all our stuff to the gate? The first step in getting all your stuff to the gate is to limit the amount of stuff you take on your vacation and on the plane. Granted, your days of light packing are over, but still try to curtail as much as possible. Rent the large stuff, such as pack-n-plays, high chairs, swings, etc. and buy the disposables, such as diapers and formula, at your destination. Once you’re traveling as light as two parents with two babies can, check everything but your stroller, carseats (if using on the plane), and your two diaper bags (one for each adult/child) at the curbside check-in. If all airports were equal and thoughtful, you could rent a luggage cart and stride right through security with it. However, some airports allow it and others don’t. Buy your own fold-away luggage carrier and use it to carry your two carseats. One adult has his diaper bag backpack on his shoulders and pushes the luggage carrier, while the other adult also has their diaper bag backpack on their shoulders and pushes the stroller, which only has two children in it. Remember, everything must come out of your stroller at security. If you’re traveling solo, you’ll need to plead your case to the ticket agent for either your non-traveling partner to assist you to the gate or for airline personnel to do so. This cannot be done through the reservations phone number, and it’s at the discretion of the ticket counter. Most airline reservation offices did seem to think a solo traveler with two infants would certainly qualify for extra assistance, but there have been many stories from SFMOTC parents who have never qualified for a non-traveling partner to assist them to the gate. Only Alaska Airlines offered to put a notation in the reservation requesting a pass to the gate. If you’re traveling solo, be ready to go it alone in case of emergencies. While at home, practice pushing your double stroller with children while pulling the fold-away luggage carrier with carseats and a diaper bag backpack on. A little unwieldy? Yes, but in a pinch it should work. What’s up with security? Security can be a hectic time for families traveling with small children. There’s lots of collapsing strollers, putting diaper bags on the belt, and keeping track of two babies. If your children cannot yet walk, you will need to carry them through—no Baby Bjorns or slings. If your children can walk, it’s up to the discretion of the security officer on whether they’ll let you carry your child through or whether the child walks through. The child needs to walk through alone. As a family with multiple children, certainly as someone traveling solo with children, you can ask for a private screening, although it may take a little extra time. Should we pre-board? If your children are not yet mobile, go ahead and pre-board and get settled. If your children are mobile and would THE DIAPER RAG Travel benefit from a little extra time roaming around, have one parent pre-board with the carseats and diaper bags. The other parent waits until the end of general boarding before getting the children on the plane. What do we do with our stroller? Strollers can easily be gate-checked and it works great as long as you don’t have any tight connections. The reality is that sometimes it takes a little longer to get your stroller when you land. About 30 minutes before landing, gently remind a flight attendant that you gate-checked your stroller and that you just wanted to doublecheck that it would be brought up upon arrival. Strollers can get damaged. To help prevent this, you can purchase a large canvas tote bag to place your stroller in when you check it. Be forewarned, however, logistically this adds a hands- and atten- Diaper Bag Essentials tion-intensive step to boarding the plane. If you’re truly worried, buy a couple of cheap, lightweight strollers and use • Familiar finger foods them for your trip. • Pre-filled disposable bottle How helpful can airline personnel, specifically flight attendants, be when boarding? I had been told that some airlines had instituted policies that prevent flight attendants from lifting bags and helping families get settled. However, out of the 10 airlines I spoke to, not one indicated their flight attendants were prohibited from assisting you with your children and carseats. Of course, the flight attendants cannot assist you if they are preparing for take-off or any other flight duties. In the end, human nature means that most flight attendants and • • other travelers will be happy to give you a hand if you are pleasant and your children are cute and twin-looking, i.e. dressed alike. Be sure to send an email complimenting your flight attendants if they do a spectacular job. Can a carseat be located in the aisle seat if I’ve purchased the adjacent middle and window seats? Obviously, an airline must prohibit you from placing a carseat in a middle or aisle seat if someone who is not in your party is in the window seat. However, it is a federal regulation that carseats cannot be allowed in aisle seats at • any time. This is one of the questions that often required the reservationist to