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Parshas Ki Sovo
CHASSIDUS................................9:00 AM
SERMON........................BEFORE MUSAF
Parshas Ki Sovo
Dear Kehilla,
BET Parashot Ki Savo Haftarah 5775
This week's haftorah brings us to the
concluding dimensions of Hashem's
encompassing efforts to comfort the Jewish
people. The prophet Yeshaya shares with us a glimpse of the glorious
era of Mashiach and reveals Hashem's unbelievable sensitivity and
concern for His chosen nation. Yeshaya begins, "Rise and project
your light because the radiance of Hashem shines upon you" (60:1).
The prophet's message is that in the days of Mashiach the Jewish
people will serve as a reflection of Hashem's light unto the nations of
the world. Yeshaya continues, "Lift your eyes and see them coming;
your sons coming from afar and your daughters accompanied by the
kings of the world." (60:3-5) The cloud of darkness and confusion
which continuously plagues society will finally be lifted and the entire
world will flow into Jerusalem in streams to discover the truths of
Hashem and His Torah. Instead of the all too familiar scene of the
Jewish people flowing out of their homeland into exile, a new flow
will occur. Not only will our oppressors permit us to return to Israel,
they will even personally escort us back to our homeland. And to
complete this picture, nations will display sincere interest in the
Jewish people's traditions and will flock to our homeland to discover
our Jewish values and systems. The influx will be so overwhelming
that we will wonder in amazement if we are merely imagining these
sights, or if, in truth, history has made a full turnabout.
The prophet continues, "All the choice sheep of Kedar will gather
to you.... to be offered on My altar and accepted with desire." (60:
7) The nations of the world will appreciate in sincerity the value
of service to Hashem through sacrifice and will continuously offer
Him an abundance of sacrifices. In place of their cruel campaign for
thousands of years to destroy and never allow the reconstruction
of the Bais Hamikdash they will finally comprehend spiritual values
and utilize the Bais Hamikdash to capacity. The prophet adds, "And
foreign nations will build your walls and their kings will contribute
the funds" (60:10). Even the demolished walls of Israel's cities will be
rebuilt by her oppressors, nations who previously acted so harshly
toward the Jewish people.
According to the Rambam Mishneh Torah, Hilchos Melachim
11:1,4 the Beis HaMikdash will be built by man, more specifically
by Mashiach. Indeed, its construction will be one of the signs of
Mashiach’s advent.
The message of the Navi makes sense as the Bais Hamikdash will be
manmade so the nations can partake in the rebuilding. But according
to Rashi there will be nothing for them to do, it will come down
complete from Hashem.
According to Rashi, (Sukkah 41a, Rosh HaShanah 30a- see also
Tosafos, Sukkah) he explains that the Beis HaMikdash has already
been constructed by G‑d and exists in the heavenly realms, waiting
for the time when it will descend to the earth. For the Third Beis
HaMikdash will be “the Sanctuary of G‑d, established by Your hands.”
When the setting within the world is appropriate, this heavenly
structure will descend and become an actual reality within our
material world.
Why would we want the nations to partake at all in the building of
the Bais Hamekdash? Why should they have that privilege after all
that they put us through in 2000 years of Galut?
Maybe this is a lesson that is appropriate for entering the Yamim
Noraim; the ability and freedom of forgiveness. To forgive liberates
us in a way that enables us to move on and rebuild. When we hold
on to the past we suffer and can never rebuild anything.However, if
we want the Bais Hamikdash we will have to rid ourselves from that
hate and move on.
As the New Year is upon us and we really want to build the next year
we can only do so if we forgive.
Shabbat Shalom
which restores his relationship with
Hashem, brings on a joy that bursts
through all limitations, both physical
and spiritual.
To quote Likkutei Torah, Elul is the
time when the king goes out into
the fields and “all who desire may
seek His audience, and He receives
all with a gentle smiling face.” This
situation, to be together with the
King, uplifts person.
When a person reflects on the Alter
Rebbe’s (Baal Hatanya) statement
that the King is together with him
in the field, and not hidden in His
palace, he becomes inspired by His
grandeur. He recognizes the King
and sees His bright and shining
face smiling at him. Everyone is
approaching the King to ask for
favors; and he, too, can go up with
his request.
The avodah of teshuvah in Elul is a
service of joy; for just as a person
who has lost some treasured
possession feels joy on its being
restored to him, and to an even
greater degree than before it was
lost, so too it is with teshuvah,
The Avodah during the month of Elul
in all the above respect is the true
prelude to the New Year — to ensure
that we have a Kesivah VaChasimah
Tovah, for a good and sweet year,
in all things spiritual, which will
automatically ensure the same, for all
things physical.
This avodah commences on the first
day of Elul, in general terms. When
the eighteenth of Elul arrives, the
avodah, takes on more specific form,
— one day for each month of the
passing year. (There are 12 days from
Chai Elul until Rosh Hashanah). In the
words of the previous Lubavitcher
Rebbe, (The RaYYatz, the Rebbe’s
Father-In-law, the 6th Chabad Rebbe)
that Chai Elul breathes life into the
avodah of the month of Elul.
==== Chai Elul farbrengen
Rabbi Daniel Aron Coren
When to say Slichos
There is a lengthy discussion among
the poskim regarding the best time
to say slichos. Some say that it’s
before daybreak while others say that
the optimum time is around chatzos.
The big question is whether one can
recite slichos early in the evening
around 10pm and most poskim agree
that this is very questionable and
kabbalistically speaking, it might even
by counterproductive.
Some say,
however, that if you do daven in the
early evening, you should try to make
sure that you do this exactly when the
first watch of the night takes place, i.e.
the end of the fourth hour from tzais.
The reason given for why slichos
should not be said early in the evening
is based on the fact that this is a time
of judgment as opposed to chatzos or
later which is a time of rachamim.
Yud Gimmel Middos
The highlight of the slichos service
is the yud gimmel midos. What is so
special about them and how can we
properly use them so as to ensure that
our tefilos are heard?
