2015 October newsletter TCF

servicing Upper Bucks and Montgomery Counties
The Compassionate Friends
Quakertown Chapter
PO Box 1013
Quakertown PA 18951
Chapter Info line: 215-536-0173
Chapter email:
[email protected]
website: www.tcfquakertownpa.org
The Compassionate Friends National Office
877-969-0010
www.compassionatefriends.org
Eastern PA Regional Coordinators
Bobbie Milne [email protected]
Ann Walsh [email protected]
October
2015
Quakertown Chapter Founders -Eileen & the late Tim Bolish
Facebook page: Quakertown PA Compassionate Friends
A self-help organization offering friendship, love, and understanding to bereaved parents, siblings, and their families.
*we talk, we listen, we share, we care, we understand*
We extend a special warm welcome to you, the newcomers. We are sorry for the reason you have received our newsletter. We
know that it takes courage to attend your first TCF meeting, and it may take three or more meetings for you to feel the benefit of
group sharing. We will not offer a "quick fix" or hurry you along in your grief, but we can offer you much needed support, and
provide an opportunity for you to meet new friends who are traveling the same path.
SUPPORT GROUP MEETING INFORMATION - Our next support group meeting will be held on Tuesday, October 13 , 2015,
7:30 PM-9 PM at the St Lukes Quakertown Hospital, 1021 Park Ave., Quakertown, PA in Taylor conference rooms A & B.
BRING A PHOTO OF YOUR CHILD/SIBLING FOR THE REMEMBRANCE TABLE. Bring memoirs / photos of your child/
sibling for the birthday table when its their birthday. Tell us about your memories of your loved one...we'll listen, cry and hug with
open arms.
2015 Steering Committee
Chapter Leader : Darlene Dusza
215-536-0173 (TCF)
(c) 267-374-1171
[email protected]
Treasurer : MaryAnn Kulp
Hospitality Committee : Carol Graham
Mary Anne Macko
Nancy Eisenhart
death -- result of auto accident
Bonnie Maurizio
Donna Hesse
[email protected]
Barbara Reboratti
Secretary : Ginny Leigh-Manuell
Chapter Librarians: Theresa Sitko/
Linda Ervin
Assistant Secretary : MaryAnne Macko
Email - Telephone Friends
Newsletter Editor / Community Outreach
Barb Reboratti - daughter, Allison
Darlene Dusza
death-- result of crime
415 Rich Hill Rd
[email protected]
Sellersville PA 18960
Darlene Dusza - daughter, Michelle
215-536-0173
death-- result of auto accident
215-536-0173
[email protected]
Remembrance and thank you cards
Lynette Lampmann
Kelly Logan
MaryAnn Kulp
Nancy Eisenhart
Ginny Leigh-Manuell
Jennifer Pini
215-538-0941
Greater Lehigh Valley
Anne and Craig Landis - son, Marc
death - result of suicide
215-536-5143
Collection of Redners Save-A-Tape
program
[email protected]
Mail your register save-a-tape slips to
our PO box to help our chapter. You
may black any debit / credit card numbers, but do not black out the dollar
amounts. Remember to use your
Pump Perks card for the save-a-tape
program. Send complete sales receipt.
Jennifer Pini sibling, Jason
PRINTER INK CARTRIDGES
death -- suicide
STOP don't throw them away... Save
your empty ink cartridges and give to
our chapter for recycling. We earn rewards for recycling them and can purchase paper and other items to help
cut the costs of printing the newsletters, programs for events etc... Bring to
a meeting or an event in a plastic bag
and give to Darlene .
215-828-3810
[email protected]
Crystal Hunter-sibling, Justin
death - medical condition
UNITED WAY #14064
Donna Hesse - daughter, Kisha
Committee Members : Linda Stauffer
[email protected]
614-746-8076 (sibling contact person)
Other TCF support group meetings and children support groups etc:
Lehigh Valley Group meets the 2nd Monday of each month on the 2nd floor of Sacred Heart Hospital on Chew St. at 4th
St. in Allentown PA at 7 PM Contact: 484-597-0240
Peace Valley Group meets the 3rd Wednesday of each month at Lenape Valley Presbyterian Church at Rt. 202 and Ute
Rd, New Britain PA at 7:30 PM; Conatct: Karen Kovacs 267-218-5889
Ryan's Tree for Grieving Children, Inc. located in Lehigh Valley, PA, Support for children ages 5-18 who are grieving the
loss of a family member or friend. - run programs throughout the year-contact St. Luke*s Hospice at 610-997-7120 or [email protected].