doublecheck with a supervisor. In all cases where that happened, I was told carseats were not allowed to be placed in an aisle seat. Those reservationists • who did not consult a supervisor all said that it would be okay. In the end it comes down to the knowledge and the discretion of the flight attendant. If traveling solo, do I qualify for a “meet and assist”? When making your reservation, be sure to ask the reservationist if they offer a meet and assist for someone in your situation. Be forewarned that not all airlines provide meet and assist for parents traveling with infants. Those that • do can provide personnel to assist you in getting to the airplane when you check in, going from gate to gate during any connections, and at arrival. At best it means an electric cart will arrive to take you and your things. At worst, it means someone will show up with a wheelchair. This is not necessarily a timely option. • • • • • • How do I prepare for the actual flight? Your twins are individuals and have a right to be treated as such. However, you have the right to get all the • assistance available during travel. Therefore, dress those two exactly alike and reap the kindness of strangers. If you can rent it at your destination, don’t bring it. If you can buy it at your destination, bring no more than needed for two non-travel days. Drug your children (?!) Obviously, this is a decision you need to make with your pediatrician. If you and your pediatrician are okay with it, test your drug of choice at home prior to your flight. Although Benadryl and • Dimetapp have been known to put some children to sleep, they’ve also been known to make others run wild. Have everything you might need on the flight within easy reach before the plane pushes off. Invariably, your children’s need for their pacifier, a bottle, or a specific toy that is located in the overhead compartment will not come at the same time the seatbelt light is turned off. The lavatory on the plane muffles your child’s (hopefully not children’s) screams. Use it if needed. Even if your children are walking, keep them in socks or soft-soled shoes while on the plane. Less bruising for you and less annoyance to the passengers in front of you. APRIL 2004 liners, even if you don’t use at home. No need to measure out or pour your formula while on the plane. Just add water. Own supply of water. Bring two extra identical sets of clothing and one extra shirt for each adult just in case your little one(s) decide to vomit or capsize your drink. Extra pacifiers and clip-on devices Diapers one size bigger than normal to absorb more and last just a little longer. Conservative rule of thumb is 1.5 times the number of diapers per baby per hour of flight. Box of baby wipes and Kleenex. You’re bound to be wiping spit-up, barely chewed crumbs, cranberry juice, and the like off you, your children, and the people around you. Travel changing pad. Airplanes are the worst when it comes time to change a diaper. Make do the best you can. Two blankets for the infants. When they get a little overstimulated from the flight, you can wrap a blanket around you and an infant to cut out the noise and light. Once one is asleep, repeat. Page 5 How the Airlines For this story, I contacted ten different airlines posing as (1) mother of infant twins who was traveling alone and wanted to buy two infant seats; (2) mother of infant twins who was traveling with one additional adult and wanted to purchase just one extra infant seat; and (3) a journalist writing an article about airline travel with twin infants. What I learned is that depending upon who you talk to, you get a different story on an airline’s policies. In the end this means that much of your travel—even in some cases whether you get an infant fare—depend on how knowledgeable your reservationist is. Call back and check again. Alaska Airlines American Airlines America West Infant Fares: 50% Adult Fare Carseat Required for Ticketed Infant: Yes Carseat Allowed for Lap Baby: Yes Pre-board Families: Yes Meet & Assist Families: Can ask reservationist to put a meet and assist in your record. Can also put a note in the reservation for an additional adult to assist you to the gate if traveling alone. Baggage Allowances: Carseats and/or strollers that are gate-checked are not counted towards your baggage allowance. Infant Fares: 50% Adult Fare Carseat Required for Ticketed Infant: No Carseat Allowed for Lap Baby: Pre-board Families: Yes Meet & Assist Families: Does not provide meet and assist for families with infants, including one adult with two infants! Baggage Allowances: Umbrella strollers do not count as carry-ons. Bigger strollers and car seats that are gate-checked count against your baggage allowance. Infant Fares: 50% Adult Fare. Limited to one infant-priced ticket per adult fare. Carseat Required for Ticketed Infant: Yes Carseat Allowed for Lap Baby: Strong Yes Pre-board Families: Yes Meet & Assist Families: Not really. Can request a wheelchair. Baggage Allowances: Strollers and carseats that are gate-checked do not count against your baggage allowance. Continental Airlines Delta Airlines