The background of this question starts
in maseches Rosh Hashana where R
Yochanan teaches us that Hashem
kivyachol doned a talis and passed in
front of Moshe Rabeinu like a shaliach
tzibur, reciting the yud gimmel middos,
“Hashem Hashem kel Rachum
Hashem related to Moshe that a
covenant exists with these words in that
as long as we say them in the correct
order 13 middos are guaranteed not to
return empty handed.
This sounds like an amazing promise
but unfortunately as many great Rabbis
have pointed out, we don't seem to see
the results the way we would like to see
them. Why not?
Many interesting reasons have been
given to this question and I think it’s
important to study them all because
when it comes to life and death which is
what this is really all about, we implore
Hashem for everything we need: we
daven for life, we daven for parnassa,
we daven to have better success in
our learning, we daven for mashiach to
come and save humanity. So it’s worth
covering all the
bases so we can
get the results we
long for.
An interesting insight into these 13
attributes is given by Rashi who
states that the yud gimmel middos
work best when we are fasting. This
might be the basis for the minhag
to fast the days of slichos and the
days of Aseres Yemai Teshuva.
Other fascinating explanations
are given by the kadmonim like
the Raishis Chochma who brings
out the idea that not only do we
need to vocalize the attributes of
Hashem but rather we ourselves
need to actually do them. It isn’t
enough to say Hashem you are
compassionate. We also must be
compassionate. This is definitely a
game changer and a much more
challenging endeavor.
There are other explanations that
give us hope. One of the great
chassidic rebbes explained that
the reason why we only say yud
gimmel middos when davening in
a tzibur is because amongst the
congregants in the shul there will
most probably be at least one man
that is a ‘rachum’ and another guy
that is slow to anger etc and so the
total combination of all the people
gathered there would be cover all
13, or yud gimmel qualities.
The Bnai Yissachar, another savior,
proves in his beautiful way of writing
that it’s enough to just recite the
words of rachamim and that we are
not required to actually do them.
As I suggested, I believe that for
the time being, and all the way up
to Yom Kippur, we should continue
davening and begging Hashem for
as much as we can. We should try
to encompass all that I mentioned
above as it is not worth taking any
chances. If possible, we should fast
at least one day or a half a day of
slichot and we should, according
to Rabbi Bachai, understand the
meaning of the 13 attributes so we
can say them with all our hearts.
Lastly, we should live and actually
be the 13 middos.
Bizchus these efforts, we will be
zoche to have an amazing, happy
and joyous year.
Snap Shot
on th
by Lazer Scheiner
Moses instructs the people of Israel: When you enter the
land that G‑d is giving to you as your eternal heritage,
and you settle it and cultivate it, bring the first-ripened
fruits(bikkurim) of your orchard to the HolyTemple, and
declare your gratitude for all that G‑d has done for you.
Our Parshah also includes the laws of thetithes given to
the Levites and to the poor, and detailed instructions on
how to proclaim the blessings and the curses on Mount
Gerizim and Mount Eival—as discussed in the beginning
of the Parshah ofRe’eh. Moses reminds the people that
they are G‑d’s chosen people, and that they, in turn, have
chosen G‑d.
The latter part of Ki Tavo consists of the Tochachah
(“Rebuke”). After listing the blessings with which G‑d will
reward the people when they follow the laws of theTorah,
Moses gives a long, harsh account of the bad things—
illness, famine, poverty and exile—that shall befall them
if they abandon G‑d’s commandments.
Moses concludes by telling the people that only today,
forty years after their birth as a people, have they
attained “a heart to know, eyes to see and ears to hear.”
This week's haftorah is the sixth of a series of seven
"Haftarot of Consolation." These seven haftarot
commence on the Shabbat following Tisha b'Av and
continue until Rosh Hashanah.
In glowing terms the prophet recounts descriptions of
what will unfold during the Redemption. Beginning with
the resurrection of the dead and the ingathering of the
exiles, continuing with the joy and abundance the Jewish
people will then experience, as well as the gifts that will
be brought to G‑d from all of the nations of the world.
Finally, the Jewish nation will no longer be despised and
derided, there will no longer be violence nor mourning,
and G‑d will shine His everlasting light on His people.
abbi Steinfeld
A person finished a Mesechta and
donates supper to a Yeshiva. He says that the meal
he donated should be considered his siyum. The boys
in Yeshiva would get a meal in any case; may this
meal be considered a siyum?
The Maharsham in chelek vov, siman
zayin discusses if one can make a siyum during the
Yom Tov meal. The problem may be that the person
is doing mitzvos “chavilos chavilos”(piling on multiple
mitzvos on one thing.) Tosfos in Brachos daf lamed
tes, amud bais, s.v. hakol modim says that regarding
“birchos ha’nehenin” (brachos said before partaking of
foods) there is no problem of having mitzvos “chavilos
chavilos.” We find this concept regarding a cup of
wine where we recite both the bracha of borei pri
hagofen and Kiddush. We also find this concept in
the reading of Shema. When one says Shema, he is
doing the mitzvah of saying Shema and in addition is
doing the mitzvah of limud ha’Torah. The Maharsham
says that in the case of siyum on Yom Tov, there
would be no problem of chavilos since there is only
one action being done. This is so despite the fact that
in the thought process we are fulfilling two obligations
that would not be a problem of chavilos. There would
only be a problem of chavilos in a case where one
is doing two separate actions on the same mitzvah.
