How to be Charming

How to be Charming Even If You Are Not
Handsome Or Pretty
Table of Contents
1. Introduction
2. The Secret Boomerang Effect
3. The Truth about Perfection
4. The Paradoxical Way to Be Admired
5. The Most Important Muscle You Should Train
6. Conclusion
Introduction
Beauty is one thing. However, it is not
everything. Intelligence is not quite the key to
being well liked too, just like that know-it-all
among your acquaintances who everyone pretty
much is uncomfortable talking to. Charm
encompasses more than just looks, smarts, or
ability. Charm is complex and simple at the same
time. What if you were told that what it takes to
be charming is already in you?
This ebook will share with you, step by step,
on how to be charming. You would probably
begin reading this as a slouching, awkward,
confidence-lacking kind of person. However, as
you go through every chapter, you would be
gradually straightening your back as your
understanding broadens. If you are ready to be
reborn and see the world with new eyes, then
read on!
The Secret Boomerang Effect
Try going back to the first few moments you
shared with the people you now call friends.
These friends can be quite crazy and totally
imperfect now that you know them better, but
can you remember how you got close to them?
Now, they may appear relaxed about your
relationship, but you know that when you need to
share something serious to them, they are all
ears for you—that “interest” is your connection.
Interest. You may say, “That’s it?” Don’t be
tricked by the simplicity of the word. The key
point here is, “to be genuinely interested in
others”. Showing genuine interest in people
must be graceful and patient. Being too fast
with things during conversations with people can
indicate that you do not respect their own timing
and aren’t giving them a chance to show
themselves to you. So, practice genuine interest.
The Secret Boomerang Effect
How do you begin to become a person who is
interested in others? Ask questions! The key to
showing other people that you are genuinely
interested in them is to let them talk about
themselves and to actually listen. Try get rid of
“what” questions. Instead, ask one or two
open-ended ones. For example, when they are
sharing a hilarious experience or a miserable
one with you, do not just ask, “Was it fun?” or
“Did you cry?” Questions that are answerable by
yes or no are dead ends. Instead ask, “How did
it make you feel?” or “What came to your mind
about it?” When you ask about what a person
feels and thinks about what they share with you,
it makes them feel that you are really listening,
that you are really interested in them.
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“What’s the deal?” You may ask, “I thought to be
charming I would need to have everyone
interested in me, so why am I the one who
should be interested in them?” Well, just you
wait. When you show interest in people, they will
like you back. Imagine that you are meeting
someone for the first time, and that person
encourages you to talk about yourself and cares
about your feelings and thoughts. You would
appreciate it. And later, in recollection of this
meeting in which the other person barely
revealed anything about themselves besides
how nice and caring they are, you would want to
return that person’s kindness and know more
about them. By showing interest to other people,
the curiosity and respect bounce back at you
equally or even more. However, by applying the
traits in the following chapter, you would become
charming in no time.
The Truth about Perfection
Being imperfect is perfection. Imperfection
creates bridges among people. It is a hint of
similarity that draws relationships instead of
constructing walls of a different you and a
different me. Imperfection shows you are human,
and because you are identifiable with everyone
around you, people do not feel threatened of
you. That comfortable thoughts they have about
you being just like them is necessary to being
charming.
To charm others, just be who you are. When you
don’t know how to do something, then admit so.
It could be a great key to initiating interaction
between you and others. When you don’t know
something, admit your ignorance about it. Allow
people to teach you a thing or two. By being
unpretentious, people respect your honesty and
admire how you are cool with who you really are.
The Paradoxical Way to Be Admired
At first, upon meeting a sad person, you might
feel sorry for them and try to do some things that
would help them to feel better. But if they are just
constantly gloomy, you would start to stay away
from them—not because you do not want to help
them but because you are not a superhuman
and do not want to become melancholic as well.
So, if you like to get along with people—or, even
better, to charm them—then don’t be such a
vampire of emotions.
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Brighten up, have a sense of humor, and humble
down because by being the sunshine in the
midst of unhappiness, harshness, and chaos
these days, people will love you! Everybody
just loves to be around a person emanating
positive energy. How do you become that
sunshine boy or girl that everybody just wants to
bask in the positivity of?
