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Greeting
Dear readers,
what can one call „success“? The meaning of this term varies greatly – success can
have many faces. Being successful strongly depends on expectations placed you
upon yourself as well as the ones brought up externally and equally concerns private life, working life and school or student life. Yet especially what others expect
from us (or what we think they do) trick us into believing that we should strive for
success as it is defined by the general public rather than live up to our own needs.
Most notably in societies that explicate the term primarily from a financial and
material point of view run the risk of pursuing too ambitious the predefined status
icons. As a consequence this easily gives rise to greed and the often insatiable need
to accumulate wealth. The current international financial situation and its somehow
absurd characteristics illustrate very clearly where this development might lead. A
few individuals accumulate more and more money and capital whereas at the same
time many people live in poverty and economic deprivation. Such a greedy striving
for financial success is extremely detrimental to the social cohesion of society and
even divides us.
togetherness, you have come a little closer to
the definition of success – for yourself as well
as for society.
However success can also imply positive, friendly and integrative aspects. There is
a German proverb that says “success brings us together”. Pride in the joint achievement serves as a binding experience within a team, builds a common identity and
binds the participants together even beyond the project, providing the individual is
willing to share the success. Egoism has no place in successful togetherness.
For everyone the success they are hoping to achieve is different just as
every person is different.
Further success can take on a dramatic scale. Frequently the little things in life provide the good feeling of being successful. Therefore the personal expectations you
place upon yourself play an important role. Many people are satisfied with being
successful in their private life – if their children are happy and healthy, if their life
partner is happy, if you feel good in your own skin or simply if they can master all
the often quite mundane pettiness of everyday life. All that matters is the mixture
of success factors and a good feeling about what you do. From my own experiences
as a politician I can tell you how important it is to not only strive for professional
successful but also live a well-balanced private life. Even being able to get unwind
after a hard day at work and keep the right work-life balance represents success.
If you are satisfied with your achievements at the end of the day without forgetting
Petra Ernstberger
(member of German Parliament)
Women‘s Life Styles 2
In this sense I hope you enjoy reading these
success stories of women of different nationalities and cultural backgrounds. They tell exciting episodes of their lives and share their own
personal success with the readers. As reader
you will soon notice the different perspectives
and ways of looking at success.
www.Success.europe
A man is successful
if he gets up in the morning and
gets to bed at night, and in between;
does what he wants to do
Bob Dylan
W
hat is the meaning of success to you?
When can you say, “I am successful“? How do you measure
success? Does it mean you have
to build a career, gain power and
influence, earn as much money
as possible and drive a great car
in order to create an impression?
Alternatively someone might be
considered successful because
he or she enhances his/her consciousness through 2 hours daily meditation and consequently
lives stronger, happier and with a
peaceful mind?
W
ho is to decide
what success is for the individual? Whatever is right for one person might be completely wrong
for the other and to quote Kant
“there should be no law without a
reason“. So is it even possible for
anyone to give one generally applicable definition? If this is the
case, success is a very individual
issue.
W
hen are you successful?
Have you ever seriously thought
about what success means to
you? If you never assess the importance of success for you, and
in this regard your personal objectives that represent success to
you, you might just pursue irrelevant (at least to your own understanding of success) aims. You
might end up disappointed.
In the context of the Learning
Partnership we interviewed various women about their opinions
on success and what it meant to
each one of them individually.
The replies could not be more
diverse!
Success is ...
(Participants’ responses...)
...if you have whatever it takes to be
happy and joyful
...to be able to do whatever brings me
joy
...not to have the best of everything
but to make the best of everything
...if you are happy. It is as simple as that. Everything else is luxury problems.
...to achieve self-defined objectives and be able to enjoy the results in
professional as well as private life
...if you do whatever you enjoy from morning till night and from night till morning
...if I reach my aims
...to be satisfied with myself
...connected to performance – if I make an effort to achieve my objectives, this characterises success. It is different if it just drops into your lap. That’s not success, that’s luck
...being happy! Success doesn’t make you happy, but rather happy people will
be rewarded in work life, social life and health
...if you are happy and satisfied with what you have
...when I can go my own path
...unsettled and changeable – an act, a feeling or something else which can be different for each individual
…life. Everyone has the possibility to define individually what success looks like
For one person it is being healthy, for another you are not successful unless you’ve earned your first million dollars
...if you are aware that you have anything you need to be happy.
...to live the life you want
...satisfaction. Be at ease with my environment, which means to be aware of my
own abilities (and inabilities) and to know how to achieve the pre-set goals.
...if a plan is followed by action
Coordinator
Women’s Life Styles
Life styles of women have changed over the last century;
many women now live a “double life” - they are employee
and at the same time mother and wife. Approaches of how
to overcome various obstacles are multiple and different depending on the culture and the requirements of each society.
Volkshochschule der
Stadt Selb
(Coordinator)
The main objective of the project was to find stories of how
women have solved these problems. The target group we interviewed includes younger as well as older women.
The vhs Selb as an Adult Education
Centre provides adult learners’ training. We provide non – formal education. We also organize different types
of courses for adults, such as: computer and language courses. As a local
government organisation the vhs Selb
is integrated into this town and part of
the community. Besides general adult
education the vhs Selb offers many onthe-job vocational training courses and
work reintegration programmes for the
unemployed.
The idea of the project was to discover the development of solutions during the last century. Interviews with women in the partners’ countries were
collected and published in a booklet. By comparing different lifestyles the
transferability must be proven. Within project meetings women had the
chance to meet, exchange stories and share their experiences in order to
learn from each other and to come up with alternative solutions.
Women’s Life Styles is financed by GRUNDTVIG, a sectoral programme of
the European Life Long Learning Programme (LLP)
Start: Finish: Our organisation cooperates with
the Adult Education Association bvv
in Bavaria. As a partner in Grundtvig
learning partnerships we have been
collaborating with different partners
from all over Europe since 2004. For
about 20 years we have been offering
measures for further vocational education in cooperation with the state department of Labour, job search programmes, practical training and places
for enterprise education.
1st August 2011
31st July 2013
Partner countries: Germany, Turkey, Spain
Coordinator: Germany
Mobility: total 48 (12 Germany, 12 Spain, 24 Turkey)
Meetings: Kick-off meeting in Germany (October 2011),
Spain (May 2012)
Turkey (September 2012),
Final meeting in Germany (June 2013)
Internet: www.gru-womenslifestyles.com
Contacts: Germany: [email protected]
Turkey: [email protected]
Spain: [email protected]
We profile jobless people and cooperate
with local enterprises in the domain of
further education. Our programmes include further education training courses for EDP, courses for women only,
language courses, vocational training
for people without any qualifications,
training for health care assistants,
commercial training courses, special
courses for young adults (school leaving exams), training for disabled persons, and further qualification courses
for employees, for example in the field
of tourism. Also included are language
and vocational training courses for foreigners and immigrants, and evening
courses for adults in language, health,
business, EDP and culture among
others.
The vhs Selb was founded in 1949 as
a non-profit organisation. The principal
aim was to provide, create and coordinate offers for citizens in different fields
of learning and living. In 1992 vocational training for jobless people was
added to services offered - at first only
for women, later, for men as well. The
training included EDP, language, counting, healthcare and business training.
Contact
Volkshochschule Selb, Lessingstr. 8, D-95100 Selb
www.vhs-selb.de
[email protected]
Project Partner
IPF / INICIATIVAS DE PROYECTOS
DE FORMACIÓN
IPF / INICIATIVAS DE PROYECTOS
DE FORMACIÓN is a non-formal training and research company specialised
in the field of education and training
projects. It wasn’t born ex novo, but
profiting from more than 25 years of experiences the director had been working in the sector in educational centres
and similar initiatives, the organisation
developed its business further.
IPF is divided into two branches:
The education and training managing IPF / Iniciativas de Proyectos de
Formación / Consultorat is responsible for the management of training
projects at national level. The consultancy of education and training IPF
International CONSULTING as second
branch is in charge of the management
of educative and training projects at a
transnational level.
IPF is made up by a team of professionals in the fields of teaching, management and thematic experts who
develop their work in the diverse
activities of IPF. The operations integrate and complement each other in
order to achieve the excellence in quality offered and the closeness and interest in satisfying the clients’ needs as
transversal measures.
Some of our main aims are to achieve
an improvement in education to match
the requirements of managers and employees, provide education of youngsters alternating work with education,
achieve a better counselling and work
insertion for job seekers, as well as the
necessary dissemination and awareness raising in society.
We look back at more than ten years
experience in the development of
European Projects, both pilot and mobility. We have a network of partners
at transnational level all over Europe,
and a wide network of educational centres, both owned and collaborating
partners. All these make it possible to
be involved in a variety of educational activities.
Kdz. Ereğli Halk Eğitim Merkezi
ve Akşam Sanat Okulu
Kdz. Ereğli Halk Eğitim Merkezi ve
Akşam Sanat Okulu is an education
center which targets adult learners
in its region and it’s a governmental
organization.
Our center is located in Kdz Ereğli which
has 100.000 population and is on the
North-West coast of Turkey. The economy of our town is based on industry.
There are several shipyards and a quite
big iron and steel factory in the town.
The role of our center in this industrial
city is to educate the adults to be effective in the industrial field and we also
aim to put some different colors to their
lives by teaching them some traditional handicrafts and leisure activities like
dancing, needlework, patching, painting, woodwork, housekeeping, cooking
etc. We know that people need some
breaks throughout their stressful lives
and we try to teach them how to cope
with the harsh conditions of working
life.
A serious amount of our learners are
women and they are all from different social backgrounds and age levels:
some are businesswomen, some are
retired and some are housewives. We
try to educate all these women together and we observe that they can easily share their experiences with each
other.
In our culture, as in all other cultures
women don’t have the same problems
as the men. Different problems come
with different solutions. So we decided to organize these ‘special meetings’
international. We want the women in
Turkey could have the chance to share
their experiences with other women
living in other countries, so we looked
for a project that could fit our women’s needs.
Fortunately, we found the project that
we have been taking part for two years:
Women’s Lifestyles
Contact
Contact
Iniciativas de Proyectos de Formación
Kdz Ereğli Halk Eğitim Merkezi ve Akşam Sanat Okulu
Calle Esperanto 8, 1º, 29007 Málaga
www.ipfinternational.com
[email protected]
Sarikorkaz Mah. Okul Sok. No 2, 67300 EREĞLİ
www. kdzereglihem.com
[email protected]
Working together
What was the motivation
for this project?
In the past our great grandmothers had
just one role in the family. This role was to
take care of their children and husbands.
They were mothers and housewives. But
later women had to change in the flourishing world. They were still mothers and
housewives but they also had to be productive members of the economy. They
worked hard and found effective ways to
overcome the difficulties of having two
different roles in the society. It wasn‘t
easy but they have succeededved so it
was necessary to change the plan.
Nowadays, in our
globalizing world women
have similar difficulties due
to the rapid changesin the
working life. It is really hard to
adapt their roles each other. There are
some gaps between being an employee
and a mother and a wife. In our project
we aim to find solutions to these
problems by sharing the experiences
that women had in their earlier
lives and we believe this
Looking for partners
project will help women to
bridge the gap between
Initially the project was planned jointl
their roles
by Germany, Italy, Latvia,
Lithuania, Poland, Turkey,
United Kingdom and Spain.
What was the main aim
of this project?
The main aim of the project was to identify different solutions of combining family life and work life, especially related
to the Cultural background of women.
Women ought to be encouraged to talk
about their lives, to tell their very individual stories. This could be successful
stories as well as such with resignation
and compromises. The importance of
the project was to indicate the problems
that women have all over Europe.
These 8 nations agreed that it would
be the best and most solid basis for the
project to get stories from as many different countries as possible to compare
the influences of various cultural backgrounds. Unfortunately only 3 partners
were approved so it was necessary to
change the plan
Coming together
MALAGA
30th May - 1st June 2012
Women of all partner
countries were involved
and get in touch the
first time .
They shared their life experience and talked about
their own understanding of
success.
There were at
least as many
definitions for
success as
there were
participants!
We are looking forward to seeing
you next time in Turkey!
Coming together
EREğLI
3rd - 6st September 2012
Women
life styles
in Turkey
Q�estionnaire
The kick-off-meeting took place in October, 2011
in Germany. All partners agreed to provide a uniform basis for the implementation of the interviews. We developed a questionnaire as a directive for all interviews. In this manner it was
possible to compare the stories of the women
from all countries.
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What do you associate with the term “success”?
(Please keep inyour mind Job, family, health....)
• Men and women have a different understanding of success.
What do you think are the differences and which are they
based on?
• During this learning partnership we were considered the
question whether the understanding of success is directly
related to the culture you grew up. What impact on your
own personal success can be attributed to a person’s childhood and adolescence (and the influence of Family and
Friends)?
• Surely you have already experienced successful situations.
Try to describe at least three of them and write down what
this success looked like as well as what kind of impact there was on your life.
• Initially it is important to find the
right answer to this question or
yourself, so its best you start by
making some notes of what success means to you and what situation in your life you would accordingly
call a success. These questions will serve as
starting point for a joint discussion.
BEDRİYE KİRAZ
46 yaşında/years
Hayatınızın başında
planlarınız neydi?
What were your plans at
the beginning of your life?
Hayatınızın dönüm
noktası nedir?
What was the turning
point in your life?
En başından beri okumak istemiştim
ancak bunu gerçekleştiremedim.
Ortaokulu bitirmek istedim ama
başaramadım. Şu anda bir okulda çalışıyorum. Burada çalışırken
de okulu bitirebilirdim, hatta liseyi
bile bitirebilirdim ama yapamadım.
Şartlardan, koşullardan diyeceğim
ama bu da sebep değil, yapabilirdim.
Bunu yapsa idim bir şey elde edemeyecektim ama soranlara” Ben, lise
mezunuyum.” diyecektim. Bunu söyleyebilmek benim için çok önemliydi.
Çünkü, tahsilli olmak bir ayrıcalık
I would have wanted a proper education, being able to complete secondary school but I couldn’t succeed.
I work at a school now. I could have
finished school while I was working
here, maybe even high school but I
couldn’t. I could excuse myself for
the conditions. Circumstances but
that is not it. I could have done it.
If I had achieved this, I would have
say “ I am a high school graduate.”
To be able to say that is so important
to me, being educated is a privilege
Kırk yaşıma kadar, köy yerinde,
bağda bahçede bıkmadan, usanmadan çalıştım. Güneşin altında tüm gün
çapa yapmak, ekmek, biçmek kolay
değildi.
Ereğli’ye gelince, bir dershanede
çalışmaya başladım, iki yıl boyunca
çalıştım ama sosyal güvencem yoktu ve
ben buna çok üzülüyordum. Sigortalı
olmak benim çok istediğim bir şeydi.
Bu, şimdi çalıştığım okulda gerçekleşti
ve benim için şu anda çalıştığım okulda işe başlamak hayatımın dönüm
noktası oldu.
Until the age of 40, I worked in vegetable gardens in countryside non-stop.
It wasn’t easy to hoe, plant, harvest
etc. all day under the direct heat of
the sun.
Bir arkadaşım beni bu okula akşamları
sınıfları temizlemek için çağırdı. Bir yıl
boyunca, geceleri sınıfları temizledim;
sonraki yıl tam gün, gündüz çalışanı
oldum. Çok sevindim çünkü sosyal güvenceye de kavuşmuştum ve bu benim hayattaki en büyük başarımdı. Bu
başarımla gurur duyuyorum çünkü ben
hep çalışmakla yetinen bir insanım.
