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Are you feeling blissfully happy right now? lf you look at your life
broken down into the following seven categories, how would you
score your satisfaction out of 1 0 in each area?
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Health and body image
Friends and family
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lf you take the time to do this little exercise, I think you'll find it an
enlightening one. From my experience of those of us who are drawn
have had some signifrcant health challenges, and found that
eating raw really he ped, or
like me, lust be someone willing to do almost whatever it takes
to be really, really happyl
For me, happiness meant feelrng energetic and vital, and this is why
lwas willing io go to extremes to get as happy as possible. lwas,
and will always be, committed to standards of excellence rn all areas
of my life, no matter what others say or think
ln my personal Journey, I eventually found the right balance in
my diet and health regime; lfound the diet and exercise plan that
worked for me.lt's not '1 00% raw, but I walked away from my sixmonth experiment with that diet very "raw aware" and in the years
since, it's been a rare day when I haven't consumed a significant
amount of raw food.
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I think lt's important for us all to find the balanced dlet that is best
suited to us. However, this quest can go too far. There is a risk
that we may be using excessrve control over our diet to try make
ourselves happy because other aspects of our lives are not really
working.
lf you are feeling powerless, out of control or unfulfilled within
your relationships, career or any other key area of your life, the
satisfaction you get from controlling your diet may be a substitute
for resolving these issues.
Having a healthy diet is important but we don't want to make
our diet "God." lt amuses me when I look at what us humans make
"God" in our lives. By "God" I mean those things that take up so
much of our attention they become our very identity.
Some people's happiness each day is defined entirely by how
well they stuck to a diet plan. lt could only be counted as a great
day if they stuck to the dlet, and if they didn't then whatever else
happened, it was a terrible day. We all know other people whose
identity is tied up in their professional status, their appearance, or
their possessions - and please don't think l'm saying those things
are better "Gods"
l'm just happy to have the opportunrty here to look a iittle wider,
beyond diet and nutrition - because although these are important
contributors towards our health and happ ness, they are far from
the whole story.
At the end of the day, whatever we choose to put our energy
into, we're all going afler a feeling in all our endeavours: feeling
happy. At our core at the soul level - we are pure "Essence"
or "Source". This part of us is also sometimes referred to as the
"Higher Self". Nothing is broken nor needs fixing here. This is the
non-physical "lnfinite and Eterna Se f" and it very often has a
different agenda than the human self lt simply.
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- to experience ever-expanding potentials for
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The sou fears nothing and loves everything lt is not "mental" at all.
lQ has nothing to do with the soul - this is where the human self
comes in. What this means is that while it has great wisdom, it lsn't
an expert on practrcal human earth experience.
Ithink certain new agers and o d Eastern tradttions give more
power to the Hrgher Self versus the human self than it deserves.
Things like food and sex are restricted as part of many spiritual
practices ln other words, rt is as rf integrating with your Higher Self
tnvolves trylng to get out of the body; as if the purely "human" part
of our experience is less important or even "bad."
But I discovered, to my 1oy, that the soul wants to live through
the " human " iI wants to experience life. That's its point. Many
spiritual seekers believe they need to limit, restrict and cut off their
experience of life But the way to get in touch with your Higher
Self is not by leaving the physical body. lt is by diving right into
experiencing life and all t has to offer on earth
However, here we come on to the matn topic of this article, as
what I then discovered is that when we talk about the human self,
something we need to understand ls that it is not one thing.
Your human self is made up of multip e "subpersonalities". Key
to achieving the sustainable happiness we're all after is integrating
these human parts back with the Hlgher Se f
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Understanding subpersonalities
Our souls create subpersona lties rn order to feel and p ay dlfferent
roles rn life. We have an endless number of them and the vast
majority are not a problem; in fact, many are both positive and
highiy usef ul. For example, some of us have subpersonalittes that
make us brilliant busrnesspeople, publrc speakers, technical experts
or musicians,
In terms of our energy body, our subpersonaltres are like bubbles
of energy rn our energy fields. The non-problematic ones appear
when needed, do their lobs and can easily dissolve and integrate
back nto our Soul selver aga r.