Infant Fares: 50% Adult Fare Carseat Required for Ticketed Infant: No, as long as baby can sit on its own. Carseat Allowed for Lap Baby: No, even if there is an empty seat. Pre-board Families: Yes, after first class Meet & Assist Families: Yes Baggage Allowances: Each infant—lap and ticketed—is allowed either one carseat or stroller. Carseat used for ticketed infant counts as a carry-on. Infant Fares: 50% Adult Fare Carseat Required for Ticketed Infant: No but can’t put baby in seat. Carseat Allowed for Lap Baby: No Pre-board Families: No Meet & Assist Families: Can ask reservationist for a connecting cart. Baggage Allowances: Carseat counts as a carry-on item if a seat has not been purchased for an infant. Strollers and carseats checked at the gate do not count towards your checked baggage allowance. Infant Fares: 50% Adult Fare Carseat Required for Ticketed Infant: No Carseat Allowed for Lap Baby: Yes Pre-board Families: Yes Meet & Assist Families: No Baggage Allowances: Carseats and strollers can be gate-checked and do not count towards your baggage allowance. Southwest Airlines United Airlines US Airways Infant Fares: 50% Adult Fare. No restrictions and fully refundable if not discount tickets. Carseat Required for Ticketed Infant: No Carseat Allowed for Lap Baby: No Pre-board Families: Yes Meet & Assist Families: No Baggage Allowances: Each ticketed passenger is allowed two additional pieces of baby luggage on top of their two normal bags. The carseat used for the ticketed infant does not count as a carry-on. Infant Fares: 50% Adult Fare Carseat Required for Ticketed Infant: Yes Carseat Allowed for Lap Baby: Yes Pre-board Families: Yes Meet & Assist Families: Can ask reservationist to put a meet and assist. You will be met by a wheelchair, not an electric cart. Baggage Allowances: Carseats that are gate-checked are counted towards your baggage allowance. Carseats used for ticketed infants do not count towards checked or carry-on baggage allowance. Infant Fares: 50% Adult Fare. Limited to one infant-priced ticket per adult fare. Carseat Required for Ticketed Infant: No Carseat Allowed for Lap Baby: No Pre-board Families: Yes Meet & Assist Families: No Baggage Allowances: Strollers and carseats checked at the gate count against your baggage allowance. However, the lap baby is allowed one stroller and/or carseat. Page 6 Northwest Airlines THE DIAPER RAG The Franklyn D . . . Vacation Nanny . . .. . . Too Good to Be True? by Robin Bennett A whisper. A rumor. A place that offered a nanny upon check-in at no additional cost. Really? What was the catch? Awful accommodations? Nannies you couldn’t trust? The reviews seemed quite positive, and then I found rock-bottom price deals for the Franklyn D. Resort right when we wanted to go—over Thanksgiving. So, we packed up, took a deep breath, and dived right in. The catch? There isn’t one. The Franklyn D was everything it promised to be and more. Child-Centered The FDR isn’t just child-oriented, it’s child-centered. Everywhere you go throughout the resort, you see nannies strolling their charges along or families in the pool with their little ones or gaggles of boys and girls following the activity directors around—day and night. The children’s activity center isn’t located in a remote corner of the resort but right in the middle of all the action. All the activities designed for the children take place throughout the resort, so even if you’ve handed your children over to the nanny for the day—you’re likely to run into them several times as you go about your day. Dinner is set beneath the trees and stars with twinkly lights, balloons, and children’s music playing over the loudspeakers. The buffet table is set about 2 feet off the ground to allow the youngest to help themselves to peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, jello, fruit, cookies, and other kid-friendly fare. And, because it’s served early, you can help the nanny put the little ones to bed and then enjoy an adult dinner. Adults have two choices—one where kids are allowed and one where kids are not allowed. Trained Nannies But, what about those nannies? They do go through fairly extensive training—three months’ worth—before they are allowed to become nannies at the FDR. If your children are younger and can’t fully participate in the organized activities, you’re likely to find your nanny and your children at the beach, in the activities center, or at the playground with one or two other nannies and their similaraged charges. And, the nannies aren’t off to the sides talking with one another while the children do whatever they want to do. No, the nannies are fully engaged with their charges and very attune to their individual needs. Their interaction with your children is very transparent to not only you but the other guests and staff at the resort, so no worries. It’s not just the nannies who are fabulously trained. During our visit, I saw some children who were extremely rude and demanding to their nanny and other staff members. I’m not sure I would have kept my patience, but every single staff member took it with such easy stride—no