Sizin için başarı
nedir?
Benim için başarı, evimin dışında
çalışıp para kazanmaktır. Çünkü
ben böylelikle eşime yardım ediyorum,
çocuklarıma
bakıyorum,
üniversitede okuyan kızıma para
gönderiyorum,
eve
bakıyorum.
Cebimde kendi kazandığım
paramın olması ve sosyal güvencemin olması benim için
büyük başarıdır
To have my own money in my
pocket and social security is the
biggest success for me.
What does success mean
to you?
For me, success is working outside
my house and earning money. I am
able to assist my husband and take
care of my children, send money to
my daughter who is at the university.
Koskaca bir okulu, sabahtan akşama
dek temizlemek, köydeki o ağır çalışma
şartlarından sonra bana çok kolay geliyordu. Ama en önemlisi, okulda kuryelik yapacak bir memur olmadığı
için beni Milli Eğitim Müdürlüğü’ne
göndermeye başladılar. Önce temizlik
yapıyor, sonra ara veriyor, temiz giysiler giyiyor ve şehir merkezine gidiyordum. O zamanlar kendimi bir devlet
memuru gibi hissetmeye başladım;
bu gerçekten gurur verici bir şey. Bu
nedenle yaptığım işi çok seviyorum ve
asla şikayet etmiyorum
After moving to Ereğli, I started to
work for a private tutoring school. But
I had no social security and I really
felt sorry for this because having social security was my biggest dream.
This dream became real at the school
I work for recently.
I work at this school because one of
my friends asked for help to clean the
school in the evenings. For a year I
cleaned the classrooms at nights.
Next year I became a full time daytime employee. I was very happy because I also had social security and
this was my biggest success in my life.
I am proud of myself and my success
in having social security.
It was very easy for me to clean the
entire school from morning till night
after very harsh working conditions
in my village. But most important of
all, since there was no civil servant at
school to take care of courier services,
they started to send me to Provincial
Directorate of National Education as a
courier. While I was carrying documents, I felt myself as if I were a civil servant. Because of this I really like
my job and never complain
PEPI CANO RIOS
The story of Pepi can be
summarised on perseverance,
and desire for self-improvement.
What she really emphasizes is the education she
received from her parents, and specially from her
mother. Right now, she says that she thinks a lot on
them, since she obtained everything she tried in life
and this can be thanks to them.
She defines herself as an open-minded person, but at
the same time she is shy and insecure, so right now,
when she thinks she got success in life, she is feeling
very good. She went to the school during 6 years, until she was 14 years old. But later in life, she became
aware that she wanted to study more things, since
she felt herself inquisitiveness. As a woman, she always felt very happy. She got married with her perfect man, and she is still in love with him. She considers that her 2 daughters and 1 son are the most
important thing in her life.
When she was taking care of her house and children,
working as a housewife, she started a training course
on dressmaking which made her felt rewarded and
later on, she started working on a nursery school.
She worked there for 10 years, and this was a happy
period, since she woke up her feeling for having more
knowledge about more different things.
While working, she started studying in order to have
a qualification on administration, which was necessary in order to also obtain a degree on kindergarten. This first time she was studying, when being an
adult, everything was so hard, since she had to take
care of her house and children, and when she finished everything, she could start studying. Although
she did not obtain the qualification the first time she
made the exams, she was able to obtain it in the end,
which made her feeling much more self-confident;
She emphasizes that her sister helped her too much
during this period. After that, she also obtained the
degree on kindergarten.
56 años/years
it was so hard, the training course lasted for one
year, but her daughter helped her a lot, while making notes and outlines. She was extremely happy because she obtained the qualification. After this, she
also obtained a qualification on geriatrics, Alzheimer
disease, hospital attendant… But not only on this
area, since she started working to obtain the driver’s license for busses. Her husband worked his entire life with busses, so this was a good opportunity also for her; And it must be pointed out that not
so many women at this age starts looking for a traditional job for men.
After obtaining the driver’s license for bus, she started working with a mini bus, making the route for a
school. Little by little, and while she was working, she
continued studying for other qualifications; She explains how she worked, ate a sandwich in five minutes, and started studying inside the training center.
During holidays and Christmas she works at the hospital as a nursing assistant or as a hospital attendant, and she also works with busses, and not only
mini busses, but big ones. This makes her feeling so
happy and satisfy, because she obtained what she
wanted.
She defines herself as not very ambitious, speaking
about material things, because she says that happiness is found when you are happy with your little
things, not asking for more and more things.
She considers that her success is found on perseverance, and a feeling for making everything in a perfect way, but she recognizes that being healthy and
strong helped her during her entire life. She is happy
on having a good relationship with everybody around
her.
To finish, she explained how the education she received made her to be motivated and to find a way to
make your life “alive”.
She realized that she could obtain everything she
proposes herself, so she started studying a degree
to work as nursing assistant. At the begging again
La historia de Pepi ...
... puede resumirse en palabras como constancia, y deseo de mejora. Pepi hace mucho hincapié
en la educación que recibió de sus padres, especialmente de su madre; Ahora mismo dice que se acuerda mucho de ellos, ya que ha obtenido en la vida
todo lo que se ha propuesto, y le da las gracias a sus
padres por ello.
Se define a si misma como una persona abierta, pero
al mismo tiempo tímida e insegura, por lo que ahora, cuando piensa que ha obtenido éxito en su vida,
se siente muy feliz.
Fue a la escuela durante 6 años, hasta que tuvo 14
años, pero más tarde se dio cuenta de que quería
estudiar más cosas, ya que sentía curiosidad por
aprender más.
Como mujer, siempre ha sido muy feliz. Se casó con
su hombre perfecto, y aún está muy enamorada de
él. Considera que sus dos hijas y su hijo, Jose, Raquel
y Vero, son la cosa más importante que hay en su
vida.
Mientras cuidaba de su casa y de sus niños, como
ama de casa, comenzó un curso de formación de
Corte y Confección, el cual la hizo sentir realizada, y
un poco más tarde comenzó a trabajar en una guardería. Trabajó allí durante 10 años, y este período fue
muy feliz, ya que despertó un sentimiento que le
decía que quería tener más conocimientos de diferentes áreas.
Mientras trabajaba, comenzó a estudiar para obtener una titulación en Administración, que le era necesaria para obtener una titulación como Técnico de
Educación Infantil. Este primer período en el que estaba estudiando, ya de adulta, todo era bastante
difícil ya que debía cuidar de su casa y de sus hijos,
por lo que cuando terminaba sus tareas era cuando
podía comenzar a estudiar. Aunque no obtuvo la titulación la primera vez que realizó los exámenes, al
final logró conseguirla, lo que la hizo sentirse mucho más segura de si misma; Enfatiza mucho en que
su hermana Rafi la ayudó muchísimo durante este
período. Después de ésto, también obtuvo la titulación de Técnico en Educación Infantil.
Se dio cuenta de que podía obtener todo lo que
se propusiera, por lo que comenzó a estudiar para
obtener una titulación como Auxiliar de Clínica. Al
principio todo fue muy complicado, el curso duraba
un año, pero su hija Vero la ayudó mucho, haciendo apuntes y resúmenes. Pepi obtuvo la titulación, lo
que la hizo estar de nuevo muy contenta. Después de
ésto, también ha obtenido la titulación de Geriatría,
de cuidados del Alzheimer, de Celadora… Pero no
sólo se quedó en el área hospitalaria, sino que empezó a estudiar para obtener el carné de conductor
de autobús. Su esposo ha trabajado toda su vida con
autobuses, por lo que tener el permiso para conducirlos era toda una oportunidad para ella; Y debe ser
apuntado que no muchas mujeres en ese momento piensan en buscar un trabajo que tradicionalmente
ha sido de hombres.
Después de obtener el permiso para conducir autobuses comenzó a trabajar con un micro-bus haciendo la ruta de un colegio. Poco a poco, y mientras
más iba trabajando, continuó estudiando; Ella explica
como trabajaba, comía un bocadillo en unos minutos,
y se iba al centro de formación para entrar a clase.
Durante vacaciones y navidades suele trabajar en el
hospital como auxiliar, o como celadora, pero también trabaja con los autobuses cada día, y no sólo
con micro-buses, si no con autobuses grandes. Ésto
la hace ser feliz y estar satisfecha, porque ha obtenido lo que quería.
Se define como una persona no muy ambiciosa, hablando de cosas materiales, porque dice que
la felicidad se encuentra cuando eres feliz con las
pequeñas cosas, no pidiendo más y más.
Considera que su éxito se basa en su perseverancia, y su perfeccionismo, pero también reconoce que
ser fuerte la ayudado siempre. Muestra su satisfacción de llevarse bien con toda la gente que le rodea.
Para terminar, ella explica cómo la educación que recibió la hizo motivarse para encontrar un modo de no
quedarse quieto, y “darle vida a la vida”.
Erika W.
73 Jahre/years
Früher hatten die Frauen nur für
die Familie da zu sein: Kinder,
Haushalt etc. Heute ist fast
jede Frau berufstätig. Ich finde,
das ist ein Erfolg an sich, dass
sich die Frauen dies erarbeitet
haben. In anderen Ländern war
bzw. ist es noch schwieriger mit
der Gleichstellung der Frau, sie
mussten Schleier tragen, durften
nicht mit jedem reden usw. Auch
das hat sich in vielen Ländern
deutlich gebessert. Der berufliche
Erfolg von Männern und Frauen
wird heute noch immer unterschiedlich bewertet und auch bezahlt - immer noch!
Mein persönlicher Erfolg war
ein guter Abschluss an der
Realschule und die anschließende
Berufsausbildung.
Später habe ich mit meinem
Mann ein Haus gebaut und bin
stolz, dass ich alles geschafft
habe - und auch noch berufstätig war. Ich war 44 Jahre mit
meinem Mann verheiratet und
habe 1 Tochter. Eine glückliche Familie in einem gemeinsamen Haus, inzwischen ergänzt
mit einer Enkeltochter und einem
Schwiegersohn, wir verstehen
uns blendend! Ich finde, das ist
auch mit mein Erfolg: Das alle
glücklich und zufrieden sind!
Jetzt im Alter bin ich zufrieden,
mache Gymnastik, Yoga, gehe
ins Fitness-Studio - mein Erfolg,
dass ich das noch alles bewältigen kann.
Ich finde, jede Arbeit, die
einem gelingt, kann man
als persönlichen Erfolg
bezeichnen!
In times past, women had to be
there for their family – taking
care of their kids, do the housework, etc. Nowadays most women have a job. Women fought for
the right and the general acceptance to go to work. I believe this
represents success. In Eastern
countries it was even more difficult for women to fight for gender equality. They had to wear a
veil; it was not allowed to speak
to everyone, etc. This situation
improved significantly as well.
Emancipation - further notable success demonstrates women at the election, in politics and
at work, first grammar school for
women in Karlsruhe (1893) and
University in Baden founded 1901
for women. However, professional success for women and men is
still valued and paid unequally.
My greatest personal success
was my graduation from secondary school (O-level) and vocational education.
Later on I and my husband bought
a house and we are very proud of
this achievement. Together with
my husband of 44 years I have
a daughter and we have always
been very happy. Today as an addition to my family I have a nice
son-in-law and a granddaughter.
We live in the same house all together and we get along swimmingly and happily.
Now, as I am older, I am entirely satisfied, practice gymnastics,
do yoga, hit the gym – my own
personal success that I still can
manage to do all this.
I firmly trust that everything
you set out to do counts as
success when you accomplish
your objectives.
BELGİN KURT ALCAN
42 yaşında/years
noktası nedir?
point in your life?
Şu anda yaşadığım şeyler daha önceden planladıklarım değiller.
The things I have been living through
from the beginning of my life weren’t
the thing I planned for my life.
Bir gün mahallemizde yavru bir kedi
buldum. Çok çaresiz bir şekilde ölümü
bekliyordu. İyi beslenememişti ve ölmek üzereydi. Ben bu kediyi bir kutu
içine koydum, ona bakım yaptırmak
için bir veteriner aramaya koyuldum. Bir yandan da tedavinin ödemesi ile ilgili düşünceler kafamın içinde
dönüyordu. İşte bu çaresiz anımda
Gönülden Hayvan Sevenler Derneği
ile tanıştım. Dernek tarafından bu
yavru kedinin bakımı yapıldı, tüm
ihtiyaçları giderildi. Daha sonra bu
çirkin, bakımsız yavru kedi çok güzel
bir kedi oldu. Bu kedi sayesinde dernekle tanıştım. Dernekle tanışmamın
ardından insanların hayvanlara ne
kadar kötü davrandıklarını fark ettim ve sokak hayvanlarına yardım
etmeye, onlar için çalışmaya karar
verdim.
One day I found a helpless kitten
in our neighborhood. It was waiting
for the death desperately. It was so
hungry and it was to die from starvation and thirst. I, as a woman
who couldn’t have touched any animals until that day, put that poor
cat in a box and I started to look for
a vet for its treatment. Meanwhile I
had some thoughts about the cost of
the treatment. While I was feeling
so desperate, I met with the Animal
Lovers Association. This organization took care of this kitten. After the
treatments that ugly, little, poor kitten became a gorgeous cat. I have
learnt about this association because
of this cat. The association made me
realize the bad behaviors of humanbeings towards defenseless animals
and I decided to help and work for
stray animals.
Meeting with the people working in
our association was the milestone of
my life.
nedir?
to you?
Benim için başarı, çaresiz sokak hayvanlarına yardım etmektir.
Derneğimiz bünyesinde bunu yapmaya çalışıyoruz ve çoğunluklada
başarılı oluyoruz ve ben her
kurtardığım evsiz dostumuzla kendimi daha da başarılı hissediyorum
For me, success is to help poor stray
animals which are desperate. With
our organization we try to do this
and usually we succeed and I feel
myself more successful with each
animal that I helped.
Dernekle tanışmam benim için gerçek bir dönüm noktası oldu.
ELENA ALCARAZ CORDOBA
68 años/years
La historia de Elena es la historia del
éxito en si mismo. Se puede resumir
en trabajo duro y buenos resultados.
The story of Elena is the one for success itself. It can be summarized as
hard working and good results.
She was born in the field, and she remembers her
childhood as very beautiful. She remembers her parents as extremely good, since they gave her a good
education although she could not go to the school.
Since she was a little girl she started working in the
field and inside the house to help her parents, and
her brothers and sister. When she was 7 years old,
she stayed at home taking care of her little brother,
since her mum was giving birth to her new brother,
and her older sister was helping her mum while giving birth. A whole example on overcoming for such
a little girl.
After that, she decided to make more things for herself, and she started learning computer science, to
know how to use the computer. But not only this,
since she started learning dance and painting, and
she decided to keep fit so she started going to the
gym.
She met her husband and they started working to
build a life in common. Before getting married, her
boyfriend went to Germany, where he saved money
from his work, and she also was working and saving
money. After he came back, they bought a house on
the village and they got married.
She considers herself as a very successful person,
since she worked very hard to be competitive and
efficient, and she thinks she got it. In addition, she
gave education to her daughter and son and today
they are great people, which makes her feeling so
proud of herself.
After getting married, she was working as a housewife, but she also worked on the field.. Never stopping. She took care of her children, one boy and eight
years later one girl.
To finish, even if you don’t have many opportunities
at the beginning, she considers that working hard in
life gives you a reward, a very good one.