Stepping Stones for children ages 4 -12 years old, has a program for children who are grieving a sibling, parent, etc... Held at:
Camelot for Children, 2354 W. Emmaus Ave, Allentown PA 18103 call: 610-969-0330 for more information
Greenshire Arts Consortium Grief and Empowerment Workshops - located in Quakertown - contact: Hillery Woods Siatkowski, NCTMB at 206-552-4229
or email massage @moondogyoga.com for dates and more information
www.kidsaid.com - is a FREE online resource and is a safe place for kids and teens to help each other deal with grief and loss.
There are options of email support groups, sharing artwork, poetry, and stories, and a place for parents and kids to ask questions
and get answers.
*Kids-to-kids is an email support group for kids ages 12 and under *K2K-teens is an email support group for teens ages
13- 18.
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU
Thank you to, Theresa Sitko, Patti Dille, Carol Graham, and MaryAnne Macko, for providing our September refreshments. They do this in remembrance of their children, Clayton (Theresa), Matt (Patti), Peter & Adam (Carol), Matt & Chris (MaryAnne).
If you would like to provide refreshments in remembrance of your loved one at a meeting please contact Carol Graham at 215-538-3651. You
may also sponsor refreshments for a meeting for a fee of $30 or more depending on what you would like and the hospital's catering service will
set up and provide the drinks and refreshments for the evening. This can be split between more than one family each month.
A special thank you to Mary Ann Kulp, Nancy Eisenhart, Lynette Lampmann, Ginny Leigh-Manuell, Kelly Logan and Jennifer Pini for the
Remembrance and Thank you cards that you receive. They do this in remembrance of their children/ siblings, son, Tony (MaryAnn), daughter,
Kelly (Nancy), son, Shawn (Lynette), son, Brian (Ginny), and brother, Jason (Jennifer), Kelly does it in remembrance of all those who have
gone too soon. An appreciated Thank You to our members for helping to set up and tear down for our meetings, they do this in remembrance of
their children and siblings. A special thank you to St. Luke's Hospital for providing us with our meeting rooms each month.
Thank you to, Betty and Charlie Hottenstein, for taking on the monthly task of assembling our monthly newsletters for mailing, they do this
in remembrance of their daughter, Tracy Hottenstein.
Thank you for your Love Gifts and Support
We the parents and families of the Quakertown Chapter of Compassionate Friends would like to send a special Thank
You to the following donors. Without their generosity in giving to a good cause we would not be able to continue
reaching out to newly bereaved parents and families with our Outreach packet and newsletters.
Patti & Joe Dille, In Loving Memor y of their son, Matthew Dille, 5/22—9/26
Love you & Miss you always
Elizabeth Horwin, In Loving Memor y of her son Michael Leach, 10/3—11/13
Love you & Miss you always
Carol & Albert Graham, In Loving Memor y of their sons Adam Gr aham, 11/19—7/5 and Peter Graham, 1/10—1/19
Missing you both….
Charlotte & John Tatu, In Loving Memor y of their daughter , Rachel Sands, 9/6—11/23
Happy Birthday, Love you always Rae...Mom, Dad, your son—Tommy, and brother, Christian
Maurice & Ruth Onraet, In Loving Memor y of their son, Thomas Onr aet, 12/19—6/29
Loved you from the day you were born...missing you now
Self-help Program
The Compassionate Friends, Inc. is a mutual assistance, selfhelp organization offering friendship, understanding, and hope to
bereaved families. Anyone who has experienced the death of a
child of any age, from any cause is welcome. Our meetings give
parents an opportunity to talk about their child and about their
feelings as they go through the grieving process. There is no
religious affiliation. There are no membership dues. The purpose
of this support group is not to focus on the cause of death or the
age of the child, as it is to focus on being a bereaved parent,
along with the feelings and issues that evolve around the death
experience of a child.
To Our New Members
Coming to the first meeting is the hardest, but you have nothing
to lose and everything to gain!. Try not to judge your first meeting
as to whether or not The Compassionate Friends will work for
you. At the next meeting you may find just the right person or just
the right words said that will help you in your grief work.