‫ והנה יסוד הענין שזמר הוא משמח לשעתה‬, ‫זהב וכסף ״ עייש‬
‫ וכמו״ש שיש בחינה של מתיקות בהתחלה‬, ‫אבל אחר השיר איננו‬
‫ כי‬, ‫ שכל העולם לא שווה‬, ‫ ואח״כ יש את הבחינה‬, ‫כמו שיר‬
. ‫התורה כוללת כל הטובות שבעולם‬
‫וזהו השני בחינות לגבי מתיקות זהו לשעתה כתב משתגעים שזו‬
‫ עוד נקודה וזו תולדה‬, ‫ בעת שלומד‬, ‫על שגעון של מתיקות‬
‫ שאיך‬, ‫ ולזה כתב מתלהטים‬, ‫מהמתיקות זה אהבת התורה‬
‫שגופו יצר הך קישור לתורה בזה מתיקות על ידי זה מתלהט כל‬
. ‫ ומובן היטב לשון האור החיים הקדוש‬, ‫מציאותו ללמוד‬
‫כתב הרמב״ם ( בהלכות תשובה פרק ו׳ הלכה ה׳ ) וזה לשונו בא״ד‬
‫״ שמדה זו בכל אדם שכל זמן שהוא נמשך בדרכי החכמה והצדק‬
. ‫מתאוה להן ורודף אותן עכת״ד לעניינו‬
‫ והיינו הרגשתו‬, ‫ תשוב ה׳‬, ‫ תשובה היינו‬, ‫ובכן מבהיל הדברים‬
‫ והנה‬, ‫ חטא מרחק ממנו יתברך ובבחינת מת יחשב‬, ‫יתברך‬
‫הרמב״ם מאריך בסוף הלכות תשובה בענין מעלת התורה ושכרה‬
‫ והעירו בזה מה קשר להלכות‬, ‫וקירבתה על ידי מי שעוסק בה‬
? ‫תשובה‬
‫ ואין משהו בעולם‬, ‫והביאור בזה שיסוד התשובה להתקרב עליו‬
‫ והנה‬, ‫יותר קרוב מאשר להיות דבוק בתורה הקדושה ממש‬
‫ידועים דברי האגלי טל בהקדמה שכתב שיסוד תורה להנות‬
‫ וזהו הקישור‬, ‫ ועל שנהנה נעשה דבוק בו ונבלע בדמיו‬, ‫ממנה‬
. ‫הגדול שיש על ידי מתיקות ואהבת התורה‬
‫ ולהשיג האהבה והמתיקות שבתורה‬, ‫שנזכה באמת לדבק בתורה‬
‫ ו( בזכות תפילה‬, ‫ ובזכות זה נתקרב עליו יתברך בתשובה שלמה‬,
) ‫אצל צדיק האמת‬
. ‫נזכה לכתיבה וחתימה טובה‬
‫דוד יהודה פיירסטון‬
The same concept would apply to a person eating
a Shelamim on Yom Tov and having the mitzvah of
simchas Yom Tov in mind at the same time. We see
that one may eat one meal even if it is not obvious
that the person is fulfilling two separate obligations.
There is an exception to this discussion. The
Bach in Orach Chaim, siman taf yud tes says that if
Rosh Chodesh falls out on Shabbos one may not be
yotzei the seuda of Rosh Chodesh on Shabbos with
the Shabbos meal. He would therefore need to eat a
special meal on the next day, on Sunday, to celebrate
Rosh Chodesh. The Bach continues this discussion
by saying that this is not our minhag and we don’t eat
a meal on Sunday to celebrate Rosh Chodesh that
fell out on Shabbos. The Mishna Berura in seif koton
bais says that one should add something special to
the meal on the Shabbos that coincides with Rosh
We can reconcile the case of siyum and Shabbos
Rosh Chodesh. When a person makes a siyum, a
special hadran is recited. It is therefore obvious that
the seuda is serving two purposes. On the other hand,
when Rosh Chodesh falls out on Shabbos nothing
special is said, so if no special food were eaten, one
would not be able to tell that the meal is also fulfilling
the seuda of Rosh Chodesh. Therefore, if a person
makes a siyum in the Yeshiva, it would be acceptable
on all accounts. The meal will accomplish both the
mitzvah of hachzakas ha’Torah and a siyum.
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Next Week’s Question: Two poor people approached
a rich man at the same time on Purim. The rich man
only had a hundred dollar bill so he gave it to both of
them and asked them to split it. Is he Yotzei Matanos
L’evyonim or not?
‫פרשת כי תבוא‬
‫אהבת התורה עומק התשובה‬
‫מפורסמים בפי כל דברי רבינו האור החיים הקדוש על הפסוק ״ ושמחתם בכל‬
‫) שאם היו בני אדם מרגישים במתיקות‬.‫הטוב ״ אין טוב אלא תורה ברכות (ה‬
‫ ולא יחשב בעיניהם מלא‬, ‫ועריבות טוב התורה היו משתגעים ומתלהטים אחריה‬
. ‫ כי התורה כוללת כל הטובות שבעולם עכ״ל הזהב‬, ‫עולם כסף וזהב למאומה‬
. ‫ומצוה לשנן שוב ושוב את דבריו עד שיכנס בעצמות‬
‫והנה ביארתי בזה בספרי אש דוד ( חלק א סימן ו׳ ) מה שכתב בלשונו הזהב‬
‫כיפול הלשון מ ת י ק ו ת וכן ו ע ר י ב ו ת ועוד כפל בלשונו מ ש ת ג ע י ם וכן‬
‫ תוצאה מזה בא אהבת‬.‫ מתיקות התורה ב‬.‫ויסוד הדברים שיש שני עניינים א‬
‫ בפירוש הברכת‬:‫ והוכחתי יסוד הענין ממה שכתב רש״י הקדוש ברכות יא‬, ‫התורה‬
‫ והיינו שיש שלב‬, ‫ יערבו עלינו לעסוק בהם מאהבה עכ״ל‬: ‫התורה ״והערב נא״ וז״ל‬
‫ שעל ידי שהתורה מתוקה בפינו כשלומדים‬, ‫של עריבות וזה מביא לאהבת התורה‬
. ‫ שקונה לעצמו תאוה ממש עליו‬, ‫ על ידי זה רוצים ללמוד עוד ועוד‬,
‫ בהתחלה כשלומד ואחר שלומד ומתרגל בה נעשה מין‬,‫והיינו שיש שני שלווים‬
‫ וזהו לשון הילקוט תהילים ״ מתחילה אמר דוד המלך ע״ה בשהיה בחור ״‬, ‫קנין לו‬