muttering under the breath even after the child had left the vicinity. Accommodations It’s not the Four Seasons or the Ritz-Carlton, nor are the prices. The rooms are spacious, comfortable, clean, and include kitchens. Many have balconies overlooking the pool or the ocean. Your nanny is responsible for cleaning your room, stocking your refrigerator with whatever you request, and taking care of your laundry. Getting There: Air Jamaica has a direct flight (overnight) between Los Angeles and Montego Bay. That flight is 5 hours 45 minutes. Once you land in Montego Bay, you have about an hour drive to FDR—great time to get a nap. www.fdrfamilyresort.com. APRIL 2004 Continued on Page 7 Continued from Page 1 Locate more supplies before you run out. Bring spares of the most essential small items—we had a very powerful microwave zap a hole in a bottle late one night—I’m glad we brought more than two bottles! • Bring diversions for your children, both for travel days and for play while you’re gone. I’ve found I can always find room in our suitcases for drawing supplies and small pouches of play-doh—anything that’s lightweight and reasonably flat! • Always carry emergency food, and be prepared to augment restaurant meals. We could almost always make a restaurant meal work with an added carton of yogurt and some fruit. • Don’t presume that there will be two of anything (high chairs, cribs, car seats) just because you asked for them. Ask to have your reservation noted with the word “TWINS.” If you can, call in the last 24 hours to be sure they know you will be arriving with two babies. • If you can, travel with help or travel to where you will have help. We’ve been lucky enough to have help on some of our trips, and it makes life much easier. Perhaps this is the year to plan a trip with parents or a sibling. • Talk to your children about your travel plans (though not too far in advance— that excitement can be hard to contain). As you travel, tell them what will happen so there are no surprises. Talk about what you’ve done each day. Talk about your trip when you return. Take pictures and look at them with your children. • Let your children “help” you settle in. Let them explore your new quarters and figure out where everything is. If you can, let them have some say in where their bed goes and let them arrange it. • Don’t forget to experience everyday life wherever you go. You may want to see that new museum exhibit, but they will probably be very happy riding the bus and visiting the fire station. Some of my fondest travel memories now include holding babies in the swimming pool at the end of a warm summer day, the sight of a 2.5-year-old girl riding a saucer down a bunny slope on her own, taking 4-year-old girls to tea, having 5-year-olds take a brochure in hand and lead us on a tour of the Tower of London, and seeing our daughters go through travel photos and talk about our trips. Travel is still fun, just different! Page 7 Tagging Representatives • Richmond District: Sharon Ohlson [email protected] • UCSF/Sunset District: Martha Fulmer 415.681.1706 • East Bay: Laurie Dunn [email protected] • Marin: Becky Sorensen [email protected] • Peninsula: Jean Reimer-Brady [email protected] Spring GS Committee • Becky Sorensen, Seller Champion, Mom to Max & Remy (2 yrs) • Jennifer Boswell, Volunteer Champion, Mom to • Kimberly Azzolini, Buyer Champion, SFMOTC New Moms Group, Mom to Sofia & Francesca (20 mos) Spring 2004 Garage Sale Shopping for Toys The SFMOTC Spring Garage Sale can be a daunting experience for expecting and new parents. In this issue and in the May issue, we will provide just a few hints on what parents might want to pick up at the Garage Sale. 1 to 3 Months During the first three months, your children will like listening to sounds, following objects with their eyes, and bringing objects to their mouths to explore. Towards the end of this period, your babies should be spending many of their waking hours on their tummies. Some toys for this age include: crib mobiles; toys with high-contrast geometric designs; soft toys to feel and scratch; child-safe mirrors; bells on booties; and music for dancing with Mom and Dad. 4 to 6 Months At the beginning of this stage, your children should be raising themselves up by their arms, turning their torso from one side to the other, and holding their feet in the air and kicking when lying on their backs. By the end of this stage, your children will be able to roll over, mouth a teether or spoon, and drop, throw and bang things. Some toys for this age include: stuffed toys that make sounds when squeezed; handheld rattles or toys on a ring; floor gyms with music and hanging parts; activity toys to manipulate; toys with friendly faces; and roly-poly bat-at toys. 7 to 9 Months • Kirsten Patel, Volunteer Champion, SFMOTC Membership Chair, Mom to Macy & Avery (20 mos) • Lisa Travaglini, Seller Champion, Mom to Gabriela & Bianca (13 mos) • Pat Newberry, Logistics, Meals for New Parents, Mom to Jane & Kate (4 yrs) Your babies’ development will rapidly progress during these months. They may have the ability to sit without