To our Members who are further down the "GRIEF ROAD"
We need your encouragement and your support. Each meeting
we have new parents. THINK BACK -- what would it have been
like for you at your first meeting if there had not been any TCF
"veterans" to welcome you, share your grief, encourage you and
tell you, "your pain will not always be this bad, it really does get
better!"
Library Books
We have a nice library of books for our members to check
out and read and return them back to our library. A problem
we currently have is that some books have not made their
way back to our library and our library is shrinking. If you
have checked out a book or magazine from our library and
are done reading it won't you PLEASE return it to us at our
monthly meetings. If you are not able to make the meeting
you may mail it back to us or have someone else return it to
us.
Also, if you have any books that would help other grieving
families through their journey and would like to donate them
to our library please give them to our librarians.
Newsletter Errors and Omissions
For any errors or omissions please contact Darlene
via email at [email protected] with
the error and the correction for the next month
newsletter.
Please remember we are all volunteers and grieving
parents / siblings and we do forget and make mistakes too.
Information Regarding Our Meetings
PLEASE don't stay away from a meeting because the topic
scheduled does not interest you. We are here is discuss whatever is on your mind, we don't stay on the topic only. This is YOUR
group and we are here for each other. You do not have to talk at
meetings. We welcome your participation in our group but it is not
a requirement. Coming to listen to the others is Okay too. Remember also that our meeting is open to adult siblings, grandparents, or adult family members such as aunts or uncles.
Support Group Meetings
We are so sorry for the cause that brings us together. It takes
courage to attend a Compassionate Friends support group meeting. We understand how it feels to walk into a room of strangers
and share personal feelings, especially when you are in so much
pain. At your first meeting, we hope you find care, support, understanding and a group of friends to share with. Truly, there are
no strangers among compassionate friends.
As a reminder to families that would like to attend a support
meeting. Please allow yourself at least 3 or 4 meetings of attendance to determine if they are for you. It may take a few meetings
before your able to talk about your loved one and that is understandable. What you say at our meetings is kept in the meeting,
you can cry, hug, talk about how you are feeling freely. Our meetings are for parents, grandparents and siblings in grade 9 or
above and adult siblings.
Your Friends at TCF Quakertown Chapter
Quakertown Chapter does have a siblings group
that meets at various places, days and times. To try and
accommadate the surviving siblings that cannot attend a
regular meeting because of childcare issues or work
schedule etc. Please contact our sibling contact person:
Crystal Hunter via email or by phone . Contact info on
front page.
About This Newsletter
This newsletter comes to you courtesy of The Compassionate Friends, Quakertown Chapter with the hope that it will be
a helpful resource for you on your grief journey.
If you no longer wish to receive the newsletter please contact the newsletter editor by phone 215-536-0173;
or email: [email protected]
PLEASE NOTE: If you are moving or your email has
changed please notify the newsletter editor so that we can
update your information and you continue to receive the
newsletter. If the newsletter is returned to us either via mail
or your email bounces back and you have notified us you
will be removed from the mailing list.
Newsletter submissions:
Submit articles and poetry to the editor by the 15th of the
proceeding month. Include the author's name & your contact
information. You may mail to our PO Box 1013, Quakertown
PA 18951 or email as a pdf file or word document to:
[email protected].
MARK YOUR CALENDARS: more details will be coming
Candle Lighting—Sunday, December 13th.
Please submit photos for slide show by November 15th to
be included in slide show. Any photos that were submitted
over the years will be included and you do not have to submit them again. Email as a jpg in 300—600 resolution or
send an original 5 x7 photo-will be returned (NO paper copies). Mail to address on front page and write child name on
back of photos include your name and phone / email.
In Loving Memory of
Michelle Dena Dusza
June 7—October 6
The Cord
(Author unknown)
We are connected,
My child and I, by
An invisible cord
Not seen by the eye.
It's not like the cord
That connects us 'til birth
This cord can't been seen
By any on Earth.
This cord does it's work
Right from the start.
It binds us together
Attached to my heart.
I know that it's there
Though no one can see
The invisible cord
From my child to me.
The strength of this cord
Is hard to describe.
It can't be destroyed
It can't be denied.