‫זמירות היו לי חוקיך ״ וכשלמד תורה ונתרגל בה אמר ״ טוב לי תורת פיך מאלפי‬
The Maggid’s Corner
Rabbi Benzion Sneh
!"‫ה' אלקיך בשמחה ובטוב לבב מרב כל‬
,‫תמה רבי יעקב מה מצא בפסוק זה דווקא‬
‫השיב הלה שהוא עבר שבעה מדורי גיהנום‬
‫ ובאחד‬,‫במחנות אצל הנאצים ימ"ש‬
‫ היה אדם צדיק צנום‬,‫המחנות שהיה שם‬
‫וחלוש שמפקד המחנה החליט להתעלל בו ונתן בידו משא‬
‫ וחייב אותו לקחת את המשא‬,‫כבד עד מאוד של חמישים קילו‬
‫ כך עשרות‬,‫ולעלות עמו להר גבוה ואח"כ לרדת אתו בחזרה‬
‫ ומה‬.‫פעמים עלה וירד עם המשא הכבד הזה ללא כל תועלת‬
‫ "תחת אשר לא‬:‫הוא עשה אז? הוא חזר על פסוק הזה בקול‬
‫עבדת את ד' אלהיך בשמחה ובטוב לבב מרב כל!" עוד פעם‬
.‫ וכך נכנס פסוק זה לראשו של האדם הרחוק הזה‬,‫ועוד פעם‬
‫ והיה זה‬,‫ומי היה אותו צדיק? היה זה הרבי מקלויזנבורג זצ"ל‬
‫אחרי שכבר עבר צרות איומות ואיבד את אשתו ואחד עשר‬
‫ ועל מה הוא חשב אז? הוא חי את העובדה שכל‬,‫ילדיו לעיניו‬
.‫עונשיו על כך שלא עבד את השי"ת בשמחה ובטוב לבב‬
‫ יש הבדל ניכר בין המחותנים לשאר‬- ‫ובשמחה בחתונה‬
‫ המחותנים שמחים בעצם הדבר שזכו להכניס את‬.‫הקרואים‬
‫בניהם לחופה ושמחה זו היא הגורמת לכל המשתה הגדול‬
,‫ הם אינם שמחים מכח עצמם‬,‫ לא כן שאר המוזמנים‬.‫שעשו‬
‫ ולאחר שאכלו מעדנים‬,‫אלא תחילה הם משתתפים שסעודה‬
‫ כך הוא גם הנמשל‬.‫ושתו ממתקים מתעוררת בהם השמחה‬
'‫ כאשר מקיים האדם את מצות ה‬- ‫ אמר המגיד מדובנא‬‫ אולם‬.‫בשמחה דומה הוא ל"מחותן" השמח בעצם קיום המצוה‬
.‫ הרי הוא כמוזמן זר‬,‫אם אינו שמח בעצם קיום המצוה‬
‫תחת אשר לא עבדת את ה' אלוקיך בשמחה ובטוב‬
‫ ואם עובדים בלי שמחה מגיע עונש? ממתי‬.)‫ מז‬,‫לבב (כח‬
‫מענישים על זה שלא עובדים את השם בשמחה? אבל‬
‫ההסבר הוא במשל שבחור הביא תעודה בסוף שנה‬
‫ואביו הביט בה וראה שבכל המקצועות בתעודה הציונים‬
.‫ ורק בזמרה הבחור קיבל טוב מאוד‬,‫נמוכים מאוד‬
‫ הבן בכה‬.‫כשראה זאת האב העניק לו סטירת לחי חזקה‬
‫ושאל את אביו מדוע כשראה את כל שאר הציונים הוא‬
‫לא הגיב ורק לאחר שראה את הציון המעולה בזימרה‬
‫ עוד יש לך חשק‬,‫סטר לו? ענה האב לא רק שלא למדת‬
‫ לא רק זאת שלא עבדתם את השם‬:‫לשיר? כךגם בעניינו‬
.‫כלל ועוד הייתם בשמחה? ועל זה מגיע עונש‬
‫ והלא‬,‫לכאורה יש להבין מדוע העונש כל כך נורא‬
'‫ אומר רבינו ר‬.‫ רק עבד בלי השמחה‬,'‫סו"ס עבד את ה‬
‫ זו עבודה‬,‫ כי כשהאדם עובד בלי שמחה‬,‫חיים מוולוז'ין‬
‫ עושים‬,‫ עבודה שעושים אצל אוהב‬.‫שעובדים אצל האויב‬
‫ וממילא מידה כנגד מידה; "תחת אשר לא‬.‫בשמחה‬
‫ א"כ כזו עבודה תעבוד‬,"‫עבדת את ה' אלוקיך בשמחה‬
.‫ וה' הטוב יכפר‬.‫אצל האויב‬
‫ פסח מהרב אברהם קאלצקי‬- "‫בקונטרס "פרקים‬
‫ שהגר"י קמינצקי‬,‫שיחי' מארה"ב מביא עובדה נוראה‬
‫זצ"ל פגש אדם חילוני לגמרי שלא הייתה לו שום‬
,‫ ולא ידע אפילו פסוק שמע ישראל‬,‫שייכות ליהדות‬
‫אותו יהודי אמר להגר"י שיש פסוק אחד בתורה שאותו‬
‫ "תחת אשר לא עבדת את‬:‫הוא יודע בע"פ וזהו פסוק זה‬
Covenant Friendship: An Ex-Loner's Guide to Authentic Friendship
"Covenant Friendship: An Ex-Loner's Guide to Authentic Friendship"
The law of admitting mistakes: Learning to do the hard work of reconciliation
is a sign of strength, not weakness.
is embarrassing, but it is the right thing to do on several levels: it lessens
the possibility of repeating the mistake; and it put any angst the spouse
may feel squarely in his or her court.
When divorced people want to get married to someone new, I encourage
them to delve into their past mistakes. My reasoning is simple: whatever
we do not resolve, we repeat.
I also urge them to apologize to their children. After all, divorce stole the
Beaver Cleaver world they intended for their offspring. An apology gives
the children an opportunity to walk away from any disappointment or
disgust they may be harboring. And it models for them a discipline they
will need to use many times in life. If they are not able to admit mistakes,
apologize, and ask for forgiveness, life will not go well for them.
I encourage them to make a list of their marital failures (not their spouse's
errors), to apologize to their former spouse, and to ask for forgiveness. It
Learning to do the hard work of reconciliation is a sign of strength, not
I spend a great deal of time encouraging people to admit their mistakes,
apologize, and ask for forgiveness.
Rabbi Dovid
Author, “Headlines: Halachic Debates of Current Events”
Is Starbucks Kosher?