She explains that she has been very lucky her entire
life because she worked a lot, but she had the help
of her parents which were angels for her and her
husband, with who she has been during the last 50
years, and they are still in love.
She is proud to tell that even if the family earned a
little amount of money, she was able to save some
money, in order not to have difficulties in case the
family needed it.
After some years they moved to the city, where she
was taking care from her children, going with them
to the school, helping them with their tasks… And
also taking care of an old person outside the house.
But there, at the city, she had more opportunities.
Once children were older, she started studying on a
training center for adults, to obtain the degree. She
is very proud to tell that this was something very important for her, since she did not have the opportunity to study while her childhood, but right now she
was studying and learning a lot, which was fantastic. She also prepared herself for the driver’s license.
Nació en el campo, y recuerda su infancia como una
infancia muy hermosa. Recuerda y habla de sus padres como excelentes personas, ya que le dieron una
muy buena educación a pesar de que no pudo asistir
a la escuela. Desde que era una niña comenzó a trabajar en el campo y en casa para ayudar a sus padres
y sus hermanos y hermana. Cuando tenía 7 años de
edad, se quedó en casa cuidando de su hermano
pequeño, ya que su madre estaba dando a luz a su
nuevo hermano mientras su hermana mayor estaba
ayudando a su madre a dar a luz. Un ejemplo de superación para una niña tan pequeña, ya que su padre también estaba trabajando.
Cuando conoció al que hoy es su marido, Rafael, ambos comenzaron a trabajar para construir una vida en
común. Antes de casarse, el por entonces su novio se
fue a Alemania, donde ahorró el dinero de su trabajo
allí, mientras ella también estaba trabajando y ahorrando. Después de su regreso, compraron una casa
en el pueblo y se casaron.
Después de casarse, trabajaba como ama de casa,
pero también trabajó puntualmente en el campo ..
Nunca se podía parar, según sus palabras. Se hizo
cargo de sus hijos, un niño y ocho años más tarde
una niña, Rafa y Elena.
Elena se siente muy orgullosa de decir que aun ganando una pequeña cantidad de dinero tanto ella
como su esposo, fue capaz de ahorrar dinero, a fin de
no tener problemas en caso de que la familia necesitara algo.
Después de algunos años se trasladaron a la ciudad,
donde cuidaba a sus hijos, los llevaba a la escuela,
los ayudaba con sus tareas... Y también comenzó a
cuidar una persona mayor, fuera de casa. Pero ahí,
en la ciudad, ella tenía más oportunidades. Una vez
que los niños fueron mayores, empezó a estudiar en
un centro de formación para adultos, para obtener el
graduado. Se siente muy orgullosa de decir que ésto
era algo muy importante para ella, ya que no tuvo la
oportunidad de estudiar en su infancia, pero ahora
que estaba estudiando y aprendiendo mucho, todo
era fantástico. También se preparó para obtener el
permiso de conducir.
Después de eso, decidió hacer más cosas por sí misma y para ella misma, y comenzó a aprender informática, para aprender a usar el ordenador. Pero
no sólo esto, ya que comenzó a ir a clases de baile
y de pintura, y decidió mantenerse en forma así que
empezó a ir a clases de gimnasia también.
Elena explica que ha tenido mucha suerte toda su
vida porque ha trabajado mucho, pero que ha tenido
la ayuda de sus padres, que han sido como ángeles
para ella, y también a su marido, con el que ha estado durante los últimos 50 años, y del que todavía
está muy enamorada.
Se considera a sí misma como una persona muy exitosa, ya que trabajó muy duro para ser competitiva
y eficaz, y cree que lo ha logrado. Además, dio una
buena educación a su hija e hijo y hoy son grandes
personas, lo que la hace sentir muy orgullosa de sí
misma.
Para terminar, considera que incluso si no tienes muchas oportunidades al principio, trabajar duro en la
vida te da una recompensa, una muy buena.
Cora-Lina H.
Definitionen für Erfolg gibt es auf der Welt
mindestens ebenso viele wie Einwohner.
Aber die einzig richtige für dich ist deine eigene - das habe ich in meinem Leben bereits schon einige Male gemerkt.
Ich bin 26 Jahre jung und habe gerade mein
Studium mit Auszeichnung bestanden. Bis
dies soweit war hatte ich allerdings schon
einen langen Weg hinter mich gebracht. Mit
20 entschied ich mich vom Gymnasium auf
eine andere Schule zu wechseln und meinen Hochschulabschluss parallel zu einem
Berufsabschluss zu machen. Sicher war das
die einzig richtige und erfolgreiche Entscheidung für mich.
Ich gewann durch Erfolge Selbstbewusstsein
für mein zukünftiges Leben. Nach einem
sehr erfolgreichen Abschluss begann mein
Studium, und ich entschied mich hierzu aus
der Komfortzone Familie wegzuziehen und
in der Fremde Bildung, Wissen und Glück zu
suchen. Diese Zeit habe ich sehr genossen
und mir machte es Spaß, die Welt zu sehen.
Besonders beflügelt von meinem 2jährigen
Auslandsstudium hat mich schließlich unaufhaltsames Fernweh gepackt.
Derzeit arbeite ich im Marketing eines
internationalen Unternehmens und die
Karierrechancen, welche sich mir hier
bieten sind erstklassig. Wenn ich jemandem meine Geschichte erzähle, bekomm
ich meist die einheitliche Reaktion “Du bist
ja voll auf der Erfolgsspur!” Und doch fühle
ich mich rastlos und unausgeglichen - sollte
das Erfolg sein? Ich habe irgend-wie etwas
ganz anderes erwartet. Und warum macht
es mich dann nicht unglaublich glücklich?
26 Jahre/years
Die Antwort trage ich schon lange in mir.
Bereits mit 15 wollte ich einfach in die Welt
hinaus und Abenteuer erleben. Von einer
Weltreise träume ich schon fast die Hälfte
meines Lebens. Ich malte mir aus andere
Kulturen hautnah zu erleben, atemberaubende Orte zu besuchen und spannende
Abenteuer zu erleben. Seit ich arbeite, spüre ich das noch viel mehr. Ich habe mich
also entschlossen, meinen lang gehegten
Traum der Weltreise zu erfüllen und siehe
da, bereits die Vorbereitungen verleihen mir
wieder neue Energie.
Ich finde bisher habe ich schon viele kleine
Erfolge gefeiert, die mich alle zu dem gemacht haben was ich heute bin; z. B. denke ich, dass ich vor einigen Erfahrungen
und Erlebnissen noch nicht bereit war, den
Schritt in die Ungewissheit der großen weiten Welt zu wagen. Und der nächste große Erfolg wird meine Reise sein. Und hier
kommt meine Erfolgsformel ins Spiel:
Erfolg ist Glück und Zufriedenheit - und sogar Misserfolg kann zu Erfolg werden, wenn
man daraus lernt und den Zustand ändert
und glücklich wird. Oder um es mit Picassos
Worten auszudrücken:
“Handeln ist der grundlegende
Schlüssel zum Erfolg”.
There are at least as many definitions for
success as there are inhabitants on earth.
Yet, the only correct one is your own - that’s
what I have experienced a couple of times
already.
unbalanced - should this be success? I imagined it to be quite different. I imagined me
to be much happier. But why weren’t I unbelievably happy if I actually seemed to be
on the winning track?
I am 26 years young and
have just graduated with
first class honours from university. Nethertheless I’ve
come a long long way unil I
am where I am now. When I
was 20 I decided to change
from academic high school
to a vocational college.
There I could finish school,
get my A levels plus I graduated in tourism management simultaneously. That
was indeed the only viable
option for me and can definitely be considered as success.
I have kept the answer in
my head already. When I
was 15 I started to dream
about a life of adventures
and experience cultures.
With this idea of a world
trip constantly on my mind
for almost half of my entire
life I was fantasising about
foreign cultures, breathtaking places and thrilling adventures - and I still am. At
work I repeatedly catch myself daydreaming at work.
So I came to the conclusion
that I should fulfil my long-desired dream
and go on a world trip - and just imagine
that: I regained my energy almost instantly
and even the preparations gave me a boost.
Encouraged by the success my self-esteem increased and that prepared me well
for all my future life. After graduating from
school I studied far away from home and
my comfy-zone. I was searching for education, knowledge and happiness beyond the
horizon. I loved this time and I really enjoyed improving myself, further my studies
and see the world. Especially inspired by my
two years of study abroad I was infected by
un unstoppable wanderlust. My feet began
to itch even more when I started working.
At the moment I am working in Marketing
within an international operating company
and the career prospects are superb. This
often leads to the one reaction you might
expect when you tell someone about you
life so far: “You seem to be on the winning track”. And still I feel restless and
I think I have been celebrating smaller and
greater successful situations over the years
and every single one made me the person I
am today; e. g. I trust that I wouldn›t have
had the courage to do this journey without
experiencing from my past. And my world
trip will be my next huge success. And that
brings me to my formula for success:
Success means happiness and satisfaction
and it is entirely in your own power set it
free. Even if you don›t succeed the first time
- even failure can be turned into success if
you learn from it or to use Picasso›s words:
«Action is the foundational
key to all success».
MARIA JOSE NUÑEZ AGUILAR
41 años/years
Maria José nos cuenta una historia de metas, de objetivos cumplidos.
Maria José tells us a story of goals, of
achieved objectives.
She was born in Malaga, but the family soon
moved to Granada and she started school there.
When she was 13 years old, they returned to
live in Malaga and this episode marked her so
much, since she had to start the high school
and she had no friends there, so she found herself disoriented and began to establish friendships with high school repeaters, which made
her to loose her interest for further study. She
started working in a clothing store, but soon
dropped out to start studying again. The same
day she finished her training she began working
as a secretary at an advertising agency. Little by
little she got a promotion within the company,
and as she is a restless person, after the company shut down because of problems among
partners, she decided to build a marketing and
promotions company.
The company ended up closing, and she had
family problems, since her mother died, so she
decided to take a year off to rest.
Language, Accounting, Computer ... And met
the man of her life, with who she built a family, so she left this job to reconcile a family life.
She started working at a dental clinic, which allowed her to have a family life, less independent, and began studying at the University. She
finished a degree on Social Educator at the
University and had a daughter, Alejandra. Now
she is the happiest person in the world.
She thinks that her own success comes because she always has objectives to achieve,
and she fights for them. Success is to achieve
your goals. She still wants to improve herself,
and she is thinking about professional projects.
Always positive.
Finally, she feels herself successful because
thanks to her attitude towards things, she
achieved everything she proposes herself, and
she has everything she needs: Love, Family,
Work....
Next year she started working at an insurance
brokerage, but this work required not so many
training, so she became bored, and decided to
ride back a company with other partners. After
splitting from their partners, Maria Jose decided to take time to find another job that would
allow her to continue the level of life she had,
so she got the training to work as a croupier
and began to work as one in a very famous casino at La Costa del Sol. She explains us how
this was a male-dominated world, but she managed to have her own place, of what she is very
proud of. She won a lot of money at this period, but the work was nighttime, and she began
to miss spending time with family, and create
her own family. She made many new courses, Management and entrepreneurship, English
Nació en Málaga, hija de Luis y Pepi, pero al
poco tiempo se mudaron a Granada y comenzó el colegio allí. Con 13 años volvieron a vivir a
Málaga y nos cuenta que este episodio la marcó
mucho, ya que era la etapa de empezar el instituto y al llegar a Málaga no conocía a nadie.
Se encontró desubicada y comenzó a establecer amistad con alumnos repetidores del instituto, lo que la hizo perder el gusto por seguir estudiando. Comenzó a trabajar en una tienda de
ropa, pero al poco tiempo lo dejó para empezar
a estudiar de nuevo. El mismo día que terminó
la formación profesional comenzó a trabajar
como secretaria en una agencia de publicidad.
Poco a poco fue ascendiendo dentro de la empresa, y al ser una persona inquieta, y tras la
empresa cerrar por problemas entre los socios, decidió crear una empresa de promociones
y marketing.
La empresa terminó cerrando, y ella tuvo problemas familiares, ya que su madre falleció,
por lo que decidió tomar un año sabático para
descansar.
Al año comenzó a trabajar en una correduría
de seguros, pero el trabajo le exigía poca preparación, por lo que se aburría, y decidió montar de nuevo una empresa con otros socios.
Tras separarse de sus socios, decidió tomarse un tiempo para buscarse otro empleo que
le permitiese continuar con el nivel alto de vida
que llevaba, por lo que se preparó para trabajar como croupier y empezó a trabajar de ello
en un casino muy famoso de la Costa del Sol.
Nos cuenta que era un mundo tradicionalmente
masculino, pero que logró abrirse un hueco y
tener su lugar, de lo cual está muy orgullosa.
Ganó mucho dinero en esta etapa, pero el trabajo era nocturno, y empezó a echar en falta
pasar tiempo con la familia, así como crear una
familia propia. Realizó muchos cursos de nuevo,
de Administración y creación de empresas, de
Inglés, de Contabilidad, de Informática... Y
conoció al hombre de su vida, con el que quiso
formar una familia, por lo que dejó el trabajo
para conciliar una vida familiar.
Comenzó a trabajar en una clínica dental, lo
que le sirvió para tener una vida más familiar,
menos independiente, y comenzó a estudiar en
la Universidad. Terminó la Carrera Universitaria
de Educadora Social y tuvo una hija, Alejandra.
Ahora es la persona más feliz del mundo.
Considera que su éxito reside en que tiene objetivos continuamente, y lucha por conseguirlos. El éxito está en alcanzar tus metas. Sigue
teniendo muchas ganas de mejorar y piensa en
proyectos profesionales. Siempre positiva.
Para terminar, se siente exitosa porque con su
actitud ha conseguido todo lo que se ha propuesto, y tiene todo lo que necesita: Amor,
Familia, Trabajo...
GÜL KORKMAZ
52 yaşında/years
Lisede öğrenciyken, doktor olmak isterdim. Doktor olmak ve yurdumuzun
daha az gelişmiş bölgelerine gidip insanlara yardım etmek… Sadece tıbben
değil her konuda onlara yardımcı olabilmek... Üniversite sınavında, tıp fakültesini kazanamadım, fransızca okumak
durumunda kaldım. Öğretmen oldum,
evlendim ve iki çocuğum oldu. Artık
amacım iyi bir öğretmen ve
iyi bir anne olmaktı. Bunu
başardığımı düşünüyorum.
When I was a kid at high school, I wanted to be a medical doctor. My dream was
to become a doctor and serve people
in less developed regions of my country, serving them not just in a medical sense but also in every way that I
can. At the university entrance exam,
I couldn’t achieve to enter a medical
school. I had to continue my education
on French Language and
Literature. I became a
teacher, got married and
had two kids. Afterwards
my aim was to become
a good teacher and a
good mother. I think I
achieved this
nedir?
Başarı yaşa göre değişen
bir durum galiba. Gençken
başarı iyi bir kariyer yapmak olabilirken yaşlı biri içinse kimseye muhtaç
olmadan ayakta kalabilmek olabilir. Benim için başarı genel olarak gününü iyi
geçirmek demek sanırım. Faydalı işler
yaparak ve mutlu olabildiğim ve de yeni
şeyler öğrenebildiğim her gün başarmış
biri kabul ediyorum kendimi. Ayrıca
ölmeden yapılacaklar listeme her tik
atışımda da kendimi başarılı bir insan
hissediyorum. Şu andaki en büyük hedefim ise yazmakta olduğum romanımı
bitirip onun basıldığını görebilmek.