It's stronger than any cord
Man could create
It withstands the test
Can hold any weight.
And though you are gone,
Though you're not here with me,
The cord is still there
But no one can see.
It pulls at my heart
I am bruised...I am sore,
But this cord is my lifeline
As never before.
Pinterest quotes—Jonie Kirby
I am thankful that God
Connects us this way
A mother and child
Death can't take it away!.
Handmade Quilt
Garden Flags
We are selling this beautiful garden flag to raise funds
for our Memorial Garden. They make great remembrances for a loved one gone too soon. Buy one for
your self, give one as a gift or a just because "I'm
Thinking of You".
COST— $15 EACH
handmade quilted wall hanging
Magnets and Decals
$6 each
MEMORIAL GARDEN FUNDRAISER
1ST PRIZE - handmade butterfly theme quilt
Quakertown Chapter of
The Compassionate Friends
2ND PRIZE - handmade butterfly theme quilted
wall hanging
Only 200 tickets will be sold so your chances of winning
are greater
Cost - $5 per ticket
Winners will be selected on December 13, 2015 at our
Annual Candle Lighting - winner does not need to be
present
Please ask your family, friends, relatives, co-workers.
Tickets can be purchased at support meetings, other
events or you may request tickets to be sent to you.
Please return any ticket stubs sold along with payment
or tickets not sold by December 1st.
REMINDER...send in your tickets and money PLEASE
We are raising funds for our Memorial Garden Fund. Please
contact Darlene Dusza Chapter
Leader to purchase Memorial
Garden Flags or tickets for our
Butterfly themed quilt /wall hanging.
Cell 267-374-1171
Supporting a child through grief & bereavement
Are there stages of grief?
Even very young children feel the pain of bereavement,
but they learn how to express his or her grief by watching
the adults around them. After a loss—particularly of a
sibling or parent—children need support, stability, and
honesty. They may also need extra reassurance that they
will be cared for and kept safe. As an adult, you can support children through the grieving process by demonstrating that it’s okay to be sad and helping them make sense
of the loss.
In 1969, psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross introduced
what became known as the “five stages of grief.” These
stages of grief were based on her studies of the feelings of
patients facing terminal illness, but many people have generalized them to other types of negative life changes and
losses, such as the death of a loved one or a break-up.
Answer any questions the child may have as truthfully as
you can. Use very simple, honest, and concrete terms
when explaining death to a child. Children—especially
young children—may blame themselves for what happened and the truth helps them see they are not at fault.
Open communication will smooth the way for a child to
express distressing feelings. Because children often express themselves through stories, games, and artwork,
encourage this self-expression, and look for clues in those
activities about how they are coping.
How to help a grieving child:
 Allow your child, however young, to attend the funeral if he or she wants to.
Convey your spiritual values about life and death, or
pray with your child.
 Meet regularly as a family to find out how everyone
is coping.
 Help children find ways to symbolize and memorialize the deceased person.
 Keep your child’s daily routine as normal as possible.
Pay attention to the way a child plays; this can be one of a
child’s primary ways of communicating.

What not to do:

Don’t force a child to publicly mourn if he or she
doesn’t want to.
 Don’t give false or confusing messages, like
“Grandma is sleeping now.”
 Don’t tell a child to stop crying because others might
get upset.
 Don’t try to shield a child from the loss. Children
pick up on much more than adults realize. Including
them in the grieving process will help them adapt and
heal.
 Don’t stifle your tears; by crying in front of your
child, you send the message that it’s okay for him or
her to express feelings, too.
Don't turn your child into your personal confidante. Rely
on another adult or a support group instead.
The five stages of grief:

Denial: “This can’t be happening to me.”
 Anger: “W hy is this happening? Who is to
blame?”
 Bargaining: “Make this not happen, and in
return I will ____.”

Depression: “I’m too sad to do anything.”
 Acceptance: “I’m at peace with what happened.”
If you are experiencing any of these emotions following a
loss, it may help to know that your reaction is natural and
that you’ll heal in time. However, not everyone who
grieves goes through all of these stages—and that’s okay.
Contrary to popular belief, you do not have to go through
each stage in order to heal. In fact, some people r esolve
their grief without going through any of these stages. And
if you do go through these stages of grief, you probably
won’t experience them in a neat, sequential order, so don’t
worry about what you “should” be feeling or which stage
you’re supposed to be in.