The Kashrus Concerns with our Favorite Beverages
‫כ״ג אלול תשע״ה‬
‫יום ב׳ לפרשת נצבים‬
10:00AM S
For Men and Women
Followed by Questions & Answers
Refreshments will be served
Cash Torah
from Brother Shlomo !
From Jewish by Zivi Ritchie
U s i n g y o u r e m o t i o n s at t h e r i g h t t i m e
Every emotion that G-d gave us is for a purpose. To
love is for a purpose, to hate is for a purpose. We
have the emotion to hate. The question is, what do
you hate, and what do you love? You have emotions
urging to be silent, and you have emotions that you
just have to speak up. You have the emotion to be
ashamed, and then you have the emotion that you
are not afraid of anybody in the world. We have
all this stashed away in our mind. The question is,
when are you using it, and where are you using it.
That is the whole question.
This is the most heart-breaking thing in the world:
G-d gives us at birth, let’s say, 100 pounds of love,
and, let’s say, 100 pounds of hatred. So here I am
using up 50 pounds of my love, let’s say, for food,
or for money. Then, when it comes to a holy thing,
I have only 50 pounds of love left. Or, let’s say, I am
using up 50 pounds of hate on hating my neighbor
for no real reason. Then, when I see evil in the
world, and I really should hate it, I should be all
shook up: “Gevalt! What is going on here!?” But I
already used up most of my hatred for other things.
I don’t have it anymore.
Then, listen to this. Let’s say G-d gave me 100
pounds of shame to be used for a holy purpose.
But I used it up on stupid things; I came into a place
and I saw they are doing things that are wrong, but
I was ashamed to speak up. And so I used up 50
pounds of my shame on the wrong thing. Then,
when it comes do doing the most ugly thing in the
world which I should be ashamed to do, and I need
100 pounds of shame in order not to do it, but by
then I only have 50 pounds of shame left, so I do it,
because I already used up the shame that I needed
H at e e v i l
It is only if you love what you really want to love
that your ability to love becomes stronger. But if
you love something which, deep down, you don’t
love, then the deep muscles of love are not worked
How much can you love money? Let’s put it on
that level. Loving your child with all your heart, is
different from the way that the most rotten, low
creature loves money. These two different kinds
of love do not really have the same effect on the
heart, so the one who loves money is not really
exercising his love muscles, right? You see, each
time you love someone who you really want to
love, your ability to love gets stronger. If you love
something you shouldn’t love, and you don’t really
want to love, you are just wasting your love, and
not exercising your love muscles.
Each time you give money to a poor man,
your muscles of giving are being exercised and
H o ly c h u t z pa h
There is something which is very important. There
is such a thing as arrogance, believing that you can
do it. For instance, I know this very strongly from my
musical performances. Who is a good performer?
Not just someone who has a good voice. Some
people have tremendous voices but they can’t
perform, because they don’t believe that they can
do it. When you stand before an audience, you
have to believe that you can perform before them.
That is really all there is to it. If you are standing
there, and if you believe that you can sing a song,
that is it. The vibration is tremendous.
Sometimes someone comes on stage and he
doesn’t believe that he can do it, so no one pays
any attention to him. There is something in the air.
Rebbe Nachman says, the world uses up their hate
against each other, so they are not hating evil any
more. They should hate evil, but they just hate each
other; they are just using up the entire 100 pounds
of hate, and so when it comes to really hating evil,
they don’t hate it so much anymore, maybe they
even like it. David HaMelech says, “The ones who
love G-d really hate evil.”
But sometimes you have to know that you can’t
do it, mamash. You have to have this holy shame,
and know, “I can’t do it.” Then, at other times, you
have to have this holy chutzpah to say, “I can do it.
I know I can do it.” The question is, when are you
sure that you can do it, and when do you have this
holy shame that you can’t do it?
If someone would tell you now, “I want you to go
and put someone to shame; I will give you a million
dollars for doing it,” but you just hate to do it, you
really just hate the idea of doing it. You hate it to
the utmost, because you know and understand
what it means to put someone to shame. You say,
“No. I am not going to do it, because I hate it.”
What happens if I want to do something very holy,
very strong, and the whole world laughs at me?
Everyone thinks I am completely crazy. Then I must
have holy chutzpah, azut d’kdusha, holy arrogance.
If the whole world says that I am crazy, how come
I am not crazy? When I was born, G-d gave me the
holy arrogance to do what is right.
But if you hate people, if you are using up your
hatred in the wrong place, on people, then, if
someone says to you to put someone to shame and
you know you shouldn’t put someone to shame,
but if he offers to give you a few rubles to do it, you
don’t hate it that much anymore.
Say for instance, I believe I should wear a yarmulke
[skullcap]. I walk into a place, and all the people
start laughing, “Are you crazy? A yarmulke! You’re
old fashioned! You’re stupid!” So I say, “Oh, I’m
sorry. Oh, you are really right. We are living in a
modern, civilized world. What do I need a yarmulke
for?” Rebbe Nachman then asks: What am I doing
to myself? It is not that I took off the yarmulke. That
is beside the point. When I do something because
people told me I should or shouldn’t do it, or that
it doesn’t look nice, you know what happens to
me? I make a p’gam, a blemish; I destroy my holy
arrogance. Have you ever seen someone who licks
up to the whole world for two pennies? Why are
they so low? Because they destroyed their azut
d’kdusha with their own hands.
If you use up all the love in your heart on money,
you don’t have enough love left for your own
children, because you used it up on money. That’s
what is going on in the world today. Parents are so
busy loving their Cadillacs and their new homes
and their new golf clubs that there is not enough
love left in their heart for loving their own children.
Your love gets stronger
Like exercising muscles, the more you feel love, the
stronger your ability to love will get.
A z u t d ’ k e d u s h a [ h o ly a r r o g a n c e ]
G-d says, “Look at yourself. What are you? You were
My servant before. I gave you enough chutzpah to
do right, yet you prefer to listen to people? Okay,
be a slave to them. Make up your mind who is your
If you are G-d’s servant, then you are the highest
person in the world because you know exactly what
is right. If you know what is right, then you don’t
listen to anybody – just to what the soul of your
soul tells you is right.