What does success
mean to you?
I think success changes
according to age. For a younger person, success is having a good career,
and for a senior it is to live without assistance of someone.
For me, success is to have fulfilling day.
I also consider myself as a successful
person after I put a tick to my “things
to do list before I die”.
My biggest aim right now is to finish
the novel I am writing and see it being
published.
noktası nedir?
point in your life?
Kırklı yaşlarımda hayatım değişti. Çok
ciddi bir göz rahatsızlığı geçirdim: Retina yırtılması. Sonra babam kanser
oldu. Babam ameliyat sonrası hastaneden kaçarak intihar etti. O şoku
üzerimizden atamadan annem bypass
oldu. Yaşı, aşırı kilosu ve şeker hastalığı
nedeniyle çok zor bir ameliyat ve
iyileşme süreci oldu. Artık hastalıklar
bitsin diye dua ederken mememde bir
tümör fark ettim yapılan biyopsi neticesinde kanser olduğumu öğrendim.
Kemoterapiler derken ruh sağlığım etkilendi ve ben doktora gittim. Doktora
içinde bulunduğum durumu anlattıktan
sonra “sinirlerim çok bozuk, bana bir
ilaç verin ve sakinleşeyim çünkü kızım
üniversite sınavına hazırlanıyor” dedim. Doktor bana kızım için mi ona
gittiğimi sordu ben onaylayınca da
bana “ önce kendinizi düşünmelisiniz,
siz iyi olursanız, siz mutlu olursanız
çevrenizdekiler de iyi olur, mutlu
olur” dedi. Belki de benim hayatımın
dönüm noktası doktorumun o sözleri oldu. Artık kendimi mutlu etmeye
çalışmaya başladım. Emekli oldum.
Yurt içi ve yurt dışı geziler yaptım. Tiyatro çalışmalarına katıldım ve sahneye
çıktım. Korolara katıldım. İngilizce
öğrenmeye başladım. Öyküler yazdım.
Yetiştirme yurdundaki kız öğrencilerle
bir tiyatro grubu kurup oyunlar sergiledik. Güzel konuşma kursuna gittim.
Politikayla ilgilenmeye başladım ve il
yönetiminde yer aldım. Reiki seminerlerine gittim ve şifa enerjisi vermeyi
öğrendim. Oğlum evlendi, tatlı bir kız
torunum oldu. Kızım üniversiteyi bitirip
işe girdi. Uğraşılırsa mutlu olunacağını
öğrendim. Özetlersem 40 yaşıma girdikten sonra 6 yıl hastalıklarla, sonraki
6 yıl da onları sağaltmak ve mutlu olmaya uğraşmakla geçti.
My life has changed in my 40s. My retina was torn. Then my father had cancer. After his operation, he ran away
from hospital and committed suicide.
As we barely recovered the shock , my
mother had a bypass surgery and because of her age and diabetes a problematic healing process. Just as I was
praying for the end of these illnesses,
after a biopsy a tumor was discovered
in my breast.
After chemotherapy I lost my mental
health and I went to a headshrinker.
When I told everything I lived through
and asked for some medicine to keep
calm for my daughter who was preparing for the university exam, the shrink
asked me if I visited her for my daughter. When I nodded, she advised me
to think myself first and added that if
someone is happy, the people around
her-his will also be happy.
The turning point was this words. I
started to please myself, retired and
travelled, studied amateur theatre and
performed in some plays, took part in
choirs, started learning English, wrote
short stories. We organize a theatre
group with girls from the orphanage
and performed in plays. I became interested in politics and took roles at
provincial administration. I took “reiki”
seminars and learned to give healing
energy.
My son got married and I had a lovely granddaughter. My daughter graduated university and now has a job.
While these were happening, I had one
hernia and two cataract surgeries, but
they didn’t devastate me. To sum up,
in my 40s I struggled with illnesses for
6 years and I survived. I have been
healing and trying to become a happier person now.
CRISTINA PEREZ RUIZ
29 años/years
“The success I have achieved in my
life can be based simply on overcoming
the barriers that were place on it, in all
the goals and objectives that I wanted to
achieve along my personal and professional life, which made me stronger, outgoing and proud of myself.
develop my job in a place where I feel
complete and satisfied with my work, and
today I can say I am dedicated to what I
have studied, in a company where I feel
very comfortable in all aspects and I receive money for this, what else I can say
...
My first target objective, which I have
achieved successfully, is the familiar one:
I had a family life a little bit difficult that
ultimately led to the divorce of my parents. Maybe at first I did not take this in
a good way, but I found out the positive
side of everything, and this is because I
realized that my parents’ happiness was
the most important thing, and because
of one reason or another, they were not
happy together. Nowadays they are good
friends, after being 15 years divorced, and
we spent many time all together, and I
can enjoy them.
Over the years, and thanks to be a very
observant person, I realize how people behave and what I do not want to be
or I do not want to do to other people,
because there are certain people who,
to achieve their goals, they understand
that you must override others and trample their dignity. Thanks to that, I can say
that I am a good friend of my friends, and
above all I understand that companionship, to help others and the knowledge to
be, makes you worthy and deserving to
get the success that you propose yourself.
On the other hand, it can be said that I
have overcome some occasional hypochondria, because I had something that
always made me being afraid, but I realized that nothing must obsess yourself,
because what it is going to happen, it will
happen, no matter what you do; I overcame that barrier, so I opened my eyes
and made myself able to enjoy the pleasures of life without fear, but with caution.
So I can say that as a woman and as a
person in general, I got a good personal
development, I am very proud of myself,
I feel free and happy, proud of my family and I have the good fortune to have
some friends from childhood that they’re
my treasures for me, which I value and
make me feel a very special person. We all
have the values of respect, trust, integrity, humility and kindness. And for all this,
I feel free. “
Another stage of my personal life was to
find myself, to meet myself, to know who
I am, to become more outgoing and sociable. I always had many complex since I
was too tall for a girl of my age, very thin,
with acne and very shy, but as times went
by and because of experience, I overcame
that another barrier and successfully I got
to be a person with strong character, confidence and sure of myself.
Another goal set and achieved was my
professional career: I always wanted to
“El éxito que he conseguido en mi vida
se puede basar, sencillamente, en la superación de todas las barreras que se han
interpuesto en mi vida; En todas les metas
y objetivos que me he marcado a lo largo de mi vida personal y profesional y que
me han hecho ser más fuerte, extrovertida y orgullosa de mí misma.
Mi primer objetivo marcado, el cual he
conseguido con éxito, es el familiar: Tuve
una vida familiar un poco difícil que finalmente llevó al divorcio de mis padres.
Puede que al principio no me lo tomara
demasiado bien, pero supe sacar la parte
positiva de todo, y es porque comprendí
que la felicidad de mis padres era lo más
importante y que por una causa u otra, no
eran felices estando juntos. Conseguí que
ellos se llevaran bien y hoy día, después
de casi 15 años separados, son amigos y
he de destacar que pasamos mucho tiempo todos juntos, y yo disfruto mucho de
ellos.
Por otro lado, puede decirse que he superado alguna que otra hipocondría, de las
cuales gracias a que me ocurrió algo de lo
que siempre tuve miedo, conseguí darme
cuenta de que no merece la pena obsesionarse con nada, porque si te tiene que
suceder te sucederá, pase lo que pase; Así
pues superé esa barrera que me abrió los
ojos y me hizo saber disfrutar de los placeres de la vida sin miedos, aunque siempre con precaución.
Otra etapa de mi vida como persona fue el
encontrarme conmigo misma, el conocerme tal y como soy y conseguir ser mas
extrovertida y sociable, siempre tuve muchos complejos ya que fui una niña muy
alta para mi edad, muy delgada, con acné
y muy tímida, y con el paso de los años y
la experiencia, superé esa otra barrera y
conseguí con éxito ser una persona con
carácter fuerte, confianza y segura de mi
misma.
Otro objetivo marcado y logrado
es mi carrera profesional: Siempre
quise desempeñar mi trabajo en un
lugar donde
me sintiera
íntegra y satisfecha con
mi labor, y a
día de hoy
puedo decir
que me dedico a lo que
he estudiado, en una empresa donde me
siento muy realizada en todos los aspectos y además me remuneran por ello,
qué más puedo pedir…
También, con el paso de los años, y gracias a que soy una persona muy observadora, me doy cuenta de cómo son las personas y de qué es lo que no quiero ser
ni quiero hacer a los demás, porque hay
cierto tipo de personas que para conseguir su objetivo, entiende que debe pasar
por encima de los demás y pisotear la dignidad del otro. Gracias a eso, puedo decir
que soy una persona muy amiga de mis
amigos, y sobre todo entiendo que el
compañerismo, el ayudar a los demás y el
saber estar, te hace digno y merecedor de
conseguir el éxito que te propongas.
Así pues, puedo decir que como mujer y
como persona he conseguido un buen desarrollo personal, estoy muy orgullosa de
mi misma, de sentirme libre y feliz, orgullosa de mi familia y tengo la gran suerte
de tener unas amigas desde la infancia
que son unos tesoros para mí, a las cuales
valoro mucho y me hacen sentir muy especial; Entre todas fomentamos los valores del respeto, la confianza, la integridad, la humildad y la bondad. Y por todo
esto, me siento libre.”
Evelyn P.
61 Jahre/years
Auf jeden Fall war ich es - 50 Jahre
lang. Meine Kindheit verbrachte ich
unbeschwert in einer harmonischen
Familie und die Zeiten an Volksschule, Gymnasium und Fachoberschule verliefen problemlos. Im letzten
Schuljahr lernt ich den Mann fürs Leben kennen, er war 7 Jahre älter als
ich und kam als Junglehrer in meinen Heimatort. Ich träumte nämlich
schon immer von einem “Hausfrauendasein” wie es in unseren Familien
allgemein üblich war.
Nach dem Schulabschluss arbeitete
ich bei einer Bank und wurde dort
sehr krank. Ich musste monatelang
im Krankenhaus bleiben. Aber mit
meinem Verlobten an der Seite erholt
ich mich gut. Als ich wieder gesund
war, heirateten wir und bekamen 2
Kinder. Wir bauten uns ein Haus ich
konnte mich als Allround-Hausfrau
verwirklichen. Sämtliche Tätigkeiten als Erzieherin, Köchin, Bäcke-
rin, Putzfrau, Näherin, Waschfrau,
Gärtnerin oder Malerin machten mir
großen Spaß. Auch um die alten Eltern konnte ich mich kümmern. Das
schönste aber war, dass wir viel Zeit
füreinander hatten.
Mit 57 Jahren erlitt mein Mann einen
tödlichen Herzinfarkt und mein Leben änderte sich schlagartig. Eigentlich wollten wir doch zusammen alt
werden!
Ganz langsam gelang mir eine Neuorientierung: ich verreiste wieder erst allein, dann mit Freundinnen,
ich besuchte meine Kinder und half
Ihnen bei mehreren Umzügen, an
unserem Haus baute ich um und
renovierte. Die gewohnte Aktivität
kam allmählich zurück. Ehrenamtlich
habe ich erst bei der Hospizinitiative
und später noch bei der Demenzbetreuung im Krankenhaus angefangen zu arbeiten. Auch im Café mit
Anschluss habe ich positive Erfahrungen gemacht und nette Leute getroffen.
Meine größte Freude sind meine Kinder und Enkelkinder. Ich bin dankbar, dass ich noch gesund bin und
gute Freunde und Nachbarn habe,
die mir auch mal bestehen. Mein Leben ist wieder erfüllt und abwechslungsreich und auch wenn ich heute
nicht mehr ganz so glücklich bin, so
bin ich doch sehr zufrieden - und erfolgreich!
I definitely have bin – for 50 years. I
spent my childhood blithely in the bosom of my family. During my schooldays at primary school, Grammar
school and College of Further
Education I didn’t face any problems
at all. On the contrary, when I was
in my final year of school I got to
know my dream man – the man for
life. He was seven years my senior
and just moved as fledgling teacher
into my hometown. We soon decided
to get married so I didn’t think any
more about studying and professional education. I have always dreamt
of being a housewife – just as it was
common for women in my family.
After graduation I worked at the
bank, but I got very sick during my
time there. I had to stay at the hospital for months. Even so my fiancé has been standing by my side the
entire time which helped me recover
– maybe this was some kind of test
for our love? When I was hale and
hearty again we got married and two
children, built a house – and my lifelong dream of being an all-housewife came true. I enjoyed all the responsibilities that came with being a
housewife. It also meant to be care
worker, cook, backer, housecleaner,
sewist, laundrywoman, gardener,
painter and decorator, and so on. I
also looked for my parents. The best
thing was that we had lots of time for
each other.
At the age of 57 my husband suffered deadly heart attack and my whole life turned upside down. We wanted to grow old together and now he
was gone. Gradually I managed to
get my life back on track: I travelled
– first alone and then together with
friends – I visited my children and renovated the house. Daily routine set
in again. I also started to work voluntarily at hospice organization and
guided dementia patients at the hospital. I went to “Café mit Anschluss”
which was a great experience and I
met new people and made friends.
However my children and grandchildren still bring the greatest joy.
I am so thankful for being healthy,
for having such good friends and lovely neighbours, whom I asked for
help every now and again and which
I always get. My life is rich in variety and satisfied. And even if I am not
quite as happy nowadays as I have
been in the past, I am still deeply
contented - and successful!
GÜLSÜM SÖMEK
63 yaşında/years
Küçükken, babamın mesleğinden
dolayı kuaför olmak isterdim ama
küçücükten evlenip, ev hanımı oldum. Çok yoksul bir mahallede büyüdüm, hayata dair plan yapmayı bile
bilmezdim ama okumayı çok istedim
ana ortaokulu bitirebildim. Hemen
dört çocuk yapınca başka hiçbir plan
yapamadım.
As a kid, because of my father’s
profession I wanted to be a hairdresser. But I became a child bride
and remained housewife. I grew up
in a very poor neighborhood I didn’t
even have the concept of having
plans about life but I would have
wanted to get an education. I have
only been able to complete secondary school. After having four kids, I
couldn’t have made any plans.
Sizin için başarı nedir?
to you?
Benim için
başarı, sabır demektir. Hayatta
yenemediğiniz ya da
değiştiremeyeceğiniz.
koşullar, zorluklar
mutlaka vardır;
bunları ancak sabırla
alt edebilirsiniz. Çünkü
benim elimden başka
bir şey gelmeyince
ancak sabırla katlanabiliyorum. Sonunda
işler bir şekilde yoluna
giriyor. Sabretmeyip
isyan etsem, kavga
etsem, elime bir şey
geçmez.
Sabretmesini bildiğim için kendimi başarılı bir birey olarak
görüyorum. Herkese de bunu
öneriyorum.
For me success
is enduring.
There are
always certain
circumstances,
difficulties you
will not be able
to change or
get over. You
can only endure them with
patience. Because if there
is nothing I can
do about it, I
can only stand
with patience.
In time, thing
will fall into pieces in their own way.
If I revolt and quarrel without being
patient, there is nothing I can gain.
Because I know how to be patient I consider myself successful.
I also recommend this to everyone.
noktası nedir?
point in your life?
Yaşadığım ev büyük bir arazi içinde ve
şehre uzak. Beş yıl önce bahçenin metal
kapısı üzerime devrildi ve bacağım kırıldı.
Ameliyat oldum ama bacağım hala tam
olarak iyileşmedi ve ben beş yıldır bahçe
kapısından dışarı çıkamadım, çıkmakta
istemiyorum.