Kübler-Ross herself never intended for these stages to be a
rigid framework that applies to everyone who mourns. In
her last book before her death in 2004, she said of the five
stages of grief: “They were never meant to help tuck
messy emotions into neat packages. They are responses to
loss that many people have, but there is not a typical response to loss, as there is no typical loss. Our gr ieving
is as individual as our lives.”
Grief can be a roller coaster
Instead of a series of stages, we might also think of the
grieving process as a roller coaster, full of ups and downs,
highs and lows. Like many roller coasters, the ride tends
to be rougher in the beginning, the lows may be deeper
and longer. The difficult periods should become less intense and shorter as time goes by, but it takes time to work
through a loss. Even years after a loss, especially at special events such as a family wedding or the birth of a
child, we may still experience a strong sense of grief.
Source: Hospice Foundation of A merica
Common symptoms of grief
Coping with grief & loss tip 1: Get support
While loss affects people in different ways, many
experience the following symptoms when they’re
grieving. Just remember that almost anything that you
experience in the early stages of grief is normal—
including feeling like you’re going crazy, feeling like
you’re in a bad dream, or questioning your religious
beliefs.
The single most important factor in healing from loss is
having the support of other people. Even if you aren’t
comfortable talking about your feelings under normal circumstances, it’s important to express them when you’re
grieving. Sharing your loss makes the burden of grief easier to carry. Wherever the support comes from, accept it
and do not grieve alone. Connecting to others will help
you heal.
 Shock and disbelief – Right after a loss, it
can be hard to accept what happened. You may
feel numb, have trouble believing that the loss
really happened, or even deny the truth. If someone you love has died, you may keep expecting
him or her to show up, even though you know he
or she is gone.
 Sadness – Profound sadness is probably the
most universally experienced symptom of grief.
You may have feelings of emptiness, despair,
yearning, or deep loneliness. You may also cry a
lot or feel emotionally unstable.
 Guilt – You may regret or feel guilty about
things you did or didn’t say or do. You may also
feel guilty about certain feelings (e.g. feeling relieved when the person died after a long, difficult
illness). After a death, you may even feel guilty
for not doing something to prevent the death,
even if there was nothing more you could have
done.
 Anger – Even if the loss was nobody’s fault,
you may feel angry and resentful. If you lost a
loved one, you may be angry with yourself, God,
the doctors, or even the person who died for
abandoning you. You may feel the need to blame
someone for the injustice that was done to you.
 Fear – A significant loss can trigger a host of
worries and fears. You may feel anxious, helpless, or insecure. You may even have panic attacks. The death of a loved one can trigger fears
about your own mortality, of facing life without
that person, or the responsibilities you now face
alone.
 Physical symptoms – We often think of grief
as a strictly emotional process, but grief often
involves physical problems, including fatigue,
nausea, lowered immunity, weight loss or weight
gain, aches and pains, and insomnia.
Finding support after a loss
 Turn to friends and family members – Now is
the time to lean on the people who care about you,
even if you take pride in being strong and selfsufficient. Draw loved ones close, rather than avoiding
them, and accept the assistance that’s offered. Oftentimes, people want to help but don’t know how, so tell
them what you need—whether it’s a shoulder to cry
on or help with funeral arrangements.
 Draw comfort from your faith – If you follow a
religious tradition, embrace the comfort its mourning
rituals can provide. Spiritual activities that are meaningful to you—such as praying, meditating, or going
to church—can offer solace. If you’re questioning
your faith in the wake of the loss, talk to a clergy
member or others in your religious community.
 Join a support group – Grief can feel very lonely, even when you have loved ones around. Sharing
your sorrow with others who have experienced similar
losses can help. To find a bereavement support group
in your area, contact local hospitals, hospices, funeral
homes, and counseling centers.
 Talk to a therapist or grief counselor – If your
grief feels like too much to bear, call a mental health
professional with experience in grief counseling. An
experienced therapist can help you work through intense emotions and overcome obstacles to your grieving.