If you have azut d’kedusha, this holy arrogance,
then you can really love people because you are
not their slave.
If you lose your holy arrogance, then I am a slave
to every shmendrik [fool]. I hate this shmendrik,
because he is my master. I have no dignity, I have
no spine anymore. I can’t stand people anymore.
It is very strange. We always think that if we don’t
listen to people who tell us to do wrong, that means
we will be pushed off to the side, and we want to be
in with the crowd. Just look at the crowd – do you
think they love each other? They hate each other.
It is 100% true, one billion percent true. Rebbe
Nachman’s holy words are mamash like gold.
Rebbe Nachman says something else. What about
the relationship of people to you? If you have holy
chutzpah, then people really love you. People
mamash love you. If someone walks in with a
yarmulke, and everyone laughs at him, and he still
wears it – they can keep on laughing. You know
what the person who is laughing really thinks?
“Gevalt! I respect him so much.”
But if I wear a yarmulke and people say, “Take it
off, this is not the place!” and I take it off, people
laughingly say, “Really a strong character, this
person! Who would want to be his friend?”
You know how people are? When you listen to
them, they spit at you. When you don’t listen to
them, they love you. It’s the craziest thing in the
When you listen to people, you become their slave,
and so you don’t love them. Don’t tell me you
listen to people because you love them. Don’t kid
yourself. You listen to people because you are not
standing on your own two feet. And if you don’t
stand on your own two feet, then they treat you
like a dog who walks on all fours. But if you are
strong enough, and you stand on your own two
feet, nothing can bend you. Then the world really
loves you.
Rebbe Nachman says it is just heartbreaking if you
destroy the holy arrogance that you have, because
then you become a slave to people. Rebbe Nachman
says this very strongly, he says the question is are
you G-d’s servant, or people’s servant? There is no
in between.
Everybody is somebody’s servant. Are you G-d’s
servant? Then you are the freest person in the
world. Because you know exactly what is right. If
you know what is right, then you don’t listen to
anybody – just to what the soul of your soul tells
you is right. The Gemara says the freest person is
the one who is G-d’s servant. If you are a man’s
servant, you are a slave. If you are G-d’s servant,
you are free. Completely free. Really, really free.
H o ly a r r o g a n c e a g a i n s t m y o w n s e l f
What is teshuva? What does it mean to repent?
Why basically, did I sin? Because I wasn’t strong
enough, right? I didn’t have holy arrogance against
my own self! To repent, to do teshuva, to return
to G-d, means to correct the holy arrogance within
Steven Y. Szklarz, CSP
Lets lose 30 lbs in 30 days!
My patients often ask me if there are any
foods that can help with reducing high
levels of LDL cholesterol. This is the socalled "bad" cholesterol that can cause
artery-clogging plaque to form in your
coronary artery walls, increasing your
risk of heart attack and stroke. My answer is "Yes," since high LDL can
be the result of many factors, including poor genes, obesity, and lack
of exercise. For this reason, not everyone will react to dietary changes
the same way, and optimal LDL levels are different for every individual.
Here is a list of 7 foods that may help in reducing the LDL cholesterol:
1) Beans:
All types of beans and other legumes are excellent sources of soluble
fiber. Fiber binds to cholesterol-laden bile salts in the small intestine
and promotes their excretion along with waste. When this happens, the
liver must use more cholesterol to produce more bile salts, therefore
lowering the amount of cholesterol in the body available to make LDL.
Enjoy a bean friendly chulent on Shabbos!
2) Apples:
As with beans, apples are an excellent source of LDL-lowering soluble
fiber. Research also shows that eating an apple a day can slow the
oxidation of LDL cholesterol thanks to antioxidant polyphenols found
primarily in the skin (so don't peel them). Antioxidants are important
because when LDL cholesterol interacts with free radicals to become
oxidized, it is more likely to promote inflammation and plaque buildup in the arteries. The number one fruit promoted on my cleanse is
APPLES- preferably green ones, but all are great!
3) Nuts and Seeds:
Walnuts, almonds, pistachios, pumpkin seeds, chia seeds, and flaxseeds
are all excellent sources of protein, heart-healthy monounsaturated and
polyunsaturated fats, vitamins, minerals, and fiber. When substituted
for saturated fat in the diet, nuts and seeds have been shown to help
lower LDL cholesterol (and total cholesterol) without affecting levels of
good HDL cholesterol. Since nuts and seeds are calorie-dense, you'll
need to limit your daily intake to about 1 hand full and also make sure
the nuts aren't salted or coated with sugar.
4) Oats and Oat Bran:
Oats and oat bran contain beta-glucan, a water-soluble fiber that has
been found to help reduce the amount of LDL cholesterol circulating
in the blood. Just a little should be eaten in the morning as part of a
healthy carb alternative.
Warmest Mazal Tov to Mr & Mrs. Michuel Bliech
on the Bar Mitzva this week of their son, Yeshaya Duvid. Aliyah
& Kiddush at Rabbi Rottenberg's Shul- 49 Forshay Rd
5) Green Tea:
All varieties of antioxidant-rich tea (white, black, green, oolong) can
help lower LDL, but green tea, which is particularly rich in the powerful
antioxidant EGCG has shown the best results in lowering LDL levels.
Unlike other teas, which are made from fermented leaves, green tea
leaves are steamed, which prevents the EGCG from being oxidized.
Start your morning with a cup of green tea and honey!
Warmest Mazal Tov to our members Mr. and Mrs. Reuven and Irina
Feldman upon the engagement of their daughter Meirah to Ben Lev of Los
6) Red Grapefruit:
Eating just one red grapefruit daily for a month can help to lower LDL
cholesterol by as much as 20 percent, one study showed. Grapefruit
also contains the soluble fiber pectin, which contributes to LDL
lowering. I use specific cleanse days a week with only grapefruit to aid
in weight loss as well. But be aware that grapefruit can enhance the
effect of certain heart medications. If you're taking any meds, check
with your doctor before eating grapefruit.
Rikki this past week to Yossi Kaufman.