support, use fingers and thumb together for a purpose such as picking up a block, transferring toys from hand to hand; and creeping around on their stomachs. They enjoy interaction games like pat-a-cake and studying the different shapes, forms, and textures of objects. Some toys to look for include: toys to encourage crawling; objects for making noise; stacking toys; crawl-along push toys; entertainment centers that encourage standing and cruising; and sorting & building toys. • Robin Bennett, Public Relations, Diaper Rag Editor, Mom to Alex & Parker (2 yrs) 10 to 12 Months Garage Sale Updates • The pdf version of the Garage Sale Flyer (left) is available at www.sfmotc.org. Please download, copy onto bright paper, and post wherever you go with your own children. • The moratorium on selling items through Topica began Saturday, April 3 and will continue until Saturday, May 15. • As of this writing, two volunteer shifts were closed. Please sign up early for your volunteer shifts. Check www.sfmotc.org for more details. • We welcome Jennifer Boswell to the GS Committee. It’s not too late to join, just contact any of the current Spring Garage Sale Committee members. Page 8 They may be able to walk if you hold both hands, and some are even walking without assistance. They peep around corners and love to play peek-a-boo. At 12 months, your children will understand much of what is being said, and they’ll love imitating actions such as talking on the phone, sweeping, pushing a shopping cart, etc. The toys to look for are ones that encourage crawling and walking; toys that encourage early learning; sports-themed toys that encourage physical development; link together toys; stacking toys; push & pull toys; toy telephones; and ride-on toys. a t s fie mexican Garalogweres Sale during May 14 6:30 to 9:00 p.m . Hall of F THE DIAPER RAG HUGE Garage Sale featuring items for Infants, Toddlers, & Preschoolers • Play Clothes • Dress Outfits • Shoes • Toys • High Chairs • Safety Equipment • Strollers • Feeding/Nursing • Books/Music • Videos • Bath/Potty Items • Outdoor Play • Nursery Furniture • Maternity Saturday May 15, 2004 9:00 a.m. to 3:00 p.m. SF County Fair Building (aka Hall of Flowers) Strybing Auditorium 9th Avenue at Lincoln Way Sell Everyone is invited to . Give us your clean, tagged items and we will sale them and mail you a check. No need to staff a table. For more information, see http://www.sfmotc.org/garagesale.html or contact Robin Bennett, [email protected] APRIL 2004 Page 9 fostering creativity in our children SFMOTC General Meeting. 7:00 p.m. Wednesday, April 14, 2004. Feature Speakers, Chris Molla and Kimberly De Caires, from Playsongs. Diamond Room, 3rd Floor. Kaiser Medical Clinic. 2238 Geary. Parking Available. Dinner Provided. Chris Molla and Kimberly De Caires will discuss the value of music, art, and movement education, as well as review ways to encourage creativity in our kids. Music Director Chris Molla is a Kindermusik® certified teacher who brings over 10 years of music instruction and performance experience with preschool-aged children. Chris has also recorded two popular children’s CD’s. Art Director Kimberly De Caires is a visual artist, percussionist and educator. She has taught and created curricula for many high quality children’s programs around the country including the Chicago Children’s Museum, the Museum of Contemporary Art in Chicago, Habitot Museum for Children (Berkeley), Julia Morgan Center for the Arts (Berkeley), and others. Playsongs offers developmentally appropriate classes for young children ages newborn to 8 years old in San Francisco. www.sfplaysongs.com. Page 10 THE DIAPER RAG Play Around the Bay: Full House Farm by Laura Kelly, from email to Topica Yesterday we took the girls (age 3 in May) to Full House Farm in Sebastapol and had a great day. We talk so much about farms, sing songs about them, read books about them, etc.. I figured I should take them to an actual working farm. Full House Farm is run by a family, so it’s 100% non-commercial. I called ahead and signed up for a tour, which only costs $5 per person. We had 11 people, including dad, grandma, great-grandma, great-uncle, cousin, and friends. The tour included meeting the mama sheep and her two new babies. We got to feed and pet the mama. Then, we met all the rabbits, including Thumper, the daddy, who hops around the farm. We got to pet two new baby rabbits. Next, we went into the chicken area, where the girls enjoyed walking after the chickens, which wanted nothing to do with them, of course. They laughed a lot. They also got to check for eggs and found three, including a light green one. After that, we met one of the many horses and each girl got to pet and sit on top of the horse. The two older kids with us actually got to go for a short walk on the horse’s bare back. The tour lasted about an hour. Finally, we sat down at two picnic tables in the pasture and ate our packed picnic lunch while the horses walked around eating grass. The older kids later took a hike as the farm is on 23 acres and has trails. It was a great day, so I thought I’d share it with