Now, this is a different issue with "problem" subpersonalrties.
Problem subpersonalities are those that were created to serve us in
some way but they get stuck, and fail to integrate back rnto the Self.
Unresolved subpersonalities may be just a tiny part of our total being
but take up 90% of our time and our attention - such as those
varrous "Gods" ltalked about earlier.
Subpersonalities are parts of ourselves that were created
unconsciously, and "problem" ones were often created in response
to a traumatic event. They are parts that are wounded in some way.
These broken subpersonalites take up iots of our psychic,
emotiona and physical energy They prevent us from co-creat ng
with our Hrgher Selves and feeling the love, bliss and expansion
our higher selves have in store for us. In other words they drain
our joy and happiness. Here are some examples of unresolved
subpersonal ties:
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Fear
of public speakrng
Fear
of snakes or bugs
Fear
of being vulnerable and expressing love for another
Fear
of being unattractive/unlovable
Fear of failure at
work
Fear
of losing money/income
Fear
of health
issues
lnabillty to enjoy sex
Feeling ashamed/disgraced/lowself-esteem
Feeling unsafe in your body or in the world
Fear
of being alone/isolated
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and analysis to deal with problem subpersonalities. This can help
short-term awareness of subpersonalities, but it really does not
resolve them. Often this mental processing only validates the
subpersonalities and makes them stronger.
5o unresolved subpersonalities are often created during times of
trauma. They then literally get frozen into our energy body, causing
havoc with our minds, emotions and physical health.
Once you integrate your subpersonalities, there is an incredible
shift in your reality which finally begins to take place and benefits
include:
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Finally experiencing true peace
thoughts and emotions
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no more nagging mental
More energy
Needing less sleep
Better health
Greater clarity
You cannot integrate problem subpersonalities by:
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Talking to them
Cajoling them
Distracting yourself f rom them
lgnoring them
Counsellinq them
Arguing or debating with them
Pretending everything is alright
Denying them
Mentally processing them
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just being aware of them
You connect to your own "voice of authority,,
Bliss and joy
Increased psychic and intuitive abilities
Ability to experience being the creator of your life
Expanding on that last point, finally when you make decisions for your
life, you start to be able to manifest what you want, effortlessly!
The reason that many people don't seem to get what they want is
because they don't really know themselves in the first place.
So they set goals which
are just goals
they "think" they want, but often these
of subpersonalities, and these may ignore the soul
agenda. And anyway the desires of different subpersonalities are
usual y conflicting ! So people don't get where they want to go and
the diagrams above illustrate why.
The process I advocate for resolving subpersonalites has come about
after spending years on my own journey of personal and spiritual
development, as well as undertaking some 7,000 consultations
with patients, and co-running a clinic where resolving problem
subpersonalities was critical for recovery.
It is more material than can be communicated in one article, but
would like to offer Get Fresh! readers access to this information.
I have written a report, The Process for Resolving Problem
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Subpersonalities and Overcoming the Pitfalls to Integration, and you
can get it for free by simply visiting my website - www.nikigratrix.
com
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So how do we integrate our unresolved
Niki Gratrix
subpersonalities?
is an NTC-registered
The approach I advocate is different from traditional psychology In
traditronal psychology, the Soul is not acknowledged, so the fact
that all of us at our core are pure essence, with nothing to fix, is
ignored. Like many powerf ul religions, traditional psychology tends
to teach us that we are broken at the core and need to fix ourselves.
ln addition, traditional psychology uses a lot of mental processing
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Your blissful future is your past, healed
Unresolved subpersonalities are the reason most people don,t
easily get what they want in their lives. They are like karma * if we
have a subpersonality from the past that has low self-esteem, we
tend to attract people who wjll treat us badly in the future as well.
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