7) Red Wine:
A plant-based chemical known as reservatrol, found in the red grapes
used to make red wine, has been shown to lower blood levels of
LDL cholesterol. It also appears to protect against coronary artery
disease, thanks to its antioxidant and anti-inflammatory properties.
Furthermore, a glass of red wine with a meal can help prevent the
constriction of blood vessels that can follow a fatty meal and lead to
atherosclerosis and heart attack. Enjoy the dry-red wine this Shabbos!
Please feel free to email me any questions or for an updated healthful
recipe book to [email protected]
Wishing all a wonderful Shabbos!
HEALTH IS HAPPINESS!!! -Steven Y. Szklarz, CSP
Angeles. The Vort will take place I’YH , this Sunday-7:00 PM - 9:00 PM BM Ahavas Yitzchok Simcha Room - 73 Forshay Road
Warmest Mazel Tov to
Goldie and Berry Kohn on the marriage of their daughter
Watch your thoughts for they become
Four things you can’t recover:
Watch your words for they become
– the word after its said
Watch your actions for they become
Watch your habit for they become
Watch your character for it becomes
your destiny.
– the stone after the throw
– the occasion after its missed
– the time after its gone
“Nobody gets to live life backward.
Look ahead, that is where your
future lies.” Ann Landers
Rebbitzen Mindy Lankry
Women’s Corner-Parshas Ki Savo
Life, for the most
part, is routine and mundane.
We complete the same tasks
day after day, usually without
much change. A women’s work
is especially monotonous as
the chores she completes one
day need to be redone the
next day. And the next. Even
though the family ate dinner on
Sunday, Monday and Tuesday,
they still need to eat dinner
on Wednesday as well. Dirty
clothes need to be cleaned and
after they are worn they require
washing again. Babies diapers
must be changed repeatedly,
dishes constantly washed and
beds re-made again and again.
It’s just the way it is. Though we
are all comfortable with routine
the constant monotony of it puts
us in a semi-comatose state. We
can do it without thinking. While
this might work for laundry,
this can be dangerous when
performing mitzvos.
As Moshes life draws
near the end he exhorts the
people to observe the Torah’s
commandments with all their
heart and soul. Moshe says,
“today Hashem your G-D
commands you to perform
these laws…” It was forty years
since they received the Torah.
What does Moshe mean when
he says “hayom-today”?
Moshe is teaching that
we should not allow the way we
do mitzvos to become routine.
Moshe wanted us to always
think of the Torah as fresh and
exciting. We should fulfill the
laws with the passion of one
who received it “today”(Rashi).
Many of us can recall
the first time we lit Shabbos
candles as a fresh-faced
newlywed. Our hands shook
with excitement and we prayed
fervently behind our covered
faces. Do we remember the way
our bar-mitzvah bochur lovingly
wrapped his tefillin around
his arm that very first time?
He davened like never before.
Some of us have pictures of
our very first batch of (perhaps
lumpy) challos we made. We
raised the separated piece of
dough in our hand and recited
the brocha loud and clear like a
victorious soldier. I will certainly
never forget the joyous sparkle
in my third graders eyes as
she recounted the glorious
experience of her first recital
of Shemona Esrei in school one
morning. The teacher later told
the parents that the excitement
of the girls was palpable. If
only they could always feel that
enthusiasm and delight each
time they pray.
The first time we fulfill a
mitzvah it is replete with joyous
emotions. But the passion rubs
off and it becomes mundane.
If we can infuse that newness
into our actions despite the
fact that we do it day in and
day out, we can reach the great
level of “hayom-today” that
Moshe encourages. This is a
tremendous challenge but one
that has huge ramifications.
When we perform mitzvos like
a burnt-out employee going
through the tiresome motions
so we can make it to retirement,
it is clear we have already
disconnected. If however, we
can remember the excitement
of those first times, we can
infuse new life in our actions. If
we study the meaning behind
the mitzvos and focus on this
significance, we can re-instill
the joy into our deeds. We
can re-ignite our homes in the
pure delight of Shabbos and
Yom Tov and fill our days with
the exuberance of Torah. Our
family will flourish in this joyous
environment. Let us begin
C H A B A D. O R G
B Y T Z V I F R E E M A N - C H A B A D. O R G
From the Wisdom &
Te a c h i n g s o f t h e
Lubavitcher Rebbe
Personal Trainer
All of us come with a built-in
spiritual fitness trainer.
The trainer’s job is to gauge our
spiritual capacity at every step and
adjust our program accordingly.
Just when things start getting too
easy, our trainer will turn up the
friction on the standing bicycle or
add more weights to the pulleylift.
This innate personal trainer has
many titles. It’s crucial to know
at least some of those titles. If
you don’t know the identity of this
trainer, you might get the idea
that you are failing when really
you’re making great progress.
Most popular title: “the beast
Make Up Your Own Life
If everything were spelled out —
exactly what you are supposed to
do, when, how, with whom and for
how long—what room would be
left for you to live your own life?
This is why the details of your
mission in this world are withheld
from you:
Out of G‑d’s great benevolence,
so that this little creature can
decide on its own and partner with
G‑d in its own life.
Can you solve these
By Itzik Weinberg
Bikurim,Egla Arufa. and Singing.
What do they have in common?
Last weeks Answer
Last week's riddle: ( The grandfather and his great grandchild
both got married by relying on something in our parsha ?
The Grandfather is Boaz who married Rus of Moav because he
relied on what it says in this week's parsha ‫״לא יבא עמוני ומואבי‬
‫בכלל ד׳״‬
The Great grandchild is King David who married Macha the
daughter of the King of Gashur because he relied on what it said
in this week's parsha ‫דין יפת תואר‬
"Gratitude takes three forms: a feeling in the
heart, an expression in words, and a giving in
"If you don't stick to your values when they're
tested, they're not values, they're hobbies."
0 0 9
“Optimism is one of
the most important
person should work
hard in developing.
It allows us to evolve
our ideas, to improve
our situation, and
to hope for a better
911 -A Glimpse into the
"Chesed" life of Zvi Gluck
Nachum Scheiner Ohr Chaim Night Kollel
TUNA: Although we previously
mentioned that scales and fins make
a fish kosher, there are still some
notable exceptions of some fish
that are problematic, even if they
technically have the kosher signs. This
can be for a variety of reasons and we
will mention some of them.