OUR CHILDREN REMEMBERED FOR
OCTOBER Birthdays and Always
Our Beloved Children...In our Hearts always... Remembered on the Remembrance Day of their death
Michael Leach, son of Beth Horwin, 10/3
Cindy Dise, daughter of Hiram Wenhold & sister of Cheryl & Ralph
Cassel, Barry Wenhold, Brian Wenhold, 10/2
Joseph & Anthony Perno, sons of Cathy Perno, 10/7
Kisha Hesse, daughter of Donna Hesse &Carl Hesse, sister of
Brienne Fretz & Ryan Schultz– 10/8
Rebecca VanLuvanee, daughter of Daniel & Nanette Helms - 10/9
Silas Asa Harvey, infant son of Ryan Harvey & Sarah Wireman,
10/9 - 10/11
Christopher Rhudy, son of Beth Ruch - 10/10
Allison Fawcett, daughter of Anne & Bernie Smith, 10/3
Zachery Roessler, son of Chuck Roessler, 10/4
Jeffrey Carpenter, son of Steve Carpenter, 10/5
Michelle Dena Dusza, daughter of Steve & Darlene Dusza, sister of
Jenn Geib & family- 10/6
Tom O'Donnell, son of Susan &Thomas O'Donnell & family.-10/6
Jacob Burkett, son of Kathy & Jim Hardgrove, 10/10
Anna Nicole Fowler, daughter of Rita Armstrong, grand daughter of
Matilda Hamilton - 10/6
Michael Detweiler, son of Mary & Larry Detweiler, brother of
Lauren & Alyssa, 10/10
Candice Shirey, sister of Chuck & Lori Stockert - 10/6
Kaitlin Murphy, daughter of Pat Murphy, 10/10
Robert Walker & Ellen Heim, children of Barbara Walker,
Robert - 10/6 / Ellen - 10/28
Tyler Schultz, son of Gary & Debbie Schultz, 10/12
Adrian Conrad, infant grandson of Pamela Anderson & Barbara &
Ronald Borolla Sr., 10/12
Gary Zemitis, son of Lynne Bowers, 10/13
Daniel Lavery, son of Karen Kovac & Daniel Lavery, brother of
Meghan Lavery, 10/15
Frank Voce, son of Frank & Anna Voce, 10/15
Stephen Stalheim, son of Barbara & Gabriel Mertens - 10/16
Heather Schaefer, daughter of Linda Schaefer - 10/8
Michael Adamson, son of Darlene & Dan Dean, brother of Michelle
Lanning, 10/15
Jarrod Nordland, son of Lisa & Craig Nordland - 10/17
Cheryl Ann Smakula, daughter of Helen Delong, sister of Michelle
Lonetti - 10/17
Courtney Isabella, daughter of Anthony & Michelle Isabella - 10/18
David Neider, son of Celeste Neider Nice, 10/17
MiaRose Montevidoni, infant daughter of Kelly & Matt Montevidoni 10/18
Andrew Lister, son of Jen & Kevin Lister, 10/19
Sally Showalter, daughter of Dr. Edmund & Cynthia Zapp Jr, 10/20
Dawn Cannon, daughter of Joanne & David Cannon - 10/20
Christine Roesener, daughter of Paul & Ellen Roesener & granddaughter of Naomi Roesener, 10/20
Billy Savage, son of Bill & Blanche Savage, brother of Jennifer,
10/23
Ryan Knapp, son of Bruce & Holly Knapp - 10/21
David Grebe, brother of Sue Grebe, 10/24
Arthur Ucci, brother of Joan Ucci, 10/23
David Cassel, brother of Carol Lamonte, 10/24
John Fonsemorti, son of Rose Fonsemorti, 10/23
Kevin Myers, son of MaryLou Nyce, 10/24
Jason Tyler Foulke, son of Mitzi & Dean Foulke, 10/25
William Ingelido Jr, son of Rosann Smiley & William Ingelido Sr 10/25
Tristan Engarde, son of Lisa & Ed Engarde, 10/25
Glen Crouthamel, son of Doris & Fred Crouthamel - 10/28
Sharon Gorman, sister of Allen & Douglas Dejewski - 10/26
Christopher Court, son of Caroline & Tim Court, 10/27
Chad Statuti, son of Henry & Shirley Statuti - 10/28
Rebecca Cloud, daughter of Richard & Diane Cloud - 10/28
Nick Umberger, son of Nina & Jeff Wolfinger, grandson of Grace
Parzych, nephew of Bev Pearson - 10/28
Patti Mood, sister of Paula Fritch & Kathryn & James Jenks Jr, 10/30
* * * * UPCOMING MEETING ANNOUNCEMENTS * * * *
*October 13, 2015—7:30 PM general meeting
*October 9, 10, 11, 2015 - Eastern PA Regional conference
*October 27, 2015 — 7PM steering meeting—Quakertown Family Diner
*November 10, 2015—7:30 PM support meeting– Beth Horwin-topic: Handling the Holidays
*December 13, 2015 - Candle Lighting
Newsletter Update Form The purpose of this section is to update your information, email address, mailing address, phone
number, Child's name, sibling's name, birth date and anniversary death date.