The Paradoxical Way to Be Admired
Here are a few suggestions, which of course is
not limited to only these traits or habits.
Smile. Recall those chatty and friendly old
people at the neighborhood, or that cheery and
smiling coworker or classmate—don’t they
lighten you up a bit from your daily stress? So,
remember to flash a genuine smile to people you
wish to charm.
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Compliment. Do you remember how you feel
when someone says something good about your
dress, or your hair, or your efforts on your
project? You feel awesome, right? And so would
others if you say good things about them. When
you recognize people’s efforts and see the great
things about them, they will like you. They in turn
will start seeing the amazing things in you, and
be charmed about how nice you are.
The Paradoxical Way to Be Admired
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Be optimistic. Find ways to see the bright sides
of terrible experiences. When it rains, instead of
complaining about how you could get rained on
and possibly get sick, be thankful instead that
the plants get watered. This optimism cheers
people up and makes them find you unique.
Be humble. So, you are knowledgeable,
well-read, updated, sophisticated, well-travelled,
and the like. The irony is that if you keep
bragging about the things you can do and about
the things you know, people are just going to get
less and less impressed. On the other hand, if
you maintain humility, people are going to be
more shocked and fascinated about how simple
you are despite having uncommon experiences,
talents, or intelligence. Always remember,
positivity is a charm that is very difficult to
resist.
The Most Important Muscle
You Should Train
It is good to know that so many people these
days are hitting the gym. More and more people
are caring about their health. Other people work
out not only to be healthy but also to look better.
However, not everyone who looks terrific in
muscle shirts and spandex is charming. Some of
them are just a walking bulk of biceps, or just
another contracted abs selfie, a pair of strong
quads, or some good-looking buttocks in some
tight jeans. These may raise their chances of
getting noticed, but it does not guarantee charm.
There is another kind of training that is more
important than physique when becoming a
charming person. If your goal is to be a charmer,
then what you should be focusing on regularly is
your ability to communicate.
The Most Important Muscle
You Should Train
Charming people have a way in communicating
their ideas and desires to people. Some
individuals are so creative in their words that
sometimes
it
saves
them
from
poor
performances and mistakes. So, what makes up
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First, they do not talk ill about other people.
Gossiping is a very terrible habit. It is often
believed that the person who gossips with you
also gossips about you. Don’t be a gossiper.
People would find it cool if you see others in a
positive light.
The next skill is quite related to the first—don’t
discriminate! Do not be selective in who you
would associate with and who you would ignore.
The Most Important Muscle
You Should Train
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When you are able to harmonize with diverse
kinds of people, you are totally amazing in other
people’s eyes.
Listen and do not just hear. When someone
talks to you about something, give him your full
attention. Put down your phone. Get off the
computer. Listening equates to sincerity and
care.
Lastly, express yourself with confidence!
Now, take note that confidence is not the same
as bragging. Confidence means you are certain
about what you are communicating.
The Most Important Muscle
You Should Train
Practice communication via
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For example, if you want to tell your boss about
an idea, then say it with confidence. Compare “Is
it possible for us to use these colors for our
project? I kind of think that they can grab
people’s attention” to “Let’s use these colors for
our project because they grab people’s
attention.” The first one may seem polite but
weak. The second one is also nice, and at the
same time it has conviction. Your certainty will
surface in your confident way in communicating
to others.
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Conclusion
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Being charming is not about being selfish.
Charisma is how you make others feel, and
because of that great feeling that stems from
you, people in turn also feel good about you. It
might seem that so much effort is required of you
to become charismatic when those charming
individuals you see seem to have it very easily.
But that’s the thing—charming people were
either already born charismatic, or they learned
early on how to do it and have practiced for a
while.
One day, it may just surprise you that you have
become that person that everyone wants to hang
around with. One day, it may just surprise you
that your admirers have grown exponentially. To
make it happen, you need to start by practicing
the tips that are suggested to you. Good luck
to you!