Dağın yamacında evimiz vardı ve bu
eve 150 basamakla çıkılıyordu. Bir daha
yukarı çıkamadım. Aşağıda bahçede
bana bir kulübe yaptılar ve bu kulübede
yaşamaya başladım . yıllar sonra, kendimi kulübeden dışarı attım ve bahçe
işleri yapmaya başladım. Bu işe bir
arkadaşımın önerisi ile başladım. Önce,
büyük kutulara toprak doldurup sebze
yetiştirmeye başladım, sonra da çiçek
fideleri yetiştirdim. Bu yıl bahçemizin
dışına stant yapıp satmaya başlayacağız.
Ormandan düşen ve ufalanan kaya
parçaları ile sonbahar yapraklarını kış
boyu karıştırıp çok verimli bir toprak
elde ettik. Ne ekersek ekelim adeta fışkırıyor. Eşimle beraber tüm gün
bahçede çalışıyoruz. Ben bacağımdan
dolayı zorlanıyorum ama bunu sorun
etmiyorum çünkü bacağım çalışsam da
çalışmasam da ağrıyor zaten. Bu yüzden
ben günümü çalışarak geçiriyorum. Kulübemde dinlenirken dışarıdaki çiçeklere
bakarak çok mutlu oluyorum. Çiçeklerim
ve bitkilerim çocuklarım gibiler. Çünkü
kendi çocuklarımın hepsi uzaktalar.
Genellikle yalnızım ama yinede bir yerlere gitmek istemiyorum. Yağmur yağarsa,
kulübede oturup bulmaca çözer, eskide
olsa gazete okurum, TV izlerim. Akşam
yediden sonra bir saat dostlarımla telefonda konuşurum, benim gezme
şeklimde budur. Birkaç dostum var, onlar
beni ziyaret ederler, yalnız bırakmazlar
ve bundan mutluluk duyarım. Basit bir
hayatım var ama basit yaşamak, dünyadaki en iyi yaşam şeklidir.
My house is in a large field, 5 km away
from the city center. Five years ago, the
metal gate of my garden fell on me and
broke my leg into pieces. I had a surgery but I didn’t have a total recovery
and for this reason, I have never passed
through the gate of my garden, neither
did I want to.
Our house is just next to the hill leading
to the mountain. There are 150 stairs
to climb up to my house. It was really hard for me to climb those stairs with
my unhealed leg so they had built a cottage for me in our garden and I started
to live there.
After years, I left this cottage and started gardening. A friend of mine recommended this to me. First, I started filling
big buckets with soil and growing vegetables in them. This year we are going
to sell our products at a stall in front of
our garden.
My flowers and plants are like my children because all of my children are
away. I am usually alone but I still don’t
want to go anywhere. If it is rainy, I prefer staying in the cottage, solving crossword puzzles, reading newspaper and
watching TV. After 7 pm I talk to my
friends on the phone which is my way of
hanging out.
I have a few friends who pay me a visit, they don’t leave me abandoned and I
am happy for that. I have a simple way
of living and I believe it is the best way
to live.
INMA SANCHEZ PELAEZ
29 años/years
The history of Inma shows us overcoming and adaptation,
to be happy
She explains that during her childhood
she had a very good education, from her
parents and school, and this made her to
be a responsible and hard working person. She appreciates so much good attitudes from people, as she explained.
She explains how economical difficulties sometimes makes her feeling very
bad, but she considers she has been
successful while managing bad situations, and to follow the way fighting to
be better every day.
Usually, she does not consider herself as
a winner, nevertheless, people who are
around her encourage her and they show
to her how many good thing she has in
life, which makes her to feel very happy,
and to think about it.
She also feels lucky for having a family and friends who she really loves, and
who give her constant support. She
thinks that all of them are the key for
her success.
She always was a very good student, but
when she arrived to the University she
decided not to continue; Nowadays she
considers this was a mistake. After that,
she studied to have a qualification as an
Image Consultant, and she started working as director and counselor at a beauty store.
When she met who is her husband today, she wanted to build a family: They
bought a house and they started a life in
common. Nowadays they really want to
have children, but they have a not very
good economical situation, so they think
that this is not the best moment to become parents.
Finally, she concludes with a sentence
which says that altough sometimes she
sees things in a bad mode,
she knows that she must be grateful to life because it is filled with
many good things and with many
people who really loves her.
She considers that everytday you have
to fight to surpass oneself.
La historia de Inma nos enseña superación y adaptación,
con el fin de ser feliz.
Cuenta que en su infancia tuvo una buena educación
tanto de sus padres como del colegio, y que la han
hecho una persona bastante responsible y trabajadora. Valora muchísimo las actitudes buenas de las personas, explica.
No se suele considerar a si misma una persona triunfadora, no obstante, las personas que le rodean
la animan y le muestran todo lo bueno que tiene, lo
cual la hace sentirse feliz y reflexionar.
Siempre fue una buena estudiante, pero cuando llegó
a la Universidad tomó una decisión que a día de hoy
considera errónea, ya que no terminó la titulación
universitaria. Estudió una formación profesional de
Asesoría de Imagen Personal, y empezó a trabajar en
una tienda de cosmética, como asesora y encargada.
Cuando conoció al que a día de hoy es su marido quiso formar una familia con él;
Compraron una casa y comenzaron una vida en común. A día de hoy sienten muchas
ganas de ser padres, pero debido a una inestable situación económica, piensan que
no es el mejor momento para tener hijos.
Cuenta como las dificultades económicas a veces la llevan a sentirte bastante triste,
pero considera que ha obtenido éxito al gestionar las situaciones adversas, y continuar el camino luchando por mejorar día a día.
También se considera muy afortunada al tener una familia y unos amigos a los que
adora, y de los cuales recibe un apoyo constante. Piensa que todos ellos son la clave
de su éxito como persona.
Para terminar, concluye que aunque a veces vea las cosas de un modo negativo,
sabe que tiene mucho que agradecer a la vida porque también la tiene llena de cosas buenas, y de personas que la quieren.
Considera que simplemente hay que luchar para lograr cada día superarse.
Karin M.
74 Jahre/years
In my youth I imagined my life to
take a completely different turn.
In meiner Jugend habe ich mir
mein Leben anders vorgestellt.
Ich habe, wie beabsichtigt, den mittleren Schulabschluss gemacht. Ich
wollte technische Zeichnerin werden. Aber das Arbeitsamt riet mir
ab, weil ich ein Praktikum in einer
Schreinerei oder Schlosserei hätte
machen müssen. Das war damals für
Mädchen ungewöhnlich. Heute ist es
an der Tagesordnung.
keiten wahr, die mir Freude in mein
Leben bringen.
Ich habe dann meine Lehre bei einem Rechtsanwalt gemacht. Nach
meiner Heirat war ich noch bis zur
Geburt meines ersten Sohnes im
Büro beschäftigt. Dann war ich nur
noch Hausfrau und Mutter (was ich
jetzt aber im Nachhinein bereue).
Leider wurde mein Mann krank, als
ich 51 Jahre alt war. Dann pflegte ich
ihn 8 Jahre zu Hause. Später musste ich ihn noch über 6 Jahre im Heim
betreuen lassen. In dieser Zeit war
ich sehr „angehängt“ und konnte
nichts für mich tun. Aber nach dem
Tod meines Mannes habe ich alles
nachgeholt. Ich bin viel verreist. Viele schöne Reisen hatte ich mit dem
Café mit Anschluss.
Leider haben meine beiden Söhne die
gleiche Erbkrankheit wie mein Mann.
Der erste Sohn sitzt mit 48 Jahren
schon im Rollstuhl und ist im Heim.
Auch bei meinem kleineren Sohn
markt man die Krankheit schon, er
wurde mit 40 Jahren Frührentner.
Da ich bei Fortschreiten der Krankheit wieder zuhause gebunden bin,
nehme ich jetzt noch viele Möglich-
I graduated as planned from school
(secondary school level certificate).
I always wanted to become technical
draftswoman. However, the job centre discouraged me from doing so.
They told me in order to become a
technical draftswoman I needed to
complete an internship at a joinery
and metalworking which was – unlike today - very uncommon for girls
back then.
I have been starting to take all opportunities to enjoy every day life
already.
Hence I became trainee at legal
practice. Even after I got married I
worked at the office until I had my
first child. After that I was exclusively mother and housewife and to be
honest I second-guess this decision.
Ich hatte immer gehofft, mit meinem Mann alt zu werden und das
Rentnerleben zu genießen. Auch
hatte die Hoffnung, dass ich gesunde
Kinder habe, die mir Freue und nicht
nur Sorgen machen. Leider war das
nicht der Fall. Trotzdem: Ich bin und
bleibe ein positiv denkender Mensch!
Unfortunately my husband got ill
when I was 51. After that I have
been looking after him for 8 years at
our home, followed by 6,5 years of
care-home. During that time I was
very occupied with caring for him
and couldn’t do anything for myself.
After my husband died I started to
travel a lot. I joined the “Café mit
Anschluss” for many great trips.
Unfortunately both of my sons suffer the same genetic disease as my
husband (Chorea Huntington). The
elder son is wheelchair-bound already and lives in a care-home. Even
the younger son shows symptoms of
the disease and when he turned 40
he retired early. Looking ahead and
knowing that with his disease progressing I will be tied to home again,
I have always wished that I and my
husband would grow old together
and that we could enjoy retirement.
I also hoped that my kids would
grow up healthy, could enjoy life and
would bring joy rather than worries.
Yet, I still have and will always maintain my positive attitude towards life
CHARO LOPEZ
“I am called Charo Lopez, and
I am natural from Nerja. I am
49 years old and I have had
a humble and not quite simple life.
To me, my biggest success in life has been having raising my 5 children together with my husband, Pepe, and giving all my life to help my
family that means all to me. Back in my early
20s I married and had children really young. At
the age 24 I already had 4 children and my husband and I worked all day in order to provide
our children with enough food and clothing.
At the age of 27, my elder sister became very
sick and she wasn’t able of bringing up her newly born girl, Patricia. As a consequence, I did
what was natural to me and I took her as one
of my children. We barely had enough money
for our four little children, from 3 to 9 years old,
but to me there was no other way. My parents
were too old already to raise a little baby and I
could not help the idea of our little baby been
brought up in a different family and who knows
how and in what conditions. My husband and
I did what we had to do. Patricia became one
of my children, at the age of 4 days and I love
her as much as I love the children I have given
birth to, and even more. They were many long
hours I had to work. All those hours I was working, I could only think of my children and of all
the time I could not spend with them in the afternoons. Nevertheless, I know I was doing the
right thing. When I was working, my parents
took good care of all of them. In spite of all my
husband and I worked, we were a lot of people
at home, and we also had to help other family
members so we didn’t have much money.
49 años/years
My children could not grow up with very expensive clothes or toys but we made sure they all
had enough food a good house and that our
whole family remained healthy, happy and together. When the years passed life became a
bit easier. My children became teenagers and
my husband’s business was going better. Then,
something happened.
My elder sister got pregnant at the age of 20
and she was to become a single mum. I supported her all along and the three of us together, my husband mu elder daughter and I raised
her beautiful son, named Alejandro, while we
still had to raise 2 teenager boys of 17 and 2
girls of 14 and 11. Again, that wasn’t easy either, but having a grandson in your own home
is the most beautiful thing that can happen to
you.
Now I am the grandmother of two more children, 3 boys in total. With the crisis and all we
still struggle every day to support all of our children and grandsons and to take care of my
mother, whose very sick now, but I could not
imagine my live without my family and everything I have ever gotten it has been always to
give it to them first.
For me success means nothing without your
family. I have dedicated my life to them and
I still make lots of efforts to make sure they
are happy and healthy and they don’t suffer any
hardships.
Me llamo Charo López y soy natural desde Nerja.
He tenido una vida humild y no muy simple. Para mí, mi mayor éxito en la vida ha
sido poder criar a mis 5 hijos junto con
mi marido, Pepe, y dar toda mi vida para
ayudar a mi familia, que significa todo
para mí. Con 20 años me casé y tuve hijos muy jóvenes. A los 24 años ya tenía 4
hijos y mi esposo y yo trabajamos todo el
día para proporcionar a nuestros hijos suficiente comida y ropa.
A la edad de 27 años, mi hermana mayor
cayó enferma y no podía criar a su hija recién nacida, Patricia. Como consecuencia
de ello, hice lo que era natural para mí y
yo la tomé como uno de mis hijos. Apenas
teníamos suficiente dinero para nuestros
cuatro hijos pequeños, de 3 a 9 años de
edad, pero para mí no había otra manera. Mis padres eran demasiado mayores
ya para criar a un bebé, y no pude evitar la idea de que nuestro pequeño bebé
se criase en una familia diferente y quién
sabe cómo y en qué condiciones. Mi marido y yo hicimos lo que teníamos que hacer. Patricia se convirtió en uno de mis hijos, a la edad de 4 días y la amo tanto
como amo a los niños que he dado a luz,
y aún más. Eran muchas horas las que
tenía que trabajar. Todas esas horas que
trabajaba, yo sólo podía pensar en mis hijos y en todo el tiempo que no pude pasar
con ellos por las tardes. Sin embargo, yo
sabía que estaba haciendo lo correcto.
Cuando estaba trabajando, mis padres
tuvieron buen cuidado de todos ellos. A
pesar de todo, mi esposo y yo trabajamos, y también tuvimos que ayudar a
otros miembros de la familia, así que no
teníamos mucho dinero.
Mis hijos no pudieron crecer con ropa
o juguetes muy caros, pero nos aseguramos de que todos tenían comida suficiente una buena casa y que toda la
familia se mantuviese sana, feliz y juntos. Al pasar los años la vida se hizo un
poco más fácil. Mis hijos llegaron a la adolescencia y el negocio de mi marido iba
mejor. Entonces, sucedió algo.
Mi hija mayor se quedó embarazada a la
edad de 20 y ella iba a convertirse en una
madre soltera. Le apoyé todo el tiempo y
los tres juntos, mi marido mu hija mayor
y yo, criamos a su hermoso hijo, llamado
Alejandro, mientras que todavía teníamos
que criar a 2 chicos adolescentes de 17 y
2 niñas de 14 y 11. Una vez más, eso no
era fácil tampoco, pero tener un nieto en
su propia casa es lo más hermoso que le
puede pasar a cualquier persona.
Ahora soy la abuela de dos niños más,
3 niños en total. Con la crisis y todos luchamos cada día para apoyar a todos
nuestros hijos y nietos y cuidar de mi madre, que está muy mayor, pero no podría
imaginar mi vida sin mi familia y todo lo
que he conseguido ha sido siempre para
dárselo todo a ellos primero.
Para mí el éxito no significa nada sin la
familia. He dedicado mi vida a ellos y todavía sigo haciendo un montón de esfuerzos para asegurarme que están sanos y
felices y que no sufren ninguna dificultad.
HACER FATMA ULUÇAY
56 yaşında/years
Benim hep iki hayalim vardı;
biri bahçeli küçük bir eve sahip olmak, diğeri de üniversitede
hoca olmaktı. Bunların ikisini de
gerçekleştiremedim. Bahçeli evin
fiyatı hep bütçemin önünde oldu, ya
da satıcılar, ben bir kadınım diye beni
ciddiye almadılar.
I had two dreams, one of them was
to have a small house with a garden, the other was to become a university professor. I couldn’t turn either of them into reality. The price of
the house was always ahead of my
budget or the sellers didn’t take me
into consideration. Because I was a
woman.