One prime example of a problematic
fish is the fish known as the kingklip.
This fish is a large edible ocean fish
caught for food in the waters around
South Africa. Although the kingklip
technically has scales, however,
they are so small that they are not
visible to the naked eye and are not
halachically valid, as we mentioned
previously. This is a rule that we have
had quite often, and most recently as
far as insects as well in connection
with the upcoming yom tov of Sukkos
regarding a black dot on an esrog: the
halacha only authenticates something
that is nir’eh l’einay’m (visible to the
naked eye).
Another big discussion is in regards to
tuna fish. Now, you might say, “Who
doesn’t know that tuna fish is a kosher
fish and a basic staple in every Jewish
home?” However, although tuna is
definitely kosher there can be various
issues that come up in the preparation
process, from when it is caught until
it ends up in your kitchen. One big
question is whether a mashgiach
t’midi (constant observation) is
required to ensure that only the
kosher tuna was in the fishing net and
no other non-kosher fish are mixed in.
Another issue with tuna fish is in the
cooking process, which if done by
non-Jews (as is the usual procedure
with many national brands) can be a
possible prohibition of bishul akum
(food cooked by a non-Jew), which is
a rabbinically mandated issur, as was
discussed at length in the past. We
will mention some of the possible
heteirim to allow the fish, even if
prepared by non-Jews. Some suggest
that the steaming process used is
not equivalent to cooking and is not
a problem if done by a non-Jew. Rav
Moshe zt”l mentions another heter
that the issur of bishul akum only
applies to a private person cooking, a
neighbor or the like, which can cause
intimacy and lead to intermarriage.
However, in a company setting where
one has no connection to the non-Jew,
there is no concern of intermarriage
and consequently no issur of bishul
I would like to thank my dear friend,
R’ Shimmy Glick, who has helped me
with many sources and incites on the
above topic, as he has done in the
past with the laws of insects.
have started the new zman in the
kollel, the learning programs are
back in full swing. The Kollel Boker is
learning the halachos of Daled Minim,
in preparation for the upcoming Yom
Tov and the Night Kollel is learning‫סימן‬
‫ הלכות דגים‬- ‫ פ"ג‬, the halachos of fish.
The Night Kollel learning the halachos
of fish is proud to announce the
upcoming shiur and presentation,
including a live demonstration of
various fish, from Rabbi Chaim
Goldberg, of the OU. The shiur was
postponed and will take place this
coming Wednesday (‫)יום ד' לפרשת נצבים‬,
Sep. 9, @ 8:45 pm, followed by Q&A.
The community kollel would like to
invite you to a Legal Holiday and
Yarchei Kallah Shiur this Monday,
Labor Day, September 7th, @
10:00AM, given by Rabbi Dovid
Lichtenstein. Refreshments will be
served. The shiur will be followed by
Questions & Answers.
If you would like to be informed
of all future shiurim and guest
speakers, please send your request to
[email protected] and we will
add you to the email list.
The community kollel would like to
extend a warm greeting to its new
member of the night kollel, AJ Rubin.
We would also like to welcome to
the Kollel Boker, our new member,
Yehoshua Hebber. Their presence is
already enhancing the learning of the
I would like to extend a cordial
invitation to anyone who would like to
join us either in the morning or in the
evening. Feel free to contact me and
I will try to set you up with the best
chavrusa possible.
The community kollel would like to
extend a hearty farewell to all of the
members that are heading to Rav
Nachman in Uman for Rosh Hashana.
We wish them a safe trip and a k’siva
vachasima tova.
Wishing you a wonderful Shabbos,
Rabbi Nachum Scheiner
Story of
the Week:
A child with cancer came to the USA via the "Make A
Wish Foundation", and there was little hope for him to
ever recover. While he was in Florida with his family
and a health care volunteer, they got a call that a new
test drug and therapy had just been approved and he
would be a perfect candidate for this regimen. The
catch? This all took place on Friday afternoon just
before Shabbos and the treatment had to begin on
Monday morning.
You can imagine the joyous reactions, but how to get
to New York in time to start the treatment? All the
plane tickets were final, non transferable and non
refundable, and changing them would have cost them
over $7,000, money the family did not have. They
starting calling around for help and it was a volunteer
from Chai Lifeline who heard about their situation and
called us, asking if there was anything we could do to
We set the wheels of progress in motion, making calls,
leaving messages, emailing airlines, but it is hard to get
anyone to talk to over the weekend. Still, we kept on
trying and we finally struck pay dirt with an email we
sent to Ben Jacobson, a very close friend of Amudim.
Despite being on vacation and several time zones
away, Ben jumped in headfirst and armed with all
the pertinent information, he arranged all the tickets
within a few hours.
Thanks to Ben, this young man made it to Manhattan
and has been preliminarily approved for the next step
of treatment. We hope to be hearing more good news
from this family as the treatment progresses.
Here are highlights of some of the cases Amudim
tackled this week.....
Autopsy Prevention: It was a fatal out of state
motorcycle accident and the local Chabad shaliach
contacted us to ask for our help in persuading the local
medical examiner to forego the customary autopsy.
Baruch Hashem we were able to guide the shaliach in
the right direction and speak to the local authorities,
allowing for proper kavod to be given to the niftar.
Medical Transfer: A young man with a sudden illness
required specific care that could only be provided out
of state. We got a call asking us to arrange a medical
transfer but the logistics were complicated. We were
able to find a level 1 care team t to provide an air
ambulance transfer at less than half the price we were
initially quoted and 15 hours earlier. Once we got the
go ahead, we had the patient where he needed to be
in just three short hours.
Abuse: A young woman who had been abused by a
family member when she was younger contacted us
asking for our help. We managed to generate a proper
referral and arranged a successful family intervention
so that her family could understand and accept what
had happened to her and provide a crucial support
system while she undergoes the lengthy healing
Addiction: He had been a serious drug addict for years,
but the death of a close friend from a drug overdose
was the wake up call he needed. He contacted us for
help and we placed him in a detox program and have
already arranged a few possibilities for long term
rehab, slated to begin next week.
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