you in case your little ones might be interested in experiencing a real farm. The owners, Christine and Dave, are extremely nice and loved sharing information about farming and the animals with us. In case you’re interested, their website is www.fhfarm.com. FYI: It took just under an hour and a half to get there from San Francisco. sustainable living. There are picnic facilities if you are planning just a visit for the day, rather than an overnight stay. About Full House Farm All visitors are welcome to enjoy the private walking trails Contact Information Phone: Christine Cole (888) 596-6006 toll free Email: [email protected] Address: 1000 Sexton Road Sebastopol, CA 95472 that wind through the forest, oak groves, and meadows on the property. One of the most attractive activities revolves around the horses. Besides the horses, there are sheep, chickens, and rabbits. Tours are available for small and large groups. You can learn about microfarming, organic foods, and A SLIDE PRESENTATION AND TALK BY MOUNTAINEER COLIN LYNCH WITH RAFFLE PRIZES, FOOD AND DRINK ASCENT EVEREST Friday, May 14, 2004 Unity Center, Novato 7pm For ticket and raffle information, call 415.460.9049 or visit www.MPOMC.org. A Benefit Event for the Marin Parents of Multiples Club. APRIL 2004 Page 11 SFMOTC: Messages From: [email protected] Subject: Science Adventures www.scienceadventures.com To: [email protected] Summer Camps for 5 Year Olds Hi All, Just wanting to know what all you parents of 5 year old twins are doing with your kids this summer. Send me your suggestions /ideas.— Hannah Thanks to all who responded. Here are the responses. Also check out Steve and Kate’s Camp in Mill Valley www.steveandkatescamp.com. Steve & Kate’s Camp A true innovation in summer camping is offered by Steve & Kate’s Camp. For the parent, you pay for the amount of days you might think your children will use during the summer (out of the 54 available) and then use them whenever you want—always a guaranteed space. You don’t even need to call ahead! At the end of the summer, you get a refund on the days you didn’t use. For your children, they get choices too. Campers participate in the activities they want, for as long as they want and are therefore more engaged, more willing to explore new activities, and more likely to really learn. The youngest campers have their own activities and staff, but they may also participate in the main activities alongside their Kindercamp counselors. Camp is offered June 14 to August 27, Monday—Friday, 7 am to 6 pm. The daily fee of $52.00 includes all hours 7:00 a.m. to 6:00 p.m., all daily activities, all weekly workshops, all materials, lunch with a drink, and snacks. Super Summer Adventure Camp We are sending Spencer & Stephanie to the “Super Summer Adventure Camp” at the San Anselmo Afterschool Center (located at Wade Thomas in San Anselmo). They have five 2-week sessions with lots of flexibility on the schedule, with field trips every Friday. Open registration begins on April 1. 415453-3181. JCC—Camp Kochav www.jccsf.org Offers two-week sessions 9 a.m. to 4 p.m. from mid-June to mid-August. In Shemesh, K–2, each session includes an introduction to traditional camp activities, including arts and crafts, music, sports, and drama, and visits from storytellers, clowns, and firefighters. The children have a chance to explore Judaism through games and other activities, Page 12 as well as take special half-day field trips around San Francisco. AcroSports Circus Camps www.acrosports.org AcroSports offers half-day, week-long camps for 4 & 5 year-olds. KinderCampers enjoy five mornings of exhilarating physical activity, including FasTrack, trapeze, and trampoline. Coaches organize challenging obstacle courses, fun art projects, and games emphasizing teamwork as they introduce campers to circus arts and tumbling KinderCamp concludes with a KinderCircus Show presented by campers for parents and friends on Friday at noon. Camp hours are Monday—Friday, 9:00 a.m.—12:30 p.m. Cost: $165 ($130 for week of July 6th) plus $10 Camp Registration & Insurance. Registration began March 29. Bay Area Discovery Museum www.badm.org Sign up for a different Discovery Camp each week and celebrate the joy of art, ceramics, sculpture, photography, animation, natural science, chemistry, performance, architecture, construction, and more! Camps are organized by ages and are in small groups. Most camps offered for the 4 to 5 year old are offered either 9:00 a.m. to 12:00 p.m. or 1:00 p.m. to 4:00 p.m. Registration began March 8. The web site provides information on which camps are now closed. These week-long science day camp programs are offered throughout the summer in casual or outdoor settings. Children are introduced to thematic science concepts as they build projects, conduct experiments, and take part in a variety of science activities. Call 1-888-458-1812 for camp registration. San Francisco Zoo www.sfzoo.org Camps are offered weekly from mid-June to mid-August for children 4.5 to 11 years. The camp for the younger children is half day. Registration began April 1. Editor’s Note The camps listed in