Üniversite hocası olmak için pek
çok sınava girmem gerekirdi ama
çocukları büyütmem ve annemle babama bakmam gerektiği için buna
vakit ayıramadım. Üniversitede bir
kadro bulsam bile onları bırakıp gidemezdim. Bunları, bu saten sonra
yapamayacağımı biliyorum.
Bunlar hayatımın başarısızlıklar
hanesinden sadece ikisi.
To become a university professor, I
would have needed to take a lot of
exams but I had children to raise and
parents to take care so I couldn’t
have the opportunity for that. Even
if I had found a position at university, I couldn’t leave my kids and
parents on their own. Now, I know
I won’t be able to do these things at
this point in my life.
These are just two failures
among many in my life.
noktası nedir?
point in your life?
Önce babamı, sonra annemi ve hemen
peşinden eşimi kaybettim. Annemin
ölümü ile sarsılmışken eşimi kaybettim; işte bu, benim hayatımı ve hayata
bakışımı çok değiştirdi.
İnsanlara duyulan kırgınlıkların, öfkelerin, beklentilerin ne kadar önemsiz
olduğunu anladım. Bir “ …ah, keşke”
denizinin içine düştüm. Öyle bir deniz ki
bu, ne kadar iyi yüzsem de asla kıyıya
varamayacağımı biliyordum, ama hep
çırpınıyordum.
I first lost my father, then my mother and just after that my husband.
While I was already shaken by my
mother’s death, I lost my husband
and that really changed my life and
attitude towards my life. I realized
that how unimportant the expectations, the furiousness we have for
other people.
I fell into a sea of “What ifs.” . this is
such a rough sea that even if I swim
very skillfully, I will never get to the
shore and will always struggle
Sizin için
başarı nedir?
to you?
Benim için başarı, ana şekliyle iki
şeydir: biri; insana değer katmaktır,
onu her anlamda ileriye taşımaktır.
Bu nedenle, öğretmen oluşumu
bana Tanrı’nın bir armağanı olarak
görüyorum.
For me, success is mainly two things.
First it is to add value to people, to
advance him/her no matter what.
For this reason I always see my becoming a teacher a gift of God.
The other is being able to swim in
every circumstance which I have absolutely succeed.
Diğeri ise, her koşulda ve her çeşit
suda yüzmektir; ki bunu kesinlikle
başardım.
MARIA CEREZO
My name is Maria Cerezo Padial. Born in Nerja
in the early 30s. With two younger boys, I
lived a childhood in the worst time in which a
child can be raised, that is, pre-war and civil
war Spain unfortunately suffered in the second
half of the decade of the 30s. At that time there
were many food shortages. They lived in what
is grown in the low land we had and had not always enough for everyone.
During the years of the war, living conditions
were bad even if it fits. The men had to fight on
one side or the other and many families were
divided as in almost all civil wars. The coast of
Malaga, where I suffered one of the worst attacks on civilians reminds the Spanish Civil War,
the slaughter of the road Málaga-Almería, in
which tens of thousands of families fled to the
city of Malaga Almeria city for fear of repression
after the invasion Franco.
event made us return to Nerja. One of my
brothers had died tragically after falling precipitated from the Balcon de Europa. In turn,
we had to work very hard to help my parents
also. Several years later, I also lost my mother from an illness, and my father, because of
an accident. All I had was my other brother, my
husband and my children. Thank God Spain as
the years passed he recovered and my children
grew older. They had to start working as adolescence arrival did not have much and soon after they started their own families.
In
my late fifties, one of my daughters was
invalid and her husband died in an accident,
so my husband Manolo and I had to raise four
of her children, who ranged in age from 2 to
10 years. Thank God, my family has always remained united and with hard work and sacrifice
could give a decent life to all my grandchildren.
I was very young when this happened, but I As good grandparents, my husband and I take
remember those days with great terror and still
remember the stories of my brothers. Tens of
thousands of families passing through Nerja,
hungry, injured, parents without their children,
children without families lost. In the village we
had nothing and we could not help all that we
wanted. Franco’s army attacked the refugees by
land, sea and air and there was nothing that
could be done. After that, many men in the village also fled the country, for fear of being shot,
many of whom did not return. The postwar period was as tough as war, or more, if I may say
so.
At the age of sixteen I married a wonderful
man named Manuel, father of my 6 children.
Since our last daughter four years, we had to
migrate to Lleida, in Catalonia, and in the south
there was no means to feed our children. They
work the land and at least we could eat what
we played. Within a few years, an unfortunate
care of all our grandchildren while their parents
had to work. My husband has always been an
exemplary father and grandfather, always taking care, cooking, cleaning and playing with
them. At 66 I lost my husband, who was everything to me, and since then I have a big hole
in my heart.
My only goal in life and I have fought has
always been to bring up my family and I
know no greater happiness than this.
Mi
nombre es Maria Cerezo Padial. Nací en
Nerja a principio de los años 30. Con dos hermanos más varones, viví una infancia en la peor
época en la que un niño puede criarse, esto es,
en pre-guerra y Guerra civil que lamentablemente sufrió España en la segunda mitad de la
década de los años 30. En aquella época había
mucha escasez de comida. Se vivía de lo que se
cultivaba en la escasa tierra que teníamos y no
siempre había suficiente para todos.
Durante los años que duró la guerra, las con-
diciones de vida eran más malas aún si cabe.
Los hombres tenían que luchar en un bando o
en otro y muchas familias quedaron divididas
como ocurre en casi todas las guerras civiles.
La costa de Málaga, de donde soy, sufrió uno
de los peores ataques a civiles que se recuerda de la Guerra Civil española, la masacre de la
carretera Málaga-Almería, en la que entre decenas de miles de familias huyeron de Málaga ciudad hacia la ciudad de Almería por miedo a la
represión tras la invasión Franquista.
a causa de un accidente.
Todo lo que me quedaba
era mi otro hermano, mi
marido y mis hijos. Gracias
a dios conforme pasaron
los años España se fue recuperando y mis hijos se
hicieron mayores. Estos tuvieron que empezar a trabajar llegada la adolescencia dado que no teníamos mucho y poco
después empezaron ellos sus propias familias.
Yo era muy pequeña cuando esto pasó, pero A
recuerdo aquellos días con mucho terror y aún
recuerdo los relatos de mis hermanos. Decenas
de miles de familias pasaban por Nerja, hambrientos, heridos, padres sin sus hijos, hijos sin
sus familias perdidos. En el pueblo no teníamos
nada y no pudimos ayudar a todos los que quisimos. El ejército franquista atacaba a los refugiados por tierra mar y aire y no había nada que
se pudiera hacer. Tras aquello, muchos hombres
del pueblo tuvieron que huir también al campo,
por miedo a ser fusilados, muchos de los cuales
no volvieron. La posguerra fue tan dura como la
guerra, o más, si se me permite decirlo.
A la edad de dieciséis años me casé con un
hombre extraordinario llamado Manuel, padre de mis 6 hijos. Teniendo nuestra última
hija 4 años, tuvimos que emigrar a Lérida, en
Cataluña, ya que en el sur no había medios para
alimentar a nuestros hijos. Allí trabajamos la
tierra y al menos podíamos comer de lo que nos
tocaba. A los pocos años, un lamentable suceso
nos hizo volver a Nerja. Uno de mis hermanos
había muerto trágicamente al caer precipitado
desde el Balcón de Europa. De vuelta, tuvimos
que trabajar muy duro para ayudar también a
mis padres. Varios años después, perdí también
a mi madre de una enfermedad, y a mi padre,
mis cincuenta y muchos, una de mis hijas
quedó invalida y su marido murió en un accidente, así que mi marido Manolo y yo tuvimos
que criar a 4 de sus hijos, que tenían edades
desde los 2 a las 10 años. Gracias a dios, mi familia siempre se ha mantenido unida y con mucho trabajo y sacrificio pudimos darle una vida
digna a todos mis nietos.
Como buenos abuelos, mi marido y yo cuidamos de todos nuestros nietos mientras sus padres tenían que trabajar. Mi marido siempre fue
un padre y un abuelo ejemplar, siempre cuidándolos, cocinando, limpiando y jugando con ellos. A los 66 años perdí a mi marido, quien lo
era todo para mí, y desde entonces tengo un
gran vacío en mi corazón.
Mi único objetivo en la vida y para lo que
he luchado siempre ha sido por sacar adelante a mi familia y no conozco más felicidad que esa.
Uschi F.
74 Jahre/years
Mein erster Erfolg
Meine persönlichen Erfolge beginnen in
meiner Kindheit. Bis zu meinem 12. Lebensjahr wuchs ich glücklich und wohlbehütet auf. Dies änderte sich abrupt, als
meine Eltern innerhalb von 9 Monaten
verstarben. Nun begann mein Leben als
Vollwaise! Zuerst musste ich lernen, mit
dem großen Verlust, der Traurigkeit und
Angst vor der Zukunft umzugehen. 2 Jahre lebte ich mit meinen beiden Schwestern im Elternhaus und machte mit 14
Jahren den Schulabschluss.
Mit 14 Jahren kam ich zu meinem Vormund. Er war Lehrer, seine Frau ohne Beruf. Beide kinderlos! Ich wurde in einen
streng geordneten Haushalt aufgenommen, um in die gutbürgerliche Gesellschaft eingeführt zu werden. „Damit halt
etwas Anständiges aus mir wird.“
Ein weiterer großer Erfolg
Ich ging in die Berufsschule (mein Berufswunsch wurde nicht beachtet), machte meinen Abschluss, bekam eine Lehrstelle und arbeitete 6 Jahre. Während
dieser Zeit lernte ich meinen Mann kennen! 1957 floh ich dann förmlich aus dem
Hause meines Onkels und ging zurück in
mein Elternhaus. Diesem Entschluss zur
Selbstständigkeit verdanke ich, dass ich
keinen seelischen Schaden für mein weiteres Leben nahm.
Ein gemeinsamer Erfolg
Durch den Verkauf meines Elternhauses
konnten wir mit dem Hausbau beginnen.
Im Juni 1959 heirateten wir und 1960
zogen wir in unser neues Heim ein. Fast
gleichzeitig kam unsere 1. Tochter, ein
Jahr später unsere 2. Tochter und 1965
unser Sohn. Somit war unsere Familie
komplett und mein Mann und ich gefordert, unsere Existenz auszubauen. Mein
Beitrag dazu war Heimarbeit, bis ich dann
1970 in unserem Haus eine Agentur eröffnen konnte, in der ich für eine Firma
Siebdruckartikel für Druckereien vertrat
- 14 Jahre im Angestelltenverhältnis. Von
da an ging es uns gut.
Die 4. Lebensphase beinhaltet mein Leben! 3 wunderbare, lebenstüchtige und
selbstständige Kinder, 4 tolle Enkelkinder,
eine gesicherte Existenz und viele schöne
gemeinsame Jahre mit meinem Mann und
Kindern. Viele Freunde und schöne Reisen. Eintritt ins Rentenalter und dann der
frühe Tod meines lieben Mannes.
Nun bin ich Witwe und lebe allein in unserem Haus, das wir uns mit viel Liebe und
Schweiß eingerichtet haben. Mein Bestreben ist, alles im Sinne meines Mannes zu
pflegen und zu erhalten, solange ich es
körperlich und gesundheitlich kann. Darum versuche ich mich geistig und kulturell fit zu halten, indem ich am öffentlichen Leben teilnehme, Sport treibe und
gesund lebe.
Fazit ist – alles was ich bin und besitze
habe ich mir erarbeitet und wenn Gott
will, dass ich gesund bleibe, habe ich
mein Leben im Griff und bin auch Stolz
drauf.
Ich denke, auch das ist Erfolg!
My personal success started when I was a
child. Up until I was 12 I grew up happy.
This changed abruptly when my parents
died. Now, I had to live the life of a complete orphan. First I learned to cope with
this great los, the sadness and the anxiety about the future. For 2 more years my
sisters and I stayed in the house of my
parents, but when I turned 14 I graduated from school. That I count as my first
successful moment in my life.
The final life stage – that’s my whole life I
have 3 wonderful and independent children, 4 grand children, secure existence
and the memory of many happy years
together with my husband and my kids.
Furthermore I have many good friends,
have seen a lot of the world during my
When I was 14 I was adopted. He was
teacher and his wife without any profession. They had no children! I was admitted
to the staunchly conservative household
and well educated to fit into society of
the better middle-class. «So that I will be
able to make something of my life.»
I went to the vocational business school
and graduated (what I wanted to learn
had been ignored) got an apprentice position and had been working for 6 year.
During that time I met my husband. 1957
I literally escaped from my uncle’s home
and went back to my parents’ house. I
strongly believe that this decision - to leave my legal guardian, take on my own life
and become independent - is the only reason I did not suffer emotional damage.
And that is what I count as my second
great personal success.
Than I got married and half year later we
moved into our new home. Almost at the
same time I gave birth to my 1st daughter, a year later my 2nd daughter and
in 1965 my son was born. So our family was complete and my husband and I
started to build our professional future.
My own contribution was doing domestic
work. Later we could open an agency and
I worked from home for a company. This
I had been doing for 14 years as employee and we were doing fine. So, another
success along my journey through life.
travels. However, after retirement my
beloved husband died early. Now I live
the life of a widow – alone in our house,
which we build together and which holds
so many happy memories. I take care
of our lovely home and keep everything
in a good condition to maintain my husbands remembrance – at least as long as
I can manage health wise. Therefore try
to stay physically and mentally fit. That
is why entered public life, joined courses,
do sports and generally live healthy.
In conclusion I come to say that all I am
and all I own, I worked hard for. I am
very proud of what I achieved in my life. I
am sure if god wants me to stay healthy,
there will be many more happy years to
come.
I think, that is the greatest success
I could ask for.
LORENA ROMERO
My name is Lorena Romero. Natural
from Marbella, Málaga. I was born
20 years ago and i was the first and
only daughter of my parents.
As a child I always wanted brothers
or sisters but my wishes never came
true. My parents are originally from
Ronda but had to move to Marbella
Ronda because there was not much
work. My father has always worked
as an electrician and my mother in
the hospitality sector.
As a child my parents worked hard
so my aunt, actually my neighbour,
who for me is like my second mother, took care of me in the afternoons.
His daughters to me are the sisters I
never had, indeed, one of his granddaughters is my goddaughter. Thank
God, I had a good childhood.
From an early age I knew I wanted a
career. My great ambition has always
been to be a nurse because I’ve always liked taking care of people.
Unfortunately I missed this note to
access career and decided on studying chemical engineering. The first
year I had a bad, was considering
a career that was not performed. I
thought it was different. Fortunately,
thanks to the support of my family and my boyfriend took forces and
changed careers.
20 años/years
Success for me is a mixture of
work and children.
Right now I’m focused on my career,
because I’m too young. I have had
several work experiences during the
summers, and I feel very proud of
myself in this regard.
Gaining experience was one of my
priorities, and also learning what it
is to have such a big responsibility and earning money fruit of your
own work. Once I finish my career, I
know that my work has to be outside
Spain because of the crisis. I do not
want to leave my family, but if not
Thank God, I have my boyfriend, he
would go with me, since he is studying mechanical engineering and the
future is a little black in Spain for
both two.
Now I’m doing Chemistry. Although
it is equally difficult, is what he likes.
Study hard every day because I work
in a laboratory.
Mi nombre es Lorena Romero. Soy natural de Marbella, Málaga. Nací hace 20
años y fue la primera y única hija de mis
padres.