This information will also help us in remembering
your child / sibling on their days with a remembrance card sent to you by our chapter. Any questions contact the newsletter editor
at 215-536-0173. Mail to the above address. I am the ___parent ___sibling ___grandparent
Your Name ___________________________________
newsletter/
____ I give permission to remember my child/sibling in the chapter
Address _______________________________________
submitted
______________________________________________
website newsletter on their remembrance day and their photo if
Phone # __________________________________
Child / Sibling name _________________________ birth date ______________ anniversary date _______________
Child / Sibling name _________________________ birth date ______________ anniversary date _______________
If you would like to receive information about our special events, memorial walk and butterfly release, candle lighting etc. via email
please provide your email address below. Would you please consider to receive our newsletter via email as a link to a chapter
website where you are able to view it before it is mailed to those who do not have
email.
____ yes
____ no
email address:
____________________________________________________________________________PLEASE PRINT
________________________________________
________________________
Authorization Signature
Date
LOVE GIFTS
A LOVE GIFT is a gift of money to The Compassionate Friends. It is usually in memory of a child who has died; either on his/her birthday or anniversary of the death. It can also be from someone who wants to honor a friend or
relative who has died, or anyone who wants to help support the work of TCF. Your LOVE GIFTS are TAX DEDUCTIBLE, and are the Chapter's main monetary support. Chapter Non-profit #2053
I wish to make a donation in memory _____
honor _____ of ________________________________________
**Birth date __________________________
Death date _______________________________
Love gift message
________________________________________________________________________________________________
Please send your check payable to: TCF Quakertown Chapter and mail to: TCF Quakertown Chapter, PO Box
1013, Quakertown, PA 18951
I / We would like our Love gift to be used for: ______ Special Events /Speakers/community outreach _____ Memorial Garden
_____ Candle Lighting Program
______ Memorial Walk & Butterfly Release
Your Name ___________________________________
______ General operating expenses
email_______________________________________________
Address _______________________________________
________________________________________
Telephone _______________________________
The Compassionate Friends
Quakertown Chapter
PO Box 1013
Quakertown, PA 18951
Meeting Date: October 13, 2015
WE ARE A SUPPORT GROUP FOR PARENTS, SIBLINGS, GRANDPARENTS AND FAMILIES WHO HAVE EXPERIENCED
THE DEATH OF A CHILD OR SIBLING OF ANY AGE.
If you do not wish to receive this newsletter. Please return this page to the above address
The Compassionate Friends Credo
We need not walk alone. We are The Compassionate Friends.
We reach out to each other with love, with understanding, and with hope.
The children we mourn have died at all ages and from many different causes,
but our love for them unites us.
Your pain becomes my pain, just as your hope becomes my hope.
We come together from all walks of life, from many different circumstances.
We are a unique family because we represent many races, creeds, and relationships.
We are young, and we are old.
Some of us are far along in our grief, but others still feel a grief so fresh and so
intensely painful that they feel helpless and see no hope.
Some of us have found faith to be a source of strength, while some
of us are struggling to find answers.
Some of us are angry, filled with guilt or in deep depression,
while others radiate an inner peace.
But whatever pain we bring to this gathering of The Compassionate Friends,
it is pain we will share, just as we share with each other our love for the children who have died.
We are all seeking and struggling to build a future for ourselves,
but we are committed to building a future together.
We reach out to each other in love to share the pain as well as the joy, share the anger as well as the peace,
share the faith as well as the doubts, and help each other to grieve as well as to grow.
We need not walk alone. We are The Compassionate Friends .(c) 2007