this article were suggested in response to Hannah’s email. I included those camps that I could find information on. There were several Tiburon camps I could not find information on. If you’re still looking for activities for your 5-year-olds, check out www.gocitikids. com and do a search for summer camps. And, don’t forget the old stand-bys, such as the local museums: Coyote Point Museum, Randall Museum, etc. Martha Bruce Photography www.marthabruce.com 415 822 7581 Maternity Portraits & Baby Collection Packages 3 sessions during baby’s first yearinfant, sitting & standing THE DIAPER RAG In Celebration of Earth Day Earth Day Book Recommendations Earth Day will be held April 22 this year. The topic provides lot of great ideas for art and crafts, snacks, and activities. Tree Rubbings Find a tree that’s on the way to a playground you frequent or in your yard, and collect some leaves, bark, seeds, whatever might be easily obtained. Set the things out on a table and use crayons or chalk to create rubbings of the different parts. Place items under a sheet of newsprint and rub until the imprint appears. paint and then move it around on a piece of paper. Twig Painting Twigs from trees or pine needle branches can be used as painting tools. Provide children with trays of thicker paint and construction paper and let them experiment. Worm Pretzels Use frozen bread dough to make wormshaped pretzels. If your kids are old enough, let them give a go at making a worm. Planting Seeds Do your children like sand and water play? They’re old enough to attempt planting seeds. Buy a couple of planters, potting soil, child-size watering cans, and sunflower seeds. Help your little ones pour the dirt into their own pots and then show them how to plant the seeds. Don’t get too caught up in making sure they’re doing it right, you can fix it at the end. Then show them how to water the plants, and be sure to set a day aside each week to go out and water their plants. Even if they don’t understand the idea of planting, they’ll have a great time with the dirt and water. Plus, as the seeds turn into plants, they’ll begin to understand. Worm Painting Purchase plastic worms from a toy store or local bait store and attach strings to each one. The children can dip the worm into Worm Environment Since you bought the plastic worms, go ahead and set up a worm environment for your kids. Add a bucket of sand, a bucket of soil, and a little water. Then, add some small nets, scoops, and bowls to add interest. Leaf Jumping Cut out large cardboard leaves and arrange them in an irregular line that looks somewhat like a stem. If your children are jumping, have each one try to jump over the leaves without touching them. If your little ones aren’t jumping yet, have them walk along the path. Inchworm Measuring www.PrimmaMommas.com Cut about a dozen inchworms out of felt. Then cut out flowers of various heights— with long or short stems. If you’re short on time, buy flower cut-outs at a party store. Encourage the children to place worms along each stem from bottom to top of the flower. How many inchworms tall is each flower? If you make the worms out of different color felt, you can also sort and count the worms. Finally . . . a show about The Mommy! April 29 - May 9 Jack’s Garden by Henry Cole A cumulative story that traces a little boy’s backyard flower garden from tilling the soil to enjoying the blossoms. The text delightfully catalogs the process in a takeoff on the old rhyme “This Is the House That Jack Built.” As the garden takes shape, readers see seedlings sprout and bud, flowers open, insects and birds visit and, at last, a lovely garden in full bloom. The Tiny Seed by Eric Carle This picture book admirably conveys the miracle of a seed. Flower pods burst and dispatch their seeds on the wind; the air-borne seeds are subject to myriad disasters; and the ones that make it through the perils of the seasons to become mature flowering plants are still susceptible to being picked, trod upon and otherwise damaged. But nature allows for survivors, and so the tiny seed grows into a giant flower, releasing its seeds and continuing the cycle. Inch by Inch by Leo Lionni The return of a classic picture book by an award-winning authorillustrator tells of a lovable inchworm who is very proud of his facility for measuring absolutely everything. The book is a Caldecott Honor Winner from 1961. Diary of a Worm A baseball-capped crawler gives readers an episodic glimpse into the vicissitudes of his life in these hilarious diary entries. Difficulties such as having no arms, having a head that looks a lot like your rear end, and facing the dangers imposed by people digging for bait are balanced by a loving family and good friends. www.PrimmaMommas.com APRIL 2004 Page 13 Look Who’s Having a Birthday! Turning 1 • Phoebe & Zoe (04/04) Amy & Schaeffer Price • Lucca & Ragaella (04/11) Karen Gebbia-Pinetti & Randall Pinetti • Miles & Lola (04/14) Dani Malik & Jim Reed • Liam (04/30) Angela & Bill Sicord Turning 2 • Mariana Isabel (04/12) Maria Pasos-Nunez & Richard Nunez New Arrivals William Otto & Albert Joseph Stein