De pequeña siempre quise tener hermanos aunque mis deseos nunca se
cumplieron. Mis padres son originarios
de Ronda aunque tuvieron que mudarse
a Marbella porque en Ronda no había
mucho trabajo. Mi padre ha trabajado
siempre de electricista y mi madre en el
sector de la hostelería.
Cuando era niña mis padres trabajaban
mucho así que mi tía postiza, realmente
mi vecina, que para mí es como mi segunda madre, cuidaba de mi por las tardes. Sus hijas para mí son las hermanas
que nunca tuve, es más, una de sus nietas es mi ahijada. Gracias a dios, tuve
una buena infancia.
Desde muy pequeña sabía que quería
estudiar una carrera. Mi gran aspiración
siempre ha sido ser enfermera ya que
siempre me ha gustado cuidar a la
gente. Lamentablemente me faltó nota
para acceder a esta carrera y me decidí por estudiar ingeniería química. El
primer año lo pasé muy mal, estaba estudiando una carrera con la que no se
sentía realizada. Pensaba que era distinta. Afortunadamente, gracias al apoyo
de mi familia y mi novio tomé fuerzas y
cambié de carrera.
Ahora estoy haciendo Química. Aunque
es igual de difícil, es lo que le gusta.
Estudio duro cada día porque quiero trabajar en un laboratorio de análisis.
El éxito para mi es una mezcla del
trabajo y los hijos.
Ahora mismo estoy centrada en mi
Carrera, porque soy muy joven. He tenido varias experiencias laborales, durante
los veranos, y me siento muy orgullosa
de mi misma en este sentido.
Adquirir experiencia era una de mis prioridades, además de aprender lo que es
tener una responsabilidad tan grande y
ganar dinero fruto de tu propio trabajo.
Una vez termine mi carrera, sé que mi
trabajo tiene q ser fuera de España por
culpa de la crisis. No quiero dejar a mi
familia, pero si no Gracias, a dios, tengo a mi novio, que se iría conmigo, ya
que el estudiando ingeniería mecánica y
el futuro es un poco en negro en España
para ambos dos.
Helena A.
1933 wurde ich in einem kleinen Dorf
in Mähren geboren. An meinem ersten
Schultag brach der 2. Weltkrieg aus. Meine Kindheit war überschattet von Krieg
und Flucht, Hunger und Not. Nach dem
Krieg lebten wir eine Zeitlang im Lager.
Im Frühjahr 1945 kamen wir in Schönwald an. Dort lagen wir auf den blanken
Boden, bis wir endliche jeder ein Feldbett
bekamen. Das war schon ein großer Fortschritt - ein Erfolg!
Vom Rathaus kamen Männer, die feststellten, wieviel Platz jede Familie brauchte.
Wir waren zu fünft und hatten Anspruch
auf zwei Dachzimmer und eine Bodenkammer. Meine Mutter schaffte es, einen
alten Kohle-Küchenherd aufzutreiben. 5
Feldbetten und ein Ofen - welch ein Erfolg
in der damaligen Zeit!
Ich wollte gerne auf die Schule gehen,
das Lernen machte mir Spaß und fiel mir
leicht. Da meine Mutter das Schulgeld
von 20 Mark nicht aufbringen konnte und
auch kein Geld für Bücher und Hefte oder
eine Fahrkarte vorhanden war, war meine Schullaufbahn beendet. Ich wechselte
in die Volksschule, machte einen guten
Abschluss und bekam eine Lehrstelle als
Fotografin. Von meinem ersten Lehrlingslohn kaufte ich einen gebrauchten Küchenschrank. Langsam ging es wieder
aufwärts.
80 Jahre/years
großen Porzellanfabrik, wir wohnten zunächst im Bürogebäude der Fabrik. Dort
bekamen wir 3 Söhne. Für die Kinder war
das der schönste Abenteuerspielplatz,
den man sich denken kann.
So vergingen die Jahre, bis wir genug Geld
gespart hatten, um uns ein eigenes Haus
zu bauen. Zu unserem Glück kam dann
noch die lange ersehnte Tochter dazu.
Meine Kinder sind inzwischen erwachsen,
verheiratet und leben ihr eigenes Leben.
Hatte ich Pläne für mein Leben und konnte ich diese verwirklichen? Ich glaube,
es war schwer, damals Pläne zu machen.
Aber ich konnte meinen Kindern das ermöglichen, was mir in meiner Jugend
aufgrund des Krieges verwehrt war. Sie
durften alle die Schule besuchen und studieren. Ich glaube, das ist auch ein ganz
persönlicher Erfolg.
Heute lebe ich allein, mein Mann, mit dem
ich 53 Jahre glücklich war, ist vor 5 Jahren gestorben. Aber ich habe 7 Enkelkinder, an denen ich mich erfreuen kann und
habe viele nette Menschen im Café mit
Anschluss gefunden
Wir gewöhnten uns in der neuen Umgebung ein. Ich hatte Freundinnen, ging
mit ihnen schwimmen und tanzen und in
den Gesangsverein. Dort lernte ich meinen späteren Mann kennen und heiratete 1952. Mein Mann arbeitete in einer
I was born in 1933 in Moravia. My first
day at school was the day World War II
broke out. From then on my entire childhood was overshadowed by war, refuge,
hungar and misery. After the war ended
we had been living in a reception camp
for some time.
Time went by and we stayed at our early
home until we had saved enough money
to build our own house. Additionally, and
this to our great fortune, our long-desired daughter was born. Today my children are adults, married and live their own
lifes.
In spring of 1945 we arrived in Schönwald.
That is where we had to stay on the bare
ground until we were given a camp bed.
In that situation that was a great progress - that was success!
The town hall sent men to determine how
much space each family needed. There
were 5 of us and we were adjudged 2 attic rooms and 1 garret. My mother even
managed to get hold of an old kitchen
herd, which was funtioning with coal. So
that meant 5 camp beds and an oven what a success considering the time.
I wanted to attend a higher school as
I΄ve always enjoyed learning and been
quick on the uptake. However, as my mother couldn΄t afford the tuition fee of 20
DM plus we didn΄t have any money for
school books, notebooks or tickets for the
bus either, the dream of my academic career was over before I even had a chance to start. So I changed to elementary
school and after I left school school with
a good graduation certificate I got an apprenticeship training position as fotographer. The first salery I received as trainee
I invested in a second-hand refridgerator.
Step by step we managed to get back on
track with our lifes.
We settled down in the new environment
and I found new friends. In the latter I
got to know my future husband. We married in 1952. He worked at a big porcelain factory and at first we even lived in
the office building of the factory. While we
were still living there we got three sons.
You are asking whether I had plans for
my life which I accomplished? I believe it
was a difficult time when I was young and
therefore making plans was hardly possible. But I could manage to give my children the childhood and youth I was refused
due to the war. They all had the chance to
go to school and study. I think that is my
own personal success I am very proud of.
After my husband of 53 happy years
died five years ago I΄ve been living alone. But I have seven grandchildren and
whenever they visit me we have a lot of
fun together. Moreover I met great people and a many new friends at the Café mit
Anschluss.
İNSAF KILIÇ
62 yaşında/years
Biz 5 kardeştik. 2 erkek, 3 kız. Erkek
kardeşlerim okula gittiler. Ben ilkokulda çok başarılı olmama rağmen
babam beni okula göndermek istemedi. Aslında ben en başından beri
iyi bir eğitim almayı istiyordum. 8
yaşımdayken, babamdan izinsiz bir
şekilde okula gitmeye başladım.
Arkadaşlarımla oynadığım oyunlarda
kazandığım kalemleri ve kağıtları
okulda kullanıyordum. Bu şartlar
altında sadece ilkokulu bitirebildim.
Ortaokula gitme şansım olmadı.
We were five siblings. Two boys and
three girls. My brothers went to
school. Despite my being very successful at school, my father didn’t
want me to go to school. I always
wanted to have a good education. I
started going to school without the
permission of my father when I was
eight. I was using the pencils and
paper I earned at children’s games
19 yaşıma geldiğimde de evlendim.
Eşimin bazı problemleri olmasına
rağmen onu seviyordum. 2 kızımız
2 tanede oğlumuz oldu. Benim
alamadığım eğitimi onlara aldırdım.
Çocuklarım
yetişkinliğe
erişince
yarım bıraktığım eğitimime devam
etmeye karar verdim. Sonuç olarak
ilk başta yaptığım planla yaşantım
birbirine uymadı.
at school.
I got married at the age of 19. despite having problems, I loved my
husband. We had two sons and two
daughters. I gave all the opportunities that I didn’t have when I was
young, to my children about their
education. I decided to complete
my education after my kids became
grown-ups. My earlier plans about
life didn’t really match with reality
noktası nedir?
point in your life?
51 yaşımda zehirli guatr ameliyatı
oldum. 45 gün boyunca yaşam mücadelesi verdim. Bu mücadeleyi
kazanmam benim için hayatımın
dönüm noktası oldu. Ameliyat
sonrası Ereğli’ye dönerken gökyüzündeki bulutlara baktım ve bunların
resmini nasıl çizebilirim diye kendime sordum. İşte o an kendimde
eksikliğini hissettiğim, eğitimime
yarım kaldığım yerden devam etmeye karar verdim. Resim kursuna,
açık ilköğretime kayıt yaptırdım. Çok
başarılı bir şekilde ilkokulu bitirip
açık liseye devam ettim. Halen açık
lisede öğrenciyim.
At the age of 51 I had a toxic nodular goiter surgery. I had a life or
death battle for 45 days. To win this
battle was the turning point in my
life. After the surgery, while I was
on my way to home, I looked at
the clouds in the sky, I asked myself how I could draw the picture of
the sky. At that moment, I decided
that I should complete the education
I left unfinished. I registered for a local painting course and open primary school. I finished primary school
with great success then got enrolled
in high school. I am still a high school
student.
Sizin için
başarı nedir?
to you?
Benim
için
en
büyük
başarı
çocuklarımdır.
Onların
kendilerini benim gibi eğitimlerini yarım
bırakmalarını
istemedim
ve
eğitimlerini
tamamlamaları
için
elimden geleni yaptım. Sonunda
başarılı olduğumu da düşünüyorum.
Çocuklarımdan biri öğretmen, biri
mühendis, biri işadamı oldu ve
sonuncusuda uluslar arası ilişkilerde
okumakta. Çocuklarımın eğitimlerini
tamamlamaları benim için en büyük
başarıdır.
My biggest success is my kids. I
didn’t want them to have a halffinished education like mine. I did
everything on my own for them to
complete their education. One of my
children is a teacher, the other is an
engineer. One became a businessman and the youngest is studying
international relations at the university. Having my kids complete their
education is my biggest accomplishment.
Bunun yanında kendi eğitimime
kaldığım yerden devam etmek,
başarılı bir öğrenci olmak ve yarım
kalan planlarımı tamamlamak adına
yaptığım her şeyde kendimi başarılı
hissetmemi sağlıyor.
In addition to that, continuing my
education, being a successful student and finishing my plans which
were left unfinished at the beginning,
make me feel myself successful
Claudia K.
Ich glaube, beim Erfolg handelt es
sich um ein subjektives Empfinden,
welches abhängig ist von den gesetzten Zielen und Erwartungen, die
ein Individuum an sich und sein Leben/ seine Umwelt stellt. Erfolg ist
auch davon abhängig wie ehrgeizig,
anerkennungsbedürftig und „erfolgssüchtig“ eine Person ist.
44 Jahre/years
wartungshaltung immer höher geschraubt wird und dadurch dann
auch immer mehr Leistungsbereitschaft vorhanden ist. Was wiederum
schnell zu einer persönlichen Überlastung im körperlichen und oder
psychischen Bereich, führen kann.
Gerade bei Frauen, die neben ihrer
beruflichen Aufgabe, natürlich auch
gute Mütter und Hausfrauen sein
wollen ist dies eine nicht zu verkennende Problematik.
Für mich persönlich
bedeutet erfolgreich zu sein, wenn
es mir gelingt, meine gesetzten Ziele sowohl im privaten als auch im
beruflichen Bereich innerhalb einer
festgelegen Zeit zu erreichen.
Im internationalen Vergleich mit
Spanien, Türkei und Deutschland,
haben wir trotz kultureller Unterschiede festgestellt, dass heutzutage
auch für Frauen ein gewisser beruflicher Erfolg in allen Ländern einen
sehr hohen Stellenwert bekommen
hat. Beruflich erfolgreich zu sein,
scheint heutzutage „sexy“ zu sein
und steigert den Anerkennungswert
der Person in der Gesellschaft. Was
häufig auch dazu führt, dass die Er-
Um die Zielerreichung überprüfbar
zu machen und um meine Erfolge
auch gut messen zu können, setzte
ich mir in jedem Jahr 3-4 Zielvorgaben, die ich schriftlich festhalte und
an deren Erreichung ich dann gezielt
arbeite. Dadurch habe ich eine gute
Erfolgsquote und ich habe die Bestätigung etwas geschafft zu haben, was
zu einem guten Lebensgefühl führt
und auch dafür sorgt, mich nicht zu
überlasten, da ich andere während
des Jahres auftretende Erwartungen
an mich selbst, gezielt hinten anstelle und primär meine Hautziele im
Auge behalte.
I think success is rather a very subjective feeling than an objective and
universally valid fact. This feeling is
left to each one of us individually and
our own predefined aims and expectations regarding our life, our work
and our environment. Likewise success depends on your own ambition
and need for recognition as well as
how «addicted» you are to success.
By international comparison of
Spanish, Turkish and German women we noticed that professional
success, on some level, became import to women in all those countries - regardless cultural differences. Nowadays being successful in
your job and building a career seems
to be «sexy». It increases your value
and the respect of others in our society. Consequently this leads to an
upward spiral of womens› standards
and expectations of themselves and
that again leads to an increased commitment to their self-imposed responsibilities. Finally this quickly results in fatigue, and an emotional as
well as physical burden. Especially
women often choose to manage two
jobs at a time - their professional
duties as well as being a good mother and housewife. This easily becomes a big issue that must not be
underestimated.
For me, personally,
I consider success something I accomplish as planned - an excercise,
my own goals and dreams privately
as well as professionally.
In order to be able to confirm and
measure my success I set myself 3-4
new goals each year. I write them
down and work targeted on achieving them. Thus I reach a remarkable success rate and in the end I have
the satisfaction that I accomplished
something and as a consequence a
really good feeling of being alive. At
the same time this attitude keeps
me from overload myself. It is like
the chain of success. I usually concentrate primarily on my main yearly goals and rather postpone things
that might develop during the year.
MARIA DEL CARMEN TORNAY
57 años/years
As my children were still small,
my husband had to work in
Canary. With much effort, I had
to look after my children and
work to get my family together.
I grew up in the countryside with When my husband returned, we
1 brother and 4 sisters and my both had to work hard.
parents. As a child my brothers
and I could not go to school be- At the age of 57 years I am still
cause we lived far in the field. The working hard to help my family.
only education we received were
some classes that we recieved
from a rural teacher who came
to give us classes to my brothers
and cousins.
Mi nombre es Maria del Carmen
Tornay. Nací hace 57 años en
un pequeño pueblo llamado
Montejaque, cerca de Ronda,
Málaga.
At the age of 17 I had to move
to Marbella because me and my
sisters could not help my father
who worked in the field and we
all needed a job. I was 7 years
7 years working inside a home
working for the family of the
house. Meanwhile, another of my
sisters worked and 2 of my brothers went to work in Germany.