January 28, 2004 Caitlin and Albert Stein celebrated Albert’s birthday with the birth of their twin boys at 8:45 a.m. on January 28, 2004. William Otto Stein weighed 6 lb 6 oz and his brother, Albert Joseph Stein, weighed 6 lb 7 oz. Both were 19 inches. They were born at 37.5 weeks gestation via c-section. William and Albert were the first set of twins are either side of the families! Caitlin is doing great, and the boys are now over 8 lbs after six weeks. February Birthday Pictures Left: Grayson & Marshall celebrated their 2nd birthday on February 22. Turning 3 • Frankie & Jimmy (04/27) Michele & Eugene Duffy Bottom: Alex and Parker celebrated their 2nd birthday on February 24. Turning 4 • Amalia & Bronwen (04/07) Sarah Taft & Whitney Jones • Samantha & Peter (04/12) Angela & Tim Danison • Alexandra & William (04/23) Deborah & Mark Lyon Turning 5 • Patrick & Margret (04/05) Liza Graves & Patrick Smith • Caroline & Samuel (04/06) Lisa & Stephen Semett Please send photos of your children celebrating their birthday to Robin Bennett, [email protected]. No need to shrink or crop digital photos, just send them as is. I’d also love to start putting pictures of our birthday boys and girls in the birthday column to the left. • Ben (04/07) Ellyn & Jerry Weisel • Lillian & Grace (04/08) Joni & Mark Lachman Turning 6 • Veronica (04/04) Rita & Patrick Maund • Alana (04/10) Angela & Tim Danison • Charles & Caroline (04/28) Kay Dryden & Charles Ferguson Page 14 SFMOTC’s New Members Due in May New Parents • Susannah & Carl Bettag • Sachi & Michael Gowe Twins due May 7, 2004 Noah & Luca born January 16, 2003 • Jennifer Kriz & Bob Mullen Twins due May 21, 2004 THE DIAPER RAG The Multiples’ Kitchen by Kirsten Patel, SFMOTC Membership Chair When you are on the go it is not always easy to find healthy snacks for your little ones. Here are a few recipes for snacks that you can easily store in your diaper bag. I know my kids appreciate something besides Cheerios and Veggie Booty once in a while. Pineapple and Raisin Muffins 1 cup all-purpose flour 5/8 cup vegetable oil 1 cup wholewheat flour 5/8 cup superfine sugar 1 teaspoon baking powder 2 eggs ¾ teaspoon baking soda 1 1/2 cup grated carrots 1 teaspoon cinnamon 8 oz can crushed pineapple (drained) 1 teaspoon powdered ginger 1 cup raisins ½ teaspoon salt Sift together the flours, baking powder, baking soda, cinnamon, ginger, and salt and mix well. Beat the oil, sugar, and eggs together until well blended. Add the grated carrots, pineapple, and raisins. Gradually add the flour mixture, beating just enough to combine all the ingredients. Pour the batter into muffin cups and bake in an oven preheated to 350 degrees for about 25 minutes or until risen and golden. Cool on a wire rack. (Makes about 12 muffins) Cheese Pretzels 3 teaspoons dried yeast 1 1/2 cups grated cheddar cheese 1 ¼ cups warm water 1 egg, beaten 4 cups all-purpose flour Sesame seeds (optional) Dissolve the yeast in the warm water. Stir in the flour and grated cheese. Knead the dough with your hands on a floured board. Break off small pieces of dough and roll into long strands, about 12 inches in length, and twist into shapes. If your kids are old enough, let them make the shapes, or spell out their names. Put the pretzels on a cookie sheet lined with nonstick baking paper, brush with beaten egg, and sprinkle with sesame seeds. Bake in an oven preheated to 475 degrees for 20 minutes. These recipes are from Annabel Karmel’s The Healthy Baby Meal Planner. Chewy Oatmeal and Rice Krispie Squares 1 cup regular oatmeal 2 tablespoons dark brown sugar 2 oz Rice Krispies 4 tablespoons light corn syrup 3/8 cup chopped dried apricots 4 oz semi-sweet chocolate, broken into pieces ½ cup butter Combine the oatmeal, Rice Krispies, and dried apricots. Put the butter, sugar, and light corn syrup in a saucepan and heat gently. Add the chocolate and stir until melted. Stir the chocolate and syrup mixture into the dry ingredients until well coated. Press the mixture firmly into a greased 8-inch square shallow baking pan and level the surface. Leave in the refrigerator until set. (Makes 16 small squares) New Parents Group Expecting & New Parents with Children <1 Year 12:30 p.m. to 2:30 p.m. 2nd & 4th Tuesday of the Month Day One – 3490 California Street Entrance is on Locust. Parking in building. Contact Coordinators: Kimberly Azzolini (415.386.7886) or Karen Perlman (415.397.6777) Three sets of SFMOTC twins enjoy a swing at Midtown Terrace. Picture by Rebecca Stephens APRIL 2004 Page 15 SFMOTC Events—April 2004 Sunday Monday 4 Tuesday 5 Daylight Savings Time Palm Sunday 11 Wednesday 6 7 Friday 12 2 3 8 9 10 15 16 17 22 23 24 29 30 May 1 Good Friday 13 New Parents Group 12:30 p.m. 19 Saturday 1 Passover Easter 18 Thursday 14 SFMOTC General Meeting 7:00 p.m. 20 21 Earth Day 25 26 27 New Parents Group 12:30 p.m. SAN FRANCISCO MOTHERS OF TWINS CLUB 3440 25th Street, Apt. 203 San Francisco, CA 94110–3873 UE S ISS IN THI 2 r2< o f s el Tip es •Trav Airlin e r a y! p th Da r • Com a E e ebrat en • Cel Kitch s e l ds p i lt oy Fin T • Mu e l a age S • Gar 28 Arbor Day SFMOTC Spring Picnic