A la edad de los 17 años, tuve
que mudarme a Marbella porque
yo y mis hermanas no podíamos
ayudar a mi padre quien trabajaba en el campo y necesitábamos un trabajo. Estuve 7 años
trabajando 7 años de interna en
una casa trabajando para la familia de la casa. Mientras, otras
de mis hermanas trabajaban y 2
de mis hermanos se fueron a trabajar a Alemania.
My name is Maria del Carmen
Tornay. I was born 57 years ago in
a small town called Montejaque,
near Ronda, Malaga.
At 26 I married my husband
Emilio, who has been everything
to me. Even after we got married
I kept working and living in that
house. I just moved in with my
husband a few weeks before giving birth to my first son, Daniel.
Six years later we had our other
two children, first in July and two
years after our last son, Javier.
The greatest success in my
life has been bringing up
my children and my family and the rest, simply, is
secondary.
Me crié en el campo con mis 5 hermanos y mis padres. De pequeña
mis hermanos y yo no pudimos
ir a la escuela, ya que vivíamos
lejos en el campo. La única educación que recibimos eran algunas clases que nos daba un profesor rural que venía a darnos
clase a mis hermanos y primos.
después a nuestro último hijo,
Javier.
Siendo mis niños aun pequeños,
mi marido se tuvo ir a trabajar
a Canarias. Con mucho esfuerzo, tuve que cuidar de mis hijos
y trabajar para sacar a mi familia
adelante. Cuando volvió mi marido, ambos tuvimos que trabajar
mucho.
A la edad de los 57 años sigo trabajando mucho para ayudar a
toda mi familia.
El mayor éxito en mi vida ha
sido sacar adelante a mis hijos y a mi familia y lo demás,
simplemente, es secundario.
A los 26 años me casé con mi
marido Emilio, quien lo ha sido
todo para mí. Aun después de
casarnos seguí trabajando y viviendo en aquella casa. Solo me fui
a vivir con mi marido pocas semanas de dar a luz a mi primer hijo, Daniel. Seis años después
tuvimos a nuestros otros dos hijos, primero a Julio y dos años
SUZAN ÖCAL
retired
Amacım iyi bir eğitim almak,sosyal yönü
güçlü iyi bir öğretmen olmak, çağdaş
gençler yetiştirmek ve güzel bir aile kurup
iyi bir anne olmaktı. Bunları yaparken de
hobilerimle ilgilenmek, değişik yerler görüp
farklı kültürleri tanımak istiyordum. Bunların
bir çoğunu yapabildim. Hayat plamladığım
gibi gidiyordu ama 1999 yılındaki depremle
evimiz yerle bir oldu. Ben enkazda 23 saat
kaldım. Ordan çıktığımda ise artık ne evim
kalmıştı ne de canımdan çok sevdiğim iki yavrum. Polis olan eşimse o gece nöbetçiydi.
Depremden sonra aylar süren bir iyileşme
sürecim oldu, hastanelerde geçen günler…
bir yandan bedenimim acısı, bir yandan
kalbimdeki evlat acısı …ilk ayların şokunu
atlatınca kendime acımak yerine yeni hedefler belirlemek istedim. Değişik kültürleri tanımak, farklı insanlarla arkadaşlıklar
kurma yolunu seçtim. Resim,seramik, ebru,
takı tasarımı, geleneksel el sanatları gibi hobiler edindim. Yaşı, sosyal çevresi ve kültürü
farklı bir çok insanla arkadaşlık kurdum.
Tiyatro ve ses sanatçısı olan dostlar edindim. Müdür yardımcılığı, anaokulu şefliği
yapan biri olarak hiç gocunmadan İsviçre’ye
gidip orada çocuk bakıcılığı yaptım.
Bir arkadaşım benim için “ipini koparan sandal” benzetmesi yapmıştı. İpini koparan,
değişik yerlere savrulan ama hep limanı bulabilen bir sandal… “ Sen, tsunami, deprem,
kasırga gibi her olayı yaşayıp yine de ayakta
kalabilen birisin” demişti bana.
Deprem sonrası evlat acısının üstesinden gelmeye çalışırken annemi , babamı
ve benden genç iki kuzenimi de kaybettim.
Buna rağmen ayakta kalmayı başardım.
En büyük gücü sevdiğim arkadaşlarımın
ve evlatlarımın yerine koyduğum gençlerin sevgisinden alıyorum.
At the beginning, my
aim in life was to have
a good education,
to become a teacher
with multifaceted social skills, to raise modern kids and to have
a nice family and to
be a good mother. I
also wanted to have
hobbies, to visit new
places and to touch
other cultures while
following my goals. I accomplished most of
these goals. My life was continuing as I planned until our house was totally destroyed
in the earthquake in 1999. I was stuck under the remainings of the building for 23
hours. When I was finally rescued, I didn’t
have a house nor my beloved kids anymore.
My husband who was a policeman was on
the night shift on that day.
After the earthquake, I had a healing process for months. On the one hand I had
physical pain on the other hand I had the
grief of loosing my children. After overcoming the first shock of the event I faced,
I decided to set myself new goals rather
than feel pity for myself. I had new hobbies
such as painting, jewelry design etc. I made
friends from different social backgrounds,
cultures and ages. I went to Switzerland to
babysit.
While trying to overcome the grief of loosing
my kids, I also lost my parents and two cousins younger than me. Despite all these, I
could survive. I get my biggest support from
my beloved friends and youngsters whom I
put in the place of my kids.
noktası nedir?
point in your life?
Hayatımda iki dönüm noktası olmuştur.
Birincisi, ortaokulu bitirdikten sonra babam okula gitmemi istemedi, 18 yaşıma
girince kendisi gibi polis memuru olmamı
önerdi. Ben de bunu kabul edip evde
yaşımın dolmasını beklemeye başladım.
Ama daha sonra babam bir kadın için polis olmanın zorluğunu öne sürerek bundan
vazgeçti. Benim evlenmemi bekliyorlardı
artık. Ama ben ısrarla okula gitmek
istediğimi söyledim. Ve 19 yaşımda liseye
kaydoldum ve kendimden 4-5 yaş küçük
çocuklarla okudum. Çok başarılı bir lise
hayatından sonra istediğim üniversiteye
gidip arzu ettiğim gibi öğretmen oldum.
İkinci
dönüm
noktası
ise
1999
Ağustosundaki 50.000 kişinin öldüğü,
100.000 kişini yaralandığı o büyük depremdi. Hayatımızı altüst eden o depremden sonra çoğu kez yatağa bir daha uyanmamak isteğiyle girdim. Ama sonradan
acılarla yaşamayı öğrendim.
I had two milestones in my life. First, after finishing secondary school, my father
didn’t want me to continue my education.
He suggested that I became a police officer like him when I turned 18. I accepted this suggestion and waited for it. But
after a while my father changed his mind.
He wanted me to get married but I insisted on to go to school. Then I enrolled to
night school at the age of 19 and completed my education with kids who were 4-5
years younger
than me. After
a very successful high school
life, I went to a
university and I
studied what I
wanted and became a teacher
as I wished.
The
second
milestone was
the earthquake
in August,1999 in which 50.000 people died and 100.000 wounded. After
the earthquake that shattered our lives,
I usually went to bed without wanting to
wake up again. But later I have learnt to
live with my own grief.
Sizin için
başarı nedir?
Başarı,
çaba
gösterip,
zaman
harcayıp,ortaya çıkardığın her şeydir.
Duygusal olarak da başarı, her güçlüğü
yenmektir. Benim özelimde ise başarı, 23
saat enkazda kalıp, 2 çocuğunu yitirdikten sonra gülebilmek ve güneş benim için de umutla doğuyor demektir. Yani
yaşanan bu felakete rağmen umudumu
yitirmemektir
to you?
In my case, success is to be able to laugh
after the things I have experienced.
Marlene H.
68 Jahre/years
Eine Freundschaft die über 65
Jahre hält, ist ein großes Glück.
Das bekommt man aber nicht
umsonst, wir arbeiten ständig
daran.
1948 wohnte wir zu dritt in drei Zimmern und meine Freundin mit fünf
Personen wohnten in zwei Zimmern.
Für uns Kinder war das schön, aber
ob es auch für die Erwachsenen so
war ist eine andere Sache.
Meine Freundin und ich gingen in
dieselbe Schule und verbrachten die
ganzen Schuljahre zusammen. Wir
waren zufrieden mit dem was wir
hatten, denn der Nachbar hatte auch
nicht mehr. Alle mussten zusammen
halten, es gab keinen Neid, jeder
hatte mit sich zu tun. Für uns ging
es eigentlich nur bergauf, vielleicht
hatten wir auch Glück, in dieser Zeit
Kinder zu sein.
Nach der Schulzeit begann für uns
der Einstieg ins Berufsleben, natürlich in der Porzellanindustrie.
Für die Pubertät blieb keine Zeit,
wir mussten Geld verdienen. Einen
Teil des Geldes mussten wir auch zu
Hause als Kostgeld abgeben.
Wir gingen gemeinsam in die Turnstunde, zum Tanztee und trösteten
uns gegenseitig im Liebeskummer.
Dann lernte jeder von uns seinen
Freund kennen, wir waren nicht mehr
so viel zusammen, doch wir verloren
uns nie aus den Augen. Meine Freundin zog dann mit ihrem Mann weg,
bekam wie ich 2 Kinder. Da waren wir
A friendship that lasts for more than
65 years – that’s fortune. However, it
is nothing you just get like this. You
both have to work constantly on your
friendship
erst einmal mit uns selbst beschäftigt. Als sie wieder zurückkam, belebten wir die Freundschaft neu und
bezogen auch unsere Ehemänner
und Kinder mit ein. Als meine Mutter
plötzlich starb, war meine Freundin
für mich da und teilte meine Sorgen
und meinen Schmerz.
Und als ich nach 35 Ehejahren geschieden wurde, stand sie mir wieder zur Seite. Bis heute bin ich mit
ihr und ihrem Mann sehr eng befreundet. Vor einiger Zeit hatte ihr
Mann einen Schlaganfall und nun ist
es an mir, da zu sein, wenn sie mich
braucht, egal ob seelisch oder praktisch.
Meine Freundin war immer wie eine
Schwester für mich. So eine Freundschaft ist ein Geschenk, das ich niemals vermissen möchte. Sie ist für
mich sehr kostbar und ich hoffe,
dass ich sie noch viele Jahre erleben
und genießen darf.
Das ist mein persönlicher Erfolg!
1948 I lived together with my family. All
three of us shared a 3-bedroom apartment whereas my friends had to live in
just 2 rooms for five people. As children we didn’t really worry about sharing
the room, but I don’t know whether the
adults.
My friend and I we
have been attending
the same school and
have been friends
through all school years. We didn’t have
anything but we were
happy with the things
we got. We knew
the other kids or the
neighbor didn’t have
much more either. We had to stick together and there was no envy. It was as
good as it could be, but maybe we were
just lucky to be born and to grow up in
this time.
After graduation we entered into employment – in the porcelain industry, where
else. We didn’t have any time for puberty.
Instead we had to be independent and responsible for earning our own living. Parts
of our income would be contributed to the
household.
My best friend and I attended our gym
classes together, we jointly participated at the tea dance and when it came to
lovesickness… we talked this through and
cared for each other as well, of course.
Then something happened which put our
friendship to a test. We both met our boyfriends and future husbands. During that
time we didn’t spend every single time
together, but we always stayed in touch.
Even later on, when my friend moved to
another city and we both became parents. That was a happy time we had with
our family, but we both knew that we had
to take care of our own lives first for now.
A few years later her family moved back
in our hometown.
We had the chance
to revive our friendship together with
our husbands and
our children. When
my mother suddenly past away my very
best friend was there for me. She comforted me. We shared
my sorrows as well as
joy. And when I got divorced once again
my best friend was there she› has been a
great pillar of support for me. The three
of us still have a very special bonding and
can always rely on each other. Some time
ago, her husband had a stroke and now I
am her safety net and support her emotionally as well as in everyday items.
She has always been like a sister to me
and I could not ask for a more loving person by my side. Our friendship is like a
very valuable gift from heaven. I thank
god for this woman in my life and hope
there are still many more years and
shared experiences to come.
That’s my success!
GRUNDTVIG
Practical learning for adults
The Grundtvig programme focuses
on the teaching and study needs of
learners taking adult education and
‘alternative’ education courses, as
well as the organisations delivering
these services. It aims to help develop the adult education sector, as well
as enable more people to undertake
learning experiences, notably in other European countries.
The Grundtvig Learning
Partnership ...
... is a framework for small-scale cooperation activities between organisations working in the field of adult education in the broadest sense. The
partnerships focus mainly process,
and aim to broaden the participation of
smaller organisations that want to include European cooperation in their education activities.
The following activities may be supported:
Grundtvig
Learning Partnership
In a
trainers and learners from at least
three participating countries work together on one or more topics of common interest to the co-operating organisations. This exchange of experiences,
practices and methods contributes to
an increased awareness of the varied
European cultural, social and economic scene, and to a better understanding
of areas of common interest.
The participating organisations are encouraged to monitor and evaluate their
transnational work and to interconnect it with the initiatives of their local community. They are also encouraged to cooperate with organisations
and authorities at the national level,
to ensure a sound basis for their ideas
and activities and open up channels for
dissemination. This will maximise the
value of the transnational exchange,
promote the circulation of good practice, and thus ensure the wider impact
of results.
• Partner meetings and seminars between all institutions involved in the
Partnership
• Exchanges of staff and adult learners involved in project activities
• Exchanges of experience and good practice, by all appropriate means and in
particular using information and communication technology (e.g. websites,
e-mail, video-conferencing)
• Making of technical objects, drawings and arts objects related to the project
• Fieldwork, project research, etc.
• Preparation of performances (e.g. theatre plays, musicals, etc.)
• Linguistic preparation for persons involved in the partnership to ensure
they possess the necessary competence in the working language(s) of the
partnership
• Co-operation with other projects in related subject areas (including Grundtvig
Networks) sharing experience with other institutions in the region, etc., including mobility to network events, if relevant
• Self-evaluation activities
• Organisation of exhibitions, production and dissemination of information material or documentation on the co-operation activities
• Dissemination of project experience and outcomes
In Grundtvig Learning Partnerships focusing on learner participation, learners
should be actively involved in the project and their mobility should be encouraged as much as possible.
Learning Partnerships focusing on management of adult education and/or teaching methods provide teachers, trainers and adult education managers with the
opportunity to exchange experience and information, to develop together methods and approaches which meet their needs, and to test and put into practice
new organisational and pedagogical approaches. In both cases, projects can involve co-operation with bodies from the local community, such as local authorities, social services, associations and enterprises.
Quelle: http://ec.europa.eu
Editor and Project Partner
Volkshochschule Selb
Lessingstr. 8, D-95100 Selb
www.vhs-selb.de
[email protected]
+49 (0)92 87 - 76 01 20
Coordinator: Mrs. Michaela Hermannsdoerfer
Kdz Ereğli Halk Eğitim Merkezi ve Akşam Sanat Okulu
Sarikorkaz Mah. Okul Sok. No 2, 67300 EREĞLİ
www. kdzereglihem.com
[email protected]
Local Coordinator: Mr. Ilker Durak
Iniciativas de Proyectos de Formación
Calle Esperanto 8, 1º, 29007 Málaga
www.ipfinternational.com
[email protected]
Local Coordinator: Mrs. Elena Mesa
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